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Scarlett_Begonias/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 03:23 PM
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I don't have an issue with her having him pay for it. He's six, so obviously his parents gave him the money, and dinner for two costs more than any six year old should get in allowance. Kids like the independence of paying for things with their own money. It's the fact that she's setting it up as a "date" that fucking creeps me out. The whole emphasis on being a gentleman and "how to treat a woman" is ridiculously inappropriate for his age. He should be learning about how to treat people conside…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/16 12:36 AM
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This is exactly my opinion as well. I don't give a shit how many people someone has slept with. Seems almost silly to care about to me. But it is useful to know if they care, because any guy who cares about my number is most likely going to be incompatible with me in other ways as well. My SO felt a bit insecure about my number being higher than his, but the topic didn't even come up until we had been together almost two years and had a baby. So that kinda shows how little we care about it. Also…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/15 01:47 PM
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I don't think you and I really disagree here.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/15 05:37 PM
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I understand what you're saying. I have a kid and I love her as much as a person can love I think. But I also believe you can sever that bond, at least in some people. You have that bond with your child because you develop it by creating and nurturing the child. Adoptive parents of course feel the same kind of love and attachment, so it's not just "this kid has my genes and my body senses it." Imagine a future society where embryos are raised in artificial wombs and infants cared for in nurserie…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/15 03:12 PM
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That makes more sense than pretty much all the other replies here.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/15 03:00 PM
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I'm not a red piller, kind of the opposite really, but I don't believe in unconditional love at all. Love is just the attachment we have for the people who make us feel nice feelings, and those with whom we're used to spending time and interacting. You can love anyone if you're forced to spend enough time together and not allowed to kill each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/15 12:32 PM
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I like him too. A little chubby and cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/15 02:11 AM
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Not sure if doing heroin makes the red pill look bad, or if being red pill makes doing heroin look bad...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/15 06:53 PM
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This exchange ended three days ago; you're a bit late. Now if you could leave me the fuck alone that would be wonderful.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/15 11:13 AM
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But I never said that. Here, I'll break it down for you again. We met, we started casually dating. Both of us were also casually dating someone else. In his case I think there were two others. We were NOT official. I moved 1000 miles away. I thought I would be gone for a year or two. We both acknowledged that it would be silly to start a long distance relationship when we had hardly been dating a month. I started seeing another guy where I had moved. I moved back to where I was before. When it b…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/15 12:58 PM
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Read: You fucked lots of guys after committing to monogamy with your 'fiance'! um, no, it was before we committed to monogamy. Where did you get that it was after?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/15 12:24 PM
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Just because it doesn't apply to me doesn't meant it doesn't apply to many or most other people. I'm bi, poly, and used to be heavily involved in the drug scene. Most people, whether they're male or female, don't do those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/15 12:22 PM
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Well you're entitled to your opinion love. Thanks for being nice about it anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/15 06:16 AM
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What did I say I like and how is that different from what I actually like? I like all different kinds of men. I've liked men who you would call "alphas" and men who you would call "betas." I have a thing for gingers but most guys I go for are dark haired (this is probably because gingers are so rare though), and my fiancé has blond hair. I don't like him for his hair. I like guys who are a little asshole-ish and guys who are nice. I prefer smart men to stupid but I've dated some dumb ones too. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/15 04:40 AM
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You "can't negotiate attraction" but if a girl isn't attracted to you, you can still "win her over".... Yeah that makes sense. More like I misunderstood what the guy meant by "win her over", because apparently he meant "make yourself more attractive." Doesn't seem like the same thing to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/15 04:37 AM
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Again with the cherry picking!! That ex and I were in an exclusive relationship for quite a while before we made it an open relationship at his request. He thought that would mean swimming in pussy but it did not. Most people in open relationships will tell you they don't just have a ton of sex with randoms all the time. And I think it's silly to equate an open relationship with being friends with benefits. It's quite different. Friends with benefits doesn't involve any of the trappings of a rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/15 04:23 AM
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Unattractive guys can definitely change and be more attractive. I never said they couldn't. There have been guys I wasn't attracted to, who I met again later and then found attractive because they had changed. That's not a dude who I'm not attracted to "winning me over" by convincing me to like him.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/15 03:50 AM
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You cherry picked the shit out of that dude.... 1) My ex was ugly and not a "hot alpha" at all. I liked him because he was sweet but it turned out he was a total dick when he was drunk. I'm fine with open relationships, in fact that's what I prefer, but this guy was not prepared for the reality of it. 2) I dropped out of college years before I met either of the guys in question. So no, I'm not "trying to better myself", like at all. Though I have had better jobs since then, and am now working wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/15 03:46 AM
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No guy who I've had zero interest in has ever "won me over".... except for pity sex I guess, but I only do that for friends, and I have very few friends. In fact I don't think any man has "won me over." More like the other way round. I go after the men I want, not the men I don't want. If they're interested then great, we enjoy each other til one of us gets bored. If they aren't I move on. Nothing I've ever read in TRP has remotely applied to me or to any of the men I've liked. I guess they migh…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/15 02:16 AM
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Not like some places but there is quite a bit of drug use. Of course most rural areas do have an issue with it. Weirdly though I saw a lot more drugs (and did a lot more drugs) in the city. Most things are very hard to get here. There have been a few heroin busts in the region recently though. However it's not just babies and small children with weird names around here. Of the names I mentioned only 3 were under 20 years old (Shalusta is a woman whose kids are my age), and I've seen some extreme…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 07:29 PM
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My sister (22 years younger than I am) has a different last name than my brother and I. Do you really think people assume my mom is a trashy slut because she slept with 2 guys 2 decades apart? (I mean I'm sure she slept with plenty of others in between but that's neither here nor there.) On the other hand I have the same last name as another half-sister (12 years younger), but everyone who knows that family knows that my brother and I aren't my step-mother's kids. As far as I know though, no one…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 01:10 PM
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Who cares how it reads at all? "Broken homes" or "bastard babies"? Lol. My 3 year old half-sister has a different last name than my brother and I do, should I be ashamed to admit that? Also your ex Shandel should move to a different area. Where I live it's over 90% white but there are tons of ridiculous names. I worked with a Gremeka (greh-MEE-kah) and a Matraca (mah-TRAY-sah), and I've seen Aureyauna (like Arianna...), Mykynli (McKinley), Tequilla, Chardonnay, Devarion, Britian (yes that spelli…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 01:04 PM
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That makes total sense to me and if my fiance put it that way I'd be totally cool with it. Of course, I don't place a lot of importance on marriage and I wouldn't be disappointed by a "lifetime relationship."
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 12:50 PM
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I don't think it matters. I'm undecided as to whether I will change my name. My fiance's name is similar to mine in length and ease of spelling/pronunciation. Mine is of Irish origin and his is most likely English but can be an Anglicization from Irish, Scottish or German, so they even have a similar sound. The major factor on the side of changing my name is that our daughter has his name. As far as I recall we never discussed that. I could've written whatever the hell name I wanted in there but…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 12:19 AM
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Ladies, if you were about to get married and your fiance told you that you CANNOT have his name; that he's keeping it and you have to keep your own; how are you going to feel about it? Cool, fine. I honestly have no idea if I'm going to change my name and my fiance doesn't care. Our names are similar in length, sound, and ease of spelling. Our daughter has his last name. (We didn't have a discussion about that but I believe he would've argued strongly for it.)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/15 12:12 AM
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It also fits with the typical mindset. They like a more organized social structure. Not that there's anything wrong with that. I just don't feel the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/15 02:40 PM
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That seems very oversimplified to me. For one thing I think religion predates monogamous marriage, but there are no sure things when you go that far back. Do you have any evidence that the earliest religions even promoted monogamy? Also there were probably a lot of factors that went into religion. One of the biggest was probably the development of a deeper understanding of death, of wondering about our souls/spirits and where our loved ones go when they are dead. Then there are the traditional e…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/15 02:36 PM
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Despite embracing an alternative social perspective, a surprising number of TRPers are actually quite close minded to other forms of alternative knowledge (politics, science, medicine, etc). Is it really that surprising to you? Their "alternative social perspective" is so conservative it's almost anachronistic. I don't mean that to be insulting; there's nothing wrong with being old-fashioned in some ways. But I expect most Red Pillers trust doctors, police, government institutions, etc. way more…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/15 03:06 AM
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Some people might even say that you should stick to work at work, even if you're single. (Of course I suppose that could depend on your profession.)
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/15 05:31 PM
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Me too! I've been trying to fatten my SO up a bit... He's not skinny but he could gain like 20 lbs for sure. EDIT: My ideal man, physically, is a bit overweight but also fairly strong. Not toothpick limbs and a beer belly. I think a lot of women like big men because they induce feelings of security. I guess the stereotypical female obsession with height goes along the same lines, but I personally prefer a guy within 2 inches of my height either way (I'm 5'7", current SO is maybe 5'9" or a little…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/15 02:36 PM
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"Women are a pack of liars!" That implies all women. Women don't lie or deceive any more often than men do. Some people are generally honest and some people are generally dishonest, some liars get away with it and some don't, and their geneder doesn't make a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/15 01:31 PM
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Add to this push up bras, makeup, girdles/spats, and all the other deceptive things that women use to hide their flaws or appear to have assets which they don't and women really aren't that much prettier than most men. Men intuit this even if they are punished for expressing it publicly. It's misogyny to point out that women are a pack of liars pretending to to something they are not to trick men into liking them As a woman who doesn't wear make-up or push-up bras (usually no bras at all honestl…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/15 04:59 AM
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My personal experience is the opposite. Maybe approachability, or perceived approachability, plays a part as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/15 12:34 PM
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Men will always approach women. Fashion has existed for centuries and has encompassed many styles that are not revealing at all. From my personal experience, I dress like a mixture of a 13 year old boy and a homeless pirate, and I get approached plenty. In college I used to go to parties in sweatpants and my dad's t-shirts, and I collected boys' numbers like candy. All that said, I don't disagree with you. It's just a different kind of approach when the women seems less "available." I dress in a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/15 12:20 PM
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Do women really care about height that much? I am a woman but it's never been a big thing for me. I prefer men who are within 2 inches of my height in either direction (I'm 5'7"). It just feels the best while hugging and kissing, it's the best for standing-up sex, and makes me feel more equally matched when we're facing each other and talking. But I dated one guy who was 5'3" and one who was 6'0" and I didn't have a big problem with either of their heights really. The tall guy was skinny so I co…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/15 01:40 AM
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I don't think they're racist so much as targeted to their audience... Most of the men there seem to be upper middle class, native-born North Americans. So it's no surprise that most of what they say doesn't apply as well (if at all) to people who are poor, or immigrants, or anyone who belongs to a subculture, religion, ethnicity, lifestyle, or whatever that is substantially different from the "norm." They're not all white but most RP "facts" and advice are geared towards the typical experience o…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/15 05:36 AM
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That's why I used vagina size as my first example.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/15 11:38 AM
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Where I'm from most women have multiple children by age 25 so the situation you're describing isn't familiar to me at all. I'm 25 and most people I know are married/as good as married (many on their second marriage) with kids. It's like if you're not upper middle class and from the city/suburbs you're not "the norm" ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/15 02:38 AM
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All the black women I know are religious, mothers/grandmothers, generally breadwinners/heads of their families, very responsible. I've met a few that were criminals also (I know a lot of criminals) but I suppose they are by definition outliers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/15 04:58 PM
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Exactly. Like if you want casual sex at age 20 you have to only want casual sex forever, you can never decide you're ready for a relationship or meet someone who makes you want to be committed
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/15 01:07 PM
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I know what you're saying but I guess I don't believe the percentage of women who are "like that" is as high as most red pillers believe. That said I do know a few upper middle or upper class white chicks, and most of them do seem to be like that. The thing is what about allllll the other women in the world? No black woman I've met has been remotely like TRP's idea of the average woman, for one thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/15 01:02 PM
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I understand what you're saying, but for one thing who doesn't have problematic traits? I don't do drugs anymore, haven't since before I conceived my daughter. My boyfriend (who is her father of course) still dabbles on occasion. Anyways I don't have to defend myself here, because I don't want to be more desirable to men who would never want to date me even if I did everything "right." Not everyone who is raised like me remains a member of our group. I don't know what to call the group but in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/15 12:52 PM
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I didn't mean just in terms of race. I'm white and have dated mostly white guys, but some were from such a wildly different background than mine that it was hard to relate.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/15 07:11 AM
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Not all of us. And in my experience a lot of men have the same issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/15 07:08 AM
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Women don't derive satisfaction (EDIT: Or life purpose or life direction) from their jobs. They just don't. That's ridiculous. Do you have evidence for that?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/15 07:01 AM
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Probably a few. I hope less than 10%. There were a couple who may have had girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/15 06:53 AM
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I'm ten years younger than you with well over twice your number. 15 is not that high for real.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/15 06:50 AM
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Why do all Indian women who date other ethnicities but end up married to an Indian man have to be "settling"? Would you say that a white woman who dated non-white men but married a white guy "settled"? I think that young people often like to date around with people from different backgrounds or with different lifestyles. When it comes to committing to a life partner, however, we usually end up with someone from a similar background.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/15 06:38 AM
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Interesting. I figured a lot of girls were like me but many women have told me they prefer "average or smaller." Which I guess is their way of saying "I am less slutty than you." I don't know, I can't make heads or tails of other chicks most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/15 06:27 AM
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It's weird how you and I ended up doing the same kind of thing but we were motivated by totally different circumstances. Almost the opposite circumstances really. This illustrates the main thing I don't trust about TRP, which is that everything is so black and white. If she acts like this, it's because of this, and you should do this. If she acts like that, it's because that, and so on. Everyone is coming from a different place though. I suppose that's part of the reason it's easier to date peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 09:43 PM
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The problem with giving pity fucks to guy friends who can't get laid is them wanting more than that. In general what they really want is a girlfriend, not a casual fling. I've had better luck sleeping with guy friends who weren't desperate for it. They still appreciate it, because sex is sex and I didnt get all this experience without learning a thing or two, but that don't fall in love after. And that's good for me because it took getting pregnant to get me into a committed exclusive relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 09:37 PM
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Ah yes, there's the bad side of it... In my case I ended up sleeping with this much-older guy for similar reasons to yours, who was not a good influence but who was "mentoring" me in a group that I was sort of trying to join (long, incriminating story so we'll skip that) and it ended up almost ruining my life. For one thing the guy decided I needed to be his girlfriend and move in with him, and he had a lot of younger women on his "payroll" who he enlisted to fuck with me when I didn't cooperate…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 09:20 PM
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Yeah I guess you're just stuck with what you got... Every person's body is different and everyone has their own preferences. I suppose a guy with a small dick would probably prefer a smaller vagina - I've been into big ones since I can remember, and I've had a baby now so yeah. Or for a different example, some men only want to date women who are curvy and have large breasts and hips, which will never be me. So if that's their deal we probably wouldn't get past friendship, and that's just that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 09:05 PM
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I suppose I should say that most men don't fulfill all the requirements I have to enter a relationship with them. Not that I have excessively high standards but my values are different enough from the "norm" that you'd have to be very weird yourself to want to be with be or for me to want to be with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 09:00 PM
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Lol, I don't know exactly, I don't measure 'em or anything. But big enough. Lengthwise average or a bit above is good enough but it's gotta have the girth. I like it to hurt a bit ya know?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 07:58 PM
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Thanks for responding, I spent a ridiculous amount of time on that for a reddit post! Hope my experience helps somehow. For some reason I'm super interested in Red Pill theory, though at first I was often a little put off by it. Looking at it logically though it's easy to accept that I'm far from most men's ideal, because most men are far from my ideal as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 07:32 PM
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I understand where you're coming from, but promiscuity and dishonesty don't necessarily go hand-in-hand. I've never lied about my number. My boyfriend did lie to me about his the first time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 07:08 PM
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Can't say though that the instability is due to the partner count, or the partner count is due to the instability. I'd say the latter. It can be a coping mechanism - when you can't really connect with people emotionally, you try to connect with them physically. Also keep in mind that sex feels very good, it releases dopamine in the brain like a drug. So just like people turn to drugs to make them "feel better", they also have mad sex, or jump headlong into ill-advised serious relationships, to c…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 06:34 PM
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Well I'm a 25 year old woman, quite a high n-count I'd say, so I may be qualified to share my experience.... I'm not married but I'm in a committed relationship (~3 years) and we have a kid. If either of us were inclined towards marriage we would probably have done it by now. Anyways I'll try to address some of your questions. I have some specific regrets about certain people I slept with, but I don't regret my number, and my number would be high even without those. They talk about how her curre…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 06:29 PM
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I have dated men who were 5'5"-5'6" as well. Greatly preferred that to the one guy over 5'10" I dated, he was just too tall.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/15 07:32 PM
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He's 5'9" so not exactly an NBA star but he's tall enough. I'm 5'7" and I like guys to be close to my height. But for the record by "bad teeth" I mean the last dentist he saw very heavily suggested that he is a meth user, and they are really a big insecurity for him. My teeth are not doing well either due to health problems so that's one of our biggest priorities if we ever get our shit together. For the record though my SO would never say "be nice and women will want you." He would never admit …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/15 01:26 PM
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You definitely don't have to be THAT good looking to be the kind of high SMV guy who doesn't understand why TRP exists. My SO was basically flabbergasted when I showed him some of the RP posts. He was like "Wow what planet do these guys live on? Women are people, they're just people with pussies..." He's not the most confident guy (he's nice looking but he has very bad teeth, is uneducated and often unemployed, doesn't have a car, etc.) but he is naturally very comfortable with women and really …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/15 09:30 PM
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Great sex is how men, in general, experience love and validation from their woman. More women need to understand this.
/r/TheRedPill20/05/15 01:16 PM
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...if the cartoon-watching emotion-coddling dude doesn't escalate IN A FUCKING MONTH, then he deserves the girl window-shopping for cock when he's not around. This is a good point. In my years of dating experience, I've never seen someone for a month without having sex. I suppose truly religious people might do it.
/r/TheRedPill20/05/15 01:15 PM
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Thanks for linking to that sub! I have found my own quirks easier to deal with since I recognized my personality type and saw the pattern into which most of my traits fit.
/r/TheRedPill19/05/15 08:14 PM
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There are some men who get approached a lot, even by women who would usually not approach. There are probably some quantifiable reasons for this beyond physical attractiveness or an "air of confidence", but whatever it is it's not the norm. There are also some women who prefer to make the first move, but these are exceptions, and some people around here would say that those women are the ones you don't want anyways.
/r/TheRedPill01/04/15 04:38 PM
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Nope. Variety of reasons I suppose but mostly, to borrow a turn of phrase from Hermione Granger, I have the emotional range of a teaspoon. Half my ex boyfriends will tell you the biggest problem was I cheated on and then left them (EDIT: for some reason it took me several tries to be able to end a relationship without involving a third person.... Shitty but I learned from it.) The other half will say I never managed to show a normal human level of affection. Current boyfriend of two years is pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/14 08:32 PM
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I don't know if this is totally accurate. I don't know about what it's like to be a man, but as a woman I can say that I have basically never been "supported" in any way by other women, besides members of my immediate family. I think women see each other as competition in a much more comprehensive way than men do, and as a result, we all fucking hate each other. Most women manage to find one or two very good friends who become like family and can be relied upon not to backstab and whatnot, but i…
/r/TheRedPill28/11/14 03:35 PM
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I've always approached men. I know what I want and I get it. I'd say that both red pill and blue pill guys are usually quite receptive, even if they aren't interested, probably just because it's novel for a female to take the initiative (some of the other comments here confirm this.) But after the initial reaction, for the ones who are interested I've found guys take two approaches. The typical "alpha" guy will correctly read my interest as purely sexual, and after I express my interest they uns…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/14 12:43 PM
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I agree. Whether she's attracted to the other guy or not she could consciously be using this like you said, as a challenge. And of course it could be unconscious too. And her liking the other guy or not doesn't really matter. But I think the evidence points to her not actually being into him, because if she were she would not want to attract suspicion by talking about him all the time. If I'm attracted to a guy other than my boyfriend, I don't mention him.
/r/TheRedPill01/08/14 02:17 AM
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Well, I am a woman, so that's where I'm coming from here. I see your point that maybe she's not aware that she's actually attracted to the other guy, but that seems unlikely to me. I think either she wants the other guy and she knows it, or she's not interested and it really is a platonic thing. Either way, whether she likes the guy or not, she could be intentionally trying to foster jealousy in her husband.
/r/TheRedPill01/08/14 02:04 AM
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Considering how you are reacting, she is inadvertently running dread game on you. Maybe it's not inadvertent. But I think your post is pretty spot on. If I were a married woman having a flirtation with a new coworker, I don't think I would mention the guy to my husband, especially not to tell him all about how great the dude is.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/14 06:28 PM
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Are women who do this really in the majority? I've never threatened to leave anyone, I just left. I thought only crazy people were insecure enough to pull this kind of thing... I had one ex boyfriend who would walk out of the house while making vague threats about going to his ex's house/killing himself/whatever, and then he'd walk right back in crying about how I didn't follow him and didn't care what he did. But that guy was a psycho!
/r/TheRedPill29/07/14 02:38 AM
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>I'm not going to read a 1000 word essay on how you kissed a girl. This made me laugh for some reason. So I guess their target audience (at r/seduction I mean) are basically virgins. The Red Pill doesn't seem like the place for the guys who can't even talk to a chick yet. I'd think it would make them even more anxious about the whole endeavor.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/14 05:45 PM
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I don't think a shark eating a baby seal is evil. It's a shark, that's what it's supposed to do. Among animals there is no sense that babies deserve life more than full grown members of their species; only humans think this.
/r/TheRedPill22/07/14 01:58 AM
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I know what you mean. I honestly have no clue how those parents do it, especially not now that I have a kid myself.
/r/askTRP20/07/14 01:01 AM
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Well in general if I'm with a new guy I start out by saying what I want, or by just taking control and doing what I want. It's hard to remember the specifics because this was a few chapters ago in my life, but I'm pretty sure it was mostly, I kissed him (or we kissed each other... When he tells the story he's the one who kissed me so it could be either), I put my hand on his dick, I said "fuck me" and later probably things like "harder" or "pull my hair"... I don't exactly write out an instructi…
/r/TheRedPill19/07/14 09:59 PM
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I said almost never just because I never say never. In theory there could be a situation in which I would like those things, but I've never encountered such a situation... You're right that my high level of attraction to him was a big deal at first. I'd like to think we have a "special connection." But in reality I think his humongous penis is the bigger deal... Lol. For most girls though size is not as much of a thing as it is for me. Everyone is different. As to the concentration on his pleasu…
/r/TheRedPill19/07/14 08:49 PM
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Well, since I am a woman, I'm gonna have to disagree with you... Different positions and techniques definitely make a difference to me. As much as I love my boyfriend, if he suddenly switched from wanting the kind of sex that we have and both enjoy (rough and fairly kinky, no foreplay) to gentle vanilla sex with tons of foreplay and only a few minutes of penetration (which is the kind of sex that a lot of women enjoy), I'd certainly tell him there was a problem. There are some things I always li…
/r/TheRedPill19/07/14 05:58 PM
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To some extent you want to seem confident, not like you're asking for instructions, but on the other hand every girl likes something different. There's a balance between asking what to do and asking them if they have any special ideas/preferences. I personally have never had issues speaking up in bed about what I like and don't like, but from what men tell me, most women are a little more reticent. So I don't think asking is necessarily a bad idea.
/r/TheRedPill19/07/14 05:00 PM
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I think the stereotype of weird homeschooled kids comes from the fact that people who are already extremely weird are more likely to homeschool. Basically these kids would've been weird anyways. Homeschooling doesn't turn otherwise normal kids with normal parents and lifestyles into oddballs, but that seems to be the prevailing opinion. Now that online public school is an option in many states,not to mention all the private distance learning programs, I think homeschooling will quickly become mu…
/r/askTRP19/07/14 04:52 PM
0

I met many homeschooled children when I lived abroad during high school and then more when I came back to the US for college. Some of them were a little odd, mainly because most of them belonged to fundamentalist fringe branches of Christianity, but I don't think a single one of them was "extremely socially awkward", and all the ones I met in college were doing quite well both academically and socially. I think home learning with online classes is going to be huge very soon, not just in secondar…
/r/askTRP19/07/14 04:49 PM
1

I think you missed once again the part where I'm not looking for a guy... And if I was I'd certainly know how! Thanks though. I have been lifting weights so I can get stronger and put on some muscle mass. I'm down 25 lbs from pre-pregnancy and I just can't put the weight on with eating alone. Getting fit is good advice for anyone, whether they need help with their love life or not!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/14 10:31 PM
1

All guys don't like me, that's just ridiculous. I'm not a subscriber to the "guys like everything with a vagina" theory. And I don't go to clubs, I have a baby for Pete's sake! But like I said I'm not in the market for a new guy anyways. I was just making a bit of a joke of the fact that my experiences in relationships don't match the stereotype.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/14 09:38 PM
1

I think my experience in relationships has been kind of the opposite of "post asshole syndrome"... I'm the kind of "bad girl" (for lack of a better term) that "nice boys" like, and I can definitely say I don't want to date any more nice guys. I wonder where all the unemotional, distant, commitment-averse guys that other girls complain about have been all my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/14 05:03 PM
1

You suggested that I would trick someone I don't love into some kind of unfulfilling sham relationship just because being with a random person would somehow be better than being lonely. Seemed a little insulting to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/14 04:12 PM
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I'm trying not to be offended by that so here's my hopefully non-defensive explanation... I've never wanted to get married, I don't even like serious relationships. Hell, I don't even have serious friendships. I don't know if this sounds callous but I'm a pretty self-aware person, and I need companionship much less than the average human. I'm honestly surprised that I love my own child as much as I do. I love having her with me all the time. But I highly doubt there is another person I could tol…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/14 06:09 PM
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after the cultural shift will make men not worthy on average, marriage would be seen as a self sacrifice for women, kinda like having a kid is seen today. (on the emotional side) You know, this strikes me as fairly logical. I'm a young woman with a child, her father doesn't live with us (we are "together" though), and I don't want to marry him. If he got his shit together maybe I would. But I feel that most young women, at least where I live, are still eager to marry even the largely unsavory po…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/14 03:04 PM
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Most of this seemed logical except for the part where only gay people get married. Could you explain this further? For one thing, if no one else was getting married (for whatever reason) why would gay people be the only ones to still desire marriage? Also, I think most straight women are quite eager to get married, to say the least, and I don't see how that could change anytime soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/14 01:42 PM
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Ah, I get it now! I've always been very uncomfortable with the Christian idea that women are the "pure, innocent" sort of curators of morality, so they have to be controlled and protected. On one hand you have this Christian white knight thing, but I think many men also take that idea and conclude that their wives and daughters should have no freedom or agency in any area.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/14 03:36 PM
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Oh I know, I just think it's interesting that those values can be perpetuated without Christianity or any other religion. The people at Fox News would never believe it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/14 01:00 PM
1

It's interesting because, for one thing I think most non-religious people are less traditional in this area. Also, it belies the still very popular idea that morals/values (especially "traditional" values) can only be perpetuated with religion.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/14 12:58 PM
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I think it's very interesting that many red pillers are atheist/agnostic, even though they agree with the Judeo-Christian tradition when it comes to marriage and gender roles. However, I've also seen complaints about "Christian white knighting", not 100% sure what that means though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/14 02:31 AM
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My boyfriend is probably around a 7 (if his teeth were fixed maybe a 7.5), but women like him in general and he has an understated confidence. In his case I think it's because his mother treated him as the man of the family from age 11, and he had a close relationship with her as co-guardians of his younger siblings since his father was out of the picture. So he's very comfortable around women and we can definitely sense that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/14 10:31 PM
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For what it's worth, there are a lot of men who are not 9s and who are charismatic enough to get laid a lot. A lot of girls prefer personality. In relation to some of the things TRP holds as true, it makes sense, because if women have their pick of who to sleep with, some of them are going to get bored of just good looks. I like to have sex with a guy and have conversations with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/14 05:06 PM
1

A lot of people have problems dealing with the opposite sex, and when they find some advice that helps them they sometimes want to throw themselves into some philosophy very wholeheartedly. There definitely seems to be a large streak of obsessive/conspiratorial members in TRP, but this is the internet so that's to be expected....
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/14 05:01 PM
1

Well, I eat chocolate way more often than I have sex, but I do eat a lot of chocolate. I can't say I prefer one over the other though, I can't really compare the two.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/14 09:37 PM
1

That makes a lot of sense, thank you.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/14 08:28 PM
1

I just find it interesting is all.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 07:53 PM
2

I can see why you would think that. But my goodness, you are mean aren't you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 06:13 PM
2

Well I won't anymore!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 06:12 PM
7

I am more Blue Pill myself but I have hardly ever posted there or even wanted to. I enjoy posting in TRP (though my opinions there are not always popular). I have however been banned from RPW (for commenting on a post in TBP).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 06:03 PM
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I was banned for posting in The Blue Pill! So I don't blame them for following their rules. And given that it was the only post I'd made there in at least 6 months, I don't think my life will be disrupted much by not being able to post there.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 05:34 PM
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It's much easier to deal with now that I have a long term SO and a child and a very close relationship with my family. When I was younger I felt my lack of girlfriends keenly, but now I have no time for social life outside of family stuff anyways!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 05:32 PM
1

Turns out they banned me because I posted in The Blue Pill, which I was supposed to have realized somehow... I just thought they banned me for the comment because it happened shortly after I posted it. But now I understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 05:30 PM
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Well, now I understand I suppose, but I think you missed my point a little... It's not so much the banning as the banning on top of my past experiences with people being mean to me. Now that I know the ban was impersonal, it matters even less, but my point still stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 05:29 PM
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It's human nature I suppose but I think we should be trying to harness better parts of our natures than arrogance and closed-minded ness. In other words, I agree, :)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 05:07 PM
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When I used to post in TRP a lot, things were not that bad. I guess the situation is different now... I took a hiatus from reddit (I have a baby) and just came back. I always felt, if not welcome there, at least grudgingly respected enough to have civil discussions with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 05:03 PM
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Thank you for your advice! I haven't been banned from TRP, and I've certainly made more posts there than in RPW. I've had several very thought provoking ( and totally civil) discussions with you guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 05:01 PM
2

I'd say she enjoys it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 04:58 PM
1

I've subscribed to TRP, TBP, and this sub for a while. I've found entertainment, information, and good discussion in all three.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 04:57 PM
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I guess I just can't seem to find my group. I've never successfully joined a group of girls or women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 04:55 PM
2

I'm not "reporting", it just made me think and I wanted to share... I assumed that the sub I remember being full of the more reasonable red pillers and blue pillers was a good place.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 04:53 PM
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Not to report, just to comment... I'm not interested in being unbanned, as that was my first comment there in months, it just sent me on a train of thought that I wanted to share.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 04:51 PM
2

I like it in the bedroom but I don't think it has an obvious place in red pill philosophy. You could incorporate it I guess but most people won't like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 04:50 PM
3

Wasn't sarcastic! I thought it was a funny story, and the guy was probably inexperienced and insecure, trying to do some form of negging. Not that I think he was specifically influenced by any PUA or TRP stuff, and if he was I think most of their adherents would laugh at his attempt...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 04:48 PM
2

Haha yes... While I do like girls, most lesbian porn doesn't do it for me. But most porn doesn't do it for me in general so there you go.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 04:46 PM
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The girl had deliberately dressed nicely and put makeup on, in contrast to the work clothes she was wearing when she met the guy. She wrote in her original post that she felt she looked good.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 04:45 PM
1

Quite a generalization but it does seem true for most.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/14 01:21 PM
1

Well it does happen sometimes. But I'll admit that I tired of good boys. I don't exactly go for bad boys now but I didn't have enough in common with the more straightlaced guys I used to date.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/14 01:20 PM
-1

Good girls like bad boys, but good boys like bad girls too. That said, it's not black and white. I would describe my boyfriend, along with the majority of my exes, as having a good mixture of "alpha bad boy" and "beta good boy" traits, which I think is a good thing.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/14 12:27 PM
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Would you want your wife to love you more than your kids though? In my opinion any mother who loves a man more than her own children, who puts the needs of an adult man over the needs of her dependent offspring, is not doing their kids justice.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/14 12:12 PM
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Exactly, I do think that's the key. Though I didn't mean masculine and feminine as far as who dominates. I don't like to wear the pants, I just like to be in charge of myself. I was specifically thinking about things like the gatekeeper idea... I've always been averse to commitment in general, so in my relationships the whole sex-for-commitment exchange just doesn't happen. My attitudes towards a lot of things, including sex and dating and whatnot, are much more like typical male attitudes than …
/r/TheRedPill04/07/14 11:55 AM
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Do you think the feminine vs masculine dynamic that you describe is really necessary for everyone? I don't know if I'm just weird or what, but in my relationships I've always played a role that was either more stereotypically masculine or a good mixture of the "feminine" and the "masculine." (I'm female.)
/r/TheRedPill04/07/14 01:23 AM
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Actually I think this "strategy" is so general that it doesn't belong to either Red Pill or Blue Pill. Or, more specifically, it could be either or neither. If my boyfriend wanted something but couldn't justify spending the money, or if I myself did, I could see either of us suggesting something like this. I use this strategy on myself - if I want to relax and read a book for a while but there's housework to do, I simply decide which tasks I have to finish in order to get my "reward" of reading …
/r/TheRedPill03/07/14 01:38 PM
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I don't think guys should just be patient, but you don't need to cultivate a "bad boy" persona to find a girl. And if you do, you're going to wind up in an immature relationship because you'll likely be dating immature women. Find a woman who is interested in a positive and stable relationship, they're not unicorns. Additionally, I hate when people are characterized as "bad boy" or "crazy boy" as though that's their sole defining feature. People are complex. The guy who is emotionally unstable m…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/14 07:34 PM
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I don't think there are only two choices here. You can let yourself get walked on by unscrupulous women, you can turn the tables and instead manipulate and hurt women yourself, or (this is revolutionary I know) you can treat women like actual human beings but look after your own well-being first. I don't know what's so hard about that.
/r/TheRedPill02/07/14 03:51 PM
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I think everyone has manipulated someone in some fashion, but in the manner that women are supposed to typically manipulate, no. I've had men accuse me of things like deceitfully leading them to believe that our relationship would be more than sexual, but it was certainly never deliberate and I believe I've been extremely honest about my feelings in general. However I've certainly had men attempt to manipulate me using typical RP or PUA strategies, and with me personally they've had little to no…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/14 02:14 PM
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I think the problem is that most of the men in this sub don't believe that "good girls" or "rational chicks" actually exist, and they advocate approaching every interaction with a female as if she's the worst possible example of a woman.
/r/TheRedPill01/07/14 01:31 PM
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This is ridiculous. Maybe my perspective is just too far from that of the average person, since I'm a female with a history of acting more like a male when it comes to dating/relationships, but I think this is a terrible way of trying to get close to other human beings. Women have manipulated men with sex, so you assume that every woman you meet is out to manipulate and use you, and you preemptively manipulate her to prevent that? Why not approach a potential relationship with the idea that the …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/14 01:13 PM
3

Well that is officially my new ladyboner. And I didn't even think I liked long hair!
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/13 04:43 AM
2

That is some seriously sexy hair... He looks like he models for the covers of romance novels. EDIT: he reminds me this romance novel themed Ken doll
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/13 04:16 AM
2

Yes, I agree with you. I didn't say I disagreed, just sharing my thoughts on the subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/13 01:48 PM
2

I don't think either gender is more emotional. Social pressures sometimes dictate which emotions men or women are more likely to express I suppose, but there's a huge range of emotional tendencies within each gender. There's nothing wrong with being "ruled by emotion", or by raw biological instinct, as opposed to logic. Humans' great capacity for emotion has clearly been advantageous to us. As a social species, emotions are one of our most basic common bonds to each other. I personally tend to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/13 07:36 AM
5

So true.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/13 12:59 AM
2

I don't think the U.S. has a surplus of either men or women. I think the most recent figures were something like 50.9% women vs 49.1% men... Hardly enough to make that much of a difference.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/13 08:29 PM
2

Male hamstering, now there's a phrase you don't see much in this sub. Your analysis is a little harsh but has a ring of truth to it. I personally think prostitution has a place in society and even in the RP lifestyle, but I can see how it would be a little contradictory depending on one's interpretation of red pill theories.
/r/TheRedPill07/09/13 06:04 PM
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Or maybe the two of them are just very sexually compatible, or maybe he likes her company because they can relate better with a smaller age difference. Sometimes chemistry is hard to explain.
/r/TheRedPill07/09/13 05:59 PM
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Is the value of an endeavor purely objective? I'm not sure how objective it is, but I would argue that prostitution does contribute something of value to society. If we didn't need them for something, it wouldn't be the world's oldest profession.
/r/TheRedPill07/09/13 05:55 PM
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When they do find success, they frame it as if they "beat" the woman in some kind of way. Theres just something really off about the whole mindset. Like when you said "treating woman like equals" derisively, as if that makes flirting and/or having sex with them impossible. Exactly! And their relationship advice goes along the same lines as their "dating" advice. The members of a relationship are working together towards creating a good life, but if you listen to red pill adherents, you'd think n…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/13 05:16 AM
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I don't think you have a very firm grasp on the definition of irony.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/13 05:03 AM
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I'm especially amused by his assertion that feminists think dressing in skimpy clothes to get attention is empowering... I'm not a feminist, but I'm pretty sure that's the opposite of what they think.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/13 12:57 AM
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I didn't say they were incompetent to reduce their bias, just that they can't eliminate it entirely. And by self-fulfilling prophecy, I didn't mean the scientists. I'm at a loss as to how you read "self-fulfilling prophecy" as "the scientists are deliberately being misleading." I meant that because many cultures have the stereotype (right or wrong) of boys being better at math and girls at reading, girls might tend to concentrate more on the subjects they're "supposed to" be good at, and therefo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/13 10:03 PM
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There is no such thing as science totally without bias, as any well-respected scientist will surely tell you. Scientists are human too. Being aware of the impossibility of perfection is actually helpful in minimizing prejudice and error.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/13 03:46 PM
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I think it's a mixture of actual cognitive differences, coincidence, data collecting bias, self-fulfilling prophecy, and the general structure of most countries' education systems. I do believe there are differences between people's brain structures and learning styles, and some of these differences can occur more often in men or women. (That doesn't mean I think any traits occur automatically or solely in the male or female brain.)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/13 02:45 AM
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Just because there is variation among individual relationships doesn't mean we can't identify general trends. Well sure, but when you present an alleged trend as absolute fact and as "the way things are supposed to be", it's a little different. And that's what I generally see from RP adherents about this particular generalization - and all the other ones. Basically if you, your partner, or your relationship represent a deviation from any of the "rules", there's something wrong with you, and you …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/13 07:16 PM
1

Well, I was specifically referring to the post's title, though of course there are other stereotypes about men and women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/13 04:55 AM
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There may be a hint of truth behind these things, but my biggest problem with Red Pill adages like this one is how absolute they are. Every relationship/interaction is totally different, with a different balance of sex/emotion and different conflicts. There is no proof that the stereotypical male-female dynamic is actually the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/13 03:15 AM
2

In general, if a woman tells you she's crazy, she is probably quite crazy. It could be a shit test or fishing for a compliment or whatever, but if I were you I'd be safe rather than sorry and not pursue anything here.
/r/TheRedPill04/09/13 01:18 AM
1

I didn't argue against the rule, I didn't say it wasn't risky, all I said was it was possible.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/13 10:18 PM
1

Pretty sure it wouldn't change the proportion of the population who are selfish assholes. If all children were raised in government daycare facilities and none of us were allowed to be parents, most of us would still be selfish. And assholes.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/13 03:53 PM
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Ok, and? I wasn't arguing that at all. The only thing I disagreed with was that the assertion that older women having babies naturally somehow "debunks science." Neither my mom nor my stepfather were looking to have more children, so it's not like he chose her for her babymaking capacity.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/13 03:52 PM
1

All things considered, most members of both genders are selfish assholes. You could argue over the average degree of asshole-ishness of course.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/13 01:51 AM
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I don't see your point. I know all about that stuff. Childbirth when you're older is riskier, but riskier =/= impossible.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/13 01:50 AM
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Well to be fair, the science of baby making/infant development isn't nearly completely understood, even now. EDIT: Wanted to add that Eleanor of Aquitaine had her youngest son (who became King John of England) at age 42-44, in the year 1166. So these things were still possible even in the times before fertility drugs. Though perhaps she was a witch.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/13 01:15 AM
1

So if you want kids, you either have to be independently wealthy or willing to live forever with a spouse who you'll probably end up hating? I don't see why this platonic co-parenting thing isn't a valid solution.
/r/TheRedPill19/08/13 03:52 PM
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Honestly I agree with you. I can see a lot of potential situations in which these kind of parenting arrangements would be way better than the average divorced mom & dad. It seems like it would be much easier to make all the plans for custody sharing and whatnot, not only in advance of the baby even being born, but also without the obstacle of the two parents hating each other while working it out. Of course I suppose you could end up hating your co-parent just like you can end up hating your spo…
/r/TheRedPill19/08/13 02:04 AM
1

So only people who can afford a live-in nanny should be able to have a kid without a romantic relationship?
/r/TheRedPill19/08/13 02:03 AM
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Sorry, love, that clock has long since rung. That's actually not true. Many healthy women in their 40s are perfectly capable of having children, it's just that most women in their 40s are not all that healthy. My mother had a baby - by accident - at age 47. She does lead a much healthier lifestyle than the average woman her age, and looks and feels quite a bit younger, thanks to decades of eating organic food and a lot of vigorous activity. (By the way the baby turned out perfectly, and my mothe…
/r/TheRedPill19/08/13 01:59 AM
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There are plenty of worse tattoos than that. Crappy prison tattoos can be an exception I suppose, if they're obvious, because some girls do like that criminal look.
/r/TheRedPill20/07/13 01:47 AM
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I guess you could call it a "ham-stamp." That's an awesome name for that.
/r/TheRedPill20/07/13 12:07 AM
-1

Depends on the tattoo [EDIT: I mean whether women like them on men]... They are a pretty good gauge of what kind of person someone is.
/r/TheRedPill20/07/13 12:06 AM
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if the guy has a tattoo, he gets a bonus point on his SMV That somewhat depends on the tattoo, IMO.
/r/TheRedPill20/07/13 12:04 AM
5

Girls with tattoos put out.
/r/TheRedPill19/07/13 11:56 PM
-2

When you respond to a woman's posts, even those that have nothing at all to do with sex/promiscuity and reveal nothing about said woman's experience in that regard, with things like "Shut up and go ride the cock carousel some more" in lieu of an actual response, it's not a hard leap to make.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/13 01:58 AM
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Womyn = Run, run fast.
/r/TheRedPill17/07/13 01:52 AM
-2

From what I've seen, most of you do feel like that. I think terms like "cock carousel" can give a perfectly logical and reasonable discussion a sort of aura of misogyny, and distract from the actual point.
/r/TheRedPill17/07/13 01:50 AM
1

It sounds to me like OP's wife takes very good care of him and keeps quite as busy as she should. If you can't see how significant the traditional "woman's work" is to a family, other than just the childcare part, it makes me think you're the kind of guy who doesn't appreciate his mother and won't appreciate his mate.
/r/TheRedPill17/07/13 01:43 AM
2

Jealousy prompts mate guarding behaviour which is useful if done right. Remember that emotions are evolved responses to some evolutionary pressure. The thing is, we're affected by very different pressures now. I'm sure we evolved the capacity for jealousy for a reason, but I don't think it's nearly as useful anymore. As the author of the original article said, lifelong monogamy/marriage were plenty useful when they came about. Because of the course our species has taken, however, it would be muc…
/r/TheRedPill15/07/13 03:31 PM
2

I totally agree. I never said people should ignore jealousy, just that they shouldn't accept it as a healthy emotion to have all the time without examining why they feel that way. Most people think they feel jealous because of external factors, but I agree with the author of the article that jealousy is really a personal, internal thing. Another way to look at it - we all feel anger sometimes. It's unpleasant, and we'd rather not feel it. We all (hopefully) agree that repressing said anger is no…
/r/TheRedPill15/07/13 03:44 AM
1

I really like your ideas about "shit tests." Of course there are some examples of tests that come off as petty and silly, but for the most part I think everyone does it and it's pretty necessary for our social system to function. This is just another situation in which everyone could stand to be more knowledgeable and more honest (with themselves and others) about their actions and motivations, and then it wouldn't be a problem.
/r/TheRedPill15/07/13 02:28 AM
1

People assume that Marines are stupid?? I think the stereotype of military types as anti-intellectual is pretty well established, but anti-intellectual =/= stupid.
/r/TheRedPill15/07/13 02:22 AM
1

I don't know about all his statistics (some looked a teeny bit unrealistic to me), and I'm not sure I agree with every single thing he said, but I agree with the thrust of the argument. Long term monogamy is very clearly not working for us as a society. It's only a matter of time until we realign our ideology to mesh better with reality, and find a new "ideal" for relationships. One of the best things in this article was his discussion of jealousy: Answer: Jealousy is a big topic, and beyond the…
/r/TheRedPill15/07/13 02:15 AM
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If you have joint inflammation, it makes sense that potatoes bother you. Anything in the nightshade family can seriously aggravate arthritic tendencies for some people, so eggplants, tomatoes, and chile peppers might be a bad idea too. Of course not all joint inflammation is the same, and some people eat plenty of nightshade but are bothered by other things. My mom for instance has cut meat out of her diet entirely because anytime she eats even the smallest serving, her hands & feet swell up lik…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/13 02:25 PM
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This is a really interesting question. It was actually one of my first thoughts when I started reading about red pill stuff... It seems like for the most part the philosophy doesn't even acknowledge homosexuality's existence. Though I think it might just be that no one really thought of it; TRP is specifically about relationships between men and women so the leaving out of gay people could just be coincidence. However, all the biological explanations for this stuff seem to me to suggest that hom…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/13 02:07 PM
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Low carb just doesn't sound like an optimal diet to me. Of course, everyone is different, but my body responds best to a semi-vegetarian diet. I eat about 10 servings of fruits & veggies per day, a decent amount of grains (but no white bread/pasta, and almost no refined sugars except the occasional soda which I still have a weakness for), and very very little meat. Since I noticed meat was bothering me and cut down on it, I feel SO much better. [EDIT: By "cut down" I mean I went from 2-3 serving…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/13 01:51 PM
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I know this will sound mean but, from a male perspective, that sounds so absurdly spoiled and conceited that's almost hard to even express. You are so special and perfect (why?) that you wouldn't change even if it meant forgoing your entire biological Raison d'être? Seriously, it baffles the mind, though I know this is par for the course when it comes to modern female thinking. I don't mean that I never try to change or that I don't want to change anything about myself. I just meant that, I'm al…
/r/TheRedPill06/07/13 04:01 PM
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My personal opinion is I don't care. I'm happy with the current world. The cumulation of the entirety of humanity's decisions has led to this world we live in, and looking back, I believe that every human in existence has done that which was beneficial to them at every point in their life; even if it was a bad choice, it's the one they believed they needed to make. Well then I think we agree! :)
/r/TheRedPill06/07/13 03:55 PM
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Also, if most divorces are initiated by women, I'd argue the "sale" is mostly to women. Agreed. Divorce is presented as a solution to women and a failure by men. Not entirely true. I think being a divorced woman is a little less societally acceptable. Certainly the divorced man stereotype in the media is the more flattering one. EDIT: I know, it seems strange, that while the divorce is happening it's seen as empowering for the woman, but later the woman is more likely to be pitied or laughed at.…
/r/TheRedPill06/07/13 03:08 AM
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Others believe that we are in an a period of transition in which men are expected to play under the old rules of Marriage 1.0, while women get to play under the rules of Marriage 2.0. A related belief is that the state, either through child support or welfare, has replaced the economic role of fathers and used this as an excuse to undermine his other roles. That's an extremely interesting train of thought to take. I think we're only going to see more and more sneaky moves by our governments to c…
/r/TheRedPill06/07/13 02:59 AM
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Society sells divorce to everyone. We acknowledge it as a problem, but what I don't get is why our culture continues to also "sell" the idea of lifelong monogamy as THE way we all have to be, as if that's not totally ridiculous given the acceptance and prevalence of divorce.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/13 02:23 AM
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Why would I want him to back off? We weren't arguing and he wasn't even being mean.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/13 02:13 AM
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I did not miss the point. I understand your opinion; I just think you're wrong. How about if we use the example of money - some people are born rich, some people work for it. Do the ones who work for their money deserve respect? Absolutely. It does not necessarily follow that the ones who didn't work for it deserve to be disrespected (or "shamed").
/r/TheRedPill06/07/13 02:07 AM
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What a great explanation! I like it. Of course, I don't think the double standard is justified in modern society just because it's rooted in biology. The whole set of social constructs that affect our sexual behavior (including the idea that lifelong monogamy is both natural and desirable) change everything. Not to mention contraception, DNA testing, etc. Still, it's important to acknowledge the interplay of factors here. So while we are humans and can short circuit our natural tendencies, femal…
/r/TheRedPill05/07/13 09:42 PM
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At a very gross level, there are 2 obvious ways to cope with the pressure: align yourself to what the other gender wants (that's what TRP proposes doing), or change your wants to what the other gender does (the 'white knight response'). It certainly makes sense. I've never thought about it I suppose. What I want isn't hard to find, and enough members of the other gender want what I have that I'm not desperate for attention. I'm not sure what I would do if I suddenly found myself totally undesira…
/r/TheRedPill05/07/13 09:29 PM
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Well, you might be right. I've certainly seen a lot of relationships go south. Some of them work out though, right? I wonder what the secret is.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/13 09:26 PM
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For future reference, refrain from bringing up the fact that you're a woman in an attempt to get us to dull our criticism. You may not realize that's what you were doing, but you were. Being a woman in this subreddit garners less criticism? That's news to me. I offer information about myself to clarify my opinions, not to affect how anyone feels.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/13 09:25 PM
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I feel like I'm a very realistic person, but I'd still rather hope for the best. Hope is what keeps you running when reality is beating you down.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/13 09:24 PM
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You tell me what person garners more inner respect from you. I can't say using just that information, because my respect for people has nothing to do with how many people they have or haven't slept with.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/13 09:23 PM
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I've actually never ventured into r/feminism... For some reason I don't think I'd be very welcome.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/13 09:19 PM
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Very logical! Thank you :)
/r/TheRedPill05/07/13 03:55 PM
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Of course it's not unwarranted. It's just unnecessary and totally counter-productive. I do like the mensrights subreddits. I just can't help but argue with some of the less evolved individuals though, because any comment I make to them is totally twisted in their mind just because they know I'm a woman. Most of you have come to your conclusions totally logically, and don't let those conclusions become rigid, non-useful generalizations. Some of you though have obviously been completely broken by …
/r/TheRedPill05/07/13 03:48 PM
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Oh I understand this subreddit isn't about that. I never said it was. I like this sub actually (except I keep getting downvoted! I think you guys are misunderstanding what I'm saying). I've found the men here to be much more intelligent and less bitter than, for example, the ones in r/AskMen. I was just asking this guy why he thinks that way. I don't think most of the men here agree; I don't think most of you are supportive of promiscuity in either gender. And why are women with many partners sh…
/r/TheRedPill05/07/13 03:29 PM
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You can either choose to get hurt over and over again in long term relationships that just wont pan out or you can play the game and have fun. Well that's not very optimistic. I suppose as an openly anti-monogamous woman who doesn't even try to have long term relationships, I would have to say I agree with you. I just hate to put it in such depressing terms, because I know most people are looking for a LTR.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/13 03:25 PM
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I totally agree with you. I have never looked through any of my boyfriends' phones or messages, with or without permission. I expect the same courtesy from my boyfriend. I rarely make promises of monogamy, but if I do I expect my word to be trusted. If you don't trust me, it's over. If I ever found myself suspicious enough of a guy to check his phone for something, I would take that as an indication of major (probably insurmountable) problems in our relationship. In a normal, healthy relationshi…
/r/TheRedPill05/07/13 03:19 PM
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I'm a big believer in leaving the "seducer" out of the equation when assigning blame for cheating. What happens in a 2 person relationship depends on those two people - it's between them. Whether the cheater is a man or a woman, they're the one breaking the promise they made. (In a non-monogamous relationship, in which they've made no such promise, I don't think "cheating" is immoral or disgusting or anything like that.) Basically, if you're not in the relationship, you have no obligation to res…
/r/TheRedPill05/07/13 03:13 PM
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That's a pretty hefty generalization there man. It may be true for the majority of men and women, but you can't just assume that every woman you meet would prefer marriage to casual sex, or every man you meet would prefer a life of perpetual casual sex to a monogamous commitment.
/r/TheRedPill05/07/13 03:08 PM
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I think the proper reaction would be to blame the cheater no matter what genders the different parties are. They are the ones who have made a commitment and who are invested in keeping their relationship healthy. Unfortunately it's usually the opposite. You mentioned what happens when the cheater is a woman, and when men cheat the reaction is similar. Their female partners will generally forgive them and save their vitriol for the "homewrecker" who obviously seduced her man totally against his w…
/r/TheRedPill05/07/13 03:04 PM
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I think the important point here is that this is not, in the modern era, an ethical issue, but purely a question of attraction. A man has no reason to judge the sexual libertine as guilty of moral turpitude, but he might still find her behavior unattractive, and in the same way that he might find certain physical attributes unattractive, such as those suggestive of advancing age. You're so right! I don't think we should be pushing for women to be less slutty or men to be less turned off by it, o…
/r/TheRedPill05/07/13 02:58 PM
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"Slut Shaming" doesn't actually exist it's a term invented by people who don't want to face the consequences of their actions. I disagree with this. Slut shaming does exist (and no, I'm not talking about people who choose not to date sluts, that's their choice.) However, as a pretty promiscuous woman who has always been very open about it, I've found that almost all slut shaming comes from other women. (At least in the real world. Conversations on reddit are dominated by males in general, so som…
/r/TheRedPill05/07/13 02:51 PM
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Why is it that the woman who sleeps around is poor LTR material for the man who's doing the same thing? Is he not on the same level? Basically, why do you think a promiscuous woman can't become a faithful mate, but a man can? (Or is it that you think the man doesn't need to be faithful to be a good mate?)
/r/TheRedPill05/07/13 02:38 PM
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They made several mistakes. The correct way to phrase the sentence would be "I am already a man though, just one of whom you don't approve."
/r/MensRights24/11/12 02:06 AM
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I just wanted to add that I am the friend who told him to read The Game. I found it more amusing than useful, but I can see how it might help someone who's smart enough to separate the useful stuff from the rampant misogyny.
/r/seduction19/10/12 03:02 AM
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