DamienDieckeSOA Archive

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372	Flaking is damn frustrating, here's a way to cut it in half		DamienDieckeSOA	/r/seduction	19/03/14 02:34 AM
1	Cut your flake rate in half with this simple scientific secret		DamienDieckeSOA	/r/seduction	18/03/14 11:28 PM

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2	The Top 5 Game-Changers Of Sincere Seduction Those are some fantastic takeaways from my book mate, Thanks so much for writing it, I just stumbled across this from a google alert. Nicely written! Sometimes people try to take lessons away that you never intended, and sometimes they write the exact opposite of what you meant, but you've encapsulated them perfectly :)	/r/seduction	04/06/14 05:13 AM
1	Still a noobie after over half a year of constant approaching One of the big keys here mate is to remember that this skillset isn't limited to women. You could be practicing conversation control and small talk with anyone around you all day long. At the workplace, at home with roommates, when you visit parents. BUT the biggest killer is that most guys go into interactions ASKING QUESTIONS, and lots of them. That's what makes conversations forced and awkward, the question question question question, and it's boring for all involved. You actually need to bui…	/r/seduction	15/05/14 11:14 PM
2	Hey seddit, I'm a cashier and want to land a cute customer and I need help on how to break the ice I'll Ditto what SenorWiggin said, and add some more. I think you are probably overthinking the complexity required. Next time you serve her, say "You know, i've seen you come through here a few times now, and I don't even know your name" she tells you her name, you tell her yours "I'm guessing you work around here?" she says yes, and tells you where "Wow, so they obviously have an 'only hire cute girls' policy over there. I'm obviously working in the wrong place!" Then see how she reacts. I'd le…	/r/seduction	18/04/14 12:31 AM
3	Judging Age You know what dude, I've been doing this since I was 20 years old, and I'm 30 now. It's my full time job teaching this stuff for the last 5 years. And I still get age wrong all the time. The last thing you really need to be doing at this point is sitting around looking at a girl hoping you can ascertain her age correctly. Just jump in to every girl who looks close enough. BUT next time a girl says you are too young, say "Oh yeah that's right, you would have no hope of keeping up with me would yo…	/r/seduction	18/04/14 12:27 AM
15	How to tell if a girl is turned on? The ways that women demonstrate they like you varies quite a bit from culture to culture. But one of the most common signs a woman is interested in you is that her head will tilt to one side while she's talking to you. It's a very subconscious movement, but when it was researched, it was found to take place everywhere around the world when a woman liked a man she was talking to. Pupil dilation is definitely a good queue as well, but damned me if I have ever consciously been aware of spotting it.	/r/seduction	09/04/14 12:51 AM
4	The aloof barrier. Why mine goes up. I love this post. I wish more women would put up their sides of common dating/pickup experiences. I believe all to often that guys create really crazy explanations for things. Such as I know many guys would make out as though you are being aloof as a gaming tactic to raise your value. So please keep posting here and setting guys straight :)	/r/seduction	09/04/14 12:49 AM
8	This stuff does wonders for job interview outcomes Very sharp observation! Actually it's the other way around. Almost all pickup techniques originated in sales/marketing/NLP etc. Then they are retro-fit into the pick up paradigm. Things like DHV is from sales, even Negging is a negotiating tactic, and so on. But most guys who get really good at pickup, become very good at networking, job interviews, sales etc. It's just such a powerful set of tools you have at your disposal once you are good at this stuff.	/r/seduction	09/04/14 12:47 AM
34	Best self-improvement books? There is one phenomenal book that hasn't been mentioned that I think is the most vital book every man alive should read. David Deida - Way of The Superior Man It's a guide into what it means to be a man in modern society. It isn't about pickup or dating, it's about everything to do with being a man. When you read it, you get a huge number of AHA moments, where issues in your life suddenly make sense. I make all my students read it when I coach them.	/r/seduction	09/04/14 12:44 AM
3	How to use push/pull without being a douchebag? I'd be wary of push-pull techniques. You go too far down that rabbit hole, and eventually you realise you're just trying to manipulate someone by playing with their emotions. The low self esteem women will put up with it, and high self-esteem women will make you feel really petty and small by digging into you. HOWEVER, just focussing on teasing is probably a better mind set, and some push-pull stuff is just someone trying to define teasing girls in another way. When you are with your mates, you …	/r/seduction	08/04/14 12:23 AM
0	Routines Vs. Present to the Moment I have to agree with so much of what is being said bout 'the game', and 'canned routines'. You have to see seduction as a quickly evolving art form. Accept that in the almost 15 years since Mystery was doing his thing, the industry has come a very long way. Routines only ever have their place when you are learning something. I.e. you are trying to learn to tease girls, so you have a few pre-prepared teases in your pocket in case you can't come up with anything on your own. Or having a default op…	/r/seduction	08/04/14 12:15 AM
4	[FR] Sent the same text to 4 different women, and got 4 different responses Hey mate, Your text can easily come across as cocky. Now cocky can be great, but it's a double edged sword. If they don't see you as a confident guy from your interactions with them, then your text is risking sounding a bit douchy. Couple of things I'd love you to change about your texts. first of all, never expect a woman to come up with a plan, especially at 17. Heck most 30 year olds won't even do it. You're the man, take up that role, and women will always respond best to a man making the pl…	/r/seduction	08/04/14 12:08 AM
4	Why are attractive girls "easier" when it comes to day game? It's actually a culmination of factors coming together and creating an experience that most men universally experience. It depends on what you mean by hot girls never get approached. The girls around the 8/10 hotness mark get approached a huge amount of the time, but the girls who are intimidatingly hot, suddenly get less attention due to the fact that many guys are too scared. But honestly, women that hot are rare, so many of the girls you are speaking to are probably still be hit on plenty. BU…	/r/seduction	06/04/14 11:01 PM
0	How do you not let external things shape your happiness? One of the great ways to improve your self-confidence is already written in your title. Not focusing on external things. But like all great wisdom, the art isn't in the 'knowing' it's in the 'doing', and often times that's harder than it sounds like it aught to be. The best first step for you is to start changing the way that you set goals for yourself. So you might decide that you want to get 2 phone numbers next time you go out. But that's a horrible thing to aim for because you can't control …	/r/seduction	03/04/14 11:45 PM
14	[FR] First date ever You know what buddy, you deserve to feel good about this first date. In a couple of days, send her a text and invite her out to that spot in the city you want to visit.	/r/seduction	03/04/14 11:33 PM
4	I care too much. Hey dude, There is already some good advice in this thread, but I'll ad mine too. There are going to be lots of times in your life when you have to hurt other people. Breaking up with a girl, firing someone at work just to name a few. Now what distinguishes a decent human being from the stereotypical 'nice guy with no backbone' is that a 'good guy with a backbone' will still break up with a girl, he'll even be honest about why he's breaking up with her and that might hurt her at first, but he do…	/r/seduction	03/04/14 11:19 PM
2	Adelaide? Hey buddy, I've been down and coached in Adelaide a bunch of times, there are LOTS of guys down there. Search for Adelaide Fraternity, it's the name of the local forum. The guys there are really friendly!	/r/seduction	02/04/14 10:26 PM
0	Rambling Patchwork Quilt What you are going through right now isn't uncommon at all. I find most seduction materials to be very weak when it comes to your internal state, there are a few nuggets of gold there, but mostly just pick up artists playing at being a psychologist. How about some feedback for you from someone who is both therapist and dating coach :) The worst thing you can do is try to talk yourself out of your insecurities about yourself. Standing in front of a mirror and saying 'you are pretty you are pretty…	/r/seduction	02/04/14 10:25 PM
0	met a girl at a bar. went on a lunch date. she told me I was a great friend. Yeah it's not the best situation for you to be in. In short, you were friend zoned obviously, although chick talking about a crappy ex boyfriend doesn't necessarily mean that. That conversation has had numbers times before I've had a one night stand. You have 2 options though from here. 1) Tell her you want her physically and you don't make friends with someone you like that way, and see how she responds. Sometimes it can end up with a FWB type of relationship. 2) Tell her she can be your friend…	/r/seduction	02/04/14 10:14 PM
1	Help to become more authoritative Hey buddy, I'm sure you aren't the only cat out there wanting to be authoritative. Your perceived authority comes from a number of factors, but most notably your eye contact, postural stance and tonality. The most important thing to keep in mind is that your authority is usually established in the first 5 minutes of meeting someone. After that, it's really hard to change. I'll start with tonality because this is one area that most people don't consider. Start watching other people when they ask …	/r/seduction	01/04/14 11:28 PM
9	How do you stay motivated after a bad/embarrassing rejection? Actually buddy, the solution here is slow and steady changing of the way you think about approaching women. If you want to get better with women, you need to practice. Practice suggests that you want to get better. To get better you need to fail. The more you fail, the more you can learn. You rarely learn much from success. So you need to slowly start shifting your attention away from 'I'm trying to pick up a girl', to instead having goals to complete for a night that you know will teach you inv…	/r/seduction	31/03/14 09:44 PM
45	How to sext? Hey buddy, Couple of rules for making text messages sexual (which is what I presume you are talking about rather than sending naked images of yourself which is a big no no). You can generally only be as sexual in a text as you were verbally when you talked to her. You also have to avoid being too graphic. Women love subtlety and double entendre. You also need to start low on the sexual banter, and work your way up if she sees to enjoy it. Sexual texting is VERY much about calibration. Good calib…	/r/seduction	31/03/14 09:36 PM
4	Escalating when she's over Hey buddy, Yep, even though you are in theory at the 'easiest' part of the night, I certainly remember myself screwing up and sadly not actually screwing a lot of interactions under similar circumstances. The reality is that the best thing to do is find one strategy that you can repeat every time over and over again. It doesn't even have to be a really smooth strategy either by the way. You just have to find a way that doesn't scare her, even it it's slightly badly calibrated, if she already lik…	/r/seduction	31/03/14 09:25 PM
3	For the Older Masters of Seduction (or younger)... Hey mate, let me provide some perspective for you. I'm 30, and in this game, I consider myself quite young. I've been working on this stuff for 8 years, and I now coach it for a living. It's EASIER for me to pick up women who are 20 years old now, than when I was 25. All my mates in their early 30s agree. It's EASIER for me to coach men who are 30-35 to get amazing results, than men who are 20-25 to get results. My best friend is 49 years old. His ex girlfriend is 24. They split up because he di…	/r/seduction	20/03/14 12:42 AM
4	Any tips on maintaining strong eye contact? Couple of things to mention about eye contact. 1) It's easiest to practice first with people you know than people (women) who intimidate you. There's already great advice on here about walking around making eye contact with everyone you pass, I love that. I also love the idea of just promising yourself you'll make prolonged eye contact with everyone you talk to for a week, just the first time you look at them. 2) Remember that eye contact IS socially awkward for everyone if you are prolonging it…	/r/seduction	20/03/14 12:27 AM
19	Freakonomics Discusses How We Misunderstand What Other People Think About Us I love this! guys all too often forget that while most guys are nervous approaching women, most women are nervous being approached by guys. I see it so often that guys walk away from a girl thinking that he screwed it up, and I can see on her face as he walks away that she's pretty sure that she 'screwed up another great interaction'. It would be comedic if it wasn't so tragic.	/r/seduction	20/03/14 12:21 AM
3	Recognize your insecurities. I love this post, and after working with 1000s of men, I have to say that I couldn't agree more. Everyone has insecurities, heck lots of guys think of me as the most confident guy they know but I still have lots of things I feel insecure about, and I'm not afraid to admit it. What's unattractive to women isn't that a guy has insecurities, it's whether owns them or whether they own him. Insecurities build trust. If a woman meets a guy who looks shiny perfect, then she doesn't trust him. And you n…	/r/seduction	20/03/14 12:17 AM
2	Flaking is damn frustrating, here's a way to cut it in half Hey NotHere, yeah I know the effect you are referring to, but you need to keep in mind that this experiment has been repeated with a high volume of different experiences, including the colonoscopy one listed above. I'm not pulling away my personal opinion from the results, this result has been heavily peer reviewed and approved. So it's hardly flimsy according to the experts.	/r/seduction	19/03/14 09:17 PM
15	a good way to tell her friends that shes coming with you for the night? There are quite a few great strategies, but there's one really simply way around problems like this. Instead of asking her home from the bar/club. Ask her outside to grab a bite to eat. That's an easy way for her to say goodbye to friends without feeling like she's being a hussy, she's just going to get some food. Then after you have had a bite to eat, take her home. There's no need for her to say goodbye to friends again, and if she really wants to she can lie to them and tell them she's going …	/r/seduction	19/03/14 05:40 AM
3	Found an awesome roommate, already flirting. How do I friendzone her and control myself? That's very smart of you daterman, and most men wouldn't have the courage of conviction. I can't imagine anything worse than sleeping with a housemate by way of complicating my life. The second she moves in, tell her you hang out on seduction forums learning to pick up women. I don't say this to be coy, I mean, share with her your desire to learn to pick up better. It's not a guarantee to turn her off (like you think it might be), but by your sharing your pickup desires with her as though she we…	/r/seduction	19/03/14 05:37 AM
12	Flaking is damn frustrating, here's a way to cut it in half Yeah Kanzoozle, this is a slightly different scenario as you knew her for a while already. But worth keeping in mind is why she might have flaked, and it all comes down to the value or excitement she places on meeting with you. Now every flake can be completely legitimate, but in your instance, one way you could reduce the flaking is pick a date that is more likely to be fun than 'coffee'. Now you know the girl better than I do, but if you can find something that would be fun for her regardless …	/r/seduction	19/03/14 03:26 AM
10	Why is it when I'm in a sober environment, girls seems to stare and check me out but when I'm at a party / alcoholic event, i seem to get less attention? Good question buddy, For the 1st question - Different environments contain different types of women, and also women look for different kinds of guys in different environments. In a crazy club, the cute but slightly quiet guy who's genuine and interesting to chat to isn't going to get far at all, but might have a great time of it in a more chilled environment. Secondly, women tend to be more subtle in club environments since guys are far more predatory there. So women are cautious about being cau…	/r/seduction	18/03/14 05:31 AM
3	Trouble with getting that second date Hey man, there are lots of things you may have done wrong, but I'd love to give you some food for thought. If I do two experiments with you 1) I put your hand in cold water which is about 7/10 on a pain scale for 5 minutes 2) I put your hand in cold water at 7/10 pain for 5 minutes, then in another cold water bucket at 6/10 pain for another 5 minutes Even though you experience pain for a longer period of time in the second experiment, the first will be remembered as being the worst of the two. T…	/r/seduction	17/03/14 04:13 AM
1	Discussion: should you continue to chat up girls if you're starting to see someone? Hey buddy, as a full-time PUA coach who has had a girlfriend for the last 5 years, I'll give you some advice on the matter. There's nothing intrinsically wrong with flirting with girls, so long as the relationship is set up that way from the get go. It's perfectly natural for men and women to enjoy flirting, and if you can let your partner know that you expect her to still enjoy being hit on by guys, because that makes her feel desired, then you should be allowed to still flirt (without intent) …	/r/seduction	17/03/14 04:07 AM
1	I have day game, but no night game. Where do I start? There are a couple of big differences between night game and day game. 1) Night game will almost always require a higher energy level 2) Women tend to be a bit harsher at night time 3) You need to be more engaging at night time as you are competing with more stimuli The best way for you to get started, is to go and find some guys who go out at night regularly to pick up girls. At the start, it will feel clunky and weird, but as has already been pointed out, most of the core skillets are the same…	/r/seduction	17/03/14 04:01 AM
9	Boring girls? How to deal with not having common intrests etc. Hey mate, this is a great question! First of all, you shouldn't actually like many of the cute girls you meet. Honestly, most girls should be relatively boring to you. Most guys are willing to put up with boring in the name of desperation to find a girl. Your friends probably fit right into this category. If you can't have fun with a girl you want, then what's the point? Seriously, if the conversation is 'blah' then the sex is likely to be pretty crap too. 50% of good sex is the non-physical che…	/r/seduction	17/03/14 12:57 AM
1	How do I tell a girl Im poor? Hey buddy, Straight up, it would be completely unreasonable for a woman to expect a 21 year old to be anything other than broke. Thankfully, precious few women really are gold diggers, and if she's one of them then just thank your stars you don't have money or you could waste a lot of time on a pain in the ass. As for building attraction with her, there are lots of good ideas here. 1) Women are attracted to drive and ambition way more than money, even if you are driven to be an actor and will li…	/r/seduction	17/03/14 12:52 AM
2	Might be meeting a girl I've just met on Tinder out on the town tonight. Advice? Hey buddy, If you still have time to read this, then you want to make the aim of your night 'fun'. If you don't bring anything else to the table, make her laugh. Humour is the easiest way to bring value to any interaction. If you are perceived as fun, then she is a) going to want to spend more of the night with you, and b) Want to see you again after the night whether or not it leads to a tie on the doorknob. Consider focussing on teasing and humour. If you get that down pat, she will consider t…	/r/seduction	15/03/14 11:56 PM