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| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 27, 2022Ha. Yeah, roger that. The unattractive behaviours are on their way out, but if I still need to think about it, the underlying mindset is still unattractive, and that comes through. There is incongruence, and I know it. I'm working on that. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/09/22 12:48 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 27, 2022OYS 22 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 13 years. 3 kids. 176cm/5'9", 85kg/187lbs, 17.5% BF (DEXA 5-May-22) Lift: DL: 140kg/308lbs x5, SQ: 122kg/270lbs x5, BP: 82kg/180lbs x5, OHP: 55kg/120lbs x5. Read: Sidebar Listening: The Untethered Soul Mission: To master and own life. Be the best version of myself. Create and have rich life experiences. Share with people that add value to my life. Physical: Lift: 3/3 days. Active: 4/5 days. Goal: 88kg bodyweight by November, then cut for summer. I injured my back … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/09/22 11:20 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 06, 2022Unfortunately I have believed in the spear and responded to it for the last 10+ years Great. So how can you internalize and own this instead of claiming responsibility for it? What do you do about this misunderstanding of the spear? Reflect inwardly. Notice my own reactions and question them. Know that there is no spear and confront without fear. Invite the spear to come out and wipe it away. but I have not convinced my internal self of it. And what would that take? To convince yourself? Clowns … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/09/22 12:59 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 06, 2022Thanks for your thoughts. Your approach comes across too game playing. Yep. You're exactly right. I thought I was 'playing the game'. I was fooled into thinking there was a game. Why not have the bottle of wine with her on Saturday? Yep. I was being a butthurt bitch about it. I was holding out that she would be remorseful for her childish behaviour - not seeing that my behaviour was equally childish. Find a therapist, this will help you work on yourself as well. Funny you say that. Therapy is th… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 18/09/22 01:23 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 06, 2022your frustration with her naturally occurring feminine indignation about parenting is your problem. I'm slowly connecting these dots... Firstly, she can handle the kids. They are perfectly safe with her. She just doesn't want to handle the kids. She thinks its unfair that she has to handle the kids and she blames me for it because I'm her easy-out of the situation. She is indignant. I do not need to let her indignation affect me. I am right. I am not affected when the kids throw a tantrum about … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/09/22 02:11 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 06, 2022Thanks for your scathing yet accurate comments, gentlemen. Appreciated as always. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/09/22 11:39 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 06, 2022Thanks, Ragnar. Is this really the 'best' version of yourself? It is the work in progress. Agreed its soft, but its not flabby. First I need some bulk beneath it - otherwise I'm skinny-fat. Cutting in November. Are you kidding? Driving around with my kids listening to the radio is one of the highlights of my days when I do it. If she doesn't like (and maybe she doesn't) that's for her to figure out. You know what? I agree with you. I love hanging with the kids and it frustrates the hell out of m… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/09/22 11:35 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 06, 2022Thanks for your words, Blarg. Your analogy has uncanny resemblance to reality as this place is renowned for. One day, a woman comes up to you with a spear and starts threatening you. At first, you immediately surrender and appease her. Unfortunately I have believed in the spear and responded to it for the last 10+ years. My psyche has been conditioned by it and my behaviours moulded to avoid it. So next time you take your spear from your back and exaggerated make a show of her efforts. Laughin… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/09/22 11:27 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - September 06, 2022OYS 21 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 13 years. 3 kids. 176cm/5'9", 85kg/187lbs, 17.5% BF (DEXA 5-May-22) Lift: DL: 140kg/308lbs x5, SQ: 122kg/270lbs x5, BP: 80kg/175lbs x5, OHP: 55kg/120lbs x5. Read: Sidebar Listening: The Rational Male III - Positive Masculinity Mission: To master and own life. Be the best version of myself. Create and have rich life experiences. Attract people that add value to my life. Physical: Lift: 3/3 days. Active: 5/5 days. Goal: 88 kg bodyweight by November, then cut for sum… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 06/09/22 12:36 PM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 30, 2022There are no rules, friend. Especially not "red pill" rules. Correct. Maybe the rule is there is not rules. My eyes are slowly starting to open to the possibilities beyond my conditioning. The Reveri app is quite good Thanks. I'll check it out. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/09/22 12:09 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 30, 2022Thanks, Aussie. Good idea. I'll add that to my routine. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/09/22 12:01 PM |
| 5 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 30, 2022OYS 20 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 13 years. 3 kids. 176cm/5'9", 85kg/187lbs, 17.5% BF (DEXA 5-May-22) Lift: DL: 140kg/308lbs x5, SQ: 122kg/270lbs x5, BP: 80kg/175lbs x5, OHP: 55kg/120lbs x5. Read: Sidebar Listening: The Rational Male III - Positive Masculinity Mission: To master and own life. Be the best version of myself. Create and have rich life experiences. Spend time with people that add value to my life. Physical: Lift: 3/3 days. Active: 5/5 days. Goal: 88kg bodyweight by November, then cut … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/08/22 12:02 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 02, 2022Blue pill covert contract. "If I could just be who she wants me to be..." Yeah, I recognised this too. Nonetheless, its telling me that its up to me to create the life that I want for me, and that by doing so abundance can come into it. If I play the victim and expect life handed to me, I'll get nothing. The prize does not need to tell people what he's doing when they arent there. STFU. Good distinction. This is the difference between acting the prize and being the prize. Noted. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/08/22 11:54 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - August 02, 2022OYS 19 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 13 years. 3 kids. 176cm/5'9", 83kg/183lbs, 17.5% BF (DEXA 5-May-22) Lift: DL: 140kg/308lbs x5, SQ: 115kg/250lbs x5, BP: 80kg/175lbs x5, OHP: 55kg/120lbs x5. Read: NMMNGx5, WISNIFGx2, TWOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, SGM, TRM, The Game, Models x2, Unplugged Alpha, Practical Female Pschology x2 Listening: Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway Mission: "To live my life for me. To have a career that challenges and fulfils me. To create and have rich life experiences that I share with the… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/08/22 01:01 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 26, 2022Thanks again for the advice and links, man. You're right: I need to push out of my comfort zone. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/07/22 12:19 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 26, 2022Thanks u/BostonBrakeJob. You and u/dust2dust45 have given me a lot of insight this week. I have been a reactive, butthurt bitch acting out of emotion. Like walking into a gym and making up a program on the fly. Action: Take wife on a date and plan future dates. Make a regular effort. Do not expect anything in return. Just be fun and be the prize. Action: Make social plans and get out of the house during the week. I have built myself a prison and locked myself in it - a victim of my own making. S… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/07/22 01:32 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 26, 2022Thanks for your perspective, Aussie. I still struggle with the idea of being the arsehole.. I still have nice guy, people pleasing tendencies ingrained in me. How did you shake it? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/07/22 04:53 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 26, 2022Yeah. I like your thinking. This was my line of thought as I went into my Tinder experiment. Get some sex on the side and I'll be happy all round. Easy. What I found: - I was paranoid of getting discovered. I had not thought about what alibi I would use for my time out. I had also not planned what I would tell my mistress - would I confess to still being married or pretend to be single? What if she turns out to be a nut and tracks me down? Or what if she chances across me in public with my famil… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/07/22 03:13 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 26, 2022Yep. Agreed. This was an overly emotional week. Which is why I'm slowing it down to get my head in order. I'm not counting initiations anymore as I don't like it as a measure. But point taken- keep initiating and have stuff to do. And, yes, I have recognised some revenge fantasy in my thinking and that it is counterproductive. I will continue to create the life I want for me, not in spite of her. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/07/22 10:18 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 26, 2022No. I do like my wife. We are good housemates and we have a beautiful family. She loves me, but is not attracted to me to have sex with me. I have tormented over the plan to leave and still hold out hope that things will change. However, I've been so so much of an unattractive nice guy that I am sceptical that I can ever turn it around. As Tomassi says: Iron Rule of Tomassi #7 It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/07/22 05:18 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 26, 2022OYS 18 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 13 years. 3 kids. 176cm/5'9", 83kg/183lbs, 17.5% BF (DEXA 5-May-22) Lift: DL: 140kg/308lbs x5, SQ: 110kg/240lbs x5, BP: 80kg/175lbs x5, OHP: 55kg/120lbs x5. Read: NMMNGx4, WISNIFGx2, TWOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, SGM, TRM, The Game, Models x2, Unplugged Alpha, Practical Female Pschology x2 Reading: Divorce section of sidebar Listening: NMMNG Mission: My current mission: "To live my life for me. To have a career that challenges and fulfils me. To create and have rich life ex… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/07/22 11:57 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 19, 2022Thanks for taking the time. Go plan is certainly getting focus. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/07/22 12:39 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 19, 2022but I do it in real life. You're spot on here. I need to get out. Tinder is bs - its me not leaving the house, hiding in my office, pretending. Action: Get out. Meet people. I'm pissed that another covert contract was exposed and I behaved like a bitch again. It's like I'm back at square one... | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/07/22 06:11 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 19, 2022Yeah, I know. Amateur behaviour. I fell for it. What’s worse is I was a passive aggressive bitch the next day too. Big work to do on the DNGAF and OI. This is why my focus is building an independent social life, getting an abundance mindset and creating an exit strategy. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/07/22 12:13 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 19, 2022Its got 12 months. July 2023. I've got work to do. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/07/22 11:28 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 19, 2022Thanks Zen. Yes. So much to do to build my life and move forward. The key is for me to not reveal my hand until I am prepared. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/07/22 01:35 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 19, 2022OYS 17 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 13 years. 3 kids. 176cm/5'9", 83kg/183lbs, 17.5% BF (DEXA 5-May-22) Lift: DL: 140kg/308lbs x5, SQ: 110kg/240lbs x5, BP: 80kg/175lbs x5, OHP: 55kg/120lbs x5. Read: NMMNGx4, WISNIFGx2, TWOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, SGM, TRM, The Game, Models x2, Unplugged Alpha, Practical Female Pschology x2 Listening: NMMNG Mission: My current mission: "To live my life for me. To have a career that challenges and fulfils me. To create and have rich life experiences that I share with the peop… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/07/22 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 12, 2022But every man ought to have them drawn up, ready in a drawer. I'm going to take this on notice. At least start doing my research. I know nothing about divorce. Action: Research the divorce process in my country. A or B? B. I didn't initiate because reasons. There is a pretty miniscule chance of sex during period or illness (for me, right now). These are easy 'excuses' for her. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/07/22 12:02 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 12, 2022What do you want FOR YOU? This is a very good question, and one I'm still working out. I get ideas of what I want, like taking my boys mountain biking, then too easily put it off for what others want, or fail to take action to make it happen. Action: This week I will take my boys mountain biking. What I'm possibly realising is that there doesn't need to be a master plan here detailing what 'stay' or 'go' means, but that by pursuing what I want, the future that I want will reveal itself. It certa… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/07/22 02:03 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 12, 2022Yes, definitely. I'm recognising this more and more. It is the kids testing the wife that is turning the house to chaos. This is where I need to show leadership and help her to see the kids testing for what it is and not respond emotionally. I have been changing and improving in isolation. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 13/07/22 07:31 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - July 12, 2022OYS 16 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 13 years. 3 kids. 176cm/5'9", 83kg/183lbs, 17.5% BF (DEXA 5-May-22) Lift: DL: 140kg/308lbs x5, SQ: 110kg/240lbs x5, BP: 80kg/175lbs x5, OHP: 55kg/120lbs x5. Read: NMMNGx4, WISNIFGx2, TWOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, SGM, TRM, The Game, Models x2, Unplugged Alpha, Practical Female Pschology x2 Mission: My current mission: "To live my life for me. To have a career that challenges and fulfils me. To create and have rich life experiences that I share with the people I care about".… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/07/22 12:05 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 14, 2022OYS 15 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 13 years. 3 kids. 176cm/5'9", 83kg/182lbs, 17.5% BF (DEXA 5-May-22) Lift: DL: 130kg/285lbs x5, SQ: 105kg/230lbs x5, BP: 75kg/165lbs x5, OHP: 55kg/120lbs x5. Read: NMMNGx4, WISNIFGx2, TWOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, SGM, TRM, The Game, Models x2, Unplugged Alpha, Practical Female Pschology x2 Reading: Womanese 101 Listening: Book of Pook, Beyond Order (Jordan Peterson) Mission My current mission: "To live my life for me. To have a career that challenges and fulfils me. To crea… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 14/06/22 12:54 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 07, 2022This is a good reframe. Thanks. I'm still digesting it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/06/22 12:08 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 07, 2022Thanks. My first instinct here was: how many rejected initiations do I get before I come across as a needy bitch? But I realise the thought in itself is unnecessary pre-analysis. The answer is pretty simple- just don't be a needy bitch. I've got 2 rejections from 2 initiations the last two evenings. Each time we both just move on. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 09/06/22 12:07 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - June 07, 2022OYS 14 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 13 years. 3 kids. 176cm/5'9", 83kg/182lbs, 17.5% BF (DEXA 5-May-22) Lift: DL: 130kg/285lbs x5, SQ: 105kg/230lbs x5, BP: 75kg/165lbs x5, OHP: 55kg/120lbs x5. Read: NMMNGx4, WISNIFGx2, TWOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, SGM, TRM, The Game, Models x2, Unplugged Alpha, Practical Female Pschology x2 Reading: Womanese 101 Listening: Book of Pook Mission My current mission: "To live my life for me. To have a career that challenges and fulfils me. To create and have rich life experience… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 07/06/22 02:02 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 31, 2022Thanks for calling me out on this. I had recognised my thinking wasn’t right here but didn’t delve into it. The only thing I have written about my initiations is her reactions, indicating I’m still in her frame. Further, my analysis of her reactions is that her rejections are becoming less negative and more suggestive, which I am reading as a positive change due to my behaviour, revealing the covert contract that the work I am doing will lead to a change in her response. What I need to do: Initi… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/06/22 11:53 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 31, 2022OYS 13 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 13 years. 3 kids. 176cm/5'9", 83kg/182lbs, 17.5% BF (DEXA 5-May-22) Lift: DL: 130kg/285lbs x5, SQ: 105kg/230lbs x5, BP: 75kg/165lbs x5, OHP: 55kg/120lbs x5. Read: NMMNGx4, WISNIFGx2, TWOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, SGM, TRM, The Game, Models x2, Unplugged Alpha, Practical Female Pschology x2, How to Save a Low Sex Marriage, Dead Bedroom Fix. Reading: Womanese 101 Listening: Book of Pook, 1-2-3 Magic Mission My current mission: "To live my life for me. To have a career that ch… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/05/22 12:19 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 24, 2022OYS 12 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 13 years. 3 kids. 176cm/5'9", 82kg/180lbs, 17.5% BF (DEXA 5-May-22) Lift: DL: 130kg/285lbs x5, SQ: 105kg/230lbs x5, BP: 75kg/165lbs x5, OHP: 52kg/115lbs x5. Read: NMMNGx4, WISNIFGx2, TWOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, SGM, TRM, The Game, Models x2, Unplugged Alpha, Practical Female Pschology x2, How to Save a Low Sex Marriage, Dead Bedroom Fix. Reading: Womanese 101 Listening: Book of Pook, 1-2-3 Magic Mission My current mission: "To live my life for me. To have a career that ch… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 25/05/22 02:46 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 17, 2022Assuming you find your wife fuckable and you aren’t just looking for validation points Yes. She is fuckable. That makes it harder for me to tell what is desire vs validation seeking. I want to fuck a hot woman. But does she want to fuck me? try to make less of big deal out of what is or isn’t an initiation Yeah, I don't want to differentiate normal fun interactions from intiatiations, and I do find a grey area between these. I think the key difference is me having the balls to escalate. Also, lo… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/05/22 02:07 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 17, 2022You literally have a happy wife, a happy life, and no sex. Does that surprise you? I'm not sure what you mean, but it troubles me. Yes, overall, I have a pretty contented life. I feel perhaps I should be more grateful for that. I thought I had a happy wife and a happy life for 12 years, then 12 months ago she dealt me a "I can't do this anymore, if things don't change I'm leaving you". That resulted in a downward spiral of super-beta and desperation that I stumbled across here. So you now saying… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/05/22 01:51 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 17, 2022OYS 11 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 13 years. 3 kids. 176cm/5'9", 82kg/180lbs, 17.5% BF (DEXA 5-May-22) Lift: DL: 125kg/275lbs x5, SQ: 100kg/220lbs x5, BP: 75kg/165lbs x5, OHP: 50kg/110lbs x5. Read: NMMNGx4, WISNIFGx2, TWOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, SGM, TRM, The Game, Models x2, Unplugged Alpha, Practical Female Pschology x2, How to Save a Low Sex Marriage, Dead Bedroom Fix. Reading: Womanese 101 Listening: Book of Pook Mission My current mission: "To live my life for me. To have a career that challenges and … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 17/05/22 11:35 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 10, 2022Thanks. This is helpful. I thought I had stripped back the ego, but there is another layer underneath. My actions written here are about self protection. You're right, I've got to take a rejection on the chin. Reading into it and resenting her for it is just internal butthurt, which I already have because my negative attitude assumes rejection, so I make excuses to avoid it. So my plan: Be fun and sexy. Make fun and escalate. If it's a no, no bother, just do the next thing and initiate again whe… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/05/22 05:42 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 03, 2022Hey, thanks. I only just spotted your reply from last week. You make some good points, and they are all parts of reality I'm only becoming to be aware of. It bizarre how ignorant one can be about how they interact with the world. Your comment about the douchebag being a nice guy reminds me of Pook that I've just been reading. Apparently the answer is simple: just be a man.. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 11/05/22 04:27 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 10, 2022Yes. I don't deny it is weak as fuck. I've stepped on my dick in more ways than I know. I went Rambo with initiations at the beginning and ended up worse than better. I can get to a soft no, but I'm not comfortable pushing further. That is the discomfort I need to conquer. I am fearful of creating pressure, and fearful of my performance should I get a green light. I don't want to entertain what a grown ass man should do. That just creates another validation trap. This week is about creating a fu… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/05/22 11:04 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 10, 2022OYS 10 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 12 years. 3 kids. 176cm/5'9", 82kg/180lbs, 17.5% BF (DEXA 5-May-22) Lift: DL: 125kg/275lbs x5, SQ: 100kg/220lbs x5, BP: 72.5kg/160lbs x5, OHP: 50kg/110lbs x5. Read: NMMNGx4, WISNIFGx2, TWOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, SGM, TRM, The Game, Models x2, Unplugged Alpha, Practical Female Pschology x2, How to Save a Low Sex Marriage, Dead Bedroom Fix. Reading: Womanese 101 Listening: Book of Pook Listening to feedback. New format OYS: 1. Admit where I'm at. 2. Think. 3. Set actions f… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/05/22 01:41 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 03, 2022Thanks for dropping me a bone. I recognise there are frame games going on here, and I concede I dropped mine without much pushing. That’s ok. Its learning. I knew when I wrote about taking my shirt off that the statement itself was pointless. The point was that I was exploring my own frame. Challenging myself to be vulnerable and say something honest, but stupid that would likely be criticised and owning it. Adding the ‘fuck you’ was baiting for a frame challenge. I’m sure I came across as a dou… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 04/05/22 01:32 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 03, 2022How do convince yourself of other delusional shit? Just do that. It seems to work just fine for you. You know, maybe you're right. The delusion is that I'm making progress. Maybe my whole OYS is me convincing myself that I'm further along than I am. My ego protecting me from admitting how bad I've made it for myself and how little anything has actually changed since beginning this journey. I'll be at OYS 10 next week. Fuck. Progress is slow. I don't want to get to OYS 50 and still be in the same… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/05/22 01:03 PM |
| -1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 03, 2022Your lack of frame is palpable. If you came here to learn, you learned nothing. Dude, I know. I'm under no illusion how deep I am in beta land. I've got a long road ahead of me here. In all honesty, I enjoy the ribbing. You guys need to keep me honest. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/05/22 11:27 AM |
| 0 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 03, 2022I realized that I was limiting my own ability to parent by my wife’s ability to parent. Better yet, I was pushing this responsibility off of myself and putting it on her. I did not realize it until now that this has been a really, really big fucking excuse for me. Man, that is gold. That is my new cheat code. Thanks for sharing. I'll check out the book too. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/05/22 11:15 AM |
| -3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 03, 2022LOL. You came out swinging tonight. Lil fat bitch takes off his shirt in an empty gym to do a warm up. Is that all you got? That slap barely made my fat wobble... Nope. You're Beta as fuck. Oof.. Yeah, fair crack. If I suspect I might be being beta, probably a high chance its definitely beta... Shouldn't be too hard to produce works that challenge you intellectually. Yeah, that statement of mine is unnecessarily egotistic. Thanks for reading. I'm glad you could keep up. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/05/22 11:06 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 03, 2022OYS 9 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 12 years. 3 kids. 5'9", 180lbs. Lift: DL: 265x5, SQ: 210x5, BP: 160x5, OHP: 110x5. Read: NMMNGx4, WISNIFGx2, TWOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, SGM, TRM, The Game, Models x2, Unplugged Alpha, Practical Female Pschology x2, How to Save a Low Sex Marriage, Dead Bedroom Fix. Reading: Womanese 101 Listening: Book of Pook Mission My current mission: "To live my life for me. To produce intellectual works that challenge and fulfil me. To create and have rich life experiences that I shar… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/05/22 08:36 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 26, 2022Thanks for the video link! I am clueless on building and maintaining emotional tension and connection and this video was certainly interesting. I'll give some of the techniques a try. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/04/22 01:22 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 26, 2022Yep. These two things were no more than a few minutes apart, yet she is totally oblivious to the apparent contradiction. Not her fault and stupid to point it out to her. It is surreal when things happen almost identically to what others describe here. It gives me faith that staying the course will lead to the outcomes I want. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/04/22 03:20 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 26, 2022She was sick. That was a convenient excuse for inaction on my part. Soft initiation resulted in a missed opportunity. Could have pushed harder. It's a work in progress. No point being butthurt though. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/04/22 02:54 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 26, 2022Yeah, fair crack. I am not content with touching bra straps. I know there's more to life. I'm in a prison I've built for myself over the last 15 years. The walls are illusions, but I still live inside them everyday. I've got to reimagine how day to day life works to escape it. Live my life for me but in the constraints of family and work. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/04/22 02:36 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 26, 2022Yeah, I suspected this too - almost like she was attempting to sabotage my efforts to improve myself. And, yeah, I wore the clothes she bought me for our honeymoon for years before I realised that I hated them... Watch what she does, not what she says. True. But I have no covert contract with this one. I don't expect her to do anything. I am enjoying my self confidence at the moment and want to update my style to have more confidence on the street, not at home. Stay plan is the go plan at the mo… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/04/22 09:20 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 26, 2022Yes, the dynamic between us was better. We were both more relaxed, and being away from home there was a lot of novelty which helps create emotion and connection. We also had an evening on the town without the kids, which I went into with a 'make this fun for me' attitude. We both had a great time and she was grabbing my hand at every chance. Yeah, there was no sex, this time, but it was certainly a dynamic which could naturally go that way. The vacation was well-aligned with the "create and have… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/04/22 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 26, 2022OYS 8 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 12 years. 3 kids. 5'9", 185lbs.Lift: DL: 240x5, SQ: 200x5, BP: 165x5, OHP: 110x5. Read: NMMNGx4, WISNIFGx2, TWOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, SGM, TRM, The Game, Models x2, Unplugged Alpha, Practical Female Pschology x2, How to Save a Low Sex Marriage, Dead Bedroom Fix. Reading: Womanese 101 Listening: Book of Pook Mission My current mission: "To live my life for me. To produce intellectual works that challenge and fulfil me. To create and have rich life experiences that I share… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/04/22 01:56 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 19, 2022Thanks. Good insights. From the link: Often this mask is an extreme form of STFU... This in fact goes in precisely the wrong direction; developing true frame ultimately requires stripping away the masks and filters to uncover and express the authentic you. This describes what I've been doing. Can you not see how this is pure dancing monkey? You're changing yourself and how you do things to try and make yourself more appealing to her. Yes and no. Yes, I am looking at how I can change myself to im… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/04/22 01:43 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 19, 2022My wife isn't having sex with me so I'm desperately trying to remove the pressure that my attention means I want sex. But I am hoping that this all leads to me having sex. Maybe not in any given interaction, but hopefully it'll help things improve. Haha. Yes. But as below, I am autistic and need to develop healthier mental models. For the moment things are stable and I'm scared to destabilise it through further rambo/autistic actions. Sometimes my wife tries to talk to me about something other t… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/04/22 12:59 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 19, 2022Reflections: - what else is there to talk about? The weather? - STFU: "I think I know why we're not having sex..." No. - We don't talk about fight club: "I'm going through some personal growth at the moment..." No. - Fear of judgement: "I'm going to get a DEXA scan next week", her: "if you cared about me as much as you care about your six pack...". Anything I say can and will be used against me in a future test. - Being vulnerable. (me, after I read NMMNG the first time) "sometimes I watch porn.… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/04/22 12:06 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 19, 2022Yep. Frankly, I can't tell which way is up these days... Its why I need this place to call me out when I'm not thinking sense. I suspect its one of those psychological things where I rationalise my current state as ok to avoid the hard work and discomfort to change it. I'm seeing that I had some warped ideas about sex and my sexuality. As I've aged and through some experiences with ED and PE, I have been desperate to retain my self-image as a virile man and felt that I ought to be getting erecti… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/04/22 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 19, 2022OYS 7 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 12 years. 3 kids. 5'9", 185lbs. Lift: DL: 240x5, SQ: 200x5, BP: 165x5, OHP: 110x5. Read: NMMNGx4, WISNIFGx2, TWOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, SGM, TRM, The Game, Models x2, Unplugged Alpha, Practical Female Pschology x2, How to Save a Low Sex Marriage, Dead Bedroom Fix. Reading: Womanese 101 Listening: Book of Pook It has been a few weeks since my lat post due to a fairly earnt Rule 9 ban. In retrospect, I had relapsed and my thinking was weak. Mission I need to rework my missi… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 19/04/22 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 29, 2022OYS 6 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 12 years. 3 kids. 5'9", 185lbs. Lift: DL: 275x5, SQ: 220x5, BP: 165x5, OHP: 115x5. Read: NMMNGx4, WISNIFGx2, TWOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, SGM, TRM, The Game, Models, Unplugged Alpha, Practical Female Pschology x2, How to Save a Low Sex Marriage, Dead Bedroom Fix. Reading: MMSLPx2, Womanese 101 Listening: Models x2 Completing: NMMNG BFAs. Currently at 40/46. Physical I've got COVID, so home exercise this week. I got back to the gym 2x in the last week. I'm recovering from ba… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/03/22 11:53 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 22, 2022Just be authentic. Be natural. Yeah. I'm starting to learn this. For instance, sometimes in the morning, I'll initiate a flirty exchange as she's naked and getting into the shower. Its fun, spontaneous and I like it. I've tried to repeat it multiple times in a row and I instinctively feel that it is not natural, and if I persist it comes off as creepy pretty quickly. Similarly, we were in the pool with the kids on Saturday. She was in her bikini and looking fucking hot, so while the kids were oc… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/03/22 01:34 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 22, 2022Yeah, its true. I've been in her frame for 15 years... I see it now. I can catch myself when I'm doing it, correct myself and redirect my thoughts to what I want and need to do and feel less anxiety for her reactions. It is re-wiring the established thought patterns. I've swallowed the pill, but its still taking effect. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/03/22 12:50 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 22, 2022Haha. Yeah that's what I figure. If a behaviour feels unattractive, it's probably unattractive, and I should stop doing it. Simples. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/03/22 10:39 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 22, 2022OYS 5 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 12 years. 3 kids. 5'9", 185lbs. Lift: DL: 275x5, SQ: 220x5, BP: 165x5, OHP: 115x5. Read: NMMNGx4, WISNIFGx2, TWOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, SGM, TRM, The Game, Unplugged Alpha, Practical Female Pschology, How to Save a Low Sex Marriage, Dead Bedroom Fix. Reading: MMSLPx2 Listening: Practical Female Psychology x2 Completing: NMMNG BFAs. Currently at 40/46. Physical I injured my back last week, so only lifted once and DL and SQ were 60% of above, ramping back to full over the n… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 22/03/22 09:51 AM |
| 7 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 15, 2022Fuck. Thanks. I love that you guys call me out on my shit. You're right on all counts. When you write this, you're pretending to make progress by saying you'll take action. I know. I'm the master of pretending to pretend to take action. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/03/22 11:18 AM |
| 5 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 15, 2022OYS 4 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 12 years. 3 kids. 5'9", 185lbs. Lift: DL: 275x5, SQ: 220x5, BP: 165x5, OHP: 115x5. Read: NMMNGx4, WISNIFGx2, TWOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, SGM, TRM, The Game, Unplugged Alpha, Practical Female Pschology, How to Save a Low Sex Marriage, Dead Bedroom Fix. Currently reading WISNIFG and completing NMMNG BFAs. Currently at 37/46. Physical I was sick this last week and only lifted on Sunday.. Then, since Monday, I have started getting acute back pain. I am assuming I have triggere… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/03/22 09:43 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 08, 2022Thanks man. I'll respond in an attempt to get clarity on my own thinking. Over the past 5 odd years I must have read/listened to 50+ self help books on topics from finance to leadership to diet, and since discovering NMMNG and RP about 8 months ago I've been binging on MRP sidebar material non-stop - certainly getting into advanced material before grasping the basics. Why do I do this? Upon reflection, I think there are two reasons: Validation seeking. I've always been a "high achiever" through … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/03/22 01:05 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - March 08, 2022OYS 3 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 12 years. 3 kids. 5'9", 185lbs. Lift: DL: 275x5, SQ: 220x5, BP: 165x5, OHP: 115x5. Read: NMMNGx3, WISNIFGx2, TWOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, SGM, TRM, The Game, Unplugged Alpha, Practical Female Pschology, How to Save a Low Sex Marriage, Dead Bedroom Fix. Currently re-reading NMMNG and completing the BFAs. Currently at 37/46. Physical Continuing with a SS based program: Workout A: Squat, Pull-up, Shoulder Press, Dead Lift. Workout B: Squat, Pull-up, Bench Press, Bent-over Row.… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/03/22 08:24 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 22, 2022OYS 2 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 12 years. 3 kids. 5'9", 180lbs. Lift: DL: 275x5, SQ: 210x5, BP: 165x5, OHP: 110x5. Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, SGM, TRM, The Game, Unplugged Alpha, Practical Female Pschology, How to Save a Low Sex Marriage, Dead Bedroom Fix. Currently re-reading NMMNG and completing the BFAs. Currently at 34/46. Diagnosis: Recovering: Nice Guy, Man-child, Validation-seeker. Physical A good week. Lifted heavy 3 days and weighted HIIT on 2 days in-between. Started supp… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 23/02/22 09:23 AM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 08, 2022Jackten has some advice on this here and here This is spot on. Thanks. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/02/22 11:23 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 08, 2022Have you made your expectations clear? Or do you passive aggressively sulk? I used to passive aggressively sulk. I've recognised that and stopped doint it. I have not made my expectations clear. I help out without sulking. I fail to set expectations and say 'no' as often as I should. And why can’t she handle the kids? Because her standards are though the roof. She can't relax and have fun. She's always anxious about cleaning up their stuff or being prepared for the next meal, the next day's acti… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/02/22 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 08, 2022Be honest, is there a grain of truth in there? Do you avoid conflict with your harpy wife by diving into work? Yes, there is truth here. I get validation from my work and pleasing my boss/clients. I recognise I have prioritised my work over running my household. You want to get to a point where you OYS at home. Yeah, exactly. This is the headspace I've failed for many years. I haven't owned it. I've let her own it and been the plowhorse. I am creating a plan to get my house in order and make it … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/02/22 08:02 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 08, 2022OYS 1 Stats: 36M/36F. Married: 12 years. 3 kids. 5'9", 178lbs. Lift: DL: 250x5, SQ: 200x5, BP: 155x5, OHP: 100x5. Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, MMSLP, MAP, SGM, TRM, The Game, Unplugged Alpha, Practical Female Pschology, How to Save a Low Sex Marriage, Dead Bedroom Fix. Work: Professional. 6 figure salary. My work offers flexibility and I am currently working from home due to COVID. Flexibility is great, but I end up looking after the kids during the day then working until 10pm at night to get m… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/02/22 01:31 PM |
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