First and foremost before I begin is AA is a state of mind that cripples you. Stop your mind from thinking and valuing others opinions that you don't know over family and friends. Words that echoed in me tonight and it showed. Thank you seddit for helping me with a life change that has shown in friends and family that see the positive change I've made.

Now I'll begin, I went to the club, solo tonight and I'm so excited to post this with the two things I noticed when I caught my stride. Now I went to a club known for loud rap music and people that are nothing like me because I didn't belong here (I'm not a club dancer or an aspiring rapper) I built rapport like non other. I started scared of everyone and sat by myself at the bar for about an hour until I said stop thinking and use what you've worked so hard for. Then it began after my third drink I said to myself you can't leave until you talk everyone here. So I opened the bartenders with an opener I thought of, that goes along the lines of "bachelor/ette parties" the 9/10 hb Asian BT was sucked in by me asking her ways to have an original bachelor party idea for my friend (do/don'ts for girls and guys) after this she introduced me to other 9/10 BT's that worked there that wanted, yes wanted me to hear thier input. After this I knew I was in here, and they saw the shear confidence when I spoke. I then proceeded to open everyone there. Now I don't remember any names because I didn't go with any intent to close other than getting over my fears of AA.

I'm (edit: not-drunk) now because I made a game of seeing if I could get girls to buy me drinks(and got 6 or so). Now to my key sticking points I found... 1) If you think opening anyone requires a certain set of skills because it needs to be the right set/right opener. remember people are more scared of themselves in how they look or act to care about you so this is perfect for you to intercept them and open them with indirect questions that make them use imagination and personality to respond and built a trust/respect for you. You must remember to show value, my "bachelor party suggestions" opener showed that I was loyal and had good core values for a friend to consider me for a "best man role" so they were already curious what made me "me". So quick list with this point 1 EYE CONTACT! 2 genuine acceptance to what ever they say 3 smile smile smile 4 always include everyone in the group. Now for my second point 2) practice getting out of your comfort zone... I was one of five white people in a club of 50, everyone knew who I was when I left, go try to open girls that you don't think your A. have chance with B. you might not even attracted to. I found myself being most attracted to when I left with a 6'2" black girl that could probably beat me up and an Asian bartender that I found has a guilty pleasure of following Chinese zodiac religiously. YOU CANNOT BE THE WINNER IF YOU DON'T GET ON THE FIELDAND PLAY! Don't judge on first glance and meet people. Go get them, otherwise how are they suppose to know what a great person you are.

Thank you seddit for everything and I can't wait for another FR to give in this transformation. You all have extraordinary days. PS : a good girl friend of mine that I told I wanted to learn seduction asked why, and I dropped probably the best opinion I could of that I think relates to a lot of you here share with me is "I would hate to have my soul mate pass me in life and not have the courage to at least go up and talk to her" I hope that helps some of you that want to become better people. good night all Edit: sry for random drunk blabber, no hangover but still buzzed and excited when I wrote this. thank you all