She might be a plain Jane, but will she cook and bang?

Readership: Men
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In this post, I want to present an idea that will probably not be too popular, but it’s an important heuristic thought experiment for us to consider.

Over the past month, the overriding theme here and at Christianity and Masculinity has been about the Headship structure — authoritative men and females as their submissive helpers. This perspective has redefined the ontology between men and women. It cuts out the distractions of sex, romance, and attraction, and focuses on the basic structure and functionality of the relationship, and whether it glorifies God.

We men are quick to be critical of what we find attractive in women, and how women fail to match up to our standards. Christian men are also aware of how they don’t measure up to the Biblical standard.

Most men want to choose a woman based on her attractiveness, and then we expect her to become a respectful, submissive wife. This is similar to a woman who wants to bag a Chad, and then magically transform him with her lurrrve into a faithful breadwinner.  We’re quite aware of how ridiculous the latter is, but the former comical notion is seldom addressed.

Why not turn this around the other way?  Why not choose a woman based on how respectful and submissive she is, and then watch her attractiveness bloom?

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Suppose a man were to choose a woman based on how good of a helper she is, or would be. This situation would be very reminiscent of a boss hiring a new employee. Education would be a plus, good health would be a plus, initiative, problem solving skills, hands-on abilities, social dexterity, all positive traits. Personality traits like openness and agreeableness would also be pluses.

A Strong Independent Woman™ might actually be a positive characteristic, if she could be trusted to do the job she was assigned to do, be submissive and respectful about it, and not go Renegade.

On the other hand, her physical attractiveness would fall towards the bottom of the list, in terms of practical importance.  If we are completely honest with ourselves, the type of woman who is outwardly attractive to men — the young, feminine, high SMV, and of course, sexy hot girl — is typically rather immature, impertinent, and unreliably flighty. A woman who passes the boner test with flying colors may very well have no real ability to perform as a respectful, submissive helper, and thereby fulfill her role in a Headship marriage. This truth is more obvious when we admit that a woman’s ability to incite sex appeal is correlated with her sexual experience (up to a point).

A very unpleasant truth it is!  I can already see the comments pouring in now…

“Buhut, ah don’t wanna marry no ugly girl, no matter how good she is.”

But hold on, why do we think a submissive, respectful girl must also necessarily be mud ugly?  Perhaps this is a smokescreen from Satan, designed to get us to reject this mindset out of hand.

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