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You're a victim and living a life ruled by fear.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/19 09:12 PM
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Your lack of self reflection, hamstering, and DEERing to yourself is pathetic. Why did you leave out of that post that you pulled a gun? Nice guys hide things or lie by omission. In the situation I described what will you do?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/19 07:42 PM
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Of course you left out details, very important ones. Beta fags shouldn't have guns. You're depressed, crying all the time, raging on the road (and I doubt it's limited to the road), you're the last person that needs a gun right now. So let's say a guy pulls a gun on you and demands your phone and wallet. What're you gonna do tough guy?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/19 07:28 PM
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Saw the doc and he said not to lift more than 5 pounds for 6 weeks. Fuck. I'm gonna have to revise my climbing goal and push it a month out.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/19 03:56 PM
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Cool, a covert contract with God
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/19 12:01 AM
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How about that you put shit off for years....
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 11:58 PM
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OYS 5 Background: 39 yr old, 6’ 175 lb, together 4 years, not married, one kid 20 months. It’s been very busy for me lately, and a lot of things feel like they are coming together. Physical: Still healing from an injury and I have not been doing my typical training routine due to that. Going to see the doctor this week to be cleared for activity. I will probably need to start slow, but I’m very excited at the idea of training and climbing again. This past two weeks I have just been doing some ex…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 04:45 PM
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You still don't get it. You work really hard at being blind to your own faults.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 07:59 PM
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May not have been your fault, but it's certainly your responsibility.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 06:13 PM
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No, keep using those words, they expose your faggotry. Not just to us, but most importantly to yourself. You gotta be honest with yourself that you don't take responsibility and you blame others. From my point of view, in this situation, you were being dangerous on the road by not being aware of your surroundings, putting other drivers at risk. Since you can't admit this to yourself, you take the self reflection and anger that should be directed inward and put it on another driver, who apparentl…
/r/askMRP08/11/19 05:51 PM
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In another comment you said you're always getting shit on by someone. So which is it?
/r/askMRP08/11/19 05:15 PM
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Yeah, you're a fucking marionette getting his strings pulled, no responsibility for yourself.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 05:08 PM
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So you're on the phone, getting upset with your wife, when this guy “decided“ to cut you off. You were on the fucking phone, getting emotional, and not being aware of your surrounding. Drop your fucking ego, you're not some perfect driver that never does anything wrong, take some fucking responsibility for your own role in this. One day you may realize that there is no difference in what you do and what happens to you.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 05:05 PM
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You don't deserve shit. Actually you deserve exactly what you're getting because you take no responsibility in your life.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 04:58 PM
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That which you are unconscious of you will find in your neighbor. Were on the phone when the guy cut you off or did you call your wife after to complain about it?
/r/askMRP08/11/19 01:36 AM
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Maybe I'm missing the mark here, but stfu, fogging, AA and other tools are for me. I don't use these tools to change her mood, I,use them to help me to stay within my frame and not give a shit about her mood. If her mood changes it's a side effect, not the goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/19 04:32 PM
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Fuck man, you've been victim puking all over the sub for quite awhile now. All the while the guys here have been telling you to read the sidebar, the other reading, focus on yourself. What the fuck are you doing? I can tell you havent done shit, making such a simple mistake, and not even having the self awareness to see it as you type it out. You haven't internalized shit. You're going Rambo and not focusing on what's important, you. Don't tell your boy shit until there are papers served. Do you…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 10:22 PM
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Lol, so you'll divorce your wife because she got angry when you tried to solve her problems for her. This is sidebar 101 shit, don't solve her problems. You need to read this til your eyes bleed: https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/4fe7pk/comment/d28l473
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 01:00 AM
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I'll tell you one area of wastage; going through expenses and categorizing them. Dont get me wrong, it's invaluable to know where your money is going, but just sign up for a service like mint and let the app do it for you. I used to write every expense in a notebook and transfer to quicken, but with technology I save a ton of time. You had the rug pulled out from under you? Are you just a victim of circumstances? What is the secret combination of stfu, fogging and AA that will change her mood? I…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 09:46 PM
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Guess they like talking to me! Irrelevant bullshit to stroke your own ego. They think I'm intelligent! Heard that same line from more than one therapist, more ego stroking. Internalize this: https://youtu.be/G4j6cUwCRmI
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 08:26 PM
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Seems like you learned some valuable lessons from the trip. While you can identify the covert contracts and projection that took place during your trip, you're still judging and projecting in your lessons. For example, ”she was fucking around on her phone and I should have handed the kid to her”. How does you needing a break and wanting to hand the kid off have anything to do with what she's doing in the moment? Even if you would have handed the kid off you would have seemed butthurt because you…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 07:29 PM
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What mindset did you go into the trip with? What did you hope to gain or uncover?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 06:29 PM
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OYS 4 Background: 39 yr old, 6’ 175 lb, together 4 years, not married, one kid 20 months. This OYS I’ve decided to add goals for each section. My mission is starting to solidify, but still need some time to hash it out. Physical: Still healing from an injury and I have not been doing my typical training routine due to that. Went on one short hike this past weekend, but besides running round with the kid that’s all the physical activity I got. Strength in my lower body is steady and even increasi…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 06:11 PM
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Those narcissist YouTube channels are cancer. Everyone is narcissistic. As one psychiatrist who actually knows his shit said “narcissism is required“. It's a spectrum, don't diagnose your woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/19 12:14 AM
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I don't know if you're American but I think that black and white thinking is ingrained in American culture and the English language. Look into the concept of Tension of Opposites, it helps me greatly.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 05:50 PM
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First off, you improve yourself for you only. You become attractive because it feels good and builds confidence. You fuck your wife good cause you want it. Make yourself a priority. You are not only so deep in your wife's frame, you're deep in the frame of your family and friends. You'll lose friends if you divorce? What kind of faggot friends are those? I wouldn't consider them friends if that is the case. Are they your wife's friends? Anyway, with that said, I agree you should go slow. If you …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 03:55 PM
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You're saying that you wish you could discover that there was a physical aspect to the affair so you could divorce now. Seems like you're looking for an excuse to allow you to divorce. Then you state the 3 reasons you're not divorcing, and they are all based on judgements from others. Who will determine if the reason for the divorce is fair? You don't need permission and it won't be fair, divorce usually isn't. No kids will make it easier though. However, be careful of going Rambo Your post has …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 07:54 PM
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OYS 3 Background: 39 yr old, 6’ 175 lb, together 4 years, not married, one kid 19 months Physical: Still healing from an injury and I have not been doing my typical training routine due to that. I’ve been doing some hiking and scrambling, including a difficult for me hike that kicked my ass this past weekend. I’m concerned that too much hiking and not enough eating is making me way too skinny. I need to up my calorie intake and increase my physical strength. I’ve never been one for the gym, I fe…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 05:02 PM
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I don't think fear is a choice. As a climber there are times when I am on the wall and I have intense irrational fear. I know I'm safe really, and I know it is irrational, but I can't just choose to turn it off. What I can do is learn to sit with the fear and push on anyway. So the fear itself is not a choice but what you do with the information is. There are other times when I have fear and it is 100% justified, such as having ice hanging over you, or rockfall, things out of your control. Same …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 05:41 PM
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Objective vs subjective risk, essentially
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 05:18 PM
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Not married at this time and with my name only on the title and mortgage my understanding is anything I put into it would be considered pre marital assets. If we marry any equity built from that point forward would be community property. I'll be meeting with a lawyer to confirm.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 04:52 PM
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I've done some serious reflection on it and it really comes from placing myself on a pedestal. Holding shit in and thinking that my own shit doesn't stink, focusing on her too much while placing her beneath me. Focusing on other people's shit allows me to avoid my own shit. It's BP 101 nice guy bullshit. If I'm to improve at all I need to say what's on my mind, state my needs and enforce my boundaries, then let her decide to accept that or not. My relationship isnt in a bad place as far as I'm c…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 03:26 PM
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I've found that judging how others live their life and spend their time comes from not understanding your own values, or not living true to those values. When values are not concretely defined we judge others based on our values, even if subconsciously. Part of it is that deep down you know your values, even if you're not aware of them, but not living true to them. It creates an internal conflict that is easier to project onto someone else, cause it's too painful or difficult otherwise. It's all…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 12:35 AM
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The guilt has been something I struggle with as well. Are you sure it's due to feeling guilty about not spending time with wife or is there something deeper? The only thing I've found that works is what you mentioned, to just let it be. Sit with the guilt, push through it and see that nothing comes of it. As time passes guilty feelings feel weaker and weaker. Don't fall down the path of owning all your shit around the house in order to not feel guilty about doing things you want to do. It's just…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 11:08 PM
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Damn this hits me hard as it's something I struggle with as seen in my OYS. I think I am in the stage 2, recognizing it in the moment. It's a shitty stage because it sometimes feels as though getting to stage 3, chossing to adjust, will never happen. This just takes time, as I now see that the time it takes between recognizing in the moment and choosing to adjust is reducing. Hopefully I can get to the point of choosing to adjust in the moment, or as you say it stage 4, the new normal.....but it…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 10:32 PM
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OYS 2 Background: 39 yr old, 6', 175 lb, together 4 years, not married, one kid 19 months Physical: I am getting weaker by the day while healing from an injury. I'm not lifting but getting some leg work in, including hiking and scrambling around with a 45 pound pack. There are plenty of other things I could be doing as well, mainly cardio. I don't wanna work my one good arm too much and get unbalanced in my strength. No rock climbing or cycling until I heal up. Reading: NMMNG, WISNIFG, Various p…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 10:15 PM
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Sounds like there is a whole lot of projection from you onto your son. Can you see that? You're also acting like a drama queen with the never should have become a father BS. Don't let your own mental bullshit get in the way of your relationship with your son. I'd explore why you have such a fear of dependence.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 09:35 PM
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Not specifically for daughters, but I highly recommend Dan Siegel's books. Parenting from the inside out, whole brain child, and no drama discipline are excellent.
/r/askMRP03/10/19 03:01 PM
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OYS 1 Background: 39yo, 6’, 175lbs, together 4 years, not married, one kid 18 months. I’m a little unsure about format, but here goes. Don’t currently lift, just do a lot of body weight exercises, hangboarding, and rock climbing. I’m not out of shape, but on the skinny side for my height. My biggest goal is to improve my climbing and some strength would help me get there, which I am mainly trying to gain by hangboarding. Currently I am injured and not able to climb or do anything with my arm, bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 05:34 PM
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