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Totally the same here. 2.5 years in a relationship which seems to be working just fine. I recognise the “missing her” and also that there is no arguments over inconsequential things. I also think I’m a bit of a people pleaser, and the physical boundary helps me be myself. Our incoming government here in the UK has also said they are going to look at making common law marriage a thing for cohabiting couples, so even if I wanted to move in I couldn’t risk losing half my stuff again
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 07:46 PM
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Do you want to live with her? I'm similar time out of marriage but i'm clear with my girlfriend i have no particular desire to live with someone else as I'm very happy with my own space.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 02:28 PM
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Have her plans fallen through and you are the backup plan? You don't want to be a backup plan do you? Look forward to being with someone who truly keenly wants to be with you.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 11:50 AM
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Laws on this vary per country, where are you? Does your wife know that half your parents house is yours?
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 07:49 PM
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Marry into money
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/23 12:17 PM
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Generally well played i'd say. Pragmatic choices and approaching the whole thing with patience seems to have paid off.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 12:09 PM
57

I'm not angry at my ex, I'm angry at myself for not looking into the ( very expensive ) contract I was signing.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 03:28 PM
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You are clearly a moral, empathetic person. I admire you for that. But no, you shouldn’t try to help her. This chapter of your life is closed and you should move on.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 08:03 PM
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We might or might not be broken, but we understand how to be realistic about relationships as you describe. That can only be a good thing. As Shaun says in the Tactical Guide to Women, “I was taught more about shaving than how to choose a wife”.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 03:05 PM
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Because that’s what the contract of marriage is in the eyes of the law, you agree to look after each other forever. We signed a contract which favours one who breaks it if they are the less wealthy. I wish they actually presented the terms and conditions when you got married!
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 05:21 AM
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4th divorce! What were you thinking my man?
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 08:15 PM
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Read "No more Mr Nice Guy", that explains how your thinking is wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 11:40 AM
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What you say rings true for me, I can’t really find any fault with it. For me personally, I’m a people pleaser and hate conflict so any relationship is a constant tiring battle to not lose frame.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 01:19 PM
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Yes this is really good advice. ( Of course we must all be fully functioning adults capable of keeping our home inside or outside of a relationship )
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/23 09:34 AM
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He will have been told quite a story by your ex, what that is we can't say but for sure she won't want you two guys talking. I'd imagine he feels that in some way he is "saving" your ex and children from some kind of situation which is feeding his ego / self esteem. Or he could be playing your ex somehow, but i think thats less likely.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 12:34 PM
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She sounds nuts mate, get out of there.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/23 03:52 PM
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If your wife is seeing someone, this will be a great time to push through with the divorce. Particularly if she is in the “new relationship energy” part of things she is more likely to compromise with you. Don’t date, I’ve been there and it’s not a good idea.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/23 10:31 AM
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People do seem to be obsessed with a consent order. There seem to be very few times that financial claims have been brought post divorce and all I’ve read about were very rich people and the settlement wasn’t very much. I’ve divorced twice without one just agreeing things with my ex. Neither were crazy though. I think it’s best to get one if you can, but if not you will most likely be fine.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 09:09 PM
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Ouch. Water is wet, the sun is hot, women are women. Just don't marry (or co-habit) with them and we'll all be fine.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/23 05:24 PM
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It sounds like you don't have much to lose right now, best not wait another 10 years until you have built up significant assets.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/23 04:56 PM
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You are doing absolutely the right thing putting your needs first but it does sound to me like you are spending too much time chasing women. Get busy. Do more gym, get more hobbies, take up golf, buy a supercar and go to cars and coffee at the weekend, progress your career. If you do want date, then filter up front in your profile for what you are looking for. You'll get way less matches but waste much less time.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/23 10:02 AM
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This is spot on, great advice especially about acting in your own interest during the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 05:16 PM
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I'd upvote this twice if i could. I feel very similar.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 04:23 PM
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Gym is the basics, start there then consider the rest. I have a cinema membership, play golf and got a girlfriend, in that order of importance.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 09:40 PM
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Thanks so much for providing this space for us to support each other.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 09:18 PM
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M51. Divorced for the 2nd time last year. I don't feel like this at all. I get to the gym, took up playing golf, walk my dog, I go and do anything i want whenever i want to. My house is peaceful and quiet. If i need to concentrate on work for a bit then thats fine. All my bills are way cheaper and despite the heavy financial loss i'm earning well and saving hard for retirement. I've done on line dating very successfully following advice on YouTube and I have a girlfriend i see a few times a week…
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 08:44 AM
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See that dog shit on the sidewalk? Don't step in it and complain, walk around it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/23 11:53 AM
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Fuck this is painful to read. Your self esteem is so low. You deserve better than this horrible cheating low value woman. Divorce, move on, and get some high standards. The wrong partner can destroy your life (as you are finding out).
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 10:14 AM
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She doesn’t sound like a quality woman who would be a complement to your life. Learn to vet women properly before getting into dating.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/23 08:09 PM
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What you are seeking is a 50/50 split of all assets. You can do this through mediation , which may be the only way if she isn’t yet realistic.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 07:30 PM
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Absolutely you need a financial order, full form E disclosure from everyone and a 50/50 split. Just her pension alone will be worth a significant amount.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/22 04:08 PM
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Fast forward 2 years. You have a girlfriend who’s 50/50 custody is the opposite way round to yours. You get no time without any kids together. You were awkward when your ex wanted to tweak the kids time so now she won’t change it. You need to play the long game in this situation is what I’m saying. Remember your ex is thinking emotionally, as a man you can think long term in the area of custody and finances for your own gain.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/22 06:36 AM
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Speaking as someone who spent a long time in a blended family matching parenting schedules when new partners are on the scene does make practical sense, don’t be stubborn and make things difficult.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/22 04:54 PM
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I found a trip through the online Red Pill community to be very insightful, finally deciding that i resonate most with the milder content. Do you want to date or just focus on yourself?
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/22 01:21 PM
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Obsessive interest in hobbies then dropping them and moving to the next one is an ADHD thing.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 09:08 AM
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I recognise that faults in me lead to me not sufficiently vetting or taking my time to really get to know the women that I married. All the signs were there had I wanted to see them. I believe I now make far better choices in my relationships. However due to the way family law works, I would only consider marriage or cohabitation with someone with similar or more assets than myself.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/22 06:18 PM
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You don't divide your assets on divorce, you divide them on your wedding day and continually after. If you don't want to divide them, don't get married.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 03:30 PM
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