My fellow red pill gents,

TLDR: Asshole ex fucks up? She stays I fuck up? She’s gone forever

I’ve been red pilled to the balls for about 2 years now and I have had decent success with women. However I’ve been lacking in one area and I can’t seem to figure out what I’m doing wrong. Every time I’m with a women it seems once I put her in a bad mood or piss her off on accident I can’t seem to undo it and lose her. I lost 3 girls in the past year alone because of this and it’s frustrating. My ex would talk about how her abusive ex would degrade her and she stayed, however when it’s me who fucks up once, leaving her mad for a day or two, she leaves? I don’t get it. It seems like most red pilled guys get away with being assholes but I can’t, I can’t even fuck up once without her leaving while she stayed with her abusive ex for months! What are they doing that I’m not? I’ve had a good girl 6 months into an LTR leave me because of this so it has to be something I’m doing wrong. For better understanding I’m gonna give an example with my ex: she been cold for a few days, I ask her what’s up, she’s unsure about us because she might be moving, I get mad and tell her why didn’t she tell me earlier and to talk to me you have to be straightforward or you can leave. She left. Another example: talking to girl, screen her (ask if she a Virgin, talk about sex), she get mad, I say I’m a dude who’s straightforward no time for games and let her leave if she wants to, she left. Essentially I give them options and let them walk away but they always wake away, I don’t get it, isn’t that frame? I say hey you should do this, you are going to do this and if you don’t go somewhere else, why won’t they be submissive like they are suppose to be and listen to me. Also I only broke frame with ex, I chased her a bit but even then it wasn’t emotional. All other girls I let them go and they never come back. But they always talked about staying with asshole boyfriends I don’t get it. Help me out.