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AliveGloriouslyAlive/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 02:55 AM
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AliveGloriouslyAlive/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 04:58 AM
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AliveGloriouslyAlive/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 11:40 AM
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I'm about 18 months out from discovery and separation after a 10-year relationship and three years of marriage. She cheated, we tried to reconcile, and then she began a secret affair I discovered weeks later. Seeing the text messages where the woman I committed my life to belittled and mocked me was harrowing. I immediately asked for a divorce, which she is dragging out. Regarding your questions, one harsh but necessary truth you must accept is that you can never fully know what a person is capa…
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/25 04:31 PM
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This is very true. I remember a quote, probably from this community: "Nobody cares about your divorce as much as you." It has helped me to get my arms around the fact that while my entire world came to a halt, everyone else just kept... Going. So often they seemed so callous, as if they couldn't truly understand. The reality is that they couldn't, and expecting otherwise was unrealistic, perhaps even unfair. But I find that many of the responses here are people who truly understand. It's reassur…
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/25 04:14 PM
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The other man for me was a musician, and I've since picked up guitar. I think it's about trying to answer the question of "Why?" Her answer is irrelevant. It comes from inside. It isn't even the "why" you think it is. It's a why on the other side of suffering.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/25 04:04 PM
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When I started back at the gym, images of collapsing the structure of his face in that way allowed me to push through the hard sets.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/25 07:00 PM
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But she didn't just mean them. It was generalized. Everyone. Her family, perhaps, whom I loved and whom I thought loved me. My own friends, maybe? Where does it end? Anyway, didn't come here for therapy, I know this is my burden to bear. But I appreciate you trying to help me think through it. It sounds like you're doing a good job of thinking through these thoughts for yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/25 12:25 PM
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I worked the weekend and ended it when I came home. It's been about a year and a half. Almost finished the divorce process itself. Still have dreams. Still think. Maybe once it's done, it will be done.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/25 11:49 AM
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I gained access to her texts when she came home drunk out of her mind. This was after her first one night stand, about a month later. I checked her Instagram DMs, because I hadn't asked for that -- so I thought she might be hiding something there. And of course she was. She was terrible at cheating. (I think.) Anyway, there was a line there. She was trying to convince the other man to come out drinking with her and her clutch of gay friends for Pride. He was concerned -- wouldn't they judge? Wha…
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/25 11:19 AM
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How do you think you achieved that?
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 04:36 PM
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I've been thinking of leaving the country. If I can get the marriage sorted out. Shanghai, maybe. Everything in my life is shot through with her. I wanted to live and die with her. She was my home. Now... I guess I'm free. Free to have no home at all.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 04:35 PM
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That's a beautiful image.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 03:17 PM
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Like I said, she confessed to the one-night stand. The secret affair that followed -- I checked her Instagram messages. The affair's communications were going through there because I had asked for access to her text messages. She expressed remorse, but....she proved to be such an adept liar to me, her friends, her family, her affair partner, perhaps even herself, how can I know that it's true remorse? I'm not sure even she knows.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 02:46 PM
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Yes. An affair when we dated, then recently, a one-night stand followed shortly thereafter by an affair again. That's when I left her.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 02:43 PM
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Yeah... You know, we had agreed to be childless long ago. But sometimes she would say she wanted children with me. And I would want to discuss the prospect seriously, because I cared about her, and wanted to hear her out, and consider her desires and goals. God, I was willing to do anything for that woman. I was a fool.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 01:37 PM
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Thankfully, no, no kids. I can walk away, once I can get her to get moving on this.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 01:32 PM
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I have the lawyer, and she knows that a fair split is how our state works. But we are trying to keep it out of court. I think she is moving slow as a result.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 12:50 PM
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She had a one night stand a month before; I had spent the night searching the city for her, worried she had been kidnapped or raped or murdered. Found her walking home. She immediately confessed. Spent the next month trying to reconcile, but it was clear after the first few days that her heart wasn't in it -- she came home drunk out of her mind 6 months ago, and after I put her to bed and tucked her in, I checked her phone -- the Instagram message, not the texts. She's not as clever as she likes…
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 12:50 PM
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This does indeed seem to be a trend. It's important, when seeking a therapist, to ensure you find one who will push you, challenge you.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 12:17 PM
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Scorched earth. If she's in it, it's gone. I couldn't bear the memories.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 09:05 PM
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As in, you're amazing. :)
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 10:33 PM
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Movies: seemingly anything. It takes me out of the moment, removes my preoccupation with myself. Music: waiting around to die; civilian; my body is a cage; Persephone in the garden; Anne. Books/Audiobooks: leave a cheater Gain a Life; fall higher (Dean Young); cheating in a nutshell; meditations of Marcus Aurelius; no more mr.nice guy; devotions (Mary Oliver). I have found that poetry is often the only thing my mind has the bandwidth for right now.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 05:25 PM
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I'm in a similar situation, but just hired a lawyer at the start of this week. She had become increasingly uncooperative and selfish, as compared to our original agreement to just split the house and assets 50/50. Now she wants to keep the house, give me a few grand, and take a part of my pension. My advice is to be wary.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 12:28 PM
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Then you need out. Be glad you finally have the will to leave an abusive situation. Talk to a lawyer. It will be the cleanest, simplest, most effective route you can take.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 01:27 PM
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My stbxw's family is awesome. She ended up being... Not good. I wouldn't judge someone by their family either way.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 03:40 PM
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That's good advice. 3 weeks weeks out from asking for a divorce. Hopefully I get to where you are. Thanks, man.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 10:24 AM
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Ugh. I can't decide if I was desperate, lonely, stubborn, or stupid. All of the above, maybe? Yeah, now in retrospect, it's like... What did you think would happen? Someone shows you who they are, believe them. I don't know about you, but afterwards, it ended up being me doing all the emotional work to repair the relationship. She was just happy to get back together, to not feel like a bad person. She wouldn't even leave the other guy unless I promised that there was the possibility of a future,…
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 10:08 AM
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For sure, we are learning the exact same lessons. Man, fuck Esther Perel.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 09:42 AM
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You and me both, friend.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 09:06 AM
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Hm. That hadn't occurred to me actually. That's... A really good idea.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 08:24 PM
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Thank you. It's hard to remember that. Even now I want her back. It's absolutely mindbending.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 08:06 PM
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You're right. I'm trying to speedrun this. To just be done feeling this way.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 09:33 PM
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I know you're right. I'm aware of being manipulated. So weird to be such a chump for it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 09:33 PM
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Same.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 12:18 PM
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God, yes. I want my wife back. How did it come to this, and so quickly?
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 12:11 PM
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She is. No kids thankfully. I've definitely learned that lesson the hard way. I have a lot to learn about self respect and setting boundaries. I appreciate the affirmation though. She IS a trainwreck, and I'm lucky to be out.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 02:00 AM
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For sure. Yet another mistake on my part.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/24 09:20 AM
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God, it's so true. So much fun explanation, analysis, tit-for-tat, hemming and hawwing, and I just couldn't accept the truth. I still can't. But I have to.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 12:21 PM
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I appreciate the sympathy. It's a weird mix of feelings when they find someone that they think is a better fit for them, huh? Part of me is angry and vindictive, but part of me still loves her enough to hope it won't go the way that it probably will -- that she can finally be happy. But she's already lying to him. I wish she were stronger, braver.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 09:34 AM
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