The Approach

pnadlerlaw · 2019-10-01T22:42:03+00:00

What’s with all these “girl at the gym” posts lately?

General rule is you don’t approach girls at your gym. It’s a place people go to in order to work out and then go back home or on with their lives ... or for free attention and validation.

But, if you read the person, then she’ll either be the type of person who appreciates and wants a direct approach, or the kind of person who wants a more socially indirect and tactful approach.

So, you can walk up to her, simply say hello/hi, (your name), and something situational.

Example: “Jesus, 175lbs on outer abductors? Are you training for something?” Wait for a reply. Gauge the reply. Then, either stop, or, “I’m ____.” That’s it. Basic being a social human being 101. Now you’re no longer strangers.

You can either continue talking, or just leave it at that. You feel it out. There’s no pre-set script. Next time you see each other, talk again. “Hey, how’s it going?” If she’s shy ... “Trying to not skip leg day.” If she’s not shy, leave it at that and see if she’s responding back to you.

Again, though, generally, you don’t want to be the guy who approaches women at the gym. Girls will talk to you at the gym if they’re interested in you. It’ll be small, but they will. “Are you using that?” “Are you don’t with that?” “Want me to wipe that down? You sure?”

If she’s not interested in you, you’re going to get zero communication and resting poker face. Imagine a smelly homeless old man at the gym. Would you say a word to him? That’s how strict the boundaries are in the gym. If she doesn’t want you to talk to her, believe me, it’s going to be very difficult for you to talk to her. She’s not going to be throwing you bones and opportunities.

So, if you’re not getting that from whoever you have in mind, err on the side of maintaining your reputation at the gym. She’s not the only woman to ever walk in there.

Title	The Approach
Author	Drizzle0762
Upvotes	1
Comments	3
Date	October 1, 2019 10:19 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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