Introduction

I have always been natural talent in talking with people and not just girls. It is just something I do without thinking, as the joker in the TDK says: “I just do things”. I will in this post share my conversations skills in regards to talk with girls and use real life examples from the night life. All examples and suggestions is from my experince from night/day gaming and in sober state since I don’t drink alcohol at all. And you shouldn't rely on it to be able to talk with hot girls or other people. If you do, then you have a deeper problem to work with!

About me

This is my first post on reddit!

I'm 24 years old living in Denmark where people tend to be more closed/introvert and political correct than the rest of the world. Most of the guys don’t dare to approach unless they had a lot of drink and behave as monkeys.

If a guy is standing alone outside and is smoking and a girl just came to stand beside him to smoke too, it will be completely normal that they will not be having conversation other than “Hi do you have fire?”. Don't ever be that kind of non-existing living person!

Statement about gaming

Further more, I never use gaming/pickup routines, techniques or strategies etc. All that shit kills your natual gaming, vibe and your unique persona (you don't wanna be like the other guys!) and I talk from experince! The RSD approach about being you true self, expressing your personality and just be natural is the real way to go, not just on girls, but social success! Reading on human physiology/behaviors is gold!

The best way to learn is by doing, gaining experince and learn from your failuresand don't be afraid to fail, you will eventually and that is just part the life!

The following knowlegde can be used for any person and any social interacting and is not just limited to picking up girls

Breaking the ice

You see a hot girl you want to talk with, but you don’t know with what line you want to break the ice with. So now you are thinking in a loop of many possibilities, this will lead to you may never talk with the girl because of all that thinking. You know the situation!

So what to do before breaking the ice with a target you just have spotted? Don’t think too much, begin to approach as soon as possible with no end goal to start with!

The most basic way to crack that ice, which is also the most powerful is just saying; -“HI” followed up with asking about her name and if it’s a special name ask her what it means. Else you can follow up with a comment about what she is wearing, and what the occasion is, or comment on other things you can see on her or the situation you both may be in, like standing outside smoking in cold or rainy weather.

Another ice breaker examples I naturally threw at girls without thinking first:

  • If she is smoking; tell her that she looks too much #fitgirl or too cute to smoke and I don’t suits her.

  • If she is holding a drink; Ask what juice she is drinking and that this is for kids (mock her a little bit, don't be dead cold serious and formal)

  • If you have a drink in your hand, just TELL her to hold it while actually giving to her and begin to tell her that she is a good assistant and you could be good partners.

  • If she is talking with a group of friends; Ask something like, “hey are you all from the same work/school” or try to talk about who is the leader of the group, or where they are going later, recommendations etc.

  • or you can break the with a comment like “ Hey…you look like” /too young/strong/fit/dog lover/handyman"

As you can see I could use 100 lines of ice breaker, no one is better than the other and all are naturally improvised seconds before I talked to the girl(s). Comment or base your ice break of what you can see with your eyes, hear with your eyes and feel with your gut and skin! That way it will all be natural!

Breaking the ice should really not be something big. It is just basic human interacting and don’t think of the outcome. Usually no one will ever remember the ice breaker anyway!

During the conversation

After you have cracked that frosty ice you should listen to the girl when she speaks and during the conversation remembe your; eye contact, natural and real smile, natural face expression and small hands/arm movement, mixed in with a natural flow of kino!

This makes you living and exciting. Put yourself in a girls position: You are talking with the guy, he smiles annd listen and nod his head but nothing more than that. You are talking with a human wall! not exiciting after a few minutes and feels like a waste of time unless he is REALLY good with sub communicationand body language!

Examples of how to naturally keeping a conversation flowing on:

YOU: “Hi you look to healthy and fit to smoke and drink!” (STATEMENT OR COMMENT ABOUT HER!)

HER: “Oh me! No not at all, I don’t go to fitness!”

YOU: “Well you should you fat shit ass” (DON’T TRY THIS AT HOME, Just an idea)

YOU: “well you just lucky you look like one who do! what do you then daily?” (ASK OPEN QUESTIONS)

HER: “I study biomechanics and works at in a pet store”

YOU: “Biomechanics! That sounds something like terminator! So as biomechanics, what can you do for me?”(CHALLANGE HER)

And just keep up listing and make some follow up question on what she says. But you should also try to bring a flirty and sexy vibe into the conversation in your natural way and state. Let me show you an example:

HER: “I study biomechanics and works at in a pet store”

YOU: “Interesting… sex with biomechanics girls must be strange!” (I ALREADY BEEN A HIGH ENGERIC AND

COOKY, SO ITS NOT A CHOKER FOR HER)

HER: “LAUGING LAUGHING, oh no we just normal”

YOU: “Are you just a normal boring girl? In my imaginations, you are a wildcat” (COMMENT ON WHAT SHE SAYS, BY LISTING TO THE FEW BREADCRUMBS SHE LEAVES)

Calibration!!

Don’t bring to much sex vibe at once, keep it on small steps and see how she reacts to it. Usually laughing is a sign that she likes the conversation, but make smalls steps towards a more intimate conversation by also using your body/eye language.

But remember calibrate to the person! This is not a game/pick up skill, it is basic human undstanding! If the girl is shy and doesn't talk in a loud voice, then dont be the one who talk loud and energic! Calibrate, talk with a calmer voice and calmer body language as she will slowly begin to open up for herself!

Some girls can handle a lot and other can quickly be uncomfortable.

To have conversation is really easy, just listen and ask about her, and remember to comment on what she says, follow up on it, say some funny things about what she just told you now or earlier.

What kills your conversation game:

  • Thinking to much about ice breakers
  • Thinking of the outcome; "What will she think about me if I talk to her"
  • Not listing to the what the girl is saying
  • Not calibrating.
  • Not being your true self.
  • Doesn't look alive in conversation. Remember: Face/body language expression, eye contact, smiling.
  • Asking YES/NO question. Ask open question

PRO TIPS:

  • Stand closer to each other than friends do for sexual vibe
  • Express your honest opinion!
  • Remember their names and say it a few times when talking the person. This has a lot of good physiological effects!
  • Be a little coocky and funny in YOUR WAY.
  • Relate to what she says with your own experinces. Creat a connection together about something.
  • Remeber sub communication language, body language, eye contact etc. VERY IMPORTANT!
  • If she has a friend(s) standing next to her, remember to include in them conversation and know their name! FUCKING IMPORTANT!

This was all from me, who just wanted to share my knowlegdeand hopefully help a lot of boys and men towards a better social interacting with people in daily life.

"If you have knowlegde, let other light their candles at it" - Margaret Fuller