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Kids remember. Every time he looks at his mom's tattoo he'll remember where he falls on his mom's priority list. At 16 he'll probably be asking to move in with you.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 04:07 PM
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Hotdogs and a couple fried eggs. Sunny side up. Yum. I'd hit that.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 03:40 PM
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How sure are you that she was really out judging all those weekends?
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/25 03:37 AM
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Months? Dude.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/25 08:36 PM
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I've been following your story and Wow. Sounds like she's come full circle. How long between when she first dropped the D word and this sudden nostalgia? Is your divorce even finalized yet?
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 07:47 PM
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She trying to get back in the house?
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 03:44 AM
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If roles were reversed she'd bleed you dry for alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/25 08:03 PM
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She wants a fresh start in a new place without him. Why would he want to keep all her shit hanging around at his house? She is delusional. Definitely having some kind of mental disconnect.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 10:22 PM
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Good she's getting the message
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 12:37 PM
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Offer her the coffee machine. Tell her you never really liked it and you're just going to toss it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 02:22 AM
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She kept a straight face through the ride?
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/25 10:09 PM
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Google flying monkey
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 04:47 PM
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Curious what is the industry? Man she really fucked up.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/25 03:44 PM
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I'm an old man now but I grew up like this. Mom had primary custody and her house was a dump. Dad was every other weekend. He moved on to his new wife and family. He stayed in touch with my brother and me but were never really close. Stay tight with your kids. Don't lose them.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 04:29 PM
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She is making herself the villain, and you, the hero, in the eyes of your kids. As an old man whose parents divorced when I was 7, I promise you. Kids remember who said and did what. You keep doing exactly what you've doing. saved from his mother’s and she screamed at him and told him he is not allowed to bring his allowance here or spend it on anything that has to do with me. I mean SCREAMED at him in my driveway about during the handoff. I told him we’d work together and save for it, little do…
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/24 02:33 AM
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On the other hand I feel like the worst person ever, leaving someone that is very very ill Don't. She's putting herself first. She made getting wasted with her friends a priority over your relationship. Go forth and heal my friend.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 09:05 PM
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Are you still speaking with your stbxw since she moved out? What is her demeanor? Any sort of remorse or guilt?
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 10:20 PM
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Did you end up divorcing her yet?
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 04:12 AM
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Share with your friends and neighbors.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 12:34 AM
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Keep in mind I have lost 32 pounds by hitting the gym hard and been on a few bullshit dates nothing serious. I for the most part have been doing very well You are crushing life, buddy. I am proud of you. Chin up.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 09:43 PM
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Updateme
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 02:11 PM
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No verbal communication. Only in writing through a coparenting app. Greyrock her in person. Respond to her bullshit by stating, "I'm not discussing this with you now." Not only will that shut down the escalation, it will make her absolutely irate.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/24 06:32 PM
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Dude how much $ are we talking? This is your daughter's education. Is it really worth the fight? I think you should gently but firmly let your daughter know how much you've invested so far and that there is to be no more fucking around. Just put it behind you.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 08:46 PM
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Does your son know the reason behind the divorce? I like the idea of a family meeting. Put your stbx on the spot in front of your son... Before you betrayed and abandoned your family, we agreed to support our son through college. Here is what you've contributed so far. Here is what I've contributed. How much are you willing to commit to IN WRITING? Hammer out some sort of written agreement. Make her squirm on front of your son or alienate herself further.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/24 06:51 PM
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Sounds good please update us.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 06:56 PM
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2 years ago she wanted a divorce after just 2 months of marriage. Made it seem it was more about me being the prob, but later told me she was fighting the emotions of like women too. I manage to convince her to You buried the lede here. She is not a safe partner.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 05:33 PM
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Paternity test
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 05:31 PM
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It's manipulation through the use of triangulation. She is doing it to make you both jealous and create drama to boost her self-esteem and get attention. https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-triangulation-in-psychology-5120617#toc-what-is-triangulation
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 07:15 PM
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OK so this is an exit affair. I'm so sorry. Push the divorce as quickly as possible so she doesn't fight you.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 02:35 AM
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Why can't she move in with her girlfriend?
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 02:12 AM
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I try hard not to overthink when it comes to stuff like this. It not about you. it's about her. You know she's attention starved. She'll take validation wherever she can get it - her ex, his friends, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 04:37 PM
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It sounds like she does whatever TF she wants. Wants the stability of your home and relationship + "dont ask dont tell" on the side. If you can't trust her, then you don't have a safe partner. Pull the papers and start from the position that you WILL be divorcing her. Then, put the ball in her court to tell the truth and gauge her reaction. Maybe she'll squirm. Maybe she'll double down. That should give you a better idea how you want to proceed.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 04:33 PM
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Still. Glamor shots. Gtfoh with that.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 04:10 PM
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mail the other day and low and behold she sent me a Christmas cards of her with the kids and some glamour shots. I then get a call from one of my best buds that he also got the same Xmas card and was like "WTF"? I'm still waiting to get the Glamor shots of her WITHOUT the kids? To you and your buds? Divorced mom desperately seeking male validation and attention.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 04:03 PM
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She moved out and 3 weeks later showed up on my doorstep asking to work on things. Saying she made a mistake and she sees real change happening. You guys can work on things after the divorce. She can get her own apartment, and you guys can date. She can prove to you how badly she wants to work on things.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 03:56 AM
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Get a lawyer and get what you're legally entitled to. Working and home all your married years is still working.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 06:18 PM
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up with it. Now she realizes she is too gay to stay with me and wants a slow transition. We have a child and will be telling him after the holidays. She is visiting her right now. It's a nightmare. She is using you for the comfortable stable home you are providing while she's out living the single life. What do you get out of this arrangement? You'd better talk to a lawyer and start protecting yourself. She's had a long time to plan this. She's taking advantage of your love for her. You're being…
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 08:32 PM
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She needs money
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 01:28 AM
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Ask her "why do you think I'm asking for divorce?". Make her say it. If she plays dumb, just say "I know everything. " but never let on exactly how much you know. Let her tell you a few lies and call her out each time.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 05:01 AM
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My guy. Read the advice in this sub. Protective order is right out of the playbook. Intended to get you out of the house and put her in control. Greyrock, your wife. Do not engage with her arguments and do not show emotion as hard as that will be. Document all your interactions for evidence. Voice or video record if possible. This is a chess match. Do you have a lawyer? Get a good one and do what they tell you.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 05:33 PM
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She doesn't want to be the bad guy in her own story. Agreeing to be friends allows her to 1) Put on a show for the world that the split was mutual and amicable, and 2) Make herself feel better about abandoning and destroying her family. See? we're friends! This was all mean to be! It's another form of manipulation. Friends don't lie and betray each other.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/23 04:08 PM
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Maybe she's struggling internally herself. Maybe there is another guy she is drawn to, and this push-pull is intended to keep you busy while she decides what she wants or prepares her exit plan?
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 04:34 PM
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This push pull of go dont go, plus the moving goalposts demanding constant change from you, sounds like a manipulation tactic, mental illness, or both.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 06:32 PM
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Volunteer. Do something for folks who are in a worse situation than yourself. It distracts you and helps to put things in perspective.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 03:41 AM
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This 100% true for men or women. If someone wants to spend time with you, they don't care where you take them. They just want to be with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:27 AM
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out there). Why put all your chips on a serial cheater like the exw? Don't Because of the "greatest emotional connection ever!" Because omb is her soul mate! When she's on a work trip and the wind blows in another direction, she'll make her next "best emotional connection ever." She's probably already cheating on him, right? Dude, you are living your best life. You came out on the other side, looking like a king. You are a role model for others to follow.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 04:38 PM
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That's what I don't understand. Her reaction seems over the top. Why was she so upset over this losing guy when she admitted to having several other guys on deck? Isn't that the nature of non-exclusivity? Why did she feel entitled to this particular guy? Did she just expect to maintain this harem of men until she decides she done with one of them? People do have free will. No one is obligated to stay with anyone else. Are there other details in the original post that would provide more clarity?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:50 PM
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What if they were perfect for each other in every other respect? They weren't perfect for each other. That's why they are no longer together. If she was perfect for him, he wouldn't have broken it off. If he was perfect for her, she wouldn't still be playing the field. The stars didn't align for theae two.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:36 PM
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I guess I don't understand why the woman was so distraught in this scenario. The way you tell the story, the man was surprised and broke it off, as is his right. He isn't required to continue dating her if he doesn't want to, and neither does she. You don't say he scolded her or slut shamed her in any way, as others here seem to be implying. I'm confused why there was so much drama after the fact. She has multiple other men in her rotation, but for some reason, losing this guy's attention was up…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:20 PM
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I don’t have to do any of this. I don’t have to get married. Men are not a necessity at all. Keeping them out of my life has brought me nothing but peace and joy. I have a great life and I’m happy. If I settle down it’ll only be with a man who makes life even better. If it happens, awesome. If it doesn’t and I never find someone who adds to my life….this is also awesome. I truly do not care. Ultimately I’d rather be single and happy than married and miserable (which is the norm for women). So ye…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 02:15 PM
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Hearing from more wives who are the breadwinners with the same complaints as you... stay at home or lower income dads take them to the cleaners.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 05:19 PM
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Your wife is trying to catch herself a new man. That's why she's dismissing his behavior. new boyfriend has a hero complex. You and your sons both know what kind of dad you are. I would probably share a little more age appropriate info about this dynamic with them. How it makes you feel, etc. I might also launch my own social media counterattack. I'd maybe share his own posts on my page with a few strategic comments, like "jeez, I've been coaching little man since he was 8. He knows how to swing…
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 06:37 PM
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Ignore all her bullshit. You're not looking to maintain a relationship with the person who cheated and left you. All communication should be related to coparenting in writing or through a coparenting app.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 05:12 PM
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Where are you getting this data?
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 02:33 AM
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Here’s the challenge. When women go through the hoe phase, they learn to decouple sex from intimacy and connection. It’s very much so a forced programing. This allows them to feel comfortable with meaningless sex. This inhibits their ability to pair bond. Even though they desire to be in a long term relationship, and even though they may have addressed the issues that cause the promiscuous behavior, they still face an inability to pair bond. Is this behavior unique to women, or is this true for …
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 08:04 PM
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I'm sorry my friend. I hope you and your spouse can find some peace.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/23 07:51 PM
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Read up on "walk away wife". It sounds exactly what you are describing. When the complaints quiet down, men think everything is fine. But in reality, the wife has planned her escape, whether that is to wait until kids the kids are grown, or get a job and save until they can support themselves, etc. They are just biding their time. Once they are ready to put the plan in effect, the husband is "blindsided." https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/divorce-busting/202209/the-walkaway-wife-syndrome-r…
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/23 07:34 PM
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Playbook.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 11:49 PM
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Talk to a lawyer. Press charges. File for a restraining order. Get her out of the house.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 08:50 PM
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You destroy by freezing her out. Zero emotions. Send her to him. Kick her out of the house. Tell her she can move in with him while you file for divorce. Spin it like you are doing her a favor and giving her what she wants. Absolutely no contact unless it concerns your child. Make her feel real life with this guy. Make her smell his farts. Make her fight over the TV remote with him. Make her coordinate buying groceries and paying bills and commuting to work with him. Once she realizes the grass …
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 07:24 PM
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You could go. Look your best and be cordial. Drop a few choice comments at strategic times. Shake ombs hand and ask how he's enjoying your house. Greet her coworkers and yiur in laws ask how long they knew these two were fucking around. Just enough to make it low-key awkward for everyone but not enough for your daughter to notice. That'd be petty, though.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 03:39 PM
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Your ex is manipulating your daughter. She is parroting what her mom says. "I sure hope your daddy comes to your birthday party." Yah, deep in enemy territory surrounded by her AP and support system that knew about the affair. There will be so many people there that your daughter will hardly notice your presence. I wouldn't go. I'd find a way to express to my daughter (maybe with the help of your therapist) that mommy really hurt daddy's feelings, and even though mommy SAYS she wants me there, I…
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 02:15 PM
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Why is she refusing to sign?
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/23 12:29 AM
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Breathe a sigh of relief. At least you know where you stand with her. It's no longer a guessing game. You have a starting point for your next move.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 04:51 AM
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This is how negotiation works
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/23 03:10 PM
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off guard). So, we texted back and forth and while texting her I realized I am not the only one in pain. After I left, she had a nervous breakdown. Wow, I was not expecting that! She You are very kind to want to help your ex. Does she want your help? It's not clear from your post why she reached out to you? What was the point of her contact? You can't fix her. She needs to want to fix herself.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 09:20 PM
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Right and if it reaches that point you know it's time to bounce.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 04:23 PM
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Weaponizing the police against you seems pretty extreme
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 01:50 PM
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except the last 9 months. For starters my wife suffered from depression from several family losses when I met her. That coupled with a family that never made her feel like enough always made her feel a bit broken, but I was always able to make her feel worthy and help her keep her head up. other coworkers. They bonded over this which led to an emotional affair. Texting behind my back, most of which was work related and innocent, but he eventually confessed his feelings. My wife hasn't said anyth…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 05:51 PM
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She’s asking me to fill in all the missing information on my stuff, like my job info, SSN, banking and investment accounts. Uh no. This is the beginning of your lives as separate independent adults. She can work with her lawyer, and you will work with yours. That's how divorce works.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 03:55 PM
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Annul the marriage and have her sectioned for her own safety.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 04:43 PM
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There you go. Say that to your date when she asks why you're divorced. "Well, it's very nuanced, you see... wait! Come back! Where are you going?"
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 12:06 AM
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How do I tell prospective partners I'm divorced because I cheated on my ex-wife without sounding like a jerk?
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 09:51 PM
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Hurry Hurry Hurry get her to sign
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 08:27 PM
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Yeah that new situation is not going to last. Make sure your daughters have a comfortable space in your home. That's where they will want to spend most of their time.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/23 09:20 PM
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I've been following your story. I am sorry about your situation but it sounds like you're doing everything right. Keep your eyes on the finish line.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/23 06:54 PM
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Of course there is. They broadcast red flags on their ig accounts.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 10:14 PM
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absolutely not. I ask why. They say they do all this work for "safety" and that I have no reason to "because you don't have to worry about your safety." Huge double standard. You absolutely have to worry about your safety. How do you know the woman isn't bpd or a bunny boiler? What if she's been married a half dozen times?
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 10:06 PM
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She's willing to bring home any shithead who wants to throw a shot at her when the ink is barely dry on the paper? This reflects poorly on her, not you, King. You've got self-respect. You were smart to get out.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 07:37 PM
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Yeah he's just her next bad decision. I wouldn't try to overthink it.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 05:17 PM
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My real question is: what type of man expects a woman to move her children to the other side of the planet away from their father who has a strong relationship with his kids? I think you're asking the wrong questions. What kind of mother moves her kids halfway around the world from their father? What kind of mother shacks up with a junkie? What kind of mother shacks up with a pedophile? Based on her history of erratic and irresponsible behavior, I would argue that you have grounds for 100% custo…
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 04:55 PM
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Sorry for beating this to death. I guess I'm concerned about you worrying about your wife having hypothetical dates at some point when there is your pending divorce and her current affair partner to focus on.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 08:29 PM
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You keep saying that. But your son is going into high school. He will be fine. His well-being is not in jeopardy. How long do you think she was playing you for a fool? How long did she plan before asking for a divorce? And then one final cash withdrawal to bleed you dry and go run off with her friend? She's had you so manipulated. She was convinced you'd give her everything she asked for. Every time she nervously asks what you're thinking or telling you, we have to talk it's because she's trying…
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 08:23 PM
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But again, this is about your wife, not her affair partner. Assuming there is someone else, she's is juggling trying to navigate this divorce and another outside relationship. She obviously realized that divorcing you means a drastic change to her standard of living. Especially if she's seeing some guy in an apartment. But that's what she wanted. Every time she tries to guilt bomb you,why not simply bring up her "friend" in the apartment bldg? Remind her how easy this could be if she agrees to y…
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 07:31 PM
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Ok. So she asked for divorce initially. She stepped out on you (you suspect). When she realized you wouldn't continue to support her after the divorce, she changed her mind about the divorce. Does her shady behavior continue. Do you think she's still seeing someone, or has that blown up? What I'm getting at is why not push her into the arms of her affair partner and suggest it to her as an easy way out of this marriage?
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 07:08 PM
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I read your post history. What happened to her affair? You think that is still going on? When she complains that she needs all your income, why haven't you suggested that she move in with this new guy and let him support her?
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 06:47 PM
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What point are you trying to make with this post? Sex feels good? OK. Tie this into divorce_men, please.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/23 06:04 PM
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Keep in mind that a woman can simply announce she's available, and every shithead in the area will shoot his shot. That doesn't mean she's having quality dates. Still, kinda shitty of her. You're thinking of your ex's medical debt while she's out living her best life. You don't need that noise in your life. I'd move out.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 06:54 PM
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Honey I love you, but not enough to make sure your medical bills are covered. Hahahahahahahaha... cmon dude.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 02:18 PM
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Wife told me last night she wants to move to an Airbnb for a few weeks to be alone and think. No reason for me "To be alone"... She's not going to be alone. This is either an exit affair or a practice divorce. And based on your comments about paying her debt, you'll be bankrolling her little party. Tell her if she wants to be alone, you'll draw up the papers, and she can have all the alone time she needs. Either she wants to be married to you or she doesn't. Force her hand. Prepare for the worst…
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/23 10:06 PM
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My dude. You weren't good enough. You were a bad husband. She wanted out. She wanted this other guy. Took him home to YOUR kids. Now come to find out he's a shitbag with 5 other girlfriends, and maybe you weren't such a bad husband after all. Until she gets bored again?
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 01:01 AM
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