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Alpha_wolflord9/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/25 01:10 PM
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I don't doubt I can overcome it. Right now I'm looking for some practical things other people have found that have helped them so I can start the work on myself. Look at adding tools that can help with components of disorganization and time management. Will keeping a succinct list or note tab help to prioritize where you are spending your time and efforts? Will setting up a calendar with alarms on your phone for important events help you to utilize your time the way you want without being late o…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/26 08:13 PM
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I get shit tested about "thinking you're in charge around here now". About how I'm not in charge because we're equals. Uh huh. She had asked for a shoulder massage so I ignore her shit test and tell her to sit on the floor in front of me for the massage. She is projecting. Don’t engage in the power struggle just continue to do things you feel are awesome. I offer cuddles, she's not that interested This is the area where I would ask for whom did you do this? You are being shit tested not comfort …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/26 03:38 PM
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Main event is just a giant covert contract of penultimate build up for nice guys to do the right things and finally reach their problem free life Because, as nice Guys so we come in here so dissociated and fragmented from pieces of ourselves trying to pretend to be what we imagine the world wants of us. The prescriptive be attractive and don’t be unattractive works, but it doesn’t answer the question of what to do with this once the world opens up for you: What do you want? Get out in the wide w…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/26 01:49 AM
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I actually felt bad for not providing more input (I communicated this) and it was entirely possible that she fires back at me for not contributing enough to organizing the trip. When others give to me I feel guilty. You making it about your guilt is the unattractive behavior here. Let her have her roses and stop conjuring reasons to feel guilty about others doing things for you, or that you like. Don’t eat paint warning here, don’t let praise be your next thing you overdo (pull) to get sex. I di…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/26 03:00 PM
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This is a pathetic pity party. I feel like a sinking ship with a lot of wholes and don’t know which one to patch first. Then pick any of them and start working to patch it. Literally any direction there is room for improvement. Hopefully, acting in this process will help you measure the future holes that are most meaningful for you to patch. because of being afraid of failing. This mindset sucks. Some of my experiences that went drastically not the way I wanted them to I don’t view as failures. …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/26 09:36 PM
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Sure I say, but you’ve been relaxing on that couch half the day (laughs). Say what you want to say or better yet STFU. After a bit I tell her to come upstairs or I'll pick her up and carry her upstairs. “Do you remember me doing that last night?” Be more direct, then follow through “Bitch!” (laughs). Then I tell her she can tie my hands up next time. She rolls her eyes. Do preempt this with an exploratory “would this be okay” just go and do it next time, assuming you want to. I respond with some…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/26 09:50 PM
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Stop your pathetic whining, STFU
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/26 01:22 PM
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It’s been over two weeks of me stopping initiating any kind of substantial intimacy. No hugs, no kisses, no ass grabs no sexual initiation whatsoever. This is my passive aggressive response to my wife disrespecting me once (Mentioned last week). Play stupid games…. My internal dialog trying to make sense of my behavior and also questioning myself why she’s not trying to fuck me!?: Now she also didn’t initiate sex and it’s been almost 3 weeks, and it makes me realize that im still not a guy who d…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/26 01:21 PM
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Back to the cover contract - this left me considering the following question: If practising my weak ass game, kino and initiating creates covert contracts and exudes neediness, what am I to do? Not do these things? Do I completely leave her alone? Yes, if you can’t do it from a place of abundance and outcome independence. If don’t have it give, stop leveraging yourself and building resentment with your covert contracts. It may also be sobering when you realize that when you stop dancing monkey/p…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/26 01:14 PM
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Silicon based lubricant was infinitely better than any water based lubricant. It makes a huge difference. Other than that I just got the butt plugs of various sizes and worked them up over multiple periods of PIV sex. Indicated that if she did good a job she would get the real thing but wouldn’t tell her when
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/26 01:52 PM
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Re:anal It’s nice when things just work out almost intuitively after you built a foundation of work and your confidence is up some, I like allowing myself the opportunity to intuit or critically think myself through novel challenges. But ego aside, things don’t also work out we want them to. So if this is important to you set your ego aside and take more steps towards to making this actionable. Sharing notes silicone based lube and butt plugs
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/26 10:37 PM
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Here’s why I think you suck. 1-you’re a calisthenics pussy 2-you format 100 bullets like someone with the tism 3-despite all proclamations about being being lazy and inconsistent you’ve DONE fuck all about it. See that takes up way less space
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/26 10:27 PM
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Stop over thinking, over sharing and trying to be likable. Be likable to yourself. should find some discipline and get lean. Should means shit. What do you want to and willing to do? You’re a fat fuck so losing weight would be an easy way to increase general attractiveness. Kids are happy which is my primary goal Do they know you’ve loaded the responsibility of yourself onto them? Seems like heavy burden to place onto someone else. probably regular old fear of rejection. Scarcity, but any narrat…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/26 10:20 PM
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It’s good you’ve moved past denial stage, time to move to the action stage
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/26 10:06 PM
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and this includes anticipating the times she genuinely needs comfort - and become more scarce. Comfort is overrated. Any anticipatory comfort isn’t you doing it for her, but for yourself to ease your own anxiety. Give her space and allow her to seek out her own wants/needs. Post your lifts and what you’ve read
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/26 11:57 PM
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I don’t view it as rule 3 break, you’re flogging yourself instead putting it on me. Do you sit with those things about yourself that make you uncomfortable now? Accept the fragments of who you could be spread across possibilities. You still get to choose.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/26 11:48 PM
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Absolutely shaken by my first empirical observation that AWALT, I ask her about the cute couples page she has with him. I dig into her mind: is he boring? Does he not hit you enough? She seems genuinely baffled: “nothing’s wrong with him.” Where is your frame? Instead of asking someone else “why me?” Build a foundation in your actions instead to ask yourself “why not me.”
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/26 04:40 PM
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I’ve thought about my options: based on her actions she might be staying for now for the kids with me as the cuck BB and fuck someone on the side. I’m not being a cuck longer than I have already. If I just pretend nothing happened and focus on myself it could be that she would file in a case of successful branch swing, or if I got caught cheating she would probably use that socially against me. I do have two girls hotter than her who I could call to get laid, so I am not out of options sexually.…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/26 10:40 PM
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Not doing it after her remark would show her how butt hurt i was by it, but apparently she already knew… This is just a bunch of mind reading nonsense. You can want to clean the table and not like when someone flexes on you. They are two separate issues. If you’re not ready to address the flex then STFU, but at some point your going to want to address this behavior if you don’t like it.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/26 02:37 PM
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Then don’t accept it as your norm, set your own expectations for yourself. You’ll get more applicants from dating apps if you 1-lose weight & 2-add muscle. Losing weight is the easier of the 2 and can be done rapidly, but continuing building muscle throughout. I also switched to a barbell instead of dumbbells when doing Bench Press and although my form wasn't perfect I actually did the lifts and I think I could've lifted more weight. This is good. Barbells are great and you want to challenge you…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/26 11:56 PM
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That plus being the most yoked I’ve ever been You will fill out the extra-small shirt now. I used to think my wife was an “alpha female” However, a lot of my week/weekend was sucked up by my wife’s plans and social obligations It’s okay she will let you wear the “captains hat” like a big boy as long as you know who really is in control.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/26 11:47 PM
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You’re just whining at this point about the how the world keeps happening to you. Go reread NMMNG In one form, a nice guy exaggerates his toxic shame and believes he is the worst kind of person. I called this man the "I'm so bad" nice guy. The “I'm so bad" nice guy is convinced everyone can see how bad he is. He can give concrete examples of bad behavior in childhood, adolescence, and adulthood that support his core belief about himself. Isn’t that why you need that narrative and guilt to be tru…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/26 05:10 PM
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r/askmrp I think it comes from me feeling uncomfortable that shes uncomfortable and If I can fix her issue then it fixes me feeling uncomfortable because she's happy again. I don't like seeing her stressed or upset. This is the core issue. It’s about you trying to fix her emotions so YOU don’t feel uncomfortable with the tension and pain. Just stick with the basics and STFU. Learn to sit with discomfort and tension and just be present if you want to. This helped me to realize that uncomfortable …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/26 03:27 PM
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Just STFU don’t try to ingratiate yourself from a place of weakness. what value does this provide to you or someone else? If that’s what you want or need to do then go do it. I’d recommend reading NMMNG a handful of times for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/26 12:50 AM
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u/HornsOfApathy said it best. People like vulnerability Led from a place of strength. Always strength. Turns out having tried it I like it too. Look no further than the one of the best pieces of media out there
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/26 12:30 AM
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Best comment
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/26 07:33 PM
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Free myself from addictions and procrastination/self-soothing behaviours to maximise potential Or learn that other activities in line with your goals can simulate those wants/needs as well. The rest of your OYS is about how you suck and have done nothing, but that isn’t a surprise so instead of a goal section come back when you have done something and want to build off of or take direction from that. I am fucking terrible at initiating. I feel uncomfortable and hesitate talking about sex or even…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/26 02:36 PM
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Sharing notes, would set your mind to some vague outline of what you want and how you might implement it. If you’re planning using implements have some idea on how they work before the moment you plan to use them. Knowing how to tie restaints, use a ballgag, or vocalize dirty talk how you want, will help provide a foundation of competency and fuel your confidence. Once you see yourself be successful in these things over time it makes it easier to freestyle or intuit based to your wants in the mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/26 11:10 PM
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Ebb and flow. I'd like to say the general trend is up and to the right, but if it is, it's not a very steep line...We share many values, have a decent understanding and appreciation for the other's strengths, and I like her when she's not getting in her own way. So you were beta for 1X years, pulled back it may be stepper than you think. If you are getting the actions you want ignore the mouth noises. I do get frustrated that I am carrying more load than I believe is necessary and that it holds …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/26 01:17 AM
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This is really succinct and good. We’re just one advanced meta shift away from people finding a way to displace negative emotions and responsibility for self all through “I” statements.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/26 10:50 PM
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Despite the bitching and complaints, over time is she doing what you want? It’s not a high bar Continue to set the bar higher Instead, she seems to want to continue being the adored child rather than growing into the functioning adult wife / mother. AWALT when it comes to wanting to feel that add value and enjoying praise. Is this difficult for your because you harbor resentment or because you fear falling back into a supplicating pattern?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/26 03:10 AM
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Assuming she is somewhere on the avoidant attachment continuum that typically only works when there is partner who has an anxious attachment to match the push/pull dynamics at play. And anxious attachment is also avoidant of emotional intimacy/vulnerability just with additional steps. her avoidance makes me more likely to eventually leave (as I did before). Which probably created a strong pull on her end now that the fear of abandonment outweighed the less likely fear of emotional closeness/vuln…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/26 02:59 AM
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Are these shit tests, shitty comfort tests, or comfort tests? A couple days later I was hearing about how I’m not as affectionate and she missed when I was more into her I might be going too hard towards, “ok, I’m going to do my thing then.” This reads like “I miss you and do you even like me anymore?” Where you can then move in with pull. If you’re content with your sex life, having a conversation about your other wants and needs. How does she feel like she can add value to your family and how …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/26 04:17 AM
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Your whole relationship “anecdote” is a huge rule 9 focused on your cheating wife. You LARP like you’ve found peace with it but continue to perseverate endlessly on it. Be angry, do things, own things that are for/from YOU so you can find a way to make with peace with it and move on.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/26 01:59 PM
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chatGPT is that you? It’s a tough paradigm shift to get into - doing something purely for my own self interest. But it really isn’t. Have you accepted that you have always been doing what you want? Maybe then you can stop running desires through the Rube Goldberg machine hoping they come out how you want while maintaining plausible deniability. I want what most men want. Reaching full potential across as many domains as possible. Don’t we all want the best job we can get? The best girl and the b…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/26 11:12 PM
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Every fucking time I push forward on something it’s scary. Skills we are deficit in can be scary because of the bouquet of possibility they present. Embrace it, there is only one you’re going to answer those questions so pretend to be the version of yourself you want to be. If your going to look at it as a fear-based response, what’s more frightening being different or continuing to be what you are now?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/26 11:01 PM
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I think 1 heavy set of 5 is fine if you go reverse pyramid style training, but something like double progression training in the 8-12 range works well. I get more taking less sets closer to failure. If you are perfectly able to hit 5x5 you’re tanking sets or not pushing yourself as hard as you could be and for somewhat practical reasons with compound lifts and considering weight and injury risks
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/26 04:45 PM
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I simply responded with saying where I currently stand Yeah and where is that? What did you say? In reality I am afraid to break it off and maybe I will regret it. Regret that possibly it could have been something good if I got my shit together and also if I don't get my shit together, anyways the same patterns will happen with the next woman. This isn’t driven from the roots of strength in owning who you are with acceptance of consequences related those actions. Instead it is based in fear.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/26 01:46 AM
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Even though I’m sure the marriage was untenable. Im still having occasional 3 am panic attacks and nightmares involving being judged for initiating my divorce. The theme is usually me being on trial in some form or fashion. I’m addressing this in therapy. In my original askMRP post about 4 months ago I was called out for having a hero/savior complex. I wonder how much of that still lingers… the only thing that’s seemed to help the guilty conscience is to commit to be extremely fair and just in o…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/26 04:27 PM
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You’re pretty weak so you can likely get away with deloading less often. 5x5 is mid. Do you regular work sets or program or whatever but after you do you heavy sets experiment some work in the -8-12 range. You will likely be able to push closer to failure because you won’t have the crippling fear of being crushed under the weight and this will help reinforce neuro pathways getting more reps that are easier on your joints
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/26 05:50 PM
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Again, I'm not in stage of leaving or staying. If she wants to leave, she can. But I am getting to a point I will have to make that decision for myself soon enough. I am not leading properly without making that decision. You’re not acting independently at all. You’re just passively hoping she will solve your problems for you. What is it you want today, this week, for the next month; and what actionable steps are taken towards those things. Your inaction doesn’t resolve of it’s consequences.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/26 05:49 PM
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Continue to develop tools but this underlying assumption did not serve me well. Others may have already figured out answers to those questions There are a lot of solutions/tools to problems, instead of having the assumption that there is a future you have that has all the answers, instead there is a version of you who when faced with problems some which may be novel in nature will have the frame to tackle those on his terms.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/26 05:36 PM
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good man What the fuck does that even mean. What actions have you taken to address identified weakness with women?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/26 05:21 PM
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She cheated 100%, two times last 9 months or so. As opposed to 50% "Relationship" Read my earlier OYS if you need more and background. Fuck off with this You strike me as someone with high energy. Practice STFU and channeling that energy towards goals specific to your wants/needs.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/26 04:34 PM
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Normally I’d say this belongs in r/askmrp, but this likely belongs in r/grindr
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/26 08:41 PM
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Our relationship is excellent apart from this so I want her to be consuming media that will mold her more into a traditional woman who's confident in her femininity I need something that will undo years of feminist programming. I basically need to teach her how to be a woman. It also needs to be fun for a woman to read, so dont reccomend The Rational Male... These are bunch paragraphs about why your situation is special. It isn’t, you want to teach her to be your woman then that’s your shit to o…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/26 05:05 AM
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I need to hold frame, be assertive, and avoid/eliminate covert contracts and NG behaviors Sounds good Most of the time she asks if I want breakfast, I say yes, and it's ready when I get out of the shower. If she worked the previous day, I don't ask her to make breakfast even though it would be valuable to me. Why don’t you ask? Is it because of your guilt or because she has explicitly stated she doesn’t want to on days after working. If it’s the former not the later, why are you uncomfortable wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/26 02:16 PM
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What is it your wanting or needing?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/26 02:05 PM
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Yes that can work. If you are new you will likely get pretty good returns in strength just as your body learns to coordinate and move weight. Working with more sets with higher intensity (closer to failure) will help build muscle over time.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/26 05:43 AM
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Comparing your linked notes and Sepean wrote something similar in the past too. I’m curious what your personal notes are about the right amount of comfort is assuming that fits any time/attention. You referred to your ex in the past as a chatty roommate, and I’ve wondered since then if the right amount of time/attention is minimally just facilitating that to an extent. Or viewed another way, kind of like relationships women let you know when they want your time and attention and any gestures bey…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/26 04:28 AM
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Do you suggest I stop lifting with free weights and start trying to use a barbell? I tried 5x5 Stronglifts many times. Yes, lift with barbells. This provides greater stability and thus greater force production. Barbells are also great for helping catch up unilateral strength disparities over time, barring some major deformity, but even things like scoliosis benefit from strength training. I don’t like 5x5 stronglifts. I’d say lift in the 8-15 range. Start with heavier work first. Push sets so th…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/26 11:41 PM
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I couldn't figure out why I started fantasizing about new relationships or reminiscing about the past last week. My attempts to deliberately distract myself with work or training did not help much. I don’t think you could be more avoidant. Maybe the answer is not to “distract yourself,” but to sit with yourself, just sit and peel back your thoughts and feelings and notice and own them in the state they are without acting on them. No amount of entitlement/external factors changes those underlying…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/26 11:26 PM
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Until you’ve actually done it, it’s just conjecture. Write the shit you do.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/26 08:26 PM
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“I can see why her forgetting [important date] makes you so angry, why don’t we grab the kiddo and go for a walk around the neighborhood?”. No, not in the emotional outburst sense. I thought each were an opportunity to lead her through some emotions and took my shots. You are trying to fix her and contain her emotions that why I assume others keep getting the impression that you are afraid of her emotions. Maybe she likes that her mom acts a like cunt and wants to be bossed around. Give her emot…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/26 03:31 PM
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Awareness - looking back on my life I can see how uncomfortable I’ve been just simply sitting in silence with my thoughts - How I’ve rushed to fill the void with things throughout my life. Drugs, porn, video games, calling/texting buddies, etc. I actually think I chose my ex wife partially because I hated being alone and I hoped she would bring me peace. I must have known subconsciously that she was needy too. I wouldn’t have to work on improving myself nor win her because she needed and depende…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/26 11:54 PM
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I made a single comment like “I had work I needed to do” and then STFU. I initiated later that night and got some negotiated desire (not starfish). I could tell she wasn’t into it, and made some comment, to which she replied “it’s fine.” How’s it going in your wife’s frame? She’s directing the narrative or the machinations of how you imagine her inner mind are. If you are fucking on your terms the rest is just shit test/kayfabe. So go ahead and play the heel I shouldn’t tolerate that. According …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/26 10:21 PM
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Aww someone feelings get hurt 🍆 Why are you so angry that you need to react? I’d wager you are entitled and can’t accept that someone view as beneath you has any right to provide critical feedback. Nurse your narcissistic wound and learn to separate the person from the advice. By the way, even if there was no notes pertinent to you here, never wrestle with a pig. You both get dirty but the pig likes it
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/26 08:41 PM
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A mistake I made over the weekend was stating a boundary she violated and then fucking her 30 mins later (“come up and hand me a hot towel”). I thought enough time had passed but that wasn’t the case. Shit tests went through the roof after fucking related to the boundary. I STFU but was frustrated because she had a few drinks and wasn’t getting ready to go to dinner. I don’t like being late nor the drinking before we had plans. I noted to myself to try a much larger buffer next time (~4 hours) t…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/26 11:10 PM
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If nothing, I'll have the benefit of saying to myself that I've really tried when I'll be grieving the relationship. This is peak nice guy. How virtuous of you to abdicate any responsibility or leadership for your life..
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/26 09:06 PM
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I call bullshit. I think you know what it is and what you want, but that you’re afraid and to look at it and own it. I know what she’s getting from this exchange, time and attention. As WMP put it you have to make your fucking choice
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/26 04:07 PM
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Currently I am weak lifts: I almost never do the standard big 3, but I’ll get as close as I can Barbell SLDL: 225 lbs for 5 reps Pendulum squat: 80 lbs for 7 reps Reverse grip incline smith machine bench: 120 lbs for 4 reps Wonder why you’re weak. Try receiving a bukkake for forearm strength
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/26 03:38 PM
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I’ll let the mrpdaddys analyze that one. What do you think it is? What do you get out of this exchange? What is it you want to do here? A few people may hate me and some may love me deeply along the way You still care too much But there’s a difference between having some options and UNLIMITED options. I’m brushing up against that unlimited piece and don’t know if I’m selling myself short or afraid to put in more work on things like game, OLD, etc. Still plenty of room to grown on increasing real…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/26 03:26 PM
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We didn't use to be like this. I don't want to be like this. I don't want to blame anyone else but myself because I am here, trying to own my shit. She may be a shitty wife or she may want me to kill the puppy. I don't know. I don't want to be in her head. I need to remain focused on fixing myself. Don’t fall into the pitfall of blue pill pariah this can lead to the trap of just endlessly being a plow horse and while you’ve allowed the behavior in the past you don’t have to anymore if you don’t …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/26 02:32 AM
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I expected Gemini to come back with some real delusional cheer leading response but even it has a grim take on the situation: “Divorcing your wife with the intention of waiting for her to "act right" in order to remarry her is a high-risk strategy, often termed a "divorce wake-up call". While it is legally possible to remarry a former spouse, this approach rarely works as intended, as only about 6% of divorced couples actually remarry each other, and 30% of those end up divorcing a second time.”…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/26 01:58 AM
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Well this was an actual contribution...so hey, better job this time. Come on man this isn’t the flex you think it is, you can’t act like a little bitch then a minute later act like your just cool unaffected guy. People can see through how performative it is despite your protests otherwise. STFU, it struck a nerve so examine in yourself what it was in you that is so bothered by an internet stranger’s assessment of your situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/26 01:49 AM
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tried making me jealous of the rich dudes checking her out (“oh yeah imagine making love with that big old sweaty belly on you”) I get that you’re flirting , but if you running push and then pull here you are reinforcing this element so just make sure that is something you want to do. I stopped and said “this isn’t going to work for me. If fucking isn’t a ‘hell yeah’ then we’ll try another time.” Is this a want or need? Are you getting what you want or need? If so who cares if they feign obstina…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/26 02:46 AM
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Alpha, are you saying absenteeism as a father is nothing to be worried about? Genuine question. Rather why you specifically are so worried about it. What if it isn’t? Have you considered the fact that there could be some part that could like not having the burden or responsibility of any children? Im saying own it for what it is actually is instead of making some boogeyman out of something. Stuff we own about ourselves and even the stuff we may not like, can then be interacted with.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/26 06:11 PM
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The stats are pretty damning of father’s post-divorce. Something like 50 percent are completely absent at the 1 year mark. Why is that damning? Examine that fear. Texted her a few days later and basically said I was interested in hanging out sometime and grabbing a drink. All I got was the little heart on the text bubble. Realized I don’t have pick up game. In hindsight I should have been more direct. Something like just setting a date and time and being like “let’s meet here” and let her decide…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/26 01:04 AM
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You’re being Rambo/sloppy/messy so if you don’t want to be then don’t. Ditch your account, formatting and your OYS numbering. Think about what it is you want/need and the steps you can take towards those; and before you act whether your actions are congruent towards those interests.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/26 11:00 PM
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I thought the same thing about OPSEC, but an alternative was that it was written with the assumption that it would be found and was written for her. It reads like a banal apology.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/26 05:07 PM
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I spent a day or so thinking about this and agree with you. My game has always been forward/"aggressive" (pull) with some push, but not much. I was successful fucking that way and understand how my situation is different and needs work. I spent most of the week catching up on push/pull dynamics and tried a few things out. I've pulled back a decent amount but without autistically shutting things down. Distilled to its simplest its push/pull or Indiffernce/control. Remember any attention can be go…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/26 02:09 AM
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Married ex texted A LOT since the last meet. Mostly heavy shit tests. After Horns called bullshit on why I didn’t bang her last time, I thought fuck it, at least I'll practice on the shit tests. So she drove over, and I couldn’t do it again. Same shit: her parents always loved me, old college memories, kids this, husband that (turned out she told him she was meeting an old friend). Just sat and talked for a couple of hours. I teased a bit but didn’t escalate. The funny part is that she lost her …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/26 01:45 AM
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There’s usually a pattern with the whining/upset rejections occurring the day after we fuck (“we had sex yesterday” “what’s wrong with you” etc). I respond with an “all good, another time” The worldview that having sex two days in a row would be dysfunctional, would be and has been treated as bullshit by me. Your approach of “all good” is disingenuous. While it’s different than the defensive reactions you might have had before, eventually you’re going to want to challenge this narrative with one…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/26 01:19 AM
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The workouts I need to perform for a savage race are most likely more HIIT, calisthenics, and cardio focused. If anyone has feedback on this, more than happy to hear it out. There are a lot of good resources that cover different topics related to this here. The summary being if you want a nice physique and have sport specific needs you do resistance training with your sport specific conditioning. You will stall with lifts as you develop because beyond neuro/mechanical changes you have to build m…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/26 11:06 PM
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Last week my gf moved herself into the guest room after some pretty intense shit tests about me not “communicating” that I fogged and AA. In the past I would have ignored her for a few days then blew up on her or break up with her then beg for her forgiveness after having “second thoughts”. Stop throwing shit at the wall and just STFU up. This time I went about my days as usual. After threats to break the lease on her part I said let’s do it. Then came the comfort tests and back peddling on her …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/26 09:10 PM
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so I spent some time and multiple tries trying to find the info This sounds like too much pull. Provide an opening, but allow her the space to take or choose it. Besides she might not even consciously understand her feelz, it’s not about the nail after all The other half was scrolling social media, which I agreed is probably rude in general Then own it and move, which it sounds like you might have done “Your right, thanks” I had no interest in the conversation being had and scrolled out of bored…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/26 02:33 AM
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I got called out for being on my phone by someone else, then dog piled on by the others including my fiancé (set my phone down and STFU). How do you feel about your behavior? I did damage control to end the argument What did that look like? I got annoyed when she wouldn’t stop repeating herself to my parents. I was embarrassed because she wouldn’t STFU or let it go. Whamen be Whamen. What about her venting and not STFU bothered you? Is this underlying anger based on past reflections of yourself?…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/26 01:39 AM
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I think your narrative is bullshit and you know this, thus need other people to believe it. You are still a fat weak stoner who makes excuses why his wife can’t be sexual with him.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/26 12:56 PM
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but seriously do you know how angry you are? Has your wife decided where you are going to live or how you are going to parent your kids yet? It’s OYS 3 so your likely not ready so stick with the basics of OYS, lift, read, and STFU; but eventually your going want to take that fight. I sense that You are practically seething from how tread you feel you are. Think about how you’re going to have your own back and what is you want/need. WISNIFG & 123 magic have assertive tools towards this. El Camino…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/26 03:20 AM
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But he has been receptive to feedback above. What value does this add outside or moralizing his decisions?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/26 01:57 AM
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I feel guilty because she's shitting blood several times a day So it’s a you issue then? Jesus fucking Christ some of you are so cringe it makes me embarrassed for you, and that's coming from a guy that just self identified as a fat suicidal pothead. If the only value you can add is repeating back what I've already said with some middle school edgelord bullshit on top, maybe you don't have STFU on lock as much as you think. Go ahead crash out my friend
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/26 01:16 AM
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Unfortunately, I don't have a "Morpheus" type character IRL that I can bounce my bullshit off of, but I guess that is the purpose of OYS, so I'll be poasting in here! Quit waiting for someone to come save you, save yourself. You were always alone, but we are unified in that experience. I don’t see a lot in here about what is you want for yourself. You also conveniently gloss over your sex life. How goes fucking your wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/26 01:06 AM
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I feel like people really DO owe me big time for all the shit I have done and continue to do for them. They don't actually. And with this new realization, I don't really feel like doing as much "extra" stuff for others, so I won't. Good, stop giving when you’re as leveraged as you are currently. That is the bed that sows resentment. Perhaps giving to yourself will enable you an abundance to one day give freely to others I think shes afraid that ANY touch could be construed as consent for somethi…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/26 12:36 AM
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I will begin mentally framing myself as a stud so I can begin acting as one and continue to starve out my validation addiction. Act like how you imagine “stud” would act otherwise you’re putting the cart in front of the horse waiting to magically feel like a “stud” so can then act on it. It will likely feel uncomfortable and tense; and you will the have the urge to DEER and joke to reduce that tension, but don’t. Sit in it and see if you acting like how you imagine a “stud” would act helps to in…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/26 10:57 PM
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Boundary enforcement will depend on how you want to enforce your boundaries. However, if you never address the underlying behavior/problem you are trying to set boundaries around then it can be avoidant or passive-aggressive. You might also want to find a medium where you don’t have to fuck off every time something happens you don’t like.
/r/askMRP02/01/26 02:42 PM
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Trying threading flat and decline, and avoiding incline altogether. The front delts get worked enough with flat bench variant and with the OHP. See if that alienates your should issues.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/26 09:08 PM
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What type of benching do you do?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/26 08:52 PM
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shark week started about 1.5 weeks early (by my tracking) and her behavior made more sense Stop building narratives that justify or excuse other behaviors. ”why are you doing that?”, “why are we in this position?”, “what’s wrong with you?” Come on sometimes that shit testing is half the fun Tyred is right however good or bad should not be held in context of external results, but instead how true to your wants/needs and image of yourself you are being. Keep STFU so you can continue to learn to se…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/25 11:05 PM
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Either way, I do think the 12 step program has valuable things I want to explore and keep on with Sex: No sex. Possibly due to masturbating Very valuable, huh Sex: No sex. Noticed I've lost a desire to initiate. But did you initiate? If so, what were those results? If not, what happens if your start acting like a man who wants to initiate and lead in building attraction?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/25 02:41 AM
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This is such a bullshit low effort response. STFU, do the thinking, when you have the actions or response come back with that. As for your OYS, you’ve framed your actions with a lot flowery words to your benefit. Are you man who enjoys “challenges” or someone just caving into his oneitis. Also if you really wanted her to move in, why the resentment surrounding her emotions and entitlement? Or was there some covert contracts you tied to expectations you had with her moving in with you? Finally, s…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/25 02:21 AM
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Isn’t SAA whole credo about accepting powerlessness and turning responsibility over to another authority? Can you see how this can be the antithesis of owning your shit? Accepting that learned helplessness can be insidious if you then allow it to seep into other areas of your life as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/25 02:39 AM
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We had a bit of a conversation where I said "marriage's function [to me] is sexual exclusivity", she said "I can try harder [about the sex thing]", I said "no- the thing is, here are all the things I had been doing that are objectively unattractive Holy shit STFU. She hands you a win and you find a way to turn it into a loss “well actually m’lady it is I who have been unattractive and it isn’t your fault.” Hopefully you got what you needed for you to put to rest your past with this unattractive …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/25 07:19 AM
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Training volume means very little. I can load 135 on a bar and generate a fuck ton of volume but that alone will do very little. Keep. Intensity high, start with your heaviest/compound work and move down. I get better results cutting sharply, short maintenance window, surplus; rinse and repeat.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/25 06:40 PM
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Here ya go u/future-loquat-3411 doesn’t want to see you treat MRP as build a better plowhorse and he’s not wrong
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/25 12:50 AM
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Not really sure what you're suggesting here. I am not at a point where I can "refuse the blanket" basically because what Suitable_Whole pointed out. You indirectly A&A to point out the absurdity you see of your wife’s neuroticism, then accept the hat and blanket to pacify those emotions. Try STFU and fogging. I think those will be better tools for you, as you’re too scared of your wife’s emotions and A&A eventually send her hamster in overdrive for a fight your not currently ready to have. I rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/25 05:43 PM
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I am really starting to understand this. Question that's been running through my head though. Where is the line between creating this atmosphere and being the oak vs placating her. Point of origin. Note you will likely use this as an excuse rebrand placating behaviors as the “oak.” STFU, listen to do what it is you want to do and act congruently regardless of consequences. Wife comes and has a bad attitude "you're going to make the baby cold, why didn't you put more clothes on her, look at you w…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/25 01:11 PM
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They inherited my sluggishness, but not my intelligence. Everything they have to learn comes three times as hard earned. Can’t fault them for it. I don’t want to be my own mom who I was never good enough for, but so many times it feels like I’m talking to a one celler with dementia and I get disappointed and impatient. They feel it, hate it, and so do I. It’s constant friction. So when your not make excuses for yourself, you’re doing it for others. Give them small achievable milestones they can …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 07:12 PM
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“ok, have fun” It may be tit for tat on her end, but the if this how you truly feel then good. I want to have a community of activities and people outside of wife and want that for her as well. You’re leading here, and while her motives may initially be vengeful, it could ultimately be something you want for both of you. It also sounds like this space has allowed her to miss you as well. I get annoyed about all the complaining and lack of figuring out small daily problems. How come? If there is …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 06:51 PM
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The woman that said this I am not attracted to, but attractive enough for my wife to have been impacted by her opinion. I thought about it a few seconds and replied “too bad the feeling isn’t mutual.” It got a laugh but felt it was the wrong response. The next day spouse brought this up again and I handled it a little better by saying, “well so-and-so obviously has good taste.” STFU, if you don’t know what you want to say. Thank god you didn’t spout all the unattractive musings or “meta-analysis…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/25 04:26 PM
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I think you would benefit from reading 123 magic. Extrapolate the system for something you works for you with your wife and kids. You want to consistent and non-emotional in your boundary setting and that may help you see how you can establish escalating boundaries
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/25 01:49 AM
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I live near a few bars, but I did not want to go in to any. Beer has calories. And spending any time trying to game or get validation from the opposite sex just seemed annoying to me. I'd rather workout. Who said you had to drink alcohol. Hamster it however you want. Weight lifting 3x a week (will do leg day after this post) - goal is 1 arm push up and pistol squat. I like rings and calisthenics. If that's a problem, okay. It’s a problem because while calisthenics are a good tool for some muscle…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/25 01:27 AM
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This sounds like both parties defecting, being reactive, and punishing behavior. Am I understanding this correctly? Notice this is what you see. Are there other places where you see or create opposition where there might not be any? I see Cam as saying he’s at peace with accepting gifts from others, understanding that he also participates in mutual value exchange, albeit in other ways. I’m saying one level above that with some irrational confidence is that accepting of that gift given your value…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/25 07:13 PM
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I understand sex is my responsibility so the most probable cause for this is what I'm doing or not doing. As far as owning what it is you want or need being indifferent Not passive, you’re actively choosing to STFU and stop being reactive so eventually you can choose how you want to respond. repulsed Why?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/25 04:37 PM
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u/MerlinsIdiotBrother she's willing to give duty sex. I now align that with me giving duty-ear and listening to her emote. Come on man, we are “him.” In which case we’re just giving them something that hadn’t even realized they wanted yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/25 04:12 PM
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I've learned from previous mistakes on this topic. I'm not trying (or desiring) to train her covertly or any other manner. I'm working on being indifferent and OI. Indifference sounds so passive, you want to respond instead of react you’re still figuring out how to do this that is why you are STFU. It’s a choice not be reactive. repulsed Why repulsed?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/25 04:04 PM
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I wasn't actually trying to eliminate awkwardness, but subconsiously seeking validation for my growth. I don’t think that was what he was saying. I think he was saying that you’re trying to shortcut the process by negotiating who you are instead of being him. There’s uncomfortable tension for you between who’ve you now seen yourself to have been and you want to be. STFU with it and sit with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/25 10:45 PM
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I experienced lots of uncomfortable but necessary feelings the last few days to get better at STFU It’s uncomfortable because you’ve never done it. Notice before how anytime whether it be a bad dream or anything other anxiety/fear/insecurity you displaced that onto others and made it their problem/responsibility for you to feel better. Sit with it. Learn that these feelings while they are uncomfortable for you are okay, and you that you will be okay. You’re changing the rules of the game you pla…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/25 02:58 PM
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Without overthinking I screenshotted it, sent it to her with a bunch of laughing emojis and wrote “so, was it worth it?”. Probably, it was a beta ass bitch move, but I was genuinely amused as fuck. A couple of pointless messages from her, my spam of emojis, and I slept like a baby. Aww, did you get mommy’s attention with your tantrum? The main thing with both of them is that after sex I’m lying there and it starts: “You’re so handsome, you’re so fucking strong, I love you, your body, your eyes…”…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/25 12:38 AM
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It is funny though having a dream that your girlfriend cheated on you and resenting her for it afterwards is one of the most stereotypical feminine things imaginable. observe reactive behaviors, and work on getting rid of them. No, others have said but you just need to shut the fuck up to autists levels, for you. Notice every time you feel uncomfortable, you unload your negative emotions onto your partner which is unattractive, weak, and probably not in line with who you want to be. Will sitting…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/25 03:58 AM
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Your twisting yourself in a pretzel shape trying to fit these container words. Instead ground yourself in concrete actions that line up towards your wants/goals Those are not good or bad, per se; but made range anywhere from optimal to poor depending on what your goals and may change over time.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/25 03:31 AM
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Good implies that the alternative is bad and frames everything from a moralistic binary standpoint. As u/mustang-64 pointed out it makes easier for others to yank on your “good man” chain to manipulate you. Also without firm criteria/actions as to what constitutes a “good man” you may convince yourself to work against your own interests. It has helped to think of the actions I want to take towards my wants/goals and let those actions speak to myself and others about who I am.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 11:00 PM
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Stop hiding behind metrics, others comments, and “we,” speak for yourself. Some guys come here to try to help other guys, others just come here to flex It happens, but there is a lesson here to determine what adds value specifically for you. Also, lack of value vs perceived lack of value exists.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 05:08 PM
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To be a “good man”. Good man ™ You’re ripe to spin your wheels gaslightening yourself or being gaslight by others. How do you possibly detach your ego from something once you placed binary morality labels on it?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 04:03 PM
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I allow Good thing to acknowledge, face, and take ownership of. Looks like you also allow yourself to skips workouts, not prioritize sleep and self-care, and do drugs/avoid. I ended up shaking off the depression and journaling + writing self-affirmations. Sounds gay as hell, but this helped me mentally. I know it's not a cure-all, and there are still deep-rooted feelings of insecurity, abandonment, feelings of not being important, not being 'good enough,' that I have to work through to have any …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 03:53 PM
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You should drop toxic people. I did that a long time ago already. Sometimes, life isn't simple though, especially with a codependent dad you want in your life but can't visit alone. Sometimes, toxicity is a spectrum, one that can be managed with pure presence. I visited my parents, on my own terms. I had a great time and probably the deepest talks I ever had with my toxic mom, because I just dropped all the shame and was vulnerable, but in full personal power. I learned stuff about my family tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 12:25 PM
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Be careful, you have the makings of an excellent plow-horse.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 02:25 AM
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r/askmrp How has this benefitted you? What are your notes?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/25 10:12 PM
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How would this help you get what you want?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/25 10:10 PM
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Previously I contemplated a lot about moving in with my LTR. I got a lot of good advice here, and dived deeper into Rollo's rule 4. I also made sure it's not external pressure, and that I understand the possible consequences, and decided it is the right time. I do things that are unoptimized because I want to as well sometimes, but I’d ask for someone so sure of his decision what’s with the 2 paragraphs of unprompted word salad that follows? Smells like weakness.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/25 07:46 PM
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I’ve found rows significantly easier to do chest supported with a bench or chest supported machines the best.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/25 05:13 PM
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As for the domestic side of life, I’m going to go into a lot more detail here, because I think I had a main event. Like everything I’ve learned here, it felt like I “knew” what was right within a few months of finding this place but it took years to be able to internalize it. It’s a trap ever expecting that problem free life. But, I eventually wrapped my head around it and I ignored words and watched actions. And I got the help I needed and said, “thanks.” Sounds good, but a lot in here does. Wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/25 01:02 AM
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What I am saying is they might not be considering those things, but it sounds like you are. By setting those boundaries you’re listening to yourself, not brushing yourself off, and considering your own needs. If you treat yourself as if you are worthy of respect over time maybe you will come to value and respect yourself as part of your frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/25 07:21 PM
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It's been hard to 'say my peace' because it isn't heard, isn't considered, is brushed off, etc You’re missing the most valuable person in attendance here, yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/25 05:26 PM
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I've started to vocalize how it makes me feel like shit and unimportant when I'm around them and there has been push back. You’re 34 fucking years old. You determine whom you share your value with and who adds value to your life. I'm just trying to work through the disappointment and having a hard time accepting that I'm just not important enough to my parents and sister to be taken seriously or to have boundaries respected or even be considered. What’s more disappointing though, finding that ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/25 05:23 PM
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You forgot “sex positive.” Read likes words on a blue bill bingo sheet.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/25 05:17 PM
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I'm interested if and how it's possible to decouple that from frame. Or get rid of that fear altogether. That is your frame. So what does a version that envisions “good/cool/masculine” do and what happens when notice yourself doing those things over time?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/25 05:16 PM
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I was accused of having anger problems. I consider it a frame test. I explained what I thought the real underlying issue is and what I’ve done to date, but also why I’m concerned nonetheless. I think you still want to fix her. Having taking accountability for your own nails and removed them you can so clearly see hers now. Never having been closer to the nail and with better tools, if only she would use them as well. But that is your (Male/logic) accountability and change not hers. Assuming your…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/25 04:09 PM
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Good to see you back, I’m still waiting on notes for bang for roof or how to best optimize women bodies to run lines of coke off of.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/25 01:09 AM
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5x5 is mid. My experience is intensity (going close to failure) matters the most. If you can run 5 sets at the same weight and not lose a rep the work is too easy. And when the weight is that heavy it easy to short yourself reps. Try some work in the 8-15 range. Try some AMRAPs or intensity techniques.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/25 01:00 AM
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What are your own notes or experiences with this?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/25 08:07 PM
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I am trying to understand what to do about being annoyed that she won't fix the anxiety problem. What control do you have over fixing her anxiety problem? If it's because I'm not being the oak, then that's what I'll focus on. If it's because I'm a Drunk Captain, then I'll focus on that. If it's both or something else entirely, then I'll continue working the process to change fix the man. The man sounds pretty lost here. What is it that you want to do? It’s okay if you don’t know. If losing my co…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/25 11:38 PM
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I have zero anxiety about her anxiety and am only annoyed by it. So you’re stupid? Why do you consistently do shit that annoys you? How was what I did placating? So did she come to you to seek that comfort you were doling out? Is that why you got butthurt when she rejected your hug?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/25 07:49 PM
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This isn’t cute or funny. Practice STFU more.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/25 07:45 PM
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Stop being captain save a hoe. This is a whole OYS about you trying to preempt her needs and fix her anxiety for her. And another response above here about you hamstering why it is necessary all framed around her. Here’s a secret. if she didn’t ask it, you were only ever doing to assuage your own anxiety about her anxiety. In this ouroboros of anxiety, there is no end. lead her out of her anxiety You’re not leading, your’re placating
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/25 12:24 AM
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I'm working on being the best version of myself but if she cannot accept that, then I understand if she wants to leave. You’re not owning your shit. You’re skirting responsibility and making it her problem. The problem with “are you in or are you out?” Is that is meaningless in words. It’s something demonstrated in action. You will never get to know or have peace of mind of knowing ahead of time. Sex: No sex last week. I have expectations on sex I have expectations about the sex life I want for …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/25 12:01 AM
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Well you’ve internalized none of it. What are your boundaries and expectations and have these been explicated and enforced? In regards to your alcohol use, do you view it as problematic? If no, how do you think arguing undermines your position? I’m able to STFU, but maybe I struggle with how to communicate effectively What is effective communication? Sounds like just some bullshit for you to justify words leaking out of your mouth. I’d also ask how bringing a knife (logic) to a gunfight (emotion…
/r/askMRP14/10/25 10:56 PM
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I saw my girlfriend as a “good girl” from day one so when she was receptive to me I poured everything into her, not to mention I was depressed and desperate for companionship(pathetic). Nice excuse I also was very open to her about my dislike of promiscuous women. That was a mistake because I believe it has caused her to hide her past from me but that’s on me. It was mistake because you lied and like sex and sluts, you just wanted to use it to manipulate and try to prevent yourself from getting …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/25 08:03 PM
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The version of myself who isn’t pathetic would refer to himself as pathetic. As for mission, I’m not forcing it I feel its like faith. I’ve had moments in my life where I had a crystal clear mission which “came to me” and which burned a fire. I know how it feels. Would or wouldn’t? Besides breaking IR of tomassi #9, if your goal is to be your future tense self; how do you ever catch him acting like your past tense self? Any tips on how to dive deeper into the codepency issues? I will read NMMNG …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/25 05:20 AM
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I don’t like the binary mindset is book good or bad. Read it, review other notes, implement things, and iterate based on that data
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/25 05:02 AM
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MISSION: I don’t really have one that fills me with fire. That’s probably the most honest (though pathetic) explanation I can come up with right now. But maybe this: I don’t want to be the pathetic man I’ve become anymore. I want to be someone I can look in the mirror and say to myself, “I like who I am,” even when life’s hard. Sounds honest to me, but would the version of yourself who isn’t pathetic constantly refer to himself as pathetic? I have a lot of anger inside me (toward my dad, my moth…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/25 06:17 PM
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They’re all just tools. you’re going to have to apply what works for you with application and reflection.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/25 05:24 PM
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I was about to DEER how sometimes I've spent almost 5+ hrs with her family/friends. Decided to STFU and go back to enjoying my family. Eventually she came along and we had a great evening. Good use of STFU and a good thing to notice. You did those things in the past because you wanted to right? If not, look at the potential for covert contracts. Move forward don’t play the scorekeeping game. The whole shoe thing, Is it a boundary you want to maintain moving forward? If so, you want to these to b…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/25 02:53 PM
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Finish my MAP/Action Plan Who is it you want to be and what actionable steps are you taking to be him. We get it you suck, come back you write about things you’ve done that make you suck less.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/25 02:35 PM
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Yeah your triad above pays lip service to it, but underneath your scared and/or still looking for shortcuts/certainty where there is none. Where others build broader shoulders you’re looking for lighter loads.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/25 09:00 PM
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Yes that is no more Mr nice guy. I judge myself. I overcome my weaknesses. Is it really true that I have only a 0.5% chance of succeeding? I took a free personality quiz and scored high on dark triad traits. Are you trolling us? You probably are equally likely to have borderline personality traits, but if all else fails take a cosmo quiz or consult your zodiac star chart. STFU, read, lift, become less fat, and OYS
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/25 08:52 PM
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Listened to her insecurities, some classic "you don't express your feelings enough" (beta-isation process), I pretty much expressed similar or the same concerns from my perspective You see the trap so why argue with it. Display strength
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/25 07:14 PM
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MENTAL: I have mental issues due to childhood of severe neglect from mother and severe abuse from stepfather. I have been in therapy but I hate it more than anything and will not go back. I am going to try to learn to be a good writer and a good speaker. I am going to buy some books about it. For now I have spent a lot of time this week learning from online materials. I am also learning more about computers. Read NMMNG a handful of times. The core of your issue is you have no identity. You likel…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/25 07:03 PM
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Ask what you’re really asking, which is the shortcut to being better for yourself. “Wouldn’t it be nice if because of the rules of hypergamy I could do less and be lazy and things just kind of work themselves out for me.” Keep looking for you problem free nice guy life, and feel free to hamsters your directions to it however you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/25 06:48 PM
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Removed way of the superior man. I read this before MRP. Noticed this caused confusion. I updated post. You’re fine to leave it in your post I just wouldn’t recommend that reading at this point. I was attempting in providing her comfort (which is what I believed she was seeking). Sounds more like you were rewarding shitty behavior with comfort without addressing the underlying shitty behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/25 01:04 AM
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Put down way of the superior man. Read WISNIFG. Last week when I got back from a social group, gf looked all bothered and anxious. She was asking about the event but in a very defensive way saying it seems I like being out more than with her and etc. I attempted to set a boundary stating I don't want to talk about this if she was going to keep expressing herself that way. I did not follow through with my boundary and I DEERED. Then it wasn’t a boundary so just STFU if your not ready or wanting t…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/25 03:46 PM
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As your pretty close your goals I’d start with one set at the heaviest weight then descent as above. The results with this will take time to actualize but should raise the ceiling on your strength output long-term. Wasn't prepared to lead and got called on it. Being prepared is excellent regardless of outcome it’s nice to know that something chosen intentionally and not done flippantly; however, this won’t always be the case so it has benefited me to build a frame a where I trust myself to handl…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/25 01:03 AM
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To act with intention. To denounce external validation. Okay team rocket, instead of announcing your mission is to be yourself. Think about who you want to be and go be that person. LIFTS: I use my home gym. No heavy equipment yet. Nothing gets pussy wetter than seeing a man throw around those pink 2 pound weights
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/25 12:30 AM
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I like the a/b 4 day split but could do some variant of this with a fifth day to target a lift or certain body parts to focus for development. Is most your work at 85% of 1RM. If so, I’ve had better results with something like 25% 3-5 rep, 50% 6-12, and 25% 12-20. I also like to have periods where I focus more on cutting or bulking/maintaining. The period sex as others already have pointed failed because you while you LARPed a version of yourself who would have period sex any thought to the acti…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/25 12:23 AM
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Fight for freedom You’d just be fighting yourself Tyler Durden But I’ve got problem with: Passive-aggressive remarks, which sometimes just leave my mouth, before I think about it and expressing my feelings Passive-agressive =/= assertive. Then kill the nerves. STFU to artistic levels and notice the urge, without acting on it. I don’t know why I did, it was fully automatic and I left it there Bullshit you don’t why. Hide the perceived bad. When I go sailing I feel guilty I got cold sore on Tuesda…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/25 01:11 AM
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You’re still fat and weak after a year what are you doing about that? It's unfortunate and ironic that she is finally coming around when I feel very little attraction to her. Besides whining what are you doing about this? You didn’t return by accident. What is it you want?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/25 03:52 PM
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Didn’t she see the car? Did she not see you playing with the kids? Oh well Sex: Currently scheduled as this has been going on a while (like I said, I found this sub today), the Schedule keeps getting thrown off, or she forgets. Which is really the key issue, knocked her back twice this week as I'm not interested in sorry sex. I want 'I can't wait to have you in my mouth' sex. Hence my reason for being here with you
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/25 10:37 PM
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Second: sex didn’t resolve her anxiety. According to who? And why do you view sex as a vehicle to fix your wife? mental So it’s either sniveling simp or shunning off any form of validation then? Sounds pretty powerless. It’s one thing to warp/contort yourself to try and “get” something. But in those examples that is not what happened, people gave to you and you had trouble receiving/accepting their gifts.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/25 02:06 PM
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Change is permanent There is a paradox here. But you chose those words, like you are trying to lay out the pieces of yourself in some line at which point you will have an epiphany and everything will fall neatly into place. Could you elaborate? What do you think it means?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/25 10:12 PM
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This is basically "advanced vetting" - I need to see that she's capable of the role before she gets it. Hamster it however you want. This is just you assuaging your anxiety to try and answer a question for yourself that can’t possibly be answered, nice guy. If you’re going to ignore the limited prescriptive advice at least STFU about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/25 01:13 PM
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No mission… That’s something I want to work on. Any tips? Start with the basics lift, STFU, read , and OYS. It can feel overwhelming looking from the top down so instead build it from the ground up. Also, your Batman origin story sucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/25 11:11 PM
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Her behavior got to me that day but I was more successful with STFU and using the various tools in the toolbox to navigate the storm than I have been in years. The behavior got to you because you still have covert contracts tied to your actions. You thought your “nice” (container word for which you assign value) actions would be received in a specific way. The good news is that if you don’t want to give it or have it to give, you don’t have to. If you are abundant where you can give freely or re…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/25 10:42 PM
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Not stressing. I'd have eaten and drankin' twice as much a year ago Sucking half as much is still sucking. What is are your goals and what objective measures do you have to reach them? Still suck at STFU Even in my head it's so clear but it's so automatic that I don't notice it Intertwined Actually shutting the fuck up will force me to develop an internal sense of self strong enough to not feel like I need this validation It won’t, but maybe if you stop long enough from making those cock cobblin…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/25 09:53 PM
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This does not come naturally to me. I guess a lifetime of wholeheartedly drinking from the feminine imperative firehose doesn’t get subverted easily. Just so you know how unattractive you are, your gender mirror is the unattractive overweight purple-haired woman bitching about the patriarchy and men’s tyranny. Focus less on your captor and instead the fact you’ve been given the key to your cell, but choose instead to bitch about uncomfortable the bars are and the inhospitable living conditions.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/25 01:13 AM
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I have done all the reading, and way too little action. So I start this OYS to be called out by you mthfrs in a way that I wouldn't call out myself. Fuck off with this lazy expectation of hand holding. Be your own judge, hold yourself accountable to your own standards. You seem to know you suck so do something about that. primarily because wife is pretty unavailable at this moment With you
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/25 11:14 AM
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Still sounds like an excuse That’s because it was. You’ve done very little except ponder the harrowing visions of your origin Nothing done yet. Well said
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/25 05:46 PM
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My mission as stated until now was a collection of bits and pieces that have resonated with me, but it's time I really mold it into the future person I'm starting to see myself as. Focus on this, the rest is a lot mental existential circle jerk. Do focused things and trust yourself to find those answers from that work. Speaking of trust look how your frame this: During the first one I lost my cool somewhat. Didn't expect that. That was a fail, but I was able to catch it before things escalated a…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/25 05:34 PM
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Notice how both this and your response to Stone are do nothing mouth noises to say “you’re right.” Just STFU, DO something and report back on that. *edit The win. The kids feel her agitation quite clearly, and they started frequent bickering; this has then caused my wife's serious screaming to the kids, and general screaming in the house. I started by by slowly telling my wife to calm down and closing her office door. I can tell my attitude was different because, although she was upset, I was to…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/25 05:05 PM
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Here’s my notes with lifting that have served me well. Keep a lead set to help gauge progress over time and do more work consistently closer to failure not just the last set. Start with compound lifts and your heaviest sets or work first. Both books have led me to the realisation that I’ve spent so much of my life trying to control other things/ other people/ other situations. A lot of it had to do with the uncomfortable feeling of anxiety/ frustration when faced with the chaos of life. Conseque…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/25 10:44 PM
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I initiated 5 times and got it 5 times What does that fact that you “get sex” from others say about your mindset? She has this habit of asking me to go get her things. A glass of water before bed, etc. I’ve been noticing how often she asks and I do it every time. I’m pissed off that I’m doing it, but the thought of not doing it makes me feel guilty. So my hamster rationalizes, she cooks and brings you lunch during your meetings, and she does this and that, blah blah. WISNIFG & When others give t…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/25 05:46 PM
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The numbers keep creeping up. Very happy with the progress just need to let time do its thing. Will probably add some more accessory movements to my routine for aesthetics Compounds are some of the best mass builders there are and you are still very weak. Outside some arm, calve, and ab specific work compounds will do a lot to cover most of you bases. 3x sex in 4 days (was travelling prior). GF was pretty engaged but there’s definitely room for improvement. Start by not preemptively DEERing. You…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/25 02:09 AM
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You’re doing stuff and most importantly STFU as to not be unattractive. All while continuing to build a better a more attractive version of yourself. ”if I follow MRP, STFU, LIFT, SIDEBAR etc. then I will get all the sex I want and the realationship will be better.” After discovering that… I’m fucking pissed off. I need to be doing this for me and because I like it. Sometimes you have to try something for fit to realize you enjoy it. Pussy is NOT the goal But it’s also not not a goal, right? The…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/25 12:23 AM
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Because those were words, not actions. How does "I miss you" help if the excuses not to meet keep coming? That was an action on her part, even if it wasn’t the one you wanted. You allowed her space and she made some effort to move towards you. However, if that effort is met with unattractive, resentful, passive-aggressive energy like this: I got one call where I almost rolled my eyes to another dimension It will just reinforce why she doesn’t want to move towards you. That was laying a boundary.…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/25 06:53 PM
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There is a lot in here about how you suck and your nice guy behaviors. So do things you think don’t suck so you can write about those. A reread of NMMNG would be helpful as you are still trying to hide parts of yourself. I wish I could say I carried her upstairs and fucked her silly, but I didn’t do that. Opportunity for improvement maybe, but I also had a shitload of work due so that was what I wanted to prioritize Look how honest that first sentence is, only to obfuscated by your ego.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/25 06:01 PM
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"You know if this keeps up like this, it won't work for me. I can't be the only one putting effort in this relationship". Stop begging her to invest. Go out explore life and make other connections. most of this time the relationship was hot, sexy, and fun, plus I've become a much better captain in those 3 years There is sunk-cost fallacy at play here based on what the relationship WAS, stop letting your hamster gaslight you otherwise. You’re steps away for truly accepting it and looking at it fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/25 05:43 PM
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275 lbs Whose tits are bigger? Too much to get into on my first OYS STFU, nobody else cares. That’s yours to examine and make what you will of it. We’re pretty pair bonded, being each others first kiss (we met at church in high school). Doubt it Iron Rule of Tomassi #6 Women are utterly incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/25 05:26 AM
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“when she plays nice, I play nice and when she plays mean , I play mean ” You assuming your nice card has carries value, it doesn’t. “am I chasing her more than she’s chasing me? Am I doing too much? Are you doing it be cause you want to or not? How often is she coming to me vs me going to her?” How often are you giving her the room to come towards you? Just to be clear, exiting when my frame is busted i correct Your frame is only ever busted when it is a facade. STFU for a good long while and t…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/25 07:26 AM
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switched to a mixed grip on the DL You’re pretty weak, but would not recommend this. Use standard grip, then hooks when your grip gives out. One of the more common ways for a bicep tear. If you lifted 4x/week in an a/b workout structure assuming other variables are on track you would likely see more gains. I struggled with overthinking about whether I should since the impetus was external advice from MRP You can integrate information from external sources in OI manner. See below: but I'm also ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/25 03:46 AM
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there is a deep rooted rejection for my cum so far, which probably reflects the true level of attraction. so the answer is no. but I keep telling her that I want her to swallow, so she knows I want it. That’s a nice excuse you’re perpetuating for her. Sounds like you wanted it so did you say “get on your knees and clean me off with your mouth.” recommendations for learning day game or navigating such situations better? Mystery method, the game, and book of pook. It helped me to actively work on …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/25 04:05 PM
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Probably. I lack the frame to do this congruently right now. This might be a fake it til you make it situation I need to create. That’s fine, STFU but be listening to yourself when you hear the call and want to explore the dominant side of yourself and proceed with strength. Prepare to be tested on it and don’t back down from yourself. I pared the incident down for OYS but I did say that if it happened again I was going to take myself out of the interaction for 5-10 minutes until discussion can …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/25 03:48 PM
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I then told her to get it out and she complied, but only resulting in a hj Did you have her clean it up with her mouth? I’m also able to find myself constantly in situations where hot woman are close to me, which might be their way of offering themselves This is girl game. They are being available to you. I have had them move so as to obstruct my path. Your lifts are still shitty for doing this for a year. What are you doing there?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/25 12:50 PM
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I'm getting shit tested more about the gym. It largely takes the form of "your body is disgusting now; I liked your body better before" etc. This falls into the 10% or so of tests I genuinely find amusing and I STFU through them. My wife ran an odd initiation one night by pulling out her tits and playing with them, then saying "these are my boobs. You can touch them," very matter of factly. I obliged for a bit, but didn't push things further. I should have taken the opportunity. I'm still really…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/25 12:36 PM
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No initiations in the last 2 weeks due to shark week/away/sick. How many more excuses can you pile on there? I'll admit I'm still stuck in the "only initiate if I think I have a chance" stage, which means roughly once a week Who defines these limitations and why?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/25 06:32 PM
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What gifts are you actually giving though? You are weak, unattractive, and now entitled? Leave that decision to a version of you who is ready to make it. Your whole mindset section is warped around a covert contract you have for some an epic test to come along and fix your all your shit for you. Yeah, no shit your wife didn’t take your whining threats about sex seriously you’ve always been not attractive, but now you’re also acting unattractive. STFU until you can bench two plates.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/25 11:42 PM
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but I feel like getting it out there since I don’t get a lot of feedback in my personal life. DEER, stop justifying your existence. This is heavy on diagnostics and light and on action. You’re just waiting for shit to fall and your lap and fix things for you, create your own luck. I would love to have someone I consider a close friend right now, bur I won’t force it. I guess that’s just part of growing up. It will be if you accept it such. You can’t make other people vibe with you, but this equa…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/25 01:01 PM
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This is a good first OYS because you’ve already come here having done things. Some takeaways: My Mission: Lead my family and be the best man I can be. Be a man who demonstrates discipline, leadership, and courage. Notice your mission is not for yourself. You’re still nice guy signaling how you want others to view you. Strike “demonstrate” and instead be what in your mind encompasses those straights of d/l/c, you can’t control the lens on which others assign value to your actions. Lifting: aim fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/25 06:22 PM
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wdym "this sucks"? are you speaking to my hesitation on whether to commit to rebuilding a social presence or not? r you saying to decide for or against and to kill the unproductive nostalgia? or are you saying something else? You pining over your past IG numbers is unattractive and an excuse to connect with others. What do you expect to get from social media and what covert contracts are there?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/25 03:05 AM
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How come? Why are there multiple versions of yourself and your values that exist, aren’t they all just you? That one died on the vine “let’s be friends” because there was a planned move to another country You’re a nice guy or your ego is lying to yourself, which is it? With lifting I would increase protein to 160-200 grams/day. Cut a bit further and start incorporating more work to close to failure with a mix in the 5-12 range starting with the heaviest compound work first. If you are not doing …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/25 05:09 PM
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I am hoping she'll see my results and hypergamy'll kick in and she'll lose the weight herself. I’m sure this won’t blow up in your face. When I do intiate and we have good sex, I hate how there's a psuedo-clock in my mind that tells me that I've had good sex w her: time to wait a week for good sex again because all the excitement and anticipation for quality sex is gone! Your poor hamster going round and round. 4 That is easier to do with your fingers I think my best approach to this would be to…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/25 11:41 PM
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I'm doing that quite frequently, maybe too often even Stopping acting like you permission-seeking is for her, you are doing it because you are scared and are hoping she will co-op or shoulder that responsibility for you. Practice STFU with sex and trust yourself to act congruently towards your needs and her to own her own sexuality and hard stops. recently while being outside for a event, we got spicy in talking and got to the point where she talks about sucking my dick. out there, in the wild w…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/25 04:33 PM
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scheduled a counseling session because I can’t keep myself accountable, have no self control, can’t seem to shake the depression or negative thoughts. Started drawing/sketching because I need a hobby other than eating, video games, porn, masturbation, cigarettes, weed, and alcohol to take up my time. Go ahead and outsource responsibility for yourself on to someone else. Do shit that doesn’t suck and maybe you won’t suck so bad. Start by lifting weights.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/25 05:05 PM
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I have been the Captain's husband since “You'll actually have the easiest road getting started, because your wife is probably so self-involved she won't care that much about your self-improvement goals. You may even get comments like, ‘glad to see you're going to the gym again; I was wondering if you were ever going to care about what the doctor said about your blood pressure.’” Escape her orbit. Get out of the house. Do things that that you want to do even if they feel uncomfortable. You are li…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/25 04:41 PM
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I recently found disgust and...anger, for my father's passive way of communicating in life. I feel it whenever he says "you're so much like me" I am trying to not care... but until my actions support the things I want to do, I'll continually let my anger drive me to not be him I thought you read NMMNG. if you're doing something right, women should want to have sex Nice covert contract, again you read NMMNG right. She's asked a few times why and I've said every time "I want you to want to have se…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/25 12:48 AM
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Read 123 magic. It will give you a straightforward system for setting boundaries and rewarding positive behavior that can be extrapolated outside of kids
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/25 11:58 PM
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Doesn’t sound like something you are going to plow horse yourself out of, despite your efforts to continue to move the goalposts on yourself. Maybe your wife just sucks for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/25 03:10 PM
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Diet/exercise Here are some notes of mine. I would do 3 day total body or 4 day a/b, neither needs to be very time consuming 45-60 mins. Diet a few weeks ago when you posting macros your protein was really low still. I would aim for about 200 grams daily. I immediately said that our son got her flowers, not me. Just STFU “I hope they fail.” You can’t not take the bait can you? Stop owning other peoples shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/25 02:52 PM
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wife: You spend more and more time elsewhere. How do you imagine our relationship will be if you are “never” at home? me: Yes, you're right, I spend more time doing things that I really enjoy. Just stop at the “yes, you’re right,” “yeah I have been out of the house more lately,” or better yet just STFU. That will allow time to break away, grow, and build some abundance so you can answer this question: I'm just at the point where I'm wondering what kind of sexual life I actually want to experienc…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/25 03:37 PM
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As mentioned in response to another OYS, I had some things break in ways that were initially disappointing. That’s all about my expectations. I’ll learn the lesson, find the silver-lining, and move on. The universe quickly confirmed that what I thought I wanted might not ultimately be what’s best for me. “We’ll see.” It offers opportunity for resilience, but others acting in their best interests can also affect your interest. There are situations you can assess that you might not win, but may st…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/25 11:42 AM
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I would consider myself intermediate - advanced. I had an argument with my GF about her getting insecure because some girl hit on me in front of her as I was meeting some new people with old friends. Advanced huh? You can’t even STFU with your feelz. You missed the hit off the tball stand It just looks like she’s trying to hurt me/anger me because she’s hurt. Aww did the wittle girl hurt your feelings. This belongs in r/askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/25 11:16 PM
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Your advice is equally as bad because it assumes you know what he values. Redpill can’t answer the question of what do you want? u/Moist_Palpitation_33 Go through the sidebar and do the prescriptive work lift, read, OYS to see if those tools help you to answer those questions for yourself. Or, send me large sums of crypto through undisclosed channels and I’ll pretend to know what you want. however it feels like a lot of this is taken for granted now. How come you allow yourself to be taken for g…
/r/askMRP02/05/25 04:47 PM
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I use porn and talk to women on Reddit and video chat sites am I’m a retard who fucks his hand, nmmg said to do sex addicts anon, I’ve done this for a long time. Hide it from wife, low value activity, not sure how to unfuck my brain, I believe some of these mental models will help. I feel like I have no control over myself Commit to some objective goal then to measure it by next week, or be helpless and suck. Need a gym membership What are you doing to address this and by what timeline?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/25 01:58 AM
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I definitely had difficulty wrapping my head around what horns said in his comment: If you're doing it right, it's all for her Which is true, but difficult to rationalize and deal with while still working to stop having sex for validation. Its sounds like your fear of needing validation again is holding you back. The determination of doing things for others can still stem from your frame. It’s evidenced when you made your wife address whatever health issue she was wanting to hide from. Or when w…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/25 01:34 AM
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He’s on the verge and then: My approach is to make my presence a positive experience FOR HER Swing and a miss. And if there is no investment from her side, to focus my attention more on things that are good for me. Stop glaring backwards asking her if she is going to come along. Go do awesome things and decide where you want to go from there.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/25 12:41 AM
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Continue to invest outside your wife and build abundance. You don’t know who you are yet, therefore you don’t have the frame or words to deal with the shit tests or shitty comfort tests that she will throw at you. You don’t have to right now so just dodge them by STFU and using limited WISNIFG tools.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/25 07:12 PM
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It is the opposite though by explicating the terms in which you want to be viewed as. Your need to define yourself and be understood creates the potential for a power struggle in who defines who you are. STFU about needing to describe who are in your words and instead be that man in your actions. Give people the space define you however they like, and if you act like you don’t give a fuck long enough; who knows one day you might actually not.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/25 06:08 PM
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Lift, read, STFU, and OYS. You’re wrong by the way most the gains initially gains are some of the easiest. A new lifter can gain about 20lbs of muscle their first year. Quit imagining barriers for yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/25 11:35 AM
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I didn’t care but this was an interesting observation nevertheless. But you did as much as a measure from who you are were to who you are and that’s okay. Your response to tiger-r about time isn’t not true, but it also may be one of the remaining chains that is self-limiting for you. What happens if discard that? It is amazing what recency bias can do to all of us. Have fun playing Pokemon with your kids. I have had fun playing the card game, Pokemon go, & labyrinth with my kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/25 06:37 PM
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I’ve lost noticeable muscle mass in the last month, and I hate it. Outside of seriously/ egregiously messing something up or something to do with drugs this is unlikely. Your OYS is bunch of hamstering. You believe you suck therefore you suck. Sans any other evidence or belief this will be the case and your mind will retroactively create the narrative to fit this. So instead start acting like you’re awesome and make goals and take actions towards those goals as to not be buried by dissonance in …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/25 05:52 PM
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”Oh, so that's why I always lose my frame”. You never had it to lose. Fortunately, I can practise the techniques every day. Tell you me you can’t STFU without telling me you can’t STFU Me: I don't care. I'm not perfect and I'm not aiming to be perfect. I just want to be me. I have no room by my side for a constantly whining and insulting wife who blames others for situations. Absent all your whining about needing to be understood here is “I don’t care. Don’t whine and insult me.”
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/25 11:09 AM
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Your protein is too low. Aim for about 1gram per pound at expected weight. In your case that would be about 200 grams per day. This will likely help your recovery and help blunt your appetite. What pulled me out of my depression was anger. I realized that my family would’ve acted like they cared at the funeral. I would’ve just made it about themselves though. We are all egocentric. Your imaginings about how others are impacted by your death is egocentric fantasy. Stop giving so many fucks I don’…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/25 01:24 PM
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Great stability->greater force production->greater tension stimulus. Progressive overlord and high intensity (sets taken close to failure) are probably the two most important variables. I wouldn’t use dumbbell training as the core part of my training routine d/t difficulty with practical use and stability issues that are going to limit hypertrophy. Strength and hypertrophy while different are inescapably interlinked. Outside of neural learning, hypertrophy will lead to greater strength that can …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/25 04:48 PM
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Man your poor hamster, this OYS #42 and you are just victim puking. How about instead of you trying to resolve the whole constellation of you and everything you are, you just focus on listening to cues of what you want in the moments that those arise.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 01:22 AM
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Wear wrist supports for lifting if you need them. Barbell lifting offers unique benefit over dumbells that allows you to push greater weight through greater stability.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 01:04 AM
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I'm not tracking calories yet but I'm considering doing that too (plan is to evaluate how I'm doing with the current method by the the end of the month. So you’re not using the most objective metric available to you because? How often are you increasing the weight with your lifts? If I won't see any progress towards my current goal (gaining 5kg of muscle) I will up my game somehow) This will be very hard to measure. What is easier to measure is if you getting stronger by the weight you are lifti…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 01:00 AM
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but I've never set a boundary before out of fear of losing my illusion. Until I found this place. She played with me and I was a pawn for too long. The problem is your scarcity mindset and the fact that you are a helpless pussy. I can only set boundaries that I can enforce. How come you suck so bad that you cant enforce a boundary that your wife won’t go on 1 on 1 dates? If I tell her not to meet up with him, how can I check when I work 9 hours and she is at home? You realize you can own your bo…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 11:57 PM
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I had told my wife from my past that I had many platonic girlfriends myself, with whom I later had sex and men have no interest in platonic friendships at first. (Fuckup 1). I had also told her that I had already been cheated on once by my girlfriend at the time with her best platonic buddy. (Fuckup 2). I also told her that I can understand all her behavior ambiguously and it makes me angry how she acts (Fuckup 3). Stop spewing your insecurities and weaknesses that is unattractive. And she plays…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 07:21 PM
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Bio impedance is a joke. u/EffectiveProgram_404 You need to lose weight probably down to 200lbs. I would concentrate 85%+ of my efforts here. From my own experience, this will provide you with the greatest ROI and is the easiest work you can do building velocity before tackling the larger underlying issues and building a frame for yourself. Your body needs to see you not suck before it is going to believe it. Keep lifting and hopefully build strength, but don’t let strength goals keep you from t…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 06:45 PM
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How are you working on it? What are the identified problem points? What actionable steps have you taken to resolve them thus far? If you are doing 4 sets and the reps are the same on every set, the work is too easy and/or you are resting too long between sets.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 06:23 PM
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Do the compound lifts and post the work you are doing. She basically asked me to stop talking to her (in her nice girl BS way). I don't have a metric, my goal is to practice. But later when I saw through her BS, I reflected on areas I could improve. Be attractive, don’t be unattractive. Start by lifting real weight and STFU. 4/16/25 was the date I was going to decide if I was going to tell her I was done 4 months of work (which you haven’t even done) to try and erase 50 years of suck. Truthfully…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/25 05:24 PM
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ideal man’s physique And what would that be increased total volume every day, 18% volume increase week over week for same routine. This means fuck all. What are your lead sets with compound lifts or maxes? Talked to the most beautiful women there, some good practice, but wouldn’t call the outcome success. Need to talk less. What are your metrics of success? Mindset: Big revaluation: my marriage is a failure. I assumed that being married and not fighting was a success, but somehow overlooked not …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/25 03:31 AM
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When I truly DGAF, then I don't even GAF about my IDGAF attitude You always want to give a single fuck and it sounds like that is what scares you that your actions have consequences, right? If that is the underlying fear, what stings worse being how you are now or being different? Overall I'm doing fine, though last time I ended with an uncalibrated joke and made a fool out of myself Because of the external feedback you received or because of your own evaluation but the truth is that this left m…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/25 01:45 PM
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And it is not just playing the game itself, it is also a lot of time consumed by obsessing over builds, best weapons, etc. that spills over to time with family and friends. Are there other areas of your life that are also affected by this obsessive need to min-max towards perfection? That also assumes there is a best or right way to do things. Looking at other notes can provide data in decision making but seeking perfection through these means is just another nice guy attempt to find a problem f…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/25 03:48 PM
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Workouts last week: 0x strength training, 0x HEMA Stats are copied over from last OYS, as I did no workouts last week due to being sick. I am going for walks outside for around half an hour to have at least some movement, but otherwise I am resting as much as possible. I’ve hit prs before when I was sick. Quitting video games I stopped playing games for 2 years and that was helpful for me. It changed my relationship with games. now I can enjoy them, but also not play them for weeks at a time and…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/25 02:17 PM
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Plate: None at the moment. I'm like one more rejection away from opening up my end of the marriage. I will have a fulfilling sex life. I'd prefer it be with my wife, but at the end of the day I am going to get some somewhere. I will tell her if this is the route I choose. I am okay with whatever happens as a result. Who are you trying to convince I don’t care whether you drink or not but it’s worth pointing out that most of your OYS is centered around rationalizing your alcohol use. The other da…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/25 07:14 PM
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Pathetic. Fallen off hard due to drinking habits. I don't struggle with eating well and losing weight when I don't drink. It's time to stop putting this off. Drinking 3-4 days a week is not a lifestyle I respect, so why should I expect anyone else to respect me? Plan is to drink once a week and only if something social is happening It’s alcohols fault Need to put my needs first but it's hard to know how when you have three kids with so many needs. It’s my kids’ fault Sucks to suck Spent some tim…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/25 04:06 AM
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So how does having branching/divergent paths of yourself help to form a singular identity or sense of self that doesn’t suck? No need to respond, again I know you suck.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/25 05:57 PM
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I know you suck, stop trying to sell me on it Iron Rule of Tomassi #9
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/25 11:14 PM
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I keep noticing that I still avoid and feel great anxiety around anything that can provoke strong negative reactions, like initiating for example. I rationally know that it is retarded to be afraid of upsetting a 51 kg woman. Knowing and feeling are two different things. It’s okay to have strong negative reactions. I also am aware that unless I manage to overcome these mommy’s boy fears Instead of framing it as a failure for having those feelings, frame it in regards to what actions you took des…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/25 11:09 PM
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This is thirsty, cringy, and trite. look for relationships that you provide you value in return whether that be family, friends, or women. Pick people who suck less, or else you’re just playing a shell game with your captain save a ho tendencies. At which point you might want to ask yourself what the external fixation on saving others helps you to avoid looking at internally with yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/25 04:28 PM
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I can make outlandish “demands”/requests/statements and she’s willing to hear it out. In this case, willing to do more than that. Just another experience to learn from. Very in line with NMMNG – if I have a want/need How come you view your wants and needs as “outlandish?” How do you think holding this belief impacts you Action: My boys have been whiney and not quick to listen recently. It really bugs me. The concern is that we are being too hard on them. I, of course, think I’m being soft on the…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/25 09:16 PM
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It’s funny when I read what you read I see a call for strength and opportunity, whereas your take is a crabs in a bucket/fuck Whamen response. So what are you doing with all that anger and fear?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/25 07:47 PM
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On the other hand I also feel all this analyzing and theorizing about shit bringing less and less benefit. I need to put all that shit into action, I know it, and I am scared shitless of it. Does the version of you that you respect do stuff that is challenging and uncomfortable or is he a little bitch? Have strength, courage, competence, and empathy to lead self and others to a life of authenticity, abundance, fulfilment, and beauty Fuck all these words you dancing monkey. Lead yourself by follo…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/25 11:53 AM
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u/effective_program404 I largely agree with this take, but even one step further; in your case you can get by with just mostly lean proteins, a multivitamin, water, and some electrolytes. If your diet works for you and you consistently lose weight then fine, but don't mistake low carbs as magic, you lose water weight. Each 1 gram of carbs causes the body to hold about 3 grams of water. So while you lose weight that weight isn’t necessarily fat. The end of the day it’s CICO (calories in/calories …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/25 05:55 PM
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How much shit did you actually do when you cut out 95% of this which is just everything that you worry about that goes through your head. A longtime friend of mine and his wife are asking to hang out a lot with me and my wife. My wife and his wife aren't exactly the best of friends. I've also outgrown this friend too so I don't really hang out with him one-on-one anymore. It feels kinda bad to keep turning them down to hang out with people that I enjoy more, but that's who I am now -- a person t…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/25 04:20 PM
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started my Candida cleanse a week and a half ago. I also removed any items that were on my food sensitivity list. Mainly: eggs, brazil nuts, potatoes, rice, diary. Eggs are the one that I miss the most.. I love eggs and have eaten them nearly daily for years. Candida cleanse are bullshit. Been got by a grifter My step here: Review the sub for mission / vision / purpose info and consume it This step feels from my head vs my balls I feel uncertain of which action to really take here. The last time…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/25 12:25 AM
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His 750 goal is funny to me, but his lifts are decent, or perhaps I’m scarred by the number of people on this forum I’ve seen recently with sub 100 lb lifts
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/25 12:08 AM
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Regarding the bf% and lift stats: uh, not sure. I was kinda hoping it'll become clear once I get there Laziness and/or ego protection. I can get in my car and go “somewhere.” But when I have a destination in mind it’s better to head in that direction. You can always change your mind on the way. Uh, maybe this came out wrong in the text form - I'm honestly not sure if she's in physical pain or mental. Perhaps this is something I should talk to her about, I haven't ruled out medical conditions yet…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 07:31 PM
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but then I'd need to justify to myself why do I keep around a (roommate) that prevents me from creating a Tinder profile and essentially keeps me celibate You’ve misidentified the culprit. The dissonance hurts, but does it hurt any more than hiding it. Regarding spinning plates: I did consider it, but concluded that I can't pull effortlessly so it might be more effective to spend the effort into increasing my SMV instead. It’s all right just hold just hold out for your problem free nice guy life…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 03:34 PM
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I used to be alpha can barely bench 135. Lift real weight. Also why Valentine’s Day? That was clearly intentional, did you get the reaction from mommy that you were looking for? Why do you need resources for AB indecision unless the answer is to fix something externally? You’ve had the codex all along.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/25 06:28 PM
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When I have sex with only one chick who I don’t currently want a relationship with I feel guilty. You’ve forgotten the most important rule of being your own judge. I'm likely to get roasted for this next paragraph I know someone is going to say that means I'm dating my future wife Stop passively spewing your insecurities and actually own them. Sit with them. By the way, you being you doesn’t remove anyone else’s autonomy.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/25 03:32 PM
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I spent an hour+ doing a logistic thing for my V day gift, LTR gets off on schedules and organizing, usually I buy lingerie that goes unused. I thought this change up would cross off a to do list item that I didn't want to do and she'd appreciate it getting done. If it was subconsciously shifting from romantic, it would be healthy but there was too much conscious here. We crossed paths on V day unexpectedly, I felt her being passive aggressive, removed myself and went to gym. Came back home to r…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/25 02:13 AM
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The questions are generally reasonable and related to logistical things, but I’m having a hard time avoiding DEERing while also avoiding being combative. Sounds like anger. What happens if you let go of the need to be verbally understood by others, that’s what motivates all that DEERing anyway right? “Your sex drive is too high. All my friends talk about how they don’t have sex that often. It’s completely normal for the phase of life we are in” Can you say “and I give a fuck why?” And mean it? T…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/25 01:59 AM
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The huge jumps have seemed to have settled down. I jumped back up Friday to 349.8 lbs. where as the day before I was 342.3 lbs, then back down to 345 on Saturday. The last 3 mornings have been within a pound of the day before. Use a tool track the 10 day average and take your weight the same time each day. This will help eliminate some of the noise. My sleep is averaging out 4.5 hours per night.Some nights are better than others. I can't stay asleep for more than 6.5 hours on any given night. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/25 01:24 AM
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objective reality There is no such thing Careful you might break u/evervolving His need for Objective reality is the self-limiting containment that leads him to ask questions like: Still, is there really a difference between a dread-induced desire and a "genuine" desire (whatever that is?). The way I understand it, these two are really the same thing. Why am I wrong? Which to me seems just like window dressing for the question he really wanted to ask. But if there are no truths is a fallacy, whe…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/25 02:55 PM
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Wife is Mexican , I am Indian - this cultural difference may or may not be important. It matters as much as you will hamster about it mattering. Lifts: no stats posted because nothing worth sharing. Haven’t lifted regularly since December so wouldn’t even try to guess without hitting the gym. But see below Saturday notes for closest thing to “stats” if that’s all you’re interested in. It’s not worth reading past here. I don’t want to know what cardio you did with the pink 10 lb dumbbells.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/25 02:24 PM
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"I haven't seen her all weekend; I come home expecting to get welcomed by a warm girl that's happy to see me and instead I'm getting this shit" I mean have you owned this giant covert contract? ”her happiness is not my responsibility" Fair enough but then fuck off with this: I'd be glad to assist with her problems if she came at me from a constructive angle Responding to emotion with logic and DEERing: ”I have Krav Maga lessons each Monday you know that" her (through tears): "I forgot" "Well, if…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/25 05:22 AM
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These lines of thought can be tortuous. What weaknesses do you think you open yourself up to with them? Why are you not doing the core/foundational lifts? Stick to the basics for now lift, STFU, read, OYS what you’ve done.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/25 05:43 PM
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I was groggy and resorted to DEERing for the first hour or so until I got my shit together. Being up before everyone else is an imperative for me until this behavior change becomes second nature. But chaos is going to happen as much you prepare and put order to your life. Seems like a good testing ground to demonstrate to yourself that you are what you are, be being it when stress tested. Only preparing for best case scenarios is trying to nice guy future proof your life. Validation Problem: I s…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 12:48 AM
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TRIAL/ERROR: Scenario: come home from work and notice trash is piled up and falling out of the receptacle. Your whole assessment of this scenario is off. Stop thinking in terms of comfort/shit testing because you’re wrong and it will hamper your progress. The issue it sounds like here is that you would like there to be a standard that says when the trash becomes full the person whom identifies this should take care of it, and if that is the standard you want than you need to own that. Me: shit, …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/25 04:15 PM
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Most responses I've gotten so far were of great value to me, often answering the questions I didn't ask (and should have). Your response is a notable exception. You’re a little bitch who can’t STFU. You didn’t need an opportunity to get rejected to prove that, you’ve shown that right here. The tail wags the dog. This week I couldn't help feeling like I want to get rejected again - just so that I can have another go at handling my response. But let’s talk about this anyway. How come you want to b…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/25 03:27 PM
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Who left this fortune cookie here?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 04:48 PM
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I'm falling back into my old pattern of, "It will be better when..." that lead to my divorce. I was advised by my therapist that I need to slow down and take some time to reset after all the shit I've been through. How am I supposed to stop putting out the constant fires that keep popping up? Sometimes things that feel hard now don’t feel so tough in retrospect. I remember the DOMs I got the first I just squatted the 45 pound bar and the first time I hit 225x5 on the bench and squat and what lan…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 01:30 AM
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I resisted the temptation to DEER and I STFU. Ultimately after a bit of silence she admitted that she was just stressed out and was projecting on me. That felt like a win to me and the rest of the conversation was much more enjoyable. So by STFU, it allowed you to see that you don’t have to react and that the defensiveness you carried about her bullshit really wasn’t about you. There’s been times when she overtly checks in on our status which I take as comfort tests. However, there’s been times …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/25 01:28 AM
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Largely in maintenance mode and trying to heal up some nagging joint issues Which joints and how often do you lift heavy? At times I’ve felt the harder thing to do is to back off. However, taking periods with less weight/more reps and/or taking a few weeks at maintenance or even not lifting those affected areas has helped me. Allows you to make progress elsewhere while recovering (join us in the upper body club) While I was far from a hopeless alcoholic, my drinking was not helping me achieve my…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/25 01:08 AM
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I’ll outline a few key moments related to frame and lack thereof I think mainly because it didn’t affect me emotionally Anyway, I found myself caught in a whirlwind of that, and while I didn’t succumb to the emotional manipulations Sure ya didn’t ya bish. That’s why you can’t stfu about it. We finally got to the heart of the matter which was something like You invested a lot of your time and energy reacting to your wife feelz without recognizing the underlying issue pertains not to politics but …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/25 03:58 PM
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Another thing that is really making a difference and I need to do it more often is explore why I feel someway. If I get angry or upset, why did that bother me? what insecurity or whats hiding behind that feeling. Think it was u/FutileFighter who recommended this. How about you just the STFU instead of reacting. Instead of reacting think about how it is you want to respond and what the future image you have for yourself is. Stop enabling your emotions like you would your wife, you can post hoc yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 02:52 PM
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Stop using the word “should”. Sure keep working on your standards, but your lifts/bf% were never your most significant issue and somehow I wonder if by focusing on it, it allows you avoid what really is, your paper thin frame. So yeah, you might have to fake it, but how about you start acting like someone who does love himself. When those moments come up that grate on your spirit inside, instead of reacting; ask yourself what the image you have for your future self would do and do that. Who know…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/25 06:13 PM
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This is just some nice guy egocentric bullshit. Your wife isn’t helpless, she also chose to go along with that decision and has her own agency as well. So yeah you dug that hole (covert contract), but does that mean you’re helpless to stand there and just look at it? What is it you want? Want someone who is willing to add to your coffers and fuck you then how do you go about it? What gives me the right to ruin her life as I work through my own problems? Own your shit, and stop taking responsibil…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/25 04:21 PM
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Hi, thanks for the reply. It means a lot This is the cringy and incongruent as fuck. Right now, day trading gives me the complete freedom to do what I want. You haven’t earned that freedom, and neither are most jobs as enslaving as you make them out to be. There is some irony here to me that you draw a line at your work but will gladly throw away your autonomy/responsibility of yourself to a personal trainer.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/24 05:26 PM
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What I’m doing now I wouldn’t call tiptoeing, I would call it shutting down her bullshit from my end but doing it with sub communication that speaks her language. I’ve already told her there are no molecules of anything in homeopathy and I’ve already told her that WiFi is safe. So arguing with about her delusional beliefs is successful sub communication? She framed that encounter, not you. How about I get that bullshit feelz real to you, but I’m not going to do that, and where I am standing seem…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/24 06:19 PM
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Again...you got laid. But this is what I'm talking about when I say to guys "If you want to play games, you can but...do you have time for dumb shit like this in your life?" You can boast about how stoic-ly you did it. But ask yourself: "What could I do so that I could build a relationship where silly issues that arise in her head could be addressed in an open and vulnerable way without the need for tug-of-war through manufactured drama?" At what point are we expecting women to just be men thoug…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 09:20 PM
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RIR means reps in reserve. Look into AMRAPs as leads to measure progress, then consider doing more work that is consistently more challenging for you. 5x5 is lifting training wheels, explore and see what works for you. "No thanks" with body language cues that this was not going to change with more pushing (x2); "I'm tired and going to bed" again with cues of finality. What happens if you say “yeah I feel that” and pull out your cock and tell her to suck it?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 04:50 PM
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With your lifts have you tried eating more and taking more sets to rir 0-1. My wife is so feminine and so emotional that even many women are flummoxed by her behavior They are flummoxed that she is allowed to act so outta pocket. This is also why the MRP community has cautioned about the title 'Saving a Low Sex Marriage' and the videogame-like "12 steps of dread" by BPP, because these are wrapping up sound MRP principles inside of a long-con CC blanket. It’s funny you say this to only say: This …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 01:41 PM
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Abstract in that it is hard to not only understand our own ethos, but then try to contain that understanding within the constraints of language to share. Not abstract for the sake of being abstract. Like you say, it isn’t enough to make someone else ‘submit’ to my purpose, but that isn’t really the idea - this is about me - others can get on board if they want to. Control is the other dial though. There is both push and pull in the dynamics. The truth is when you go to pull and they follow; it’s…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 06:54 PM
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I’ve noticed that timing and type of food has a longer term effect on my weight loss than anything else. Sunday I didn’t eat any carbohydrates like pasta and weighed myself at 349. Monday, I had some pasta and I weighed in at 354 this morning. Timing wise, I stopped eating Sunday at 7pm. Monday, I ate at 10 pm. Also, like the lazy fat ass that I am, I stopped doing cardio because, “it was too cold” and blaming it on not wanting to get my son sick again. This was utter bullshit. I just wanted it …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 01:27 PM
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What autoimmune disease are you dealing with and have you seen a rheumatologist? found another potential metabolic syndrome and try to find a doc to discuss this with. These are generally snake oil salesman. They will tell you what you want to hear so you can be complicit in your helplessness. It is the dead bedrooms of the medical world. the truth by neill strauss (no progress here) My social activity is low, too. It’s like I know what to do, but I somehow don’t get there. Is this self sabotage…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 12:45 PM
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“you understand that all I was asking for was for you to give me you.” Who was giving to whom? Sounds like you were that stabilizing force and positive energy there. Good work, keep moving forward
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/24 06:47 PM
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There is stopping bad behavior and encouraging good behavior. If you teach enough good behavior, you don’t have to stop bad behavior at all (theoretically / eventually) I don’t agree with this. Seems like more of the wishing of a nice guy problem free life. However, I do think as you build your frame and body things that used to feel heavy feel like in retrospect. If all you do is stop bad behavior, then your woman only knows what not to do (but not ALL the no-go’s) but she doesn’t know what you…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/24 06:37 PM
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Both are ultimately necessary, but I prefer to offer the positive / constructive path first because they’ll take ownership of it more easily that way. Boundaries are constructive. You set boundaries so you kids don’t run out traffic, some behavior needs to be stopped. Sometimes it is better to face more friction up front, otherwise you are kicking the can down the road. It is also important not go between signaling to stop specific behavior sometimes and reinforce it at other times. This becomes…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/24 04:46 PM
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It’s her seeking comfort from you for the reasons you outline. She probably isn’t fully consciously aware of this other than she feelz bad. Take your kids out on your own. Go out and experience nightlife and game everyone on your own, go to a strip club if that makes you feel uncomfortable, start a sports league with friends. Find things that can like and bring you value. Diversify your investments and see if in doing these things it provides you the answers you need.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/24 01:27 PM
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Passing shit tests and there have been no arguments lately, but it’s back to feels like ‘roommates’ situation, the thing is I don’t know I want to be with my wife anymore. Despite her being conventionally attractive I don’t have any desire to have sex with her and I’m playing with the idea on how easy it would be to start fresh with another girl/s. Then actually do shit about it. All you’ve done this week is whine about things happening to you. I was honest and said pretty bad. She replied “I th…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/24 12:48 PM
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Something I'm puzzled by: the rejections are very firm and completely uncaring to my sexual needs, but then the day after each rejection, I'm receiving a lot of warm kisses and kino. Any idea why the blunt rejections are being followed by romantic attention? She isn’t that attracted to you and is seeking comfort after rejecting you. If it is sexual at all, it is only because it poses no risk and feels safe for her because she knows you won’t do anything about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/24 02:29 AM
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Any help figuring out why even red pill men are saying women are better at communication is much appreciated, it really hit a sore spot for me. Women communicate emotionally a great deal and are more intuitive to non verbals and subtext. It means every time you bring logic to an emotional encounter if handled poorly is bringing a knife to gunfight.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/24 01:46 AM
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I prefer the calm / AM approach because I don’t want to “train” a woman to think that she can get attention by being hysterical or trying to get me worked up. Ironically, by dicking her down that is exactly what you are doing Act hysterical>get sexual attention>feelz better. It’s not a critique of that, if that is what you want. It’s just a different feedback loop than the beta one that existed before. Behavior you truly don’t want you can provide escalating warnings, but ultimately you want to …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/24 01:18 AM
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I got accused of not wanting to try to fix our marriage (I offered counseling three times) and that the dissolution was my fault because I fucked up Mother’s Day. I agreed that I messed up the marriage but I’m not the only one responsible Listen if you don’t have it to give then don’t give it. The first part wasn’t some honest, strong, and vulnerable attempt to own your own misgivings, it was an attempt seek parity and play into the score system (her game) that she set out for you. Just STFU. Ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 03:47 PM
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The scales are notoriously inaccurate. Try navy method or strongur or even feedback from subreddit on body fat percentage to get a better ballpark. How were you squatting? High bar or low bar? Narrow or wide stance? High bar with a moderate to narrow stance is easier on my back. You can get by with leg press but squat for large parts of the body is a good movement. I’d say toss out heavy deadlifts and do RDLs and rack pulls for hamstrings/glutes and upper back respectfully. Do most your work in …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/24 07:25 PM
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So are you doing what you think your woman wants, what you think RP wants, what your spreadsheet wants, or what you want? Try consulting a magic eight ball 🎱.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/24 06:06 PM
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Switching program to Phrak's Greyskull LP with lower rep ranges than my previous sets of 12 due to advice and a move towards strength. You have very little strength to express at this point because you lack the foundation or base of muscle to express that strength. Doing some heavy 5s would be enough strength work for you. The problem as I see it looking at the work you’ve done is it is too neat, you need to increase your effort/intensity (take sets closer to failure). I’d also replace db work p…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 12:30 PM
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The “healthy masturbation” thing from NMMNG is so fucking weird and it’s clearly a manifestation of toxic shame. “I feel bad about masturbating so I’ll do it in this ascetic way so that it doesn’t count.” You do you but I don’t get it. I got value from this, but I don’t think this was the only way I could’ve bridged the gap. For me it was helpful in grounding myself to me. For me and possibly other recovering nice guys I think there is a certain amount of dissociation from yourself and body. sta…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/24 12:53 AM
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You statements tend to be shit testing I feel like she's trying to manipulate me into being comforting Probably, but everything is manipulation to some effect. You are changing the status quo and disrupting the homeostasis of your relationship. The comfort you used to offer at your cost is no longer being heaped upon her as you provide space in the push/pull dynamic. This generally leads to shit testing. “you’re such an asshole why don’t you care about me anymore” “I wish you would go back being…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/24 12:40 AM
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She also is worried she has endometriosis, and that she'll be bedridden. I told her I would not leave if that was the case as long as she continues to treat me nicely. How very blue pill and nice guy of you. Did you provide her with a 30 page summary with your definition of “treat me nicely” so that she could sign it in blood. You can be supportive without trying to negotiate desire, but for now stick with the basic script of STFU, read, OYS, and lift.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/24 12:52 AM
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Do more GPP or general conditioning type work 1-2 days/week on non lifting days. Interval sprinting or walking on a very steep incline. At 160 lbs you don’t have that much tissue to perfuse so it shouldn’t be that cardiovascular taxing. If you are getting winded between sets, that is normal just allow enough time so that your cardiovascular isn’t the limiting factor in the chain. You might try mass gaining shake as a supplement likely healthier than an entire pizza and it is easier to drink than…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 06:07 PM
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There was once a good fr on here that had do with a knee pillow, shorts, and an indignant chick. It got downvoted, but this space is worse without it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 02:08 PM
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I'm doing the right thing What is the right thing? You keep citing your son as a reason not divorce as if you motives are altruistic and for his sake, but have you ever thought what about what the consequences are for him role modeling a loveless marriage and relationship? How you being so unhappy affects your ability to give to him and be present as a father? What is it you want right now? If you know do that. If you don’t, then own that but work to figure it out. You’re angry at your wife beca…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 01:49 PM
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It's harder to immerse myself when I'm thinking about praising, giving direction, or getting her off. Sounds a bit like a CC. What if you immersing and enjoying yourself is what she wants?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 01:30 PM
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I'm trying to figure that out. How to make the experience more rewarding for her while immersing myself and getting mine. Who says these are mutually exclusive? "this does nothing for me and I'm horny and the baby might wake up. Please just fuck me in the ass." I'm not trying to make sex a chore for my wife All for vanilla/starfish sex at times, but sometimes I’m not and that is okay. Is your sex a gift you give or a chore? My thought is to use time away from kids (will get quite a bit over holi…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 08:07 PM
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Thats a lot of words to say I’m not really sure what gets me off. Just explore and see what you like. What wrong with getting off however you want to? my wife is frankly still bad at working a dick. An unenthusiastic blowjob is worse than no blowjob. What direction are you giving her towards this? Is she taking that direction? Here are some personal notes. all anal got old after a while, and not wearing condoms increased my pleasure tenfold even the magnums suffocated the feeling out my dick.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 12:15 AM
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So if that’s the need, how can you facilitate that for yourself? Reread the foreword in NMMNG it sounds like you lack the ability to self soothe and self validate. My worth is only my actions, not who I am, even to myself, and that's making me resent everything and everyone, even myself. As men our actions are tied to identity, we are what we do; however, it doesn’t mean it needs to be tied to the outcomes. How often to you provide yourself affirmations when you take actions towards your goals? …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 06:19 PM
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No, you failed the shit tests she threw at you. She was a step away from telling you that if you don’t close your bar tab up will you charged auto-gratuity at the end of the night. You wanted something sexual and fun, right? So that is what you should have exerted across all stop gaps thrown your way. Pushing through that resistance and setting the tone. As for the stuff after, stop diagnosing your wife and trying to caretake/fix her. The unsolicited comfort you provided to her was for yourself …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 04:01 PM
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What is you need or want, but not allowing yourself to have? How is sex or the lack thereof going recently?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 03:12 PM
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”how do I know if I’ll like the game?”, “will you get upset if I don’t want to play?” I assured that the game could be quit at any point with no hurt feelings. Shit testing After small-talk and pretend drinking, I ask for help brainstorming how to finish this love scene I’m trying to write. This is where it fell apart. Wife plays the bartender role with complete seriousness, pretend-serving other customers and repeatedly saying that the workshopping can’t happen because it's a busy night. No fli…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 12:41 PM
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Teasing is pull game not push. Push/pull dynamics are important and worth understanding what you are communicating with each. But yes, teasing is game. Game is really anything you want to it be. Have you forgotten how to have fun? Want to evoke some intense emotions just slap some shit she is carrying out her hands randomly one day. The game afoot is one of bully/dominance. Imagine what you want to play and see if she might also enjoy playing with you.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/24 02:42 PM
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My Vision I just want a peaceful calm life. No extra drama or chaos. No outside influence, as can be achieved on the directions or decisions. You’ve read NMMNG thrice and still don’t understand that your nice guy problem free life is never coming. Instead hoping for lighter weight become stronger. I feel like I keep bringing her into and then kick her out of my frame. Then stop focusing on her and instead build the frame you want. I said that I constantly praised her for her efforts, and I do Yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/24 01:45 PM
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Then consider some methylated folic acid product like deplin, but that doesn’t change that increasing your protein slightly and increasing to a slight (250-500) calorie surplus make the biggest difference for adding muscle and mass for unit of time. You won’t get to 180 lean and muscular by maintaining at 160
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 04:08 PM
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And I put my crotch near her face and said “take some initiative in this relationship” she giggled but said, “no I’m tired” and I replied, “so you’re not horny but ovulating? That’s weird.” “I’m angry that you don’t take responsibility for our sex life” & “why don’t you want me the way I think you biologically should” are unattractive comments 🤮. Next time just ask her to peg you. However, you recognize this, so try and just STFU and not scratch that beta itch. See what doing this enough times t…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 02:38 PM
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Diet: Citrulline, Creatine, Taurine and Wheatgrass pre-workout; Magnesium Glycinate before bed. Experimenting with Bromelain and Papain enzymes for eye floaters. NMN, B Complex (NAD+ precursor). That’s a lot of shit that does nothing to address your surplus needed. Then something popped into my head, was going to call back to original comment, 'hey if you need me to whisk you out of here, for help, just say something', like conspiratorially. Then I paused halfway, pulled back because I thought i…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 02:16 PM
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Then I kind of stumble, do I push my ideas to keep in my frame, or cave to hear because I don’t really have great logistics in foreign city. Why is assessing others ideas for value to you not within your frame, and why is the mentality that being open to others ideas is an L? That faux alpha makes you easy to expose. Remember what your goals are so you trip over yourself to them.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/24 12:54 AM
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but she promised a bj the next day. Next day rolls around and I get nothing, busy day for her and some family shit You are not the prize currently. Too busy, too tired to do those things with you. She asks me to cuddle, I say I have to go join a meeting(which I really did, I was pushing it back this morning if I had the opportunity to have sex) she says “so you have time for sex but no time to cuddle?” I reply, “I have a meeting and have to go.” She says, “it’s rude to turn your back on me.” “I …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/24 12:16 PM
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Just know your need to be understood and heard is not attractive, don’t try to negotiate who you are with others. You voice that without voicing that, because it becomes who you ARE, unquestionably. I want to say, "There was a chance for that 6 months ago" or "I did love you", but in my eyes, that would be supplicating to emotion and I feel like I would be giving my ex a win to make me the bad guy. How’s that beta revenge fantasy going. STFU, lift, read, OYS and most importantly become less fat.…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/24 01:01 AM
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What does renumbering your posts do to address any of that, other than to hide your past self. There are no clean resets in life. What is done is done. You can keep self deprecating and posting about why you suck or you choose to be different with your actions moving forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/24 01:01 PM
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Sounds like a reactive and terrible barometer to measure yourself by. Is it possibly true, maybe; but stay out of your wife’s head. Maybe your wife is a cunt and will never want to do those things. Maybe your wife doesn’t like caring for your while your sick and it doesn’t matter to you but she adds value in other ways. Maybe she hasn’t done it, but once she has, finds she enjoys it. Maybe she will never like doing it and this is a deal breaker for you. The bottom line is all of those are outsid…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/24 09:29 PM
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Hmm, ok. I'm still fairly new at this so perhaps I read it wrong. Do you like your wife and are you sure there isn’t residual anger here? It’s hard to pass comfort tests with those kicking around. Sounds like a I’m not gonna let that bitch steal my hard work and take credit for it. If so, can you rise above it? Bring the daddy energy, strength, and radiance and be unaffected. Think a kid bringing you a drawing or a cat bringing you a mouse; don’t make shit not about you about you. What does your…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 11:20 PM
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He got me a D&D Starter Set a while back, and we’ve started playing it with me as the DM. Since it’s difficult with only one person we invited my wife into the game, and she’s turning into a fun seeking missile. I’ve done fairly well curbing it with humor, but it’s frustrating for him. To be fair, part of it is the fact that I’m new to the DM thing, it’s actually more work than I expected. It’s an interesting, fun experience that I’m enjoying greatly. The board game betrayal at Baldurs gate and …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 06:27 PM
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You’re weak physically and mentally. Stop emoting over everyone it isn’t attractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 03:16 PM
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I lifted 6 days a week for 3 years straight. Chasing numbers wasn't really my thing, getting shredded was. I’m not about to read the above manuscript when you allow your ego to lull you away from your goals. It is a great deceiver tho. Come back when you can or are willing to bench press more than the bar.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 02:12 PM
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In before rule 9 but, On the fallen out of love I ask her if that is ILYBNILWY, at which she responds yes. The next day I use EAP service available through work which includes a lawyer to discuss divorce and explain how I would go about separating. You’re about to lose this arms race, and let’s be honest you don’t really want to be playing it anyways. So STFU, lift, read, and OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 02:08 PM
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There is a lot here to acknowledge your nice guy shortcomings without any tangible plans or actions to address them.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/24 04:03 PM
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Deadlifts are still questionable. I generally don't feel anything from them. I've tried light weight to focus on form, and heavy weight to see if that works. Light does nothing, and heavy only fatigues my hands and forearms. Might look at trying sumo deadlifts to see if angle will help. Straps or grips if you continue with deadlifts. Hex bar deadlifts as HoA suggested is also fine. As a developmental tool and my preference in lieu of other hip hinge exercise would be RDLs they fry my hamstrings/…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/24 01:30 PM
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I feel like conversations with my wife lack life, they’re boring and led by her for topics, content, etc. I’ve been learning to STFU and not to put my foot in my mouth or seek validation from her through conversation, but now talking with her feels empty and boring to me. Most ‘conversation’ when I’m not feeling horny and trying to game her is her bitching about something or idle chit-chat. Many times I’d rather not have conversation at all because of this - I’m not allowing myself to be authent…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 08:08 PM
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Obviously it didn’t go well, it was funny though. I agree with WMP’s take. You could have kissed her on the first date and escalated on the second by inviting her right to your place. Despite all the excuses you had there appears to be an element of self sabotage where you keep circuitously passing by the direct thing you want only to blow it up. You did it by playing pen pals with girls on the dating app, you are doing it interviewing these women on dates and not escalating. So what is it you r…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 06:47 PM
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So what is your actually commentary or experience related to this? This is cheap, lazy, and not even very good rage bait. If you want to wallow take that elsewhere.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/24 04:16 PM
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I think Blarg got similar treatment to Archwinger. Would be interesting to hear how it is going for FF. How are your notes going in this regard?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/24 05:43 PM
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Trying to attack this right now, any suggestions other than STFU because I already know that one. You sure about that: I still DEER more than I should. I find myself in the middle of “talking about feelz” and trying to stop myself, but I seem to rationalize my way into continuing. which leads to destructive behavior like porn or eating my feelings. Yelling at myself doesn’t seem to work very well. The entire thing is so easy to just eat clean and not be regarded. Not exactly sure why it won’t cl…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 03:14 PM
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When I first read this comment I interpreted it as a “just be yourself” kind of advice. To which I would say well myself sucks at escalating and initiating so I have to try to learn something new. But re-reading it, you’re suggesting I’m trying too hard (or in other words I am too invested), right? These knots can be difficult to untie. You are doing it with an understanding that there is a lack of grounded experience with the understanding that ideally this will make you more attractive. Ignore…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 02:59 PM
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The gist is 1 gram protein/lb with remaining calories spent between fats and carbs. Some people do better with lower carbs/higher fats, while others (myself included) do better with lower fats and higher carbs. Your activity level will dictate your need for carbs somewhat, as you described in feeling more exhausted. Also neglected in this fiber. Whole Foods (fruits/vegetables) higher in fiber and micronutrients lead many to feel more full due to this combination of fiber/volume, likely. The end …
/r/askMRP29/09/24 11:19 PM
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It seems for 41yo 500 is normal, even a tiny bit above average. Yeah that level is fine
/r/askMRP29/09/24 11:11 PM
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Sometimes you stall when cutting, but should propel out of that once you move to maintenance or a surplus. I think you would get more from a hypertrophy oriented system to build a base off of, that you could express strength off of afterwards.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/24 03:53 AM
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I think mrpwtf and deerstfu had the best assessment, but let’s help you be better with this specific game. u/theactionnerd gave you a clear cut and succinct playbook to operate from, which he has had success. My take even with the above example is that is still too sexualized, too much, and too simpy. Women want to be sexualized, but that is once they have already bought in, it is kinda just keyfabe. They want connection but it is through feelz. If they are dropping emojis and hearts you are pro…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/24 07:21 PM
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The second was darker vision - feelings of anger, revenge, and dominance. The idea that 5000 years of my ancestors have raped and murdered to get here. Revenge and primal, standing over a body bloody. Yet you did nothing with that anger. Two week of no sex, with two initiations from my wife I have declined. She does not fill the image of what I need sexually, and this is more a pragmatic relationship. What’s pragmatic here friend? You have a dick, but don’t fuck. Sounds practically pretty useles…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/24 03:19 AM
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Don’t overthink focus on fat loss. Try to gain muscle of the way down with limited protein intake, but your so obese and untrained your body would likely partition preferential to your goals anyways.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/24 02:13 AM
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Are you really going to make me {xyz} with my second hottest match of the week instead of you?” This flex is gay, if you have sell people on your abundance it isn’t true. “What’s up smokeshow?” Stop calling women hot stuff & smokeshows, they know men want to fuck them, but they haven’t yet bought into wanting to fuck you. A lot of this comes off of as cringy, forced, and needy to me. She mentioned how she is toning up. I liked that she wanted to validate herself to me. I don’t like that I like h…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/24 12:34 AM
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So far, grip is limiting me from going heavier on my deadlifts. When I put up the 340 lbs 2RM, I used straps and I was warmed up. I could use them to go heavier, but I want to build my grip up. There may be better ways to do this. Use straps on the heavier stuff then remove them on backup work. I set a boundary on Sunday stating that I no longer wanted to have any intimacy but, I also felt the need to explain myself by telling my wife that we are in a weird place and the behavior is confusing. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 11:48 AM
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Never be in a position where I feel I lack abundance with regards to women and set myself up for success with any current or potential future long term relationship. This is just an extension of you building your nice guy problem free life. You think life will never kick your teeth in? Same with your pair bonding bullshit, sounds like you want a permanent fix. Build a more resilient you instead of one seeking for future-proof his life. Continuous improvement of fitness Start by actually lifting …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 11:10 AM
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I’m not sure this is the answer but have you tried smith machine RDLs? You will start in the upright position and slowly hinge back so the hamstrings and glutes are much easier to feel. Plus you can load less weight than conventional DL.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 12:33 AM
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There is no good reason not to at least squat or being doing some lower body workout in some capacity. Dropping this 1-2x/week with minimal sets to maintain/gain strength over time.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/24 04:46 PM
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Post your squat and lower body lift numbers.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/24 12:56 AM
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Physical: Changed things up in the last training session by replacing the isolation exercises with sandbag EMOM. Also set a new PR on the assault bike. If isolations were helping why switch to sandbag stuff? Where are your lower body lifts?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/24 09:12 PM
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In my opinion though...these are stupid tangles. I'm not interested in wasting brain power on them...dancing a certain way because of someone else's weakness...or the inevitable fallout of them if transgressed. If it’s the case that that lowers my odds. I'm fine with that. Talking can also be a dancing monkey tool. someone once said how difficult it is to put details of ourselves into words and I’ve found that I don’t always really need to be understood within the constraints of words. If only y…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/24 02:29 PM
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There is a pattern over time seems to present itself again and again of what I think of as traditional RP vs soft RP. The same conflicts seem to arise between individuals and ideologies over time. It’s worth noting that u/Sepean also deleted out so we are missing the diametrically opposed case study on talking, or he likes ice cream who is to say. It also reinforces the fact that you focus on you and improving yourself in a general attractive sense and towards an image you want for yourself. See…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/24 03:51 AM
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Which wendlars template are you using? If it is just the standard 5/3/1 try the BBB 3 month challenge, find what you like from that, then work to incorporate more hypertrophy work.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/24 01:41 AM
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I ended up consoling her and she was crying on my shoulder and when she suddenly realized how fucked up it was that I was consoling her about me dating someone and was like "Why the FUCK are YOU consoling me?" Just seemed like the right thing to do. Seemed like the right thing to do according to who? Seems like it may be a way for you to seek comfort to assuage yourself of the guilt you are experiencing. Own that discomfort with strength, sit in it, feel it. Continue to kill your inner nice guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/24 01:31 AM
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Yeah, I've been thinking exactly that while working on my lack of focus/time management. "Do I really need a fucking app to lead my life?". I just decided on one, and as you've said driving myself to get the things done rather than worrying about whatever tool could be used. Analysis paralysis or trying to min/max your life. Some irony in that reflection/insight requires that you take risks and actions to provide you a felt sense to calibrate from. You lift, so imagine starting from the ground u…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 10:42 PM
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Physical: 750lb club. DL and SQ ~265, BP: 225. Sometimes IF helps, this time it didn’t. So again what steps are you taking here. Are you cutting or bulking? If you are cutting your IF strategy did not work what are the next steps? If you are bulking, IF is a poor tool for gainzz what will your adjustments be? 750 on your primary lifts is a goal to have, but there still is no club for this. By the way you skirted around your alcohol use. Where was that at this last week?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 10:23 PM
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r/askmrp I’m venting but idk how to talk to her in a way that makes her understand I’m not saying don’t do anything for family but I am saying put me and the kids first. Talk is cheap
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/24 02:02 PM
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It depends most people will gladly accept a $100 bill, but don’t want to be pelted with Pennies.
/r/askMRP06/09/24 02:08 PM
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You know what’s even more unattractive than being beta. Being the angry man in the dress. (Ross Jeffries chef’s kiss) don’t be the angry man in a dress
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/24 11:14 PM
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r/askmrp Navel gazing is not a field report There’s no value in getting worked up over a podcast. But it brought out in sharp relief Rollo’s teachings about women being utterly incapable of loving a man the way he believes he deserves to be loved. They’ll never see things from your point of view, even if you think you’ve evolved enough to see theirs’. Women are all right. As long as you are angry about what they can’t offer, you won’t be able to appreciate what they can.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/24 10:38 PM
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I feel we've been on the brink for a decade. I feel she has zero libido, she'd probably tend to say if I'm a libido lvl 100, she's a 7. Truth, or at least with me she's been There it is way to own it Dumb ass stupid MF'er me takes it personally as she's obviously not excited if she needs to nap. I do not STFU. I FU the entire night. Followed by 3 days of yelling, tears, DEERing. My God, I've got so much to work on and fix. I fear I'm too far gone, too broken. It’s amazing how quickly things can …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/24 06:33 PM
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Just own what it is you do in your lead sets the weight and reps. It is what it is. Stop trying to hide your perceived badness. This also prevents the opportunity for others to provide potential constructive criticism. For instance, I think machines are fine. If you convert to barbell work you will have to shore up stabilizing muscles so just be mindful. However, I think you are leaving gains on the table by not doing heavier work, particularly given this would a novel stimulus for you. If it we…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/24 01:13 PM
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u/ouaaia Most this shit is dumb. When your ego invents a club so it has a place to exist: 750 club Also, Ouaaia you sly devil is this your way of covertly telling us you’re a swifty? Go ahead and gatekeep your hobbies like a pretentious douche because nobody can appreciate them like you do, whatever.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/24 12:46 AM
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8-12 is classically the hypertrophy range, but the fact you still obfuscate the work you are actually are doing (weights/reps) signals ego protection.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 04:03 PM
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Congratulations on shutting your mouth, but that doesn’t address what you are doing to be attractive. I had a rough week health wise and wasn’t able to meet any gym or macro goals. Today I was able to do a light bodyweight workout and will continue with these until I am able to go back to the gym. I will likely be able to reach maintenance for the first time today too. I have booked in a full health checkup but the doctor who specialises in mens health isn’t available to mid month. Post your lif…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 11:05 AM
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You could likely not eat for weeks and be fine. You are so obese you propbably wouldn’t even lose any muscle. If you want to be safe get about 150-200 grams protein spread across 3-4 meals/shakes during the day & thread in a few low calorie fruits and vegtables. Almost every health marker improves from being less fat. If you are untrained you would likely even build muscle while losing a substantial amount of fat by just adding resistance training. The magnitude of this benefit cannot even be ap…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/24 06:54 PM
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Am I seeking validation from God instead of my woman? No. I am seeking his approval Haha that shit is funny. Well it happens he and I are on good terms so I’m going to need you DM me and wire me some funds, you know for God’s approval. If you rightfully don’t want to do that than I would ask where that agency came from and why don’t you have that same agency everywhere? Don’t eat paint warning- don’t DM it will be ignored.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 04:45 PM
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My numbers suck and I really don't like my current machine routine. I am following it just because the trainer said so. Stop being a victim. You choose the trainer and are accepting the results. STFU is incredibly hard for me. Be uncomfortable, much like lifting this can trigger growth. Sex: Zero, but expected. My focus is not there for now. Okay bury your head in the sand There is no help coming. How are you going to fix things? Start with the basics lift, STFU, read, and OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/24 05:52 PM
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lol, you can’t stop can you? Your need to be understood by others. Sounds pretty unattractive, no wonder the last time your wife gave you sex was 2 months ago (look forward to detailed corrections/explanations to follow)
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/24 12:52 AM
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But after the nuclear shit test and her complete withdrawal, my hamster has been spinning. This isn’t a strong frame. I need to just forge ahead She put you in time out and is icing you out to see if you will go back in your box like a good boy. Sit with that discomfort without acting on it and see what you notice about yourself. "I'm close to all of them" (except the sexual and emotional) So all the other vision stuff was couched in there to really just say this. Sounds like some nice guy stuff…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/24 04:28 PM
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Something something lipstick on a pig OYS #1 42, wife 40. married 9 years, together 16. 2 kids 7 and 3 5’10/205lbs, , 22%BF navy method OYS 3 42, 40yo wife, married 10 years, 2 kids (7 and 3) 5’11”, 199 (-10 from OYS 1), 19% navy method (-4%) My math skills aren’t great, but are you lying to us, yourself, or do you even know?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/24 02:46 PM
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My interactions with others, with my best friend and my wife, indicates a lot of power plays and frame control. I need to master myself, and my ego, in order to not be pulled into overcompensating, and becoming adversarial. Frame control means not taking the fight on their terms it doesn’t mean not taking the fight. Your whole OYS is people flexing on you and you letting it happen. You need go Kendrick Lamar on their ass: Sometimes you gotta pop out and show n***** Certified boogeyman, I'm the o…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/24 03:48 PM
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Instead, I married the things I look for in a best friend. Things you look for in a friend or wish you had yourself? What do you need to make yourself feel like a million bucks, because that to me sounds like someone who is abundant.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/24 04:07 PM
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What about the feedback he has been given bothers you so much?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/24 03:51 PM
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Here is your don’t eat paint warning. Don’t squat to failure on loads of 5 reps or less. Be sure to do this in a rack with safety bars and practice failing with lighter loads first. Once you’ve done that do some sub optimal warm-ups to your working weight and do an AMRAP set to failure to find out where your max really is. Shares those notes next week. If you can do 5 reps or more from the working sets you were doing you were tanking those sets.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/24 03:34 PM
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Narratives are powerful tools. It’s easy to try to avoid that responsibility for ourselves and our own narratives by asking others to carry that water for us. Examining what our own needs/wants are and actually owning those with our actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 01:24 AM
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Paused my bulk for vacation but Im finishing my Super Squats Program this week. Gonna be starting an extra part-time job soon so Ill have less time for lifting. My plan is to start a full-body program twice a week to mitigate this. I`m thinking of focusing on intensity one day, and volume the other. I would appreciate any suggestions. What’s your current split? It looks like you have a bit of strength so you’d get better results from at least 3 days/week A-B-A into B-A-B. Ideally though 4x/week …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 12:57 AM
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Fire your trainer you are at 25% body fat, the time to start losing body fat was yesterday, but the next best time is today. You also dodged the above remark about posting your lifts, or at 5’8” did it go over your head.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/24 04:18 PM
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I do lift, but only once a week and my focus is on strength arguably less aesthetic You’re full of shit and your hamster is spinning nonstop. If that is the reason why my wife is a bitch (doubtful) then so be it It’s cause she isn’t a lesbian and doesn’t like fucking around with a bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/24 02:38 PM
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but she knows to weponize it. Are you a victim? People can only weaponizes things you allow them to.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 04:42 PM
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Her period has gone from clockwork to anywhere from 3 weeks to 8 weeks apart giving me no bearing on her moods, so I cant tell whether it's time to lean into "supportive partner" or "insufferable prick". Why is her pussy the barometer for how you should act? Playing either of those 2 roles usually successfully would result in her being in a good mood at all times and successful initiations. Here you go: Up, Up, Down, Down, Left, Right, Left, Right, Square, and Triangle Read, lift, STFU, and go O…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 12:18 PM
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The old Millennial Red Pill tactics of 2013 do not work on Zoomers the way they worked when Millennials were in their sexual prime. Why? Because of social media overexposure. Everyone's Youtube, Instagram and TikTok feeds are absolutely saturated with Andrew Tate and Only Fans Girl interviews. Any woman with a smartphone is effectively vaccinated against the decade old tactics of peak Red Pill. Furthermore marriage counselors know about Red Pill, college administrators know about Red Pill and so…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/24 05:46 PM
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The really awesome wins come from something that at one point seemed improbable. Anytime, you make a conversation with “yeah, but” you are consigning yourself make peace with defeat. So how about this? Since you’ve already lost, what if in some alternative universe there were an awesome version of you that did have success, how would he go about it and what would happen if you did those things? Go shape your own “yeah bitch magnet” moments
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 04:33 PM
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Once you are being the you that personally you find value in, allow others appreciate that value and give to you. Fight off the nice guy urge of sabotaging yourself from getting what you want. Also for me personally walking or incline walking are the best forms of cardio.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 04:07 PM
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The book is saying often the best solution for an anxious and avoidant dynamic is to end the relationship and find someone secure. My wife is avoidant. I have very low libido right now while I mull this over, I don't know how much weight to give the msg in the book that I should end the relationship. I am finding it helpful to consider the relationship incompatibile, I think that thought will help with the 1000ft rope analogy and putting an end to the dancing monkey routine I have been running. …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/24 07:49 PM
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u/environmental-top346 Here is the link
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/24 05:25 PM
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I wanna live with my kids and educate them. Not having my son and daughter in my life scares me. I am giving me some months to try to fix the relationship or just end it. At the end whatever the outcome will be I wanna at least say "I gave everything" and never look back. Gave everything for whom? This sounds just like beta revenge fantasy. Instead of wanting to be seen by her, be seen by yourself. Get to a point where you can say to yourself “damn that was challenging but I’ve really done somet…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/24 05:15 PM
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Are you looking at a certain weight class? I remember being fixated on 1,000 lbs total, for me letting go of that number and grinding into the work got me to a place with my working sets now with reps are 1100+. If that really is your goal however, spending more time/effort on building your squat/deadlift will result in a better return when compared to improving your bench press. You can add more weight to the bar comparatively for unit of time and there is carry over between the two lifts that …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/24 02:18 PM
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BW 205(+1), BF 16%. e1RMs (lbs): Squats 329; DL 434; BP 293; OHP 180 Fitness Objective: 1000 lb club by Mar 2025. 434+293+329=1056 What’s next?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/24 10:26 PM
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Monday: Bench: 155x10, 165x8, 165x8 OHP: 70x10, 65x10, 75x8 (Put the wrong weight on second set) Weighted Pull up: 15x10, 20x8, 20x8 Neck Curl: 5x12, Calf Raise: 20 Squat: 145x20 Wednesday: Shrug (Trap Bar): 175x8, 175x10, 185x9 Weighted Dip: 25x7, 25x7, 25x8 Preacher Curl: 20x11, 20x12, 20x12 DB Lateral Raise: 15x12, 20x7, 20x8 Calf Raise: 20 Squat: 150x20 Friday: DB Incline Bench: 50x8, 50x9, 50x9 Meadows Row: 25x10, 25x10, 25x10 Hammer Curl: 25x10, 25x111, 25x11 Neck Extension: 5x22 Stiff Leg…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/24 10:13 PM
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Fitness- I started doing in home dumbbell workouts, walking with a weighted vest and occasionally hitting the gym for barbell free weight lifts. Post your lifts and change this mostly to barbell free weights with dicking around with dumbbells at home on the side. I also am going to start initiating more and focusing on being more smooth and direct, forcing her to say no This mindset is still passive and skirting responsibility for your sex life onto her. Two days ago,she noticed the change in th…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/24 04:56 PM
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Copy that, the problem has been home dinner parties with friends we haven’t seen in a while actually. ‘I know you love steaks, so I got you this 2 lb ribeye!’ ‘I baked you your favorite pie!’ I’ve had two glasses of wine in the last month, thanks for the advice here. “Thanks for thinking of me, but I’ll pass.” That’s what they say isn’t it? ‘You never get a main event if you’re looking for one.’ I’d more strongly consider playing the field if I didn’t live in a town of 10,000 people and the asso…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/24 06:20 PM
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So you are being more attractive and stopped being unattractive. Nice start. See if you can make peace with yourself. It’s time for you to catch up in the present to the image you project in your mind of who you want to be. Have some Gendlin “What is true is already so. Owning up to it doesn't make it worse. Not being open about it doesn't make it go away. And because it's true, it is what is there to be interacted with. Anything untrue isn't there to be lived. People can stand what is true, for…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/24 01:10 AM
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u/farmerdad1976 This is really good. You will always lose the double bind, if you play by the rules of her game. Divorce prep: One of my major mental issues is that divorce would likely result in selling the family farm which I've been trying to build up, and hence would undermine large part of my mission. For that reason, I'm really struggling with the idea of outcome independence if/when she next threatens divorce. But I know I have to get myself there, or my frame will keep crumbling. More st…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/24 07:30 PM
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You’re not really dgaf if you like compliments, but it’s better to at least kind of look like you dgaf. What’s wrong with compliments? I like when people say or do nice things for me. I don’t need compliments, but I’m not so afraid (give too many fucks) that I worry how others will perceive me. Be an island if you need to as you calibrate through your validation seeking past, but it was helpful for me at some point to work through my nice guy tendencies and allow people to give to me without bei…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/24 03:57 PM
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If you are constantly having to Deload perhaps it is time to try a different approach. Do some work in the 8-20 range, 0-2 RIR each set for as much volume as you can recover from for a few weeks and see what the results are.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 07:53 PM
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I was basically a retard trying to apply WISNIFG, fogging, negative assertion and negative inquiry, and basically doing it all wrong, but maintaining frame throughout and not getting emotional. Then don’t force it. STFU when the words come be ready for them.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 07:49 PM
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I. noticed a bunch of comfort tests this week: are you going to leave me? I have the feeling I'm loosing you. I'm not sure if I can give you what you want. Your wife likes you, but is not attracted to you. Be attractive (lift more and lose fat) lots of work can be done here for a good return yet. And be less unattractive ready for it but every attempt I made was shot down quickly. my different approaches to create tension all failed (too obvious, too horny?) and were rejected within seconds. Nee…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 07:41 PM
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How this hard to believe? She doesn’t want to fuck you because you are largely unattractive (fat & weak) but feelz bad about so projects this negative feeling outward. Ignore that though because we won’t probe into her thoughts. It doesn’t change how you respond, and if it does what does that say about you and your frame? note to self: weeks of hard work and building frame can be erased by one limp dick. avoid at all costs. next morning I take a tadalafil, we fuck but the session is only mid. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/24 06:19 PM
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To be honest I'm a little scared of starting to be truly dominant and have expectations because because I know that I'll be entering that part of the process where I'm not just unlovable, but unlikable too This is just nice guy hamstering, I’m so bad I’m good Nice guy. When you actually act in accordance with what you want it will be polarizing, but is that a bad thing? Will you be more at peace trying to be what you imagine others want you to be or what you want to be?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/24 01:56 PM
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My relationship sucks. She’s basically a live in chef who spends my money and complains about me pulling the covers. I’m getting kinda tired of not getting any nookie here and am gonna start doing some catch and release as I work on my body and start developing options. Not gonna exercise ‘em yet, but abundance never hurt anyone. Had an epic adventure on Saturday doing an 18.5 mile trail run in the mountain nearby. Fuck I love my life. Seems like a lot of tension here. You’ve been at this a minu…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 02:31 PM
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Being the guy who chose divorce despite no obvious or extreme circumstances in my marriage, the other wives in my / our social circle are hugely skeptical of me and worried that their husbands will get ideas from hanging out with me. That is your ego writing that narrative. This has been admittedly a little “tricky.” Being vulnerable can suck sometimes. Especially when you’ve experienced success in other areas, but much like a lagging muscle or body part, putting aside your ego, lowering the wei…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/24 04:33 AM
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Dread game worked, and I fucked it up. This means fuck all when your next 8 paragraphs blame everyone else for your problems. Long story short, she got pissed, froze me out for 3 days. The day after I got all emotional, deer’d about how I was going to pull back investment in the relationship Although your wife’s dread game is nice. Nice try trying to trump it with overt artistic dread though. I’m working on upping my game when she’s emotional, or manipulative (e.g. silent treatment). I have to s…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/24 02:54 AM
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Mentioned last week sexual comments don’t go very well with the wife, they don’t go bad either as I’m able to joke after bitchy comments and turn it around towards sex, but she is definitively not into it. Wonder why. You still covertly give to get I think they call those covert contracts. Dance monkey dance. I haven’t had any comfort tests at all. She sometimes comes by and cuddles next to me on the sofa. What do you think comfort seeking looks like for her?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 01:25 PM
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still struggling a bit when it comes to pickthe right amount of reps for different exercises. for now I do compound for 3x8 (bo, incBp, ohp) while accessories for 3x12 (latPull, tricPd,…). I'm highly motivated when it comes to going to the gym but can't crush it as I want to. You’re focused on the wrong details. Your sets are too neat indicating to me that they are likely too easy. focus on intensity I also notice that she still avoids my dick. no touching, no enthusiasm to suck it. it seems lik…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 01:11 PM
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both of whom initiated brief conversation with me (with IOIs... long eye contact and big smiles). I was so into my workout I didn't even think about it, and have been kicking myself since Scarcity I think I might be the kind of retard that needs field reports to not suck at this. Not sure if those are best posted here in MRP or elsewhere. A lot of this OYS is perseverating on your wife and a bunch of what-ifs. Build a version of you that is abundant and can withstand whatever is thrown his way i…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 12:28 PM
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I have no chest and has been the hardest thing to progress at. Try starting with a pec deck heavy 8-12 reps 3-4 sets into flat wide grip bench. Arch your back slightly to retract your shoulder blades. She feels violated and doesn't think she could ever get to place where we can be intimate again cause she see's me as a threat that chorused her into having sex when she didn't want to. Is this your truth? If not then don’t accept this bullshit narrative, which can be done nonverbally without argui…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/24 04:11 AM
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I’ve killed my oneitis. I have become a man who would not lose a moment of sleep if my wife left me. I’d be the most eligible bachelor in my county tomorrow if she left me. Funny thing is that because of this attitude she would never leave. I could take a side chick and she’d have to deal with it. I have to take trips for business 3-4x per year and she always makes a remark pleading with me not to cheat. It’s a half-joke but she knows I could. She knows the house isn’t in her name and neither is…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/24 03:42 AM
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Read up on last minute resistance
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 04:34 PM
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Losing weight will still pay the biggest dividends across areas of your life. BPC 157 may be helpful post surgery/recovery not sure if u/BecomingABetterMan1 has any notes on this.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 04:31 PM
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I'm a lazy ass. I’m not doing all the work for you. Hit the sidebar and start lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 12:09 PM
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What do you mean by it being contempt? Reread the article. Just STFU and let your body learn that your wife’s shitstorms are not going to hurt you. The more you try and placate her emotions the more she will hate you for it. she’s fighting it, but not playfully. Took it as a hard no This sounds more like soft no. You can come in over the top with nonverbal dominance and make it on her to give you the hard no.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 12:07 PM
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I think this was a win Think or know? Do you know yourself or was this written in regards to someone else? I told her we were literally on our way to do just that and I was looking to have a good day. This seemed to work as she just started eating the candy bar I got her. “Please babe can we just have a good day we’re doing the thing you want” STFU, it didn’t work that is contempt. I compliment her the guide her on to the bed…she’s fighting it, but not playfully. Took it as a hard no. I try to b…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 12:09 AM
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When the feminine shitstorm approaches I panic, suffer, beg her for consideration and then I come here full of anger asking "WHY THE FUCK I'M NOT STRONG ENOUGH TO FACE THESE SHITSTORMS" and read all the posts, the stories, the sidebars and the books until the waters are quieter again and... pouff! How can you give this to yourself? After that period I spent lot of time in the household, but she was basically built to do everything without my support and I spent lot of time feeling useless. She w…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/24 11:42 PM
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Ask yourself what it is about you and your own ego that needs them to be drug addicted broken whores
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/24 07:40 PM
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after I deflected a bunch of her shit tests etc during a disagreement, threatened to get my gun, then a knife, etc. and hurt herself so that I would listen to her. Full stop conversation over. Contact emergency services. This communicates that all threats are taken seriously to get her help and if she using that for secondary gain that it is a woefully ineffective means in which to get those needs met. If children were present and heard any of this contact CPS for their safety and again establis…
/r/askMRP29/05/24 03:47 AM
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Sounds like learned helplessness, but makes for a convenient excuse. What if you already had or were the ability to shape outcomes for yourself. Or you know, continue to be powerless and blame god.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/24 03:02 AM
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Vision: See RPC post Mission: See RPC post. Fuck off with this Stop being an indecisive and weak man Then stop acting like a bitch Had some negative interactions with my mom when I saw her memorial day. She is highly manipulative. I plan to brush up on WISNIFG a lot before I see her again. At some point in my life, I decided that I didn’t like being manipulated. I decided avoidance (flight) was the best response to my mother. Rather than running I need to implement fogging, negative assertion an…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 07:45 PM
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If she thought of me like I do me, I wouldn't have to make a comment like that. She used to though. Relinquish the need for others to see the value in you that you see in yourself. It is unattractive to verbally demand it. Instead demonstrate it by focusing your time and attention and things that bring value to you. I never considered it a shit test. I'm in the backyard or woods staying busy enjoying myself. She centered the kids in her life and they are her hobby. Being called a “selfish asshol…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 02:49 PM
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The more I focus on Me and doing what I want as far as hobbies outside of what needs doing daily I get accused of being selfish and having a big ego. (i'm trying to figure out if this is good or bad) That depends are you drunk captaining or is this a tool of manipulation to put you back in your box. You will have to be your own judge here or you will continue to fail this shit test. I thinking I could implement some dread asked if the friend shared she felt at all that she did anything to push h…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 01:04 PM
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I think it comes down to my MAP and realizing how in so many domains I don't have the life I want. To that end I need mindful steps towards goals that would make me happy Why am I here?: To gain self-love, internalize my validation as opposed to externalizing it, and to gain the self respect I need to be a man in this world Men do things. Start there. Take any actions and put them into motion. All this hamstering without ACTION will keep you on the self-pity Ferris wheel. My goals, my happiness …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 12:06 PM
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I have always thought my wife is different because she’s not very emotional. With you I’ve read it. I’m not going to fuck her. I included it in my OYS because I felt myself getting a bit drunk on the validation (danger zone) Continue to be attractive, but just know and act on where your current boundaries are.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 11:57 AM
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In my head when she comes to me to initiate conversation this is her entering my frame, is this a wrong line of thinking? Like I said I’m only 2 weeks in so I could write what I know on the back of a matchbox and write what I actually understand on the stick of a match itself. Continue to lift, read, STFU, and post in OYS. If you are looking over your shoulder constantly measuring and imagining what her actions are in relation to you, whose frame or point of origin does that center around? She i…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 05:23 AM
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my problem is prolly more Rambo. Sounds like the time to figure that out You know what else is dumb to me? Shitting on people trying to self improve. I want to give you extra love cause you didnt do that to me today. Thank you brother. Means a lot. Most guys love to take the shits. It's scarcity mindset masquerading as tough love. Keep doing you, love your energy and I am grateful for your feedback and criticism. You might start by practicing containing the emotional vomit that is exposing your …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/24 12:59 PM
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I'm not sure having sex without any regard to the woman's pleasure will be my endgame. It is just inverse version of the covert contract with being a good lover. The point is you can only own your own needs. Letting go of the captain save a ho tendencies and your need to assert what you value in sex onto others.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/24 12:11 PM
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Yes, the bitch loves to argue so much she doesn't care if she's wrong. It takes two to argue You brought logic knife to an emotional gunfight. Where is the frame and game. This is RP 101 stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/24 12:32 PM
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Lifts (just maintained routine while on road, all db each side): BP: 65x10 (same weight) // Squat: 55x11 // Pull ups: 10 // DL: 50x10 AMOG a table where it wasn’t a high hurdle You AMOG’d nobody barrage of mini shit tests. I stfu on my way out said “you are being really standoffish.” Your chick withdrew time and attention and you folded to her dread. I’m not yet creating “core” desire For whom? plus Ltr comes from a conservative background w/sex inhibitions. With you Ltr gets “bitten or spanked”…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 05:15 PM
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kinda winging it right now At least you did shit. My recommendation would be for any program that incorporates compound movements, in the 5-20 rep range, and utilizes as least some amount of maximal effort attempts like grey skull with AMRAPs. but I want her to want me again, tired of duty sex. Start by building a version of yourself that warrants your own respect. Quit drinking as much. Stop jerking off so often. So hold yourself accountable. Build a measurable plan and report on that I did dec…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 02:20 PM
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STFU is a really good tool and one that can help you from devaluing your gift by making pleas or begging others to also see it as a gift. At which point, your protecting that gift and allowing the natural consequences to occur can be helpful. But eventually you may want to invest when you do not want the outcome attached to natural consequences. “The kids are going to your parents. Sit in the car where going to do xyz.” Broken record. The defense against resentment here is your ability to escala…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/24 06:31 PM
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Enforced a boundary without drama, reset the next day. I could do better with not giving a fuck, because I spent at least 30 mins fighting against the beta shit goblin afterwards. I had a CC buried in there, now that I think of it. That sounds good. If anything helps you realize that even though the beta goblin urge is there you do not have to act on it. part of that embracing the uncomfortable you want. I didn't give my wife the first shot, just assumed it would be too much effort and didn't wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/24 01:31 AM
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I don’t need her validation. However, when she says she is 180 opposite and faked it all to get with me and have my kids Shit test failed, but you know you don’t care right Literally: city v country, corporate v individual, party v sober, liberal v conservative, feminist v trp, etc. You both have vaginas so there is that. Start with the basics of STFU, read, and lift. Sounds like you have no frame or game and overestimate the work you have done on looks.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/24 12:51 AM
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But, in this one instance, I ended up with an emergency room bill and an incapacitated wife, and things could have gone even worse. I'm certain that I could have convinced her to do what needed to be done. But it didn't fit my model of not engaging in arguments. Recalibrate the model. It is okay to have different boundaries with different responses. You are going respond very differently if you child whines for candy vs if they run headlong in a busy street with traffic. This can communicated wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 08:02 PM
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Your mindset section seems to be filled with a lot faux imaginings for what might be going on your wife’s head. How about you tell her to knock off the bullshit. I have wild emotional swings right now You expect a lot from others without a landing for anyone to be able to grab onto. I do not want to do that before we engage the mediator as I feel like she will use "he cheated" against me to make herself the victim. Then again, I realize she will make herself the victim no matter what. You have n…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 06:27 PM
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Seems like a paradox. Don’t be the guy unless your him, but also don’t pretend to be him and do the things he does. How does one ever become him? Do people not take you seriously?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 05:35 PM
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Question is why exactly you have cracks in your frame? u/GardenTreadmill Or sidestep this question for now and just act as if you are that person without cracks in their frame. Perhaps after pretending to be him long enough it will feel like less of an act.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 01:58 PM
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I’m just so tired of the nuke threat game Yeah, that is a shitty and immature way to garner your attention and time. So what are some alternatives games that you want to play? Inviting someone to the table isn’t the same as forcing them to play.
/r/askMRP11/05/24 04:46 AM
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Not sure I get the point you're trying to make. Can you elaborate? Pick a direction you want go and pursue it. You sound apathetic but you are the only one keeping yourself from what you want. If you are at a point where you feel done, what do you have to lose pursuing what you want, or said another way are you more scared of staying where you are at or change? It will likely cause friction because people are resistant to change, ourselves included. I think I am trying not to lie to myself this …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/24 12:21 PM
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That is 40 OYSs spanning multiple years
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/24 07:34 PM
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Really nothing to report. Found a post by u/Sepeanabout avoidant wives and it hit home with me. This led to me to reading some more about it and it explains a lot of her behavior. I like this article too, but don’t believe my wife has a fearful-avoidant attachment. I takeaway I had from it is more rock than oak can be helpful, and allowing the oak to be at value of the recipient instead of my own need to caretake. Avoid the nice guy I’m so bad I’m good urge to caretake and fix her. The core tool…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/24 07:33 PM
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The big question is this - if I was getting everything I wanted, would it make a difference? Okay, then make your title run today. If it is all an act at least choose to the play the part in it you want. Adaptation requires novel stress and challenge. What are you doing towards this goal? Yet, what is also very apparent is that I am not ready to leave. I have not internalised the key lessons. Or else commit oneself to the purgatory of the 🐹
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/24 07:26 PM
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As many know, the amount of single, attractive Christian women who aren't on the Christian feminist bandwagon is quite limited. The amount who wear those descriptors as an identity maybe limited, and probably even rarer those who own those descriptors, but assign the same meaning to them as you do. But, what about the ones who are or be could living close to how you assign value towards those things? How might engaging in LDR affect your ability to assess/experience this for yourself and your mo…
/r/RPChristians02/05/24 07:36 PM
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The goal can for whatever you want it to be for, but is attractive knowing how to flirt and competence builds confidence.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/24 06:38 PM
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Start without the straps and use them once your grip fatigues, or use them for the heaviest set and do backoff work without them. I kind of look at them similar to a belt and squats.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/24 06:29 PM
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Deadlift, barbell rows, or anything where you might use mixed grip to help with grip strength. I’d go hook grip or straps for deadlifting, and hook grip or double underhanded grip for rows (some variation of width/hand placing may provide novel stimulus here as well). Mixed grip has increased risk for biceps injuries, as the exposure to the weight on the biceps when uneven is often under very heavy loading.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 05:51 PM
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210 lbs, 29% BF (navy). Bench 135x20, OHP 85x8, Squat 155x12, Dead 160x5, Pullups 3x5 You are a super weak and fat fuck. Lead by fixing those and see if your wife follows. STFU, otherwise. Dropping alcohol altogether would be helpful towards those goals as it high in calories and is deleterious to anabolic/body composition compared to all the other macros which actually do things.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 01:04 PM
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But, I have trouble putting sustained effort into making things better when I'm already comfortable. There can also be value in being content and having stable effort without permanently living in that place, or else when I feel content I feel guilty. There is a reason periodization exists because you can’t hit back to back PRs or the tools/scales we have to measure these efforts can’t pick up the micro nature in which they exist. Glad to gear the rehab is moving along with you torn bicep. Avoid…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 12:52 PM
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Is the blowjob the shit test or the comment afterwards? The fact that she wants to be tethered indicates the value. Ignore the mouth noises afterwards “you know I’m only doing this for you” is a shit test. Don’t let it shape your reality. Give direction/lead on what genuine desire looks like to you and see if she follows through on that. I admit I am in her head too much, but these are my fears based on her actions like touching him, shit testing him, messaging him all the time, etc. I'm watchin…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 12:31 PM
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I have an endomorph body type and I want to cut 10-20lbs Keep on hamstering why being fat makes you special. Stupidly, I go to Mrs. Num and say, 'honestly, how do you rate our sex life.' "It's an 8.5'. I call bullshit. I don’t think there was any actually interest in what her answer was here. This was just your way of passively looking for an opening to express how unsatisfied you are with your sex life. With that being the case instead of calling it a “2,” why now own that. Of course, you are g…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 12:12 PM
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I disagree with your fitness section, if you are training for long-term muscle gain effort is probably the single most important factor with the caveat just do it in a rep range reduces risk for injury. Heaviest work first around 5 reps. Also most of the muscleskelatel issues you describe may improve from greater musculature. She often says things like she does it because she doesn't want me getting it from someone else, but to me that feels more like using it to keep me tethered rather than wan…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/24 04:00 PM
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Lifts BP 120 x 12, Leg press 120 x 12 Pullups 15, Dips 15 SQ+ DL very light (injury) Stats: 6ft + 175lbs, low BF From over 2 years ago This will either be a great time in my life, or a great failure. I want to post here for accountability. Be accountable to yourself, are you happy with your results? What have you done? I have the gift of time right now. Until you don’t.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/24 05:50 PM
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Fake it until you make it. If you want to, try on being someone who engages socially, has fun, and loves women/people. You don’t have to exist in a binary state or gaming or not gaming, which in of itself implies some lack of OI. That and a huge amount can be said non-verbally and be felt in the energy/tension.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/24 03:20 PM
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Lesson 2: in that situation, just be bold and open while I wait for the drink. You went to a bar and dipped your toes in the water, that is some progress. The above, likely would be a good next step. Set a time limit to approach with just the goal to talk within 2-3 minutes and jump in the water. See what the vibes are and calibrate from there.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/24 02:59 PM
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I did not make any big opportunities to lead this week. I made a master plan for where I am headed, what needs to be done. I will communicate that plan this week and talk with the family about who needs to do what in order to take part in enjoying the benefits that will come from accomplishing these goals. Most of the goals are for me to accomplish, but include leading my family on their chores and contributing in that small yet important aspect. A bit grandiose. What happens if your family outw…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/24 05:30 PM
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But the goalposts always feel like they are almost in reach.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/24 04:16 PM
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Health & Fitness: only managed 1 lift session this week as had to prioritise work and life. You wanted to. You had to do shit. The world will keep turning with or without you. Actually own it. I always thought the key was rapport building, but can see that that is boring, and the attraction needs to come first: being playful, interesting and DHV. This does not come naturally to me yet. They are just women. Have fun with them how you want to. some day approaches this week as the confused but exot…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/24 12:49 PM
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Don't get me wrong, I have one foot out the door. Of course you do, scared money don’t make money. Keep waiting for her to make the decision for you. I am tip-toeing along a knife edge on one side is displaying lower value and on the other is her total indifference. Yep, you are playing her game. I know she will adhere if I demand It’s hard to own one’s shit isn’t it she will become the proverbial "Unhappy Wife" Are you a piece of shit or not? If you are become less of one. If not, this shit tes…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/24 06:37 PM
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ADHD (can you tell I was raised in food-scarce conditions and praised for never leaving food behind). but I lean really heavily on it to regulate my mood (shame spiral? Good old ADHD Not sure how to avoid the paralysis. This sucks. I think someone once wrote on here the best not to have someone pounce on your weaknesses was not have weaknesses to expose.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/24 12:53 AM
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Unfortunately it makes its way into the way I act and carry myself. Examples from the past - being indecisive on dates, not being able to lead, being afraid to kino-escalate, etc. Okay so you’re destined to fail, but imagine for just a minute a version yourself that wasn’t. What is he doing? What happens if you act decisive, lead, and kino-escalate? Is it worse to confirm your fears about yourself all along or to find out those limits you placed on yourself were never real to begin with?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/24 06:27 PM
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Read this and the two links with guides..
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/24 03:01 PM
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This is your second OYS and outside of making some goals you have done nothing. So outside of goals what have you objectively done to concretely address those goals. For instance, this past week I tracked calories and kept them under x. I made sure my step counter was over y for the week. I lifted z days throughout the week, at the following numbers. Write about what you’ve done, strip this of promises and goals there is nothing.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/24 02:25 PM
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I’m guessing one was eGFR. If your activity level are high with lots of intense muscle breakdown you are going to spike your creatinine (not creatine), thus giving a false impression of impaired kidney function. Meet with a specialist (renal) who can take the whole picture into account and order more accurate testing to determine at 28 years of age if there is actually something going on with your kidneys or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/24 01:20 PM
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I've repressed my sexual needs because they made my wife uncomfortable and she has given me shit in the past about how I'm always thinking about sex This my friend is a shit test. Good move with the sexting and pushing your comfort level. I think I'm done. I can't deal with her bullshit anymore. I understand that she's a good sparring partner and the value that provides but a man's got his limits. She promises a lot and delivers next to nothing. So you’re telling me you’ve got nothing to lose. G…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 06:15 PM
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Here's the context - my wife pulls in a heavy 700k-1M a year; I'm at 300k. I've been coasting at a cushy role essentially irreplaceable. The job, while secure and lucrative, has me feeling boxed in. It's comfortable but stunting my growth. Build a home gym and invest your time and attention in building your dream physique. Read up on books to improve your game or mental models to help you be successful, invest your time in energy in developing projects that do bring you meaning between the your …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 06:09 PM
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I suspect that I either could not recover from the gym while cutting or that I had some common cold. My libido also went to shit and didn't want to do anything but sleep. The potential causes could be wide or related to multiple factors. I would also ask with what intensity are you working 6 days a week for 2 and a half hours or are you doing lots of junk volume. I would also consider: Social: Went out with a buddy for beers. Also went team building for 3 days with the guys from work. Had a grea…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 02:10 AM
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Reread NMMNG you would fall into the “I’m so bad nice guy.” This doesn’t make you special or change requisite work. Time to let the wolf off the chain.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/24 07:11 PM
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Not sure I get you point here. Can you elaborate? I look at those as two opposite levers. Compliance/control is a way to provide time and attention when there is attraction. You’re providing instructions for someone who may need them in how they can add value your life. Ignore the words watch the actions. If you are not seeing this with actions push/indiffernce/space allows you to invest in yourself and allows the other person space to choose. They may or may not choose what you want. Either way…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/24 06:51 PM
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If the dichotomies are pull/control/compliance/time&attention vs push/indiffernce/space you have some data points now to calibrate from, right? Sepean wrote something on handling an FA wife and while I don’t think I have one this part was still pertinent in the read: Signs of affecting like cuddling, stroking her hair, intimate talks, they stress her out, so you should stop it. Instead, be her oak. She can cuddle up to your chest, but don’t be affectionate back. Protecting her and the body langu…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/24 07:04 PM
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Yeah, but is not OI if you waiting around by that door. Especially when the underlying feelings are: She's fuckin discarded me and the children So again I would ask whose decision was it respect the sanctity of your marriage. If it was her what made you want to take that deal? If it was you, how much anger are you going to have when find out she is fucking other people while you were honour bound and taking care of the kids and cleaning up the mess she left you with
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/24 01:09 AM
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Never stop my journey of personal growth and keep living on the knifes edge Bullshit, you are stopping a part of your whole life to caretake for your wife and her needs now. We agreed to respect the sanctity of our marriage. At whose behest? don’t know where are at in your journey, but I look at this is wonder where the anger is. You are doing stuff in lifting, Career, and parenting while anchoring yourself to your wife’s mental health problems. Go to the gym, crank some rage against the machine…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/24 03:43 PM
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With you
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/24 03:31 AM
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You’re the second person to tell me that. I’ll stick to the I lifts I can. I want to drop percentage points fast so planned on switching to cardio. I’m relatively abundant even when it comes to mindset with muscle gain. Heavy resistance training and good protein intake are probably the most important factors with muscle retention with cutting weight. Alternatively short-term PSMF for a week or two at a time can be helpful but you don’t really want to crank up the cardio with this approach. Not s…
/r/RPChristians12/03/24 12:27 AM
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I’ve had these breakthroughs over the years where I get near term results when I’m more aggressive but can’t sustain it. I can’t tell if it is LMR or a shit test. If I’m pushing things, sex is great, but she’s on edge the rest of the time. If I’m not pushing, I get occasional comfort duty sex but everything else is smoother. This red pill in a nutshell. Keep moving forward, while trying quiet the noise around you. Let your hamster rest, and Instead of all that noise ask yourself what is it YOU w…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/24 02:24 AM
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I think your thoughts could be a little jumbled in as far as your mental models here. Negotiated desire assumes her finding the same value that you do in something whether it be sex or anything else. If you can let go of this need you are free to want whatever it is you want for whatever reason you want, and it allows her or whoever else to choose also choose or not choose that for whatever reasons that they want. From there is just a matter of owning what is it you want with your actions. My ex…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/24 08:01 PM
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Went passive aggressive last week with sex and didn't initiate during our "scheduled night" to see if she'd mention it. I was still stuck in her head and not turned on. I beat myself before even sparring with her. Fucking stupid I know. This is really fucking stupid in a I want her to want it in the way I want it or I can spare my ego and pretend like I don’t want it kind of way. Take responsibility for the sex you want. Getting hard rejections at least gives you information to make further deci…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/24 07:32 PM
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My primary objective is to garner respect both at home and in the outside world This is a losing battle looking to gather validation from sources outside yourself to cement your own self-image because it ultimately is outside of your control. Instead build the version of you that you deem is worth commanding respect. Currently, I lack a clear vision for myself and am confused about how to establish one. That’s okay, but you are going to have to do things and try them out. Start with lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/24 02:44 PM
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There is a lot to be gained in your lifts yet. The whole section on frame feargrinn is right. You want to choose your choice and that requires enough strength & mindfulness to respond instead of react.The more you do this the greater the proficiency you will have in responding in a congruent nature. If you don’t know how you want to respond STFU is still a great net neutral tool. Also 123 magic offer s a great system that can be extrapolated for boundary setting in a non reactive manner while of…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/24 02:26 PM
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Myself, vitrael1/2, becomingabetterman, unluckydiamond, eyumnoodle, environmental-top are a few that come to mind
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 04:48 AM
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few actual examples of Rambo I think there are quite a few. Myself included for a period. It is rarer than the average dude who at OYS 50 is still benching 40lbs and meandering about lifting form and fixing their broken wife, but it happens.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/24 06:35 PM
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This is your victim puke, hope you got it all out. This is whole thing is written about her. Check running number of she/her for proof. I keep blaming myself. Sure you do….. I did not have the anxiety before I got married she just whittled me away She was detonating our world and running again. Then you’ve got all this nice guy fedora tipping in here just demonstrate that that bitch doesn’t understand how lucky she was and how much a nice guy she missed out on: She has nothing without me Leaving…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/24 04:42 AM
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When I push through though, a lot of the time it seems to me that I have negotiated desire. Until it doesn’t. Keeping pushing into the uncomfortable. Ignore the noise your hamster is feeding you. If you give any indication of this belief you will be shit tested on it “you know we only do this because you want to.” The only way you answer this for yourself is by moving forward. Do women escalate these tests for a period of time only or is this sort of frequency something I might have to learn to …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/24 02:03 AM
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9 tricks to get your wife to fuck you and you’ll never guess what number 5 is
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 08:38 PM
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The conversation meandered to sex and she brought up that we should schedule sex if I was ok with that idea. The resulting sex was predictably terrible. Worst sex of my life. I should have stopped and said it wasn't working for me, cuz it wasn't. What actions did you take to make the sex better for you? Own the sex you want with your actions, before you nuke sex. All I can think of now is RS's "Every unhappy wife is a grape victim" quote Stay out of your wife’s head
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 02:53 PM
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I read a thread on men cooking being alpha or whatever and I never really bought it, but if I'm to take my family's health into my realm of responsibility - I gotta help with the protein (I'm a better cook anyways). It’s not alpha, that is your frame, game, and looks. However this is fine a leadership thing if it is important to you. I’m struggling to find a balance of [being a dick all the time] and [enjoying time spent with my wife/daughter]. It's like I view the two as an either/or and it can…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 01:08 PM
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Meh, I disagree. When reestablishing boundaries there is likely to be conflict. Yes, I'm an idoit for not having them, so I am getting what I deserve for that Internal vs external conflict and which do you have control over? I came to the conclusion I have been led by fear. Fear of being the dominant one in our marriage for what society and my wife thinks. I'm working through this now. Hamster this however you want. I think it is equally likely you are incompetent and don’t take responsibility f…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/24 07:13 PM
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Situation 4. I lot of mental procrastination and not a lot of doing things. I seem to better understand what you think your partner wants and feels, but what is it that you want? What do you lift? What have you read?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/24 06:58 PM
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Read those paragraphs you wrote again, and tell do you see how the second contradicts the first. just bulldozing boundaries to satisfy my desires only. According to who? Doing that resulted in more interesting and frequent sex; Cool now I want to createvdeeper trust and intimacy to inspire desire over chronic dread. Oh nevermind. Again according to who? Are you sure those are mutually exclusive and at odds with one another. Are you sure that “deeper intimacy and trust” isn’t just your why of car…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/24 05:53 PM
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I'm currently leaning towards asking my wife for her blessing for me to take new bitch as a mistress. Good, go get mommy’s blessing first. If she says “no” run and ask papa MRP for his. Don’t fall too far behind, hate for you lose the MRP popularity contest you’ve constructed in your head. Hope you don’t nuke your life going full-tilt Rambo. I'm not exactly sure what I'll do if she says no. Of course you are not
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/24 02:09 PM
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Ask yourself why you were so triggered that you responded with a “you okay, bro?” There is a rub here that I would want to look at.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/24 01:43 PM
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I've had trouble giving her orgasms; I made her come for the first time a couple of weeks ago with the use of a vibrator while having sex. How come her not orgasming is a problem? Do you enjoy the sex you currently are having? If I can give better sex, there is a chance that it will make all other parts easy. Tell me you can see it right?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 09:01 PM
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I’ve made a lot of improvements in my life, so hopefully I can help other men with theirs. I’m pretty sure this is out of the nice guy/white knight handbook. The works never done. What is that work and how does help you get what you want?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 07:34 PM
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I agree that logistics can be valid concern but also an excuse. Pull her into a closet, bathroom, or shower. Logistics may be providing more comfort for you by shielding yourself from the vulnerability to act sexually in situations that feel uncomfortable for you. Sparing the inevitable shit testing and vulnerability required to act on what you want. The pendulum can swing both ways here. From a growth standpoint and frame development standpoint it is helpful to see yourself rise to these challe…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 04:34 PM
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Spiritual I follow Jesus. I consider all of this a test. I got seduced by another woman I just met back around OYS #9 I’m lost, so is it God’s fault or the woman’s? Self-determination requires you to take responsibility for and own your shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 04:22 PM
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Sex is not the goal, becoming a better man is the goal. You’re a nice guy and a liar. Especially given: Have been in a sexless marriage (less than 15 times in the past 3.5 years) Btw (though I may do it at the wrong times because she has long complained that I don’t give clear verbal acknowledgement on whether I am hearing her when she talks to me) She is telling you to come to heel and this is a shit test. Frame: I don’t even fully understand this yet Read this
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/24 08:51 PM
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but I'm just trying to hold her to her word and make her accountable, am I wrong? I feel like she's trying to (consciously or subconsciously) manipulate me into forgiving that debt once again when April comes. Who is your authority? plus she's a clean freak and we are from a relatively conservative society With you Sex: Have to beg for sex She rarely initiates, unless it's accompanied by a request for favors or payday is near. On the other hand I have a sugar baby on the side who I meet about tw…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/24 04:59 PM
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I have a REALLy hard time “rewarding” my wife’s shitty behavior by being awesome. She is so delusional about what she should get out of me for so little effort on her part (AWALT) Is she though? If you have been giving it to her at your cost for years there is a reason that belief exists. The simply answer is then don’t reward shitty behavior. Even approaching her for sex is validating to her self-image where she then uses that as a power play “I know he needs this from me therefore I can be wha…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/24 01:31 PM
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I drink too much because of my sexual frustration Good sex is my responsibility, so I want her to want it like I do. On weekends I stay up too late and sleep too late so a lot of productive time is wasted for no reason. This is because of the frustration and drinking so I need to reduce this ASAP. Stop being a powerless victim
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/24 04:55 AM
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I can tell you I squatted 4 sets of 10 with 50lbs this morning. Good just post what you’re doing. If you can do 4 straight sets no drop in reps, unless the rest times are significant the work is too easy. See how many reps you can do for one set close to failure. If it is more then 20 reps increase the weight to stay within the 8-20 rep range. More sets taken close to failure in a moderate rep range will most likely yield the best results for adding muscle over time.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/24 01:50 AM
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I’m going to disagree with u/vitrael2 here. If you can thread in barbell compound work, awesome. If not, compound machines with accessory work can be great. Just realize, when you go to actually lift heavy compound barbell work you will have to catch your stabilizing muscles up, and earn the right to work with a similar weight to the weight you are doing on a machine. Some bench press, overhead press, row, pull-up/chin up, squat, and deadlift variant will cover most your bases. 8-20 reps, close …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/24 09:43 PM
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Can you give me an example of what that would have looked like in this case? Your example could be, if it is followed up by the appropriate actions. If you say that and continue entertain her conversation then, no. I looked on the red pill glossaries and couldn’t find a definition, to me it is a clear line of communication that I am displeased with a behavior and not going tolerate it, along with removal of my time and attention. A lot of the time A&A is all I need. Depends on the context. In th…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/24 02:14 AM
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"overwhelming" Don’t be all up in your head over this. It was a shit test, as it looks like you deduced. u/futilefighter pointed out you didn’t nuke anything. You just escalated boundaries and pressure flipped, then went a bit passive-aggressive. Nuking is a hard stop. I also reserve nuking for disrespect. Otherwise, you just come across as angry. Discard this logic though as it relies on external factors. I don’t nuke all the time because I don’t enjoy it, and it isn’t always the tool I need to…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/24 07:47 PM
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r/askmrp 123 magic
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/24 01:10 PM
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The cause, self sabotage. I told her about sexual abuse/grooming by my step Dad. And how he tricked me into getting fucked by a hooker because I wasn’t maturing sexually as fast as I should. She almost walked after hearing the word “hooker”. Yeah, I did unattractive victim pukes too. It’s amazing how fast that can be put behind you when you are attractive and have your shit together. It’s unattractive because this vulnerability through weakness not strength. This is looking for comfort from momm…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/24 12:08 AM
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So i guess I don't see this as a sacrifice I'm making for my wife. I see it a something I need to do to make myself more interesting to women/in general. Nothing soaks panties liking coding and blacksmithing. Anyways, I'm just caring less and less about the marriage and I'm having a hard time parsing whether it's me wanting to sow wild oats, or if it's actually the marriage. I think if I stopped putting effort into the relationship, the marriage would fall apart. We say the relationship is the w…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/24 04:38 PM
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Go the fuck off for a bit and sleep on the feedback you were given. You’re acting like a bitch. You’re blaming your daughter’s gymnastics and intact hymen, you’re beta friends, you’re being too alpha on your problems. Own your shit. It’s okay not be proficient at things. If it were underdeveloped muscle or movement, you take weight off and do the work.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 09:17 PM
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Let your poor hamster rest. If you want to be less of a simp then ACT like less of a simp and see how it feels. The underlying feelings will be there in the moment but you don’t have to act on them, and who knows maybe one day they won’t. Alternatively, you can resign to monk mode and abject powerlessness if you want to.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 09:06 PM
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I’m not saying to you can’t have boundaries and if you don’t want to provide comfort, don’t. What I am saying is that I’ve definitely made things harder on myself than I needed to presenting my frame as an uninviting one in which others must submit to. Once you accept that you’ve already won, it makes it easier to be magnanimous.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/24 03:25 AM
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You are moving close to Rambo I interpreted the cuddling as a shit test. That was a comfort test, which is why she went batshit crazy when you responded with AM/A&A. All you can do is shut that down at that point. However, the whole situation is made more difficult because of that miss. You don’t owe her comfort, but if you respond in a condescending nature to a comfort test it will be inflammatory. It really was not. She had told me she didn't want to be punished and was completely livid that I…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 07:56 PM
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Immediately after she tried to cuddle me in bed and I pushed her away, still in a cocky funny way. what did the tools you use tell you about your terrain Then I said "Everything you just said is bullshit. This conversation is not about me and how I need to change. It's about you and your unacceptable behavior. Last night was a massive disrespect. You are acting like a child. I won't tolerate that kind of behavior from you. I don't want to be around that." She asked "Is that a threat?" I said "I …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 01:21 AM
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1) stopping because she brought it up would be purely reactive It’s also reactive to do it solely because she asked you stopped. 2) Getting the reps in is helpful for my confidence and creativity, same reason I practice anything Sure, but if you practice and don’t like it currently isn’t it assertive to own that. You can dominate without talking dirty, It’s even more dominant if you can pull it off without words 3) Normalizing more dominant behavior in the bedroom seems broadly beneficial, even …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 12:29 AM
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I lied and said it was because it turned me on. She accepted this at face value, but it's bullshit and I'm angry at myself for bitching out. I'm doing it because I want her to act like my slut, THAT would turn me on. That said, I clearly can't stop now, so I will continue to forge ahead and see what happens. Good thing you acknowledged your covert contract. Too bad it wasn’t something like faking an Irish Cockney accent because the idea of you having to fake that for the rest of your life to unl…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 08:01 PM
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Maybe, is that what your hamster tells you?
/r/askMRP23/01/24 07:45 PM
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you’re getting cucked by your therapist and paying for it. But thinking about it more, my wife usually does the opposite of what she is told by people. Then you are hoping that your wife’s oppositional nature to another authority will get you laid. Only to fall back onto this copium: And sex is not really my main concern currently.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 07:40 PM
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Well, I posted that I would be following up more frequently to push my lifts a few weeks ago and then promptly tore my biceps insertion clean off the bone in a freak accident reaching for a ball. No big lifts since, just PT and waiting on surgery. Fucking brutal. That sucks. This time i was direct and I told her it wasn't going to work if she was only there for me when life is going well. And left. You will never know the answer to this question. Can’t negotiate loyalty anymore than desire. Good…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 07:12 PM
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Her feminine being is a reflection of my masculine being. If she is being feminine and submissive, then that is a good indicator that I am being masculine. The opposite is true as well. So much for mental point of origin. How about you take/own responsibilities for your own actions?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 02:02 PM
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You recommend comfort, when it is useless in the best of cases. We disagree on this. Comfort/control game has a place has been my experience. Too much indifference game was detrimental for what I wanted. And downright detrimental in this one. I wanted dude to know his thought process can problematic down the road. Should always give one fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/24 02:37 AM
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He is talking about doing sub maximal work. those are essentially warm up sets. If you goal is to be aesthetic work in 5-20 rep range taking each working set close to failure. Mixing in the higher rep work will spare your joints/ligaments. Aside from all of this though, address being so fat. Obesity leads to chronic inflammation.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/24 03:34 PM
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I get the impression that I’m treating her badly a lot of the time. I’ve been a lot less tolerant of unwanted behaviour recently, so there’s a good reason for it. You sure this isn’t just a projection of your own guilt? Seems to work just fine so I ignore the feelings and carry on. Eventually this will lead you to failing comfort tests.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/24 09:33 PM
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Latex sensitivity
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/24 03:18 PM
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It was I thought that if she is open too being restrained, that puts me in a dominant position in sex. Be dominate and if you want to express that or explore that with restraints then fine, but restraints don’t make you dominate they are a tool to express that dominance. And to the last point, I guess I was trying to ask, when you spot other nice guys and beta males in the world, if they are useful inurthering yourself why wouldn't you take advantage or use their nice guy tendencies to your bene…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/24 02:16 PM
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Wife has suffered frequent and persistent vaginal infections for almost 3 years. We've aggressively advocated for diagnosis from her family doctor, and are waiting for the results from last month's blood test. I've expanded our sexual repetoire to include outercourse, researched and invested in pH-balance lubes, use condoms and shared in preventative treatment. Any advice on what else I can be doing is appreciated. Go see a urologist or OB/GYN. 3 years with no results sounds like a shitty ROI.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 10:37 PM
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Squat: 175 lbs 3x5 – Missed one day Dude you’re weak as shit. Recovery paradoxically is more important the stronger you get. You’re unlikely to generate enough force to hurt yourself. If you want to be safe lower the weight and add a day working around 12 reps for sets.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 09:53 PM
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Stats FAT Post the number. Own your shit. Don’t defensively preempt criticism. I honestly wasn't even interested in gaming or talking to chick's Ego She wants to be dominated. I don't want to seem like a bitch about it. If anybody has any tips on how to approach this without turning her off or scaring her away from these ideas, I am open ears. Why do you restraints to be dominant? Then as your own judge don’t act like a bitch. A good place to start is with all this depreciating talk that I imagi…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 09:45 PM
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be someone who is living life from his point of origin. Also, I want to eliminate the word "should" out of everyone's vocabulary. This word has allowed me to bury myself in other people's desires. Which is it, you are your own mental point of origin or trying to fix other people. Shit test failed. Boundary created? All you did as reinforce that if she nags you enough she will eventually get attention. A lot of underreacting to overreact.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 07:50 PM
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She immediately went low libido. She’s fine getting a hotel room and having sex, but can’t get in the mood at home. With you, currently don’t understand that shit Do you need to understand to do shit about it? But I kind of had a moment of clarity the other day when I realized she will never be the woman I married again. Dude she never really was that person anyway. It’s a process. And I’m working through it. Keep moving forward, unless you like being stuck in the “fuck those bitches” stage. It …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 01:11 AM
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Meet with the endocrinologist and clear differentials, but fibromyalgia and things like IBS are the physical manifestations of your body’s discord and dissonance with how much you/your life sucks. Trying addressing those issues.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/24 09:49 PM
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I hate being late on my post, but the stomach bug knocked me out the past few days. /DEER How very meta and 4th wall breaking of you. If it feels uncomfortable and creates tension for you not to DEER, live in that tension for a bit. As with most things practice being what you want to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/24 03:22 AM
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What are the elements or pieces between programs that you felt were most beneficial for you for hypertrophy? If you were going to create your own program what elements/core principals would you include between these?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 09:51 PM
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But what have you actually done? You’re working out and doing cardio, good. The rest is a lot of plan, become, or try.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 08:00 PM
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2 days of kettlebell to supplement. Post your lifts My wife has moved the goalpost over the years Only because you allowed it I was an actor playing the groom and later a sperm donor. Now I just bring in the groceries. Are you so desperate that you take roles you don’t want? What can you do about that. ”Is my wife acting like an ungrateful bitch because I’m not folding to her demands or is she frustrated that I am not being reliable?” They’re not mutually exclusive. Building those skills help yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 05:29 PM
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When people say something about me, I believe it, regardless if it’s true or not. If it’s bad, I’ll feel bad, if it’s good, I’ll feel good. But all of it is wrapped up in external validation and feeding/hurting my own ego. So what is the identity you are building for yourself and what have you DONE to cement that identity for yourself? You need thinking and action both they feed into one another, but a lot of thinking can occur under the hood, if you have a data sample of experience pull from.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 05:04 PM
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For me it's specifically when she cries because I've exposed some vulnerability. It's weird. According to who? Where is your mental point of origin nice guy? I have months of work to do before she goes to cock for comfort. Hopefully not on her. Get lifting and get above victim weight.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 06:07 PM
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Compare I told her no self-respecting person is going to continue seducing you after that eye roll To “don’t roll your eyes at me” or even some nonverbal before that to convey what the fuck are you doing. Her demanding over and over again that we have a conversation, and me saying no for 20 minutes. Why do you tolerate this behavior?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 05:19 PM
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I told her no self-respecting person is going to continue seducing you after that eye roll I said "You don't want to have sex" and she said no, she doesn't. I said "Then I don't want to either." People already beat me to it, STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 02:04 PM
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You applied for a job, went on a date, planned a guy’s outing, and met with a counselor. There is a lot of fluff in there that has nothing to with stuff you did.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/24 02:11 AM
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A final thought on one special quality of my LARP: sadism. The problem with this one is that it's not LARP. The real me gets off sexually by inflicting pain. I've long repressed this because it makes me afraid. Doing the scenes surfaced this for me. I don't know what to do with this self-knowledge yet. Here are two beautiful art panels for you friend. If you feel a bit like a wolf in sheep's clothing discard the nice guy I’m so bad I’m good persona and continue to embrace yourself. I think exper…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/24 12:40 AM
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You are not the protagonist of your own story. Own your shit. 6'1 230 (9%) bench 330 squat 400 This seems a little suss
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/24 12:22 AM
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You could run either as a variation. Doing pseudo decline helps me to get in position to transition to and warm up for flat bench with a locked in form that better activates my chest. Try them out see if they help hit your chest and spare your shoulders some.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/24 12:07 AM
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Everything is a shit test. You are upset not because of others, but because of your inability to respond in the manner you want to their actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 06:56 PM
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Have you tired arching your back by lifting your chest and retracting your scapula with your bench press? You can lift your butt completely off the bench, engage your legs back and activate your glutes (pseudo decline) to get a feel for this. For me, this preferentially works chest over front delts, which get enough work through everything else. If your only goal is to get jacked, there is no point going below 8 reps, which helps to spare your joints from getting beaten up as bad and allows oppo…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 06:37 PM
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u/selawat Stop putting calisthenics on a pedestal. It is a tool just like any other. That is your ego and some small dick energy stuff. Stop hiding behind things and really own your shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 05:45 PM
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try this If they try to pull it on you use your combo breaker
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 04:38 PM
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And this is the single biggest thing holding me back at the moment. It can feel intimidating but you don’t have to solve it today. Break apart in actions congruent in real time and allow a foundation form to answer the question in the future. Try things and see how they fit. Scan yourself in moments and ask if this I want or don’t want. It doesn’t have to carry that meaning to anyone else and that is fine.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/23 06:54 AM
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I'm doing the following split: legs, chest, arms, shoulders/back, chest again. My chest is BY FAR the weakest part of my body, and the most unappealing. I'll fix it... Pec deck and wider grip bench press. You can use your legs when setting up the bench to arch back, lift your chest, and retract your scapula to help target the chest over the shoulders (how powerlifters lift). My only real competitive outlet is trying to be better than the parents of my kids' friends, but that's too easy. Good tho…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/23 06:54 PM
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That approach did not work for me. Creating distance works, but it always been contingent on my direct actions. I kind of scratched my head when 3KL talked about girls wanting to pick out their own lingerie because that never really happens. Best as I can come up with this note from Sepean seems to work for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/23 06:04 PM
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Not sure how It might be implemented in your case but BFR training may be worth exploring for your lower body. Requires less weights on the joints/tendons and blasts them perfusion which may help their recover. Alternatively, you could try to minimize lower body and see if time helps and have an emphasis on upper body training. BPC-157 is a peptide touted for its help in with joint/ligament recovery. No experience with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/23 03:48 AM
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You were talking about a strict OHP though right? You could keep the lead set with the weight your using and do all additional sets at lower weight around the 8-20 rep range with a greater focus on form. Also, popping a squat on an upright bench below the rack you are using takes a lot of the stability required from it out of you wanted to try that on some of the sets. I have recently tried incorporating push press reps at the end of my last set to squeeze some controlled eccentric reps in that …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/23 03:34 AM
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You are terrified of a heavy squat because you have never put more than 95lb on your back. You’re weak. You become less weak with reps. Be Uncomfortable, go to bars, strip clubs, cons, different community events/activities. Game is made easier when your not taxing your brain with noticing/filtering the overt verbal vs covert nonverbals. And sometimes conversations just end. That’s okay, too. Now you have the opportunity to chat with someone else. Shed the nice guy need to maintain/invest in thin…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/23 01:38 AM
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I fell doing squats. Will just do leg press for awhile. I wouldn’t recommend this. How many reps are you doing? Lighten to the 8-12 range and keep at it. After squatting do additional leg presses if you want. Squatting will work more musculature overall for mass. The leg press is fine but it won’t necessarily help you squat more if you don’t build up the other muscles required for squatting as well. Funny, she sort of initiated sex the other day by hugging me (laying on me) in bed. Then she went…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/23 03:19 AM
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This is dumb your self-actualization doesn’t have to canabililze your sex life. What if they in fact enhance one another? It is awfully convenient that some vague/undefinable marker of improvement needs to met before you have do the hard thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/23 10:58 PM
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I even got attempts at negotiating favours in exchange for sex - it wasn’t stated explicitly but that was the intention behind it. I burst out laughing and carried on. As you push forward, flip the script put her to work for you and fuck her. Razzmatazz already highlighted, but you don’t want to keep stating “all you have to do is say no” because after once it is permissive. Use a safe word that is NOT something like “no” or “stop.” Have her repeat it once then you are good. Be prepared for esca…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/23 07:53 PM
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I replied then you'd better make a note of it. This is obtuse. STFU, Don’t try to negotiate sex. I started to squeeze her ass and slowly undressed her while massaging her but I received not a single signal to continue You also didn’t get a hard stop. Lying on her chest, she pressed her body into the mattress so that I couldn’t touch her breast and her legs were also pressed against each other so that escalating was off the table. Only because you are weak. Hit the gym. I will hand it over to her…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/23 02:24 AM
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So a few things here I’d recommend double progression vs linear progression as you describe. If you wait until you hit 15 for three sets your tanking reps. The bigger issue is something is wrong here whether it be with your health, nutrition/intake, or program. You are very weak and can get huge dividends from focusing on this aspect of yourself so if it were me I’d pour more of my energy into figuring it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/23 09:24 PM
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I've noticed recently that my wife revolves her entire being around work. She does have a stressful job, but it absolutely consumes her. In doing so, she has grown an ego; She is never wrong, she is stubborn, she wants it her way or no way. When she finishes work, she smokes weed and either does yoga on Peloton or watches trash tv. Sounds like you have total freedom…. Go out and build yourself up how you want. At certain point you will have your answer for yourself. I usually ignore her, leave t…
/r/askMRP10/12/23 08:37 PM
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This is your second OYS #1 and you are still not lifting. I’d also have trouble respecting myself if I betrayed my own self-interest.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/23 05:12 PM
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Cool story bruh. Way to buck the establishment and go against the prescriptive advice here, you’re the coolest. Don’t throw your back out picking up those pink 3lb dumbbells.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/23 04:41 PM
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If it were me I would incorporate lead sets with AMRAPs to find out your proximity to failure & continue to raise the weights relatively quickly. For hypertrophy effort/intensity or sets taken close to failure in 8-20 range likely yield the best results.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/23 01:30 PM
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Some kind budding early codependent relationship forming here. Captain save a ho tendencies run deep? Focus on yourself, you weren’t doing this for him anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/23 01:19 AM
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Just not giving a damn how my wife feels about me sometimes. I still feel that way sometimes but four out of five times I don't care. Sure, you don’t care Yeah I'd love to take it to completion. She can can be talking and hinting at sex all day and then recoil at my initiation. I'm obviously doing something wrong. According to who? The current game you are playing is cat and mouse. How do you solve that puzzle? It seems like your wife is exerting power and control over you and enjoying it. But w…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/23 02:17 PM
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Bench press is 30kg? For how many reps? Is there something going with your health? How many sets are you taking proximal to failure? If you wanting build your chest the best exercises I have found for me are flat barbell bench (mildly arched like a power lifter) & pec deck.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/23 02:34 AM
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Lots of PSMF days but drank 1 night and fell off the diet a couple days which impacted my weight loss. Clearly I'm not ready to have a drink and then get right back on the diet the next day. Guess I need to go back to not drinking at all again. Lot of powerlessness & lack of concrete plan in here. Can’t fail if you don’t try right? My wife brought up some shit from 20 years ago and said she still couldn't forgive me. Don't want to get into particulars but it was a traumatic event for both of us …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/23 02:23 AM
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Help me understand this because I also hear you saying I’ve been getting a lot of shit tests lately regarding how much time I set aside for myself - in particular for the gym. Fogging is almost second nature here, sometimes I also STFU. Lifting is my number one priority at the moment and I’m not changing that. It appears things are changing, but at the level of comfort you can tolerate. Examine further: I escalated but wasn’t getting any response so I finally said “it seems I’m forcing it and I …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/23 02:01 AM
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create lose-lose situations Hurt people, hurt people meme This is an all stick, no carrot scenario. Don’t try to appeal to compassion or to what you believe is in the best interests of your kids. Be outwardly non-emotional, succinct, and ruthless.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 04:50 PM
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I somehow almost ended up like the typical divorced dude who finds an LTR right away. Plate, singular? Kind of sounds like a LTR. So the question is why the hell did I feel guilty? Generally we don’t like seeing people we have attachments to hurting. The better question is why are you so afraid of others emotions that you hide things, soften things, and try fix their emotions for them.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/23 03:59 PM
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There is some rule 16 shit going on here.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/23 04:07 AM
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Get this to 99.7% leaving some room for sudden unexpected injury/death. Have you tried loading dating apps, going to night game, or going to a strip club? Shake some shit up. Keep lifting and investing in yourself. I think it is entirely possible you’re underestimating the level of abundance around you.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/23 03:39 AM
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Try on some anger.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/23 01:54 AM
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(Not including lift metrics since they are out of date) Then post what you’ve done. After spending time with family, I went to a Thanksgiving hangout that I was invited to from one of the social Meetup group I'm a part of. It was quite sad. Amongst the bunch we had a beta male who was friend-zoned by his gf who he kept on complimenting, a single mom who broke down about her financial situation and asked me out, a buxom feminist who couldn't handle a few Cards Against Humanity prompts, and a gay …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/23 01:11 AM
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For wendlars BBB I’d do the template with the heavy compound lift the same as 5x10 lift on same day. Then quickly transition to 3 month challenge. It looks like you’re doing a dynamic progression model currently which can be effective, because each set is being close to failure represents quality work. Why only 2 sets bench/OhP? Have you tried adding more sets? Getting sore in the muscles (not joints) as long as I could recover by the next workout had worked well for me. Higher reps sets are pro…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 05:58 PM
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Cheat code for the lingerie. You ready? Set it on the bed before you want to fuck next time or just say “go put this on.” You may or may not get a shit test. If you do just stfu. You’re looking for your chick to lead you here. There is a lot of nonsense about what may or may not be in her head or motivating her actions. With your lifting I’d trial slightly higher reps 8-12 range for compounds 12-20 for smaller lifts. If you shoes lift your heels your likely going to have greater quad activation …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 05:00 AM
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Semen retention is a practiced that is recommended in multiple books that are in the MRP required reading section. This is dumb and missing the point. Semen retention isn’t magic. Cool you realized you can go without masterbating, how many days does this take? Eventually you are going to have to do other things, or else you’ll be on lamenting how after a year of no fap you haven’t magically discovered enlightenment and don’t understand why your wife won’t fuck you despite your “genuine desire.” …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 07:20 PM
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In fact, the truth seems to be that I no longer have a need for any motherliness, and that it's ok if that motherliness stays (and is lost) with my mother until the day she passes. Cool, now put this belief into action and see what follows.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/23 05:51 PM
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At that point (a couple months ago), I just eased off the throttle a little to see if, or to what degree, she would still try to sustain things. She took any and all slack I gave her Outside of validation that your wife wants what you want for the reasons you do, what purpose does it serve to take your foot off the gas? I tag u/Razzmatazz32 because I don’t want to bastardize his words, but this goes against the always push expectations ever higher. still resented me for having expectations. You …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/23 01:18 AM
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I thought I had it down Squat 95 x 8, DL (Hex bar) 185 X 8, Bench 155 x 8, press, 95 x 5 The only thing you had down was the weights and you never picked them back up apparently. ”How can I handle that situation better next time and learn something from it?" How about did I handle that situation the way I wanted, and if not what will I try differently.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/23 01:05 AM
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It always seemed like a silly lift Some ego nonsense because: after the injury there's some fear too. Okay, so DB pressing may be practical. However, what was the injury? How does it feel uncomfortable benching? What muscles does it feel like barbell bench press hits for you? Here are some notes that may or may not help you I shared elsewhere. I assume you're referring to something along the lines of my son's life being better or worse if I divorce my wife. Shit you're probably right, but that w…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/23 07:09 PM
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Bench: Not doing this, I hate bench press and am concentrating on weighted pushups and DB work. May revisit this next year What do you hate about? Best lift there is. Talked to a lawyer in January but decided to not go through with it for my son. Sure it is.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/23 01:10 AM
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But she hasnt pursued an affair with him You don’t get it, she has. Chick game is to be available to whom they want. Every indication she is making herself more available to him. Chicks are reactive and at some point it may “just happen.” Perhaps some trickle truths come out, next your hearing about how it was only soaking. That’s a thing you religious people do, right? Fuck. Alright. I will have to think about this. No judgement if you just plug yourself back in and forget all this. I get the a…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/23 12:26 AM
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Why does this matter? It doesn't (...or at least it shouldn't). But I think that although I've taken her off the pedestal Part of taking her off the pedestal is grieving the death of the fantasy you have attached to her.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 02:30 AM
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The theory here, according to my wife, is that I worked too much on my business for 5 yrs while she was at home with the kids, feeling neglected. Post-hoc hamstering at its finest I get the feeling that you’re burying the lede here. What exactly happened? How did it come to light? u/deerstfu mentioned Rian Stone, but I imagine that gnawing feeling at you is this
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 01:00 AM
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I need to see how I allow resentment to built up and learn to stop that cold. Is this really a question? You answer yourself right above this. You keep investing more and more and are feeling more and more burned that the account is empty. If you don’t have it to give freely then don’t give it. Start by owning that, along with what you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/23 09:33 PM
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Yeah but everything is hard until it isn’t
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/23 08:17 PM
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Have been working on the respond part for years now. I've come a long way but not far enough. I even know what I need to do, its just that when a certain amout of shit piles up on my plate - it feels like the walls are closing in aroud me. Like I'm not claustrophobic, but I start feeling like it when this happens. I know I have work to do here, and I know how to respond too... that just happens after I lose my cool, not before. Sounds like you are not asserting your boundaries prior to the point…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/23 05:42 PM
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u/alphawolflion69420 has a great Man Child post you can read here. The first part sums up who I am. Great write up you read there. Wednesday You’re scared bro. Thursday You DEER instead of STFU Friday You get the easiest shit test in “no really is that the next step” Which having no good answer for you again use more mouth noises. Could have A&A/AM or just stfu. But none of this matters until you address I can’t take myself seriously with out addressing these issues first Because you can’t truth…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/23 02:16 PM
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My wife struggles with her sexuality. With you r/askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/23 12:12 AM
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Self Discovery: I have no idea who I am supposed to be. I'm a Christian, a husband, a father, a professional, etc The cool thing is you can simultaneously be some combination all of these and none of these at the same time. I am working this out with a therapist for the last month. I think all I've learned so far is my sex life meant a LOT to me Okay but means basically nothing to my wife. Who cares. See genuine desire being hamstered elsewhere on here and Askmrp. Are you getting what you want? …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/23 04:37 PM
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It was unsustainable though, and once I throttled back to observe whether there was genuine buy-in or not, she took any and all slack I gave. What is “genuine buy-in?” I could similarities between this and “genuine desire” being hamstered on here and Askmrp. You’ve done a lot of work
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/23 03:56 PM
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Self-flagellation and being a victim are two sides of the nice guy coin that can prevent you from taking responsibility and action to make changes. What is IR IX? Iron rule of Tomassi 9 Regards the 2nd part - that's what I believe. What do you think it is? Why do you care what your culture/society says what about your relationship? You’re not acting as your own judge and appealing to your culture as an authority. If instead, you don’t want her to DMing other dudes why not own that?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/23 07:02 PM
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Pussy thoughts come into my head that I'm burning out or shit is getting hard, but I have no choice so pushing forward. You’re still doing this shit to yourself. Offer yourself compassion or else you’re just as scared of your own emotions as you are of your wife’s. IR IX Nothing suspicious from her end, but I told her that she shouldn't even be communicating with another man privately as that's a blow to my reputation in our culture. Is it really about your culture? Are you going own your shit h…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/23 03:51 PM
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I’ve been think about narcissism and how much better things are for me when I let go of the validation of being understood by others or fit others within the constraints of my own fantasy/projection.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/23 03:07 AM
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How serendipitous, I was just thinking how a lot about how life is preparedness meets opportunity like that stoic quote on luck. Almost responded to this comment from creatinecapsule a few weeks ago I'm still buzzing from the Colombian girl on Monday, so I seem to be able to make things happen just by leaving my house and being social. It amazing what happens when you just get out in live life in the world.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/23 02:48 AM
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I locked eyes with these two 18-20 year old baddies at the grocery store the other day. I saw something in their eyes that I haven't seen coming from my wife's eyes in a very long time - if ever. r/Persimmon_Dazzling is right your projecting your fantasy for freedom onto those girls. Am i willing to taint the image of a marriageable man that I've been trying to build for my daughter? I don’t know I've "started" my divorce prep, but in reality I need to find and speak with a lawyer. I've been mak…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/23 02:34 AM
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Your poor hamster ICE QUEEN. Oh shit, bold and all caps.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/23 06:34 PM
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Sounds like you have been doing a lot of hamstering. I need a partner who can keep up with me physically and sexually, and I need someone who can make my life easier. So what are you doing for this?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/23 04:41 PM
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Even with my daughter asks me to get water for her when she can do on her own. She's 10! But tries to be lazy and have me do easy tasks like her mom would. You are teaching them how to treat you. My physical touch is not welcome. My affection and kisses are not welcome. It still things when I go in for a kiss and I get denied. I still get confused and mad and hoping that I will get some affection or a touch or a kiss. Take a week long break from emotional comfort seeking and see if you need it i…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/23 03:30 PM
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The info you gave me last time as far as proposed changes seems solid. I’d say hit your target weight then go towards a theoretical maintenance calories for a week or so then into bulking. The first 1-2 weeks you may gain a fair amount of weight as described in the post above, but after that you just want to see your weight trend and lifts trend up over time. Depending on how you recovery is going in stretches for about 6 - 12 weeks, trying to overreach, reset, and jump back in. Might look like …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/23 12:59 AM
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I went on hiking date #3 with my only plate. I’m pretty sure plates are not singular. We were talking and there was something that turned me off completely. She said her son was playing with Barbies and said “that’s good”. Nope, done. Seems weird but whatever, fuck or don’t fuck for whatever reasons you want to I can’t fuck around with women that think too differently from me, it both disgusts me and poses a risk. It seems like you’re close to worshipping at the alter of Andrew Tate or whatever …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/23 03:06 AM
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There's literally nothing for me to defend explain rationalize or excuse in that conversation when she was asking me what did I tell my mom and all that. I just broken record "I didn't say anything, it's not her business". And the disrespect began because I couldn't give any info. That's when the disrespect began so I said okay you're being disrespectful and I walked out of the room. Yet you broken record defend it…. And she said "yep do what you do best and walk away from conversations." Which …
/r/askMRP03/11/23 06:24 PM
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She said some things I am not comfortable posting here but extremely disrespectful I tolerated most of it with fogging and AA. Like I said though, she was leveling up and would have gone great lengths to get me to react or argue. “Tolerance is the virtue of a man without convictions” Maybe stop tolerating bullshit
/r/askMRP03/11/23 06:10 PM
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I’ll miss ya buddy. Will pour one out.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/23 01:52 AM
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Because that's all I really hear about is emotional connection. From who? Consider the source. That is my biggest problem is connecting with her emotions. I am so autistic in this area, I don't know how to go on that ride with her. I have been making a lot more eye contact, facing her directly, being engaged and letting her talk without interrupting. That’s because you’re looking at it as something you have to do for her. It isn’t her ride, it’s yours. It isn’t about fixing her. It’s about havin…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/23 01:37 AM
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Lift hard and cut just a little weight. You’re new to training so the stimulus is likely to make adding muscle and cutting fat at the same time very reasonable for a bit. Train hard>recover>progress
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/23 12:51 AM
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I need to keep cutting fat aiming for a body weight of roughly 87kg/191lbs (last week was 230lbs), whilst working up to being able to lift 130kg x 6 on Bench 170kg x 6 on Squat This would get me to around 13.9%BF. Yep, pretty solid. With each cycle hopefully you can get leaner but, you are building a runway for growth then cleaning up what you’ve built. I like to think of it as a sculptor adding definition over time. Fuck it, I’m gonna go lift and get what I want sooner. Awesome
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/23 12:47 AM
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“you want to be autonomous but you can’t be in a relationship,” I agreed I want autonomy and disagreed that I will not have this in our relationship. You engaged in an emotional conversation based around faulty zero-sum thinking by arguing.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/23 07:22 PM
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I think I'm doing too much cardio type things and not enough lifting. Couple that with probably not eating enough calories lately, 1000-1500 most days and I think that's going to fuck up my progress long term. I've switched up my schedule to add in a day or 2 of lifting instead of the cardio work I was doing. I had been adding in cardio because I was having a hard time getting through the MA sessions. Now they're easy and I want to get stronger and change my body composition. I don’t agree with …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/23 02:06 AM
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a good partner. And there it is. You seem to project a lot of meaning onto: She asked why and I said because I don’t want to.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/23 02:39 PM
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This is a bunch of moralizing nonsense.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/23 02:25 PM
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r/askMRP (we live far from family and friends and she doesn’t like to go out) With you Last night I took the kids trick or treating after taking photos while wife stayed home to give you candy. Lol, Freudian slip
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/23 02:19 PM
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I have not been doing many lifts outside of bench/squat/deadlift/OHP, so I am now adding 3-4 sets of 3x10-15 dumbbell and cable lifts to the end of each workout. Those are pretty good ones. Add pull-ups/chin-ups and some sort of rows and that covers most of your bases. I am also going to schedule a coaching session at a local bodybuilding gym to have my form checked in person, to see if I am doing anything fundamentally wrong with my lifts that is holding me back. For bench, in particular, I fee…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/23 01:52 PM
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This is a very excellent point. Maybe I shouldn't have swooped past the BF exercise where I write myself positive affirmations. Affirmations can be helpful to cement and build self-esteem, but should come second the actions they fall in line with. Careful not leverage self-esteem without the underlying actions to back it up or you can create a bubble for yourself and your body is smart enough to suss this out. However, one of those actions can be to work/problem solve instead of negative self-ta…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 03:30 AM
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I detect some scarcity and nihilism in this. The cool thing the body rubber bands and keeps score to bookmark your progress. What I will do to achieve these goals Lift 4x per week Some sort of rep PB every session Continue 200g+ protein/day Most focus on squat which is hardest for me to improve Are any of these new variables? What will break you through your plateau? What variant of wendlars are you running? Having done wendlars 531 BBB 3 month challenge can recommend, but also just ramping up v…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 02:16 AM
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My OHP 1RM is 155, and I cannot get it up much without it being basically a push press… I am 6’4” with a torn right supraspanitus I have no plans to surgically repair. Switch goals? My goal is a 185 press for 3 reps. If I were you I would move move away from heavy 1RM. Be just as impressive if you could hit 150 for 10+ reps any specific auxiliary to do, or just eat more? Close grip bench leveled up my triceps and carried over well to my standing OHP. Also working in sets of sitting overhead barb…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 12:47 AM
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But, looking back, I had objectively better relationships with more extroverted, adventurous women that I had more in common with. It just always felt off something. Looking back now I was adverse to girls who showed too much interest or investment. I think it gave me an out avoid intimacy or closeness. I realise now that what I lacked then was the ability to polarise a woman like that. Having watched it play out now has been really interesting. I’d be interest to hear your thoughts further here…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 02:44 AM
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Do you ever lift like this? I’ve had good success with wendlars BBB>BBB 3 month challenge>then something more like Lyle McDonald’s generic bulking template with intensity techniques thrown in. I also like mostly compound lifts but even with those I’ll throw in variation over time through altering or adding things that can change the lifts some and add challenge.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 12:12 AM
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If you don't understand then study the Bible. Fuck off, you’re no different than other guy on here making excuses for himself. Do what you’re gonna do and STFU about it. You get no bonus points for playing with a handicap. Regardless of whatever book/authority you hide behind.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/23 01:01 AM
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I completed the caretaking moratorium (BF 14), although I am trying to make this an indefinite moratorium. I am working with putting myself first (BF 16). What did I notice? It was easier to notice and avoid caretaking as time went on. I stopped cleaning up (literally and figuratively) after my wife and allowed natural consequences to unfold. The dishwasher got emptied, the pan got cleaned, the laundry got done and I did not have resentment. Cool so you did something by not doing something and t…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 11:00 PM
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Set a legacy I will live for. A legacy is about what you’ve done. Go do shit first. I finally realized she's just a woman, just a person. She's not necessarily a bad person either. I've seen glimpses of what they say "your woman takes the shape of whatever you fill in". Good, yet you still say… Seeing this FA woman Bench - ? Squat - ? DL - ? OHP - ? Wtf is this? I am starting bjj seriously. As opposed to fucking around? Stopping putting on these adjectives. Do shit and tell us about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 08:08 PM
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comics, videogames, and anime are fine this guy just sucks
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/23 04:10 AM
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To what extent have you fully disengaged, and what does that look like for you? The above is not STFU it escalating boundaries.. As you practice this is helpful to mindful over/underreacting. You will have decide what and where your boundaries are, but 123 magic is a great tool on identifying manipulation and handling boundary setting that can be extrapolated outside of kids
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/23 11:25 PM
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"it's very late and I need to be up in 6 hours if I fell asleep this second. Can you let this go? Because I've already said my piece and have agreed to either course of action. I have no dog left in this." “I’m not talking about this anymore tonight.” Can you let this go? This in particular is supplicating and permissive, because the bottom line is you didn’t want to talk about it anymore and wanted to sleep. So just own that. I should have said "I don't want to be married to someone who acts li…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/23 07:23 PM
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It seems reasonable to leave her some responsibilities rather than doing it all myself. Okay I have not owned it as that's what I want for the standard. Then there really isn’t a standard set here for what your expectations are. It is just you huffing and puffing all passive-aggressive and unattractive because your wife didn’t follow some standard you never laid out. How would a masculine IN CHARGE man handle it? I don’t know how this trope you conjured in your mind would handle it, but it were …
/r/askMRP19/10/23 05:40 AM
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I'm more attractive than I was, sober 2 years, I handle shit in the house, farm and with the kids. I display competence in solving problems. I own my unattractive moments when frustrated. None of this is attractive behavior. It just means you stopped being unattractive. Those around you are less likely to applaud your efforts when they’ve have to deal with your man child tendencies for years. Bench 150x6 OHP 150x6 This is suss
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/23 02:17 AM
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I get wanting to share the notes on your experience. But from where I'm sitting, you're all trying to tell the u/BecomingABetterMan1 to hamster specific feelings. He's supposed to be angry. He can feel however he wants to feel. I wanted to put that out there. If it is helpful for him or others, great. If not that’s fine too. But that sure as fuck isn't on a day where his bitch is laying on the tests so hard she doesn't even let him sleep. That's literal torture by the Geneva Convention. I agree …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 08:30 PM
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I just don't want it to be framed as I'm doing beta things in her subconscious mind. Here lies your problem. Tell me if where up to you, how would you want to handle it? And if it is something like this: I've asked her to get up and do things but it'll be 5,10 or 20 minutes later and I just end up doing it and she's like "I was going to get that". And tries to get shitty with me. And if it's not done promptly, its annoying to me Have you owned this is what you want as the standard?
/r/askMRP18/10/23 04:38 PM
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idealized attachments I understand what you are saying, and I think it comes down to semantics. I think what you mean is you project meaning onto everything around you, because all you know comes from you and have some attachments those people/things. I don’t think you mean that you (worship/put on a pedestal/idealize) oneitis those things. Now if you do worship your F150 you wouldn’t be the first.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 01:43 PM
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You're not wrong. I fucked up my marriage in the first place - I just don't want to do it again. It feels like back tracking to let oneitis come back. I can relate to these feelings. After feeling like I’d been in a cage for my whole life, I was reluctant to make any investment for fear that I would I couldn’t trust myself not develop oneitis or fall back into my same pattern of behaviors of idealization and caretaking and end up right back in the cage. I just went from a smaller cage to a bigge…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 02:04 AM
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I have been debating whether to post here or not. I see a lot of retards looking for validation, I don't want to join these pussies. But I also see real advice, and I have learned from others, and I want to give back. Lol, you are special fucking unicorn huh. Oh well as long as you are doing it for me. Next day, Friday afternoon, she comes into my office (also son's bedroom). Passes me a note grade school style. Do I want: (a) go shopping with her, (b) have her buy me clothes (since I'm thinner)…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 12:18 AM
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Weight: I brought some accurate scales; since last Tuesday, I have lost 1.8 kg. Although the new scales show I am fatter than I realised in my previous oys posts, I am glad to have accurate data to work with. The scales tend to be very inaccurate but internally consistent in that inaccuracy. Just keep losing weight and getting stronger, if that is happening you composition is improving. What are you doing outside of weight loss and work?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 12:01 AM
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Shit I would’ve had you pegged as Mrpwtf. Bring us back some good notes traveler.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 07:49 PM
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I will put myself first - My first instinct is to caretake, and I'm realizing that my wife (and now I see daughters) acts helpless or hurt so that I can shower her with attention. It's pissing me off seeing it now, because I thought in the past that she really needed help, when she's just inconveniencing me looking for validation or comfort. My dumbass has been putting everything on hold and spending money on bullshit to keep her comfortable. Yeah it sucks finally seeing your bars on the cage. B…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 05:57 PM
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This weekend was busy with birthday parties. This pregnancy has been rough, so I took the responsibility of getting the kids where they need to go instead of letting my wife cancel everything for the kids. And I'm glad that I did. Good My goal was to be the cool dad so my son could get cool points with the kids, I told my wife the story about the balloons and bottle to see her reaction, Your writing doesn’t lie, you care a lot about what other people think about you. Why not reframe that those s…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 03:14 PM
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I hear you like hosting Barbecues
/r/askMRP17/10/23 12:32 AM
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This is dumb and in line with just being a better punching bag. This just makes you Charlie Brown forever trying to kick the football only to have it pulled out from underneath you, but it’s all okay because your were calm. Better if people play shitty games is to go find games you like better.
/r/askMRP12/10/23 02:33 AM
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Do you got hurt feelings?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/23 01:40 AM
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It could be for any number of reasons. But yes sometimes people say they don’t want something when they actually do. It’s called a reaction formation. They get to spare their ego of being vulnerable and if they end up getting what they want they can appear magnanimous in doing so. Don’t eat paint warning: sometimes no does mean a hard no.
/r/askMRP11/10/23 11:42 PM
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My mind fixated on it so I asked, "who was the father of that miscarriage?" The two ways I look at this are you can try to find peace with the fact that this is or your genetic wiring sounding off alarms because biologically anything related to confirmation of paternity probably sets those off. Being mindful of those feelings to see that even when they come intensely that they will eventually pass or; You need to set the soft/hard boundary that you need to know, understanding that there are pote…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 05:31 PM
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Good girl, prude, With you Have been working out in my own gym, 4-5 days a week. Dumbbells, push ups, pull ups, situps. Gained 3lbs of muscle, lost approx 9lbs of fat. Do the core barbell movements I couldn't help it and had a conversation with the wife about lack of sex, intimacy. This was after a conversation about how I had gotten sick after going out (without her), and she had come in and yelled at me to man up and I was keeping her up. I told her next day, 'you're being a dick and I don't w…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 03:11 PM
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I realize this is the theory. I have yet to see an example of it. Rather the opposite. The less attention you pay, the more she chases, ad infinitum. I think of eyumnoodle whom displayed complete indifference to his LTR as an example. Even nuking that confrontation provides as much comfort through direction to at least demonstrate “hey I don’t like what you are doing knock that shit off.” I’m not saying I disagree, but taking this to artistic extremes what pragmatic purpose would it have for me …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 02:43 PM
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Protein, greens, veggies. Stay away from sweet treats and stuff that's not fuel for the body. Dude I had two great periods of bulking where I ate a decent amount Taco Bell and Oreos dipped in peanut butter. This is orthorexic as fuck and only serves add mysticism to food and make you feel powerless. CICO with calorie tracking app was very helpful for me gain control of my weight and eating habits, while changing my relationship with food.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 10:45 PM
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Giving them friendly shit. Calling them on dumb opinions. Generally acting like I matter more than they do. It’s acting if you’re in the fake it until you make it stage, but how does it feel to you? I'm weaksauce at this According to who? Because this my friend: as I get called sweet, kind, and nice frequently Is a shit test. I’d A&A the shit out of that I don't think I've ever been called a jerk or an asshole Let go the need for asshole validation and just be the asshole you want to be. I also …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 09:41 PM
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I’ve unconsciously viewed every relationship in my life as transactional for the last 5 years Relationships are transactional, but that doesn’t mean you need play games you don’t want to or constantly keep count. My codependent pattern is to always be the receiver. It isn’t a very fun way to live, it feels very extractive. When others give to me I feel guilty. By making this decision for them you are robbing them of their autonomy to make this decision for themselves. Listening to my intuition, …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 07:53 PM
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Yeah, but I do need less respect for them. Define what asshole game looks like to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 07:42 PM
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Overall, I was glad with challenging myself. I found some interesting conversations, found new places that I liked, and now I know some things for me to read up and work on. I think the most important thing I need to do is build my confidence. This means more reading, more practicing, and also more self-actualization. When I act as my own mental point of origin, and don’t care about external approval, and just go after what I want, then my confidence will naturally flow. I’m looking forward to g…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 07:29 PM
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_RPeed gave me solid feedback that have shaped some my views on comfort. I think it is easier for me to look at it as inattention vs attention/time instead alpha vs beta. I think if you dailed up the inattention dial too much a girl would eject. So when 2wo2wo3hree provides the above example, in my mind he is providing comfort just an another shade. I also think some guys may take particularly bad shitty comfort tests face value kind of like when Sepean describes about his wife threatening to le…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/23 09:35 PM
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Plus, when you really understand women, you see this isn’t a conversation per se. So it’s like watching a kitten play with a piece of string or something. This is really beautiful. I’d add that it almost a mark of adoration more like a kitten bringing you a rat or a child wanting picture they have drawn to hang on the fridge. Doesn’t mean I always listen because sometimes I have shit to do, which is just being. However, the above mental models helped me to let go of my defensiveness from wanting…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/23 08:59 PM
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This is a mess, which is why for I keep telling you hammer the basics. You worried about D/s and finding greater meaning in your life when you don’t understand the applications of the basic tools Pressure Flip: abruptly reverse the question back at whose asking... doesn't work, question comes back to me afterwards anyways. "what were you out doing so late?" "I was with my other family - what you were doing out so late?". This is DEERing. Think negative inquiry “How late is too late?” I don’t see…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 07:40 PM
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She said "I don't want the only time I spend with you to be when we have sex." Shit test. and I didn't know how to respond to be totally honest. Outside of this last week with the comfort I gave, I haven't spent really any time with her that wasn't with my dick inside her. Cool, Then STFU and act on it. The rest of that tells me your non-verbals likely displayed that you bought into the reality she was shaping. I'm trying to understand D/s dynamics and aftercare is such a huge part of being Dom …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 07:29 PM
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Not here for gym advice, I don't need it. IDC if y'all think it's gay - I don't like having chest hair and trimming it turns me into a f*cking cactus. STFU I pushed for her to cuddle with me afterwards, but she resisted - not sure why. Sounds like she rejected some needy cuddles… cuddles are a gift if she doesn’t want them no big deal because they were a gift and you only gave me because you had them to give. Read this and all the comments what did I do? I'm reading The Unchained Man 2.0 current…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 03:55 PM
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This is getting a bit DEERy, but: I make all the dinners, have done so for years. I enjoy it and I have full control over the macros. I need to lose about 55lbs. 1-2 weeks is not enough of course, or do you mean cycling PSMF with IIFYM? Then cook what you want to eat that is line with your goals or is this when I cook a healthy dinner for the family I feel guilty? Other points, why drink alcohol at all right now? There is nothing wrong with alcohol, but it is counterintuitive to your goals when …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 03:15 PM
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But, if someone’s mind is made up, more talking signals powerlessness, and I didn’t want to yield my personal power. According to who? Can’t get hurt if your not vulnerable, right? I didn't ask her what it was she wanted to say those last few times. After all that you’re still looking to her frame for answers? What was it that you wanted? Perhaps after this, I also considered that this was a result of the demotion from fiance to girlfriend, and a short breakup from last year. This The first time…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/23 07:33 PM
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I also didn't want to post about it because it would get picked apart and conclusions would be jumped to You care too much about what other people think. IDK if it's an ADHD thing or whatever, but trying to explain events to other people just doesn't work well for me... Behavioral modifications that work at reducing impulsivity general work best when practiced, but as long as you accept this as who you are it won’t change. Start by practicing STFU
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/23 02:55 PM
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When I got rejected I just went to sleep and chilled alone the rest of the day, didn’t really get all that upset, didn’t want it that bad I guess. The porn makes me less horny I guess. “You can’t fire me, I quit” There is a lot in there about your wife. There is also a lot about what your are going to do or need to do, but what have you actually done and what were the results?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/23 01:11 PM
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I'm lacking So what does the version of you look like who isn’t and what tangible actions can you take to build him?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 10:23 PM
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Around sex/resentment? Not great. On a macro level its fine, i calm down and move on. But, in the moment, i cant help myself. Got any recommendations? I'm back to getting the line, "I could have sex if you want to," This is a shit test. Take some inspiration from The Boys or Horns
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 08:32 PM
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I got butthurt from rejection and tried to negotiate desire. I don't know why I can't always just swallow my resentment (or better yet let it fucking go) when I know better. Learned my lesson, was recovering back at home when we got bad new about my wife's pregnancy. Short version is that the baby has a defect where worst case scenario it dies in the womb or shortly after birth but best (most likely) case scenario it has a normal life... after months in the hospital and multiple surgeries. Also …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 06:23 PM
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Drank a couple times at home. Not a good thing. Stress of dealing with the wife's bs/not getting needs met. You choose this. Stop being a victim Some knee and shoulder pain but it's only lasting a day after lifting and it's not too bad but it makes me worried I've hitting my limit on the squats Increase the reps with lowered weight, but keep the intensity will help your joints. However, a greater urgency to deal with this: 345# Would probably do a lot more for your joints
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 02:12 PM
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”yes, and this isn’t just about that. I’m not going to just take time for myself once a year when you go away for a retreat. This is something I’m going to start doing.” Same way you don’t negotiate desire you don’t need to negotiate this outside of logistics. Lead with your actions over words. But it felt so much more head clearing to just walk out the door before dinner and decide to do things only for me (I hit golf balls and drove around). Awesome Everyone I know has a similar issue of tight…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 02:03 PM
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I also learned that I'm an enmesher - captain save em. Reflecting on past relationships, I always went for fixer uppers. Learning the various reasons why that is. I also have a severely addictive personality. Whether it's nicotine to cope with stress, sex to cope with feelings of inadequacy, need for validation, antidote to anxiety, whatever else... I have serious problems, and this section on sex in NMMNG has been the most uncomfortable and difficult. I have to reread it, because I started skip…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 01:21 PM
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I found this but I’m sure there’s another one that specifically includes bodybuilders and shows there is no upper limit to how attractive LBM is - contrary to both popular belief and what the respondents in the study said in interviews. Who needs evidenced-based studies. /thread haha
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 02:16 AM
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Nice. You should change your name to "LooksMax" or "Mother_of_BlackPill". 😂 Haha, my next incarnation will be simping_aint_easy6969. What about you? What programming did you use to get the last 10-20% increase in your PL total and what programming are you using now? [No strict program, I like compounds lifts with variations]
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 01:02 AM
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6’2” 213 Bench 270x10 Squat 345x12 TBD 405x10
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/23 12:37 PM
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For most people here, big3/big4 are absolutely required as a baseline for strength. I've got 17.5" biceps and a 32" waist with a standing 6 pack the advice I need to follow simply doesn't align with what others need. My FFMI is 27, which is very close to stage NPC bodybuilder size. I just don't want to diet down that far... 10% is plenty lean for me. Dude there are world class bodybuilders that bench, squat, and deadlift. Stop being a special snowflake. I do agree that you can put your looks at …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/23 10:26 PM
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Pursuing release from tension is a noble goal, but only if effected through conscious labor toward a higher goal, a passion, or a calling, and not through escapism and laxity. What if that passion or goal is hedonism? Go ahead and navel gaze, but be careful not put things on a pedestal. Things are not good or bad, but can be situationally if they are counter to what your goals are for what you want. For instance: I don’t want to be a tyrant so I’ll pair my authority with responsibility as I see …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 12:50 AM
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That soliloquy in your OYS is a lot of words to say I won’t tolerate lying to me and follow the budget (assuming you have laid one out).
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 12:03 AM
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You OYS to tell us you still suck. Physical - Bad Finance - Bad Work- Bad Relationship - Plateau Frame - Bad When given feedback you DEER and talk over without listening to what is being said to you. You are your own worst enemy.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/23 07:29 PM
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I had an exchange recently that helped me to view guidance and direction as beta qualities. They are a gift to provide someone who is interested in with how they may fit into your life. Proactive come to Jesus speeches or guidance/direction do not work because you are providing comfort that is not being asked for and this made even worse if you are doing to try to comfort yourself after attempting to establish a boundary as it appears u/becomingabetterman1 has done. Guys are being shit tested an…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/23 06:54 PM
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Dude your stats are mid ignore that keep lifting and lean out some more.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 12:07 AM
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I've always been a sexual opportunist, and I think a lot of men are (hard to say no when it’s offered/easy. This is really just lack of abundance. If I knew that every night there would be a hot 24yo knocking on my door asking to fuck, I wouldn't feel like I was missing out by turning down today. Scarcity and lack of ownership. You’re still a victim now just to your biology apparently. Interesting little messed up mental model I have discovered whilst doing this - I had this weird thought that t…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/23 03:20 PM
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Both your gf and calisthenics are on a pedestal.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/23 07:54 PM
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Depends on the hole
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/23 05:43 PM
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”This is going to be lame you wanna go for a walk instead" Compare this to “Come with me, let’s go have some fun”
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/23 12:59 AM
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Define “desire” for me? If it is shorthand for what you want then that could be any myriad of reasons for that that your wife or somebody else is not aware of. Therefore you can be confident and maintain a frame in which you accept your wants for whatever they are and have subsequent non verbals to back it up, while you could also initiate from what you want but in a submissive, approval seeking, supplicating manner. she didn't want to be responsible About taking ownership and responsibility for…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/23 12:51 AM
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Also restarted tracking calories. My BMR is 2600 so I'm shooting for 2700-2800. Dafuq…. Literally all health markers improve from carrying less fat. You are morbidly obese and can get by with as few calories as possible as your body has heaps of fat it can and will burn to sustain you. u/_rpeed’s PSMF is grounded in science to build muscle while losing fat. But alternatively you could get by with not eating for weeks you are so fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/23 02:12 PM
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Goal 1: a healthy weight. Target: 225 lbs by Sep 1, 2024. I am a fat fuck. Getting to a healthy weight is my top priority. I have had success with keto in the past for losing weight, but it’s too hard to adhere as a long-term maintenance diet. So this time (since 9/1/23), I’m trying intermittent fasting + minimal added sugars, aka don’t eat garbage. If it works for you it works, but this also could just be another trap. Go ahead and do the diet but remove the mysticism from it and count the calo…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/23 01:53 PM
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There is a line a tension that exists, which is attraction. The self depreciation, jokes, safe, nice guy behavior is your means to ease your own anxiety masked as charitable behavior. So stop, STFU and exist within that space of tension. It is in itself a shit test. She sent her number and asked me out for a drink. Settled on a place walking distance from her house, in 2 days Haha, you had already won. She set up logistics and plausible deniability for you. You were the Falcons up 28-3 at halfti…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/23 01:25 PM
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What does the version of you look like that is the prize? Perhaps once you’re being him, you won’t have to pretend to as much. However, I live through constant power struggles. For over a year now I get called an asshole regularly (for taking my own time, meeting with friends for dinner, or whatever) and sometimes I am called a bad father, jerk, dork, or similar. Perhaps you should stop putting up with bullshit I mostly STFU about it but was really annoyed and probably acted butthurt.It is now m…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/23 07:42 PM
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The amount of effort needed to convert these women to IRL dates and the logistics involved as a single father dealing with single moms is alot. With you The assisted captain's chair has been helping me alleviate elbow pain from bursitis while still challenging me. Been taking creatine and Ashwaganda for several months now and the frequency of reaching new PRs has started to plateau again. Eat more. Do more volume/sets in the 8-20 range. No need to max curl 90 and risk tearing your bicep.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/23 05:54 PM
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It is cute to get someones chicks number, but if you don't get laid, then you don't get to pat yourself on the back That’s great outcome independence there.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/23 08:16 PM
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but it's fucking annoying tbh. Tell me you’re emotional reactive without telling me your are emotionally reactive You’ve enabled this behavior I'm pretty sure the solution is to walk away, but if I do that - she's going to think I'm butthurt even if I'm not. The solution according to who? Stay out of your wife’s head, anything but your truth here is a shit test. I'm absolutely shit at trying to summarize situations. It's an ADHD thing (I'm diagnosed). Stop hiding behind your weaknesses. If this …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 11:51 PM
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Do you squat low bar or high bar? I’ve been pleased with more of the bodybuilding approach. 4x12 or something with less weight and more reps in a controlled fashion is going to put significantly less stress on your joints/tendons.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 10:43 PM
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Health: 350# I'm a fat fuck but I'm working on it. I'm down 30# this year already. Got a trainer 11 months ago. Because I've been working with a trainer I haven't been tracking my lifts. The single most important thing you can be doing for yourself and deflected the responsibility to someone else. Any calorie tracking app, step counter, and workout log book are a good place to start.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 07:46 PM
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Maybe I just don't have the frame to reign in these addictive / BPD / high on the hot crazy matrix girls but I've had a few who blew my mind sexually but not a chance in hell I would trust them to raise my kids. Women are just women, some Madonna-whore shit you’re dealing with here. I wonder if this is a time to lay out a vision of what I would need Go ahead negotiate desire post your notes and let us know how it goes. but not a chance in hell I would trust them to raise my kids. Why would women…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 12:53 AM
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My bench has been poverty for a long time, I did a pulling-centric sport in college so I can bent over row 315 for reps, but my bench has always lagged. Instead of DEERing what is your plan then? I am finishing books, just doing it my way a few at a time swapping around. NMMNG x2, WISNIFG 50%, Prioritize WISNIFG and I still recommend reading 123 magic it is simplistic and has a section on tools of manipulation that can be used against you and easy to extrapolate rules for boundary setting. I als…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/23 12:05 AM
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Relationship - Been shutting the fuck up. I have so many urges to say stuff and when I stop to think about it it's always negotiating desire, or bitching, or something resentful, or something else useless so I just shut the fuck up instead Good keep doing this. I feel taken for granted sexually You choose that cage Failed a comfort test on Friday, but in the fallout I finally felt what it means to be the oak and filled that role, and she actually got super horny and we did it in the shower 10' a…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 09:00 PM
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It came to a head in June when I told her ILYBINILWY. I had opportunities in shit tests and comfort tests earlier than this but this was during a very calm discussion and months of her not contributing to the relationship. Since then things have been pleasant between us as I plan towards the separation. I have been given the opportunity to defuse the situation and get back together about once a week but I’ve held firm that separating for now would be the best for any potential rekindling we coul…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 08:39 PM
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I have had good results prioritizing intensity first then volume utilizing recovery as needed. Most sets RIR around 0-2 in 8-20 rep range with a fast concentric/slow eccentric tempo Pushing volume and intensity, trying to overreach over the course of several weeks, then pulling back. My goals are primarily for aesthetics/hypertrophy with strength as an added benefit. You will get strong this way but it is slowly over time and performance can vary between workouts. High RIR is good for strength t…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/23 04:08 PM
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Physical: Last AMRAP (Following Phrak’s GSLP): Squat 260x10, Deadlift 3340x5, Bench 172.5x7, Barbell row 232.5x10, Overhead Press 107.5x7, chin ups 20x5 If you have the time now. Perhaps explore taking the training wheels off, increasing volume and intensity. If you squat 260x10 the two sets of 5 likely are not doing much to grow you. Also the 20 sets of chin-ups at 5 reps is probably is incorporating quite a bit of junk volume. What happens if you do fewer sets but at a higher rep closer to fai…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 09:52 PM
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but I half-assed it and then dropped everything for about 6 months, just now getting back into things. Lifting/fitness: BP 140, DL 235, OHP 105,S 230. I 30, 5'9", 180 lbs This all sucks. Career and social are the only areas where it looks like are you doing anything. Why. Life is a struggle, I've got my own internal shit to deal with Life is mostly easy today, but I’ll grant there times where it is extraordinarily difficult. That being said, life has always been hard. You are not special in that…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 07:43 PM
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A few days later, we are intimate. Afterwards, she decides to tell me that it's not enjoyable most of the time for her, it frustrates her, and that she rarely wants to engage in intimacy except for a very small window during the month. Shit test I knew the second part, but not the first. I was immediately tempted to start DEER'ing, but I STFU and left the room. Yeah, your nonverbals totally failed here but good job on keeping your mouth shut until…. I deciding to be as direct as possible to shar…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 12:01 PM
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My initial thought is that I don't want to settle with friendship with this woman. I heard that once you're in friendzone its too hard to exit it Scarcity mindset So maybe I can suggest we workout together sometimes? Is this what you want or are you looking for a MRP to tell you that it is okay? Of course friendship would be implied. Some nice guy bullshit there. Why imply anything?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/23 01:23 AM
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when I don’t cum I feel guilty
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/23 01:42 AM
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You have. I’m going to try to fake it until I make and see what the results are. I think I’m failing comfort tests, as I kind of view control game as some comfort measure. I have to be invested to put her to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/23 01:19 AM
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I found myself frustrated a lot. I took my spouse on a date. We may get to go on a quick date once a month if we're lucky. We were both dressed up. We had a great dinner and came back home. Within 3 minutes of getting home, my spouse is getting out of her clothes into pajamas and into the bed to play on her phone. I don't know why, but this infuriated me. Bullshit This kind of thing is maddening to me since I have communicated over and over again in a variety of ways that I am not needy at all, …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/23 01:05 AM
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I don't know if this is hampstering or trying to be prudent and prepared - but I'm coming up on an important 3 months - quite a while ago, when we were still fucking like rabbits, blue-pilled me agreed with my wife that we'd start to try to have a kid in November of this year (various reasons) and that's going to come up soon. I am not sure how to handle this as I know overt mouth noise communication isn't going to be useful and negotiating desire is counterproductive. "I don't want to have a ki…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/23 10:06 PM
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Still thinking about this. What helped you bridge from indifference game to control game?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/23 05:25 PM
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Alcohol is not good or bad. Carbs are not good or bad. Take your orthorexia elsewhere. It shouldn’t take convincing for me to do the right thing for myself. According to who. And if that who is you, then why? It’s doing something for you or you wouldn’t being doing it, right? Perhaps, answering that question is important. They’re just food. Take them off the same pedestal you have your wife on.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/23 04:25 AM
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Your lower body stuff seems pretty good. Upper body seems fairly weak. If you’re not doing some lat work I’d add in pull-ups/chin-ups or lat pulldowns as well. 5x5 is okay, but if you goal towards aesthetics or just adding muscle moving towards the 8-20 rep range may be more effective for you. And if your 10% body fat eat more and profit
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/23 04:03 AM
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STATS: Age: 29, height: 5’10”, weight: 78 kg, body fat: 10% LIFTS: Squat: 140 kg (5x5), Dumbbell Bench Press: 45 kg (5x5), Deadlift: 140 kg (5x5, will go for heavier later in the week), Military Press: 80 kg (5x5). Something seems off here. You OHP 176lbs for 5x5, but barley bench press 100lbs. Your squat is as much as you deadlift.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/23 08:40 PM
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You get stuck in a loop like groundhogs day.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 10:00 PM
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Is this the frame you want to have? If you do this here, you do it elsewhere also. Take some time away and practice being your own authority.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/23 12:17 AM
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8/5/2023 I Have not posted my own OYS in a long while. Posted previously under different accounts. Been doing stuff Mid 30s married 6’2” 210 Lifting Squat 315x14/15 BP 260x12 TB Deadlift 405x11 OHP 155x10 pull-ups BW around 25-30 Work Decided I did not want to move towards a management track although the road was pretty well paved for one if I wanted it. Able to make more money and do less stuff I don’t want to this way. Brought my income from around 100k to around 150K this past year. Looking t…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/23 08:25 PM
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When I don’t cum I feel guilty.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/23 11:33 AM
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I’d start with Wisnifg, NMMNG, and 123magic. Links above. I don’t know where all of Blarg’s stuff is maybe u/ragnar_daneskjold has the link. I meant that it's embarrassing to give someone a ride when you're car is in shambles According to who?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/23 01:33 AM
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Read MitW post over over/under reacting, J10hearts, blarg’s stuff, WMP 123 magic is a great supplement as well. You are not setting clear boundaries or enforcing them and then blowing up in beta rage. Passive>passive>aggressive outburst. Give a coworker a ride in your car, and have your entire car filled with random shit and it's dirty... Warning/expectations “I’m okay with you using the car, but I expect all trash and items to be cleaned from it before I go to use it” Happens again you’ve tempo…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/23 08:26 PM
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What do you mean by Anti-inflammatories Not sure what health issues you are dealing with, but the localized inflammation with weight lifting is likely an important part of hypertrophy/growth.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/23 04:54 AM
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"if we had sex only when I wanted to then we would get divorced because it wouldn't be much at all." WTF? Shock aside, how do I own that? You don’t own that. It is her bullshit. If you are attractive as framed by your actions as viewed from yourself over time you get to be your own judge on that. If the adage “with you” holds true then it also holds that it only applies to who you are in any moment in time . You failed this shit test. The next day I let her know why it bothered me. It was a bit …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/23 03:20 PM
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Dude that’s called being fat stop hamstering/DEERing it into something else. When women say dad bods they are talking about 11-14% body fat. Worst case she leaves me and my problems go away anyway shrugs. You’re full of shit by the way. so the unattractiveness over a long term is likely the larger issue. Good insight. Keep reading and lean heavy into STFU
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/23 02:55 AM
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Lifting:The gym is my sacred place. I am there 6-7 days a week. Exercise is not a problem. I have been eating at a slight surplus for 3-4 months and gained a couple pounds of muscle. Overall, I feel great. Cool, post your lifts. I gave so much of myself that I began to feel taken for granted a lot. So if that is the catalyst of your anger and resentment how do you solve that issue, and what are you getting out of this arrangement? Thinking that, I thought the one time in a decade I want to have …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/23 12:39 AM
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This reminds me of a panel of the The Boys Anyway I second what u/hornsofapathy said. Just STFU the net neutral will be a positive over your unattractive behavior. Your wife has gaslighted you to the point that your actions are reinforcing her mental illness. STFU will also allow you to realize that your wife’s emotions will not hurt you. That you can stand in the storm and be okay. read nmmng, wisnifg, and I also recommend 1.2.3 magic the kids book. It is boundary setting for dummies. Take that…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/23 02:28 PM
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What am I to reconsider? Is the value in what I gave you matter only if I have the prestige to back it up? inactionable resent me for being a swine she needs to mother after. Stop breaking IR9 Stats - 28yo, 6’1”, 229.5 lbs. Wife is 35, married 1/2 year, together for two years. Be less fat. your whole OYS Develop frame and game with actions first. You can rationalize the details post hoc
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/23 12:36 AM
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authentic desireTM I could really give fuck all about this any longer. Again: doesn’t really matter imo. The prescription is the same. I know this is the prescriptive advice, but I was more interested in the case study. In particular this: All Indifference Game, no Control Game. Did you resolve this while in your LTR and if so what were the results? If not, was it just easier to implement for you with a blank slate?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/23 07:23 PM
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So what was your experience applying control game to your LTR? egalitarian Are you sure that’s what this was?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/23 01:06 AM
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I am dialing down the verbal validation I give her on her looks and achievements - I'm unwinding her being on a pedestal in my head, time to make my actions congruent. This is backwards. Start with the actions and see where it leads your head. The more I learn, the farther behind I feel. Farther behind what? Where was it you were supposed to be? She's commented on it this week in a negative fashion, saying I'm 'losing my ass'. Onward to 6 pack. Swing and a miss
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/23 05:46 PM
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