Preface-not a sob story. College aged.

Have been seeing a girl exclusively for 2 months. She lets me fuck whenever I want, for however long I want but that’s not the problem.

The problem is that she doesn’t give enough female comfort, but that’s not saying she doesn’t give any. She gives some, yet not enough. Does that shit sound cringe? Maybe. But it’s part of what I want in an LTR.

Her supposed N count is 4, but I think it’s closer to 7-8, but in her opinion “hooking up” doesn’t entail fucking, only making out (19 y.o). I’ve seen a notepad on her phone saying hookups but have never gone through it. That shit bothers me

Her friends, sluts, bother me and they got her to try snorting adderal recently. I enjoy my fair share of drugs but still hit the gym and books and function well. That shit about drugs also bothers me.

She invited me to visit her house and meet her mom (out of state school). She had no father growing up but had a brother watch over her. I couldn’t make it.

What the fuck do I do? Do I neg, ultimatum, soft next, hard next?

I realize I have oneitis and I pass on other options that present themselves. I do have other options but choose not to pursue.

Tldr; some red flags that should’ve been vetted better but have oneitis. Need advice on how to proceed.