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👉"Decide what you want to do." 👈
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/23 12:39 AM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mDB6T6cQkTA "You have to acknowledge the reality of the world you are in."
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/22 07:36 AM
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The ghost of OYS past.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 06:53 AM
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This is strictly https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jkCCC7b_hLQ
/r/askMRP10/08/21 07:58 AM
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Paging Doctor u/VasiliyZaitzev
/r/askMRP10/08/21 07:57 AM
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This is very accurate, and from my experience very uncomfortable when you wake up on forty and start working your way onto a different path. Destination: unknown.
/r/askTRP18/05/21 03:06 AM
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A jester by definition has no authority. He is a buffoon who makes you think about what you believe to be true: particularly towards authority. Respect has nothing to do with it.
/r/TheRedPill30/03/21 11:04 AM
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I disagree. The problem with... His flair literally says "The Court Jester" and you're getting triggered and trying to white knight for fellow autists. Do you even lift, "bro"?
/r/TheRedPill30/03/21 08:06 AM
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Men's private member clubs have existed for generations in most major cities in the western hemisphere. Go find one.
/r/askTRP07/03/21 07:48 AM
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Regarding the orthodontist appointment, you may find the book Breath by James Nestor of interest, in particular the palate widening considerations.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/21 09:59 PM
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Along a similar line of thought is Nicholas Christakis with his book ‘Apollo’s Arrow: The Profound And Enduring Impact of Coronavirus On The Way We Live’. There are also a few good recent podcast interviews of him such as on Science Salon. His main view is that by 2024 there will be a mass release of pent up demand for social gatherings and sexual licentiousness. As always, if you're currently a sex deprived unattractive man then now is the time to start doing the work to change that. Or flee to…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre01/01/21 08:53 PM
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The point is that art exists only through the benevolent allocation of capital by the entrepreneurs. Da Vinci by the Borgia Mozart by Joseph II, the Holy Roman Emperor Shakespeare by Wriothesley, the Earl of Southampton So who has the higher status at the time, which is all that counts on this mortal coil? The pussy follows the power and then the money... does this sound familiar?
/r/askTRP03/12/20 05:38 AM
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Imagine not knowing who the House of Medici were, and not understanding their role in creating the environment that enabled the Italian renaissance.
/r/askTRP03/12/20 01:14 AM
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You can lose a lot of money chasing women, but you'll never lose a lot of women chasing money.
/r/askTRP03/12/20 01:10 AM
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2020-10-29 It has been two weeks since my last OYS. Mindset Reading TWOTSM lately particularly around chapter 17 on praise. This practice is one I have really struggled with even though it is obvious how well it works. Otherwise working on addressing my weakness of ruminating overly when tolerating my wife’s self-destructive moods. The section on this tolerance building resentment really resonated with me and reminded me that I’ve still got a lot to learn in order to find humour in the dance and…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/20 12:15 AM
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There but for the the grace of OYS go I.
/r/askMRP17/10/20 07:47 AM
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I’m adding my increments every session according to the programme. They aren’t one rep maxes.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 11:07 PM
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I'm following the programme. My lifts are going up and my weight is going down.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 08:01 PM
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2020-10-14 It has been one week since my last OYS. Mindset I found myself focusing on the following from the chef Francis Mallman as I contemplate my next actions in pursuit of my mission: My life has been a path at the edge of uncertainty. Today, I think we educate kids to be settled in the comfortable chair. You have your job, you have your little car, you have a place to sleep and the dreams are dead. You don't grow on a secure path. All of us should conquer something in life and it needs a l…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 06:49 AM
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Just a turn of phrase. I suppose it's objectifying. I hadn't really thought about it until now. My thoughts in summary: The Wife -> Pedestal My Wife -> Just my turn She/her -> Not in my locus of control
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 12:33 AM
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2020-10-09 It has been two weeks since my last OYS. Mindset Focusing on my vision, goals and action plan has provided me with a greater sense of purpose. I’m still reading TWOTSM and The Practice of the Wild. Mould 5x5 Mon/Wed/Fri BW 93.5kg DL 95 SQ 65 BP 52.5 BBR 57.5 OHP 36 Rowing 4km/20min Mon/Wed, 7km/30min Sat Man It was my turn to host a regular monthly lunch with eleven friends last week. Brought two guests including one recently divorced friend who blew it all up when he wasn’t getting w…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/20 08:54 PM
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Good luck on your path. I hope I eventually experience similar clarity of my own. Looking forward to the field report on how to establish a harem.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/20 01:58 AM
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Thanks u/impatientzen, that is a good point. I (finally) started lifting 5x5 to move in this direction. Weight-wise, I haven't moved anywhere though. At 180cm my TDEE goal is 92kg at 15% BF. My lifting goals by December are BP 92 SQ 185 DL 235 which I think is achievable. I've been weighing my portions and everything so maybe I'll need to cut the intake more. I was going to see where I was at after four weeks on 5x5.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 03:37 AM
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2020-09-22 This is my fifteenth OYS Mindset Spent some time away from social media including facebook, instagram and reddit for the last couple of weeks. Reading TWOTSM for OYS and The Practice of the Wild because I think it is helping to clarify my thinking on my mission. Mould Into the gym and have started Stronglifts 5x5 Mon/Wed/Fri. BW 94kg DL 85 SQ 52.5 BP 42.5 BBR 52.5 OHP 30. The immediate goal is to be lifting moderately heavy by December which I think is achievable following the interme…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 09:27 AM
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Thanks u/johneyapocalypse I overthink the hell out of everything and end up being obtuse as a result. Maybe it's just my fucking ego trying to shield me. I struggle with balancing what these fantasies are against what I can get easily from the wife, because my frame sucks. Rather than hide in my own mind I will take more of what I can make happen in front of me.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 05:26 AM
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2020-09-02 This is my fourteenth OYS Mindset I think I’ve begun to realise how fucked my mental models are since posting to OYS. I still can’t tell you why exactly I felt the need to begin posting here beyond recognising some similar themes in my own life from the myriad of common experience shared here. I want to change my habits and behaviour to be more dominant and purposeful in all aspects of my life. Guided meditation via headspace has helped me a lot over the years and I’ve returned to thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 11:35 PM
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Height 180cm 5'11", Weight 94kg 207lb, Shirt 42UK 16 1/2US, Trousers 35" Will be more specific in the future.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/20 08:53 PM
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u/Blarg_Risen I think that you are right about there being a rather large difference in the support men can provide for one another. The first layer is the concern for another that arises when we see a fellow man struggle on his path, particularly if we have walked the path together through common experience say through school, service, sport, and so on. This is enough to reach out, alert others, make sure support or intervention is provided in more extreme cases. Then a second layer arises from…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/20 03:07 AM
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u/AlohaMaui808 challenged me on this late last week also. You've both pointed out my bullshit. I thought the 2400 calorie meal plan was going to be okay, as it's basically three meals with a focus on lean protein and vegetables. I'm keeping track of it in my weekly diary, I've got the sugar, junk carbs and booze clear of my mouth. Thanks for the fasting video. Clearly if I don't see any benefit here I'll need to make another change. Regarding weight, I'm bullshitting myself as I don't even havin…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/20 02:01 AM
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Red, thanks for sharing this. When I was at my lowest, it was my four closest friends that gathered around me to make sure I picked myself up. My wife, nowhere to be seen.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/20 03:30 AM
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2020-08-19 This is my thirteenth OYS Mindset In this last week I’ve been experiencing a lot of dissonance in my thoughts, whether it is on the relationship between my wife and I, or even my relationship with my employer and our broader society. It’s uncomfortable, and I vacillate between thoughts of radical disruption to my lifestyle and doubling down as a corporate warrior. I have no vision formed beyond improving my physical frame and behaviour, living my life more closely to my own interests,…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/20 01:00 AM
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Your flippant ego shielding bullshit aside, get the snip now regardless. And don't be a moron like I was and let the urologist talk you into waiting until after the third is safely delivered before doing so.
/r/askMRP14/08/20 04:24 AM
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Planning: try David Allen's "Getting Things Done". Even some of the GTD youtube videos are helpful if you're completely hopeless in this regard.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/20 08:58 PM
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This, u/LabelOtherSide. I bet you're thinking of her experience when you use the words "incredible, magical, exhilarating", rather than your own satisfaction. Free yourself sexually first.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 08:54 PM
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u/LabelOtherSide, you are flailing around so much that you can't even stick to Wim Hof method in the shower. You would benefit from learning to slow it down and simplify your approach to the basics.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 08:50 PM
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Simplifying things seems to have yielded some results for you. Keep it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 11:31 AM
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2020-08-11 This is my twelfth OYS Mindset Have put the books aside for the moment, got enough work to do in internalising new habits and behaviour. I’m a drunk captain on my moon mission. Mould I’m 39 years old, 180cm, 95kg. The mirror doesn’t lie, have gone backwards on the BF% more recently and am closer to 36 than 34 waist. Too much booze and barbeque lately undoing any good work which is a failure in prioritising my actions. Man Struggling with acceptance of myself. Some of this conflict is …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 08:54 AM
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Specifically what about the first line is bullshit? Specifically this: Age: 33 // Height: 6'6" (198 cm) // Weight: 220 lb (100 kg) // BF: sub 10% Which sounds more like 22-25%. Only you can hold yourself accountable for your actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/20 02:59 AM
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And how is that mental model working out for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 10:47 PM
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You've written a lot reflecting on the things that you're feeling and the things that you think you want. A lot of it is vague, when I read this I don't really know what is actually important to you. Revisit NMMNG. Your weight target is 76kg, but from what basis? You're not holding yourself accountable for your own actions that will lead to your improvement. No one else can or will.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 10:45 PM
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That's a good illustration of how a person can grow. I find I have to read any book with a spiritual element a few times as can I never grasp the ideas the first time around. I suppose I go away, mull on it, adapt my mindset, and then it becomes more clear on next reading. I'll check out the audio version also thanks, I've got NMMNG on audible which is great for the commute.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 08:23 PM
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I will give the kettlebell routine another four weeks for now.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 08:38 PM
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The getups are my soft point at the moment and I feel like I'm a couple weeks away from getting to time on these. I've got 12kg, 16kg and 20kg kettlebells which would at least get me through another round of isolation due to the thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 12:43 PM
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I bought the Simple and Sinister book by Pavel T. Very much still on the Simple at 16kg: swings, getup, clean and press, goblet squats. As for TWOTSM, I imagine I'll have to return to all the reading along the way. We take something new from any good book upon re-reading as we grow.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 12:14 PM
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Did you get out and make some friends this week?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 11:14 AM
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1 - Cancel legal appt Consistent advice in mrp is "the stay plan is the same as the go plan". If you are going to keep "working on the marriage" then that is up to you, surely it is in your own interests to at least discretely get some advice on your particular situation. Whose frame are you operating in here?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 11:11 AM
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2020-08-04 This is my eleventh OYS Mindset It has been twelve weeks since starting OYS taking into account time on the bench due to Rule Nine. I have kept a written journal for over a decade, and I spent some time over the weekend reading some of my reflections over the years. What strikes me is how much of that is written in the frame of others: friends, wife, parents, siblings. At times I’ll find some passages that I speak in language that I now find more congruent to my own values. It makes m…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 10:53 AM
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This is above my pay grade but you've gotten some good replies from others showing you what you're dealing with. Looking forward to your next OYS. Find your strength and get to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/20 01:27 AM
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“If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole.”
/r/askMRP30/07/20 08:24 PM
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Surely learning Spanish the James Bond way is more fun than the John Doe way? On the job, as it were?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/20 08:38 AM
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Are you married to this LTR? Is this a ILYBINILWY situation?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/20 08:33 AM
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Ah, thanks for clarifying. I need to take that all in.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/20 02:00 AM
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Missed a golden opportunity to train her there. That occurs to me, as all I did was kind of grunt and nod thoughtfully. Better praise could have been given?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 08:57 PM
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Thought provoking post, thanks for taking the time. I have been thinking about MRP OYS as something of rite of passage to guide to my second phase of life. Similarly as my oldest is now nice I am increasingly mindful of the rites of passage that I need to facilitate for him over the next decade. Speaking truths that are congruent with my values along the way will help create a curiosity about life that will make all my children more rigorous in their thinking and courageous enough to confront an…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 08:54 PM
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I brought it up because even while in the act, I was thinking about what she was thinking and not simply enjoying the act. My frame still sucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 08:30 PM
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If MRP is hard mode then MRP with a child with a disability is insane mode. Don't discount the possibility of your own trauma associated with processing this grief. You are here owning your shit, and in time this will lead your wife to a better place. She may even then feel secure enough to do her own work. But are you doing your work? For example you aren't lifting. What are you actually doing?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 10:59 AM
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Cool poem. Nobody fucking cares.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 10:41 AM
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2020-07-28 This is my tenth OYS Mindset I am maintaining my abundance mindset and am getting things done. Mould Swinging the kettlebells (four sessions of 5x10 swings, clean and press, goblet squat, getups all on the 16kg) and rowing machine (three sessions of 5km/20min). The 34 trousers fit better than the 36. Man Lunch today with a recently divorced friend of nearly twenty years highlighted to me the different paths we are all on. With a young child and not feeling the love he burned it all to…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 10:29 AM
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I neglected to reply to you after serving my Rule 9 time. Thanks for sharing your perspective, it was helpful.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/20 08:42 PM
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You're confused because you don't have a vision for your own direction let alone for one including her.
/r/askMRP25/07/20 09:23 PM
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Been there. Get out of her head. Own your shit, fulfill the masculine role for your kids, but don't try and be mommy. You're spinning the wrong kind of plates, which ones will you let smash?
/r/askMRP22/07/20 09:21 PM
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Went to meetup.com and did something. I don't know if that is working for you? Find a club or association associated with some of your interests and get along to something that is happening this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 12:15 PM
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How are you going on the social front? Do you have many male friends that you have a solid connection with? This may be more help in working through your weed addiction, by having a safe person to hold you accountable. I ask as everything you refer to is about watching, listening or reading. A man needs more connection than that. Unless you're a hermit, but I don't know of too many hermits who also fuck anything other than goats.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 12:00 PM
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Appreciate the support, just focusing on grinding along the path. As for the fake internet points, meh.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 11:50 AM
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My immediate focus had been on getting another doe and boar in the freezer this year, but I can see how that would be more fulfilling. I've been listening and watching Remi Warren's solo hunter videos and podcasts. I hadn't thought of taking up the bow in that way until you put it like that.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 11:49 AM
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2020-07-21 This is my ninth OYS Mindset This week I am reading TWOTSM and have found myself contemplating the teachings in chapter fifteen “Stop hoping for your woman to get easier” and seventeen “Praise her”. I feel like I am coming to terms with the fact that this is a never ending process, although I find myself yearning for relief that will never come when my frame is weak. Mould This is my second week coupling Pavel T’s Simple and Sinister kettlebell routine with the rowing machine: 5x10 sw…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 09:01 AM
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Who gives a fuck about Jack?
/r/askMRP18/07/20 08:42 PM
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I used to put so much energy into setting up convert contracts to try and live these scenarios out and would get so resentful when it didn't pan out how I had hoped. So I still have some fear to push through there. While I'm not doing that any more, my frame is not such that I get what I want through non-verbal cues. I think I'm getting better at giving non-verbal praise. We will see.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/20 07:01 PM
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If you're getting into it, suggest every day. Plenty of providers have ten day free trials with guided sessions.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/20 11:25 AM
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I used the guided sessions from Headspace.com which I found to be a great way of getting in the zone quickly. Twenty minutes is my sweet spot.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/20 11:24 AM
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I agree with the above. This sounds like it is entirely in your head. Enjoy the moment and don't give a second thought to her satisfaction.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/20 10:34 AM
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2020-07-14 This is my eighth OYS Mindset I recovered my mindset after last week’s disappointment. Reading this last week has been focused more on my spiritual side with Richard Rohr’s Falling Upward. I also dusted off Getting Things Done after a welcome provocation that I mention further below. Mould Yesterday I picked up both 16kg and 20kg kettlebells to mix the garage workout up. Keeping up with the rowing machine and started interval training in the last week instead of my normal 5km/20min. D…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/20 10:10 AM
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"YOLOHO"
/r/askMRP12/07/20 11:36 PM
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Hey thanks JohneyA. That is a good point you are making here. I overthink the hell out of everything. The device in question is a Nintendo Switch, and with two seconds googling I just found the Nintendo Switch Parental Controls app that does everything I need it to do. Installed and synced to said device.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/20 10:04 PM
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2020-07-07 This is my seventh OYS Mindset Found out that I missed out on the new role that I was gunning for. Quite gutted to have made it to the final round to find out that I’m not “the man”. Now to dust myself off and get on with things. This sure has hit my abundance mindset hard and I find myself reeling into a scarcity mindset that I need to sort out. Mould Threat of another local outbreak of the things means that the garage remains the temple for now. Maintaining my tempo on the rowing ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 10:43 AM
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2020-06-23 This is my sixth OYS Mindset Two weeks ago I checked in here to check if I had any OYS feedback and instead found that I had received a two week ban because I’m a frameless faggot. First I was angry, and then I was sad. Then I exercised. Reading this last fortnight focused on NMMNG Chapter 6 with exercises. I also read James Salters Solo Faces which I think others here may also enjoy reading. Mould Maintained current programme of rowing machine and dumbbells. Have been eating well, on…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 07:47 PM
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Loneliness is a feeling. Isolation is a disorder. Solitude is a blessing. I heard this from another when I was suffering similarly, this has helped me along the path from time to time and I hope it will help you also. You don't write much about male companionship. How are you going with friends in real life? Is this something you dedicated time and effort to?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 09:17 AM
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2020-06-09 This is my fifth OYS Mindset This week NMMNG Chapter 5 Breaking Free exercises. I am trying to understand what realities I project onto things in order to believe them. In particular around my marriage, which I’ve tried to expand on below. Mould Had consult with sports physiotherapist who measured me at 95kg, 182cm and bodyfat 19%. I discussed my immediate ambitions: get bodyfat sub 15%, increase strength, improve posture and muscle tone. He’s following up with a review of my current …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 09:10 AM
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I hear what SBIII and you are saying: I'm being too reserved here in my writing. Thanks for the provocation, I'll open up more in my future OYS. My bro-moment: I got angry, and then I got sad, as I spoke to my friends about my marriage and in particular my frustration about how my own actions over eleven fucking years had led us there. I guess that is what camp fires are for. In a years time I'd like to be doing a victory dance around it instead. Here is the greatest creation post for anyone els…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 08:42 PM
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I like how you're working through all these break free activities. Are you finding it helpful? I plan to do a couple this week myself from Chapter 2.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 09:11 AM
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Lots of "she" in that social section. Have you had any luck making some solid connection with a male group of friends? You've got a lot going on, and you will benefit from some other men to talk to apart from all us retards here.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 09:08 AM
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That sounds pretty rough. My provocation to you is to not martyr yourself on this, express some vulnerability to get some professional support. NMMNG encourages getting support for this type of thing, have you tried your Employee Assistance Programme? Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 09:05 AM
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2020-06-02 This is my fourth OYS Mindset Working through NMMNG for the second time this week. I will work through some of the activities from Chapter 5 “Reclaim your personal power”. Mould Not amazing. Got two good rowing machine sessions in, plus three sessions with dumbbells, just basics plus adopting a few kettle bells swings. Went for a hike while out in the forest. Marriage Wife remains very flat with low energy. She has been doing a few things around the house but is clearly not functionin…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 08:54 AM
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I too miss u/00pi from my lurking.
/r/askMRP30/05/20 02:23 AM
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To add to the above, it reads like your wife is responding to the domestic environment you have created. How can you use your energy and upcoming career opportunities to create transformation here? Surely this will benefit you more than spinning plates at this stage? Keep up the good work with the kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 07:45 PM
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If sleep remains an issue, book yourself into sleep clinic when you can. If you have something like sleep apnea undiagnosed, having this corrected via a spint or cpap will make a marked change to your wellness.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 07:36 PM
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Thanks wookie. I read all the pre-requisites before I felt confident enough to even start posting on OYS. I won't claim to have internalized it all. I went back to TWOTSM in this instance mostly because of it's focus on the man and the mission. I'm sure I'll need to return to the prereqs over the coming months similarly!
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 07:32 PM
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If I can offer a provocation: you seem to spend more time chasing tail then you do in finding male friends which you keep bringing up in your OYS posts. Is this a real priority for you? You don't need to put a lot of time into maintaining male friendship once it is established, but you don't have that established yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 10:08 AM
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2020-05-26 This is my third OYS Mindset I was reading through OYS and comments from last week, which lead me to The Dancing Monkey Attraction Improvement Programme which I found quite provoking. I’ve picked up TWOTSM again and have read through Part One. Be willing to change everything in your life. I’m not there yet. Mould I have my rowing sessions back to 5km in 20min which I will maintain for the next four weeks before trying to improve on this through interval sessions. Didn’t lift aside fro…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 09:51 AM
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Fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/20 03:18 AM
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Regarding sleep and your fear of losing your family. Two things have worked for me: a) Journaling (like you are here with your OYW), and b) Scenario Planning. Get up and write down explicitly your fear is. Explore it, push through it. Is the fear based in truth? Probably not. Then maybe you will find your path to being prepared to nuke things. When I found myself in a similar frame of mind, I spoke to other male friends who had been divorced, plus others who made it to the other side for better …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 01:53 AM
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What I like about your plan is that it is obviously much easier to find a senior role when you are already in a similar role at an equal or slightly lower level. And as you say, this provides you with an income which is a necessary thing. What I don't like about your plan is that it is risky if the industry you work in isn't all that big. I think it's okay to undersell your experience as part of the hustle but be careful of misrepresenting yourself and opening the door to accusations of fraud. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/20 08:16 PM
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2020-05-19 This is my second OYS Mindset Didn’t read much this week. I appreciated the feedback from Horns and Deathmetal to last week’s OYS. I listened to a couple of podcasts episodes from Drifting by JT Van Zandt and Another Name for Every Living Thing by Richard Rohr which I find energising. The interviewees all have a lifestyle that they’ve dedicated to their true interest, and I reflect on the sacrifices and hard decisions that were made to do so: "Plan your transitions, or they will plan …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/20 08:42 AM
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Thanks for the provocation, I'll get a bit more serious about the numbers to see where I land.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/20 07:46 PM
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Thanks for your perspective. I'm thinking of it as the Grind Path now, and expect the work will be long as you say. I find myself falling into phases, typically lasting around a week, where I work myself into a frazzled mental state ("I'm gonna spin up a 25yo plate with daddy issues!") before I find the path again. Just validation seeking I think. Appreciate the encouragement regarding the solo outdoors trip. I believe what you say to be true. I need to push through a last barrier of fear that i…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 08:40 PM
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2020-05-12 This is my first OYS. Mindset Sidebar pre-reqs read but not fully internalised. As a generally agreeable person, I have probably gotten the most out of WISNIFG so far. Been using Richard Rohr's Falling Upward and David Whyte’s Three Marriages to close some gap in my spirituality, and in balancing career, my marriage, and myself. Mould I’m 39yo, 180cm, 96kgs. I need to drop around 4kg. Nothing heavy enough to meet the standards set here. Rowing machine 5km in 22min two or three times a…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 09:35 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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