Even on HookingUpSmart I get some comments that are straight up shaming tactics.
I am inclined to be sympathetic to those in those situations, but my sympathy becomes limited when I hear phrases like “I’ve given up.” Of course no one is going to be interested in you if you’re not even interested in making an effort.
Also let me add the I have no sympathy for the W&N’s out there that complain with no effort or intention to change their situation. Get some game.
The first was by reformed_tomboy and the second was by sox. Both are code maroon shaming tactics. The second adds a code pink shaming tactic. Code Pink is the threat of withheld affection. The standard response is, “This is an example of the logical fallacy “argumentum ad baculum” (the “appeal to force”). The accuser attempts to negate the validity of a position by pointing to some undesirable circumstance that will befall anyone who takes said position. Really, the only way to deal with the “Pink Whip” is to realize that a man’s happiness and worth is not based on his romantic conquests (including marriage).” To that I would add that women are already refusing to have sex with me/be my girlfriend so how are women planning on not having sex with me/not being my girlfriend even more? It’s silly.
Code Maroon is the charge of defeatism. The standard response is, “The charge of defeatism can be diffused by explaining that one is merely being realistic about a situation. Also, one can point out that asking men to just accept their mistreatment at the hands of women and society is the real attitude that is defeatist. Many men have not lost their resolve; many have lost their patience.” I have to add that since women aren’t interested in me in the first place, then it doesn’t matter if women aren’t interested in me because I have given up. It’s silly.
Beyond the shaming tacitcs I was told to “get some game”. This is not helpful advice but an attack. Why? As experts on game such as Obsidian will tell you game only at best works for 10% of men. (I would suspect the effective percentage is smaller since there would be overlap with guys who have natural game.) I have tried game and it did not work for me. I am one of the 90% (or more) of men that game will not work for. Knowing this what is the point of telling me or most men to “get some game”? It isn’t to help us but to lie by claiming that the problem myself and guys like me have is not female hypergamy but that we are not “trying”. Most of these people who tell me and guys like me to “get some game” have no idea what game is or how to use it. That doesn’t matter since they don’t need to understand game to be smug and attack me and men like me.
FACT: Game exists not to help most men, but attack them even more for being unsuccessful with women. Game itself has become a shaming tactic.
