Reader Elliott Frost e-mailed me earlier this week:

Hello,

There are a few things that bother me about game. It seems to me that game promotes the idea of judging a mans entire value as a human being based upon nothing but his place in the sexual/sexual heirarchy. Let me assure of this, I am aware that such a hierarchy exists regardless of PUA intervention and men are largely judged this way anyway, especially by women. I can take this as common sense on an intellectual level, but it take time for me to fully accept this at a deeper level. Now am I wrong in my assertion?

I am an omega male, so its quite clear why men being judged soley on thier sexual prowess would frighten and infuriate me, as it would reduce my worth as human being to fuck all. I am aware that many people would see me this way regardless. There are a few more things that worry me about this emmerging world view that seems to come with game, but I can’t really articulate them very well.

Lastly who can game help, are omegas such as myself irremable or can your techniques help even the lowest of the low? Do you think that game could be used to benifit a mans life even if it never help him succeed in getting pussy? One thing I really don’t fucking understand about game advocates and MRA’s in general, is why they seem to focus almost exclusively on the issue of game. I mean I know at The Spearhead the talk its overwhelmly about human sexuality within a very broad context and its relationship to many other subjects. But in all the areas of study that fall under the category of “mens rights” why on earth is game the principle area of concern. That I really don’t understand Ferdinand. Its seems to me that no matter what subject you guys talk about, whether it be politics, religion, history, somehow you manage to link back a specific cause to sexuality and game. Please tell me Ferdinand, do you feel that single greatest factor in the shaping of human behaviour, whether individual or collective, is sexuality?

One of the things that I hate about game and the world view that comes with it, is the way it paints human beings as animals. Animals prodominantly controlled by base, primal urges that we can hardly even control. But as much as I hate it I really can’t argue with it, it just makes me hold humanity in lower esteem.

Now I don’t want you to label me as hater of game, but just incase you do, I will define game in my own words. I see game as set of learned social skills, social techniques, that immiate the behaviours of the alpha male which women find attractive, therfore increasing the mans chance of getting laid. So you can tell me whether or not I understand game, I know I sure as hell don’t have any.

Hope you can clarify these issues for me, thanks.

Good questions, Elliott. I’ll address your points in a more appropriate order.

One thing I really don’t fucking understand about game advocates and MRA’s in general, is why they seem to focus almost exclusively on the issue of game. I mean I know at The Spearhead the talk its overwhelmly about human sexuality within a very broad context and its relationship to many other subjects. But in all the areas of study that fall under the category of “mens rights” why on earth is game the principle area of concern.

The Spearhead is not an MRA publication. Welmer, the Grand Poobah of this house of iconoclasty, said as much. While a number of us, such as Cless Alvein, are MRAs, and I’d imagine that we all have some degree of sympathy for MRA viewpoints, we don’t represent them as a collective. To paraphrase something my colleague Jack Donovan mentioned in an e-mail, we here at The Spearhead are basically banging our own drums.

Additionally, while I support men’s rights activists, I don’t represent the mainstream of MRA opinion by any stretch of the imagination. Game and men’s rights have historically had little to do with one another, due to a longstanding animus between MRA/MGTOW factions and the seduction community. In fact, another one of my colleagues, Chuck Ross, describes my blog as “residing in the center portion of the Venn Diagram of conservative, Game, and MRA sites.” If you want mainstream MRA views, you should go to someone like Glenn Sacks or Angry Harry, not me.

Now I don’t want you to label me as hater of game, but just incase you do, I will define game in my own words. I see game as set of learned social skills, social techniques, that immiate the behaviours of the alpha male which women find attractive, therfore increasing the mans chance of getting laid. So you can tell me whether or not I understand game, I know I sure as hell don’t have any.

I defined game as follows:

game (\ˈgām\), noun – a set of male behaviors, attitudes, actions, and strategies designed to win the sexual attraction of females. SYNONYMS: seduction.

So yeah, you pretty much understand what game is.

It seems to me that game promotes the idea of judging a mans entire value as a human being based upon nothing but his place in the sexual/sexual heirarchy. Let me assure of this, I am aware that such a hierarchy exists regardless of PUA intervention and men are largely judged this way anyway, especially by women. I can take this as common sense on an intellectual level, but it take time for me to fully accept this at a deeper level. Now am I wrong in my assertion?

To a certain extent, you’re correct. The alpha/beta/omega hierarchy that is used to classify men is based solely on said man’s sexual attractiveness. You also rightly note that society at large does this as well. There’s a reason why the number one insult feminists and women use on anti-feminist writers like myself is “you can’t get laid,” just above “you have a small penis.”

I won’t lie and say that I don’t regard a man’s sexual attractiveness as an integral part of his character. One of the goals of all life is to reproduce and pass on your genes – if you don’t have the ability to do that, you have failed at existence. The fact that reproducing is much more difficult for men then for women, as judged by the fact that less then half of the former have successfully done so throughout human history, means that the ability to get with women (and by extension spread your seed) is a quality that other people respect. But is the skill of seducing the second sex the sole determinant of masculinity? No. Defining yourself solely by what other people think of you (women specifically in this case) is a sign of intrinsic weakness. Not only that, owing to the amoral nature of woman, men who are judged as sexy by them run the gamut from paragons of greatness to loathsome vermin. A man who is derelict in every aspect of his life save for his ability to make ginas tingle may be an alpha in the sexual realm, but that does not compensate for his other failings. While chasing women is something I do, it is not, never has been, and never will be the focus of my life. I’m not alone in this assertion - Sparks123, Talleyrand, Max, Slumlord, and Roosh agree to varying degrees.

Its seems to me that no matter what subject you guys talk about, whether it be politics, religion, history, somehow you manage to link back a specific cause to sexuality and game. Please tell me Ferdinand, do you feel that single greatest factor in the shaping of human behaviour, whether individual or collective, is sexuality?

I’d say that it’s one of two. All life, from protozoa to plants to puppies, is possessed of one primary goal – survival. I separate survival into two subcategories - corporeal survival and genetic survival. The former entails staying physically alive, and the latter consists of passing on your genes to the next generation; reproduction, in other words. The Mystery Method posited a similar premise, with survival and replication being the purpose of every living entity. Every living being wants to reproduce, and will do anything in its power to accomplish that goal. This includes human beings; half of what we do is done for the purpose of attracting members of the opposite sex. It was Dave Chappelle who joked that if women were willing to have sex with men in cardboard boxes, guys wouldn’t bother buying houses. So yes, sexuality is one of the greatest determinants of human thought and behavior.

One of the things that I hate about game and the world view that comes with it, is the way it paints human beings as animals. Animals prodominantly controlled by base, primal urges that we can hardly even control. But as much as I hate it I really can’t argue with it, it just makes me hold humanity in lower esteem.

While I wouldn’t argue that we humans, being sapient, are identical to chimpanzees rutting in the trees, our sentience is a tower constructed on a foundation of animal drives and instincts. The low, base urges may not be out in the open, but they’re still there and are still holding up everything else. We cannot escape our nature, we can only work with it.

The comparison has already been made, but I’ll reiterate it because it works so well: game is the red pill, the proof that everything that you were told about men, women, and human nature is completely false. You’re at the disbelief stage, writhing in the chair and frothing vomit, as your mind rejects the truth that’s been hidden from your eyes for so long. Once the pain passes, you’ll see the world with a clarity that you never had before. You’ll see humanity as it really is – we aren’t good, we aren’t evil, we just are, like every other creature on this green earth.

Lastly who can game help, are omegas such as myself irremable or can your techniques help even the lowest of the low?

The answer is an unequivocal yes. Roissy, whose experience in the game surpasses mine, said this in response to a similar query:

Learning game will transform you. How much is a question of commitment, preexisting suite of alpha traits, and ability to withstand rejection. Some guys see their notch count triple (mine quadrupled). Others see a strengthening of their relationships. Still others see only marginal improvement. If you knew beforehand that spending a year learning game would net you just one girlfriend one point higher than the best girl you ever banged, would you commit yourself? What if all the effort amounted to no more than one extra one night stand? A lot of lesser betas and omegas who are cursed to realize very little improvement from learning game commit themselves to it despite the odds. Because men know there is nothing more hellish than to go your whole life never feeling the sex and love of a woman. Really, what’s the point of living? Love is life’s penultimate pleasure.

Game can help any man; the question is how much it will help him. I say that the degree to which a man can improve his success with women is dependent on both his genetic goods and the amount of work he puts into perfecting his talents. Being an omega male, the benefits you get from game will be less then most men. You won’t become the next Mystery, Roissy, or Roosh. You won’t even become the next me, the least of King Arthur’s knights. But what you CAN become is a man with control over his love life. With game, you can obtain something that you don’t have and can’t have without it, one of the greatest things you can have: the freely given love of a woman.

Do you think that game could be used to benifit a mans life even if it never help him succeed in getting pussy?

I’d say yes. I believe it was Pro-Male/Anti-Feminist Tech who summed up game as “successful masculinity.” If you click on the link above to my definition of game, you’ll find a list of qualities that form its nucleus and have applications outside of the sexual marketplace. Additionally, The Mystery Method separated out a man’s life into three spheres, health, wealth, and love, and explained that neglecting one would negatively affect the other two. The flip side is that improving one will also benefit the other two. Every aspect of our lives is interconnected.

I’ll conclude with these words. zed has remarked that one of the unintentional effects of feminism was the liberation of men from their societal responsibilities and obligations. The corollary to freedom is that when you are free, nothing is guaranteed. If you want something, you have to go out and take it yourself – no one will help you. If you are unhappy with your life, only YOU can turn it around. Game is not a panacea, but in terms of addressing an concern that all men have, you’ll not find a better way to contentedness. I can only speak for myself, but I can say I am a genuinely happier person for pursuing my desires rather than just sitting at the back of the metaphorical classroom, staring at the apple-shaped derrière of the girl in front of me, wondering what could have been. The only way to know for sure how much game will help you is to get off your ass and run the distance. You may not win the race, but you’ll be able to say that you gave it your all, when most guys are too cowardly to even stand up and try.

Best of luck to you, man. In this world, you need as much of it as you can get.

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Ferdinand Bardamu is a buddy who helps his buddies out. He blogs at In Mala Fide. You can follow him on Twitter here.