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SpaceToaster/r/seduction03/06/13 12:34 AM
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A very good example of where you should keep your cool instead of going psycho crazy butt-hurt like so many guys seem to do! Happens all the time to the guys my girl-friends talk to when they stop giving 100% attention and validation and the guys are too insecure to handle it so they jump to worst case conclusions. Instantly kills all attraction. Also have seen it on seddit, RSD forums etc.
/r/seduction21/10/14 06:17 PM
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Remember that the only power someone has over you is the power you give them. Stop interacting with this person.
/r/seduction12/10/14 07:25 AM
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Be more direct. Instead of sitting and waiting to talk about garbage nonsense that neither of you probably find particularly interesting, try to approach directly. Face them, introduce yourself, show a bit a interest with a comment like "hi I'm X, you're really cute so I'd be kicking myself if I didn't say hi". Done with a nice genuine smile in a charming way, and commence the conversation from there about whatever topic you actually find interesting.
/r/seduction12/10/14 07:22 AM
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Wait, who's trolling who here?
/r/seduction04/10/14 03:16 PM
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Wasn't as bad as you thought it would be, was it?
/r/seduction02/10/14 11:03 PM
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PLEASE for the love of game stop trying to "learn" pickup with day game. Sorry boys, you are not going to learn anything from rolling 10 deep and hitting on every girl at the mall. Learn your craft in clubs. The energy is fun, no one is taking any interaction too serious so it's low pressure, and there are a TON of people to practice on. Bars and clubs are MADE for socializing like this. Then, once you learn the nuances of great social interaction, calibration, etc, you can absolutely kill it wh…
/r/seduction29/09/14 08:23 PM
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True, but there there is all the conditioning and external factors. For example being used to always holding a drink, it can take a while to let that go. Also if your friends are sending wave after wave your way or shots it can be hard to sit out without looking like a Debbie downer. Also you can seem rude to some when turning down drinks. I think OP is looking for advice with dealing with these social aspects.
/r/seduction15/09/14 12:06 AM
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I think that's called having a girlfriend.... ;)
/r/seduction05/09/14 05:30 PM
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😏 (iOS)
/r/seduction31/08/14 07:37 AM
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Pho King Great!
/r/seduction16/08/14 02:38 PM
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Asian parents are strict and downright crazy. Also many 20's folk still live at home because cost of living is steep on something like an entry level teacher's wage.
/r/seduction13/08/14 04:56 AM
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Have conversations. A lot of them. With everybody.
/r/seduction09/08/14 09:55 PM
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If you bring a friend too then I usually say yes. Had some fun nights on double dates when we both pull them home at the end of the night. If she wants to bring her friend along as a chaperone then say fuck that shit. I got a number from a little hottie once who created this weird lie about her car so that her friend could come and I agreed to it. Worst.Ever. In hind site I should have completely ignored the friend and escalated to make things as physically awkward and miserable as possible to a…
/r/seduction13/07/14 07:56 PM
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PROTIP: Never ever mix ice cream and then beer on a date unless you want a very bad stomach ache while you both try to have sex in your disguising bloated state. True story!
/r/seduction08/07/14 05:43 PM
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I usually prefer to be single, but in the LTRs I've been in the girl is always first to bring it up, usually after we have been sleeping together for a few weeks. If you are going to to lay down the conversation, just make it short and sweet. Some time hanging out with her, maybe after kissing when her emotions are pumped, say something like "wow I've really enjoyed spending time with you these last few months " wait for response "want to be exclusive?" Make it light and have fun, it's not like …
/r/seduction25/06/14 05:16 AM
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Mystery is a sorry mess for most of that book...
/r/seduction23/06/14 10:11 PM
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No joke, this is how my best friend met his wife. He was in for an enormous kidney stone.
/r/seduction21/06/14 06:10 AM
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Give it time, and play into the frame. Tease girls for being into "hot younger guys" and "you're too old for me" and "I need my moms permission to date girls over 18". Doesn't really matter what exactly you say just so long as it makes her frame of "you're too young for me" look kind of silly. I used to have this problem, now I am almost 30 and I just look great for my age. Usually get estimated at 25/26. Younger women are happy to date you because you have experience and don't look old and cree…
/r/seduction20/06/14 05:20 PM
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So would it be a valid defense if a man's testosterone levels "made him act violently"? How would one draw the line on hormones as a motivating factor in a crime?
/r/PussyPass08/06/14 06:22 PM
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I've been in situations when hanging out with a few girls and a guy will buy us all drinks. Comes off as dopey and needy. Never had this happen when one on one though. I imagine I could diffuse it pretty easily though ("wow what a creep" etc)
/r/seduction30/04/14 06:43 PM
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It's an old line from Style. He's not asking her permission for a kiss, or asking her to do it, he is asking her if she wants to do it. It's kind of a coy, playful, cocky thing in this context (it assumes she wants to but doesn't have the balls.)
/r/seduction10/04/14 04:11 AM
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Perhaps, but the principles here can help keep you from fucking it up :)
/r/seduction10/04/14 04:07 AM
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To strike or rub with the branch of a pine tree.
/r/seduction23/02/14 08:30 PM
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Probably seemed inauthentic to her... "Car kisses are lame. But yeah totally down to fuck casually." Don't lie to yourself. Don't lie to her. If she was down you would have got it on with her right there in the car! So hot! Being honest with yourself is the first step to establish a good sexual, leading frame.
/r/seduction22/02/14 08:15 AM
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Thanks for typing up the detailed FR OP! We need more around here. You said the D word. NEVER SAY THE D WORD. (date, btw) Too much pressure, too much pretense. It will get her dodging and avoiding. A little wordy with your texts. You gotta hold some cards man! Look to build tension with your texts and actions. Better interaction may have been: (her) "Snuck in successfully! :D thanks dude. I had fun n.n" (her) "Night night! c: thanks for a supper random fun night lol. zzzzzz." (you) "Haha. Nice. …
/r/seduction22/02/14 08:10 AM
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=phEdixwld-0 Jiffy! 0:08-0:12 Not sure if it still works but you can summon jiffy bot with the start and end time of the YouTube vid and he will comment the gif for you in reply :D Edit: it works!
/r/seduction16/02/14 10:02 AM
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Lots of anecdotes seems to support it but so far no actual studies. Some studies show a slight bump in free testosterone after a week of abstinence followed by a dip. If you opt for porn over real interaction, ever, I'd say you would benefit from this. Just from the angle of porn addiction and social withdraw.
/r/seduction20/01/14 05:54 AM
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OP you didn't include any information... what specifically have you tried? Where are you having trouble?
/r/seduction20/01/14 05:36 AM
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Make sure it is set to allow location services access.
/r/seduction16/01/14 06:11 AM
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Lucky you I just got back from an RSD hot seat in Chicago and this stuff is still fresh (awesome experience, I highly recommend it) I'll type up a good response and share some notes tomorrow when I have some time to put some quality into it.
/r/seduction09/01/14 12:00 AM
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Oh for sure! A mentor can show you the map and destination, but the journey is up to you. Just be mindful of negative behaviors as they crop up (and they will for Everybody no matter what level.) Once you are able to objectively recognize your own behaviors that are limiting your results you will be largely on the right path to correcting them.
/r/seduction08/01/14 11:05 PM
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I usually have about 3-4 rotating in and out. Any more and it is just to stressful for me to balance with work, etc. One thing I do is always try to keep up my momentum of going out and meeting new women. That way situations like this will feel more like a breath of fresh air than a total "back to square one" moment.
/r/seduction08/01/14 07:20 AM
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When you have a girlfriend, you behave in a way that is completely independent of outcome (I don't care what I say to this girl, I'm just going to amuse myself and no matter what I'll still have my girlfriend at home.) To achieve the same effect when you are actually single, just focus on letting go of the outcome completely. Focus on amusing yourself and giving value. You need to behave as if her walking away would leave you completely unaffected - nothing lost. Conversely, without that feeling…
/r/seduction08/01/14 07:08 AM
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WTF does that kind of shit run through your head a lot??? Why would you want to see a video of THAT?
/r/seduction08/09/13 01:46 AM
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Body language and sub-communication are definitely huge. I've had many girls tell me how creepy it is when random guys tell them "damn you're so hot/sexy/etc" or "you're the hottest girl here" when I had used the exact line of "wow you are really cute, I can't let you leave without meeting you" on her when we met and she was absolutely enthralled. I've pointed this out, that I basically did the same thing as the "creepy" guys she is talking about, and they always qualify it as "well, I guess, bu…
/r/seduction28/08/13 01:26 AM
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Not enough attraction. I only ask for numbers now if she is clearly very receptive to meeting up. Basically on the brink of asking for it herself.
/r/seduction27/08/13 04:58 AM
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Ah, yes, have definitely used similar to success. I was walking down the street after bar close and linked arms with a cutie walking the same direction in close proximity. I told her that "I'm going to kiss you when we get to the corner." And I did.
/r/seduction27/08/13 04:55 AM
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Good conversation advice. Allows you to keep the direction of a conversation when she starts down random paths that you know nothing about! Will definitely keep this in mind.
/r/seduction27/08/13 04:52 AM
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If you are not very chivalrous, a little gesture here and there (like moving her from the outside to the inside when walking along a street, holding her tight and protecting her when a fight breaks out at a bar) can be very powerful. Also, to literally sweep her off her feet, pick her up. Feeling a mans strength will definitely do the trick.
/r/seduction27/08/13 04:50 AM
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"What value do you offer?" When you can answer that question with confidence, and be proud of what you have to offer, to her and the world, you will no longer be needy.
/r/seduction27/08/13 04:48 AM
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Well, what your opinion? Have you tried them? Can't hurt. Personally I've had pretty good luck with direct openers in both day and night. They don't always hook, but when they do they hook HARD. But that what works for ME. I've tried on plenty of other styles of opening that worked for shit for me, but other people raved about. Just not congruent to my personality type. So my advice is to try it yourself and see.
/r/seduction27/08/13 04:45 AM
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Social value is key in college game. Get to meeting people, stat. Keep your door open. Welcome week is literally the easiest time to meet people. Everyone is in the same boat as you. The topics you threw out above are perfectly adequate in that environment and expected. Just make sure to "spice it up" to keep it from boring. Tease her if she is from a small town, has a weird major, etc. Beyond that, there are plenty of great communications and conversation guides on this sub.
/r/seduction27/08/13 04:42 AM
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I mean no offence, but it think /r/relationships would be better suited for this type of question. If you have more specific seduction related questions though definitely target them here. If you are curious about seduction and improving your "game" so to speak, I would suggest starting at square one and reading the great collection of sidebar links.
/r/seduction27/08/13 04:36 AM
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Sounds like you "picked up" a girl just fine. Then you ignored her while she sat alone on the couch until she felt awkward and left. Your end game apparently needs work. Get comfortable being sexual with women. Failing to make advances with a woman will not win you "gentleman points", it will only kill her attraction for you. When you get a woman back, gage her level of comfort. You may need to make her feel comfortable, but if it's ON then don't fuck that up by trying to slow down the making ou…
/r/seduction24/08/13 09:38 AM
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Replace 'talking' with 'fucking'. Any more questions?
/r/seduction22/08/13 02:27 AM
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If she didn't want an honest answer, then why ask?
/r/seduction10/08/13 06:29 PM
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Just introduce yourself. This isn't even pickup, it's socializing 101.
/r/seduction21/06/13 03:38 AM
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Don't make yourself available on FB chat. You have a life. I've used FB chat just twice with women in the last year or so, just enough to set a meetup because I wasn't sure of their numbers(hot old friends now single). Don't post often. Keep most info private. No need to have anyone else know your relationship status, music, quotes, or any of that BS. Make your friend list private too while you're at it and turn off most things from the news feed. Don't post personal shit, complain, whine, etc. …
/r/seduction19/06/13 06:03 AM
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Do you know how to converse with other men? DO that, but more flirty. If you don't know how to converse, thread conversations, and tell stories then definitely practice up. I can literally talk to any random stranger about random stuff for hours. Conversation starters observation about venue observation about her interesting thing you learned today funny story inspired by something in context if all else fails (lamer) "so who are you here with" "so where are you from" "do you come here a lot"
/r/seduction18/06/13 03:50 AM
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To convey a bit of your intent (you think she's cute.)
/r/seduction18/06/13 03:43 AM
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You really dropped the ball on that one. Hopefully you learned for next time! Regret hurts more than rejection...
/r/seduction18/06/13 03:41 AM
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You do NOT need to be confident to approach. It is not a precursor. It will follow naturally once you have more experiences, and make your interactions even better (positive feedback loop,) but is ABSOLUTELY not required to make an approach. Waiting for confidence before making a single approach is like refusing to do a math problem until you are a math expert. WTF? You are going to feel butterflies and nervous. I still feel them before first dates. Learn to recognize, then enjoy the fleeing, li…
/r/seduction13/06/13 07:01 AM
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You don't need to give it up completely, just be sensible with it. Once a week is fine. Also don't use porn, just fantasize about real girls you wanna fuck.
/r/seduction13/06/13 07:00 AM
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and long. "I've got to work now ttyl" or "I'm off to bed, ttyl" are better IMO
/r/seduction13/06/13 06:38 AM
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If a set is going badly and I'm going to eject anyway, try something a little bit more risky out - ask for a kiss, ask for their number, ask to take them home. At worst, rejection, and that's something I need to start getting used to. Wait, wouldn't you want to do that if the set was going well?!
/r/seduction08/06/13 11:06 PM
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I got called out for staring at a gorgeous pair of boobs the other day. My reply was "It's your fault for having such fantastic cleavage and showing it off with that shirt." (Unapologetically and teasingly) Gym is a bit different. Most girls are there to get a serious workout in, not show off their bodies. I tend not to approach in the gym unless it is obvious that she is receptive to it. One account I can recall is two girls not even working out really just looking at themselves in the mirror a…
/r/seduction08/06/13 10:58 PM
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"Hey stranger! how've you been?"
/r/seduction08/06/13 10:04 PM
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One note here: I opened, it was weak, i ejected by just walking away. I often used to self eject prematurely. To get over that I used to practice opening really weak and chill and just plowing though maintaining that frame. Usually you will find that they will click and all of the sudden become receptive once they see you are all right. Other times will will calibrate and up my energy a bit and that will get them to light up and hook. Think about it this way, when you are socializing with friend…
/r/seduction08/06/13 09:53 PM
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One of my go-tos is to tell a funny story with some sexual stuff in it. One of my favorites is "50 shades of Gay" (yes my stories have names) where I regale with her a colorful account of my friend, who works on furnaces, stumbling upon a hard core gay BDSM lair on a basement job. We are talking everything here, simbian, full leather suits, swings, vertical bed, suspended chair, every form of shackle imaginable. Depending on her reactions I may even share some if the photos he took of it, and ea…
/r/seduction08/06/13 12:26 PM
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Sounds like you went out to dance, and had great success with that. Does not sound like you went out to meet women, however.
/r/seduction07/06/13 05:12 PM
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Crowd-sourced pickup
/r/seduction07/06/13 06:28 AM
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I've never seduced anyone over text. My texts are basically just figuring out the logistics of meeting up. If shes not receptive, I'll just move on. Not enough initial attraction built. I've never had any success building attraction over text. God I hate texting lol
/r/seduction07/06/13 04:09 AM
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Instead of down-voting this guy, why not share your critique of the book?
/r/seduction06/06/13 02:56 AM
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Be the best 5"5' ginger you can be. Truth is many women will be put off by that, as it's not the ideal. But some women will not be put off by it, and you will push them away by secretly thinking in the back of your mind that it is a deal-breaker to all women.
/r/seduction06/06/13 02:52 AM
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You should be here for ME not having fun for YOURSELF. Fuck no wonder the friend was single.
/r/seduction05/06/13 06:41 AM
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I was just thinking of jumping on myself because my texting results seem a little flat. Will try it out on some of the more wild girls I know first.
/r/seduction03/06/13 07:29 AM
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Couldn't tell if ironic douche or actual douche.... haha That's actually pretty good advice for snapchat.
/r/seduction03/06/13 07:27 AM
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For sure, especially the literary classics. Best results achieved when read while pacing about, holding a glass of neat scotch and making grandiose gestures with it. Leather bindings make for the best grip.
/r/seduction03/06/13 06:21 AM
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... Either I will fuck a girl next Saturday, or go home sobbing from the probable savagery of the blow outs I was feeling like that in the weeks after my last longer exclusive relationship ended. Was super eager to get back into the game and in 100% "gotta get laid now" mode. I actually had some good sets, but my bed remained empty. As soon as I chilled the fuck out, and started going out for fun and self amusement only, the women started coming (cumming). That mindset is just so damn attractive…
/r/seduction03/06/13 05:52 AM
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Sounds like a blast! I got a lot more comfortable socializing in college as well. Definitely crucial to social development. If this sort of arrangement isn't possible or ideal (for many of us) maintaining some good platonic friendships with groups of women can have the same benefits.
/r/seduction02/06/13 02:02 AM
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Uncomfortable doing it ≠ Can't do it Don't make excuses, just do it.
/r/seduction01/06/13 10:48 PM
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"Yeah. So hey man I'm going to talk to Cindy for a bit. I'll give her right back, promise." He either agrees to let you two talk, or looks like a controlling douche for trying to stop you. The girl must be interested in talking with you, of course...
/r/seduction31/05/13 09:03 PM
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Having the perfect response to a bunch of her lines is actually going to work against you. It's quite clear when someone spits out a carefully rehearsed and thought out line vs something that's is real wit in the moment. You think she is going to be impressed that you have such great, perfect responses to everything she says? No, she's going to think you are a dweeb who keeps a journal on how to flirt with women.
/r/seduction31/05/13 08:55 PM
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Yes, but more out of the corner of my eye, maybe as I'm continuing a conversation with a friend, than directly facing and starting her down like a "creep". Women will definitely let you know when they are open to being approached by making/holding eye contact.
/r/seduction28/05/13 11:06 PM
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Something about how the girls delivered their lines in the vid made it sound scripted. That said, I've gotten some interesting responses from trying this out!
/r/seduction28/05/13 11:02 PM
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Oh for sure! Here is a something I'll do often when in an awesome mood or in state. Meetings eyes with a cute curl walking by, I'll beckon her over. If she complies (usually does If I read the flirty eye contact correctly) I'll immediately take her hands as she arrives and place them around my neck while I then rest my hands on her lower back. Since she complied by coming over you will usually get no resistance against this. From here, because you are pushing so much physical game and that is al…
/r/seduction28/05/13 10:49 PM
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That's probably exactly her plan :) I get this a lot too. Definitely not a bad thing, sometimes the increased tension of waiting for the next encounter leads to an even better night. It's also a good indicator that you have your shit together and she has placed you in the "would love to date this guy" category.
/r/seduction28/05/13 10:28 PM
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Mark Manson has some good insight on the numeric rating scale. Basically, ditch it. Classifying women as 9 or 10s, etc, leads to different behaviors and subconscious though patterns from what would normally give you success with a "less hot" girl. Think about it - a very high status and attractive guy might treat a 10 like you treat a 6. And he'll be banging that 10 tonight because he is pretty much unaffected by her "hotness" while everyone else is enthralled. Not to say he doesn't appreciate a…
/r/seduction28/05/13 10:20 PM
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I applied EVERY single "PUA" theory "Hey, can I get a female opinion on something, check out this card trick, girl you are so cute when your nose wiggles, , easy there tiger we just met, wanna come home with me, , now do a spin, now imagine a cube, your hair looks fake, , ."
/r/seduction28/05/13 08:18 AM
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Yup, showing some vulnerability and putting yourself out there can be a very powerful thing. As long as it's not coming from a place of neediness...
/r/seduction28/05/13 08:10 AM
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Take time to recognize and take pride in all of your small successes. While they may be well short of your ultimate goals, getting that positive feedback loop is CRUCIAL to a confident mindset.
/r/seduction28/05/13 07:58 AM
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Are you sure that you are dating?
/r/seduction27/05/13 09:37 PM
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Decent list, could have been distilled down to 5 or 10 points though.
/r/seduction25/05/13 06:34 PM
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Boy.
/r/seduction25/05/13 06:32 PM
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Try going out sober more often. I find that the clarity makes my conversation much better. Physical game and approaches are much more solid as well. It sounds like you have a lot of negative internal dialog though, and that is just going to kill your mood and energy, drunk or sober. It will happen to almost everyone sometimes. I try to recognize when this is happening as soon as possible and nip it in the bud.
/r/seduction25/05/13 06:37 AM
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If a girl hits one of your buttons or deal breakers, just tell her politely but sternly not to do it again. "Don't be late next time." If she does it again, you need to be willing to walk away. Who wants to be with someone who doesn't respect them?
/r/seduction24/05/13 04:37 AM
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These concepts are pretty well researched actually Alcohol and the Male Reproductive System Hormonal and growth factor responses to heavy resistance exercise protocols Effect of 1 Week of Sleep Restriction on Testosterone Levels in Young Healthy Men
/r/seduction22/05/13 06:58 PM
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I've got to blow my load once or twice a day or my balls will explode. But that's just me. That said, I'll resist doing it before a night out to keep my energy up. Abstaining from masturbation, unless it is to the point of unhealthy addiction, fall under repressing your sexuality in my book. Ever notice how after a crazy night of sex you masturbate MORE? Your T levels are through the roof. Roll with it. Sex and masturbation are healthy.
/r/seduction22/05/13 03:36 AM
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Conveying sexual intent definitely falls under inner game in my book. A guy repressing his sexuality is not going to pull off congruent sexual flirting. Only when the raw emotions and sexual energy are there to back up the technique will this stuff click. Let this stuff stem from deep in your loins, an overflow of your sexuality, barely keeping in control of yourself, constantly pushing up against her limits.
/r/seduction22/05/13 03:32 AM
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True. I'd say that it is best advice for the guy who is at a novice level and feels like they have plateaued or is having trouble conveying sexual intent. This will definitely give you a boost, no matter what your level of experience, but there is no substitute for having a large amount of concepts and experiences under your belt. I'm definitely not a big guy, athletic, just a notch above skinny (5'11 165) there is no doubt that the physiological changes of getting fit have helped my game IMMENS…
/r/seduction22/05/13 03:18 AM
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My advice to getting more sexual in your interactions: get your T levels higher. This means: sleeping plenty (8 hrs) less alcohol, better yet none at all lift heavy things (REALLY push yourself to the limit. work your legs too, don't be a pussy) eat a clean, high protein diet with lots of healthy fats, including healthy saturated fats and cholesterol (yes, eat steak, lots of it) Once your testosterone is up to where it should be, just let your physiology take care of the rest, and your sexual vi…
/r/seduction21/05/13 09:02 PM
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Had one of my BEST nights ever last weekend, completely dry. Was in state the whole night having an awesome time with some very sexually charged interactions. I did end up taking a couple shots with some girls that we pulled later (they were tipsy and I felt weird about the ethics of being sober...), and I could definitely feel it fuck up my game until I could relax again.
/r/seduction21/05/13 02:11 AM
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Simple - don't invite her friends to your dates!
/r/seduction21/05/13 02:05 AM
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Just be careful of starting an opener with "hey, can I get a female opinion on something". Many women have heard it so many times (usually from guys just starting out with this stuff) they automatically cringe. I'd just get her attention and get right to the meat of it "hey I'm trying to play matchmaker for my friend..."
/r/seduction19/05/13 11:53 PM
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RELAX. Getting all anxious about it isn't going to do you any good. Just progress with her like you would any other girl.
/r/seduction17/05/13 08:34 PM
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No.
/r/seduction23/04/13 11:50 PM
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This is not a pro-tip so much as it is sex 101
/r/seduction23/04/13 05:04 AM
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It's pretty advanced stuff, but the word "hi" works in situations like these. That type of opener is called a greeting. Source: kindergarten.
/r/seduction15/04/13 09:33 PM
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I know this isn't MFA, but ditch the ball cap!
/r/seduction14/04/13 04:10 AM
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Lol you gay bro?
/r/seduction25/02/13 07:34 PM
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Kind of an old programming joke: http://xkcd.com/138/
/r/seduction21/12/12 08:00 PM
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July 7, 1992 August 8, 1844 November 21, 1912 ...
/r/seduction18/12/12 09:21 PM
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Interesting!
/r/seduction26/11/12 07:33 PM
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Try making them feel like it is a unique interaction. That there is something special about her and not just a "random" open. That can help with your follow up game as well because she knows you like a certain quality about her and not just sex.
/r/seduction07/10/12 10:38 PM
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Because they want excuses.
/r/seduction05/06/12 07:34 AM
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Yup. I turned it down becasue of stinky feet once, lol
/r/seduction23/05/12 01:43 AM
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Counter point: Is it such a bad thing to be nervous on the phone? Consider that women get nervous too, and that a guy who comes off as "too smooth" on the phone may be interpreted to her as being insincere or disingenuous. Never the less, it sounds like a great exercise to garner communication skills.
/r/seduction18/05/12 11:00 PM
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I walked around a party eating a giant delicious sandwich once, and had a great response too. Speaks volumes about not giving a fuck.
/r/seduction11/12/11 07:56 PM
2

Hello Mr. StarBeam. I'm going to say that your #1 problem is lack of sexual aggression. When you are exerting the correct amount of aggression/dominance/assertiveness over a girl, she WILL complement you "my, aren't you aggressive" because a VAST majority of guys fail hard at this. Sexual chemistry begins the instant you two meet. This is no "getting to know" you time. There is no waiting 3 days before making advances. Hiding your sexuality makes you asexual. From time to time she will probably …
/r/seduction07/12/11 03:54 AM
1

Same, 6 fig has made negligible impact on my lay rate. I don't flaunt it though, so it really has no impact on a bar hookup. It DOES make more of them want an LTR if they get the chance to know me, though.
/r/seduction08/11/11 01:38 AM
3

Maybe it's because the only people who truly understand how to convey these emotions in a woman are already "doing it right".
/r/seduction08/11/11 12:14 AM
2

I've got to agree with this, having a decent job hasn't solved all my problems, but when it comes to LTRs it definitely helps. Good luck in your future endeavors!
/r/seduction08/11/11 12:09 AM
3

Just F.Y.I. - you are being down-voted it is assumed that all Redditors are aware that a 70% "like" ratio on a post usually equates to nearly 100% because of the padded down-votes that the Reddit spam algorithm adds.
/r/seduction07/11/11 11:24 PM
1

It worries me that this isn't more highly up-voted...
/r/seduction07/11/11 11:19 PM
2

You need to accept your current state (being unemployed.) This does NOT mean that you should not have the desire to change and improve that state, but first you need to accept it. Setting an arbitrary future goal like "I'll approach pickup more seriously, but only after I achieve X" (X in this case being securing a good job) is only going to delay your progress. My question for you: Do you actually find that women are rejecting you because you are unemployed, or are you just shooting yourself in…
/r/seduction07/11/11 11:18 PM
2

Happy Reddit birthday.
/r/seduction31/10/11 11:00 PM
1

I think you are on to it. You should aim to "fuck your way down" not up. Much more difficult to nail the hottest of the group after you have started on the lowest value ones first. Let the real hotties see you disqualify a girl that's not hot enough for you. If they see you leaving every night with just whatever, you seem much less desirable than if you demonstrated that you were a very selective guy.
/r/seduction31/10/11 10:55 PM
1

Read the top post right now: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/lp6c0/xpost_from_askseddit_by_requesta_good_friend_gave/ Just act however you damn well please and keep them in your life, if you'd like. Don't avoid them because you are scared what they might think. You are not going to change overnight.
/r/seduction26/10/11 07:51 AM
5

I sure hope he ended up having a nice chicken dinner.
/r/seduction24/10/11 12:47 AM
1

Try going direct a bit more, you may like it. One nice thing is that you waste NO time with bs by going direct.
/r/seduction17/10/11 09:59 AM
3

The fact that you would have printed cards as part of your pickup line would strike me as pretty weird.
/r/seduction09/10/11 08:34 PM
9

She will add you, dude
/r/seduction03/10/11 10:15 PM
2

"One-itis" refers to case of desperate unrequited love for a single person, not a mutual long term relationship with a single person.
/r/seduction30/09/11 02:06 AM
1

Sounds like you are good in the rapport department, maybe you are not building enough attraction?
/r/seduction26/09/11 10:28 PM
3

I almost always exchange some banter, etc before attempting to schedule another meeting. For example, I might share a funny story about something that happened to me that day, and then end that interaction first. This gets her replying, and shows her that you are normal, fun, and non-needy. "let's hang out again soon" doesn't give her much to go on. The only way she can reply to this is "ok" if she is 100% sure she wants to see you again. She probably doesn't want this kind of pressure, so she i…
/r/seduction26/09/11 10:17 PM
6

... so how did she kill the last guy?
/r/seduction26/09/11 05:55 AM
1

Be more physically aggressive, sexuality is almost exclusively non-verbal.
/r/seduction22/09/11 09:31 PM
11

Good news... almost everything you mentioned is completely under your control to change. And yes.. there is a sub-reddit for each one. :) /r/fitness - Even with your height, 262lbs is on the heavy side. If you get your body to the point where it is "fit and athletic" (no need to get ripped, just healthy) you will see a giant improvement in mental health, self confidence, and most importantly, sex appeal. Combine that with your height (many women love tall guys) and you can clean house. /r/malefa…
/r/seduction21/09/11 06:37 AM
1

Good insight into the "Secret lover zone"... I think this is usually where I end up, which is kind of a bummer when I want to peruse something more. :-/
/r/seduction19/09/11 06:46 PM
5

"ice cream and sex" is another great combo.
/r/seduction17/09/11 06:39 PM
5

She was so down... until you talked her out of it!
/r/seduction15/09/11 12:01 AM
1

I... I.... I can't believe I just read the whole thing.
/r/seduction09/09/11 06:26 AM
2

The reason you can talk to the fugly ones so easy is that the perceived stakes on the interaction are low (you want nothing from the girl, you have nothing to lose if things go bad and she dismisses you.) You need to get it into your head that things are the EXACT same way for the cute ones. No matter how cute the girl, you need to realize that you don't need anything from her, and you really have lost nothing if the interaction goes sour. Your life goes on. (This is a big part of "inner game".)…
/r/seduction08/09/11 04:20 AM
2

I figured she just did that to get our attention...
/r/seduction05/09/11 11:10 PM
1

Thanks for the insight. The age + needling some time to be free at school thing is definitely something that I've thought about. Most of my friends who had LTRs through college missed out on most of the fun and ended up breaking up anyway. I'm headed out to a show in her neck of the woods soon. Maybe I'll invite her along.
/r/seduction05/09/11 05:41 AM
1

http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/k4vrr/suggestions_on_keeping_an_awesome_fling_from/
/r/seduction05/09/11 05:35 AM
15

If we are standing and I feel the urge to kiss her, I'll turn my body towards her's, grab her hips, and pull her body into mine. I look at her eyes and lips, and if she seems receptive, I kiss her. If we are sitting and talking or listening to music I'll usually just stand up and offer my hands to grab on to and pull her up. Then I do some cheezy slow dancing and what not, look at her eyes and lips, and if she seems receptive, go for the kiss. The key here is to be fun, relaxed, act on your urge…
/r/seduction03/09/11 06:37 PM
1

-_- Not sure if being sarcastic... ..or misunderstood ambiguous post.
/r/seduction03/09/11 04:33 AM
2

Damn man, that sounded like a freaking gauntlet! Way to hang tight.
/r/seduction23/08/11 06:55 AM
2

Come here my sweet! You're fat, you're fat! =O ! I'm not fat! You will be, when my dick is in you!
/r/seduction23/08/11 06:49 AM
1

My little Honey Pumpkin Bear!
/r/seduction23/08/11 06:46 AM
2

I named mine bambi. she has big bambi eyes kind of hot in a stripper sort of way also, it's kind of a fucking cute name for a fucking cute girl
/r/seduction23/08/11 06:44 AM
1

I dunno, this Saturday I took a blind-side punch to the side of the head, and then my face while I was still phased. All because some stupid, cowardly fuck mistook me for someone else who he had a gripe with. Fucker ran out of the bar as soon as he hit me. I can assure you that most fights go unpunished.
/r/seduction23/08/11 04:55 AM
1

I could! Pretty much by the book. Reminds be how valuable it is to have a lot of interesting friends, and to always be up for anything (be a YES man.)
/r/seduction22/08/11 05:09 PM
7

"Does that line actually work for you?"
/r/seduction22/08/11 01:53 AM
4

As a late 20's guy who just bagged himself a cute, fit, smart, 19yo model this weekend, I approve of this advice. :)
/r/seduction22/08/11 12:19 AM
2

I believe that the same, popularly circulated study that observed a spike in testosterone after about 7 days of abstaining from ejaculation also noted a severe drop in the long term after this spike. Sex and masturbation are healthy. In fact, if not abused or over indulged, they lead to higher levels of testosterone (and these claims are made by countless more peer reviewed papers and studies.)
/r/seduction15/08/11 03:33 AM
10

If I ever decide not to date a girl who I've slept with, it's because I don't want to date her. If I'm really in to a girl, I'm going to try and see her for a while regardless of when she "puts out". The flaws (in my opinion and experience) with using sex as leverage to keep a guy around are: It is more likely to attract men who are easily manipulated emotionally It can attract men who are still just in it for sex, but willing to wait (or get it elsewhere..) It can attract men who are willing to…
/r/seduction12/08/11 08:20 AM
2

She may also have just been a very sexual girl. Either way, OP, great for you!
/r/seduction07/08/11 07:17 AM
1

I'm 26 as well. If you don't fuck your neighbor, I will.
/r/seduction05/08/11 06:41 AM
5

No, but you definitely might be embarrassed for still using the same canned material...
/r/seduction11/07/11 07:13 PM
5

tl;dr: dating is like farmville.
/r/seduction29/06/11 03:11 AM
6

I don't get nearly as many dates as you, but when I do, I close like a mother fucker. Maybe you are not doing enough filtering to ensure that your date is indeed a decent candidate (more aligned with your desire for sex without a LTR)? Maybe you didn't do enough to communicate your intent before/during the date?
/r/seduction14/06/11 05:27 AM
8

Roger that, commencing boob kino!
/r/seduction14/06/11 05:20 AM
2

iPhone auto-correct is a grammar/spelling Nazi. It's actually more work to type like that!
/r/seduction30/05/11 01:23 AM
3

I got laid more when I was broke in college than I do now as a rich work-a-hollic.
/r/seduction25/05/11 04:10 AM
2

In university there was a gorgeous girl on the floor below. She had been born without arms (or removed by surgery) but was remarkably confident independent despite. I walked into in the laundry room while she was transferring a load of wet laundry into the dryer. Without thinking, I almost asked her if she "needed a hand with that".
/r/seduction25/04/11 05:59 AM
8

Dude, it's an internship
/r/seduction14/04/11 03:21 AM
2

Actually, if you record yourself and play it back later to learn what worked and what didn't, it would be WAY more helpful.
/r/seduction08/04/11 02:53 AM
0

No thanks, I prefer beer.
/r/seduction08/04/11 02:49 AM
5

I was like "WAIT. Who is Story, and what does he have that's so interesting?"
/r/seduction04/04/11 08:52 AM
2

That's a play out of Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends & Influence People" -- always call people by their full name.
/r/seduction15/03/11 08:45 AM
2

It's all implied sir. Jut invite her to hang out or "watch a movie". She'll get the idea.
/r/seduction11/03/11 09:48 AM
1

Haha nice! You sounded golden man. All this probably because you finally let your v-card hangups go by talking about it openly with a good friend. Turns out it was no big deal!
/r/seduction11/03/11 09:46 AM
5

Money doesn't matter much to me, so drinks, dinner, etc are fairly trivial. I have no problem purchasing a drink for a girl I'm out with. It's not coming from a place of neediness or trading the drink for her approval or attraction. It's coming from a place of the two of us having the most fun as possible, and enjoying each others company. It's just the natural thing to do. More often than not, she will recognize this and jump in and pick up the next round of drinks herself.
/r/seduction27/02/11 09:23 PM
1

Good show, man.
/r/seduction02/02/11 07:23 AM
2

The best advice ever: Learn to Cook Like a Boss.
/r/seduction11/12/10 09:40 PM
2

Turns out shes really shy without her friend, to the point where Kino didn't come naturally for me. (Advice on this?) Work on trying to make her feel more comfortable (build more rapport and the like.) She gets chatty with her friends, because that is where she is the most comfortable.
/r/seduction05/12/10 10:46 PM
7

I think that escalating physically is a much better idea, actions speak louder than words. Invite her to a one-on-one situation where it is pretty clear that you like her, and she'll get the idea.
/r/seduction05/12/10 12:34 AM
2

Condoms only reduce the risk by 30%, no use really.
/r/seduction24/11/10 06:48 AM
16

It only teaches you to emulate what comes naturally to some.
/r/seduction23/11/10 09:41 AM
1

I was grabbing a coffee the other day and I struck up a conversation with the baristas, and we all started laughing about something. I think it was something I observed about the guy who had just ordered before me. Naturally, that got the attention of the cute girl sitting to the side. Opening was easy because I just continued the funny moment with her.
/r/seduction17/11/10 09:02 AM
9

The 1-10 scale works great for judging short-term girlfriends and lays, but for marriage not so much.
/r/seduction17/11/10 08:55 AM
3

Me: That's cute that you would use such a terrible and obvious pick up line. You're kind of cute though so I'll let you keep talking to me to see if you can redeem yourself. Trying too hard. Just say "thank you."
/r/seduction10/11/10 03:02 AM
2

Wait, what's the worst that could happen?! The "worst" scenario you can think of is not as bad as the sinking reeling of regret, my friend.
/r/seduction09/11/10 06:39 PM
3

Don't tell her that you like her, but you can give her hints. Joke and disqualify her with something like "It's too bad that you're in a relationship, because we could totally go to X together tomorrow." (X is some random activity) Naturally she will try to convince you that you should let her go with you anyway. And you do. From there, just escalate a bit (hold hands, go for a kiss if you feel it) and soon you'll have a girlfriend of your very own!
/r/seduction27/10/10 07:16 AM
1

A towel has a terrycloth texture which makes it more absorbent to oils, and less direct contact with the face. They also hold up better in the wash I imagine than a nice pillow case...
/r/seduction24/10/10 11:08 PM
1

Besides being outwardly more pleasant to look at, having clear skin is seen as an indicator of good health, which is rooted VERY deeply in subconscious attractiveness. See a dermatologist.
/r/seduction24/10/10 10:44 PM
2

So... 3 fingers for you then?
/r/seduction12/10/10 03:03 AM
1

Invite her out to go do something! And have fun!
/r/seduction11/10/10 03:19 PM
1

Divide by 2 plus 7, I treat it like a rule.
/r/seduction08/10/10 07:03 AM
2

I laughed at the pic of the girl eating her hair... good stuff.
/r/seduction08/10/10 07:00 AM
1

Use this as a lesson to man up and get her contact info that night.
/r/seduction05/10/10 01:38 AM
4

she seems a little aloof, didn't reply to texts for a while Wait, she's trying to play you while accusing you of playing her? Hypocrite! Tell her what you wish, but if you play into her frame, you "lose".
/r/seduction05/10/10 01:09 AM
2

I, too, have noticed that my circle of female friends has evaporated since getting better with pick up. This could also because I've finished college, and you tend to leave most of that social circle behind.
/r/seduction04/10/10 08:36 PM
1

Making soap makes me feel alive.
/r/seduction04/10/10 06:14 AM
1

Thats funny, I ready through it and didn't realize there were any swear words. I guess we have different styles of "reading."
/r/seduction29/09/10 06:19 PM
1

But all I began feeling was angry and awkward when it happened. He didn't acknowledge me... I hate to say it, but you let him ruin your night. Basically, by being WAY more reactive than him, you give him the upper hand. And he hasn't even said anything to you! Next time, just chill out. Stop him and introduce yourself, to get him to engage you, and to establish that you are in charge of the space. If you start feeling awkward, the girls will pick up on your nervous energy. Also, as a side note, …
/r/seduction29/09/10 04:52 AM
3

True confidence is tough, because it is really only obtained through achieving success. Start with small goals, and as you achieve them, you will be more confident that you will achieve the next as well. This can take some time in an area of your life where you are not used to experiencing success. You will have to take some risks, and fight your "common sense" indicators warning you of failure along the way, but your confidence will grow. I'd recommend to: Get fit. This gives me a HUGE boost in…
/r/seduction28/09/10 03:58 PM
1

Sounds like you are de-sexualizing yourself and making a lot of good friends. This is what you're trying to accomplish by sharing movies and long, drawn-out conversations with horny girls, right? If it is sex you'd like the have with her, I'd try that instead. Escalate as soon as you get to your place and carry the momentum instead of starting from scratch.
/r/seduction26/09/10 10:33 PM
10

People know me. I have many leather-bound books, and my apartment smells of rich mahogany.
/r/seduction26/09/10 10:28 PM
1

I like how the post moved through the frame when he said "the things that divide us" for effect. A+!
/r/seduction23/09/10 04:22 AM
2

Call her "HB", sit back, and watch.
/r/seduction22/09/10 06:39 PM
3

Can you honestly be both a Christian and a PUA?
/r/seduction18/09/10 11:34 PM
3

Homeboy.
/r/seduction18/09/10 11:32 PM
29

Sounds like a good way to burn down your apartment!
/r/seduction15/09/10 06:04 AM
15

And then show her your car bed.
/r/seduction07/09/10 07:20 AM
2

Sounds like you have some good, natural game.
/r/seduction03/09/10 04:36 AM
2

Well, I'm not from Pittsburgh, but since you both live in Pittsburgh, something in Pittsburgh would probably be best. PS I usually get ice cream for firstsies. Doesn't have the cliché vibe of "let's get coffee" and dosen't have the awkward pressure of a full meal right off the bat.
/r/seduction02/09/10 07:47 PM
1

"Great, now you will have time to think about how much you miss me."
/r/seduction02/09/10 07:35 PM
1

God damn what I'd do to go back to college.. Do work son!
/r/seduction01/09/10 09:23 PM
1

I feel ya, I've been on both sides of this (that guy and the guy.) HOWEVER, you told her to make a choice, and in that moment, she chose her ex. You can't get angry about this. You just can't. Alternatively, you could have gone in to blow the ex out. Truth be told, as an ex whose been in this situation, you usually have the upper hand over the new guy. Especially if you were the one to break up with her. This is kind of an "all in" move though... If you re-gain her attention and blow the ex out,…
/r/seduction01/09/10 09:14 PM
2

Once you buy a dance from the girl, game over, you lose. As soon as you do, you are just another client. (Read: $$$) And they don't fuck clients. Mystery has some good insight on picking up strippers.
/r/seduction01/09/10 08:20 PM
1

I've also heard in studies that it makes your voice sound more attractive. The sound resonates differently when you have more muscles around your throat/chest/abs. You will also find that it does wonders for your stamina and control in the sack...
/r/seduction01/09/10 08:11 PM
1

Yup, having a gf usually helps to get rid of the feeling scarcity and helps you to relax and just let things happen. It changes your attitude. These are your own inner issues however, and using someone else to get your head strait isn't too ethical. That said, there is no reason not to start seeing the girl who's into you, if you are into her.
/r/seduction01/09/10 05:00 AM
7

I'm wondering... am I the only one who struggles with online dating? I've had a profile for 2 years, tried many different pictures, styles and strategies, and I have never once hooked up with someone I met online. Never. I confess that I haven't spent too much time with it however.. probably from lack of results. I hook up with people all the time in "real life" though. No problems there. The cities around me are small-medium though, and the online pool is not too large. You could message all th…
/r/seduction01/09/10 01:01 AM
1

Yes.
/r/seduction30/08/10 03:29 AM
2

Not a dick move at all... keep up the good work!
/r/seduction28/08/10 10:27 PM
4

I'ts just another shit test. After her lame response, don't respond verbally; just give her a look like "Really? It's me you're talking to. And you're starting to seem kinda lame." Basically a look of disapproval and even mild disgust. She'll feel pressured to break the science and give you a real answer.
/r/seduction27/08/10 06:32 AM
2

A very good way to deal with an "argument" like that is to first let her vent all the way out. She needs to tell you all about it, and she'll feel a little better after having spilled her emotional guts. Keep your mouth shut and just listen. And don't let her get you emotional, riled up, or defensive. Next, the tricky part, don't respond or provide a rebuttal to anything she just said. It's really just emotional vomit, and she knows that. You'll get no where going tit-for-tat on that because it'…
/r/seduction27/08/10 06:24 AM
2

Marlon Brando
/r/seduction26/08/10 03:43 AM
1

SC2 or pussy. Choose one.
/r/seduction24/08/10 12:27 AM
1

When you are "putting up with shit" you will know it. You'll feel uncomfortable, maybe a little angry, at meeting her compliance.
/r/seduction24/08/10 12:05 AM
1

Lame excuse. It was on, and you could have gotten away with it. And made quite an impression as well.
/r/seduction24/08/10 12:02 AM
1

Make observations. They are more fun than asking questions, and lead to better conversation. Your some of your observations might be insightful and thoughtful, some might be humorously out of proportion or incorrect to tease her.
/r/seduction23/08/10 11:59 PM
2

"Hi" tends to work wonders... :) But don't say it needy and report-seeking like, just cool and relaxed. Make a comment about the huge book she's reading. Call her a dork. Ask her if she lugs that huge book around to parties with her. Say anything. it dosen't need to be perfect. It doesn't have to make sense.
/r/seduction23/08/10 11:53 PM
1

Well, from the get-go you framed the relationship as friends. Now, you two are friends. It often feels "safe" to play it this way, but you are only going to torture yourself by playing further into the "friends" role and concealing any of your sexual impulses. The takeaway for next time, is to be upfront with flirting and touching right from the start. You would be wise to adopt some of her qualities (get some more dating options, remain ambitious and focussed, don't concern yourself with gettin…
/r/seduction23/08/10 11:47 PM
3

Confidence can do amazing things for any woman.
/r/seduction23/08/10 06:17 AM
1

Not at all. You do awesome and lovely things for your woman. But only on your terms.
/r/seduction22/08/10 08:13 AM
1

Give her the "surely, you must be joking" look. Even let out a chuckle. If she persists, follow with "oh you're really serous? Get X to hold your bag, he is better at keeping track of those things." X will be totally happy to impress her and hold her bag. Poor chump.
/r/seduction22/08/10 08:11 AM
1

HB6=insecure and very emotionally vulnerable. A 10 can take relentless teasing. Go much easier on the other types of girls. Try things that are more indirect, like giving her a dorky nickname or calling her out when she does something weird/funny.
/r/seduction22/08/10 08:02 AM
1

Ahhh what a great bomb! If you are following M3, it's sounds like you built a bit of attraction and then a whole shit load of comfort and just left it there. It also sounds like you felt a bit uneasy through the whole night... Girls and definitely pick up on that sort of energy, and it makes them feel uneasy too. You can't be afraid to just grab her hand or kiss her. It may seem crazy in the moment, but once you do you'll feel silly for making it such a big deal.
/r/seduction20/08/10 04:31 AM
4

If you threw out Friday first, and she offered up Tues and Wed next, thats good. She's trying. Comprise. If you DO have free time during the week when she's free, why not pick one of the days and a specific time.
/r/seduction18/08/10 02:28 AM
1

Power stance: Stand up strait, solders back, feet a shoulder width apart Let your arms hang confidently at your sides, your palms facing more toward the back, with your thumb making gentle contact with the tips of your middle and index fingers. The gesture will help put you at ease, much like holding an object will do. Concentrate on making slow and purposeful movements. Keep your hands below the line across your chest. If you must hold a drink, hang it low and effortlessly. Clutching a drink ag…
/r/seduction18/08/10 02:11 AM
1

It's usually not. But she will gladly break the rules and take the heat if she's into you.
/r/seduction18/08/10 01:18 AM
2

I picked up a girl working at a sandwich shop yesterday. Here's how it went down: Walked in at a time time not too busy. Acted cool and charming when I ordered. Tried to lead the short interaction, and leave with a bit of a vibe going. Went to sit down. She made sure to come by (presenting herself to be re-opened, and showing her interest). I made sure to initiate some small talk and tease her a bit. I had my laptop with me to get some work done (while waiting for car repairs.) Later on she came…
/r/seduction18/08/10 01:16 AM
4

Well, you could start by not texting her so much. Make her start some of the interactions. Make her wait some times for a reply. I wouldn't text her while you work either. Project image of an intense, mature, working man while at work. Your job is difficult, and important. You ruin that by sending nonsense texts back and forth all day.
/r/seduction18/08/10 12:52 AM
1

I went to a small high school. It was terrible. Just get through it. It's going to be tough to change anyones impressions of you. I've been out of high school for almost 8 years and still, when I see someone who I haven't seen since high school they will still see me at the start of the interaction as the shy, dorky introvert I used to be. Until I set them strait. Practice in malls, other schools (sports events are good), and other places kids your age hang out.
/r/seduction18/08/10 12:50 AM
1

Ahhh I've been cock-blocked by a buddy right before an f-close too many times. I feel your pain. It usually tends to come from the less experienced "nice" guys. Remember that in their mind, by some sort of twisted logic, they are trying to do you and the girl a favor. Next time, just try to keep her in your frame.
/r/seduction17/08/10 03:02 AM
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You're only 20. Your hormones are still haywire. I get it acne on my chest sporadically, usually when I'm stressed out. To get it to go away, I don't touch (read: pick) them and use acne spot treatment and gentle cleanser if I feel oily. I also use a shower scrubber thing to exfoliate in the shower (Dove for men makes a good one, and good shower gel too. Axe makes shit products.). Also, when using harsh acne cleansers remember to use a really good hypoallergenic moisturizer. If your skin is drie…
/r/seduction14/08/10 08:37 AM
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Nice. I'm going to refer new members who come in posting about this "one girl" they're having difficulty with to this post.
/r/seduction13/08/10 08:27 PM
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lol
/r/seduction13/08/10 02:44 AM
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Shit. You make me want to get off my ass and take advantage of this.
/r/seduction13/08/10 02:28 AM
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read: cocky and funny I they're not laughing, you're just being mean.
/r/seduction13/08/10 02:22 AM
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Dude. No man can compete with that accent.
/r/seduction11/08/10 07:12 PM
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You mention that you've read and listened to the material, but have you actually tried to put any of it to use? You need to get out and practice to actually learn pickup.
/r/seduction11/08/10 09:18 AM
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SMASH! <throws drink on ground>
/r/seduction11/08/10 02:07 AM
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David D'Angelo has some good material out there called "Man Transformation" and also "On Being a Man (That Naturally Attracts Women)". It goes beyond the "PUA" stuff to a deeper level. Think about it as the bricks in the foundation. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XtjoZPKGPrg http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSbFFZcy1UI
/r/seduction10/08/10 09:30 PM
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The pair bond begins the instant you two start seeing each other. Attaching a legal document to your pair bond shouldn't change the underlying connection you have, and also should NOT give either person right to be lazy in the relationship. It's not so much about "keeping up" with your woman and playing games, its about being a man and staying ahead. Continually work to improve yourself. Make her respect you and your time. Don't be jealous of other men. Give her things when she deserves it. Make…
/r/seduction10/08/10 09:15 PM
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Because, quite simply, games are fun. When you lay all your cards on the table, show her all your feelings, and communicate to her that she has your total devotion and attention, the game is over. There is no challenge. There is no fun. Dating is, whether you like it or not, a very real competition between you and your fellow males to get the highest quality mates. One of the best was to do this it to be a fun challenge. It's not manipulation, it's keeping tight control over the distribution of …
/r/seduction10/08/10 06:49 PM
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Many girls will shut down the first kiss on principle. It doesn't mean that she's not in to you. And it doesn't mean that she doesn't actually want you to kiss her. Shake it off. Don't let it phase you AT ALL. If she detects any weird frustration on your part, you lose. Build up more attraction, escalate, and try again.
/r/seduction10/08/10 06:41 PM
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Yes, there is some value in being good looking, rich, and fit. But these three will NOT make you the awesome person pooflinga is talking about.
/r/seduction10/08/10 08:20 AM
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Simple. Stop taking her out to dinner, and spend more time at her place banging her.
/r/seduction10/08/10 08:13 AM
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You can't be worried about the outcome. One of the greatest sources of anxiety and nerves in a situation like this is putting too much pressure on the outcome of one interaction. She is just one of the thousands of cute girls working at Coscos. If you blow it, no worries. There is no such thing as failure, only learning. With any luck, even if you are totally nervous and shaking through asking her out, she might find that totally attractive. After all, some girls are totally attracted to the shy…
/r/seduction10/08/10 08:06 AM
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Well, you can literally pull her in close to quietly tell her something, hold her hand, per her arm on yours, and then playfully physically push her away before she withdraws from the contact herself. Basically you need to do something to make her feel good, and then take it away. http://www.seductiontuition.com/swinggcat/push-pull-examples.html
/r/seduction10/08/10 06:30 AM
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Yup, she sounds like a total introvert. If you smother her with incessant "canned" conversation, she is going to get annoyed.
/r/seduction10/08/10 06:11 AM
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Forgot how much I dig this song.
/r/seduction09/08/10 10:04 PM
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Massive Attack Spacey, jazzy, down-tempo. It's the kind of music that wont fight for too much attention. It will definitely help in setting a "sexy mood". I've also used Marvin Gaye, Jack Johnson, John Mayer to some degree of success.
/r/seduction09/08/10 10:00 PM
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I got caught using the Jealous Girlfriend opener once (I think it was on the VH1 show too) and she called me out. I explained that it's just a fun way to start a conversation, and we made fun of Mystery for a bit. ;-) The set ended up going OK.
/r/seduction09/08/10 09:52 PM
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Just trying to reflect what was going on in my head... I was definitely WAY more cocky than usual this particular night
/r/seduction09/08/10 04:33 PM
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Decent advice, I like the idea of buying a cheaper "trial version"
/r/seduction07/08/10 12:53 AM
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Having a good job can speak volumes about being a high quality man. I think women grow tired of dating the typical "jobless loser"
/r/seduction07/08/10 12:51 AM
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Take it from someone who can afford the nice watches, nice clothes, the bmw, it doesn't really matter at that much when it comes to most women. Your confidence and attitude have much more weight in the interaction. I have a younger buddy (he's 23, I'm 25) who is AMAZING with the direct approaches and getting instant attract. He owns a piece of shit car and only has one or two shirts that he wears out in rotation. No watches, no tacky jewelery. Learning much about solid direct game from this guy.
/r/seduction07/08/10 12:43 AM
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Hey, at least he got her to "make his change" But seriously I was expecting you to whip out your genitals and plop them on the counter or something.
/r/seduction04/08/10 07:50 PM
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Trojan brand polyurethane cut off the circulation. LifeStyles are more tolerable. More stretchy and slightly larger diameter.
/r/seduction04/08/10 07:38 PM
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Drinking from a coconut = WIN http://www.okcupid.com/mybestface?rid=520341478238576028 EDIT: Apparently the conservatives don't think so..
/r/seduction04/08/10 06:40 AM
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Yea, but by not taking advantage of a clear opportunity to kiss and advance you risk looking like pussy with no dominance. Unless of course you have a solid frame set up.
/r/seduction03/08/10 08:16 AM
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Don't think so much :)
/r/seduction03/08/10 12:53 AM
2

Give her a taste of her own medicine. Play the field, hook up with someone else.
/r/seduction03/08/10 12:51 AM
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I have the predicament of having a higher income (~140.) If I list it (I'm 25) they will most certainty think I'm lying. If I don't list it, I will miss out on women who use it as a search param (probably looking for at least >40k). So should I: a. List it b. Don't list it c. Lie, but with with a lower figure I'm more comfortable to list I wish I could clone my profile and test it out...
/r/seduction02/08/10 05:41 AM
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Make sure to follow through!
/r/seduction01/08/10 07:40 PM
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Favorite excerpts for the tl;dr crowd?
/r/seduction30/07/10 05:39 AM
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It's quite unlikely that any particular system will match your style 100%. In the beginning I would subscribe to one particular style of game at a time to essentially "try it out" and see what my results were. A great way to learn. As I gained experience, I evolved my own personal style, taking the best parts of all the systems I liked. Now, instead of following a particular style I will casually take a look here and there to compare and see if any of that is worth adopting. Once you get through…
/r/seduction29/07/10 11:52 PM
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I got caught using a "classic" canned opener, and that turned into my opener. Went pretty well, had her following me around the club and everything. I like to use them when I'm feeling lazy, uninspired, or just trying to get that first approach out of the way and kick start my night.
/r/seduction29/07/10 06:26 AM
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