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OFF TOPICFancy_Bits/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 04:57 PM
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Eli, big, huge e-hugs if you want them. I've been there. I'm bipolar and PTSD from childhood sexual assault and a couple other assaults in college (mania + low self-esteem + childhood trauma = bad decision making when it comes to sexual behavior). I’ve tried to commit suicide twice, and I self-harmed, sometimes severely, for many years. It took me many, many years to work through the trauma of my childhood, and it took me trying a lot of meds to figure out the right balance for managing my bipol…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/17 04:42 PM
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I’m a woman, which I know in the sidebar women aren’t supposed to self-identify, but I’m hoping it will be ok in the context of this post. I lurked here for many years to “watch all the sexist perverts” and ended up ‘converting’ to TRP. I have brought up TRP to some of my partners, and I use TRP to try and be a better partner. When I was single and looking for a LTR I would bring up some TRP concepts to test out prospective partners. My boyfriend isn’t an active Red Piller but in practice he is …
/r/TheRedPill19/08/17 12:40 AM
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Are we still letting women post here? According to the side bar, yes. Obviously she's going to disagree with me. Only on this one part. I disagree with what your advocating not from any moral standpoint but because if you're going to cheat, doing it with her friends is a fine way to get caught. I'm backing this up not by my own assessment but from TRP truths - 1) Women love validation, especially being told they are beautiful, desired, etc. 2) Women love attention. Attention from men is generall…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 10:42 PM
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For women your wife knows and they like each other, you should never text or talk openly about your intentions. She's more likely to feel obligated to tattle, or she might just gossip to other friends about her friend's sleazy husband who keeps hitting on her so she can get a quick hit of social validation (which could get back to your wife).[.....] Trust me, if a woman agrees to be alone with you, knowing you're married, she's interested in something happening. So much wrong about this. Women t…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 09:06 PM
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I’m not sure what you’re going for here. You are getting (as of my writing this) universal responses that having a male friend like this is not a good idea. You yourself are uncomfortable sharing this with your partner – and you have hidden it from him (or if you wish, “haven’t brought it up”) for a year now. Yet you are debating it with the same logic with every poster. If you are so sure of your own convictions, why the desire to post to begin with? Were you seeking justifications for your own…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 08:09 PM
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This may help - https://thefamilyalpha.com/2016/12/21/queen-warrior/ RPW is submitting to one man - your Captain. Otherwise you are expected to stand up for yourself, be a leader, and be powerful. I wouldn't worry about being feminine right now. Here are some ones that may help. They don't directly come from RP sources, but since this is a workplace and not a personal relationship, I think they are ok - http://www.askamanager.org/2012/12/when-your-older-male-coworkers-are-condescending-and-not-e…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 10:34 PM
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Being religious is not at all required. You cannot force someone who is not religious (and I can guess which religion you mean and it isn't Buddhism, paganism, etc...) to simply become religious. Morals are not religion dependent. You have excellent advice otherwise however.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/17 05:21 PM
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Why do you assume it's her? Why not (after reading the OP...) ask "Did anything happen to make you worried he is hiding something?"
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 08:42 PM
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If you want to be effective, to be taken seriously, and to be helpful, then give your audience respect. Speak to them as adults. Get their buy-in to why you should be listened to [LPT: "Google me" isn't the way to do that]. If you insult, degrade, or mock them then why would anyone listen to you? How are you any different than a "man-child" PUA that simply wants to neg us into bed...or to boost his ego? What man who has frame needs to mock women who are trying to learn how to be better partners …
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 06:26 PM
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This subreddit is not a place for men, RP or not, to come in and talk down to us. Remember that this is Red Pill Women. Please drop your condescending, patronizing, arrogant attitude, or go elsewhere. "Google me, sweetheart"". Are you serious???
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 05:32 PM
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You shouldn't be downvoted for this.. Not all women are ok with physical corrections and that is ok. Each couple decides what is ok for them. Many men - RP included - won't put their hands on a woman. Many see it as if they need to they have lost frame or they haven't established themselves enough. At the same time, women who choose to be in dynamics that include domestic discipline shouldn't be seen as abused. I am like Owned. My Captain will put me in my place however he chooses and I have con…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 05:02 PM
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Ha!!! Alright, fair enough. As long as you're treating everyone equally bad.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/17 04:40 PM
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That is the case for every mental illness. Not just bipolar. You are stigmatizing bipolar individuals as if they are in some special class. How many folks with depression stop taking their meds, or straight up don't ever take them? Or vets who have severe PTSD that go untreated, sometimes to the point of losing their lives to it, or committing violence against others due to it? (this is also hugely, hugely in part to our total failure to take care of our vets). Or anxiety, which is often comorbi…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/17 03:23 PM
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How old are you to be using that as a slur still? Up your insult game. I wasn't responding to OP. Try again. Read my response to OP and see how passive aggressive I am.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/17 01:00 AM
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This is great news! One thing to speak with her therapist about is if this was a manic episode. Without knowing the exact time line is hard to tell,but it's possible. Stress is one of the biggest mania triggers.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/17 12:01 AM
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Good on you, man. Hopefully she won't fuck up her life that way, but if she does at least she'll have a saving grace in you.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/17 11:55 PM
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*familiar I'm familiar with what a medical diagnosis is. Are you familiar with the basic logic that because you see a subsection of individuals with bipolar (assuming you have reason to believe they have a medical diagnosis of bipolar) who have been hospitalized or come from dysfunctional families that your observations do not encompass all, or even the majority, or individuals with bipolar? I am very familiar with bipolar. Much more than the average layperson as I am highly active in my own tre…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/17 11:52 PM
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It is complex to treat. Not always hard. It requires a lot of follow up, and therapy as well as medication management (by an actual psychiatrist, not a family doctor or non-mental health professional.) The biggest challenge is the patient. They need to commit to treatment. Trying different meds or does if the current ones aren't working. To staying on meds when things get better. To giving up mania, which can be hard to walk away from (speaking from experience.)
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/17 08:34 PM
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Are you familiar with confirmation bias?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/17 08:26 PM
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Is she in therapy? Seeing a psychiatrist? Is she bipolar 1 or 2? Do you have a deeper than surface-level understanding of bipolar? She needs to be seeing professionals, on mood stabilizers, and you need to understand bipolar. I am bipolar. I wasn't diagnosed till I was 28. Took about 3-4 years to find the right meds combination (for me, 2 mood stabilizers - 1 to prevent mania, 1 to prevent depression, and gabapentin for anxiety) and I am very, very successful. Stable, successful at my job. Wonde…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/17 07:12 PM
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Your comments are totally inappropriate. OP has a good head on her shoulders. She's looking for insight, not hard and fast rules. She wants to set herself up for success. What kind of woman tears another down for asking for advice? Even if you think she is going about this the wrong way or her focus is off, you don't slam her like this. You are wildly out of line.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 04:00 PM
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I just simply do not know what to do. You do know. I'm sorry you're going through this. Reach out to your girlfriends, your mom if you're close to her, your girlfriends mothers if you're close to them at all. Reach out, reach out, reach out. You will need a lot of support, both emotional and physical (hugs, platonic cuddling) from other women during this time. I hope you're able to find it within your circle.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 05:48 PM
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Mania can vary wildly, from a more mild form (hypomania) that may not interfere with a persons ability to function as far as going to work, to more extreme (acute mania) where they can do things like the "hookers and blow" to the most extreme mania (delirious mania) where a person has psychosis and can have grandiose delusions and hallucinations. The big thing is that with mania thoughts are very, very fast, unfocused, and impulsive. There isn't much forethought that goes into anything, you tend…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 04:41 PM
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I'm sorry, that is really brutal to uncover that. Your heart knows the truth too.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 03:33 PM
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There is such a huge variety in hair ties. I have extremely thick hair and have to use the large, thick hair ties. If I saw a one of those little thin ones that wouldn't hold my hair, I know it would be mine. Or vice versa. Some women don't use hair ties - they use butterfly clips or otherwise. Or only use a certain color - or only use the "damage free" ones. I only wear black ones for instance :-)
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 03:32 PM
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You US lads have it rough with all those sexual assault and rape accusations. Yes, which makes it even more important to be smart when they play, and make sure they understand fully the level of consent and use safewords. You are way into the whole BDSM scene. True. I'm just a guy that fucks women hard and gives them orders. And that's fine, but don't be giving advice when you don't know what the fuck you're talking about because all you do is fuck them hard and give orders. You can't understand…
/r/TheRedPill02/03/17 06:48 PM
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You don't. You can try to read her, but without experience of knowing her cues, it is difficult and dangerous. You can very quickly move from play into assault without ever knowing it. Pleasure and pain run along the same neural pathways, and they intermingle so much that determining the two purely based on sound and body language alone in a stranger is impossible. A safeword is as part and parcel of safe play as using a condom is for safer sex. Only a fool would play without a safeword, at leas…
/r/TheRedPill02/03/17 06:11 PM
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I really appreciate your understanding of my speaking "out of turn" so to speak. I very much agree with you that this is a male space, and that women's voices aren't generally appropriate or welcome here. I think this may be the first time I've posted here. I'm not entirely sure as I've lurked in TRP for years - but I feel I have to speak very aggressively here to be taken seriously, and that is very foreign and uncomfortable for me, so honestly the idea of posting here intimidates me! The egreg…
/r/TheRedPill02/03/17 05:58 PM
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I'm quoting you directly here dude - I love tying my woman up , smacking her and etc but I would not go into BDSM lingo with her / safeword her and what else. You're talking about doing something that is technically illegal (striking her.) Doing so without at least a discussion about what is tolerated and a safeword is straight out dumb unless you're doing it at the lowest level. Advocating for no one to use a safeword is even more idiotic and shows you don't know what the fuck you're talking ab…
/r/TheRedPill02/03/17 05:44 PM
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Here's a tip. Putting "lol" after something makes you sound like a 12 year old. Have some confidence in your insults. If you don't have the balls to say it without being able to hide behind "I was just joking, didn't you see me say 'lol'?" then don't bother. It's better to appear a beta than to type out "lol" and remove all doubt.
/r/TheRedPill02/03/17 01:51 AM
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This makes BDSM (or their view of it) gynocentric because it is exclusively focusing on the female. Naturally dominant men don't discuss the rules of their dominance with women. Or anyone for that matter. I can't remember ever posting in TRP (I stick to RPW), but this post is so damn ignorant I decided to. Ethical, responsible, mature Doms do, because they know the best way to have partners who they can do really kinky, wild, dirty shit with is by talking about what they both want before doing i…
/r/TheRedPill01/03/17 11:56 PM
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Thank you :-)
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 05:16 PM
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I've done that before and it worked out really well - He was getting really close to finishing, so just to be a brat, I stopped, grabbed his dick and started using it like a joystick and making "pew pew! pew pew!" noises at him with a stupid grin on my face. He looked at me for a moment with a "what the hell...?" expression, started laughing, then shoved me on the floor onto my hands and knees, and finished doggy style. He then smacked my ass hard a few times afterwards saying "I don't know what…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 05:46 PM
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Bipolar often doesn't present until a person is in their 20s. It's the nature of the illness. It also tends to get worse over time, both in the intensity of the phases and the frequency of the phases. A person can be extremely different during phases, especially mania. They can go from being a family-oriented, upright citizen, to a erratic "hookers and blow" who won't sleep for days and blow through thousands of dollars in a matter of days or weeks. Mania can also present as delusions, such as t…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 05:22 PM
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Hi! I have bipolar II. Not the same as BP I, but I do have rapid cycling. Before I got stable on my mood stabilizers, I would cycle every 7-10 days. My cycle would be - 3-4 days of hypomania 2-3 days of depression 1-3 days of normal and then I would start again. It always followed that cycle - hypomania followed by the crash from mania + depression. It was absolutely brutal. I wasn't diagnosed bipolar until I was 28, and by that time I had been cycling for so long it had allowed the rapid cyclin…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 05:13 PM
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In this topic: RPW demonstrate holding frame.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 03:35 PM
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Wow. I needed to hear that too!! Ooh I hate that fuzzy little monster on its wheel in my head :-(
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/17 07:15 PM
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Thank you for your comment! These protocol/service events I attend are very well known and structured, and separate from the private parties like the one I asked him about. At the community parties play is never required but consent always is, and both he and I regularly attend the community events. When I attend these events I never play - that isn't my thing. I like the service aspects and I view it as practice for refining my skills as a server and hostess for when I host parties at my home. …
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 07:25 PM
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It appears my post is getting some big downvotes, and I'm not sure why. My post is very serious. I'm not trolling, I'm not trying to offend. If you look at my post history I've posted in RPW several times and I try to be a positive addition to this subreddit. My relationship is perhaps a little different than some of the other RPW relationships, but I believe it ties in very well with the core tenets of RPW and I use those tenets daily. I took a risk posting this here because I know that there a…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 06:47 PM
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Thank you so much! I really appreciate that!
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/17 04:00 PM
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My Captain expects me to put my foot down when I know something is straight out wrong or will cause harm. For instance, like you, I am the animal expert in many ways. He is a bit of a cat whisperer, but I am a dog trainer (actual dog trainer, have fostered numerous "last chance" dogs with severe behavioral issues, and love working with difficult behavioral cases) and a bit of a nutrition nut. So I control all the food our animals get, including what goes into their homemade raw, when they get ve…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/17 06:41 PM
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My understanding is this goes directly against RP concepts. One of the core precepts of RP is that we are in male-led relationships. Being in a truly egalitarian or female-led relationship is inherently not RP/RPW - at least, that is my understanding, and backed up by this article from the side bar that says "The idea that relationships generally work better if the man is in charge. It is a preferred relationship to both the man and the woman. This is due to the inherent dominant nature of men a…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/17 06:21 PM
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My partner has several female friends, but he has made it clear that our relationship is paramount and I trust him in that. While I do deal with jealousy because he is a big personality and women flirt with him a lot (and men, but he is straight as an arrow), I know I have to trust him. Any attempts to control him in this regard would blow up in my face, and I instead see it as an exercise in submission to him. If he will cheat on me, he will cheat on me, and I won't be able to stop it. But by s…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/17 03:36 PM
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How important is it to you? Is it something you'd like to have, like you'd like him to share an interest in another hobby you have? Is it something you think you'd miss long term but could still be happy without, like if you really loved Broadway shows but he wanted to move to the country and the chance of you ever seeing an actual true Broadway show would be pretty darn close to zero, but maybe you could get some "light" Broadway like community produced shows? Is it a requirement, like you need…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/17 03:17 PM
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Agreed completely... Or they think they want to be submissive, but then when it gets hard or they don't get their way that first time, all the sudden they realize it isn't all peaches and cream and they change their mind and want "egalitarian," or more often "egalitarian in name, me in charge in practice."
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 11:28 PM
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Oh yeah, and then that speaks to a whole other side doesn't it? Then you have to factor in the whole mono vs poly aspect! Poly is really really common in kink, so for those of us who are mono/mono-ish it can make an even more narrow dating pool! Which speaks to another pet peeve of mine - Doms who want to date multiple submissives, but don't want their subs dating more than one Dom. Uh....gross. Bye.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 11:26 PM
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I think in general D/s is not terribly mainstream. If you spend time on websites like Fetlife, which IMO is the best kink website out there, you will find lots of people who are in male-led power exchange relationships - and many who also value traditional gender roles in those relationships as well. But, to an extent, I do agree that a lot of BDSM is portrayed as basically just an in-the-bedroom thing or doesn't actually involve any male-led relationships. And in that regard it doesn't fit into…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 11:25 PM
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You are very correct. There are a ton of terrible Doms out there, and most s-types will run into them eventually. Unfortunately I've run into them multiple times. I am fortunate that I always made it out without any permanent physical injury, but not without trauma. Vetting is so, SO important but it can be really hard when you start getting those endorphin hits and starting to feel that maybe you can trust and surrender to this guy. There is usually a honeymoon period at first too before you st…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 11:06 PM
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That is how it feels for me to. I can be in charge, I can handle myself. In all honesty, I have a ton of "shadow control" in some ways in my relationship in that I usually decide what to make, what to buy at the stores, I prepare the animals food, I make all the appointments, etc. I have a ton of power in that regard...but it is all power that he has given me to use. Giving up the control to him means I can focus on what I do best - which is organizing, planning, cleaning, cooking, and tending h…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 11:01 PM
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I can do my best! I’m far from an expert, but at least as far as the D/s I think I’m pretty proficient. The biggest thing to realize is that labels are inherently only as accurate as the participants want them to be, and so at most they are very limited short-hand. Each dynamic will be different and partners will have to figure out what works for them. Each of my D/s relationships has been very different – some have been very good, some have been terrible. I have been with Doms, Daddy-Doms, and …
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 10:54 PM
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Some of them get super ridiculous!! And really, while I think it's fun in the bedroom, nothing compares to the steadiness that comes from having it 24/7! I agree though. While I wouldn't ever want my Sir to tone down any of his alpha-ness, those books could never ever compare. No risk of developing any unhealthy fantasy when the real thing outdoes it every day!
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 05:20 PM
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This is somewhat of a repeat from my comment in the 50 shades thread, but yes. Incoming wall of text! My partner and I do lifestyle D/s (more specifically, Master/slave), which means we do it 24/7 and not just in the bedroom. To me, it is a natural outgrowth of RPW and the gender roles we are comfortable in. I am a masochist and he is a sadist, so we get along very well in the physical aspects as well. We play across the spectrum. I identify as very “primal” so I prefer very hands on play. He ca…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 04:35 PM
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Rape fantasies are extremely common across all women, not just feminists. Rape fantasies are essentially a more extreme form of "take me how you want me." The same sentiment is echoed here frequently. I love it when my partner comes in, asserts himself and takes charged in the bedroom. I love that masculine energy, that primal animalistic desire he shows. Rape fantasies are an extension of that. The rape aspect comes in because it is hard, and taboo, for women to say in our society that they wan…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 03:31 PM
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Totally agree - for some folks, kink really is an orientation. I can never been happy in a vanilla relationship. My ex husband on the other hand, can never be happy in a kinky relationship. One of the many reasons we are exes :-)
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 10:16 PM
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I am very, very active in the kink/BDSM scene out here in Washington state. I am also in a 24/7 D/s relationship (M/s specifically.) It is very much as much a part of my core sexuality just as much as where I fall on the hetero-bi-homosexual spectrum. I can never be happy in a vanilla relationship. I know, I tried, in a vanilla marriage for 14 years. We eventually opened up our marriage and every one of my poly relationships was D/s. When my ex husband and I finally separated, I sought a monogam…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 10:00 PM
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That is exactly what she is saying. Try some reading comprehension before jumping her. She took a risk, being vulnerable and sharing how she made a mistake and what she learned, and you're criticizing her? Don't be an ass. @OP - it's crazy how we build narratives in our head sometimes, isn't it? Your Captain handled it very well, and I'm glad you not only learned your lesson but even more important, gained understanding of what happened and how you built up to the shit test in your head. I do th…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 09:28 PM
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