Hello all,

I'm in a bit of a state here trying to figure things out. I've just turned 22. I'm at university in the UK in my final year. I've been terrible with girls all my life, my first kiss was probably about two years ago (and I've not kissed very many girls at all since then) and I only lost my virginity about 8 months ago, and not had even a kiss from anyone since then. I've never been on a date. I discovered pickup about a year ago and I've been trying to turn myself around ever since then, but I'm really struggling. I've advanced myself personally in leaps and bounds in the past few years; I exercise regularly, I'm the healthiest I've ever been, I take pride in my appearance, I keep myself organised, I have great friends and hobbies that I love - but I just can't figure out girls - I'm just as terrible as I've always been. And it's made me super depressed all the time because of it (not exactly great for my personal advancement I know...).

Being at university I take advantage of the opportunities to go out clubbing with friends - I use it to talk to girls but I'm yet to approach a girl and not get instantly rejected or make any meaningful progress beyond friendly chat. I feel like I'm not improving at all! I'm tired of doing the same thing over and over again and getting rejected instantly every time. I don't know why girls don't want me. Every single other person I know makes it look so easy. I know I need to change but I don't know what to do!

It's making me feel so depressed. It's the only area of my life I still haven't quite 'got' yet, and I think about it every day and it really gets me down big time. To make matters worse my best friend of 9 years was in the same boat as me - we were both socially inexperienced and terrible with girls, but then we both decided we were gonna try and improve ourselves. Now he's banging loads of girls and going on dates all the time. I'm jealous and I feel like I don't know him anymore and the friendship is not what it once was but it's all just me in my head! I'm glad I've at least got my professional skills going for me so I can easily find a good high paid job after uni. But all I want to focus on right now is getting better with girls!

I just need a small victory or something to push me in the right direction because right now I just feel so depressed and dissatisfied all day every day and its getting worse because its just been failure after failure for months.

What should I do?

Thanks