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Sticking point

Sportguy180 · 2018-07-06T20:30:39+00:00

I'm good at cold opening at the bar and pushing myself to be social to randoms during the day. I can build some attraction by being funny (sarcastic and...

Sportguy180

July 6, 2018

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Title	Sticking point
Author	Sportguy180
Upvotes	5
Comments	6
Date	July 6, 2018 8:30 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/8wnfv7/sticking_point/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/sticking-point.1449434 https://theredarchive.com/post/1449434

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[–]WIA20XX 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

[–]Sportguy180[S] 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

I’ve noticed if I can open and float enough to get to doing their cube - after they are hooked.

One example is at the bar last week I opened a 2 set, chatted them a bit, threw in a false disqualifier, my friend started talking to her friend to isolate them both. So I did the girl cube. Half way through explaining it I knew she into it with heavy eye contact, explaining why I was so right, and asking me what else whenever I got to a pause. Something went south with the friend (just too drunk) and they left pretty fast so the girl asked me for my phone number. I gave her the “that’s personal! I don’t even know you. I’ll give you my Snapchat though”. The next day she messaged me and said it was a pleasure meeting and brought up that we didn’t get to finish her cube. Long way of saying - that’s obvious attraction right?

Let’s say we stayed chatting, what’s the next thing to build trust or emotional connection?

[–]WIA20XX 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

[–]Sportguy180[S] 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]WIA20XX 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

1) open, attract, qualify is the classic sequence.

You don't seem to be qualifying, but sometimes you still get the girl.

What is happening is that the girl digs you AND she's willing to do the work. Your ability to get her worked up is not something she encounters enough.

She will give you the number, the makeout, the bang. But it is on her terms, not yours. That's why this girl isn't in a rush to get back to you. And the more time away from that first meet, the more likely it is something/someone will be more pressing.

When you make her qualify, invest, etc the you're deciding if you really want to bang her.

Most girls don't ever need to try. I don't want to go down the value rabbit hole, but this is a part of that..

Qualification Done right, she tries to please you.

2) The cube is a long routine and it's usually done after you've gotten attraction and you're in the building trust/rapport/comfort stage.

I use that type of thing post bang, because after she's given you her greatest gift, she's more likely to be into what you're saying. That sets up the hunger you see you again, because you "get" her.

3) Knowing where you are in the pull is simple, can you move from the dance floor to the bar, bar to the couch,couch to the smoking area, smoking area to the pizza place next door, etc.

If she doesn't want to move, or she's not helping/participating, she's not ready.

Sin goes into it on this video

https://youtu.be/sbB8AuTBouY

That being said, really hot chicks that are socially savvy don't broadcast, don't give signals. Continued presence is the green light.

[–]Sportguy180[S] 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Great write up! You’re right with 1) being that the attraction could be more “on her terms” which might be why it seems like I start off strong but lose steam throughout the convo. It’s not that I’m not throwing in qualifiers but I haven’t been consciously looking for spots to do them. It’s more a couple canned lines I know to use. I’ve been focusing more on DHVing by basically not doing anything they say to do or answering questions directly and just being confident.

2) is a really good idea. Like a comedian moving his best material to the end and forcing himself to get new best material

3) same as #1, I don’t consciously move to that stage or test out where I’m at. The only test I do is moving them around the bar and pulling them by the hand to see how hard they squeeze lol.

I’ll definitely check out th video. Thanks man!!