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| 130 | Lurkers Stay Mad: Reported For Posting Violent ContentDon't forget that birth control raises the risk of blood clots, which can easily cause serious problems (stroke, deep vein thrombosis, lung embolism...). I already have a clotting disorder and am not allowed to use hormonal birth control because it would aggravate my already higher than average risk. A few of my female relatives have the same issues. You wouldn't believe how many men in our experience still second guess that and whine about having to be responsible for birth control for once. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 09:44 PM |
| 652 | The title was « exactly why you should do coffee dates first »I wish the women who went on "coffee dates" decided to unanimously stop making an effort and show up in sweatpants and a baggy shirt and sneakers, with unwashed hair and without make up. That's the level of effort "15 minutes in a coffee shop" deserves. If you want me in a nice outfit you need to take me to a place that warrants that :P | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 06:11 PM |
| 3 | Man puts in no effort, even suggesting a "walk date". Possible FDS lurker? and a queen regardless shuts down this low-effort loser. We love to see it!I mean the opportunity was right there. A quick google search tells me that the Huntington Botanical Garden has a café/restaurant that serves pretty delicious looking food. I bet the "Old Towne" has restaurants. Right there. If the dinner/lunch was nice you can still walk around the gardens/"Towne" a bit. I always wonder how dense these people are. I know "If he wanted to, he would". But come on? Offer me dinner in a nice restaurant overlooking the park instead of just a walk. Offer me lunch in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 05:56 PM |
| 429 | A good vetting strategy is to share a FAKE pet peeveSome people also disqualify themselves right away because they try to do the thing you mentioned to "tease" you (aka test your boundaries and how serious you actually are). An examples: "I don't like it when people touch my hair" - "Oh, like this? hahaha" touches your hair "I really don't like spiders and am afraid of them" - sends you a picture of a creepy spider on whatsapp as a "joke" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 05:33 PM |
| 73 | How heartbreaking, talk about long con on the husband’s part!Funny how you rarely hear a story like "Even though he regularly went to therapy for more than 10 years to treat his severe CPTSD/depression/mental illness and tried everything, it ultimately was not enough to save him" or something comparable. That's what I have empathy for. I truly believe it is the right of every human being to end their life when they decide to. Doesn't mean I have to agree with their reasons or believe that many of them are not ultimately selfish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 05:25 PM |
| 147 | How heartbreaking, talk about long con on the husband’s part!Another case of "running from a problem instead of facing it" taken to the extreme. And often also ultimately a selfish choice because they leave their spouses, children, business partners, people they owe etc. to deal with the debt and the fallout of their deaths alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 05:07 PM |
| 272 | How heartbreaking, talk about long con on the husband’s part!And men have the audacity to complain about the "friendzone". A woman who is clear about not being romantically interested in someone and just "liking" them from the beginning is the devil, but a man is allowed to string that person along for 13 years(!) and three kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 03:53 PM |
| 92 | How heartbreaking, talk about long con on the husband’s part!Honestly, I'd bring it up to him, and I'd force a heart-to-heart, plus make some stringent demands, including therapy for him. Nope. Their whole relationship is based on a lie and he admitted he would leave her and their kids for another woman the minute she showed interest. There is no coming back from that. Divorce and be done with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 03:24 PM |
| 204 | How heartbreaking, talk about long con on the husband’s part!Men's "the one that got away" is usually a woman who refers to the same relationship as "Thank god I got away from that psycho" or "I will regret ever having been in this relationship for the rest of my life" . | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 03:07 PM |
| 172 | How heartbreaking, talk about long con on the husband’s part!Alcohol lowers their inhibitions and suddenly they say all the things they are ashamed or too careful to say when sober. These aren't jokes, they are their true thoughts. In vino veritas. "Embarrassing stuff that comes out when women are drunk" is usually harmless, guilty pleasure-worthy stuff or emotional secrets compared to "Embarrassing stuff that comes out when men are drunk". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 03:05 PM |
| 285 | How heartbreaking, talk about long con on the husband’s part!They also never mention that men are the unchallenged kings of "murder suicide" and wiping out their own families, aka the ultimate narcissism "I'd rather destroy them myself than live with the fact that I cannot control them anymore" and then don't even have the balls to face the consequences of what they have done, so they choose the easy way out and off themselves, too. If you kill yourself because the consequences of your own heinous actions finally catch up with you, you are a coward, not a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 02:49 PM |
| 5 | What's the difference between harmless dirty talk and objectification?Check his phone for hentai. I bet he is one of those guys who sexualized characters that look like pre-adolescent girls but claims it's not pedophilia because they are actually "1000 years old witches/aliens/ghosts in the body of a child, so she's an adult." It's so gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 10:17 AM |
| 8 | What's the difference between harmless dirty talk and objectification?Latent pedophilia would be my guess If your sexual fantasy is fucking a child-like person and their child-like-ness is what arouses you, you are sick. Doesn't matter if that person is actually an adult. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 10:06 AM |
| 9 | What's the difference between harmless dirty talk and objectification?his idea of controlling me and doing whatever he wants to to me is pleasing me That's what you might think right now and project onto him. That does not mean it is the truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 09:49 AM |
| 19 | What's the difference between harmless dirty talk and objectification?like calling me a good little girl, asking me to repeat certainthings(like nobody gets me wet expect for him and that I belong to him) he also tells me how small I am, and how he loves my size(I'm 4'10) and how it's so easy to do things to me. How on earth is that not a glaring red flag to you? He is literally gets off on thinking of you as a submissive "little girl" who belongs to him and he can to whatever he wants to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 09:46 AM |
| 325 | Why he will punish you for giving him second chancesGiving someone a second chance or "the benefit of the doubt" after they crossed a line just communicates to them you have weak boundaries and will not defend them. Every single "no" you utter or boundary you state from then on will be up for discussion, poking and prodding and not taken seriously. Every single one. It worked that one time, why wouldn't it work again? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 05:53 PM |
| 535 | The way deadbeat fathers victimise themselves is wild.And obviously paying school fees for his sons is way more important than paying school fees for his daughter. I mean: she's a girl. What is she going to school for anyway?/s. Guard your wombs, ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 07:28 PM |
| 26 | The slow normalization of pedophiliaIf it hurts your feelings to be called a supporter of an organization that systematically covers up the rape of children by its members, maybe you should ask yourself why you are a supporter of an organization that does that instead of whining because people are hurting your feelings. The children abused here had no choice whether to be Catholic or not. That choice was made for them by their parents. You can be Christian without supporting the Catholic church. You can even be Catholic and active… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 06:00 PM |
| 62 | The slow normalization of pedophiliaBoys have been sexually abused without consequence for millennia. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 04:30 PM |
| 99 | The slow normalization of pedophiliawhat else can we do to protect the children? Hold people and institutions accountable. As long as the Catholic church up to the pope still suffers zero consequences for covering up their own priests raping and abusing children for centuries, calling out individual pedophiles is just a drop in the ocean. I come from a Catholic area and - believe me- people say "how terrible" and still go to church like nothing happened. Because "it certainly doesn't happen here" and "our padre is a nice person wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 04:12 PM |
| 70 | Why do men show up to our homes uninvited?If I am not expecting someone or it's emergency services or a close friend or relative with a real emergency, I don't open the door. They can knock until they drop dead for all I care. It's highly disrespectful of my time and plans to drop by unannounced an expect to be entertained. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 03:05 PM |
| 188 | NEVER EVER FINANCIALLY RELY ON A MAN! Naive young women on TikTok are idealising the stay at home wife/mum lifestyle and literally cursing our hard-earnt right to work.who, in fact, often does not pay you any fixed amount at all, And you have to specifically ask for installments of your "pay" and are only given them if you are able to present a reason for needing exactly that amount that your "employer" thinks is reasonable and valid. And he presents himself as a generous god because of that system because... "My wife can have all the money she wants, she just has to ask" (and I enjoy the power of being able to say no (or demand favors in return) at a whim and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 12:28 PM |
| 387 | NEVER EVER FINANCIALLY RELY ON A MAN! Naive young women on TikTok are idealising the stay at home wife/mum lifestyle and literally cursing our hard-earnt right to work.I will never be put into a situation where I have to beg a man for money or justify my expenses to him. Never ever. My stomach turns every time I read stuff like "I want to do/buy this sooo much but I need to ask my husband first if he allows me to", "I asked my partner for $50 to buy clothes for the kids and we had a fight", "My husband is angry because I spent $100 on a new winter coat for myself without asking him first because mine was 10 years old and falling apart. AITA?" or - always a fav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 11:34 AM |
| 125 | Vet the restaurant or venue he asked you to, especially if you're new to townThis. I also never agree to going to a restaurant I don't know until I have checked the menu online. I have certain dietary restrictions and don't want to end up in a restaurant where I can't eat anything. And I check if there is safe and convenient parking or public transport access near it. I don't want to have to walk 20 minutes dressed up and in heels to get from my car/bus/train to the restaurant and back in the dark. I also like to be appropriately dressed for an occasion and not end up in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 11:01 AM |
| 310 | This poor woman thinks this is funny 😳Imagine thinking so little of your own dignity and self worth that you post shit like this online for the world to see like it's something to be proud of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 06:26 PM |
| 64 | In your face misogyny is terrible, but subtle sexism is just as bad: A look into celebrated mediaI think we can have a realistic representation of what historic times were like (yes - even including sexual violence) without making rape or sexual harrassment scenes look indistinguishable from porn and catering to the male gaze and sexual gratification. Let's see how much men scream "but rape is realistic!" if the rape scenes only show the ugly, dirty naked body of the male rapist and not a single shot of the rape victim (neither her body, nor her pained/scared/crying face. Nothing. Let them … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 03:59 PM |
| 14 | Staying safe on OLDThis is so, so creepy, I'm glad you're safe and got out of there. Regarding the internet research thing: If what he tells you about his profession or life would make you reasonably expect him to have some kind of internet presence and he doesn't, that's sketchy as hell. He either gave you a false name or lied about his job or other aspects of his life. If he told you he is a scientist, doctor, author of any kind, owns his own business, is/was a pro athlete, artist etc. etc... pretty much any job… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 03:17 PM |
| 27 | Staying safe on OLDIf it's OLD where you need a paid subscription or that offers a free trial, they often do this to collect a few numbers of women and then cancel the subscription again to save money. If the app/site has certain rules or limits about messaging (number of messages before you need a subscription, can't send photos/videos, women can get you banned if they report you as a scammer/harrasser...) they also try to get the interaction off-site it as fast as possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 02:33 PM |
| 80 | Staying safe on OLDMeet in a public space, where you can always go back home by yourself(restaurant, cafe, musem, sport event, etc). Do not go to isolatedplaces like mountains, forests, huge empty parks. Just a small addition to this: Even if he agrees to meeting you in a safe public spot: Do not let someone talk you into going to or passing through a secondary location of his choosing from your agreed upon meeting spot or agree to sudden changes of plans. If he tells you to "take a shortcut somewhere" (that incid… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 01:42 PM |
| 55 | STOP BENDING OVER BACKWARDS FOR ABUSERS WHO BEND YOU FORWARD AND SCREW YOU. She is so fortunate not to end up like Gabby Petito, yet she still wants to be accommodating to her hobosexual ex who ousted her from a van in another state.This. If it had been in a secure place or at least placed somewhere with care (which you would normally do with an expensive heirloom?), she wouldn't have accidentally packed it. Why was the "priceless watch" buried in a pile of laundry or whatever she grabbed while getting out? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 06:25 PM |
| 213 | STOP BENDING OVER BACKWARDS FOR ABUSERS WHO BEND YOU FORWARD AND SCREW YOU. She is so fortunate not to end up like Gabby Petito, yet she still wants to be accommodating to her hobosexual ex who ousted her from a van in another state.If he wants it back he can either come himself, send someone he trusts or give her the money to ship it to him with a trusworthy shipping company. Why on earth is she trying to make things convenient for him? Or put it in a box, send it to an address of him she knows and simply text him "Sent the watch to your mom's address. Here's the receipt and shipping number. Now don't contact me again.". And I would absolutey let the person who picks it up sign a note that they received it and have witness… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 05:19 PM |
| 42 | Pays 40K for his gambling addiction or his incompetence (dunno which is worse)You don't let your partner or husband invest your money in the first place. Not even if he is a professional broker. Learn how to do it yourself. Become financially literate. Do not give a partner that much power over you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 05:13 PM |
| 39 | Men’s “goofiness” and “clumsiness” is usually just laziness and lack of considerationYep. Unless he actually has a real allergy against one of the ingredients (which she would probably know and have taken into account already), he can eat what she eats. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 05:05 PM |
| 18 | I got chucked off a left wing political facebook page I followed for years for challenging this. How do you vet for men who believe they are owed access to a woman, I'm starting to feel it might be all of them.This is something so crucial that is so rarely mentioned in these discussions. Can a severely brain damaged or mentally disabled man actually give informed consent to what's happening there? And even if he can say "Yes I want her to visit and do Y to me": Does he fully understand the nature of the relationship and that the prostitute is not his friend, lover or something else? Is it really a good idea to encourage the sexual fantasies and appetite of a person who cannot fully understand things l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 03:31 PM |
| 101 | Being single protects men from drama and politics, ladies. Leave them alone.This. I have also never seen a single man's fridge that looked like the one in the third picture: filled to the brim with fresh and healthy food. Or a toilet as clean as the one in the first picture. Yeah, guys, lie to yourself all you want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 06:44 PM |
| 293 | Being single protects men from drama and politics, ladies. Leave them alone.Yep, they'll whine about spending $100 on a nice dinner with their girlfriend or buying her a birthday gift for $200 as if they are going to go broke and homeless because of that but have a media system and gaming rig with dozens of games worth literally thousands for their "hobby". All while they are still sleeping on a mattress on the floor, have no health insurance and their fridge contains a few cans of beer and an ancient bottle of ketchup... It's not your lack of money or your girlfriend, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 06:25 PM |
| 86 | Being single protects men from drama and politics, ladies. Leave them alone.I honestly don't know any woman who is not a rowdy teenager who drinks beer from a can at all. Fancy craft beers from a nice bottle or glass? Sure. But not a cheap six pack of cans. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 06:11 PM |
| 128 | Being single protects men from drama and politics, ladies. Leave them alone.I'd add - having all the room I want in my bed and never being too hot or cold - coming home and finding everything as clean and tidy as I left it and nobody has brought home a bunch of farting, burping, annoying buddies that camp out in my living room when I just want peace and quiet - being able to cook (or not) and eat whatever and whenever I want - going out and staying home whenever I want - being able to shower, walk around naked or in revealing, cozy clothes without someone thinking it's … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 06:08 PM |
| 49 | Being single protects men from drama and politics, ladies. Leave them alone.Change a tire? They don't know how to change their sheets or -god forbid- sew on a button. They'll rather throw the whole shirt away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 06:02 PM |
| 862 | Being single protects men from drama and politics, ladies. Leave them alone.I don't know about you but kittens, ordering food and doing what I want in my free time sounds awesome. As does that the only dishes left in that sink will be my own, not some lazy scrote's who doesn't clean up after himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 05:49 PM |
| 49 | Ladies who have dated Desi or Muslim, how did the misogyny affect how you were treated in the relationship?Western culture might have been historically misogynistic but eastern culture takes the cake now. E.g Honor killings, child brides, acid attacks are the most common in Muslim countries, not the west. Don't forget FGM. Claiming that cultures that brought us and still practice that are less misogynistic than modern western cultures is seriously ridiculous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 02:15 PM |
| 162 | Ladies who have dated Desi or Muslim, how did the misogyny affect how you were treated in the relationship?I made it clear as well. Very clear. I have the feeling he simply didn't take it seriously. Honestly I think he thought "Well she doesn't have to actually believe in any of it as long as she acts like it and follows all the rules and customs and I and my family can raise our kids muslim." And I was blinded by him acting like much more of a gentleman (paying for our dates without any hesitation, helping me into my coat, nice, thoughtful gifts even outside of special occasions...) compared to all … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 10:39 AM |
| 156 | Ladies who have dated Desi or Muslim, how did the misogyny affect how you were treated in the relationship?Why would they try to unlearn or fight thought patterns or cultural aspects they benefit from so much? That's the harsh reality. They have absolutely no reason to. They are quick to dismiss elements that inconvenience them personally (no alcohol, frequent prayers, no premarital sex...) but the rest? Not a chance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 09:58 AM |
| 455 | Ladies who have dated Desi or Muslim, how did the misogyny affect how you were treated in the relationship?I tried dating a supposedly modern and atheist muslim man once. He seemed nice at first but the more I went out with him the more his true values and cultural background began to shine through. He may not have been an outwardly religious person (he didn't pray 5 times a day, go to the mosque or observe other religious rules like not eating pork or not drinking alcohol) but the culture he had grown up in had still shaped all of his thinking. In the beginning he even tried to phrase devaluing othe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 08:52 AM |
| 177 | Porn ruins menI really don't get what we are supposed to enjoy about this. I get that the prostate stimulation from it might be fun for men, but we don't have prostates. What the hell is in it for us? We literally don't have the organ that makes this fun. It's like rubbing the place where the clitoris should roughly be on a man and then being surprised he doesn't orgasm and gives you a puzzled look instead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 06:28 PM |
| 82 | Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him powerThat's why you also try to vet potential candidates by observing them in situations where they have to interact with someone they could perceive as "lesser" than them: waiters, customer service, children, old people, disabled people, people who are less educated... If they are in a position of power in their jobs how they treat people "below them" tells you everything you need to know. I know a lot of men who are perfectly polite and nice to me because they perceive me as a colleague or person w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 05:29 PM |
| 92 | Did you saw the news that british universities make coursers/workshops for students working in adult industries? link in commentsThis. Doesn't matter how "progressive" they claim to be. The same people who are being all pro sex-work online will be the ones who won't hire or promote you if they find an onlyfans (or anything comparable "unsavory") of you online - no matter how old it is. To "protect the company's image", you know. They are the same people who will lose their shit if it turns out that their kid's elementary school teacher once posted a sexy photo of herself on facebook 15 years ago when she was still a stude… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 04:23 PM |
| 212 | Porn ruins menI really don't understand thus need for ongoing "experimenting" with sex. I'm not against trying something new that both partners equally desire and profit from every once in a while. But if it's not an enthusiastic "Hell yeah, I have always wanted to try that" it's a no. No bartering, no pouting, no anything. What men mean is "I want you to do that degrading/painful/messy/unhealthy/exhausting thing I saw in porn that works for my benefit only. You are so mean if you don't even want to try it! M… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 04:17 PM |
| 9 | Where is your kids dad? Not 1 mention of him. Be careful who you procreate with.That bothered me so much. I feel so sorry for the kids who had to experience their parents acting like having to spend so much time with them is the most horrible thing that ever happened. We as adults may understand the situation of being torn between your kids and your job is more complicated and stressful. A child doesn't. They just hear their parents complaining and doing everything to get rid of them all day again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 07:36 PM |
| 25 | Where is your kids dad? Not 1 mention of him. Be careful who you procreate with.There are so many "We need to support the parents more and appreciate the hard lot they have right now. We need to be more understanding!" posts and campaigns everywhere. I don't disagree with that. The current situation sucks. For everyone. I have been "supporting the parents" for my whole career. The proportions became ridiculous since COVID. I have pretty much taken over 50-80% of some colleague's work during the last 2 years without getting anything for it (neither appreciation by them or my… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 05:59 PM |
| 121 | Where is your kids dad? Not 1 mention of him. Be careful who you procreate with.Without wanting to sound bitter or mean but as one of the childfree colleagues who are the ones who have to cover for the people with kids by doing their work as well as my own and tons of unpaid overtime to save our asses because they didn't meet a deadline, while still being the first people to get fired when it comes that far because we don't have kids to feed: It doesn't just suck for you. It sucks for us, too. A lot. And in addition to the workload we often have to hear mean comments from y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 04:47 PM |
| 322 | Apple AirTag: a perfect tool for stalkingLooks like now I need to find a coat with no pockets, just in case, to wear it in public places. If you don't wear a coat with pockets, they'll slip it into your purse, bag of groceries or stick it on your car. Or hide it in a flyer, brochure, "free" merchandise or something they hand you. We are never safe :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 11:41 AM |
| 353 | Men More Likely to Be Single, Living with Parents, Than Women (FDS CONFIRMED!)I think it's worth mentioning that while "older" women who still live with their parents often do so as their caretakers because the parents are old or sick (or can't afford the upkeep of the family home alone), men who still live at home are usually the ones still cared for by their parents (75 year old mom still washing and cooking for her 50 year old son and the like). An adult daughter living with and mooching of her parents without helping in the house or contributing otherwise is also met … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 06:39 PM |
| 77 | Unhinged stalker believes I’m someone else or her friend. Threatens to keep calling me until I give him her number. Creates new numbers each time I block.Reading this makes me really worried for the woman he is actually looking for. If he takes such extreme measures to try and find her... I would honestly print/screenshot all your conversations and all of his numbers and talk to the police and ask them about options you have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 06:36 PM |
| 12 | “Do You Like Kids?”, Being Used to Judge if You Are a Bitch or a Nice PersonI don't think it's that binary. I played with dolls AND legos and building blocks and science kits and dinosaurs (and all kinds of other stuff). I don't hate children. I love my godchildren and enjoy doing stuff with them. I just don't want any of my own. It's simply not something I see in my future or when I picture my ideal life. You can't imagine how that blows people's minds. They may not like but they somehow get the connection "doesn't like children->doesn't want children". "Likes children… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 06:04 PM |
| 16 | The absolute bare minimum, and an automatic dealbreaker. NEVER, no matter the circumstance. Do not ever let a man think that it is justifiable to try to physically intimidate you. There exists not a single excuse for violent behaviour. It will always escalate.It tells me that their first instinct when upset is "I want to hit something"/"I want to express my anger physically" and that can easily be turned against another person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 04:31 PM |
| 35 | The absolute bare minimum, and an automatic dealbreaker. NEVER, no matter the circumstance. Do not ever let a man think that it is justifiable to try to physically intimidate you. There exists not a single excuse for violent behaviour. It will always escalate.Same goes for slamming his fist on the table when he gets angry or otherwise upset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 02:58 PM |
| 295 | Another reason why we don’t do coffee datesI'm seriously waiting for the moment when a man says he'll take someone on a date in a "coffee shop" and then takes them to the coffee aisle in the grocery store. This is close. Especially if they went 50/50 and got the coffee to go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 06:27 PM |
| 232 | What could be better than this? India Plans to Criminalize Marital Rape, So Some Men Are Boycotting Marriage - VICEA totally revolutionary idea: treat your wife with love and respect and she won't have any reason to falsely accuse you of rape. But no, how unrealistic is that?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 11:36 AM |
| 97 | Ladies, stop coddling your sons.I would say that has more to do with the patriarchy and how boys are raised not to respect "female" (aka "the friendly approach") authority. If they learn at home that when mom says "Pick up your clothes, please" in a friendly voice is more of an option than an obligation because there are no real consequences if they don't (and they are only really in trouble if someone shouts or tells dad), it's not wonder they won't respond to that approach later in school. Girls are also taught from earliest… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 06:38 PM |
| 83 | They always tell on themselves, sometimes sooner than othersI'm 5'8", so I can easily tell how much taller than me people who claim to be 5'9" or 10" should be. Most aren't, even when I am not wearing heels. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 05:05 PM |
| 228 | They always tell on themselves, sometimes sooner than others"Financial partner" means that he is broke and is looking for someone to leech off when he inevitably can't pay. Or his credit score is too bad to even be considered by any landlord and he needs someone else as a "cover". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:46 PM |
| 138 | They always tell on themselves, sometimes sooner than othersAlso an alcoholic and probably smokes weed, "drinks frequently" below and "smokes socially" below. Will bring home a long string of questionable sexual partners and expects you to put out as well = "looking for something casual". "Rent's expensive" is probably code for financially insecure, so it's only a matter of time until he stops paying his share of the rent and utilities because he spent all his money on beer, his stupid car and weed. Sounds like a dream of a roommate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:42 PM |
| 145 | Man wants to bring his young daughter on a first dateAs a university lecturer I can say that moms bringing their kid to class in an emergency and (most) dads bringing their kid to class in an emergency is like night and day. You can be sure that the mothers only do it in an absolute emergency when absolutely all other options fall through and are apologetic and do their best to entertain and take care of their kid so it doesn't disrupt the class (and apologize and step outside for a moment when it does). But dads? I have had a one or two great dad… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 03:52 PM |
| 24 | Man wants to bring his young daughter on a first dateThis is so horrible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 03:46 PM |
| 182 | I only read female-dominated subreddits nowI also wish there were more actual female-only subs for different topics. Even harmless ones like beauty or fashion advice. I don't feel comfortable posting a picture of my skin or an outfit I want advice on in sub filled with men pretending to be women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 06:34 PM |
| 232 | I only read female-dominated subreddits nowIt's not just the obvious things and discussions about feminism, sexual assault and relationships for me. It's that if a woman asks for advice about anything related to finances somewhere the majority of the answers will be "Open an OnlyFans" "I'll give you 20 bucks for feet pics" "Get a sugardaddy" and the like and the mods will do nothing. A man will get actual advice. If a woman posts a picture showing a craft she made or whatever and even the smallest part of her is visible in it, 99,9% of t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 06:29 PM |
| 383 | I only read female-dominated subreddits nowSame. I heavily curated my feed on my main account (I only use this one for FDS for safety reasons) a while ago and it's been so good for my mental health. As soon as I saw an inappropriate or "Bro-y" post in a subreddit I had joined, I left it. I don't need to look at stuff that makes me angry or sad every day. Now I only see subs with wholesome and/or interesting content (e.g. subs connected to my more niche hobbies and interests, where in-depth discussions between people who really know their… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 06:01 PM |
| 62 | Why is there so many "crazy" mother-in-laws? (Let's discuss from the perspective of FDS)The usual version of the "nasty mother of my wife" is said MIL calling the husband out for idiotic behaviour and not being good enough for her daughter (e.g. he needs to get a better job/promotion to better provide for the family, he's too ugly/dumb for her gorgeous/smart daughter, his acts like a manchild and his shenanigans stress out her daughter etc. etc.)... and she is right most times at least to a certain degree. The same usually goes for the "nasty father of my wife" trope. While the "hu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 05:18 PM |
| 63 | How to tell if you are you building a man or building the relationshipThis. And even if a disability actually prevents you from doing a certain chore (like not being able to do laundry because you are on crutches and the washing machine is in the basement and you can't safely carry a hamper down there)... you can take over other chores to make up for that and do your best to make that chore as easy as possible for your partner (e.g. pre sort and pre treat the laundry, iron, fold and put them away afterwards...), instead of leaving it on the floor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 10:21 AM |
| 274 | Why Casual Sex is a heck no! UK men admit they only disclose chronic STD’s to women they aren’t just using for sex."Women are worthless and anyone with standards is going to die alone!" -> that's just his opinion, what are you even complaining about? "I wouldn't want to date a guy like you." -> You are banned for that mean hatespeech! ^^ Most subreddits and social media in a nutshell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 06:38 PM |
| 91 | Why Casual Sex is a heck no! UK men admit they only disclose chronic STD’s to women they aren’t just using for sex.Saying that people with contagious STDs should disclose them to their sexual partners and not have unprotected sex is so ableist! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 06:34 PM |
| 508 | Why Casual Sex is a heck no! UK men admit they only disclose chronic STD’s to women they aren’t just using for sex.This should be a criminal offense. Having sex with someone while knowingly concealing that you are exposing them to a contagious disease is assault. Their partners should at least be able to make those idiots pay for all of their expenses (including loss of income if they have to take time off for the treatment and recovery) resulting from this. Lifelong, if necessary. Just think about it: If you are negligent while driving your car and hurt someone you are screwed and liable for all damages you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 05:26 PM |
| 127 | What do you think of your partner having long weekends without you?There are a lot of "it depends" for me here. Generally I will travel wherever and whenever I want (obviously within reason and without plainly reckless trips (e.g. into an active warzone, spending money we don't have or leaving my children or extremely sick spouse (I don't mean the flu, I mean actually incapable of living alone) without care) and no SO will stop me from that. I would extend the same courtesy to a partner within reason, especially if I knew their job required frequent trips going… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 05:19 PM |
| 5 | Is it unhealthy to approach all men within a dating context as potential predators as a was of staying alert and protecting oneself, instead of the alternative of seeing each man as innocent until proven guilty?While the “guilty/predator until proven otherwise” is very offensive How is this offensive? Is being cautious because a mistake may have dire consequences to me offensive to possibly aggressive or venomous animals or poisonous plants? No. It doesn't means I hate them or think all of them are out to kill me. It means that I am careful because the stakes for me are high if I am wrong. I am always truly baffled how men are still surprised by this or think it is unreasonable, because we as humans (n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 02:29 PM |
| 3 | Is it unhealthy to approach all men within a dating context as potential predators as a was of staying alert and protecting oneself, instead of the alternative of seeing each man as innocent until proven guilty?As someone who actually collects wild garlic and is very good with wild herbs that grow here: I still check and double check every single plant while collecting and again at home before using them. Not even a plant I have collected in the same spot for 15+ years gets "the benefit of the doubt" from me when a misake could easily end deadly. I would also never tell anyone to go out and collect wild garlic without taking a person who really knows their stuff with them and checking every single plan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 01:14 PM |
| 85 | Is it unhealthy to approach all men within a dating context as potential predators as a was of staying alert and protecting oneself, instead of the alternative of seeing each man as innocent until proven guilty?Is it unhealthy to treat all snakes and mushrooms you don't recognize as potentially venomous/poisonous until you are 100% sure they are not (aka have done your research and "vetted" them)? Of course not, right? That's common sense. It has nothing to do with hating or discriminating against snakes or mushrooms. A mistake could cost you your health or even life after all. Well, so could a mistake regarding men. And a lot more women are harmed and killed by men each day than by snakes or mushrooms… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 12:13 PM |
| 110 | Back up the handbook? Anyone want to help??I've also noticed that some of the posts linked in the handbook sadly are deleted by now, so the links are basically "dead". I think a backup (or transfer into a real wiki instead of just a link collection) is overdue to avoid losing even more posts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 05:42 PM |
| 34 | the DELICIOUS silence of the scrotesWhy do you even waste your time with these guys beyond the first message? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 05:09 PM |
| 158 | When men make fun of women who get unwanted attention- like “I’d kill to have a woman hit on me”Fun, but not a true equivalent. Because they know that the chances of daddy gay spiking their drink, following them home, Stalking them, raping or killing them are practically nonexistant. The worst he can do is make them uncomfortable. He is no actual threat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 04:55 PM |
| 331 | When men make fun of women who get unwanted attention- like “I’d kill to have a woman hit on me”What they don't understand is that getting hit on for women is not being approached with a nice compliment by a person they find totally hot. It's more comparable to a big, muscular, threatening looking guy yelling "nice ass" after you in a prison shower. Still jealous? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 04:26 PM |
| 338 | “Ask her out, but you dont need to pay”(met all my girlfriends there) Well, they don't seem to stick around for long if he is already back on "autoswiping" and giving crappy dating advice, do they? I wonder why. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 06:21 PM |
| 185 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"Let me offer you another one: Snakes are cool. I like snakes. I'm not disgusted by or afraid of them per se. Not all snakes are venomous. Of the venomous ones, only a few are actually going to make me severely ill or kill me. Of those, not all will even act aggressive when disturbed. Still: I sure as hell am not going to touch or come near a snake I don't recognize until I am absolutely, positively, 100% sure it really is harmless. For snakes that's common sense. For men that's being a rude, par… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 05:49 PM |
| 322 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"You are absolutely on point with this. It is the main reason why watching true crime stuff frustrates me that much. All those con men, psychopaths and murderers do not succeed because they are outrageously smart. In fact it's ridiculous how many reckless, idiotic mistakes they got away with before they were caught. They succeed because their victims - we as a society - have been gaslit and manipulated into being outrageously gullible, naive and dumb over the last few millenia. For every victim o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 05:09 PM |
| 13 | Just another day in the mind of a LVM. Men shouldn’t be allowed to date, they’re evolving from walks to wanting to run errands on dates for their own benefitThis is a good comparison. It's also very telling how they agree that in a business context (e.g. him hosting a business partner, having dinner with someone to "pick their brain" or pitch them) the host paying the whole bill is the norm and polite thing. If you host or pitch an important client you are not going to ask them to go 50/50 on drinks. You spoil and pamper them because you want to impress them and are happy they found time and made the effort to meet you. Women are just not worth that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 03:01 PM |
| 108 | Just another day in the mind of a LVM. Men shouldn’t be allowed to date, they’re evolving from walks to wanting to run errands on dates for their own benefitThe same way that they will wear ratty clothes on dates with you, then get dressed up to go to a club 60 miles away with "the boys". This is so common. If they wanted to, they would. If he can dress appropriately for a job interview, his work event or a night out with his friends, he can dress appropriately for date night, her aunt's 80th birthday and her work event. He just doesn't care enough to do so. It's raging disrespect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 01:26 PM |
| 141 | Just another day in the mind of a LVM. Men shouldn’t be allowed to date, they’re evolving from walks to wanting to run errands on dates for their own benefitNotice how it's always their errands that get run? What about entertaining a lady while she runs her errands? Hold her bag while she tries on clothes and shoes and picks up her dry cleaning, keep her company while she gets her nails and hair done (and pay)? Doesn't sound so fun, does it? I would love to troll a guy like this and take him to the grocery store and make him wait while I compare different brands of tampons and pads for an hour. Or make him sit in the waiting room during a doctor's a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 12:29 PM |
| 106 | Do men understand the difference between flirting and being friendly?This is so important and the reason why we must vet our roommates just as hard (if not harder) as our partners: They have access to you at your most vulnerable: sleeping, naked in the shower, while you are weak because you are sick or tired or sad or a little drunk. They have access to your most personal space and belongings which offers countless opportunities to harm you and make your life hell. They can invite other people into your living space who have bad intentions. You may "trust" your r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 10:57 AM |
| 460 | Do men understand the difference between flirting and being friendly?You need to get out of there ASAP and find a new place to live and watch your back until then. Do not be alone with him. Do not put yourself in a position where he could hurt you. Make sure he cannot access your bedroom and the bathroom while you are in it. That man is showing all the red flags and his behaviour and entitlement is escalating. He is going to hurt you at some point. I know that you don't always have a choice with the terrible market but I would never live with a strange man, let… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 09:05 AM |
| 137 | Sigh…male depravity/ego knows no bounds. Yet another reason to seek a female physician 😫It's chilling to think about how many people knew and covered for him. If he did this to multiple patients there was probably not always the same set of people in the OR and still every single one looked away. Not even an anonymous tip afterwards. I can deal with the thought of one psychopath doing this -as terrible as it is- but a dozen or more people (medical professionals who should put their patient's welfare first!) shrugging and covering for him? That bothers me so much more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 06:52 PM |
| 428 | Sigh…male depravity/ego knows no bounds. Yet another reason to seek a female physician 😫I just keep wondering... that doctor was not alone in the OR. Are you seriously telling me that none of the other people present (students, other doctors, nurses?) said something when he burned his initials into a patient's organ?! Nobody? Not even to rat him out afterwards? Everyone and I mean everyone who witnessed this should be criminally prosecuted and banned from ever practicing in a medical profession again. As a patient we always need to remember that when push comes to shove medical p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 05:57 PM |
| 51 | Advice: He seems wonderful but isn’t as financially secure as meNo savings and 'entrepreneurial career' sounds like somebody who is likely to do risky shit with money. This. Would be a huge red flag to me. Shit like that can leave you broke or deeply in debt in a heartbeat and even land you in prison. No thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 03:09 PM |
| 118 | Advice: He seems wonderful but isn’t as financially secure as meHe has set himself goals to save for a ring, wedding and kids so I can take maternity leave without pay (ie he can cover my car and house repayments plus afford our lifestyle) (Have you seen the accounts? How much of his monthly income is he saving? What about other things like retirement? Which sacrifices is he making to be able to save as much as possible?). He believes his hard work and investments in his businesses will result in long term wealth/ passive income and financial freedom (A lot … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 02:33 PM |
| 112 | Have you noticed there are more snoring men than women?I don't deal well with sleep deprivation at all. I get seriously homicidal and I am not exaggerating. Getting enough sleep is something I do not compromise on for anything. If you snore, make other noise or compromise my sleep, you sleep somewhere else. Period. It's better for everyone, believe me. It's one of the core reasons I will probably never have children. Dealing with the years (if you are unlucky) of sleep deprivation a baby brings is not something I want to risk. For the safety of ever… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 11:49 AM |
| 168 | Have you noticed there are more snoring men than women?I think it's also a cultural thing. Snoring is definitely considered "unfeminine" and "unladylike" so a woman who snores will probably be embarrassed by it and try to do something about it. Also because she has empathy and doesn't want to disturb people who have to sleep near her. Men just don't care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 11:04 AM |
| 162 | Scrote just find the pettiest sh*t he can from his girlfriend and proceed to share it with the whole damn world. It is like he determined to make her hate him.He also 100% never wipes or washes after peeing which I will never find not disgusting. He could also acknowledge that because of our anatomy (more skin gets wet depending on the angle while peeing) and bodily functions (e.g. discharge and periods, let's bet he'd also throw a hissy fit if he finds an unwrapped used tampon in the trash) we simply need more paper to clean up properly. But no, let's diss the girlfriend for having the audacity to use as much toilet paper as she needs and not letting… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 08:47 AM |
| 47 | "When can I do 50/50 with a man?" - How about NEVER?Doing 50/50 is an irresponsible man's game. If he can't afford to financially support you and your future children, the responsible thing to do is NOT pursuing you. If he can't afford to build a family, don't build a family, period. DO NOT let a man live in your place, use your car, leech of your food, use your credit card, hell don't even think about paying his debt for whatever reason. Seriously, why would you even want to do that? If he have debt, his main focus should be on solving that de… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 06:51 PM |
| 195 | Looking the same after babiesHow can anyone make an informed choice on child bearing when you don’t even get taught how your body will change? This is so important and I feel like this also plays into the whole pro-choice discussion. The actual reality of what a pregnancy and birth do to a woman's body is played down and heavily romanticized pretty much everywhere and glossed over with "It will all be forgotten once the baby is there!" platitudes. Girls and young women need to be informed about that. Nobody should go into a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 04:48 PM |
| 133 | Looking the same after babiesAnd even if they didn't use a surrogate: Combine good genes with money that buys you a nanny (so you have more time and less stress), the ability to stay home and recover in peace after giving birth because you don't need to go back to work to pay the bills, access to healthy meals (and maybe even someone who prepares them for you and someone who does the housework) and a personal trainer.... and compare that with the average new mother who has to take care of an infant (and possible older sibli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 04:21 PM |
| 28 | Hearing about scrotes everywhere I goIf he's staying under her roof and she's paying for it, yes. Even then should just stop paying, set him an ultimatum to move out and let him figure it out, not treat him like a teenager who is not doing his homework. That's just babying him even more. His homework and assignments are not her responsibility. Someone who needs pressure and reminders from his parents to do his assignments simply has no place at a university. And trying to drag them through it by force will not work. And I say this … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 11:40 AM |
| 49 | Hearing about scrotes everywhere I goI know this might be a cultural thing but I'm always surprised at how involved parents in the US are in their adult children's university education. Where I am that's absolutely not a thing. I mean you're an adult, you move out to go to university and everything that happens from there is your responsibility alone and that includes securing funding and passing your classes. I don't know a single parent that keeps tabs like this on their kid's university classes. Maybe asking "How's uni going?" a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 10:48 AM |
| 105 | Hearing about scrotes everywhere I goDish soap is not even cheaper than cheap regular soap or shower gel. Is this another insane "multipurpose" thing caused by pure lazyness and stingyness they try to sell as being frugal, anticonsumption and "minimalist" (like only owning a matress on the floor and one set of sheets and a single grey, moldy towel, three ancient underpants with holes (but that's so sustainable!) and a lawn chair as a couch)? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 09:56 AM |
| 33 | online vetting, a listProfessional networking groups and websites here, too (I've even had weird contact attempts on LinkedIn like that). It's so, so annoying and pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 10:30 PM |
| 79 | The absolute audacity of some of these men. Could you imagine telling your partner that you are taking a three month break from being a spouse and a parent?Why would she get in trouble? She didn't abandon her kids. She just left them in the care of their other parent, whom she informed, and went on vacation, just like he is planning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 07:11 PM |
| 51 | The reality of being a woman today - and the fear of sexual and physical abuse that comes with it - is something that most men will never have to experienceI don't know... if a rapist or pedophile gets raped in jail my empathy for them is practically nonexistent. Karma and all that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 07:05 PM |
| 253 | The absolute audacity of some of these men. Could you imagine telling your partner that you are taking a three month break from being a spouse and a parent?if you cannot trust your children can be left in the care of your husband, their other parent, for so much as a few hours, let alone a night or several months, then you're admitting they are not safe with him. Just highlighting this because it is so important. It should be taught in every parenting class and be accepted as a reason for an immediate divorce and sole custody, honestly. It is so, so common. I know a case where a woman had to go to the hospital for a week for surgery and literally a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 06:58 PM |
| 327 | The absolute audacity of some of these men. Could you imagine telling your partner that you are taking a three month break from being a spouse and a parent?He’s going there to cheat, period. Of course he is. He's going to try to relive his "glory days" pretending he's single and unattached there, probably going to break the heart of some naive Greek woman a decade younger than him and expects his real life to wait for him to get back at his convenience (or not). It's astounding how many men think the responsibility of being a parent and spouse is something you can just take time off from without consequences like that and expect their partner to be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 05:42 PM |
| 882 | The absolute audacity of some of these men. Could you imagine telling your partner that you are taking a three month break from being a spouse and a parent?Tell him "me first" and vanish to a nice luxurious Greek island for 3+x months first and see what's left of him when you get back. Maybe his "health problems which are very hard to define" (aka probably nonexistent) have solved your problem by then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 05:23 PM |
| 155 | The reality of being a woman today - and the fear of sexual and physical abuse that comes with it - is something that most men will never have to experienceHow were they supposed to help themselves with you being all naked and suggestive around them on purpose! They have needs, you know. And they all had tough childhoods and have mental health problems, how can you blame them, you heartless, ableist monster? Do you seriously want to ruin their whole lifes for 5 minutes of fun raping you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 03:42 PM |
| 343 | The reality of being a woman today - and the fear of sexual and physical abuse that comes with it - is something that most men will never have to experienceRight, if one of them makes a sexual comment to you just take it as a compliment, you stuck-up bitch! He just means well! Can nobody take a well-meant compliment anymore? Are you sure you didn't lead the guy who raped you on? What were you wearing? Why were you out there in the first place? Can it really be rape if you ever had sex with anyone before? Are you sure you weren't actually into it and enjoyed "rough sex" and only changed your mind later to get back at the poor guy for not wanting a r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 03:23 PM |
| 105 | Stay at home dads vs stay at home mumsSigning the kids up for activities is common for "weekend dads" (aka shared custody) here. My mom teaches an art class for kids on saturdays and so many dads openly admit they sign their own kids who are only with them every second weekend up for classes and activities for the whole weekend because they don't know what else to do with them and want to be able to drop them off and relax a little after working all week. Bonus points if the activities also offer meals/snacks so they don't have to w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 12:14 PM |
| 183 | On dying alone:"Stealing your terminally ill wife's food" is a level of depravity I was not prepared for today. Holy shit. I don't even want to know what he did to her when she was still healthier and living with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 01:17 PM |
| 76 | No one seems to be asking where he got this STD?? And she gets frequent UTIs because of him 🤢🤮I hope she at least got her HPV vaccination so her risk to get cervical cancer as well as herpes from her cheating scrote of a (hopefully soon to be ex) boyfriend is lowered. Genital herpes is not harmless and absolutely no joke. If he picked that up somewhere who knows what other STDs he exposed her to? I wonder what lie he told her. Got it from a public toilet seat? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 01:13 PM |
| 49 | Apparently not wanting to be assaulted in the bedroom is "vanilla".I'd call that part an attempted homicide. Any sexual acts he does to her after she has passed out are rape. Unconscious people cannot consent to anything per definition. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 10:40 PM |
| 142 | Apparently not wanting to be assaulted in the bedroom is "vanilla".Spitting on women is apparently totally the norm in every porn movie these days (and not just on their bodies, which would be bad enough. Into their fucking mouths while the women pretend they love it!). I can't believe it either. I literally shudder and gag when I have to think about it. Back when I was in my early stupid 20s one guy actually tried that and decided that spitting (not licking, actually spitting on them from above) on my ladyparts was totally hot forplay. But even in my stupid ea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 05:33 PM |
| 105 | Do any of you NOT want to get married one day?But married women still find themselves carrying the burden of domestic labor and childrearing, so how exactly did the ring benefit them? If they ever leave or their husband dies they (and possible children) are at least entitled to (part of) his assets (which can be alimony/child support, health insurance, part of his pension, property bought during the marriage...). That's the whole issue. A girlfriend gets nothing for her troubles if he ever decides to kick her out, even if she spent decades … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 04:52 PM |
| 265 | Apparently not wanting to be assaulted in the bedroom is "vanilla".Don't forget spitting on women. I swear I want to puke every time I even think about that. It's so utterly disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 04:28 PM |
| 327 | Do any of you NOT want to get married one day?For me it would depend on a few factors. I think for a rich, independent woman without a child-wish (or with prexisting children from a past relationship she has sole custody of) or a wish to live with or co-own something with a partner, marriage is actually a bad deal and she can only lose. The benefits a marriage may bring do not outweigh the risks for her. But I would never have children, make sacrifices that impact my career or financial independence (and that includes playing the nurse or h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 04:21 PM |
| 193 | Only a scrote takes it personallyAs a woman on the spectrum I can confirm that well adjusted, functional neurodivergent people are often more understanding in matters like this. They simply know that sometimes you need to do seemingly "weird" things to feel safe and comfortable and that doing them has absolutely nothing to do with trying to offend anyone. Hell, usually we really wish we didn't have to do them because it's an inconvenience for ourselves, too, and it's not like it's fun to deal with people's reactions. Just like … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 11:16 AM |
| 85 | Men wonder why they aren't able to be included in our discussionsThe funny thing is that they do have access. They can read and learn all they want. They are just forced to simply listen for once instead of being able to derail every discussion with "as a man...", gaslighting, devaluing, trolling, harassing, playing "devil's advocate" and offending the women who post here. That's what drives them crazy. They just have access to the content, not the women who create it and thus no control over them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 06:36 PM |
| 129 | Men wonder why they aren't able to be included in our discussionsA vegan forum is not the right place to post your favorite steak recipes or butchering techniques. Why? Because nobody there wants to hear them and the ideology behind them or images you post will offend other users and make them uncomfortable. There are other dedicated places you can post instead. Go there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 05:46 PM |
| 236 | Men wonder why they aren't able to be included in our discussionsBecause we are not interested in their opinion here. Period. They have the whole rest of reddit, the internet and the entire world to state their opinions. Here, nobody asked for them or wants to hear them. I don't know what else needs to be said. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 05:04 PM |
| 73 | More men than ever single? GOOD! Women are finally getting standars and the men are screeching and seethingI always deeply hope this is/will be the case when I hear one of those disgusting guys talk about Western women being crazy, cold bitches and getting a "real woman" from another country (mostly in Asia or Eastern Europe here) instead, because they are still "normal" (aka subservient bangmaids completely dependent on them). I so, so hope that these women treat those disgusting guys like they deserve, take every opportunity they get and bleed them dry as soon as they can. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 04:58 PM |
| 96 | More men than ever single? GOOD! Women are finally getting standars and the men are screeching and seethingThis. Trading and bartering with women (as brides) and their own children (as "wards" aka hostages if they were male, future brides if they were female) as part of a peace (or other) agreement was a common practice in pretty much all cultures and time periods. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 04:42 PM |
| 356 | Husband cares so little about pregnant wife who has an immune disorder & lies about wearing a mask & social distancing, forcing her to leave the home because he can’t be responsible. Poor woman.Let me rephrase: "My husband's idiocy and willful negilence almost killed me and our unborn child and he is not even sorry. He continues to put our lifes in danger. Am I wrong for not being okay with this?" Yeah... that woman needs to get the hell out of there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 04:23 PM |
| 182 | More men than ever single? GOOD! Women are finally getting standars and the men are screeching and seethingYou are completely right of course. They created (and are still creating and perpetuating) a system to make us need them for survival by limiting our rights and freedom to make us compliant and dependent on them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 10:49 AM |
| 750 | More men than ever single? GOOD! Women are finally getting standars and the men are screeching and seethingMen's biggest problem is that in a modern society women don't need them anymore. We can make our own money, have our own jobs, defend our own legal rights, provide our own orgasms, even have kids without needing their support or input (e.g. via adoption or anonymous sperm donor). Suddenly, women have to actually want a man to keep him around. Suddenly they need to bring something that actually adds value beyond basic survival to our lifes. And most men still haven't figured out how to do that. L… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 10:34 AM |
| 185 | REMINDER: BDSM is more than a kink. It’s indicative of a man who gets off from abusing women. This poor woman found gore p*rn on her bf’s laptop and the comments are saying it’s just a harmless kink and that she’s overreacting for thinking he’ll harm her. I weep for this generation.The only type of "yelling at me (or our kids)" I find acceptable is the "Watch out for that car!" or "I'm over here!" (if we are looking for each other in a crowd) kind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 11:50 AM |
| 7 | Happy New year lasses, and REMEMBERI think it depends and life is complicated. I could imagine very rare cases (actual abuse, their partner having developed heavy substance abuse, addiction or mental health issues during the marriage etc.) where I would accept it, depending on the timing and behaviour. I would absolutely leave a partner like that, even if we were married with kids and I won't judge someone for doing the same. If you are stuck in a situation like that and already feeling guilty for thinking about leaving your part… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 11:43 AM |
| 214 | Happy New year lasses, and REMEMBERSimple shit test if their "you are my one true love blabla" is actually serious (which it never is): Tell them that nothing whatsoever will happen (not even messaging, a date or a meeting) until they can present you with actual proof that their divorce is finalized and ties have been cut with their ex (so no "divorced but still living together" or anything) and to come back when they can show you that. Even if it takes a year or two. And if you are still available then, you will agree to a singl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 11:11 AM |
| 64 | Man tries to challenge my standards when I say walks are not datesAnd this may cause a scene, which is uncomfortable But this is still a way less dangerous situation than going on a walk with a male stranger who could easily overpower you (e.g. drag you into a car, house or the bushes... and bring friends) or outrun you. And that's not even mentioning actually having a comfortable environment to get to know each other. Imagine they got the chance to ask their absolute dream girl (let's say someone like a superfamous actress, singer or even fictional character)… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 05:55 PM |
| 290 | Man tries to challenge my standards when I say walks are not dates"Low risk" my ass. What is safer? Eating in a comfortable, safe public environment like a restaurant surrounded by other people as constant potential witnesses and help or taking a walk with a stranger who could easily overpower you and passing through different, sometimes secluded places or areas you are not familiar with? It's "low risk" for his wallet. He doesn't give a shit about his date's comfort or safety. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 04:39 PM |
| 279 | First, your wife had a baby, not you. Second? You’re the problem.Wanna bet he doesn't do his share of helping out with chores and the baby and is then surprised that his exhausted, sleep deprived wife isn't interested in being his human fleshlight (because let's face it: an orgasm for her is not in the cards here)? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 04:07 PM |
| 48 | Frauds on datingsites/appsThis. "Sounds like you have bigger things to worry about than dating right now, so good luck with that and bye." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 11:21 PM |
| 27 | “Turkish woman MARRIES boyfriend who threw acid in her face.” This makes me incredibly sad for her, the fact she felt that she had no other option…I sincerely hope this is an elaborate ruse by her to take her revenge and slowly poison him over a few years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 09:02 PM |
| 35 | LVM lining up for cheap, tacky, overpriced jewellery two days before Christmas. The comments are defending them. “bE gRaTeFuL” for the bare minimum? Nah.I put more effort and thought (and maybe money, but I'm not sure how much Pandora stuff costs) into finding a Christmas gift for my cat than that. By the way, he's getting a new, customized cat tree, the cat tree's box, and a raw chicken wing for Christmas dinner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 07:22 PM |
| 60 | LVM lining up for cheap, tacky, overpriced jewellery two days before Christmas. The comments are defending them. “bE gRaTeFuL” for the bare minimum? Nah.Right?! I have a cast iron Dutch oven from the 1920s or 30s from them (family heirloom) and it's the best damn pot for absolutely everything from baking bread to making casseroles. Their quality is legendary. I wish I could afford more pieces, but even used they cost a fortune. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 06:33 PM |
| 83 | LVM lining up for cheap, tacky, overpriced jewellery two days before Christmas. The comments are defending them. “bE gRaTeFuL” for the bare minimum? Nah.I've once seen someone steal a really nice flower bouquet from a vase placed on a GRAVE, so be thankful if it's just from someone's garden and not....you know....haunted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 06:06 PM |
| 147 | LVM lining up for cheap, tacky, overpriced jewellery two days before Christmas. The comments are defending them. “bE gRaTeFuL” for the bare minimum? Nah.And her name was written on the gift tag by the person who wrapped it for him at the store. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 06:04 PM |
| 167 | LVM lining up for cheap, tacky, overpriced jewellery two days before Christmas. The comments are defending them. “bE gRaTeFuL” for the bare minimum? Nah.As someone who would love getting fancy kitchen stuff because I love to cook and bake (I'm talking a KitchenAid mixer or forbiddingly expensive Le Creuset pans, not cheap crap), I think many people don't understand the difference between giving someone a gift for their hobby (which baking is for me or e.g. giving fancy specialized tools to someone who enjoys a crafty hobby) and giving someone something for a chore, like a vacuum cleaner or a lawn mower. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 06:03 PM |
| 86 | LVM lining up for cheap, tacky, overpriced jewellery two days before Christmas. The comments are defending them. “bE gRaTeFuL” for the bare minimum? Nah.Absolutely. It doesn't help that employees get a 50% discount on everything (or used to when I worked there) and are encouraged to use and try out the stuff at home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 05:14 PM |
| 361 | LVM lining up for cheap, tacky, overpriced jewellery two days before Christmas. The comments are defending them. “bE gRaTeFuL” for the bare minimum? Nah.I used to work at Lush as a student. The number of men who just walked in and said "Give me stuff for 100€, doesn't matter what, it's for my wife/daughter/mother and she isn't picky." one or two days before Christmas was really sad. I mean at least tell me something about her favorite scent or color or type of skin or whatever. And they literally handed me the money and waited outside for me to bring them a bag full of already wrapped stuff. They didn't help pick things out or wanted to know wha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 12:12 PM |
| 70 | The OP was a man bragging about six babymamas and not paying child supportI fully get your point but this is classist. So? I empathize and grew up in poverty myself but why on earth is it a good thing if people who can barely feed and take care of themselves and maybe one child get encouraged to have even more children they can't provide for? That's selfish. The children are the ones who are going to suffer. Female education has a direct negative correlation to fertility rates;the higher a women is educated the less children she is likely toproduce. This is completely… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 05:32 PM |
| 185 | The OP was a man bragging about six babymamas and not paying child supportShoot me, but if we look at the ever rising population of the earth and so many children still growing up under atrocious circumstances we as a society need to start penalizing people for having more children than they can (or want to) take care of and afford. And until women have full autonomy regarding their reproductive rights and can always, independently and easily prevent or terminate any unwanted pregnancy, it's the men we need to start with. And miss me with all the "If she wants the bab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 03:42 PM |
| 82 | Missing Utah college student Madelyn Allen found alive, 'covered in coal' in suspect's basementThat would imply that men need a functioning penis to sexually assault, murder or otherwise torture their victims, which is sadly wrong. Without a penis they will still find other ways. Locking them up for life will at least protect society from them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 10:42 AM |
| 98 | Missing Utah college student Madelyn Allen found alive, 'covered in coal' in suspect's basementI'd settle for an automatic life sentence (either prison or a psychiatric hospital if someone is truly too mentally ill to see what they did is wrong) for any sex crime with no option for an early release. People who do that have clearly proven that they have no place in a civilized society. Their victims will have to deal with their trauma and possible injuries for the rest of their lifes, too, so why shouldn't the people who hurt them? I can think of mitigating circumstances for pretty much an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 08:50 AM |
| 200 | Missing Utah college student Madelyn Allen found alive, 'covered in coal' in suspect's basementI'm sure those men would also say it is "consensual" if a man got into a Uber or taxi and the driver kidnapped them and kept them locked up in their basement as a sex slave for the rest of their lifes. Same thing, right? After all, the man ordered the Uber and got in out of his free will, right? /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 08:33 AM |
| 88 | I really hope this is a generational thing, but imagine only "expressing an interest in learning how to cook" after your wife dies and relying on your children for meals...This. If you truly can't assemble a simple meal and don't have any kind of disability preventing you from doing it, you aren't trying. My 79 year old, wheelchair bound and disabled father could make himself a simple meal (I'm talking rice/pasta/potatoes with vegetables and sauce, grilled meat/seafood, salad, sandwiches etc. , not stuff like frozen pizzas and microwave meals). We needed to set up the kitchen so he could reach and use everything and he needed help washing dishes (no dishwasher), b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 05:46 PM |
| 17 | POS Scrotes will LITERALLY find the most random obscure dark holes to hit on you!I wondered about this for such a long time. If it's just about getting worn ladies' shoes why don't they just go to the nearest second hand store and buy a few pairs and say they are for their girlfriends or whatever? Still creepy, but much better than messaging random people with their filth. But apparently it's not about that. Part of the thrill and fantasy is exposing someone who didn't consent to their fetish. It's so gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 05:18 PM |
| 62 | POS Scrotes will LITERALLY find the most random obscure dark holes to hit on you!They prey on us in our weakest moments because they think they can manipulate us better then and we have less power or energy to tell them to fuck off. From their view it makes perfect sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 12:07 PM |
| 22 | Everyone in this supposed feminist sub is telling her to propose herselfIf you really want a baby and to raise it completely by yourself: you do you. What we are arguing against is giving a man the "husband package and privileges" (cohabitation with you financially contributing, doing chores for him, carrying and raising his children, sacrificing career opportunities etc.etc all for his benefit) when he can't even be arsed to give you a minimum of security and commitment by marrying you in exchange. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 10:43 AM |
| 71 | POS Scrotes will LITERALLY find the most random obscure dark holes to hit on you!I tried to give away a pair of glittery ballet flats for little girls with Disney princesses on them there once (It was clearly marked and absolutely obvious that they are children's shoes, a size usually worn by girls between 6 and 8 years). The messages I got were beyond disgusting. It made me actually realize for the first time how many pedophiles we are surrounded by every day, who are not even ashamed to display their sick mind like this. I reported them, they allegedly got a "warning" from… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 09:09 AM |
| 70 | Everyone in this supposed feminist sub is telling her to propose herself“There’s no timeline on it.” Any reasonable timeline ended long ago before she got pregnant with the first baby (if I'm feeling generous and the pregnancy was an accident it ended the minute he found out she was pregnant with his baby and didn't propose and marry her before it was born). I will never, ever understand why women have babies with men who can't even provide the bare minimum of commitment: a ring on her finger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 09:02 AM |
| 72 | POS Scrotes will LITERALLY find the most random obscure dark holes to hit on you!The exact same thing has happened to me multiple times, too, on the same platform. It is so gross. Never try to sell shoes (not even children's shoes!) or clothing that could be called "hot" there, if you want to be able to sleep at night in the near future. The results (and lack of actual consequences if you report those guys) will make you want to go on a murderous rampage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 08:55 AM |
| 187 | POS Scrotes will LITERALLY find the most random obscure dark holes to hit on you!I was hit on while I was sitting at my father's grave (which is unfortunately visible from outside the cemetery). That guy seriously entered the cemetery to hit on someone grieving. They have no shame. And let's not forget the creep who sat down next to me without asking when I was crying on a bench in front of a hospital and told me that I look pretty when I cry. Screw "shooting their shot". No, you don't have a "right" to do that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 06:39 AM |
| 26 | I don't know why anyone would date a single fatherHonestly? The only one I truly feel sorry for in that story is the poor kid. Only 2 years old and already saddled with so many issues and childhood trauma to overcome. Poor little thing never had a chance with parents like this. I bet your friend will just be one of a number of stepmothers the little guy will be subjected to by his NV sperm donor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 06:38 PM |
| 118 | I don't know why anyone would date a single fatherI'd never want to be the "evil stepmom" or "daddy's new girlfriend" in someone else's story. There is a reason why the stepmother is such a common trope across genres, cultures and time periods. You cannot win in that role. I refuse to be a part of the infamous mom (or maternal grandparents/family if the mom is deceased)-dad-stepmom-triangle because as the stepmother you will always pull the shortest straw. If the mother of the children is not dead I'd also wonder what the hell the guy must have… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 05:53 PM |
| 194 | YOU alone get to determine your standards!God I hate the whole "as a single mom you can't afford to have standards and should be glad if anyone wants you" narrative. As a single parent your standards need to be even higher because a sub par, abusive or low value partner will not just harm you, he will also harm your child(ren). Better stay single than subjecting your kids to neglect or abuse at the hands of a new guy just because you don't want to be alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 05:21 PM |
| 29 | A ‘perfect’ Xmas gift for your ‘indecisive’ gf: a flipping coin with your names on it. Great, now we can even go 50/50 on date night ideas! And it only costs $10. 🤦🏼♀️I bet one of the first uses will be "You can't say no to anal tonight, honey. The coin said I get to call the shots and make the decisions. You can only say no when the coin says it's your turn. If you say no to anal right now, I have the right to say no to whatever decision you make when it's your turn." Disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 06:10 PM |
| 69 | A ‘perfect’ Xmas gift for your ‘indecisive’ gf: a flipping coin with your names on it. Great, now we can even go 50/50 on date night ideas! And it only costs $10. 🤦🏼♀️There are so many better "stocking sized" presents: jewellery, perfume or other small cosmetics (fancy skincare, soaps, bath oils...), vouchers or tickets for an event, trip or something like a spa... But no. Let's choose an overpriced coin I ironically paid for with lots of coins that would have served the exact same purpose and that represents a common and annoying relationship problem. Best gift ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 05:59 PM |
| 73 | A ‘perfect’ Xmas gift for your ‘indecisive’ gf: a flipping coin with your names on it. Great, now we can even go 50/50 on date night ideas! And it only costs $10. 🤦🏼♀️This. Sometimes it's as easy as phrasing it differently and they still don't get it. "I want to pick up Chinese food on the way home. What do you want?" instead of "What do you want to eat tonight?". If I'm not in the mood for Chinese, I'll tell you. "I have X, Y and Z on the shopping list. Can I bring you anything else?" "Shall we watch movie A or movie B?" "If we leave for the party at 8, we will be on time. Or do you want to leave earlier just in case?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 05:47 PM |
| 129 | A ‘perfect’ Xmas gift for your ‘indecisive’ gf: a flipping coin with your names on it. Great, now we can even go 50/50 on date night ideas! And it only costs $10. 🤦🏼♀️Past exes always gaslit me when I told them it was really stressful for me to be expected to take over all the decisions and planning (Where do you want to go tonight? What do you want to eat? What should we do for date night? Which movie should we watch? Shall we leave at 7 or 8 for the party? What should I buy when I go grocery shopping? What do you want for your birthday/christmas/whatever (and please send me the exact thing with a link where I can buy it!)?....) and tried to explain emotiona… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 05:36 PM |
| 125 | Needle spiking in Australian clubs this past weekIt may not be an effective way of spiking someone but sticking strangers with random needles and injecting them with unknown substances is sure as hell endangering their lifes. What about hygiene (I doubt the needles and surrounding skin are clean)? Embolisms (I'm not a medical professional but I think injecting an air bubble into someone's body by accident is quite dangerous)? Allergic reactions to whatever was injected? Poisonings? Injecting something into a vein or organ that should only be i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 03:16 PM |
| 4 | Update: got set up with a LVM and was almost assaulted.That's quite possible. I would definitely believe it if they inserted themselves here to create "controversial" or "offensive" posts on purpose so they can repost them with another account somewhere else and point their fingers at the "evil FDS women and their false rape claims against innocent virgins". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 04:33 PM |
| 32 | Update: got set up with a LVM and was almost assaulted.And where exactly did you almost get assaulted? Is part of the story missing? I mean...sorry it didn't work out but he stopped as soon as you withdrew consent. Kissing you with your consent while having a small penis is not assault. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 03:45 PM |
| 182 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?Yes. I've met multiple women (usually fresh out of a relationship with a man) who just "want nothing serious and just try it out once". Sorry, but I am a person with feelings and not someone you can "try out" until you decide that you like men better after all and go back to your ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 01:47 PM |
| 153 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?Exactly my experience as well. That and women who are just curious/experimenting and only interested in casual sex instead of a serious relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 12:43 PM |
| 79 | "The more accepting you become, the less bizarre things seem."- Why scepticism is important and why you don't owe acceptance to anyone.Thank you. This always comes up if you dare to state any kind of standard or preference for people you would date. It's men feeling entitled to our bodies and actually feeling assaulted if we dare to deny them that. Don't want to date overweight people? You are evil and discriminatory and want all fat people to die! Don't want to date people with mental or physical disabilities? You are evil and ableist and want all disabled people to die! Don't want to date people of a certain race, religion or… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 10:37 AM |
| 204 | "The more accepting you become, the less bizarre things seem."- Why scepticism is important and why you don't owe acceptance to anyone.I think the main problem with this is a very narrow and toxic definition of "acceptance" that always comes up. Saying "That person (let's say a psychopath) is allowed to live a normal life in our society as long as they follow the rules and don't break any laws and their issues do not cause problems or harm to other people." is not what the majority of us are arguing against. But granting someone that doesn't mean I have to date, befriend, like or even associate with that person. That not what "… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 10:28 AM |
| 115 | How does a HVM approach a woman?The classic "Miss manners" way would be to get a mutual acquaintance to introduce them first, then talk for a while and propose an actual date as a next meeting. No need to exchange numbers since you will be meeting the next time for the agreed upon date. If that isn't viable, either exchange numbers or say goodbye respectfully and later ask the mutual acquaintance to relay the information that he would love to invite her to a date and wait for an answer (which would either be a "she's not inter… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 06:29 PM |
| 746 | What I posted versus a reason for a permaban from a large “feminist” subreddit. Wow I wonder why :)Ah yeah.... they kicked me out, too, because apparently suggesting that guy who was controlling and abusing his girlfriend showed the traits of a narcissist and desperately needed therapy (and his girlfriend desperately needed to get the hell out of there) instead of being understanding and coddling him to just "communicate" his feelings to her and work it out is somehow offensive to people with mental illnesses (no, I don't get it either). Apparently suggesting therapy to someone whose mental h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 05:26 PM |
| 22 | LibFem Lies: Western Women Didn't Enter the Workplace Until the 1960sIt's the autumn vacation where I am from and it used to be called "potato vacation" for exactly that reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 05:14 PM |
| 44 | LibFem Lies: Western Women Didn't Enter the Workplace Until the 1960sI think it's kind of hypocritical that they always talk about a woman's invisible and unpaid labor connected to the household and childrearing but never mention that their husband's businesses and trades almost always heavily relied on the unpaid labor of women and children in the family to survive. If you look at old paintings and depictions of workshops and farms there are women and children shown working in the background as well in a majority of cases. (Which by the way goes back to Ancient … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 04:58 PM |
| 79 | This holiday season I urge you to take trip down the girls toy aisle.I was totally shocked (in a positive way) while Christmas shopping recently when I saw a Barbie doll in a wheelchair and a black Barbie doll with actually curly hair (and not the typical straight Barbie hair) for the first time ever in the toy aisle. Change is slow, but it seems to happen at least a little. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 04:34 PM |
| 88 | LibFem Lies: Western Women Didn't Enter the Workplace Until the 1960sLibFem must be blind to the many many women who were working every day prior to the bra burning movement. Not on this list are the many mothers, outdoorswomen, hunters, seamstresses, nurses, laundresses, cooks, nannies, housekeepers, gardeners etc who had to understand their market, finances, and hone real world skills. And let's not even mention the millions of women who worked in their families' businesses before and after marriage since the beginning of time (on farms and in anything related … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 04:30 PM |
| 74 | single womenI would agree to this. Even in the best relationship with the most high value person you automatically lose at least a little of your freedom because - to some degree - you need to take another person's needs and wishes into account. Even if it's tiny things like not spontaneously going out after work because you know your partner has already started cooking for you at home and will be sad if you don't come home on time. Or not spontaneously going away for the weekend with friends because there … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 06:49 PM |
| 106 | My fantasy isn’t for a man to protect me, my fantasy is to not be threatened by men in the first placeI'm sure that went over well. Totally /s As soon as you ask them to sacrifice something or use their privilege to do good without offering an immediate reward in form of unlimited pussy, you only hear crickets when you ask who wants to help women. It's all "But it's not my job to police other men!" "Why should I risk my friends/career/honor/whatever for something that doesn't even negatively impact me personally?" "I would never betray my friends for some stranger, even if they did something bad… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 02:35 PM |
| 559 | There are only double standards (vent)If it was the other way around they'd call her a lazy golddigger who is not pulling her weight in the relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 01:55 PM |
| 76 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 41 -Strategic Incompetence: Men Mysteriously Bad At All The Things They Want Women To DoThis. Mowing the lawn once a week or raking up leaves does not equal spending hours(!) cooking, washing dishes, doing laundry and other chores every single day. Even if washing the dishes once only takes 20 minutes and mowing the lawn takes an hour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 01:37 PM |
| 158 | Is it me or are the dating apps dead or declining in numbers of men?Does anyone have better luck on paid dating sites? Tinder is certainly awide sampling of society being free. Does a pay wall help at all? I for one am not going to pay a cent to be "allowed" to put my face in a catalogue for desperate men to scroll through. Access to women is the product these sites sell. We are the product. They should be paying us to put up with that shit. Honestly I expect things to be even worse on paid sites because I'd expect the majority of guys there to be desperate LVM … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 12:13 PM |
| 273 | My fantasy isn’t for a man to protect me, my fantasy is to not be threatened by men in the first placeI tried explaining this on another sub a while ago when suddenly "nice guys" asking "What can we do to help women?" was all the rage for a week or so. Call out and go up against other men. No, not strangers and rapists lurking in the underbrush. Go up against men you know, like and respect and be ready and willing to lose their friendship for doing that. Be willing to lose opportunities and jobs for doing that. That's what we need. - be the one who testifies against your buddy in court if you kn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 11:48 AM |
| 203 | Is it me or are the dating apps dead or declining in numbers of men?Well, it's ultimately a circular thing Women notice that dating apps are garbage dumps and cesspits filled with 99,5% low value men, catfishers and creeps -> HV women leave dating apps because there are no desirable matches available -> the few remaining halfway decent men leave dating apps because there are no desirable matches available -> low value men, catfishers and creeps remain and keep molesting the few women who are still there -> Even more women leave dating apps... Shitty men ruin i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 09:05 AM |
| 224 | If a man does not date within his age range, it’s a red flag.I also see this as a similar matter as cheating: If he cheated with you or someone else on a former partner, he will cheat on you, too. If he prefers to date 26 year old you when he is 45, what makes you think he won't exchange you for a new 26 years old when you are 36 and he is 55? If he is into young, gullible women, you won't be attractive to him anymore as soon as you grow out of that. You are not "mature for your age". Your youth and immaturity is precisely what attracts him because it mak… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 08:20 AM |
| 66 | A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you?Yeah...answering that was what got me banned XD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 06:42 PM |
| 139 | A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you?This. Add to that the insecure men asking the exact same questions over and over and over every single day ("Would you date men who are short/fat/ugly/disabled/poor/have a small dick/etc.etc?" "How do I talk to women?") or openly look for wank material ("What was your hottest sexual experience?" "What's your secret fantasy/fetish?" "What kind of underwear are you currently wearing?"). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 06:17 PM |
| 181 | A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you?They are simply not used to having to make women actually want and like them in a modern society, because for the absolute majority of human history they made sure that women needed them to even have a modicum of safety, security or rights. Not so long ago we couldn't vote, work without our husband's permission or even have our own bank accounts. Divorce was practically impossible. We had barely any means to control our reproductive rights. We quite literally depended on finding and keeping a hu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 05:00 PM |
| 161 | A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you?I mean if women prefer the company of a furry, little animal that eats, sleeps, scratches stuff and literally poops in a box and licks his butt afterwards to your company... I'd take a long, hard look into the mirror, dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 04:09 PM |
| 129 | A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you?It’s because women only want the top 10% of guys and then get mad when those guys who have an over-abundance of options fail to act decently or commit. If they can't behave decently or commit they are by definition not part of the "top 10% of guys" you describe and exactly the kind of person this sub recommends not to date. I don't know what you think you are threatening us with? The good old "If you don't lower your standards you will stay single forever because there are not enough men in the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 03:35 PM |
| 171 | A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you?Dating a more unattractive guy will just make him more confident or make him think that there must be something wrong with you for dating "down". If he can get gorgeous you, he'll think he can probably do even better and try his luck with other women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 03:03 PM |
| 144 | A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you?Men: It's so unfair that women have it so easy and even ugly women can get sex whenever they want! Also men: The only reason you don't want me is because you are ugly and nobody wants you!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 02:58 PM |
| 99 | They really tell on themselves. They do not find sex work empowering nor do they respect it. Yet, we are told the opposite.Well, as someone who has had a date walk out on me (literally apologize, pay, get up and walk out of the restaurant while I sat there dumbstruck) when I told them that I occasionally handle human remains in my job, I wouldn't say it's impossible for people to have dealbreakers regarding their partner's profession (which is fine IMO). But there is a difference between thinking less of someone as a human being because they are a sex worker and simply not being able to imagine certain aspects of a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 02:36 PM |
| 377 | A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you?What triggers them is that most of them know perfectly well they don't fullfil the standards for basic human decency you described and subs like this calling attention to that discourages women to date them instead of feeding the whole toxic "just communicate" "relationships are about compromise" "build your man up" myth. They don't give a damn about misandry as a whole (which you can see perfectly well because they only ever mention it to shut down women, it's the exact same with "Men get raped… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 02:25 PM |
| 284 | They really tell on themselves. They do not find sex work empowering nor do they respect it. Yet, we are told the opposite.They all say "It's a job like any other" and "empowering" until you ask them if they would treat it like any other job and be totally fine with it if their girlfriend, wife, mother, sister or daughter wanted to pursue a "career" like that. Of course they wouldn't. As soon as it affects them personally and they can't see the women shown there as anonymous commodities instead of actual human beings, it completely off the table. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 12:41 PM |
| 9 | Men on saying they “want children someday”This is problematic for me because a) who wants kids with "Mr Wrong"? Only wanting kids with the right person is kind of a normal, expected thing and every guy who reads this will obviously think he is "Mr Right" b) for me there are a lot of factors at play that have nothing to do with my partner (like me still being young and healthy enough for a pregnancy, being at a point in my career where I can "afford" the risks a pregnancy and child brings without ruining my future prospects, having a sta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 09:06 AM |
| 37 | “How to Cure a Feminist...pretend to share her beliefs”, published in the Maxim magazine. Beware Ladies, vet the men claiming to be advocates.That's the one who caught my eye, too XD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 06:52 PM |
| 24 | Men on saying they “want children someday”My stance remains the same. I'm leaning towards no kids, but if I meet the right person (lol) my mind could possibly change. May I ask how you handle this while dating? My stance is similar. If the the partner and situation truly fits I would be open to having a child (but absolutely not more than one). But it is a big IF for me (because my criteria for the "right" partner and situation are extremely specific). My life will not be meaningless and I will be absolutely happy if that day never come… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 06:45 PM |
| 371 | If a man is this obsessed with slimness, he doesn’t deserve to have someone carry his child. He is also probably repulsed by pregnant women.OMG this is not an isolated incident! I heard variations of "Take a good look at your girlfriend's mother before you propose. That's how she will look in 20 years." by men so often. One idiot even tried to use this as compliment while we were dating. He saw a picture of my mother and myself and was like "Your mother still looks fit and good for her age. So that's a point in your favor." I mean... what? Would he have left if my mother was overweight or had aged "badly" according to his opinion? I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 06:33 PM |
| 68 | “How to Cure a Feminist...pretend to share her beliefs”, published in the Maxim magazine. Beware Ladies, vet the men claiming to be advocates.This. It's fine that you personally may not want to dedicate your life to saving the whales or whatever (a single person alone cannot stand up for every single cause, no matter how good each cause may be) but you could at least acknowledge that the people who dedicate their lifes are doing something worthy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 06:28 PM |
| 242 | “How to Cure a Feminist...pretend to share her beliefs”, published in the Maxim magazine. Beware Ladies, vet the men claiming to be advocates.Is it just bisexual me or does an "unshaven, militant, protesting vegan" sound absolutely awesome? I mean what's there to change? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 05:50 PM |
| 92 | If a man is this obsessed with slimness, he doesn’t deserve to have someone carry his child. He is also probably repulsed by pregnant women.This. And in addition to that a lot of things can happen during childbirth (e.g. a c-section - you know: major abdominal surgery) that makes working out medically inadvisable for quite some time afterwards. Does he really want his partner who just gave birth and is now alone with birth related physical trauma and injuries, a newborn and probably even breatfeeding to start starving herself with a diet so she can go back to a model BMI immediately and work out 3 times a week with the baby in a str… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 05:40 PM |
| 147 | If a man is this obsessed with slimness, he doesn’t deserve to have someone carry his child. He is also probably repulsed by pregnant women..... but on the other hand say that a vagina gets "loose" with frequent use. I mean, both are wrong, obviously, but they could at least be consistent in their bad anatomy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 04:18 PM |
| 517 | If a man is this obsessed with slimness, he doesn’t deserve to have someone carry his child. He is also probably repulsed by pregnant women.He literally wants her to make staying thin to be sexy for him a priority over a unique career opportunity (= my peepee is more important than your career and I expect you to make a decision that will negatively impact (or could ruin) the rest of your whole fucking life for my pleasure). That guy is one of the biggest abusive narcissists I have ever seen. She's nothing more than an object to fuck for him. He doesn't even see her as a human being, just a doll that needs to match his crazy criteri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 03:25 PM |
| 172 | First, I laughed. Then, took a screenshot.Ewww. That guy seriously sounds like a stalker. "Those who came into our life and promise never to leave for any reason"?! No thanks, dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 01:30 PM |
| 24 | LVM traits and pick-me behavior in popular romance books. Spoilers.Pretty rare to see something that portrays healthy couples, but romanceand healthy relationships would make for movies that just don't sell soit only works if the romance part is secondary to the main theme. I would love to see more of this SO much. Movies/shows with healthy couples going through whatever the plot is together as a great team until the end with no drama related to their relationship. It's basically non-existant. Even if we see commited, halfway healthy couples there is usually so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 01:15 PM |
| 20 | My mom is playing PickMe games and has plans to move in with her BF very soon and I am not coping well at all. Really struggling with boundaries and how to handle this.I really wish I could give you a hug right right now. I've been where you are and know how hard and painful it is. What has helped me is taking my agency back by defending those boundaries. I am not a child who just has to live with the consequences of the "grown-up's" mess anymore. I am an adult and if I need to put conditions on a relationship to protect myself, I will and I will take the initiative to modify traditions so they fit my terms. I also grieved for our "normal Christmas dinners" an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 10:53 AM |
| 23 | My mom is playing PickMe games and has plans to move in with her BF very soon and I am not coping well at all. Really struggling with boundaries and how to handle this.I basically told her that this is how it would be if she wanted to have a relationship with me, and then actually had to follow through a few times for her to actually take it seriously (e.g. get up and leave immediately when one of her boyfriends made a stupid comment, tell both of them to leave when she showed up with a new boyfriend on her arm unannounced to my birthday celebration, openly tell her "I don't want to hear this" when she starts talking about one of them...). She can visit me at … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 10:19 AM |
| 39 | My mom is playing PickMe games and has plans to move in with her BF very soon and I am not coping well at all. Really struggling with boundaries and how to handle this.Oh, sister, I relate to this so much. I have been and still am in a similar situation with my own mother (which is the reason why I have always been closer to my HV father). I don't want to go into detail here, but I recognize a lot of the behaviours you describe here. All I can say is boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. Your own happniness and comfort comes first. That's not rude or selfish. Yes, your mother is an adult and can decide who she spends her life with, but so can you. Just because y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 10:09 AM |
| 66 | Found one in the wild! "No drama, no kids, no wife, no GF". Then posts 3 of 5 pics with a random woman and his family???🙃🤣🙄I bet if you ask she's his "sister". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 11:10 PM |
| 69 | Sometimes men of all classes just don’t listenThis! I am so tired of all the "but what if he is depressed/bipolar/autistic/whatever?! You're being so ableist!" attempts to excuse shitty behaviour by men. So what if he is? His mental health is his responsibility. No partner should be pressured into putting up with behaviour that hurts them or an unhappy relationship because a man can't control and take responsibility for his own mental health. Hate me, but if he truly cannot control his behaviour because of his mental illness he shouldn't be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 05:08 PM |
| 384 | The kids are gonna be alright! (Scroll for comments)28?! I mean the picture in the post doesn't show a flattering angle and smiling that way makes wrinkles around the eyes more pronounced but that guy is either 38 and lieing or spent his 20s drinking, smoking, partying every night and on drugs to look like that at 28. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 05:00 PM |
| 73 | If he’s late he might be avoiding to pay!This. Unless it is an actual emergency he had no way to influence or anticipate (like a car crash right in front of him on the way there or something) I expect people to be punctual. And yes, I consider "just 5 minutes late" late, especially if I wasn't given a heads-up. Being late is extremely disrespectul and something that drives me up the walls. I would not even consider someone as a partner who regularly runs late or thinks it's no big deal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 04:54 PM |
| 84 | Sometimes I feel like all hope is lost.And yet historical accuracy goes out of the window for them when it comes to showing how actual women's bodies looked during that time: - barely any different beauty standards shown (like bustier, heavier women) - no hairy armpits or legs (rarely any hairy pubic areas) - no yellow or bad teeth - no stretch marks or sagging boobs even if the woman had multiple children - no realistic depiction of ages and aging or marks illnesses or healed injuries left on their bodies - hair and skin is always p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 05:25 PM |
| 165 | I gave my ex a list of things I'm allergic to, he told his mother it's my favourite food. I ended up practically dying on the way to the hospital. He thought I'm lying and just being a picky eater.Not respecting someone's dietary needs and choices is one of my absolute pet peeves and triggers. As someone who cannot eat and drink some pretty common things (like all kinds of red meat and coffee) because they will literally make me physically sick and does not enjoy some other common things (like wine, beer, all seafood and most other kinds of meat) also to the point of getting sick, respecting that without a single question or complaint is one of my main dealbreakers. Allergies and dietary … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 03:57 PM |
| 33 | Do you have any male friends?It is exceptional and needed many factors to come together. I would also say it needed a healthy dose of pragmatism and respect for each other's professional skills (I would have never, ever even thought about starting something like this with a person who is not my equal in every way or I wouldn't trust to pull their weight). We were friends in university but more on an "attended the same classes and parties, had lots of mutual friends and acquaintances and worked well together during group ass… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 03:41 PM |
| 136 | Do you have any male friends?If I really think about it I would call two men my friends (I'll exclude relatives like my late father and my uncle who has been a father figure to me here): my cousin (who is gay and happily married to another man since pretty much forever, so I don't know if he counts). We have very similar interests and personalities and always got along very well. Though, I don't know if friend is the right word here because he plays more of an "older brother" role in my life (I don't have any older siblings… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 11:20 AM |
| 48 | Sometimes I feel like all hope is lost.It plainly shows what we put up with as the "lesser evil" instead of expecting men to control themselves and punishing them if they don't. Because TBH I'd prefer men masturbating in those booths if the only alternative is them masturbating in plain view on the street or at work where someone could walk in on them. While the right answer would obviously be to charge and convict every one of those perverts like the sexual predators they are. Similar drive in booths were installed where I live for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 09:16 AM |
| 51 | [deleted by user]You mean sexualizing characters that look like 10 year old girls in school uniforms with gigantic boobs and cat ears and tails that are totally cute, giggly and naive like little girls all the time? You must see why that's creepy, right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 07:35 AM |
| 80 | Do not let men rationalize/justify/explain sexual harassment because it’s *BiOloGy*If a dog or my cat can learn to control and redirect his impulses and "biological urges" into acceptable actions with the very limited "computational power" their brains have, what does that say about men who try to use "bUt iT's BiOlOGY!1" as an excuse. If even the dumbest dog can learn enough impulse control not to eat a treat in plain view until his owner allows him to and not to pee inside the house (let's not even mention all the much more awesome things smart dogs can learn), men can rise … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 05:40 PM |
| 268 | This is likely the darkest 'joke' in the entire sitcom and this guy is laughing about it happening in real life. Beware the man who laughs when women are in danger rather than report it to the police 🚩🚩🚩The guy laughs last. Because "it was just a misunderstanding, officer", "we were just having consensual rough sex, officer" and "she is just being a hysterical, crazy bitch out to take revenge on me because I broke up with her, officer". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 03:27 PM |
| 197 | This is pick me behavior straight up. Prioritizing your partner is part of the compromise and shows respect.Well, I agree you shouldn't try to control their behaviours after you got into a relationship with them. Because you shouldn't get into a relationship with a guy like that in the first place. Dating someone while knowing he has habits like that and expecting them to change after you get serious is just stupid and never going to work. This is why we block and delete at the first sign of a red flag, incompatibility or low value behaviour, not stick around and try to build up and change a guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 03:25 PM |
| 58 | Men who lie in wait for emotionally vulnerable womenThank you. The terrible thing is that I bet it works a lot of times. I was so exhausted and emotionally raw that I imagine that I could have fallen for the proposition of pretty much any kind of empathy, help and human contact if I hadn't had my own support network of friends and family already in place. If you have to deal with trauma or grief like that all alone it is easy to overlook red flags and cling to whoever offers you any kind of support because you are just so overwhelmed and desperat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 03:19 PM |
| 192 | Men who lie in wait for emotionally vulnerable womenThis is true and really gross. It was horrifying how many people who knew me in school ages ago or that I am only very loosely acquainted with and hadn't talked to for years suddenly reappeared and tried to score with me after they saw that my father had died (!!!) in the paper. They barely got one sentence of generic condolences out before they asked if I was single (under the pretense of having someone taking care of me) and promptly started asking me to come over for "lunch" (aka sex), "dinne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 03:02 PM |
| 17 | Just FYI…if you or a loved one are hospitalized, it is ALWAYS ok to insist on having female-only staff.This so much. If they know in advance they are going to experience mood swings they may not be able to control: How about staying home, limiting contact to other people or always having a trusted person who can and will stop them (by force, if needed) around and protecting THEM instead of expecting the world to take your abuse just because you are ill? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 01:13 PM |
| 53 | BDSM is falsely advertised as a way to heal traumaThis. BDSM is essentially self-harm by proxy. I mean if you were whipping and choking yourself as a reaction to trauma everyone would agree that you desperately need therapy and help. But it's totally healthy and a harmless kink if someone else does it? Really? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 09:53 AM |
| 54 | Just FYI…if you or a loved one are hospitalized, it is ALWAYS ok to insist on having female-only staff.My mom witnessed this when she was waking up post op and heard how disrespectfully the male nurses spoke about and treated the other patients in the room who were still asleep. Like full on making fun about what a "wrinkly husk" the poor, little grandma in the next bed while handling and dressing her. My mom still wonders what these assholes said about her before she was awake. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 09:26 AM |
| 137 | Just FYI…if you or a loved one are hospitalized, it is ALWAYS ok to insist on having female-only staff.What also happens and happened to me repeatedly is pressure to allow medical/nursing students during intimate or "embarrassing" procedures without telling you upfront how many students there will be and what exactly they will be allowed to do. I always refuse after a few uncomfortable encounters and the reaction is almost always annoyed, exasperated or plain rude. Sorry, it's not my job to provide a teaching opportunity for your students if I am not comfortable with it. A few things that happene… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 08:57 AM |
| 63 | The Lennie DefenseDying because of something their partner did to them, just to be clear. Not a heart attack or stroke from the exertion or a freak accident like slipping on the tiles during shower sex and bashing your head in. Unsafe things their female partners did that caused their deaths. I would expect extremely low numbers and most of them being bdsm accidents (accidental strangulation because the ropes weren't placed correctly or something). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 09:34 PM |
| 22 | Your Legal Name is a Commodity- Protect It!What are your thoughts on going by a nickname or your middle name during the first few rounds of dating to protect yourself? I have been thinking about this because my real first name is extremely rare where I live (it literally exists less than 10 times in the whole country), so even if I only give my first name, estimated age and they roughly know where I live, it would be very easy to find a lot of information about me ("It's the first hit on google if you enter my first name and home town"- … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 07:07 PM |
| 116 | Men are now sticking women with needles instead of putting roofies inside their drinks! They’re now recommending we all wear denim jackets to avoid getting needle drugged at clubs and bars.Right. Of course we "shouldn't have to". Just like workers "shouldn't have to" protest for humane working conditions and fair wages. But unless they do, nothing is ever going to change. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 12:58 PM |
| 807 | Dunning-Kruger.That's one of the hardest self burns I've ever seen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 11:32 AM |
| 180 | Men are now sticking women with needles instead of putting roofies inside their drinks! They’re now recommending we all wear denim jackets to avoid getting needle drugged at clubs and bars.I agree so much. Why do they give women tips to protect themselves like that's our problem? Why not ban men from clubs for the time being? Strip search every man who enters? Make the unlicenced possession and sale to people without a licence of such substances a crime with a really high minimum sentence? Why not make even the attempt to "spike" women attempted murder/manslaughter with a 15 year minimum sentence? Yeah right, because that would inconvenience men. Women's lifes are not worth that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 10:41 AM |
| 552 | Men are now sticking women with needles instead of putting roofies inside their drinks! They’re now recommending we all wear denim jackets to avoid getting needle drugged at clubs and bars.I honestly feel like it's time for women to boycott clubs until they find better ways to protect us and the legal system starts punishing crimes like this like an attempted killing (because injecting a stranger with a random substance with a syringe is just all kinds of deadly "accidents" waiting to happen). The only thing that is going to get club owners to react is losing money. If women stop coming, men will stop coming, too, and they can close their establishments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 09:57 AM |
| 413 | I don’t have a car and I live with my mom but if you pick me up and cook for me I’ll send you to rehab (respectfully). Found on a Facebook group I’m in and… wow I’m so glad I’m married.That guy is either high as a kite or just had a stroke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 04:14 PM |
| 34 | The Adorned Woman is AdoredIt basically displays security: "This standard of living is normal for me and I can maintain it without you. I will never settle for less." Not appearing desperate (for a job, a man, a service...) or needy (in a bad way) is key. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 05:28 PM |
| 53 | The Adorned Woman is AdoredAbsolutely. And it doesn't just work around prospective romantic partners. Being dressed well and wearing clothes and jewellery that is high quality and well chosen and maintained (it doesn't have to be flashy! But people notice if your simple jewellery is real or costume or if your simple sweater is polyester or cashmere) gets noticed everywhere. You will be taken more seriously at work, as a customer, even as a patient at the doctor's office. It is important to wear those clothes and items lik… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 05:14 PM |
| 132 | Don’t Panic, Have a PlanIt is also important to know where trustworthy doctors, pharmacies and hospitals in you area are before it is too late. Abortion is legal where I live, but not every doctor and hospital supports or offers it. In an emergency you need to know where you can go. Not bounce from a deeply catholic hospital to a deeply muslim OB/GYN who both refuse to even give you plan B, refuse to refer you to someone, refuse give you advice on where to go for an abortion and shame you for what happened. I'm not jok… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 04:28 PM |
| 101 | How come ladies say you don’t want to be the “ride or die” woman to a man who grew to be successful with you?I have seen this here multiple times. It's basically organized fraud on their part and totally calculated: Man from a poor country meets woman from a rich country (often during a holiday or university exchange) and convinces her he is the love of her life. She finances his complete immigration, marries him so he'll get a visa and basically builds his life in the new country (earning money while he learns the language, finishes his education, finds a good job, often also sends money she earns hom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 11:39 AM |
| 93 | How come ladies say you don’t want to be the “ride or die” woman to a man who grew to be successful with you?Are there really no men who leave their wives or start affairs as soon as they get really successful or rich in other cultures? I'd highly doubt that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 08:32 AM |
| 208 | How come ladies say you don’t want to be the “ride or die” woman to a man who grew to be successful with you?Because usually in his mind you didn't "make it together". He made it alone and he will replace you as soon as you have outlived your usefulness and replace you with a younger model. And if you have basically given up your whole life for him (including your career), you are left with nothing, while he rides into the sunset. Not a risk I am willing to take. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 08:05 AM |
| 137 | Beware of men who engage in avoidance, intimidation, infantilisation, or emotionally abusive manipulations when you bring up a concern. The very moment he displays any of the following (& more), DROP him! Do not let men damage your health.This. It's the same with "men get raped, too". Yes, they do, and yes, that's terrible. But a) the rapists are other men in the absolute majority of cases, not women b) nothing stops you from supporting men who have been raped but your own toxic ideas of masculinity Just imagine a gay man walks into a police station and tells them his boyfriend is physically and sexually abusing him. I'd bet anything that his chance of being taken seriously and actually getting the guy convicted is even worse tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 06:59 PM |
| 354 | Beware of men who engage in avoidance, intimidation, infantilisation, or emotionally abusive manipulations when you bring up a concern. The very moment he displays any of the following (& more), DROP him! Do not let men damage your health.A long time ex once tried this with me. We were having a fight about something and I turned around and started walking away a few steps when he suddenly grabs my waist from behind and tries to hold and tickle me for whatever fucked up reason. I was so startled in that moment I kind of lashed out with my arm and hit him in the nose. It (unfortunately) wasn't broken, but bleeding and he had the audacity to be mad at me. "Are you crazy? I just wanted to cheer you up! I didn't mean to scare you!" We… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 06:22 PM |
| 105 | For the men who complain about dead bedrooms, how does it feel to be the architect of you own misery?It's amazing what we could do for humanity if all women stopped procreating with men who have dangerous or undesirable traits that are inheritable. I know, I know, not politcally correct. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 02:45 PM |
| 200 | For the men who complain about dead bedrooms, how does it feel to be the architect of you own misery?It’s the case 99% of the time that the woman has just given birth, is taking care of everything while going to work, is dealing with a man child, etc., but these men would rather wallow in their self pity and get internet points than change to make their wives desire them. Or that the man plainly doesn't wash his ass. Basic hygiene is optional for a lot of them and washing your buttcrack is "gay". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 02:17 PM |
| 947 | For the men who complain about dead bedrooms, how does it feel to be the architect of you own misery?Men: "Women should date and marry men they are not attracted to! Inner values! Don't be superficial!" Women -> don't feel enthusiastic about sleeping with men they are not attracted to Men: surprisedPikachuface "I have no idea what went wrong here! Why doesn't she want to perform like a porn star for me!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 02:00 PM |
| 165 | "Let's see where things go..."This. If he truly wanted you, he would put in effort to "get you", not wait and see how things go. If he even proposes this, he has either not yet decided if he wants you (which means he doesn't want you enough) or already has decided he doesn't but is stringing you along for convenience. Nothing good can come from this. A man who has already put you in the "meh"-zone but keeps you around to fuck will not suddenly decide you are his dream girl after all. Never going to happen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 12:19 PM |
| 120 | When pickmes parrot LVM propagandaI never really understood this. I mean.... if you get into a relationship first and notice you are absolutely not sexually compatible for whatever reason after you have sex for the first time a few months in (which is usually because you ignored a lot of things that would have hinted at this so far) you can still break up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 11:59 AM |
| 81 | Low effort flirting and low effort dates I have been shutting down all weekI have to admit I am wary about men who frequently have time for last minute plans. I'd worry that they don't have their own hobbies and social life independently of a partnership and would expect me to be their sole source of entertainment. Or even that they are actually unemployed or work way less than they say and are lieing about their situation. Being able to spontaneously go out late every evening during the week means you either don't have work in the morning or are constantly arriving th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 09:05 AM |
| 332 | Low effort flirting and low effort dates I have been shutting down all weekI think it's really rude to only offer last minute plans that inconvenience you. Do they seriously expect me to drop everything I had actually planned for that day to drive an hour for coffee(!!!) with a random guy? Seriously? I have a job and chores and a social life and stuff to do. The chance that I am magically free that spontaneously and in the mood to actually do something is really, really small. I'm not a Uber or delivery service waiting for customers that you can spontaneously call if y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 08:51 AM |
| 52 | Dog bites man because girl is screaming during sex and his reaction makes him a “keeper”?Well, the dog can actually bite his balls off if it wants to, while the girl can be manipulated and overpowered. Shame it only mauled his arm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 09:53 PM |
| 245 | Dog bites man because girl is screaming during sex and his reaction makes him a “keeper”?Yeah, a man who takes an obviously drunk woman (and thus unable to give informed consent) to her home and has sex that is so violent with her that her dog wakes up and feels the need to intervene to protect her. Dream guy. Not at all dangerous or abusive. Certainly not a rapist or serial killer in the making. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 06:49 PM |
| 108 | Dog bites man because girl is screaming during sex and his reaction makes him a “keeper”?One of the not so rare events when the dog is actually smarter and better at judging someone's character than its owner. Animals are smart. If your pet acts sketchy around someone without an obvious reason (like smelling of dog when you have a cat or something) they are sensing something off about them. Trust their judgement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 06:40 PM |
| 348 | Dog bites man because girl is screaming during sex and his reaction makes him a “keeper”?Alternative headline: Heroic dog recognizes unsafe sex and abusive relationship before his owner does, does his best to protect her from her own bad decisions, gets ignored anyway sad dog face. Am I the only one who worries that the boyfriend will use this incident to threaten her as soon as the relationship goes south? aka "If you don't do what I say/leave me I will tell the authorities that your dog attacked me and it will be put down". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 06:27 PM |
| 157 | This is too funny 🙄What they don't tell you is how fucking lazy a lot of those "hard working men" truly are. What, you have the privilege to come home, take a hot bath and go to sleep after work? Go thank your wife for being able to. When single me comes home from a shift that is just as long and hard as yours I still need to do my grocery shopping, cook my own dinner and clean up afterwards, run a load of laundry so I have clean clothes for the rest of the week, do other chores, run errands and schedule appointme… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 05:55 PM |
| 93 | yes. yes I am here because of the Hair Towel :D - share you're favourite LVM stories if they fit the rules of my post, as told in the main body.Yep. It's the same aas ruining a load of laundry on purpose so she'll never ask him to do laundry again. "But I only tried to help! You have no right to be mad (that I ruined clothes you loved and that cost a lot of money)? I didn't do it on purpose!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:38 PM |
| 49 | Neither woman wants you, dude, because your post history is you looking for a woman who’s into golden showers and “water sports?”. This is why we shouldn’t be friendly with men. Friend or lover, they just want to use you for emotional support instead of going to therapy. Vet everyone.But after reading FDS for some time, I can see that no decent man would develop such fetishes, because all of these desires come from porn. Which of course isn't exactly known for treating women well, as we know. I agree with this. I also find it glaring that when you ask the average woman for a sex related fantasy you will most likely hear something along the lines of "Having sex with a gorgeous man who loves and adores only me on a furry rug in front of a cozy fireplace" or "Having passionate … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 02:53 PM |
| 11 | Presented without comment😰You're right. I probably assumed it wrong because I just can't imagine why you would adopt a boyfriend's children. I don't even think that's legally possible where I am. And they are also building a house together while not being married? I mean... is she now doubly screwed and on the hook for child support for two of his children, while getting no alimony or anything from him and having no right to the house they are building together because they are not married? That's outrageous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 02:19 PM |
| 35 | Presented without comment😰She needs to take that baby, move in with a friend or relative and file for divorce immediately. consult a lawyer regarding the adoption, her rights to the house and alimony immediately. What most likely will happen is that she stays and keeps doing all of the chores and childcare like before, while he bangs another woman and comes home to a home cooked meal from her afterwards. EDIT: I assumed they were married. If not, her situation is so. much. worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 02:13 PM |
| 71 | Neither woman wants you, dude, because your post history is you looking for a woman who’s into golden showers and “water sports?”. This is why we shouldn’t be friendly with men. Friend or lover, they just want to use you for emotional support instead of going to therapy. Vet everyone.It's a humiliation fetish, plain and simple. They either get of on the humiliation of getting peed on or on humiliating a woman by peeing on her. If it was the feeling itself, you could just pour warm water on them. That's not the point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 02:08 PM |
| 70 | Neither woman wants you, dude, because your post history is you looking for a woman who’s into golden showers and “water sports?”. This is why we shouldn’t be friendly with men. Friend or lover, they just want to use you for emotional support instead of going to therapy. Vet everyone.Because they are not the ones who have to clean that shit up afterwards. Just guessing, but I bet they are not the ones who have to strip and clean/wash all the pee soaked things (clothes, bed sheets, other textiles likes carpets, cleaning pee splatter from everything around the "crime scene", getting rid of the odor...) after the act... It's unhygienic and gross. There are reasons why even animals don't piss all over their homes and sleeping places. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 01:54 PM |
| 66 | Neither woman wants you, dude, because your post history is you looking for a woman who’s into golden showers and “water sports?”. This is why we shouldn’t be friendly with men. Friend or lover, they just want to use you for emotional support instead of going to therapy. Vet everyone.I'm half hoping he confesses his feelings and makes a scene at work that gets him fired, while she rides off into the sunset to a better job with better colleagues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 01:50 PM |
| 301 | I think she's serious 😂Does anyone else notice how his whole body is angled away from her and it looks like he only turns a little because she is holding his hand? Like his first impulse was to turn/walk away? While she is angled completely towards him, open and focussed on him? Body language, people. Very telling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 12:10 PM |
| 65 | Don't Make My Mistake: Giving Men You Were Friends with the "benefit of the doubt" and not doing the necessary vettingDon't clown yourself like i did friends. Vet harshly as you would if you met him online. Not just "as harshly", more harshly. A man who has known you for an extended amount of time should know and be able to read you much, much better than someone you have just met. Little details or misunderstandings you might be able to excuse with a stranger can be huge red flags when they come from someone who should absolutely know better. Examples: A man brings you a gorgeous bouquet at your first date, bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 06:36 PM |
| 327 | Negging her when she was SICK + embarrassing her in front of friends. At least* commenters got it rightThat's just vile. I felt physically sick with embarrassment for her reading this because OMG how can he do this to her. This is so, so mean. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 06:42 PM |
| 132 | Imagine trying to pick up women by negging about living in a van down by the river. Yikes!He also completely ignores how extremely more dangerous it is for a woman to be homeless. Sure he might get mugged or beaten up if he is unlucky. She might get mugged, beaten up, raped and sex trafficed the moment some evil guy catches her anywhere alone. I mean that dude lives in a small car, not even a camper. She would have to go outside alone at night to pee. They would need bottled water and rags or wet wipes to wash if there are no shower facilites nearby. Does he have any idea how messy p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 06:38 PM |
| 299 | Imagine trying to pick up women by negging about living in a van down by the river. Yikes!It's not a question of "can", dude, it's a question of "want to". Could I survive like this in an emergency? Sure. Would I give up my whole life (job, home (with all the comforts that provides), pets, most hobbies, my own car, most aspects of safety and security being sedentary provides (like law enforcement, healthcare...) ...) to be trapped with a homeless, unemployed dude with illusions of grandeur and moral superiority and sleeping in the back of his shitty car, peeing and pooping in the bus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 06:11 PM |
| 211 | The main character is catfished by some ugly guy but she eventually falls in love with his “personality”. Safe to say this is my least favourite film everI don't even find him that ugly. He has a bad haircut and wears dorky glasses. That's it. Style that guy differently and he could absolutely be the "hot" character, too. It's a common trope: Put a good looking actor in a costume with a little extra padding or that fits badly, give them a bad haircut and make up and put some ugly glasses on... there's your "ugly" character. I think this totally messes with the minds and self esteem of kids and teens who see it. If even that good looking actor w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 05:36 PM |
| 59 | DAE Hate Shonda Rimes Written RomancesI feel you. There is one scene in Scandal that is always cited as a totally hot sex scene and I find it so uncomfortable and rapey (Olivia and Fitz in the server room, youtube has it if someone is curious). TBH, I always rooted for Mellie because Fitz and Olivia were both toxic and horrible people. Ultimately Olivia did as much fucked up stuff for power and hurt and killed just as many people as the "baddies", but is still treated like a hero and saint who can do no wrong right until the end. I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 01:27 PM |
| 436 | Just found this and I am so shocked! Nobody can tell me that this isn’t some form of abuseWhere I am from, cutting off someone's hair without their permission legally counts as bodily harm. Exceptions for medical emergencies exist of course. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 07:01 PM |
| 108 | Reminder: Time is precious.Also, men should know that they too have a “peak desirability” and that it is 18-35 max- if they take care of themselves. I see too many men that are 25 but look 40. For women, if you take good care of yourself men don’t care about your age if they are attracted to you. 🤣. This so much. I went to our 10 year high school reunion a while ago and it was shocking how badly most of the men had aged even from age 17-19 to 27-29. Most of the women looked the same except for new haircuts and colors, but… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 03:52 PM |
| 717 | OP is ignored by her boyfriend at a friend's birthday party because he was busy speaking to another woman all day. Comments told her to just talk to him. Proceeds to make a bunch of excuses for him as well.If this was just harmless catching up with a high school friend he would have introduced his girlfriend to her and included her in the conversation for the whole evening. This is shady and rude. You don't just abandon a person you came to the party with and let them sit alone in the corner. Doesn't matter if it is a partner or just a friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 03:47 PM |
| 53 | Imagine celebrating men for doing the bare minimum!I never really got the "safeword" thing, either. Why do you need a different word than "stop" or "no" or ... you know ... not looking like I'm into it for a man to stop? It's mainly about the gratification a man gets when he can keep fucking you despite you looking uncomfortable or saying "no" or "stop" because afterwards he can say "but she didn't use our safeword!" and pat himself on the back for being so woke. When in reality this just allowed him to act out his rape fantasy in peace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 05:18 PM |
| 39 | Men’s Rights and TeachingWhat he wants is a reaction and to provoke. Any reaction is a victory to him. Don't reward his behaviour with attention. Your best move is to ignore it and move on without a comment. "Aha, now back to the topic at hand..." He'll either get angry (in which case you can throw him out of your class) or bored at some point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 02:39 PM |
| 39 | Men’s Rights and TeachingIf you think that a short conversation with his female language teacher is going to fundamentally change the mind of a man who has internalised these thoughts and even had the audacity to cry about them in class, you are being quite naive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 02:35 PM |
| 75 | Men’s Rights and TeachingHell, no. It's not her or any woman's job to educate "confused" men. They are not "confused". They know exactly what they are doing and saying. They are misogynists. We need to stop babying them or making up excuses for them. What she can do is not give him an audience or space to spew his bullshit. That only makes him feel validated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 02:23 PM |
| 67 | No, a woman from a 3rd world country will not put up with your stink! (An anecdote)I feel like at this point if a man is dirty, it's a lack of respect for his gf/wife. I would extend that to "a lack of respect for the rest of humanity". Not just their gf/wife smells them. What about their family, friends, colleagues, people on the bus/train, in the supermarket, doctors and nurses, hairdressers etc. etc.? It's not fun for any of them to near someone who reeks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 01:34 PM |
| 54 | Do you think most of us were very naive when we were younger?Why do you want to find a balance between Pick me and FDS strategy? Which aspects exactly do you think need "balancing"? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 01:14 PM |
| 24 | Cautionary TaleHe had 43 adult years (18 to 61) to get his shit together so far. If he hasn't done it by now, he simply won't. I feel more sorry for his poor mother who has to live with that disappointment of a son who needs to exploit the kindness of OP to take care of his own mother. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 01:03 PM |
| 88 | No, a woman from a 3rd world country will not put up with your stink! (An anecdote)And they make all kinds of bullshit excuses not to keep clean, too. Suddenly it's "Washing/brushing every day is so bad for you skin/hair/teeth! I only do this for health reasons! People need to get used to normal human body odors again!" (no we don't). While scrubbing yourself with sharp soap and scalding water every day may indeed be bad for you skin, staying filthy instead is definitely not what those dermatologists meant, Kyle. Even if you don't have time or an opportunity to shower every mo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 12:58 PM |
| 323 | No, a woman from a 3rd world country will not put up with your stink! (An anecdote)It infuriates me every time that simple things girls and women are expected to do from childhood on (be hygienic, wear clean, fitting, matching, flattering clothes, have a flattering haircut or styling their hair in a flattering way, groom your body hair, work out/try different products to work on "flaws", wear make-up to cover "flaws" they can't get rid of etc. etc.) are treated like unrealistic, unnecessary rocket science by grown men. This is basic stuff even pre-teen girls are expected and g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 10:58 AM |
| 145 | Is this a red flag?This. Not offering to clean up is already a red flag, but not even joining in once OP offered to help and watching her and his sister clean while doing nothing is a glaring red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 09:10 AM |
| 53 | Don’t be a live in maid for a guy and his roommatesI believe in being a good guest and doing normal guest things like putting my (!) dirty plate in the dishwasher, throwing my trash in the right bin and helping (!) to clean up a mess I caused or we caused together if necessary. But nothing beyond that. I will not do someone else's chores and I will not clean up after someone in their home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 07:23 PM |
| 54 | A warning against having children with NVM. Can’t even join a pregnancy sub without seeing this shit. Oh but it’s okay because she can work on her “insecurities” and of course ComMunICaTe! 🙄When those scenes happen in a movie or series it's the woman's gay best friend taking her out 9 times out of 10. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 05:34 PM |
| 77 | New to me LVM tacticI dared to say that maybe they shouldn't date until they have their own finances figured out once and trying to bring a partner into a desperate situation like that was an unfair and purely selfish move.... You can't imagine the downvotes and messages I got from fragile, triggered men who think they are entitled to girlfriend (aka free bangmaid) even if they live in their cars. Because not being superficial and greedy, inner values and loving him for himself and all that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 04:09 PM |
| 111 | New to me LVM tacticSome men are just stingy AF. If you look at other subs about frugality or saving money you see posts like "I want to date but spend zero money. Women are all golddiggers, poor me! I'm being discriminated against for being poor/frugal!" and "How weird would it be if I took my date to a restaurant but told her we can only have free tap water and one entree to share and nothing else?" or "Can you imagine? I took a woman out on a date and she actually dared to order an appetizer as well as an entree… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 03:11 PM |
| 60 | New to me LVM tacticMaybe he was hoping she'd just have a cheap salad and got scared how high the bill would be if she actually ate steak XD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 03:04 PM |
| 161 | New to me LVM tacticThis. I find this so embarrassing. It's like he is trying to make you feel guilty because taking you out hurts him SO MUCH financially. I want to enjoy myself on a date, not feel embarrassed or guilty for ordering more than an appetizer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 02:35 PM |
| 232 | New to me LVM tacticHaha, a guy did that to me once... during one single date. He asked me out and paid for dinner at a low-mid range restaurant (we were students on a tight budget, so that was okay. The final bill was less than 50 bucks.) and then we walked along the pier and he suggested to go a really fancy bar with a nice view there and get a few drinks and watch the sunset. He ordered several expensive drinks, I ordered much less because I didn't want to get drunk and when the bill for more than 100 bucks came… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 02:33 PM |
| 6 | The described woman seems to be awful, but can we notice that he doesn’t like her YET he still hopes to have sex with her?she didn’t know what korean bbq was. I personally wouldn’t want to cookmy own food like that on a first date and he should have taken thatresponsibility anyway since he suggested the place. I also wonder how that happened. Didn't he tell her where they were going before? I mean "I want to invite you to Korean BBQ place X." - "Oh, I've never had Korean BBQ. What's that like?" seems the normal way this would go. Apart from that, all my old-timey etiquette books say that it is the gentleman's job t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 02:12 PM |
| 88 | The described woman seems to be awful, but can we notice that he doesn’t like her YET he still hopes to have sex with her?Proof 10001 that men have no self respect, zero standards and will fuck literally anything given the chance: even a rude racist, they absolutely do not like, despite being POC themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 11:59 AM |
| 81 | Men don’t have sexual needsLouder for the people in the back! No, you don't need sex. You won't die or experience physical harm if you never have sex again. It is absolutely and 100% a WANT, not a need. Men have been using the whole "Men need sex" and "Blue balls" shit for millennia to coerce and manipulate women but it is plain lie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 11:51 AM |
| 486 | New to me LVM tacticMy first thought was that when you said you love steak he was worried that you would expect him to take you there and pay (stingy scrote alert), so he shit talked it and would have proabably proposed a cheap date as an alternative. Or he is a regular there or a relative owns it/works there and he also comes there with other women and he's afraid of getting caught cheating or you finding out that he was just there yesterday with another woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 11:34 AM |
| 339 | Exposure to pornography in childhood can lead to the worst of porn addiction. I don’t think this is happening on accident, either.I feel like a grandma today when I remember that when we were around 10 or 11 some boys in my class got really giddy because one of them had secretely procured pictures of "ladies". The "pictures" in question? Cutouts from some department store catalogue his mom had thrown away that showed models in bikinis and underwear. That was the 90s by the way. Today they have gigabytes of torture porn available on their phone at the press of a button. It's horrible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 10:15 PM |
| 25 | How come if two people get into a physical fight, one or both parties catches assault charges? Yet, if a woman gets beaten up by a dom, it’s cOnSeNT?This. Consent is not the issue here to me because - in my opinion - none of the women being abused there were actually in a position where they could safely give informed consent or withdraw it again. Therefore the "But she consented"-point is entirely void. What was her consent? Saying yes to trying the pink, fluffy toy handcuffs and blindfold once for a giggly sex session when she was 18? Did she truly consent to all that followed once she had opened that box that ultimately led her to being h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 06:35 PM |
| 60 | How come if two people get into a physical fight, one or both parties catches assault charges? Yet, if a woman gets beaten up by a dom, it’s cOnSeNT?"Consensual" violence in a boxing match or other martial arts also doesn't get prosecuted, even if one of the athletes gets injured. Just as an example. I think we need to work on the fact that many women who engage in BDSM practices did in fact NOT give informed consent and were manipulated, pressured, coerced etc. into giving consent or were not in a position to give consent in the first place (because they were too young, intoxicated, had mental health issues that prevented them from being ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 06:19 PM |
| 405 | Is This A Case of Too Good to Be True?Number 1 would easily be enough for me to call it off. Trying to justify angry and abusive behaviour is a no-go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 05:11 PM |
| 455 | Guy got fired because he refused to get vaccinated.Block and delete. What else? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 05:03 PM |
| 72 | Tropes I’m tired ofI'd like to add: - Everyone needs to be paired up by the end of the movie/series (ideally in a heterosexual relationship with a baby on the way) even if it makes no sense for their character and you literally have to pull a random new character that person would never feel attracted to out of your hat in the last 30 seconds. Because no woman is complete without a man and every man deserves a hot woman as a prize at the end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:44 PM |
| 119 | Tropes I’m tired of"Powerful" women who (a) use magic, or (b) have tiny non-muscular arms and wispy builds but the martial skills to take down armed, trained, dangerous teams of men twice their size despite not being armed or wearing body armor (which, really, is also magic if you think about it). They are also never dirty or injured in an "ugly" way and always perfectly groomed, styled and hairless even if they are in the middle of the desert during a zombie apocalypse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:42 PM |
| 329 | Studies have shown that men (moreso than women) will leave a relationship / marriage when their partner gets sick. Not to mention the high rate that they abandon their family/parental responsibilities. This is why it's so important to not settle for LVM!The sad truth is that a woman's friends and female relatives are more likely to be counted on to support her in a situation like this than her spouse/partner. Even if it is the husband who gets sick. Let's just imagine a couple named John and Jane with two kids. Let's say one of them gets sick and the other has to care for them and the kids. You can basically count the minutes until female relatives and Jane's friends and female neighbors show up with a casserole and offer help, like watching th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:39 PM |
| 36 | PSA Holiday Gifts that both of you use does not count as a gift!XD That's kind of hilarious, sorry! Definitely not the right gift for a girlfriend (especially not in front of people). Truly shitty, in fact. (And as another well...not exactly proud... owner I can confirm: If does work and I am never going to part with it). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:32 PM |
| 171 | PSA Holiday Gifts that both of you use does not count as a gift!Me, too, really. He was an absolute NVM. Of course there were red flags before, but she had always tried to "give him a chance", "communicate" and all that stuff blasted all over other "feminist" spaces. I'm almost glad he had the audacity to do that because it finally caused her to see that guy for what he truly is. And please don't give me "I'm a man! I'm bad at gifts!". My HV dad was a man. He was the best gift giver ever and I could never figure out why. But when I asked him as an adult he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 03:24 PM |
| 370 | PSA Holiday Gifts that both of you use does not count as a gift!Cosmetics, clothes, spa treatment is a gift to you. With the exception of lingerie, other "outfits" and gifts (like sex toys and the like) that cater to fullfilling his fetish or fantasy. That is not a gift to you at all. It's a huge gift to him if you choose to wear/use it. And it's frankly really inappropriate and disrespectful to present you with items like this without discussing upfront if you even like and are open to wearing/using something like this. A friend of mine once got a "beginner… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 03:09 PM |
| 56 | Guys love it when they have an excuse to hit a woman.I think you are right and this is also the reason many men are jealous of or act aggressive around their girlfriend's pets. The affection they show for their pets makes the men think the pet is above them in the hierarchy (aka girlfriend->pet->boyfriend) and they just can't live with that and try to compete with the perceived rival. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 02:13 PM |
| 108 | Guys love it when they have an excuse to hit a woman.In my experience those guys often reveal their true nature if their pet stops "functioning" the way they want, for example seems to like another person more than them, develops behavioral issues, gets sick and needs care etc. They also often seem to prefer dogs or other animals (birds, reptiles etc.) and animals they can show off with to cats and see cats as "deceitful", "ungrateful" or "assholes". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 01:47 PM |
| 61 | Guys love it when they have an excuse to hit a woman.THIS. Do not entertain any disrespectful talk about or behaviour towards your pets. Block and delete the first time it happens. It will 100% escalate. Things I have experienced on dates that caused me to block and delete immediately: - a guy, who had been very kind, fun and respectful so far, getting huffy and saying "It's just a cat" when I said I couldn't stay any later because I needed to be home at a certain time to give my cat medication his life depends on - one guy joking to "just forget … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 01:09 PM |
| 339 | Guys love it when they have an excuse to hit a woman.Cruelty to and not having empathy for animals is my number one red flag. If someone (not just men) jokes about or makes light of it in even the slightest way I cut them from my life with no turning back. Cruelty to animals is one of the number one signs psychopaths and later serial killers already display in their childhood (arson is another). If someone tells you they abused animals on purpose as a child: Run. Run as fast and as far as your feet carry you and break off all contact. You don't ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 11:46 AM |
| 6 | Lets talk about COWARD MenFor me it's about having the right reflex. Telling, if his reflex is "hide behind my girlfriend" or "Step in front of her/act protective" in a situation that is perceived as dangerous. A sudden jump scare in a haunted house serves for that. Does he jump behind me? Does he push me between himself and the danger (not joking, a scrote did that with me once)? Does he step in front of me or try to push me behind his back? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 08:40 AM |
| 30 | NEVER reveal your belief system/values/morals to a man in the early stages of courtship.I usually go with a version of a slightly dramatic "How is that even a question?!" like the answer is really obvious and he is ridiculous for asking and it surely wasn'ta serious question. He can guess what my "obvious " answer would be then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 07:14 PM |
| 184 | Men Have No Friends and Women Bear the BurdenThis is the core of so many issues men tend to complain about and blame women or "society" (aka anyone but themselves) for. "I don't know how to talk to/approach women!" "I don't know how to talk about my feelings" "I don't know how to communicate in a relationship!" - Honestly, as soon as it's not about sports, games or tits, you also don't know how to talk to men. How many actually deep, vulnerable and meaningful conversations have you ever had with your Bros? "Men's mental health is disre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 06:08 PM |
| 52 | Acrobatic sex from his poor wife still isn’t good enough for this hypocritical idiot! (Reposting)At least a vibrator gives her guaranteed orgasms and doesn't bother her after sex. Sounds 1000% better than that sorry excuse for a husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 04:59 PM |
| 89 | Acrobatic sex from his poor wife still isn’t good enough for this hypocritical idiot! (Reposting)"Give me sex or I will ruin your life" is not threat, it's friendly advice! Don't you know that? /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 04:53 PM |
| 158 | Acrobatic sex from his poor wife still isn’t good enough for this hypocritical idiot! (Reposting)And if every single romantic gesture is linked to expecting sex afterwards, it's not romantic anymore. It's basically trying to bribe her to spread her legs with a cheap flower bouquet. You can't even enjoy a nice gesture anymore because it's never "just because" or to make her happy with nothing expected in return, you basically take the flowers and start dreading the moment he wants his "payment" for them. Moment ruined, day ruined. I will also never understand how his high libido is his wife'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 04:14 PM |
| 186 | As if objectification suddenly becomes fine if you're paying for itI don't know who that streamer is or what she does, but on a more general note: I think it just makes them angry that some women aren't willing to sell their dignity or "consent" in exchange for money which means it's something they simply can't have. I complained in another sub about getting so many disgusting messages by fetishists when I tried to sell a pair of children's (!!! It was clearly, clearly visible!) shoes online and asked if anyone knew about a way to report those people to the p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 03:52 PM |
| 56 | Do not date men who are “separated”.Married is married, doesn't matter if you are separated or not. Staying married is just keeping your options open just in case you don't find anything "better" than your current spouse and keeping her around as a maid and babysitter and occasional sex object for convenience and that's just gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 06:36 PM |
| 134 | If he wanted to, he would... another postLow effort dates are also a sign that they are not looking for something long-term or serious and are just trying to meet as many people as possible with the least possible effort and investment hoping that one of them will be stupid enough to give them sex. I mean if you were really looking for a possible partner for life you'd invest a little more time and effort than a 20-minute coffee date to get to know that person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 06:33 PM |
| 41 | Be careful around maintenance men if you live alone. If possible, have a male relative with you when you need something installed/repaired. I’ve heard some ladies say to have used men’s shoes just in case they try something u could say ur husband will be back soon. Imagine if she was alone with him😳I wonder what "the strangest thing" is... coming home to see the internet guy raping his wife and then going to make him a sandwich for his troubles? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 06:20 PM |
| 24 | Developing dating/marriage strategy for non-western womenI'm aware that my friend is probably an exception and many (or even most?) women don't have her luck (to even have a choice and that one of the options was an actually decent man) and and kind of arranging themselves and trying to make the best out of an impossible situation is the best they can hope for. I'm not advocating for arranged marriages. I just thought I'd share the pragmatic vetting strategies she told me she had used because I was curious if you'd think they are something that can be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 05:55 PM |
| 132 | Be careful around maintenance men if you live alone. If possible, have a male relative with you when you need something installed/repaired. I’ve heard some ladies say to have used men’s shoes just in case they try something u could say ur husband will be back soon. Imagine if she was alone with him😳This is a really good tip. I have an elderly neighbor who takes this to the next level. She is a sweet elderly woman and looks like the perfect victim (and knows that), but she owns a large, completely harmless dog. The thing is barely anyone knows that he is completely harmless: - She has a huge "Beware of the dog" sign next to her door, and has purposefully never trained him not to bark at the door, so he gets really loud and rowdy every time someone knocks (he is well trained in general and s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 05:40 PM |
| 121 | Developing dating/marriage strategy for non-western womenI hope it okay that I answer here despite being a western woman, but your (very important) post reminded me of the story of a close friend of mine, who comes from a predominantly muslim country,and lives and works in western Europe now. Please tell me if it is inappropriate and I'll delete my post immediately. We met through work and she was already married and had two kids then. Her husband seemed like a very nice guy who clearly adored his children and he and my friend seemed to be a really go… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 05:29 PM |
| 157 | Be careful around maintenance men if you live alone. If possible, have a male relative with you when you need something installed/repaired. I’ve heard some ladies say to have used men’s shoes just in case they try something u could say ur husband will be back soon. Imagine if she was alone with him😳He would 100% beaten that guy into a pulp if he had caught him sniffing his (the husband's) underwear instead of his wife's. Because "ewww gay". Homophobia and your own fragile masculinity is far more important than protecting your wife from creeps to them... If the panty-sniffer was one of his bros telling that story, he'd probably high five him for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 01:19 PM |
| 291 | Be careful around maintenance men if you live alone. If possible, have a male relative with you when you need something installed/repaired. I’ve heard some ladies say to have used men’s shoes just in case they try something u could say ur husband will be back soon. Imagine if she was alone with him😳"Can I serve you coffee and a snack while you are sexually harassing my wife, good Sir? No need to stop on my account. Take your time. " The level of depravity here is unreal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 01:08 PM |
| 557 | Be careful around maintenance men if you live alone. If possible, have a male relative with you when you need something installed/repaired. I’ve heard some ladies say to have used men’s shoes just in case they try something u could say ur husband will be back soon. Imagine if she was alone with him😳And instead of kicking his ass, kicking him out and reporting that guy and making sure he loses his job, he shares that "funny" story on the internet so he can have a laugh with his bros and gather karma. A real hero that guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 01:01 PM |
| 22 | Everyone is losing their minds at what a perfect man she has found and all I can think is how he made HER drive them to the date in HIS city. Do not EVER go to a man even if he pays for it. If he really wanted to see you he’d come to youAlso think about all the emergencies and things that can happen to you or your kids, where he may need to drive. Urgently needing to pick you or your kids up somewhere because the public transport system is down and walking home is unsafe. Late night ER visits. Picking up the slack if you ever get hurt/sick and cannot drive for a while. Not having a license also severely limits his job options if it ever comes to that, because he cannot drive company vehicles on site or rental cars on a business… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 02:48 PM |
| 2 | Why Is It Still Taboo for Women to Believe They’re Too Good for Certain ThingsPlenty have taken steps to advance themselves and they are blocked by OTHER women in middle management and HR And that's the point when you start looking for a new job. Honestly. Men do this all the time. It's like number one of most lists of career advancement tips. It needs to be normalized among women, too. If I had just nodded and walked back to my desk for the next 30 years whenever someone in HR said no to something I wanted, I'd be nowhere. It's about knowing your worth and not falling pr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 12:45 PM |
| 1 | Why Is It Still Taboo for Women to Believe They’re Too Good for Certain ThingsThe hard truth is that a man would most likely not work in the same position for 30 years and wait until someone hands him a promotion or pay raise. They would negotiate a higher pay, gain certificates that qualify them for a better job, ask for a promotion or ultimately change their employer and women need to do the same. The problem is that women have always been told and have internalized not to do that because it is rude, bitchy, entitled, they should be grateful for what they have etc. etc.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 12:27 PM |
| 8 | Why Is It Still Taboo for Women to Believe They’re Too Good for Certain ThingsI think there is an important difference between knowing your worth, being ambitious and wanting more in life than to settle for the crap the majority of our mothers and grandmothers accepted because they didn't have a choice (which is what most women mean with "I'm too good for that") and feeling "too good" for things that are literally a known part of your job description (which is what most men mean with "I'm too good for that"). A few examples: - Men feeing "too good" for basic household and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 12:03 PM |
| 134 | Everyone is losing their minds at what a perfect man she has found and all I can think is how he made HER drive them to the date in HIS city. Do not EVER go to a man even if he pays for it. If he really wanted to see you he’d come to youOh, honey... you're not dating that guy, you're his on-call free bangchauffeur. Let's just imagine it: He's feeling like sex, so he calls her to come over, she drives over (naturally on her own dime), while he didn't even move his butt from the couch. He fucks her until he comes, her orgasm is optional to very unlikely. If he's feeling fancy, they order takeout afterwards (and naturally go 50/50), after which she cleans up and washes the plates, because... being a good guest, y'know? Scrote stil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 11:17 AM |
| 40 | Sugarbabies and the trope of "modern dating through female empowerment!"Use the real word, not the cutesy term that makes it sound like harmless fun. It's prostitution. You're not "babies", you are prostitutes. And they are not "daddies", they are customers, who rent your body for their pleasure and pay in money or other material goods for it. I hate the growing trend of glorifying this and think it is a really dangerous thing to market to girls and young women. Sure, "sugarbaby" sounds so much cuter than "prostitute", but it's the same damn thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 08:39 PM |
| 94 | Professor's controversial interview defending 'minor-attracted persons' prompts statement from schoolAgreed. And I will never understand why people bring up the "we need to accept it as a sexual orientation" argument when it comes to people with thoughts like that seeking treatment (which I fully support) because they don't want to become perpetrators. I sure as hell support that people with murder or rape fantasies seek and have access to therapy before they actually murder someone. Doesn't mean that "wants to rape" or "wants to murder" is a sexual orientation in any way or needs to be called … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 08:15 PM |
| 2 | I've seen way too many posts on reddit about men not washing their assesIt's insane how many men smell like literal shit. I mean feces-shit, not metaphorically shit. It's become so apparent to me now that I have to take public transport to get to work again after the long work-from-home time. At least 70% percent of the men in there on my way to work definitely did not shower in the morning. And at least half don't even see the need to try and cover their smell with deodorant, aftershave or clean smelling clothes. And I am not talking about junkies or homeless peopl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 07:08 PM |
| 24 | Stop making excuses for abusersI'm not saying it isn't. But while it should make a difference in deciding if the perpetrator is going to spend 10 years in prison or 10 years in a psychiatric institution (if they are really so sick they can't be held responsible for their actions), it shouldn't turn 10 years in prison/a psychiatric institution to 5, 3 or zero years in prison/a psychiatric institution. And the latter is unfortunately what often happens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 04:01 PM |
| 75 | Stop making excuses for abusersAnd yet this excuse is constantly being used, especially in the legal system. A well-sold "tough childhood" or "he didn't know any better because of shitty reason X" will knock years off your sentence or even get you acquitted, no matter what you did. As if your victim suffered any less because of it. As if you shouldn't know better, especially as someone who has been abused as well. It's one of the biggest flaws of the legal system for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 01:04 PM |
| 138 | The "Marriage is just a piece of paper" lie.I remember an interview with a gay couple back when marriage finally became legal for them here. They had already been together for ~20 years then and one was a lawyer and they had tried to "manually" create the same legal situation for themselves they would have as a married couple, especially to protect each other's rights should something happen to one of them (they also owned a house together, so making sure that part is settled was extremely important). The stack of papers they showed was h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 08:22 AM |
| 109 | What's acceptable in terms of expressing interest in semi-social non-OLD settings?I wouldn't do more than subtle hints: a nice smile if your eyes meet, a friendly greeting or light smalltalk if/when it is appropriate... If we are talking in literature tropes: Tactically dropping your handkerchief, so he can be a gentleman and pick it up for you and initiate a conversation. A man who is truly interested in you won't need more because he has already been paying attention to you and will thus notice the hints. Walking up and giving someone your number make you the pursuer and th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 09:00 PM |
| 288 | Is the collapse of the middle class producing more LVM?I think a lot of it also has to do with increased mobility (which is demanded by employers... who works for the same employer for their whole life anymore?) and the following erosion of small communal structures: In a small, halfway closed community like a village or city quarter where everyone knows each others families there is a certain social pressure to behave according to certain moral principles (whatever they may be in your culture). Getting shunned or shamed by the community for inappro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 06:17 PM |
| 221 | The HUGE upside to the rampant increase of male porn-sic limp dick ED syndromeUnfortunately men don't need a functioning penis to abuse women (sexually or otherwise). They have always found and will always find other sickening ways. Many serial killers are impotent and the theory is that they compensate for that with their horrible crimes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 05:58 PM |
| 35 | So I was cleaning my vibrator and...They can say what they want about dildos and vibrators, but at least Iknow they're CLEAN and not giving me an infection. Not to mentionthey're giving me more orgasms anyway. Win win. Preach. I am kind of a neat freak and was wondering once if warm water and toy safe antibacterial soap before and after each use was enough to clean my toys or if I should look into some kind of toy safe disinfectant, too,... And then the horrible thought came to me that that (aka diligently washing with warm water … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 01:37 PM |
| 86 | Did your dad/brother/male figures understand when you were being harassed as a teen?My dad was amazing about it and took it very seriously. I don't have any brothers but other male figures who should have cared (like other relatives, bosses, teachers etc.) often seemed understanding at first but then got annoyed really quickly if it actually inconvenienced them or I expected/asked them to do something. Like they agreed that harrassment was real and terrible blabla, but if I told them I didn't feel comfortable to walk home alone after dark or run an errand alone in a sketchy are… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 08:55 AM |
| 9 | Why do men pee on everything?A comment regarding the peeing thing: Because they have been taught from childhood on that it is their right and totally okay to shamelessly piss everywhere in public. I have never - NEVER - met a woman who voluntarily does that and doesn't at least do her best to look for cover and be as discreet as possible if it is a dire emergency. Men just stand at the side of the highway or in a public park in plain sight during the day, take their dick out and piss there like a dog. And don't fucking tell… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 08:25 AM |
| 66 | Why Splitting the Check Isn't as Feminist As PickMes Think It IsThis. And they can comfortably be generous because they know that their real friends will not take undue advantage of them and exploit their generosity. It's an unwritten code but it only works if everyone follows it. That's why surrounding yourself with HV people even outside of romantic relationships is so important. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 10:46 PM |
| 329 | Why Splitting the Check Isn't as Feminist As PickMes Think It IsI'm not American and have always been confused by this, because here it is actually the normal and polite thing that the person who uttered the invitation pays. Doesn't matter if it is a man asking a woman out or me taking my mom to dinner or hosting a business partner in a work context. If someone says "I want to take you to dinner on Friday at X" and then expects the invited person to pay that's just unspeakably rude. It's like inviting someone to your home for tea and then asking them to reim… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 08:58 PM |
| 14 | Good non-misogynist financial advisor firm?Learn how to do it yourself. It isn't magic and perfectly understandable if you do a little research. I would trust no one but myself with something that important and would never invest in something I don't fully understand just based on someone's word (especially if that someone has something to gain if they trick me...). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 03:52 PM |
| 217 | A wishful Narrative flip about “naive young girls”The insidious thing is that we are wrong no matter what we do. If we are trusting and believe every word our partner says and something goes wrong, we are naive and stupid and it's basically our own fault for believing him in the first place. If we don't, we are called paranoid, controlling, crazy, disloyal bitches. Can't win either way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 03:08 PM |
| 502 | A wishful Narrative flip about “naive young girls”I agree. Why do people say "How could she be so naive/stupid?" instead of "How could he be so cruel?"? It's victim blaming 101. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 02:55 PM |
| 5 | Anal sex- to try or not to try?When it comes to sex, I'd say if it is not an enthusiastic "Hell, yes, I have always wanted to try that and fantasized about it before."... it's a no. Don't force yourself to try something you feel uncomfortable or doubtful about to please a partner. Don't open that box. Today it's anal, tomorrow it may be choking, other violence or bringing a third person into your bedroom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 11:03 AM |
| 31 | Reminder: Don't befriend male colleagues who are married!I'd say it depends. I have a male colleague whom I even consider my only real male friend (relatives excluded). BUT: We have known each other since our study days, so before ever working together. But it's a small, competitive discipline and have skills that complement each other well, so it was either competing for every single job offer and project in the future (which neither of us wanted) or cooperating and profiting together. We have known each other for more than 10 years and very successf… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 10:30 AM |
| 120 | "Do you want to hang out sometime?"I know what you mean, but tactics-wise I'd always ask what exactly he plans/has to offer before I tell someone if/when I am available. So it would rather go like: Him: Do you want to hang out sometime? Me (wary): What did you have in mind? Him: I would love to invite you to dinner. Does the weekend work for you or would you prefer another day? ^^ That way I make sure that he is not planning some low effort "netflix and chill"/"Let's get coffee and go for a walk" crap before telling him if I am a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 05:46 PM |
| 278 | "Do you want to hang out sometime?"That's such a lazy way to put it, too. "Hanging out" is the lowest possible effort. It is literally just "let's exist next to each other for a while". Sounds fun, right? No. I don't even just "hang out" with my friends. I meet them for dinner, an activity/trip of some kind, a game night, to watch a movie together... Why would I waste my time if "hanging out" is all a guy offers? Why on earth would that make me feel interested? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 05:24 PM |
| 56 | curious why men send dick picsDefinitely. One of my older aunts worked at a place where they developed films (still by hand) and she once told me about not one but multiple creepy customers who regularly brought in films with pictures of themselves naked, masturbating etc.. But they only dropped them off or pick them up when she or another female colleague worked. Not a new thing at all. Smartphones and the internet just made it easier. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 04:37 PM |
| 88 | Dating outside of your raceThis is so important. Even if the man himself seems to be HV and to honestly not follow or support the archaic or misogynistic elements of his culture.... Will he ultimately side with you against his parents and whole family when push comes to shove no matter the consequences? Will you be okay with your children being influenced by their aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents from that side of the family towards ideas and values that conflict with yours? Is it worth the risk? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 12:01 PM |
| 62 | Dating outside of your raceI think it es important not to confuse having a different race with having a different cultural/religious/moral background. That's usually where the incompatibility stems from, not the colour of someone's skin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 11:49 AM |
| 185 | I'm so tired of seeing 'demisexual' tossed around like it's some sort of aberrant practice when really, it's just HEALTHY to want trust & a connection with intimate partners.If we skip all the arranged marriage and father needs to give permission stuff... months of exchanging diligently written love letters and conversation during formal dinners and walks before deciding which suitor you choose doesn't sound so bad. Neither does men only really being allowed to seriously court someone once they are established in society and able to decently provide for a family and household with everything that entails. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 09:13 PM |
| 253 | I'm so tired of seeing 'demisexual' tossed around like it's some sort of aberrant practice when really, it's just HEALTHY to want trust & a connection with intimate partners.Hell yes, needing time and an emotional connection before wanting to have sex with someone is not a fetish or some weird kind of new sexual preference. I refuse to call myself demisexual or anything else for it or use the term like some sort of content warning so people who think casual sex is the normal baseline can weed me out. It honestly feels like gaslighting to me to be told that this is something I need to "label" because it's abnormal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 08:12 PM |
| 66 | Reminder: Being The "Cool Girl" who isn't "materialistic" will get you nothing.I feel this. Without meaning to sound elitist (I don't come from money and worked for every cent I have): I also have a certain lifestyle I am accustomed to now and want a partner who genuinely wants to and is financially able to enjoy that with me. I love travelling (and I don't mean driving an hour to the next camping ground). I love going to the opera, classical concerts, ballet and the theatre, dressing appropriately for it and having a nice dinner somewhere while I am dressed up and out alr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 06:50 PM |
| 142 | "Oh yeah, you want a man who brushes his teeth? I dated a guy who brushed his teeth and he kicked puppies for breakfast!"This is so spot-on. Male mental health is so ignored! What if he has depression? You areliterally Satan and the reason why some men want to unalive themselves. Yeah, and who is stopping them from seeking mental health treatment? Not me. I'd be happy if more men went to therapy instead of thinking they are ready for/entitled to a relationship when they have barely mastered basic social skills and being a functioning adult. If you need to ask "How do I talk to women?" you are not ready for a relat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 05:35 PM |
| 69 | Reminder: Being The "Cool Girl" who isn't "materialistic" will get you nothing.If you expect for a man to pay for dinner you’ll be labeled a gold digger. Only that? In my experience you are already called a gold digger if you expect a man to actually have a job and not be homeless to date him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 05:10 PM |
| 277 | Reminder: Being The "Cool Girl" who isn't "materialistic" will get you nothing.This. All the "money doesn't buy happiness" people have never been truly poor. I have and have worked my way out. I will never, ever risk that for a man. Call me superficial but I am not risking to undo all my work for a dude who isn't financially responsible and secure and willing to invest in our relationship. I will never understand why women marry guys who will spend thousands on gaming and hobby stuff or on a fancy car but are too stingy to buy a decent engagement ring. Pro tip: They will b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 04:46 PM |
| 110 | JFC. Men: she cares more about material things more than me. Also men: I had to buy a bed frame to get laid.Is there any explanation why the "successful tech guy" still lives like that? Classic case of "My gaming rig cost more than the entire rest of stuff in my apartment combined, har har. Feel free to use my one moldy, grey towel drying off after using my grimy shower that only has a single bar of questionable, cheap soap. Don't mind the stains on the mattress and couch, they are just food... I think."? It's appalling what so many scrotes consider a living space and are not ashamed to have guests in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 04:57 PM |
| 302 | Scrotes will be scrotes. NEVER move in with a boyfriend.This so much. Having money only you can access is is basically life insurance. That's why scrotes hate it so much (see all the "My girlfriend/fiance/wife is hiding something because she doesn't want to combine finances and give me access to all her accounts!"). You should hear the shit I get when I say I would never completely combine my finances with a man, not even a husband. Money gives a woman the freedom to just get up and leave at a moment's notice and break off all contact because she doe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 04:51 PM |
| 197 | !!If you're in the UK please be aware!!! There's online sellers of date rape drugs out there and they're selling them for cheap and in bulk. Reports show there has been an increase in spiking in September and October. Stay safe out there!How on earth is this not illegal and getting prosecuted?! You can't carry guns or pepper spray to defend yourself but rapists can get this delivered to their doorsteps?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 07:30 PM |
| 66 | Response to 40+ yo men who want kids "someday"Another thing to keep in mind is that there is a very real chance that they will get severely ill, need care or die while their children are still young or just starting out in life. My father was older than average when I was born. He was a wonderful father and HVM in any respect otherwise. He started having severe, life altering health issues when I was 10 and started needing more support in daily life before I even turned 18. When I was 28 and just starting out in my career after university, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 05:46 PM |
| 6 | Ladies, how much should an engagement ring cost?I wouldn't state a set number (or something like X times his monthly income), but I see it as an investment and way to prove that the person is serious about a long time commitment and willing to invest effort, thought and assets into it. The ring itself should match my taste (I would say no if the ring is obviously something I would never wear (e.g. I never wear yellow or rose gold jewellery and don't own a single piece that would match it. Therefore I would want white gold or platin for a ring… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 08:26 AM |
| 21 | What in the FUCK did I just readThere is only one reason he wants her to come with him: Clubs and parties like that do not let single or unaccompanied men participate (for reasons we can all imagine), but only couples or single women. I saw a documentary about the scene once and that seemed to be a hard rule everywhere. He doesn't actually want her to come along, he needs her to, because even swingers won't let a lonely male creep in without a woman to vouch for him or barter with. She's nothing but his ticket inside (or if we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 09:16 AM |
| 18 | I just learned that one of the biggest catalysts for men leaving their wives is having a child with special needs (the divorce rate climbs to 80 percent).You have no control over whether or not your baby will be born with defects or develop special needs. Within certain limits, you do. Of course there are defects and disabilities that cannot be prevented or detected before birth. But one way to lower the risk of at least some defects is doing your due diligence and choosing the person you procreate with wisely. And for me that includes finding out if there are inheritable diseases and/or defects running in their families and getting both of us te… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 11:24 AM |
| 78 | We can't even have subreddits that are clearly for usTHIS! Often the post also explicitely says "I need advice from fellow women on XYZ" and men still feel entitled to answer. She very explicitely didn't ask you! She asked other women! What's so hard to get about that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 11:14 AM |
| 171 | We can't even have subreddits that are clearly for usThis drives me crazy, too. Even in subs that are explicitely for women (and even have it in the sub's name and description) half of the answers in threads are often variations of "As a man, I think..." "Man here, but speaking from my experience with my girlfriend/wife..." or contributions that do not even openly admit that they are men at first but it is either very clear from the way the write or details they mention or they finally admit it when people ask. These subs also often have (at least… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 10:57 AM |
| 38 | Women being more likely to be killed by a romantic partner or a family member than anyone else was one the worst facts I found out. Nothing is more heartbreaking than knowing you’re more at danger in your home than outsideAccording to this https://www.cdc.gov/women/lcod/2017/all-races-origins/index.htm#anchor_1571151327 homicide and suicide are at rank 3 and 4, and 4 and 5 respectively for leading causes of death for women aged 1-19 and 20-44 years in the US. They are only outranked by accidents, cancer and heart disease. It's heartbreaking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 11:22 AM |
| 8 | What’s the standard trade for the entire human being I pushed out of my vagina?If I shave in the morning I have noticeable stubble in the evening. That's how fast my hair grows. Am I supposed to shave down there twice a day? I have sensitive skin and used to get terrible rashes and ingrown hairs from all that madness. A friend gave me the tip to simply use a (good) beard trimmer to trim down there instead and I have never looked back. No itchyness, no rashes and no scratchy stubble (just short, soft hair). I will never go back to shaving/waxing/epilating everything bare. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 12:41 PM |
| 63 | Sex work is always coercion, there is never true consent.So why not hire a man who actually knows what to do? Because we care!!Because we have empathy and forcing someone to have sex with us whenthey don’t want to is repulsive to the majority of us. YES! How can anyone even be aroused if they know for a fact that the other person is not attracted to them, would not even be there if they had a real choice and does not want to touch them? That alone would leave me drier than the sahara. Add to that that in addition to the coercion via money there is abs… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 11:53 AM |
| 101 | What’s the standard trade for the entire human being I pushed out of my vagina?He better shave his balls and body too. Not shave, please. Either wax, laser or epilate. And pay for those treatments himself of course and not dare to complain that they are painful or uncomfortable. Because -using the words of a long time ex - "That scratchy stubble down there when it grows back after shaving is totally disgusting. Nobody wants to touch you that way.". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 07:55 AM |
| 316 | My friend just posted this and it's so depressing.....I just thought about this yesterday during my yoga class. A really sweet woman returned for the first time after she had taken a break during the later months of her pregnancy (twins) and after birth. And she happily told us that her husband had volunteered to babysit the twins for the two hours the class lasts so she can have a little "me time". And the other members all gushed "Oh what a great husband he is. You are so lucky!" and all I could do is roll my eyes. Parenting his own children for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 07:04 AM |
| 8 | If someone does not meet your standards, it is better to just not date them at all, rather than date them and try to change them into the person you actually want to date."what if you meet the man of your dreams and he's broke?" and "how can you reject someone for this/that, what if they're a nice person?" What they don't understand is that "being broke" and "this/that we are rejecting them for" simply makes them not the man of our dreams even if the rest fits. I cannot just overlook an important, non-negotiable trait I want in a partner or boundary I have because the rest seems nice. That's not how it works. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 07:37 AM |
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