| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 179 | She Plotted | Rant | Alert_Brick2273 | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 12:56 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | She PlottedShe turned off her Life360 today. Didn't say one word. My older girls weren't home so I looked to see where they were and the wife was not on there anymore. Bound to happen sooner or later. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 09:40 PM |
| 2 | She PlottedGreat points. That's a calculation we need to figure out. If I have to put a new HVAC system in she won't pay anything but reaps the rewards. Personally I don't care for the house or location but we have an amazing interest rate. I'm only wanting to keep it until the older girls are out. But great point on the value to debt. Thank you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 09:37 PM |
| 7 | Insight into the switchThis is probably the best breakdown I've read and you're 100% right. This is my 20 year marriage in a nut shell. Did everything right, never strayed, coached all the kids teams, volunteered at school stuff. What I didn't do was date her and keep the fire alive. That's on her too though. It's takes two. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 07:58 PM |
| 3 | She Plotted19, 17, 12. I'm keeping home but we'll split equity at a future date or I'll buy her out. She's keeping her car. I'm keeping mine and the kids are keeping theirs. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 06:48 PM |
| 2 | She PlottedThank you. I'm definitely going to check it out | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 04:38 PM |
| 2 | She PlottedAmen | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 02:35 PM |
| 2 | She PlottedMy wife and I sat them down last weekend. We were calm and just told facts. Even though my wife has already checked out emotionally, we are in agreement to stay friendly and cordial for the kids. Of course that could change but for now we're doing good and openly have had conversations with the kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 12:47 PM |
| 2 | She PlottedAbsolutely. We did the calculations yesterday with a lawyer and she'll get 38% of my retirement. I'm fine with that. I'm 100% P&T so that helps soften the blow. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 12:06 PM |
| 4 | She PlottedMy kids are 19, 17 (turns 18 this summer), and 12. So really it's only custody for the 12 year old and we're doing joint custody. One week on, one week off. Holidays every other year. Pretty standard. I had some great friends give me advice to move as fast as possible to get this agreement done to protect myself. I'm following that advice. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 12:05 PM |
| 2 | She PlottedAbsolutely. I met with a lawyer yesterday who drafted a separation agreement for us. She agreed to it all last night. Just need to sign and notarize and we're good. Doing that this week. Alimony and child support locked in at a fair rate for both of us. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 11:50 AM |
| 3 | She PlottedWould love to see this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 10:31 AM |
| 2 | She PlottedYa it's wild to me. She put up some pictures of him in our house like he's a saint. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 10:30 AM |
| 1 | She PlottedMan I don't know how it will be a year from now when the dust settles but I'll probably follow that same sentiment. No way I can take one seriously again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 10:29 AM |
| 1 | She PlottedGod advice. Thank you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 10:28 AM |
| 4 | She PlottedDefinitely taking the wheel. Had a lawyer draft the separation agreement which she agreed to last night. Notarize it Friday and file it. Losing about 38% of my retirement but I'm okay with that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 10:28 AM |
| 3 | She PlottedThat's the word the popped up yesterday morning for me, betrayal. I'm sorry you had to go through that experience but it looks like you're okay now. I appreciate you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 10:26 AM |
| 7 | She PlottedYou're 100% right | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 02:46 AM |
| 5 | She PlottedSorry man. Worst part was her Dad had no positive impact on her life or ours. Was an alcoholic who beat my wifes mom. Never once called our kids for any holiday, birthday, or celebration. Never even visited. But he's a hero to her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 02:28 AM |
| 2 | She PlottedIt's crazy | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 01:19 AM |
| 4 | She PlottedYa we were looking at money tonight and she saw it won't be easy for her. But she is definitely set on doing her own thing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 01:18 AM |
| 2 | She PlottedDude she is obsessed with Grey's Anatomy and all that ridiculous shit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/25 12:38 AM |
| 10 | She PlottedAmen and I appreciate you. It is hell. Spent the last few days talking to former teammates who broke it down for me and gave me the hard truth. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 11:00 PM |
| 12 | She PlottedIt must be the universal sign. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 10:58 PM |
| 4 | She PlottedYep tracking. I'm 100% T&P and thank god she can't touch it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 10:58 PM |
| 3 | She PlottedAbsolutely. There will always be opportunities for self improvement | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 10:15 PM |
| 12 | She PlottedAmen and thank you 🙏❤️ | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 10:14 PM |
| 3 | She PlottedI can see the mercy part but man, it is painful. I'm hoping she comes around and who knows, when she moves out and gets a taste of living alone, maybe she will. But like you, I might not take her back. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 09:22 PM |
| 3 | She PlottedOh ya. She's turned off all emotion. Almost like a robot with no concern. It was giving me the worst anxiety and that's something I never get. Had to move to the guest room to get a decent night sleep. She will be moving out though. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 09:21 PM |
| 8 | She PlottedThank you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 08:40 PM |
| 13 | She PlottedGreat question. I already work out 5 days a week but I can crank it up a little. I did a men's physique last year and got 2nd in the men's over 40 class. But you're right. Just gonna have fun with the kids and friends and enjoy life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 08:39 PM |
| 5 | She PlottedUnless she's paying for it on the side with a secret credit card, she isn't. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 08:37 PM |
| 6 | She PlottedShe started working out, I noticed she is wearing sexy underwear instead her standard granny panties, she bought a bikini, and said she's growing her hair long again. She has beautiful black hair and I've begged her for years to grow it long again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 08:25 PM |
| 15 | She PlottedThese women have such a great life they get bored. They want drama to feel alive I guess. Why not blow up a family, right? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 08:05 PM |
| 8 | She PlottedMan I really hope not but it would explain the extreme 180° and cold shoulder. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 07:45 PM |
| 11 | She PlottedShe never said anything. We were just doing life. My son and I hunt and fish a lot. My girls are older teens so they kinda do their own thing. She liked - I thought she liked - to spend time relaxing and watching her shows. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 07:25 PM |
| 3 | She PlottedThank and will do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 07:23 PM |
| 6 | She PlottedWe did the counseling and she quit. I'm on it though. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 05:31 PM |
| 13 | She PlottedGood point on finances. She's been running our joint account forever. Just found out she had a hidden credit card with $6k. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 04:35 PM |
| 6 | She PlottedAppreciate you. Will definitely update. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 04:34 PM |
| 10 | She PlottedYep just bought a device. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 04:25 PM |
| 12 | She PlottedYou ain't lying. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 04:24 PM |
| 5 | She PlottedOh wow. I'd trade that for some kind of post nuptial. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 04:15 PM |
| 4 | She Plottedlol | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 04:15 PM |
| 11 | She PlottedI'm at the denial stage but I feel the anger creeping in. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 04:15 PM |
| 3 | She PlottedI mean we would definitely have disagreements we just wouldn't go crazy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 03:21 PM |
| 5 | She PlottedMakes sense. It's like I tell my kids, some people's lives are so good they have to create drama to feel something. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 03:03 PM |
| 5 | She PlottedShe never once told me she was unhappy. We never yelled or cursed each other. No abuse. We don't drink or do drugs. She did tell me one time that I need to communicate my feelings better to her. We both tended to ruminate too much when we disagreed on things. I just thought we were the average mid 40s married couple with kids. We did everything as a family. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 02:23 PM |
| 5 | She PlottedAmen. Well said. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 02:18 PM |
| 7 | She PlottedJust recently found out about grey rock. Moved to our guest bedroom this weekend and it definitely helped my heart rate. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 02:16 PM |
| 7 | She PlottedI have a feeling there might be at least an emotional affair with someone at her work. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 02:15 PM |
| 5 | She PlottedYep meet with a lawyer next week to protect myself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 02:14 PM |
| 3 | She PlottedShe said "I am not fun anymore. I feel empty inside. Wants to be alone. We got too comfortable." | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 02:13 PM |
| 2 | She PlottedAmen | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 02:12 PM |
| 6 | Believe everything they do not what they sayI'm extremely tempted to go through her iPad or leave a recorder in her car. I sense something as well. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 01:40 PM |
| 8 | She PlottedThank you. Very happy to hear you're happy with a good woman. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 01:31 PM |
| 7 | She PlottedI like that quote. Thank you for sharing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 01:29 PM |
| 5 | She PlottedGot a lawyer lined up next week. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 01:29 PM |
| 3 | She PlottedThank you and great advice. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 01:28 PM |
| 4 | What to teach the next generation?I will teach them the importance of communication and probably a pre-nup. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 12:45 PM |
| 8 | Believe everything they do not what they sayNeeded to hear this. Wife of 20 years asked for a divorce the day after Christmas. She said she's been planning for a couple years because she was unhappy. We have everything and she wants for nothing. Never once said she was unhappy as we traveled, celebrated family milestones, new cars, etc. Just doesn't make sense to me and after 26 days, still finding it hard to accept. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/01/25 12:41 PM |
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