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Ah yes! That's a good group as well!
/r/ExRedPill14/05/24 11:29 PM
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It's very natural to get frustrated when realizing this. The amazing news is you or any other guy can do it without all the asshole-ness. (Source - reformed jerk) My list of the inner strengths includes Ambition, Courage, Confidence, Charisma, Compassion, Composure, and Self-Esteem. Most Jerks and Assholes simply display more of the sum total of these than "nice guys." That's why they get more attention from women. Learn to use playful banter, etc. Watch Charisma on Command YT vids. Experiment i…
/r/ExRedPill14/05/24 06:44 PM
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Solid list! IMO #7 is the most lacking for the nice guys.
/r/ExRedPill14/05/24 06:36 PM
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It’s so much more about how you present yourself (appearance and personality). Appearance isn’t nearly as important as many think. Ambition Status Courage Confidence Charisma Composure Self Esteem Rate yourself on these categories. For most men I’d say it’s lacking charisma and/or being too needy (part of composure).
/r/seduction11/09/23 01:32 AM
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It reminds me of this https://youtu.be/5pftxSfWH3s (skip to 0:35) Funny stuff! I think if it were me I would have just kept running past her towards the train yelling "come on!" just to save face... I've been down those corridors and it's creepy in the middle of the day, can't imagine at 2AM. Now, as far at the OP's question. I have a confession. I never "cold approached." I always just made the most out of the interactions with girls at work, school, and social circles and that was plenty for m…
/r/seduction02/07/17 12:59 PM
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Women have morals. But feelings aren't moral. Feelings win.
/r/TheRedPill25/06/17 09:39 PM
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Okay, so I'm not going crazy. A golden booger. Don't see that every day.
/r/seduction21/06/17 07:14 PM
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Dale figured a lot out about human nature. How To Win Friends And Influence People is a must read for those looking for deeper meanings into why we act like we do.
/r/TheRedPill20/06/17 06:36 PM
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The thought of nonexistence, of everything I've ever known or done to be sliver between an infinite oblivion is....too much. It's strange, but I've noticed as one gets older, and if they set goals and focus on growth, it get's easier. Neil deGrasse Tyson makes some excellent points here
/r/TheRedPill16/06/17 07:47 PM
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Sounds like they just weren't interested. And admire the gumption but it's an uphill battle when you're chasing older women at 18, as most are looking for older men. Sometimes there's just not a lot to work with, so there's no use beating your head against the wall trying to force the interest that isn't there.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/17 07:43 PM
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Great post! The older I get, the less afraid I am of dying, and the more afraid I am of not truly living... My current goal is to improve effectiveness by getting an early start on house maintenance each day (usually by 7:30AM) Working with my hands and improving my surroundings helps morale and gets the blood flowing. Then shift gears around 9AM and work business for a few hours. I've found that a solid productive 4 hours of work before lunch makes my day go A WHOLE LOT better. And if I'm lazy …
/r/TheRedPill15/06/17 07:36 PM
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No wonder online dating is almost impossible for most men Indeed. Just as with other animals, males are the approachers and females are the acceptor/rejectors. And in the online meat market, the phenomenon is exaggerated even more. So what is a guy to do? Up your game A LOT with your photos/profile info. Find apps that have better women to men ratios. Meet women in person and in social situations.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/17 07:27 PM
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Great post and keep up the mental fortitude! Because they like being better than you. And they don't like feeling inferior deep down. The real question is this, do they know what they're doing or is it all subconscious?? We are compelled by our subconscious desires/emotions. Some of us just have better filters and a better understanding than others ;) jealousy/envy is a disease. Yep. The more jealousy, the more insecurity. You're better than them for maintaining your frame. Keep it up!
/r/TheRedPill15/06/17 04:25 PM
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Thanks for your response, Coach. Subscribed to your subreddit for what it's worth. You're welcome and thanks for subscribing. Looking forward to getting some deeper discussions going over there. And yet my cousin's boyfriend has no ambitions and works a dead-end job, but has a funny personality and has been able to maintain a relationship. Good observation. Think of the "strength" qualities as a report card. The more you have, the better you do. The cousin's boyfriend is doing well in confidence…
/r/seduction13/06/17 04:39 PM
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when I don't give a fuck, they get upset like I don't care. The sooner you learn that women can be upset, yet still want to be with you (more), the better ;) Them being upset with you is not directly correlated to their deep down desire to mate with you, and it depends on what they're upset about. It comes back to frame, and much of what's going on is subliminal. The more relaxed and in control of yourself and your emotions you are, the better. Women naturally gravitate towards the feeling of se…
/r/TheRedPill11/06/17 02:21 PM
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Alright... I want you to ponder this. What if being "controlling" is just another manifestation of being insecure? The Alpha response is actually therefore to "not give a F." When you feel the need to control something, you've already lost. Alpha is more than macho man controlling tactics. It's strength through and through. Example 1: My first LTR. Fiance's interest in me was waning and she started interacting with old fling again. I got jealous. I wanted to control her and keep her away from hi…
/r/TheRedPill10/06/17 06:46 PM
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As a single male in his late 20's am I starting to get close to or passed my use by date in terms of attracting a quality partner? Hell no! Just keeps getting better if you take care of yourself and have a purpose. But I can't help but have thoughts in the back of my head that my time is running out. Nooooooo. Upward spiral buddy. I really enjoy my lifestyle at the moment and the freedom I have but I do eventually want to do the whole wife and kids thing. 42 years old. 10 years with hot wife. 3 …
/r/TheRedPill10/06/17 06:28 PM
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you got any tips? You know, it's not easy, or everyone would be doing it. My advice would be to watch others that have charisma (lot's of forms) and how they make it work for them. Most wouldn't believe it, but guys like David Letterman and Jerry Seinfeld did very well with attractive women. Be someone who can laugh at themselves but still have self respect. If you have a sense of humor, and work to understand human nature, it's easy peasy. Not everyone is going to connect, and that's A-OK.
/r/seduction10/06/17 06:21 PM
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I've read Models, Good! One of the better books out there. and yet there is something that I just can't come to terms with, and that is the nature of attraction. Well, you could join us over at r/ScienceOfDating Just the idea that a woman can leave you at the instant you lose even the slightest faith in yourself doesn't at all put me at ease. It's not quite that abrupt. Women have interest level that is linear. The longer you've been together and the higher their interest, the more runway you ha…
/r/seduction10/06/17 12:38 AM
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but I always get dudes asking me "You wanna fight brah? Hang out with some different dudes. European AMOGs use a fucking Kamikaze tactic. Okay... I'm intrigued. Play by play please.
/r/seduction10/06/17 12:28 AM
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"What winks and screws like a tiger?" [wink] Use at your own risk/reward. Didn't ever use pick up lines actually. Just talked to them confidently and made them laugh. Also didn't PU. But have done my fair share of seducing.
/r/seduction10/06/17 12:24 AM
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So in the animal kingdom, the risk is not surviving for the leader or the lead, due to poor decisions or from clashes with a competing faction or intra faction alpha "wannabe." People can be a bit more "civilized," and the good news is there is more benefits of being "Alpha" with less fuss/risk for humans much of the time.
/r/TheRedPill09/06/17 03:04 PM
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Sounds like college... Lot's of Rob's out there unfortunately. AWALT She's never yours, it's just your turn. Agree completely on the AWALT at the deepest level, other than potential genetic mutations... but say Rob was instead Alpha and knew how to maintain her interest, wouldn't it be his turn therefore for quite a while?
/r/TheRedPill09/06/17 02:20 PM
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Excellent thought provoking post with I believe a lot of truth. Have you ever been in the situation where a social group is entered by an individual whose energy, charisma and personality seem irresistible? everyone turns to him, everyone laughs at his jokes, everyone seems to try to please him, sometimes even despite themselves. They may dislike the guy for one reason or another, he may represent a type of person they'd normally hate to be associated with, but they can't resist him nonetheless.…
/r/TheRedPill09/06/17 02:08 PM
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The older guy theory is not negated in any society. And I keep hearing the "Western Women" argument... All women at the deepest level, the one that controls who they choose and stay with, are the same. All women gravitate towards men with specific "Alpha" strength qualities. They are Status, Ambition, Confidence, Charisma, Challenge, and Self-Control. EDIT: And yes, there are physical traits women gravitate towards- Physique, Hygiene, Attire, Health/Vigor. Most men just overestimate those and un…
/r/TheRedPill08/06/17 02:46 PM
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"Rate my opener?" "So, if I see a cute girl am i meant to talk to her? Too predictable. Girls can sniff that stuff out from a mile away. " Ok looks like im doing the right thing, if i talk to a cute girl should I also give them a compliment?" Waaay to much asking for permission/coming from a submissive frame. First, it's so much more about body language and sub-communication than what you actually say. Second, really try to look at it from the mindset of the girl, who has likely been intermitten…
/r/seduction07/06/17 07:36 PM
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A couple years ago when I started to pay attention to the way I dressed, I realized most guys wear the same boring jeans and T-Shirt 99% of the time. Great observation! A simple shave, haircut, and wardrobe update puts you a cut above the rest, and it doesn't even have to be expensive, just wear a nice shirt Exactly. Made a huge difference for me too. Women gravitate towards men that stand out from the pack. If you enjoy discussing the psychology of women, and what makes them choose one man over…
/r/seduction07/06/17 06:14 PM
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Some thoughts: Against my better judgement, during a night out I confronted her about the situation, as she'd been very stand-offish. As you are realizing now, this never works. Confronting a woman about a perceived lack of interest accomplishes nothing, and effectively lowers her interest (and respect for you) more. However once we went on dates I got oneitis, lost my frame and she got bored. Very common affliction. You have to learn to be more of a challenge - she should be winning you over. W…
/r/TheRedPill07/06/17 02:46 PM
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Link or it didn't happen :) Either way, yes, even skin care is a potential gold mine of suitable women. Guys need to realize that the bar is so low in any of these female dominated interests, that all you have to do is express the tiniest bit of understanding into what they're doing and you've got an intrigue frenzy on your hands. And women compete over men.
/r/seduction07/06/17 02:06 PM
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Sure, body building can be a hobby, and the only one I know of with roided out femme fatales.
/r/seduction07/06/17 01:01 AM
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I disagree, typically what girls are doing isn't masculine, and to women, being and doing masculine things is attractive. Girls do a lot more male heavy hobbies than vice versa. As other posters have mentioned, dancing is one of the, if not the absolute best. Yoga is good. Maybe being masculine is a bit... misunderstood, and it's more about how you "frame" your interactions in whatever hobby it is. Just like men are typically not attracted to roided out femme fatales. I know I'm not. However tha…
/r/seduction07/06/17 12:25 AM
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Here's my take: My dad and grandfather were toothpick-arm ectomorphs. I as well was a toothpick armed... well actually toothpick legged ectomorph. So was Edward Norton. Before and After Ryan Reynolds has done it. Mark Wahlberg used to be a scrawny kid. Here's a whole bunch of ectomorphs that have become lean and mean The ectomorph frame has it's own advantages. You naturally have more endurance and are usually younger looking, and when you do put on muscle it looks more "ripped" due to a smaller…
/r/TheRedPill07/06/17 12:19 AM
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It's one of the best. His concept of vulnerability is a bit dangerous as it can get men in the trap of coming off as weak and needy. Think of it more as taking calculated risks. Also check out Corey Wayne's How To Be A 3% Man and if you want the original, check out Doc Love.
/r/seduction06/06/17 07:45 PM
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Well the most misunderstood and mishandled by men is the concept of challenge (indifference and aloofness) versus being to needy/available. Close second would be confidence and charisma.
/r/seduction06/06/17 07:34 PM
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Yes of course everybody can build some muscle but then you can't change your frame much. Are you and endomorph or ectomoprh? If you're a skinny bean pole it's all about grams of carbs/protein and the right workout. If you're an endomorph you're going to have to do a bunch of cardio. I try to be understanding when I hear someone say the "bad genes" argument, but from someone who was a 138 pounder soaking wet with severe acne until he was 22, and then decided to work his ass of to get what he want…
/r/TheRedPill06/06/17 07:34 PM
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What hobbies attract the most girls? The hobbies with the most girls in them. Simple supply and demand.
/r/seduction06/06/17 07:10 PM
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(e.g. one can go to the gym all he wants but if that person doesn't have the ability to build much muscle then he's hopeless) Can you be more specific on why someone wouldn't be able to build muscle? Many times it seems it's more a matter of how much you want something, and that may in fact be chemical (hormonal). But if you have desire, then it can most definitely be done.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/17 07:02 PM
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They definitely accentuate it. So without the prevalence of swipe dating and the bar scene, you're saying people wouldn't fixate on the physical? If so explain please.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/17 06:06 PM
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Well theoretically you could always be the highest - or one of the highest - SMV males in her life, and naturally she will never leave you. ^ This. ^ And SMV is a much misunderstood concept. Too many men unfortunately fixate on the physical aspects. Alternatively, you could find someone who has enough willpower and discipline to hold herself accountable to commitments that are in contrast of her biological desires - then theoretically she would be faithful for better or worse. But it is extremel…
/r/TheRedPill06/06/17 03:12 PM
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I like to think along the lines of relationships, are at their root about creating children. In that all the good feelings and desire of attraction correlate to being with someone who's a fit candidate to be a mother/father. Indeed. Great point about affection as well. To add to that, men that are looking for LTR should be assessing elements of her attitude, whether or not she's a flexible giver, and if she's a competent human being. All of which get back to the survival aspects of our primal wi…
/r/TheRedPill06/06/17 02:59 PM
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It because you're being a challenge. It has to do with their deep down "lizard brain." EDIT: Irony Is: A community built on seduction techniques, those which directly deal with the deepest, most primitive parts of a woman's brain and "feelings", and still not having a F'ing clue as to what really drives women's actions. Weird. Wild. Stuff.
/r/seduction01/11/16 07:51 PM
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I can see how a lack of knowledge would incline you to feel that way.
/r/seduction01/11/16 12:02 PM
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Agreed. And admittedly, most guys go to the non-confrontational "boring" and "pleasing" side of the equation way too much usually, so you have to be careful.
/r/seduction31/10/16 09:29 PM
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No no no. One is establishing interest, "you", one is creepy (house), and one is ahead in the feelings department, "I love you" and yes, those last two are definitely bad. You seem pretty smart from your other posts. You should probably read some of my other stuff.
/r/seduction31/10/16 09:00 PM
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Playful teasing is great. I guess that means "rapport breaks" or similar correct? So what if She was interested, knew that you liked her and yet you pulled back, were aloof, a challenge. How do you think that would play out?
/r/seduction31/10/16 08:43 PM
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So to clarify, you think being direct with a woman that's checking for interest is "beta", and trying to get women to make the first move, which largely goes against nature, is... "alpha?"
/r/seduction31/10/16 08:26 PM
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No need to make a very easy situation hard. Sure all guys would like the girls to "make the first move." Because they're scared/afraid of rejection. Don't do this. Just reply to the question "you." Or if you insist on being romantic, "girls like you, that..." (describe 3 desirable and relevant NON PHYSICAL qualities here) Observe how she reacts, and then... Well, PM me for more. Good luck!
/r/seduction31/10/16 03:11 PM
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Well the good news is, the further into the relationship you make it, the more you can be yourself. First 2 months is hardest, than after 6 months you can be more, and so on. Still have to utilize strength qualities though. I'm writing a series of books currently that will explain it in more detail.
/r/seduction26/10/16 02:14 AM
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Anti-challenge is being too available (technology or in person), being overly accommodating, saying, doing, giving too early. Anti-challenge turns the warm and fuzzy feelings off, challenge turns them on. When they get low enough - no coming back...
/r/seduction25/10/16 02:24 PM
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It's part of the game. It works best after physical affection has been accepted. If you need a moral reason for doing it, just consider it taking it slow so that y'all don't screw up the courtship.
/r/seduction25/10/16 02:19 PM
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Oh it makes complete sense. You CAN be direct, just spoon feed them the information. Be aloof (hold back/take it slow) after you know they like you, then you'll see the power of challenge.
/r/seduction25/10/16 02:04 AM
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It's because you're being too available/anti challenge. You said the truth yourself in your post title.
/r/seduction24/10/16 09:54 PM
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