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Nice breakdown. I've started listening to the book on Spotify thanks to your reccomendation. It's based. Good shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/24 02:54 AM
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I mention that game got started a bit late, but it’s met with an accusatory tone and how it’s suspicious that I “always” come home late from soccer. I don’t. She mentions that I could have texted her that things were running late, which I admit I could have mentioned it at half time. She responds with more suspicion as to why I would have to wait until halftime if I already know the game is going to start late, even though we’re busy warming up. Read the sidebar. This is called "DEERing." You th…
/r/askMRP09/05/24 02:52 AM
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This is moreso it. And you're right about it being annoying. There's not a damn thing someone else can say. Just gotta do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/24 03:01 AM
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Yea man. This sub has helped a lot. My relationship with my wife has steadily improved. My priorities are taking me in the direction I want to go rather than just LARPing dad/husband roles. I don't write about it becasue it's not my focus for the next 6 weeks. I'm trying to move mountains. It's all I give a shit about now. This week is going to be better.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/24 02:59 AM
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OYS 40 40+ yo Married 5y, 1 young kid 6'3" 182 lbs 9%BF (In-Body Machine) Work = Mission Assessment: I have not met my standards for the week. I had personal and professional stuff pop up that required attention and I took care of all of that. That reads like an excuse, and it is an excuse. I'm still behind schedule with all of my projects, and I'm doing a shit job of prioritizing and executing. This week was not better than last week. Plan: I have no external consequences for failure in any of …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/24 12:30 PM
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The first rule of Fight Club is....
/r/askMRP04/05/24 01:32 AM
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In that case, it's a mantra. Good luck
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/24 12:15 PM
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Your mission is vague as fuck
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/24 10:03 AM
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My wife is fat, but I'm also fat. I want her to be skinny like when we first met but I made her fat as I got fat. This means I've taught her to be fat. Despite having 29% body fat through the navy method, I carry it well and have a nearly flat stomach. This causes my wife anxiety about her weight. This has been a point of contention in our past. She complains about not being able to lose weight as easily as me but I simply do more. Instead of trying to reason with her about how I do it, I've sta…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/24 10:01 AM
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I wish I could upvote u/deerstfu's medical advice here twice.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/24 09:35 AM
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You sound like a plow horse, and working on the wrong shit. Dead on with the plow horse shit. I'm in this situation due to the fact that I don't own anything that generates value on my behalf. Trying to create that in the form of IP/small business. What kind of work that needs 50h/week, and how much do you make out of it? My work is really intrinsically rewarding (only about 20% of my work life consists of things I wouldn't happily do for free) And I make enough money to provide a middle class l…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/24 12:19 AM
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OYS 39 40+ yo Married 5y, 1 young kid 6'3" 180 lbs Work = Mission This is my main focus here because everything hinges on it. I have done a ton of good work in the past week, but I still don't work efficiently enough to open up time for hobbies and the pursuit of pleasure. Becasue I work inefficiently I only have enough time to lift, eat, sleep, work, and maintain. I can do better than this. This week was better than last week, but I still get knocked off my schedule too easily when I have to pi…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 12:24 PM
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Thanks for the concrete suggestions. My arbitrary goals and emphasis on slow progession are because I rounded my back on a DL like 6 weeks ago and ended up tweeking something. Rookie mistake. I really suck at that lift. Doing SQ and DL at low weights I can feel that my low back is the limiting factor and I want to strengthen that shit. I have been warming up more than you suggest, but I'll experiment with 5, 3, 1. Maybe I'm overdoing the warmups. I've been in my office chair a ton these days, so…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/24 07:23 AM
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Yea. SQ, DL and procrastination are reccuring demons. What have I done? SQ and DL - I've programmed lower weights at high reps to strengthen the weakness in my lower back and make the form second nature. I'll build slowly to lifting heavier at the end of the summer. Slow goals. Procrastination I've systematized my work more and added timeboxing and subgoals. I don't hit this perfectly, but it keeps me better on track. The kind of work I'm doing is difficult to force, but I must force it anyway. …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/24 06:58 AM
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OYS 38 40+ yo Married 5y, 1 young kid 6'3" 178 lbs Overall I have the gift of time right now. This will either be a great time in my life, or a great failure. I want to post here for accountability. Physical Back from an injury. I've been lifting consistently again for 2 months, mostly rebuilding. My physique is OK, but my strength has suffered. BP 70kg x5 Lat Pulldown 95kg x8. OHP 52.5kg x 6 SQ and DL are coming back slow, but I want to be hitting novice strength numbers by August. Relearning t…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/24 05:11 AM
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OYS 37 40+ yo Married 5y, 1 young kid 6'3" 185lbs ------> 170lbs Physical Injury -Upper body injury from BJJ. Been out 1 month. For the next 2 months I can run, but most other physical activity is off the table. I'm working on my cardio, speed, jumping, mobility . -In a month without lifting I went from 185 down to about 170. Looking forward to the green light from the doc. Been diligent with physical therapy, and I think I'll be back to lifting and sports in Feb. BJJ - I absolutely love this sp…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/23 12:41 PM
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There's a defensive posture to my responses. I'm not interested in looking good, just trying to get the criticism to land flush, which is why I'm explaining shit. It's not helping the project.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 07:07 AM
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MRP's definitely not perfect. It's incomplete. With both NMMNG and WISNIFG I found a few areas where I really needed work, and I probably didn't complete that work.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/23 05:03 AM
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OK. There's a lot of daylight between DEER and counterpoint. I intuitively don't like seated press because I don't want to load a seated spine. My back dysfunction is from sitting too much during covid work from home shit. I'll give it a go as I have 100% avoided it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/23 05:02 AM
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Do you think that’s what frame is? That post is excellent.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/23 04:38 AM
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Are you criticizing the book or the reader? The text is good. It connects a lot of things I've read pre RP to RP principles.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/23 04:32 AM
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hahaha. OK
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/23 04:30 AM
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I agree. The neck injury was from sitting at the computer.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/23 04:30 AM
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Fear is the mind killer dude. Dune rocks. I read the first one like 10 years ago for the first time. Haven't done any of the other books. Also, just use a fucking machine for the shit you feel weird about. They make machines for shoulders. I haven't done the shoulder press machine because I don't like the idea of bearing weight while sitting on my ass. I do dumbell press standing. Is a machine better? Also, all of this is DEERing, in case you wanted some great examples for your own development. …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 04:20 AM
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I read it before I had MRP basics anywhere near in place, so I got the details but missed the core. I'm like halfway through for the second time and it's medicine. It's a rare skill to suggest the right part of the sidebar to the right guy at the right time. I appreciate it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 04:01 AM
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Appreciate it. I'll put these in.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 03:14 AM
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Scarcity mentally. Oneitis. I'm just not 10/10 enthusiastic about this chick. I can tell because she's really lowering the effort threshold and I'm still not enticed. I think there will be more, and one of them will be better, and I'll re-evaluate my decision at that time. ​ Weak sauce lifts. True. Been doing only compound lifts for a week. Low back is sore but not broken. You are the one who pushed me to challenge my back, and it's been good so far. ​ DEERing I don't DEER with my wife. That hel…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 03:12 AM
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It sounds like your core is weak. What's the best way to fix a weak core specifically to serve bracing for lifting?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 01:51 AM
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This makes sense. TBH I'm just not that into her. I think she's a symptom of my mission going well, so I see her as an (imprecise) indicator of progress in that realm of my life. When there's a better chick(s) doing the same thing I'll probably read it as an improvement. But I'd rather not use women as a pressure gauge for success. Just a nice side effect. Not a sidepiece yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 01:48 AM
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You OYS to tell us you still suck. Why would I be posting OYS if I didn't still suck? DEER The guys I've argued with on this sub have taught me the most.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 01:45 AM
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Yea dude. Just maintaining. needs to be better
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 01:20 AM
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I appreciate the question that spawned the clarity
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 04:37 AM
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She's one of the few chicks that has seen the progress of my mission. One of the reasons I want to fuck her is that she's impressed by something central to my life.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 04:36 AM
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I speed read it a while back. I'll revisit.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 04:34 AM
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I can leg press 440 lbs 12 times for 3 sets. The problem with my squat seems to be learning the motion and bearing the weight on my back. Deadlift, I fuck up and round my back. That weird discomfort in the abdomen can probably be controlled with proper bracing techniques, but let's see what it does this time. Bench I always kept my back flat. I just started arching my back. Recently with PHUL I was doing sets of 3x5 and I never broke 175lbs. Hard plateau for weeks. OHP I gotta do with dumbbells …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 04:32 AM
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A lot of guys have jumped on this idea. It is, indeed, stupid. The "2 in the kitty" idea makes sense to me on paper, but I haven't experienced a real shift in mindset. This is the first time I have a chick in my inbox that's really painting a target on her pussy. She's got lots of money and lots of time, so I could drop by after a job, smash, and go home happy. It's not that she's the most amazing option I've had, it's just that she's the most convenient. Hot, fun, liberated. History of lang rel…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 03:09 AM
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Yea. I like that it's constant but not high volume. I need to learn the motion and training consistently multiple times throughout the week is going to drill it into my head. When I have done multiple sets of deadlift, hack squat, leg press, I end up blowing form. One muscle group gets tired and the compensation happens despite my trying to stay safe. It's a focus thing. I'm training that now. When I finally get up to 175 lbs in the deadlift (pathetically low, I know) I start to feel scary shit …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 03:09 AM
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Lifting - I'm afraid to get hurt and lose quality of life. I love athletics, martial arts, picking up my wife and kid, and just generally being strong and free. My covid-time back injury fucked with my frame. To a degree this fear is still irrational. Guys around me are "warning me" about the deadlift especially, and I know my form is still shit on all the big compound lifts. Just gotta put in as much focus as I put in effort. I've stripped away everything else to do so for the next few months. …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 03:07 AM
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I haven't cheated yet. I probably won't. But if I divorce or separate my rebound is lined up.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 03:00 AM
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Yea, my numbers suck. Especially the 36. All the change I made happened in the first 6 months. I've plateaued in lifting and in my relationship. My mission is going well, but I'm not where I need to be in terms of frame. Not following my own commands and prohibitions.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/23 07:50 PM
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Lifting: I've been consistent, but I've never put more than my body weight on a barbell for any of the major compound lifts. Bros: the strong guy fixed my squat setup. I wasn't standing wide enough for my height. Closest thing to a strength coach I have. I mention the other dude because he's trying to get me to abandon strength training and I'm not listening. The gym owner also tells me these big lifts are scary and he hurt his back deadlifting and blah blah blah. A lot of pushback. My form is s…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/23 07:48 PM
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This is the first chick that's seemed to get as far as logistics, and not just IOI. She's throwing it at me and I could hit it without complications. post wall Truth Still hot though.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/23 07:48 PM
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Right. My financial situation is what it is for the next 6 months. But I write about the procrastination because it's really fucking with me across every level of existence. I haven't properly built the structure that will force hard work in the office. Everything that's got an external deadline gets handled. Elements of my mission that are deliverables get delivered. The shit I'm doing to develop my career, however, I'm doing way too slow. I need to put my own deadlines in place and move projec…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/23 07:47 PM
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OYS 36 40+ yo Married 4y, 1 young kid 6'3" 185lbs Physical - Bad - Returning from setbacks with new perspective. Neck injury: Put in 2 14 hour days at the computer and came out with a neck injury. I got a ton done but it sidelined me from training. I did mobility and healed. Just returned to physical activity. Partners: I was lifting with a friend who's now 100% into calisthenics--No interest in barbells. We train together, but do none of the same lifts. I started getting notes from one guy I kn…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/23 10:52 AM
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Thanks dude. 5lb of BW gain per month also doesn't leave any room for off-weeks. The time commitment isn't huge. 3 times a week of 45-70min in the gym. currently following PHUL, I'm in there 4x per week, and I'm more like 65-100min sessions. I used to have great endurance, but this is a new game for me. I think it's moreso that I don't eat enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/23 02:42 AM
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six months of no BS effort to get to 90%ish of your natty potential. After you can remove it again and hold onto the LBM by lifting twice a week, eating to satiety and doing all the BJJ you want. Shit. 6 months? Extremely enticing. I'm not lazy. I enjoy lifting, but I can't fit sports in right now because I'm trying to stay consistent in the gym. It'd be phenomenal to focus more on martial arts, sports, etc. Strong motivator. ​ I challenge you to find another area of your life where you'd get th…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/23 08:44 AM
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On connection: I have good intentions, but I'm doing it wrong. I grab her, sit her on my lap and talk with her, try to be present; and afterwards I feel like I wasted the time. Best advice I've had about this is that wives are generally boring conversation partners, so activities are better. Pre-kid we'd always be consuming film/tv together. That was OK, led naturally to sex. I don't have time for films and tv now though. Overall I see it as a failure of activity planning. I'm unmotivated to pri…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/23 04:36 AM
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Hold off on jiu-jitsu and other shenanigans while you build muscle. I like JJ though. You are correct that it interferes. Also, I can't predict how physically demanding BJJ is going to be for the day, so it doesn't deliver consistantly in terms of physical training. It's about skill/knowledge building. if you miss more than one workout per month I am consistent in the gym. No donation to the white bitches. Hilarious motivator. gain less than 3lbs any one month I'd fail here. You're dead on that …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/23 04:21 AM
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OYS 35 40+ yo Married 5y, 1 young kid 6'3" 187lbs Physical Switched to PHUL. I have never trained in the 3-5 rep range before. I now bench, squat, and deadlift right around my body weight, which is shit. With the bench, the limiting factor is strength, and with the other two it's form. Back still hurts. I still make mistakes squatting and deadlifting often (and I can feel them days after, but nothing puts me out for weeks.) I'm taking it slow, learning how to do these 3 lifts. My strength will c…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/23 04:12 AM
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better
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/23 06:44 AM
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Much better. ​ Your entire lifting paragraph is one big excuse protecting your ego from the fact that you are unwilling to work hard. That lifting paragraph explains that I suck at lifting. I don't see the ego thing. I don't expect to become an elite powerlifter in a year, so I don't actually care that those numbers are low. I want to steadily progress for another six months and not get injured. I feel like "ego" would be more likely to get me injured, especially for the sake of gaining approval…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/23 08:28 AM
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fully aware of this
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/23 06:21 AM
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Why the upvotes? I see you reference lifting, frame, and sidebar, but it looks like you just asked ChatGPT to troll me. There are a thousand guys in this sub who talk shit like this, but they lace the shittalk with value. Weak sauce, betch.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/23 06:20 AM
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OYS 34 40+ yo Married 4y, 1 young kid 6'3" 187lbs (all time max body weight) Physical - I have been better about eating. I also had a lot of time off labor and sports and just dug in on my mission at home. I haven't been believing the scale in the gym, but this week I stepped onto 2 of them that both said I weigh 187. I can feel myself getting stronger as well, but I still suck at the major compound lifts. I can leg press 200kg x18 but my squat (60kg) and deadlifts (80kg) are really low. I'm try…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/23 09:52 AM
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I'm targeting this "lack of planning and organization" thing because it seems like it's the problem at the heart of most other problems. Physically, I have gained weight this week, and I did it through eating more. But I didn't overcome this problem by fixing my planning deficiency, I overcame it because circumstances allowed me to eat a lot more. If I didn't DEER here I don't know if I would have isolated the problem. I write about it because it's shit, and I wanna own it. I suck at planning an…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/23 02:30 AM
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Awesome that you caught it immediately, and not in retrospect. Not DEERing was something I definitely had to learn. I like explaining things and providing reasons, and I like being honest. When people DEER to me I treat them just fine. Stopping this behavior with my wife, however, probably created one of the biggest improvements in my house.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/23 01:40 PM
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Nice. The first one is a yes, but it's not tied to anyone else's approval. I suffer from unrealized dreams. I push myself toward hard things. I feel good when I'm doing shit. Always been like this. The second one is a no. I don't really keep any physical evidence of accomplishments.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/23 01:36 PM
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Following it implicitly by just having too much shit going on in my life is working a lot better. That's the way
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/23 06:29 AM
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It's my physiological response to this shit You're totally right and that't totally normal. I was in a similar hell and I couldn't sleep either. A couple months into it I got into a "sorta relationship" and we were having sex several times a day. That helped quite a bit. Mostly it was just time. You're on the path for sure. The guy that sent you the CBT article is legit. The piece is long and dry, but you might read it as sidebar material. Sleep can definitely add to your long term strength here…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/23 06:28 AM
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Adhering to the 2/3 rule seems to make me acknowledge that this relationship is dead and she doesn't care. I am not having patience or feeling much joy being around my wife, but I think this has something to do with the 2/3 rule. It makes sense that 2/3 doesn't work yet. If you're disengaging in a marriage that's not working, it's not likely that your wife is going to jump immediately to hysterical bonding. Focusing on your own mission/transformation/journey is the thing that will (or won't) bri…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/23 12:05 AM
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if you ever want to see what a narcissist is, just check dad's phone..." In retrospect, this was actually kinda funny and amazing bait for AM/AA, but I DEERed it with a "That's NOT why I film it!!!". Won't do that again. Or, well, I probably will, but lesson learned anyway. Great recognition. Catching oneself DEERing is the gateway to not DEERing.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/23 11:51 PM
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sleep The majority of guys are commenting on this. It looks like solid advice, and you should take it seriously. Here's one more angle. You obviously don't lack motivation in the gym. It looks like you're discharging a ton of negative energy there and turning it into strength. This is a beautiful thing. I'm not you, but twice in my life I've gone Jocko Willink style in the gym while dealing with long-term sleep deprivation. Both times I ended up injured and unable to work out. One important elem…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/23 11:40 PM
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I don't have much faith that I'll get the results I want. I just want to be a more dominant and compassionate man.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/23 11:28 PM
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OYS 3340+ yo Married 4y, 1 young kid 6'3" 180lbs Physical - Training consistently. BJJ is amazing. I need to eat more. Maintaining caloric surplus is hard, I need to use planning to overcome this. Mission - Lots of "labor" these days. I've executed well. Bills are getting paid, but it's taking time away from my mission. I'm behind schedule. Many of my subgoals are blowing up and taking longer than I planned. I know this is normal, but it still sucks. I need to use planning to overcome this. Soci…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/23 08:42 AM
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1.) Good to see your section on fitness first. Looks like you're coming in with a ton of positive momentum here. The results of staying consistent in exercise are cumulative. If you put in the work over the next year (day in, day out) (week in, week out) (month in, month out) you'll be pulling on the most important lever. Lifting will help you in terms of frame, game and looks. Embrace it and enjoy it. 2.) Finding a mission and pursuing it with passion and dedication is also essential. Good to s…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/23 04:45 AM
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How had your reacted if you had followed your first instinct when she was showing guilt in that situation? Disgust, dude. Negative appraisal of her as a person. Anger that she was shitty to my kid. I've definitely stepped between them, took the kid's side, admonished my wife, and stared at her with eyes of judgement. I've also stepped into whatever she was doing, took over and just dismissed her. In this case, she told me about it after the fact and there was no question that she had over-reacte…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/23 03:03 AM
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But if someone behaves in a way that is damaging to you, that is crossing a boundary. I'm good here. I recognize shit people pretty readily, and I don't let them in too deep. I emphasize that I can't trust them, but it's not like I'm about to risk my life (or really anything significant) for the worst of these rich boys. I mention it because I feel like I resent them for enjoying unearned wealth. That's a pattern I see in my head and I want to stop thinking like this. Naval Ravikant said: "If yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/23 02:38 AM
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My woman will never take care of me if I got sick like my mother is taking care of my father. I've spent a lot of hamster wheel time on this problem. I came up with 2 solutions and neither are very well thought out, but I'll lay them out here: 1.) The MRP program progressively strengthens men. Much of this is done by caring less about what our wives say, think and are (in terms of virtue or potential future people they will become). A man's mission becomes the true war to be waged and the wife i…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/23 04:27 AM
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Thanks for linking this post. I'm always following guys who report lazy and selfish wives. Mine is slowly changing in response to my grand plan of lift, sidebar, STFU, but I would love to pour fuel on the fire. Jack10 is a prophet.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/23 02:22 AM
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Honor is a hard concept to pin down. Seems like it should be unique to each individual. I definitely see it that way. There's a concept from old books I like called the Junzi, which is basically a person who is quietly awesome regardless of who is watching. I'm jaded enough to think most forms of altruism have plenty of selfishness attached to them, but I still run into people who surprise me often. I don't think it's necessarily about self sacrifice. Win-win is still virtuous in my book. I'm no…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/23 02:10 AM
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hamster is running wild AF Yeah man. My hamster wrote that whole section himself. I should have emphasized the fact that I haven't been actively surveilling my wife. She's just always got people around her usually as a function of the fact that she needs a lot of help with the kid. She's not supermom. If she was supermom she would have had this kind of opportunity long ago. I write about it because it she first chance she's gonna have. So it's the first time my hamster has had to consider it. I'…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/23 02:40 AM
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This is exactly the right take. I write about it here because I'm thinking shit thoughts and I want to own them. My wife is still hot, but we're both over 40. I'm not too delusional in saying my future is brighter. Still, I don't necessarily fear her finding someone better than me. That would actually be fine. I fear her finding someone who has 3-4 exciting qualities but who has other qualities that will put my kid in danger. I've hamstered about this problem for years. It does no good. I can't …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/23 02:25 AM
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​ WT actual F are you thinking? How is any of this productive? I don't really come here to look good. When I sit down to write OYS, I usually think: "how I am the most stupid, weak, and fucking shitty." and I write that. It's sometimes a bit exaggerated. I also see MRP as a martial art, so if I'm talking about doing something well, it's because I applied something we talk about here well. Those moments are rare. Between your view of your “friends” and your wife, you are guaranteeing bad outcomes…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/23 02:16 AM
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Why can you trust one set of friends but not anyone else you mentioned? That's where I am right now. A lot of these people I'm talking about are connected, influential, and not at all trustworthy. Among them I'm finding people who have good virtues. When I meet these rare good people, I value them greatly. I'm finding good people as well, but I'm not writing about them here because I tend to focus on places where my thinking is stupid in OYS. I used to think trust was a virtue. It was a silly id…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/23 01:45 AM
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OYS 32 Trust 40+ yo Married 4y, 1 young kid 6'3" 179lbs Physical - Training is going well. Eating is hard. If I eat carbs and sugar my work suffers. I really need to hit a few grocery stores every week and spend the time and money to get food I can eat while working that's not gonna slow me down. Had most of a pizza for breakfast today, gonna try to hit 4 meals and at least 2 snacks. I can file this problem under lack of planning and organization. Mission - Not a great week here. Labor has come …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/23 09:27 AM
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All of the above. Generally lacking in virtue, inner strength, fundamental curiosity. It bothers the shit outta me.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/23 03:09 AM
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But the OI makes handling and SHAPING her behavior WAY easier because I have a sense of calm / abundance about my alternatives and willingness to pursue them if that’s the direction I end up choosing to go. That's true like physics. I get a negative "...but when the chips are down" assessment from my wife, but I'm cynical enough to believe that AWALT. So I guess if I trusted a woman more I'd be foolish. A quote I saw recently here was "a woman is never going to love you the way you want to be lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/23 12:15 AM
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I was very physically attracted to her. (that may be superficial but we made a great kid, and attraction might guide evolution) Even in this era, at times, she starts acting like the wife I want for some days. Things have been progressively improving on her end. I just don't know if it's enough. Everything you've written here describes my bearing right now. Do you like your wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/23 11:50 AM
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Unmotivated Why? Because you expect to be rejected? Because she’s not attractive? Because the sex sucks? Afraid of getting what you want? Or something else? She's still physically attractive, and the sex can get good. The problem I've been struggling with for like a year involves not liking her. I'll make it weird: I'd be interested in having sex with her body if another woman's mind was in it. She says and does things that seems to reveal a soul I'm not in love with. Gay, I know. So I end up in…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/23 02:31 AM
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The problem arises when you start chasing it or become reliant on it. Totally. This is an obvious potential problem, but I'm often surprised by how obvious problems can still trip me up. I agree with you on disconnecting the gym from anything external. I do that for myself 100%. My path is my own here, and the more I take ownership of it, the more it gives back to me. It's teaching lessons for other realms of life as well. I'm not connecting the external validation to the lifting so much. It's p…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/23 01:32 AM
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Mindset: Over the past year my confidence has been growing, external validation has been increasing and that's fed my confidence. (I've been thinking that this is artificial, but I don't give a shit, it all helps) I guess I feel like even in the absence of the external validation I'd feel pretty good. The burqa analogy is brilliant. I've never thought of it this way, but it's clear as day like this.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/23 06:48 AM
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I think you still may believe I'm directing you to a certain path. Fair. Looks like I've been assuming that. Again you have the key. Or...you believe its under your mother's pillow. Or inside a glass box that says $1million net worth. Or IOIs from your wife. No. I'm fucking up in a lot of ways, but I feel secure as my own judge. IOIs from my wife, cool. Other women, cool. None of this is my endgame though. On the whole cage yourself vs free yourself dichotomy, I feel like I need to cage myself. …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/23 06:39 AM
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OYS 3140+ yoMarried 4y, 1 young kid6'3" 179lbsPhysical -Training is consistent. Doing a better job of eating to support training. Need to eat even more. Mission -Also had slight improvements in execution here. When I'm doing well here, I feel good about everything else. Social -Did a few events. All successful. Not monumentally, but everything was good. I'm spending money in social situations a lot this week, which is rather atypical, but good energy seems to be flowing in the right direction. R…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/23 09:41 AM
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Yea. I get you here. But the amount of time I spend butthurt about how my wife doesn't respect me has dropped significantly in the past year or so. That carries it's own side effects, but I wouldn't go back. Her lack of respect for me is palpable and annoying, but I'm just de-emphasizing it. Paradoxically, she comes to respect me more. I care less. She respects me more. And I'll continue to care less unless I change my bearing in some way, and I don't see a reason to do so today. The times I sti…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/23 05:40 AM
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Thanks. I'm doing a slightly better job this week. My challenge is that I work in a way that's not "hourly" so if I don't eat "good food" I end up mentally slow and my work suffers. That spreads outing my life and my life suffers. So I gotta eat at a healthy surplus or I end up needing stimulants to stay sharp at work. It's a bitch, but I just gotta follow the advice of the "gain it" sub. The pinned post there gives like 20 simple but not easy guidelines.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/23 03:57 AM
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Yep. You're using her evaluation of you as a proxy for your own evaluation of yourself. How could she respect a man that would do that? He's certainly not the prize. No. And I feel like this is an over-the-top, ego-driven response, but I'm gonna write it anyway: I don't value my wife's estimation of how good a man I am. If she thinks I'm good, that's a worthless appraisal. If she thinks I'm not good, that's also a worthless appraisal. I can't think of people in my life right now whose opinion of…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/23 03:53 AM
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MRP isn't special. A founder of a religion said his teaching was like a boat. You use the boat to cross the river, and when you get to the other side, should you keep carrying the boat? ​ So if I had the power to give you all the answers, but doing so would deprive you of the satisfaction of the journey, would you want the answers? In some traditions sacred knowledge is guarded and only taught to select initiates. One reason I've heard for this is that learning something that might be revelatory…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/23 02:58 AM
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(kind of like the vision / framework discussion we had). All of this is a great help. Appreciate the links.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/23 02:25 AM
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I'd argue that "earn[ing] your OI" is actually about the moment when you get past that other person (or combination of persons) who you previously thought held the keys. Maybe that's saying the same thing that you did (completing the journey), but where I disagree is when you say "they didn't need to complete it." Yea. That's what I thought too, I just responded comment by comment like a noooob.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/23 02:10 AM
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I appreciate you bringing up multiple ways to kill a covert contract. With this one, I see it as more useful than destructive and I'm gonna let it sit there for now. You guys get really granular about OI below, and it's a thing of beauty.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/23 02:03 AM
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level up repeatedly (especially re frame / game / looks) such that it is excruciatingly apparent that you are a man who can and will fuck because no one doubts that it’s available to you and you won’t be denied a fundamental joy of life. I'm not at this ascendent level of be attractive don't be unattractive. But I've been doing the RP work consistently in multiple areas and options are opening up. Then your wife steps up or doesn’t, but she won’t be surprised when you get it elsewhere at that po…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/23 02:03 AM
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This one opens up a flaw in my thinking. But sometimes it is that simple, especially when it's not a genuine visceral need. For example, a guy can (and I have) simply stop wanting/needing another's (e.g., a parent's or a woman's) respect. My wife shows respect to no one. And I'm almost never in a situation where people aren't being at least minimally respectful. When I am, I am aware of it, and I make adjustments based on it. (I remember the assholes, the list is extremely short.) Being so outco…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/23 02:03 AM
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trying to unplug guys from the unplugging loop. You're rare in this respect. I push back on this kind of thing as I think I need a little more unplugging before I embrace my old ways. Maybe more unplugging is needed. Maybe I am in a loop. Hard to tell. The two "ways" might not even be diametrically opposed, but in my loop I feel like the more singleminded and simplistic nature of my approach is necessary given what a blue pill fucker I was before. It's like bulking and cutting. I want to bulk a …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/23 02:03 AM
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We see eye to eye here. I've been at a surplus for the past few days and that fixes everything. Just gotta stay consistent in sourcing the stuff I can eat on the go.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/23 08:28 AM
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OYS 30 40+ yo Married 4y, 1 young kid 6'3" 178lbs Physical - Plateauing. I've hit 180lbs but I can't get above it. Sometimes I workout twice a day. Great fun, but I need to eat more to support it. I get really tired by the end of the day. Having a hard time hitting calorie count as I'm busy. Starting to do sandwiches, smoothies and protein as often as I can. Gotta keep up on groceries. I want to hit 180+ by next week. BJJ is great. I want to do more. Maybe I'll buy a gi. Mission - I've been bett…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/23 08:53 AM
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I think you're dead on about this (in general) In my specific house, if my wife was having a long-term bad mood, everyone else would walk on eggshells and generally let her decide that today is a sad day. Last year I made a conscious decision to not let her emotionally curate the house atmosphere, and instead to be the one who decides whether it's a good day or not. I'm happy with the results here.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/23 01:46 PM
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While this was all quite logical and stuff, if you're like this IRL it's quite boring, dude. It is. I (and you're not me) dig these kind of chicks with high stress I have a similar resume. The previous ones just showed up already cock-oriented (this one included). I just let her fall off the program. I gotta take the steps that don't seem "right" sometimes. I gotta fuck some things up. Gotta be more fearless.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/23 02:46 AM
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It took me way too long to realize exactly this and give myself permission to play the game instead of getting all hung up about whether I was being an emotional tampon or not. I appreciate this. And to your point from weeks ago, me being worried about being an emotional tampon is absolutely an "ego" problem. I have never worried about such a thing pre-RP. The problem we have sometimes is there's too much shit to go through and then you get stuck in your head. It's okay to just be fun. Or to jus…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/23 02:40 AM
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"Oh yeah? Tell me more", or "No way....", or "Mmmhmm". That's most of what I did. I read "Never Split the Difference" and that helped me stop being so logical with her. This is easier in person because I can just pick her up and set her on my lap and do all the "oh yea?" shit. Don't fix her problem... fix her feelz. This was a great post. I have always had people legit asking me for advice, and legit accepting that advice. I've always been so shocked that this doesn't work with my wife. Part of …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/23 02:31 AM
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truth
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/23 07:18 AM
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She had called me on the phone. "Oh babe... there are plenty of other things you do so well also." Ha! I don't think I would have said this even when I was a true blue beta, but I would have definitely fucked it up another way: Pointed out the flaws in her logic and had an adult conversation with her. On this call I tried to think of her more like a kid. And think of myself as a parent. I just told her that "I'm only talking to you about the problem that you're dealing with right now." I did do …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/23 12:39 AM
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yea I do a lot of thinking out loud here. More action is necessary.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/23 12:30 AM
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Last week. I came home to her complaining and flipped her shitty attitude into good sex in like 45 minutes with almost no effort. (30 minutes of that I was meditating) Wrote about it in last week's OYS because sex is that fucking rare. But I brought the D. It wasn't EVI. And it was good. I gotta be honest though, it wasn't the vulgar display of power you describe in that post. In which case the answer is more than 5 years since I fucked her like that. I've never fucked her like that as my wife. …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/23 03:16 PM
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I appreciate the notes. This is all true. My wife just broke down over some other shit, and started saying "and it seems like you just want sex." I AM/STFU and pushed her back to the original topic. I could see myself handling that like a complete idiot a year ago. I had a moment when things were getting better and I thought I’d praise and anchor her in “more frequently just like this”. This kind of thing has been on the tip of my young a few times as well, but I STFU. Looks like silence is gold…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/23 03:03 PM
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That was quite the puke. Truth. Sometimes I'm stupid. This time I was entertained enough by my own stupidity to own that shit. Are you really surprised that the dynamic is different with marriage + kid than when dating? Think about what your wife’s motivations are vs those of a gf. Solid point. I've complained here that I had sex on tap in all relationships for my entire adult life. I think this is partially why "gaming" seems a lot harder than it should. I feel like I shouldn't have to do shit.…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/23 06:54 AM
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I remember the material. I don't know what bothers me about it. You guys that were telling me ego is the problem may have a point. Maybe ego keeps me from stating needs. But I'm still not saying shit
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/23 06:52 AM
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Bro. No. And don't pin that shit on me as vulneurability. I get it. I'm not misunderstanding you. I'm just being a dumbass. As far as OYS goes, I couldn't think of something shittier to own. I know all the methods I discussed in this post "yellow belt dread" are bullshit. The fix is frame, game, looks at maybe a 70/25/5 ratio. Gotta put in the work. Give thought to this: If you want more sex, why not just take it? When was the last time you fucked your woman? Yea. That one's a banger. I was EVI …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/23 06:51 AM
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Thanks man. My rectus abdominis (6 pack muscles) are good, and pretty easy to target. I really want to target obliques. When I deadlift and hack squat even like 175lbs for 8 reps, 4 sets, I start to feel something in the obliques or low, deep in the core. It usually goes away in 24 hours, but sometimes it's unsettling enough to get me to bail on the exercise early. I know deadlifting 175 is bullshit. My hamstrings have a lot more strength than this, but I fear injury. I had an inguinal hernia wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/23 06:00 AM
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OYS 29 40+ yo Married 4y, 1 young kid 6'3" 180lbs (maybe 177... my gym scale seems biased heavy) Physical - Adding sets and staying consistent with my hypertrophy program. Sometimes I'm in there for 2 hours+, but I like getting it done in 3 days. I may add a second day of BJJ, but I don't want to buy the gi yet. My weight gain has plateaued because I'm not eating enough. My fault. Gotta get this on a schedule as it will feel "unnatural" to eat for hypertrophy. I've had some good advice from guys…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 12:24 PM
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I wear one
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/23 04:22 PM
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Thanks man. I'm doing a bunch of squat and deadlift variations at lower weights. I have limited experience and I'm a tall lanky fucker, so it all feels pretty awkward. Working on learning form, and strengthening all the support muscles so any injury will be minimal. My yoga practice is definitely plank-heavy. I'm looking to train obliques to prevent hernia and I remember finding a bunch of weird shit in yoga that trained deep core muscles. Started doing Pallof presses, and it feels like resistin…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/23 01:27 PM
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Me: I intended to add yoga in the mornings, but I haven't put that in yet. I see yoga as essential to strengthening my core so I can go after the deadlifts and hack squats in my next program. eyumnoodle: If you want to get better at deadlifts, do more deadlifts. This is true. I'm talking about lower core because I've had a low back injury and a hernia before and I don't want an injury that'll keep me out of the gym. Deadlifts and hack squats are giving me feelings in the lower abdominal region t…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/23 03:17 AM
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Seems like your tourism in the land of woo-woo later in your life is serving you well. I lived there for a long time, and the bite of the "real world" on my ass was one I ignored for as long as humanly possible. Fatherhood flipped a switch (probably 100% Darwinian) and I fully acquiesced to capitalism. Guys have been suggesting to me that "ego" is my primary problem. I've not been accepting the criticism. I worked hard to deemphasize ego very early in my life, and really tried to stay authentic …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 07:03 AM
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OYS 28 40+ yo Married 4y, 1 young kid 6'3" 180lbs ​ Physical - My goal is to add muscle. The new 3x a week hypertrophy program is decent. Every day is a total body workout. Previously I was doing a split, so I didn't train every muscle group multiple times throughout the week. (just one time per week super intensely, and then indirectly on other days) I like the change so far. I feel far more satisfied and exhausted after total body workouts. I'm learning new moves, supersets save time, and I co…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 12:09 PM
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​ In a woo-woo way, I interpret that as "allow the universe to play out, and it will allow you to thrive in it". In a non-woo woo way id say "trust the process". I have a lot of respect for both paths. As I've gotten older I've been a lot less woo-woo in even my creative and spiritual practices. I need to welcome this kind of thing back into my worldview. Paradoxically, a fair bit of woo-woo always produced better outcomes than sheer pragmatism. ​ "Do I really not want to work out? I mean I'm in…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/23 06:55 AM
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Who's limits? Definitely mine. But that's part of the problem. External forcing functions help me get shit done. When I'm running a project entirely solo (no client, no partner, no outside party) the only accountability is to myself. Everyone who engages in this kind of work agrees it can be challenging, but that's where the freedom lies. I want that freedom. I can feel myself not getting there. Is this a case of a mis-ordering of your priorities? Or is this simply a true execution of your prior…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 06:01 PM
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One cannot defend oneself for "not having a problem with ego" for long without looking like an un-self-aware full-on narcissist. I can promise up and down that I'm not. But it just reads like an unwillingness to accept the truth. I genuinely think my number one problem is procrastination/planning/admin/management I also think I'm one of probably few guys who is not in the business world, new to the gym... I was never an alpha. I've broken up 5x more fights than I've ever been in... I rarely even…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 02:41 PM
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This quote totally supports what you're saying, and I definitely wrote it. hahaha! I get what you're saying here. This is another kinda theatrical exaggeration on my part so I can see why it would be misleading. I wrote a few paragraphs below that "I'm actually pretty stoic" and this is more accurate. The recent interest I've been getting from hot women (whom I genuinely like as human beings) is a really beautiful thing after the nuclear winter of this marriage (my fault). To a degree it validat…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 11:06 AM
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Breakups, in general, devastate human beings. It's totally normal to feel like absolute shit for longer than you expected. All of the solo self-improvement stuff you're doing is 100% going to make you feel better, but you can't feel the positive results of it yet. You still feel like shit from the breakup. Totally normal. Just lift, sidebar, hang out with friends, and try to get a little better every day. There's a place you can stand in the near future where you see the breakup as a good thing,…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 02:46 AM
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OYS 27 40+ yo Married 4y, 1 young kid 6'3" 180lbs Physical - My goals are hypertrophy and increasing endurance. I'm trying to pack on another 10 lbs of lean muscle before the end of this year. I was running a split, so I wasn't directly training major muscle groups multiple times per week. I've changed programs. Full body 3x per week. This leaves more time for BJJ and sports. (increase endurance as well) Looking to add yoga/mobility in the mornings because BJJ is revealing flexibility issues. My…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 01:51 AM
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This is true. But the difference between 30-20 and 40-20 feels significant. Having a kid changed my priorities. I feel that distance. I've never fucked a woman I could have created before. And if you're 33, those 20 year olds would still have been in their past incarnations before your balls dropped. I would enjoy a world where you're right and I can just "be myself." But I think dudes owning our shit are here because being ourselves hasn't worked out, thus the analysis. Maybe my wife is the onl…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 03:32 AM
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If you don't like her, why are you still in this marriage? I've spent a ton of my OYS bitching about not liking her and wanting to bail on the marriage. I do want to leave pretty much every day. I have stayed for the kid. The kid's life is good now. It'll probably be less good post-divorce. I made the kid, and I own my sense of responsibility here, and I see that it conflicts with rational self-interest. At some point I may decide on divorce. Apart from that I'm working on creating the faith tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 03:19 AM
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A lot of the criticism I get in MRP lands pretty flush. It hits hard and it makes me re-evaluate my approach. This stuff, I think, is way off. And this is probably a symptom of the way I write here. Do you care about being "right?" Or would you rather be happy? Do you still feel like you need to "tEaCh HeR a LeSsOn?" Or would you rather be happy? Do you need to make other people happy for your own validation? Or would you rather just be happy? My problem is that I don't care if I'm right (especi…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 03:17 AM
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Yea! But I'm not autistic enough. My ability to switch up, improvise, be in the moment is actually my superpower. It's gotten me most of the good things I enjoy today. The really difficult thing for me is setting aside a few hours to do my taxes, and actually knocking the task out within those few hours. I feel like making plans/schedules and not keeping them is the biggest problem with my frame right now. I work, I work out, I get a lot of important shit taken care of, but when it comes to movi…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/23 02:55 AM
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First few paragraphs of your response = DEER. I DEER here so I don't DEER with my wife. I also DEER here so guys have better criticism to throw at me. I'm good at a lot of shit. Not good at this: On "Beta-Alpha-Dick spectrum" your point makes sense. But it feels like a continuum if I'm trying to make things happen via actions, rather than words. I aspire to Acta Non Verba. But the line between "being a dick" and being simply honest and self-interested is a hell of a lot thicker if I'm just strai…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/23 03:45 AM
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Good shit, dude. Kill the monster, or outwork the fucker and slowly watch it get smaller. Same outcome.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/23 02:42 AM
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There are definitely steps I don't want to take. I want to find channels for being more honest with myself, so that I can hear the sounds that are pulling me in the right direction more clearly.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/23 02:38 AM
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Simple, not easy
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/23 03:39 AM
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Yea. I stay focused on missions (I don't really talk about successes here) and I don't have a lot of the addictions that produce low value. I do appreciate what I have. My focus in OYS is usually on the negative side. The "cultivate game that matches my 40+ age" is a complex goal. Many of my personality elements have not evolved to suit my age. The main thing that's been bothering me is I don't take the 672364923 point lead in status I should enjoy when I'm talking to a group of women half my ag…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/23 03:25 AM
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so why not get better at simply accepting and feeling the trauma as it is felt and not protect against it? That sounds like hard mode. But when people use the word "acceptance" like it has some almost religious significance (like Enlightenment) what you describe here sounds like Acceptance with the capital A. That's probably why it's hard. It's like Enlightenment. I like the CBT approaches because, like you said, they don't focus on root causes. Instead they focus on getting you to work on impro…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/23 03:14 AM
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I don't think I have the childhood toxic shame that is described in that book, but I do have a pattern of adult shame, self-criticism and self-justification (perhaps from the long years I spent as a convert to Christianity), and I have plenty of NG behavior patterns discussed in that book. Blarg reminded me that I don't have to talk myself into the pathology of the book to get value out of identifying, and changing, the unsuccessful and ineffective behavior patterns it discusses and addresses. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/23 07:12 AM
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Stop using the phrase "MRP tactics." Fair play. They still are tactics to me as I haven't ingrained the behaviors deeply enough to truly swallow the pill. ​ Thinking about them that way probably explains why when your wife is acting right, you fall back on being "nice." Exactly I feel like I need to start over in a lot of ways. Like this is a different marriage and sex is the main deficiency. ​ Also, your approach is schizophrenic. You use the tools when she's being shitty. Yea man. I've been in…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/23 05:03 AM
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How have you been here a year? Some of us have deeper holes to dig ourselves out of. I have never been alpha or RP in any sphere of life in any way. People just gave me leadership roles and I lead democratically and "in service of others" or avoided the responsibility. I have never lead "at my pleasure" I found this place because my marriage was fucked and the praxeology here showed me how and why it was all my fault and how to dig out of the hole. I've been a slow learner. Is being self-interes…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/23 04:25 AM
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Your actions and mindset are still reactive to your wife. Yea, this is wrong. That's why I've been writing it. I'm not a dancing monkey, but there's a way in which my approach to my relationship is essentially reactive. I have squashed the really ridiculous drama which used to be a huge problem, but in the absence of this problem I haven't had an RP mentality. As I see my wife's behavior as better, I am thinking about the relationship a lot less. She's not my goal. A lot of guys have checked me …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/23 03:12 AM
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Are you letting your frame shift as a reward to her and slip into the NG tendencies? Yea, that sounds more like it. I'm checking bad behavior, which is producing more of what I want and no drama, but frame needs work. Right now I lack organization. That compromises my competence, which compromises my frame. Gotta have frame to project it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/23 02:46 AM
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I had a low back issue since covid, but I've been progressively healing that. It still hurts, but my strength is coming back as I demand more from the body. Deadlifts, Hack squats, and back squats are giving me the feeling of pressure in the lower abdomen. Some days it's fine, but that feeling gets me to bail on sets sometimes. Gotta learn how to properly "valsalva" Yoga is something I gotta get back to. In BJJ I often have a training partner find a really tight muscle I haven't stretched in yea…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/23 02:39 AM
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No hate for former GFs putting out. The scream caps signify anger. But I'm just surprised that game is something I never developed as the rewards were always there for free. My fault
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/23 02:33 AM
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OYS 26 40+ yo Married 4y, 1 young kid 6'3" 180lbs Physical: I've been slowly gaining weight, staying consistent with the gym and sports, calorie intake, sleep, and de-stressing techniques. Lifting for hypertrophy. Need to up the calorie intake and keep that higher level consistent. The kitchen is my weak point. I gotta organize meals. I'm looking for a core workout that can prevent hernia right now. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Work: Projects that should be simple are stretching out lon…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 10:55 AM
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shown in media as cringe - this is really just to trick men into feeling dominance is cringey. Exactly why I'm thinking/writing about this. Been examining my own thoughts and behavior and finding the roots of my BP mentality in media and culture. I accepted conditioning to think negatively about authentic dominance, wealth, and power. I never pursued any programatic method of increasing any of these elements because it felt wrong to want them. (I don't want to be the bad guy in the movie, I want…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/23 04:04 AM
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Toga!
/r/askMRP07/04/23 03:29 AM
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Opeth
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/23 01:02 AM
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Jesus! Lift heavy, read heavier. I DM'd you as I'm sure no one else wants to endure any conversation involving Hegel.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/23 02:41 PM
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Tatoo-worthy
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/23 09:42 AM
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I notice that throughout the last 5 years, my wife has naturally fallen toward my 'you' state, that state that you describe as removing the outcome, and who you are. Let me know if my phrasing of what you're calling the 'you' state is in the ballpark here: Her being in 'you' doesnt involve the present things you're for (your ideal, your vision as you define it) or against (your obstacles, your antivision), but it's more like a belief and submission of herself such that whatever may form from the…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/23 09:41 AM
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OYS 25 40+ yo Married 4y, 1 young kid 6'3" 180lbs Blarg and HOA sent me targeted criticism I needed to respond to before posting again. Really pushing me, at a time where it's easy to get lazy. Greatly appreciated. Work: I have just finished 1 major project and very nearly completed a second one. These projects are "labor" and they contribute wages that pay for my life and support my family. They don't "move me forward" so much though. For a few months I'm going to have less "labor" on my weekly…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/23 09:14 AM
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Our aliens give us fundamental unchallenged assumptions: ideology. NOW I've been thinking a lot about this sort of concept lately. The media of my youth sold me heroes who enjoy respect naturally, and seek nothing beyond that. They take responsibility, leadership and the love/attraction of women when it's thrown at their feet, but they win all this indirectly...never through employing tactics. I followed this playbook. It worked everywhere (I enjoyed love and respect everywhere) until I got marr…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/23 08:46 AM
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You fired this back at me and I had nothing to say. I had to do something. I've changed some aspects of my life, killed deadlines, and reawakened passion. I'm still not the best version of myself, I've just been at work where I had previously been asleep, and I've found a hell of a lot more to do than STFU and lift. I like my wife more right now then I have in 2 years. Her behavior has been better. But when my wife gets cool I get really complacent in how I treat her. I am kind to her, I listen …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/23 11:38 AM
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This is solid. My mindset is misaligned. I really DNGAF about the marriage (not proud of this). I just love my kid, and I feel guilty because I know I will benefit the most from the divorce at the expense of my kid's more stable life. I stay for the kid and resent my wife for it. This is some dirty-ass DNGAF. It's not pure. I am indeed judging my wife. She was exempt from my rational gaze for years. I've been seeing her now as a pile of resources and possibilities and weighing her against some r…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/23 02:53 AM
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"You seem upset. Thats valid. How do you think yelling is impacting [child]?" This is typically how I operate, but I've been trying to show her the specific error she's committing, in this case threatening the kid with her own emotional instability. This isn't just a one-off. It's become her script so I need to check her on it. Generally, I want my wife to be aware of how parents can fuck kids up. WISNIFG is full of this kind of thing. Your mom was X, so now you're not assertive. Specifically, I…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/23 02:22 AM
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I've been trying to: 1.) take a breath and detach before I say something 2.) forgive my wife for whatever tantrum she's in the middle of inflicting upon the kid 3.) speak from a place of wisdom and compassion Be the oak.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/23 01:54 AM
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This is a correct assessment of my attitude. I do expect to fail here. This expectation is fueling MAP, but it's killing my marriage. I am the problem now. I wasn't a year ago, but now I'm very aware of negative characteristics of my wife that have always been obvious, now I'm telling myself I deserve better... this is good. The trouble is that I have no faith that my wife can be a good enough wife for me. I would have to somehow dive in again emotionally, and convince myself to believe in her, …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/23 01:49 AM
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​you are simply deep in yet another anger phase, this time still blaming your wife. Look in the mirror and control what you can. Not her. The mirror is always the only answer. DNGAF is good, but I'm using it as a crutch. Every time I fail to lead my wife I give myself the excuse that the relationship is over, she's unfixable, she's undesirable. But this is bullshit until I'm actually moving on. I'm not moving on. I'm sitting on the fence like a pussy. The kid will probably be less ok with divorc…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/23 09:23 AM
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This sounds like a hybrid approach between some of the "communication is best" philosophies and MRP. I have success with this kind of thing when my kid is involved. I'm still not really using AA type communication because I get the sense that my wife's goal is escalation of drama, so I like to redirect her the way you suggest here. Good dad move. I'll try it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/23 01:30 AM
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I appreciate the resource. Most of those books are overlong anyways because they need to be to justify charging for them. This is unfortunately true. The net has changed the way we learn, but not all of it is negative if you have the discipline to use it to get smarter.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/23 01:25 AM
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Huberman's workout advice has been all over the place, but his recent breakdown of strength with Galpin is useful. I didn't fully understand the difference between strength, hypertrophy, power, and speed (let alone how to train for these outcomes in the gym) Now when I'm lifting I set my intentions based on what adaptation I'm trying to make happen. Not just "good chemicals" r/fitness wiki is, indeed, the shit. Well curated.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/23 01:19 AM
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I want her to read a book. "No Drama Discipline" is popular and "1 2 3 Magic" is something guys around here talk about. Getting my wife to read a book though.... not easy. Theory helps. As we see here.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/23 02:57 PM
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​ She then turned to the kids and got frustrated, screaming at our daughter for not getting dressed. I stepped in and calmly told her she needed to take some deep breaths and check herself instead of yelling at a 4 year old. We made eye contact and her face softened like she suddenly realized what she was doing and she thanked me for stepping in and calmed down. When she was directing this kind of behavior at me, I thought I could lump it into shit tests, but I don't see how it could be when she…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/23 05:01 AM
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OYS 24 40+yo Married 4y, 1 young kid. 6' 3" 177 LBS Physical --Learning A few months back u/_Rpeed hit me with some fitness questions I thought I could answer, but I realized I needed to study. I need to put in more time with the dedicated fitness sub, and probably drop the money on a trainer. I've been listening to Huberman's guest series with Andy Galpin. It's many hours of talk about fitness and science. I'm realizing how little I actually know and how simple this stuff actually is. --Gym I'm…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/23 04:21 AM
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Hahaha. Aight.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/23 07:15 AM
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Indeed it does. I'm fucked on time, so not a lot of editing went into it. To what does "No" refer?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/23 03:23 AM
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OYS 23 40+yo Married 4y, 1 young kid. 6' 3" 177 LBS Lifts: Dumbell Press 120LBS 10x Hack Sq 75kg 10x Deadlift 75kg 10x Physical --Lifting I'm back to physical activity 6-7 days a week. I lift 3/4x per week, play beach volleyball, roll BJJ and do cardio when there's no time for anything else. Been leaning back into yoga as a healing/injury prevention mechanism, despite hearing bad stuff about it while researching about my back. Everyone says everything is bad. I need to mindfully test these thing…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/23 07:08 AM
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Can you imagine a woman cooking a man a steak while wearing some obviously porn-inspired costume, and doing a bunch of naturally submissive stuff (like responding positively and flirtatiously to everything he says, and happily cleaning up afterwards) ...then after taking the scene to the bedroom, imagine she does a bunch of stuff that dude's stereotypically like, and she does this all with the same self-awareness that she is actively gaming the dude's programing. Can you imagine her being disgus…
/r/TheRedPill08/02/23 06:21 AM
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Read the sidebar posts about divorce, start taking care of everything related to your kid. You're going to have to make a choice. Your work or your kid in joint or full custody. Good advice. I live in a 3rd world country, so divorce laws are not stacked against me as they would be in the West. It's more of a personal matter here, with the courts less involved for better or worse. ​ Can you take care of your kid full time? I do need to work, so 50/50 is probably the path unless I end up with a ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/23 04:01 AM
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OYS 22 40+yo Married 4y, 1 young kid. 6' 3" 175 LBS Lifts: Dumbell Press 120LBS 10x Hack Sq 75kg 10x Deadlift 75kg 10x Physical --Lifting I changed my mindset and my program a couple of months ago. I've been slowly increasing weights. For much of 2022 I was not increasing, because I saw the back pain as a message that I was further injuring myself. Generally, my back has not gotten worse. However, deadlifts and hack squats leave me sore in the knees and lower back rather than "meat" of my legs. …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/23 01:02 AM
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I really appreciate the response. I think the ultimatum is going to be ineffective. When my wife is most insufferable, I just want to fix the problem immediately. At that moment she has zero openness to change/growth. It's a painful paradox that I don't like to sit with. That's where I was when I wrote this. thats not the worst thing as long as you get out. I would really like to bail at this point. I just don't want to leave my kid alone with a mom with a personality disorder. My wife would sta…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/22 04:14 AM
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True. My last program was high reps. Wasn't doing anything good for me. I've found these programs you mention written in a nomenclature I don't understand yet. Research, trainer, or both.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/22 01:12 AM
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I've read McGill. Good recommendation.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/22 07:19 AM
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It's a good mental model and opportunities for improvement flow from it. I try to rely on her for stuff she's just not gonna be consistent in providing--like food, parenting. (half trying to leave her a way to add value, half laziness) The model of the "biological stepmom" is also useful here. Currently re-reading that.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/22 07:18 AM
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I'm in an intermission after witnessing a big meltdown. Emotions, character, everything. I'm really ready to call it, but I want to give her a chance to accept counseling. (personal, not couples) In the middle of the fight I was tempted to lay it down as an ultimatum. "See a shrink or a lawyer, tomorrow" but I'm not Rambo. u/deerstfu You actually know what BPD is.My question is this: I get the strong sense that I should not frame this like an ultimatum (even though it totally is). I get the sens…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/22 01:23 PM
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OYS 21 40+yo Married 4y, 1 young kid. 6' 3" 172 LBS Lifts: Dumbell Press 120LBS 10x Hack Sq 60kg 10x Deadlift 60kg 10x Physical After overprotecting my back for too long I've changed my program. I'm doing this progressively so my numbers still suck. Dropped the 6 day PPL I was working. It didn't help. I've changed back to a hypertrophy focused 4-day program. It oscillates between 6-8 range reps, and 10-12 range reps. I had success with this one in the past. I can feel that I'm not eating enough.…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/22 09:58 AM
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Thanks. I got a spot picked out. They do CBT, DBT, work on distress tolerance, won't just prescribe antidepressants and move on. Insurance isn't gonna cover it, but whether or not we stay together I gotta get my wife on this path for the sake of the kid.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 12:52 PM
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You should trust yourself to dig into the pain, while you might be afraid if someone else does it. Good point. Those instructions you wrote above ring true, I'll come back to them when shit calms down. ​ Having someone I trusted coach me through panic and so on was required. Maybe a friend that is fitter than you or an older person that knows pain management can help. Yea, I got no one in this category. Appreciate the sense of what I lack. The trainers I have access to are affordable but they do…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 12:49 PM
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Solipsism Yea, but not in this way. I'm posting in MRP because I'm too empathic. I did too good a job of treating my wife like an equal partner with agency. Other women have been capable of being that, this one is not. All these ideas about tactics and enemies are driven by your fear of other peoples’ judgement, your desire to never be a moment’s trouble, to follow all the rules and to lead a problem free life. NMMNG. I don't run into "nice guy problems" in any other aspect of my life. I'm usual…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/22 12:34 PM
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Projection is ascribing my own faults to someone else...(Antithetical to OYSing) "Projection" is is an unconscious behavior, so one can't usually say "I don't see myself projecting" because (by definition) we can't see ourselves doing unconscious behaviors. But I'm overly reflective. Probably too reflective. Guys rip on me for that here, rightly so. Specifically, I bitch about my wife's love of drama. I don't make drama in my life. I don't crave it, and I don't get a pleasure from making problem…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/22 06:41 AM
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This has been huge. I found a lot of useless shit in my own searches. I'll be able to cull a program from this sub and develop it. Thanks for the resource.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/22 11:52 AM
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I appreciate this. The body inflames and impinges the nerve. You start taking NSAIDs. I did this a year ago, stopped when it was no help. I thought reducing swelling was going to help, but it became a sort of addiction in its own way. I need better behaviors not drugs. Glad I never went with anything heavier, but the NSAIDs were a crutch. So is protecting my back against certain movements, and falling into the patterns you're talking about. I ended up aging myself by limiting range of motion. A …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/22 11:50 AM
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​ I’m sure you’re very clever IRL but believe me: you are not as smart as you think you are. Your replies are filled with projection. I'm usually amazed with my own ignorance. The way I looked at my back was stupid because I hadn't understood that this kind of pain is not that likely to lead to heavy negatives. What does "projection" mean? Like... I'm trying to say XYZ are this other person's fault, when actually I'm the one that's like that? ​ Try answering a specific question, with a specific …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/22 06:06 AM
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I appreciate the concern. I've been to a few. All I'm saying here is I'm gonna challenge the pain more than I have, because it's not as likely as I thought to be the road to a wheelchair.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/22 05:54 AM
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guys have hit me with this general attitude. I've been guarding my back for a long time, so I gotta make the paradigm shift happen steadily not all at once. So far so good.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/22 05:53 AM
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1.) No treatment it's relatively hard for trained professionals to make a correct diagnosis for cluster b disorders, so your own analysis may be bullshit I appreciate your criticism of the diagnosis. Everyone thinks they're a shrink. I have good reason to be confident about the BPD (which some research says sometimes evaporates in the early 40s....not in this case, but MRP has helped.) If she's actually npd, it's already game over. They can't be helped. True You're probably aware of "vulnerable …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/22 05:51 AM
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OYS 20 40+yo Married 4y, 1 young kid. 6' 3" 172 LBS Lifts: BP 80kg DL 35kg Sq 20KG (these will go up in Dec) Physical Recognized that I held myself back out of fear of a big injury. My back pain is probably not going to put me in a wheelchair if I push through the pain. Pain is not an objective measurement of spine health. Thanks to the guys that have been pushing me on my static numbers. Resolved to push harder in the gym, but I'm not gonna go Rambo. I'm still a beginner and my form is probably…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/22 09:45 AM
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1.) No treatment. Been pushing that for years. The specificity of your questions leads me to believe you know people with these disorders don't want to go in for treatment and they quit when the shrink starts challenging them. I've got a lot done by just following the basics here--emphasis on not rewarding drama. 2.) yes, lots of docs. I did directed physical therapy from several of them, but advice commonly contradicts. The article u/_Rpeed dropped on this OYS connected some dots for me. I was …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/22 12:59 PM
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I appreciate the list. Done body weight, sports, distance running, and other endurance sports all my life so I'm really new to the gym. I was in there for high school football, rolled in intermittently with my jacked friends, but only 5 years ago did I ever being to consistently weight train 4 days a week, and the results were great across all elements of life. Since then I've run exactly 2 programs. This was 4 days a week. https://www.muscleandfitness.com/workout-plan/workouts/workout-routines/…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/22 03:44 AM
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I've been reading a ton of the linked articles here. Great stuff. I really appreciate it. I'm definitely guilty of hypervigilance. I think the pain is clear objective information telling me the state of my spine, but I'm biasing that information by over-perceiving the pain. That information could be 100% bullshit and my attention to the spine is fueling the fire. I'm sure this is at least part of what's happening, and I only need it to partially true to power through the pain. I wrote this above…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/22 03:30 AM
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This book looks helpful. Gonna do Sarno and McGill.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/22 03:22 AM
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There's always a tether to it. You just need to work that tether like a muscle and it becomes easier to access each time. Some Mahayana meditation practitioners call this "integration."Progressively living in more in your moments of clarity and less in your identification with "roles" or selves. It is like a muscle, or rather like all muscles in congress. It's like trying to keep good posture but in this case your posture is not your body, mood, or attitude, it's your sense of identification wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/22 02:39 AM
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I agree with the top 2 paragraphs 100% Deep tissue, hot tub, hanging from a chin up bar help Lining up a steady regimen of massage starting Saturday. And hanging from pull up bars is the shit. ​ Squatting and deadlifting is a waste of your time I'm not a pro in workout science, but this is against the general grain of what I hear. Everyone is all about squats and deadlifts. Makes sense to me that training large muscle groups would increase the presence of all the "good chemicals." But seriously,…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/22 08:40 AM
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You won't understand this. I'm speaking from a high level. Here's the bitch for everyone who thinks they understand this idea: something like "being the self who accurately selects which self is appropriate to a given situation without fully becoming that self. Just wearing it, not becoming it." This is something that's far easier to get theoretically than it is in practice. One can analyze in retrospect and see how one was too wrapped up in a role, and reacted accordingly (usually in a bad way)…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/22 03:52 AM
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_RPeed Unwinding these thoughts. Seems like Blarg zeroed in on your comment. I appreciate the antagonism. I see you elsewhere talking about deep tissue massage to fix back injuries. I took care of a different injury that way like 8 years ago, and I've booked one to start on this path.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/22 03:26 AM
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So your diagnosis for longterm back pain is "lift heavy?" I had that mentality. I powered through. My back got worse. This pain would be an excuse if I wanted to stop lifting, or if I enjoyed lifting light. I don't want to stop, and I don't enjoy the vacation. I'm trying to not mess my back up, as physical activity is necessary for a good life. If there's science behind what you're implying, I'm down to read. Open to learn. But powering through back pain has not yielded good results so far.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/22 01:10 AM
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if you are using inattention as a purposeful tool...is that attention? Or inattention? It's (paradoxically) attention. But if a guy is in his wife's frame it's a necessary first step. That's why I wrote: Intentionally using inattention, however, is white belt shit. I don't see how one does it without autism or butthurt. Authentically having higher priority tasks to attend to is a much better way of life. I don't think it's a black and white situation. Sometimes I see behavior I don't like and co…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/22 12:53 AM
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Fair shot. I've been contemplating divorce, so her positive behavior looks like "points on the scoreboard" for the stay plan. This is a flawed mental model, because her negative behavior racks up "points" for the go plan. This mentality is obviously passive. While being the less invested partner is technique we talk about here, my way of writing this reeks of resentment. Work to be done.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 11:07 AM
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Back In moments of clarity I've recognized the back injury as the top priority: What the fuck is this mysterious back injury that you've used as an excuse for the last 9 fucking months??? It's more like 2 years. A few years ago I started working 7 days a week, lifting 4-5 times a week, and sleeping about 4 hours max a night for 2 years. My behavior was monumentally stupid. I never "felt a pop." My back just slowly started to hurt and never stopped. Every so often it'll get better and I'll start …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 10:10 AM
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OYS 19 40+yo Married 4y, 1 young kid. 6' 3" 173 LBS (Slowly climbing, Eat!) Lifts: BP 80kg DL 30kg Sq 20KG (back injury) Physical ---Positive I have remained consistent in the gym despite being really tired from busy season at work. One more month to go, then I get some freedom. In December I want to step it up (gain weight, strength, skill, stamina) ---Negative I've been constantly tired. I'm not getting the cardio I need. I want to shoot for 180 minutes of Zone 2 per week. (3-4 sessions)in add…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/22 09:59 AM
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That is funny, but it's not accurate.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/22 06:51 AM
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I appreciate seeing these rewrites. Some of my strengths come from imagining things from another person's perspective. I don't shut that ability off well enough when I write here, and I've been banned a lot. Rule 9 is a powerful training tool. I came to MRP from Narcissism/Borderline Personality Disorder subs. One of the ideas floating around there is that narcissists look for "supply" and someone who's empathic (good at taking someone else's perspective) is a perfect target. After coming here I…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/22 06:20 AM
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I want you to imagine your wife isn’t a clay pot or whatever and that you’re both adults with agency. Treating my woman like an adult with agency was the way I rolled in every other LTR, and it was no problem. This wife, however, is a clay pot! My work at the wheel is to turn her into an adult with agency.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/22 01:20 PM
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Get it
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/22 01:17 PM
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Craftsman Tools & Clay
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/22 08:15 AM
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This all makes perfect sense. Good look dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/22 08:12 AM
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"No! The dinner was supposed to move you to a state from which sex would have 'naturally' arisen! Thus it was authentic within the context of sex happening! You denying me sex is retroactively changing my authenticity into a contract. Thats why its your fault I look bad now! So now I have to change myself into a person of whom you will naturally have sex with, so the contract can dissolve!" This is fucking hilarious. I'm not that guy though. I like connecting with people and talking about deep s…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/22 02:26 PM
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Not sure what 'personalities don't lend themselves to getting what we want' means but if you are saying what I think you are saying, it's a flawed model... Some of these advanced guys get to the point where they turn back to overt communication with women. My personality is good for clear communication with zero bullshit. I gotta walk the RP path before I get there though.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/22 02:18 PM
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essentiment, according to Nietzsche, is the spirit of modern ethics. The matrix is made of ressentiment.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/22 02:14 PM
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Yes. That's it. Really helped me realize I've spent a lot of time fucking this particular piece of clay up. My past year with tools in hand have been far from master work, and given my years of stupidity I had a lot of work to undo before the shaping process can start to bear fruit. I live in the world I created
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/22 02:09 PM
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Thanks dude. Wife has been threatening divorce throughout the entire marriage, so I've been a "prepper" all along.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/22 02:05 PM
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Hahaha, Good shit! This guy belongs in my OYS though. I grew up poor and I have a chip on my shoulder about rich dudes. It's cost me opportunities, and I need to change the way I deal with these guys. I've changed my life and they're gonna be everywhere, so I need to actively stop hating them when they're not cunts. Good links though. Read like the thesis to Atomic Habits. James Clear's mailing list is good.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/22 02:01 PM
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OYS 18 40+yo Married 4y, 1 young kid. 6' 3" 172 LBS (Slowly climbing, Eat!) Lifts: BP 80kg DL 30kg Sq 20KG (back injury) Physical --Positive I just used creatine again for the first time in about 6 months. I felt significantly stronger and more motivated. More reps, better form, growling like an animal. I dig this shit. I was getting close to weighing 180lbs a few months back, and my steady use of creatine helped me maintain a lot of positive physical (and mental) states. --Negative I've been si…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/22 12:44 PM
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I appreciate the advice. I had written fat post here with a ton of annotation, but it didn't send for some reason. Maybe that's a blessing for you. Your points about wives being plugged into the Disney matrix with no tools to extricate themselves shouldn't be controversial. This insight is necessary to men in the anger stage who see their wives as an enemy. (maybe I'm guilty of this. Re-reading anger stage sidebar shit when I get a chance) Your points about scoreboards are on point, and while I'…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/22 05:50 AM
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Not close.... probably due to a few factors. MRP guys are often here because our personalities don't lend themselves to getting what we want MRP guys hide some of our true nature online for fear of dox MRP guys are writing less like the "selves" that we "are" and more like the "selves" we feel might solve our problems. If you like Myers Briggs, I'm sure you know the five factor model. But you might not know this new one from Ray Dalio last year: https://principlesyou.com Long fucking test, but I…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/22 03:08 AM
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Cheers
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/22 03:47 AM
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I've added reading on brat taming to my to do list. My wife is probably a brat, though she's not nearly as dynamic as yours. She's pretty much hot and lazy. Please do share the reading material you mentioned. The majority of the guys in the comments here are telling you some version of "a brat is not worth it." If my wife is a brat, I agree with them. I'm close to initiating divorce. I appreciate the high level of motivation you obviously have here. I'm trying to find motivation for one last off…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/22 02:38 AM
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Not quite nailed the Meyers Briggs. I love that shit though. I hit you guys with a fucking book of hamster tracks. Right now, I'm trying to motivate myself to like my wife enough to put down the divorce gun. A lot more of my research these days goes into the logistics of firing the divorce gun than fixing the marriage. I'm gonna stay on point fixing the man, still plenty of work to be done here. If either of you guys have some golden oldies to direct me to about how to "like a wife" (as a way to…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/22 02:17 AM
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I enjoyed that article. When covid started I thought about what it would be like to fight a meth-head--someone who feels no pain and gives no fucks. I decided it'd be pretty impossible to hurt this person, and pretty impossible to win the fight. I'm guessing the average home intruder is somewhere on that scale. They'll be a lot less motivated by pain than a training partner. This guy might interest and entertain you. He tries to bridge the gap between theoretical and applied combat strategy. He'…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/22 02:05 AM
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Good point. This is a widely studied cognitive bias called "The Dunning Kruger Effect" where beginners in any skill overestimate their ability, and experts are actually less confident than beginners. Additionally there's a cognitive bias where we think just knowing about cognitive biases means we won't fall into them..... of course, we still fall into them even when we know about them. Your comment here adds value, as I believe a large percentage of brand new martial artists are intoxicated by t…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/22 03:09 AM
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she honestly does not give a fuck This is true. That cynical principle that the one who cares less is in control. She was the classic borderline personality disorder "I hate you don't leave me" during our LTR. And as soon as we got married she went from "I hate you, don't leave me" to just "I hate you" One of the things I've done in the past year is just join her in the DNGAF category. She was already pretending to be there. Now that I'm there too she's getting her bluff called, but she doesn't …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/22 03:03 AM
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You give attention and affection for her/you(me) Good point. I do want my attention/affection to be a positive reinforcement, and you're pointing out that I lack the authenticity to make that happen. Work to be done. Before MRP I spent loads of (obligatory) time with my wife. Now I spend less time with her because I've reevaluated whether that's time well spent. But I'm trying to like my wife again. ​ being annoyed at the result doesn't come into the equation unless you expected a result that di…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 03:44 PM
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The entire interaction wasn't that clean. I DEER'd at times, but the improvement was that I'd see it happening Seeing it happening is good. DEERing is a lifelong habit. Breaking it is hard and it takes time. Establishing yourself as a man who doesn't DEER builds frame. Invest in breaking this habit, and expect this change to take time.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 12:25 PM
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OYS 17 40+yo Married 4y, 1 young kid. 6' 3" 170 LBS (Eat!) Lifts: BP 80kg DL 30kg Sq 20KG (back injury) Physical - Working a 6 day PPL split. I play sports and do zone 2 cardio, so sometimes the split runs over the week. I'm consistent enough to keep gaining strength and feeling better. I've upped my calorie intake, and I'll work to hold it steady to keep gaining strength. In December my work schedule is going to get light. I want to add martial arts training. Martial arts - I'll build some abso…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 12:14 PM
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OK. What constitutes "clear goals?" I lift for consistency, chemicals and subjective well-being. They come when I lift, and they leave when I stop. If goals need to be quantifiable I want either reps or weight moving up and body weight moving up. I've been high-reps/low-weight, so I'm looking to switch back to higher-weight/lower-reps. I'll stay light on squats, deadlifts, and other moves that directly challenge the low back. (good mornings, bent-over rows, shrugs)
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/22 08:31 AM
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I was talking about the threat itself. We're on the same page. I was criticizing the threat itself.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/22 07:37 AM
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Vague or not the ultimate test is here: If I lift consistently for a period of weeks I enjoy too many obvious benefits to count. If I am inconsistent, the reduction in quality of life is just as obvious. I lift for myself. I get the benefits. It's awesome. Looking good naked doesn't suck, but (in my head) I'm doing well enough in this realm, (that includes learning, progress and re-evaluations of programs) and I got other areas of my life-game where I'm continuously fucking up. But if you got a …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/22 01:26 PM
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Good call. It's lazy thinking to say I'd threaten to withdraw time. Instead of telling her, why don't you just do it? Why don't you just say to yourself, "I don't like this, Im going to do something I like" and just do it? Pre-MRP I was simping hard. I'd spend a lot of time with my wife. I've learned to withdraw a lot of that time when I don't approve of her behavior or when I just have better things to do. When she's cool (or I want to initiate) I give her some time. I'm just victim-puking abou…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/22 01:08 PM
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Maybe you lack the experience to see how vague and misaligned these are. I'm not an intermediate lifter yet. Maybe another year. As for goals, the 1.)mental and 2.)physical benefits come when I lift like this. As for 3.) healing and 4.) slowing aging I see SBD as the best way to stimulate tissue creation by challenging the largest muscles, bones, ligaments, fascia etc. in the body. They should request backup and force the body to manufacture proteins and chemicals that'll build a strong body. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/22 07:33 AM
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Yea. My ability to cast good vibes involves maintaining inner climate control. It is not the room that bends, it is only myself. If I let my wife set the emotional climate I lose. Additionally, if I get irritated/bored, I lose. I just gotta go do something else if I feel like I'm burning too much time. There are always more interesting things to be doing, and withdrawing attention is a basic skill. The times this really bothers me is when I've taken her to a restaurant, or I'm in a car with her.…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/22 07:24 AM
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This is a good reframe. Game is game, and I should be trying to see the matrix and improve my ability to bend spoons... or rather bend boring times into fun ones. In many OYS I'm victim puking about my wife being boring. I need to just apply proper form and lift the weight of her bad vibes, and fill the world with my good vibes. ​ If your success is dependent on her actions... is it really success? Is it even yours? This is true in other realms as well. She's doing a good job but it's not necess…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/22 12:45 PM
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Here are the ends in order: 1 Mentality - keeps me focused, motivated and positive in daily life 2 Physically - it feels good to walk around at at least 172 lbs 3 Healing my back injury by promoting tissue growth 4 Slowing down tissue loss due to aging 5 it makes me attractive ​ I'm hitting these goals so long as I stay consistent and balance the need to sustain progressive overload by increasing work VS the need to not re-injure the back. ​ Given these goals, I'm doing good in the gym. It feeds…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/22 12:35 PM
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This looks like a good way to put in work. If the vibe goes negative I steer positive. If the content gets boring I steer towards fun. If I look at it like "training to talk to difficult people" I might have a better time.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/22 01:29 AM
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True
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/22 12:25 PM
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Yea. It feels like another "discipline thing". It's hard to go to the gym when you're outta shape. Overcome resistance. It's hard to be social when you're married with kids. Overcome resistance. It's hard to cast positive vibes with a bitchy wife around. Overcome resistance. And it's hard (for me) to know I've made someone feel unhappy and not "fix it" like a "Nice Guy" but I'm gonna overcome this resistance. ...clarifying the mission though, needs to happen regardless of whether I'm overthinkin…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/22 02:52 AM
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Good advice. I'm definitely not keto or carnivore. I'm gonna embrace the rice cooker, PBJs, smoothies, and cereal.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/22 02:45 AM
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I had a PT recommend deadlifts for my back, and it's been going well so far. I've been low-weight/high-reps in all back related moves, and I find myself a lot more resistant to injury. Had a little taxi accident last night, and I expected to wake up hurt, but I'm OK. It's hard to isolate what's working and what's not working, but you make the point below that this sub (generally) is not the place to get specific lifting advice. Maybe the emphasis on Bench/dead/squat/OH Press is strong in MRP, bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/22 02:42 AM
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OYS 16 6' 3" 17X?? LBS (scale in the gym is broken) Lifts: BP 80kg DL 30kg Sq 20KG (back injury) Physical - I have not been consistent with physical therapy-type stuff, but my back is healing anyway. I need to take a more active role in that healing. I've gained back most of the weight I lost. Feeling stronger. I've pushed my deadlift up to 30kg (hahaha!) which is abysmal, but I'm in the long slow process of fixing my back. My hamstrings are still bored, but I'm going to keep going up in weight …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/22 04:35 AM
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No. Good callout. I supplement with whey protein/smoothies. I'm just not disciplined enough about cramming food into my face. I can feel the difference in the gym when I've been eating enough. Often I'll fail a few reps short and realize I'm probably low on calories. (I fucked up by staying consistent in the gym despite sleep deprivation in the past and that's probably why I have this back injury. I need to not do the same stupid thing with food) I have a rice cooker at home and I probably need …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/22 04:22 AM
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Yea. Historically, I'm really not comfortable with pursuing my own self-interest if it's only for the sake of pleasure. But if my mission was clearer I would have no problem being more dominant (pleasure would flow from this change) In other relationships when drama gets in the way of the dream I'm trying to fulfill, the magnetism of the dream pulls me in a straight line towards a better life, and anything standing in my way gets displaced. ...and I don't feel like a dick about it because it's i…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/22 04:14 AM
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Yep, and this is why I say my progress here has plateaued. I'm getting to the point where it's "stick time" but I just continue to enforce boundaries and hand out unearned carrots. I'm not confrontational, nor am I non-confrontational. I'm somewhere in the middle. I need to (not Rambo) and (not be a pussy) just turn the dial a bit towards being more of dick. I've been consistent, and now it's time to gain territory.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/22 06:49 AM
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Nice.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/22 02:03 PM
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If you believe your wife is this retarded, you should divorce now and take the kid yourself. This is sound advice. I don't believe her. She knows I'm not leaving the kid too. I've communicated my position decently over the years, I've just always backed down from her threats. Now she's totally aware that I don't believe her. You don’t have to wait for a Main Event to magically solve all your problems. You're probably right about this. I just remembered how poorly I had handled her previous threa…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/22 01:59 PM
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You're totally right. I can feel that I've dropped the ball on this front. I was shredded, but weak. Work had been really demanding, and I didn't get a chance to eat well enough during my transitions. I have people all over me talking to me all day, and I need to learn how to say, "you're welcome to sit with me, but you gotta do all the talking because I got 20 minutes to eat this and I have to clear my plate." I'm continuing conversations out of politeness. This is "nice guy" behavior and I got…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/22 01:42 PM
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"Fuck me or Fuck you" That beta delusion need to go from the sidebar, ultimatums are for dipshits who suck and don’t have better options. I agree. That's why I haven't gone there. My aversion to this kind of conversation is that I think it won't create the world I want to live in. At the same time I don't really want to talk at all about the specifics of what I think her as a good wife would look like. "I just want her to fix it." When I write that it feels like a covert contract. But I think th…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/22 01:32 PM
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I eat well, but it costs me time and money. Getting me some quality calories every week is one way I'd like her to add value to my life. She's got a lot more free time than I do, so I want her to cook the food I buy. Throughout my adult life I've liked the illusion that my female gives a shit about me generated by her getting me food. It's a preference, and I'm gonna go for it. In the meantime, I got myself taken care of.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/22 01:27 PM
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OYS 15 6' 3" 168LBS Lifts: BP 80kg DL 20kg Sq 20KG (back injury) Overall - I got the Cov 6 weeks ago. + I was able to get through without losing any money. (still got work done) - I slipped in ALL other aspects of my life. Physical - Lost 10 pounds in body weight. Lost strength as well. I've been training regularly for a couple weeks but not eating enough. Cardio is back, but I need to eat big to get strong again. Relationship - I have not been progressing in my use of techniques, only maintaini…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/22 01:55 PM
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Appreciate the insight. This stage is confusing me. The 1000 foot rope is may be pulling taught and I'm trying to like my wife again. When I stopped my most egregious beta behaviors I didn't Rambo. I just dismantled the pedestal my wife was standing on. I did a good a job of this. I allowed myself to see all the ways our values don't align. I thought about how little I see her do for other people, and how much everyone does for her. Next, I decided that she has a personality disorder, and I star…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/22 03:16 AM
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Yea. This is dead on. Inner game is fucked up. This OYS reads like I don't understand the irony of whining about the problem of being a little bitch. Been hitting the gym and the office hard. Fixing half the problem. I'll find the other half.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/22 02:50 AM
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Lifting, I'm consistent. I put the work in, and my overall program is evolving to meet all my goals. The scheduling process around getting to gym has a lot of inefficiency. I am spending too much of my mental energy figuring out what to do each day. It should be a more organized program. Thus B+ Sex is infrequent and low quality. I would initiate more if there was someone else's soul in that body, but I don't like my wife. When she's being attractive, I get motivated to initiate. If she puts up …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/22 02:48 AM
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OYS 14 41yo Married for 4 years. one kid under 7yo 6ft 3in 178 lbs Lifts (still injured) Bench Max 80 kg, Deadlifts and Squat still very low weight 15-20 kg. (PT focusing on form) Read MMSLP, NMMNG, WISNIFG Reading Way of the Superior Man Physical 1.) Lifting - I'm B+ consistent here, but still injured. I've changed to a program with lighter weights and high repetitions. Focusing on form and building endurance. I've heard of "junk volume" and that's probably much of what I'm doing. However, I no…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/22 02:00 AM
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I appreciate the accurate jab. This seems to be a very long list of very specific confessions. A very short list of very vague goals. And no actions at all. I tend to be verba-non-acta and theory-non-praxa throughout my whole life. I have a lot of friends who are like this too. Been working to change that. I now read, write, lift, create art, STFU, DNGAF, and own my shit with consistency. I haven't posted in while, so wanted to try to focus on the weaknesses a lot more. So if writing reflects yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/22 07:00 AM
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I appreciate the targeted feedback. Example conversations in RP/BP thought patterns: These short exchanges between "man" and "wife" show that you can control only one mind in the scenario, your own. I laughed when the dumb dude in the example tried to get his wife to understand MRP principles as if that's gonna rewrite her source code. Bullshit, we gotta rewrite our own and it takes time and sustained effort. Some of these examples are mistakes I never made, another set of them are mistakes I ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/22 05:32 AM
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OYS 13 41yo Married for 4 years. one kid under 7yo 6ft 3in 180 lbs Lifts (still injured) Bench Max 80 kg, Deadlifts and Squat still very low weight. (PT) Read MMSLP, NMMNG, WISNIFG Reading Way of the Superior Man Physical Still Injured. I'm doing a lot to try to heal, but I need to read "The Back Mechanic" and apply the principles in there. Fixing my back is much like fixing other complicated problems in life: it requires both theory and practice. I've been trying hard, but I feel misguided. I r…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/22 11:11 AM
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OYS 12 41yo Married for 4 years. one kid under 7yo Physical 6ft 3in 175 lbs Lifts (still injured) Dumbbell press 2 60lbs dumbbells 8x Row machine 45kg each arm 8x Overhead 30 kg 10x (can increase) deadlift 10kg 8x (can increase) squat (a broomstick) Bodyweight pull-ups (21) dips (23) I hit 12 of my 13 days in a row of lifting/ sports, and I'm looking to push further. There are personal trainers at my gym who will hold pads for me so I can practice striking and get some cardio in. They're not spe…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 02:08 AM
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OYS 11 early 40s married 4 years (one kid under 7) Physical over 6ft 173lbs (EAT!) Lifts: Bench two 60lb dumbbells 8x Leg press 110kg 12x Deadlift - broomstick Squat - Broomstick OHP - 25kg (that will go up now that I have a weight belt) Ab pulldowns 170lbs 33x Bodyweight pull-ups 21 dips 20 I don't weigh a lot, and I know these are not the numbers of a true athlete, but it's good to feel them going up every week. When I hit a new personal best it feels like scoring a touchdown. Small personal v…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 02:06 AM
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OYS 10 early 40s married 4 years (one kid under 7) Physical over 6ft 171 lbs (down 4 lbs from the target weight 175) I'm back in the gym after I was outta town and they were closed down. First day open! I got up to 20 pull-ups 18 dips. I know that's not amazing given my body weight, but it's great to see numbers steadily rising. Makes me think that healing the injury is a lot more possible if I have evidence that I'm building strength. I lost 4 lbs but I was still able to lift at the same rate, …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 12:55 PM
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OYS 9 married early 40s one kid under 7yo Physical - (no scales around, not sure if I've maintained 175lbs) I've been on "vacation." Lots of time outta the gym, lots of time off sports. I have been getting enough sleep, eating enough; but my injury is in a bad place. I need to get back to the rhythm of daily life. PT, gym, sports, all this keeps my body where I need it to be. I've been thinking about changing programs, but I'll stick with this one for now. I've already adapted it to my injury. U…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/22 03:30 AM
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OYS 8 - Starting to understand the practice Where I am mentally My last two weeks, I've posted but I can't find them. I'm new to Reddit so I'm sure it's my mistake. I wrote them for myself, but there are 3 major forcing functions of this exercise I really appreciate: 1.) this is not a journal, it's supposed to somehow add value to the collective project of becoming a superior man. As with any discipline it's helpful to see the progress of beginners and intermediate practitioners so that we can s…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/22 03:01 AM
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OYS 8 (My previous one never posted) Married Early 40s, 1 kid under 7yo 6' 2" 175lbs Physical - holding steady at 175lbs consuming supplements regularly My max of pull-ups went up to 18. Back still hurts. Missed a PT session. About to do a vacation, lifting will suffer. Relationship Sliding back into peace, about a month out from last big blowout. (sub-main event) I just got 6 days in a couple of hotels somewhere nice. Me, wife and kid. I'll do some of my creative shit to pay for 80% and the res…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 06:39 AM
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OYS 8 Married Early 40s, 1 kid under 7yo 6' 2" 175lbs (I dropped for a couple of days, got up to gotta eat) Reading I slowed my pace down with WISNIFG and I'm soaking in the examples that combine NA NI Fogging Broken Record and Self Disclosure. I've been looking for an integrated suite of argumentation techniques and this is as good as what I found in Chris Voss's "Never Split the Difference" Physical - Still hurt, still not maxing. numbers still suck. Staying consistent. I need a partner to hel…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/22 02:28 AM
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I've got a back injury and I'm deadlifting/squatting a broomstick as well. Docs have told me that healing/mobility should precede trying to build muscle there (in my case) because that part of the system of muscles used to do those lifts is currently incapable of bearing a lot of load. While your larger muscles are ready for the job, the smaller ones might get re-injured easily. Slow build with perfect form is good. I'm reading a book called "The Back Mechanic" which is really helpful. Looking a…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/22 06:43 AM
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OYS 7Married Early 40s, 1 kid under 7yo 6' 2" 175lbs (eat!) Physical - Still hurt, still not maxing.Dumbell Bench 60lbs each side 8xInclined bench 60 kgs x8Close Grip 55 kgs x8Row 45 kg x10Leg press 110kg 12xBodyweight work is OK Dips 16 Pullups 16For as skinny as I am, I should be able to do more pull-ups and dips. I've been in PT, following doc's orders. Trying to vary sitting and standing at work. This should keep me on the path to recovery. I got some supplements, which I'll get more consist…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/22 02:58 PM
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Your handle, Ubermensch, is perfect for this criticism. I think trying to be excellent can be a goal independent of covert contracts. I don't think swinging for greatness is a mistake in and of itself. I'm just probably not doing it right. It's probably true that I still have covert contracts buried in other aspects of my life that I'm not writing about (and probably more that I'm not even aware of) But I do feel pretty confidant in saying that my path of self-improvement is not tied to trying t…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 04:47 AM
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Thanks. You're on point. I just read your post simplifying the levels of dread. Makes sense that the old framing is, indeed, a big covert contract with the side effect of preparing the man to divorce with a slightly higher SMV. I really like the fact that you emphasize that this is a grind, and that instant change is impossible. Posts like yours seem to pull theory and practice together, but reading < doing. I can see here that I'm trying to onboard as much theory as possible, but the practice s…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 01:12 AM
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I'm halfway through MMSLP NMMNG and WISNIFG. One of u/JAck10ofhearts posts pointed out to me that my wife is a complaining passenger, not a first officer, and suggested focusing on this book. I just got to the sections on Fogging, NA and NI, and I'll be looking to incorporate them more mindfully. NMMNG resonated with me because I've been such a bitchass martyr. I thought by giving up everything good in my life for my family I'd be respected as "good" ....covert contract for sure. Human sacrifice…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 10:56 AM
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OYS 6 Focus on Mentality Married Early 40s, 1 kid under 7yo Physical - Continuing to stay consistent in the gym--lifting 3-4 days a week, sports 2-8 hours a week. I'm not maxing anything because of an injury. Been to a doc to get a reference to a physical therapist I've been working with. I want insurance to cover it. Next PT session is booked as well. The lifting is being canabalized by playing sports a little bit, but I'm cool with that. Once PT pays off and my legs day is a little more signif…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 10:11 AM
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OYS 5 - Focusing on the Mind Married early 40s and one kid under 7 I caught a rule 9 ban last time. These are good, I'm glad it happened. I'm new to thinking this way and the transition requires negative consequences. I have a lot of shit to own, but I'll focus on that ban first: My mental model of my wife sucks. It's a good tool for predicting her negative behavior, but not for turning her into a good first officer. (she's a complaining passenger) I need to bifurcate this concept and think of h…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/22 04:29 AM
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OYS 4 6'2'' 78KG, BF is OK, visible abs. Lifting - My numbers are still forgettably low. I've been to see a doc for my back twice and the treatments are helping. I'm still doing a lot of body weight stuff. Consistency is OK, intensity is increasing. I'm adding some sports into my schedule which sometimes involves me missing a day in the gym in favor of playing sports, but I'm cool with that because my social life has been abysmal for 3 years. GOALS: get to 80 KG (EAT!) and fix the back injury so…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/22 04:50 AM
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OYS 3 6'2'' almost 80KG, BF is OK, visible abs. Lifting - My numbers are still low. I'm rehabbing an injury and I hope to be able to squat and deadlift more than a few kg sometime in this year. In the meantime I'm doing sets of 12-15 pull-ups and dips, my bench is still low (no real excuse for that one) and my intensity could use a boost. My consistency has been strong, but it's in danger of becoming complacency. I'll get real stats up there next time, even though they suck. Reading - MMSLP NMMG…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/22 07:16 AM
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OYS 2 40 Married 4 years (LTR 7 total) 1 young kid. Lifts BP 120 x 12, Leg press 120 x 12 Pullups 15, Dips 15 SQ+ DL very light (injury) Stats: 6ft + 175lbs, low BF Read - MMSLP NMMNG, WISNIFG, Atomic Habits Work I have just interviewed for a new career. There are 10 other applicants. If it works out, I got a good path. If not, I'll forge another path. No factor. Social Still nothing. I've been pouring a lot of energy into getting this job. Now it's time to get out and play some sports/music. Ki…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 06:36 PM
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