Reflections on the importance of good instruction towards making the most out of life.

Readership: All
Targeted Readership: Single marriage-minded men
Theme: Community
Author’s Note: This post is a summary of an email exchange between Red Pill Apostle, Thedeti, Oscar, Caterpillar345, and Jack on 2023/8/29 and a discussion with Jax under Which Churches have Sold Out? (2024/8/24).  Coauthored with Oscar.
Length: 700 words
Reading Time: 4 minutes

Intro

Many posts here at Σ Frame have emphasized the importance of family and community in finding, building, and maintaining a good marriage relationship.

Many of the authors at Σ Frame did not have good teaching in their earlier years. They learned things the hard way through the bitter teacher of experience, by blithering and blundering, by trial and error.  Most of what we write are first hand testimonies of what we have learned over the years.

Case Studies

Deti has described how clueless he was in college and all the blunders and poor decisions he made as a result.  He said there isn’t enough time or space to list all the red flags he saw and ignored; and the ones he didn’t see.  We’ve heard awful stories about how much work he has had to put into taking responsibility for that oversight and how much it has cost him in terms of domestic tranquility and energy. Even though his marriage is much better now, he still suffers from those years of relationship trauma.

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Caterpillar mentioned that in his Christian upbringing, he was never taught that a woman’s attraction to him was even a factor.  Even a man’s attraction to a woman was downplayed as a minimally important consideration that was really just ancillary. He is still single.

Oscar got the same bad advice.  Only as an adult has he realized that “Looks truly do matter.”  They’re not the only thing that matters, or even the most important thing, but they DO matter, and we shouldn’t let anyone tell us otherwise.  Besides, we want cute grandbabies.

St. Dalrock didn’t put it in these terms, but he would have lined up with Oscar pretty closely.

Jack’s GRE scores were good enough to get into Princeton, but he was never told that it’s important for a man to make accomplishments in life, to amass wealth, and to establish a dominion, which are qualifying traits to marriage-minded women.  Instead, he was taught that “knowledge is power and power corrupts”, and was warned against materialism, “the love of money is the root of all evil”, and parables of rich men who went to hell (Matthew 19:16-22; Luke 12:13-21).  His motivation for going to college was simply because he couldn’t see himself working in a factory his entire life.

Jack painstakingly adhered to the Blue Pill Gospel and walked the straight and narrow for years, resulting in continual rejection by “good Christian girls”.  He passed up some unicorns because some things he thought were important were actually trivial, and vice versa.  This is typical of Dobson’s syndrome. He was forced to rethink his whole mental concept and approach towards dating and mating after he moved to Taiwan.  Adjusting to this shift in consciousness was a huge mess. He married, but it ended in disaster.  He had a few epiphanies now and then, but he didn’t really ‘wake up’ until he took the Red Pill in 2017.

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Jax didn’t find Christ until he was 24 and he didn’t find a good church until a couple years ago. He can only imagine how different his life would’ve been if he had grown up in the church, let alone in this particular church. He admires Oscar for moving across the country so that his children could attend a good church.

Jax is mindful of what Oscar said about the #1 predictor of long-term happiness being marriage and family. He is frustrated because he just turned 30 and is still single and struggling. He finds it difficult to maintain his motivation and to be grateful, even though he knows being single is certainly better than being married to a w!tch.

Conclusions

It’s usually “HARD” when the test is before the lesson.  Especially when your brain is hypoxic.  “P_ssy makes men stupid”, as The St. Deti always says.

All these case studies point to testimonies of what NOT to do. We’ve seen first hand the ruin that results from a gynocentric social structure — more specifically, the lack of a patriarchal social structure, including the involvement of fathers, families, communities, and good teaching.

Moreover, good teaching is missing. It was missing when we were younger, and despite the current prevalence of Red Pill knowledge, the aspects of community, meaning, and purpose are still missing, leading to conflict, confusion, foolishness, and frustration.

Young people, including women, need proper and truthful teaching about male and female nature, how to behave, what to do, what to expect, and what to look for.

These are the reasons why we emphasize Christian community, ministering to other men, and teaching young people and children.

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