How the fuck do you guys have time to spin plate when you should be pursuing your passion?

Right now I'm trying to establish 3 regular plates, as I find it feels like one should spend one evening with one girl every approximately 10 days, which sums up to 3 * 3 = 9 days a month spent with girls and let's be real here if I spend an evening with a girl then it's not just fucking and then she leaves its usually a whole evening wasted on just the girl which means every third day is "wasted" for my sex drive. So how the hell should I find the time to pursue my purpose and hang out with my bros and have some me-time and pursue new pussy? How do you guys manage your plates?