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DiscussionCruelAngelGradThesis/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:07 PM
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So it's officially diary post day I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 02:35 AM
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Quite merry
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 12:33 AM
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Exquisite
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 12:24 AM
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And then you have me, the virgin career-hooker woman
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 12:08 AM
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"Ahaha you're so funny!" (Internally: That is the stupidest shit I have ever heard)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 12:04 AM
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I couldn't get past "10 minutes"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 11:58 PM
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No. I didn't find that stuff until I had cut him out completely. That's why I don't like to assume that he was into TRP for sure, but the behaviors and attitudes were eerily similar to the strategies they recommended.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 11:41 PM
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In all honesty I went online searching for insight because my friends and family weren't very helpful with explaining a certain guy's behavior to me. Turned out it was possible that he was following RP or something along those lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 09:51 PM
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Not just the women but the men and children too! In all seriousness whenever I mention virtually anything from this sub to family and friends of both sexes irl they're just confused or tell me to stop talking to weirdos on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 08:50 PM
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Ime it entirely depends on whether they feel like they can count on their friends not to embarrass them in front of their SO. Before a friend of mine brought the guy she was seeing around us for the first time she warned us to act natural. Of course just because she said that some of our group went out of their way to be as obnoxious as possible when he showed up lol, particularly the guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 07:44 AM
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During my time lurking there it was a lot of "if not you, it'll be someone else"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 07:28 PM
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Understood
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 07:27 PM
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Friendship shouldn't take "work." If being friends with someone feels like a job then you probably shouldn't be friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 04:07 PM
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No problem at all. I became more assertive with my wants, needs, and values. I used to accept vague answers like "we'll take it slow" or "we won't do anything you don't want to." All of those are wishy washy and signs he fully intends to persuade you to do what he wants. Anything short of explicit confirmation that he understands my stance on sex and that he is willing to wait that long doesn't cut it. In addition to that, I don't tolerate behavior that tests boundaries, like sending "thirst tra…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 08:43 PM
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Experience with a former partner trying to whittle away my boundaries and self-esteem
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 08:21 PM
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For them to be considered friends you had to like something about them at some point
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 11:14 AM
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Ah, the "if women don't like assholes why do women like my shitty friends" question. Have you ever asked yourself why you like/d your shitty friends and work backwards from there? Maybe there isn't a gender wars issue so much as a backbone issue for everyone involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 03:38 AM
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Red flag: I'm a virgin Green flag: I'm a virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 10:21 PM
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Working out great for me so far
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 10:20 PM
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One more thing: Ladies, if you're gonna date Christian men (and I say this as a Christian woman) If I ever didn't feel like having sex with him He was pretty religious and also used the Bible BULLSHIT BULLSHIT red flag central Christian men who are oh so serious about the faith but make the one exception for pressuring women into premarital sex are always full of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 04:10 PM
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You might want to prepare to condense your personal account a bit so that it doesn't get flagged as a "diary post." First, focus on you. What are your hopes, dreams, wants, etc. that don't involve men? Who are you without him? What makes you you? Who are the most important people in your life? Who's been around the longest? Who has proven time and time again that they'll come through for you? Now onto the man. Is being in a relationship compatible with this established you? And no this isn't a b…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 04:07 PM
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Whichever home fitness equipment company finally starts milking this discourse for all it's worth is going to make BANK
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 03:37 PM
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If a dude stands to inherit anything he at least needs to care about what his parents care about and if nothing else that's enough to push him toward a woman with an education/career ime.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 03:17 PM
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Okay. I'm going to go with the one who isn't a murderer because literally anything worse than a parking ticket is a serious dealbreaker for me. But I also think your impression of average is absolutely ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 02:57 PM
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So let me get this straight. This typical man is ugly and women consider him creepy for...existing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 02:53 PM
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I don't mean your average, I mean the average. Women will look at him and consider him a 2/7 on looks like how they do most men. He would likely be considered creepy at times. OP before I answer anything I'm gonna have to ask where on this planet you are getting this definition of "average" from
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 02:46 PM
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Question 1: In general, if you are hanging out with a guy alone in your, or his house, and he’s openly shown interest in you, are you waiting for him to make a move on you, and do you want to have sex? The flesh craves it but my spirit has prevailed. Hence I am a virgin. Question 2: if you’ve been on 3+ dates with a guy, and you haven’t had sex with him yet, is this usually because he hasn’t made a move? It's usually because we've had the "I'm waiting until marriage" talk by then. Better to ditc…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 01:34 PM
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The nuclear family isn't hated so much as the expectation of it as "normal" or "default." Nobody is being discriminated against because "ewww you have a nuclear family."
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 01:20 PM
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A happy Valentine's Day to you as well 💌
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 12:43 PM
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Exactly what human nature is has been a question that both science and philosophy have pondered and argued over for millenia. To recognize that some dude on the internet does not have the compelling answers to end this debate is not "denial."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 10:59 AM
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Ciiim. You know you're supposed to care so this can be used as an analogy for anal.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 01:00 AM
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My partner is a virgin with zero relationship experience so none of this is an issue for me. In the event we break up the next girl might be pissed if she finds out the way he treated me though. And I would tell her the same thing I would a dude who gets bent out of shape over this shit: stop competing with ghosts. You'll never win.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 12:58 AM
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Nah you're good
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:39 PM
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I'm really curious to see how the question was written. If a survey I created had that much of a discrepancy my first guess would be that something is going wrong with how people are interpreting it. A similar thing happened with the race/ethnicity categories on surveys so researchers had to make adjustments.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:39 PM
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I think you sent your break up text to the wrong number
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 12:20 PM
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You might be onto something here. Winnie the Pooh was in fact one of my favorite characters growing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 12:14 PM
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Fixed everything I needed to. I'm nothing if not thorough. I definitely recommend giving it a shot sometime.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:12 AM
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A lot of it comes down to the infamous "what is a sport" question with the predominantly female ones being conveniently looked over, forgotten, or labeled "not a sport" There, I fixed your bolding job
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:05 AM
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If you're thinking of sports and struggling to come up with even volleyball as an answer for one that women play well past childhood there's a good chance you're overlooking something
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 03:55 AM
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That's a good point. I would indeed call pro wrestling a sport personally. It's also a form of performance, but like you're saying those don't have to be mutually exclusive things.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 03:54 AM
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Did we read the same OP
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 03:50 AM
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Did we read the same OP
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 03:50 AM
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Gymnastics/competitive cheer/dance, figure skating, volleyball, synchronized swimming, softball, roller derby are the first ones that come to mind
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 02:46 AM
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A lot of it comes down to the infamous "what is a sport" question with the predominantly female ones being conveniently looked over, forgotten, or labeled "not a sport"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 02:39 AM
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Exchanged gifts (we both love plushies), had dessert at our favorite crepe stand, and then went back to his place to watch Disney movies <3 Don't worry we left enough room for the Holy Spirit.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 02:22 AM
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My mom has consistently outearned my dad since she completed her PhD which in turn opened up very lucrative opportunities in her field. They both make six figures however. None of these catches you speak of, except that my dad carried the weight financially while she was in school and she acknowledges that she wouldn't be where she is without him. Assuming my BF and I stay on our current trajectories it'll probably be similar for us. However there is technically a "catch" in our case because of …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 08:25 PM
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Apparently we taught people that ejaculating in the vagina is gooood stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 04:24 AM
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the catholics You called?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 04:12 AM
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A little embarrassed because then he would know just how badly I want to [dolphin noises] him
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 11:00 PM
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Somebody missed passport week
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 09:01 PM
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Reactionary movements have existed as long as progressive movements have and yet the earth still continues to spin on its axis
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 03:32 PM
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Random strangers or men/women we know and trust? If the latter men, if the former I'd rather take my chances with the women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 11:35 AM
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What are you talking about. Being truly replaceable sounds fucking awesome. No one relying on you for anything, not being responsible to anyone. Your life is yours to do with as you see fit. Being truly, completely irreplaceable would be the real burden.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 11:33 AM
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That was specifically touted as a sub for men who were married before they found TRP and are now stuck with life on "hard mode." They did NOT recommend marriage for unmarried men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 02:01 AM
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Thank you for clarifying that RP is still pro-marriage in Saudi Arabia and Afghanistan for whatever that's worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 12:15 AM
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Yeah the key words being "already married"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 11:14 PM
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Me, started in 2017. It's always fantastic when redpillers act like you're crazy when you tell them RP is anti-marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 10:11 PM
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Yes, they do not casually talk about fighting each other. What is this, high school?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 08:53 AM
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This is PPD so the only two options are "do nothing" or "risk getting shot"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 07:50 AM
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That sounds more like verbal abuse than role reversal
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 07:46 AM
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Yeah if I were his GF I would've simply pointed out that neither of you are UFC fighters and picking sides over an imaginary fight would be stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 07:43 AM
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Few days ago we were at dinner and the topic of fighting came up. How does this kind of thing casually "come up"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 07:36 AM
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Me hearing people unironically support re-electing a president who is literally over 80 because apparently there is no one else
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 07:33 AM
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Definitely agree with you here. Your insights make me think of the Asian Menswear podcast, which was definitely a major starting point for my interest in the issues Asian men often face wrt masculinity and feeling attractive/desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 07:08 AM
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It's definitely discussed but often faces a problem I like to call "self-interest pollution." Take me for example. I am a...gamer. I think there are valid concerns about the cultural standards of beauty that cause some gamers to not want to date other gamers. But I think it's a societal issue, not any one gamer's duty or obligation to date other gamers. To this day I am eternally grateful that my parents introduced me to media across the gamer/non-gamer spectrum from a young age. I think that de…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 06:43 AM
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All good
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 05:32 AM
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So what if she really liked you. That wouldn't have changed the fundamental incompatibility of "I want sex" and "I don't want sex." I see men do this a lot. "Well if she really liked me..." What if you became Professor X for a day and realized she loved you more than anything? That's great and all but it doesn't really change anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 05:31 AM
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Hmm. Those are nice too I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 05:27 AM
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Especially nervous ones
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 05:25 AM
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Ceasefire. I was congratulating him on not being as much of a prick as he could have been.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 05:24 AM
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There must be some kind of mistake. I missed the registration date for whatever competition you're participating in right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 05:21 AM
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Ah yes, a tenfold increase in the unnecessary DM's I already get. What could be better.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 05:04 AM
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Look on the bright side. I have witnessed firsthand that men can be 1000x harsher than this when being denied sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 05:03 AM
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u/KDOX_ I'll answer you here. That depends on what you mean by "masculine." I was never allowed to dress in an androgynous way even though I wanted to growing up. At some point I stopped fighting it and leaned into soft/feminine aesthetics. Personality-wise I guess you could say I have a mix of cute/sweet outward mannerisms combined with being more masculine internally. And of course, externally when the situation calls for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 04:56 AM
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I always found Adam DeVine very attractive so I never understood why he tended to get typecast in comedic/"best friend" roles instead of main love interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 04:48 AM
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I could not care less what's going on in that man's head or why he prefers women my age or younger. I'm trying to figure out why on earth anyone automatically makes the leap from "criticism of behavior" to "trying to make behavior illegal." If there is any marriage right that isn't going anywhere anytime soon it's that of old men with women young enough to be their daughters.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 04:27 AM
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I propose another reason to not get mad at snarky PPD comments: 🎵 nobody is forcing you to be here🎵
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 03:14 AM
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Many many people on this sub have expressed disapproval of my decision to wait until marriage and yet never has it crossed my mind that they are trying to make it illegal to not have sex before marriage. Where the actual fuck do people get this from.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 03:02 AM
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isn't that what he literally did tho? Starting a friendly conversation with a stranger =/= "pick up". Yes it is 100% possible such a conversation can organically lead to something more. and how would you know? His stutter gets worse when he's nervous, or not being entirely truthful. He freely told me the circumstances under which we met once he realized that I'm a safe person to open up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 09:13 PM
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It certainly helped that his attitude wasn't "I'm here to pick up girls" and nothing about his behavior indicated as much either.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 11:26 AM
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I met him shortly after I started feeling comfortable going to bookstores again post-covid. He apologized for disturbing me and asked about the books I like to read. I could tell he was a little nervous but also seemed really sweet. Didn't hurt that I was eager to talk to other people in general after being cooped up for so long. We chatted for a while. I told him I hoped I'd see him again. He was basically like "here?" and I told him it could be there, or anywhere really. I gave him my number a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 11:12 AM
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In this case probably just games to bait the most angry disagreeable women possible for hate sex
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 03:36 AM
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Forbes 30 under 30 here I come
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 03:20 PM
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So does the fact that my boyfriend still insists on buying me stuff, paying for meals, etc. despite us both waiting for marriage make me a prostitute on layaway?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 02:15 PM
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Not me personally but I do know women who dated as single moms. For some reason it seems that men are more accepting if the child is a girl. The idea of raising another man's son is where many seem to draw the line for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 06:39 PM
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Business comes the closest
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 08:19 AM
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I've considered that. But then flairs tend to be ironic/funny so Idk how many would take it seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 08:06 AM
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If I were 100% confident that searching it wouldn't lead back to me or professors I've worked with I'd be more open about that
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 06:52 AM
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I amend my statement To no one in particular and especially not u/dysonRing
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 06:24 AM
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To no one in particular: I don't accept DMs from male users outside of rare exceptions like specific/civil/respectful questions on banned PPD topics. If you have anything to say to me it's better to just summon me on the community thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 05:24 AM
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Now you've gone too far! The freshmen can be dense as hell but they've done nothing to deserve such slander.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 04:33 AM
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Okay I'm gonna try to be nice about this for once. I think that Leonardo Dicaprio is a great example of the virtue of patience. Because if there is anything the grad students in my program agree on it's that dealing with the freshmen can be like banging your head against a wall while trying to sing the alphabet backwards. Unless he's really not that patient and a precondition for their relationship was her agreeing to undergo a lobotomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 04:29 AM
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Translation: they want an autistic GF who was bullied enough in high school to learn to mask competently but not so much that she's like other girls TM
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 04:10 AM
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What's the appeal of this subreddit? Entertainment Do ever find common ground with men? A lot of them are gamers/weebs, so yes
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 02:28 AM
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An extremely time-consuming impractical mask that for the average woman will only come out in full force a couple of times a year. Of the roughly seven days a year I wear makeup it takes me about an hour to do. That is not practical for a typical morning without losing an hour of sleep that can make the difference between happy, alert me and a disgruntled zombie. I have no doubt I would probably get faster at it if I wore it more often and didn't have to keep relearning the steps but I have no i…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 01:15 AM
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Stupid virgin question: What do men get out of fingering women? I always assumed it was just a warmup before PIV but apparently not.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 05:57 AM
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I got a dude downvoted to hell on another subreddit by editing a previous comment in the thread to call him out for blocking me. Whoops.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 05:51 AM
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Even as someone who is 100% on board with waiting until marriage I'm not sure how realistic it is for someone pursuing a secular relationship (as is probably the case for many on this sub). It works for me because I'm Catholic myself and ime plenty of Christian men are willing to do this. I have felt mutual interest with secular guys and many weren't opposed to my being religious in and of itself. It was specifically the waiting until marriage part that became too much of an incompatibility to g…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 12:49 AM
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Like...attractive American women? Or the...lets just call them "quirky" white girls who may or may not be motivated by an anime fetish? Normal attractive American women. Anime may have played some role in getting them interested in Japan and they may watch it, but their lives do not revolve around it. My understanding has always been that American women have a really tough time dating in Japan because they come from a very...sexually liberated culture, which isn't exactly smiled upon by Japanese…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 11:51 PM
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Once my undergrad dorm booked a massage therapist for finals season. I honestly wasn't a fan. Even though it was a woman it was just too much physical contact with a stranger for my taste. I wouldn't be opposed to my SO seeing a massage therapist of either sex but I'd like to be able to learn and do them myself if possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 05:51 PM
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Research has shown that there is a higher rate of domestic abuse in "mail-bride" relationships than in relationships of people w. same nationality. Based on a quick review of the research the relationships being investigated were set up by international marriage brokers. Cornell Law's website%20International%20marriage%20broker%20) defines that as: a corporation, partnership, business, individual, or other legal entity, whether or not organized under any law of the United States, that charges fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 02:46 PM
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I know several Japanese women who are in happy LTR's with American men. I do think it's a shame when people look at any relationships between an American guy and non-American woman and think "oh there must be an abusive dynamic here." Most of the cases I know personally are very much egalitarian, loving couples. Their work/area of study resulted in being in Japan a lot and they happened to meet women they connected well with there. I'm starting to see the opposite happening more as well, with Am…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 07:04 AM
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Ngl any kind of artistic ability is an asset when learning makeup
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 06:43 PM
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Not quite. I wouldn't torture him in any way he hasn't consented to.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 05:44 PM
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Being in love makes you vulnerable. Vulnerability is a risk that might lead to getting hurt. Hurt people often lash out like wounded animals.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 05:41 PM
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His soul
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 05:29 PM
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Let's be real though. How many are genuinely interested in learning to do it well even if it were socially acceptable. You don't just sit down and master that shit overnight. You might fuck up and look ridiculous many many times before you figure out what looks good/natural on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 07:19 AM
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Yeah I had that concern about the conclusion as well, hence considering the solutions bullshit. That said, it still goes to show that the data can support various conclusions. The author used it for her "women would be happier in marriage if they get periodically railed by other men" thesis. ...Wonderful. Your perspective is the "women are fucking alphas in their youth and settling down with providers they aren't attracted to" thesis. To figure out how two people are coming to such vastly differ…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 07:02 AM
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Thank you for posting the non-paywalled version OP. AFBB isn't the conclusion the writer comes to at the end of the article. They're claiming that, similar to men, women desire sexual variety. Just as male desire for extramarital sex is considered normal and natural they think the same should be true for women. The conclusion: It’s not uncommon for women to let their straight partners play in a “monogamy gray zone,” to give guys access to tensional outlets that allow them to cheat without really…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 06:39 AM
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Bingo. I'll be back with my report.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 06:23 AM
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Never miss a story. Start your free trial. Uncompromising quality. Enduring impact. Your support ensures a bright future for independent journalism. Translation: give us your credit card and hopefully forget to cancel a couple of times I'd be better off seeing if the research the journalist cited is in my college's database honestly. Guess I'll go check on that. And yes, you quoted. If I had a nickel for every time I was able to produce another quote from the cited article that contradicted what…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 06:21 AM
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The first thing I noticed about the post is that the article in question is paywalled and therefore our options are to cough up the money or trust you to provide us with an accurate, unbiased presentation of what the article said. I will admit that my skepticism of the latter impacted my motivation to read thoroughly.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 06:15 AM
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Did they control for kids
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 06:09 AM
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Tea with a good, strong flavor doesn't need any additions
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 01:09 AM
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I mean my high school was kinda like this (but we had a handful of male teachers). Ngl I think having that space away from boys during my teenage years was beneficial in many ways, with some drawbacks too. I don't think I'd want to do that 24/7 for the rest of my life however. Men (the non-shitty ones) have brought a lot of good to my life. Plenty are kind, respectful, open-minded, safe to be around.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 12:48 AM
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Unrelated but I just happened to notice that you have objectively one of the best Pokémon ever as your profile picture
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 10:57 AM
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I just do the same thing I always do in response to awkward/unintentional eye contact: look somewhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 10:47 AM
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It starts out as a simple fact. "Okay this guy is attractive." With time and repeated interaction I'll generally start to feel butterflies and think about him a lot. I'm a big doodler when I'm bored in lectures so I often find that I start writing his name in the margins of my notes with hearts and stars. My face heats up and I can't stop smiling when he's around and it becomes harder to make eye contact. When I feel aroused it's like my skin is on fire, heart races, unsettled feeling in my lowe…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 04:59 AM
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This is a mindset, not an objective interpretation of reality. You are not the universal male spokesman who gets to decide why men pay for shit. Maybe it's about sex. Maybe he just enjoys seeing the way her face lights up when he surprises her with a gift. Maybe she's on his mind constantly and he doesn't want her financial situation to be a barrier to their spending time together. Boiling it down to money and sex is a choice. Generally one made by people who don't enjoy or are not successful at…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 04:46 AM
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Interesting. She makes it sound like there was a deep connection and chemistry going on. Maybe she was just really excited to get back into dating and saw it as more than it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 01:17 AM
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How did these two communicate for weeks without any semblance of the hookup conversation? What the hell have they been talking about? Their pets?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 01:11 AM
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As someone who's been pretty Y2K aesthetic-crazy lately I absolutely agree
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 01:07 AM
2

I wouldn't call it a crush, but I just recently discovered that Jim Carrey was pretty easy on the eyes in his prime.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 01:05 AM
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It is blatantly obvious that the live action Bratz doll isn't going to look like that without makeup. No woman on this earth naturally looks like that. Do you also call fraud everytime somebody shows you a neat card trick?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 11:13 PM
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Pretty large I think. Being a homemaker for example is a very rare thing in my family. The boomers in my family staunchly believe that women should be self-sufficient and that basically trickled down to the following generations.No matter how well-off her husband is she needs to be educated and have strong career prospects. So being a SAHM was never something I wanted. My dad stayed at home for a few years after my mom was promoted to a comfortable six figure salary, and it seems like the time a…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 07:00 PM
2

Believe it or not there are reasons to stay celibate that don't revolve around your desirability as a partner
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 06:18 PM
2

Don't insult freshmen in college like that
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 02:35 PM
2

There are lots of great restaurants there I've heard. You should be rejoicing.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 02:31 PM
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I've been very suspicious of what men on this subreddit mean by this ever since an OP clarified in the comments his "opening up" entailed telling his GF he wanted to "blow up the entire the world." Not to mention the ones who got really offended when I called punching walls, throwing stuff, slamming doors, etc. dealbreakers.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 02:17 PM
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I was open to dating a man from pretty much any culture provided our personalities and values were compatible. And then covid travel restrictions trapped me in the U.S. for a couple years and some basic Protestant white guy came stumbling into my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 12:41 PM
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This is dumb and tantamount to implying that the Marshall plans investment in continental Europe means that West Europe is "Americanised". Incorrect. Though the U.S. did invest in the economic rebuilding of West Europe its goal was not in any way a cultural overhaul to the extent that took place in Japan. I would suggest reading a text like John W. Dower's Embracing Defeat for a more detailed breakdown, but for now, here are excerpts from Wiki's article on the postwar occupation of Japan. In 195…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 12:24 PM
1

Imo Homelander has way overstayed his welcome, but I fully acknowledge that the way he was written in season 3 contributed to my opinion. He now feels more like a stand-in for American conservatives than an actually intimidating character. If they're going to keep him around I hope they get him back on track in season 4.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 07:27 AM
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We were ROBBED of Soldier Boy killing off Homelander and replacing him as the main villain
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 07:09 AM
1

Yeesh. The first image that came to mind when I saw your comment was a cartoon bald eagle beating the shit out of a black sheep. For some reason those scenes were more memorable for me than the live action gore.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 06:51 AM
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Has r/Tinder become r/OLD? That looks like Hinge, not Tinder
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 01:46 AM
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Everyone looks disgusting when they wake up. If she still looks like a wreck after drinking plenty of water, washing her face, and moisturizing then yeah, that's rough buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 01:43 AM
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We have an (annual?) survey that records demographics for this sub. If it isn't on there already, asking if users are childfree could be a very interesting addition.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 01:39 AM
1

Has childfree status ever been asked on the demographic survey?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 01:30 AM
2

That character is a parody of RP/hypermasculinity Also he has a GILF fetish
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 01:27 AM
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For me it comes in handy because my BF uses a shit ton of emojis when he's happy and none when he's sad or being serious
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 01:24 AM
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There's actually an entire subset of international relations research on such topics called "soft power"
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 12:52 AM
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I'm a Bluepiller familiar with post-WWII East Asia and the interests the West held in the ensuing Cold War. In the case of Japan for example, the U.S. occupied and aided the industrialization of the nation in order to serve as an ally and model to the world of capitalism/democracy's success in restoring the nations leveled by the world war. The rival being the Soviet Union's push for Communism. The West certainly had ethnocentric views and interests, but they also had wealth and power. The forme…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 12:47 AM
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やばい。 ちょっと怒って いるな
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 12:33 AM
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Yeah and hopefully it ends after you thoroughly read and consider the sources, which is clearly not what happened here.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 12:27 AM
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No, don't jump to "thinking" before you actually read your sources. I don't know what your credentials are. That is where like 80% of this sub fucks up with citing research.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 12:18 AM
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Okay this is where I'm going to have to ask if you know anything about East Asian history. Because like it or not imperialism/Cold War legacy have heavily affected those nations.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 12:15 AM
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Those spots tend to be excluded from discussions precisely because we are generously assuming that the men who bitch about western women aren't looking to the most westernized parts of Asia for a wife
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 12:08 AM
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From the same article Self-objectification is thought to be a form of self-consciousness and involves women internalizing an observer’s perspective of their bodies Further reading of the article reveals it is about body dysmorphia/negative self-image, not dressing sexy. Interesting stuff. Tell me, did you even read it or just cherry pick the first sentence that even vaguely supported your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 11:54 PM
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It is not possible to treat yourself like an object because you cannot simply unplug yourself from awareness of your own humanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 11:30 PM
1

Yeah now that I think about it are there any happy NBA couples with no history of cheating or drama?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 11:28 PM
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It is literally impossible to contribute to an action more than the person executing said action
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 11:15 PM
1

My mom had a choice between blue collar Chad and a tall but weird-looking NBA rookie. I'm really glad she chose the first one because as much as I don't always get along with my dad I'm glad to have two parents who are genuinely crazy about each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 11:10 PM
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Oof. Yeah. They're worried. Many of my Protestant friends from school were constantly freaking out about dating and finding a spouse ASAP. For Catholics you can just tell your parents you're thinking about becoming a priest or nun or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 10:43 PM
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Ah. Are they Protestants?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 10:39 PM
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Do you have any dating history that they are aware of? If not they might be starting to worry that you'll never give them grandkids, either because you're aiming for the wrong types of women or they think you might be gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 10:34 PM
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They spend lavishly on what they want to spend lavishly on. If they think something the woman wants is stupid/not worth the money they will have no problem saying so and asking her to fuck off at any time. She's not in a position to demand anything. It's foolish to subject yourself to that. I have no doubt that there are women desperate enough to do it. Most or all women who travel? No. Especially when there are available alternatives that are way safer/less demeaning. and of course there is the…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 10:31 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 10:06 PM
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Depends on how heated the game is
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 10:02 PM
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This is an example of immodest/modest dress. It isn't possible for a woman to "desexualize" herself. Literally went to a school run by nuns who could tell us many stories about facing temptation to break their vows of chastity.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 10:01 PM
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That's right Lurk. Hit em with the logical fallacy reverse uno card!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 09:43 PM
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This better still exist by the time I get married
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 09:41 PM
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This type of logic wades into circular territory very quickly. Why didn't she go for it? Ethics? Basic self-control? Reason? No it's clearly because she didn't want it enough enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 09:40 PM
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This is why I'm grateful I grew up in a house with a dad who doesn't yell for any reason. He can be very firm and intimidating without that. If a dude wants me to actually care about anything he has to say it's best to leave the theatrics at the door.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 05:04 PM
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After cutting a dude out of my life I wanted answers as to why he changed on me so suddenly. Answers beyond the usual "he's just an asshole, forget about him" that my friends and family gave me. Found RP, lurked it to understand their methods, got into this sub because actual discussion and varying viewpoints are allowed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 04:43 PM
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If you're still in school and willing to be productive while abroad research grants are also a very feasible route
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 04:29 PM
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Lol so that rich guy can make all of the arrangements, nickel and dime you over every little thing, and expect sex on tap because he thinks he's paying for an on-call prostitute like Pretty Woman. Sounds like a great time.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 04:25 PM
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In America it may be for an economic thing precisely because we don't have that quality of infrastructure. For example, one of my friends from Japan is way more comfortable staying at affordable hotels in other countries but is very careful about doing it in the U.S. because ours can be sus as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 04:20 PM
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As an American I have never personally encountered this irl. But I also grew up pretty sheltered in suburbs that skewed upper middle to upper class. Saying you like to travel will just make him curious about where you've been and if you hit it off you might even end up traveling together.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 03:17 PM
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Socioeconomic status. As in Americans who grew up with/have the resources to travel may see it differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 03:10 PM
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Enjoying travel does not mean you expect a man to fund it for you. That's actually a terrible idea because the person who pays gets to control everything, or at least will be strongly inclined to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 03:05 PM
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Weirdly enough I am also from the U.S. and grew up in one of the most religious/conservative regions. Nowhere have I encountered "woman traveling" = red flag. Though admittedly it could be an SES thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 02:52 PM
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I'm glad that I don't live in whatever universe this is where the only means to travel on a regular basis is diet prostitution
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 02:46 PM
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Agree on food, still don't understand this sub's weird travel hate boner
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 02:34 PM
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So how did I find this topic? By having way too much time on your hands. Case closed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 01:08 PM
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You just proved that people will find this treat afterwards I get the notification because you replied to me. Do you not know how Reddit works?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 12:45 PM
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Yes, indeed...All of the people emotionally invested in this discussion a whole 5 days later. Oh wait I'm pretty sure that's just you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 12:40 PM
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Another stalker on Reddit? Today must be my lucky day.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 12:33 PM
1

I was asking the same question
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 02:49 AM
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You are not giving slay
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 02:39 AM
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I've been on this sub way too long. I read that as cock carousel debt.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 02:38 AM
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I'm so glad they sent their elected representative to clear up the confusion
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 02:32 AM
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Pass
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 08:37 PM
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Memes teaching people a thing or two about philosophy? I see this as an absolute win!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:57 PM
2

Can I get a pretty please?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:49 PM
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Ohh I didn't think this would be the day I run into a Hegelian dialetics fan in the wild. Maybe I'll see a double rainbow too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:39 PM
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I wanna put you in a room with the "women should be drafted" crowd and watch the fireworks
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:33 PM
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Ah. Ngl if I were looking to trim some fat off my company (no pun intended) that would be one of the first areas I'd look at.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:18 PM
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So you don't know how studies work and now the last trick you have in your bag is completely subjective opinion labeled as "le common sense." And I thought you were fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:16 PM
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shortly after Olohan was promoted to managing director of food, beverages, and restaurants With all due respect to the victim what the hell is this position
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:10 PM
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Is someone holding a gun to your head and forcing you to subject yourself to supposedly hateful women? "The people here suck" are valid complaints about your job, public transportation, classmates, spaces that you have to be in because they are essential to your life. A fucking subreddit? No one is holding you hostage here. Edit: Oh no I've been blocked by rape hentai dude. I feel like I'll be missing out on an essential part of PPD discourse now.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 05:36 PM
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This, plus if religious people's beliefs aligned perfectly with actual behavior we wouldn't have practices like confession.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 05:24 PM
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They are reporting the results of a study. Studies are intended to contribute to an overall body of literature, not to establish "fact" by itself. That is why researchers will use language such as "suggests" or "supports the conclusion", not "proves" when discussing the significance of their data. When discussing results relevant to human perspective/behavior it is absolutely valid to contribute relevant cultural experience that may provide context.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 05:21 PM
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Never had the patience for support roles. Two-handed weapons all the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 11:24 AM
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As someone who grew up in the Bible Belt I can honestly tell you that we had some of the most hypocritical motherfuckers on the planet. They may say shit like "cheating always wrong" but then turn around and say "only God is allowed to judge me" or "this is between me and my wife."
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 12:59 AM
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I mean on the bright side I guess you're not squeamish about periods
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 12:50 AM
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Mommmm
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 12:41 AM
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I got blocked by some dude who comments once in a blue moon and I have literally never spoken to
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 12:35 AM
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Tbf it came after 6 and 7. The only way 8 could've measured up to those two is if summons literally came crashing through your roof and into the living room.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 12:33 AM
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We're gonna have to prop her up on a pole like a scarecrow. Seems like her backbone didn't properly form in the womb.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 11:20 PM
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😔
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 12:43 PM
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And this is how makeup for men never becomes normalized.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 12:42 PM
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But did you build it on rock and roll though?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 12:31 PM
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If a dude is already not getting laid what is the risk of using makeup? Getting extra not laid?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 12:27 PM
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See, you know what I do when people tell me to change something about myself or not do something I want because "men don't like it"? I do it anyway because who the fuck cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 12:21 PM
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They really wish they could do it but also think being mistaken for gay is a fate worse than death apparently
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 12:07 PM
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This wouldn't be a conversation if it were a gay friend sexualizing the dad's chest and that's the point. I asked 2 guys on this thread and "it's different". Not surprised. This is what I mean by being sympathetic to the general principle you and the OP are getting across. Just indecisive about the best answer from a pure family/relationship perspective. Though honestly now that the "your mom is hot" genie is out of the bottle he might stop hanging around that group anyway. I dunno if I could ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 08:04 AM
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I understand the rationale and principle behind what you're getting at. At the same time, especially when dealing with family, you have to weigh the effects of enforcing said principle and decide if it's worth it to you. I have a sister with possible BPD and there have been times where I went "this is stupid as fuck and I know I'm right, but at this moment indulging her is necessary for something that's more important to me than being right."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 07:31 AM
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The PPD vetting process: "I'm hot you're hot let's get married"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 06:37 AM
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either kick them out or change These are two very different solutions and is pretty much where the "torn" comes in
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 06:31 AM
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The ever constant possibility that the crazy shit I read about on this website could be entirely fake is the one thing keeping my faith in humanity intact at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 06:22 AM
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I'm usually not a fan of policing what grown women wear but something about this one makes me go "lady, go sit down somewhere"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 06:03 AM
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Very curious to hear PPD's take on this AITA Ngl this one has me torn
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 05:53 AM
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Now all that's left is to sell t-shirts with your stepdaughter's face on them and retire early
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 05:46 AM
2

There is no way for a gay man to woo a straight man. Hmmmm
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 05:33 AM
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Calling the present condition of society a "decline" is an inherently conservative viewpoint. Acting out in liberal ways in reaction to that conservative viewpoint does not make you liberal.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 05:32 AM
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Nah too paranoid
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 05:25 AM
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I mean my BF didn't have his first kiss until 25
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 03:24 AM
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You are more than welcome to buy makeup, give it a shot, and see that severe acne is still visible with it, albeit less noticeable. If the result in question is satisfying to you nonetheless, just keep wearing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 03:17 AM
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I see that Sephora's handpicked sales representative has joined us
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 03:14 AM
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Weirdly enough we seem to be agreeing. You notice makeup on women and know that isn't what you like. What "deception" is that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 03:12 AM
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It's definitely been discussed and the takes are just as shitty as you might expect
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 02:40 AM
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A girl I was best friends with in middle school is famous on Tik Tok now. She's gone to parties with Addison Rae and stuff. It's weird to think that to most people she's some gorgeous bleach blonde bombshell while I'll always see her as the short hyperactive girl with wild hair who invited me to my first sleepover. Even though she wears it completely straight now.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 02:35 AM
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Men way overestimate how much makeup can do for a woman's appearance. I came to this realization when a dude on this sub used a before/after of a woman who was blatantly using a filter or got some procedure done as an example of "makeup."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 01:46 AM
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"Tell me, what's the best thing that happened to you today" is one I find particularly effective. If they're struggling to think of it, say something like "I totally get that. Sometimes it doesn't come to you until you've had more time to slow down and relax." Once you get the other person to trust you and feel comfortable talking about themselves I find that everything else comes easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 12:23 AM
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Idk maybe we should wait for the actual trial instead of jumping to conclusions based on a "trust me bro" from the defense attorney
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 11:53 PM
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Ah fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 06:22 PM
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Damn you're nice. In my family slamming doors is a one-way ticket to being right out on the sidewalk.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 06:13 PM
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Nobody is obligated to listen to anyone who isn't paying their bills
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 06:09 PM
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Weird. I was sheltered as fuck as a kid and still wound up with some pretty masculine/dominant tendencies.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 02:42 PM
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Oh don't worry. He's one of my fans from purge.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 02:38 PM
2

Heey I remember you!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 02:38 PM
1

Ohh I see your point
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 11:20 AM
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Entertainment
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 11:19 AM
1

Huh. How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 10:23 AM
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Objectively, yes. He just doesn't do it for me personally. Young! Andy Richter comes closer because he has that soft boy next door look I'm into.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 06:19 AM
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He's probably one of the kindest, most gentle people I've ever met. Calm, attentive, unfailingly positive. Soft dark brown eyes I can't get enough of. I don't always let him because I don't think it's responsible but he loves to get me gifts and constantly tries to buy me anything I put my eyes on. And even if I refuse him and pay for it myself he'll ask to carry my bags. He loves to hear about my research even if he doesn't fully understand what it means. He lets me set the pace and call the sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 06:15 AM
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The latter was attractive in his prime at least
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 06:00 AM
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I feel like that would be more enticing if I were male
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 10:04 PM
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Trust me I'm trying. The road to spiritual chastity is a long and cruel one.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 09:31 PM
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Me being an idiot at the time thought it was just code for the actor not using a condom
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 09:24 PM
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C.S. Lewis explains the difference well in The Four Loves BY Eros I mean of course that state which we call "being in love"; or, if you prefer, that kind of love which lovers are "in"...Sexuality makes part of our subject only when it becomes an ingredient in the complex state of "being in love." That sexual experience can occur without Eros, without being "in love," and that Eros includes other things besides sexual activity, I take for granted. If you prefer to put it that way, I am inquiring …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 09:21 PM
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Sex in its ideal form is an act of love and mutual pleasure between two people, a function equally important to the procreation aspect. The isolation and fetishization of the procreation aspect is just as concerning as the isolation of the pleasure aspect.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 08:56 PM
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To illustrate the difference more clearly I use the example of the time I accidentally made the mistake of watching breeding kink porn. That shit was just weird. The guy was literally rubbing and slapping the semen (including the excess) into the chick's vagina like lotion and saying the cringiest shit I've ever heard. I have never felt so suddenly turned off before in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 08:46 PM
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Isn't breeding fetish more about the impregnation than what comes after that
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 08:40 PM
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I find that a lot of guys are bad at judging how well his vibe/lifestyle fits with hers. "She's into this nerdy obscure thing I like" becomes "she's a unique, quirky special snowflake girl who's perfect for a unique, quirky special snowflake guy like me." No my guy. She's right here getting lit on New Year's Eve in a scene where you would probably hyperventilate and pass out within 10 minutes. I don't care what you thought and your years of pining after her have told you she is like. If you want…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 11:09 AM
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Insecurity only becomes a problem when it makes you a nuisance to other people. Would you not eventually grow tired of a woman who doesn't trust that you care about her and constantly accuses you of cheating on her, lying to her, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 10:52 AM
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If you think indifference is compatible with anything stated in your post you do not know what the word means
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 10:47 AM
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And you're under 50? Crazy stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 10:45 AM
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You are witnessing a phenomenon I like to call the law of singlehood troubleshooting. When presented with a person who is A. single and B. irritating, an individual tends to arrive at C. you are single because you are irritating. Note that this conclusion will happen despite knowing equally irritating people who are in relationships. They'll just assume the people in your orbit are sane enough not to date you while the people in theirs have lost their last mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 10:45 AM
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Mhmm. Very interesting. My diagnosis is main character syndrome. This is the mindset of someone who thinks that the world revolves around them and anyone who isn't actively out to help them is actively out to get them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 10:34 AM
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Do you believe that failing to Amazon rainforest for you means they don't want you to reproduce
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 10:29 AM
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I would start by asking him his type and to show me the kind of girls he has liked on social media. Based on that I can probably tell him exactly what's going wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 10:27 AM
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What if the person is rejecting you because they are already taken
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 10:20 AM
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Both
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 03:26 AM
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I haven't met a single person under 50 who likes that lady. We just kinda accept she's a living museum piece that isn't going anywhere until she chooses to retire. I'm sure there are Republicans who feel the same way about McTurtle.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 03:24 AM
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No cohabitation before marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 03:20 AM
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College freshmen are usually teenagers so that doesn't track
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 10:08 PM
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I pick where the fuck did you get that age range from
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 02:58 PM
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Identify yourself Externally I'm the one in the passenger seat while internally I'm the one behind them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 02:30 PM
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Totally. The most you should do in this type of situation is call 911 and pray if you're into that sort of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 02:13 PM
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Sounds like none of our wishes are coming true today so you may as well put Pinocchio right back in the VHS case
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:29 AM
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Ciao
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 07:54 AM
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There are things you can try. Like surrounding yourself with men who are respectful and don't make lewd/suggestive comments about women, or stare at us like pieces of meet. This is a solution I suggested early in our exchange. Some potential examples I've gotten out of this conversation are memory loss, short attention span, or illiteracy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 07:47 AM
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O...kay
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 07:39 AM
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You're correct, reality isn't going to change. That's why I'm not going to pretend that modesty protects women from disgusting behavior. It's a beautiful thing in my eyes based on my faith and personal values. I'm glad it's that, because if I ever viewed it as some sort of medallion of protection that ultimately ended up being worthless I'd probably be wearing a thong out in public everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 07:35 AM
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I don't think that lack of interest in your concerns and problems is a sign of a person being "disingenuous." It's a sign that they have their own complicated, busy lives just like you do. They want to be happy and not necessarily weighed down by suffering they didn't agree to take on.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 07:27 AM
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Wonderful. Next time a random dude asks me if he can clap my cheeks in public I'm gonna ask him if it's the lack of cleavage or not showing enough leg that's arousing him sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 06:55 AM
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Why would a woman who is currently in a relationship with you care about your "dating woes." Where is the woe coming from?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 06:51 AM
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There are things you can try. Like surrounding yourself with men who are respectful and don't make lewd/suggestive comments about women, or stare at us like pieces of meet. It just happens that this particular solution is stupid and ineffective.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 06:46 AM
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It's a nice thing to strive for. Let it be a pleasant surprise when you find other people striving for the same thing. Not an expectation.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 06:42 AM
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Strangers who think you're attractive and might want to get to know you better are still strangers
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 06:40 AM
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I'm always impressed by the number of people on this sub who are just coming to the realization that random strangers who don't know you do not give a shit about your problems and have to rearrange their entire moral code around that fact
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 06:34 AM
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Not surprised. I went to a Catholic high school where we had to wear white blouses buttoned all the way up and skirts that touched the floor when we kneeled. The one thing I appreciate about the harassment I experienced in that uniform is never buying into victim blamey bullshit concerning what women wear. I still dress conservatively, because it's what I feel comfortable wearing. It's not to stop unwanted attention from men. That happens regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 06:00 AM
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You know that term "just world fallacy" that gets thrown around on this sub a lot? Yeah this is a perfect example.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 05:48 AM
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I'm curious about why you jumped to that extreme instead of addressing say, a good-looking able-bodied young woman who dresses conservatively
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 05:27 AM
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I really wish that dressing conservatively activated this magical sexualization off switch that internet men think it does
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 05:18 AM
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Wish that were a thing when my uncle was living. He might not have unalived himself if he had been warned about that woman preying on teenagers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 04:57 AM
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Pomegranate
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 04:51 AM
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The literal teenager's excuse is that they are dumb and still figuring out life. As grad students whenever we feel ready to flip our shit on the freshmen we are reminded (and remind each other) that these are basically kids we're dealing with. Not legally. But it's also not against the law to look at this adult still doing child shit and making childish mistakes and reasonably think "so basically a child." The decades older person's excuse (assuming the younger partner is still highschool/underg…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 04:49 AM
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That is understandable. For years I couldn't tell them apart either. And omg please don't jinx Def Leppard like that 😭 I might actually need a drink if that one disbands.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 10:32 PM
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You never specified "only women who have had sex"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 10:30 PM
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I don't even know who you are
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 09:32 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 09:16 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:56 PM
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I vaguely remember something like that coming out. And then it just kind of...disappeared.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:54 PM
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Brendan Urie is gonna be a daddy. He wants to focus on that now apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:46 PM
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Well. Panic! At the Disco is officially done for. If Fall Out Boy breaks up I'm just gonna have to go to a bar and drown my sorrows in...tap water, I guess. I don't drink.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:44 PM
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There has been strife and conflict in all human relationships since the very first walked this earth See #1
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 07:36 PM
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That's called the U.S. really needed their cooperation for Cold War purposes. The first step of a PR campaign for democracy/capitalism is to not torment the people you are trying to convince. <sup>Unfortunately that is a lesson that has to be relearned again and again</sup>
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:46 PM
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That's also valid honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:05 PM
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In some circles we call this main character syndrome. Literally every person on there thinks they're a tragic misunderstood soap opera protagonist.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:04 PM
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10/10 recommend investing in home gym, you can wear whatever the fuck you want and not subject yourself to strangers wearing whatever the fuck they want
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:54 PM
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It gets even worse when you remember that historically Japan has not always been open to this short of thing. They were essentially coerced by Western powers on multiple occasions and decided "well we might as well see the bright side of this."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:53 PM
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So you know how we have words for men and women who say shit just to ingratiate themselves with the opposite sex and to appear "not like those other ones"?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:39 PM
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It is so strange to me how people can compartmentalize a person's personality and their taste in the opposite sex. Idgaf how kind, intelligent, open-minded a guy appears on the surface, if he says his ideal type of woman is Regina George I'm going to be rethinking all that shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:32 PM
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Ah, yes. Mapleleafican.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 07:59 AM
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Insert obligatory "Americans are so prudish" comment because we're on Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 07:35 AM
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The blue pill in a nutshell
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 07:28 AM
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Valentine's Day is coming! Squidward brings out his lawn chair It's on a weekday! Squidward leaves
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 07:15 AM
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Please don't call on me to fight your battles like a Pokémon
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:57 AM
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Kind of. Omae is "you" in a pretty rude/aggressive way (depending on the context anyway). I've seen it translated as "bitch" particularly when directed toward a woman. I enjoy pissing some of you off so you get to call me omae.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:55 AM
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Very common misconception to be fair
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:23 AM
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"She said I embarrassed her at Whole Foods" has to be one of the meme-iest reasons to break up that I have ever heard
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:23 AM
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All biological males were killed off in World War II and the ones we have now are actually just highly convincing robots?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:20 AM
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Weeb shit
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:18 AM
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The funny thing about being an adult virgin with an actual sex drive is that you think about sex pretty damn often
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:08 AM
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Sir it is 2023. Why are you assuming the knife cucumber will be used on a vagina.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:00 AM
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Would there still be blood if the sharp bits are sheathed in the cucumber?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:45 AM
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I was "thinking even a knife?" But then I realized you could technically impale a cucumber with said knife and hold it by the handle. Maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:00 AM
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That is unfortunately true. I'll probably be playing mostly older/"retro" games within a couple years.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:26 AM
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The sad thing is that I've been posting on PPD since I was in my teens. Mood
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:10 AM
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I'm 24 and attractive enough to be accused of not liking anime until Michael B. Jordan made it cool. AMA.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:09 AM
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So a drag queen
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:00 AM
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I'd amend that to certain types of games, particularly -Open world -Heavy online competitive component -No story with clearly defined beginning and end All of those are high risk for becoming time sinks ime.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 12:35 AM
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Leverage 100% dependent on the man not meeting that need elsewhere
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 10:54 PM
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Barking orders at each other was fun at first but then I got bored. If you want to keep my attention you're going to have to have more...finesse.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 10:43 PM
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Dudes on here really trying to star in the next Dear Zachary documentary
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:15 PM
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Tell me what you read
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:45 PM
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Read
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:20 PM
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Thank you for this deeply fascinating conversation
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 11:50 AM
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Congrats, you have outed yourself as being a part of the problem
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 11:43 AM
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At this point I'm just going to keep dropping this link because it's clear that none of you understand how financial abuse works
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 11:42 AM
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Lol no
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 11:16 AM
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Nope I'm right. Look at any literally any article about a student being raped by his teacher and you will get a bunch of perverts calling the teacher hot and saying he's lucky. That kind of thing is what I mean by a societal issue, not just a "woman" issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 11:03 AM
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Ah so you get it now. I'm here to entertain myself. I don't understand how people get the impression that anything else is happening here.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:46 AM
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Being able to "leverage looks" is not power in the same way that being able to determine whether your SO's rent gets paid next month is
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:44 AM
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...Are you Possum's girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:29 AM
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Not everybody? I wonder who on earth that could be.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:20 AM
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Did anyone else misunderstand the title initially Thought we were going to be discussing how women react to a masculine man's sperm count
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:12 AM
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On today's episode of PPD Safari
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:04 AM
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Riveting
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:01 AM
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Not being able to continue this conversation...what a tragedy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 02:44 AM
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So yes, indeed a pretty neurotypical woman who doesn't make much money, dating a 6 figure making socially awkward less attractive older man has the advantage, yet the woman will never get called a "predator" like the man would An advantage in terms of what? Winning Miss Universe? You misspelled Double checked and everything is spelled correctly. There must be some confusion on your part.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 02:38 AM
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A power imbalance occurs in a situation where one party's position provides an advantage over the other in terms of getting their wants and needs met. This is not exclusive to romantic/sexual relationships. It can happen in virtually any interpersonal relationship, whether that be between friends, coworkers, teacher-student, etc. I came from a wealthier background than my closest friend from high school. Whenever she joined my family for vacations and outings my mom was very careful to make sure…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 02:09 AM
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In my observation masculine men do not have strong opinions about "society" in general, they're highly individualistic and focused on succeeding at their own goals. Men who care deeply either way tend to be on the nerdy, socially awkward, or feminine side.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 01:34 AM
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Oh yeah the way the dudes on here have come for your wife has always been hella weird to me. I think there's something that goes with peanut butter going on there...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 09:27 PM
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In no universe is she a 10 but nobody is losing sleep over that given the stacks of money she can dry her tears with
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 12:32 PM
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Ah I see you too are a proponent of "woman moment" becoming synonymous with "being absolutely correct"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 12:20 PM
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Are there women on here calling Melissa McCarthy a 10
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 12:12 PM
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RP theories are vulnerable to individualistic propositions because they put the speaker into the position of being forced to defend absolutes such as AWALT. If one proposes that an event will always occur, with no exceptions, then the presentation of a single exception is not Motte and Bailey. The weakness lies in the maximalist argument that attracted the anecdotal counterargument.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 09:26 AM
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Miranda Priestly
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 12:21 AM
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This just reads like attraction as felt by someone who didn't get enough attention from their parents as a child
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 05:16 PM
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Oof. No wonder. Orlando is a major active tourist hub with plenty of happy/friendly people. Or at least that's my experience from vacationing and visiting family there. Mississippi is...not that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 02:51 AM
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Lol not yet. Within my faith the point of marriage is to raise children. Neither of us is at a place where we could commit our lives to that. We agreed we'd at least wait until I finish school.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 11:41 PM
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What part of America? The U.S. is massive and culture/QOL varies significantly by state and region. A woman living in a suburb filled with young families and young men who are interested in settling down isn't going to have the same dating prospects as a woman who lives in Seattle.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 10:30 PM
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It would be a massive mixed signal to bring that up with him while we're both waiting for marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 10:18 PM
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Show him some handcuffs and tell him we're playing a new game called "just lie there and don't forget to breathe"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 06:25 PM
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Word spreads that fast huh. Abandoning this sub entirely isn't something I'd do anytime soon. But I do plan to cut back since I'm already killing more time here than I should be. Getting involved in group chats and stuff would just make things more complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 12:11 PM
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Very specific
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 11:04 AM
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No way, that would be unreasonable. Surely it doesn't warrant anything more than a couple of hours of community service.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 08:38 AM
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I have to keep reminding myself that so many of the common tropes on TV originated on Seinfeld
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 04:58 AM
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No because you were respecting my wishes not to do so
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 04:57 AM
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My first truly negative experience with dating. I was very naive and sheltered back then. I took him at his word when he said he understood and respected my decision to wait until marriage. That turned out to be a mistake. My friends and family irl weren't exactly helpful at explaining to me what had happened and why he had changed so suddenly. I turned to the internet stumbled across a TRP post with a guy asking advice on how to get his virgin GF to sleep with him. And then everything made sens…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 04:55 AM
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You remind me of one of those tv show side characters that's working a different job every episode
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 03:14 AM
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Oh no. The love of my life confined to our bed and placed under my care for an extended period of time. What a shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 02:47 AM
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I'm very practical when it comes to this sort of thing. Is there a violation of the platform's rules taking place? If so, has it been reported? If the platform has received the report and chosen not to act well...This kind of behavior will persist.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 11:40 PM
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10 previous partners of any nature would be a yellow flag for me. I don't care about their sex or what exactly he did with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 06:38 AM
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On his main? Cringe as fuck. With an anonymous alt specifically dedicated to those sorts of activities? Eh.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 06:36 AM
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Just gonna quote a user from the Catholic sub because I think they said it best Matrimony gives each spouse a monopoly on the provision to the other of something that a typical healthy person wants and needs, and just like any monopolist, an obligation arises in justice and charity not to abuse that monopoly. We can still defend that while not necessarily buying into the maximalist "I'm horny, God demands that you get naked" position
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 10:20 PM
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As someone who has been on this sub on and off for 4/5ish years I would say the quality and content of posts has changed but the actual discussion has always been angry and contemptuous. If this golden age of enlightened, civil discussion had actually happened more of the users from that era would still be here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 01:37 PM
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Creepy doesn't even begin to describe whatever the hell that was
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 08:57 AM
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Desperate
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 08:06 AM
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I hope you called him a clown
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 12:56 AM
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Are you really a feminist? Or did you hurt a man's feelings?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 12:24 AM
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Play as a woman, say you like virgin men/are dating a virgin, you will quickly realize that men virgin shame their own all the time as long as they feel like they have incentive to
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 02:20 PM
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fucking school I see what you did there
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 08:39 AM
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Thank you for sharing. I'm glad you were able to troubleshoot and make the necessary steps to improve your success with dating. I understand that my personal tastes in men aren't necessarily indicative of what would give them the best odds of romantic success. My own BF didn't have much luck with women before me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 08:13 AM
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What if getting your back blown out regularly brings out the best in you
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 07:41 AM
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Ime they're usually very aware of why he has yet to find a partner. She literally raised him. It is no secret that while other kids were out socializing he was at home doing lord knows what in his room.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 07:34 AM
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I've literally had men on here try to convince me to date guys with more sexual experience. The belief that being with a male virgin is the worst thing a woman can do is not so much a "woman" complex as a cultural one.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 07:27 AM
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I believe that it's a safe rule of thumb that the majority of straight women are turned on by traditional masculinity, though you have no way of knowing whether any given woman may be an anomaly or exception. I am attracted to traditionally feminine traits in men. I was raised with the belief that women should be driven, ambitious, and capable of supporting themselves financially, though most of the women in my family end up with men who match them in that sense. Looking back even the boys I pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 07:21 AM
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9 times out of 10 I'll just assume they were speaking to someone else because I'm not the main character and what the fuck are the odds this random stranger has some kind of issue with me
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 12:02 AM
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The trad Christians I interact with most often actually tend to be more liberal politically, outside of a handful of issues like abortion. Conservative evangelical Christians are an...interesting bunch. Very big on the "born again" stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 11:46 PM
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The connotation of "loner" is often someone who actively avoids other people due to disliking people in general. You seem to be using it more neutrally in the sense of someone who gets along all right with people but prefers to keep to himself. That wouldn't bother me much in terms of friendships, but not having a close relationship with his family either is a potential incompatibility. I am very close with my family and find that I am most compatible with men who are like that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 10:43 AM
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The original comment was not talking about literally any woman who happens to be a virgin, it is about women who are actively holding off on sex. The number of people on this sub who think it's perfectly normal for people with completely opposite values and attitudes to look at each other and go "yep, a relationship with you is a great idea" is genuinely baffling.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 10:32 AM
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Are you suggesting that it has become so overused that it’s lost its meaning? Yes that is correct There is a very clear, undeniable difference between what women claim and how they actually behave. My virgin boyfriend is in no way a secret and I talk about him on this sub all the time. Yet OP described my comment about preferring virgins as "virtue signaling" in a since removed comment. Accusing a random stranger of virtue signaling with zero information on their lifestyle is an example of how u…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 10:16 AM
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What if anything you expect as compensation for acts of kindness is definitely an element of an individual's personality and moral code. I have no idea to what extent your personality has anything to do with your ability to date. It could have zero relevance for all I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 06:40 AM
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For him it is. It all depends on an individual's personality and moral code.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 06:23 AM
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See this was never an issue for my BF because despite not getting romantic interest (that he knows of) until age 25 he was never told that being a good person has anything to do with being sexually attractive. It just makes him rest easier at night knowing he's made someone else's day (or life) better.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 04:59 AM
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That was the intended meaning. As with gaslighting, it now means nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 02:39 AM
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Ah yes "virtue signaling." Tied with gaslighting for meaningless terms internet strangers cast into the wind when they can't think of an actual reply.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 09:45 PM
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As a virgin I second this take
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 09:15 PM
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I don't think anyone should pay for anything until we both know we're interested. Meet by the fountain and chat for a while, take a walk together. Do something free.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 01:41 PM
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BuT wHy DoN't YoUr AnSwErS mAtCh ThE sTuDiEs No how about we ask why a basic understanding of statistics and academic research is so difficult to find on this sub. Reddit is not a good place to get answers that accurately represent what is true for most of the population. The only thing polling Reddit is good for is to specifically find out how people who use Reddit or a particular subreddit think. We are nowhere near close to the number of regular, participating users to accurately represent th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 09:09 AM
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Hard for me to weigh in as someone who has never given or received oral. I would like to learn to be good at it for my future spouse, but he would need to be gentle and patient and let me take my time learning. That post sounds like exactly everything I don't want to happen. I definitely agree that they're better off not together.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 06:14 AM
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The credit goes to him for making it an easy choice. No one's ever stolen my heart the way he has.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 05:40 AM
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The only man I can think about marrying rn is an awkward cutie who made it to age 25 with zero dating experience
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 05:31 AM
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OP repeatedly states what I said, nearly word for word. What you are noticing are the contradictions in the OP's own logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 05:10 AM
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You got it
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 05:07 AM
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TIL Jacana birds are based
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 04:29 AM
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"Misunderstands" is a very generous way to put it. I'm leaning more toward willful ignorance at this point since this topic has already been hashed out a million times with the same answers being given.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 04:00 AM
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Your post is about the typical "women being loved for who we are" fairytale. This is a childish dichotomy. Adults are valued for both who we are and what we do. The only people who get to exist and be cute with zero expectation of action or contribution on their part are toddlers and some household pets.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 03:48 AM
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Do I need to link the discussion being had on the weekly megathread about whether a woman no longer wanting to be throat fucked by her husband is a divorce-worthy offense
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 03:37 AM
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If nominations are happening right now I'll put forward C.S. Lewis' Four Loves to represent BP Christianity. An excerpt, discussing "eros", or romantic love To the evolutionist Eros (the human variation) will be something that grows out of Venus, a late complication and development of the immemorial biological impulse. We must not assume, however, that this is necessarily what happens within the consciousness of the individual. There may be those who have first felt mere sexual appetite for a wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 03:35 AM
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Are you familiar with the Book of Genesis? I've wondered if that's where my fascination with it comes from.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 09:12 PM
1

You think so?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 08:31 PM
1

Please no. I used to make the mistake of combing through archives to dig up TRP posts because Reds from the sub refused to believe a user said that/it was heavily upvoted. Then it just quickly shifts to "We aren't a monolith!" "Mods/ECs aren't the Pope!" Bitch you could've just said that from the start instead of sending me on a wild goose chase.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 08:30 PM
1

The fruit part is kinda weird. Idk how most men would react to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 05:04 PM
3

Yep. Though a lot of the more gatekeepy Redpillers left or have been banned by now.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 12:52 PM
1

Restrain, blindfold, tease his lips with some of his favorite fruit though he can't actually bite into it without my permission. Something juicy so it dribbles down his body and makes a mess everywhere that I have to clean up with my mouth.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 12:50 PM
2

True. I guess it was just more surprising to me at first because I was pretty sheltered for much of my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 09:20 AM
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Step 1: Be in a loving, happy relationship with a woman. Step 2: Be repeatedly told that she's going to replace him if she gets a better option and if he believes she's the exception he hasn't "truly" swallowed the red pill. If you think BPers get angry and argumentative you should see Reds fight each other over shit like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 09:08 AM
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He can call me whatever he likes as long as he doesn't DM me with weird fetish crap lol. As a virgin who's been on this sub on and off since I was 19 I've gotten a lot of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 08:38 AM
2

Body isn't my type but his face looks a lot like my BF's.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 08:34 AM
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Wouldn't they be happy that men are calling promiscuous women whores unworthy of their oh so valuable dick? No we are not. Being a virgin doesn't mean you have a high opinion of men who treat other women like garbage.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 08:06 AM
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Nothing upsets virtue fetishists more than being poorly received by those they love so much. Therefore it's necessary to make up elaborate stories about how they only dislike slut shaming because they "plan" or "want" to become a slut. Ironically this is the kind of nonsense that opens virgin women's eyes to the dangers of uncritically accepting praise from men who want to elevate you as the "unicorn" or the "exception." Say or do one little thing that contradicts or humiliates him and now you'r…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 08:03 AM
2

Only if it's unrefined. When properly sharpened and polished the attitude is like crack for a good number of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 07:47 AM
1

If we're all just lying cold and dead in the earth one day allow people whatever gives them guidance to a live a good life and comfort.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 07:43 AM
1

Sure whatever. Some people believe in karma or an afterlife as well. Or do the bare minimum to not end up in jail.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 06:35 AM
2

There is no utopia on this earth and there never will be. Plenty of people will behave justly and live honest lives and never receive a single reward or thank you for it. I thought everybody knew this? Is this info new for some people?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 06:32 AM
2

For black man it’s the lighter the better { black woman are only hot if they are mixed } Light-skinned =/= mixed Shit like this is why any moderately attractive Black woman is probably going to be asked if she's "mixed" with anything at least once in her life. 9/10 the answer is no.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 06:20 AM
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I would chalk it up to being around a lot of "woke" white guys thanks to academia but one I dated was actually more like a conservative/Libertarian. Idk maybe I'm just that hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 06:15 AM
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"Losing feelings" on either end hasn't been the cause of any of my breakups. Feelings are the bare minimum. A healthy, loving relationship based on mutual compatibility is the ultimate goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 06:07 AM
2

Ime culture/socioeconomic status is more important than race, but there is correlation between those. Despite being a Black female I've never struggled with dating. I accidentally flipped one guy (non-Black) who only dated women with similar looks after me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 06:01 AM
2

That too
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 12:52 PM
3

Me rn
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 12:01 PM
1

Starry is the new drink replacing Sierra Mist to compete with Sprite. 7 Up is just hanging around at this point apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 06:08 AM
1

If the Starry drink fails I would like to congratulate the Coca-Cola company on its newfound monopoly on lemon lime drinks that don't taste like liquid ass
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 05:39 AM
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Thank you. I'm a lot more mindful of it now. Because I didn't go to high school with guys I didn't really understand any of that stuff until later. My first BF warned me about being too physically clingy/affectionate with him, but I took that as him just not liking it. I didn't understand the actual reason until years later. Looking back I'm very grateful to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 11:00 PM
1

Once we're dating seriously I do prefer to know whether a man has had sexual experience before me. Not an automatic dealbreaker, but I would have to take that into consideration in terms of vetting/compatibility. That said whether those encounters were with men, women, one-on-one, threesome, orgies, etc. doesn't matter to me and honestly it doesn't feel like my place to demand answers anyway. The most I'd feel comfortable requesting is that we both get tested for STD's.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 08:48 PM
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I'm not looking for your respect or sympathy concerning my experiences. They do shape my reality, as experience does for all people. So that is why I talk about them. I always make clear from the start that I'm waiting until marriage. Yet there are still men who hope they can persuade me otherwise and score with the virgin. That is why I'm wary of guys who play the cuddle song and dance until they have absolutely earned my trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 08:36 PM
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Yes that is what I mean by normal
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 07:58 PM
3

Are you lost? Can I help you? Idk if you're replying to the person you intended to reply to.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 07:57 PM
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As someone who has been accused of leading a guy on over cuddling, I wish it were as insane as you think it sounds.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 07:56 PM
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I enjoy it, and it's the most intimate I'm willing to get with a guy before marriage. That said I am a bit wary of men who claim to love cuddling. Because some see it as a gateway to sex and treat a girl wanting to cuddle as a sign she's open to more.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 04:38 PM
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Let's be honest, unless the guy is completely out of touch with reality, he isn't going to advertise or hint at his violent plans. I dunno have you seen the number of cases where people are slaughtered and then the authorities helpfully let us know "he's been on our radar for months now"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 01:42 PM
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I mean this was kinda inevitable given the use of rhetoric such as "enjoy the decline" baked even into the "original spirit of Redpill." A "decline" is not a neutral stance on reality. It indicates the opinion that society was better at some point that isn't now. That is a perspective very much shared with conservatives even if the response suggested by original RP is not in line with conservatives. "Shit's better than ever, yayyy!" would not attract trads/former trads who see themselves as trag…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 01:01 PM
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The existence of blatant incel subs on this site with rhetoric as on the nose as "DAE women should be sex slaves" and praising mass shooters "ironically teehee wink wink nudge nudge" was a problem for a while and got seriously cracked down on in response to global mass shooting incidents. After the crackdown...these subs kinda lost their direction imo. They were intended to call attention to seriously dangerous rhetoric, not shit on men for expressing their frustrations with OLD or something. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 12:49 PM
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The issue with this is that reality is objective. Math, science, laws of physics, etc. constitute objective reality. Conflicts in interpersonal relationships rarely are. Practical, valid responses. No reflection on his wife; that's just a commonality amongst men. Men would like to believe this is a commonality amongst them, as well as women who doubt themselves and need a man as their reassuring "objective reality" anchor for shit that is not objective. "We need to feed our kids" is an objective…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 12:34 PM
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"Men are logical, women are irrational" More often than not the perception is derived from circular reasoning in which rationality is assumed by default to be the source of a man's behavior while the opposite is true for women. I came to a realization after I went back to coed for undergrad after 4 years at an all-girl high school missing classes with the "rational" sex: none of these people are rational. I was just being told that by other people and to some degree myself. By default people are…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 03:40 AM
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I just speak based on watching similar scenarios play out over my parents' 25+ year marriage. They've made it this long, so they've come to some weird understanding between them. It's just annoying to witness completely avoidable situations that are a direct product of this mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 03:24 AM
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I understand that that is far too many syllables for some people
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 03:16 AM
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She admits that the level of emotional response and her need to hold onto it is irrational. This isn't healthy. She's shit talking herself out the gate, how is that conducive to being in touch with her feelings and knowing what she needs? Her supposed acknowledgement of this "irrationality" apparently isn't solving anything. So it's logical that the solution will require a different approach. My top recommendation would be toning down the "more rational than thou" attitude unless that's more imp…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 03:13 AM
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There is essentially a spectrum of expectations of your partner in terms of trust/transparency ranging from reasonable expectations to what is unreasonable. If people are saying "you shouldn't be dating" that's generally a good indication that you have crossed into unreasonable territory.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 02:51 AM
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She herself admits it's irrational. This is a paradox. You are essentially saying she is "rational" only when she agrees with you. If you truly believe her to be irrational, flip it. Maybe there is truth to what she's saying and she's learned to see her own wants and feelings as stupid, hopefully for reasons that have nothing to do with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 02:18 AM
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No. I am dating a 26-year-old who had zero romantic experience until 25 and neither of us have had sex. He is literally one of the most loving and compassionate human beings I have ever met and the women in his life think highly of him. He just hasn't had any luck with dating until now due to being a very shy and unassertive person.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 02:06 AM
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Something tells me this mindset does not at all aid your ability to communicate with your wife. If you are anything like my dad (which I suspect you are) you see your worldview as objectively "correct" while everyone else around you is irrational or crazy. And you are way worse at hiding that than you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 01:53 AM
3

I feel the same way about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 01:47 AM
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Different people are into different things. That's not exactly a revolutionary concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 10:15 PM
2

Can't relate since I'm not interested in taking or giving anal
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 09:56 PM
1

I also really like guys wearing animal ear headbands? Not a furry I swear but ugh they are so cute I THOUGHT THIS WAS JUST ME
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 09:49 PM
3

Being a dom does not have to entail putting anything up someone's ass
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 09:45 PM
2

I am certainly told this is happening by men in internet bubbles. I have seen zero indication in real life that any of this is happening in significant numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 09:41 PM
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Yes, sex with a woman is the gayest thing a man could possibly do
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 09:35 PM
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Who?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 08:57 PM
2

The woman is the dom and the male is sub
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 08:55 PM
2

Fine, unzipped. Also since it’s all gender the same dudes could go to the all gender ones also. In stalls where we're all separated and out of view. My undergrad dorm bathrooms switched to all coed because of covid protocols. Only one person was supposed to be in at a time so theoretically it wouldn't have mattered, but in practice people stopped giving a fuck by the end of the term and treated them as normal coed bathrooms. It didn't feel weird at all to have guys joining us in the girls' bathr…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 08:25 PM
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I'm aware home boy. Not everyone is comfortable passing a row of dudes with their pants down to get to said stall.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 08:16 PM
3

I'm going with the urinal answer because that is literally the first thing I thought of
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 08:10 PM
2

Weird, if there's a war going on you wouldn't think they would keep electing men
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 06:58 PM
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The majority aren't male in every theater of the conflict women overwhelmingly control the media and have the court of public opinion on their side. Doesn't sound like much of a war then
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 06:39 PM
2

Why should this happen? Nowhere did I say it should happen
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 06:37 PM
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Sausage isn't just between their legs, silly. It's also in their mouths.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 03:57 PM
1

Hmm. Not bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 03:16 PM
2

It's my fault. Good sausage calculators are hard to come by these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 02:29 PM
2

Do I have multiple personalities disorder You may not be aware but occasionally geyges0 hijacks your account to let us know that he's currently at war with you
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 02:25 PM
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The basics, according to my understanding as well as the effort I'm in the mood to exert writing this -Men and women have diametrically (gotta whip out those SAT words) opposed interests in sex and dating -Women have a dual mating strategy where they will sleep with so-called alphas before trying to secure a beta for marriage when they hit the Wall <sup>TM</sup> -She's not yours, it's your turn, women will inevitably branch swing if a better options comes about for pursuing her interests at any …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 02:23 PM
2

And some of you are cringe as fuck and have dm'ed me about my masturbation habits
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 02:10 PM
2

Can you convert that to units of sausage
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 02:06 PM
2

Smh diagnosed me before giving the chance to answer
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 02:04 PM
3

TIL being a virgin was the source of my insomnia all along
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 01:59 PM
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SIMP
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 01:56 PM
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Sure and those people need to exit internet bubble for at least one day in their lives and up their civic engagement game.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 01:46 PM
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Never. I've always found it weird for men to be expected to have dating experience by a certain age.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 01:28 PM
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Yes, let's not pretend that. Your comment directly supports mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 01:14 PM
8

OP if you've already made up your mind and had zero intention on believing the responses here, why on earth did you ask the question
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 09:02 AM
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I think these definitions suit the current climate between men and women all the factors are at play from economic attacks, strategic attacks on the wealth-building capabilities of the opposing gender How does one reconcile this logic with the fact that the majority of people calling these shots are still male? Did our government/business leadership suddenly shift to 50% female over night? What Reddit fails to understand is that national politics cannot be reduced to a game of tug o' war between…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 08:57 AM
5

Fuck no
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 05:45 AM
3

I know right
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 05:13 AM
1

If it makes you feel any better I do worry for him too sometimes because of that. I trust myself of course, because I love him with every fiber of my being. I don't trust other people not to take advantage of him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 05:12 AM
1

You worry too much
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 03:50 AM
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The fact that I've lived in Japan with three different Japanese families and talked to my homestay moms about dating stuff while I was there
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 03:49 AM
9

E in reality, my ideal fantasy is B with soft femdom play
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 11:23 PM
10

That would be weird considering the fact that the woman approaching the man is actually even more normal in Japan than it is in the U.S.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 10:19 PM
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Lol good families don't groom their daughters to be housewives in 2023. At the very least they're gonna want you to have an impressive job title where the work/responsibility are minimal.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 06:16 PM
1

Sure, I'll let him fan me with it on hot summer days.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 06:10 PM
2

Oh that makes more sense. My BF doesn't take much coaxing to be emotionally vulnerable so I can't really relate to that problem. He's very sweet and attentive to me in return though, so it doesn't feel one-sided.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 04:22 PM
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In my family we only really talk about the funny, weird, or exciting things that happen during the day. Just reciting everything that happened for the sake of it would be boring and no one is going to listen to you. I let my BF know what I want to hear about his day and he answers based on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 04:16 PM
2

As in, here on this subreddit? No shit, this is a debate sub. r/offmychest is that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 03:56 PM
1

Dog (small) - She wants a play thing. She'll make you her plaything. Avoid at all costs. Come on now. Some of us are very good to our playthings.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 08:39 AM
2

I would say preference for muscle is common but not universal. Virtually no preference can be called "universal." Sometimes I genuinely wish I understood what most(?) women feel toward muscles. I can admire it, in the same way I might admire details on a Greek statue. It's a sign that a person is putting in a lot of hard work and effort into taking care of their body. That's commendable. I gave a gym rat a chance and hoped it would grow on me eventually. But the arousal/excitement just isn't the…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 03:34 PM
2

Yes as a 20-something who prefers 80s music over virtually anything released today I am aware. I'm also not going to pretend that liking that particular genre magically puts me on the same wavelength with people who actually came of age in the 80s and witnessed that decade of pop culture firsthand, like my parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 02:04 PM
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I said nothing about maturity/immaturity. OP was talking about "pop culture mindset."
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 01:40 PM
2

Did you have this man's consent to record him
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 12:34 PM
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Also she can't be more knowledgeable or better at the masculine interest than he is
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 11:55 AM
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See i dont get that, in my opinion both the 18 and 24 year old are around the college years and have a similar pop culture mindset. As a 24-year-old grad student who occasionally comes into contact with freshman undergrads this isn't true at all ime. A freshman told me that something I did was "giving slay" and internally I was just like "what the fuck does that mean."
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 11:51 AM
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Over 25, whatever. Before 25? Not a fan. I'm 24 myself and have no desire to date more than 3 maybe 4 years older. But I do have more male friends/acquaintances in their 30s or older than I've ever had at any other point in my life so far and I can see why women become more open to it around my age.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 05:37 AM
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OP it sounds like you have the hots for a fellow parishioner's wife and are lowkey hoping she'd cheat with you if given the opportunity. You're focusing on "female nature" and what her husband is or isn't doing instead of reflecting on your own struggles with temptation. As a fellow Christian, I'd recommend meditating on the commandments with particular emphasis on the part about not coveting your neighbor's wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 02:41 AM
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A little over 6'3 actually. If it weren't for his quirks I'm like 90% sure he'd do better with women. Even now he could probably pull if his standards were even slightly lower but he's vehemently against that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 02:25 AM
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Yes I'm aware lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 02:21 AM
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With this exact title and wording. Is this a bot?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 12:29 AM
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He's actually pretty moderate on those afaik. But if I asked him what his thoughts are on the WHO specifically that would probably be a whole can of worms.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 12:23 AM
1

Good point. No I am not
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 12:12 AM
0

More like 9/11 stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 10:46 PM
2

My grandpa is definitely wiser and cooler than he probably was closer to my age. But then I'm not trying to fuck my grandpa, am I?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 09:12 PM
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Summoning u/chimmychummyextreme because you were interested too His main ones (outside of gym/fitness stuff) are political conspiracy theories and Star Wars. He is pretty much a walking encyclopedia when it comes to those topics.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 08:32 PM
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Usually they try to be nice. At least one flat-out told him "no" with zero further comment and moved on like it never happened. Considering the fact that we were all in the same student organization and it could've made things really awkward she handled it pretty well I'd say. Albeit bluntly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 08:20 PM
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Tall/muscular/conventionally attractive but also very talkative about his narrow interests and terrible at reading social cues (professionally diagnosed with autism and ADHD). He goes for the prettiest neurotypical women he can find and keeps getting shut down by them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 11:36 AM
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People have definitely argued about how much he's striving for historical accuracy or just throwing in his own kinks disguised as "historical accuracy." I can give his readers the benefit of the doubt though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 06:54 AM
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Spoiler, but yes. At its core GoT is about dark fantasy political intrigue heavily based on actual historical figures and events that do happen to involve incest. The entire plot that drives Oreimo is a guy finding out his little sister is into incest media, keeping her secret, and ultimately having a romantic thing with her. I wouldn't say those two things are comparable. Tokyo Ghoul is an example of a trash adaptation of a manga that is supposedly actually pretty good.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 06:39 AM
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Fetishizing incest is trash by default
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 05:55 AM
1

No because weird siscon shit is not my thing
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 05:15 AM
1

Oreimo
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 05:05 AM
1

Only if the anime on the shirt is trash
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 04:55 AM
2

That's generous of them. I don't think anyone deserves a relationship at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 02:15 AM
3

Thank you for the public service announcement
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 01:42 AM
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If you wanted the dictionary definition I'm guessing you would've just looked it up yourself. In my view misogyny encompasses a range of actions, ideas, and behaviors that stem from negative feelings toward women solely for being women. Disliking a woman because she stole your lunch out of the fridge isn't misogynistic. Noticing that your lunch is missing and assuming it's the woman who did it because "women are thieves" would be misogynistic. It is important to distinguish misogyny from sexism …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 06:51 PM
5

All depends on an individual's genetics/life trajectory
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 07:46 AM
3

Yes if the guy has a lot of truly normie friends outside of niche hobbies and interests and gets invited out by said friends regularly.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 02:40 AM
2

OP can you clarify what kind of experience you're referring to/believe these people are referring to
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 01:15 AM
3

You're looking for that same generalized guide from a remote internet stranger that I already told you is not how BP operates. Feel free to ask other BPers in this thread but I don't think I can offer you what you're looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 01:05 AM
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BPers generally feel that individuals best learn from firsthand experience and the people closest to them. Learning isn't the problem. It's the method. You know yourself best, don't you? What has your life been like up until now? Were you ever the type to drink, go out to parties, concerts, etc.? To take risks? What about your friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 12:50 AM
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So I guess it's time to get a bit deeper here. RP's "guidance" is based on a particular understanding of the world. Let's divide RP into three areas: philosophy, advice, outcome. RP and BP disagree the most strongly on underlying philosophy. RP has specific, highly controversial beliefs about male and female nature on which the other two areas build. Advice is a mixed bag. Obviously one of the major differences is the natural vs. normal distinction I mentioned earlier. BPers generally feel that …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 12:36 AM
7

Women: "I want a dominant, masculine man" Gross
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 12:07 AM
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It's not as simple as going to a bar and asking someone for sex, that's why there are guides. This is what I was replying to. The existence of a guide does not prove its necessity for all or even most people. You can probably find a guide to ordering from a drive-thru somewhere on the internet. Using that as evidence that people need a written guide in order to figure it out would be incorrect. For BPers, having casual sex is something like the drive-thru. People learn from observation, experien…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 12:04 AM
2

As an individual want not necessarily driven by religious belief, I get that. I mean more in terms of a secular reason for seeing casual sex as an inherently bad thing that should be discouraged for everyone. Is that a thing in western societies?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 11:52 PM
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You can find a guide to pretty much anything somewhere on the internet. That does not necessarily mean that all or even most people will need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 11:46 PM
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There is a mainstream understanding of how casual sex happens. That includes going to clubs, bars, music festivals, parties...You know, places where people are generally down to hook up. It's not exactly a secret to anyone. Or at least not to bluepillers. Therefore having a "guide" on it would be redundant.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 11:34 PM
1

Okay. My tradcon/religious brain says that's a bad thing. But looking at it from a purely secular perspective I don't see a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 11:26 PM
28

You're tired of being the man that women will only talk about their feelings or hobbies with. At best. You want to exude masculine sexuality. You want women to not waste time with small talk and see you purely for your sexual value and little else. All of this just sounds like a weird, loaded way to say "I want to have casual sex." From a purely secular worldview standpoint there is nothing odd or objectionable about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 11:03 PM
1

Spoken like a true utilitarian
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 10:54 PM
1

Humans are not selfless by nature. But we can strive for it in our actions and habits.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 10:30 PM
2

What are you talking about OP. You don't find the history of Groundhog Day extremely fascinating to learn about?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 09:46 PM
1

Ah okay, I see what you're saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 09:10 PM
1

When I am constantly told by older men on Reddit that "no woman plays this thing", have played it myself, and keep encountering Gen Z women who are or have been in a DND group, I assume the number of women who play has increased over time. Or there have always been women in this hobby and those men are exaggerating or oblivious to them, one of the two.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 08:49 PM
1

I don't know a single woman who would play in a setting like that honestly. Usually it's with an established friend group or a college org. I knew my DM from school.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 08:27 PM
2

Don't worry if r/rpghappyendings becomes a thing I will definitely contribute my account. I was in a mixed group with a male DM but he was also very experienced and let us know in advance there would be zero tolerance for creepy shit. He was the kind of dude who was very bubbly and friendly overall but something tells you he could snipe a bitch if necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 08:19 PM
2

Baptism by fire. The entire purpose of marriage is learning to feel selfless love. And given that humans are naturally quite selfish there's a good deal of suffering and sacrifice involved. Many will fail.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 08:03 PM
2

Tabletop RPG's. Plus video gaming, thanks to the Switch at least being very friendly to cooperative/in-person play.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 07:48 PM
2

How is the demographic of your fellow church-goers? Very few young people? Mostly just old ladies? What about race? There are actually a lot of young people, young families, etc. I find that Catholic churches in suburban areas tend to be more active in that regard. Churches in urban areas tend to skew older. My church is relatively diverse but still majority white. In case you are friends with other young catholics are they also into anime? Quite a few, in my experience! Most try to avoid ecchi …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 07:28 PM
8

Are the Title 9 offices at some schools just omnipotent or something? Over my time in undergrad there were like three different dudes credibly accused of sexual assault (multiple female or male accusers for each case, messages, receipts, and everything) and fuck all happened to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 07:01 PM
1

I get that tinder is a sausage fest, but there are about 40 men for every 60 women on many college campuses. And the guys are still struggling to get laid. Men and women are not evenly distributed across the campus. There are serious gender discrepancies by major. I also found that women are more likely to make socializing a priority in college while men are more likely to hole themselves up on the weekends playing video games or being otherwise antisocial. Someone in my college dorm got in trou…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 06:46 PM
1

Here you go
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 01:58 PM
7

Initially it was unsettling, but I never made the leap to assuming all or even most men think that way. Now I just think "oh, someone's dog got out of the yard again." Guess I've become jaded.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 01:09 PM
1

Bible Belt, BF and I are both Christian and waiting until marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 01:01 PM
2

C) The only mild concern I have is if the other person is comfortable with silence as well, so I'll usually just ask directly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 04:34 AM
0

Hey at least one of us got something out of this
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 09:04 PM
0

I could not care less about anything that is being said here. Only what insecurity is, and why the term is applicable in the case of a man comparing himself to a woman's previous partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 05:23 PM
-2

Cool
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 05:01 PM
3

I stand corrected. It seems like a common point of confusion throughout both comment sections so I'm not losing sleep over it. Edit: On reading the OP again I see why there's a lot of confusion. He uses two different meanings of "get" in the same post.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 05:01 PM
0

Feel free not to call it insecurity if that makes you feel better. The rest of the planet will call it like it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 04:57 PM
0

There are men in this very thread talking about the comparison problem so Idk what to tell you. It comes up frequently on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 04:55 PM
2

Oh I see what the confusion is. By "get" OP means "understand." Not being able to attract.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 04:52 PM
7

When done in the hopes of the fwb evolving into a romantic relationship that is definitely a case of not getting men
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 04:06 PM
1

Oh I see now. So taking it beyond the roleplay and being like that like that lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 12:47 PM
13

My understanding is that being a "brat" is a type of BDSM roleplay kink. It's not really about impressing men in general so much as attracting men who are into that specifically.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 12:43 PM
4

Getting rejected romantically and then proceeding to offer a fwb relationship. It's great because it's a combination of not understanding men and not understanding what she wants either.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 12:39 PM
1

Idk OP are you into women who spring weird shit on you without your consent and then proceed to get mad at you for not being into it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 12:35 PM
2

Constipation affects far more than just the butthole. It is a state of being. And that man is definitely in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 04:15 AM
0

Why does he look constipated
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 04:11 AM
6

As someone who finds men of all shades attractive as long as they fit my basic type (but didn't necessarily always) Having a diverse media diet definitely helps. If all you're watching all day is men who look like they could have all been runners up for the cast of Twilight you're probably going to struggle with being attracted to anything else. Also, it doesn't happen overnight.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 04:10 AM
9

Plenty of dudes overtly express that their concern is not being able to compare to one or more of her previous partners. That is objectively an insecure notion. "I can't measure up to this other person" is textbook insecurity in pretty much every area of life. If a guy is worried that he'll never be as good at football as his older brother that's...what exactly? The embodiment of confidence and self-esteem? That said there are plenty of other concerns about N count expressed here that aren't bas…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 02:46 AM
4

Woman becomes breadwinner, man cooks and cleans. Everybody wins.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 12:00 PM
1

Without any kind of action or tangible interference on their part there is no valid claim to an objective violation of boundaries. Good talk!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 11:55 AM
3

Lol counts double in my eyes
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 11:24 AM
1

How is an individual with an opinion interfering with your life. By making you feel bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 11:22 AM
1

Yes, that is clearly how you feel. Your personal feelings are not the end-all of this subject. As long as no one is seeking to interfere with your life (e.g., changing age of consent) trying to dictate how they should or shouldn't feel about it could indeed be called a violation of boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 11:18 AM
1

That branch swinging pun tho
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 03:00 AM
1

Yes, and just as you have your own idea of what adults are worthy of criticism, so do other people. That's just life.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 02:06 AM
1

Rules. I think you're referring to the existence of rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 11:57 PM
1

I think purge gave a lot of people incorrect ideas about what this sub is normally like
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 11:55 PM
2

Depends on the song. Some just never get old for me no matter how many times I listen to them. Like anything by Def Leppard.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 10:27 PM
2

I'm so glad that the results of our unbiased third party delusion audit finally came in
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 10:20 PM
4

Outdated ritual that doesn't work in modern times where people are more reliant on electronic communication and ability to read nonverbal cues is going out the window. It's better for everyone to just communicate what they want directly and that transition is going to come with some growing pains.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 10:14 PM
0

Oi bloody hell guvnor
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 10:09 PM
0

Glad we're on the same page now ❤
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 08:56 PM
1

Thank you ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 08:54 PM
0

Anyone who can't handle anything about this sub is fully responsible for removing themselves. Maybe take a break if something or someone starts to get on your nerves. That includes me. And you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 08:52 PM
1

That's trippy. Yep, still narrow. Not so much because of the lack of feeling, as I think love is more about cultivating habits and action than what one feels internally. More about the risks that go along with dating a sociopathic person and theoretical transported me not being able to make that informed choice, regardless of whether those risks actually happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 08:48 PM
1

I mean they're adults, right? Who are we to criticize them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 08:25 PM
1

Sociopaths have been known to do that sort of thing, at least in childhood. But assuming that's not the case for him I'd narrowly choose A over B.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 08:24 PM
0

Is that a rhetorical question or are you genuinely interested in how my mind works
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 08:16 PM
2

I don't care about you. I'm pointing out that blaming your autism for your behavior is incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 08:13 PM
1

One last thing: does he have a history of harming animals?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 08:11 PM
8

The mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 08:10 PM
1

Clarification about A: How does his sociopathy manifest in other parts of his life? Is he a normal, pleasant, functional human being in every regard or just for his partner specifically?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 08:04 PM
0

Very interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:59 PM
1

Autism isn't the problem here; plenty of people learn to live with it and are open to correction/criticism if they're behaving in a way that's inappropriate or out of line.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:58 PM
0

And I'm pretty sure that was the case for the majority of people. Including the people making high effort posts and expecting in-depth treatises defending bluepill? Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:51 PM
0

Adults are constantly criticized over what we do with our money, our body, our time, etc. That's just life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:47 PM
2

The 30-somethings who fucked you were also in charge of their vaginas and essentially agreeing to take on any stigma that might result from banging a teenager.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 04:24 PM
2

Tie between I, Robot and The King of Elfland's Daughter. Asimov and Lord Dunsany, for writing my favorite books. Science fiction and fantasy. Dunsany is pretty obscure but did inspire more famous authors like Lovecraft, Tolkien, Gaiman, Le Guin, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 03:15 PM
1

Who said anything about that? I spent it with family and old high school friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 02:59 PM
2

Do people actually use that word to describe their partners in real life? Honestly I have only heard of that on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 10:29 AM
28

What is the name of this subreddit? PurplePillAdvice? We are a bunch of random people presenting our own perspectives, experiences, and opinions. You are not obligated to take advice from anyone. Honestly you probably shouldn't. We don't know you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 10:10 AM
3

Inception!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 05:46 AM
1

Okay that would definitely make sense
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 05:43 AM
1

Wow my rating is the average of your two guesses. Can't be a coincidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 05:13 AM
6

We suggest therapy. Men suggest flying to Thailand or something. Everybody has a gimmick.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 05:07 AM
1

1) Most of my experience with meeting other virgin women comes from Christian communities. I can't really speak for where you would find them in secular spaces. 2) During purge photo dump one year a dude called me 7-8 but the guys on this sub are also thirsty af so might not be the most accurate. I guess I'd say 6.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 05:00 AM
1

Ultra Manager Instinct
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 04:44 AM
-1

All I have time for are sparky unproductive comments and exactly one AMA post because that takes zero effort or research
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 03:05 AM
5

"So, where'd you rack up all these frequent flyer miles?" "Have you heard the tragedy of Western women? It's not a tale the feminists will tell you." "...Okay then."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 10:34 PM
1

It's the meme this community deserves. and the meme we need right now please consider reposting to daily megathread
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 10:28 PM
8

HOW AM I JUST SEEING THIS
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 09:19 PM
1

How did you know my comedic weakness is random words combined with ussy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 09:05 PM
4

Severity of both depends on what the couple has agreed to in terms of boundaries and what counts as disrespect to the relationship. I mean we all know at this point there's at least one user who likes it when other men bang his wife. Who's to say there aren't plenty of guys who know exactly what their GF is posting and are even into that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 09:04 PM
1

Why does this matriarch have a dick
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 08:54 PM
1

Okay
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 08:48 PM
0

Wow I told myself the same thing. That's why I'm in grad school.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 08:46 PM
11

All I have time for are sparky unproductive comments and exactly one AMA post because that takes zero effort or research
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 07:25 PM
10

TLDR
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 07:23 PM
1

Hey you sneaky edited me!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 07:05 PM
1

Oh you really came ready to fight today
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 07:04 PM
2

I'll take that as a crass way of saying "flute"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 06:14 PM
19

Your post shows that you are indeed an expert on fucking off base assumptions. Raw.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 06:13 PM
1

Hmm. On what instrument.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 06:12 PM
96

It shows which of us actually had plans for New Year's weekend
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:55 PM
1

That's definitely not what I was saying
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:09 PM
3

I'm just a lizard who sits on the most attractive friend's shoulder
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 04:37 PM
-1

Marrying within your own race or ethnicity is more common, by a large margin, than it is to marry outside (at least when considering all POC). I could name 10 WOC celebs that married within their own ethnicity, easily. Glad we're in agreement then
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 04:06 PM
1

Definitely possible
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 04:01 PM
7

Okay I'll amend that. After 25 the number of people who care shrinks exponentially until those remaining are the kind of people who end up on a subreddit called datingoverforty
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 03:30 PM
4

So if I can pull together at least 10 WOC celebrities married within their own ethnicity you'll change your view?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 03:01 PM
1

Huh. Interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:53 PM
1

Yeah I forgot to mention the lighting and distance fuckery going on in 2
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:37 PM
-1

Okay
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:36 PM
4

Search "severe acne before and after makeup", those results are more realistic Like so It's not as obvious but you can definitely see bumps and flaws underneath the makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:34 PM
19

There has to be additional editing going on here. You don't go from that much acne to literally no texture to your skin by slapping on some concealer. Edited for clarity
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 01:35 PM
6

No group is a monolith which is why you'll often find contradictory viewpoints within it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 01:13 PM
2

Yeh I can agree on that
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 01:02 PM
17

Look at me Look at me I'm the white woman now
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 01:01 PM
1

Weird
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 01:00 PM
9

Believe it or not men who are better suited for household tasks than breadwinning exist
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 12:58 PM
9

That's just non-Purge PPD
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 11:13 AM
14

This man seriously expects us to waste the one time of year we're allowed to shitpost outside of automod on serious discussion
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 11:11 AM
11

Time to whip out the hypocrisy troubleshooting guide: Have you considered these aren't the same women?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 11:02 AM
13

People generally stop caring if the woman is at least 25
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 10:57 AM
1

Indeed she was
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 07:28 AM
0

Does anybody know what happened to Smurf?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 07:03 AM
1

I think r/changemyview is an example of a sub where genuinely good/compelling debates happen. Their modding is very strict though, especially compared to our CMVs here.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 06:08 AM
1

Were you more of a Floam kid? Moonsand? <sup>aqua dots?</sup>
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 06:03 AM
1

Sexy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:59 AM
1

You too love 🩷
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:57 AM
1

Thanks Eulen. You've been so tough despite everything going on. Or at least it seems that way. I don't exaggerate when I say you're probably one of the most decent people I've talked to on here in my 4ish I think going on 5 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:53 AM
2

I came ready to fight when I saw "sorry." Then I saw Madara and I was like "eh...valid."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:49 AM
2

This past year I really started finding my way socially again after a bit of loneliness after undergrad, especially with COVID restrictions putting a damper on going out to meet and connect with people. I think I've found a good balance between staying in touch with old friends and making new ones. Met my SO too, which was definitely a highlight. Those are probably the developments I'm most grateful for. This year I'm striving to work on consistency. Some weeks I'm on top of my game academically…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:47 AM
2

Poe's law ig
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:37 AM
3

Ah that's fair
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:36 AM
3

I seem to be shitposting, because it is purge week. That's all there is to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:35 AM
2

Smh missing out
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:31 AM
7

What the hell is undercover about this subreddit
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:30 AM
5

Hot
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:28 AM
88

Okay I laughed
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:26 AM
2

You've never hate watched a TV show before?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:24 AM
1

Small novel my ass. That man deserves an entire show. For real though I'll probably read it if I can find an English translation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:20 AM
0

There's an alternate timeline where we got a Minato prequel and Gaara spinoff series
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:17 AM
2

Great, nobody cares because the world doesn't revolve around you
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:13 AM
3

This is the mindset of somebody who whines "why can't we talk about raace" every 5 minutes during normal time and has to have the same shit repeated to them
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:11 AM
3

Not my job to answer, because I'm not an admin. I do however question, "could Reddit admin see this as a threat of violence?" And in my experience from reporting similar content, they have. As much as it's my dream for this demented cesspool of a subreddit to finally get banned I don't want it to be over dumb shit like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:03 AM
2

*Except Reddit's mods Deadass their decisions on this kind of thing are all over the place
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 04:59 AM
3

Lol Reddit's mod team doesn't play the "my exact words" game
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 04:58 AM
4

Might count under "threatening violence" ime, depending on who reads the report I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 04:48 AM
4

You sure?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 04:45 AM
4

Awkwardly gestures to butterfly "Is this a TOS violation?"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 04:45 AM
8

Peak PPD compliment
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 04:40 AM
9

Asking troll question without expecting troll answer
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 04:37 AM
7

And Gaara was objectively the best
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 04:33 AM
22

I look at the world and see that everything of value was created on the backs of an underpaid and underprivileged working class but alas due to false consciousness ingrained by media propaganda those individuals will remain as such and die without the recognition or wages they deserve because the world is cruel and unfair and that isn't changing anytime soon so the only option is to play the system in order to procure the best possible life for yourself and your offspring
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 04:32 AM
2

Happiness is overrated
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 03:39 AM
1

I mean that all depends on their programming? Even virtual companions of various sorts show signs of wants, tastes, and preferences because they were designed to do so. They can act like they're mad at you, or move away if you don't touch them the right way. Why do we design them to do that? Because it makes them more "real" or "human" to us. A mindless companion that likes everything you do doesn't seem to be as popular a notion as it's made out to be here.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 03:26 AM
1

For better or worse by mid-20's a lot of those people have lapsed and the ones remaining are more serious/trad-leaning. Or at least I've found that to be true for Catholics.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 03:13 AM
15

Nah I just want to be the breadwinner so my spouse won't be pressured to slave away at a job he hates
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 03:09 AM
1

Then I'd say your odds of meeting virgins is pretty high provided you're practicing and in a congregation with a decent number of people around your age. Many will specifically be pushing for the youths to meet and get to know each other through church groups. That said, even as someone who prefers virgins myself, I try to avoid considering it an absolute dealbreaker. If I hit it off with someone, our values are compatible, and they're serious about our faith, I wouldn't let it be the end of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 03:08 AM
1

Are you religious?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:57 AM
1

Depends, how old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:56 AM
9

Holy shit that's one's of the most garbage writing styles I have ever laid eyes on
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:45 AM
1

I'm not a big egg person actually. So on average, zero.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:36 AM
1

Aw. Thank you so much 🩷
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:36 AM
1

Not really. Just living my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 01:34 AM
2

I have a weakness for dark brown hair and eyes on guys regardless of race. Very convenient considering the fact that those traits are the most common on the planet earth.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 10:22 PM
3

Atlas is definitely still here under a different username
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 10:14 PM
2

Yes, all the time. Most women are overly apologetic ime.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 10:11 PM
21

Lol what the fuck is a "societal female"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 10:09 PM
-1

Oh my gosh garl
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 10:38 AM
1

Aw thanks Hazy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 10:38 AM
2

Read the post; none of this happened, dude just mixed a bunch of nonsensical bait together and hit the post button
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 10:32 AM
1

As someone who had a similar experience to yours and met plenty of girls with a broad variety interests outside of social media and other vapid shit I can confirm that you and OP are trippin
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 10:25 AM
1

Riveting
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 06:46 AM
2

Oh absolutely
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 04:59 AM
3

I can understand that take. Sometimes it does seem as if people are just coming here to look for emotional validation they're not going to get though. And that isn't even limited to the men. That chick who just kept parroting the same shit about how the men on this sub have supposedly caused her to distrust all men was annoying af too. It's just like, "who the hell is strapping you to a chair and forcing you to look at this subreddit?"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 03:52 AM
7

I'm still trying to figure out why the fuck people come to a debate sub for "empathy" and "understanding"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 03:33 AM
2

Definitely the greatest mecha anime imo. Of all anime ever made? Nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 03:14 AM
5

How wonderful!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 03:12 AM
4

Fraid not. Never opposed to expanding my pop culture catalog however. What was it?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 02:44 AM
3

Wasn't me. Have you made some other friends during your time here?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 02:41 AM
4

The most nonexistent day of my life
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 02:19 AM
2

Three ingredients for the perfect girl
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 02:17 AM
1

Thank you very much 🩷
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:18 PM
1

Not to other people. To themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:07 PM
0

And even if you very obviously have zero Asian ancestry whatsoever a guy will convince himself you do in order to justify his attraction
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:57 PM
1

Thank you ❤
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:53 PM
2

I definitely wouldn't see myself as a virgin anymore if I did either of those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:49 PM
2

Huh. Maybe I'm not a virgin after all then.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:20 PM
1

Everytime someone talks about something they read on Twitter here I find myself eternally grateful that I do not use Twitter
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:05 PM
1

Complete surprise
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:03 PM
2

Thank you. My parents had the same advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:03 PM
1

No problem!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:51 PM
1

You ever read the Chronicles of Narnia?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:51 PM
1

Not strictly religion. There's also the basic biological logistics like avoiding STD's and pregnancy. Abstinence is the only 100% and all that. Plus I know myself and my attachment style and I truly do think that having sex without the relative stability of marriage would cause me great anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:50 PM
1

We are approaching a year I don't really have a hard deadline on it outside of the "biological clock" logistics which are a good ways off from being a concern for me anyway. I'm also in grad school as my username states and plan to continue my education further after this. My BF understands, plus is pretty inexperienced with dating so I don't want to rush or push him into anything either. No, self-control is always an option All sexual things, outside of light kisses on the lips No
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:47 PM
1

Aw. Thank you 💕
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:40 PM
1

Thanks thanks 💕
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:40 PM
0

Depends on who you ask
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:40 PM
2

Yeah that would definitely suck compared to losing my virginity outside of marriage tomorrow and regretting it instantly
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:37 PM
2

When do you think you'll be married by? Ideally by late 20's/early 30's. Though ultimately I'm open to whatever the Lord calls me to. Do you regret at all not having experienced sex in early 20s? Based on watching/hearing about my secular friends' experiences with dating and hook-up culture I do not envy that lifestyle whatsoever. Do you have any concerns about sexual incompatibility? My major concerns are whether he listens to me, respects me, and cares about my pleasure. I've been advised to f…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:35 PM
1

What do you like best about waiting until marriage? Saving that level of vulnerability for someone I love and trust completely and has promised to spend his life with me Also what do you like most about Jesus? The Crucifixion story has always been very beautiful to me
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:24 PM
2

The wedding ceremony is a duty to my family and to the church. The dress will be traditional. The wedding night and the honeymoon are for my spouse and me. I do want to wear clothes that are more seductive/revealing when we're alone together.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:21 PM
3

My mom's side yes. My dad's side is mostly Protestant with a few random converts to Catholicism, including my father. But whenever I hear of a black Catholic I just wonder how that even began. French slaveowners
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:17 PM
2

Don't care since clitoral stimulation is what I'm looking forward to most anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:15 PM
3

Nah but I do know girls who wish I was
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:12 PM
1

Very interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 07:55 PM
1

Haven't you expressed concerns about her weight recently? Did that get resolved?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 07:54 PM
1

Bougie suburb denizen here. Still have no idea what you people are talking about. If anything a lot of us just end up dating white or Asian guys because they are way easier to come by in the suburbs. Occasionally Hispanic guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 07:50 PM
0

Yeah I'm guessing that explains it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 06:44 PM
0

Not in college. I knew ones who managed to get into relationships but balancing studies/maintaining GPA with being an attentive partner was often difficult for them. The engineering program at my college was also notoriously difficult though so maybe that's not the case everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:52 PM
4

Notice that the only types of women who exist in this alternative universe are "hot" and "cute old lady"
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:41 PM
0

I have never met a "good" Black man who struggled to get dates or a Black woman with a history of dating convicts. Where do y'all find these people?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:37 PM
2

Once I'm married, yes
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:32 PM
3

My faith forbids men from cumming anywhere besides the vagina. So I will never know how that tastes, and by all accounts I've heard I'm not missing out on much.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:22 PM
1

Valid
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:54 AM
5

Weird, Google translate didn't produce any results for this one
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:18 AM
1

I seem to be terrifying you a lot these days
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:17 AM
1

I Google translated so you don't have to! Your great great great great grandma had over a dozen children running around and you should be sad because you don't get to have her awesome, fulfilling life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:16 AM
1

The girls who couldn't acclimate to the social environment usually ended up transferring somewhere else. If guys didn't fit in at the boys' schools they were expected to stfu and get over it ime. My first BF was one of those.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:10 AM
1

Old man puts on enough makeup to transform into teenager
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:36 AM
2

I have never had sex and I have no idea who these children belong to
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:35 AM
1

Thanks thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:31 AM
2

Same except I want to bully him by sitting on his face
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:27 AM
2

It was a smart move in my eyes because he struggles to chat with strangers, was taking baby steps to overcome it at the time, and we were at a bookstore. People generally don't like to socialze while browsing for books. If you really really want to approach in a context like that saying something like "excuse me" or "I'm sorry" first is better than just waltzing up and being a nuisance. I don't know what works at the club because I don't go there.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:19 AM
2

Who says he should or shouldn't have done anything? It's a simple fact that what he did worked on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:00 AM
2

Same but we weren't anywhere close to batting at 100% like that. There were plenty of guys who didn’t have much going on upstairs either, that's legacy admissions for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:58 AM
13

This just in: kid who didn't qualify or couldn't be bothered to take honors/AP classes upset that the girls around him aren't smart
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:07 AM
6

You mean male emotions with vaguely scientific/philosophical word salad thrown in
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:04 AM
1

Female social matrix
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:00 AM
1

Why should some stranger's inability to watch their spoiled ass kid reflect poorly on you?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:30 AM
-2

The number of people on these apps who literally sound like bots is concerning then
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 03:53 AM
1

Go the charm/submission route first. Laugh and play along like everything is a joke, squeeze his hand under the table or something to let him know I don't mean any of it and I'm just trying to keep us safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 03:21 AM
4

None of these people sound like real people
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 03:10 AM
2

My BF is already timid/meek in normal situations with non-aggressive people. He'd probably freeze up entirely in a situation like this. If any talking is going to happen it would be me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 03:05 AM
0

Where did I advise anyone to do anything
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:55 AM
1

I've never had issues like this with other women but then I also went to an all-girl high school which is basically FSM bootcamp
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:54 AM
2

No, thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:50 AM
2

Imagine not being attracted to a man who knows better than to escalate the situation and make everything worse
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:50 AM
3

Just wait until I'm sexually active. I'll master the art of enjoying sex and thinking about food at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:20 AM
1

A true master can be horny, uncivil, and sad all at once
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:54 AM
1

I'm calling the police
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:53 AM
2

The dude is about to kill himself. I think his thighs are the last thing on his mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:52 AM
2

Of course, we all know that the highest form of respect takes the form of a crusty sock
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:51 AM
4

The fact that like half the chicks have anime porn face says everything you need to know about the dude who made it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:47 AM
2

I've never had sex with anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:44 AM
3

I mean have you seen those firefighter calendars...
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:42 AM
6

At least we go out with minty fresh breath apparently
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:39 AM
4

Are you slow? Oh look it's the "stop reading my comment because everything that follows is going to be incoherent garbage" signal. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:31 AM
4

Something about the way this quote stereotypes women who have masculine interests/hobbies definitely fails the vibe check. I mean I'm not saying it's what the author thinks. Amy isn't supposed to be a heroic character afaik. The people who uncritically agree with it though? Idk about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:21 AM
1

Korean beauty trend (aegyo-sal)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:07 AM
6

Isn't that dog supposedly dying of leukemia?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 12:49 AM
5

Have never dated a Black guy but I'm not opposed to it under the right circumstances. Going to a predominantly white college (and now a grad program that has literally one other Black guy besides me but he's from Africa) it was always just more convenient to keep my options open. When the Black woman to Black man ratio in a given environment is like 10:1 any given Black guy has probably dated all of your Black friends. I really value my friendships with other Black women because I didn't have th…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 12:38 AM
0

No, thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 12:28 AM
6

There are definitely cultural confounders that go along with "basic white girl name" types. Take me for example. I'm pretty dark but my mom's side of the family has fairer skin. I was always expected to dress, style my hair, and behave in ways that some might say fall under "Western aesthetic/beauty preferences." So it could be name and could be quite a few other things in all honesty.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 12:25 AM
3

That's not a very high bar to clear but thanks?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 12:10 AM
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I still want my OLD study that looks at name discrimination. Ime Black women with basic white girl names/nicknames don't have any problems dating interracially. There was also an article I read where this Indian-American woman's matches shot up after she started going by Rachel or something instead of her actual name.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 12:08 AM
2

We are certainly both in agreement on that
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 11:58 PM
1

Ohh. You're mad because I don't want to roleplay with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 11:57 PM
-6

OP picked some really bad examples then
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 11:56 PM
3

He's hot to me, but I'm biased because I have a type
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 11:55 PM
2

Really depends on the culture of the college. In general postgrad does seem to be where people start feeling the most pressure to settle down. Undergrad not so much ime, unless it's a conservative/Christian school.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 10:20 PM
-1

I'm sorry who are you again
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 10:16 PM
-2

You see in my case it worked because he was smart enough to apologize for irritating me in advance
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 10:06 PM
-4

When bot meets catfish
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 09:42 PM
2

You are in denial
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 09:22 PM
2

Not to PPD men
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 09:20 PM
2

You know what they say about believing rumors. Ignore that in this case because the rumor is entirely true.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 09:18 PM
1

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 09:15 PM
1

Not to PPD men
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 09:14 PM
7

Domino's doesn't deserve this. Their pizza guys contribute far more to humanity than the men on this sub ever will. Unless one of you is a Domino's pizza guy. In that case I'm sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 09:13 PM
1

Ughhh
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 08:58 PM
0

Sushi cider
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 08:58 PM
5

Certainly not the first but I hope it's the last
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 08:52 PM
0

Well this is far less grim than what I was expecting
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 08:44 PM
41

I feel like there's an attempt at some kind of profound thought underneath this awkward ass writing
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 08:43 PM
4

Way more plausible for population decline and shrinking workforces in developed countries to drive the tech improvements which will eventually trickle down to porn/sex toy industry
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 08:41 PM
2

I think it's dumb but my BF enjoyed it so
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 08:36 PM
5

And don't forgett! alamy alamy alamy alamy alamy alamy alamy alamy
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 08:34 PM
0

Fun
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 06:34 PM
1

Who said anything about anyone looking for a “tradcon” wife? I certainly didn’t, so that’s a random assumption you’ve made. Ohh so you're new here. That explains a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 04:34 PM
2

Yeah sure, you successfully wifed up a tradcon local woman and her family was 100% welcoming and okay with that. Wait? That didn't happen? Then you're the one who's missing the point. The ideal for them is to marry within the culture and produce kids who look and act like them. What is this country where conservative locals are throwing their women at Western dudes? I'm genuinely curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 04:08 PM
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In most cultures, trad women don't look for foreigners. Women who are open to marrying outside the local culture are usually more liberal/independent/open-minded. When those traits inevitably surface she will be called "Americanized" when in reality she was like that all along.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 04:39 AM
1

Honestly I wouldn't be shocked if they wrote both around the same time but delayed the other one by about a day to make it less likely that people would notice. They might not have gotten the response they were expecting on 1 but decided to go ahead and do 2 anyway just to compare. With the result being that ironically more people are defending the dude and asking if he was raped. Wonder what OP thinks about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 08:46 PM
1

I appreciate the vote of confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 08:25 PM
3

They're fishing for users to respond differently based on the gender and alcohol involved. Plus sprinkling in medication/mental health issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 02:40 PM
1

Someone is blatantly doing a gender flip social experiment on the relationship advice sub right now and I can't believe no one there is noticing Thread 1 Thread 2
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 02:31 PM
2

Machiavelli's methods are highly rational and calculated. One cannot accidentally stumble into Machievellianism by being emotional or something. Though it seems upon further reading that bastardizations of Machiavelli's writings are indeed prominent in the field of psychology. Oh goody.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 01:34 PM
2

Spoken like someone who has never read Machiavelli in their lives but really likes to bring up his name to sound more impressive to people who have also never read Machiavelli in their lives
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 01:25 PM
1

No thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 01:23 PM
2

Oh I see. This is all a misunderstanding and you've been meaning to reply to a different user. I wish you the best of luck sorting things out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 01:52 AM
2

Sounds like your quarrel is with other users. I've already stated multiple times on this thread that I do not witness these supposed contradictory gender roles/expectations in liberal feminist women. All I can say is "cool, that sucks."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 12:49 AM
2

Yes men on Reddit certainly say that this happens
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 12:17 AM
4

Women who grew up in abusive/controlling families and unconsciously seek to replicate that dynamic because that is unfortunately all they know
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 07:00 PM
1

Asian-american families are often rather traditional but aren't oppressive Bible thumpers about it like a traditional WASP family from Texas would be. Which Asian-Americans? Christianity is a very strong part of Korean-American culture ime, devout Catholicism is prevalent among Vietnamese-Americans and Filipino/a. Afaik the rest do tend to be more secular tradcon, or into Buddhism or something. Latino families, while being super Catholic, tend to be reasonable about it. Like yeah there's a Virgi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 06:58 PM
2

Is "mail order bride" the word for any woman a dude meets abroad now? I don't think it's weird for a guy to connect better with people or women from other cultures. Hell basically all of my Japanese professors in undergrad were white guys married to Japanese women or Japanese women married to white guys. It was all based on mutual love and respect from what I could see. That said yeah not all dudes who seek women out from other countries have good intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 06:51 PM
4

Yes and ime liberal feminist women do not date the same way or have the same expectations as tradcon women
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 06:45 PM
7

Wonderful
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 12:20 PM
6

Weird the ones I know are mostly in our 20s, in LTR, settling down, getting married, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 12:19 PM
6

Because pilots have a terrible reputation on OLD lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 11:28 AM
4

Not much. I pride myself on the limited number of shits I have left to give.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 11:21 AM
3

Yes I do believe the men on this sub have plenty of time on their hands
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 11:17 AM
8

So when I stop reading when I see these words becomes 9 times out of 10 what follows is going to be a waste of my time
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 11:08 AM
3

I think of incels specifically as individuals who know what that is and identify as such. A guy who just happens to not be romantically successful with women is not an incel. That said is it "weird" for men to struggle with women even though they are tall, fit, have a great career, and good personality? Not to me anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 08:28 AM
1

I'm sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 08:16 AM
1

Only 1/3 of the US has a Bachelor’s and this includes non-traditional students who come back later in life or take 1-2 classes at a time while working. This 1/3 is not evenly distributed across the U.S. If you live in a high income area the number is likely well over 90%. I personally require it because education is a core value in my family probably second only to religion. I want to raise children with someone on the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 08:16 AM
1

Combination of religious, logical, and emotional reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 08:10 AM
1

Something like that
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 08:04 AM
13

Sorry you've had that unfortunate experience. I don't see any snark prohibitions in the PPD sidebar yet so you're going to have to petition the mods on that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 08:03 AM
7

Cool
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 08:01 AM
6

I haven't had much trouble finding them on college campuses or local Catholic groups for young adults (most members are 18 to mid-20s)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 08:01 AM
1

Soon to be 24
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 07:58 AM
6

As long as the reasoning and expectations behind it aren't too idiotic. Unfortunately they often are.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 07:58 AM
6

Like attracts like. Serious people attract serious people. Larpers attract larpers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 07:56 AM
10

In the U.S. religious and tradcon culture are heavily intertwined. It is very rare for one to exist without the other, particularly among women. That's the simple reality. For men who aren't cut out for religion best bet is dating in another country that has a more secularized tradcon culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 06:23 AM
19

Pro tip: Reddit doesn't send notifications about edits. For this amount of clarification it's probably better to just add a new comment, like I'm doing right now. Do you dispute that women want equality of progressive times in many areas while maintaining the benefits of traditional dating? No the expectations of secular/liberal and tradcon women are entirely different in my experience. Same for the men. It is mainly on the internet that I am seeing these strange contradictions and discrepancies…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 06:21 AM
1

Yes I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 06:09 AM
8

Aww thank you. I'm sure that plenty of users disagree lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:45 AM
1

Who knows, maybe I'll become more open to it when I get experience with the basics first. I just wince whenever I see women getting slapped on the ass that hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:38 AM
2

Ngl I'm pretty curious about what that feels like. Lightly though. Not hard enough to leave a mark or any of that shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:35 AM
90

Things are great in religious/tradcon circles. The men who feel like anything is "ruined" want the same outcomes but with secular benefits like sex by third date and not having to propose on one knee.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:29 AM
6

A lot of abusers start by isolating their victim from friends and family precisely because they don't want this to happen unfortunately. When I was trying to get my best friend away from her abusive ex I called the DV hotline and was explicitly told not to tell her to leave for multiple reasons. Victims are often drawn to taking orders from other people. If they get out just because "someone told me to" that isn't addressing the root problem and there is a high chance they'll go back. If the abu…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:01 AM
2

Didn't former employees come out and say they were forced to spray it around the store or something? I don't know how people were supposed to see anything with that lighting. Maybe that was the point. Regret spending so much money on those ugly ass t-shirts after you've already left.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:49 AM
1

Tbf my idea of average might be skewed by SES factors
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:44 AM
2

It's not that bad honestly. My sister had a major Abercrombie phase early in high school. I didn't want to be left behind at home because Build-A-Bear and Disney store were at the same mall. But those hours in that boring monochrome store with that stupid cologne smell and dead moose eyes sucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:41 AM
3

I'm confused. If she likes this dynamic so much why do you have to ask more than once?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:35 AM
2

I wasn't forced to spend hours surrounded by dad bods in Abercrombie as a child
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:33 AM
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My reasons for disliking it are actually religious, but as someone who still watches it on and off I understand how difficult it is to give it up entirely. What is this about porn stars raising the standards on looks though? I would actually think the opposite is happening. To me the women in older/softcore porn are conventionally hot for the most part while in the more recent stuff the women are all over the place. Slim, fat, long hair, pixie cuts, old, young. Lots of tattoos. It's very interes…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:24 AM
1

I want happiness to be just one part of my life that does not necessarily drive every decision I make and everything I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 02:58 AM
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TLDR: Happiness is overrated
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 02:52 AM
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This is what happens when humans treat "happiness" as the end-all be-all of everything. Becoming a fully realized human being requires some degree of discomfort and pain. You know how people bitch about summer reading books for children being so depressing? I mean we could have them read the 100th fucking Magic Treehouse book instead but maybe there's something valuable about exposing them to the realities of death and hardship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 02:40 AM
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Nah that wasn't directed at you so much as the general discourse that will inevitably result from this question
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 12:47 AM
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Okay here we go again. If we're going by physique only 1 and 2 are automatically disqualified for me, which leaves 3. The hair and eyes on 2 are gorgeous though ngl.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 12:44 AM
1

Lol since when
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 12:27 AM
3

It's almost like debate subs select for people with contrarian/unpopular opinions about reality
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 12:22 AM
1

I really hope nobody's still asking 3 whole days after we stopped caring about this thread
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 12:05 AM
2

Interestingly enough Gen X and up in my family married young and begged the younger generations not to do that lol. The funny part is that they mostly have long/happy marriages, they just think a lot of the early mistakes and hardships could've been avoided if they waited until they were more mature and established to marry. Now in my family the norm is getting married in your late 20's/early 30's.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 10:15 PM
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Mmm. I like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 10:09 PM
2

I am convinced that I am indifferent to muscular men because I was forced to sit in Abercrombie for hours and hours as a child thanks to my older sister. She's always had a thing for the muscular/athletic types while I turned out the opposite. I gave a gym bro a chance once because he seemed like a decent guy and I felt weird ruling someone out just because he didn't meet my physical preferences on paper. Yeah that was a mistake.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 10:08 PM
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2 days too late. How inefficient.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 07:49 PM
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Bluey has just made me realize how refreshing it is to hear actual children voicing children instead of 30-year-olds trying to sound like children
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 01:10 PM
1

Oh I'm sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 03:38 AM
1

Very interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 03:27 AM
1

Are you a decent man?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 03:24 AM
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A decent man won't objectify you regardless of what you wear or how you behave. A disgusting one can always find a reason that you "deserve" to be objectified no matter how arbitrary it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 03:17 AM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 01:53 AM
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Surveyed the men in my house. Never happened to my dad or brother. It was attempted on my grandfather but he and his brothers beat the guy up and took his money instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 07:22 PM
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23F 0
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 05:22 PM
2

All according to keikaku
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 04:52 AM
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This guy is the first guy's alt account
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 02:39 AM
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Careful, someone might accuse you of gaslighting or something
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 02:35 AM
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I'll go with the one without the ridiculous mustache
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 02:22 AM
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In my opinion, yes. It's all a matter of your nature and temperament though. Being the dominant one in relationships comes naturally to me. I plan all dates, outings, and activities down to what we eat, where we'll go, and when. He drives me anywhere I want and asks to pay for everything, sometimes I'll let him and if I'm not in the mood I tell him I'm paying my own way. Being in control is relaxing for me. Leaving it in someone else's hands is irritating.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 02:20 AM
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ESPECIALLY THAT
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 11:01 PM
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I'm still trying to figure out what about this subreddit makes people who lurk think "yes, here, these are the people I need to ask for advice"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 10:52 PM
3

"Burn in flames?" Like some kind of explosive falling out?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 10:39 PM
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Now that's a seasonal item that nobody asked for
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 10:37 PM
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Hazy stop it. If you fix this everyone will have to find something else to bitch about incessantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 10:28 PM
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Smh. Should've played Diplomacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 10:26 PM
2

Hands served with a hefty topping of too much time
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 10:24 PM
9

People have lives, make new friends, grow apart from one another
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 10:23 PM
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Get to the point
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 10:20 PM
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The degree in a field he is not at all interested or passionate about and clearly just in it for the financial prospects
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 08:25 PM
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Ah. That sounds like insensitivity/immaturity. Popular solutions include asking the other person to explain the joke, directly communicating that you don't appreciate what they did, or avoiding that person altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 08:23 PM
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That just sounds like sexual harassment
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 07:42 PM
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women can "prank" men sexually, both verbally AND physically, and it's all supposed to be a game What does this even mean
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 07:03 PM
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Wouldn't know about that tbf. I only use our home gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 04:59 PM
6

Are people just casually discussing their weight in any social context you participate in
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 04:51 PM
2

I fully acknowledge the "problems" with modern secular dating and am eternally grateful for the Christian dating scene
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 04:29 PM
1

Can they please extend that tendency to my sister who refuses to leave her worthless deadbeat baby daddy
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 04:25 PM
3

Cool story
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 03:38 PM
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So she clarified in the comments. Maybe I don't understand secular mating rituals well enough to see repeatedly grabbing a chick's boob and encouraging her to say no to you as some kind of meek gentlemanly gesture. It sounded to me like he was just toying with her but what the hell do I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 04:56 AM
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I can't imagine a more beautiful thing
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 12:29 AM
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It's not a gift for him
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 11:57 PM
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African-American, no preference. I'm just a sucker for dark brown hair and eyes on anyone lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 09:21 PM
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There is zero indication the guy ever followed up or is interested in seeing her again either
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 09:19 PM
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For the most part yes, though there are some high n virgin fetishists
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 08:14 PM
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I've "made" everyone wait, hence being a virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:25 PM
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Entertaining more than one romantic interest at a time sounds exhausting
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:24 PM
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I wanna be a Tanuki with massive balls and a great sense of entrepreneurship
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 04:26 PM
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I think you're just overexagarrating to the extreme to get your point across. Glad we're on the same page The girls I saw were generally young, feminine, calm and presentable. They were submissive, which meant they let me test the waters with them in bed. So you have a type, case closed
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 04:25 PM
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Depending on how you define "long" anywhere from 0 to 3. Approaching one year the guy I'm with currently has been my longest. I've dated pretty steadily throughout my life but the logistics of going to college out of state kinda made it difficult to sustain anything long-term. Now that I'm in grad school and have a better idea of where I want to settle down it's been so much easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 04:24 PM
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If you've been on planet PPD long enough the "every woman I've ever fucked has liked rough kinky degrading sex" along with the accompanying barely suppressed contempt is a recurring thing. After a certain point you might want to ask how you keep ending up with women who can only get off when the man is dressed as Pennywise the clown and chasing her around with a knife. Because that sure as hell isn't all women. Maybe you have a type.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 03:59 PM
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I mean is it you who keeps making this post again and again. In any case, the question of whether the man is comfortable performing it is just as important as the kink, is it not?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 03:37 PM
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I feel like I'm in the Twilight zone with the number of times this exact post has been made with this exact wording and bad erotica writing. OP, we get it. The women you date are freaks and that makes you uncomfortable. Ask yourself if you enjoy doing this? Are there boundaries you need to be setting in the bedroom? Or do you enjoy it and writing about it for strangers on the internet is a part of your kink?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 03:04 PM
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Waaaaaaait a second Are you who I think you are
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 05:37 AM
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By what ethical framework? Utilitarianism? Deontology? Relativism? All I can speak for is the Cruel Angel Grad Thesis line of ethics, which says that "yes that is an extremely shitty thing to do and the kind of people who do it are repulsive." Though my perspective is heavily biased because as some of you may know a relative lost his life because of a woman who thought this way. So if you're looking for objectivity, you've come to the wrong place.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 04:20 AM
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I don't make adult men do anything. They make their own choices based on what I tell them, which is that I am waiting until marriage. Most have been respectful and/or willing to wait, there was one exception that lied about being okay with it because he thought he could seduce me or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 02:12 AM
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The disagreement isn't so much "being in control over our instincts" as not really knowing the full extent of our instincts begin with. Because it would take some extremely unethical research on human subjects to know for certain. A similar issue arises when we talk about violence in humans. A lot of people (including some dude called Hobbes) take for granted that we are violent and uncooperative by nature. Others take issue with that line of thought, with some proposing that humans have contrad…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 11:16 PM
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Great grandpa died before I was born but I have seen pictures. I'm just like "yall realize that's a white dude with a tan right" and they insist that no, he's just a very light-skinned Black man.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 08:15 PM
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One of the great things about being descended from slaves who were torn from their homeland and stripped from their culture is that genealogy testing is completely normal in my family and just about the whole family does it in order to have some idea of our roots. Weirdly enough my mom is coming up as close to 30% Western European and my grandpa is close to 50%. Wonder where the fuck that's coming from.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 08:10 PM
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Yep as a teenager. It was mostly centered around practical advice and solutions, not so much feelings. I honestly think that child psychologists operate differently because they want to get you sorted out as much as possible before you turn 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 08:02 PM
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Ah yes. I remember the deep anguish that I would feel when buying a pre-owned game and seeing the completed save files with some other person's name on them. By that I mean I just deleted them, moved on with my life, and forgot they were ever there.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 03:35 PM
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I have to keep reminding myself that on PPD comedy is synonymous with stand-up
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 03:30 PM
1

I'm sure that Alrigh appreciates your advice and concern for his relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 03:24 PM
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This is why having equally little faith in most of humanity comes in handy. The fact that garbage human beings can pair up and skip off into the sunset together is not remotely surprising.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 03:17 PM
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Ah there it is
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 03:09 PM
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Rate Chandler Kinney
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 07:29 AM
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I don't think that's it. A lot of the traits that make dating difficult for autistic men seem to be specific to those with sheltered middle class upbringings. My dad grew up in the hood and his possibly undiagnosed autism manifested in him coming off as emotionless, rude, and getting into a lot of fights as a child. When people who knew him back then tell stories they say the weirdest thing about him was that you couldn't really tell by his face or his actions that he was getting ready to fight …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 05:35 AM
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Idk what the politically correct term for that is anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 05:12 AM
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That may be true. And yet they have an equally weird way of making me fall in love with them. I have considered that I may also be autistic but learned to mask it as a child and barely register that I do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 04:09 AM
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One of the most underrated qualities of autistic men is their ability to perfectly recite dialogue from entire movies. Like with accurate voices and everything. I'm not saying that only autistic men can do it but there seems to be a weirdly high correlation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 03:57 AM
2

Do you live at a zoo by any chance
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 03:47 AM
2

Ohhh. I just Googled Wish lingerie. Worse than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 03:42 AM
3

His username? That does sound familiar.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 02:32 AM
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You new around these parts?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 02:24 AM
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In the early stages of falling in love I'm like a woman possessed. It's not exactly a secret or something I have to consciously do. Lots of calls/texts, intense interest and curiosity in literally anything he cares about. Gifts. Physical affection like clinging and cuddling.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 01:43 AM
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Putting the morbid anecdote aside, my family structures retirement decisions so that young women don't have to make that choice. My siblings and I are very close with my grandparents because they actively participated in raising us for a lot of our early childhood. My parents definitely had their own sacrifices to make in terms of friends/social life but they knew that was part of the deal before they got married in their early 20's.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 01:29 AM
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In what sense
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 01:19 AM
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Not any weirder than the guy who used to post pictures of the atrocious lingerie he bought for his wife
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 01:16 AM
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Maybe they live in families like mine that would be completely unphased and make jokes about needing more ornaments for the tree before repeating the question again
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 01:13 AM
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I don't trust strangers on the internet
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 12:25 AM
2

Thank you very much 💕
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 11:41 PM
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My BF is a primary school teacher. Not the best pay obviously but men who work with kids for a living are 🔥. Plus he gets manageable hours and weekends off. Since I'm on track to go into a higher paying/demanding field it works out perfectly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 06:03 PM
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I mean, numbers are a part of it Take me as an ADOS female who has lived in majority white places all my life. Yes the majority of my friends/guys I've dated have been white, because much of the time that's literally all I had access to. A white person who conveniently always end up with POC, much less a particular group, is probably actively seeking that out.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 02:36 PM
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Besides the limited selection of men willing to wait that long When you date among practicing Catholics/Christians it actually isn't rare at all Head over to r/deadbedrooms for a little taste of what it's like to be stuck in a marriage without sexual compatibility... Oh I've read that, and the majority of DB scenarios started with sexual compatibility that fell off over time. You could have crazy hot sex every single day and that's still no guarantee it'll carry on through a decades-long marriag…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 02:29 PM
2

Seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 02:16 PM
2

Good choice
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:46 AM
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Am I crazy or is your pfp turning into Hilda
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:41 AM
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Users reacting to anecdotes that support their agenda: Oh dear gorgeous Users reacting to anecdotes that don't support their agenda: YOU FUCKING DONKEY
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:31 AM
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Ah so we're talking about WFH on a budget in a cramped apartment. Yeah I can see that getting old.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:18 AM
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How does your ex's sentiment have anything to do with not seeing you as a "mysterious hunter"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:17 AM
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now he is staring at his laptop on the couch No he should be in his study/home office. If WFH is a long-term plan it's important to have a designated space for work mode so that the common areas are for rest and relaxation.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:15 AM
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OP have you actually worked remotely? Both of my parents worked from home in 2020 and they somehow managed to work longer hours and be even less available than they are when going into the office.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:11 AM
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Growing up as a woman basically means being constantly reminded of how male sexuality works whether you want to be or not. Annoying, comical, exhausting? Maybe. "Weird?" No.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 03:21 AM
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The boy is another band kid, but not much else is known. Lol. They were definitely free spirits when I was in high school. One of my friends was a cheerleader and got grounded because her parents caught her sexting a band guy. Another one basically had a harem of girls fighting over him between cheer and dance.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 02:49 AM
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It's attachment theory told by a weird combination of angry jaded old people and angry immature young people. I do agree with attachment theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 02:24 AM
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It's one of those weird want/need gray areas along the lines of a cell phone. On the one hand it sounds pathetic to need it on paper but on the other there are a lot of people who would be lost and deeply depressed without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 01:45 AM
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I'm claiming that "knowing what you're doing" is irrelevant to whether or not age gap relationships are "valid." Plenty of people get into shit not knowing what they're getting into, particularly at that age. But just like an infant has to learn by burning themselves on a hot stove sometimes part of growing into adulthood is making mistakes. In my opinion and based on my observations, dating significantly older people at that age is one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 01:36 AM
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C. First night or any point before marriage for that matter
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 12:46 AM
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Thank you for this fascinating lecture which has absolutely nothing to do with what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 12:43 AM
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Surely this reply was meant for someone else who actually implied anything about "not being old enough"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 11:42 PM
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Of course. No one can make that choice for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 11:07 PM
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I'm glad my trust in you wasn't misplaced.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 11:05 PM
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That depends on the "it." Humans are weird. It's hard to quantify all of the things that makes a person who they are. Is it their religion? Their education? Their upbringing? Their nature? The number of siblings? The traumas they've faced? Their personality? So many confounders. It's quite a puzzle.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 11:04 PM
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"If it isn't useful for my dating life does it serve any purpose whatsoever?"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 10:55 PM
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My shit taste in anime? Valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 10:53 PM
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I'm sure you have.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 10:48 PM
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I view it as an incompatibility, not a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 10:48 PM
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The fastest way to stop living your life by statistics is to actually work on academic research. I can guarantee that if we were to email the authors and link them to the debates happening about their research they'd die of laughter. "Biological urge" sure okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 10:43 PM
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Based on our current relationship he'd try to find a way to give it all away to me and I'd tell him to stop being ridiculous and think of himself for once
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 10:39 PM
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I see we've arrived at the PPD edginess pageant portion of the evening
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 10:27 PM
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Most age gap relationships are between adults and both parties know damn well what they're getting out of it. You only have to spend like 5 minutes around freshmen to know that the vast majority at that age have no idea what they want out of life or what they're getting into. Does that mean they can't or shouldn't date older people? Not necessarily. Is a good reason for it being justified "they know what they're getting into?" No. Have you never listened to an 18-year-old talk about their plans …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 10:09 PM
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Cool I disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 10:03 PM
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Extremely divided on secular/tradcon lines. Honestly it's like night and day listening to the dating issues that my Christian friends had vs. non-Christian. Young Christian men can genuinely love you but feel guilty about his inability to provide or give you the life he wants for you. Some will just say "fuck it" and accept that the earlier years of life might not be the tradcon fantasy. But times have changed and waiting for white picket fence fantasy isn't realistic. If a girl loves you and wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 10:01 PM
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"High N women don't make good partners" I may be a virgin but there are plenty of women in my life who give their spouse everything they have and more despite not having a squeaky clean past. And plenty of virgin/low N women who are nut cases. "I want a virgin/low N partner" is a different stance and totally acceptable in my opinion. I have no doubt there are high N men who could be very good to me and will be amazing to some woman out there. I still don't want them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 09:13 PM
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Extremely high as long as you aren't hung up on race
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 05:38 PM
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Absolutely not
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 03:36 PM
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As much as I avoid watching anime that get a ton of attention/hype I'm finally caving and watching Chainsaw Man. Wish me luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 03:19 AM
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Men who are agreeable and passive are very much attracted to women who are stronger and more assertive than them ime. There are also men who are drawn to strength and independence in women because they get off on commanding submission from a tougher target. Like rich weirdos who want pet tigers instead of a dog or something that's objectively easier to train.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 03:11 AM
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I guess the most important questions are is she mentally stable and is he mentally stable. Because it just so happens that this kind of gap is correlated with that not being true for one or both people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 12:39 AM
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Ah. I think that's somewhere around the exact age gap that culminated in my late uncle's suicide.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 12:31 AM
0

That much we can certainly agree on.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 09:00 PM
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Not the same, but basic mechanics (e.g. knowing that I orgasm very easily from any kind of clitoral stimulation) are probably helpful to know. I don't have a particularly clean or pretty image of sex if that's what you're getting at. I've never felt afraid to ask anyone (my family, more experienced friends) about things I should know, or to just use Google for things I'm curious about. I did think for a while that semen magically soaks into the vagina until someone corrected me and explained tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 08:04 PM
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Idk if it counts as an "approach" because his intention was more to practice initiating small talk and meeting new people in general. Location / Context Bookstore. We were browsing on the same aisle, he got my attention, apologized for bothering me, said he was just wondering if I'm into Tolkien too. How you rated the guys physical attractiveness Easy on the eyes. I noticed that more and more as we talked. What the guy did / said to create a positive outcome If you are going to approach me apolo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 07:55 PM
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If you have any concerns about my conduct throughout this conversation feel free to file a report with the mods. Your clarifications to your original position are noted.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 07:43 PM
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So everything is completely different except for the most important part. I think I can live with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 07:40 PM
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I assure you that pessimism, cryptic fortunetelling, and unsolicited advice are far from rare phenomena on Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 07:35 PM
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Soon to be 24. Save your promises for people who know you in real life and have no reason to doubt your credibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 07:21 PM
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Confrontation? On a debate sub? Perish the thought. So until you get commitment as in marriage, you can a guy doesnt care about those things. I'm already dead set on staying a virgin until marriage so I only have observations of others to go by. Which is that high N women definitely get marriage and commitment lol. They stick to liberal/secular men who overwhelmingly do not care.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 07:18 PM
1

I'm messing with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 05:59 PM
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Yes, as I said. A trap.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 05:25 PM
1

She sounds crazy, leave it alone
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 04:40 PM
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Comments for that post
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 04:38 PM
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Not a trick question. A trap. From a dude whose flair explicitly says "men should not date virgins."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 04:35 PM
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That sub is always ridiculous but special shout out to the one claiming to have two STEM degrees yet still unable to find a job. Unless the definition of STEM she's going by is extremely generous.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 04:33 PM
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I've been on this sub a few years now and literally nothing I've been told to give a few years has happened
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 04:26 PM
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Not really. Learning how to vet and assert your boundaries can be a bit touch and go at first. The rest is pretty easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 04:19 PM
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Besides the obvious of being my type, lots of weird, random things that may just be a byproduct of my own sexual frustration if I'm being honest His voice. Particularly when he's being emotionally vulnerable or comforting. It's still deep but also soft and gentle and drives me kinda crazy. His hands. Especially since it's been getting colder lately and he likes to help me warm my hands up with his. They are way bigger than mine and something about that makes me want him to grab and touch me some…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 04:16 PM
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I mean I have masturbated and at least have a rough idea of what I like. If you mean penetration specifically, yes that's going to be more of an adjustment. The advice I've received is basically lots of foreplay and/or lubricant.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 03:34 PM
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I have already stated that I am low n (virgin in my case) so I don't even know what you'd be dunking on. His dating choice doesn't necessarily mean commitment. That is exactly what it means. Otherwise they'd just be fucking.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 03:19 PM
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I am currently waiting until marriage. I have never had sex and do not intend to do so until I marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 08:14 AM
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Hmm. Something about that flair makes me think this question is a trap.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 06:25 AM
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The generic pop star look or the generic e-girl look. Tough choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:36 AM
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Believe it or not there are in fact normal people who are capable of having friendships that aren't diet indentured servitudeTM
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:27 AM
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For me would have relationship, would marry, would sex is a package deal. In that order.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:22 AM
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In my view, a reward has two parts: the intent of the giver as well as the recipient's perception of it as such. Let's say you send a person a literal pile of shit. Turns out that person is a shit enthusiast and takes your shipment as a reward for something nice they did for you. What then? Who gets to define the exchange that has happened here? Because if you ask the giver and receiver they sure as hell aren't going to agree on it. Flip it, shit enthusiast decides to reward your kindness toward…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 01:01 AM
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One of the most important lessons the women in my family taught me when it comes to dating: "you're the one who has to go to bed with him." As in, the approval or interest of others is irrelevant if all it gets you is someone you're not attracted to and can't stand to look at, much less have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 10:25 PM
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If a dude is committed enough to concealing his preference that he literally never speaks on it and his dating choices do not reflect it, Occam's razor would suggest that he doesn't actually have that preference. Not that he's secretly playing 2D chess to make sure that the women around him don't get mad or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 10:08 PM
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You can't "make" a grown man do anything. The most you can say is "here's the deal, no sex right now, take it or leave it." It's up to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 09:01 PM
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I think it's more related to what a particular woman is socialized to see as taboo or shameful. The fastest way to get people to fantasize about a thing is to tell them it's bad or off-limits. My sexual fantasies are more along the lines of being the dominant while the male submits. I grew up in a religion with almost exclusively male leadership and continue to accept the nature of its hierarchy. I also happen to think that the most attractive angle for men is when they're on their knees looking…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 08:58 PM
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That is an entirely fair assessment which considers a crazy concept called nuance.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 08:32 PM
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A 26-year-old guy expressed interest in me shortly after I turned 22. It isn't even that bad an age gap on paper but it still became quickly apparent that we weren't in the same place in terms of lifestyle and long term planning. He was genuinely a well-intentioned guy I think and he was respectful of my decision to end it and go back to my home state to be near my family after graduation. Dating a dude over 30 is like that but multiply the differences by magnitudes plus add in the red flag of a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 08:31 PM
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There's butterflies and then there's tingles. The tingle threshold is way higher than the butterfly threshold. But butterflies are a good indication that tingles will happen in the right circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 02:45 PM
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Because we know from firsthand experience that most men do not care about that and the ones who do tend to be religious, culturally conservative, or fucking weird
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 02:16 PM
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I barely even assume that you're people. All interactions with random anonymous strangers online require a healthy dose of skepticism.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 12:29 PM
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Lmao famous last words
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 09:30 AM
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You have my full permission to ridicule women who fuck married men and then complain about their inability to trust men
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 08:33 AM
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It's the genre of RP dudes who get off on talking about their exploits with married women and claim they're doing men a service by posting Literotica that nobody asked for
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 08:26 AM
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Oh did you miss the bartender from the strip club's post
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 08:15 AM
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RP men who talk about how unfaithful women are
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 07:55 AM
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Honey if you're gonna quote Marilyn Monroe you gotta at least bring Marilyn Monroe looks and very rarely is that the case
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 06:01 AM
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"Not like other girls" By that she means she's even worse
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 05:56 AM
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Wow so deep
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 05:53 AM
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The lack of a no preference option was an incredibly dumb move on OP's part
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 05:13 AM
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