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Personally, I don't care if men have their own spaces. Saw a post about some Christian dudes that got together at a men's only gym to not be tempted by thick asses in yoga pants or whatever, and honestly, that sounds great. I don't want those guys around me, they don't want me around them, win-win. But when some dudes make a spectacle out of their no women activity/place (like the dudes in the post) it comes off like they're doing it go get attention in the most obvious, eyeroll inducing way. So…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 01:35 AM
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You're incessantly whinging that women don't experience attraction like men do, and you act like it's unfair or that we're at fault for it. It's whiny and childish to endlessly cry about how mean women are for not being just like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 07:37 PM
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I dunno, I don't keep track. I mostly zone out when I'm out and about and listen to music, so I don't spend too much time looking at folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 07:12 AM
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I don't think it's ever happened. I'll see a guy and think "damn, he's hot", but I won't imagine having sex with him just because of that. I've imagined sex with guys I've met and had crushes on, but total strangers? Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:21 AM
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Men who work physically demanding work are also selling their bodies. We've just decided that selling sex is distasteful and look down on people who do it. Some men have sex for money, the market is just a bit smaller. I also wouldn't be speaking on what's ethical or not in terms of employment if my existence depended on the hard work my parents had to put in to feed and clothe me, Mr. Mooch.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 05:50 PM
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Obviously, not all men. But many are immature and not particularly interesting or fun to be around. That's pretty disappointing. A lot are lacking in the appearance department, and some just don't care to get to know or understand you, it's like they just wanted a woman, and any woman would have been fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 04:48 PM
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It is, but that gives a person all the more reason to leave if the other person is causing unnecessary strife. Going back to the example OP used in this thread: You have a man who is so financially irresponsible that he got the family car taken away. After two years of therapy, no less. This dude doesn't care that his actions are harming his partner and their relationship, that much is obvious. So why should he be guaranteed a partner who will stay despite him already having bailed on the notion…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 02:08 AM
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Some women likely would, others wouldn't. Women aren't all the same, but some guys seem to think we are.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:53 AM
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Most guys who have had relationships, I'd say. Most guys aren't the most handsome or the most wealthy or athletic, and if they've had women willing to bang them without the perfect looks, money, body, etc., she's been genuinely attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:30 AM
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I wouldn't call it desperation. I didn't want to sit down and knit on a Fridayl while I'm catching up on my ASOIAF video essays when I was 23, now I want that cause it sounds good. Just because I didn't want something 10 years ago does mean I'm settling for it now. Are there some desperate women? Sure. But a lot of guys seem to just be upset that they didn't have fun in their 20s and think it's unfair that, maybe, women now may want them when they want (probably in their minds) boring adult thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:26 AM
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Didn't have those vows at my wedding. And vows aren't really a binding agreement, maybe it is if you're religious. And again, for the people in the back - a marriage, with vows or no vows, doesn't mean you can be actively detrimental to your partner's wellbeing, and expect that they stay with you. A midnset like that is why so many men are terrible partners and why they act surprised when the divorce "comes out of nowhere"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 03:51 PM
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This feels like the guys who say that their wife left them cause they didn't do the dishes one time. It's never just a one time fuck up, it's a history of consistent, unaddressed fuck ups.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:52 PM
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I take "for richer or for poorer" to mean that you'll face whatever difficulties life throws at you together, not that you should stay with someone who is causing those difficulties and being indignant that you're even bringing them up. A marriage isn't a "I can do whatever and they have to stay with me" deal. He's not holding up his end as a partner, so why should she stay?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:49 PM
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Why would you stay if you're miserable? Is this gonna make anyone happy? Also, the guy was a financial liability, he needed to get his shit in order, why are you somehow blaming her for him being a shit partner and her acting accordingly? Must be the famed "accountability" so many guys on here love to talk about 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 07:03 PM
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I already have found that person. And even before that, I had no issues with finding people I liked.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 03:39 PM
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If I like them, I'll learn about them. If I don't, I won't.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 04:34 AM
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do you change thing you do based on opinion from men? or would you? ever? No. I like what I like, if a man doesn't like it, fine by me, he's not the right person for me. do you or have you ever try find out where men are and go there to try to meet them? No. I hang out with mixed groups, so there are always men and women there, I haven't gone looking for dudes at the local sports bar or something. how much time you spend learning about men? I can't quantify that. I learn about the men I'm intere…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 02:59 AM
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Hard disagree. You don't know how a person actually lives and behaves in their day to day life until you've lived together. Maybe they have incredibly annoying or incompatible habits that you don't want to deal with for the rest of your life, you can't know that until you've seen them completely relaxed at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:08 AM
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If noticing that men are the biggest threat out there is bigotry to you, so be it, my guy. I haven't had a lot of bears or wolves make me fear for my safety, but men?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:46 AM
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I'd much prefer if men weren't the main reason to need protection in the first place. The "men protect" argument always sounds like one of those mafia goons telling someone about how their store is nice and it would be a shame if something happened to it. You get no gold stars for offering protection when you're the reason why it's needed to begin with
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:02 AM
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I offer a lot more, but I can't take the question seriously, as it's expecting us to somehow prove we're worthy of a partner/the partner we currently have. If some dude only wants cookies and a nice butt, I wouldn't be interested in them. If someone wants me to justify my value as a partner, they can move on to someone else. Silly questions get silly answers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:53 AM
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Baked goods and a nice ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:56 PM
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If the shoe fits? 🤷‍♀️ Not every guy who posts here has misogynistic views, but a lot do. Sure, a dude might be bummed out if he gets called a misogynist, but if he's posting about how women are the problem in society and that we need to change to make the lives of undesirable dudes easier....what am I supposed to say? Cause that is a pretty misogynistic view. You can't expect praise for shitty views, and if that hurts your feelings, maybe some deep introspection is in order.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 07:24 PM
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Cause not all jokes are jokes. Sometimes it's spineless dorks who can't just state their true opinions, so they hide behind jokes
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 05:58 AM
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Because most people are aware and unbothered that they're just a random stranger in the eyes of other random strangers. All of your posts are you being very much bothered by it, so it's safe to assume that it's mostly about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 07:15 PM
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She's not making a point that he should have picked her. She's arguing that logicing your way into a man's heart doesn't work either, because you could be perfect on paper, but in reality they're just not into you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 03:55 AM
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Buddy, most people ignore everyone else. I'll occasionally smile at someone on the bus or at the store, but I'm not spending time on endless acknowledgement and interactions with strangers. Honestly, grow up? Thinking you're being mistreated cause random strangers don't pay attention to you, in particular, is childish.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 03:47 AM
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If I have no interest in you, why would I not ignore you? I have plenty of guy friends, that doesn't mean I want any and all dudes as friends. Not wanting to be friends with or fuck someone isn't cruelty. Nobody is existing at you, we're just engaging with people we want to, not with every rando in the local zip code.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 12:37 AM
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Of course male victims exist. Of sexual assault, abuse, run of the mill shitty partners, people who will string them along. Some women are shitty and will do shitty things to men. That being said, some guys will claim to be strung along when the other person made it clear they wanted nothing romantic, and just treated them like a friend. Some guys will try to flash cash or a passport/visa or green card prospect to women from poorer countries, and get outplayed. Those two groups of guys are victi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:11 AM
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I want to give you a reward for quoting Brooks, but I don't spend money on reddit. Here's a little cake slice instead 🍰
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:01 AM
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Men nowadays do a good job of giving us reasons to be wary. It's not like we're all concerned cause of ye olde village creeps from back in 1397.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:54 PM
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I'm not leading them on, I'm just telling them a different reason I'm not interested. And half the time they don't even accept that! I can't tell you how many times "I'm married" was met with further attempts to get my number/insta.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 09:25 PM
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You can be free, make the choices you want to make, that doesn't mean you're doing an activism. I mentioned tradwives, so I'll use them as an example. A tradwife can decide to give up all her decision-making to a husband, that's her right. But saying that women are just naturally submissive or lesser and have to give up our right to vote cause the men know better is just a blatantly anti-feminist stance. She can have that opinion, but just because a woman has an opinion, doesn't make it feminist…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 07:08 PM
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I don't think it's hypocritical. To me, both groups are advocating for pretty harmful things. Now, if you just think sex work is icky, morally degenerate or whatever, and you don't participate in it, cool. Same with tradwives, if you want to be a trad wife, leave every decision up to your husband, cool, it's your life. But both groups tend to advocate for things that would cause harm to other women. Advocating against policies that would help sex workers have a safer, better experience helps who…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 07:03 PM
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I don't like TERFs, SWERFs aren't my cup of tea either. I also don't like the idea of "support all women", some women are Kristy Noem or those ladies cosplaying as tradwives. I watched a good video from The Financial Diet on how frustrating choice feminism is, I'll link it to anyone interested: https://youtu.be/vimbbmkUH2s But in general, I don't believe any decision a woman makes is inherently empowering just because a woman made it. Women are people, we can make terrible, harmful decisions tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:04 AM
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Ah yes, the act of manipulating a guy to leave me alone by making him believe I have a better reason than just not finding him attractive! And I'm defrauding them of what? I want them to fuck off, they just don't accept a simple "not intetested". And I wish it was once.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:15 AM
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Tell you what, when men stop flying off the handle or throwing temper tantrums when being rejected, we'll stop telling you comforting lies. Do some kind of PSA for your fellow men or something. I'd happily tell a guy who is bugging me in the dairy aisle that I don't want to give him my Instagram because he's ugly, smells bad, and is bothering me while I'm just trying to get my grocery shopping done if I knew he wasn't gonna be aggressive if I told him the real reason I'm not interested. But we d…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 06:39 PM
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For me, it's someone who is confident in his skills, looks, who he is as a person in general, and who is not trying to control me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 01:26 AM
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Not really. To a woman I think looks good or has something impressive about her (outfit, hair, nails), sure. To the random women around me all day on the street or on the bus? Not really, they're just kind of in the background, same as men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:20 PM
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I can be aroused by dudes who don't look like Adonis, but that doesn't mean I'll be drooling after every average guy I come across. They're just random people, similar to all the average women I also don't pay attention to.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 04:58 AM
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Friends and a career. Loveis incredible, but one person can't be my whole universe. Not like I wouldn't be sad to have never met that person, but my life can be fulfilling without a guy in it, even if it's the love of my life. Travel, adventure, friends and financial security sound a lot better to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 11:42 PM
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Meet person, talk, go on dates, decide we like each other and want to be in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 11:18 PM
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My little girl group trio has been friends for nearly 20 years, and we've never done that. Some people are two-faced gossips, some are like that when they're young and grow out of it, some don't some never were. It's not a women thing, it's a people thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 01:01 AM
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It's something that requires the use of my body, so yeah. It's not like I'd be donating some time at a soup kitchen, I would have to let people use my body, and that's something that goes above and beyond general community service.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 11:43 PM
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No, cause I'm not a charity for sad dudes. If I don't find you attractive, I won't sleep with you, no amount of sadness on your part would change that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 09:13 PM
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Nothing more than the endless whinging of the most easily offended, thin-skinned people out there. They cried about the erasure of the nuclear family when gay people got the right to marry, they cry about it anytime a gay couple is in a cereal commercial, they're crying about it now because their supporters don't like that women aren't picking them. If the nuclear family and "traditional gender roles" were such a great thing, you wouldn't need to be running campaigns to convince half of the popu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 02:25 AM
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Or more honest, I don't even think there was an attempt to present it as anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 09:01 PM
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I'm sorry, what's the organization that provides LGBTQ people with dating opportunities? I thought they just met up freely over apps/parties/through friends now that they don't have to worry about some neanderthal freaking out about two guys or gals (or anyone in between) holding hands in public. Must have missed the memo
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 04:29 PM
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This should be shared in therapy, why are you making it our problem? We're people, just like you, and have positive and negative qualities. You don't have to like us, plenty of other people do.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 11:46 PM
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I've spent a lot of time cultivating relationships with different people, that's why I get asked out to parties or just to hang out. A community didn't fall into my lap while I was scratching my ass on the couch. You want bonds? You have to put in the time and effort to build them. The men I know who have friends and get asked out to hang out with others are social and seek out these connections. The ones who aren't don't have them. Skill issue, as the kids might say.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 11:47 PM
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I don't think I would have gotten married if I was legally obligated to sleep with someone even if I didn't feel like it. Sexual slavery isn't an appealing proposition.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 08:00 PM
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Are these women in the room with us? Some people, both men and women, are shitty partners who got with someone they don't really like or want because they thought they were better than nothing, or because they're using them as a placeholder until someone they want comes along. That's not a routinely male or female behavior tho, most people settle down with people they actually want to be with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:35 PM
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That's a lot of assumptions you're making based on your own personal issues. This would be better unpacked in therapy than in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 05:40 PM
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Framing it as "despite her past" makes it sound like her experiences are something the woman would (or should) regret. Why? I enjoyed myself immensely during my 20s, if someone doesn't like that, cool. I don't want them to love me "despite" my past. As for your question "nobody" is also an option. If someone wants to be with you, they're with you because they think you're better than the (pretty awesome) peace of being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 05:33 AM
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Pretty much nobody is having abortions for funsies. It's because they can't support themselves, let alone a child. Or they already have kids, and another one would be a drain on the already existing family. Or because they have health issues they don't want to pass down or would be exacerbated by pregnancy and childbirth. Personally, I wouldn't care if someone thought I was evil for not making my life worse because of their views on the world. They can think I'm Satan incarnate for all I care, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:23 AM
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It's not a prize, it's a natural consequence. You're fun, hot, and I feel safe and listened to? I want to sleep with you. You choose to view at as if we're making men who are none of these things jump through hoops they can't or don't want to jump through cause we're dangling a carrot in front of them. We're not, you just want something from us and are mad we're not giving it to literally anyone interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 03:28 PM
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He should be acceptable because? You presented someone who is boring, awkward, and clumsy, that doesn't sound like a fun time. Many men would find a cardboard box turned into a woman Cinderella's-coachmen-style acceptable cause they'd get to finish, and would have the weird satisfaction on having slept with yet another woman, making them think they've hot shit. For us, there's a small chance to finish, and most women either don't care about getting anothet notch. What's acceptable for you isn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 03:21 PM
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I don't need expensive dates and outings, but I do like going out. Trying out a new cafe or small restaurant sounds great to me. Doesn't have to be every week, but once or twice a month would be nice. And if I'm stuck at home with a baby, I'd need to go out and spend time away from mom duties to feel normal. I was a sahw for a bit, hated it. I felt extremely isolated and like I wasn't doing much with my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 04:09 AM
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Sure, bud. Whatever helps you convince yourself that you're not a bigoted weirdo.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 03:15 PM
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Religion isn't genetic, people can opt out of the faith they've been raised in, especially if they see a better, more supportive environment outside of it. You're just trying to use religion to justify your other bigoted fears of scary brown people getting one over on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 03:12 PM
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Dude, get help. Gay people aren't grossed out by straight sex. Some might be, but most see it as just neutral. A lot of straight guys are grossed out by gay sex (due to a lot of stupid patriarchal nonsense about what being a man is supposed to be about), but plenty of straight guys are like whatever. Some straight women are grossed out by gay stuff, a lot are fairly neutral. You're losing your mind cause you've decided something is true even if you claim to want someone to prove to you that it i…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 03:09 PM
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Your racist paranoia isn't anyone else's problem but yours, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 03:05 PM
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Then society can be a bit better to mothers. Until then, why should anyone put themselves in a shitty situation? For a virtual " atta girl"?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 01:31 PM
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It's the same guy. He seems to be convinced that most women are just gay and are lying about being hetero. At this point I'm happy to agree just so he stops posting.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:36 PM
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Enjoy the demons and unresolved issues then 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 06:31 AM
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Dude, you need therapy, not rants.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 06:26 AM
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They're unpleasant about it online too. I can just ignore it when it's online. In person? Pain in the ass at best, dangerous at worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 10:57 PM
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I'm imagining you going around like a Jehovah's Witness and asking "Excuse me, sir, can you spare a moment to talk about how ugly you are?"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 10:55 PM
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Cause a lot of guys get very aggro if you tell them what their issue is. Try telling a short dude you're not interested cause he's short, it's never been a pleasant experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:12 PM
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Maybe. But I'd still say "Thanks, but not interested". If the dude handles the "no" poorly, that's a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 03:20 PM
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I've never been a fan, I don't like when people bug me for no good reason. I just tell them that I'm not interested, and if they keep insisting past that, I'm a lot less polite.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 01:50 AM
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Cool, enjoy whatever issues you're creating for yourself then.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 08:04 PM
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Seek therapy. It's not normal to be this concerned about someone else MAYBE having a bigger dick than you. And even if they did, that's life, there's also people out there with bigger dicks than them. You have a bigger dick than other people too, should they be losing sleep over it? You're setting yourself up for failure by assuming that someone else was more loved/had a bigger dick/nicer car/funnier jokes. You can't appreciate the love you're receiving if you're constantly upset that someone el…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 07:43 PM
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But they are hunting ghosts because most men wouldn't harm women as far as I am aware. It's like the game "among us" You make it sound like we're just waiting to shank men who approach us cause some dudes could be dangerous. We're just being careful - have pepper spray, make sure your friends know where you are, be careful when walking home at night, check if the guy walking behind you is just another person going that way or if they're following you in particular. The "consequences" so many men…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 06:04 PM
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I've enjoyed my fair share of casual, the apps have never been this Uber eats for hot guys who are fun to sleep with. Most dudes were meh, and I'm not just talking about looks. I like to have something in common with the person I'm sleeping with, I'd like to be able to have an enjoyable time with them outside of sex. If my standards were "has pulse, is man", then sure, it would be pretty easy. Misogyny has existed waaaaaay before apps were even sn idea in someone's mind. This is just the latest …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:53 PM
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Yes, next question.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 10:57 PM
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Again, you do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 04:23 AM
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Like I said, you do you, bro. I know plenty of men who want a partner they can enjoy spending time with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 04:13 AM
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You realize you can have good values AND be a fun person to hang with? But if you want someone who is there to produce offspring and make dinner or whatever, you do you, I suppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 02:57 AM
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That's...pretty sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 02:45 AM
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Just because women don't want to fuck every rando who shows interest doesn't mean they aren't attracted to men. But even if they were gay or asexual, we shouldn't stigmatize them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 11:02 PM
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If I think someone is hot/fun enough to sleep with quickly, I will. Whether I'd want anything more serious with them would depend on shared interests, values, and goals for the future. If he's fun, but doesn't have much else going on, he'd be a fuckbuddy. If we're compatible and want similar things, he'd be a long-term prospect. If at some point I find out there's some dealbreaker, he'd no longer be someone I'd want to be with.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 05:41 PM
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For most people, I'd say it happens after we've talked for a bit, maybe an hour or something. With a few guys, it's been an instant attraction, so almost immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 05:35 PM
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Alright, then you go give intimacy to these dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 05:19 PM
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Trying to move too quickly, not taking much of an interest in what the other person is saying, treating the interaction like a game where if you go through your dialogue tree, you should get XYZ at the end. Don't treat the other person like an obstacle to a vagina, actually try to interact with them because you think they're cool/fun/interesting to get to know. If you don't think they are, try to find someone who you do think is those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 04:01 PM
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When a random dude has approached me on the street or while I'm going about my day, I've never once taken an interest in getting to know him further. They're just some guy who is pestering me when I don't want to be bothered cause I'm busy doing stuff. I've met guys at parties and bars, we'd hit it off, maybe we had similar interests or a sense of humor, and I'd want to know the guy a bit better, so we'd exchange contact info and meet up at a different time. For me, it's always been a combinatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 08:14 PM
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I don't like the idea of my partner asking my dad for my hand in marriage. I'm not cattle to be traded from one person to another. Ask me, what my parents think is obviously something worth considering, but they're in no position to be giving permission. Would you take your spouse’s last name? I didn't. I don't see why I should have changed my name. It's also a bureucratic pain in the ass. Pass Example, if your partner told you they didn’t want to buy or wear a ring, would you feel the same way?…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 06:53 PM
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It means that the sex was good, which is going to differ between people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 05:52 PM
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Some, yes. Most? Not really. I didn't find guys my current age particularly attractive when I was in my early 20s, neither did most women I knew.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 02:52 PM
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If I'm looking for a hangover cure, I'll ask my dad for advice. If it's about anything else. I'lld choose different people. I'd ask my husband about things I believe he can offer insight on, but I wouldn't ask about his advice for everything. His mom can be helpful for some things, I could be helpful for others. He's not choosing one over the other because he listened to one person about a random issue. You guys have a very odd view of life, no wonder so many guys wallow in their own misery. If …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 06:45 AM
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Are these leftist women here with us? Cause my lefty ass hasn't seen this on here. But, let's assume they exist. Us not wanting to make our nether regions the people's vagina isn't the same as the ultra rich hoarding resources and exacerbating the climate crisis.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 07:31 PM
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Could be the right person, but the wrong time. You're not always ready for all a relationship requires. Your mental health might be in the shitter, you're prioritizing your education/work in that moment and don't have the energy for a relationship, you could have just gotten out of a relationship and want to be alone for a while. Sure, some people will use the "I'm not ready for a relationship" line to let someone down gently. I think it's better to just say that you're not interested in that pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 08:26 PM
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Because it means this guy doesn't want you, a specific person. He just wants anyone who is gonna fill the woman-shaped hole in his life. For all the complaining guys on here do about being settled for, there seems to be a lot of confusion about why "you'll do" isn't dropping any panties.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 04:40 PM
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They're not wrong. The current system is screwing everyone over, including men. However, I wouldn't chalk everything up to just capitalism. I would also blame outdated societal ideas of what men and women should do/are meant to be. If you live in a period of time when you're getting squeezed for everything you have by landlords and corporations, and the idea of what a man should be or should provide within a relationship is still tethered to the idea of "man the provider", you're gonna have a ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 04:02 PM
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But on the other side of that, it feels like men are evaluated much more strictly on what they bring to the table. If a man doesn’t meet certain standards (socially, physically, financially, etc.), he can end up effectively invisible. In that sense, it can feel like men have to earn desirability in a way that isn’t as baseline or assumed. So how people regularly treat ugly/fat/old women? Not saying that men aren't turned down if they don't meet certain standards, but the same is true for women. …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 02:09 AM
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"Why won't you just let me use your body, I might be more than I show that I am right now if you did? Also, please be respectful, despite the fact that me viewing you as nothing but a receptacle for my boner is extremely disrespectful". Yeaaaah, no. Ew.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 05:00 PM
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Can't really say. If they were swapped with someone I found attractive, I'd still want to be intimate with them. If they swapped with someone who didn't do it for me at all, I wouldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 04:36 PM
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Again, you're trying to make some kind of racist gotcha here, and there just isn't. A child existing in the world, minding his own business, isn't a potential threat to anyone. I wouldn't be concerned if a kid were around me in public, regardless of race. I would be concerned if a man were walking behind me at night, his race wouldn't play a factor into how worried I would be. One more time, for the slow and disingenuous: If my answer doesn't change if you add a different qualifier about the rac…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 04:12 PM
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I like how you guys think this is some great gotcha. My answer wouldn't change regardless of the race or ethnicity of the man, so what now?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 11:15 PM
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Because I like how I look in these clothes and makeup. Not everything we do is to get men to want to date us, we enjoy doing things for ourselves as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 10:08 PM
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And a given subreddit can decide that they don't want an influx of venting on the same topic. So what's the problem? Also - if venting to you is an endless screed about how everyone has wronged you and taken away something you think you're entitled to, that's a you issue. You can vent about being unhappy without putting the blame on anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 10:06 PM
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How is anything I said definitive? I've used the word "if" in both comments to explain why certain topics might be banned.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 10:04 PM
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Some women, probably. Just like some men view friendships with women as less valuable if the chance of potentially getting into her pants is off the table. But I value my guy friends as much as I value my girl friends. I've known my closest guy friends since my teens, and even some more recent friends I've been friends with for close to a decade. We listen to each other, we support each other as best as we can, it's just a regular friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 08:12 PM
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I mean, that sub won't fix the problem even if you allowed every single thread to be about that. But banning that topic might solve a problem that particular reddit community is dealing with （i.e. repetitive topics, a drop in people frequenting it, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 08:03 PM
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I'll be honest, I don't go to that sub, so I don't know what usually gets posted there. However, if I had to go off of similar kinds of threads I've seen across other reddit communities, it's never just a general complaint about things being hard on the dating front, it's frequently men complaining that society/women/the universe has robbed them of the partner/wife/family they'd like to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 08:02 PM
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If it's getting to the point where every other thread is on that topic, I can see how they might do away with it. We've got mega threads for certain topics (looks and n-counts) on this sub because it was like every third question or topic was some variation of that. Every few months or so, half the topics are about paternity tests or how it's totally reasonable to demand your partner stop having an Instagram or male friends/going on vacation with her friends or to the bar with them on the weeken…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 04:36 PM
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No and yes. Not that I don't find trans people attractive, but the lack of male genitalia would be a dealbreaker, honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 11:48 PM
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I'd be devastated. I imagine I might be open to dating again at some point, but I don't know when that would be. Maybe years, maybe never, can't really say.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 07:23 PM
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Are those gestures I care about receiving? If I find them important, and he doesn't do them, that's a problem, regardless of whether he did those things for someone else or not. If I don't find them important, I'm good.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 11:12 PM
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I think most people (excluding some absolute shitheads) "deserve" a good partner. I put deserve in quotation marks because I don't mean they should be given a good partner by society or something. But, in an ideal world, they would find a partner who loves and supports them, and who wants to work as a team. Whether they get that or not is a completely different question.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 10:55 PM
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Suuuuuure, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:11 AM
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It's not double standards if I think someone throwing a fit cause their partner's doctor is a woman is equally stupid. But I'm calling him out because he's trying to present it as concern for her safety, which it isn't. If it were, he'd hire her a bodyguard or something. It's a thinly veiled attempt to hide his discomfort about another man seeing his gf's private parts by acting like it's all out of concern for her safety.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 12:57 AM
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I'd say that I was chill to the point where guys thought they didn't have to put in any effort into our relationship. I tend to like stuff like video games, comic books, I did some LARPing in my teens, I like playing d&d, I'm not a big girly girl, I'm overall pretty easygoing. And I think a lot of guys, even decent guys, just saw that and acted like I would never need anything more than the stuff they liked or wanted to do. I tried to be nice and gently tell them if I wanted something or if some…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 09:03 PM
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Okay, should she also not leave the house cause men exist in society and might assault/rob her?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 08:39 PM
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Sulking because your partner has a male doctor is absurd. If a woman freaked out that her bf's doctor was a lady, I'd tell her to get over her bullshit, because it is just bullshit. Same goes for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 07:53 PM
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Married, actually. But good attempt at a personal attack, at least you didn't go for the tired old "you're probably fat and ugly".
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 06:03 AM
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I get why it might sound like I’m telling someone to break up when I say they can do better, but that’s not my intention. I share my observations, like whether their partner is treating them well or making them happy, because I care about my friends’ well-being. I never tell them what to do, unless it's the case of abuse, then it's 100% a "we need to get you out of this now". But for regular relationship dissatisfaction, they’re adults and make their own choices. Saying ‘you can do better’ is a …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 08:56 PM
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Mmmm, chicken. It's not that I'd mind if someone wanted to pay for my burger and beer, I think that's a nice gesture. But there are guys who will act entitled to a kiss/sex/ after that, and I'd just prefer to avoid that kind of situation altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 08:12 PM
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Yes, I prefer to pay for myself. I don't like feeling like I owe people something. I don't like it if the guy insists on paying for me after I've made it clear I want to pay for myself. If he offers to pay for the date 4-5 dates down the line, sure. But the first few ones we're going Dutch.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:29 PM
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I think they'd probably be happier if they left the bum, but I'm not telling them they should leave (unless it's a case of abuse, then it's definitely a flat out "you need to leave"). They're adults, they get to make their own decisions. Maybe they're not terminally unhappy with whatever the guy is messing up. I would leave if I were them, but I'm not. All I can do is give my opinion. And plenty of men do judge their friends' partners. There are also a lot of men who think just having a warm bod…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:24 PM
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Nobody should be told to settle, but if you choose to settle, you don't get to whine that other people aren't settling and have higher expectations from their potential partners (which might end up excluding you). Your post reads like "men are fine with settling, why aren't women"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:03 PM
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So they chose to settle, their friends know that or are also happy with settling. Yeah, I wouldn't talk about whether my friend can do better or not if they've chosen that literally anyone will do. If they're fine with settling, cool, best of luck. Most people I know, however, aren't just settling for whoever shows interest in them, they want someone who makes them happy, not just a warm body that staves off loneliness for a bit. They appreciate the input their friends have about their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:02 PM
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I'm not up in random people's business, I'm telling my friends my opinion if they've shared that there are significant issues within the relationship. You guys not willing to do that for your friends is a failing on your part. And I'm not telling them what to do, I'm just confirming that the guy isn't treating her well. She still decides whether to stay or go. And for the record - my guy friends have told male friends when they think their gf is awful. Because they're good friends and want the b…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 05:56 PM
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The way you framed it makes it sound like men are just settling for whichever woman gives them the time of day, and women actually have more expectations from a partner than just "he'll do, I suppose". When I tell my friends they can do better, I say it because there's something the guy does (or doesn't do, as is often the case) that is clearly making my friend unhappy. It's never been about looks or how much money he makes. Is he treating her well, is he an active participant in the household, …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 05:09 PM
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He's kind, he's caring, we share the same values, he's an interesting person, he's supportive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:23 PM
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Show, don't tell. Give people the opportunity to see that you do, in fact, care about those things. Host an evening at your place, make the place feel nice and welcoming, pick up some good snacks, if you're able to - make something yourself. This shows people that you care about your environment, the comfort of your guests, and that you're willing to go the extra mile (everyone loves a good homemade dish/snack). If there's someone in your group that you're interested in, they'll see for themselv…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 12:31 AM
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I'm way too old to concern myself with thinking about people "above or below" me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 04:13 AM
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Because a lot of the hypotheticals posted here are thinly (sometimes not even that) veiled attempts to make women look stupid/shallow/evil. When we choose not to engage in this nonsense, you guys whine that we don't want to play your stupid game.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 06:50 PM
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Not really. I can be horny and want sex, but I'm just not going to pester any attractive/available man in my vicinity with my horniness. I also have to consider other things like pregnancy and risk of STIs, assault, and whether it's even going to be a fun experience for me. Not being super vocal about wanting sex doesn't mean we don't want it, nor does not seeking it out constantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 06:39 PM
1

I....don't know how to answer this. Some women might be attracted to whatever they imagine the male version of themselves is, others won't.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 06:28 PM
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I imagine there's some truth to it for some people. Not true in my case, I've been attracted to guys who haven't expressed attraction to me at all, so I guess it would vary from person to person.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 05:21 PM
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I don't agree with the idea that wanting a clean-shaven woman is inherently pedophilic. I think most of it comes from many men having mostly experienced women in movies/shows/video games, and having set up those women as the standard for what a woman should look like. Then, when they see that we do actually grow hair, they throw a fit because we fail to live up to their unrealistic expectations. But I will admit that some guys take the disgust they express over hair on women's bodies to a creepy…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 06:41 PM
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I think the main difference lies in how the preferences are expressed. I've never heard a woman say a guy with a full beard is gross, but I have heard men say that a full bush is gross. If both were described as "I just prefer clean shaven cause it's less prickly or think it looks nicer", that's fine. But they're not. Shit, us having leg hair has been described as gross and unhygienic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 06:23 PM
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I mean that I enjoyed my time with the person - we had a nice conversation, the date didn't feel like it was dragging on, and time felt like it flew by. If the person is engaged in the convo, if they're asking you questions about yourself and seem genuinelly interested in your answers, they're most likely having a good time with you. We're also trying not to mess up, by the way. If we like the guy, we're trying to present the best possible version of ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 04:56 PM
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Cause we're attracted to men, and we'd like to eventually have a partner to share our lives with? And like you said, men are individuals - some are shitty, some are great, some are somewhere in the middle.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 06:24 PM
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Well that's nice for you, but just because you haven't met people like that doesn't mean they don't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:36 AM
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Political views are a good way to check if you're aligned on some pretty important issues. For example, I wouldn't wanna date a man who was anti-choice and who voted for candidates who would ban access to abortion. If I ever found myself in a position to need an abortion, I wouldn't wanna be with some doofus who would make the experience much more difficult than it would be on its own. I also wouldn't want to date someone who would vote for policies that would make it difficult for me to get tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:30 AM
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Not really. When I lose interest, it's either because they said/did something that was a dealbreaker for me, or because it's been a few seemingly small irritating things that I can tell I wouldn't want to deal with in a long-term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 04:14 AM
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Not particularly difficult, probably would have found more if my standards were "has pulse, is male"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 05:24 AM
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I was horny and wasn't in a relationship 🤷‍♀️ Felt fine. Friends with benefits were preferable to one night stands, think I've had 2 of those, and only one of them was a good experience. The other one was meh.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 11:38 PM
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I've had men/boys argue with me since I was old enough to argue, dunno where you got the idea that you can't argue with us.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 10:26 PM
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Mine has gotten a bit better as I've gotten older, but it was a nightmare in my teens and 20s. Barfing, passing out, cramps so bad I had to skip school and work cause I couldn't get out of bed. They'll still happen every now and then, but fortunately for me, it's not a monthly thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 04:45 AM
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Fairly promiscuous by a lot of people's standards. I've had one-night stands, friends with benefits, I've got no problem with sleeping with someone on the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 12:14 AM
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I like exploring - the city, the country, other countries. I enjoy playing video games and chilling at home as well, but if that's the only thing we do, that's a compatibility issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 07:09 AM
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Yes, but only on a leap year.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 05:36 PM
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No, they're not the types of people I'm interested in or hang around.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 05:59 PM
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I don't think I've ever dated popular guys, as in athletes, musicians, etc. I have dated guys who were popular among a bunch of different groups of people around town because they were very outgoing and fun to hang out with. But we developed feelings for each other by hanging out. I might have initially found them cute but didn't really have feelings for them based on their popularity/looks. I've also dated guys who were a bit more introverted who I also developed feelings for after hanging out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 11:12 PM
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Women often have valid alternatives, a lot of men just don't want to try them and act like it's impossible to implement these alternatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 09:11 PM
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"Short" can be an insult, it's also a descriptor. I'm 5'10", a 5'6" dude is short to me. I'm just not interested in a romantic relationship, he doesn't do it for me. I'm also not into hairy dudes. Is it disrespectful to just not be attracted to a certain quality? Or is it disrespectful when I say which quality that is? You can be rude when turning someone down, you can also just be honest about why you're not into them without insulting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 08:43 PM
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I like me some nice forearms.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 02:11 AM
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They're stressful in different ways. I'd say they're overall better. I don't have to depend on a man for food and shelter, and if the person I'm with is abusive, neglectful, of just plain incompatible with me, I can leave and not be (completely) financially fucked and socially ostracized.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 10:18 PM
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I don't think I've ever seen a situation where one singular moment has led to the end of the relationship. Usually, it's a pattern of small, singular moments that eventually form a pattern. Just because someone isn't neglectful or abusive doesn't mean they're a good match for you. A good guy can be a great person, but a poor partner for you if you're mismatched on things you consider important.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 11:13 PM
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But it's not free food. She's paying for it. I also find it hard to believe that someone who whines about having to do chores and thinks it makes them a servant, and who also thinks that cooking is a feminine way of nurturing (mommying), is going to be doing all or even the majority of the cooking and cleaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 06:56 PM
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So they'd be the ones working, but they'd also have to mommy you (which I imagine involves cooking and cleaning). My guy, what exactly would uou be offering this woman, cause it doesn't seem like much.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 05:17 PM
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In your scenario it's implied that the women don't work and don't own their own home (or are just unable to do so). Most women work and they don't want to be a mommy to someone who isn't their child.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 11:03 PM
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Who like needy people? Perfectly reasonable, being needy and unwilling to meet your own needs isn't attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:57 PM
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There aren't any positives. The one providing you food, cleaning, and massages isn't getting that back. What they're getting is someone who, in the best case scenario, is at least a contributor to the house financially, but not much else.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:55 PM
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You already have the right to procreate, you just have to find another willing participant.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:00 PM
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Ain't nothing in my mind that makes me want to do chores. I do them because I have to, same reason my partner does them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:57 PM
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If I wanted to be someone's mother, I'd give birth. An adult doesn't need a second mommy. That kind of dynamic isn't a reciprocal relationship, one party is expected to be the one who takes care of the other person, the person being babied isn't going to offer that same level of care. It's deeply unattractive and disappointing. Caring and supporting your partner is one thing, being someone's mommy is a totally different beast.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:36 PM
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Nah. You don't get a pass on shitty behavior cause you're not getting everything you want. I want a house with a hot tub, nobody would give me a free pass if I broke into someone's house to take a soak in their tub, nor should they.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 10:51 PM
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You can have whatever preferences you want, someone out there will bitch about it. Such is the nature of the Internet. And in tems of caring about personality, most women do. But it's not the only thing that matters. Looks matter to, you want to be with someone you're attracted to physically. Finances matter, you're gonna want to be with someone who won't be a financial burdern. Compatability matters, you want to be with someone who has similar values and ideas about the future as you. Men don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 07:20 AM
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No. We started dating when I was in the 11th grade, we broke up like a year earlier. I think he's engaged now, haven't kept in touch after we ended things.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:59 PM
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No. Everyone I've decided to be in a relationship with is someone who was special to me. Just because it's not the first time doesn't mean it's not special. I have been to many tea stores with my friend, and we still get excited when we find a new one, it hasn't become less fun for us just because it's the 15th we've been to. The only times I can think of when I've compared my partner to exes is when he's been great about something certain past partners were shitty about. In a "Wow, so people ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:57 PM
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that most guys cheaters and manipulative when in reality most guys don't even have the options to cheat unless you're talking about hookers. I don't think most guys are cheaters, but I also don't think that not having the opportunity to cheat makes you somehow morally superior. If Hank Hotguy and Frank Foreveralone think it's perfectly fine to cheat on their partner if a hotter person comes along and is interested, they both suck. One just doesn't have the opportunity to suck in practice. As for…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 11:39 PM
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So women should be working and taking care of the home/children/husband. What are the men doing? They can't do cooking/cleaning/childrearing?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 12:44 AM
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I don't like being approached by random dudes. Never have. I'd obviously prefer if a person was polite and took a "no" for answer than the alternative, but if I could have option c (don't approach me randomly), I'd go for that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 12:37 AM
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I love cooking, and I'm happy to take care of my family. I don't do those things because I'm a woman or because some lugnut decided that it's my "duty". I do them cause I like doing them, and because my family are people I value and want to take care of. But there are way too many people out there who devalue "womanly" work, yet still demand it from women. Not surprising that lot of women won't want to do that, or at least not for most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 12:31 AM
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I've had a few bad experiences. Most of the doctors I've been to have been lovely, especially in Canada, but I had two crappy doctors back home. I've also heard some horror stories about nurses/doctors from people back home.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 10:47 PM
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I've learned to live with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 06:54 AM
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Dick
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 01:22 AM
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I'm not concerned about it on a personal level, meaning it doesn't affect me specifically. But I can still find it bad for society. I also haven't commented on that post, are you just assuming that everyone who thinks that the dude doing a shitty thing is doing a shitty thing is being vitriolic about it. I can guarantee that if I make an alt, make a similar post but as a man, that I will get same abuse and at least 1 threat of physical harm. Depends on how you frame it. If you're just sad and ve…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 12:13 AM
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That's still very different from someone actively trying to deceive people. Again, very different scenarios. Being delusional or incapable of self-reflection are not great, could be kinda sad and pathetic, but it's not on the same level as being a deceptive turd. let me ask you a question, does the notion of OP going out there and doing what he said is a concern for you? Me personally? No, I'm not in the dating game. I still find it deplorable. Whether or not I'm personally affected by an issue …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 11:57 PM
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Not defending physical violence, but someone breaking down and just bitching and someone breaking down and advocating lying to people are very different situations, and they'd get very different reactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 11:47 PM
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Some are, many aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 02:51 AM
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No? They still have the choice to take it or not. The pill and plan b have side effects, but you should take them if you want to. Constipation meds give me terrible cramps, and cause me to puke my guts out, but they're fine for other people. I don't see why they should be banned cause I have an averse reaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 11:48 PM
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You know you're not obligated to wear a condom, right? Why should it be illegal when it has massive benefits, and the downside is just "it doesn't feel as good as it could"? You have the choice to use them, why should we take the choice away from everyone else?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 11:14 PM
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Athletes don't interest me. Musicians and actors....eeeh, too much drama, pass.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 08:43 AM
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I'm not sure it would help much. If you're dealing with a dumb-dumb who doesn't notice the world around him (dirty laundry, full sink, empty fridge), I doubt he'd notice the chore chart either. Or if they did, they'd still probably forget about what they had to do. Scatterbrained people aren't helped with a chart on the fridge. And if you're dealing with someone who doesn't do anything cause they don't want to, a chore chart wouldn't help because they already know there are things to do. Plus, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:27 AM
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Never thought about it. I don't know those, so I can't say what they're like or what their lifestyle is like. In terms of looks, I'd say we were similar, at least from the ones I've seen on Facebook or Instagram.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 04:25 AM
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There's no winning. I write a comment about how I wouldn't date short guys again, tantrum. Some other user writes a comment about how her partner is short and she loves him, she must be lying. Like, pick a struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 05:05 PM
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My partner is well aware of my comments here. He'll occasionally ask if there have been any new dinguses on PPD. Pretty sure he finds it entertaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 01:20 AM
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I can empathize and understand, but I don't think that's what a lot of guys on here care about. There is always something else beyond understanding that they want, some kind of action to be taken by women as a whole, to fix their woes. And I don't really see how that can become a reality. Like, what is expected of women here? What actions should we take, how should we change to accommodate these guys? Is there even a way to do that? Half the guys on here go on about women lowering their standard…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 07:19 PM
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Yeees, they're hoarding the wealth, busting unions, and making everything shittier for most of society because they care about the non-union workers (that they also screw over). Silly me!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 07:11 PM
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The money they've hoarded for themselves by constantly lobbying for anti-worker policies? Yeah, I think they are ruining things for the average person when they try to syphon as much wealth as they possibly can.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 06:27 PM
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So we're just going with the assumption that the whole financial system is run by jews? The wealthiest people on the planet, be it individuals or the corporations they own, are ruining things for the rest of us. Their religion or ethnic background isn't really important here, a WASP billionaire is just as harmful as one of a different background.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 06:14 PM
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How was that antisemitic?!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 05:16 PM
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Men here, as a whole? No, plenty of dudes here seem to be pretty chill with women, even some among the red pillers. Some dudes on here do genuinelly seem to hate us though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 04:51 PM
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No one other than your mother will ever love you unconditionally That we can agree upon, but I'm also sure there are a few things I could do that would make my mother stop loving me. But in terms of unconditional love, we aren't loved unconditionally either; nobody is. We're wanted for our looks, bodies, baby-making, child-rearing, and home-making abilities, but that's not the same as being loved, let alone being loved unconditionally. If you're a conventionally attractive woman, more people wil…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 05:10 PM
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True, some people want a partner who has no way of supporting themselves, so they can control them. Most people, at least well-adjusted, non-malicious people, want a financially stable partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 05:18 PM
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It's not that money doesn't matter, everyone wants a financially stable partner. However, having a home gym isn't going to make up for some kind of more serious dealbreaker for a lot of people. Some people would gladly date a rich person, regardless if they're compatible or not, those people are just looking for someone to provide a stable and/or luxurious existence for them. Other people wouldn't want to be with someone they find unpleasant just because they can fly them to the Bahamas.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 04:53 PM
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No, next stupid question please, we have a quota for the week.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 09:02 PM
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Bi lady here, don't watch lesbian porn. I'm sure nowadays there are probably more varied videos, but it all seemed too male gazy for my liking back in the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 02:32 PM
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Yep. We occasionally hung out in the same group, never talked much. He moved away, moved back after a bit, we were at a friend's birthday party, ended up chatting. We hit it off, asked him out as we were walking home that night.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 02:13 AM
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Tinder, Tinder, and the other 3 guys I met through friends or at parties/events.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 01:38 AM
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You can give up if you want. Again, it's your life. If you ask for advice, people will give it. If you don't like it and don't want to do it, fine. But don't complain when you've tried nothing and nothing has changed. Calling it quits is a perfectly acceptable option, but then don't complain when people give advice you have no intention of taking. Complain in a vent forum, this is a place for debate, is it not
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 09:32 PM
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You guys ask for advice, get it, and then whine about how we want you to "hamstring yourselves for our comfort" I'm not the one struggling and asking for advice, you are. If you don't want to follow it, fine, but don't act like we're giving you advice for our sakes. We good.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 09:13 PM
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Okay, then die alone, it's your life. You guys refuse to do anything other than complain that other people have fewer issues dating. That seems to be getting you nowhere. Either do something to try and improve your chances or quit whining about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 08:35 PM
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It's not contradictory. If you're not meeting people now, you should probably change things in your life that will help you grow and meet people or the kind of people you'd like to have in your life. That doesn't mean "join any hobby to hit on any woman there who talks to you for half a second". Grow, improve as a person, and then try to meet people. Don't just join shit to do a cold approach with one extra step.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 08:33 PM
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I understand that growing as a person and trying new things is a novel concept for this sub, but you can try new things without it being disingenuous. If you're only interested in 2 things and have zero desire to learn or try anything new, it's perfectly fine to exist that way, just don't complain when your small world gives you limited opportunities.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 07:46 PM
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If he doesn't want to expand his horizons, he should quit bitching that he can't meet any women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 07:44 PM
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It is a bit of an empty platitude. For some people, it will happen when they stop trying, for some it won't. Some people are desperately clingy, and that drives people away. Maybe if they cut it out and stopped giving off desperate vibes, they'd get more interest. Yes, stop bothering us while we're on the bus or running errands. You don't know anything about us. We can be married, be in a relationship, be gay, be asexual, be widowed, or just plain not interested. It's not the initial approach th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 05:41 PM
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Expand your horizons a bit, try things that aren't just male-centric.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 05:33 PM
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First of all, good for you for working on figuring out where the insecurities come from. It's not easy to hold up a mirror to yourself and see the parts you'd like to avoid or not acknowledge. In terms of dealing with insecurities - what has helped me is to be honest with my partners about them. They will probably be that annoying little voice that comes up in my lowest moments, but my partner knows about them and can assure me that they're just lies. I also do my best to counter them myself whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 04:59 PM
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Mhm, you sound like the type to call Margot Robbie mid. She's quite pretty, and she's the VP of some production company, hardly your average woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 07:45 AM
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Bilzerian paid these women to be there. If it wasn't him, it was going to be some other rich dingus. And if it wasn't some rich guy, these ladies would go for someone as hot as them. They wouldn't be going after schlubby Bob down at McDonald's. A lot of men are complaining that they can't get any women, and that it's somehow the fault of women as a whole, rather than looking at themselves and considering what unattractive qualitie(s) they possess that make them unwanted by literally anyone. Or t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 02:46 AM
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its that others are getting visual access to what a man considers exclusive to the relationship. Um, what level of "revealing" are we talking about here? Because the bits that are viewed by my partner and my gyno are not usually seen by the public. And anything other than that is stuff everyone shows at the beach. So unless you never go to the beach or you expect your partner to be completely covered up at the beach, you're not getting exclusive visual access. As for my perspective on this - if …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 11:53 PM
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If someone is trying to insult you, they'll go for something you find hurtful.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 08:04 PM
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I know nothing about basketball, but I quite enjoy your basketball analogies.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 07:53 PM
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Especially if they're not conventionally attractive, apparently. She's an uggo (or a blandy), so she should take literally any man that expresses interest in her, she has no right to not be attracted to them!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 05:13 PM
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And then you people will whine about dead bedrooms and how she isn't madly in love with him. There's no winning.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 06:16 PM
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I was friends with a guy for 2 years, we saw each other pretty much every day, we regularly did baking nights at his place with a few other friends. He turned out to be a giant piece of shit and it only took 2 months of dating for his true colors to shine. 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 05:17 PM
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You say no actions are needed, but your own definition includes "being moved to help alleviate it". So is just sitting on your couch going "Golly gee, it sure is hard for dudes to date these days, hope someone helps out." enough? Or are we expected to actually help alleviate the issue? And if so, how do you think alleviation would look like?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 12:29 AM
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You haven't tho. You keep talking about how you're not sure what "having compassion" looks like in any actionable terms, you just keep telling people to think about it and come up with some ideas. Brainstorming is fine and all, but your whole post becomes pretty meaningless when you yourself can't rely define what you want people to do, other than some vague platitudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 11:33 PM
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Not really. The calls for "compassion" in this sub almost always boil down to "think of a way to make it easier for dudes to get laid". OP hasn't provided any clarification on what he means by "alleviate", so if we're going off by his general attitude towards women, his previous posts about not considering someone for anything romantic if they don't bang him on the first date (posts are hidden today, they weren't always hidden), and how he avoids giving any other idea of alleviating this issue, …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 09:51 PM
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I think we need both empathy AND compassion for our fellow humans. However, in this case, the issue always seems to be with this part and being motivated to help alleviate it. What problem would you like help alleviating, and what should that help be? If we're talking about general mental health issues, and men's pain not being taken seriously, then I'd agree. We can promote mental health, we should invest more into it, and we should promote people being more open to listening to each other. If …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 09:37 PM
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Cause the bad shit men do tends to be a lot more frequent and a lot more violent. That's not to say that women don't commit violent crimes or that they can't fuck up people's lives, they can, and they do, but the threat levels are pretty different. And even if we look at this sub - the women (for the most part) just want to be left alone, while there's at least one thread a week that's some thinly veiled threat about how women will regret not being more open to dating XYZ type of guy. One of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 05:29 PM
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It's not gendered, you're right. Plenty of shitty women out there too. But I'm thinking about it because this is the latest whine fest from some dude lamenting that women don't seem to have some undying affection for men as a whole. If someone asked about my opinions on women, I'd give the same answer - some are great, some suck a great deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 05:03 PM
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The group of men who conflate liking someone with being attracted to them I dislike wholeheartedly. All of them
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 05:02 PM
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I like men just fine, I just don't find every man attractive, nor do I find everything men do endearng or pleasant. I don't enjoy it when dudes try to hit me up as I'm going about my day, and it's not a pleasant feeling to reject a friend. I love the men in my life, and I try to be as kind and respectful as I can be to the men I interact with, but I'm not going to sing the praises of men as a whole. There are lots of decent, interesting, lovely fellows out there, there are also a lot of sleazy, …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 07:19 AM
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You're not guaranteed getting laid at the end of a date. Just because someone didn't want to immediately hop on your knob doesn't mean you're undesirable in general or even to them. You guys manage to have both the lowest self-esteem and the most overinflated sense of importance. People don't live their lives to make you, in particular, feel undesirable or unwanted, not every decision is made to slight you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:27 AM
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I wasn't in the mood, I was on my period, I didn't like you enough to ever see you again, I like you enough that I want to see you again and sleep with you when I actually am in the mood. If he doesn't want to see me again cause he didn't get to have sex on the first date, okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:00 AM
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And he knows that her desire is lesser, how exactly? It's all in you people's heads and you make it everyone else's problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 08:52 PM
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You're assuming the desirability is lesser because...she had previous partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 08:39 PM
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If you're unwanted by everyone and their grandmother, you do have a reason to not be secure in yourself, but that should be a wake-up call to fix some things about yourself. However, if you have a partner and you're hyperfixating on how they don't actually love you or want you because they've had partners before you, you're setting yourself up for failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 08:15 PM
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Tell me you've never had a conversation with real people without telling me you've never had a conversation with real people. Yes, we all want partners we find attractive. What we consider attractive, however, will vary from person to person. Some women like dudes with visible six-packs who drive fancy cars and ball out at the club, other women like dudes who can build a chicken coop or who go hiking on the weekend.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 08:06 PM
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If you've got a partner who loves you, cares about you and your wellbeing, and has enthusiastic sex with you, you shouldn't spend so much time thinking about how some dude she knew 10 years ago may have had a bigger dick or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 08:02 PM
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There is no one ideal man. Woman A's ideal man might be someone Woman B is only sexually interested in, and Woman C's platonic friend. Also - you're not a good guy if not getting a reward for it in the form of sex/relationships makes you into an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 07:54 PM
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The men who hyperfixate on virginity/purity tend to be incredibly insecure in their sexual abilities and/or their own desirability. Having a fling doesn't say much about one's character. You thought someone was hot, but didn't want anything serious with them for some reason. Could be a compatibility issue, could be different priorities, could just be not wanting anything serious with anyone at the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 07:24 PM
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Watching soccer/football/baseball/whatever on the couch for hours on end. Poker or any kind of gambling, really Guns Crypto Excessive gaming Accumulating large amounts of plastic shit (funko pops, warhammer figurines, etc.) Exotic pets like reptiles and snakes
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 01:06 AM
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My buddy is learning Russian and I help him out with pronunciation, guess I should inform him that he's using me for learning materials or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 08:53 PM
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How is he being manipulated? And did he ask her if she did these things, or did he assume she didn't do them? I think it's fine if you don't want friends who do XYZ, but you have to ask them about these things if they're friendship dealbreakers, it's not on people to give you every detail of their life because, maybe, something would rub you the wrong way. You're responsible for vetting your friends. If you don't do that, that's on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 08:49 PM
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Sounds like Jude expected something more from this relationship, and is now butthurt that he's not getting it. I don't see how she was deceptive. She treated him like a friend, and he's mad because....she's fucking other dude? She parties? How is she being deceptive here? I like to drink and party, I don't do that with every single one of my friends, guys or girls. One of my best friends (a lady) doesn't drink at all, and when we hang out, we do booking, chill things like trying out cute little …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 08:23 PM
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Because it's a dick move to insult people just because you don't agree with their life choices. I don't know why grown adults need to be reminded of this every other week. I don't like smoking. It's not for me, I don't enjoy having a partner who smells like an ashtray. I don't want to live with someone who will smoke and make the whole house smell bad, or even just someone who, to me, will smell bad. That being said, I don't go around talking shit about smokers, nor do I tell smokers that they'r…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 03:20 AM
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Not taking "no" for an answer. Constantly trying to be in my space or offering me "favors" when I've made it clear I don't want any of that. In terms of general creepy attitudes I find unpleasant from people in general: having no concept of personal space, not respecting boundaries, staring without breaking eye contact, being touchy without us having established a relationship that would allow for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 04:31 PM
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I wish they took it without any issue. I've had dudes try to pester me even after I told them I have a husband. Pain in the ass to deal with, just fuck off after the first "not interested".
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 11:27 PM
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This is what porn brain leads to.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 04:52 PM
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Simply for not having sex? No. For not having sex and constantly spewing hateful rhetoric towards women because of the lack of sex? Yeah, potentially threatening behavior right there.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 04:35 PM
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Men do get lonelier as they age, but that also comes down to a lot of older men not maintaining social connections with other people. Nobody is preventing men from meeting other men and hanging out with them. If you refuse to even try and make friends, that's on you. The boys scouts were destroyed as an organization by the rampant sexual abuse of children that had gone on for decades. A dying organization being more inclusive to save their existence is our fault how, exactly? I've yet to see evi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 04:09 AM
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I'm not saying society is way better now, it's worse in a few very significant ways. However, the male loneliness epidemic seems to be more of a generational issue, and it's not like women spawned into mixed spaces yesterday. Is it possible that there are other, much more influential reasons behind the wave of loneliness that is sweeping across a whole generation (including the women), or is this just the whinge fest of some dude who thinks women are mean for not wanting him?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 04:02 AM
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Most guys I know seem to be doing just fine on the male friend front. Both from the Americas and Europe. The ones who struggle with finding or maintaining friendships don't do so because Big Woman ™ ruined it for them. Granted, those men tend to be in their early 30s, so the problem might be generational more so than gender specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 03:37 AM
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That's not how alimony works, but okay. I think you should make sure both people are happy with their lot in life. I love my job, I wouldn't agree to move somewhere where I can't do it just to prioritize my partner's career ambitions. But yes, I imagine a situation where you both work and are pulling your weight in the home would be pretty good for a large chunk of women. I'm sure some would be okay to move for their partner's career, but many wouldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 05:44 PM
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I'd be a bit concerned that he didn't bring it up for 6 years, honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 09:11 PM
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I have easy access to stinky tofu, a restaurant 3 minutes away from my house has it on its menu. I don't consider that to be a great advantage because I don't want stinky tofu. Some people are fine with not having a serious partner and might really enjoy fairly easy access to casual sex and relationships. For many others, these experiences aren't fun, and if anything, they make you feel even more lonely than you felt before. And, even for the people who do enjoy casual sex, it doesn't mean they'…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 08:41 PM
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I think Henry Cavill and all the other beefy actors look great and all, but I've never been into guys like that. Way too big, and I've never met a guy like that whose lifestyle would match my own. I do like men who work out, but I don't need them to have a six-pack and perfectly defined muscles. I can appreciate how someone looks without wanting to date/sleep with that person. That being said, what I would consider "too muscular" would be my friend's "just right". When talking about this, it's h…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 02:14 AM
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But...it's not. If you both decided that you're only going to be with that person, then it would be cheating. If you're both free to pursue sex with other people, then you're not exclusive. That's why you need to communicate with the other person. What do you want? What do they want? Are you on the same page. If you just assumed you were exclusive and got your feelings hurt, that sucks, and you will need to have a conversation with the other person about your relationship, but it's not cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 08:51 PM
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I'm usually the one who hands out free food. I love to bake, but I don't like sweets all that much, so it works out well for my friends. My friends and I will help each other with moving, rides, fixing something if we're able to, cause that's what friends are for. This goes for my male and female friends, I'd say the give-and-take is fairly equal with all of them. My guess: On average, women receive more things for free, and men give more than they receive. That hasn't been my experience. Most g…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 06:59 AM
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Personality and social skills are a big one for me. I'm very outgoing, and I find very outgoing guys very attractive. Being funny, being a good conversationalist, and being able to make risque jokes in a way that doesn't come off as creepy or pushy are all things that I've found in things I've felt very strong attraction towards. I've had the hots for guys who were oozing charisma, even if their looks weren't anything special (my height or slightly shorter, didn't have a six pack or serious musc…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 08:46 PM
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This reads as if you wrote it with one hand. Sexual health could involve making sure your bits are lubricating and working as intended, but it's also about what kind of precautions you take to practice safe sex with your partner(s).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 05:54 PM
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Nope, or at least nobody has told me that was the reason for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 04:48 PM
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How many average looking, average height, average earning guys do you believe are knocking out of the park with women right now? Depending on what they expect out of dating, they could be delusional or be doing just fine. Getting a few dates here and there with other average people? Seems like a reasonable expectation. Getting a bunch of sex from a ton of different very attractive people? Sounds like a pretty big ask for an average dude. But I don't know a single guy who I would consider average…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 10:30 PM
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For a long-term relationship I think they'd also want someone better than ''you'll do", but it's not like there aren't people out there (men and women, but we're talking about men in this thread) who will string a placeholder partner for a long time, hoping they find someone better.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 10:19 PM
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For most people? I don't think so. For a relatively small subset of people, who probably wouldn't be knocking it out of the park in the dating game to begin with? Probably. Now, it depends on whether we're talking about robots that would be used as housekeepers and sex toys. I'd probably get one to do the chores, I imagine most people would. I'm sure there would be a decent market for sex dolls, too. But replacing genuine human connection? Doubt it. I also think the whole "robots will replace yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 09:53 PM
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I think men (in general, not everyone is like that) have a lower threshold for what they'd accept as a partner, not that they don't actually have a preference for some characteristics over others. Many men would date a girl who they aren't all that into just because she's willing to sleep with them, and is kinda fun to hang with.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 09:48 PM
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I'm great. Just got off work and reading this drivel on the bus. Very entertaining, if a bit concerning.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 09:25 PM
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You okay, champ?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 09:20 PM
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I've never taken up a stranger on their cold approach anywhere, but there are better and worse places to do it. At the gym, after I've finished working out? Fine, it will still be a "no", but okay enough time to approach. At the gym while I'm working out? No. While I'm running errands or on my way to work. No. While I'm at a bar? Fine. While I'm at a bar with my partner (a dude waited for my boyfriend at the time to go to the bathroom before he started hitting on me)? No. I find cold approches m…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 02:45 PM
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I think direct communication works best. However, if I've communicated my concern/need/boundary once, and the other person continues to do/not do the thing we talked about, I'm not going to listen to the words coming out of his mouth, I'll look at his actions. Anyone can say "sorry, won't happen again" or "I hear you loud and clear", but unless there is actual change, I'm just going to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 09:16 PM
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It isn't something that interests me. It's also a lot of effort for little to no return, I can think of better ways to spend my time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 12:03 AM
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If you're both enjoying it, that's what matters. I think toys are fun, some people don't agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 11:55 PM
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I don't think I'd advise anyone to marry a promiscuous or non-promiscuous woman. I'd tell them to look for someone who is on the same page as them. You're a guy who isn't into crazy sexual stuff? Find someone like that. You're into public sex, toys, and trying out new positions all the time? Find someone who is also into that shit. Do you want a long-term partner and to get married someday? Do you also want a fulfilling sex life with someone who wants the same things as you sexually? If the answ…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 09:36 PM
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I'm 34, and now I feel emotionally stable and mature enough to have a kid (financial insecurity is a whole other problem). 25 y.o. me would have been a shit parent, and I didn't even want kids at that age. My partner is a year younger than me, and he would have also been a shit parent at 25. Most people I know wouldn't have been great parents at that age. I do know a few people who wanted kids, had them in their mid-20s, and are awesome parents. There isn't a one-size-fits-all situation here. In…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 09:53 PM
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Mostly. He's still learning how to cook, so not everything he makes is great (or even just good sometimes), but he's improving, and I appreciate the effort he puts in. We had a few arguments about it. I'm pretty sure I was very rude during them, but if you're 30 and can't figure out how to follow a recipe, you're either on the dumber side of humanity or you're just being lazy. Cleaning and the rest of the chores? No complaints.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 08:27 PM
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I'm from Eastern Europe, and I lived in China for a while. I've dealt with these kinds of dudes both online and offline. The way they viewed women like the local Chinese girls and me was like we were some exotic animal they saw at the zoo. We were there to be enthralled by their mediocre asses. There was zero interest in us as people, only what we could (supposedly) provide dudes who weren't likable to convince anyone but the most desperate visa seekers to put up with them. That's why I don't li…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 03:15 AM
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I would let them know I have a new partner, and if they're uncomfortable seeing us together, I'd understand if they needed space and didn't want to hang out if he was there. Or even if the friend needed time away from our friendship. He is responsible for his own feelings. If he's not happy with how things are, he doesn't have to remain friends with me, as much as I wouldn't enjoy losing a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 10:41 PM
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The problem isn't being able to admit that we need protection, I'm just not giving credit for said protection to the people I need to be protected from in the first place. The dudes who are the loudest about the whole "men are protectors" thing are the dudes you'd need the most protection from, they're the same as those mafia dudes who try to sell you insurance against fires (that they would start unless you took them up on their offer). Also - plenty of men think they can beat a gorilla in a fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 10:10 PM
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You're the type of dude nobody listens to because you're so focused on being the biggest victim that you repel anyone who might be willing to hear you out.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 08:19 AM
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I haven't minimized it, all I'm saying is that everyone considers their problems more pressing/serious than the problems of other people. I could also write a long comment about the pressure women face to always be sweet and kind, never take up space, always be there to care for others, how we're judged for everything we do or don't do, how we've got whole industries dedicated to creating new insecurities about our bodies to make us feel less than so we give them money, how many men drone endles…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 01:34 AM
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The grass is always greener. I know men deal with their own shit in terms of dating and, well, life, but when I've been trying to get rid of a creepy dude who has been following me around the bar for the past 30 minutes, I'm not going to tell myself "This sucks, but my buddy Dale has to deal with bots on Tinder". I'll tell myself, "man, I wish I was dealing with bots on Tinder!" because my situation right now sucks a lot for me, and I'd rather deal with a different issue. When I'm dealing with p…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 08:32 PM
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Neither is harmless, you can have pretty bad experiences from both sex and (hormonal) birth control. BC can have some pretty nasty side effects, and you can get pregnant or contract a disease from sex. Casual sex opens you up to private interactions with people you don't know all that well (if at all), so you might have an encounter with a dangerous individual. That being said, it's probably a libido issue. I've got a pretty high libido relative to my female friends, and I enjoyed myself before …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 08:20 PM
1

Nah, I see what you mean. She gives off drunk, stuck up trust fund baby vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 06:24 AM
14

I find her extremely unpleasant, and I don't think that it's appropriate to air out your dirty laundry for the whole world to see (goes for both of them), but it's their relationship, if they're happy with the dumpster fire they married, congrats, I guess? They're not inflicting themselves on us, so that's a good thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 11:37 PM
1

Yes to all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 03:38 AM
1

They're not my cup of tea.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 11:22 PM
2

Most people would define feminism as "equal rights for men and for women". Unfortunately, this equality does not seem to extend to the area of taxation and the funding of the welfare state. I'm sorry, but are feminists campaigning to make it so only men pay taxes or something? Cause I haven't heard anything like that. vote in favor of welfare policies which effect a net transfer of wealth from high income men without children to low income women with children. Again, are rich dudes the only ones…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 01:54 AM
1

If we're talking about people who have tried to get to know me after we met and chatted a bit at a party/bar/work/event - looks, personality, a good sense of humor, similar interests. If we're talking about dudes who just saw me at a bar and came to hit on me - looks, that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 04:59 PM
6

We're aware, that's why we tell you people to get friends and not just rely on your partner to be your only social outlet.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 11:46 PM
1

It's not a violation of consent for an actress to play a highly sexualized role, sure. Sexy video game characters are also not hurt by being dressed up in chainmail lingerie or whatever, they're not real. However, I would say that it says something about a man who can't enjoy a piece of media without T&A being the most (if not the only) important trait the character has. I like looking at hot dudes, I don't throw a fit if I see a movie or video game that doesn't feature Chris Evans or Michael B.…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:10 PM
1

In this economy? We'd both understood the other person took one for the team. Sure, we'd have to talk about hurt feelings and whatever, but we'd be doing from the comfort of the home we'd finally be able to afford 🤷‍♀️ Shit, we'd probably both agree to it if we got 20 mil in total.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 09:17 PM
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I can have a meaningful social bond with a guy without banging him. If a man thinks the only way I can show my care for them is as a romantic and/or sexual partner, that's their problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 09:49 PM
2

I'm so tired of that asshole being presented first and foremost as a husband and father. He was those things, but 1) he didn't make his living having a cutesy family blog, 2) people aren't making fun of him being dead specifically so they can dunk on his kids, and 3) he had no problem shrugging off the suffering and death of other husbands, fathers, and children (cause what are a few kiddy corpses in return for the 2nd amendment) He spent his short life making the world a worse place. I don't th…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 01:54 PM
3

NBA players aren't my jam, too tall, neither are tech geeks. Nerds of a different variety, on the other hand, are right up my alley.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 08:38 PM
2

None of them. But if I had a gun to my head, No. 3 seems the most acceptable of the bunch. Edit: Just saw the edit. The two kids thing isn't a big deal, but having nothing in common is. So, I'm going back to "none of them".
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 05:00 PM
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No. I have friends who have just had a few boyfriends, I have friends who fucked around a lot. Sleeping around isn't for everyone. Some people have tried it and didn't enjoy it, so they stopped; some people never even tried it because it sounded miserable to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 07:44 PM
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I'd be 6'3'', I'd still be doing the job I'm doing because there's a good amount of guys in my industry, I'm very personable, people seem to like me. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have a problem dating someone similar to myself as I am now.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 07:41 PM
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Oh, I sideye the women who support those values as well. They have agency, I'm not letting them off the hook.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 01:56 PM
2

It was like that when I was in my teens - mid 20s, not sure if that's still the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 01:29 PM
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I've been with guys with big dicks, been with guys with average dicks. Bigger isn't always better, some of the average dudes were way better in bed than some of the bigger dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 08:11 AM
3

Bingo. And it's not like the most macho EE types would have a better chance of surviving in a war. They're the types who have a borderline ODD attitude when it comes to listening to others, they don't know shit and refuse to admit it, and will actively cause problems just to participate in the dumbest of dick-measuring contests. Not the best mix of qualities for an effective soldier.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 10:32 PM
1

Haven't had too much contact with people from Slovakia or Czechia, as for the Polish - similar to Bulgarians. You've got decent dudes, you also have a lot of backwards shitheads, the assholery is just Catholic flavoured.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 09:21 PM
2

Bulgaria
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 07:48 PM
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Cause I've seen the shittiest parts of them, and I really wouldn't want to deal with that? It's not that I have a particular dislike for them, some of my past partners are from my country, most of my closest guy friends are from there as well. But if I was still dating, I'd probably be cautious about dating a guy from that part of the world. While there are plenty of guys from that part of the world who would be an okay match for me in terms of our values and worldview, there are way more who I …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 07:37 PM
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I don't despise men, I just think that in every group of men, you'll have some culturally specific unpleasant behaviours that I'd prefer to avoid. There are things I dislike about Western guys, there are things I dislike about EE guys. But I've dated men from both Eastern Europe and North America, they've been decent dudes for the most part.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 07:18 PM
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I imagine they might stay away from them. I'm an Eastern European woman, I would avoid Eastern European men. Way too many neanderthals among them. Not to say that Western men are princes, they're not, but the level of backwards thinking my fellow EErs exhibit can be very off-putting to someone who has grown up in the West. That's not to say that all EE men are like that, obviously. But there are a lot of unga-bungas in the mix.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 04:50 PM
1

This indicates women want a man who actively is hypergamous, How so? Just because you want to feel special doesn't mean you want to feel superior to others. I'm well aware that, in the grand scheme of things, I'm pretty much the same as every other woman out there. However, I do want my partner to think that I'm special to them in particular.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 12:25 AM
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Love is real, it's also conditional. I don't just love every person I see on the street, I don't love every single person I've ever gone on a date with. Men who see me on the street don't love me either, nor does every man who has been on a date with me. The people who have loved me loved me after getting to know me. The initial attraction towards someone may be based on more superficial things like liking their looks, however, loving someone requires something deeper. And that love can always v…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 12:20 AM
3

Dating and friendships are one of those things where it takes two to tango. You might be ready and willing to engage with someone as a friend or romantic partner, but if they don't want to do that with you, that's unfortunate. Hopefully, you find someone who wants that with you, but it's not like anyone can provide you with a partner. We're talking about people here, not natural resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 09:12 PM
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We do care about looks, but looks aren't the only important thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 09:04 PM
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Of course, since dating is a zero-sum game, for someone to be "punching up," someone needs to be "punching down". I love how you just expect us to assume that this is true. Dating isn't a zero-sum game. Sure, some people will settle for someone who they think is way less desirable than themselves just to avoid being alone. However, that's not the norm. But to answer your question - I wouldn't say so. I've approached conventionally attractive guys, conventionally attractive guys have approached m…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 11:23 PM
3

I dress the most provocatively in settings where there are like 2 guys, and they might both be gay. That being said, I will dress like that if I'm going on a date with someone I'm interested in sexually. Some people dress for themselves, others dress that way because they like getting compliments from other women, a third group will dress like that for men, and some people will have a combo of all three, depending on how they feel that day.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 06:48 PM
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Teachings aren't genetic. You'll have people who follow in their parents' footsteps, and you'll have people who will go the opposite route. Plenty of religious people decide that their religious upbringing was absolute hogwash and choose a more secular lifestyle for themselves. Plenty of people from large families have one or two kids. And, on the opposite side of the spectrum, plenty of people from liberal-leaning families turn into hateful little rightwing shits. So how are Feminists going to …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:27 PM
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Cause the people cast in movies tend to be way hotter than the average person, even wish-fulfillment fantasies geared towards men. I don't think Batman needs to be built like a brick shithouse, but they made Ben Affleck do some weird crossfit shit with a tyre for some reason. And some people do want a billionaire who looks like an underwear model, who also has a heart of gold. It's a nice fantasy to imagine that a really hot/successful/generally exceptional person would fall for an "average" per…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 10:48 PM
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No. I've had that happen, he took it well, we're still friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 04:23 PM
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No, casual sex, just like any other kind of sex, is for those who want it and who can find someone who wants to engage with them in that manner. You can pursue it, there's no guarantee you'll get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 02:00 PM
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So rejection on its own isn't humiliating, it's only when someone goes out of their way to make fun of you for daring to approach? Sure. But how is "I have a partner" humiliating, even if it's not true? Wouldn't it be more humiliating for us to say "Nah bro, you ugly as hell"? Also - guys will keep trying even if you tell them you have a husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 09:16 PM
5

A friend of mine told me about a strip club in his city that has good food, I told him we need to go next time I go visit him.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 04:18 PM
10

Our night out can be dinner, going to a bar or a club, going to one of our places and getting drunk in comfort, or it can be going to a stand-up show/movie/play/ballet. As for our trips - few days at the beach, or we just go to a spa for the weekend. We could get hit on at most of these places, so I'm not sure where we're supposed to go to avoid even the possibility of someone hitting on us. Also, someone hitting on me isn't me being improper. If you want your partner to avoid potential interact…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 04:12 PM
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The wifi's been down all day, I'm not getting a connection either.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 01:13 AM
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For some, it was location. For others, it was a combo of looks, poor mental health, and/or neurodivergence.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 09:42 PM
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Being nice is only one part of it. You can be nice and be as dull as dishwater.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 09:30 PM
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Cause being nice is part of what makes people want to hang with you. It's not the only thing, but unpleasant dickheads eventually end up alone because nobody wants to put up with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 08:23 PM
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I don't assume a romantically unsuccessful person is an asshole. I have friends who are lovely people, but have had shitty luck in terms of finding a relationship. On the other hand, I have also met some absolute assholes who also had issues finding a relationship. For those guys, being an insufferable turd of a human was the main reason for their lack of success, and their lack of friends on top of that. Until I hear someone's opinions, I don't make assumptions about their character. Maybe they…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 08:12 PM
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Many people here say you should do both. I'd argue most people don't even say "just be nice", they tell the guys to try and be more social, try new things, meet new people, get some new hobbies, basically become a more fun person to be around.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 08:04 PM
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Sure. People tend to want to sleep with people they find attractive. I can be friends with people I don't find attractive, but I wouldn't go on dates with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 07:43 PM
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I've had sex with people on the first date, I've also waited a few dates. But in either case, I wouldn't say I knew the people well. I knew I liked them well enough to sleep with them, but I didn't really know them, that took months of getting to know each other, talking, sharing experiences together.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 06:17 PM
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I wouldn't say I'm extremely hot, but I've definitely broken a few hearts. If it's someone I loved but couldn't be with for whatever reason (incompatibility, them being shitty, we were moving to different countries, we drifted apart), it sucks a lot. If it was some dude who was infatuated with me, but I wasn't even friends with them, it's more of a me shrugging and going "that sucks" deal. If a complete stranger approaches me, I really couldn't care less about how bummed out he is from my "no".
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 04:50 PM
1

We're not, you people just throw a hissy fit when women say it and go on about how we're shallow and act like someone being attractive is the ONLY thing that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 04:07 PM
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Cause I like my partner and want to be exclusive with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 05:48 PM
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Given how expensive everything is, both my partner and I have to work, so we both have to take care of the house. Also, being a stay-at-home-spouse sucks ass, it's so damn dull, I wouldn't ask someone to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 02:40 PM
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No, it's not really the same situation. Having a couple of sexual partners is pretty standard, what Bonnie Blue does is pretty out there. It's like calling someone who occasionally has an edible at a festival a hypocrite for not wanting to be besties with the local heroin addict. That would be absurd.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 07:23 AM
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Yes, I don't see why I would cut her off.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 07:17 AM
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But you're supposed to develop for yourself, not because you're expecting to be given a participation trophy in the form of a partner. Nobody owes you a friendship or a romantic relationship, you have to make people want those things with you, it's not up to the world to give you special good boy points. If you can't convince people to want to spend time with you or get to know you, that sucks, but other people aren't being shitty for not finding you pleasant/fun/interesting/whatever enough to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 05:47 PM
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Why do you assume that these guys all have winning personalities? I know some autistic guys who are great, but they can get a bit annoying when they start going on about their hyperfixation. I'm fine with dealing with that as a friend, but I wouldn't want to deal with that from a romantic partner. I also know some autistic guys who are absolute turds, even if they weren't autistic they'd be intolerable because they're just unpleasant people.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 05:32 PM
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I recommend Pleasers, they come in all sorts of colors.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 05:18 PM
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I don't think anyone expects them to do anything. If you want X, and you're not getting it as you currently are, you should probably change something that is preventing you from getting X. Doing it doesn't mean they'll succeed in obtaining X, they still might not get it for a number of reasons. Especially in terms of interpersonal relationships, people aren't obligated to give you a shot because you just really want them to. It sucks, but that is the unfortunate reality of the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 05:17 PM
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Normal, well-adjusted people also have issues they have to deal with. You can also be a normal, well-adjusted person, and deal with systemic issues - you get injured and realize how poorly thought out the infrastructure for disabled people is, for example. Or you deal with some racist/homophobic/sexist pricks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 06:26 PM
1

If a guy cold approaches me I just want him to leave me alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 12:16 PM
6

I like debating, and it was a good way to pass the time when I had a lot of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 01:56 PM
15

No amount of money would be enough to make me overlook the lack of attraction, or worse, a genuine feeling of revulsion.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 09:34 PM
12

I don't think it's a moral failing, but I wouldn't want to be with someone like that. I also wouldn't want to be with some hedge fund douchebro, I'd probably see the way they live their lives as a moral failing sooner than I would go "ew" at the slacker. But, thankfully, these two types of dudes aren't the only options. You can be driven in areas other than your career, you can be driven in a career that will never make you rich, and you don't have to just sit in front of your computer for fun. …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 10:59 AM
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Some people do use sex as a reward. I personally don't agree with that, I don't think intimacy should be weaponized, but some people do that. However, when people say "sex isn't a reward" they mean that most people don't go around with the conscious thought of "if this person does XYZ, I will give them sex". They meet someone they like, they're horny, so they have sex with someone who tickles their fancy. I suppose that if you wanted to be super pedantic about it, you could say that sex is a rew…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 10:50 AM
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I was a stay-at-home wife for a bit, and let me tell you, I'd probably jump into the ocean before I did that again. It's isolating, mind-numbing, and I hated it most of the time. There are only so many cookies you can bake and socks you can knit before you start losing it. I'm so much happier now that I've gotten back to work, and as tiring and stressful as it can be, I'm fine with that. It's so much better than the soulsucking experience of being stuck at home, dependant on someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 06:27 PM
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Am I wearing clean underwear? Does my makeup and outfit look good? That's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 02:49 AM
1

I'd be weirded out if anyone gave me a fake name, and I most likely wouldn't want to interact with them. There's definitely some shit going on there, and I'm not bringing that drama into my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 02:45 AM
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I'm bi, I've dated bi guys. Never been something I thought about too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 02:47 AM
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That's why I said " in the context of trying to hit on them/get them to go home and/or date you". I've met 15 y.o. kids who were very mature and responsible when it came to school or a part-time job. But if you're telling some kid they're mature in a sexual/romantic context, you're just a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 08:53 PM
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If you're telling children ages 12-17 that they're mature for their age in the context of trying to hit on them/get them to go home and/or date you, you are a groomer. Yes, no exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 08:38 PM
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I'd say I'm relatively fit, I wouldn't say my standards for a partner have changed. I like people who exercise, be that at the gym or in some other way, and I appreciate a pair of well-developed forearms and biceps, but I haven't gotten into gym rats. Visible abs are nice, but aren't the end all be all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 02:04 PM
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I mean, the options are you're either doing it because you don't like women, or because you're just a piece of crap in general. I'm happy to not call you a misogynist, but then I'd have to go with the latter. If you treat people you date poorly, that just means you suck, the words used to express your suckage will vary.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 09:11 PM
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Fine by me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 12:30 AM
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I changed my last name on Facebook, I wouldn't legally change it. If someone wants to do it, meh, it's their business.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 10:50 PM
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As another former party girl - yeah, pretty much.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 03:52 PM
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I used to do most of the cooking and cleaning when I wasn't working. Now that I'm back to work, we do a more even split of all the work around the house. He's never complained that I don't do as much because he's an adult and I'm not his maid.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 01:55 PM
1

It kind of is. To me, it sounds like "I have no personality or preferences of my own.''
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 04:05 PM
1

Tinder
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 07:51 PM
2

Yep. I do aerials and most people who go are women or non binary, although there are a couple of guys in my regular pole class.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 02:22 PM
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The number of men and women I know who work out is pretty even, but the activities tend to be different.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 02:10 AM
6

We accept it, we just don't think we have to help them achieve their lofty goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 01:53 AM
1

I've asked a few guys out, usually after we hung out at a party or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:33 PM
2

I've approached guys I was interested in when I was dating, and I've been approached by guys. I was not even remotely thinking about the guys who never chose to interact with me, there were no positive or negative thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 10:33 PM
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Very early on. I'm very outspoken, so people are usually aware of my opinions pretty quickly. Abortion, immigration, LGBTQ issues. I can get pregnant and may require an abortion in certain circumstances, I'm an immigrant, and I'm bi (and I have LGBTQ friends). I'm not dating someone who would want for me and my loved ones to live shittier lives. I tried dating a guy who seemed mildly conservative. Didn't last long, he turned out to suck big time (completely unrelated to his political views, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 01:51 PM
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Are you asking what my source for my own relationships is, or are you asking why I think you pulled this entire OP from your behind?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 04:05 AM
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Source: The University of AssFacts I think fondly of most people I've been in a relationship with, just had a nice video call with an ex this morning. I do have two people I would consider absolute turds who can go to Hell, come back, and go back to Hell again, but they're the exception, not the rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 02:55 AM
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You're the only one talking about people being worthless, my guy. Get some help, I mean it in the nicest way possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 01:57 AM
1

There are other things in life besides dating. It's up to you to figure out what the whole point of your life is, it's not up to randos on reddit to hand over this revelation to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 07:30 PM
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I don't have an issue with guys, or anyone else, for that matter, complaining about dating apps. They can be a sucky experience, I've had male and female friends complain about them. It just starts to get old that the complaint is "The women on here don't want me.'. Okay, that sucks, but what more can we say after we've heard it for the millionth time? Make the women on these apps want to go out with you? Go out with you ourselves? Shame women who don't want you? Tinder has a lot more male users…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 04:33 PM
2

When I was a kid, there was definitely a difference between what was expected of little boys and little girls. Little girls were often expected to help with the cooking/cleaning, and we were expected to be less messy, less rowdy than boys. It wasn't expected of all girls, I was allowed to play in the dirt all I wanted, but for a lot of girls, there was a standard set very early about what was okay for them, and what wasn't. I wouldn't say we were somehow more responsible than boys, we all just w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 05:29 PM
2

Good man!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 11:29 PM
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Go to the local bakery and then to the local deli because I want to get the good bread and cheese my grandma used to get for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 04:04 AM
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Viewing ones partner as convenient and thinking that people wouldn't willingly choose them over some hotter lady is what I'd consider begrudgingly tolerating them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 05:13 AM
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Oh, I'm sure I'd avoid you. Probably not for the reasons you're thinking I would, but still.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 03:49 AM
7

It's an incredibly dorky way to present yourself online, and dorky people are often considered to be very sheltered. Thinking that smoking weed is some particularly edgy activity is also pretty dorky.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 03:37 AM
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I'm sorry, but the guy with the Naruto username acting like he's Mr. Worldly while he's treating smoking weed like it's this ultra transgressive, ghetto activity is kinda funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 02:51 AM
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Yes: 1, 9, 16, 27, 28, No: 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 8, 10, 11, 13, 14, 15, 17, 18, 20, 22, 24, 25, 26 Depends: 7, 12, 19, 21, 23, 29, 30
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 02:37 AM
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If Becky isn't doing it for you, that's cool, but don't expect her to be thrilled that you're begrudgingly tolerating her.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 10:45 PM
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I wouldn't be okay with my partner describing me as "convenient". I'm not a consoltation prize cause Sabrina Carpenter-looking women aren't into him.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:03 PM
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Most men I know aren't working dangerous jobs or physically defending strangers. Not to say that no men do these things, a friend works in construction, my partner is in the trades, and I know plenty of great dudes who would step in to help someone if it was needed. However, the dudes whinging the loudest about how hard they, as men, have it are whiny tech/finance/accountant/lower-middle management bros who would probably pass out if they had to move a bad of cement. I do know plenty of women wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:16 AM
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I'm not the one making the argument that we should ban something because some people are more successful at it. I think it's a pretty silly argument. As for the consequences of OF being a thing being extremely bad - what are the consequences? A small amount of guys spend money to see some naked ladies？ I'm sure some dudes spend way more than they can afford, and this is basically an addiction for them, but people get addicted to all sorts of things that we still readily sell - booze, cigarettes,…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 12:52 AM
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I think change is possible, if a person admits that they've been a shitty person, and actively work hard on becoming a better human. That being said, if an ex of mine (who was just a plain old narcissist, but not a misogynist/bigot) came back into my life to tell me he's a changed man, I'd congratulate him, and wish that he's been successful for the sake of any woman that has to deal with him romantically, but I wouldn't want to have any kind of relationship with him. You can grow and become a b…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 11:48 PM
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I'm just following your logic - we shouldn't have this thing because not everyone doing it will be as successful at it. It's kind of a shit argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 06:45 PM
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Should we also stop making pepperoni pizza because it's not fair that it's more popular than broccoli and vegan cheese pizzas simply because it tastes better?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 06:13 PM
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Why do you people need society to give you a lollipop to do anything? If you don't want to take an active role as a spouse or parent, you don't have to be either of those things. Some people want a partner to share their lives with, some people want kids that they can raise and teach stuff, some people love the idea of going to the park with their kids and spouse and just having an awesome, chill Sunday. And some people don't, that's fine. I don't understand the number of dudes on this sub who, …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 06:05 PM
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I never planned my dating life. I met someone, we hit it off, we started dating. If I hadn't met someone, cool, I had plenty of other things to do. Worked out in the end. If I was single again, I'd probably stick to the same strategy if I wanted to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 05:31 PM
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Wouldn't change who I'd be interested in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 03:47 PM
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I fully agree that less developed places like the US should stop with the barbaric practice of circumcision.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 01:40 PM
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Cause I don't want to be dependent on someone, duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 10:58 PM
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I'm definitely going to start using "a poof-teenth of fuck all"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 01:29 PM
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I didn't say it doesn't happen, it just doesn't happen with the frequency OP seems to think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 01:22 PM
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It's laughed at, wouldn't say it's despised. It's mostly a self own.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 06:01 AM
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So is what OP is going on about.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 06:00 AM
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I'm one of the most extroverted people in all my friend groups. I'm very sex positive, I have enjoyed a decent bit of casual sex, and my hobby involves spending time with some sex workers. And yet, I've still never encountered the levels of debauchery some dudes who have experienced life only through the Internet claim is super common. Does it happen? Of course it does. Is it what most people are doing? No, it's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 05:22 AM
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Since this thread is just "dunk on the OP" : Man, you couldn't waterboard such a massive L out of me. Props for the courage, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 03:13 AM
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I've never met a single woman who refused to be 1:1 with a man in the workplace. I'm sure those women exist, but they're not particularly common. On the other hand, we've got the former VP of the United States avoiding 1:1 meetings with half the population of his coworkers/staffers/the general public. Personally, I think both people would be weird for putting up such barriers at work.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 09:56 PM
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It's reasonable to be cautious around people. If you've had a ton of shitty experiences with guys named Greg, I'd understand why you might not be too keen to hang out with Greg, the new coworker. If you decide to harass Greg over his perceived awfulness, however, is where it becomes an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 02:06 PM
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I don't think it's acceptable. I can understand being cautious around men, pretty sure most women have at least one unpleasant story of a guy being aggressive/following them/not taking no for an answer, and many of us have more than one of these experiences. That being said, if you're going to take those few experiences and actively be discriminatory towards men (maybe you won't hire them, maybe you judge everything they do way too harshly and imagine transgressions where there are none), that's…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 08:38 PM
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It sucked, a lot, for a while. Eventually, I feel in love again.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 03:46 PM
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Ideally, both people will do favours for the other person. But maintaining the house you live in isn't a favour, it's just basic adult stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 11:29 PM
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He should be cleaning the house and doing domestic duties because he also lives there, he's not doing me a favour by being a baseline functional adult. Like I said, if he's just doing the bare minimum, I'm not interested, I can clean the house and give myself ograsms very enthusiastically perfectly fine on my own, I don't need someone who is just phoning it in,
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 06:03 PM
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Bare minimum doesn't work for me, so we wouldn't be together all that long.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 03:25 PM
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Macho bullshit like never expressing any emotion other than anger. Acting like you're better than any woman because you've got a dick. Getting super aggressive for no good reason. Being unable to admit that you like cutesy things and animals. I like people who can express themselves and aren't afraid to like what they like. You like that floral shirt and will wear it even if some doofus thinks you're gay? Hell yeah!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 02:07 PM
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I imagine most of them will grow out of it. It sucks being an awkward, pimply teenager who hasn't grown into their looks or personality yet. Some will always be undesirable for a variety of reasons, but most of the edge will soften as they meet new people and eventually find someone who's into them. I know this place focuses on how the most unfortunate of the unfortunates are doing, but when I go outside, I see so many average young people with their average friends and average partners. Yes, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 08:22 PM
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Yeaaaah, haven't thought of that cesspool in a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 08:19 PM
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Eh, I remember this kind of crap being around during the "heyday" of Return of Kings and similar dinguses. It is probably growing in popularity among young boys, which is concerning. However, a bunch of them will get their first kiss and move past being upsetti spaghetti that Sarah from their English lit class didn't want to go to prom with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 07:57 PM
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"Everything she does for you is for her survival.. everything your mother does for you is for your survival"- M.Tyson First of all, I wouldn't take anything someone who gets punched in the head for a living has to say as some sage advice. Second of all, what is the great wisdom here - that your mother will prioritize you, but some random, unrelated to you lady won't? Yeah, no shit, that applies to literally every man and woman out there. My mother would kill for me, but the lady at the deli down…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 07:44 PM
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Some men want to be seen as The Competent One in the relationship, and the only way some of them can do that is to seek out a partner who couldn't find their way out of a paper bag. Thankfully, not all men are like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 05:26 PM
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For flings: do we have a good time together and do I find you hot? For relationships: same, but I also want to know if we're on the same page on some more important stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 04:18 PM
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It's not reality tho. Plenty of men with thoroughly unimpressive lifestyles are loved by their partners. A bunch of you just want to be treated like God's gift to women by the hottest women you can imagine, and that's just not happening for most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 12:08 AM
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Is this another ones of those "my life sucks, so society is fucked" rants?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 12:02 AM
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Get some Vitamin C eye cream for the dark circles. I have some hyperpigmentation around the eyes, been using this for a while, and there's definitely a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 09:09 PM
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I'd say the same things that make a man a bad man - being dishonest, unstable (both financially and behaviour-wise), abusive, arrogant, superficial.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:33 PM
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Billy is being a whiny ass online, Dorothy is just living her life and not bitching to anyone about her lack of romantic satisfaction. I fail to see what I should be criticizing Dorothy for.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 05:41 PM
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But it's not. Divorce sucks for both parties. Women experience worse financial outcomes after a divorce, I know red pill dweebs love to pretend that every woman gets a house, a Lambo, and a vacation to Aruba after their marriage ends, but that's not the case. Plenty of women are left financially fucked, with the bare minimum child support from the other parent coming in, and trying to co-parent with a shitty ex. Plenty of men also have to navigate parenting with a vindictive ahole, it's not a wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 02:13 AM
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Marriage isn't mandatory; people are free to opt out of the whole thing if it's not what they want. It is a risk, as are most big decisions in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 11:33 PM
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Not really. I know there's always some level of learning what a new person likes, but I'd like my partner to have a good idea of what their likes and dislikes are in bed. I'm too old for trepidatious teenage trial-and-error.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 05:46 PM
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I view it the same as someone telling me they've got the flu/food poisoning/some other health issue. As long as they don't go into too much detail, I'm good.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 05:29 PM
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Thanks, man. To you as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 12:40 AM
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Somewhere cheaper and with better pay
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 12:35 AM
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Lol, no, we couldn't afford a kid right now. We'd have to do the next big move before we'd be able to afford to have a kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 12:31 AM
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Nah, don't think I'm interesting enough to read about. And about the kid raising - I'd stay home for a bit (bond with them, and to heal up after the birth), but after that I'd let my partner stay home with them, he's better suited to staying at home. If he starts to go loopy from staying at home, we'd think of something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 12:13 AM
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The averse reaction (for me, at least) is to someone sharing those thoughts with me. Like, bro, I would have never known that you wanted to do XYZ to me until you made me aware of it. I don't wanna know that you're thinking about those things with me. Similarly, I don't want to hear about the big poo someone wants to do when they get home either. Nothing wrong with going number 2, but it's not something I want shared with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 12:10 AM
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Went to school, moved to the other side of the planet, got married, moved to the other other side of the planet , working, and I'd rather chew my own arm off than be a SAHM. No shade on the women who do, that shit is hard, and it's so not for me. Plans for the future - a kid, maybe, probably going to move again, definitely another cat.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 11:53 PM
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Long weekend, woooo! Not that I don't have a bunch of work to get done, but still - woooo!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 10:59 PM
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All insecurities that are a consistent issue would be a dealbreaker, honestly. You gotta work through your issues if they're a frequent problem. If it's just a minor "it would be nice if..." kind of thought every now and hen, cool. But if I had to pick my own personal bugbear - height insecurity. I have zero patience for that, especially if they're butthurt that I'm taller than them. Been there, done that, wouldn't do it again. You're either happy with a giraffe or you aren't, I don't want to he…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:32 PM
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Friend of mine does it with her partner. He claims that she snores too loudly. I've slept in the same room as her on many vacations over the last decade and a half, and I think he's a giant baby, she doesn't snore that much. But it works for them, and it seems to be going well. I'd be fine with it, depending on the reason. One of us goes to be super late, tosses and turns too much, is generally preventing the other person from getting sleep? Away with you! If it's because he doesn't want me anym…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:50 PM
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Been with my spouse for 6 years, it's gonna be 4 years married this autumn. A lot of people are on the spectrum and/or are poorly socialized. Might be a generational thing, might be a location thing, but it's a big difference compared to the people I have as friends and acquaintances back home. There seems to be a lot of treating dating as a video game and being upset that one can't figure out "the cheat codes", that the cheat codes aren't working, or that they don't have access to them (not goo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 08:34 PM
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Most people seem to be saying the same thing I'm saying - that the shy, awkward, geeky guys aren't better people by virtue of not being outgoing. That's not to say they're inherently bad, many of them (most, I'd imagine) are perfectly nice people. But there are shy, awkward, geeky guys who are absolute shitheads.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 03:37 AM
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Where did I say that everyone gets what they justly deserve? I'm pointing out that your looks don't determine whether you're a good person or not. Being good-looking doesn't make you a douchebag, and being ugly doesn't make you a saint, but the opposite is also true - being hot doesn't make you a better person, and being ugly doesn't mean you're an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 03:12 AM
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I feel ya, hit me this week as well. Had a burger yesterday, and I kind of want one today.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 08:30 PM
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Totally anecdotal, but of the people I've dated, most of the conventionally attractive guys were great, only one of them was a giant turd. Of the less conventionally attractive guys, I'd say it was an even split between decent dudes and shitheads. Neither group was physically abusive, but gaslighty and manipulative? You had both hot and mid dudes doing that shit. There's nothing that makes a hot person an inherently shitty person, and there's nothing that makes a mid dude an inherently good pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 08:03 PM
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Eh, sort of? I was definitely the emotionally fucked up mess in one of my previous relationships, and I did think that I should have been better as a partner and actually put in the work to be a better partner and person, rather than go "I'm shitty, this isn't working, I'm out". But he's happily engaged and we're still friends, so it all worked out well for both of us in the end. I've definitely had way more relationships where I fought for it but, honestly, should have ended them way sooner, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 07:57 PM
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I'm not gonna watch the video on principle, so I'm just gonna address the rest of the post - it's good to be grateful towards your friends and family, even if they didn't do anything truly exceptional. On the other hand, I'm not throwing anyone a party for being an okay friend/parent/partner. I'll appreciate their efforts, I'll reciprocate, but I'm not going to sing their praises. While some people are just looking for reasons to be ungrateful dicks to others, other people want to be treated lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 09:29 PM
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One thing I have never regretted is partying. Same. I like my work, it's fulfilling, but I don't live for my work. I have so many fond memories of parties and chill weekends with my friends, the best work memories don't come anywhere close to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 09:22 PM
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Friendship and camaraderie, to me at least, are basically just different words for the same thing. Also, this just sounds like more of the hustle-and-grind-yourself-into-a-breakdown nonsense that a bunch of people have made their whole personality. Sure, having other hustle-and-grind "friends" (or just associates) can motivate you on your quest to be the best drop-shipper or whatever, but having friends who can help you slow down and smell the roses is also pretty valuable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 09:17 PM
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Someone who is confident in who he is as a person, who is reliable and kind, who has his shit together, and who wants a partner, not a mommy-maid.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 08:12 PM
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Leftover pork belly and a boiled egg for lunch, and butter chicken pizza for dinner. Very carby on the second meal, but I had no time or energy to cook.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:41 AM
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Yeah, there's also that. Some things look great on paper, but you realize it isn't for you when you get to experience it yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 10:01 PM
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There are also people out there who own 12 Bentleys, and yet, I'm not complaining about having one Ford. Sounds like a bunch of dudes are just greedy or simply unaware of just how average they are and think that someone is not giving them the sexual Bentley they know they deserve.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 09:31 PM
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Some women, just like some men, don't know what they want. Some women, just like some men, say they want Thing A because that's what's expected/considered appropriate/the image they want to project. Some women, just like some men, know exactly what they want, and a bunch of butthurt rejectees are trying to soothe their wounded egos.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 08:56 PM
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My lack of interest in tradespeople has something to do with the level of education, but that's not the only thing. My partner has a bachelor's but is currently working in the trades. From what I hear, his coworkers are pretty good at what they do, but are pretty dense when it comes to anything beyond their specific field. Not to mention, the particularly dumb ones are also (unsurprisingly) pretty bigoted and generally shitty. I have dated one dude who didn't go to uni/college, and it was....not…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 08:52 PM
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Not everyone is open minded, plenty of prudish stick-in-the-muds out there. And even if we aren't talking about prudish people, some people who may have engaged in casual sex might be looking for a serious relationship at this moment in time, so they'll pass on someone who is looking for something casual. Your wants and needs aren't the same at all times in your life. veeery convenient it wasn't immature then but it is now wouldn't you say? I mean, I wouldn't say that playing in the dirt and not…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 11:20 PM
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Comedy is about reading the room. I think you can make some pretty funny dead baby jokes, but I wouldn't make that joke around people I don't know particularly well - maybe they have a different sense of humour, maybe one of them recently lost a child or had a miscarriage. I think jokes about suicide can be funny, I'm not offended by them even though I've considered offing myself more times than I think would be considered healthy, but I have a friend who lost a family member to suicide, and she…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 09:15 PM
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Sometimes. If I get a new eyeshadow palette, I'll just play around with some colour combos at home for fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 07:39 PM
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Sure, but people are allowed to be sluts, prudes, or whatever else, and approach dating accordingly. A guy being open to whatever is fine, but he's probably not going to interest a woman who is only looking for something serious. That's cool, she's probably not the type of person he's looking for either. They can just ignore each other and keep looking for someone more compatible. Nobody is in the wrong here, just different people wanting different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 06:40 PM
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Sure, but some people aren't into the whole "casual fucking and see whete it goes" thing. Some people would be down for it. Some people would think it's a bit desperate, and some others would think it's just noncommittal and indecisive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 06:26 PM
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It comes off like he either doesn't know what he wants or that he's willing to take anything. Desperation isn't attractive at any age, and not having figured yourself out isn't a great look past a certain age. Not saying that it's wrong to write that on your profile, but it will give off a certain vibe to a lot of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 06:00 PM
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That one isn't too bad, honestly. I've had guys come up to ask for my number while I was waiting for my partner, it's cool. Trying to hit on someone when their partner goes to the bathroom or to take a call is a totally different level. The only acceptable situation would be if they lacked object permanence or something, but that I'm not sure that's common past infancy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:30 AM
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I once had a guy do something similar. Was at a bar with my friends and my (now ex) boyfriend. He got up to use the restroom, and a dude from the table next to us sat next to me and asked if he could buy me a drink. I was shocked, it was very obvious I was there with someone. He didn't go full Zoidberg tho, just fucked off before my ex came back. At least he didn't argue much.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:54 PM
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Sorry to hear about your ex. I don't go out as much anymore, but when I did, I'd go out to dance and have fun with my friends. A guy trying to hit on me was just flat out rejected, I had zero interest in engaging. You're not going to find a universal strategy that will work on everyone. Some people don't want to be hit on by guys at bars/clubs, some people just want to flirt, some might be open to making out, others might be happy to go home with you for the night, and some other people might be…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 03:36 AM
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Eh, it depends on the person, I suppose. I wouldn't enjoy it if someone approached me to get my number while I was having lunch with my mother, but I've never enjoyed being cold approached in any situation. Some people might find it flattering and admire the courage. And someone else might find it inappropriate because it was a fancy restaurant or because they're there with company, or a combination of the two. I imagine a good amount of people wouldn't like being hit on in front of their parent…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 03:27 AM
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I'm a very sex-positive person, I'm friends with a lot of sex-positive people, and I know like 1 woman who participated in an orgy (not sure if that would count, it might depend on how we define the term). Why would it matter what some random person thinks? Plenty of random people might think that chocolate milk comes from brown cows, and?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 10:02 PM
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Most of the things you listed (except holding hands and cuddling) are things I can do with my friends. That's not to say I don't want to do with a partner, I do. But I can experience a lot of joy and make new memories by myself or with friends, it's not like I don't enjoy trying out recipes by myself or binging something with my cat being my only company. What I was looking for was a compatible partner, someone who would like to do all those things with me, not just some dude to exist as "the bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 09:45 PM
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I'm talking about his character, I don't think he's short. Granted, I've seen him in person once, and I didn't have a tape measure on me, but he seemed to be around my height, at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:13 PM
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OP, if you're happy, good for you. However, to me this sounds like a man who is sulky and unpleasant when he doesn't get his way. Why does everything have to revolve around his "peace" all the time, by default? Why shouldn't he make compromises and accept that your way of doing things might be better sometimes? What happens if he messes up (everyone messes up), is it disrupting his peace to be held accountable? Again, if you're happy, that's wonderful, but I can't shut myself down to avoid someo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 05:21 AM
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I'd be mad. He's an incredibly unpleasant little man. Kind of bummed out I can't vote, but it is what it is. I'll gladly cast a vote against him in the next one if he stays on as the conservative candidate.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 02:43 AM
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Good men haven't been Thanos snapped out of existence. Good men who are also attractive and fun to be with get snatched up pretty quickly because they've got all the good stuff going for them - they're physically attractive, they're good people, and they're people you will enjoy spending your time with. There are also plenty of guys who are decent, respectful, caring men who are, unfortunately, severely lacking in the looks and fun departments. There's not much that anyone besides the unfortunat…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 08:11 PM
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What seems like the ideal for me : we both work, we both take care of the home, we make decisions together.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 06:35 PM
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I'd like it if he was upfront about how he wanted to approach intimacy in a relationship. The way it's presented here, I wouldn't be interested in him, and it would be better that we didn't waste our time when we're not compatible. No hard feelings, best of luck, but it ain't me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 11:19 PM
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refusal to find common interests and to treat one another well within relationships in which both parties are doing their utmost to make them work. Okay, I see what you mean. Eh, I agree that a lot of people have seemingly gotten worse at social interactions, and someone might treat their partner poorly because they think good treatment is a reward for always being on the same page as them. That being said, if both people are trying their best, and the relationship still isn't working, it's prob…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 06:16 PM
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Ah, gotcha. I've had similar things happen at the store, usually people engage in the funny part of "damn, I keep running into this person", you either caught someone on a really shitty day, or they were just kind of a grouch in general. Still, I don't think you'll make a lot of friends from random encounters such as these. Shared interests and consistency would definitely help with getting to know people more, like signing up for a hobby club and going for months, that way you get to see the sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 05:29 PM
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For relationships to work, people need to trust each other. For people to trust each other, they need to be consistent in what they do and say over time. Can't say I disagree with this. For that to happen, people have to be willing to endure discomfort and inconvenience for the benefit of others. This, however, I don't completely agree with. Yes, we should be willing to endure some discomfort and inconvenience when we're in a relationship with someone. But "some" will mean different things for d…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 05:15 PM
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It depends on the location, I guess. I'm a very outgoing, social person, and back home I'd make friends without even trying. After I moved to Canada, it was hard. I've been going to the same pole studio for like 2 years, and only within the last few months did I develop a friendly relationship with some of the girls I go to class with. And this is with me going there at least twice a week for 2 years. Building trust and even just finding stuff to talk about takes a while, you're not going to get…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 04:31 PM
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I can see how someone might be blinded by their own good fortune. My grandfathers were pretty decent by the standards of their day, but my grandmothers still advised me not to become dependent on a man because they were well aware of other men in their day who weren't as good as their husbands.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 02:22 AM
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I wouldn't say my mother's/grandmother's world was particularly better. The men in their day could be just as shitty as any shitty modern-day dude (drunk, abusive, lazy, gambling addict, severe and untreated mental health issues, etc.), they just had fewer options to maintain a comfortable existence if they left the lousy s.o.b. If my husband hit his head and became an asshole, I could leave, and other than a few particularly loud and unpleasant religious folks, nobody would care. My career woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 09:22 PM
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Had to google it as well. I've seen knockoffs at the mall. Not my style, but I can see how someone could find it cute. But it's way too much money for being passable jewelry, imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:58 PM
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If someone wanted to give me a Birkin, I wouldn't say no, but it's not something I'd ask anyone for. It's an overpriced bag, I don't get the hype.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:56 PM
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I was temporarily a SAHW, and while I never had any doubts about my partner being a decent person, I did think about how screwed someone in my position could be if their partner wasn't so decent. It's a huge gamble to make yourself dependent on another person, and just hope that they do keep loving you and want to provide for you. And I don't get why anyone would put themselves in that position without the security of a marriage. Not that a divorce wouldn't screw you over, it would, but you've a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 06:12 PM
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Insecurities and trust issues would be my guess. I wouldn't want to be with someone who had a stick up their ass about me seeing my guy friends, I've got zero patience for that nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 03:34 AM
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He wants to be someone’s adventure, not just her apology tour. Sure, I can get that. However, you have to be interesting enough for people to see you as an adventure. Most people are kind of dull, they watch their shows, play their video games, maybe go to the occasional birthday party of a friend or something. There's nothing wrong with that, but you probably should temper your expectations of people's perception of you somewhat. To me, these kinds of complaints always come down to people wanti…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 06:07 PM
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Depends on what you mean by "first choice". Would I have a problem with not being a potential partner's first girlfriend/sexual experience/travel buddy/etc.? No, I don't care. We're adults, adults have experienced stuff. Would I have a problem with a potential partner letting me know that they're not all that into me, and this other person was super amazing, but they're willing to put up with me because, hey, I'm willing to date them? Yes, I would, and I wouldn't date that person. Would I have a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:21 AM
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I like horror movies, but my concerns aren't that a hydrocephalic lunatic with a machete will come at me while I'm out camping. My concern is that the weird dude who just made lewd comments is going to follow me because that's happened a couple of times. My concerns are whether or not the dude walking behind me at night is just another person walking home after a fun night out on the town, or is following me intentionally. My concern is whether the guy who is hitting on me is going to accept rej…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 06:47 PM
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7, 9, and 11 *chef's kiss*
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 05:32 PM
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Lean and toned, leaning on the skinny side would be my preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 05:14 PM
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I sincerely doubt your top priority is children, considering how you've done nothing but shit on the teaching profession in this thread. Your top priority seems to be calling women stupid losers who picked a stupid loser job (according to you), and trying to hide it behind the paper-thin veneer of "Think of the children!''
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 04:46 PM
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Good food and mimosas.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 07:09 AM
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OP must have included that in a later comment. In that case, I'd agree with you, it sounds like she was just trying to lessen the rejection, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 12:34 AM
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Because people value their friends. If I'm friends with someone, I'd like to keep being friends with them. If they can't do that because they've got feelings for me, that sucks and all, but they should do what's best for them. I'd be bummed out about losing the friendship because I liked spending time with the person. She told me if that relationship doesn't work out i am the backup guy. Yeah, that's not a friend. That's someone who is trying to have someone around to soothe their ego if it ever…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 06:52 PM
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I think coffee dates are fine, but I'd prefer brunch or evening drinks or something. If you're not into women who want expensive, fancy dates, then just don't go out with women who expect expensive, fancy dates. They're showing you that they're not who you're looking for at the very beginning, move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 04:00 PM
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I usually use that phrase when the OP is whining about the kinds of responses they get. If you want to share your opinions online, you're going to get all kinds of comments - some will agree with you, some won't. If you can't handle the negative comments, I'd suggest you don't share your opinions online if it's upsetting you to the point where you need to make new threads about how unhappy you are with getting responses you don't like. You can still make those threads, but other people can think…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 08:43 PM
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Huh, I didn't know that men just remained in stasis after they turned 25 or something. Men, just like women, are human. Humans age. Most humans don't age particularly gracefully. You're not settling because your wrinkled ass and bad knees are with someone who is also wrinkly and with bad knees. If you think you're perpetually deserving of the latest crop of hot 18-year-olds and anything less is settling, that's just delusion talking.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 04:59 PM
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Oh, this had me fuming on your behalf. I'd just put some kind of cover over them next year, taking people's things without so much as asking is so incredibly rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 04:18 PM
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Nobody is trying to manipulate you, dude. You're just autistic, and social norms aren't your forte. That's it. My parents taught me to offer help if I saw someone who looked like they needed assistance. I'm assuming plenty of other parents have taught their kids the same thing, because I've been offered help on many occasions, and men and women offered it. I've struggled to get my suitcase in the overhead bin, and I've looked around to see who I could ask for help. Usually, I didn't even get to …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 04:01 PM
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It's the norm in Eastern Europe as well. Not that everyone does it, we've got plenty of rude people, but it is still common courtesy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 03:21 PM
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No. There's a difference between being hung up on someone and thinking highly of them. As for the second question - no, unless they keep bringing them and their relationship up. In that case, I'd feel like they're looking for a place holder/rebound/what have you, but the reason for the break up wouldn't really matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 11:40 PM
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No, it should be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 11:05 PM
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I found that brown eyeliner makes my eyes look great while looking more natural (-ish) than black eyeliner. But I have brown eyes, so not sure if it would work for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 09:54 PM
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Welcome. I do think it would help if you figure out what it is that you're looking for. If you do, you probably won't be upset about losing or not having the interest of people who are not in line with what you're searching for.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 09:23 PM
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I am not looking to provide for someone, I am not looking to have kids or start a family, maybe down the road I would consider living with someone but tha is at least years away. Have you considered that other people might want to have kids and live with a partner? Yet when I present myself women always seemed concerned about my finances. Because life is expensive, and it's going to get more expensive. I'd be pretty worried about having a financial albatross around my neck in the near or even di…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 08:41 PM
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Said instabliity has outright ruined my life. I'm incapable of thinking for myself, I need constant reassurance. So it seems to check out. If you're taking the piss - hehe, yeah, it is silly. If you're being serious - lady, that's a "you" problem; don't lump all of us into the "ditzy moo" category just because you're firmly occupying it. If men want someone who acts like and needs to be treated like a child to be attracted to them, that's....erm... worrisome, and maybe those men need to go talk …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 08:24 PM
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On one hand, I think that it's probably better if people posted positive things like what they like to do and things they enjoy. On the other hand, posting your preferences or even dislikes can help other people avoid you. If I see that someone wrote something like "no fat hogs" in their profile, that's an immediate turn off, and I wouldn't waste my time talking to a person who is, in my opinion, shitty. If they wrote that they like working out and kept their opinion on fat people to themselves,…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 05:15 PM
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If being single forever is a non-issue, then the prospect of a relationship like this should be theoretically appealing, no? The lack of sex when not in a relationship is one thing; the lack of sex in a relationship is a whole different matter. I'm perfectly fine with the lack of fried rice if I go to, say, an Italian restaurant for dinner with friends. I'd like it if they did have fried rice, I could always go for some, but I'm okay with not having it when I consider the context of the situatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 04:58 PM
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Nah, just to be nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 09:31 PM
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I'm fine with that. A variety pack of cats sounds lovely!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 08:54 PM
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A student complimented my fit. Made my day!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 08:08 PM
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A good, supportive, healthy romantic relationship is a pretty decent motivator to date. People want companionship; we all want to be loved and cared for, and it also helps to have someone pick up the slack around the house. That being said, finding a good, supportive, healthy relationship is hard. Unfortunately, a lot of people interpret the whole give and take that is required in a relationship to mean "I should receive as much as I can while offering as little as I can". So, I can understand h…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 08:04 PM
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I'd like to inquire abou the bulk cat orders. Like, is there a discount code I can use, and do I get to pick the cats like I'm picking out donuts?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 07:59 PM
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Yes, but it is a cycle of the man's own making. This isn't a "both sides are kind of at fault" deal. It would be if both sides just weren't into the other person and were phoning it in. But the way you present it, the guy is willing to (poorly) bang whoever, and the other person is banging someone they found attractive. If you're a lousy sexual partner because you're just not into the people you sleep with, your poor performance is still 100% on you. If you stink at soccer because you're just no…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 09:45 PM
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Generally the dynamic is a man lowering his standards considerably to sleep with a woman he isn't really attracted to.Since he doesn't find her particularly attractive and might resent her on some level for taking advantage of a power dynamic to sleep with a guy much more attractive than herself, he probably isn't going to put much effort into her pleasure. Add to the fact that he sees her as easily replaceable and there are few consequences for putting in no effort into pleasing his partner and…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 08:30 PM
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I dunno, man. There were a lot of delicate snowflakes who threw fits because they had to put on a mask to get their Doritos back then, and it wasn't exclusively women. The bitching was pretty gender neutral.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:56 AM
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Humor, wit, and kindness. At least for me, I've known some rather shitty and casually cruel people (peers, family members, former partners) , so being a kind person is a big one.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:18 PM
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Bit weird, but if it works for him and he isn't being abusive to the rental girlfriend, okay then. Don't think I'd date someone who has done that, as I think our views and expectations of what relationships should be like wouldn't allign, but I wouldn't pelt the guy with rotten tomatoes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 11:18 PM
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The dating scene is full of people absolutely incapable of dealing with disappointments, setbacks, and frustration. Agreed. And, sadly, I'm worried that it's not going to be much better when Gen Alpha starts dating. Pop on over to the teaching subreddit, it's pretty brutal. Obviously, people who can't deal with any kind of negative experience in life have always existed, and it's not like every kid is coddled to the point where they believe they should never experience disappointment. But there …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 07:26 PM
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I mean, sure. But I'd also like it if I could have money coming in from somewhere and have someone else do the tedious tasks like vacuuming and laundry. Then I could spend all of my time baking, knitting, and doing other stuff I like. But when we're talking about "staying home," it's usually discussed in terms of staying home AND being the one who does the household chores AND is in a financially sticky situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 06:09 PM
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I view it as more of a preventative measure. It's super easy to not care about it when you're in your teens/early 20s, especially if you've got good skin, but sun damage will start taking its toll eventually. And as you age, you'll get fine lines, you might notice your skin has become drier or more greasy. I've started taking care of it a lot more since I turned 30, and my skin does look better than when I only washed it with some water twice a day. But a lot of people overdo it, and they're mos…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 06:52 PM
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While the verbiage is a bit cringe, they're not necessarily wrong. Yes, making yourself more attractive will likely yield more results in the dating sphere than if you didn't improve your looks. Where it goes off the rails is people obsessing about achieving certain micro-trend aesthetics or "perfect" physiques. It's not just video games that have created unrealistic expectations for how life works, social media has also messed with a lot of people's heads. I enjoy watching skin care content, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 06:38 PM
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I would be interested in seeing a study about how some people have developed this video-game-like approach to relationships. It feels like some people approach friendships and romance like a game, and get extremely frustrated when it doesn't play out like that. If I'm level 5, this other level 5 should be easy for me to "get". If I use this cheat code, I should be able to get XYZ. Or, as the frustrations expressed on here would indicate, people get angry that nobody is giving them the right chea…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 06:02 PM
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"Me 3. You 3. We go date now." And the people who think that way are incredibly bitter when a person whom they've deemed their "match" doesn't want to date them. I don't know if neurodivergence is the issue, but it's definitely a weird expectation of fairness from the universe. I can understand when people who are in their teens and early 20s have this mentality, but it's so weird when you see people in their 30s complain that the world doesn't give them what they think they deserve. They're not…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 04:31 PM
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If someone needs 12 paternity tests to feel assured that his partner isn't going around town collecting genetic material like it's Pokémon cards, I don't think he's quieted an intrusive thought; that thought is blasting in his mind like a vuvuzela any time his wife so much as looks at a pregnancy test. At that point, his distrust, paranoia, whatever you want to call it, is just pathological. I know a lot of men here love to pretend they don't understand why a paternity test indicates a lack of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 01:12 AM
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Pretty much. If someone wants a paternity test, for any reason, be it a genuine suspicion of infidelity or just Internet-fueled paranoia, they should get the test done. But they don't get to dictate whether the mother of the child is offended by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 09:24 PM
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I can understand how someone might develop a negative view of people or even a specific group of people if they've had nothing but bad experiences with members of that group. Let's say I met 20 guys named Derek, and all of them were just the worst people, I might avoid the 21st Derek like the plague, and I might even think that there's something wrong with dudes named Derek, maybe the name carries some ancient douchebag curse. I can also understand how someone can be radicalized. If I've been ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:14 PM
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I'm too old for this new fangled lingo, I guess. Never heard anyone discuss this.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 01:54 AM
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I don't think a lot of guys want to be house husbands. Are there some who would love it, or at the very least, be okay with it? Sure. But I've rarely met men who are super excited about sitting at home and doing the majority of household chores, cooking, and childrearing. But I do agree that women should just leave the useless bozos who pretend they can't figure out that the pile of dirty dishes in the sink needs washing. However, then we get a whole new batch of whiners who cry about how women …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:38 PM
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They're all pretty different. I think the only physical commonality was that they all wore glasses. But my spouse also wears glasses, and he's the best person I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:34 PM
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When I'm dating, I'm not creating a list of stats like I'm trying to optimize my build for a raid. Am I physically attracted to this person? Am I attracted to them as a person? Do we have shared views, values and interests? If yes, then I'd date them. If no, pass. I've dated people who were my height, shorter than me, and taller than me. I've dated people who were fit, some who were skinny, some who had a couple of extra pounds. I've dated people with some differing views from mine, and it turne…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 07:12 PM
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Where I'm at, sperm donors have no obligation to pay child support (which I think should be the law everywhere). However, I think the potential donor has a responsibility to research the laws regarding donation in their location to ensure they're not liable for financial support. If you didn't do your due diligence, and it comes back to bite you in the ass, that's on you, it doesn't matter if I personally think the law is stupid or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 07:04 PM
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Well, that's sad. Mutual attraction has always been important to me. I had no desire to be with someone who doesn't find me attractive, nor did I have a desire to be with someone whom I didn't find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 04:53 PM
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Is what I would say to a sperm donor if he were complaining that his donating sperm resulted in a child with his genetic makeup. Yeah, what did you think you were donating for? An art installation?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 04:04 PM
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Guys who I think are good looking? Fairly often. Whether I'd hit it off with them and they'd be anything more than "he's cute", can't really say.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 04:52 AM
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Oh, I think it's great that more people are finding joy in life without having to have a significant other. It's great, you shouldn't have to rely on one person to be the end-all-be-all. I'm just wondering why the same thread has been made every day for the past few days. Beats the endless paternity test discussions, I guess, so can't really complain.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 07:58 PM
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Is someone contracted to make the same post every day?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 06:07 PM
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I'm going to level with you, dude - I'm a bi woman, my feed is full of very athletic pole dancers and aerialists who are mostly women, and I don't get content that is women talking about how they are attracted to women, check women out, watch lesbian porn, kiss women, and have sex with women. Sounds to me like you either have a thing for lesbians or you're psyching yourself out by looking for reasons to be insecure about any woman potentially being attracted to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:53 PM
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I don't think that the people* who do this are stupid. If their boss wanted them to do something by a certain time or in a certain way, they'd do it. They know that they'd catch some flak at work if they were playing dumb, and they know it might cost them their job if they do it long enough. Unfortunately, way too many people don't think their loved ones (romantic partners and friends) would leave if they acted this way. There seems to be this idea that the love people have for you will prevent …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:41 PM
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You will never have to support it emotionally when it's going through a rough time. To add to this, it also wouldn't provide people the love and connection they want. You can already type in a prompt in ChatGPT to cheer you up if your grandmother passes away, but it's not going to be even close to what an actual person can do when you're down in the dumps. I imagine a lot of people would feel even lonelier when they receive an empty "there, there" from a machine, regardless of how real they look…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:12 PM
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I imagine it would look sort of like this
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:04 PM
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Going out with your partner is something done by pretty much everyone, regardless of whether they use Instagram or not. Their relationship wasn't fulfilling to her, she didn't feel valued and appreciated, so she left. If you think those are superficial things, I pity any partners you may have.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 06:38 AM
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My friend had an ex like this. She wanted them to go out and do things, not just sit around at home watching TV, to try and do something nice for her every now and then, to show her he appreciated her. She asked this man for these things for years, she finally got fed up with it and left. He was incredibly sad about the breakup, but he could have avoided it if he had actually listened to what was bothering her for so long.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 07:47 PM
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I think it fundamentally comes from taking your partner for granted. Some women also treat their partners poorly and then act surprised and offended when they get broken up with, but I've seen a lot more men acting surprised when their partners leave or express displeasure at their lack of interest. At the end of the day, people don't like being treated like an afterthought, and they'll eventually leave when they figure out that the other person has no intention of treating them like a priority.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 07:04 PM
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Isn't this how people talk about compatibility already? They usually want someone who has a similar lifestyle to themselves, someone who wants a similar future, someone who has a similar worldview to them. If we're talking about sexual compatibility, then we're going to talk about kinks, but most people just include sexual compatibility in the more general compatibility section. Personally, I think they're all important. It's great if you meet someone who has the same interests and values as you…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 05:07 PM
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Yeah, I'm sorry dude, but no. If you want to present men as valuable members of society, there are many examples you can use, but this protection racket thing is getting old. You're not protecting us if you're the ones who are the biggest threat to us, you're not keeping us safe if you people are the ones starting all the damn wars.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:58 PM
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The key to a happy elderly life for a woman is to have lots of kids and raise them well so that they love you. Then you spend your elderly years in a beautiful village with grandchildren. Having kids doesn't guarantee that you'll be loved or taken care of in your twilight years. Most people aren't going to spend their last years in some Disney village surrounded by family members who dote on them. Your kids grow up, they might move away to another city or even another country, and you might get …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:16 PM
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Gen Z aren't the only generation roaming the Earth. And something is still unpleasant even if it doesn't happen every day, people don't get root canals every other week, but they still suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 02:58 PM
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It's performative and childish, from my perspective at least. I don't find dudes with a permanent scowl attractive, and I don't like guys who are constantly trying to pick fights.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 02:53 PM
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I mean, it is annoying to be approached while you're just going about your day, often by people who throw a hissy fit when they get turned down. Young men are receiving the "oh god, please, no!'' kind of sentiment because way too many men, both older and the same age as them, have made approaching into an incredibly unpleasant experience. You guys can't blame us for not enjoying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 12:03 AM
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Look, I don't like being approached, but I get that people are just shooting their shot. It's a mild annoyance, but go off if you're polite about it and leave me alone when I express my disinterest. If someone feels bad about approaching women because he knows that some women dislike it, that sucks, but you have to decide whether you're okay with getting an eyeroll and a scowl or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 04:36 PM
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I'd do it, but I wouldn't be happy about it. I'd prefer if my son wasn't a shithead, but if he chose to be one*, he's free to do so and deal with the consequences of his actions. It's not pleasant to cut people off, but it needs to be done sometimes. *regardless of whether he was attractive or not
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 01:03 AM
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I had the time of my life in my 20s, travelling, meeting new people, and enjoying a very active romantic and sexual life, and I would have been gutted if my parents didn't want to talk to me. 🤷 If you wouldn't be bothered by that, that's a "you" issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 12:28 AM
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I love the lore about this mythical Chad you people are so in awe/envious/terrified of. He's not only a giant jerk who throws women away like takeout containers, he also doesn't give a shit if his parents want to ever talk to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 12:05 AM
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I'd like the happiest, easiest, cushiest possible future for any children I might have. If I could snap my fingers and guarantee them an existence of joy, success, and love, I would. A's life would be much easier, not just in terms of dating, but in general. But if he insists on being a turd, he won't be welcome at family functions. Any spouse or his kids? There will always be a place for them. But Junior can kick rocks if he thinks I'd put up with him calling people nasty names around me. Thank…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 11:21 PM
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I'd say meeting people through friends or through a mutual interest. Most people I've dated I met through mutual friends and interests, or at university. My husband is the only guy I've dated whom I met through an app. Very lucky, but I wouldn't say online dating was particularly fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 09:53 PM
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I think he assumed that the guys in the room/at the table were also my friends. In a few cases, they were*. In others, they were some of the frequent fliers at the local expat pub, and you kind of end up having a chat with them. *and I'm happy to say have largely outgrown the unnecessary commentary
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 09:48 PM
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A small minority of men are virulent sexists. A much larger number of men are on the more casual side of sexism.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 05:19 PM
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Yeeep. Good to know that the older generations are somewhat similar everywhere, mine are from Eastern Europe, and it seems like Western ones aren't much better.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:57 PM
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Dude, totally unprompted: I wouldn't date people like you Me: Cool, I'd never date someone who didn't like people like me. Dude: If you can't handle getting responses you don't like to your out-of-left-field comments, maybe don't make those comments. Also, you’ve shifted the story a few times now to frame your “friend’s” remark as a personal attack rather than a general, and understandable, remark on how women that remain close with their ex boyfriends are often duplicitous. If you hadn’t taken …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:50 PM
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Mine is also relentless, she's just also very direct with it. When I was looking for a wedding dress, she'd shoot down every dress I even sort of liked in the worst way possible. I finally told her that I no longer wished to discuss dresses with her because this is supposed to be fun, and her constant criticism is making it unpleasant and is making me feel bad for even wanting to have a nice mother-daughter moment. She never apologized for it (boomers 🤷), but she did stop criticizing the dresses…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:28 PM
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I'm neither fat nor ugly, I just think it's a dick move to needlessly shit on those people, even if you're just trying to be funny about it. I never said it was all men, but plenty of men do express their preferences in a callous manner. You don't need to be one of the regular PPD woman haters to say misogynistic things occasionally. Unfortunately, casual cruelty isn't reserved for the shittiest people, otherwise decent humans can be pricks about something when they've seen it normalized by the …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:24 PM
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How did I take a shot at him? He said he wouldn't date me for X reason, I said that was fine, I wouldn't be interested in someone who had a problem with X, we can both just date people who are compatible with our likes and dislikes. Mind you, us dating was never a thing that had ever come up, he just decided to inform me (and the other people we were having a drink with) that women like me weren't his type. And he got sulky when he found out that he wasn't my type either. Which goes back to my p…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:18 PM
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Ah, yes. The usual response from way too many dudes around here when something doesn't suit their narrative. ''That didn't happen!" You don't have to be an unhinged sexist to make crude remarks about women, you just have to have grown up in a society where fat and ugly people were the butt of the joke, and being casually cruel about them was normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:55 PM
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I wouldn't even say the guys were necessarily turds. Some of them for sure were, but they were the regulars at the local foreigner pub, so you kind of put up with them. But for the most part, the guys were pretty decent people, always willing to help out, and they were pleasant to hang out with. I just think they were so used to not being called out about the way they presented their preferences, and the bitterness they had towards women and dating, however small it might have been, just reared …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:52 PM
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Two things: I wouldn't mind it if men* made crude remarks about women's looks if they weren't giant babies when the shoe was on the other foot. You try talking about how unappealing bald/short/fat/skinny/pizza-faced men are in a group with men who are either one of those things or worry that they're not handsome/tall/in shape enough, and the sulking is on a whole other level. I've had dudes tell me that they'd never date a woman who was close friends with an ex (it was in the context of a conver…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:39 PM
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I didn't say it was millennial men in general. Another user asked what the generation of these dudes was, I told him. If you offended by that...erm...that's your problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:37 PM
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If we both want something casual, we're both seeong other people. If he wants fidelity from me , but he gets to hoe it up, hard pass.I don't do one-sided monogamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 06:05 AM
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He understands just fine, he just doesn't agree and is acting borderline butthurt that people don't accept his opinion as the gospel truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:44 AM
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You can want a stable, supportive partner without wanting children.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:55 AM
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Millennial dudes. Not that long ago either, mid to late 2010s
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 09:39 PM
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I'm old enough to remember how my friends and I rolled our eyes when a dude, usually totally unprompted, informed us or the whole room/table of his sexual preferences, often denigrating the women who didn't fit his standards in the process. Social media has just allowed the eye-rolling to be virtual and shared with many more people. Us having opinions on what you choose to share with the world isn't a new thing. Men complaining about women also isn't a new thing, y'all just have podcasts now. Wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 09:08 PM
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I think people should work it out amongst themselves. You want to be the breadwinner, and the other person wants to stay home? One person takes on all the household chores and the other person works? Cool, not my thing, but you do you. But, if I had to say what would be ideal for me - we both work, we both make sure the house is functioning and the cat is fed. Some days I do more stuff at home, other days my partner does more. Some days were both too tired, so dinner is a naan "pizza" with whate…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 05:19 AM
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Depends. How much waiting would waiting entail? I'd be fine with a few weeks or a month or two, but that's pretty much what I'd be okay with. If he wants to wait for a long time or until marriage, best of luck, I hope he finds the person he's looking for, but we're not compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 08:56 PM
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I had to at least enjoy spending time with the person even if we weren't engaged in the horizontal tango. "Just someone, literally anyone" wasn't an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 01:16 PM
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Let's say we did do away with dating apps, and women did approach more. The men complaining the loudest that women don't want them would still be in the same position as they are now.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 06:05 PM
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I'm a firm believer in having laws that prevent parents from naming their children something that will cause them nothing but grief. No, you can't name your kid Charcuterie just because you looooove cheese and think it sounds cute for a baby. Get a hamster and use that name for the adorable little rodent which, like you, will also probably like cheese.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 06:53 PM
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If I met an adult who cared that much about what primary school someone went to, I'd laugh them out of the room. And, for the record, none of the people I know who did go to private school at some point in their life care whether someone went to public school. I'm sure some ridiculous snob who peaked in sixth grade probably cares about it, but I doubt the majority of private school peeps are that far gone, especially if we're talking about people in their late 20s and above. More people care abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 06:13 PM
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I went to public school, I know very few people who went to private school. So, yes. Also, not to be rude, but this sounds like a very teen-early 20s kind of question. I don't know anyone in my age group who cares what school (like K-12) someone went to.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 05:11 PM
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Are you in Japan? Are you Japanese? Is the other parent Japanese? If the answer for all 3 is "no", then it's a weeb name.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 03:57 PM
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Please, don't give your kids weeb names. Sakura Johnson or Naruto Adams will be bullied mercilessly, regardless of their sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 03:38 PM
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I think a lot of people, men and women, approach therapy with the idea that the problems are exclusively external - parents, bosses, partners, the mailman, etc. I'd even argue that the overuse of mental health language online can be quite harmful, especially when it's done by absolute laymen who think that everyone who has ever wronged them is a narcissist. Most likely, there are also really crappy therapists out there who try to butter their clients up and don't provide any actual help. That be…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 01:17 AM
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Honestly, I could probably count the times you might have to express your preferences on one hand and still have fingers left over. Maybe if you're breaking up with a partner and you're trying to explain that they're not meeting a standard you'd want out of a significant other, or if someone asked you what turned you off if you told them you didn't want a second date. I think I've discussed my preferences once irl with some friends when we were complaining about our dating lives. Posting on a su…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 10:50 PM
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You can have whatever preference you want, but if you express it to the broader public, you're going to get opinions about it. I don't like bodybuilders, they give me the ick. I think they look like balloon animals, and yet, I've never had anyone tell me that I'm being mean or something for thinking these dudes look absurd. That's because I don't advertise my preferences to people. Wanting a submissive woman does set off some alarm bells because plenty of men out there just want someone they can…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 06:23 PM
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Proper socialization, encourage him to have interests that aren't exclusively online, get the kid into some kind of sport
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 05:45 PM
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"Fun" isn't how I'd describe it, yeesh. I'm sorry that happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 05:36 PM
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Unfortunately, such is life. You're not guaranteed results even if you try really hard at something. But the options are still a) remain as you are and hope someone takes an interest in you b) try to make some changes, and maybe you'll attract someone c) give up and try to find a purpose in life outside of finding a romantic relationship. Of course, there's also option d) endlessly complain about how unfair it is that things haven't been going well and blame the entire female population for not …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 05:30 PM
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Not having any red flags is one part of it; another part is having something interesting to say about yourself in the bio. Is your bio showcasing your humour, your wit, your hobbies, your values? A lot of profiles are incredibly dull - the pictures aren't great, the bio, if it exists at all, is generic as all hell. I saw plenty of pretty decent-looking guys during my brief stint on Tinder, but most of them didn't seem particularly interesting to me; they were just inoffensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 04:47 PM
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You can express attraction, but if you make that public knowledge, people might have opinions. And, depending on how that sexual interest is expressed, you'll probably get more negative options than positive ones. When feminists express their opinions, they also get a lot of people reacting to said opinions, often in very negative ways. I'm old enough to remember the whiny temper tantrums about Anita Sarkeesian criticizing oversexualization in media. Yes, I do think that you're overreacting. You…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 01:53 AM
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Jesus, you people are such drama queens sometimes. Not finding someone attractive doesn't mean you despise them. Not wanting to give your number to a stranger isn't hate, it's just a lack of interest. Men can have sexual thoughts, but if they express them to me, I get to have an opinion on them. If you think my ass looks great and you yell it out to me while I'm walking down the street, I'll think that this is some uncivilized unga-bunga behaviour and I don't want it directed my way. If you had …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 07:58 PM
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True. But then they should probably make themselves attractive to the kind of person they want to marry. If you're not getting any results with what you've currently got going for you, perhaps some changes are in order.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 05:56 PM
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You're not defective if you're young, immature, or raised in an environment that exposed you to a lot of toxic relationship patterns. Humans are messy and complicated more often than they're not. I mean, they offer it. And that just goes back to my point - women can offer a lot, some men just choose to ignore that because they themselves only place value on one specific thing women can offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 05:47 PM
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Heeeeey, neighbour! I agree. My guy friends back in Europe have a group of guys they hang out with all the time. Coffee, beers, movies, football, going for hikes, etc. They've made friends, and they maintain those friendships. A lot of North American men (going by the sub here, so it's largely about the US & Canada) are socially isolated, make little to no effort to find friends, and place the blame for their poor mental health on the women who don't want to be their only social support.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 05:23 PM
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Different women (and men) value different things. Some women place a lot of value on having a lot of children, others don't. But, if we're speaking in general terms, I imagine most people want stability, security, understanding, and compassion. Other than those things, I value my work, my family and friends, and my free time. My partner also values these things, so we allow each other time and space where the other person can just do their own thing. Some men would be a good match for me because…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 05:05 PM
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Drinks, dinner at a reasonably priced Thai place, museums. Coffee/beers and a nice walk around the park sounds great if the weather's right for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:56 PM
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You're talking about what some women will offer to some men. Very young, immature, insecure, or just plain traumatized women often give all of their love and affection to shitty people. Maybe it's the kind of relationship they're used to, maybe they're scared of being alone, maybe they think if they make this walking turd nugget love them they can finally love themselves too, reasons will vary. What I'm talking about is what women, in general, can give men, in general. Some men understand all of…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:49 PM
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Love, care, compassion, fun, chill Saturday mornings with a cup of coffee. Then again, if you're the type of man who only values the sexual pleasure (and validation) women can give him, they probably don't offer much (if anything).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 05:58 AM
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I think that's pretty true for teens and immature adults. I definitely used to be a lot more nervous and self-conscious around people I liked in my teens - early 20s, but that changed as I got older.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 06:12 PM
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I don't think all men who struggle romantically are unpleasant people, but some of them certainly are. Whether they can become more pleasant or not isn't something I dwell on. If you're a pain in the ass, I'll avoid you. If you don't want to improve even marginally, I'm not going to give you endless chances to show me that it's worth spending time with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 10:28 PM
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You should date who you want. I'm sure a large chunk of the male population would love it if women, mostly the young hot ones, were open to dating every Tom, Dick, and Harry. I'd like it if I could eat a whole cake and not get a tummy ache, but that's also not going to happen. I didn't expect anyone to meet my standards, I just dated people I found attractive in terms of personality and looks. If I didn't find anyone attractive, oh well, I have plenty of other things going on, maybe I'll find so…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 07:06 PM
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Sounds like a person who doesn't want to get married or have kids, which is perfectly fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 10:30 PM
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That privilege can easily become a giant pain in the ass. Let's say you enjoy carrot juice every now and then, but it's not like you're drinking litres of the stuff on the daily. Now, you're stuck with a lot of carrot juice that you do not want, and you keep being given new containers all the time. You've got to figure out what to do with it, maybe find people to give it to, maybe use it for recipes or something, and you have to make space in your home, space that you might not have, for the end…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 10:09 PM
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I was 27 when I tried OLD, think my range was 25－32, I just used my actual age on there.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 04:26 PM
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I wouldn't say that the nature of men is shit. Do some men suck? Absolutely, so do some women. But I have plenty of wonderful men in my life, they aren't shit because their coworker happens to be a man AND a dingus. I don't think either group is exclusively to blame - humans are complicated and often contradictory, a lot of men and women want to uphold outdated patriarchal norms (consciously or subconsciously), some don't, some people have a lot of trauma and insecurities, some are willing to wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 04:35 PM
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If I find him unattractive, nothing. If I find him attractive, but he's not conventionally attractive, being fun and pleasant to be around goes a long way.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 06:52 PM
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Social event like a party or concert? Maybe, if he's my type. Cafe? No. Public transport? Also no. I also don't like how many guys just don't fuck off after the first "no, thanks". Cold approaches would be a lot less obnoxious if a "no" was simply followed up with "gotcha, bye".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 03:59 PM
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Dude....seriously?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 01:43 PM
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Dunno about stronger, but I have been taller than some of my previous partners. It was a mixed bag. One dude had no problem with it, two were definitely bothered by it. I imagine they would have felt even worse if I was also stronger than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 02:07 AM
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Haven't been single for a while, but the main issues I experienced when dating were guys phoning it in once they were comfortable in the relationship, men playing stupid games, and men not being clear about what exactly it is that they wanted. I'm a fairly sexually liberal individual, I've got no problem with the idea of friends-with-benefits relationships or even just casual hookups, but so many men just give mixed signals about what they want. Some claim they want nothing more than casual sex …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 05:53 PM
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Once they got the desired result. I had an ex tell me "I'm comfortable now, I don't feel like we have to do all that now. This is a good thing". After he pretty much stopped doing the things that made me like him in the first place. Ah, the good old "I'll take my partner for granted and act surprised when they want us to break up". Unfortunatelly, a lot of people seem to be under the impression that once you've "got" the person, you can stop trying to keep them. It's like they forgot that the ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 05:38 PM
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Yes. If we're both interested, we make plans. If one person isn't interested OR is interested but insists on playing childish games, that's not a relationship worth pursuing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 06:31 PM
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Correct. I'm just some random lady who clearly isn't all that interested in them. Why should they spend time and effort on me when they can spend it on finding someone who is excited to see them?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 06:26 PM
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Access to and knowledge about birth control are a big factor. The choices presented to you by the society you live in will also affect your decisions, so will your social class and the religiosity of your community.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 06:23 PM
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I lose interest if someone isn't matching my energy. If I'm excited to see you, but you can't be asked to make plans with me, I'm not going to waste time on you. If you want a relationship with someone, romantic or platonic, you're going to have to put time and energy into that relationship. If you expect people to fawn over you and bend over backwards to accommodate you, but you don't think you should have to do anything, you're kind of a shitty person.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 06:15 PM
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I understood your question, you just seem incapable or unwilling to understand a fairly simple concept: there are still a lot of men who don't contribute enough to childcare and household maintenance, their partners aren't pretending to be Wonder Woman, they actually are doing more than them. As a result, they complain about it online, and often praise men who do more than their partners, even if I would consider that the bare minimum an adult should be doing when they share kids and a home with…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 12:41 AM
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I'm not sure why you think that copy-pasting your previous reply is somehow contributing to a fruitful discussion, but I'm going to go out on a limb and assume that a fruitful discussion was never your goal when you made this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 12:29 AM
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If your partner is taking equal responsibility for the household and kids, and you expect them to take on more responsibility because your father and grandfather were lazy bums, sure. But I've never seen anyone do that. The discussions are usually about their fathers, grandfathers, and brothers being lackluster contributors to household/family maintenance, or about a current partner dropping the ball on those fronts. If your partner isn't helping with the kids or around the house, that's not a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 12:19 AM
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The women who complain about a great imbalance are the ones who have witnessed and experienced it in their own lives - fathers, brothers, friends, boyfriends, husbands. I have a partner who doesn't need to be told multiple times to help with the laundry and cleaning, so I don't talk about how much or how little either of us does. I do, however, have a father who hasn't done anything more than occasionally whip up some pasta or scrambled eggs in terms of cooking in 30 years, and I completely unde…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 11:43 PM
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Cool, I'd probably still not date him. Best of luck with someone else 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 08:17 PM
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• Paying for first dates - I prefer splitting on the first date • Buying flowers weekly without asking - Not the biggest fan of flowers, and I'd prefer if they were potted if anyone is giving me any. It's a nice gesture, but I'd prefer something like getting me my favourite snack or something. Or fancy spices. Get me saffron, I'll appreciate it more than a bouquet of roses • 'Sidewalk rule' - My partner does it (I don't ask him to) because I don't like being close to the road, and the sidewalks …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 06:55 PM
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I mean, good for him that he's tried to find a partner before, I guess, but I still think that if you haven't found anyone who likes you and who you like back in your whole life and you're well into your 30s, there's something off there.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 06:45 PM
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I don't mind if someone says "Miss, you look beautiful" or something like that. What I do mind is someone yelling about specific body parts of mine, about what he'd like to do to me, or if he's just yelling "hey, baby! heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeey, heeeeeeeeeey, come here for a sec, you look hot af" from across the street. I don't yell like that to stray cats to get their attention. If you can't show me more respect than I show random animals on the street, I do find your interest offputting. It doesn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 05:15 PM
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Yeah, if I wanted to train someone to do tricks, I'd just work at a zoo or the circus. Maybe find someone who is already compatible with you and wants to be a provider. Withholding affection and care from your partner until they get you the trinkets you want is abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 05:04 PM
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Depends on the age. If you're in your early to mid 20s, I can see how you might not be able to find someone you like, or even not be aware of what exactly you like. If you're in your 30s, I'd be a bit concerned that you haven't found even one person who you liked in all these years. He's free to have his standards, but so am I, and I am not a fan of super picky people, especially when it comes to romantic relationships. A picky friend can be mildly annoying and tolerable, but someone I might pot…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 03:18 AM
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I like effort. I put effort into my looks, I like people who do the same. Doesn't have to be as much effort as I put in, but if I'm going out with my makeup on point, wearing a nice outfit, smelling nice, etc., and the guy looks like he barely mustered up enough effort to find his least dirty T-shirt, that's unattractive to me. A guy can have features I find attractive, but if he's a lazy slob, those pretty eyes aren't going to do much to keep me interested. That being said, if I don't find the …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 03:00 AM
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Probably a combination of the three. The way they talk about how we have life on easy mode makes it sound like we're just given friendship and love while sitting on our asses eating bon-bons. Women, in general, tend to have more robust social networks, those didn't spring up from the ground, you cultivate that. For example, I have a bunch of friends back in Europe, I have friends here, I have friends back in China, and I try to maintain our friendship. That takes time, that requires that I somet…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 04:49 PM
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Sure, although I'd probably use the word reciprocal. Your partner loves you because they're attracted to you and because you make their life better. Your friends love you because you provide them with companionship and are there for them when they need someone. Your parents love you because you're their kid. Your pet loves you because you're the one taking them out for walks/cleaning their litter box and giving them kibble and wet food. Few people deny this. It also doesn't mean that those peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 04:27 PM
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Some men don't. There are plenty of decent guys who actually care about you as a person, your accomplishments, your dreams for the future, your interests. Also - I want to be the best version of myself for myself. If my partner benefits from it, that's awesome, but someone else being pleased as punch isn't my top priority. Don't put men at the center of your existence, even the really great ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 10:35 PM
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Most people value looks, for some it's the number one thing, for others it's important but they would be more willing to compromise on someone's looks rather than with their personality. I can see why a lot of women aren't super open about how much looks matter to them, try saying you're not into short guys around there parts, for example, the bitching never stops. If you're gonna get whinging when you're honest about your preferences, you might as well just avoid talking about them or be as vag…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 10:31 PM
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I mostly agree, but this kind of bullshit can work on specific people for a certain amount of time. If you're insecure, inexperienced, used to abusive behaviour, it will probably work on you. But, eventually, most people (especially ones with a good support network around them) will go "Huh, this person doesn't treat me well, he's a douchebag more often than not, there are tons of other people who aren't shitty to me all the time, why am I with this dork again?" and leave. The funny/sad thing is…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 10:17 PM
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I think it's weird to have a "in case of abusive husband" go bag if your partner has never given you a hint of any kind of abusive behaviour. If men thought paternity tests were inconsequential, y'all wouldn't whine about them every week. It wouldn't be brought up so often if you were all perfectly fine with just doing one in secret. I don't buy for a second that you people don't think an accusation of infidelity is no big deal. I think you're just playing dumb because you want to have your anxi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 03:41 AM
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I think there are scenarios in which it's perfectly reasonable to want a paternity test. Some lady you had sex with once is claiming you're the father of the kid? Paternity test. Your partner has cheated on you before? Paternity test. Baby came out looking nothing like either of you? Paternity test. Your partner has been acting super shady, intimacy has been pretty sporadic, and now they're pregnant but still acting shady? Paternity test. However, if you've never had a reason to suspect your par…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 09:52 PM
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It would be a mixture of being worried, angry, and proud. Worried because I don't exactly know the extent of his wounds by looking at him and I'd demand we go get him checked out, angry because he put himself in danger, but also proud because he stepped up to defend someone. I'd like it if we sat down to have a discussion about what to do if this kind of situation happened again because he might not be as lucky next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 07:33 PM
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I think Chris Evans is hot af. I like seeing dumb movies if he's in them. The man is very pleasing to look at, and I have a thing for a Boston accent, I guess. I also think Charlize Theron is hot, and I will watch pretty much anything with her in it. I wouldn't leave my partner for Evans or Theron. I don't know anything about these people, I think they're hot, and that's about it. You can be in a relationship and find other people attractive. If you're being obsessive with it or constantly compa…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 06:35 PM
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It could be weird or completely normal, depending on the age. Someone in their early to mid 20s? I can see that, some people focus on school and finding work instead of relationships, maybe they weren't in an environment that had people they'd want to date in it, maybe they were figuring themselves out and didn't really know what they wanted, maybe they just didn't want a relationship at that point in their lives. Someone who is in their 30s or older? I'd have a lot more questions. For your spec…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 05:50 PM
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70K is pretty decent IMO, but it depends on where you live, what kind of people you're going after, and what you and the other person want in the future (kids, how many of the little ankle biters, house or apartment, big city or small city, etc.) At my age, I wouldn't date someone who made significantly less than me AND didn't have any plans to try and improve their financial situation. I don't need fancy cars or a big house with a pool, but we should be able to live comfortably, and if we wante…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 04:17 AM
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Unfortunately, them's the breaks. There are more men than women on dating apps, a smaller percentage of the women there are looking for casual sex, and the number of people gets even smaller when you're trying to find someone who wants that kind of relationship with you in particular. It's like trying to find a gluten-free, vegan cake that isn't super dry and ridiculously sweet. It's not that those kinds of cakes don't exist, they're just difficult to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:38 AM
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So they'd rather waste time on someone who will stop talking to them when they figure out or feel that the guy is just looking for casual? It seems like a good way to get women even more put off by dating apps. Casual stuff isn't everyone's cup of tea. Some women are into it, but more women aren't. If a guy wants casual, he's most likely not going to have as much success as he would like to have. He can be upfront about it or he can hide it, but if he chooses to hide it, he can't really complain…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 12:55 AM
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Not necessarily. Depends on age, location (if you're in a party city you might struggle to find people looking for serious romantic relationships on the dating app), and it still boils down to being able to maintain a conversation with the people you're matching with. Just because you want the same thing as someone doesn't mean you guys will automatically hit it off. And, you know, it's not like there's anything inherently wrong with just wanting casual sex. It's how you go about it. Many guys a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 12:34 AM
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I just think a lot of people are boring to be fair regardless of gender. Probably true. I also think people are just bad at showcasing themselves online. I know people who are really awesome, fun people irl, but their profiles are just very rigid and cookie-cutter, it's like they're trying to be some inoffensive version of themselves that will be acceptable to everyone, but it ends up not attracting anyone because it's so bland that it doesn't have any kind of appeal. Still, it's better to have …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 11:40 PM
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Let's be real, a lot of guys do just want to get laid and aren't interested in anything more. Not all guys, but way too many are exactly like this. But even if I assume that the guy does want to get to know me, if the conversation isn't going well, we don't have anything to talk about, or they're just bad at talking to people online, it's not going to go anywhere. And, I get it. Talking to people irl is a lot easier than talking to them online, at least for me. You can muster up some conversatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 11:30 PM
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Wasn't on the apps for long, and although my experience ended up being pretty decent, I'm sure I would have gotten tired of being on there relatively soon. A lot of the profiles were pretty lackluster. I'm not saying the guys were ugly or anything, but they took the worst pictures, they had nothing in their bio, or their bio was some generic nonsense that didn't tell me anything about them as a person. Conversations rarely went anywhere. After you moved on past the usual "When did you move here?…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 08:44 PM
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No. I've always known there were shitty men out there, and I've had the misfortune of dealing with some in my own life. The discussions about "nice" guys and manipulative/abusive/generally shitty guys just gave me a new set of warning signs to look out for. That being said, I wasn't in the US at the time (nor have I ever been) so my experiences are probably different from those of a woman living in NYC/LA.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 03:18 AM
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Croque Monsieur. I also really like tuna melts
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 04:46 AM
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I mean, if what you're doing is egotistical, lazy and inconsiderate, what else am I supposed to call it? Yes, it is inconsiderate to excuse yourself from household and childcare responsibilities. No, it's not evil, that's the type of overdramatic whining that inconsiderate, self-absorbed people love to implement when they get called out on their behaviour. Something can be bad without being evil. Someone can do inconsiderate things without being Satan. Kids are pretty selfish and inconsiderate, …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 06:31 PM
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I don't think anyone has an obligation to date anyone else. You shouldn't date single parents if that's not your jam. That being said, a lot of men don't just say they don't want to date single moms, they launch into long screeds about how awful these women are*, that's a bit unnecessary and makes the guy seem like a giant tool. *not saying OP said such things in the discussion with his roommates
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 06:31 PM
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I didn't say men are evil, I also didn't say this is a "men" issue. It's a "some men" issue. And among those men, the reasons for why they're lackluster parents and partners will differ. Do you think there is a possibility that the socialization of men encourages different prioritizations? As I already said, we're not raised in a vacuum, cultural expectations of what it means to be a man or a woman will play a part in how we are brought up. So yes, men will often be raised to prioritize differen…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 06:26 PM
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Pretty decent. Tried Tinder, think I was on it for like a month. Matched with a couple of guys, one of them turned into a fwb, met another guy who was living in the neighbouring city. I have to call the second guy to ask what he wants for dinner tonight. Going to be 6 years together this year. Edit for details: I was 26－27ish at the time, and I was living abroad in China at the time, the dating pool was the local foreigner community.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:42 PM
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16, I guess. Before that sex was more like this thing I'd eventually do, but wasn't particularly interested in actually doing atm.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:36 PM
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What do you think are the reasons behind men's unwillingness to do this particular, often quite basic and intuitive thing? The answer is not cut and dry. Different men, different reasons for doing this. However, I could probably narrow it down to a few things: Upbringing and culture - We're not raised in a vacuum, cultural expectations of what it means to be a man or a woman will play a part in how we are raised. Maybe things have changed a bit, but when I was a kid, l heard a whole lot more abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 05:20 PM
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Dude I met back in China. Unpleasant human being all around, he was whiny, he was rude, he was thin-skinned but loved to try and make fun of others, if you said anything bad about him you were just being bigoted, he drove drunk, produced the foulest gas you can imagine, and the way he talked about women was just the icing on the turd cake. If you asked him, he was a great guy with a lot to offer, and women were just dumb shallow bitches who didn't want him solely because he was fat and ugly. Now…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:06 AM
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I should start giving people advice on how they can fix their Lambo. Do I own a Lambo? No. Have I ever worked on one? Also no. Do I know anything about any kind of car? Absolutely not. But all I need is to have the level of confidence dudes around these parts have and just say dumb shit with conviction.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:37 PM
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So he wants all the benefits of monogamy without actually having to agree to monogamy? If he is actually agreeing to it and not cheating, what's the problem with saying "I won't fuck other women"? Sounds to me like a coward who wants to have an opening to cheat and try to avoid the consequences of that by going "Hey, I never actually said I wasn't going to sleep with other women".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:19 PM
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I'd lose respect for my partner if he was pretending we're not together because some idiot online told him women won't respect him if he's happy to let everyone know he's monogamous and taken. You should continue to court your partner while you're together, doing nothing because hey, I got you, not like you can leave or anything, is a sure-fire way for them to leave. Nobody likes being taken for granted, and there's no magic spell that has bound you to this person if they no longer care to put e…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 08:46 PM
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I'd rather deal with an honest asshole over a sneaky one. I've avoided a lot of shitty dudes because they were blatantly shitty. I've dealt with a few covert assholes who didn't make it clear that they were, in fact, assholes, but chose to hide behind the mask of a pretty decent person. Until you start dating them and they feel like they have you, then they start showing their true colours. And at the same time, even the most disgusting "nice guy" is simply not capable of any of this Just becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 05:16 PM
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It was an example of a pretty insignificant mistake, it could be something like getting fruit yogurt instead of plain, or getting almond milk instead of regular milk because they were next to each other. No biggie. My whole point was that there are these silly mistakes that few people care about and that they aren't the same things people talk about when they complain about someone weaponizing their incompetence.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 02:36 AM
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The only time people talk about passport bros tends to be in spaces like this. Most of my friends who are not terminally online don't really know what a passport bro is. Maybe they've heard a story about some dude banging his way through Thailand or something like that, but for the most part, passport bros aren't well-known enough for people to care, let alone hate. Personally, as a woman from Eastern Europe, I get the ick from a lot of them, particularly the ones who talk about people in my par…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 01:37 AM
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If you can't understand what was said because long texts are scary, I'm sorry to hear that. 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:43 PM
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I'm sure you thought you had something, given how you made the same comment twice, so I'll just paste my reply to the first one: I've got pepper spray, and I'm not beyond poking someone's eyes out if I need to. Do I know how to fight well? No, but neither do most men. But in my 30+ years of existence, I've yet to need someone to protect me from attackers. Groceries, on the other hand, need to be done weekly. My partner doesn't get to not do things that need to get done regularly because hypothet…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:40 PM
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I've got pepper spray, and I'm not beyond poking someone's eyes out if I need to. Do I know how to fight well? No, but neither do most men. But in my 30+ years of existence, I've yet to need someone to protect me from attackers. Groceries, on the other hand, need to be done weekly. My partner doesn't get to not do things that need to get done regularly because hypothetically, maybe, possibly, at some point in the future, he might protect me against some attacker. I've said it before and I'll say…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:28 PM
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I agree, except it's not about making mistakes. Mistakes happen. It's one thing to get the 5% sour cream instead of the 14% sour cream, and it's a different thing to not get sour cream at all because you didn't know where to find it at the store (and didn't even think about asking someone). Or getting heavy cream because eh, what's the difference, it has the word "cream" in it. Or constantly calling your partner to ask where half the things on the list are because you suddenly forgot how to read…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 05:37 PM
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There are also sexist assumptions about women being bad at things, our personal failings get turned into some traits women just naturally lack. For example, I suck at math. I hate it, I've always hated it, I've never been good at it, and to be completely honest, I never cared enough to improve. I can do basic shit like addition, subtraction, division and multiplication, but that's it. It's a "me" problem. However, I can't tell you how many times I've gotten the "well, women just aren't good at m…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 04:59 PM
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There's being rubbish at something, and being so comically bad at it, that it can't be anything other than severe brain trauma or weaponized incompetence. My dad sucks at finding things. If he leaves something somewhere, you best write down where he left it because he will not find it. He lost the Christmas decorations for the third year in a row, he couldn't find a bunch of beach stuff last year, and we don't trust him with anything important anymore. To be fair to him, he did have a brain aneu…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 03:40 PM
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Can't say I disagree in general, not sure about the video in particular, I refuse to click on tiktok links. Some people would love a big, fancy proposal in public with all the bells and whistles, all paired with a ring that costs a loooooot of money. Good for those people, but it's not my thing. If my partner had proposed that way, I'd most likely have said "no", and we would have had to have a long conversation about whether he actually knew me well enough before popping the question. Special e…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:17 AM
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As I mentioned in another comment, I forgot to look at the username until a few minutes ago, and I saw who I was talking to. I think you're an incredibly disingenuous person based on everything I've seen you post here, so I'm not going to waste my time any further with someone who is fundamentally incapable of having a good-faith argument, so I'll leave you with this: Not every way of communicating your thoughts is a good way. You can ask someone to pass you the salt, you can also scream profani…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 07:37 PM
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Not at all. You can yell out your lustful thoughts at random women on the street, and they can use their freedom of speech to call you a pig or to tell you to go fuck yourself. Those are the consequences of making your thoughts public, the public gets to have an opinion on them and you. Freedom of speech doesn't mean freedom from any and all consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 07:04 PM
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You can, however, control your mouth and not yell out your thoughts at others.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 07:02 PM
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No advice is going to work 100% of the time for literally everyone. If you're struggling, try stuff out. It's not guaranteed to work but trying is still better than doing nothing and expecting different results.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 05:44 PM
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If I think someone is unattractive, an impeccable sense of style won't make them more attractive, but I will compliment them on their outfit. If I think the guy is attractive but is dressed like a total slob, that's a turn-off. I like people who put effort into their looks, if you're not doing that, we're probably not going to get along.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 05:20 PM
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Divorce exists, they don't have to be permanent. I don't see why you need to set term limits to marriage when people are already free to exit the relationship. What about the people who don't want to have to deal with re-signing a contract after their initial contract has "expired"?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 12:26 AM
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do it if you really want to You could have just said that and called it a day. If you* don't want to pay for a date, then don't. If a woman is offended or turned off by that, good for you, you dodged a person who has very different expectations than you. If a woman is perfectly fine with it, good for you, you found someone who has similar views as you. If the complaint is "but not paying means some women will be turned off and I won't get any", then your problem is that you can't be irresistible…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 11:59 PM
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Everyone needs to learn those lessons for themselves. True, we've all heard of these stories, but young people often think they're the exception, that it will work out for them, that they, out of everyone ever, will turn the asshole into a decent person. All the stories, they're knowledge. Acquiring wisdom requires taking a few metaphorical punches.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 09:10 PM
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Yeah, I prefer being part of a team of equals who delegate responsibilities based on competence and availability. I have a boss at work, I don't want or need one in my house, and neither does my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 08:08 PM
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I'd agree it can be suspicious, depending on what we mean by "has relaxed her standards". If you're an absolute uggo with the personality of cardboard, and a super hot woman is throwing herself at you, yeah, that's iffy. If you're a regular dude, not the hottest but not ugly either, and your gf is like " I used to date really dumb hot guys back in the day cause I myself was pretty shallow back then, but as I've gotten older I've been looking for people with more substance", that sounds...normal.…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 11:42 PM
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Dating a guy who's an emotional rollercoaster if you don't know better is exciting you can totally win him over. This is part of it falling in love is exciting. You want to prove yourself. Because if you can win this guy over you are good enough. And the breadcrumbs and intermittent rewards become addictive. And then you realize that it is more annoying than cute. And this kind of guy is a pain and sadly too many out there are like that. Bingo. I thought that the guy who was sometimes an asshole…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 09:50 PM
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I've always looked for chill, down-to-earth guys who were willing to express their feelings, and who were fun to hang out with. Did I always end up dating that exact guy? No, because I was a lot more willing to give people a chance even if I thought certain things weren't to my liking. As I got older, I learned to be a lot less generous and I stopped wasting my time with dudes who seemed nice but showed character traits that I wasn't looking for. Not to mention, my idea of fun has changed over t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 09:40 PM
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Because not everyone has rich parents who can afford to give her savings? You sound like you're basing your whole worldview on what would be best for women, as a whole group, on a very tiny minority of well-off ladies who actively want to be SAHMs. And here's the thing, these well-off ladies CAN be SAHMs right now, nobody is stopping them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 07:06 PM
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I enjoy the luxury of choice. I can choose whether I want to focus on my work, or I can choose to have a bunch of kids and stay home baking cookies (in theory, in reality this economy doesn't really allow for this). I don't want to stay at home, it's not for me, I'd lose my mind. I don't want "mom with a bunch of kids" be the default for me, and have everything else be an uphill battle. Thanks to the luxury of choice, I got to go to university, find a career that makes me happy, and I got to tak…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:47 PM
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It's degrading to be expected to prove yourself or to impress your date I mean, most people try and present the best (or at least, a good) version of themselves when on a first date with someone. You're on the date to see if you're a good match and if you like the person, you'll want them to think highly of you. If you think it's degrading to have to give people a reason to hang out with you, I don't know what to tell you. Males should invest in you BEFORE checking to see if there is any chemist…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:10 PM
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Grifting. They're the same as the ridiculous male dating coaches.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 10:03 PM
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Sexual interactions shouldn't be limited by relationships..... if the people in the relationship don't want to limit them this way. That's it. You want to have an open relationship? Awesome, talk to your potential partners about it, and make sure they want to engage in that. You want an exclusive, monogamous relationship? Awesome, talk to your potential partners about it, and make sure they want to engage in that. If you want an open relationship and your partner doesn't, then break up, you're n…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:47 PM
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Skill issue, I guess 🤷 I like having background music while I'm reading
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 09:58 PM
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Never had a problem with men crying, my dad cries at movies and it's just normal for someone to cry, at least for me. We all have bad days, sometimes life gets the better of you and you just need to let it out. I think it's silly to limit emotional expression by gender, it doesn't do anyone any good to say "Men are allowed to be angry, but it's unladylike, so no anger for you, but no crying for men because it means they're a sissy''. We're all human, we have the same emotions, and we all deal wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 06:28 PM
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I can also walk and chew gum at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 03:27 PM
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You don't have to. Ideally, you'd just not be one of those dudes and maybe acknowledge that, yeah, it does suck to deal with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 03:18 AM
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What treatment do you think these cold approach dudes receive? It's usually just some version of "not interested, thanks", it's not like we start pelting them with rotten tomatoes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 03:13 AM
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Pretty sure it exists because there are some creepy women who have a quasi-incestuous relationship with their (often very young) sons. Acting like your kid is fulfilling a role a partner should be is.....pretty concerning, to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:49 AM
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What's the fragility here, exactly? Nobody likes telemarketers or spam calls; they're annoying. Not wanting to deal with annoying things is pretty normal. What shouldn't be normal but is, unfortunately, very common is someone starting to hurl insults because the complete stranger they decided to talk to doesn't want to get to know them any better.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:55 PM
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I think the desire to connect with people is always there. I've made friends by talking about the neighbourhood cats we were feeding. I met an ex of mine at a bar while I was trying to gather my drunk friends and we talked about how it's not fun being the only sober(ish) person in a group, and we exchanged numbers by the end of the conversation (ah, expat life). But there's a difference between hitting it off with someone you talked to about something or other and going up to someone minding the…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:51 PM
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Been bearing it since my teens. I'd also be happy if men could take a "no, thanks" or even the occasional scowl without being giant babies about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:57 PM
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Yeah, pretty much sounds like a waste of time. I don't know a single person who met a partner (past or current) by chatting them up at the dairy aisle or something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:00 PM
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Yes, at least in terms of someone seeking out romance with me. I enjoy small talk, I like having conversations with people on the subway/in the store/wherever if we actually have something to talk about. I've had lovely chats with people about how fucked up the transit system is, or about the book they were reading or I was reading, I've talked to people about our tattoos, it was great. But I'd love to be ignored by dudes who are trying to get my number/socials.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 08:57 PM
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Dishonour on me, dishonour on my family, dishonour on my cow!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 08:49 PM
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Honestly, I welcome the change. I've rarely had pleasant experiences when some random dude aporoached me, and I've never had a positive experience being approached on public transport. Bars, cafes, clubs, sure. But the bus? Last time some dude was waving his hand in my face to get my attention despite the fact I was reading a book AND had headphones in. Not particularly subtle signs that I don't want to talk, my dude....
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 06:51 PM
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Sorry to hear that, it sounds like it was pretty rough.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:46 AM
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I'd still have the same opinion - it's perfectly reasonable to want to date someone on your level. If a guy doesn't want to date a woman who works in McDonalds for a couple of hours a week, totally fair, especially if he's working full-time and is way more financially stable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 09:07 PM
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Sure, there are people who expect to be taken care of and don't think they should be willing to offer that themselves. But you also have plenty of people who want someone who would be pulling their weight/wouldn't be a financial burden. It's not hypocritical to want to be with someone who is a good fit for the lifestyle you lead and would like to maintain if you don't expect that other person to provide you with that lifestyle while you don't contribute to the finances necessary to maintain it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 07:10 PM
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How is it hypergamy? We don't know what the ex gf in the story does for a living. If she was unemployed/also working a part-time minimum wage job, sure, you could say it's hypocritical of her to think the guy is some loser. But if she's got a full-time job and is making significantly more than minimum wage? Or is hypergamy just code for "any reason women don't want to date a guy''? It's perfectly normal to want to date someone on your level.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 06:32 PM
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I wouldn't date a guy like that. Don't know why she started dating him in the first place if his employment and lack of desire for anything better was an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:13 PM
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If the person claimed to be straight, I'd probably be more hurt if they cheated with a same-sex partner. It wouldn't just be the shitty feeling of being cheated on, it would be the added hurt of wondering whether that person lied to you about who they were, if they were even attracted to you in the first place, if they weren't just using you to present a certain image to the world. That's a lot of sucky thoughts and feelings to deal with at once. If I knew the person was bi, I don't think it wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 12:49 AM
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Frankly, it disgusts me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 08:07 PM
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I used to be really bad at accepting compliments, they made me feel really uncomfortable, I thought people were lying to me or just trying to be nice to me but they didn't mean what they were saying. I also didn't like being put on the spot and having attention directed at me. At that point in my life, compliments got really old really fast. I got a lot better about compliments as I got older, I can now appreciate them. I think I value compliments from women more, tbh. Guys will compliment my lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 06:12 PM
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It’s just that when modesty becomes a performative act rather than a personal expression, it can sometimes lose its meaning or become a trend rather than a principle. I think that's true for most things that are done in a performative manner. If someone puts on a show about being a caring and sweet person, there's a good chance that they aren't one. Virtues are something you show through your actions, not through your words and bragging. Not to mention, things like being nice, kind, compassionat…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 12:12 AM
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Leering. I find it creepy when people stare at me, even if they don't have a Filthy Frank grin plastered on their faces while doing so. Not respecting my personal space. Not taking "no" for an answer. I had one dude take my earbud out on the bus once because he wanted to talk to me, that was creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 12:06 AM
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Eh, I don't know if I would put a specific time frame on the whole thing, but you should get to know the person before getting married. Live together, travel together, experience some hardships together. It's really easy to have a good relationship when everything is going great and you're in a good place in your life, but you won't know the less-than-great elements of someone's character until they've been put to the test. My partner and I got engaged a few months into our relationship, and I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 11:55 PM
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If someone is super loud and in-your-face about how modest they are, they're probably doing it for attention or clicks. Then again, "modesty" can mean different things for different people. I wear long skirts and wide leg trousers at work but I still pick clothing that is flattering to my shape. I'm sure some people would think that's not modest at all. Some people might think that going bare faced and wearing a potato sack is the only true expression of modesty.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 06:25 PM
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I used to bring up something that made the news to see what their view on it was. Worked out pretty well.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 11:10 PM
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I think it's perfectly fine if you don't care about an event for yourself but you should put effort into making an event special if your partner cares about it. If you don't give a shit about Father's Day or your birthday, that's fine, I don't think anyone should force you to celebrate it. I'd argue that it's wrong of your partner to try and force you to celebrate something that is supposedly for you if you don't want to celebrate it. But if your partner cares about Mother's Day or her birthday,…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 09:48 PM
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men in general kind of suck at it Sure, but if you suck at something, you can improve at that thing. Just because someone is better at something doesn't mean it should always fall on them. It's exhausting and breeds resentment. I remember back when my partner and I were living abroad, and I was the person tasked with talking to delivery people, people at the bank or the post office, planning trips and whatnot because I spoke the language and my partner didn't. We decided to look for a new place …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 06:20 PM
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I briefly dated two guys who seemed relatively liberal but had some more conservative/traditional beliefs that didn't gel with me, the relationship didn't last long after I figured that out. Never dated or hooked up with someone who was a loud and proud, in-your-face type of conservative, definitely not my type of person.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 05:23 PM
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The burden of proof is on you, as you are the one who made the original claims. Again, "trust me, bro" isn't a solid source. It seems you're here to enjoy the smell of your own farts and act high and mighty without actually having to back your claims up in any way, so have fun, I'm sure you'll go to bed tonight with the smug sense of satisfaction that you showed everyone on here what a smart, knowledgeable boy you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 11:45 PM
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And that's a perfectly fine opinion to have, I just have a different one.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 11:14 PM
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Hard pass. I wouldn't want to be with someone who has a degradation kink. If he's found willing participants in some sex workers, he didn't cross any lines during the course of their encounter, and they're being fairly compensated for the work they've done, cool, good for him, glad he found someone willing to engage in that kind of stuff with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 11:06 PM
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I'm unsure how you speculating regarding the level of happiness of your ancestors sheds any real light. About as much as your speculations on their supposed happiness, honestly. The difference is I know the opinions of my grandmothers (and several other elderly women I've had the pleasure of talking to) on how great those days were, and while that's still anecdotal, it's a lot better than what you've provided, which is basically just "trust me, bro". You asserted you have higher standards for yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 10:55 PM
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The visit alone wouldn't be a dealbreaker but the attitude around it and when it happened might be. Someone feeling insecure and maybe a bit desperate in their early-mid 20s? Sure, I can see that. Someone who is desperate now and visited an escort last month? Hard pass. Someone who thinks sex work is a service and that the workers providing said service are deserving of respect, protection under the law, and generally, human decency? Cool. Someone who looks down on sex workers and calls them all…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 06:13 PM
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If women are hypergamous, then they were GENUINELY ATTRACTED TO MORE MEN BACK THEN. Or they needed to get married because that offered stability and living a lifestyle that was looked down on by most of society wasn't a particularly appealing notion. My mother got married because it was going to cause her serious problems career-wise to be an unwed mother, and that was a little over 30 years ago. Granted, it was Eastern Europe but it didn't get any prettier the further back in time you go. Both …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 05:55 PM
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I have tried to approach everyone here in a respectable and friendly manner I have a sneaking suspicion that this isn't true, so it would probably explain why you're not invited to the weekly PPD movie night.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:53 AM
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All good looking in my book
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:51 AM
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Women: Charlize Theron, Anok Yai, Anna Sawai Men: Chris Evans, Nicholas Hoult, Hiroyuki Sanada (man looks great for his age), Michael B Jordan
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:44 AM
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I don't think OP would do well in a poly relationship either, as being trustworthy and respecting the boundaries of a relationship are things he'd probably struggle with in any relationship. I brought up poly as an alternative for people who might not be the monogamous type.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 10:14 PM
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If you don't value monogamous relationships, don't get into one. Be poly, stay single and find casual hookups or FWBs. Trying to justify hurting your partner and ruining your relationship with "but I want to have my cake and eat it too!" is childish. Yes, we'd all love to do whatever we want and not face any consequences but that's not how reality works. You're still free to cheat, nobody is stopping you but nobody is going to go "oh, you hear that, fellas? He really wanted to do it, so it's oka…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 09:47 PM
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Props for calling this shit out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 09:42 PM
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The first one could go either way - why are you giving your number to this person? I gave my number to a guy in my pole class and we've gone out for coffee but he was aware I had a partner from the get-go, so the possibility of a relationship or even a hookup wasn't on the table. If you're giving your number to someone with the idea of having some kind of romantic/sexual relationship with them, then it's cheating. The dirty dancing one...cheating, unless you're like a dancer or something, and yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 07:59 PM
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I'd like to direct you to all the stupid terms assorted manosphere/redpill/hustle-grindset dweebs use all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 07:38 PM
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Maybe in your circles, sure. But most people I've known for a long time, like 15-20 years, are still more or less the same person they always were. If they were relatively liberal, they're still pretty liberal, maybe they became a bit more conservative or liberal about some issue or another, but they haven't completely changed everything they believed and valued, same goes for the people I know who have always been more on the conservative side. The few people I know who have changed in extreme …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 07:32 PM
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Like I said, changing some of your opinions is perfectly normal. I've changed some of mine since I was 20 but I haven't gone in the complete opposite direction. I didn't go from annoying reddit atheist to fire-and-brimstone evangelical, I'm still an atheist but I am slightly more tolerant of religious people around me. Going from one end of the spectrum to the other every couple of years isn't normal, dude. It just sounds like the guy doesn't have any real strongly held beliefs and is throwing s…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 07:21 PM
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Changing some of your opinions and beliefs is a normal thing to do, doing a complete 180 on who you are as a person is weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 02:23 AM
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Don't think I've ever busted out a ruler to figure out if I'm gonna hook up with someone or not, I haven't used one to figure out if I'd want a relationship with this dude after we did the do either. I'd be interested to see the study (if there is such a study to begin with). But if I were to take this seriously: eh, I'll try out a spicier dish at a restaurant just because it's new and interesting but I wouldn't want the food I make at home on the regular to be that spicy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 11:02 PM
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I think people post these for different reasons. Some women probably genuinely think that a partner who is acting like he got kicked in the head by a mule is funny, in the same way they might find a toddler trying to act like an adult funny. Sort of like in a "Aw, he's too dumb to figure this out but he's trying to imitate grown people, ain't that cute!" way. I don't get it, I find incompetence aggravating and refuse to put up with it. Kids not knowing how to do stuff is fine, they're kids. Adul…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 11:51 PM
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Not being successful, whether you tried to improve your situation or not, can lead to resentment. Someone who hasn't tried to improve their situation can be resentful that so many other people have found success in XYZ endeavour without improving, so why can't he/she, that isn't fair. Someone who has tried but failed can be resentful that so many other people have found success after they put in all the work, so why can't he/she, that isn't fair. Hell, someone can improve, become successful AND …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 11:33 PM
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I think that you are, to a degree, correct. But I think that an unfortunate amount of people have a "fuck you, got mine" mentality and another large amount of people conflate empathy and giving them whatever they want, similar to how some people conflate respect and treating someone as an authority on something. Obviously, I'm not talking about everyone, but just look at this sub as an example - there's a "women don't have empathy for men" thread at least every other week, and it almost always b…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 02:54 PM
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It would be a deal breaker for me unless the person was genuinely making efforts to learn how to read. I don't think it's some great moral failing that people should be made to feel bad for, there are tons of reasons why someone might be struggling with literacy. But for a romantic relationship, I'd want someone who was on the relatively same level as me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 07:00 PM
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Not really, it's not a bother to me personally if someone is lonely, and while not having lonely people would be better, I don't mean it as in "we need to snap the lonely out of existence so they stop bumming everyone out". It would be better if lonely people weren't lonely. I'd also prefer if all the bitter, angry, woman-hating dudes weren't bitter, angry and woman-hating, but I don't want them to drop dead tomorrow. Would this resolve your frustrations or concerns related to gender dynamics? N…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:41 PM
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Nah. I'd rather people try to learn different ways to please their partners and stop thinking that dipping a french fry in the sauce is the only way to do things.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:24 PM
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If you're pretty introverted and have little need for socialization, it might work for you. But even then, it depends on how available the other person is, how much time they can spend with you, and whether it's enough for you. Maybe their idea of quality time is different from yours, etc. I'd argue that it still puts unfair pressure on the other person to be your only source of social interaction. What happens if they get really busy with school or work and can't spend as much time with you? Wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 08:27 PM
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Because one person won't resolve your loneliness problem. They might fix the romantic/sexual longing issue, but you'll still feel lonely if you only have one person as your whole social outlet. When I moved to Canada, I knew only my husband, his parents, and I had a friend on the other side of the country..I didn't know anyone in the city we lived in, and making friends was hard. I felt incredibly isolated, I didn't have anyone to just go have a coffee with, I couldn't just call someone up to ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 05:26 PM
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I don't think I've ever heard anyone claim that rape doesn't exist in nature. I've seen more people argue that you could feed an obligate carnivore a plant-based diet than I've seen people arguing that rape isn't a thing that occurs in nature. The issue with rape within a partiarchal system is that it is often justified, excused, and presented as more of an affront to the property owner (the husband/father/patriarch of the family) rather than it being awful because it's violence inflicted on ano…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 08:57 PM
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Agreed. I'd say not being able to control your impulses is a way bigger red flag than thinking the only way someone can show they value you is by dropping their pants asap. I'm fine with the idea of sex early on in a relationship, but if someone presented that with the argument that they can't keep it in their pants and they have the self-control of a toddler, I'd be out of there so fast I'd give Usain Bolt a run for his money. OP isn't doing a good job of selling the idea that it's bad to wait …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 12:16 AM
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Not wanting to date her is fine. Assuming that she's not respecting his time and that she must think he's ugly or something is just the dude fishing for pity points either from her or in this case, the Internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:46 PM
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The US is not the whole world. And even then, why are you trying to convince the (according to you) few people who do have self-control that it's a bad idea when you already have a large amount of similarly uninhibited people to choose from? This is what I meant when I said that this is nothing more than just a poor attempt at manipulation. Some lady says "I want to wait before having sex because I don't want to risk getting played, I'd much rather establish a connection with someone and then ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:25 PM
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I don't think most people are incapable of self-control. A lot are, sure. But if you're lacking in self-control, you're probably not compatible with a person who isn't. If you value immediate gratification above all else, you and the person who doesn't just aren't a good match. There's nothing wrong with them not wanting what you want, and that's my issue with your post - you're framing their desire for their relationship as "bad" or "wrong" because they're not giving you what you want and makin…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:14 PM
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I agree that a lot of people are self-indulgent, but a lot of people also learn to prioritize things that matter more to them than what would feel good in the moment. If you're the kind of person who operates with the idea of "she hot, me want bang now", there's no point in trying to have any kind of romantic relationship with someone who works under "him hot, but me want emotional connection more than just sex". Again, it's fine to want what you want. But there's a difference between saying "I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:59 PM
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Not wanting to fuck someone on the first date doesn't mean you're not attracted to them, you might simply value sex with someone you have a connection with more than simply having sex with someone you just find hot. Or you might not want to jump headfirst into something because you've learned it doesn't always end well. Both are perfectly valid reasons to want to wait, and it's fine to let the person know in advance. They can decide whether that works for them or not. How'd you get "doing him a …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:35 PM
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I think you have a bit of a rosy view of living in cities. If we're talking about the US, riding a bike or walking to work aren't the most frequently used options, especially if you live in the suburbs and work in the city. Most people can't afford to Uber and Lyft everywhere, and while I'm sure some people eat takeout three times a day, most people wouldn't be able to afford that either (especially with the jacked-up prices these days). They might eat some instant ramen or whatever they had at …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 05:11 PM
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Not at all. It might be a perfectly fine date, but it might not be. If it's not, him expecting sex on date one is just the cherry on top of the story. But either way, I'm not obligated to sleep with him if I don't feel a connection irl,.and even if I did think it was an overall decent date, I still don't have to if I'm not feeling like having sex on the first date. Not all dates lead to a second one, that's perfectly fine. Having sex on the first date doesn't mean I'm down to always do it, same …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 03:30 PM
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Sure, not like I'm obligated to sleep with him if I don't think the date went well (or even if it did). Worst case scenario (excluding him becoming violent) I have a crappy date, but I get a story to share with my friends. Most people I know have a "omg, you won't believe what this person did" date story.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:24 AM
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I think there's a difference between being patient and helpful within a sexual/romantic relationship with a partner who is inexperienced, and just sleeping with someone who you aren't interested in sexually or romantically for some "public service" points. In the first case, you're with someone you're attracted to and want to be with, so you choose to explore your sex life on the terms of the less experienced partner, and you give them time to find their mojo. The second case is what I'd call "p…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 05:09 PM
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Then it's good for everyone if you don't have any. Women don't have to deal with you, you don't have to deal with us, everyone wins.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 07:56 AM
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OP is doing some serious whinging in the edits. Women are useless as friends if they don't help you secure pussy in any and all circumstances, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:32 AM
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If I think my guy friend might hit it off with some lady I know, I might have a party at my place or make a group outing to a bar or something, give them a chance to talk to each other. If I know my female friend likes my male friend, and I think he'd like her too, I'd do the same. I wouldn't just walk up to some chick at a bar that he thought looked hot, mostly because I know how uncomfortable these interactions can be, and I wouldn't feel more at ease if a second person was there badgering me …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:55 AM
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"I might be an unfuckable loser, but so are all these women who didn't want to fuck me!" seems to be the general vibe. As usual, it's cope.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 06:14 PM
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From what I've seen, a good chunk of the people here do read. If you feel insulted, that's a personal problem. We've got the whole Internet at our fingertips, we can learn about shit through youtube, nebula, coursera, edux, we've got so many sites that we can download books from. You can get kindles, kobos, I'm sure there are some other e-readers I'm not familiar with. Hell, you can download a pdf on your phone and read it there. Audiobooks are a thing. A kid or a young adult can complain that t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 05:08 PM
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I'd say that yeah, if you're too stupid to crack open a book or learn something without having a ton of flashing lights and loud sounds in it purely for entertainment purposes, it kind of is your own fault. Or, at the very least, the fault of your parents for giving you an ipad at the age of 1, and never making you exist without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 04:52 PM
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It does, because I think you're conflating the perfectly normal to have your partner view you as special with the endless whinging we get on here from dudes who are upset that women, just the nameless, faceless mass of women, don't think they're as hot as some other dudes out there. There's a difference between "I want to find someone who will love me for who I am, warts and all" and "Bet she would have done XYZ if I was taller/richer/more charismatic". One is something we all want, the other is…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 07:46 PM
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Sure, we all want to be special to someone in particular. It's fine to want to find that someone, the person who thinks you're incredible just for being you. It's also fine to be sad that you haven't met that person yet. It's also fine to be sad and disappointed if you thought someone was special, but they didnt treat you like you were special to them. That sucks, a lot of dating involves heartbreak. But a lot of the complaints about this "specialness" on here just sound like a wounded ego - oh,…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 07:06 PM
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You should be special to your partner, but there's a difference between being special to one person/several people in your life, and being considered "special" by people in general. There's no problem in wanting to be special to someone/several someone, but if you expect to be treated like your special by society, you're actually going to have to be very impressive in some way. The goal you scored in our monthly soccer game with your amateur club is going to be important and special to your part…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 06:29 PM
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We all have those days.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 05:24 AM
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Sorry you had to deal with that. Sometimes just a single word can trigger us, even if we don't want it to, even if we know we should not let it. But it does. And it says a lot about you that you're thinking of how you might affect others with your words when you've just been hurt by someone. Take pride in that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 05:05 AM
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What a crappy situation. I commend the guy for wanting to adopt the kids, I imagine a lot of people wouldn't want to do that. On the other hand, I can see how someone who wants nothing to do with kids wouldn't want to be in this position, especially if she's the one who is going to be doing the childcare. I can't really blame her for wanting out, considering he reneged on something they had previously agreed on, and he's dumping most of the responsibility of his decision on her.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 04:56 AM
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I will be. I have my kitty in Canada, and I have my other kitty back home. It's going to take a bit, but it gets better. It's just going to suck for the next few weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 04:36 AM
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Thank you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 02:44 AM
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Thanks, man. He was 19 and sick, so I expected it, but it was still a punch in the gut. Looking into urns from etsy to send to my folks. He deserves a fancy final resting place.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 02:39 AM
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My cat died on Tuesday and I was so busy that I couldn't just sit and cry about it. Got myself a bottle of rose and spent two hours in the tub with my little drinky-drink and some improvised charcuterie. Death sucks, that is all. Edit: <image> My sweet old man
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 02:36 AM
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Get Out was pretty good. I think A24 has been putting out good stuff. Blockbusters have been kinda meh, but the horror genre has had some winners.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 02:32 AM
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Or young men can just, you know, read all the shit about sirens and witches that exists to this day? Nobody took those stories away. They can read a Hellboy comic if a book is too much effort, plenty of horror movies with scary ladies in them are out there as well if reading in general is a bummer.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 01:22 AM
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This is probably the best comment I've read on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 01:03 AM
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I can kind of understand why he hid it for so long, from your description it seems like he's dealing with a lot of feelings of shame about his kink or whatever you want to call it, and he doesn't want to be ridiculed for it. On the other hand, I can also see why she's upset, this isn't something she finds attractive and wouldn't have been with someone who has this predilection, I can also see how she might wonder if he's also hiding other things about himself. Hiding something from your partner …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 10:24 PM
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I show the most skin in pole class, and there's like one guy there, I'm doing it for myself. Never been an issue with my partner. Don't like women who show off a lot of skin? Don't date one. Simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 04:52 PM
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It's awful even if you're working part time and still expected to do everything related to the home and kids. I'd argue it's also awful to be the default parent and house keeper at all times, permanently. Being a home-maker sounds awful and I'm glad I have the choice to not do that and not be perceived as "difficult" by the rest of society. Whoever wants to be a SAHM can be one, best of luck to them, hope it works out. The key point is that they get to decide to be one, they're not one because t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 04:50 AM
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To quote my spouse: Worked out for me ¯_(ツ)_/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 04:06 AM
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I'd argue that I'm receiving much better treatment than my grandmothers did. Both of my grandfathers were pretty decent dudes by Eastern European standards - they had steady jobs, they weren't alcoholics, they didn't squander their money gambling, they didn't beat their wives, and they didn't beat their children just because they had a bad day*. But even then, they were pretty lacklustre husbands and parents, they didn't help with the cooking, or the cleaning, and they'd "babysit" occasionally. …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 02:27 AM
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Good on your grandma, your grandpa sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 01:37 AM
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It's not that it's poverty food, it's just super simple and easy to make. It's what you'll make when you're back home after a long day, it's usually random stuff you have in the fridge (ham, cheese, pickles, etc.), sometimes it's ramen or chicken nuggets. As for the term -The use of girl in the term makes reference to the stereotypical association of small portions with some women’s eating habits. The term is most commonly used in the context of women and what they’re eating, but it is also used…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:37 PM
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It most likely is. I mostly do "girl lunch" instead of dinner but it's usually some veggies, a couple of slices of toasted whole wheat, whatever cheese and ham is in the fridge, and maybe some hummus, if we have any. Beats McDonalds.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 02:29 AM
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Okay, I'm not a big fan of the whole "girlypop" way of speaking, but girl dinner doesn't mean someone can't cook. I cook all the time, and I still have girl dinners when I'm too tired to make anything else. It's just a tiny budget charcuterie board.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 01:57 AM
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If every relationship you've been in has been abusive, sure, you're probably drawn to that kind of behaviour. If most relationships you've been in have been abusive, you're probably drawn to that kind of behaviour. If you're consistently going after people who are already showing their ass from the beginning of the relationship or before it started, you're probably drawn to that kind of behaviour. A person who is drawn to this kind of behaviour would greatly benefit from therapy, it can help the…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 12:57 AM
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So they do care if she does it, it's not just an "it would be nice if she offered, I don't much care for it" situation. I get their logic, I just think you're a shitty partner if you demand that the other person do something they don't like just because they 've tried it with other people. I'm not gonna make my husband eat a dish he doesn't like just because he ate a dish he disliked when he met his ex gf's parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 05:36 AM
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Why would she offer something she has no intention of doing? And let's not pretend there would be no whinging about this. They'll complain about broken promises or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 03:06 AM
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I love the "but we'll protect you" stuff. It's always trotted out as this purely hypothetical benefit that the most bitchless dudes will, somehow, contribute to our lives. If all you can offer is some theoretical thing you might do or stolen valour from men who actually do protect others, you ain't contributing anything. If the only way society can function is by relegating women as participation trophies for dudes, I'm fine with it burning.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 04:31 PM
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What I want in a partner: kind, considerate, someone I have shared interests with. Physical traits would be at least my height, on the slim side, if he's blonde with blue eyes and tattoos, that's a 10/10 right there. Last three guys I've been with have pretty much all been kind and considerate dudes, had some common interests with all of them. In terms of the physical stuff, it was like at least two of the traits. Edit: Missed the single people part, my bad
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 03:16 PM
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I have no problem getting to know a guy I don't find attractive, I just wouldn't be interested in him romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 05:32 AM
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I have an alot poster in my classroom 😃
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 04:50 AM
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Whether in my life or not, men are people with thoughts and feelings. My not wanting to possibly get romantically involved with every other dude I meet doesn't negate them having thoughts and feelings. Not wanting to date someone isn't hateful behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 11:48 PM
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Yeah, I think I can find attractive qualities in many people I meet, and I enjoy complimenting people. A guy at my hairdresser bleached his hair to this beautiful silver colour, he looked amazing and I told him so. He appreciated the compliment. But just because I find something attractive about someone doesn't mean I'd necessarily be open to dating them. Been with my partner for 5 years and I'm not looking for anything, but even if I was, not everyone I met was put into the possible romantic pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 11:11 PM
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I've dated people who didn't make me go full-cartoonish-jaw-dropping-to-the-floor when I met them for the first time. Not that they were ugly, they just didn't seem my type. But just because I'm open to dating people who weren't my ideal man from the get go, that doesn't mean that I was open to considering every random dude who I was talking to/who approached me for a romantic partner. Sometimes I was already in a relationship, sometimes I was already interested in a different person, and other …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 10:55 PM
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I engage with plenty of men, I just don't engage them in a romantic capacity. I imagine most women are the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 10:39 PM
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I think that if a man wants a paternity test to be 100% sure that the kid is theirs, they should do so. That being said, if he's asking his long-term partner for a test, he should expect that to be a major blow to their relationship. If I asked my husband to get an STD test, he'd be pretty offended and it would call the trust we thought we had in each other into question. We're monogamous, there's no way for him to have gotten that sexually transmitted disease unless he fucked someone else. Simi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 06:36 PM
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I'm not sure if the guy was autistic or something else was going on, so I'm not sure if it's appropriate for this thread. There was this one dude who ended up being banned from every expat bar in town due to his behaviour - he'd walk into the bar/club, pick a woman, and then he'd follow her around and ask her to go home with him until he inevitably got kicked out. He followed me around for one evening, I ran into some male friends of mine at the club and just chilled with them for a bit, the guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 05:43 PM
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I didn't really get him to help, he did what he did because he saw I wasn't feeling well, and because the cooking and cleaning still needed to get done. I think taking care of your partner who is unwell is the least one could do, and taking care of the house is just something everyone should be doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 10:55 PM
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That's a lot of words to tell people you suck in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 06:18 PM
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Listen to her when she tells you what she needs. Pay attention to how she's doing. Don't tell her "It's not that bad". My partner has a pot brownie and tea ready for me cause I have atrocious cramps. He takes over cleaning/cookong duties that day if I'm stuck in bed. He'll rush over with the puke bucket if it gets to that point. He just takes care of me like I take care of him when he isn't feeling well.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 04:49 PM
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I don't think it makes it right, but after a while you just assume that this person is just another one of those shitty dudes/ladies and don't even bother listening to them. It's also a lot easier to not treat people as, well, people online - the other person is just an avatar and you can just assume they're the stereotype of whatever group you're tired of dealing with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 03:02 AM
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Depends on what you mean by invalidating and, often, how you expressed those frustrations. If someone told you that, no, you don't actually have any problems, you're just making them up, that's a shitty and untrue thing for them to say. But if you said something along the lines of "Women are stuck-up bitches who don't want me because they all want rich guys to suck the life out of", I can see how people would call you out on that and not be super charitable to you. I get the need for validation,…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 11:56 PM
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Like both genders face their own problems, just be a listening ear to another human, you know? Absolutely. I've had friends, both male and female, who have had crazy exes, shitty bosses and coworkers of the opposite gender, sometimes they've just met incredibly unpleasant people from the opposite gender, and they get to vent about these things. Sometimes just being able to air out some frustrations about Susan or Jack feels incredibly liberating.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 11:47 PM
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intellectually dishonest? or, pathetic? Both, imo. Like, it's just trying to justify why they think women are a bunch of meanies. If they said "Women are vile harpies because I want to have sex and none of them want to have sex with me", most people would probably say that no, women aren't evil just because they don't want you, in particular. I imagine that some of these guys are aware that their disdain for women is just their own bitterness and not a reflection of what kind of people women are…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 09:41 PM
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Some of them feel like they're just going to be used by certain guys to say "see, women won't help a poor dying man, women have no empathy". All these dudes are doing is telling on themselves, they think empathy = sex. And you know what, if not treating my body like a soup kitchen for sex-starved men makes me unempathetic, I'm fine with being considered unempathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 08:51 PM
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I would wonder why this guy didn’t have a friends network. Yeah, I'd wonder about that as well. I don't think I'd be hitting up strangers if I had two weeks to live. But let's say he doesn't have any friends, I'd be happy to be that friend and do friend stuff with and for him. If he doesn't want a friend and wants a sex toy, I'd just direct him to the nearest sex shop and go on with my day.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 06:42 PM
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Emotional support, make him his favourite food (everyone should have the last meal they wanted), we could go to laser tag or some other fun activity. I wouldn't sleep with him, I don't do pity sex. "I'm dying, please madame, may I have a crumb of vagina!" is also not a particularly winning strategy. Trying to guilt people into fucking you is, and always will be, gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 05:50 PM
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Would you date, marry, fuck a person who you thought was "Bleh". Like, the sound you make when you gag? I'm guessing you wouldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 05:39 PM
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Bleh. That's about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 04:32 AM
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And a captain who acts like his word is law, despite the often better judgement of his crew members, will likely have a mutiny on his hands.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 11:33 PM
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Honestly, I'm happy if a guy just says "That's fucked up, sorry to hear that happened" or even just the first part if I'm telling him about shitty experiences I've had with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 10:57 PM
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Neither. I want an agrgreable person who can also be able to stand by their opinion, and who can also call me out if I'm wrong or being an ass for some reason. I also want someone who wouldn't sulk like a baby when I call him out for his mistakes/assholery.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 10:47 PM
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I don't check who my partner is following, so I don't know who he's following. But I don't mind him following people I haven't met, he's got his own friends and coworkers. He doesn't know every guy I follow either.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 08:25 PM
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Trying to order a gift basket for my dad's b-day, and the website is such absolute ass. Load, damn you!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 03:35 AM
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If I'm talking about myself - a dude who acts like he's ready to pick a fight with anyone at any given moment is offputting, and I wouldn't consider this man for any kind of relationship, even a platonic one. Angry chimps belong at the zoo, not at events with me. I'm also not a fan of huge muscles, and while 6 figures sounds pretty good, if that's all they offer or they try to lord it over others, hard pass. I'll agree that certain types of women do go for the type RP guys go on about, but for t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 06:00 PM
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I think some standards fall into the "pick one" category and others you should expect from any partner, regardless of their attractiveness. I don't think it's unreasonable to expect your partner to love you deeply and be loyal to you, even if they look like peak Chris Evans. I don't think it's unreasonable to expect a partner to treat you with respect, to be kind and considerate, and to make you feel like you're special to them, that's what your partner should do. Nobody is hot enough to be able…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 05:42 PM
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I agree, but I don't think it's just about the sex stuff. It largely is, all of these threads are just some version of "she did anal with her ex, but doesn't want to do it with me". However, I think it's also them not being able to admit that they do actually want someone who is hot, funny, interesting, and with whom they can share hobbies and interests. They claim they'd be fine with any woman with a pulse, but then they either complain about that person when they get with them, or they complai…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 06:53 PM
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Comparison is not the thief of joy. It absolutely is. How many people are running themselves ragged (and broke) trying to live up to some idealized version of existence they saw on social media? How many people feel inadequate because they saw someone do XYZ on Instagram, and now think what they're doing isn't good enough? I'll admit that I have also had these thoughts - I think I look great, and then I'll see a muscle mommy while I'm browsing Insta, and I'll feel like I look mid af. But then I …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 05:59 PM
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Men don’t have that sort of optionality First of all, being single is always an option. Second of all, okay, let's say that they don't have an option, they have to take whoever agrees to be with them. Then why are they bitching about it so much? It just comes off as choosy beggars - they claim they'll be happy with anything, but they turn their noses up at anything and get upset when they don't get very specific things that were never mentioned up until that point. Men have standards, men have e…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 05:05 PM
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This again? Look, if you're partner is treating you in a way that you think is bad, I get feeling shitty, that's not a good situation to be in. But suppose your partner has been treating you well, and you were perfectly happy with how the relationship has been going, and you only started having a problem with it after you compared your relationship with a different relationship (be it hers or that of a completely different couple). In that case, it sounds like you're dealing with a bad case of F…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:59 PM
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I think it's unreasonable, unless your partner's porn consumption habit is affecting your relationship in some noticeable way - they can't get it up, they can't keep it up, their sexual tastes have become too much for you. But even then, if they don't want to change, you should re-evaluate your relationship, maybe you're just no longer compatible. And if you have a problem with anyone watching any porn at all, then you should just date people who don't partake. I don't know why it needs to be sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:14 PM
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Ok, but besides that personal specification, are you saying it is beyond your ability to understand one taking offense at a romantic and hopefully sexual partner outright not wanting to procreate with you? I can understand why they've taken offense, I still think they're taking an issue that isn't about them, and making it about themselves. If someone never wanted a kid, and they don't want one with you, that's not a personal slight against you. If someone has had a kid but doesn't want anymore …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 10:40 PM
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No, but I haven't seen any "Abortion is murder" posters with an asterisk and a smaller font that reads "Only applies to two or more abortions, one abortion is cool with us". Like I said, you can have whatever opinion you want, but it's not like it's the majority opinion. And, you know, majority ≠ all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 10:19 PM
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If my partner asked me to take a polygraph (old or new gen) to prove I love him, I'd probably ask where he got the stupid juice from, and then I'd ask if he was okay. If your partner's actions haven't proven they love you, some lines on a computer screen ain't going to solve whatever deep insecurity is plaguing you. My answer would be the same if he asked me for a paternity test - sure, I'll do it, but you need to find a therapist for yourself, and a couples counselor for us, because I'm not goi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 09:35 PM
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Damn, if only all of us wanted to climb corporate ladders!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 08:00 PM
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Damn, didn't know my bog hag ass was causing men to be depressed. Shitty super power, but a super power nonetheless!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:36 AM
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So....a normal person?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 10:37 PM
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You can do that, but it's not like your opinion is the majority opinion of pro-birthers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 08:16 PM
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Those beliefs are pretty much the whole abortion discussion - I, and many other people, don't think a clump of cells is the same as a baby, they don't carry the same value in my opinion. I wouldn't consider myself a mother if I found out I was currently pregnant. A different group of many other people think a baby and the newly fertilized egg have the exact same value. Some women who are currently pregnant might consider themselves mothers because they believe the egg is as much of a living, bre…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 08:14 PM
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It is. This is someone who was a mother, and she is mourning the child that she lost. If you haven't had a child, not only are you not currently a mother, but you've also never been one. If you're pregnant, you're an expecting mother, a mother-to-be. Like I said, I'd have no problem with a woman who was pregnant and super excited about it identifying as a mother, but I also understand why a pregnant woman wouldn't identify as anything other than "pregnant", "expecting", or "mother-to-be".
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 07:56 PM
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Pretty sure they call any woman who has had an abortion those names, the number of abortions doesn't really matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 07:53 PM
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I mean, you're no longer a parent. That doesn't mean you haven't experienced being a mother. But if you've nipped a pregnancy in the bud, you've only been an expecting mother. I'd have no problem if a pregnant lady wanted to identify as a mother, but I wouldn't consider myself one if I got rid of an unwanted pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 07:45 PM
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The one who escalates their stalking behaviours.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 07:41 PM
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But you're not a mother if you have an abortion. There is no baby to take care of, so you're not failing in your role as a caregiver. If you have a living, breathing child and you don't take care of it, you'd be a deadbeat mother (or father). If your complaint is that we don't have mean names for women who have abortions, I'd like to direct you to all the pro-birth loonies who call these women murderers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 07:33 PM
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I can't watch that show, there's always a cunty mother/MIL/friend who is just shitting on the poor bride. They make me sooo angry.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 03:58 AM
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This sub gets more and more unhinged by the day.... Or the trolls are really low-effort ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 02:14 AM
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I was being a good sport—I gave actionable advice on how he could make himself look more attractive and what measures he could take to be a slightly more interesting person to talk to. What I can't do, however, is give this hypothetical man a plan on how to seal the deal with some random hypothetical woman. I don't know this made-up lady; how am I supposed to know what makes a great date for her? You guys want us to be Nostradamus, and when we can't be, y'all get pissy that we haven't given you …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 09:26 PM
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I have to ask, if the men here are all such great woman understanders, why is it that so many of them can't get a woman even if they were giving out Sephora gift cards? Not to say it's all guys here, but the very simple instructions they have that they try to apply as some universal cheat code for women as a whole don't seem to be working. And of course they aren't working, because different people, women included, find different things appealing. I know women who would love for a guy to show up…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 08:34 PM
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I used to watch soccer with my mom and uncle when I was a kid, and at the time it was a fun family activity. Now, my mom just hogs the TV for UEFA/FIFA games, my dad and I can't watch anything, so I kind of lost my taste for it. I will make the exception for watching a game/a fight/whatever sports event with a group of people, that shit can be a lot of fun, my friends and I used to do a UFC night and we just got a bunch of snacks and drinks and had a blast. But sitting at home, on your own, bein…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 08:14 PM
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If the guy is so socially inept that he needs someone to tell him what to say and do on a date, then no amount of coaching can make him a "Chad". Improving your looks and having more interests that you can use as conversation topics gets your foot in the door, how you vibe with the other person seals the deal. If the guy can't vibe without needing IKEA-ass instructions, that's not something I can help with even if I wanted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 07:35 PM
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like being physically fit, mentally strong, emotionally stimulating, etc. etc. So, normal things I expect my partner to be because I don't want to be with a flabby, whiny dude who is as interesting as watching paint dry. But they do require consistent work and that work comes with strings attached. You should want to be the things you mentioned for your own sake, not because you're trying to bullshit someone into dropping their pants for you. If you're only doing them to trick someone into datin…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 07:02 PM
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Can't really say, the guys I tend to hang out with or the guys I see in places I hang out at are pretty well-groomed, they don't smell, they seem pretty put together, this applies to guys back home and in Canada. On the other hand, I definitely smell a combo of B.O. and cheap cologne when I get on certain busses back home. If I go into a few select bars/neighbourhood hangs when the big game is on, it will be pretty rank in there. So an overweight man who dresses well and is clean is meeting reas…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 06:10 PM
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If that man needs me to hold his hand on a date to make sure no woman isn't feeling the date, my guy has problems that are above my pay grade. There isn't any way to handle a date that has a 100% success rate, people are different, some want to take things slowly. And also - they could have a pleasant date and not feel any chemistry between them, shit happens. That's why you go on dates with a bunch of people, you're looking for someone you click with.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 05:24 PM
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I agree that watching sports is boring, going to thr gym is good for you. Also - you will never be attractive to everyone, so do stuff you would enjoy and be okay that it will turn some people off
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 05:22 PM
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Could you make a man ick-proof? No, because nobody is ick-proof. You could be an awesome person, and someone out there would still find you meh. You get a 5'8, plain faced 28 year old. All his hair. He makes 50k annual. Skinny-fat. He's got like 3 guy friends, no female friends. Studio apartment, no roommates. Nut allergy. He's apolitical. Likes lord of the rings. Drives for Amazon. Wears hoodies and jeans. Not hot, not ugly. Racially ambiguous. Tell him to hit the gym, he doesn't have to look l…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 05:26 AM
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I thought my Internet was crapping out again lol It's been shitty for the last few days, so I thought it was a "me" problem. Good to know it's reddit glitching out.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 08:04 PM
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Had the same issue in the daily thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 07:59 PM
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Yes, you can. However, I think it's up to the person asking for advice to let others know what their situation is, so these people can provide them with something that might actually be useful for them. It's a bit entitled to ask for something and then expect the people you're asking to put more effort into the whole thing than you, especially when those people are just random strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 07:54 PM
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We have to start to accept that You can't give generic advice to a guy about what will and wont get him laid. Sure, but you can't ask a bunch of strangers on the Internet for advice and get upset when they don't give you, a stranger to them, tailored advice. On an anonymous forum where nobody knows you, all you're going to get is generic advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 07:29 PM
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They're not making a comment regarding sex, they're making a comment on the nature of consent - just because you sometimes do XYZ doesn't mean you'll always want to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 06:10 PM
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That's not how consent works. I love tea, that doesn't mean I want tea at all times of the day. You can offer me tea, but if I say "no, thank you", if you continue trying to pester me into having tea or trying to force it in my cup, that's harassment. And no, arguing that you saw me have tea earlier that week with Bob doesn't make what you're doing okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 05:59 PM
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20+ is too much of a difference for me. I wouldn't want to be the default parent of any kids, and a caretaker of several old people, including my spouse, in my 40s. I got my own elderly parents to take care of, thankyouverymuch.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 05:13 PM
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I'm sure men of all ages prefer young, hot women. I too think young hot dudes with abs look better than a 35 y.o. schlubby dude. However, not all men prefer young women for the same reasons. Some men absolutely just want someone who is young and hot, while other men absolutely want someone they can "shape" into the kind of partner they want, and that's a lot easier to do if you're dating someone who hasn't really come into their own as a person yet. Shitty, abusive men exist, they're not some st…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 12:51 AM
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So is status just money? For some peopele, money is super important. They have a specitic lifestyle they live/want to live, so they want someone who can keep up/make it happen. Some people expect the man to be the provider, so they want a man who can support a family on his salary alone. And some people just want someone who they can split the rent and bills with, and who isn't going to drag them down financially with debt/bad financial decisions/addictions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 07:16 PM
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What are some things you guys want to get done next year? I want to learn how to make French macarons, perfect my risotto, and get the splits down.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 02:24 AM
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Lust is okay, but it can also be dehumanizing. Lusting over your partner is all fine and dandy, if you treat them as nothing more than a sexual object then you're in "dehumanizing" territory. Wanting to do the under-the-sheet shuffle with your person is great, but placing that desire above their needs and comfort isn't. It's a sufficient enough feeling for a casual connection, like a ONS or a hookup buddy, but I don't think it's enough for a long-term committed relationship, you need other thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 07:34 PM
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Eh, I kind of agree, however: How the person proposes and with what ring shows if they know you and have been listening to you. For example, I didn't want a diamond ring. Lab-grown would have been fine, but an "actual" diamond ring was a no-go for me. If my husband had proposed with a diamond ring, I would have been disappointed because it would have shown that he had not bothered listening to me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 04:58 PM
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No, I don't. Most guys I know aren't tall, rich, and handsome, and they're doing all right. They've never had to beat women off with a stick, but they've had a few romantic partners, and most are currently in LTRs.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 09:52 PM
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Being more open to them doesn't make them the standard. How many of the top billed Hollywood actresses are fat and/or ugly? Most of the Insta/TikTok influencers I'm aware of are still young, pretty, slim ladies. Also - porn is freely available, you aren't being exploited by someone offering titty pictures for a fee. You could just look up tits for free.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 09:31 PM
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And all the pictures of skinny/in-shape women? Those haven't gone anywhere. Also, I don't know many men who suddenly want to date a 300 pound woman cause TikTok said she's pretty.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 08:20 PM
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Sure, but then what is the solution? It didn't work the first time, so don't ever try again? I think my question about these kinds of posts, and not trying to attack you here, OP, is - what's the end goal? If the goal is to just complain and get a "that sucks, man, sorry to hear that" from people, that's fine. It can be very freeing to talk about something that bothers you, and it feels good to get validation of your feelings. Everyone needs to vent sometimes. But if the end goal is finding some…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 07:12 PM
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I mean, sure. But how many times have there been dudes on here who have complained about being friendless or loveless while being pretty asocial, and every suggestion of "try new things, get out of your comfort zone, you might meet some cool people" has been met with a barrage of excuses to not do it? Did honesty do anything to improve their situation? Telling people what the issue is isn't going to help the subset of people who will deny there's an issue or the ones who will come up with endles…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 06:51 PM
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I think most people would agree with this - it ain't great to be unwanted. The issue is what can be done about it, it's not like we can flip a switch and make the undesirable desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 06:34 PM
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Some people love their kids unconditionally. Everyone else who isn't your kid - conditions apply, and that's not a bad thing. It's not good for you to stick it out with disrespectful, abusive, just plain shitty people, your love for them having a "That's all I can stands, and I can't stands no more" level protects you from continuing to endure shitty treatment. I love my husband, but if he started abusing me and cheating on me that love would go away really fast. I love my friends, but if they s…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 05:15 PM
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That probably happens for some.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 04:32 AM
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I think it's a setup for misunderstandings and a lot of hurt feelings. Your honesty wasn't an issue. These people wanted something serious, you didn't, so you'll both continue looking for people who want the same things as you. That's dating and honesty working properly. The ones who might be open to something casual are either alright with it from the get go, or are like the second group you described - they're open to casual now because they think they'll be able to change your mind about it i…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 10:42 PM
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The ones who leave are looking for something serious, so they see no point in seeing you. Your honesty worked here - they know you're looking for different things. The ones who stick around hoping to change your mind are that unfortunate breed of human who thinks they're so incredible that they can change what someone is looking for by virtue of being their incredible selves.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 10:28 PM
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"Women likely don't feel pain" Have we gone back to ye olden times when people thought our wombs wander and that we were somehow a completely different species of human?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 06:49 AM
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I wouldn't be thrilled, but we'd deal with the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 06:24 PM
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For some women, sure. Other women are perfectly fine engaging in casual sex without wanting an emotional bond or a relationship with the person they're sleeping with.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 03:37 PM
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All in the pursuit of something unattainable, a love from a women.. I'll let my partner know he's attained the unattainable. Jokes aside, this reads like someone who just went through a nasty breakup and is in their "women are cold and heatless, love is an illusion" phase. Women, just like men, can love their partners and kids. Some women, just like some men, aren't great partners or parents. Not everyone is going to love you, and love can fade. But you can enjoy the love you get and not sabotag…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 12:24 AM
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You can't help everyone, and you can't help people who aren't open to receiving help, especially if that person wouldn't want any advice or help from someone like you in particular. I help people out when I can, I volunteer in my spare time, but I'm not a rehab for any random person who needs help dealing with their traumas. That's way beyond my qualifications, there's therapy for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 01:53 AM
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I can tell people if I think they might be doing something that's potentially bad for them, I can't stop them from doing it. And, ultimately, it's not my job to convince every Tom, Dick, and Harry that they should do XYZ. I have my family and loved ones to worry about, someone that doesn't want to engage with me in anything more than a cordial manner is not particularly high on my priority list. I'm sure I'm not on his list either, and that's also fine by me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 12:56 AM
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It's fine in terms of whether I think it's some form of inappropriate behavior. The hypothetical dude is polite, doesn't pick fights, you can still be on good terms professionally, so I see nothing harmful in his behavior towards people like me. Whether I think it's good for one's mental health and social life to ostracize themselves from half of humanity is a different story altogether. Can be a good idea to do if you're trying to recover from shitty dating experiences, don't think it's gonna b…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 12:42 AM
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Seems fine to me. I know I've had moments of "fuck this shit, I'm done".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 09:58 PM
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What are you guys doing for the holidays?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 07:35 PM
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I think I've seen the trailer for that one, it was....mid, if I have to be nice about it, don't really know anything else. I think it's fair to call out things that are just blatantly, performatively "look at us, we're trying to pander to people", but you can call that out from either side of the aisle. Rightwingers call it woke, and leftists complain about performative allyship. On the other hand, you've got way too many people who are the living embodiment of the "2/10, elbows too pointy" meme…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 07:30 PM
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Now? That's what they've always been.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 06:49 PM
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but let’s say you made it for a social event, he should take a few bites of the egg salad to show support for you if others are watching. I don't think he should. He doesn't like it, I know he doesn't like it, there's no point in him doing it. He could easily support me by praising my cooking skills or making a joke like "I love everything else she makes, but even her magic touch can't make egg salad palatable for me". If he did try it, that would be nice of him but I'd let him know that he didn…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 08:45 PM
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If he truly loved you more than his previous partners, it wouldn’t be about convenience he would’ve flown you to see his parents as early as possible I'm sorry, that would have been a ridiculous waste of money, and I would have thought that he was insane doing that. Neither of us cared about meeting each other's parents all that much, he met my parents when he came to my country for our wedding, I met his parents over Zoom when we got engaged. That was perfectly fine for both of us. If we lived …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 08:17 PM
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I agree that different men will face different kinds of issues - non-white men, gay/bi/trans men, men with mental health conditions or some form of physical disability. Men aren't a monolith, and there's a lot of diversity among you guys, same as there is among women. That being said, some guy walking behind me when I'm going back home at like 2 a.m is still going to be something I keep an eye on. It's very likely that this is a perfectly normal dude, but at that moment, all I know is that this …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 06:45 PM
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Also we do complain about those guys. Great, then we're on the same page! Those dudes, in particular, suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 06:25 PM
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That would be a dick thing to say, and at that point, it wouldn't matter if he had previous partners with bigger breasts than me. I wouldn't want to be with someone who begrudgingly tolerates me, but again, then it wouldn't matter if he was better or worse with his past partners, he's not good to me. Doesn't matter to me why he stopped doing the thing. He tried it with an ex, didn't like it, and that's that.I get that, I've also tried out stuff that I didn't like, and we respect each other enoug…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 06:19 PM
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You expect me to talk about being better to women and they aren't even close to decent with me? That's kind of proving my point. There are a lot of shitty men (and women, there are also plenty of shitty women) out there who make the world worse for both men and women. Walking down the street at night, I can't know if the dude behind me is the type of guy who feeds orphans in his spare time or is Ted Bundy's more stabby reincarnation, so I'm going to be wary of him, a complete stranger. How is it…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 06:04 PM
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I can understand something and still think it's silly. If my partner is treating me well, if he's giving me what I want out of him and if our relationship is the kind of relationship I'm happy with, I don't really care about his exes. I know for a fact my partner has been with women with bigger breasts than me, I'm not losing any sleep over it. I know he's tried some things in the bedroom that he doesn't like and wouldn't want to try. Fine by me, I don't want to do things that make him uncomfort…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 05:41 PM
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the issue is unless we snake this out we won’t know what we are missing. This just sounds like self-sabotage, honestly. If your partner treats you well and makes you feel loved, respected, and cared for, why do you need to delve into their past relationships to see if someone got more? If you're happy with your partner, trying to snake these things out just sounds like you're looking for reasons to be unhappy. It's a different story altogether if your partner is treating you poorly and you're th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 05:36 PM
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Depends on what you mean by "in good shape". I like guys who are in good shape, I'm a sucker for dudes with a runner's or a swimmer's body. But bodybuilders look like balloon animals, and I don't find them even remotely attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 05:29 PM
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No, but if someone thinks it's misandry I take steps to ensure my safety against a potential attacker (who would be statistically more likely to be a dude), then I'm fine with being called a misandrist. You guys have an issue with women treating men as the biggest threat to us, take it up with your fellow men, this concern didn't come out of thin air.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 05:25 PM
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What's the gaslight here? I didn't mind dating people shorter than me, but I don't want to date people the size of my students. I have tall friends with great personalities that I'm also not attracted to. Their height doesn't magically make me want to date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 05:50 AM
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I've dated guys shorter than me, I found them attractive. I tend to prefer people around my height but if I like the person it's not a big deal if he's a bit shorter. For context, I'm 5'10", shortest guy I've ever dated was like 5'6". I will admit that I haven't found any very short guys attractive tho, I'm talking about like 5'4" and under.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 02:56 AM
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Well thank fuck we don't have gangs of stab-happy women roaming the streets.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 02:50 AM
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I also have a fear of bad drivers, that doesn't mean I think driving should be abolished. Two things can be true at the same time - you can enjoy some of the interactions you have with men and enjoy their company AND you can find other interactions unpleasant and just remove yourself from the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 11:14 PM
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Who is talking about gender segregation?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 11:06 PM
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The pepper spray is for anyone who would try to jump me for some reason, it's rated E for everybody. But past unpleasant experiences with men are the reason why I carry it. It's possible that a woman might attack me, but it's more likely for me to have to defend myself against a man. I'm more suspicious of unfamiliar men than I am of women because I've never had an unfamiliar woman threaten/follow/grope me, I've had unfamiliar men do those things. If I had a bunch of random women do that to me, …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 06:49 PM
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So you would just let a larger more athletic women stab you to death while you grip the pepper spray? Of course I wouldn't just let someone stab me because they're a woman. But I wouldn't cross the street if a woman was walking behind me at night unless she was tweaking or doing something else that was suspicious. Since even if someone does think women are being sexist when they cross the road, they must agree it's ok for women to protect themselves using universal measures. And wouldn't crossin…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 06:18 PM
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I wouldn't because I have very little reason to fear women. I've never had a woman get aggressive with me, I've never had a woman follow me or yell profanities and threats at me, I've never had women grab me or grope me. I'm also taller than the average North American woman, so I'm not super concerned about being able to handle myself against one if I need to. I have had men get aggressive with me, follow me and yell profanities and threats, and your average man is my size or taller, and they're…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:50 PM
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Cool. Have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:31 PM
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You don't need my permission, but you came into this discussion looking for an argument, and I don't really care to indulge you, so what else am I supposed to say? I never said I expected men to change their behaviour, yet you chose to inform me you wouldn't be changing yours. I said cool, you do you, and you continued to act all pissy about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:24 PM
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Should my answer be what is my ideal man or what women, as a whole, would consider their perfect man? If it's the latter, my answer is basically the same as the one for men: I imagine one who meets their requirements for looks, personality, and worldview. What that is will differ from woman to woman. But most people, men AND women, want someone who is attractive to them, gets along with them and their family, has similar views on relationships, children, and money as them, and someone who wants …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:21 PM
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Cool. Like I said, you do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:14 PM
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You do you, just don't complain if some lady changes sidewalks when you're walking behind her 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:00 PM
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I don't walk around ready to pepper spray every man on the street because I think all of them are out to get me, but I do have pepper spray because I have experienced threatening behaviour from several men in the past. Better to be safe than sorry. If some random srrangers are offended by that, oh well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 03:36 PM
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Bold.assumption, but okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 06:33 AM
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They probably are, but what does have to do with whether they're acting shitty or not? If you're being shitty, you're being shitty, whether you actively inflict that on people irl is irrelevant. Also, actions > words. Sure. But just because there are people who are worse doesn't mean I shouldn't think the guy who sucks less is somehow not shitty. He's less shitty by comparison, but shitty nonetheless. Some of the most abusive men have the greatest personalities. I've seen that first hand too. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 03:35 AM
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I don't think they do, those guys are very good at pretending (until they got caught). But the dudes ranting online (and sometimes offline) about how women are shitty for not wanting them, how single moms are the devil, how fat women are disgusting, etc.,? It's not like they're even attempting to pretend, it's not like it's difficult to figure out that, yeah, these dudes suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 03:21 AM
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How do you know this though? This is literally the whole point lmao. You're just automatically assuming this "energy comes out irl" with zero statistical evidence to support it. Because people are bad at pretending for a long time. Sooner or later, the mask slips. They'll use some buzzword that's popular in certain groups, they'll make an offhanded comment about something or someone, or they'll get drunk and say a bunch of stuff that they've never even mentioned while sober. You might not be abl…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 03:09 AM
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Let's be honest here, you don't need to be some super sleuth to read all of the incredibly shitty comments dudes post on here about women and figure out that they're unpleasant, and that this energy comes out irl from time to time. I've never met a whiner with a giant, woman-shaped chip on their shoulder who didn't let me know about it. As for more covert shitheads - you meet a couple of them, they show their ass at some point, you make a mental note of avoiding people who do stuff like that, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:48 AM
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Humans are social creatures and wanting social interaction is normal, but messaging every woman is far beyond normal social interactions. but you feel men that try and reach out to literally anyone is? I don't think it's entitled to message literally anyone. I think it's entitled to message literally anyone, even people you're not even interested in, and then get salty when they don't want to get down on your level. Or, to put it in simpler terms - it's entitled to expect that other people be as…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:41 AM
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I mean, you messaged them out of desperation, and they clearly did the same. The only thing different is that they openly admitted to what they think of you. Entitled? Perhaps, but no more entitled than dudes who message anyone with a pulse and get salty that there aren't any takers, not even among the fat ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 10:55 PM
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You ever consider that maybe you're not the catch you think you are? If all you can attract is people you think are icky in some way, isn't the common denominator here you? Or, to give you the benefit of the doubt, maybe you're desirable irl, but you present yourself poorly online. Either way, skill issue on your part.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 10:52 PM
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I read that in a very snooty French accent. I need a cigarette and a croissant right now....pardon, toute de suite!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 10:49 PM
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I imagine one who meets their requirements for looks, personality, and worldview. What that is will differ from man to man. But most people, men AND women, want someone who is attractive to them, gets along with them and their family, has similar views on relationships, children, and money as them, and someone who wants to take over all the unpleasant chores/mundane daily stuff that they don't want to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 10:06 PM
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If it makes you feel better, I also find women my age or older going for newly minted adults to be creepy. That being said - you're free to have your standards and pursue people who live up to them. You're not free from people judging you for them because nobody is free from that. A good chunk of the threads in this sub are dudes complaining about the standards or choices women have and make. If women can openly reject men who don’t meet their financial and status standards, why can’t men reject…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 10:03 PM
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My husband and I loved each other before we were married, and we still love each other. No joy has been robbed from our lives, and we would have been just as happy not married, but marriage made it a lot easier to live in the same country. If you don't want to get married, then don't. But it's pure projection that marriage is, universally, a prison. Might be to some people, it's not for others.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:47 PM
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I'm also from Europe, currently living in Canada. It was true in both places, but I imagine depending on where I was in each continent, the amount of guys I find attractive would vary.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:22 PM
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I'd say most men are okay. They're not unpleasant to look at, they're just....random dudes? I'm not covering my eyes in disgust, but I'm also not calling my friends to gush about how hot all the men in line at Walmart were. One can be a perfectly decent looking person and not be attrative to me, personally. I can acknowledge that someone looks good, but also not be attracted to them. Also, I imagine that, depending on where I was in the USA (cause that's what we're usually talking about here), a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:34 PM
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If he's doing things that I value and want out of a partner, then I'd gladly be with him, doesn't matter if he did or didn't do those things for a past partner. If he's not doing things I value and want out of a partner, I don't want to be with him, doesn't matter if he did or didn't do those things for a previous partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:25 PM
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I imagine some women out there do this, but I haven't really come across a woman who had feelings for a guy and then lost them as soon as he expressed interest. If she didn't like you to begin with I could see her pulling away if you told her you have feelings for her, but that's being "turned off" when it comes to a friendship, not a romantic relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 09:42 PM
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Not American, so my opinion on this probably doesn't matter as much as that of people who his nonsense will directly impact, but it made me think worse of people in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 05:13 PM
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My husband has no problem taking me seriously. You not being able to take women seriously if they displease your tender sensibilities is a "you" problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 02:15 AM
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Meh, she's less offputting than those dudes who finger oranges and sniff dough. Never seen her channel, but if all she does is cook and shake her ass a bit at the end, who cares. Yes, you can potentially make a lot of money if you're young, hot, and do something men want you to do, I'm sure there would be a market for women washing clothes over at the ol' fishing hole with one of those old-timey washboard. If she's actually promoting not going to school, and not having a secure job outside of co…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 11:06 PM
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Don't think it's being wired in a biological sense, but culturally? For sure. So I don't know why so many men expect women to come up with some idea to help you when you'll reject anything that comes out of our mouths. Women can't help you guys if you don't even consider our opinions valuable.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 10:14 PM
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Would we be seen as caring about a men's issue, or would we be seen as bitches, coming to ruin the fun? I think women's advice and opinions on what should or shouldn't be done being seen as inherently naggy by a lot of men is part of the problem. Take the whole "clean your room thing". For the life of me, I couldn't understand why so many dudes thought Peterson was some kind of genius for suggesting this. Not because he was wrong about it, I don't like the man, but he was spot on about this one …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 08:00 PM
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Ah, this must be the famous responsibility dudes on here claim men have and women don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 07:40 PM
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They get married, maybe have some kids, and continue having friends. I had my share of fun in my 20s, been married for 5 years, and I have some great friends that I met in my teens and 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 06:02 PM
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Ofcourse whenever a man brings up this topic women will always try to belittle and insult him by acting like he's too dumb to know when a woman is wearing makeup, when the point is he knows you're wearing makeup but he doesn't know what you actually look like without it on, therefore he doesn't know if he's genuinely attracted to you. Okay, then go after women who don't wear makeup or who just wear a little bit like some mascara and concealer. It's fine to not like heavy makeup looks, it's kinda…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 05:40 PM
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I get the most compliments about my makeup from other women and gay guys. I get the most compliments on my fit from other women and gay guys. I dress the most provocatively in a setting that is mostly women and has the occasional guy (pole dance). My Insta is private, and the comments and likes I get are largely from my female friends. If anything, I'm doing it for other ladies. But in all seriousness - everyone likes getting positive attention, everyone likes being told that they look nice or t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 04:40 PM
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We want good people - kind, respectful, people who are willing to listen and be supportive. "Nice guys" aren't that. They put on an act of being good people until something you do chaps their ass, and then they show their true colours.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 04:33 PM
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Looking through your partner's phone isn't super common among the people I hang out with.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 11:21 PM
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Never looked through my husband's phone, and he's never given me a reason to think I might need to do that. And I've never given him a reason to doubt my fidelity, so if he asked for a paternity test I'd be pretty insulted. Because, as OP clearly knows, infidelity is a pretty shitty thing to do. Don't know why you're acting like you don't know why the obviously insulting thing is obviously insulting.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 10:57 PM
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I don't have countless men banging at my door for friendship, but when it comes to who I want to have as a friend: I want someone who I can have fun with, someone with who the conversation flows smoothly, and someone who I can count on, and who will be there to hear me out and offer support or just a kind word when life is hard. This goes for people in general, not just men. I want the same things from my female friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:45 PM
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I accidentally found a great match for myself when I wasn't looking for anything serious, so I got lucky. But at that point, I was done with relationships, I had the mindset of "I'd love to find someone who is right for me, but if I don't, oh well, that's fine", and I wasn't going to give anyone the time of day for anything remotely serious unless I thought they were truly incredible. Now, I'm sure some people will say that's delusional and I was in denial about what I deserved/how attractive I …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:57 PM
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Depends on what we qualify as "rougher". Women have to deal with a lot of attention which is often unwanted or the equivalent of spam, we worry about whether the guy coming up to talk to us/we went on a date with will take rejection well or if there will be a big blow up, we have to consider that many guys aren't actually interested in us as a person, they're interested in us as a warm body. Men don't get the same level of attention women get, they have to worry about whether they're not being u…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:17 PM
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FIRST QUESTION: Do people in LTR's observe these traits in the opposite sex? How common would you say it is: I've met a few people who have some or several of these traits, they tend to be pretty unpleasant to be around even if you're engaging with them in a non-romantic setting. They aren't common in the circles I run in, but I imagine they're a lot more common among other groups of people that I have little to no interaction with. SECOND QUESTION: What do you think you're doing differently tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 07:55 PM
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I'd argue that someone who makes sweeping generalizations about half the world's population isn't particularly intelligent. I'd also argue that someone who bases their view of not just relationships in general, but our relationship in particular on the opinions of angry dorks and assorted grifters isn't all that in touch with reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 07:43 PM
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I like cooking, and while cleaning isn't my first choice of how I spend my free time, it needs to get done. However, I don't think I should be the only one doing those things because, hypothetically, the dude would protect me from home invaders/bears/SWAT teams/killer bees. If your contributions are purely theoretical, you're not actually contributing. I also don't believe anyone out there, man or woman, loves their romantic partners unconditionally. There are always conditions, and that's good.…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 07:32 PM
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I've got some friends who have some red-pill leaning beliefs but we've just learned that it's best we don't bring these topics up around each other because we value our friendship and don't want to constantly bicker about this stuff. But if one of them started constantly talking about it, and expected me to just sit there quietly and accept it because they have the right to their opinion, I'd probably just dip out of the friendship, as much as I wouldn't enjoy doing so. We'll occasionally discus…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 07:03 PM
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"This woman did a thing I find distasteful, so all women need to be under the control of men for their own good" Yeah, bud, I'm not sure you wanna go down that road. If I started taking away freedoms from men for every stupid thing they did, you wouldn't even be allowed metal cutlery. If you want to argue that men don't do dumb/distadteful shit, I'll direct you to the countless videos of men lighting their own farts on fire.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:00 AM
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Nope, would have sucked for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 08:40 PM
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As others have already mentioned, neuroticism. Passive aggressiveness is a big one, although I've also met my fair share of passive-aggressive men. As for vices....hm...I guess indulging in over-consumerism. I've seen those Sephora/Shein/Temu hauls, I've also seen the makeup/skincare/bathroom/kitchen restocking videos, and I find the level of excess pretty gross. Nobody needs 10 different blushes and 5 lip oils*, nobody needs to have every colour the Stanley cup comes in, along with all the litt…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 08:35 PM
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There are different kinds of love. I don't love my husband, parents, friends, pet, and if I had a kid, my child, the exact same way, and yet, I love all of these people (and furballs). And the love I have for those people isn't unconditional. It will probably take a lot to make me stop loving them, but if they show me nothing but disrespect, abuse, scorn, etc., I'll eventually stop loving them because there's little about them to love at that point. But I should also mention that unconditional l…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 05:03 PM
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Most of them have been pretty decent, bound to meet a few duds in a period of 10 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 06:45 AM
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I'm sure some women are bothered by short guys liking them, but most women seem just "meh" about it, a short guy is just a guy. I'm 5'10''. And they definitely had some issues around their height, that doesn't mean that tall dudes can't be assholes, it's just these guys had a specific type of assholery - one that was fueled by insecurity about their stature. They aren't the only dudes with issues I've dated, a couple the tall/tallish ones also had their share of issues, but that's why I've also …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:45 AM
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You can be ugly, unpleasant, or ugly AND unpleasant, which will cause people to not want to be with you. A lot of guys, unfortunately, lean into the unpleasant part quite heavily.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:29 AM
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Met my husband on Tinder, and the other guy that I met on there before him was nice, so it was pretty positive. I'd say I'm an exception, most of my friends met their partners the old fashioned way (school, work, hobbies, friends of friends), and the few friends I know who tried OLD were pretty disappointed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 10:26 PM
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Most people are indifferent to other people. In general,I care about people, as a whole, having basic rights and having access to food, shelter, medicine. However, I'm not actively thinking about what specific struggles any random person I walk past on the street is going through, nor do I wonder if any given person is worthy of my hate or admiration. They're just strangers, I'm indifferent to them. I don't want anything bad to happen to them, but I'm not actively wishing for blessings for every…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 09:41 PM
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You can "do everything right" and the relationship can still end. I've had relationships where I can point to the glaring fuck ups on both sides, I can also point to relationships where it ended we ultimately wanted very different things. Also, I have to point this out, I love that men need to call us out when we're doing wrong, but that is somehow missing from the playbook for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 03:56 PM
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Several bold assumptions here: That there is some universal definition of what a "high-value man" is. That these high-value men are shitty people of various flavours of awfulness That 90% of men get no romantic engagement whatsoever. But it's a lot easier to assume that women's nature is the reason for your problems, rather than to think that maybe there are things about yourself that make you unattractive to nice, normal women who don't go after rapists and such.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 08:51 PM
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Theres so many5’8-6’1 women that just hate short guys You gotta define "hate" here. I've dated guys shorter than me in the past, and 2 out of 3 weren't great people to date, largely because of the giant chip on their shoulder about their height. I don't think all short guys are like this, but I have serious reservations about dating a short guy if I suddenly become single. I don't hate them, but the possibility of dealing with yet another case of Napoleon syndrome is a big factor against dating …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 08:34 PM
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As a European, I'm always a bit bewildered by this "the man has to pay approach". Same. I'm used to guys offering to pay for the whole date (which was usually something like a coffee and a pastry or a cocktail/beer or two) but preferred that we split the bill. The few people I've been on dates with who insisted that they had to pay were American guys. Not to say that we also don't have a lot of women who want the man to pay, but they tend to be pretty high-maintenance and are looking for someone…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 08:27 PM
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If my friend asked me how she looked and I thought the dress didn't fit well or that her makeup looked cakey, I'd tell her. If she asked me why she might be struggling with dating, I'd tell her what I thought was making her seem less attractive. But if some dude were telling me she was ugly or something, I'd also defend her with, "Well, I think she looks good." I think many of us have just dealt with a lot of negative comments from men (some true, and a lot of completely absurd ones*), and we're…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 06:32 PM
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Not wanting to date guys you're not attracted to ≠ a culture war Unless the differing philosophies are "I shouldn't have to date people I have no interest in" and "People should date people they aren't attracted to because if they don't the not-attractive party will feel bad". In that case, sure, it's a culture war. If you're average and nobody wants to date you, that sounds like you might be overestimating where you're at attraction-wise. If you're getting interest, but not the interest of peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 10:28 PM
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"I have no sympathy for these women because they would also choose to not bang guys they find unpleasant and unattractive if they had that option!'' I mean, people tend to not want to be with people they don't like, and the only people who seem to have a problem with that seem to be the people who appear to be unlikeable, sooo...dunno what to tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 08:36 PM
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I wouldn't say I didn't care, I knew people tended to be attracted to people who look nice, put together, who are clean and look presentable. But beyond that, I just looked how I liked to look - I had short hair for the entirety of my 20s, I got tattoos, I'm very open about my opinions and I don't shy away from calling bullshit when I see it. Those are things a lot of men don't like, and that was perfectly fine with me, there were still plenty of men who liked that. The opposite sex isn't a mono…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 06:46 PM
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I totally agree that you should just leave people who you're not compatible with. However, I also think that as an adult, you should be putting effort into maintaining the shared household and being there for your partner. Sometimes the issue might be that two people are just incompatible, but sometimes the issue is that one partner is such a selfish, disagreeable, inconsiderate person that they're not compatible with anyone, they'll either be broken up with or in a miserable relationship with a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 05:30 PM
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Catcalling can simply be irritating, but it can also be abusive, same as nagging. Sliding into DMs can simply be irritating, it can also be abusive. I imagine nuance would muck up your martyr shtick, so I get it, I would avoid it too. If you can't do things without having to be asked more than once, you shouldn't be in a relationship, you don't sound mature enough to be in one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 08:29 AM
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I disagree that a partner being irritating is the same as them being abusive. Some people get annoyed by being asked to do anything at all on their day off/Sunday sports day/day with the guys/D&D night, they're not being abused because they're expected to be functioning adults while they're relaxing. And I think that any partner not pulling their weight should be kicked to the curb, you've got plenty of slobs in all sexes. But heterosexual women will complain about the male slobs since they're d…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 08:17 AM
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Mooooom I don't want to pick up my own underwear, you are literally abusing me She is, like, literally Hitler.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 07:45 AM
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If you have a problem with how your partner talks about your family, you should let them know how you feel. If they still continue and don't respect your wishes, you should leave, that sounds like a shitty partner. On the other hand, if your family is being shitty to them and they keep telling you about this because you don't do anything to defend your partner, then you're a shitty partner. If you don't like the habits of your partner, why stay or try to control them, isn't this the same? I agre…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 07:42 AM
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The amount of effort some dudes will put in to justify not doing the dishes. If y'all could put all this energy into actually doing some chores once in a while, very few women would complain about their partners not doing chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 07:25 AM
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Ok, when a woman hangs out with her male friends and the guy gets jealous, why is he called insecure then? Because whether or not that jealousy is justified depends on the situation. A woman is hanging out with a guy friend who is obviously flirting with her, and she's entertaining his advances? Not okay. A woman is just hanging out with a guy friend who isn't hitting on her, and she's not hitting on him? It's odd to be jealous of this. Also, you can be insecure and abusive, but you can also be …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 07:21 AM
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I wouldn't say it doesn't matter, but I also wouldn't say that it's the most important thing. Wanting a partner who is financially stable and not a liability is one thing, demanding a millionaire as the bare minimum seems silly to me but people are free to want what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 02:00 AM
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There's a big difference between not trusting a total stranger and not trusting a partner of many years. My husband told his friend where he was going the first time he came over to my place just in case I turned out to be a bit stabby or something. I wasn't offended, sounded smart to me. I would be offended if he did that now, after we've been together for half a decade. Asking a ONS or a casual partner for a paternity test is something most people would probably agree is perfectly fine. You do…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 08:50 PM
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This isn't a creative writing sub, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:39 PM
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Sounds like my husband, except he's not shy, he just doesn't want to make people uncomfortable. He's, he's polite like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:24 AM
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Yeah, going crazy because of a lack of human interaction isn't love.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 12:44 AM
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women dont love the man, they love themselves throught their man. Some people do only love themselves if someone has deemed them "worthy" of loving, and that's sad. However, that doesn't mean that women don't love their partners. You can love how someone makes you feel while also loving them. thats whyman love things for the thing itself. they go to war and die for random stuff whatever it is. they cant pick a low value man, but must always try to get the best for their buck. they cant "love" a …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 12:29 AM
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Feeling horny because a pineapple looked particularly succulent in the lighting of your kitchen doesn't mean you've got feelings of love towards the pineapple.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 12:11 AM
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If I was still 100% certain that I didn't want kids, it wouldn't be an issue. If my partner told me now, after 5 years together, and after talking about how we'd be happy to have a kid at some point, I'd be a bit upset that he didn't tell me earlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 12:09 AM
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Well, because being a bad person makes you an asshole, for one. Also, you're assuming that "bad" guys are swimming in pussy by default. Again, you've got a very reductive view of how human relationships and attraction function. A very attractive, very charismatic douche who can put up an act long enough to get people hooked will most likely be successful, a mid-looking dude who is just inoffensive to hang around or is unpleasant from the get-go won't be particularly successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 07:11 PM
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Being a good person isn't some magic spell that protects you from cheating partners. Being a good person doesn't mean that people won't lose attraction to you, nor does it mean that you can't become less attractive. Being a good person also doesn't mean that you're open about your sexual desires, and it doesn't mean that you'll automatically be sexually compatible with everyone you date. We're not dealing with NPCs in a video game here, humans and our relationships are multifaceted and complicat…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 06:26 PM
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There's a difference between a guy who is a good person and a "nice" guy. "Nice" guys, in my experience, are either very timid, deceptive, whiny, or some combination of all of the above. That's not attractive but not because I can't imagine them doing some shibari, these traits are not appealing for your day-to-day life with a partner. I know plenty of guys who are good, and who are into bondage, and it's not like there haven't been people to take them up on it. A lot of "bad" guys, tend to be b…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:43 PM
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They're entitled to their feelings, they're not entitled to other people validating them or offering up women to soothe what ails them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 08:37 PM
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I swear, you people create your own problems. Why can't you be normal and, you know, not try to pigeonhole them into neat little boxes and not hate them for not living up to whatever reductive worldview you created in your head?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 07:50 PM
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But I don't think husband should be forced to stay celibate if he doesnt want to. Sure, that means he should talk to his partner and discuss opening up the relationship. If they have an issue with it, parting ways is the appropriate course of action. But he should be allowed to seek sex outside without much fuss. I don't think a low libido partner should feel entitled to their partner's celibacy I agree that you're not entitled to other people's celibacy, however, you're also not entitled to hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 07:27 PM
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My friends have been very open about finding some exes of mine ugly, and I still dated them. I've also dated guys who were visibly shorter than me, but it's not like anyone ever brought up their height, at least not to my face. If I like someone, I like them, and unless someone gives me a really good reason why I shouldn't want to be with them (they kick puppies for fun or something), then other people's opinions don't matter much.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 06:19 AM
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"Don't try to change people, it usually doesn't work. If you don't like her, don't be with her."
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 03:01 AM
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Did someone dump you for some guy they met on Instagram? You're really hung up on that specific thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 07:39 AM
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If I wanted to be someone's mother, I'd have a child. I don't want my romantic partner to look for a maternal figure for himself in me, he's got his mom for that. If he wanted traits like kindness, compassion, and tenderness, that's all great but how your partner expresses these traits will be different from how your parent expresses them. My mother-in-law taking care of her sick kid when he was 9 is different from how I treat my sick husband when he's 30-something. Sure, soup and a hot bath wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 02:05 AM
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I'd travel every month if I could afford it. My partner and I just had a weekend trip, we've planned out where we'd like to travel in the next few years. I also travel solo to visit my family and friends back home. Travel is fun, you see new places, eat some new foods, experience some local culture. You can also exclusively travel to party destinations to get absolutely trashed on cheap booze, but that's not the be-all-end-all of travel.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 05:44 PM
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Well, I like that my guy friends are funny, fun to hang out with, they can give advice or offer sympathy and support when life hasn't been going great.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 03:47 PM
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If he doesn't give me what I need, I don't want to be with him, regardless of whether he treated his ex better, the same, or worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 05:55 AM
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Considering I live a continent away from a lot of my friends and family, telling me to ger rid of my social media would be a big problem. If you're going to make it more difficult for me to connect with my loved ones, you're not the person for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 02:25 AM
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I wouldn't engage with a dude for any kind of relationship if I was uncomfortable talking to them. I've had relationships that were "I'm interested in being in a serious relationship" from the get-go, I've had others that turned into a serious relationship after being casual for a bit. I was comfortable flirting and talking with all of them, otherwise we wouldn't have ended up together. As for fear of rejection - I suppose that's always there to some degree, being rejected sucks regardless of wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 08:03 PM
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I don't think it's okay to string anyone along. If you know you don't want to be with someone, that's fine but don't waste their time. You might not love them or whatever but they're people with feelings, desires of their own, and you should do them the basic decency of not taking away time from them that they could spend with and on people who would love them and want the same thing as them. Doesn't matter if the person is 20, 30, 50 or 100, our time here is limited, and it's a dick move to pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 07:54 PM
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Was never concerned about a specific high figure but I did want a partner who had stable employment that it would be capable of living comfortably on, and who didn't have debt. That was about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 07:50 PM
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Sounds childish, can't say I've met people past high school who do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 05:26 AM
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Yep, some people aren't long-term partners for a variety of reasons, and that's fine. I was casually seeing a guy who had no intention of staying in the country for more than a year, I was planning on staying but we had some fun for a bit. Another guy and I just had incompatible lifestyles, but we still enjoyed the time we spent together even if we both knew nothing more than casual fun would have come out of it. Such is life, not everybody is going to be a good match for you romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 05:00 AM
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I've definitely been with guys who were in the "casual" basket but none of them were assholes. There are reasons other than "hot but shitty" not to want to be in a relationship with someone. With some it was that neither of us wanted anything serious at that point, with others it was that we had very different ideas of what we'd like a relationship to look like, with some it was that we had very different plans for the future. I think most of the "casual" guys I've seen in the past are either ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 12:43 AM
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And in like 10-15 years they'll be calling you to tell you what a dumbass they were as a teen and to thank you for all you did for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 12:37 AM
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I like having the option to go topless at the beach, or to go braless when it's hot out. Not much of an issue in Europe, seems to be less common in North America.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:07 PM
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I have to say that I've gotten ogled a lot more when I'm wearing a top that shows some cleavage than when I've gone topless at the beach. At least in Europe, I think going topless would attract a lot more attention (positive and negative) in North America, haven't seen anyone go topless where I'm at, even though it's legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 06:00 PM
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I've called my mom to thank her and apologize on a couple of occasions, lol. The first time was when I started working with kids and experienced how frustrating (and amazing, but also very frustrating) they are. The second time was when I had my in-laws over for Christmas the first time, and I did all the cooking and cleaning for it. Making sure Christmas feels like Christmas took so much work, and I didn't realize how much effort she put into it when I was a kid. I'm sure there will be many mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 05:48 PM
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I'd rather chew my own arm off than be a SAHP. Hobbies are fun, but they're not necessarily rewarding. I had to stay at home for a bit while I waited for my PR application to get processed, and I nearly lost my mind, I can't imagine it with an infant. It's isolating and mind-numbing. Sure, you can have hobbies, hobbies are great - I knit, I baked, I worked out but I didn't feel fulfilled. I like my job, I like interacting with my coworkers, I felt great after a successful day, coming home to unw…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 05:00 PM
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After interacting with an autistic person, neurotypicals interviewed didn't understand what it was, but something felt of. Yep, that's been my experience. I couldn't stand a friend of mine when we first met. I found him annoying, he had little to no concept of social etiquette, couldn't read social cues for shit, and he just came off as very rude and like he never really cared about anything anyone besides him had to say. Something was up but I didn't know exactly what, so I figured he was just …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 04:26 PM
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Okay, that's adorable, I might start using that one, if not in real life, then at least when I play d&d.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 04:19 PM
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That sounds extremely painful. I'd just go find a different partner at that point, hope the dude finds someone compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 04:07 PM
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Nah, waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 04:01 PM
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They are pretty great
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 04:00 PM
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That's cause Wife is demure and shit. Nothing but quiet, dainty fonts for her!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 11:48 PM
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I mean, at least Sara has a name, dunno how high value you can be if you're referred to your "job" title. As for your bad faith question du jour - he put more value in the nameless wife because she did things and had qualities he valued. A different man who doesn't want kids or marriage wouldn't value the nameless wife as much because she doesn't have/do things he wants, he might value Sara more as she is in line with what he wants from a partner. None of this makes either woman less valuable as…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 11:47 PM
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Yep, I've got one at my first photo. I should note that I have nothing against photos taken at popular tourist destinations. But at the time I was living in China, and these dudes all had photos from popular tourist destinations around where I was, and everyone and their grandma had been to those places. Like, if a dude was trying to date in NYC and used a photo of himself at Times Square to look cool, he's probably not going to be successful in coming off cool. I really want to believe that, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 11:37 PM
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Because few were interesting enough for me to bother. I wasn't looking for anything serious but I'd like to be able to also have fun talking to the person before and after the horizontal tango, and way too many profiles were just blank slates with the most generic bathroom/gym selfies or a picture taken at some popular tourist destination. The people I did swipe right on had something that got me interested in wanting to talk to them - one had a similar taste in music as me, another one was an a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 09:42 PM
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Same reasons men are worried women are all out to use them in some way - some people are just paranoid, some people have gotten burnt a few too many times and now they have trust issues. A lot of the time, when a man does something, it can get seen in a negative light, and terms like 'microaggression' or 'internalized misogyny' get thrown around.. Was it just something or was it something that was offensive or inconsiderate? But in many cases, I think men aren't intending harm, and they're not b…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 03:40 AM
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If you're saying each partner is not required to give love and intimacy, then what even is the point of a relationship anymore? If your partner isn't giving you love and intimacy, you're right, there's no reason to stay in the relationship, so you should break up. Why stay in a relationship you're unhappy in, and give yourself the added stress of hiding a mistress or dealing with a jealous wife? End it and find someone who does give you the love and intimacy you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 09:45 PM
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Dude, we get it, you want the best of both worlds - you want the freedom to pork hot singles in your area that singlehood provides, and you also want to have all the love, support, and care that a monogamous relationship provides. You can want whatever you want but you can't expect people to agree with you and not criticize you for it. Cheating is a dick move, but you can still do it. What you can't do is convince everyone else that it's not a dick move. But forcing someone to not have as much s…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 07:18 PM
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I don't disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 12:11 AM
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This post is aimed at the never-married women (NevmarsTM..) Boooo, discrimination! I'd ask if he wants to go get brunch/lunch.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:23 PM
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Personally, I've never heard anyone say "you should be able to read my mind". I have, however, known some rather unpleasant people who would get offended by the weirdest shit and would act as if you were supposed to know they would be offended. Some of those people were men, some of them were women, and being an ass is not gender specific. I'd say that claiming that others should be able to read your mind is unrealistic to the point of being ridiculous. However, there's a difference between read…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:18 PM
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How are they bums if they're making 120k a year? According to Google, "only 15.5% of Americans earn between $100,000 and $149,999 per year". English isn't my first language, but I'm pretty sure that's far from the definition of a bum. Meanwhile they don't even remember how to derive the quadratic formula Okay, and? If you're working at Walmart and living with 3 roommates cause you can't afford anything better, you knowing how to derive some formula or another doesn't make you particularly impres…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 07:39 PM
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Yeah, no. I've been in relationships where conflict would go unresolved because the other person didn't think there was an issue or just didn't want to do anything to resolve it. The relationship was an exhausting rollercoaster of arguments, frustration, and a few good times sprinkled in between. Sucked ass/10, wouldn't recommend it. It's okay to be a little mean, a little toxic, a bitchy now and then. I wouldn't say it's "okay". It happens, most people can be a bit mean when they're angry/frust…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 07:21 PM
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Can't say that I know anyone who has rejected a guy for being a virgin, but I also don't know anyone who was approached/was potentially interested in a guy in his mid-late 20s who was a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:19 PM
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Do you assume that we don't work and that we're just playing around all day? While there is some valid criticism of how society allows men to express emotions, you've muddled the whole thing with this ridiculous notion that, somehow, being an adult is some exclusively male burden, and that women are free from all of that. Not like we've got jobs to do, bills to pay, parents to support, children to take care of, partners to be partners to, we're just playing around with everything...because we're…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 09:09 PM
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Because they're not "wired" to be attracted to women, to put it in very simplified terms. I don't like tomatoes, most people love them. I have never been tempted by the grilled cheese / tomato soup combo despite everyone and their grandmother swearing up and down how great it is. There is most likely some complicated explanation as to why I don't like them but I don't think anyone has ever been confused about why I dislike them without being offered the complicated explanation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 04:30 PM
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Considering he consistently post about consent, and a lot of the scenarios in his post sound like the start of a porno, erm...yeah, it reads like kink posting.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 04:11 PM
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Is this just kink posting?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 03:43 PM
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I did get a different outcome from my previous relationships, been in this one for 5 years now. I don't think I did anything different from the previous ones - met a guy, started seeing each other, made it official, the rest is history. We just clicked really well, and we're lucky that the other person is mature enough to listen and communicate when the occasional issue springs up. I did learn from the previous failed relationships tho. I learned not to put up with nonsense and to not give peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 07:32 PM
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lol "Nononono, you're not actually miserable around me. You've just convinced yourself that you're miserable around me so now, whenever I'm around you, you're miserable." 10/10 for the mental gymnastics on this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 06:09 PM
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Been with my partner 5 years, and while the "new relationship energy" has worn off, I'm no less attracted to him, even with the flaws that I am well aware of at this point. Don't get me wrong, the excitement of the honeymoon phase is great but having that feeling of safety, love, and warmth that you come back to every day is better. And it's not like there's no excitement now, we constantly make plans for date nights, future trips, where we might move in the future, and we're both really excited…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 06:04 PM
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him throwing a denial-fueled hissy fit because any criticism was intolerable to him. Nothing ever got resolved because he couldn’t handle feedback about his behavior. Did we date the same guy? I had an ex who would just be such a petulant toddler when he got even the most mild criticism. It was impossible to resolve any issue because not only did he refuse to address his behaviour, but also there was no real issue at all, I was making it up, and btw, last Tuesday I had done something that really…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 05:22 PM
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I think they were trying to give a silly reason for the sake of humour. But I have met people who clutched their pearls if anyone broke wind or burped around them, so I imagine they might actually break up with someone over some toots.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 05:16 PM
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You change, they change, you discover things about them that you don't like/bother you, some people date someone just because of their looks and figure out that they actually do need more than just a pretty face, some people get used to the other person and start taking them for granted. Human relationships are complicated. People grow and change, sometimes their partner changes with them, sometimes they don't. Sometimes not changing is fine because you still have the relatively same views of ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 05:04 PM
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The previous attempted snarky comment about you suposedly leaving also points to the OP just arguing in bad faith. He didn't ask this to get real answers, he posted to make catty remarks and ignore anything that goes against his belief that women are just illogical (and undeserving of rights).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 06:57 AM
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If nobody wants you, you are by definition not desirable
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 02:03 AM
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I’d say women are as logical as men, meaning that they’re capable of being logical sometimes and doing dumb shit because it felt a certain way other times. Someone buying an expensive bag they can’t afford because they really wanted it and it feels nice to have the fancy bag? Emotions. Someone punching the TV because their sportsball team lost, and now they have to buy a new TV? Emotions. People voting against their own self-interest because Candidate A was more fun to watch than Candidate B? Em…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 10:53 PM
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If you're trying to land just anyone, sure, be as hot as possible, that's casting a wide net. But if you're interested in finding a specific type of person, a bio will go a long way. Different approaches for different things. I've never been interested in hot dudes with an empty/generic bio. My partner was good looking but he also had stuff in his bio that made me interested, and the pictures he put in his profile showcased his hobbies, that he was an outgoing fun person. He was a much more inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 06:01 PM
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I feel the same as your gf. Had to stay home for a bit while I was waiting for my permanent residence paperwork to go through, and I'd sooner throw myself in the ocean than spend years cooped up at home, with an infant/toddler to boot. I like working, I like my job, and being a SAHW did such a number on my mental health that I wouldn't do a repeat of it, especially not with the added stressor of a small human mixed in.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 05:30 PM
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Dunno, I've met most* of my partners through shared interests, mutual friends, and attending the same expat hangouts when I was living abroad. Most of my guy friends have also met their partners this way. The lack of third spaces and the unwalkable cities in the US are definitely an issue, not to even mention how socially stunted a lot of Gen Z and Gen Alpha are but organically meeting partners through other people and stuff you did was pretty much the norm in my part of Europe. *the very notabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 05:01 PM
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Yeah, the numbers game is partially what turns me off of cold approaches. The guy finds me passable (not even hot necessarily but just okay enough to approach) and I'm just Number XYZ in the line of women he's approached that day/week/month. "You're okay looking and I'm afraid I won't find anyone, so you'll do" isn't a particularly flattering proposition. Even on dating apps there are so many people who don't tell you anything about themselves in their profile. What am I supposed to do with that…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 04:52 PM
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Sometimes they initiated, sometimes I did. Usually we were just talking with a bunch of people and we eventually got into a convo between the two of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 04:47 PM
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I've asked dudes for their numbers after we talked at an event/party/in class.Never had an interest in approaching random people while out and about.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 06:21 AM
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I know they exist, a bunch of them are on this sub. If you don't put yourself out there and try to meet people, you're gonna be invisible to everyone 🤷 I didn't just sit in my living room waiting for friends to materialize in front of me, meeting people and maintaining friendships takes a certain amount of effort, even if it's easier for more sociable people.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 11:00 PM
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None of this sounds healthy. Your partner doesn't get to tell you whether or not you can have social media or who you're allowed to be friends with. They also don't get to tell you where to sleep, if thet can't sleep next to you, they can move to the couch. Stop dating people you dislike and trying to make them into someone you do like.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 06:49 PM
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That's pretty much most people I know. My friends and I weren't the most popular people in school, far from it but we got along with most people, and we'd get invited to parties and stuff, and we'd hang out with out classmates after school. I have fond memories of skipping class with some of what Americans would consider "the popular girls" and just going to the cafe next door and talking about movies and stuff. Having friends and socializing with your peers is just...normal? I know very few peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 04:28 PM
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14.5/15. Took off half a point for 6 - high school was great, had to deal with some bullies in middle school, was definitely not on the popular list. Not surprised by the overall score, I'm a pretty social person and I tend to make friends easily, I've also put myself in situations where I was separated from my family and friends and I had to make new friends. Pretty sure my partner would have the same score, he also had to deal with some bullying.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 03:42 PM
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Well, I'm sure nothing but throwing myself to the ground crying about how awful you guys had it would be acceptable, so I'm not even surprised a "I imagine these things sucked" comment is considered trivializing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 03:00 PM
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I don't think most of the guys I know view their puberty as that much of a miserable experience. Acne sucked, surprise boners were unpleasant, and they all went through some weird phase of trying to handle all these new emotions that hormones were shoving in their minds 24/7 but that last part was true for every teenager. I think the first time realizing that a woman is uncomfortable with you walking behind her when it's dark out is a very unpleasant feeling. I also imagine it's pretty embarrass…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:51 AM
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