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The irony here is that the "sexual strategy" is what got you laid on the side while your failure to "self actualize" is what keeps you struggling. You're just too dense to see it. You list a check-box of attractive traits and why you're a catch. Good for you. Why aren't you happy then? Why are you still frustrated even though you know that you can occasionally fuck your wife and are capable of sex outside your marriage? You have all the tools you need to get sex. If sex is the only area your foc…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/21 04:10 PM
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Any chance that you were reluctant to tell her about your barbell medicine coaching because you know that you have a covert contract buried underneath? Something along the lines of getting stronger/more attractive to make her fuck you like you want. If it was really all about you, you wouldn’t need to consider her reaction or “think up” an explanation. You could simply tell her the truth such as “it’s something I really wanted to do”. But, I sense your anxiety about this because you worry about …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/21 07:50 PM
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Sorry for not responding for so long. It’s been a busy time to say the least. I totally get what youre saying though. If I had anything to add, it would be to give what you choose to do with your time some calculated thought and make sure you enjoy it. Make the most of your life by your own standards. Make sure your dream of turning your wife into your slut is based in reality. MRP tends to gloss over the fact that a significant variable is your wife. It’s completely possible that you achieve ev…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 09:50 PM
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I read through nearly all of your OYS and a couple things stick out to me. You don’t appear to have any passions or joy in your life. My guess is that sex makes you feel desired or good about yourself (validation). Not that your current amount of sex is acceptable on any level, I think it’s why you are so fixated on it. You’ve got bigger issues than the sex though. And just to be clear, finding happiness in something besides your wife’s vagina won’t lead to more sex. It will, however, give you s…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/20 06:29 PM
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U/Ubermensch33 is giving you some great advice. Pay attention. Also, the months vs years timeline is kind of bullshit. Sure, it’s a guide but it’s your life and the changes are dependent on YOU. The truth is that you can change and improve but their is no finish line and the amount of time you’ve invested is pretty irrelevant as measuring stick.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/20 08:59 PM
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I’m probably crazy but I think you’re actually making some good progress and having good self introspection. You’re beginning to realize why you’ve been criticized for being needy and seeking direction and approval from others. The next step is to figure out how to fix it. Find some confidence, make your own decisions, deal with the consequences. Good or bad. You’re jail cell analogy reminds me of the “there is no spoon scene” from the Matrix. It’s just in you’re head. You’re free to live on you…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/20 03:47 PM
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Looks like you’re connecting some dots regarding your frame and centering around your wife. Although humbling, it’s good that you are beginning to see this. I suspect that your anxiety stems from being codependent for so long and basic fear. Try leaning into things that cause your anxiety. Instead of hiding from uncertainty or waffling, make a decision and go with it. You need to know that at as a man you have all the tools necessary to overcome anything. You can’t and shouldn’t try to control e…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/20 07:53 PM
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For a guy that mostly has his shit together, you sure get bent out of shape over your sex life. Why is that? My guess is there's still a lot of validation and comparing of your life to others around here. It pisses you off that you can't get from your wife what other dudes on here can. While having a good sex life matters, it matters a lot less when everything else in your life is awesome. She obviously is a control freak that makes rules. That's what the "consent" shit test was all about. Spoil…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 08:38 PM
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What does picking up a phone and calling a potential customer 24 times have to do with luck? You’re the prize. You get shit done. You close deals.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/20 05:07 PM
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You’re OYS reeks of neediness, oneitis, and nice guy bitterness. You’ve supposedly read NMMNG 3 times? How is it that you still have zero frame and remain such a “pleaser” to a wife that doesn’t even want to be with you? In your interactions with your wife, do you ever ask yourself “who’s doing who a favor?” Asking her on a date should be a gift to her, in your case, it’s not. Why? You’re wife has literally told you she wants to be treated as a roommate. Why are you having these retarded convers…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/20 09:43 PM
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Echoing the advice you’ve received, stop just trying to get through the day and instead live each day to the fullest. Something that clicked for me was when being a parent stopped feeling like a job. Instead, I realized I get to share my interest and hobbies with my kids. Sure you still have to take care of them, but you are also able to guide and teach (mentor) them. Invite your kids and wife into the awesome life that you decide build. Stop letting life happen to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/20 08:02 PM
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There are plenty of ways to get jacked without blowing your shoulder out. Volume and frequency are probably your best bets as long is your shoulder isn’t screaming. I can’t even tell you how long I wrestled with the same frustration. I did figure something out that worked for me. My wife sucks at covert communication. I literally had to tell her what was acceptable and what I needed out of her without shame or guilt. Not really a FMOFY, (which I tried and failed, for the record) but more a “look…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/20 07:47 PM
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Typical back story. Couldn’t get laid on my birthday, got butt hurt. Negotiated desire. Failed miserably. Found this place. Figured a lot of shit out from reading OYS and journaling. Had fitness figured out but had lots of covert contracts and dancing monkey behaviors to overcome. Figured most things out and found a “mission” that I’m completely comfortable with. It helps guide decisions and keep me focused on what’s important to me. I really don’t have a ton of “shit to own” but there nagging i…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/20 07:30 PM
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That’s one. Sorry it doesn’t apply.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/20 07:10 PM
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Shoulder issues explain a lot. If that’s the case, DB bench might be a better way to go. Either way, getting stronger is never “wrong” but barbell bench isn’t the end all be all either. Do your own research and decide what is best for you. I think you’re on the right track as long as you can communicate that in your own style without butthurt. What other value does she provide to you? If everything else is “good”, is low sex worth blowing things up? Is sex your focal point because everything els…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/20 07:09 PM
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You should look into high frequency bench pressing. Your bench numbers suck and I suspect more frequency may help you get stronger quickly. Check out Greg Nuckols programs, good stuff. Regarding the sex. My guess is that your wife is one of those wives that Is productive and contributes value but fails to come close to your sexual expectations. MIW had a post about “sexual grey” that you might find useful. Anyhow, I could be way off base here but the next time you initiate and get shot down, wha…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/20 03:52 PM
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I assure you when I found this place 3 years ago it was because “shit was fucked up”. Now, not so much. Considering I’ve made every textbook mistake along the way, I decided to seek feedback and hopefully contribute. I’m here to better myself and swap notes. Regarding boundaries, basically how much bitching do you tolerate in a given situation. Perhaps it’s something to shrug off, like you say. I have a tendency to try and “fix” things. Classic nice guy behavior. Thank you for your input.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/20 08:13 PM
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OYS 1 35, married 11 years. 2 kids 10, 9. 6’2”, 182 10-12% bf. visual/scale Bench 265, squat 335, deadlift 405 Readings: all of sidebar, lurking for about 3 years Mission: live life filled with adventure, fun, and meaningful relationships. I will accomplish this by being attractive, financially successful, provide good leadership as a father, and live without fear. Fitness: good. Been lifting 3-5 days per week for 5 years. Currently using Greg Nuckols programming. Finances: good. Zero debt beyon…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 08:33 PM
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Holding “frame” isn’t always just putting yourself first or standing your ground amidst conflict. It’s an authenticity that you carry about yourself that even if you have friends with “flaws” or aren’t exactly “your people”that you can accept them because they do not change who YOU are and yet you can still receive value from their friendship. That being said, I still get wanting to find friends that you “click” with. Something to think about.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/20 09:20 PM
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You might also consider how this connects with “frame”.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/20 05:23 PM
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I pictured what living my best life should look like. What things, relationships, friends, lifestyle do I need in my life to have no regrets. From there, it’s simply setting goals and identifying the necessary steps to get you there. I found it makes decision making very easy because you only need to ask yourself if something aids you in your mission or not.
/r/askMRP11/09/20 05:21 PM
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I understand what you’re saying about finding “your people” but you are likely missing out on some opportunities by being closed minded. Experience has shown me to be okay with accepting guys that I wouldn’t normally think of as “my people”. For example, could you click with someone even if they were blue pill? Or do they need to think like you and have your exact interests?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/20 06:48 PM
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It’s very telling how he throws himself a faggot pity party to justify and excuse his lack of progress. Must be a real special snowflake. I guess not everyone has it as easy as Horns.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/20 06:35 PM
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Pay attention to the advice that has been given. Also, I know all too well what you are going through. Your wife is obviously a Type A control freak who manipulates and dangles the sex carrot to get what she wants. She likely uses her income and career status as justification for power in the relationship as well. Keep focusing on yourself and what you can control and avoid being a dancing monkey. I'm of the belief that this type of woman is incapable of "following". She will tolerate and apprec…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 08:06 PM
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