Sexy Move: First Officer Scarf Bondage

Want to experiment with bondage but don’t want to spend cash on handcuffs and whatnot in case you don’t actually like it?

Easy.

Have them lie on their back in the middle of the bed. Then thread a scarf through a gap in the headboard and back out again. Then tell them to hold the ends of the scarf… and not let go.

And there you go; instant bondage. For most people it’s really more of a mental thing related to the power exchange turning them on, than getting turned on by actual restraints. Plus because they are holding the scarf, there is usually an impulse to grip it extremely hard as the sex progresses and the resultant muscle tension is an assistance to coming to orgasm.

Oh and credit Jennifer for this one; and yes I liked it.

Me unable to do anything forces her to become highly active or the sex just doesn’t happen. I happen to like having her writhing all over me. She likes the sense of power and control… and my positive reaction to her.

Hang on, hang on, hang on…

What happened to Captain and First Officer???? Aren’t I meant to be pounding the pussy and rag doll fucking her every night? At least a playful smack on the ass?

Sigh…

No one can be endlessly in charge all day everyday. Plus a requirement of being a First Officer is the capability to be able to step up and act as Captain when needed. I actually texted her earlier in the day that I needed something high stimulation that night… which basically means I’d like to be on the receiving end of some of her writhing.

We’re not wired for me 100% dominance and her 100% submission anyway. Maybe it’s a 85/15 split, so if we want to get 100% enjoyment, at least 15% of the time we’re going to have to be switch-hitting.

So Jennifer was in charge that night and told me what she wanted me to do. Which explains why we finished with one of my hands holding the back of her neck, and the other one pinning her left wrist against the small of her back. And rough. In my defense though… I was just following orders.

Dominance or submission isn’t always black and white. My suggestion is to just ask for what you want sexually first, and figure out whether it was dominance or submission after you have a huge orgasm. Assuming you even care about the question then…