I just got back maybe about an hour ago. I didn't want to post this because I didn't want to overanalyze what had happened, but I'm partly confused and upset.

I recently went to a conference in LA, I'm from San Diego. It's about a 2 Hour Drive. I was up there for about 4 days. I decided to use Tinder & Bumble while I was up there. These last few months in San Diego I've received no love whatsoever with online dating. All I get is HB2 and HB4 which if anything, makes me feel even worse about myself.

I work out, have tons of hobbies, travel and make good money. My personal life is good and I work hard to set goals and achieve what I need to on my downtime to make myself a better person all around. Anyways for the longest time, I've been thinking it was my pictures or something online, but they were good decent pics. We can always improve ourselves in that department.

So on the 2nd day of the conference, I had fewer meetings scheduled and more time to kill so I hop online. I swear to you all 1 out 3 women were matches for me. It was insane! Almost every time I swiped right on bumble and Tinder I would match, it felt like I was winning in a casino every time the graphics when off. But these matches were different, 25% of the woman were HB9's and 75% of them were HB7 or 8s all good professions (accountant, lawyers, etc. So whatever right, we matched big fucking deal. So I hit these woman up, one by one talk a little build rapport and then explain to them that I live in San Diego while not far, not close but I'm here for a conference. Out of the hits, I ask a few to hang out for dinner.

I had dinner every night I was there, I had sex with 2 different women and had an amazing time meeting 5 women during my trip. You know it wasn't even about the sex, it was everything the quality - I've had such bad luck lately that just having a meal with someone and good conversation would make me content (for now) and I can't even find that in San Diego. But I never felt so much love while I was up there.

So while I know that with dating apps the algorithm when you're in a new city makes it so you show up more often, but that aside I was just surprised with the type of woman I was able to attract BECAUSE in San Diego while not as cosmopolitan as LA I get nothing. I only get HB3 or HB4's and my city has so many hot woman just like LA.

I will say that I make it an effort to swipe daily (50 a day) on bumble and Tinder but spread out throughout the day. But I'm bummed sort of being back, because I walked away from so many good opportunities and while I'm happy I made a connection with a few who don't care I live in SD and still plan to come down and hang with me - I'm just REALLY upset I don't get anything like that in San Diego. But it felt good seeing myself being wanted, and all the workouts I've been doing (Cutting) and just overall feeling good and I haven't had that feeling in a long time.

Anyone care to chime in as to why it's like this online or why I'm not getting love in SD on these apps is it because I use the free versions or swipe too much? I think I've got through every possible woman that lives in my city by now at this point.