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You don't want a girl who's fucked half the town? You're just jealous and frustrated that you're not valuable enough to have fucked half the town yourself is a strange position to take. It's a strange position because you added an assumption that I never made. When you say " You don't want a girl", you're implying that these low count guys that are criticizing these girls were provided with an opportunity to sleep with any of them and turned them down... when in reality, no such offer made. In t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 12:25 AM
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I think the real term here is jealousy. The only men that criticize sexually active women are lower value men who are frustrated at their own low count. I've met many guys who have a high count, and they don't give a rat's ass about the girl's count. There is a certain sense of confidence, or arrogance, that "while yes, there may have been 100 guys behind me, I'm going to rock your world like none of them did. And if you don't like it, then who cares, there's a dozen other girls that I can be wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 08:30 PM
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> Because homeless women will raped It's interesting how feminists always advocate that women are aren't equal to men and should live by a privileged set of rules (for example in this case, they shouldn't be held to a mutually agreed upon social contract in a relationship.. because the woman could be raped), while at the same time, always screaming "women are equal to men and should be treated the same". -B
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 04:34 PM
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>don’t think I could ever go further than a casual/fwb relationship with a single mom. Wanna see how many others align w this.. 1) It's one of the easiest ways to date above your weight class. That 9 with 2 kids is now a 6 at best because of the attitude of guys not wanting anything to do with her. 2) You say that you couldn't go further, and that is your intention at the moment, but intentions change as the relationship progresses... the road to hell is paved with good intentions :) -B
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 05:38 PM
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What are some ways you observe these traits outside a relationship? Watch how she treats others. Winner Winner Chicken Dinner!! -B
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 05:32 PM
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> they're very picky, set in their ways and will constantly try to make you feel like you're wrong or lesser if you disagree. It's the same song and dance...shit tests but on steroids. You need to respond in kind and maintain your frame of dominance, playfulness and not caring. Call her out for being brat, and tell her she's going to get a spanking if she continues with her behavior :) -B
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 06:34 AM
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Does PUA actually work? It worked for me, I went from a guy who was extremely uncomfortable talking to any girl outside, such as my waitress at a restaurant, to dating multiple girls for long periods of time, sleeping with over 50 girls, and 2 marriages. ​ If so which PUA's ideas worked best for you? There are 2 sides to becoming successful with pickup, 1) the tools / techniques 2)the inner game - how you feel about yourself. People starting out are obsessed with the techniques, they will downlo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 03:09 PM
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> Go read through the sugaring subreddits. It's not a binary situation. Plenty of sugar babies are attracted to their sugaring partner lets say 4-6/10 Yes exactly. I haven't done it myself, but I know 2 older guys that have, and I've witnessed multiple times how a transactional relationship moves towards a more organic one through the passage of time. The girls become "comfortable" with the guys, and its no longer gross, just becomes normal. I have seen them move the girls in after about 6 month…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 04:39 AM
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>What is the functional difference between a sugar relationship and most marriages involving wealthy men? The difference is that the guy can continue to get new sugar babies without losing half of his wealth after every girl. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 04:30 AM
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> Personally, I don't find the company of women that enjoyable. It is often boring (YOU have to be her entertainer) at best and at worse it costs money and patience and resources, even if you are sexually interested in her. First, being an orbiter shouldn't be costing you money or patience. While I'm already with between 1-3 girls at any given time, I try to make time to text the other 10 or so girls whenever I'm doing anything fun, which happens a lot. I text them all the exact same quote/pic/e…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 04:25 AM
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> Would you feel offended or put off by a woman having a 2-3 month no sex rule? No, but at the same time, I would keep things very casual and still date other girls. If we haven't had sex yet, we are not together. Even if we did have sex, we are probably not together, but DEFINATELY not before hand... we are like friends who enjoy spending time together once in a while. > Do you think women should do this to filter out guys who just want to sleep with them? No, because I don't think its effectiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 03:34 AM
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> Chill out a bit. I've heard red pill guys advocate treating women like employees. Great advice, especially in the early stages of a relationship. Be a boss, don't be a petty insecure tyrant. I treat mine as children. I reward them when they are good, spank them when they are bad, I love them and take care of them. It works out very well, girls naturally conform to this behavior and enjoy it :) -B
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 02:21 PM
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> Lol imagine getting relationship advice from a 18 year old woman. ... and yet her advice is sufficiently over your head that you can't argue with it, so instead you try to attack the person behind it. Since you brought up 'imagination', I date a lot of younger girls (early 20's), and naturally the topic of some of the companies I founded and run comes up, and there have been several times where I have gotten great advice about some new idea I'm trying to implement, and there is a lot more genu…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 04:28 AM
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Not really, because from I've seen, HVM's don't consider women as 'sluts' just because they are sexually active. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 08:43 PM
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> I cannot understand why any person looking for a serious relationship would not support the FDS 3-month for sex strategy. The reason you wouldn't want to make guys wait 3 months is because you will filter out all of the high value males that have many options, they will drop you once it is known that you are resistant to moving things forward, and end up with desperate men, who are more willing to jump through whatever hoops that are outside of societal norms. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 04:21 PM
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> Whilst it cannot be denied that women's value is more closely tied to their physical appearance, women have far more latitude with which to beautify themselves; When it comes to sexual marketplace value, women's value is attached to looks and is difficult to improve. Men's value is attached to status, money, looks, personality, etc. and is MUCH easier to improve upon. Also, our SMV rises as we are adults, while for them its great at 18-21 and then just steadily declines. >men still constitute …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 04:45 PM
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>These two things are not mutually exclusive. You can both not think women should be free agents and also seek women who agree with you Yes that's true, but you're missing the point. We are discussing the typical behavior of RP men, not what they 'can' do. Are they attending rallies to remove women's freedoms, trying to get laws overturned, making comments on boards saying that women should have no freedoms... etc.. or do they spend their time evaluating women in their lives that have those valu…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 09:16 PM
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Sex is consensual. Noone used anyone here Just because it's consensual, doesn't negate the fact that its still transactional. When you say 'used', you're implying someone victimized someone else, that doesn't have to be the case if they each got what they wanted out of it. ​ Money, relationship, status. In which case it’s just prostitution with a few extra steps. LOL, yes prostitution by the hour vs by the decade (get married, divorced, take half of his stuff plus child support and alimony, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 09:11 PM
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men have used women for their bodies and women have used men for their resources, and this is still common today I think that being used for your body is a bit more dehumanising than being used for your resources Of course it is, that's why men always had, and always will have it better.. and there's NO amount of feminism, government programs, laws, or cultural norms favoring women, or women pretending that things don't get far worse than men as they age is going to change this fact. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 03:57 AM
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they do not think women should be allowed to reject such a system That's nonsense. They go out and seek women that are in line with their values, meaning that there are women out there already that are freely choosing to live like this. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 08:02 PM
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Men are inherently pursuers and conquers. That’s in your biology. It’s masculine to initiate, plan, LEAD. If women start to do this then we step into our masculine energy.en don’t seem to like that either and it tends to push men away. If you don’t lead, then women think you’re not interested. And healthy women won’t chase you. Emotionally unstable women with low self esteem might step into their masculinity to imitate more. Yes exactly! -B
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 04:29 PM
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Meeting someone and being in a relationship isn't the same thing, you need to see the whole picture, and see the advantages that men have. ​ I'd say no less than 90% of my dates with women have been very one-sided: I have to initiate everything from the first conversation to the planning to the kissing to the sex to the future dates whilst they seem to sort of sit back and enjoy the ride, even when they're interested. Yes, you have to put on a show for girls, as do the other guys. However, you c…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 04:16 PM
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>Shouldn’t more “masculine men” be supporting feminism and womens rights to access abortion, especially if it will make both parties better off? Aside from the religious aspects, there is also a subset of men who don't like how they have no decision making power over the process, and limiting abortion give them some power back. If two consenting adults have sex, the woman alone decides whether to tell the guy, whether to have the abortion, whether to have an adoption, whether to put his name on …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 01:06 AM
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She said in the past she's had 3 or 4 FWB that she liked hanging with and when they confessed feelings to her she responded "why did you have to ruin this?" Yup, the hotter/more experienced the girl, the more you have to create an environment where she has to 'chase' you for the relationship. Guys always ruin this by confessing feelings/asking for more etc.. even when the girl explicitly tell you not to... haha The relationship should be a prize that you are offering her that she has to earn. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 08:16 PM
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Obviously i know its cause of the shame factor but i've overheard unnecessarily crass things said to men by drunk women and attempted assaults Women? Why? Women's true nature is displayed when there is no physical threat... they are also very mean to each other -B
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 06:11 AM
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Men need women. Women don't need men that much. ...and that explains all the nature shows where guys are living in the forest away from civilization... you ever see one featuring a female?? Wonder why? ​ If paired-up women are happier being in a romantic relationship.. why is it that the majority of romantic relationships are ended by women? Because the guys in those relationships are lazy. They also want to leave, but know that it will take effort to find the next relationship, to continue havi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 08:32 PM
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Is "chasing" women that said no to your date advances ever worth it? Yes, but the key is to keep them as "orbiters", don't focus on "one" girl.. ever... If I'm doing something interesting, attending a concert, doing outdoor stuff, or even just sharing a funny pic, I will message the same thing to 5 or 10 girls.. that have all said 'no' several times.... its fun to see how they all respond differently... Tip: I'm always already with a girl whenever doing something, so I try to sneak in a pic or t…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 08:45 PM
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The sex worker would have a civil case for the breach and probably a criminal fraud case if the customer made the deal without intending to pay. You can't enforce an illegal contract. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 07:46 PM
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>Society should embrace non-monogamy This is already happening. The top X% of males are sleeping with most of the females.. the only difference right now is that the females don't know about each other... -B
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:29 AM
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The weight isn't the issue. It's everything that comes with it Yes, exactly. You are limiting yourself in what activities the 2 of you will be doing together. Want to walk around the park or hike on a trail? Want to go kayaking? Want to take a flight and see that she doesn't fit in her seat (or has to get an extension belt or is uncomfortable/embarrassed etc...), want to go to a sporting event and try to see her fit in the little seats? want to ride in the new mario kart ride? .... I like to do …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 08:12 PM
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> What are signs that a person is using you as second choice or is settling for you? There's no easy or objective way to discover this... you might think one way would be comparing how she treats and behaves towards you v.s. previous bf's, assuming you had the luxury of knowing this.. but even that would be faulty because treatment is a two-way street and many people will treat you only in ways in which 'you allow' them to do so.... > Most men and women dont want to date someone whom they find o…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 06:41 PM
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A lot of us aren’t thinking about dating, marriage, or settling down fresh out of high school. So there’s no rush like there was over 3 decades ago. Great, I'm not thinking about those things either! Let's keep this casual ​ Modern men are scared that they aren’t wanted like they were that long ago and it’s true. Only the desperate ones. The guys that are able to pull are VERY happy with this new reality. In the past, girls always wanted you to commit to them, to settle down, have kids, etc.. No…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 06:02 AM
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So, genuine question, why is sexual exclusivity important to you, if it is? Where do you think that idea came from? Primarily, I think it stems from jealousy and wanting a level of control in the relationship. In men, its because they view the relationship as a purchase or an "investment", for sex in return. Initially they buy flowers, dinners, etc. and then as the commitment grows, so does their investment, and they don't want to 'lose it'. For women, they see men as a 'Resource', and they don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 06:26 PM
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So much hostility on here.... is this real life? Or is this strictly an online extremist discourse type of deal? Online is not only more extreme, but it usually misses the mark entirely, that's part of why its so fun and entertaining to read. It's like watching a typical reality tv show where they put all the angry and crazy people in the same room. Some examples... Online, girls will tell you that approaching girls in coffee shops and grocery stores is harassment and try to shame you for it and…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 06:36 AM
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Men can never know for sure if their child is actually theirs unless they get a paternity test, which is something many women say they'll break up if he even asks for one. Paternity tests are even illegal in some countries. If we don't find out if we're not the child's father in time, we will still have to care for the child. That's just a fucked up thing to say and you've outed yourself as totally insecure and have placed women below you. A classic trope found in most threads on this sub. Are y…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 05:49 AM
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this woman choose not to have children but lives a stupidly mundane life, and never did she once try to do anything to make up for her lack of a family. She's forever stuck in this limbo where nothing new nor exciting happens to her. It's just a pathetic, tragic existence all around. I feel great pity for her, but God, those pictures were eye opening for me. Curious... are you jealous that she's happy with a mundane routine and didn't sacrifice her life for children, or is this more a reflection…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 05:21 AM
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How would feel if someone you were dating - received roses today - from their ex-husband? What would y’all do? Remember, at the end of the day, this other guy is somewhere trying to buy her affection/attention, while you are at her house doing her... so who is winning here?? Don't worry about it.. at all.. Playing the jealous boyfriend by questioning or confronting her will just expose your vulnerability and reduce her attraction to you. Instead, say "Wow, most guy's wouldn't be this nice after …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 05:34 AM
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>How do you solve the "The Fatherless Crisis"? Easy, stop de-incentivizing men to being fathers. What do you think happens to men who are given the standard 'every other weekend' custody of the child? Not every man can afford expensive lawyers to fight this. Stop incentivizing women to get divorced by shifting too much financial assistance from the man with no regard on his wellbeing. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 09:25 PM
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Hell, most men here say they want to be chosen by women purely on desirability and not be 'success objects'. Haha... that's funny..... the better question is not what they want, but what they are willing to settle for... If they had 2 options, be alone and single, or be the success object, most single guys would choose to be the object... -B
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 10:17 PM
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> But that touches the essential female point: sex is special, and not ideally to be traded for other things. It's traded all of the time for relationships. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 04:55 PM
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The essential feminist/female position might be that every sex act has to be fully and enthusiastically consented to by both parties (however that consent is communicated). This means that if she has a headache for 3 weeks straight, fine. But institutionalizing the relationship, no matter how egalitarian the terms, inevitably creates expectations and pressures for women to sexually compromise at some point or another. There are expectations and pressures for men as well such as providing food an…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 04:37 PM
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> *Who Owns The Sex?* Women own sex, men own relationships. That's how it was before, that's how it is now. Cougars and Stay at home dads are a very small minority and aren't taken into account on the bell curve. > And it is that Charity of 'Give' that makes it Romance. Excluding prostitutes and sugar babies, you cannot buy a woman's affection. Contrary to pop culture, buying gifts or favors for a woman will NOT increase her attraction to you. In fact it is the opposite, overly romantic gestures…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 08:05 AM
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>Do you think it's still possible to get girls even if you lack a good personality or are not that good looking if you're rich? YES OF COURSE!!!! , but its actually worse than that. You don't even have to be rich, just pretend to be. I had a friend 15yrs ago who couldn't get any dates online, and felt he was being passed over because of his social/wealth status... so to get revenge, he decided to just make one up. He re-uploaded a new profile where pretended he was a wealthy doctor, and the girl…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 04:18 PM
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Why do PPD women have such an axe to grind with the age gaps? Its the same women who will angrily tell you that there's no wall and that at 40 they can get the same quality and quantity of guys as when they were 20. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 11:55 PM
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They can push boundaries and normalize abusive behavior because their age gives them a position of authority. If you're going to be the morality police, what do you think should be done about younger hot girls who normalize abusive behavior through entitlement mentality? -B
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 11:53 PM
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The bigger the age gap, the lower the likelihood her interest is genuine. The problem with your entire thesis, is that the bigger the age gap, the less the guys' care whether the interest is genuine. They don't want to have her as a long term gf, wife, etc. They are happy if she runs away because he didn't have to waste the emotional effort to break up with her. Your example of your friend in his 40's who fell for a 20's stripper and was shocked to see her with another guy and was heartbroken is…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 11:39 PM
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A lot of very interesting points, but there really is no nightmare scenario ​ However, as you get towards the middle rankings of women in mate value, and lower, women increasingly become unable to be sufficiently attracted to their male mate rank equivalents. I think that you need to step into a walmart, especially one that exists in smaller towns across america. There are TONS of very low value males with ...someone... ​ But the real nightmare scenario has to do with the biologically determined…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 09:35 PM
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>Reason why women can stay single easily is because sex is easy for them LOL, NO! First of all, sex is easy for *almost every girl out there... from the 10's all the way down to the 2's.... and all of them have the same problem... its not in finding sex... but finding a guy who 1) wants a committed monogamous relationship (not just sex) that is also 2) perceived higher value than them..... In fact, the hottest girls have it harder.. because how many guys are out there with a higher value than a …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 03:24 AM
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>Whats your thoughts on men dating younger women? 6+ years age difference As a guy in his 40's dating 20yr olds, the LAST thing in this world that I care about, is what other women think about this age gap. It's legal and its a lot of fun :) ! -B
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 08:55 AM
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>You think being ugly and also then being a douche to women is going to increase your chances here? Nope! They will need much more game than an average to good looking guy. They will need to start being nice and build a lot of comfort first, and then over time, transition to behave as someone ...well .. less nice :) I've had a few girls show me their conversation threads where some ugly guy is initially sending them overtly strong / sexual messages, and when I asked how they felt, their reaction…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 09:52 PM
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>Most sexually successful guys are living red pill without even knowing what red pill is. YES!! I remember in the early years complementing guys with things like 'that was great push/pull', or 'that was a funny neg', etc... using pickup lingo... and they would be like... WTF?? I don't know what you're talking about... I'm just having a good time... Learning from Naturals was very interesting.. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 09:38 PM
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> We are watching the downfall of western society, and I am very scared of the new one that is gonna replace it. Embrace, enjoy and take advantage of the decline. >What we should be promoting is that is we need to be better for our children and their children. Pick a country that you like better and move there with your children.. it's easier than trying to change society, and it will be more exciting and fulfilling that you had a wild adventure. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 09:33 PM
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But realistically some of you who are single will meet someone eventually. Or have since you got in to RP you have. What happens then? Reading/Agreeing with/Joining/Practicing an instruction guide/ideology/etc. won't change your true nature or desires in the short term. If you're a guy who wants a girlfriend and to be in love, and suddenly you read and agree with PUA/TRP/etc.. , you will have the fantasy that you can now go around and sleep with tons of girls, you will employ the techniques, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 08:16 PM
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OP is trying to make it seem like men posting here are pedophiles. Winner Winner, Chicken Dinner -B
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 09:24 PM
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> The real reason men consider a woman bragging about “having her degree” a red flag Part of the issue is that in America, people are overly concerned about wealth. One of the first things people ask each other in cocktail parties, or dating, or anywhere... is 'so, what do you do for a living?' ... and if its not much, then the substitute is 'I have a degree in...' ... either way, they are just trying to measure you up and classify you, as if this had any significance to anything... In the datin…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 10:03 PM
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We do think that women posses kindness, nurturing, and problem solving capacities that men do not. Problem solving capacities?? Hahaahaa... I've never heard that to be a stereotype as a female attribute... mostly the opposite, the stereotype is that men are superior in mental abilities. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 07:06 PM
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Lol, the guy who coached Mystery said that he would go to these clubs dressed like a clown and would collect numbers but none of the girls would give him a real number or would ever go out with him. They just wanted him to go away. I remember a guy in Toronto who would get lots of prostitutes off of craigslist, back in the day when that was a thing. He was a really cheap guy and would bargain them down to ridiculous prices. Some of the professional prostitutes got together and formed lists where…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 06:55 PM
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Let's say you had two men. One of them was a IT guy or some other kind of computer science job, made a lot of money, but he worked from home and wasn't very social. Or, if he did have friends, all they do is play DND or video games together, he's very much your stereotypical nerd. Then you had another guy who who left the house often, has an active social life, works in office where he regularly talks to other people, but makes less money. She will fuck the social guy and marry the IT guy. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 07:27 PM
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>No one deserves anything in life or in dating. That should be the top comment! You get what you fight and negotiate for -B
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 03:37 PM
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>Men who crave a relationship, to raise children & have a family unit are not masculine Aside from "who cares what others think, do what makes you happy", I think the reason that men initially desire these things is because they are sold a pipe dream, a fantasy that is far removed from reality, and also pressure from societal and family conventions and expectations. >Most married men are sexually frustrated because they’re all bored & fight their biology until they finally give in NO, the "givin…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 03:27 PM
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This suggests that only monogamous marriages are truly " SUSTAINABLE" The length of the average monogamous marriage in the US is 8yrs. Some of the sister wives here remained for decades. This suggests that polygamous marriages are MORE sustainable. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 09:37 PM
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Lets say tinder comes with a new add on where women can she how many matches a guy has on his profile. Meaning she can actually see that the guys see tends to swipe left on has little to no matches and the guys she swipes right on has hundreds to thousands of matches. Would this change her swiping patterns? Yes, but you don't need a new add-on, this already happens today. Girls have let me play with their tinder accounts, and we would swipe together. I was shocked on *many* occasions, girls woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 09:09 PM
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Would you ever consider becoming a step dad? Or is a woman already having children to another man a 100% dealbreaker? If I was ready to settle down and have children, it would be okay as long as I eventually had a child or two of my own with her as well, then the step kid would just fold into a larger family, and as long as she had a sufficiently higher SMV to make up for the burden of the child. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 08:23 PM
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The most shocking thing about the Red Pill, as a woman, is that Men need a Red Pill and that what is *generally* attractive to women isn't reasonably obvious Its not shocking if you consider that society teaches men to understand the world and behave in a way that is completely contrary to how it works, so they have to unlearn everything and change their behavior. Women are basically taught what is true. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 08:12 PM
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>Heres the thing about most women: They don't take any shit. I found the opposite to be true. Girls are VERY forgiving and give a guy MANY chances. I'm constantly entertained at the stories girls give about their previous relationships and dates and just what I see in my friend group. > For guys we have to do something similar even if we don't get as many opportunities These games are fun to play, but as a man, the key is to do it AFTER you are in a relationship with her, or at least slept with …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 10:24 PM
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I find it disturbing young women, having those rich opportunities to get up, are taking such low wage jobs. Perhaps you should approach them, let them know how disturbed you are, and offer them some of those rich opportunities haha... -B
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 10:06 PM
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I’d imagine intentionally leveraging anything over someone for sex, which is still intimate even casually, is kinda shitty for the other party. Should be mutual with no intentional leveraging need REALLY? Like girls wanting you to buy them dinner and more for a chance to sleep with them? haha -B
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 09:59 PM
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Literally doing anything to get sex as a man and you are bad, that's why men need to not give a fuck what women think and just do what they want. Congrats on discovering this hahaha! I will extend this to say, don't give a fuck to what *anyone* thinks.. there's lots of seemingly well meaning white knights, religious folks, etc. that will all try to shame you/ guilt you/etc, fuck them all... I've never been happier living the life that goes against what is being propagated by society. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 09:56 PM
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There are two main differences in how *most* men and women cheat. 1) Most females rationalize and justify the behavior in their heads, males, don't. This plays out when they are caught, men will apologize and say the other girl means nothing to them and plead for forgiveness, while women will say 'well it's because you're always out late never home', 'you don't give me enough attention', 'we fight all the time', etc... they will have thought out a reason of why this is all okay and try to turn t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 09:22 PM
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Social legitimacy is the last major non-legal perk of marriage This is pretty close to 0. Guys get married because they want to 'lock down the pussy', they are tired of hunting, and want continuous ongoing sex without further effort. Girls are hardwired to want a security blanket, whether its physical, financial, emotional, or all of the above. While both are self entitled, the man's needs are viewed as optional, while the women's needs are mandatory, and the current legal framework favors women…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 09:04 PM
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Are chubby girls more forgiving when it comes to a mans LOOKS? Yes, they are more forgiving to looks, personality, status, cheating, willingness to participate in sexual things that they may not be comfortable with, etc. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 09:20 PM
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The dangers are mental masterbation so to speak, sitting there reading and watching redpill content and not applying it. That's true of most 'self help' books/videos/seminars. Reminds me of a guy I knew that bought a book on procrastination, but never got around to reading it.. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 09:47 PM
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> What life consequences will I face if I take too much of the red pill? How will it impact my life? Have you ever appreciated and enjoyed watching a magic trick but then it lost its allure when the curtain was pulled back and it was explained how the trick was performed? -B
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 09:33 PM
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It's very simple really, there are a few benefits. 1) All of those things that women expect out of men and not of themselves, absolutely guarantees that the one thing that they want most, "Equality", will never be achieved. Do you know what happens to a man who's a coward but slowly learns to approach women and overcome his fears? He gains confidence, he gains charisma, he gains ability to negotiate, ability to socialize under pressure, he learns to stand up for himself, he learns to take action…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 06:19 AM
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This argument falls apart when you actually look at outcome related data showing that a similar amount and if anything more men have met, hooked up, or gotten a relationship through it. Not really, because overall the hookups are small numbers compared to the men that join, don't get matches, and stay on for years. Women on the other hand, regardless of matches or not, become in-active much sooner, usually after 2 or 3 bad experiences. Think about it another way, forget about hookups. Both men a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 05:47 AM
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It's a commonly held belief, mostly among blue pillers, that woman are good at detecting and snuffing out fake confidence, bluster and boasting from men. Let me tell you personal story. I had a friend whose cultural demanded that he was either in a highly well paid position (doctor/lawyer) or just wealthy in order to attract females... well this is what he perceived after being rejected by a large number of girls... So, he pretends to be a wealthy business man even though he has no money and no …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 11:02 PM
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> Date 2: dinner at your house YES! and desert in the bedroom :) -B
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 10:46 PM
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>Why must I be the one coming up with every date idea? Every activity. Every outing. Welcome to manhood, you must be new here.. let me show you around. In case you didn't know, you will also be the one doing all of the initiating and escalating, flirting, and so on. When the check comes, you will be the one expected to pay. In case of any danger, you will be the one expected to protect. When things break down or there are surprises, such as a flat tire, or broken garbage disposal, or noises outs…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 10:43 PM
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The illogical part: She had said that she has countless times engaged in hookups and casual sex with guys she thinks is hot but not "long term relationship" material. Then in the next breath went on to say it's disgusting for men to go after women for hookups and casual sex. Its very logical, even without the first statement, but that just makes it more fun and adds context. She's just trying to get a rise out of you and see how you're going to react, which helps determine who you are.... it's s…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:04 AM
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I heard that most HBCU's have demographics of 66% or more females enrolled which means that there is roughly 2 females for every male... heavy competition... outside of school, the jobless rates and incarceration rates, and felony rates for black males are very high which makes them undesirable for many females.. and many of the few remaining good black guys are off with a white girl... -B
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 05:39 AM
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Here is my question to men: If you agree with the fact that as men you don't deal with women asking you for nudes often, if at all, & that people don't really care about men's nudes, do you find this fact an overall net positive or negative? Its absolutely great, and is due to the differences in how attraction works for males and females and also proof that women just don't care AS MUCH about a man's looks as we do about theirs. Women are typically only objectified for their looks alone, which p…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 04:11 PM
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> women who are below average looking, what about her made you romantically into her? Usually its been because its less effort and easier to drop. Sometimes its competing interests, so you have to decide to do X in your business and pick up your ugly girl later tonight, or forget about X and and put effort into the better girl. Sometimes its the package depending on mood. For example, do you pick the hot girl who you have to take to a nice place for dinner and you will have straight sex? Or the …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 09:29 PM
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>Most of the OGs of PUA are more blue pill than red pill It's hard to know what their true thoughts/beliefs are. Remember that the PUA's you are talking about, and really any of the ones we all heard about, are marketers and salesmen at their core, and PUA is secondary.. What they state publicly is through the lens of growing their presence and market. Talking about more controversial subjects may result in negative feedback, they may get banned from some platforms depending on how far they go, …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 08:51 PM
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> Inexplicably, in a relatively short period of time, they began to go cold emotionally It's usually not that inexplicable, its very rational, they just don't tell you the reasons. I've been in casual relationships with many girls over the years who would discuss their recent dates. Initially, I was shocked at guy's behaviors, now I'm just entertained at the stories. Most of the time, the guy does one or more very cringe things that really turn her off, so she ends the date, says she had a nice …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 04:52 AM
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I think the problem with early 20 yr olds is that they do still think like kids, most of them. Not really a problem, more of a benefit if you both think the same way. I'm in my 40's and date girls in their early 20's....Everyone thinks is because of the better bodies/skin, less body count, etc.. which is all a nice plus .. but a big reason is compatibility...A girl in her early 20's wants to attend a concert, go to bars, get drunk, and generally JUST HAVE FUN... like me! nothing serious!!!! What…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 03:21 AM
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Men should stop blaming feminism for the problems in society For the most part, they don't. Only an extremely small minority do, in incel groups and whatnot. Females on the other hand, constantly complain about men openly and everywhere, it is culturally acceptable. In the office, in politics, on tshirts ("boys are stupid, throw rocks at them") , on social media (tiktok), blogs (imagine inversing the gender on some of the subredits here and posting the same things, they would be banned immediate…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 05:16 AM
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> As a guy you should never tell women your intentions directly. While that's true, its probably not for the reasons most people think..... the main reason is that because girls are socially aware and they already know... you walk up to a girl and tell her she's pretty.. guess what.. she already knew that by the second you approach her.. its boring.. its what everyone else does.. she knows you approached her because of her looks... there's no other reason.... What are most guys initial intention…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:20 AM
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TikThots HAHA !!! Love it.. but Chad won't commit! The horror! I'm not saying I'm a Chad, but for the girls that want me to commit, I take a different approach. Instead of ghosting the girl after sex, I ask her to jump through ever more difficult hoops. She needs to start waxing her pussy and wear thongs and garter belts, then outfits (cheerleading, schoolgirl, nun).. then start doing anal, rim jobs, and golden showers, in that order. Then we make videos of this, then threesomes... Usually this …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:36 AM
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You don't understand what men put up with in the beginning and what women can get away with First, you can even the score with volume. When you have 3 dates for Friday, it doesn't matter if 2 of them flake. I can't tell you the amount of times that I had this nonchalant back and forth interaction with girls in the beginning where days or weeks and sometimes months would pass, finally we would agree to meet up, she would flake a few times, but EVENTUALLY would meet up. A few times I had to cancel…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:17 AM
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I dated guys beneath me because I needed some emotional support and was in a vulnerable situation. They took advantage of me That explains your previous actions, but not your current mental attitude. Did you dump them for being beneath you and now you feel bad about it, so you're performing mental gymnastics to try and excuse away your behavior and justify your actions? If you want to cheat, go and cheat, but did you really think that the general consensus on reddit were going to agree with your…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 02:55 AM
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In fact Rocket Engineering would be a cake walk in comparison. Women are indeed Rocket Science when it comes to understanding them. Their wants, their needs, what they respond to, etc. ..and this is coming from the experience of building a rocket ship that you launched, but are still unable to get a date? Sounds like you are frustrated from being dumped/ghosted/rejected..? -B
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 02:46 AM
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First step is to categorize them. Second step is to find what motivates each group - what gives them pain? what gives them pleasure?. A pure salesman at heart, I love it! -B
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 02:42 AM
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I won’t deny that in the past I’ve cheated on partners, but that was primarily because I knew that was too good for them. Most people don't cheat based on the difference in attractiveness of their partner. The more interesting question is why you choose to date guys that you feel are underneath you, and then try to justify treating them poorly? Are you afraid to date someone on your level because you wouldn't be able to handle being emotionally hurt you if they did something negative? Were you h…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 08:17 PM
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“is it okay to lie”, and it’s a common trend in this sub. Why do people try to justify being bad to others when it comes to dating? I think there are primarily two ways it is justified: 1) A lot of guys perceive dating to be unfair, when she gets 100 matches per day on tinder, and he gets 1 per week, when he has to approach and initiate and risk rejection, when he's expected to buy the meals, etc... so lying is justified by 'even-ing the score' 2) As guys just want to have sex in the beginning, …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 07:39 AM
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The woman decides to initiate and make things heated and then leaves. It seems like it's a game meant for me to call them back. This kind of act actually makes me not want to call them back. So they play games, its fun! Don't take it so seriously... roll with it until you sleep with them... then its game over for them when you start playing your own :) ​ She also, upon entering my house stated that she would like to spend the night that night, saying that she'd had some drinks, even though she d…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 07:18 AM
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Dear OP; I think before you give controversial advice on something, you should at least have *some* experience or vague knowledge about a topic. Your post might give pause and second thought to some guys from jumping in, (perhaps you're trying to convince yourself??? .. that's what I'm betting here ) but from guys that have done this for years or decades....we all recognize this is nonsense... here's why: On intelligence, you write: Of course, there is the minor problem that red pill primarily w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 04:15 AM
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Move to the place your partner is. Provide the lifestyle without creating legal obligations. She gets what she wants only as long as you are getting what you want. Hmm... that's an interesting solution for short term (3 to 6 months), you will have quite the adventure.. but long term? Seems like a big sacrifice to leave your friends/family/lifestyle .. for a girl? -B
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:59 PM
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or us normal folks, we can basically learn nothing. I always tell people that pickup/seduction doesn't end when you have a relationship or get married, it just gets more challenging ... the game NEVER ENDS I think that this divorce is a glaring lesson that if you don't understand female psychology, then even with money, good looks, celebrity status, (or all 3) still won't be enough to save you. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:54 PM
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It's only now that women are making $ from selling their nudes, vs men making $ from selling women's nudes, that it's suddenly a "huge issue" that "affects the dating market." Nothing has changed, men are still making money... look at the owners of Only fans, pornhub, etc. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:37 PM
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When women are only desired sexually it makes them insecure and feel like without providing sex they have no value. It gives the impression they aren't liked for their personality/being ..and yet many guys fail to understand that approaching women and complimenting them on their looks is a bad move.... almost any other type of opener is better -B
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 04:11 PM
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>Tinder for example was 73-27 men to women then but is 78-22 men to women now The reason for the m/f ratio disparities is simple, females drop off at a much faster rate. When women join, and they all pick the same top 5-10% of guys... those guys treat them poorly because they get a lot of matches and don't want to settle down. The girls get tired of this behavior and stop using the app after sleeping with 3 or 5 guys with no relationship and usually no effort on the guy's part. The other 90% of …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 06:09 PM
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statements women make about who they would date or not date turn out to not be true Men do the same. Or do you think that women have a patent for self-delusion or hypocrisy? I wouldn't say a patent, more of a monopoly. You make valid points about men's behavior but the difference is most men who care about high body counts don't date a hooker, most alpha males don't behave like a trained monkey, etc.. there are some for sure, but they are *outliers* ... whereas most females DO Behave as the post…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 07:51 PM
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How many of you have seen dudes in their mid thirties walking around with a beautiful young girl? How many of the red pill gurus are getting with gorgeous girls whilst having a good amount of fame and capital? If you walk around, and ask 1000 random guys how many have heard of TRP, and actually read the philosophy, and are practicing it... how many guys do you think it would be? I'm guessing 1-2 if you're lucky... So at best, if the TRP philosophy was 100% accurate and predictable, you would exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 05:51 AM
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How do you think the dating game (sex/relationships) would change in the west if: Women had their body count made into public information Men had their body count made into public information Men and women had their body count made into public information. It would be the same like age is right now.. most people that had similar counts would date each other... those that both had a 5 count would date each other.. people that both had a 50 count would date each other... People where the count var…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 03:11 AM
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As a man in my late 40's with no kids, and a relatively... "youth oriented" career who can, with some consistency date women in their early 30's and even rarely a mid-late 20's girl Damn DUDE!!!! I'm also in my 40's dating 20yr old girls, and was going to write essentially the same thing that while the hotness factor is there, that's not the most important aspect, its the fact that older women put up so much more shit tests and demands, and disqualifying you for stupid/random reasons. ​ Women un…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 04:53 AM
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>I’m a woman reading through posts on subreddits reddit isn't a great place to poll for a view or consciousness of society, especially dating advice. The views here are extreme at both ends which is why its entertaining to read. >I don’t see how telling women that their value will go down as they age is going to encourage them back onto the dating market Your decision might be not to date, but for some other girls, it may encourage or motivate them to settle down with a guy and get married as so…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:18 PM
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>Who are these women you guys are all dating?! Who has even time to be such a cunt? In my experience, not always but *generally*, the hotter the girl, the more shit tests there are. This is because there are many more guys approaching her all of the time, and she really does need to swat them away like flies. According to pickup theory, girls don't do this consciously, they are programmed to do it to see who is is strong, confident, the alpha-male, its a marker for attraction. As long as you und…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 08:45 PM
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> This isn’t a men vs women crisis, this is more of an attractive vs unattractive people complex Actually, I think its more of an 'expectations' or perhaps 'entitlement' problem . The very unattractive people could pair up with each other, and some do, but many resist this and prefer to be alone. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 08:21 PM
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>Just like in nature, males love females as females. Females love males as tools and the female will weaponize sex to get what they want from the male. Its just how it is A lot of your conjecture is gross oversimplification, however some is just plain wrong. You conflate love and sex, and never bother to even once mention 'relationships', which as an aside, is the most important thing that a man can weaponize in defense of weaponizing sex. You mention that 'males love females as females', howeve…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 06:11 AM
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>learn how to statistics bro. >If you are a software engineer at MIT who got hired out of school to Google you have damn near a 100% chance. >Averages are not likelihoods. think about it Thank you for your enlightening statistics course, however you're missing a big factor. The degree to which averages ARE likelihoods depends on the amount that luck or random chance has to play in the outcome. You are severely discounting randomness here and you think that everything is just effort. In your own …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 06:51 AM
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> hedonistic depraved and disgusting lifestyle instead of focusing on having families and raising children, things which you acknowledge are vastly superior for everyone? Excuse me???? 1) Who says starting families and bringing more children into an over populated planet starving of resources is vastly superior to anyone???? 2) 50% of Marriages end in divorce... so there is a 50% chance that you will have to choose to lose half of your things and pay alimony and child support and be ruined finan…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 04:25 AM
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Are older women really jealous of younger more prettier women? They show their jealousy by attempting to demonize older men dating younger girls. Note that all of their complaints such as 'power dynamics' etc. would also come into play when the roles are reversed, but of course there's no hatred of older women dating younger guys, they embrace and celebrate those cougars too.. haha. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 09:40 PM
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>I mean honestly that makes absolutely no sense. First and foremost. Why would guys have a higher sex count when it comes to women when it's harder for guys to get sex? There is something else at play here. If you were to create a graph, on the X axis would be number of sex partners, and Y graph would be percentage of people, the female graph would look normal, there would be a hump, where around 7 people would be the top of the hump, and then it would go down on each side, so 6 and 8 would have…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 08:01 PM
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>It's just mental masturbation to feel like you're improving your social skills because you watched 20 videos on Craig Ferguson seducing women. The next step is try to imitate their behavior. I watched a ton of videos but it wasn't until I started recording my conversations and videotaping myself that things drastically improved.... watching yourself in playback mode was the AHA moment! -B
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 01:31 AM
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Getting rejected by women has always been this incredibly painful experience for me Normally, I would tell you that the issue is that you are putting girls on a pedestal, you think that they are better than you, and you are seeking validation from them which is very unhealthy....and I would provide you with some coping mechanisms... however.. I feel this intense feeling of sadness, defeat, anger, it causes me to lose all self esteem for myself and to call myself ugly and unlovable, and I stop ea…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 01:16 AM
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But let’s not pretend its not worrisome and weird for a 40 yr old dude with way more experience/money/power to be going after a 19 year old girl who went to prom last year. Is it worrisome and weird when its flipped and the power dynamic favors the girl, like when its a 20yr old guy is trying to ask out or match with a 20yr old girl who has 100X more opportunity? -B
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 11:42 PM
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Instead of two extremes such as everyone is the same or everyone is different, why not say .. along a bell curve, most people behave or react in these ways.. there's always going to be exceptions It's more useful, and I've found it particularly accurate for me. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 06:08 AM
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>If I was a cynic I'd claim that being "great communicator" renders you closer to a asexual gay bestie role in a woman's eyes than a romantic one. As a guy who has slept with a lot of women, I can tell you that your problem isn't how well you are able to communicate, but rather what you are communicating about. If you come off as needy, seeking validation, nice-guy, you can communicate all of your bad qualities very eloquently and they will just land you quicker into the friendzone. I've found t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 05:47 AM
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>It is objectively the worst factor for kids to live in a single-parent household; it's a stronger correlation to things like suicide, poor performance, etc. than even economic status is. People that stay together for the kids when they are unhappy tend to end up in very toxic relationships, they may be distant, cheat on each other, and be verbally and physically abusive. The kids will see that and think it is normal. Do you think this is still worse than a single parent? -B
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 03:09 PM
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>After a certain n count, there's probably nothing she hasn't done previously. It could be a plus in some scenarios. Anything is possible, but personally that hasn't been my experience, and I've been with a lot of girls. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 06:05 AM
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>All of this drops into water when a girl is allowed to consider a high n-count guy disgusting. Not really. Guys that have a high count have enough social awareness skills with girls to know that they're not going to reveal it.. either by lying or just avoiding the question by changing the subject or giving cutesy answers.... at least not at first.. before he sleeps with her a few times.. and after that it won't matter -B
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 06:02 AM
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Q4RP: If women are only attracted to hot and/or wealthy men then why are the majority of men still able to find relationships? Most people in America live paycheck to paycheck and the average salary is $50k which isn't nearly enough for a gold digger to leech off of. I wouldn't say 'only attracted' but just to play devil's advocate with you, its all about relative wealth. The girl that lives in a trailer park and works part time at walmart or burger king, or no job at all, is going to see your 5…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:35 AM
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>If people can break up and divorce, why should the rest be unhappy ? Because its expensive. For poor people, spending 1k on a divorce is out of the question as they don't have the savings.. For guys that have assets, they don't want to lose half plus pay child support and maybe alimony for a decade or two. Also, many stay together for the kids falsely believing that it is better for them. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:29 AM
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> Why is it bad for guys to not want to be with women who’ve slept with 10+ guys? One of the reasons is that it shows that you're insecure, and maybe worried whether you're not as good as the previous 10 guys. >Men want to feel special just like women do You can do this in other ways, like doing something with her that she hasn't done before.. perhaps giving you a rim job, threesome, ass to mouth, or golden shower etc... As a side benefit, I found that the more *unique* things a girl does for me…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 05:20 AM
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>But we’re talking about wives and GFs. We’re talking about couples who have decided they both want a child. Of course, but women has been known to change their minds about things, especially during the span of 18yrs. If there are disagreements or breakups, they have the power to take the child away from the father and start limiting access and extract money. Don't you recognize that regardless of whether they wield this or not, just having that power of threat over men has a lot of value? -B
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 08:13 PM
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>With giving birth, there isn’t an equivalent that a man can do. Not entirely true. When two consenting adults decide to have sex, the woman alone decides whether she should have an abortion or not. She alone decides whether she will put the kid up for adoption, or even tell the father of the kid that its his. She alone can decide that the father will not have much access and pay child support instead. Even though there was a shared 50% decision in having sex, the man has 0% decision power about…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 07:20 PM
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>Why would you have an issue with her demanding you do it? I’m assuming she’d just be saying if she has to do something hard, you do too. Because relationships are about being a team and helping each other, not about competition and tit-for-tat. After your man mowed the grass outside or lifted heavy boxes, would you want him to come and say, 'okay now you do equivalent manual labour' .. or if he earned $100k/yr salary, do you want him coming home and saying..' Okay, off to work you go and make a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 05:02 PM
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>Which is why men should ask. See how she reacts. I don't ever ask. It shows that you care about how virtuous she is, not very attractive I don't want her asking me, and me either telling her my high count or lying You're about to sleep with a girl, the last thing you want is to bring this up, and for her to be conscious about the fact that she has a high number, and its going to get worse after she sleeps with you too.. What are you going to do differently after you find out? Probably nothing..…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 07:06 AM
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>i don't understand why women sleeps around and see it as recreational Because they've been taught by feminism/society/culture that they can and should be just like men. Most of the women that go through this phase stop, and realize that they are not like men. Its not something they are particularly proud of, and talk and brag about later in life... like guys do. >they sleep with friends of friends, go out to nightclubs and cheat ... it is insane. No, actually its great. Lots more available girl…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 06:56 AM
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I’m want to ask him to incorporate a dildo/penis sleeve in the bedroom so I can get that “full feeling again” but people are saying it’s wrong. I really don’t think that it’s a big deal and that if done tactfully no one’s feelings have to get hurt. Try anal, you'll get that full feeling! haha.. or better yet, put in a dildo of the size of your liking while getting anal. Seriously though, there were many girls I dated that were absolutely against anal, but over time decided to try it to make me h…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 12:03 AM
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What prompted this post is seeing many comments on this sub talking about how sex shouldn’t be expected on a relationship, and if a woman doesn't want to have frequent sex with her male partner then "he should just get over it". A guy's job is to lead the relationship and he should create a dynamic where she wants to have sex with him. He shouldn't be begging or asking for it, this is extremely unattractive. If this is occurring, then he's doing it wrong and its his fault. If a girl doesn't meet…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 11:55 PM
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But for the guy who is inexperienced at making friendly small talk with women, for the guy who needs immersion therapy to break out of his social anxiety, for the guy who needs to know that women aren’t magical and are mere mortals like them, speed dating can be a very productive night out. THIS!! There are MANY inexperienced guys who would benefit tremendously from it, and even do it five or ten times just to get out of their comfort zone. There is no faster way to learn than approaching 15 or …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 10:44 PM
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>''Just be who are you'' and ''It's all about your heart'' is terrible advice. And I wish we would stop telling men this. Because it is flagrantly untrue. Simple. Women tell you this because 'just being who they are' works for them, same with Alpha guys who are getting lots of girls and learned game naturally early in life. The only guys left are the beta's who aren't good with girls, and you shouldn't be asking for their advice. >Women aren't going to marry you for your heart of gold if you loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 06:15 AM
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>There are expectations of male behavior, expression, and communication which are worlds apart from what women expected out of men in the past. I see this written all the time, that women's expectations have changed, mostly because they have more options now with social media, and because women have more financial freedom so they expect more from a guy than just a paycheck, since they can support themselves on their own. While these may be marginally, true, what no one seems to talk about is how…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 09:28 PM
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You are conflating two different topics, so let's discuss them separately 1) You are trying to make the case that statistically/mathematically you cannot become a high value man, because only the top X percent can be high value by definition, the rest will be under that. Your flaw in your logic is in assuming that ALL MEN are striving to be high value men, that all men are working out at the gym, or reading redit or pickup books or going to school to learn to be a doctor, or whatever it is you t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 06:34 AM
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>Maybe so, then it’s a fair trade! Yes, exactly. I'm guessing that you are in a relatively happy and healthy relationship, which is why you can see a more balanced and nuanced view than many people here who are bitter. >Attraction is about more than appearance for women. Maybe most of us are just really turned on by a guy’s wallet. Oh trust me, I know! Women's attraction is complex and luckily includes many other aspects such as intelligence, confidence, humor, social standing, etc... I see this…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 06:08 PM
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>A woman without good looks can still have a fulfilling life that includes men that love and desire her. A man without good looks cannot. Its really the other way around dude. Women don't place as much value on a man's looks, as men place on a women's looks. Part of a man's attractiveness is confidence, humor, intelligence, social standing, wealth, etc... these are a lot of areas we as men can improve upon... for us none of things matter much when we are evaluating how attractive a woman is... -…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 04:34 AM
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>Sorry if you have gotten that message but women tend to “date down” in terms of looks far more often than men. That's because while everyone complains that women are objectified for their looks, not many people notice that men are equally objectified for their wallets and social standing while women are not. So while women 'date down' for a guys looks, in that same relationship, the guy is typically 'dating down' for their partner's wealth and a host of other attributes. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 04:26 AM
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If anything men only have physical preferences (not requirements), which are very low and is incredibly easy to obtain If men don't have standards like women have of: height , salary, if the woman has a college degree or not, confidence, sexual performance, if a woman drives or has a car, if a woman has her own house or lives with roommates, confidence, etc. You're conflating two separate scales/standards 1) The 'degree' of standards men vs women have (i.e. in a sample room of 100 people, how ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 04:13 AM
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>Ladies, how uniform and consistent do you find women's preferences to really be, when it comes to men? According to tinder statistics, most girls choose the same 5% of guys, so they are very consistent and uniform -B
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 03:51 AM
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I couldn't even remember the last time I was actually genuinely interested in getting to know the person in front of me and not trying to figure out how to escalate, kiss, or get her to go home with me. Once I changed all of this and started socializing like a normal guy, women were almost too easy. | Same. People on here really need to hear this part. ​ I think this is the end result of game and getting good at pickup. Once you have scored with enough girls and see the world through abundance, …
/r/seduction23/08/22 06:27 AM
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The premise is that the hookup culture is inherently more dangerous to women. And while the benefits of losing the shame might have been good. The cons don’t get spoken about more often and she’s making a case that they’re not small and should be discussed more often. I haven't watched the video, and I don't know about 'dangerous', but I've always thought its not in their best interest. Feminists taught women that they can and should be like men and sleep around like them, but do females really …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 06:39 PM
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>So it’s the social environment! Makes sense! Gah, hate t You should be happy about it. Because girls focus on many different things, men have so many opportunities and different ways to improve themselves. They can improve their social standing, wealth, fitness, confidence, etc.. It's much more limiting for girls, since we are mostly attracted to physical appearance, they are stuck with having to improve their looks which isn't easy. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 06:18 PM
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>How do some guys get laid or dates without having to make much effort or doing anything special? They do something special, you just don't see it. You're focusing on outer game like going to the gym, while the real magic is inner game, how you feel about yourself. Your confidence, charisma, sense of humor, the way you flirt and carry yourself, play a huge role. Girls have much more social awareness and can sense that in you. -B
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 06:13 PM
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>Men cannot talk to women the same way they talk to men, it is bad advice to tell men to treat women like they would their guy friends. Of course you wouldn't talk to women the same way that you talk to men.. the question is .. why in the world would you want to? Do you flirt with your male friends, tell them that they've been a bad boy and are going to be punished when they get home when they do something stupid? hahaha... Talking to girls is a lot more fun! As an aside, once girls know that yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 10:23 PM
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> I think any man envies women when it comes to tinder, dating, sexuality, sex work, society and so on. As a man, I don't envy women in any way, and I thank my lucky stars that I was born a male. Also, in many ways, its easier to date for us, than for females. Consider a few points: 1) Ability to improve is easier As males, we are 99% visual and are attracted to girls based on looks alone. It is very difficult for a girl to make herself more physically attractive, there's only so much that makeu…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 07:49 AM
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The above should be the top answer, the KEY is slow but steady physical escalation and reading queues to make sure that they are happy and okay. I've never asked either, and girls have on several occasions, when discussing their previous experiences, have told me how completely un-attractive and off putting it is when guys ask them for consent. Unless you're already dating a girl for months and she is 'planning' on making it out to be some special night where she finally sleeps with you... by an…
/r/seduction01/06/22 12:09 AM
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As others have commented, no, not for this, but you may have a bigger issue... You are seeking validation from the group, and at such an extreme level that you're worried that they might think that you're too nice... is the allegation that a group *might* think that you're too nice more important than extending common courtesy to someone? If so, that's a problem... not only because your biased conclusions might be wrong (for example the group might think it is sweet and you may be elevated in st…
/r/seduction28/10/21 03:59 AM
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whenever I mentioned to girls that I'm a middle eastern refugee, they seemed to get shocked and started treating me differently in a non romantic way So... you're doing something which produces a negative result, and you're asking whether you should keep doing it? From a 'seduction' point of view, NO. From a morality point of view, only you can answer how many things you want to hide and be okay with... Remember, from a seduction point of view, everything you say and do should be done with a spe…
/r/seduction09/08/21 03:03 AM
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> when you’re talking to a woman, instead of having an organic conversation, your mind is preoccupied trying to remember all the psychological tricks and lines you learned about online. Not really. In practice, you forget 90% of it when you're talking to a girl. It sort just keeps you from falling off the rails and saying something really stupid >if you’re a shy guy who struggles talking to women, please don’t cram your head with useless theory Some of the material is useful in that it speaks ab…
/r/seduction05/08/21 03:23 AM
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I just don't believe that these apps are riddled with high quality men and the ones that are using them are just running through women. It's an assumption though so idk Its not just an assumption. It's been proven with multiple studies involving tens of thousands of profiles. This is basically what happens. Guys swipe right on almost everyone. Girls are very selective, but they tend to pick the same top 5-10% guys on the site. Those guys get all the hits and sleep with all the girls, they almost…
/r/seduction02/08/21 08:12 PM
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> I was not a customer and she was not an "employee" I was making generalizations.. because you said she was an owner, which is even more important for her to be 'nice' than an employee. An employee can get fired and start a new job tomorrow, an owner has poured in thousands of dollars, and has much more to lose, and does much more to make sure a place succeeds than an employee ever would.... You talked to her inside of a place that she owns...of course she's going to act nice to you!! Also, I h…
/r/seduction13/05/21 02:41 AM
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> -Me: "Hey do you want to grab a cup of coffee or a drink sometimes?" You asked a girl that owns a coffee shop if she wants to get a cup of coffee? LOL... ok ... problem #2... you can't ascertain how genuine someone is who is paid to act nice to you.. like a cashier, waitress, or owner of a coffee shop.. -B
/r/seduction12/05/21 07:25 AM
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I COULD give her another opportunity and a second chance but wouldn't it be better to use my time and energy for someone that's actually interested? That's difficult to say out of context. If she's cooled down with the texting/calls/etc.. then yes, time to move on... unless you want to attempt to re-ignite? If she is still doing those things, it could be that she is just dis-organized and/or scatterbrained..... another possibility is that there is a lot of turmoil/drama occurring in her life tha…
/r/seduction12/05/21 07:17 AM
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I use a similar variant... if I take an interesting pic, or want to share an interesting meme.. or whatever.. I text it to all the girls I'm seeing at once including the orbiters, up and comers, etc... and see who replies and how.. it's fun to see the different reactions -B
/r/seduction05/05/21 07:41 AM
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On looks.. Yes, looks matter a lot in initial approach, but I've met countless girls who say 'I was attracted to that guy until he opened his mouth' ... they only get you so far... I've slept with over 50 girls and I can tell you that showing persistence, being an orbiter, and over time striking when the girl's situation changes and she is more receptive to advances definitely works.. when looks are not in your favour... yes you have to put in more effort.. but so what, you still get the girl in…
/r/seduction04/03/21 05:31 AM
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Wow.. there's so much to unpack here... > Thats called toxic masculinity. What is toxic is male shaming by white knights and feminists. > Men are not scared of taking the initiative they are scared of the consequences. LOL haha... that's like saying I'm not scared of fighting, I'm scared of getting hit, and getting a bruise... ah..yes, it means you're scared... > Being creepy, being rejected, being ridiculed. I experienced all 3 during adolescents and it leaves a psychological mark on anyone who…
/r/seduction03/12/20 09:24 PM
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What do guys prefer? Easy or difficult? Obviously, we would say that we would 'choose' easy if asked, but many will be 'attracted' to the chase... I hear guys complain about the pressure they have to take the initiative I know, it's pathetic. Men are complaining that they have to act like men... it makes it easier for the remaining ones.. :) :) -B
/r/seduction02/12/20 07:11 AM
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Texts but won’t go on a date Multiple flakes Won’t come to your place or be alone with you. These are all true, but the mindset I've developed is that they drop off my main list and become my orbiter.. i.e. I text them much less often... once a week or once every two with DHV, jealousy, memes, etc... some time passes by and some of them come around because their own situation changes, the guy or two they were chasing all drop off, they broke up with someone, they had a bad day, they got fired, e…
/r/seduction23/11/20 10:47 PM
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the worst thing is the 'neg' straight after the opener lol. Actually, it's more effective now than it has ever been, as guys have become afraid of everything. These are just a guy's version of a shit test. You need to smile, look in her eyes, deliver confidently in context, and LAUGH WITH HER about it... you know it worked when she gives you a sly smile and wants to tickle or lightly punch you or call you an asshole while the both of you are laughing about it.. Incidentally, if she does call you…
/r/seduction23/11/20 10:33 PM
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(2 years LOTS of money and 0 sex). 3-4 dates max, no sex, you move on... you should be dating multiple girls.... and if one doesn't do what you want.. you just naturally drop her off the rotation and she gets replaced with someone else... putting all of your eggs in one basket can lead to disaster ​ she used the fuck out of me after I gave her all I got You let her use you...if you walk out on the street and start handing out $100 bills to homeless people, they will take it.. its on you for givi…
/r/seduction09/11/20 06:42 PM
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You should not swipe right more than 90% or tinder will punish you by not appearing in other girls decks... so if this could be one filter you employ > What i'm suggesting is that we take back some power The tinder game is interesting. The top 5% of the guys on tinder get together with 99% of the girls. They have so many girls that none of them want a relationship so eventually most of the girls get tired of just being used and give up.. meanwhile 95% of the guys give up because they have close …
/r/seduction07/09/20 05:08 AM
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Being scared is normal, it would be strange if you weren't. You're about to make a big life decision with many unknowns. Don't turn away from the fear though, feel it and try to understand. List and write down as many of the unknowns that you can think of, and then you can start thinking about how you will address them, and the big scary blurry picture will get more into focus and not seem overwhelming. Some examples, when you tell your bf that its over, and he's crying and says "What can I do t…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 06:50 PM
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It's not right because the passion is over...and it is never coming back.. and you know it. You have already made up your mind, you know that you have to leave, you only live once, and if you stay, you will regret the years you have wasted later, when you eventually do decide to leave...and you will decide it later.. trust me I believe that your true purpose of your post is not to help decide, but to seek comfort that its okay to leave and perhaps some coping mechanisms on how to rip the bandage…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 03:36 PM
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