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Muscular arms & chest. He can have a bit of a belly, he can be average height, but those first two things are a must. He needs to radiate positivity, a laidback attitude, someone who likes people. I can't feel attraction to guys who are nitpickers, whiners, or arrogant and mean. Then if on top of that if he's funny and intelligent, you got me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/20 11:48 PM
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the erotic novels industry for women is huge , and it's not just 50 shades of grey. We have porn, it's just in a different form.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 04:26 PM
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I don't know, but I'd like to point out; one thing I know is a huge trigger for violence for men, is jealousy. Masculine men have more attractive women as their partners, thus are more likely to be confronted with their woman being hit on / approached / other men staring at their girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 12:38 PM
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like worrying about social judgment that is often so ingrained they feel it even without anyone around If you're surprised women would care about n count without anyone around, then you must think it's ok for women to lie about n count? The reasons for me are: - Needing time to figure out if he is serious - Trying to keep n count low, something could still come up after the second date that would make me not want to date him and I don't want my number up by then - I tend to put on rose colored g…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/20 01:21 PM
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I've had a few male friends throughout my life. In my experience it works best when the guy is the furthest away from being sexually frustrated. Guys who can easily get women and have always been able to easily get women are relaxed enough to have a normal, equal friendship with. Beta's wil either start idolising you or end up trying to get you in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/20 02:23 PM
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I've seen pretty much any sort of stare or gaze been called the thousand cock stare. At first, people ment dead eyes, like the ones you see on drug addicts, but then it shifted to bedroom eyes, when a woman tries to look sexy, or , you know, just commits the crime of have larger eyelids than usual, and lately if a girl looks too smiley or happy I've seen that called the thousand cock stare. It's just another way to try and insult a woman when they don't have anything else to work with. ( Just li…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/20 10:44 PM
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I've found that men are more likely to see their own opinion or viewpoint as "the absolute truth, must be right, everybody who doesn't think like me is crazy" therefore if a woman does not agree with him : "women are not able to understand logic".
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/20 12:56 PM
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The problem is most men can't say no to attention. A guy whos not interested in you or is taken will not approach you, but when you approach him his brain will go "wait, dude, she's already into you without effort from your side? FREE SEX YAY!" As long as you're (barely) fuckable enough to him, sure he'll be ok with it. He could also fall in love with you, sure. But, overall, the chance of getting pumped and dumped is way higher if the women approaches.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 11:17 AM
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The men that are low smv don't care about her job as long as they can get a non-hideous looking woman. The men with options go for girls who can support themselves. Not carreer women persé, just women who have a BA and are like a teacher, nurse, those kind of jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 02:39 PM
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Idk if other relationships necessarily fail because of no goal, i do feel like that's one of the reasons many of the highly religious people have better relationships. Praying together, believing the two of you are fulfilling gods purpose by starting a family together, having a place to go together every week, the same book you live by, it definitely helps the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/20 07:04 PM
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Well, obviously. But also interesting: ​ Number of pre-marital partners: percent who cheated once married 2: 10.4% 3: 14.9% 4: 17.7% 5: 21.6% 6-10: 26.0% 11-20: 36.7% 21+: 46.8% Most women are in that 6-10 category, so most women are actually very much more likely to stay faithfull than to cheat on you. Even if she rode the whole effin carroussel and racked up a whole 21+ partners she's still more likely to stay faithfull than to cheat. There's a 53.2% that a ho actually becomes a housewife. I'm…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/20 10:10 PM
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It will just lead to women in their early 30s pairing up with men in their early 40s, which is what I'm already seeing in my city. No one's uterus will be hurt, we'll just have even more birth defects .
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 02:41 PM
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You're super naive if you think men don't do the same thing. I think people in general are somewhat aware of the halo effect, most people will have heard of it (not the name but the fact that beautiful people are considered nicer etc). The thing is that the halo effect is a self fulfilling prophecy ; attractive people get more chances in life and therefore attractive people ARE more successful and they lead more interesting lives, thus become more interesting in conversation, they are less bitte…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/20 08:53 PM
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Men are better comedians, better at slap-stick, laughing out loud humor. But women can be good at that subtle, seeing-the-irony-in-every-day-life humor, like Tina Fey did with Mean Girls. Not a movie that will have you rolling on the floor laughing, but brilliantly written and it gets funnier every time you see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/20 02:10 PM
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Offtopic but just wondering, men, if she would have said "my ex was so much better in bed. His penis was smaller but still he fucked better and was better with oral" would that be a deal breaker too?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 10:01 AM
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Regarding #1 and #2, the whole thing that women love assholes is just bs, it's simply that they often prioritize looks(my answer to #3). For most women, their order of preference will be: Good looking guy who treats them like a godess Good looking guy who treats them like shit the rest There aren't enough men who fit #1 around, especially since they'll get snatched up young, so that's why you see women dating assholes: they are settleling for situation #2. That's just what you end up seeing arou…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/20 12:25 PM
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do people actually remember user names? I can only think of marriage_is_hell because it's such a.. descriptive name
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/20 11:49 AM
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Here's the thing : if they would have put as much money and effort in to their looks as I did (so that means heavy weight training 4x a week, healthy protein rich eating, hygiëne, nice clothes, straight white teeth (I had braces and surgery) and maybe a cosmetic procedure, then a good 70% of ~30 year old guys that a see on a daily basis get to fuckable level. When I say I see a lot of losers I mean men who don’t take care of themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 02:32 PM
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I once tried to get into an all-female facebook group, not even politics related it was about beauty fgs, left leaning scenery though, and you had to answer the question to how many genders are there to get in. I answered "there's two in biology class but outside of that knock yourself out" and they deleted my request, that was already over the line for them. These people...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 04:17 PM
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Women aren't getting anything out of fucking those boys, men are getting something out of fucking those girls. My point is that men pretend women are horrible creatures for not wanting men when they are low, but it's not like men would stand in line for the troubled teenage girl if they didn't get pussy out of it. Nobody is being altruistic here.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 02:49 PM
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If you date someone who isn't succesfull yet three things can happen: he never gets succesfull and you're stuck with a loser. he gets succesfull, and dumps you for a younger model he gets succesfull but stays true to his loyal first wife I haven't seen the 3rd scenario play out enough to take my chances at that. Especially not when I was attractive enough to get a guy who was already there.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 02:38 PM
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the only situation where you see men "helping"(=fucking) weak women is when that women is out of their league lookswise. We all know the troubled BPD self-mutilating teenage girl with her 30 year old boyfriend "being supportive".
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 02:33 PM
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For me there was a diminish in (unwanted) attention, which is great, and an increase in quality. Guys have aged and become more mature and they wanted to settle down now too, and the guys who are looking for a hookup leave you alone because they're focussing on young girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/20 02:42 PM
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Where you able to have sex when you were a teenager / early 20s with same aged girls? I've noticed that if guys get to fuck young girls when they're young, they easily transition into finding older women attractive as they get older, whereas formel incels stay stuck forever pining after barely legal girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 01:10 PM
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It's different from person to person. For me personally, the absolute max is 2 points. You'd need multiple factors for that though. Character, humor, succesful, emotionally stable etc. So if they're both a 7 the janitor would be a 6, if he would have a shitty personality as well he'd be a 5. The lawyer would be an 8, if he's really likeable and amazing he can get to 9. ​ Edited to say: this is in theory, but keep in mind, I would perceive the janitor as 6/10. In reality, I don't fuck janitors, o…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 02:10 PM
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Yes, it's about balance. That's why many women are into Mediterranean men. They are manly but not emotionally stunted. The ideal combination.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 09:01 AM
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Two things: The first experience in the , how shall I call it, dating category (?) that women often have is when they're very very young, not sexually interested yet themselves (I'm talking like, 12) and being hit on and chased after by older creepy guys. This often installs a life long disgust for men-who-chase-younger-women, and sometimes even for men in general. Youth goes away. Women are attracted to traits in men that will stay or be with them for a very long time. Being legal to ~22 lasts,…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 06:42 PM
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No because of the creep factor. But let's replace it with something else, let's say he's been chasing female surgeons and top lawyers because he wanted a woman like that and now settles for slightly-better-payed-than-average-office-job me. In that case it would depend on whether he truly seems to like and appreciate me. Like someone else said, this isn't going to be the first thing you find out about somebody. This comes up after a few weeks or months of dating. If, by then, we have a real conne…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 01:18 PM
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If you're going to spend +50 years with someone and raise kids with them, the most important thing is that you want it to be with that person. That you're compatible, can work as a team together, that they're a good person. Now if you're in a highly religious community then the amount of virgin potential wives can be so high you can select and get both, but for the average guy today, and especially for a 30 year old, it's unlikely there's a flock of virgins waiting for him and he's going to have…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 10:04 AM
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They can be bitter all they want, but it's kinda weird to put your own previous failure on another person. As I said, men are not even half as mad about women having previous partners when they themselves had previous partners. So it's basically "Because I failed at having a relationship I was young, I am now rejecting you for having a relationship when I couldn't." I've never had a guy reject me over that because I've always dated attractive guys but if someone would tell me that, I'd be like, …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 05:30 PM
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That's the whole problem here. It's only men who miss out who complain. My SO didnt get to fuck me between 18 and 24, but he fucked dozens of other chicks in that age category and wasn't interested in setteling down in the first place until he was older. He doesn't care, neither do ANY of the men I know that had other pussy when they were that age. It's quite normal not to find the love of your life whom you're compatible with forever when you haven't even fully developed your brain yet. Normal …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 03:21 PM
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There can be discussion on how necessary male purchases are too. Why do we need a new $2500 tv when the $1500 one from a couple years ago seems to function just fine to me? And those expensive led spot lowered ceilings every guy apartment has when we just hang a cute ceiling light. I purchase more smaller, inexpensive things, he'll purchase a few things but spend ten times as much as me in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 10:21 AM
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If she's genuinely interested in the same things as men then that's not pick me behavior. Pick me behavior is doing things / saying things specifically and only to please men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 11:02 PM
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The disadvantage for men is that the behavior is fake and she cannot keep it up forever. If she's pretending to be a gamer girl just to get a guy, she's obviously going to drop that after she's secured him. You basically have no idea who you're actually dealing with when you date a pickme.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 10:52 PM
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Yes, I am, in fact, doing that. I'm not an immature person who holds grudges. I was unattractive then and more attractive now so how can I blame them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 06:08 PM
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My SO is very active in the housework. Seeing him clean doesn't turn me on at that moment, offcourse not. But the fact that he is a clean, organized person, mostly the fact that he is the opposite of lazy - I'm super turned off by lazy guys - that is what makes his whole persona attractive. It also simply leaves more time to sit on the couch and snuggle together, leading to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 07:27 AM
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Things we both have: fit, sane, require the same amount of alone time / together time, contribute to the housework equally. Same level of physhical attractiveness and intelligence I'd say. We do stuff for each other equally (like picking up something for one another or helping each other with a cover letter of whatever). Things that are different: he makes (way) more money, I'm a decade younger, I'll give birth to our child, I give more physical attention (massages and stuff) because he needs mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/20 11:09 AM
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Most women aren't e-thots. Women are muuuch more likely to be working in care-related positions. Maybe you haven't heard as much feminism on the internet because these women are working 20 hour shifts currently?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/20 03:25 PM
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Nothing humours me more than men thinking they have a slut-radar. No, you don't. The biggest slut I know looks innocent and boring, the girl I know who looks the nastiest (fillers overdone, butt and boobs always out, you know the kind, men think they must be total sluts) is still with the dude who was her very first kiss.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 09:09 PM
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men are chastitized for this just as much in my experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 09:02 PM
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Today in "women can do absolutely nothing right", we've gone from "why are women pretending they are something they are not" to "why can't this woman even pretend she is something she is clearly not "
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 01:46 PM
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I don't get why you bring up the balding issue. A 20 yo dude who starts balding is weird and therefore unattractive. A 30 yo who starts balding is on the young side, but within the range of normal. Normal is more attractive than weird, therefore the balding 30yo is more attractive than the balding 20yo, as strange as that sounds. Women's attraction ages with them. A 30 yo woman who can now find herself attracted to balding men isn't "getting more flexible", she is simply attracted to guys her ow…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 01:03 AM
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This situation applies to me and my SO. He was popular in highschool, I was the ugly girl. I don't give a flying fuck. He was right for not being attracted to me (had he known me), because I wasn't attractive. The end.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 11:38 PM
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When I was 18 I was into 23 max. When I was 30 I was into 42 max. So my age range definitely widened, but there's simply a smaller emotional difference between me and a 40 yo compared to an 18 yo with a 30 yo man. And obviously I accept wrinkles and balding now, but they come with older men, even the attractive ones. It would be weird for a 21 yo dude to be wrinkly and balding, not for a 40yo. When I was 18 I was disgusted by chest hair, now I'm turned off if someone doesn't have chest hair. My …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 11:35 PM
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It's often not that people don't want to stay with their first partner, it just doesn't always work out. You change massively between ages 20 and 30. MASSIVELY. I didn't believe that when I was 20, I felt whole and complete, and felt that my partner back then and me would last forever. We grew apart, and I ended up with someone much better suited. Most of the couples I know that formed before ~22 have split up, numbers prove that young marriage = high divorce risk. That's not to say it cannot wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 10:07 PM
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The only reason a guy wants to get married when he's young is if he can't get anyone and the thought of one pussy is better than no pussy. Idk any dude who wanted to get married young for any other reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 10:33 PM
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Well all those divorced dudes who will (say they will) never marry again
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 10:31 PM
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No, it's mostly people at the lower end of society dating other people at the lower end of society. And it isn't just attraction; if you're a woman living in a ghetto and being either jobless or working unpopular lower end jobs, your dating pool - the people you meet on the daily, the friends-of-friends you're introduced to, even your tinder matches if you've set the radius low, will most likely simply contain a whole lot more criminals than the dating pool of a UMC grad student.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 06:41 PM
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Men and women may age equally, but women seem to be more accepting of many male aging features than men are of female ones. But this is also a reason why aging is less bad for women than Red thinks: our attraction changes and as we age ourselves, we become more attracted to older men. Last time I was dating I was in my early 30's and I could no longer get a hot 25 year old dude but I could get a well preserved 38 year old. For me, that was what I actually preferred because the 25 year olds had s…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 04:29 PM
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Sacrifices his freedom to support others? So he could live off air and didn't need to work before then? The middle class dads I know haven't worked a single hour more since becoming a dad. This can only be said of poor people if he takes a second job to be able to support them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/20 02:29 PM
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On a side note, I don't understand how at one hand, there is complaining about the friend zone and how girls will not fuck guys and put them in the friendzone, but also accusing girls with guy friends of being sluts , i.e. fucking the guys they've appareantly friendzoned?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 04:32 PM
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It's not just girls eh. People love dangerous criminals in movies and books. Guys definitely look up to maffia leaders. And if you ask the average boy in highschool whether they'd like that guy to become best buddies with them most of them would find that interesting at least. We generally like it when people are different from the others because those people don't bore us.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 02:57 PM
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Broken people feel less intimidating, like they won't judge you for your own flaws.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/20 07:22 PM
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Same story. He was a bit of a player and living life on his own terms plus too old for me at the time - 10 years older than me I met him when he was 40 and ready to settle down. I definitely would have been attracted to him tough, he was - and still is - handsome af.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 10:01 AM
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No. I briefly tried to date someone I wasn't very attracted to with the idea he'd be a good guy to me forever. I was so miserable despite being treated like a princess. Love and happiness cannot be forced. Best decision of my life to hold out for mr Right.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 11:43 PM
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I feel sorry for them but there is literally nothing I can do for them
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 03:31 PM
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jason momoa was a major pretty boy when he was young. Pretty boys are basically just baby faced. When they grow older they often start to look more masculine and rough. Men who I find good looking that aren't pretty boys are usually look like this guy tsahi halevi
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 12:17 AM
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For both men and women: the most attractive people that show interest in you, will have issues. Mentally unstable people know they're unstable and pick partners slightly less attractive than they'd pick when they'd have something to offer in the relationship. If you are the most attractive girl he has access to, you can get away with murder. If you are the only Chad who she's dated, you can treat her like horseshit. So for all men who only "run into" crazy girls, the solution is the same as for …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 11:38 AM
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This depends on the situation you're in and the person you're talking to. The only time I can remember I reacted positively to a cold approach is when he had graduated in a direction I was still studying and approached me while I was looking at an installation the company he worked for had build, at a carreer fair. He talked about that installation really vividly. But a girl in a different field could have found that boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 03:38 PM
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The only way to answer this question is to first answer the question: how good is her judgement and can she help it if it is bad? Single motherhood and relationship problems trickle down from generation to generation. If you’re intelligent enough, you may be able to learn from the mistakes of others and yourself and maybe make a change before you get knocked up. But if you’re not? When choosing a husband you need to be able to predict behaviour years down the line. Not only do you need to assess…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 12:50 PM
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They are two different things. "Boring or not" is judged by the things a guy talks about, maybe a bit how he looks. "Coming on too strong" is defined by: - talking really fast and a lot and not giving me a chance to reply, thus not giving me a chance to turn you down which immediatly makes me feel trapped and negative about you - standing too closely - touching me, anything other than a handshake is bad - standing directly in my way - walking next to me for more than a few steps. If I'm still wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 11:54 AM
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The first rule is offcourse not attractive enough. The attractive guys I turned down were mostly turned down for coming off arrogant or like a mean spirited person or like a negative minded person. Coming on too strong is also a huge one,
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 09:45 AM
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Purely by observing - you never know what's going on behind closed doors - More. I work in an office with 35 people aged 25-32 and 30 of them are in ltrs that are between 2 and 10 years. People talk openly about relationship troubles which range from "we're so stressed out with the house renovations " to"she wants a baby already and I don't yet ". No horrible drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 10:11 PM
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Just having something stuck in there without being horny / wanting it, feels either like nothing or is painful. If it was pleasurable, women would be having orgasms on the ob gyn's table when they stick vaginal ultrasound wands or speculums up there.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 08:49 PM
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Oh please I can do a no makeup makeup look in 5 minutes. Three extra minutes if you count my skincare routine. It's not that hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 12:38 AM
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They skew the market. The more sex is available outside commited relationships, the more other women have to bring to the table to get into said comitted relationship. They are the equivalent of beta orbiters showering women with attention. Slut shaming can also be done to position oneself as Not Like The Other Girls; "omg I hate sluts" = "see?! I'm not a slut!"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 09:43 PM
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I'm pretty good with online stalking, so, not so hard, just a lot of work, but if you don't know your way around the internet it could be harder. It's also harder if you're new to dating. I've known some women who were like in a relationship with their highschool sweetheart until age 25 and boy they suck at dating. A man could tell them anything and they'd believe it. It's ironic how men's supposed "favorite group" (low n-count) gets treated so miserably.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 08:37 PM
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If you define the wall by "not being able to attract the people you're into anymore " then it depends on what women you're into. If "not too fat 49 year old" works for you then you can go a long way. If you only want to fuck 18 year old virgins your "wall" will be at like age 22.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 07:53 PM
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It probably sucks for them, but it also sucks being married to someone who you don't have deeper feelings for. I know some girls who panic-settled at like 26 and got a few kids and didn't really "wake up" to what they did until their mid 30s, and they realize they're now stuck with a guy they despise, and boy they are bitter. I'm not sure which side is better to be on.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 07:41 PM
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What individual responsibility? You're in a marriage together. If a husband quits his dayjob to start some crazy idea startup and racks up a ton of debt, guess who's salary is also seized by the debt-collecters? When you are in a marriage you are both responsible for all decisions with financial impact that are made. If one spouse ignores the agreements made, there's no legal way of stopping them, but that risk is equal to men and woman: both can make stupid financial decisions that will make th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 01:30 PM
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what a cop-out. "So we're in this marriage together and we both agreed that you stay home with our children so that I can focus on my carreer and make my money but if we split up you get nothing of that money because guess what it was suddenly your choice ahahaha goodbye". You've just demonstrated exactly why the law had to be made.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 01:15 PM
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If you decide to do something with your life you accept that you are losing everything you could have gotten if you did anything else. Here's the problem. In the situation I described it was the fathers wish as well. It's not "her" decision it's "their" decision. Fathers are trying to be 0% responsible for a decision they were 50% part of.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 12:45 PM
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The partner was already compensated. Not being in the workforce and still have a home, the bills payed, food in their mouth, a roof over their head... I can go on. you're acting like "no pay" was the only consequence of staying home with the children. But your carreer takes a serious hit when you stay home, it's not like the month you start working again, you'll get 100% of what you would have earned had you stayed. If a father doesn’t want his children in daycare, then he should compensate not …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 12:28 PM
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The people I know that are not into social media are also not into internet dating, so you'd have to cold approach / meet women IRL and bump into one that also happens to be the small % that are not into social media. Sounds like looking for a needle in a haystack. More realistically is looking for a woman who is minimally into it. You know, has a presence but posts maybe a couple times a year, doesn't post thirst traps. There's more than enough of those.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 06:31 PM
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Not at all. I know for a fact SO has been with hotter women than me and I don't care. It is clear to me that he loves me and is attracted to me. If he would turn me down sexually regularly or something, maybe then I'd start thinking something? Idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 04:52 PM
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59% were already interested so the statement "90% of wonen think that a man is MORE attractive when taken " isn't true, it's at most 31%, a minority, mind you, of women who became interested when they learned he was taken. I've personally never fallen for a taken man.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 03:46 PM
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We don't know anything for real. The press makes up so much, who knows what's going on behind closed doors. It might as well just been his decision and not her forcing him out of the RF, it's not like he was so fond of the royal duties before, he was always an outlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 05:33 PM
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Men fake that all the time. Plus, even if you have his real attention now, will you be able to keep it? I don't think I'd be up for the constant competition of being with someone out of my league, I'd become too insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 01:26 PM
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the only reason it's not done in the west is because it's too risky. If there was a safe enough way to do it the surgery would be widespread, and if many men would do it then it would become more accepted too. I don't think women would hate it. Women like tall men because of how they make them feel, I don't think they'd care about how he got that tall. Edit: I've never heard much complains from women about steroid muscle, either, unless ofcourse he got a small dick out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 02:23 PM
1

For most, yes. Especially if plastic surgery is "allowed" in this scenario (chin implant). I actually don't know a whole lot of guys who I'd consider hopelessly unattractive. For a lot of "unattractive" men the base material actually isn't that bad
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 10:33 PM
3

To be fair: it's harder for a man to have a baby on his own than it is for a woman to have a baby on her own, so that's where her extra value comes in? Unless you've got upwards of 100k just lying around for surrogacy + donor egg, you "need" a woman whereas most women technically don't "need" a man these days (and I say technically because I do believe most women are happier wíth a partner).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 04:34 PM
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What is wrong with NLOGs, and why everyone is shitting on them online, is that they shit on other girls to prove how different they are. But that doesn't mean it's not good to be a little different. People generally will be able to hold other people's attention better if they're a little different from the rest. It's about scarcity.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 11:39 AM
4

Amsterdam. They fuck around until their late 30s, then when they start to notice it's getting harder to date they settle down with the last hot late twenties girl that wants them. Then they become a father in their early to mid 40s and spend the next decade complaining they're too old to have young kids and if they would have known it was this hard but also this much fun they would have done it 10 years earlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 02:59 AM
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So true. Men can deny this all they want but they forget we're women who have BEEN the teens who have been endlessly messaged/pursued/stalked by older men: all fucking creeps and low value. All the real high value good looking guys I know don't start dating significantly younger until they're maybe like 35 and dating 25+. I think it's normal to stay attracted to women in their 20s, but fresh out of highschool no. I've found it has a lot to do with getting pussy or not when they were young. The g…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 10:19 PM
4

Would you like it if you find out your interesting girlfriend used to be a total thot who's only interests were instagram and reality TV, but then she decided to pick up some interesting hobbies and start reading and dressing nicely, not because that's her but SOLELY because she found out that was attractive to men?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 11:13 AM
2

Well sure, but are those women "divorcing for money" or have they come to the conclusion to divorce, and decide to do it now so they'll get more money instead of procrastinating a few more months? It doesn't mean that the primal motivation for the divorce is to squeeze money out of him, that's just a welcome side effect. We'll most likely see an increase in men filing who have waited until after January 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 11:35 AM
27

I attended a 5-year olds birthday party today and this is exactly how they interact when making new friends
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 06:03 PM
1

this is what came up when I looked for average guy and I have to agree this is a true 5/10 to me. Can't really see his body but it looks soft. I guess depending on your area the average should be more overweight but I live in a healthy city.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 09:28 AM
2

My parents did this, I found out my dad was a cheater when I was 15, but by then it was already going on for 16 years( including my kindergarten teacher, the babysitter, his intern etc). Whenever people ask me whether I'd rather have them divorce sooner I... Just don't know. I had a stable happy childhood. Idk how it would have been had she left him. If I'd find out my husband cheated it would be a REALLY tough decision to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 10:52 PM
8

I am 32. If I would be dating I'd date 38-42. My SO is 42. From 18 to 21, I preferred 5 years older. That slowly got stretched to 10 years older. When I was 22 I still thought a 30 year old men was old and I wasn't attracted to them at all, but by 27 I could find a 35 year old attractive. Biggest age difference was 12 years. They need to be in top shape tough. Ripped, good face. My SO looks a lot like Mark Consuelos, that's the type of older guy I'm into. The average 40 year old wouldn't stand a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 08:02 PM
2

It's very very personal. Some women are size queens who can only get off on a huge one, some women are influenced to the point where they consider it manly and need to see a big dick to be impressed. I'm personally neither and prefer average, and I know there are many women like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 11:45 AM
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I red somewhere it only has a 10% chance of succeeding in getting a relationship to work again where it would have not without therapy. BUT I take marriage seriously especially when there are children involved. In that case, 10% is better than nothing, worth the not-dragging-my-kids-through-divorce. So I'd do it. Also because if you still decide to divorce the counselor can help you work through that as civilized as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 12:45 AM
2

When I was in highschool /college, boys, even the ones unattractive themselves, would definitely say demeaning things about big noses, small tits etc. Now today I know they were probably talking out of insecurity, but you know, it's what girls hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 04:50 PM
6

I've been left for someone else but I knew her and I knew they were ment for each other while him and me couldn't make it work. As painful as it was I wasn't offended. Now what would have offended me is if he had left me for a short term fling. That also would have been worse than being left for no one.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 01:19 PM
7

In Afghanistan, men deal with their sexual desires by raping little boys. While I think virgin marriage has his upsides, it's a hard cringe when someone points out Afghanistan (or Saudi Arabia and the likes for that matter) as a culture that would "know what to do". I think it speaks volumes that the more developed a nation, the more relaxed they are about sex. That was even true hundreds of years ago, Golden Age Holland was pretty ok with living together before marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 10:50 AM
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This. When the troops invade, those troops consist of men, which means men generally don't have the option of staying in the clear by just dating someone under the winning flag. If they could, a lot of them would. Most people care about their own ass more than they care about the future of their country. I love my country but I'm certainly not dying for it, wtf.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/19 10:25 PM
4

Environment could definitely be a factor. But from where I stand, I see a very strong correlation between "women who willfully get knocked up out of wedlock" and "women who are generally unstable/slutty/don't care much for monogamy". It's not a 100 percent match. I'm sure you can find a unicorn who is a great partner but also okay with being a forever girlfriend. But I personally wouldn't bet on it.,
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 09:04 PM
13

Well, yes, but also, any man with an ounce of self respect would choose a woman to mother his children who isn't the type to let herself get knocked up out of wedlock / doesn't come from a family where that is a-okay and her daddy doesn't care whether she has a ring on her finger.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 08:26 PM
2

True rape fantasies don't really exist, in the sense that, if it's YOUR fantasy, if it's YOUR mind that has decided you want this... well then it isn't really rape because rape is defined by being unconsensual. If you want it, it is not rape by default. What women are really fantasizing about when they're fantasizing about "rape" is: - Someone taking control - Someone being in to them to the point where they can't control themselves and the most important part... - No consequences in the sense o…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 09:38 PM
2

But i always wonder: how much percent of the men get swiped on, at least once? No, it isn't 14 percent, women swipe right on 14% of the profiles they see, that isn't *the same* 14 percent. I know that because I swiped left on tons of men that I DO deem attractive, simply because they didn't seem like my type otherwise, or maybe they seemed arrogant or whatever. People on her always pretend like Swiping Left = I Don't Find You Attractive but there's plenty of other reasons why I wouldn't want to …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 08:11 PM
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The challenge in dating for women was never in finding men, but in asssessing correctly whether he is going to marry you or not. Getting 100 matches on Tinder is like getting 100 job offers to work on garbage trucks: nice, but no, thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 04:21 PM
5

I'm sure there are faces out there that cannot be saved, but overall men can get away with a pretty beat face if they're buffed, in comparison to women. Look at Sylvester Stallone's droopy eyelids and wonky nose . Do you think a woman with a similar level face would become a world wide sex symbol? I'd go as far as saying the ONLY real problem a man can have with his face, that is not forgivable as soon as he has muscles, is an extremely weak chin. That really kills it. And height will always be …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 02:04 PM
6

Chicken or the egg? People who aren't that intouch with their sexual feelings will be more likely to be low-n
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/19 11:10 PM
2

There are those men that constantly get involved with hot messes / bpd girls / gold diggers, but there is a more common variant: the man who marries a nagger. I used to think men with nagging wives kinda fell into that situation, like those women changed after marriage, but seeing the men around me marry that's not true at all. My brother dated a nagging bitch for years and complained about her for the entire lenght of the relationship. Then he broke up with her and within 3 months was dating an…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 03:25 PM
3

I need him to have had all the fun he needed to have in his mind, whether that's 10 or 100 girls. If not you know that mid life crisis is going to kick in. The guys I know who married young all get that eager, slightly desperate look in their eyes when other guys talk about their adventures with chicks. And if a pretty girl comes in you can almost see the drool come out of their mouth. If I was their wife I'd be worried for any low point in their marriage. My SO has been fucking since he was 15,…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 12:27 AM
1

Im not talking about casual sex, but the difference between waiting 2 weeks or 3 weeks
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 10:17 PM
1

Men think 100% of the reason why women don't have sex with them as fast as some other guy is attraction. For me it had more to do with relaxation. If I'm super duper into somebody I get insecure and I don't want to ruin it and will push back the sex until I'm a little less uncomfortable and maybe throw in some extra gym sessions in there lol. Then there's having an important work day the next day or not, how does my stomach feel, did the wine maybe hit a little too hard and am I feeling dizzy, i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 07:49 PM
5

I think opinions like this have been around forever, but basically you either kept it in the locker room, or wrote a book about it, no in between.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 06:51 PM
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You know what would "feel like losing" for a woman? To find out your love is only in a relationship with you or even married you cuz it's the only way to get his dick wet. Holy shit. That's just as bad as the woman who made him wait for what others got right away, so it seems like the two hypothetical people in this relationship are even.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 06:40 PM
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mgtow doesn't give the signal to women OP is looking for. They oppose women as a whole, not "if you fit the standards I'd still want to marry you". If an overweight woman glances at some mgtow content the message she is going to take is just "it's not me, they refuse every woman".If you want women as a whole to be thinner and what not, the only way is to solely date the thin ones and ignore the fat ones and do so very openly. Though, now that I think about it, most of the fat girls I know alread…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 11:17 AM
1

I don't know, I don't think so because I never asked him to be exclusive. So probably not. But I don't know if it makes a difference because who says he wasnt seeing other girls during the relationship...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 06:44 PM
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Yes. I was in my early 20s and superfit, he wasn't so much so maybe it was insecurity on his side.. I tried everything to please him. I was weirded out by it. He just didn't seem interested. We broke up, about a year later briefly reconciled and ended up having a sort of fwb thing going on, this time sex was suddenly no problem... I asked him about it later, he said he didn't know what had happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 10:04 AM
3

If I need to explain it to a guy I usually compare it to being approached by sales people. Not the end of the world, but pretty annoying if it happens at every streetcorner. Not repulsive though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 12:58 AM
7

I know that, but ive seen a lot of comments on ppd along the line of "all the women i know don't have hobbies, they're only into makeup"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 01:48 PM
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"Men seem to have very specific interests and get into the minutiae of those interests quickly and easily. " A lot of women do this with hair, makeup, nails, fashion or interior decorations, but those aren't considered true hobbies by men because they're not considered usefull by them. A guy who collects 3578 different toy cars with slightly different designs is considered to have a hobby, but women who have nail polish collections like that are considered vain idiots. I think a lot of men also …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/19 10:35 AM
10

Each and every woman I know had to 1. wait for her partner and 2. Wait for the right financial circumstances. To have both of them in order before 30 is rare. It's mostly men that don't want to. I got settled down at 22 and would have loved a baby then, but my 24 yo partner wasn't ready. I don't know a whole lot of men who want children before they are 30, so if you don't want to push them or date much older, youll have to wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 11:26 AM
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Everytime I hear someone claim that women lied about being into hot guys, I think about how when I was in highschool, Cosmogirl would have hot, shirtless guys as their center fold, and then we would use those as book covers. Covered in pink glittery heart stickers. And cover our rooms with them. And talk about hot guys openly. This was common practice in the 00s, idk if teenage girls are still doing this, but I feel like we were pretty clear on the matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 12:43 AM
4

as a tall woman, I think I just don't neccessarily equate height with masculinity
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 04:28 PM
3

If that were true you'd see 0 change until about age 27 or so. Yet our tastes in guys between, say, age 17 and 22 are already dramatically different.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/19 04:33 PM
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If you approach 1 girl before and after getting ripped, I cannot guarantee you youll have success. If you approach 100 girls before and after getting ripped, I can almost guarantee youll be more succesfull, the almost only being in extremely terrible character or hygiëne factors or being very very small (under 5,3). For most guys, get ripped certainly is good advice or at least a good start. You won't get any girl, but youll get more on average.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/19 08:45 PM
9

I used to be into attractive guys who listened to the same bands as me. Now I'm into attractive guys who have a carreer, a house, developed some taste and are responsible adults like I am. Why are you guys so surprised a grown up woman is into grown up men? I mean, actually, 18 year old me would've preferred a guy with his own appartment too, but I was dating 21 max, so, yeah. You settle for less when you're younger because young boys cannot be expected to offer you everything yet. A lot of wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/19 09:50 AM
4

This. No long term potential.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/19 06:03 PM
8

For the same reason it's better to be completely repulsive to men, then it is to be just on the line where she's good enough to get their dick wet but too ugly to be seen in public with. Like girls with hot bodies but ugly faces, they're doomed to be pumped and dumped.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/19 12:22 AM
6

I'm from Europe so not sure about the US but our porn was very much hardcore. When i renovated an old house and removed the floor boards I found a whole stack of porn books from 1960-1970. I used to think that porn from that era was just nipples, nooo it was 16 year old girls spread eagle, also lots of stories of how women just looved anal and being tied up and all. Pictures of threesomes, dp. From the stickers I could see it was sold at normal bookstores and kiosks- though probably under the co…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/19 06:59 PM
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Lookswise, I might resort to steroids and / or plastic surgery. Or: work a niche. Ive heard asian types do well if they dive full on into the k-pop world, for instance, it's the only world where youll find (white) girls fetishizing asian guys. Goth, environmentalist, animal activist, vegan, band that is populair with a small-but-significant crowd, 50s style and/or Lindy hop enthusiast are some other options.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 11:54 PM
3

Just like so far ive been 100% accurate at the "is she going to accuse him of abuse and bleed him dry in the divorce even though she was the one cheating?" game, but men are somehow totally caught offguard by that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 11:12 PM
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I feel like a lot of people here are really young and think that people are either good or bad and nothing in between and no one changes. Oh boy. I'm sorry but you can be in your early 20s and be a great partner with a really great significant other and then things happen like your parents die, the market crashes, you have two children who wake up 6 times a night for 6 years, you go bankrupt, your child has an illness, you have an illness, the carreer you've always dreamed of doesn't work out et…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 11:08 PM
6

I always see this argument "they have more options". So? What an uber simplified thought that the amount of options would mean you'd have to choose right. So many more variables are involved. You have to know what good traits are, then you have to know how they are displayed, then you have to know what it looks like if someone is faking those right traits, and hiding bad ones, and last but not least you have to predict how some 21 year old boy is going to change over the next 20 - 40 years. This…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 10:38 PM
3

People who are truly funny and can make you laugh all night keep me in this sort of "high" which definitely makes them a little more attractive. It's just only going to work for people juuust on that borderline, someone can go about 1 point up the smv scale for me when I get to know them. So a 6 could become attractive to me, but a 5 not, and an 8 well it doesn't matter he was already there.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 07:55 PM
12

considering that I am taller than the average woman, make more than the average woman (and more than the average man) , love doing heavy weightlifting at the gym and have a fairly athletic build to begin with, I think the male version of me would have the basics down. My brother who is my male equivalent certainly never had problems getting girls. I would invest heavily in a large social circle in college, it's easiest to get to know women in your social circle. I would move to a bigger city aft…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 07:51 PM
14

Most people around me agree that it's fine to shop around a bit and look for the very best you can get, as long as you take in consideration that 1. If you've been looking for years and can't find anyone or they don't want you, you're taking the demands too far and 2. Once you're comitted you don't leave that person just because you've perceived someone else as slightly better.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/19 03:20 AM
2

Just dinner, varying from cool millenial eaters to chique restaurants, both are fine with me. I think ive only done just drinks once, the guy was seeing a lot of women through OLD and said he wanted to take it easy and just see if there's a spark first. So we just had a quick coffee but once we established we were cool irl he took me on a really cool date two days later (lunch then indoor skydiving then dinner).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/19 09:37 PM
1

25%. I divide smv equally, so 7,5+ is the top 25%.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/19 10:50 AM
3

For me personally, personality can bring a man one point up or down, but no more. So someone I initially on looks alone perceived as 7/10 can become anything between a 6 and an 8. ~7,5 ish is what's fuckable to me, so, in the end, of you're a 7, great personality will do the trick. If you're a 5 though, it won't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/19 12:16 AM
1

I'm sure attractive men will have more opportunity to cheat and probably cheat more, but then again, in this fictional society where more women would be in satisfying relationships they would have less opportunities to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 11:55 AM
3

If I look at the relationships where the man is actually all that the women mostly seem very very happy unless he's a cheater/asshole. Also speaking for myself. But it would really depend on whether he's good to her. 50% chads who all pump and dump would be an even bigger mess.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 11:29 AM
2

Never said i was german. Dutch. As with any criminal activity youll never have the exact number, but researchers that estimated that 50-90% of the women were forced. After this report came out some sites were closed, but still in the past few years there have been 120 more criminal court cases of trafficking and that's on the Red Light district in Amsterdam alone. If you know how small that area is, and if you realize that "cases that actually make it to court" are just the tip of the iceberg, p…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/19 12:09 AM
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Prostitution IS legal in my country, it IS heavily regulated by the government and human trafficking is still a huge problem. Womens concerns for exploitation of vulnerable women are correct. It's incredibly hard to regulate. Gangs will threaten a womens entire family back in eastern europe, that our country can't protect, so even if you have a woman come in all by herself to get a permit, she'll say all the right things to the police and social workers. This is an industry not for normal citize…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/19 04:59 AM
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I get why you feel that way, but I do hope you realize that if there are 200 women at a gig and 20 of them throw themselves at you, there's still 180 women just sipping their drink minding their business. I red an article a while ago with ex-prostitutes and all of them agreed men=bad and all married men=lying cheaters, I can only roll my eyes at that. See things in perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 08:21 PM
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There have been numerous studies on the subject with varying outcomes but ive never seen one where the number of cheaters exceeded 50% of the whole. So it's still more normal to not cheat than to cheat. Here are some numbers on the subject in marriages
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 06:15 PM
6

Idk about extroverted people as a whole, but Ive noticed that overly expressive women, you know, the ones dancing on the bar and always the loudest person in the room, desperate for attention, often have less attractive partners, because i figure they're the only ones who put up with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/19 11:22 AM
2

I don't know, there's feelings and there's ratio. I am aware of the statistical possibility of him cheating, but if I'd had to go with my gut I'd say i can completely trust him.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/19 08:03 AM
1

more options you can vet people before you've even started a conversation with them. I hate turning people down and I'm bad at cutting people off. In real life, id start talking to a guy, realize he wasn't a good match for me and then still be stuck talking to him for the rest of the night because i was too shy to blow people off. In OLD, a lot of dealbreaker info (job, age, does he have kids already etc) is listed and you can find out more if you're good at doing research. So. Much. Easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 08:39 PM
3

He has hit the wall physically imo, though he looks better than the average 60 yo. But if he was a regular Joe with those looks he wouldn't be dating a young girl. He actually looks pretty much like my dad, who is the same age, but has an average income. My dad is dating a well preserved, thin 49-year old, and he doesn't get attention from anyone younger than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 11:32 PM
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IME, less attractive dudes feel like they have to jump on every opportunity to have sex, because they get so little or nothing just thrown at them. They'll settle because "at least this chick likes me and ill have someone to fuck" and then they'll cheat the second they get offered easy sex by someone (IF that happens offcourse). A guy who has seen it all and fucked around much has the power to turn a girl down.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 06:26 AM
11

Perfectly possible in my personal experience. I dated hot guy - not so hot guy - then hot guy again and there's actually little difference in how I felt. In the same category, Ive done xtc in the past which makes you experience a level of happiness that just isn't physically possible without it, and I'm still able to be truly happy and cheerfull while super sober. It's like wine after whiskey: pretty sour if you drink it right after each other, but wait a week or even a day and the wine will tas…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 11:39 PM
10

I think being a trophy wife is only shameful if you're not really attracted by him. If you manage to find a guy you're really in love with and on top of that you never have to work again, why not. Men like to act like they're above this but if they had a real chance of finding an attractive woman who would let them do whatever they wanted with their day forever, they'd jump on the opportunity just as hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 04:40 PM
6

The top guy is definitely a 9 to me, the top two girls are 9&8. Asian/black guys are hard for me to judge, just not into. To me, this is a male 7 and this a female 7 (Judged purely on the pictures I posted, both of these actors have other pictures where they look more attractive)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/19 02:19 PM
2

5-6 inches i honestly don't like em big. My SO is 7,5-8 ish inches. I hope childbirth rips apart my vagina because this isn't exactly comfortable so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 07:53 PM
2

If it feels like they're squeezing, they probably are. A vagina is a "tube" of tissue with muscles surrounding it. That's why vagina size is so hard to measure: she could have the world's biggest vagina, if she's good at squeezing the muscles around it, it will feel tight. If she regularly exercises the muscles (doing kegels), they'll tighten up and make the whole thing "smaller". A lot of women unintentionally squeeze too, when they're nervous. And at the same time, if she's very aroused and re…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 07:49 PM
2

The argument that school shooters are a victim of some vain society falls when you find out a lot of the school shooters weren't ugly at all. Society hasn't done anything to them, it's in their behavior. I could feel bad for a boy who was born with all the wrong features, but I know so many many guys who look worse than Elliot Rodgers or Dylan Klebold and have girlfriends - not supermodels but girls that aren't overweight and have at least an average face.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 04:07 PM
1

2 out of 4 were. Cotillard is a French actress, Lancaster was never a real model
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 03:12 PM
5

Laetitia Casta at 40 Amber Lancaster at 37 Miranda Kerr at 36 Marion Cotillard at 42
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 02:39 PM
7

When girls are really dead set on a particular niche it can work. As much as soy boys are a laughing stock here, I've seen guys like that punch above their weight because the vegan girls they were dating are just refusing to date a non vegan or couldn't stay in a relationship with one because meat eaters hate their nagging too much. I've also seen this with devout muslims and Christians, especially the hardcore reborn type. Obvious downside is all these people are annoying and you'll have to cha…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 11:01 PM
3

I don't know a single high value man with a lot of options who dates low self esteem woman. Only betas or sub 7s who still want to date pretty. You mean: men still prefer women with low self esteem, when the choice is between that or a high self esteem less attractive woman
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 06:40 PM
6

Whether that's true or not, that's a different discussion. Let's keep it at "very beautiful high self esteem woman" then. It's like seeing an average woman showing pictures of her very handsome 6'4 man, but then you find out he's in prison. You'd think "lol what a loser he's never gonna date her when he's outside ". That's what we see when you date girls that settle for you because they have mental issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 06:16 PM
15

If high self esteem women are apparently bitchy to you, and only low self esteem women can tolerate you, then you're a beta / loser. That's the insult; they're calling you a beta / loser. True alphas can date a gorgeous, intelligent model with skyrocketing selfesteem and still be treated like a king by her.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 06:00 PM
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The kind of girls i see nerds fawn over still fit all the beauty criteria models fit, except they like, wear glasses and their hair isn't wavy Victoria's Secret curls. The girls that are born with really unattractive features are forgotten by everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/19 05:05 PM
2

face body I'm a total Stacy. And yes my SO closely resembles these #blessed
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 10:46 PM
44

When people here say, "the wall does not exist" they mean, "this concept that trp build around aging is not or not entirely correct ", they don't deny 100% that aging has any impact. There are debates here on the impact of the wall, there are debates here about the exact age, but no one is actually denying age has any impact. If they were, they'd argue there's no difference between dating a 60 year old and a 25 year old, and I've never seen anyone here argue that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 08:25 PM
13

I know half this thread is going to be "get a religious girl" so let me tell you, I'm from a church community where girls stay virgin until they get married at ~19-23 and: the best girls there marry guys that are virgins too, if you're not then you'd get second choice anyway, also you'd have to be VERY convincing that you're really religious and be ready to keep up that lifestyle forever. If you suddenly enter a community like that they'd probably distrust you for the first years and then try to…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 09:24 AM
22

It's mostly for the lower class tbh. I know people who look old at 30 but we're talking white trash that has been smoking since they were 13 and haven't had a vegetable in years. Though I have to say girls my generation used a lot of tanning beds and that definitely shows at 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 10:40 AM
1

No but I mean, the real question would be "what is all I need to have to get a partner". Now they're just looking for "the one thing" but it's not one thing, it's multiple, and it doesn't really matter what weighs heaviest of you need the whole package anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 10:41 PM
-2

Why are people here always looking for what matters "the most"? It doesn't matter. If you really want to attract decent people of your preferred gender, BOTH looks and personality matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 09:51 PM
4

There are, but if if you're left at 40 with a couple kids, there's a real chance you'll never find a relationship with someone you're really into again. For me, and for most women, no amount of money can salve being alone for the second HALF of your life, to be traded in and seeing your family fall apart... That's why I would never take the risk. I'm not one of those women who'd say oh I'll just bleed him dry ahaha... I want love.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 12:24 PM
0

I don't? I just wouldn't want to be left single?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 08:49 AM
1

True true
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 08:28 PM
81

Already established. I've seen too many men who "make it" and then subsequently trade up their woman, never mind that she was there for 15+ plus years. I know trp likes to pretend that men men are righteous angels who will be forever grateful to the woman who loved them when they were a poor student, but reality is that they'll "suddenly come to the realisation that we've grown apart" or something
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 06:23 PM
2

He's very masculine I'm very feminine, we do believe in traditional roles, but in reality things don't really work out for us that way. He's lived on his own for 10+ years and he's a clean person, and we work on different times thus are home different times so he"ll be cleaning often enough. He's the kind of person who has always called in professionals for even a simpel shelf to be hanged, Ive had a fixer upper before where I learned a lot, so in reality I handle the toolbox. And we both like c…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 11:09 PM
1

I guess just being introverted and I was an ugly , invisible teen. If you've dreamed of having a boyfriend all your teens I guess you get excited too soon. But also I grew up christian and our world was very much sunshine rainbows happiness jesus saves, so I guess I was raised to see the best in people - which I still try to do, nothing wrong with that in itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 04:27 PM
2

Short answer: because I can. If you have a lot of options why not pick the very best one. But also: i will fall in love and see everything with pink colored glasses, and I can get attached pretty damn hard and it's hard for me to let go of someone. I also wanted to keep my n count low. So I tried everything in my power to avoid becoming attached to someone who wasn't it. It worked well for me, my partner is everything, don't feel like ive settled at all and haven't run in to some terrible dealbr…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/19 04:09 PM
8

it's just cute seeing a man being a sweet dad. I can just look at that like "aww" (just like i sometimes look at moms cuddling their babies). Doesn't have anything to do with flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 10:08 PM
2

As soon as we're a match: Check all social media and the social media of his friends. Check all the photos he has liked through a graph search (not possible anymore). If he has liked a lot of girls pictures he is cut off immediatly. Search phone number, sometimes shit comes up. With dating apps that showed distances I would track their location constantly (through triangulation) to see what kind of places he hangs out, his neighbourhood etc. I used to work at a large company that half of our cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 01:05 PM
3

Offcourse! This is one of the first things you learn when you turn about 13: Never. ever. look strange men in the eyes. It's not about the 99/100 with whom that would be fine, it's about that other one that will chase you for the next three blocks. Or, in a party situation, who will stick to you like glue and if you tell him to go make a scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 11:02 AM
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and what is "unsatisfied " for a teenage boy? I've had guys confess they'd jerk off 5 times a day when they were in their teens, is it even possible for them to be sexually satisfied?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 08:12 PM
8

Men are already complaining there aren't enough attractive women, but then they get hit with "but you guys are overweight too look at the numbers" and I think he's trying to prove that to be wrong. However. Men's body attractiveness isn't just measured by amount of fat, a skinny guy is not considered very attractive. Men need (some) muscle tone, so you'd need to take that into consideration if you want to prove a point who's more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 07:25 AM
2

It's estimated that the success rate of a vasectomy reversal is: “75% if you have your vasectomy reversed within 3 years up to 55% after 3 to 8 years between 40% and 45% after 9 to 14 years 30% after 15 to 19 years less than 10% after 20 years” https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/contraception/vasectomy-reversal-nhs/
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 08:53 PM
6

Take too seriously : male friends. I've had male friends AND female all my life. I click with both and I don't shut amazing people out just because they have a penis. Has always worked fine for me. Never once fucked a friend and I don't see that with other women who have male friends either. Now if a woman has male friends because she hates women and women hate her THAT'S a red flag. Not seriously enough: not being able to apologize / admit wrong doing. To me this is the ONE SIMPLE TRICK that ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 07:48 PM
2

Upping the age to 21 had shown a decrease in forced prostitution. Loverboys and pimps get to vulnerable(mental disorders, low iq, abused) girls when they're very young and groom them to work for them. A 21 year old has a little bit more backbone and life experience. It doesn't solve everything but 21 year olds are definitely harder to traffic than 18 year olds. Given the fact that girls hardly ever work more than a few years or even months in prostitution when they do it voluntarily, they still …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 11:19 AM
3

Depends on what you'll call a hoe phase. The average sex life of the girls i know are like ; 1.Serious boyfriend for 4 years 2. 6 months to a year in which they'll have an on and off "boyfriend", have sex with the ex a few times, have a one night stand, have a two week stand on vacation, fuck a coworker on a drunken Christmas event 3. Serious boyfriend who turns into their husband. They'll refer to phase 2 as their hoe phase, and if you'd only know them in those 6-12 months, you'd think they're …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 10:26 PM
3

I'm seeing a friend go through this. He's been fucking literally hundreds of models when he was between age 18 and 38. After that, he noticed it was becoming harder and decided to settle down, but the problem was the girl he'd marry had to have EVERYTHING the other girls had and more. But who is that girl when you've even pumped and dumped our country's miss universe? So he went on dating dozens of girls when he was between age 38 and 44, but still hasn't found her offcourse. In the meantime, he…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 02:12 PM
3

Arnold Schwarzenegger, John Cena and Wladimir Klitschko are attractive to women who prefer muscles above all. This is a rather large group of women but certainly not all. With anything, you'll never attract 100% of women. Name anything and there will be girls not into it. The problem with some guys is that they want to have a perfect goal where, if they look like that, they'll never get turned down anymore. That doesn't exist. Choose a niche and enjoy the women who are into that niche. But to an…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 02:03 PM
6

It's more just an excuse. "I'm not looking for a relationship right now " sounds nicer than"the thought of having sex with you repulses me" which is the real answer. I don't think trp fully understands this yet, they're still thinking all young women hate commitment or something, when really ; If "Chad" or whatever her ideal man is, proposed to her at 21, 99,9% of women would say yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 07:45 PM
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Nah I think there's plenty who'd like the relationship. It's just that they don't realize that with that comes 1. Marrying young 2. Marrying quick, within like 2 years 3. Not having sex for all the time prewedding 4. Not having a clue whether she's really into sex 5. Preferably being a virgin yourself There is ONE group of guys for whom this sounds fine and that's guys who are having 0 sex or even attention from women currently. Like, sure, they'll wait another couple years. So it ends up with o…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 09:29 PM
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Because virgin wife material is a fantasy and not what people want in real life. I come from a conservative back ground and I know quite a few girls who stayed 100% pure until marriage and I'll tell you one thing: the trp promise that it's easy for a girl to find a loyal husband if she's a virgin is a blatant lie. It was very, very hard for them to find a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 09:04 PM
1

I'm referring to a situation where the woman is intending on a relationship and the man is aware of that but intentionally only sleeps with her and leaves. If the guy goes in with the intention of a relationship too, but concludes it doesn't work for him, that's not being used. Also if he's honest about his intentions to just have sex prior, that wouldn't be using either.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 01:26 PM
2

Women like to be direct. I'd like to be direct when turning a man down but the thing is that often leads to agression. Not with all men, no, but enough for it to be too much of a risk. When it comes to asking a man out that's a whole 'nother discussion whether women should make the first move. I don't personally believe in it. I think it puts you into a bigger risk of being used, like the guy is going to be " well she doesn't do much for me but she is on a fuckable level and she's already into m…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 11:34 AM
6

Similar to a fuckboy but without the cocky attitude. The Softboy will butter a girl up by appealing to her emotions and showing a "sensitive" side long enough for her to sleep with him, whether or not he actually cares about her or not. Then, like the fuckboy, he can't/won't commit. I feel like that's a version of the "troubled" personality. I know when I was younger you had guys that fit this description, but they would be too "troubled" to be in a relationship. Too depressed, "I don't deserve …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 11:17 AM
7

I have to say, i have a good set of shoulders, build muscle easily, am relatively tall for a woman (5,7) and every guy I've ever dated has patted me on the broad shoulders and said something like "you'll make good babies". Then ask about my brothers. I'll tell them they're tall and muscular. "Good, good..."
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 08:59 PM
1

Currently in a relationship, but up untill 2 years ago: At what rate do you swipe right? About 1 in every 100-200 guys How many matches do you get a day? As soon as I had 2 guys in the queue, I'd stop swiping so I wouldn't know. If you swiped right on everyone, how many matches would you have? Tinder would sometimes let me know " X amount of people liked you since" and from that I know about 800-1100 guys a week would swipe right on me. A different dating app gave me about 200 likes a day. If yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 11:47 AM
1

Well most people become the best version of themselves when they're in love. You forget about your troubles for a while, it's impossible to be cranky, you have tons of energy. That's just good old infatuation. I don't really know how I'd be around an unattractive partner though because I... don't date them?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 11:33 AM
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Sounds like you just like to live an alternative lifestyle. Why make this about women? If a woman would choose to live alone on a boat noone would be like "ooh, it's because she's had enough of men".
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/19 07:31 PM
5

Dating got much easier for me as I got to my late 20s just because I grew up. I was extremely shy and introverted as a young girl and internet dating wasn't around yet, and I wasn't really into clubbing. So my options were limited. As I got older I had more options because I could internet date and got the confidence to actually go out with a stranger. So I could actually pick the kind of guy I really wanted. My dating goals were always the same; I always wanted an ltr with the option to forever…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 12:25 PM
5

Everytime I see stories like this online everybody is angry about it, including women. The law is at fault here, I don't know a single woman who'd agree a rape victim would have to pay. About the cum stealing: that's largely a myth. Sperm dies outside of the body in minutes. So if you just cuddle for a few minutes after you're in the clear. That girl that got pregnant by Boris Becker pulled it off by keeping the cum inside her mouth - the mouth provides similar conditions as the vagina. So maybe…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/19 03:56 PM
1

I can think of 5. Come to think of it, they were actually all reasonably attractive and above average succesful. It's still rare though. The biggest problem is dating sites / social media where my guy friends filter out girls with kids. It's like short guys : any chance they might have seems to be easier found in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 01:26 PM
15

Whenever there is a huge movement, there will be a counter movement. This is natural human behavior, you can see it with every movement or revolution or reform throughout history. Feminism is so huge there would be something really strange going on if there wasn't a group of people by now who'd argue against (parts of) it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 08:33 AM
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I think that if paper abortion would be possible, a lot of men would sign it even after a planned pregnancy "just to be safe". They would fully intend to financially take care of the kid, they'd just want to decide the exact amount themselves. Which is fair because sometimes child support orders are ridiculously high. But then they'll always have leverage over the woman. You want to leave me? You're not behaving exactly the way I want to? I'll threaten to stop paying. How do I know men will do t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 10:53 AM
1

Yeah none of this sounds new except it happening on the internet
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/19 10:23 PM
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yeah I know many older women, either divorced or widowed, who are living the MGTOW lifestyle but don't really call it that way, my mom and her friends for starters. They've all been alone 10+ years. Even financially men don't mean anything to them anymore, if they were eligable for alimony it has already stopped and their children are grown so they never have to speak to their ex partner anymore. They truly go their own way in the sense that men are just not a factor in their lives. They don't t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 03:25 PM
13

That's not comparable.. There's a huge difference between financially hurting a company or doing something as soul-destroying as rape. I'd rather have everything and anything I've ever worked for stolen from than to be raped
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 05:21 PM
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Can't believe you're the first to mention this. If I look at the average man I know I don't think they're all rapists either but history teaches us a whole damn lot of them will do it if the others are doing it too
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 04:03 PM
1

The first is too young for me to judge, i just see a kid. The second is rrright on the border of where I start to notice someone. I'd say 7 but he's the type where, if he'd turn out to have awesome character, great humor or super intelligent or successful, he'd become super attractive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/19 09:56 PM
1

My so is from a muslim culture. 15 no but he could easily fly to his home country and marry an 18 year old. Probably even 16 year old as long as he waits two years to take her back to the west. He makes good money, he could even have two or more. It would not be frowned upon, hell his family would be happier with her than with my unreligious ass. Even his western friends wouldn't think much of it, it would be explained as a cultural thing. Guess who's marrying 32 year old me (: P.s. This also go…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 02:09 PM
3

I really really don't want to be a single mom, not for myself, not for my kids. I was extremely picky when dating to prevent this. That said if it would happen I would pull myself together and not be devastated, just like the women you described, not because it's not bad but because there's one thing worse than a single mom and that's a single mom who's angry and frustrated about it. I'd try to handle it in the most positive way because that's just the way to go through life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 11:04 AM
1

Early 30s, SO is early 40s
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/19 07:59 AM
1

Yes, though I am pretty mild on what he did pre 25 or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/19 11:17 PM
2

If for the sake of discussion we assume that it's really that black and white, Chad still has kids and I bet he ends up with more than Billy, so your theory would only work if being raised by a low-t man caused being low-t yourself even if you were born with the right genetics. Is there research supporting that?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 07:34 PM
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A man making the first move and forced penetration are worlds apart. Don't pretend that women's preference for the former excuses the latter. God, with this and the underage girls thread, I'm really starting to believe all men are evil
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 01:08 PM
2

If they want to, they can, but the safest way is with same aged peers. Adults should stay out of the equation to avoid a power imbalance.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 11:47 AM
4

When I see an under age girl "sexualizing" herself, I see a child playing make believe. Dress up. They are dipping into the adult world together with their peers at their own pace. For the record when I deliberately dressed up sexy for the first time I was in no way ready to have sex and didn't want to for another 5 years. They're just kids. If she already has female curves and you find yourself accidentally turned on, you can't help that, but just jerk off and go. You don't rationalize child la…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 09:47 AM
3

I know, in this case it's the way the sentences are phrased that gives away that it's a man writing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/19 05:48 PM
23

Lately there's been a lot of "women" posting on reddit with rather typical stories that tick all the terper boxes to a t, and this is another one where "she" doesn't sound like a woman at all. "Testosteron driven"? Lol we don't talk like that!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/19 04:11 PM
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Most men outearn their wives but the wife still contributes money to the household, where she used to contribute $0.She still bears the children and takes the most care of them.She still takes on the majority of the household.She may not be a virgin but will be exclusive (offcourse people can cheat but they could also back then). If you don't like that deal for yourself fine but it doesn't look like he's doing everything and she's doing nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 08:14 PM
7

I mean I guess woman could say "I'm so sorry for you that I am not attracted to you" instead of "I'm not attracted to you" but is that going to cure their loneliness?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 02:43 PM
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But I've seen it framed by that many times in regards to dating "if women just had a little more empathy" and then act like that would really change something - not in regards to being called an asshole. What OP is trying to say is, what is empathy going to get you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 08:03 AM
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Most women don't intentionally date assholes. They just date guys they're into, without thinking about it too much. Just like younger guys btw. Then they get burned a couple times, then take a good hard look at their dating life and that of their friends and are like hmmm Billies are a much better choice if I want this to last and have children. Most people don't like it when they get judged for something they didn't intend to do. The most common heard excuse for everything is "but I didn't mean…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/19 07:37 PM
1

don't forget the historical inaccuracy where old men could all get teenage virgin brides. I only had to trace down my own family history to find out getting married after 25 or even 30 was not impossible in the 1800's at all and most people married someone their own age.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 08:03 PM
2

no that wasn't what I ment, I simply only had sex in relationships. I came out of an ltr and needed some time to get over it, get fresh energy for a new relationship , find someone, start dating etc
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 03:19 PM
8

well I wasn't going to bars all the time. I was mostly hanging out with friends. And even if I was no the idea of banging a stranger was just a no-go. If you've never done that and don't want to do that theres a huge emotional barrier which isn't easily overturned by some horniness. Guys were throwing themselves at me all the time but all my attraction goes down the gutter when someone approaches women on the street, I've never fucked a beggar like that. I simply got out of an ltr and it took me…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 03:17 PM
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I've found that people who don't have a lot of sex think everybody else is going at it like rabbits. I worked with a guy who was unattractive when I was about 23 and looked very good. I was your typical blonde, tan fitgirl. We were discussing sex with a couple drunk coworkers at a tgif, and I had gone about 9 months without sex at that time, and he straight up would not believe it. Just wouldn't. In his mind, being attractive enough to have sex and not doing it, even though you want it, wasn't p…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 10:15 AM
2

If my hypothetical son looks and acts like his father he'll have no problem attracting girls. We are both fit people with an active lifestyle that we intend to pass on to our kids. I can't really give any further advice on how to attract a girl , like what to say exactly, because it's so different every generation. I will tell him it's not ok to use people , ever, also not girls even though you can. I'll try and teach him to respect women , altough I don't think you should press it too much or y…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 09:33 AM
1

No, for me, looks are the first hoop you have to jump through, after that, everything is equal. A 8/10 with great personality > a 10/10 with less interesting personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 01:28 PM
4

Women have more ways to improve their looks and they use them more. If you take away all the makeup and hair colouring and what not I'm pretty sure it works out.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 04:19 PM
12

I don't think it's weird on paper for a man to want a virgin, however, all of the guys I know who care a lot about virginity are assholes and low SMV and I don't think it's a coincidence. Most sane, kind, empathetic men, the kind you want to marry, - and coincidentally have high SMV - are in the category of "I don't want the town whore but if she's had a boyfriend before me oh well".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 08:10 AM
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I don't agree that having a few drinks or being a little tipsy makes it rape. But if someone isn't capable of making coherent sentences anymore and can't walk a straight line then it should be a no. Yes people intoxicate themselves but even that isn't always intentional. When I started out I drank too much by accident sometimes. I think everybody has been there where you're inexperienced and you take a few too many while sitting down and then it hits you when you get up. Do you really think that…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 07:55 AM
2

He doesn't plan ahead and forgets to inform me about things. He can do whatever he wants, but it's annoying it's always last minute "oh we have a birthday tonight, didn't I tell you? Really thought I told you". He's jealous, not in an agressive way or anything, but it can put him in a bad mood. I've deleted my social media, I was tired of him getting cranky anytime a goddamn stranger liked my posts or other things I had no influence on.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 10:41 AM
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I don't put much thought into it. My so is at 50 or so , im glad he's had his fun and it's a sign for me he's setteling down with me bc he wants to settle down and not bc it's the only way to get pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 09:54 PM
4

both are hated by some and loved by some. Pretty sure there's a huge overlap between the people that hate on Logan Paul and the people that hate on Belle Delphine, and a huge overlap between those who love them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 10:28 AM
2

Sure, as you do with any person that's been important in the past. But no more than i think about old friends and not in a different way.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/19 04:02 PM
3

In the end, no. After being broken up with by someone you loved, everyone feels like they're never going to find somebody else who will make them feel that way / no one can compare to your ex blabla. I've gone through that twice but the feeling subsided. I had one serious ex that took me a full year to get over and I definitely felt like he was going to be "the one that got away" forever and ever. But I eventually got over him , became happy again, met somebody, fell in love again, and nowadays …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/19 02:48 PM
2

If a man decides he's just not feeling it anymore, he's a deadbeat asshole who abandoned his family. He's the sleazy stereotype of the guy who trades his wife in for the younger model. If a woman decides she's not feeling it anymore, it must have been his fault. He's a loser who wasn't giving her what she needed. Or maybe he was abusive. ​ Ehh maybe it's cultural (northern europe here) but where I live a women who leaves is judged much harsher than men. A man who leaves his family for the hot yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/19 07:52 AM
2

Second this. Why would it only be possible for top 10 percent men? If you can get one woman to fuck you when you try hard enough you can fuck two of you try hard enough really. I know a 6/10 guy who is openly poly, he dates two women that are ~5/6 ish and fucks anything between a 3 and the occasional 7 (when he gets lucky) next to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 04:11 PM
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Idk about the podcasts and shows, but I dont care for the love letters actual serial killers get. People get all worked up about it but these guys stories go all over the world, easily 10 million women will read about them so it's only natural they get a few dozen love letters. There will always be a % of crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 09:03 PM
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I feel like a man's ideal society would be one where half of the women where uncontrollable sluts who put out for anyone, and the other half would be virginal wife material. They don't want to pick, and they don't realize that living in THAT society would mean half of the men cannot form a family. (I know there are men that really don't want children, so they wouldn't have a problem, but I bet that number is much smaller than 50%)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 12:30 PM
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I tried for 5 months once. I listened to everybody telling me I should just "give him a chance" and then I felt well this isn't so bad maybe the feelings will emerge later. I never felt more than friendship and I felt really lonely being with someone without the spark. Worst mistake ever. Though I was honest about my feelings towards him, I still feel like I led him on and I know I hurt him.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/19 08:03 AM
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Neither. It's just that he has to have something special I guess. Per example I would totally stare at Oscar Isaac , while I wouldn't be so intrigued by Justin Hartley, though both of them are in the same top 1% league. I can see and acknowledge Hartley is 10/10, his face just doesn't make me stare. I guess this is where women and men really differ, for men, a top 10% beautiful girl = automatic attraction even if she's blond and he really has a thing for latinas. For women it's more complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 02:30 PM
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I look at beautiful women more than I look at beautiful men, despite being straight. It will happen maybe twice a year where I'll think "wow, that guy is really attractive".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 09:32 AM
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I think you look for someone who can be a sane, faithfull partner. Someone who has been with 100s of guys before you. She's been gang-banged, spit roasted... the whole works probably isn't going to be that, but lucky for you triple digits & gangbang girls are incredibly rare. (Seriously why do people always have to drag in into the extreme, just makes you look like an incel who thinks the world of normies is one big porn fantasy). ​ The average mid twenties girl will have had one or two serious …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 09:36 AM
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29 as an average is great. ​ I'd be worried if the average would be 35, because that would mean there's probably a rather large group of late 30's early 40's moms and we'd have high medical costs because of a higher than usual number of fertility treatments and medical issues with the pregnancy/baby. I'd also be worried if the average would be 23 because that would mean there are probably a lot of teen moms or moms in college, many people having babies before they're emotionally and financially …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 03:50 PM
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I think it's important to realize that the fact that (almost) ALL rich ugly men have beautiful women, doesnt mean ALL (beautiful) women would fuck an ugly rich guy for his money. That's not how the numbers work. Being a rich celebrity is so rare, if 10% of all women are gold diggers these guys are still drowning in pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 09:41 AM
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It depends on the area you live, I guess Miami isn't going to fly. But where I live only ~20% of guys are really fit. Most are either soft skinny or fat. There's plenty girls for whom body>face - I know I'm one of them - so that's who you go for.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 10:29 AM
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I wouldn't have to change that much. ​ If I was a straight average male in his early 30s, I'd hit the gym as much as I do now as a woman (4-5 times a week, mostly heavy weightlifting), just less focus on the butt and more on the arms. Boom now I'm in the top 20% looks wise. I'd spend about 25% of the time I spend now on other looks-related things, so I'd get like a good haircut, wash every morning, take good care of my teeth and moisturize. Now I still have some extra hours left in a week. As a …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 08:07 AM
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I'm an introvert, I don't like talking to strangers or dating heeps of guys. I did online dating so I could vet people prior and not waste time and energy on a guy who had dealbreakers.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 02:15 PM
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This is a completely unfair situation. Everybody knows the best and smartest and safest option was to run away, but I understand she can't feel anything for him anymore. Can't control your feelings. It's a stretch, but I'd compare it to a situation where a man loses attraction for his wife after she's been gangraped in front of him: completely unfair, but I bet a lot of men will understand he cannot control losing his feelings after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 02:52 PM
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This is a case where I'm confused how it would work out: Samuel is obviously a lot less attractive than Depp when she was with him initially, but Samuel looks much better than a current day Depp. She's better off now. If I were her he wouldn't feel like a second choice when the first one aged so terribly
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/19 03:07 PM
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It's hard to say because Teenage / young girls are bitchier as a whole. I could say "women are nicer now that I'm not a hot young chick anymore" but then again those girls are just older now. Children come into play when women get older. Children change the dynamic between women MASSIVELY so it's hard to draw comparisons in the social matrix
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 04:05 PM
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At this point being unmarried gives the men too much power and being married gives the women too much power. I'm happy my country (netherlands) is reforming alimony laws to the point where it becomes a more civilized deal - just enough for the man to not up and leave as soon as he can get a new piece of meat, but not to the point where he's ruined forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 02:16 PM
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I think men have perfectly logical reasons not to want to be married, despite seeing themselves together with their gf forever. That said, I've seen the scenario you describe - men dates women for fifteen years, says marriage is just a piece of paper, dumps her at 40, proposes to the next one instantly - play out so many times it's ridiculous. I don't think that these men suddenly want to marry their second gf, I think it's more of a "I don't love you to the point where I'm scared of you walking…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 02:05 PM
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She did eventually marry, less then a year ago actually ​ Wonder if the fact Depp married after her was of influence
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 07:57 AM
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Yes. There's plenty of research that shows the majority of women would like to have children. Some don't and that's fine too. For them to choose c will be easier
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 10:10 PM
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I've dated one inch shorter than me (I'm 5'7) and that's my minimum. It was borderline actually, any time we got up from our seats part of me was like yikes. For me 5'8 is ideal. I don't like super tall guys. Side note: it's not even so much that I think they're unattractive, but I feel so unattractive next to them. I feel... BIG. And I'm not big, I'm on the taller side but my BMI is 20. I felt un-sexy and I need to feel sexy to become horny if that makes sense. I guess it's why fat girls seem t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 12:29 PM
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Well that would mean the sex I had got only better over the past 15 years. I mean I have had days where I was like "well that wasn't our best session", but overall, sex is as blissfull as ever. I don't expect that to change until menopause.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/19 12:56 PM
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Same. I wonder if that's hormonal. It's very hard to remember past sex and I can't envision my ex's dick at all anymore. And I saw that dick every day for 3 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/19 11:09 AM
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- The same thing that makes a woman's pussy wet at 20 are the same things that make her pussy wet at 30,40,50,60 ​ In a way, but also not. It's the same qualities: strenght, fun, intelligence, dominance etc. But the way those qualities present themselves are very different. For a 20-year old, it could mean being the leader of the pack when going out, the guy who organizes the parties. But a 30-year old who still leads that lifestyle and hasn't done anything besides it, well he's kind of a loser.…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/19 10:56 AM
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In her defense, "see what he's interested in and read up about that to get his attention" is pretty standard womens magazine dating advice. It took me a pretty long time too to see you can't just pick up a hobby (and let go of you own*) to please a man, because you won't be able to make that last and he'll end up dissapointed. ​ *Side note; a lot of young men make fun of women's hobbies. I've been sewing since I was a little girl but I was super embarressed about that as a teenager because the b…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/19 07:48 AM
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You want someone who is intelligent and interesting and motivated and makes enough to support a family. A degree is somewhat of an indicator for that but there are many people without a degree who fit the standards and the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 11:39 AM
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Children are a bigger commitment than marriage. I personally believe the only reasons unmarried couples split up faster is because There will be more cases where the man didn't plan on committing to that particular woman, but then she ended up pregnant It's easier for the man to leave so he does, but if he would have been married he still wouldn't have been a happy husband and father I think if a man willingly chooses to have a baby with you and live with you there's no problem. In some cases yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 07:46 AM
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This is learned behaviour. In my country, in the early 2000's when I was a teen, I remember so many stories of girls being like "so I got totally drunk and slept with that dork lol can you believe that" and then everybody would laugh about it as if you were talking about that time you got drunk and embarressed yourself faceplanting in front of everybody. (Mind you, I am talking about the kind of drunk where you can still walk and talk, having sex with passed out girls has never been ok). Then it…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 12:55 PM
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The more a man is crazy about you the less likely he'll make you pay. I've seen men in love. They'll be in college, be broke, but work overtime and scrape by eating porridge for a week just to take their dream girl out to a fancy restaurant. That is the reason I wanted men to pay. I'm not stingy, I could care less about paying for a few drinks, it's just such an obvious sign he's just not that into you. My knew pretty quickly I was the mother of his children and we were at least 6 months in befo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 07:55 AM
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Next to not being attracted to them, that's the reason I never dated lower smv men. Too risky. A high smv man that settles down wants her for her looks AND character / good mother potential. If he just wanted to fuck, he'd just do that. A low smv man wants her for her looks but might not actually like her character or think she's a good wife and mother. So once you lose those looks, the chance of it being over for you is higher with the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 03:31 PM
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I personally had zero problems. I don't deny the wall but it's impact is definitely exaggerated by trp. I know women who had problems but they were train wrecks to begin with. If you're a hot 21 year old men will overlook the train wreck part and fuck you for a few years, if you're a 30 year old single mom they don't or maybe fuck a few times, that's the difference. But those women were never getting true commitment in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 08:00 AM
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Well the two are intertwined. One usually says something about the other. That said you'd need to know both to get a good picture. I know some exceptions (low n count but terrible relationship history, high n count but a trustworthy, sane gf) but those are, well, exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 10:56 AM
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Aww thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 04:22 PM
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you become increasingly jaded, your emotions dull, your sense of wonder dies ​ From what age? Maybe it was because I was such a depressed teenager but I'm a hell of lot less jaded than I used to be. My personality got a lot lighter in my late twenties and early thirties, and if anything, I feel more emotions not less. I used to be pretty careless - in a negative, don't care for nobody way - but the more I experience the more I value life and the people around me. I understand so much more now th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 03:51 PM
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ehh I don't generally worry about it. I'm not going to care until I'm at the age where you have to wear a diaper and everybody dies. Doesn't mean I wouldn't want to stay young forever but people who worry about aging seem like debbie downers to me. I guess they're the same people who cry over the taxes they pay or have their day ruined by bad weather. My life got a whole lot better and easier after 30, my glass is more than half full so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 02:39 PM
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I don't know many people who wouldn't agree with this.. But here's the reason it will probably never change: if a woman lies about paternity the bio dad is very likely to be broke and not great dad material. Not many women can support a child on their own - and I bet women who commit paternity fraud are often low socio-economic status to begin with. So then the government ends up paying for the kid and / or there's another kid growing up in poverty.Plus I wouldn't be surprised if men who are for…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 11:39 AM
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I don't check out other dudes but I didn't do that when I was single either. I mean I can see when someone is attractive but I don't stare or really pay attention to it. Porn yeah, but typically the men don't do anything for me. I'm not into girls so much either, idk what it is that makes me like it. I don't think that porn interferes with a relationship though, or that it says something about what your partner means to you. I don't mind the fact that my SO watches porn either.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/19 03:00 PM
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Disagree. Family is still needed throughout life. I said "in ways". You don't need your mom to comfort you whenever something bad happens or to scare the monsters out of your room. In fact most adults who lose their mother do fine after a period of grief, while lack of intimacy with a partner will still be very hurtful after 20 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/19 01:25 PM
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It is a need, not one that will kill you if you don't get it, but certainly one that affects your mental health. Needs change throughout life. When you were 4 you needed your mother in ways you don't need her now anymore. Having a partner that denies you sex is harder than spending the night away from each other and not having sex. To compare it to that 4 year old: if the kid falls hard while playing alone and mommy isn't there, it will pick itself up and cry it out alone. But when mom is presen…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/19 12:37 PM
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If you're happy without love then no. Don't go out there, just close up your heart. But if you were happy and content that way would you even be asking here? I've gone through heartbreak and asked myself why I should invest in love when I could also just use men for what they can give me without really opening up my heart. The answer was simply that the risk was worth it for me. I've found love again and it's everything I've ever wanted. He can leave me or cheat on me, that's scary sometimes. He…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/19 11:27 AM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 07:01 PM
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It's dependant on how well you age, heavily dependant on where you live (there are countries where 22 is old) and also very dependant on what your preference is. If you're attracted to older men you'll have an easier time always. Dating after 30 for me was better and easier than at 20, because I live in a location where people settle late, I looked younger, I'm super fit, no kids and I wanted someone 10 years older than I was. I still had plenty of options of men who were high value and were at …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 04:22 PM
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Career women may believe their career makes them more attractive, but I don't think they've started a career out of the pure intent to become more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/19 02:49 PM
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If you barely have chances in life and you're likely to be depending on men for basic needs like food and shelter I would say anything to keep men getting married too. Survival, not preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/19 10:24 AM
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I never really understood that tbh. My SO is gone for about 2 months every time and I don't even think about cheating. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, it probably makes me even more in love with him. I don't just miss having someone around, I want him and some other dude isn't going to fix that. But yeah cheating amongst militairy wives is apparently rampant so I'm missing something here.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/19 12:41 PM
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I always think I'm fluent in english until I encouter a word I've apparently never spell checked before 😑
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/19 11:15 AM
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I feel like there are a lot of times in history where that actually was the case. Hunters & gatherers? Hunting trips actually took several days to weeks, the men where gone all the time. Viking era? Same. Fishermen. Sailors. Men working in the mines. Warriors, every army man in general. Tradesmen, in times when you had to go visit the cities by foot and horse, gone all the time. And then even if he was working close to home, working hours were much longer. Twelve hours a day in the factory, even…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/19 09:00 AM
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So she thought that guys would have the same serious intent she did but found out they didn't and got hurt. Decided to learn from the experience and guard herself to lower the chances she'll get hurt again. If you get cheated on in a relationship, and you make the mistake to forgive but they just do it again, how would you feel if your next partner says, nope, your ex didn't have to be faithfull so neither do I. If you spend too much on your ex and you go broke over it, how would you feel if the…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/19 08:32 AM
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If a man is really child free, if he really never ever ever wants children, then being a child free woman is a plus offcourse. I have a child free friend who is somewhat succesfull and was dating women in their early to mid twenties consistently. Around 35/36 he got so tired of getting with girls every time and then having to break up later because they had hidden the fact that they wanted kids or changed their minds - and then having to deal with the flood of tears and manipulation every time, …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/19 08:54 AM
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I've found a lot of the men I know think it's totally innocent to lead a woman on. I asked "have you ever exaggerated your feelings towards a girl just to get laid" in the office and all the guys bursted out laughing. "Ofcourse!" "That's what men do!" "Every guy does that" yet when that article came out about a girl who used her Tinder dates for free meals, they were SHOCKED AND APPALLED lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 02:49 PM
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Yeah but I'm talking about the first few weeks/months. Depending on culture ofcourse. Where I live nobody introduces their gf to their parents sooner than like 6-8 months, unless you live at home. In some other cultures, meeting the parents = automatic engagement. And then I know guys who live at home and bring girls in all the time. After a year or so you'll usually know where you stand but before that it's mostly guesswork.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 10:52 AM
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Obviously it's not hard to get a date. It can be hard for women to recognize the difference between a man who thinks you're okay for now and a man who wants to commit.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 10:21 AM
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It's not that they should pay. I make enough, I can buy myself diner. When I grew up the women's magazines already told me women had to split the bill and never be dependant. I was accustomed to that idea and fully prepared to pay for half when I'd grow up. Then came reality. First, men don't want you to pay. They'll be insulted, embarressed, quickly take the money and stuff it back in your pockets, etc. But more importantly: I began the notice two things: the more a man is in love with a woman,…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 02:05 PM
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It's definitely that your attraction changes. I'd like to add to that that the stable guys at 28 aren't neccessarily different ones from the party guys at 22. The guys I was attracted to in my late 20s were just grown up versions of the ones I was attracted to when I was young. I met my SO later on but if he would have met when we were both 18 I would've wanted his younger self too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 08:01 AM
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The latter. I'm quite strong / fearless / unemotional for a woman, so the bar is set high. The guys I've dated typically tick all the alpha boxes. That said, I've dated / been attracted both types of alpha: the physically strong / army or similar type of job, and the ones that were not huge or very tough looking, but were highly succesfull and had that type of natural leader character. Theres no difference in attraction for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/19 09:30 AM
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I work out 3-4 times a week. Other than that my biggest hobby is sewing. I studied russian language for a while (for fun not for purpose) and still pick it up when I find time. I love reading too, non-fiction. In the past I also baked a lot and I did upholstery / upcycling thriftstore finds, but I can't find time for it anymore. Oh and I love babysitting my niece, we like to go to the petting zoo or I do crafts with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/19 02:17 PM
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A big nuance to this story is that when a man reaches that peak, he is mostly popular with women around his own age. But which women do you want to date? If you're a man and you want to determine your personal peak, here's a more interesting graph. Per example, if you'd want to date a girl between 18 and 21, you'd best be 18-28 yourself, not 36.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/19 02:29 PM
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That would be it for me, not that I'd be mean outwards, but I would think it. It's easier to spot whether another girl is as attractive as you are, than it is to spot who your looks match from the other gender is. So if I'd see a girl who looks like me dating an ugly guy I'd be like shit, is that my league?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 02:40 PM
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Well-reviewed products sell easier. ​ That said I've really tried to imagine this scenario to find out how I feel, but I fail because I just can't imagine being attracted to a guy who plays instruments on street corners lol. But I'm sure theres research that proves that humans are more attracted to things that they see other humans are already attracted to
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 10:54 AM
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Men rarely express the sentiment, “I deserve X from women.” I've never heard a man express that in a group and I've certainly never seen them write an article about it, but any woman over the age of 13 has dealt with mens entitlement. They may not say "I am entitled", but stopping someone in the street/in the club, blocking her way, or flooding her inbox with insults, because they cannot take her rejection, if that's not entitlement then what is it? ​ And yeah women can be entitled bitches too. …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 02:39 PM
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Their point is that women as a whole aren't priviliged. There's not a millionair-for-everyone programme.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 02:20 PM
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Wives of CEO's and millionaires are privileged yeah, I've never heard anyone deny that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 01:15 PM
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Not perse. I care most about chest/shoulders/arms
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/19 10:58 AM
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I'm 5'6 (my SO about 5'7) I definitely do. If you think about it it's logical: muscle represents strenght, height not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/19 09:09 AM
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I'm naturally attracted to guys around 5'6 and up. There's no difference above that. I prefer someone to be at max 5'9 because a large height difference is annoying to me, but other than that, there is no difference in attraction between a 5'6 guy and a 6'2 guy. Not everyones preferences are the same. The majority of women like tall men, but that's not everybody. I do recognize the desire that a man needs to be bigger than you, but for me "bigger" means bigger in muscle mass. I'm in the camp whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/19 08:46 AM
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The rule children first shouldn't have to be explained. When it comes to women first, if nobody would say women first, most if not all women would die since the average woman can't fight the average man. If you implement this moral code, they have more chance. Obviously, not every man is going to keep the code, especially not when shit really hits the fan and survival instincts kick in, which will hopefully balance things out towards the ideal 50/50 outcome? I'm just speculating. Idk if these th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/19 01:09 PM
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How would you rate that girl? I feel like there are a lot of men out there who honestly think someone like her is average lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 12:20 PM
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I actually like the idea that you can orchestrate love - by carefully polishing your SMV and choosing your strategy - more than I like the idea that love is just something that happens. I'm not the type of person who gets lucky all the time, with most things in life I had to work for it. If love was just something that happened to you there's a chance I would've been lucked out. Now I have the best partner I could wish for because I learned to play the game and played it right.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 11:07 AM
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I think it's fair game, however, because altering your looks is such a woman-ly thing to do, usually guys that mess too much with their looks automatically start to look feminine/gay, which obviously counteracts the attempt to look more attractive to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/19 09:45 AM
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I dated a guy who was 4 inches and I was fine with that, actually, the sex was great. However, 3 inches or smaller would become a dealbreaker, I think. My SO is, at 7,5 inches, a bit too big for me, we can't do certain positions and we can only do it once a day. It's not a dealbreaker but it is a bit of a pity, I hope childbirth will make things easier in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/19 02:31 PM
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I'm not russian i just love russian language. I live in Amsterdam :)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 05:10 PM
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Men still want kids. In my country there isn't that much pressure on men to get married, from society at least. Maybe if you are from a traditional family. What I see with men that aren't from traditional families and don't experience a lot of pressure is that they still settle down, just later. Around 35 or so they start longing for a kid, so they start looking for a mother. Most will try to get a deal out of it where they don't have to get married but still get the kid and commitment from her,…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 09:33 AM
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This was in a previous relationship. It started 6 months into the relationship. It was still full on honeymoon phase so it was very noticable. I went on and off for a few months, then we just quit, stayed together for a few more years. I tried again later on in a new relationship, same effect, quit immediatly and haven't used anything hormonal since.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 12:22 PM
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If I'm on the pill my sexdrive is below 0, my bf would put an arm around me and even that felt icky. I'd be like ew get away from me. I was also a nagging bitch. This happened within two weeks of starting to take them. I didn't experience a difference in men I was attracted to; I just wasn't attracted to anyone anymore. (I tried a few different ones but they all had the same effect, so I switched to copper IUD. ) ​ Obviously this had an effect on my relationship, I was very aware of it though, h…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 11:24 AM
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I've wanted kids since I was a child myself, the ideal personality of their father formed more later on. You get older, you watch families, you realize what kind of father you'd like for your kids. Then I met my SO and he ticked all the boxes, we have all the same ideas about raising children, plus he's great with kids, so that made my ovaries pretty much explode. Now I think "I want his babies" instead of just "I want babies".
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/19 11:19 AM
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Before I was in a relationship, definitely. I have a niece that looks so much like me it’s like a mini twin, including behavior. She made me realize I could deal with a child out there that looks and acts like it’s mine, but isn’t living with me. Obviously with a niece it’s different because she’s still family, but I still think I could do it. I would be curious and I’d be fine with meeting the kid when it's 18 or something. But my SO wouldn't want it, so no (altough I'd still do it if my sister…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/19 01:59 PM
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Speaking for myself; I don't blame myself for lonely men. I guess I don't feel individual responsibility? ​ When it comes to relationships I did always blame myself, I think it’s easier to blame yourself. I hate the idea someone is an asshole and you could do anything right and still be hurt, makes me feel so powerless. I’ve always preferred the idea it was my fault. That way I could comfort myself saying “you know what, it’s over because you did X and Y, but next time you’re not going to do X a…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/19 04:38 PM
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Fitness, focus on heavy weights and not too much cardio If you're balding either shave it or get a transplant. No in between. Nobody, nóbody has ever looked good with a comb over. Don't dress like the cool kids, unless you REALLY know what you're doing fashion wise. When in doubt, dress smart casual or business attire, tailored shirts, good watch, nobody can go wrong that way. Take care of your skin. Guys have to worry less about wrinkles but sundamage gives older guys that "dirty" look and not …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 04:15 PM
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I think the only thing that somewhat justifies some of the lower sentences for women is fertility factor. If you sentence a 30 year old man to 15 years in prison or a 30 year old woman to 10 years in prison - she still gets the harder punishment because she's basically sentenced to infertility as well. And finding a partner is going to be more difficult for her as well. Officially that's not a factor but I really think it will be in the back of the mind of the judge.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 03:35 PM
1

Well that grew over time, can't be intimidated with someone you've been dating for a while already and are comfortable with :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 09:01 AM
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something like a young Jason Momoa for instance, a level where both body and face are flawless (in my eyes. It's super personal ofcourse).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 12:30 PM
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10 - So handsome I'm intimidated. I've always avoided these, I feel uncomfortable with men out of my league. 8&9 - Gets me really excited, can easily fall in love with 7 - Not super attracted at first sight, but if he turns out to have awesome character then I find myself suddenly turned on. Have fallen in love with this. 5&6 - If for some reason I'd have to have sex with him, I wouldn't be repulsed. Would recommend to a girl friend who is less succesfull in the dating market than me if he's nic…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/19 12:01 PM
2

Don't let your emotions overrun your logic. You are misreading everything. So if a women gives her dude too much sex, he will be bored and likely cheat... That's not at all what I said. I was explaining some men have high libido's and some have low libido's. The ones with low libido's may not find out about this fact until they are in a relationships. f a man is in a commitment relationship with a women he truly loves, he will not think less of her for carrying his child. I didn't say that eithe…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 12:51 PM
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I think it's pretty 50/50? Whoever the lead / hero is gets a good looking partner. I think you're supposed to identify yourself with the lead, so they give the lead a partner who most people would find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 02:06 PM
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Well I only choose men who worked out religiously (like I do) so the beer gut isn't a problem. Objectively they looked better at 25 ofcourse, but if you date a high quality (social, atheletic, succesfull or potentially succesfull) good looking 25 year old the chance of marriage is too low, so I never bothered with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 11:24 AM
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- Flash forward to today and you see people who get married at 18 just having failed marriages. ​ That's because people who marry at 18 are lower class and / or pregnant. ​ I'd have liked to get married at 18 but the guys didn't want to or I would have to marry someone desperate and ugly. I have a couple friends who were super religious and wanted to wait until marriage and they all had to settle for unattractive, boring dudes. Not waiting and settling later paid off big time for me, I got the b…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 11:13 AM
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4 inches I'm fine with, under 3 it would probably get tricky for me, but I'm not sure as I've never experienced that. I would give it a try at the least.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 03:32 PM
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Women already know men are attracted to feminine women. If they're not acting and dressing feminine, it's because they don't want to, not because they don't know guys like long hair. Men know that women know this. The only reason a guy would state these things out loud is because he wants to create a stir. Same as a woman who states she needs a big dick and hates small ones. Sure, but why do you feel like stating that? Because you want to hurt people. I agree with the list and it's how I look / …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 03:25 PM
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What you can't get, you crave more. I think men and women may start off with the same sex drive, but women hold back more, making it harder for men, making men hornier and more desperate, this image became the standard. Then when men are in an LTR with a HL woman and can get it every day if they want to, some men will come to find their libido isn't high at all. Maybe it's comparable to working at dunkin donuts and not craving sweets anymore. Second, men stay attractive a bit longer then women i…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 03:33 PM
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If you're telling the truth then you're an outlier. And still, besides personal taste you know what (is commonly accepted to be) attractive is. Channing Tatum doesn't do much for me personally but I won't deny he's in the top ten percent easily, I know that's what the average woman likes. You were acting as if she was a weird example to give of a very beautiful woman, when she was admired world wide because of her beauty.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/19 03:48 PM
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if you don't think this is a beautiful girl then you have no idea how women naturally look. There are hardly women who look like that without all the beautifying options women have today.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/19 02:29 PM
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The only pre-millenial I know who looked as good as the average insta model is Brooke Shields. She was pure beauty that hardly anyone came close to, now there are dozens of girls who achieved her look with a few procedures.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/19 01:09 PM
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joys of prostitution? Her life isn't nice at all, until she meets him, and the movie doesn't give the idea that it's common for that to happen, it makes it pretty clear that's a pretty damn special situation, for a guy like that to fall for a prostitute. Actually the movie makes it clear guys like that usually DON'T want to date women like that, and she is treated awfully by his friends. I can't imagine anyone watching that movie and thinking, oh, so that's how I should live my life!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 10:31 AM
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Chicken or the egg, do women with strong personalities attract good guys, or do they just repell the bad ones? Assholes/abusers prey on women who do not have a lot of confidence, so the strong woman would be less likely to end up with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 03:04 PM
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A 16-year old wouldn't have gotten 20 years in my country and I don't think he should. Thing is with these cases, there's a difference between what they deserve and what is best for society. With all Isis supporters, I personally think they should be shot. Some of them don't deserve that, but it's the only way to protect society. There are thousands of these people. If one in 5 of them decides to plan an attack as soon as they get out of prison, while having influenced many others during their t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 02:54 PM
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It depends on the case. One the one end there are adult educated woman making the choice, on the other end there are teenagers growing up in the desert who can barely read and were married off to one of these guys at 14. All of these women are one or the other or somewhere in between. You judge cases individually as you do with the guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 02:43 PM
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When it came to being approached; quantity went up, quality went down. More assholes. Partly because only guys who thought very highly of themselves dared to approach me, I found out later. The type of guy I actually wanted to date, someone a bit quiet and reserved like me, didn't dare to talk to me. Also, me being shy and introverted was suddenly interpretated as stuck up bitch. Overall it wasn't all that great, but at least the drinks were free. ​ ​ ​
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 01:39 PM
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Engineering alone certainly isn't the problem. My ex was an engineer, introverted even, but also very fit. The combination of good looks (body-wise, kind of a nerdy face though) and being super smart was irresistable to me (and lots of other women).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/19 03:00 PM
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I think he'd start dating her (well, sleeping with her) without the intent of making it serious. Or actually that's not something I think, it's something I see around me all the time. Might be an age thing tough (25-35) the older generation is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 08:24 AM
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Woman
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/19 08:23 PM
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Yeah and no man i know is okay with a chick that doesn't have a job. I mean unless they're trash themselves. They fuck the welfare loser girls, they never marry them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/19 08:22 PM
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" Statistics show that women don't date jobless men but men don't mind dating jobless women " ​ great, but would they marry her? Men want sex and women want commitment - usually. If a guy dates a broke girl for a while and then dumps her because she has no future, he gets what he wants without ultimately getting her what she wants. It's not exactly charitable of him. Lookswise, a lot of (young) women spend a lot of time on their looks and men do not. I remember that was the main reason I wasn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/19 10:19 AM
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She should not be allowed back in because the threat she poses is too big, third time I'm saying that. I guess reading is hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 03:20 PM
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I've already said she shouldn't be let back in, see above, because she's too much of a threat. I just hate the way it was stated how she "got her alpha" when she was essentially raped, I'm sorry but that's how we classify adult people having sex with minors who cannot consent yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 02:57 PM
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A 15 year old cannot consent, ever, that's what we agreed on in the developed world. I do think she's stupid for stating that, by that time she was off age, and therefore appareantly still poses a threat. But the initial fleeing-and-marrying-a-terrorist happened at an age where, in the UK, if you'd commit a murder you'd get a much lighter sentence than an adult. Which makes it a bit tricky that people argue she should get what will essentially turn out to be a death sentence for her and her chil…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 02:42 PM
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also completely ignoring the part where she was a 15 year old groomed by a 27-year old man. But yeah, let's say she "had her alpha". ​ I don't think she should return because she's too much of a threat, not because of what she did when she was underage.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 01:19 PM
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Girl, same. Until 22-ish nothing repulsed me like chest hair, after that, the opposite. Also the body-over-face.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 08:35 AM
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I'm a woman and I definitely give a shit. However it's not entirely clear yet why it's happening and how to prevent / stop it, a lot of theories and not that much actual decent research I've found so far. I'm really reading up on it because we are trying for a baby and I need to know whether there are things I can do diet and product wise.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/19 11:04 AM
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I am from the Netherlands. You're not a manlet at 6'0 lol, that's pretty much the average. Most girls are into tall or at least taller but it's not the half-god like status that american girls seem to give to it. Probably because tall is so common here. When it's common it's not special anymore. Most guys I know that are around 5'6 do just fine with girls as long as they are muscular, simply because there aren't that many muscular men. You can compensate.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 09:23 AM
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Depends on location, tall is important everywhere but there are places where it's SO important it would overrule a muscular man and places where it wouldn't. I think the 5'6 guy would do better where I'm from, with the exception of girls who are 5'7 or above.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 09:13 AM
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Oh I definitely think hardcore feminism and the manosphere, overall, have a lot in common. It's like ultra-hardcore leftists and neo-nazi's: a horse-shoe model.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 09:10 AM
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Jordan Peterson, NOT saying you have to agree with him, I certainly don't always. Esther Perel too. Alain de Botton, love this piece
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 01:46 PM
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I've seen women here have different opinions from each other, they just don't really attack each other / feel attacked over it. Probably because it doesn't get personal for them. We discuss mostly relationships/sex here, if a heterosexual female states something about that like, IDK, let's say she'd say "I expect an expensive engagement ring from a man". Another woman could reaaally disagree with that and think that's really unfair and demanding, but she won't feel personally attacked over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 12:33 PM
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I've never asked someone to open up in general, that's up to everyone individually how much you want to share. I have been in positions in relationships where someone was behaving like something was bothering them and I'd be like "look man, you can tell me what's wrong and maybe I can work with that and forgive your behaviour while you're going through something, or I'm just going to break up with you for being a jerk to me".
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 12:57 PM
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And that even if that was true, it doesn't hold value to us because we don't value casual sex the same way men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 11:47 AM
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I feel like it's important for teenagers because their whole livelyhood is based on the music they listen to and the youtube stars they look up to. I mean what else do they got. A lot of the couples I know that were together since their teens were actually a really bad match, but they'd be convinced he or she was the one because they, too would drive three hours to see the same obscure band in a hipster bar somewhere. (Then they have a baby and find out that fact means jack shit when you're up a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 11:37 AM
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No you can't, just saying you'd understand vagina's better when you've had. It's not static material. It's skin and muscles, sorta like a mouth. Just like mouths don't stretch when you eat a lot or take a lot of big bites, neither do vagina's. ​
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 10:07 AM
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The BBC scene she's screaming in extacy and having leg shaking orgasms. ​ you.... seriously think those are real? ​ Anyway, the only type of person who would think this way is someone who has never touched a vagina. You'd know it doesn't get damaged like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/19 09:54 AM
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This is one of those things you need to discuss as early as possible with your partner and make decisions on.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 04:52 PM
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I prefer 5'7 over 6'1 personally so it's a no brainer. ​
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 02:40 PM
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Huh? It's not hard to believe at all; it's a damn fact some women run blogs like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/19 06:37 PM
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The fact that women do the consumer spending doesn't mean that much to me, consumer spending includes groceries, children's clothes, all kinds of necessary stuff. Offcourse women buy that more. The question is, do women spend more on unnecessary shit? I think women buy more in quantity, but men buy more extremely expensive stuff. A whole drawer of makeup seems like a lot of unnecessary shit but the value of that is usually like $1000 tops where I know plenty of men that spend more than a few k o…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 10:29 AM
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ok but if 1 in 100 women runs a blog like that I'd be surprised. I do think womens spending is overrated by men as a whole. In my experience women buy more small things, men buy more expensive things. For example I spend about €1000 a year probably on clothes and makeup, where my SO spends probably €400 on clothes. But then he spends €4000 on a new tv, probably will last about a year of 5 before he wants an upgrade, where back when I was living on my own, I'd just buy a second hand one for €100 …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 10:17 AM
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I hardly ever think "that's an attractive man". Of all the men 25 - 35 I'd say a barely half is fuckable in potention, like "I wouldn't be repulsed". After 35 it goes downhill fast, I'd say of 35 - 45 year olds about 5% are fuckable. But I'm weird when it comes to attraction. I know many women wouldn't find my SO to be super attractive but to me he feels like 10/10 and I can really swoon when I see him. Then I worked with this guy who's a literal men's health model and he doesn't do anything for…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/19 09:02 AM
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Like most women I know I learned around age 13 to never look strange men in the eye. Most men are not a problem, but even if it's 1% that's the problem, you'll get stuck with at least 1 creep a week. (what will happen is they will start talking to you and then when you're not interested they'll start calling you a whore and cussing you out in public which is really embarrassing at the least).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 12:17 PM
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Where I live the really succesfull attractive men start looking for a wife when they are 38~ish, settle into a relationship at around 40 and marry/have kids in the following years. They do this with women 7-13 years younger. They are perfectly able to score early 20's girls but apart from an occasional hookup they won't bother because they're annoying. So what does this mean for women? The age to get the best of men is at least 25. For me 27/28 was peak dating era: that's when the highest qualit…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 12:11 PM
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They've always cared, women aren't blind. But yeah if you're dependant on a man for even the most basic things in life, you'd just close your eyes and think happy thoughts I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 10:23 AM
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Depends on location and type of career as well. In some cultures you'd have to be one hell of a iron bitch to make it to the top, but not everywhere. In some cultures, making it to the top requires 14 hours of work per day, but in my country even our CEO doesn't make more than 50, maaybe 60 in busy weeks. In some jobs, like surgery I guess, just being the best at your work would bring you the best position, while in others you'd really have to "lick upwards and spit downwards" as we say here. So…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/19 09:17 AM
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Maybe they're showing off their gains, who cares? Apart from that I personally hate loose gym wear, I just can't stand the feeling of loose pants shaking around your legs when you're running or something, I need to have a tight outfit and / or as much bare skin as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/19 10:02 AM
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Humans are not that black and white. Offcourse there are cases where it was clear from the beginning someone was a bad boy. But I see a lot more cases where guys seem pretty decent up untill they're not. My highschool friend dated this guy since they were both 17. Decent guy, sweet, loved her very much, good boyfriend, not bad looking but certainly not a hot guy either. 100% what a girl should choose according to the manosphere. At 22 or so his father dies and he has to take over the company. Cr…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 10:32 PM
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Whatever the punishment is for, say, bankfraud (which probably already includes paying back the money you've received) + a sum for emotional damages + a mandatory visit & questioning from CPS. These kind of things also cause great emotional damage in children, hence getting CPS involved. The paternity fraud alone shouldn't be a reason to lose her kids or anything, but a woman who lets her children emotionally suffer for financial gain? I want to bet she isn't mother of the year regarding other p…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 03:16 PM
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Though he wasn't famous yet, I'm sure he was popular. I want to bet he has great charisma and is funny IRL as well. Also he had an attractive face, so yeah I can definitely see this happening. Especially if it's early highschool, there are many 14/15 yo girls who aren't fully grown yet and are his height. I grew 15 cm(6 inches) between 14 and 19. Also this was in a pre internet time so the only reference group the girls had was inside their highschool and maybe church, if he was the most interes…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 12:52 PM
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Definitely the women cause I know I'd personally rather die than to have quadruplets
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 03:41 PM
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The women because less deaths. Unless humans are dying out and we need as much wombs as possible to survive as a species.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 03:26 PM
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What were the other reasons it didn't work out? I can't imagine a girl with 110+ in her late teens to not have some sort of personality disorder. That's extremely out of the ordinairy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 08:45 AM
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I always wonder if people who think like that are that rigid in every aspect of life and with all people, not just women. I’m assuming you look with the same disdain to people who get cancer after smoking or being fat. Actually, that’s not even the right comparison, because every kid knows all cigarettes cause cancer. This would be more comparable to denying someone benefits because: “I see you were offered a stock in Company X in 1999, however you choose to go with Company Y. You would have bee…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 02:21 PM
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35 looking 25. My SO is 10 years older but looking my age, that's the ideal: stable, older, succesfull, but not a gross old dude yet :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 09:43 AM
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Most divorces I've seen, where the guy is the initiator, he just up and leaves and leaves all the shit including paperwork to her while he's off in a motel with the new gf. Wife doesn't get alimony until the paperwork is filed. She may have access to the savings but not a lot of people have lots of savings. So it's either rack up creditcard debt or file.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 08:27 AM
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I agree with Tumbleweed it's a bit unclear. Do you mean "What type of man would it take for a woman to behave that perfectly?" or "What kind of upbringing produces such women" or "In what kind of environment would I find such a woman"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 04:07 PM
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Where did he get the statistic? If you just look at "who filed the paperwork" that's not the same as "who initiated it".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 09:47 AM
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Things my SO and father have in common: down to earth, intelligent, not very emotional, stubborn, logical ​ Things they are different in: SO has a much 'warmer' personality, my dad can be stand-off-ish. SO is great with kids, dad didn't really know what to do with them until they're old enough to have a conversation with. In looks they are the complete opposite. My dad is 6,5 and blonde, blue eyes, very Scandinavian/Germanic looking. I've always been into spanish/greek/baltic/middle eastern look…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 09:38 AM
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I'm not saying she should, I'm saying the reality is that she probably is going to hold her hand up. The kind of woman to commit paternity fraud probably doesn't hold herself to any moral standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 08:15 AM
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It's like cancer: you know that it hits many many people, and it is very scary, but it's no good for your daily life to daily think about it. However it is a serious subject that should be discussed and I do take personal measures to prevent it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 01:18 PM
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In my experience, there are two types of men: both agree that younger = more physically attractive.* But one group is solely and only attracted to younger, no matter how high the price. And no matter how much they love a woman, if she ages, they lose interest. The second group agrees younger chicks are hot, but with their own age their taste in woman also matures, and they can also appreciate a woman their own age now. According to some red's this only happens in a marriage (wife goggles) but I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 10:16 AM
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Well I don't know which part of the sum was spousal support and child support. Child support should be repaid. I personally think paternity fraud should be punishable by law. I do get why governments don't like that idea: it has little to do with favouring women, it's just that, if a woman lies about who the father is the bio daddy probably can't pay for the kid. Which means the government is going to pay for the kid or the kid grows up in poverty.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 03:59 PM
3

In my country OkCupid has mostly college educated people, Tinder has 50/50 and all the lowest social classes unite on Badoo
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 02:24 PM
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Exactly. What TRP does is trying to create a recipe: x amount of this plus x amount of this plus x amount of this = 9.45664SMV. They try to make things logical and understandable. There's a lot of people on the spectrum who are into TRP because that's basically how they go about their entire life: try to logically explain social behaviour so they can understand the part they cannot grasp themselves. Then they get really angry when a girl that they percieve as 7.45654 rejects them and blame on it…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 10:49 AM
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You do need to realize this is incredibly rare. The average woman does not want to date a sociopath. To put things in perspective : the Chris Watt story has gone around the entire world. I live in Europe and it even made the headlines here. How many women have red / seen this story? The total number could easily be 50 million. Yet, according to the news he got "a few dozen" love letters. That's nothing! If you'd swipe for a month on Tinder, hours per day, and you'd get 1 match, would you say you…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 12:17 PM
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I always see the wall begin defined as "not being able to attract what you want the most anymore". In that case, the wall is different for every person, not just because some age better than others, but also because their personal taste might be available to them longer. I used to work with a guy who was completely obsessed with the barely legal type, 18 or 19 at best, really new-to-everything wide eyed girls. By age 26, he started to complain he couldn't get them anymore. On paper, his SMV had …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 11:46 AM
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​ What is a strong tendencie towards unfaithfulness? How does that feel? With both my ex and my current SO I've never felt the need to jump on somebody else, not even after several years, also not when they'd be away for a few weeks. I literally wouldn't know what that is. I can look at someone and realize he's an attractive man, but that's about it, I don't feel the urge to do anything with that (I didn't when I was single either). If my SO is gone I can really ache for him to be there, like wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 09:24 AM
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how did you find out he was gay
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 09:14 AM
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We weren't married, I mean I picked him as my partner at 19. We dated for 2 years, then moved in wanting to get married as soon as we had the money. We also wanted to live together before getting married, thank god. Actually, compromise is what killed it. We were both compromising, all the time. His way to unwind after a long day was to talk about it and discuss every little thing that happened, my way was to read for a bit. Every day, we'd do something different. Which ment that every day, one …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 03:43 PM
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Because relationships are more complicated than you obviously think. It isn't : boy is seriously interested in girl, girl is seriously interested in boy, boom happily ever after. I wanted to settle down young so I did. But at 19 you don't know what personality fits yours best, hell you haven't even developed it completely yet. My ex is a decent guy but when we moved in after a few years, we just couldn't live together. I need quiet time and peace much more than him. He needs to get attention muc…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 09:37 AM
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speaking for myself, I think a little bit of both. Yes women choose safer options, but they're also more attracted to them. Here's the thing: women are attracted to men who are better than them, further in life, more experienced etc. When you're a teenager, that goal is reached pretty easily. You don't look down on someone who doesn't have a good job yet, because you don't either. When you're 25, out of the house and have a stable job, the typical party guy is now beneath you. You've succeeded h…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 10:46 AM
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her: " I would only hook-up with older and low-key guys because they wouldn't shit talk to the whole city. " ​ you: " Also, notice how this chick says she prefers "older" men?(...), but men truly are more attractive as they get older. " ​ That's not what she says, read it again. She literally states she prefers older because they won't kiss and tell. Also: when I was 19 or so I'd say I preferred older men. By older men I ment 23-year olds. ​ I'm not so much against older-men-younger-women, my SO…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 12:05 PM
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yes, but when I was ugly nobody judged me for it, nobody cared about me. When you're pretty, people suddenly demand your attention and judge you when you can't give them the social butterfly they assume every pretty girl to be. Both men and women btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 01:24 PM
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I second this
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 11:45 AM
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Women who are attractive are more likely to be viewed as annoying and bitchy though. I've been on both sides, and noticed people, both men and women, got an entirely different image of me when I was attractive. I'm shy and introverted. Ugly girl being shy and introverted = shy and introverted. Pretty girl being shy and introverted = stuck up bitch who feels like she's to good for us. That's just one example of many.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/18 11:32 AM
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If she followed him for an hour and then deleted him she probably followed him by accident. She might be checking out shirtless guys online, but I'm sure you've checked out shirtless women online. And maybe that's not even it, the profile could be sent to her by a friend "look who Becky is dating omg"
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 12:59 PM
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Well it's a fact t-levels are dropping. I don't know what problems it would cause exactly but if I see a group of teenage boys these days it always worries me how petite they are. And I do wonder if the girls are attracted to that. I think they do compare the boys to other boys they see, so then it might not be a problem? But I know, when I went to highschool I thought probably half of the guys were at least attractive enough. Now if I see a highschool class, I don't even know if I would have be…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 08:16 AM
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I'm Dutch. These days, prior acquired assets (or debts) stay with the person. You can't marry a rich guy, divorce and take half. You cán marry a poor guy, watch him get rich, then take half, I think? Child support is reasonable. Per example, if the woman makes nothing and the 2 kids stay with her and the guy makes 10k a month, child support is a little over 1k. If she makes 2000 and he makes 3000, it's €400. Spousal support can be a lot more, I don't know how much because you can't calculate it …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/18 03:04 PM
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Both, that's called the Madonna-whore complex. You've got to be supersexy and exciting and know how to seduce him but also be a blushing virgin. I was a bit late to the party as a teenager and the boys would shame me for being so shy and turning red as soon as somebody talked sex and then they'd call the other girls sluts in one breath.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 04:04 PM
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Exactly. My SO when he was young was exactly like the guys I dated when I was young. If we would have met a decade earlier, we would have dated too. ( it just wouldn't have lasted very long probably, I know he went through dozens of girls in his 20s ). One of the funniest things in trp is how mad they get that 18-22 yo girls have lower carreer expectations than 28-32 yo women. Offcourse I didn't expect my boyfriend at 20 to have a carreer and his own apartment, he was sitting in college next to …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 09:57 AM
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Referring to my under 25 years- you get a lot of yelling from a distance, guys that are "jokingly" hitting on you in front of everybody but in a way where it's not completely clear they're serious and you get a lot of drunk guys. ​ So, how often do attractive women get approached by average, sober, clean (hygiene wise) men? Probably like once or twice every night I went out, but I went out like once every 2 months. I curved all of them except for one, who was sorta average looking actually. We d…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 08:20 AM
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I think it is a product of biology / evolutionary psychology. A man's rejection is harder than a woman's rejection. I mean, evolutionary: Womans rejection: I do not want to carry your child for nine months, lose attraction from what it does to my body, risk my own death giving birth to it, feed it with my own tits for two years causing me to less fertile all that time, then be the primary caregiver for many more years, risk living in poverty all that time when you leave me alone with it. Mens re…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 10:08 AM
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On the face it's not an issue. On the body, idk I like my guy to be fit not just for the looks but for the whole idea of it, it's attractive because it shows other qualitities like discipline. I work out a lot I'm not gonna date someone who sits on his ass then gets lipo, that does not comply with my lifestyle. Another woman who got lipo herself instead of working out probably won't have a problem with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 10:43 AM
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I've seen more than a few non-top 10 percent men trade in their wives. It's not just 10s trading up for younger 10s, it's also 6s trading in for someone who's ugly compared to her own age group, but younger than the loyal wife. But they feeeeel like this is more real, you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 10:30 AM
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A men needs to be attractive and somewhat succesfull for me to feel like I love him / are in love with him. But there are a few dozen men in my direct environment like that and thousands if I'd go online. I picked my specific partner based on what I feel like is love (I'm aware it still a chemical cocktail in your head, I don't actually think the universe singled him out for me).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 08:00 AM
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I consider myself lucky to not have this strange urge to screw guys in relationships, but I've seen it happen a lot of times with other women. I'm not sure if it has to do with preselection. I think part of it is that some women feel like they "win" from the gf if he gets with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 07:52 AM
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People are influenced by their peers much more than they think themselves. If you're a man with feminine traits you probably like to hang out with girls and vice versa. If you hang out with girls a lot feminism will influence you more than the average guy. Vice versa, most chicks I know that hang out with guys a lot are also more red-pill minded, they won't call it that offcourse, but I mean more traditional in their way of thinking, critical of topics like alimony etc. Chicken or the egg?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 12:19 PM
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Nah, short ones are. I think a large part of people not divorcing in the old days was the fact that they didn't see each other anyway. There was no private life. Where I come from you'd work 6 days a week 12 hours a day. You come home to your wife and 12 kiddo's, eat, hopefully not fuck b/c kiddo 13 could happen, fall asleep, church on sunday. Wife was locked all day in the house with 12 kiddo's. There's no room for "where is our relationship going" "I feel like you don't support my hobbies" "yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 09:45 AM
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And why do all these other men stop this from happening? Because pussy. It's the woman who controls them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 08:07 AM
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And if you're strapped for cash and you can make it by poking holes in the condom or getting a pay-out from a made up rape accusation, go for it. Life isnt fair. Use that to your advantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 11:19 AM
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Nooo. That's such a turn off. People who treat everyone around them like shit often have issues. Mental health issues are an extreme turn off. You want the guy who is liked by everybody. Is kind to people without being a doormat. The kind of guy who gets respect without forcing it. I'd never date someone who is an asshole to other people, that just means he has insecurities ew.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/18 01:43 PM
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Women are mostly attracted to manly men. The number one preference for a healthy, emotionally stable woman will be a manly, strong man who treats her right. However, there are not too many of those men. What if you can not get manly+treats you right? Then theres manly-but-asshole, or a feminine guy who treats you right (I'm sure theres also feminine men who treat you wrong but let's leave those out of the equation because nobody wants those). So you have to make a choice. Many women will prefer …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/18 09:00 AM
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There's no way to tell since dating for so long is quite new. In most cultures dating never really excisted. The whole pre-marriage process in a lot of cultures was perfectly clear and cut-out, and usually your parents did part of it. And even if you were behaving super desperate in the 5 minutes you and your lover could spend together, she wouldn't know because there was hardly any comparison material.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/18 07:45 AM
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I like reading, baking, cooking, studied Russian language purely out of interest, none of which you could find in my Tinder profile. If you're going to try and come off as intellectual on Tinder you're going to look pretentious, but mostly, I wanted to keep my real character private. Everyone's on Tinder and everyone is going to see you there. I just had one line, something funny, on there and a few random pics. The thing is as a woman if you're decently attractive every man is going to swipe ri…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/18 07:36 AM
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I mean, I live in a country where prostitution is legal, cheap, easily accessible. You can get a fit, young, beautiful girl here to do anything for an amount of money the average guy can easily afford every week. The guys I dated / my SO are in the income categorie where they could have one around fulltime if they wanted. If a living breathing 9/10 was no threat to me neither is this. The only surplus in voluntary bachelor's dolls are going to create, is a group of men who are 1. Only interested…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/18 02:19 PM
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Absolutely, if there were an ideal form of contraception...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 12:59 PM
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" the kids would for sure have proper nutrition, and safe, stable environment to become productive members of society " Unfortunately it doesn't work like that. Almost all countries had orphanages at some time in history, my country had them up to 40 years ago and on paper they were subsidized enough to feed and educate the children. On paper the rules were strict and there was a waterproof system to check all the regulations. In reality, the system just attracts pedophiles, people who put the m…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 07:42 AM
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But that's a succesfull one. Pretty sure that for every woman Trump married there's at least a hundred who's time he wasted. Similar to a guy who spends years doing everything to impress women and never gets laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 09:04 AM
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yes and I've never met a woman who denied that. ​ I would like to emphasize though that the whole "women all hate each other" isn't true either. The vast majority of the women I've worked and lived with are decent human beings. Some are cunts.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 02:03 PM
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Relevant case: a dutch tv-presenter is dating a woman 42 years his junior. Sounds really good, but this is her. She was about 21 in this picture (I'm not kidding).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/18 02:04 PM
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edited thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 12:00 PM
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I think that, after the first two years, when you might still be nursing, it's unnatural. Yes, unnatural. There is this idea that women have always stayed at home and I don't know where that stems from. In the hunters/gatherers time, women were, well, gatherers. They went out into the woods or worked the fields. In the middle ages, they helped on the farm or sold stuff on the market or made hand crafts(unless you were elite). In the industrial era they worked at the factory(unless you were elite…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 08:19 AM
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If you wait a little before sleeping with him, look for all the right signs (like being truly interested in you, not interested in other women etc etc) then you can weed out 90-95% of guys who are just looking for sex. But then there's the other 5-10% who have no problem putting up an entire charade to fool you. And then theres this: the problem isn't so much guys who just want sex, at least if that happens you'll find out soon enough. The problem is guys who like you, just not for forever. I kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 07:43 AM
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RP is just a brand name for a collection of ideas, but all of these ideas have been around for longer. Also, trends come and go anyway. I think feminism is at its height now and logically, it is going to go down like every big historical trend has a wave line, you know? I'm a woman and I don't agree with everything TRP says but I do think it's a very logical and natural thing for it to exist: whenever there is a huge sociological trend, there will also be a countermovement. That is just how huma…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/18 10:04 AM
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The theory does not line up with how my sexual partners felt to me at all, theres no declining line in how strongly I felt about / physically responded to them. The first one, at the time I was as much in love as I thought you could be but I've felt waaay more for others later on. But I can only speak for myself. I also think it has a lot to do with how you feel about each partner, whether they broke your heart or not. I do know the women with the highest counts I know are mentally unstable but …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/18 02:53 PM
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The difference is habituation. Most women, attractive or not, start to get pursued by happily married, good american family men from age 13 or so. Some will get jaded by this offcourse, most will grow up with this knowledge and learn to separate these men from "all men". Adult women pursuing teenagers happens less, women pursuing men happens less anyway, so the average man will have to become 25 or so and very attractive before he sees these kind of women out in the open. At that age, I guess it…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/18 10:28 AM
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Personally I find it hard to believe someone can be 100% this or the other. I find it very American - you guys are also either democrat or republican and hardly anything in between. Personally I look at all the topics individually, sometimes I agree more with trp , sometimes more with feminism. I think it's such a strange idea you have to join a side and blindly agree with everything, you can think for yourself!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/18 12:35 PM
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I don't like to be around super negative people in general. But seeing someone cry every once in a while or want to lean on me when he's dealing with something, no, that does not make him unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/18 02:40 PM
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I can only speak for myself but I've had "the spark" with guys who were less attractive than guys who I didn't have it with. I've dated a guy for three months who was a succesfull lawyer with a 9/10 face, muscular, smart, funny, interesting, he has all the girls going for him. I didn't feel a thing. I kept dating him because I was like "there's no way you don't feel anything for this guy, it has to come" but it didn't. It was fun hanging out but at no point did I feel my blood pressure rise when…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/18 02:35 PM
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