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Apparently, Another predictor of infidelity was attractiveness. A person's own attractiveness was negatively associated with infidelity among women but not men - meaning less attractive women were more likely to have an affair. A partner's attractiveness was negatively associated with infidelity among men but not women - meaning men were more likely to be unfaithful when their partners were less attractive. https://www.business-standard.com/amp/article/pti-stories/unattractive-women-more-likely-…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 06:12 AM
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You too are conflating PSL and KCAS. KCAS has nothing to do with cultural beauty standards/preferences. Big noses may or may not be penalized depending on the balance of the face, and the same goes for other masculine traits too. [KCAS] evaluates symmetry, balanced proportions, and the absence of distortions. Please re-read my original before engaging unless you are actually trying to agree with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 07:45 AM
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You are still conflating PSL and KCAS. Big noses may or may not be penalized depending on the balance of the face, and the same goes for other masculine traits too. Rugged features that are proportionate and harmonized do not indicate genetic flaw. Asymmetrical fuck ups do get penalized. And faces thought to be conventionally attractive can still contain structural flaws that signal reduced genetic stability.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:23 PM
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You are still conflating PSL and KCAS. Big noses may or may not be penalized depending on the balance of the face, and the same goes for other masculine traits too. Rugged features that are proportionate and harmonized do not indicate genetic flaw. Asymmetrical fuck ups do get penalized. And faces thought to be conventionally attractive can still contain structural flaws that signal reduced genetic stability.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:23 PM
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Big nose may or may not be penalized depending on the balance of the face. Asymmetrical fuckups would be penalized but we are not touching on how conventionally beautiful women could actually be biologically flawed unknowingly but in a subconscious manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:08 PM
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Deep mate choice like marriage or childrearing still aligns with unconscious viability instincts in non-Christian crowd. You are missing the actual point here. I think you may be confirming the hypothesis with your second rebuttal. I am actually rejecting the idea of mating across conventional beauty standards, but adopting the idea of mating across the genetic health markers. Being KCAS-matched but PSL-mismatched tends to create stable, lasting bonds. Being PSL-matched but KCAS-mismatched typic…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:16 PM
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Tastes only matter once someone is sufficiently within your biological range. It is quite likely that my past crushes didn’t lead to a biological choice, because it never crossed that viability threshold. I acted on securing my boyfriend, never the others while I would have dated them if they asked me out. But the thing is, I kinda dated without making a true biological commitment. I didn’t even have sex with my boyfriends, and I never selected anyone in a way that reflects deep mating investmen…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 06:26 PM
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Shame we can't make looks-based posts. I did post it as a comment on the looks thread though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:46 AM
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u/tacticaltossaway
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:44 AM
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Women ARE Punching Up On OLD To have this discussion, we first need to touch briefly on Physical Sexual Looks Rating (PSL). PSL is something untrained eyes can observe instantly, especially in 2D formats like photos. It rewards striking, sexually dimorphic traits—features that catch attention quickly—rather than reflecting true biological health markers. In contrast, there is Korean Clinical Aesthetic Scoring (KCAS). Originally developed by Korean clinicians, KCAS is the only standardized metric…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:42 AM
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You can also ask it to do a clinical analysis.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:15 AM
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Use looksmaxxing gpt. I’ve been having too much fun with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 06:44 AM
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Agreed. I also did mention something similar in another comment. This alone is prone to misinterpretation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 01:13 AM
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On the bias towards their current partner, the study itself acknowledges it. One of the analyses done by the study itself was comparing between partnered and single participants. They directly tested whether patterns differed between single and partnered participants. <image> You can analyze the raw data yourself, and only look at non-partnered participants. That's the beauty of raw data analysis. Or just don't. When you are skeptical, there's no better way than to read the paper and look at its…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 01:07 AM
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I am not really sure. I've seen discussion posts getting pulled for not adding discussion questions so I added them at the bottom lmao. We used to have a [Science] flair I think... But well it is gone now so I posted it as a discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 12:32 AM
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I have a new post up.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 12:26 AM
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There are risks to being on the main thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 12:24 AM
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It is an extra piece of information to help you decide whether you want to engage with the data or not. Attractiveness ranking so high for both genders and the stated vs. revealed ranks differing by a lot fascinated me enough to make me look into the actual data. The study says that stated vs. revealed preferences can differ by a lot, and I think the raw data sufficiently shows it. I am not claiming the study is accurate by any measure. It is an exploration of a paper I found fascinating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 12:21 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 11:57 PM
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Extroversion is not as attractive as many of us deemed it to be, but is probably quite important for visibility still. Being financially secure means so little. I think the study needs to be paired with other studies and could be prone to misinterpretation even with the beta scores. There's a study that talks about predictors of infidelity for example. "Choice" alone is not all that matters. How we could be made aware of these traits of others could also be a point of discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 11:42 PM
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I think Attractive having similar enough beta scores for both genders should be noted. Rank 1 vs. Rank 5 might give a different idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 11:20 PM
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Pulling Top-10 doesn't really capture what the beta scores tell us. Similar beta score means similar effect. The scores should be compared to each other, not the rank to best use the data.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 11:14 PM
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Don't read the whole thing. Under procedure is where the method is. Ctrl+F Procedure. Sorry accidentally deleted the original comment. If you don't want to read the method used to gather the data, I guess you could move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 11:12 PM
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Don't read the whole thing. Ctrl+F Procedure.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 11:10 PM
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Pulling Top-10 doesn't really capture what this analysis does. Similar beta scores mean similar effect, not the rank itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 11:10 PM
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It is under Procedure.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 11:07 PM
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But it used averages to write the paper. I wanted beta scores.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 10:54 PM
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I know a lot of you just stay in DT. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 10:46 PM
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IT GOT APPROVED! I was so fascinated that I even had to make a post out of this... I am kinda ashamed but hope y'all enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 10:45 PM
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The post doesn't break any rules imo. I've been around long enough to know PPD rules by now. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 10:41 PM
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I dropped a rather nerdy post on PPD. Waiting for mod approval.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 10:35 PM
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Idk I’ve called my mom weird for wanting an Ai dog. How detached from reality does one have to be to delude oneself that one is being loved by an entity without a soul? Every time I realize the entity is not real, I think I would fall even deeper into my misery.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:48 PM
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China is less patriarchal than you may believe especially in the bigger cities. You might want to look up how the cultural revolution has impacted gender equality in China. It is a lot less patriarchal than Japan or Korea.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:42 PM
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Didn't you have casual sex btw?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 01:48 AM
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If she still has options, it is still a choice she made. If she doesn't have the options, it wasn't really a choice. Semantics matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 01:47 AM
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Idk. Be more assertive irl. They'll find you. There's more submissive men than there are dominant women wanting submissive men. It is a niche market with potentially the worst gender ratio.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 08:10 PM
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😉
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 05:59 PM
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All the other things are irrelevant to the definition of a virgin. A virgin is "a person who has never had sexual intercourse". Nothing less, nothing more.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 07:20 AM
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why i said what i said
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 06:57 AM
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Most cute old couples stories go like, "oh he pursued me relentlessly, and I gave in. (couple giggling together remembering the old times)" It probably works best when the man is crazy about the woman, and the woman knows to appreciate and reciprocate.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 06:47 AM
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I think it is fair to say that certain preferences can be quite unrealistic depending on the preference or one's own desirability. I don't think it is wrong to have "unrealistic preferences" per se, but I would give the person the side eye if one doesn't realize one's preferences are kinda unrealistic. I say this as a person who held out for a long time too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 06:35 PM
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My name was my boyfriend’s password for a decade when we were not in contact.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 07:59 AM
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I am against sex outside of very committed relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 07:13 PM
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It didn't happen like how you describe things. I realized I was dating non-forever partners until I got together with my current boyfriend whom I consider to be my forever partner. Such commitment is too serious of a business for me to take lightly. I never thought anyone would convince me into showing them to my parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 09:46 PM
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Haha. Hey 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 04:05 PM
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I've never dated men I was interest in first. I didn't really want them badly enough and was content just staying friends with them. I was also perfectly happy dating guys who showed interest in me first.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 02:36 AM
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My age today.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 12:00 AM
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Your worth should at least be (minimum wage - bare minimum living costs)*some years depending on your life expectancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 07:17 PM
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I like looking at kpop boys doing cute stuff, but I've always found thirst traps to be amusing in a bad way. Oh, and I don't take men who have (public) social media seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 07:44 PM
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https://preview.redd.it/2tax5x4t8yne1.png?width=589&format=png&auto=webp&s=7539c6e328499d09c9acb9192b3b2427bf58d0a2 brainrot central
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 11:47 PM
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So you really got lazy this semester. Lol Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 08:02 PM
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I had to. Not bad. How was yours?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 07:55 PM
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That’s how non-Asians eat rice. Shame on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 07:51 PM
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A shy guy dropped handkerchiefs for a while so I made the move.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 01:53 AM
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I feel instant disgust. So the ones who get an instant disgust response won't get a change. However never an instant attraction from looks. I don't claim to be the norm. I could very well be an outlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 12:33 AM
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a lot of liberal women are pro-equity in politics while being adamant about the invisible hand/free market in the dating market. they are basically doing the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 04:38 PM
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You’ll always find people getting mad over each and every thing on PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 11:57 AM
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The stats suggest the second.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 11:56 AM
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I think couples should be treating each other as if their partner is a Chad/Stacy regardless of one actually being one.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 10:44 AM
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Could you link this study for me please?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:19 PM
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My mom loves them. I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 04:16 AM
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LOL Definitely something you would say.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 04:15 AM
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Yeah I got it right after I pressed comment. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 03:19 AM
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Who's bebe?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 03:18 AM
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Oh wow she is talking now? Time flies. I assumed you were busy. We haven't talked in a while. :) And another girl? Your family is growing a lot faster than I had expected!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 03:16 AM
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Welcome back :) I’m kinda sorta here.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 02:52 AM
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For now
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 10:39 PM
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Not my type, but I can see other women being into him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 10:38 PM
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Went out with two of them. If they are desirable enough in other aspects, why not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 05:42 AM
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Hey Lily :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:22 AM
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months*
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 02:19 AM
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What's even the point of this question when most people in the west don't experience whatever struggles people experience in other parts of the world? Is this some imaginary victimhood?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 02:10 AM
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You seem to keep glossing over the point that hitting and disciplining can be different. Sorry your mom was abusive and that’s all you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 10:22 PM
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They do. Coddling parents vastly underestimate their kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 10:07 PM
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Just hitting and disciplining are different. Stop playing dumb to derail the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:53 PM
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Oboe. But I find pianists the most attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:48 PM
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It is generally true in Asia. And you wonder why Asian immigrants are doing so much better and have even less crime rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:22 PM
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I am too lazy to type this again. Do what you want with your kids. Mine will be disciplined. https://preview.redd.it/ewe76a44eqed1.jpeg?width=960&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ba9544f0b9c7fc202081a9d7f46d38d1e517576f
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:16 PM
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They don’t know any better if parents don’t teach.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:06 PM
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They do. You are just trying to find reasons to coddle them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 08:52 PM
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There is a big difference between knowing you did something wrong and getting disciplined and not knowing what you did wrong and getting hit. Neglect and failure to provide subsequent consequences raise some kind of failure. Source? Generational wisdom. New behavioral scientific research has gotten us breeding weak useless snowflakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 08:13 PM
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Most Asian kids turn out non-evil with the disciplining we do. I don’t believe strict discipline is the primary factor, but neglect and a lack of subsequent consequences. And disciplining them in whatever way possible until they don’t need it is necessary. Being fine with less than desirable behavior is what breeds failures.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 07:24 PM
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It seems to have worked for the purposes it was supposed to serve at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:44 PM
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How we treat our kids has changed. Kids need more disciplining from their parents, probably especially boys. Most Asian dads around me beat their sons a lot more for disciplining them. That used to be the traditional way that I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 05:35 PM
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operation spot is correct. That dress will only have that fit on very specific figures.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 01:46 AM
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Introversion for a non-outlier male should make dating exponentially difficult. Men are usually the ones who have to pursue and initiate partly due to female passivity and possibly also due to difference in libido/desire. Introversion for females shouldn't be that terrible as long as she interacts with humans somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 01:35 AM
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All tattoos are nay
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 12:50 AM
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Interesting. I did not know that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 12:15 AM
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Is it a squirrel?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 12:10 AM
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Until he learns that Korean guys prefer Japanese women for being feminine and submissive and Chinese guys prefer Korean women for being more pleasant.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 11:34 PM
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"Raised"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 08:55 PM
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I don’t have a single nurturing bone in my body. All his bones seem to be nurturing bones. And I might have to really dedicate myself to my work in a few years anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 06:24 PM
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It could come down to feasibility during specific periods, but as long as it is feasible, I don’t mind and actually think it could be better for the family and the kids with my boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 06:20 PM
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I don't think Asians worry about that as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 02:34 AM
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Happy birthday :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 01:52 AM
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Thanks, but I still hate looking at myself when I take pictures with my mom. I have my old insecurities flare up when I go somewhere with my mom and take pictures together. I don't think I was ever that bad looking. It was just due to my mom and aunts.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 01:48 AM
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Well it could be their perception too, right? The consistent best is their market value unless they are some kind of a weird outlier. Their perception of themselves and/or perception of the men who are willing to give them commitment are skewed if they don't agree with what they are getting.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 10:21 PM
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Eh. That's what PPD might think, but at least in my home country, guys who marry better looking women want their kids to look like the mom. You could throw any top actress into my family photos, and she would not stand out amongst my mom and my aunts. I wanted that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 10:11 PM
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A lot of people below you will want you especially if you are high value enough. So the best that you can consistently get is your value, not the average value of everyone who wants you. Just because men desire women who look like Victoria's Secret Angels (let's just use them as the desired women in this scenario for the sake of the argument) and possibly shoot their shots, it does not put them on the same level as those Angels or decrease the value of those Angels. If they can only get consiste…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 09:59 PM
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How fucked up in the head was I to have wanted to clone my mom and have her clone as my child, rather than passing on my own genes? My insecurity when it came to my looks was so bad growing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 09:50 PM
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It is not the average, but the best you can consistently get commitment from with reasonable effort and within a reasonable timeframe. Everyone (with exaggeration) can desire my mom, but just because mid men want her, it does not lower her value.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 09:43 PM
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Yeah, you just have to avoid the shittiest people and you are fine in terms of that from the looks of what happens in my family or within my circle in my home country. That is not too difficult to vet for. Almost every male elder in my family is a HVM who can help vet. My mom already got a lot of other family members involved in the process. The worst things usually don’t happen when your elders are not stupid, and you are not stupid enough to dismiss your elders.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 09:27 PM
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Agreed. It is pathetic to act like something you are not though. And it does not work if you want to be around people who are actually competent. Lower class stuff who plan on staying in lower class tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 09:06 PM
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Arrogance looks silly to actually competent people or people who are used to competent people.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 08:47 PM
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It was just a huge mental load off of me to realize that I can finally drop out of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 08:45 PM
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Is she from some remote conservative area? That's the only explanation I can find other than her being strange. I thought men plucking out their eyebrows was gay back when I lived in such a place.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 10:48 AM
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I was never that sane. You know this.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 06:11 AM
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Yeah more girls than you think do insane diets over there.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 06:04 AM
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Would depend on whether my family requires one or not. Neither my boyfriend or I plan on making a big fuss over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 06:03 AM
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Oh I thought she was Winter from aespa due to her blonde hair. I now see that she isn’t. Anyway, I know enough people who have similar leanness without lipo. It is not THAT rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 05:59 AM
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My face is pretty enough to bypass a lot more than you think. Pretty privilege gives a lot of leniency even when securing the ultimate commitment if you are pretty enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 05:49 AM
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I don't think she got lipo. Idol trainees usually stay on top of their weight at all times.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 05:49 AM
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Yeah, exactly. So it isn't necessarily immoral unless he himself believes he is doing harm.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 03:43 AM
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Glad to see you around here again.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 03:00 AM
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You can’t predict or control every effect your actions will have in the world. We only can do what we believe is right or unharmful.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 01:50 AM
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I look good in both navy and in black, but black is even more common than navy, so navy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 10:45 PM
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As long as you are upfront, I don't think you are necessarily being immoral. But if you believe you are doing harm to these women, but continue doing them anyway, that's where it could get immoral, because you think of it as doing harm and are doing it anyway. If you are talking about religious virtue, that too is going to be a different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 09:50 PM
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I believe in the race-location pill. There are some areas where being the wrong ethnicity is really going to change how you are looked at.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 09:44 PM
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Never specified
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 09:25 PM
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My friend thinks all of you guys are bots. Or at least hopes anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 09:23 PM
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You don't really know from a 13 yr old face with boys. His face is symmetrical but that's about it for now. I think I knew like 3-5 kids who looked similar. https://preview.redd.it/guqiq859x4ed1.png?width=541&format=png&auto=webp&s=0f9302f9ea7eed1f09dc6a8a9dce77c19f65b1a6
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 09:06 PM
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The catch: he is quite boring and will give you a blank look if you try to talk about something more complex than the weather. Michael is fine tbh. I can scratch that itch with other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 08:17 PM
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If you just want to buy one size, that's not a bad idea. Smaller ones could be more comfortable though. And when nearing the end, the flow is very minimal and it is just the last bit leaving slowly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 08:10 PM
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Apparently the size numbers mean the flow of the blood coming out or something You are correct. It is about how much the pad can hold and how much of the underwear the pad covers so it does not spill over especially in movement.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 08:03 PM
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They exist, but I can’t imagine finding four all at once outside of a strict religion.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:53 PM
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Ask everyone else here, hun.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:44 PM
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Nah, it only “sounds” like that cause it is over sensitivity probably fuelled by insecurity and/or self-victimization. I don’t actually try to attack individuals on this platform.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:41 PM
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I am genuinely curious. Cause she disappeared after getting a ring from someone she just started seeing. You sound a lot like her.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:33 PM
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Are you the woman who previously was engaged to a practical stranger? Or are you following her footsteps?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:31 PM
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I am not. That’s just what commitment looks like. Until you are at least formally introduced, nothing is even close to being set in stone.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:26 PM
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Have you met all their parents and gotten a ring from them?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:18 PM
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NAMALT
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:43 AM
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Not in that way. I told my boyfriend that he has to take care of his looks, so I don't end up looking like a gold digger. And I just like good looking guys, and it doesn't have anything to do with my status.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:15 AM
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Young millennial. I don't feel odd hanging out one-on-one with anyone, so that's a bad metric. I have 3 friends that I would sacrifice quite a lot for, and have their backs. They are the three friends I would love to grow old with and retire together.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:07 AM
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women don't like dating a large age gap, contrary to popular myth Yeah, I used to often say this with PPD guys trying so hard to deny it, but I think you are still somewhat in the safe. 35+ feels a whole lot different than 34 and under. I think 35 is the male "wall" while 30 is the female "wall" for what feels "old" to a good portion of dating aged people. I had no luck with women in their 20s on the apps, only women in their 30s with issues. I think only a certain demographic of women usually e…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 12:49 AM
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Not saying that she is right and you are wrong or vice versa, but there is a friend who reached out to me after we had a bit of a falling out first. Sometimes, it is very worth it to just knock yourself, and put your ego aside. I think she showed more maturity and is wiser than me. Having too much ego doesn’t always yield the best results. As long as the person is a decent human being, the person should have introspect a bit to realize their own shortcomings and realize the other person pulled m…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 10:44 PM
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Option that you would not choose is still an option at restaurants.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 10:00 PM
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Good to hear that your recovery is going well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 07:39 PM
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If you can see two people at once, that means you aren’t into either, and are literally just choosing the better option to settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 07:28 PM
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It doesn’t matter whether she’d be a good role model or not when it comes to jealousy. The better she is, the more jealousy she could attract. Thanks. Hannah is mature with plenty of good feminine traits, while I try to be half the man my dad was with the unusual nature I was given.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 05:02 PM
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Anesthesiologist is not high power nor status within hospitals. If he is also average looking, I would say women are more likely aiming for LTR with a good bucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:37 PM
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Millennials are in the leftover market now. Most sane people of both genders seem to have been taken for a while. Like at this point, even if someone isn’t quite up to your standards, you might want to consider grabbing the first sane one you can get. I think you’d probably understand the importance of sanity. Also, I have had better experiences with slightly younger guys in general, and it is probably because their age group’s leftover ratio isn’t as high. It could be better to tap into that be…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:34 PM
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Either or. But I’d say a woman is more likely.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:18 PM
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Jealousy is a real thing. So it is possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:01 PM
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You are confusing RMV with SMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 10:13 AM
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You seem to have a misunderstanding of what average people look like. I probably do. I thought my dad was quite mid, but he apparently is better looking than a lot of actors. That is due to my mom's side looking too good. Her side is where we get models and actors from. But I get mogged by my mom all the time. I was actually contemplating on sharing getting mogged by my mom yesterday in pictures, and being 25+ yrs younger than her.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:33 AM
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Meh. 6 ex/current PPD members have seen my face. Never going to be posted publicly.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:20 AM
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Okay, I see his upturned nose now, but her natural face is not gorgeous.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:18 AM
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https://www.tiktok.com/@savvfayee/video/7278061558129790239?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7369244053625390597 The vid you watched was her maxed out. He looks like a hobo. At their base, they should be close enough. And I am pretty sure I am delusional for both genders but high ones for both.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:06 AM
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I am a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 03:59 AM
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I think they are looksmatched.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 03:51 AM
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The women who chase, I guess. I think they only chase cause they can’t get the men they want to chase them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 02:08 AM
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More work to acquire sex, less opportunities, and possibly not enough SMV to acquire as much sex as he wants without seemingly giving commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 07:41 PM
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I prefer a cat or multiple cats.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 07:31 PM
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Thank you. I am younger than you, but I still am a millennial. My bf and I reconnected after a decade. I think one more commonly chosen option is to expand one’s current social circle, but I think tapping into your past isn’t such a bad idea either. Both my bf and I are genetically blessed and like you’ve said, dating just anyone is easy, but finding someone to have a family with absolutely was not. When I first came to the West, I lived in a small white conservative Christian town. I still have…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 08:19 AM
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No. That’s 100% a fuckboy and an ass. I am uninterested in being a hole, and there are not many guys who are facially clearly better looking than my boyfriend to begin with. He is better looking than most kpop idols.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 05:09 AM
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I think the new dating culture where strangers attempt to date strangers has gotten way too many people jaded. Not only do we not know the character of the person we are dating, but we are also not as inclined to care for them and be decent when they are not a part of our community. I too ended up jaded, and finally understood why my mom gave me the advice she did which was to date someone from school or from work. I consider it to be nearly impossible if not straight up impossible to vet strang…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 04:13 AM
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My parents were arranged with veto powers, and it is the best marriage that I know of. I wasn’t against the idea for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 02:59 AM
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First name, I’m happy with. Asian family names are often very generic. I wish I got my mom’s last name.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 02:56 AM
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I’ve had enough positive experiences, but it was plenty discouraging and demoralizing too. I have lived amongst the liberals in the West for over a decade now. I think when people aren’t too jaded, we tend to believe others unless they show signs of inconsistency.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 07:43 PM
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I care about doing things the “proper” way.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 07:27 PM
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Dating as a more conservative woman makes you meet so many hypocrites and weak charactered men by our standards. Upholding virtue has to be done by both parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 06:51 PM
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There could be cases like that, but in my experience, guys most likely believed me in general. Some of the more virtuous guys that I have met seemed rather surprised but told me to save myself (but not with them). They were surprised and impressed. I still think more highly of them for wanting to protect a woman’s virginity. They might have been not as neurotic with me as I am considered very desirable otherwise. No one thinks it would be difficult for me to secure commitment with my superficial…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 06:45 PM
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https://youtu.be/g4tqMZIaQIs?si=jSZFrI1hq-tONsLg https://preview.redd.it/17sudlz04edd1.png?width=546&format=png&auto=webp&s=a1ec32fc4766f42040dc3f38accf08669225a3cf I had ChatGPT summarize the video. I have always thought facial attractiveness was more important, and this seems to be true for women. I think being at a good weight for men is going to be important even more if he has excessive facial fat that detracts from the sharp masculine features he could potentially have. Overall, I think we…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 03:33 AM
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I get weirded out by Owned by POC tags. Please act normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 02:14 AM
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I think a celibate woman is the closest female equivalent of a beta nice guy in the West. Celibate women are oftentimes the last one men would choose if they had to stay celibate with her unless they are planning to settle down soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 02:12 AM
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https://youtube.com/shorts/Obud1R6RLBs?si=GC-EyxZfZEo1GyfM
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 07:49 PM
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Yeah older than my parents too. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 07:27 PM
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There is no way of actually knowing even if he says those words. I was taught to only have sex when I can be responsible for a child and only with a man I would want to raise a family with. And if a guy truly wants me, he would wait as long as I need. Speaking from experience, what she said ended up being true, but probably is much harder to pull off now especially in the West than it was for her in the sex negative East. Having enough perceived RMV to pull this off is a challenge when having se…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 05:46 AM
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I used to lean more left fiscally. Not anymore. Also my views on religion have changed quite a bit. I can accept when I have been wrong, and change myself according to new things I’ve learned.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 12:58 AM
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I knew when she said she likes it and is more compelled to date the guy when she gets told she is hot on the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 09:49 PM
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Say it in my dm. I am curious now.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 08:59 PM
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How. Why.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 08:35 PM
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Even when my mom worked in fashion, knows more about brands than me still, and I like to wake her up when I am shopping on the other side of the world, I still feel weirded out when she compliments me on my new hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 07:24 PM
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Based.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 07:18 PM
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No idea what that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:08 PM
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Anyone who my family brings me would be better than the guys on the list probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:07 PM
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I am an East Asian dating another East Asian that is from a different country, and my family is not fond of it at all. They want me to find a new guy who’s also from my home country. I am unsure if my family members will ever truly accept him. Some might, many won’t. I am keeping him from the outwardly rude family members as much as possible though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 05:34 PM
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I believe the semantics of whether you are a volcel or an incel matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 09:08 AM
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My mom and my dad had their personal rooms and a shared bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 01:28 AM
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I think the range of orange-bright red can be dependent on the woman and also on the age of the virgin man. But a teen boy is just absolutely nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 01:19 AM
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I think people more often view this as a chicken or the egg problem when I don't as much. So people here often say virginity is unattractive. I think the reason why people may view virginity in a negative light is often because there is an assumption of an undesirable trait that has lead to him being a virgin, rather than just the virginity/lack of experience being unattractive. I hope I am making sense. That's probably why virginity becomes way more of an orange flag the older you get. Virgins …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 12:08 AM
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No, we are actually giving hoes an out to prove that they are at least having children of one men. Instead, they could be left at the bottom of the barrel or as spinsters if they raise uncertainty, and the uncertainty alarms too many men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 08:24 PM
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My boyfriend’s friend group has been the opposite. They have been praising my boyfriend for his weight loss and how much better he looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:26 PM
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I oppose it cause I am even more sex negative than most people here. Uncertain paternity is a consequence of choosing a hoe. Men should also bear the burden of vetting, so that the social contract of non-promiscuity is better maintained. Allow easy women to exist more easily? Then they deserve the uncertainty and the uncomfortable conversations for paternity testing. Just because a hoe keeps popping out children from just one man won’t make the society as non-promiscuous as I want it to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:18 PM
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I try to go beyond identity politics so I vote right. I choose the policies that I agree with more. Politics generally is a turnoff when you hear people bring in such discriminatory narratives.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:22 PM
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I showed my bf a similar question and asked who I should pick, and he told me to just pick him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:18 PM
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My bf says it was dudes in uni that made the most deal out of his virginity, then nobody cared. But he is physically attractive to the point that women would never think he was too undesirable to lose his virginity.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:52 PM
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My bf’s facial fat dropped quite a bit way before he hit fitness BF% range. He still is in the average range.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:38 PM
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My culture’s men have severe inferiority complex over competency. But other than that, I’d say women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:07 PM
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It depends on the insecurity I’d say.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:01 PM
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I was emotionally invested but it only lasted for a few months that it is weird to call it a LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 09:01 AM
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Thank you, Badger. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 07:28 AM
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Eh. We are going back to one of our home countries. We decided that we want to start our life together in Asia. It isn’t necessarily out of luxury. We just want to return back to our roots and raise our kids there.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 07:28 AM
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Really odd way to respond nevertheless.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:37 AM
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Why even ask then? I just told you what it is like in my culture cause you asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:34 AM
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Yeah exactly. We don’t like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:32 AM
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Yeah they are not East Asians. East Asians are anti-facial hair in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:30 AM
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Observe the lack of facial hair. https://mydramalist.com/list/3rWQewA4 https://www.ranker.com/list/hot-korean-male-actors/taylor-park https://mydramalist.com/list/3rWQew04
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:21 AM
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Gotta decide on how we are going to settle down in which country first.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:28 AM
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Dang, another marriage of my bf's and my hs friend. We are getting old. Also, when we went out together today, someone thought we were married. We really must be getting old.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:24 AM
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He is once vaccinated and understands where I come from at least. Our compatibility is high otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:39 AM
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Ask East Asians. I think it would be pretty safe to say that East Asian women in general are anti-facial hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:36 AM
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More women are liberal and are “empathetic”.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:07 AM
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Yeah I’d give up on that unless you are willing to move to a low v rate area. I had to drop that preference for my bf.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:05 AM
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East Asian here. And I am pretty sure. I just asked my mom too and she said women don’t like it. My boyfriend said most likely. He got a lot of shit from his mom and his grandma when he was not clean shaven.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:24 AM
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Reading this, I was thinking that we could win this thing. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:09 AM
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Neurotypical
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:07 AM
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Degenerate and insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:05 AM
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I too think it is about your defense mechanism getting too strong. I said here a couple times, that I am too jaded to give most people the benefit of the doubt, and I would have been screwed if I had not reunited with my boyfriend. Without the ability to give the benefit of the doubt, I think we are unable to be vulnerable and be in love. And yeah, staying celibate doesn't mean you are safe from this.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:36 PM
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Giving infinite excuses for why they can't when someone else already have achieved it. And when they chase guys that clearly don't want them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:17 PM
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Clean shaven. I am too Asian for beards. We consider beards to be unkempt and unprofessional and companies expect employees to be clean shaven too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:15 PM
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Humans are humans in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:01 PM
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Depends. I have extreme standards for food and would voice myself when I am displeased. This does not apply only to dates but when I hang out with my friends too. Other than that, not much. When I told my best friend that I was going to wear makeup in a couple months, she asked me whether I was getting married. But then again, I have been going to a celebrity hairstylist for over a decade. He is not amused cause I make him work so hard only to have me always have it in a ponytail though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 07:53 PM
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I kinda think it is when you don't have a developed defense mechanism and are in a naive state.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 07:45 PM
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I think irrationality comes with those love goggles and people in general are not insightful enough at the time they experience their first love. It would be the best if people are insightful enough at the time they experience their first love.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 07:21 PM
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But I haven’t even had sex. It isn’t necessarily body count. It is past emotionally committed dating experiences too imo. So good luck finding your weirdo if you are hellbent on finding one.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 07:12 PM
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We are both outliers. We are millennials and my boyfriend is at 0 ex 0 sexual partner and I am at 2.5 and 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 07:01 PM
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I know. I try my best to be good to him though. I don’t want him to hurt and end up losing those goggles. I want his world to stay beautiful.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 06:07 PM
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I don’t think it is necessarily body count. Even if you stay celibate while dating, I think it is possible to damage one’s bonding abilities and the number differs for each person. I am definitely more cold and distant than I used to be. I am my boyfriend’s first love and he has that first love goggles for me which I lost. I don’t necessarily think keeping the first love goggles is the best thing as it makes one too dumb in relationships, but it still is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 05:10 PM
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Don’t overthink it. If you like him, you like him. If you don’t, you don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 04:19 PM
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Think you were trying to respond to CompetitiveTennis.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 04:18 PM
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If wars are justified, it was justified. Nanjing massacre was no joke either.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 03:51 PM
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There still is intrasexual competition. You know when you have some else prettier than you. Plus, I don’t think Chads have to dumpster dive that low.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 10:40 AM
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I keep explaining things to you but you are denying the desires of people along with how supply and demand work. You are stuck in your own world view. Celibate women unless they have access to sex negative communities, they severely got screwed over in prisoner’s dilemma. If other women date across or up while offering sex, who would celibate women be getting? Not everyone can date up realistically, and the vast majority of men want access to sex. If you still don’t get it, just be stuck where y…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 10:02 AM
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Since when is 10 yr age gap slightly older? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:44 AM
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I agree with ThatLeval for the most part. Yes, it is lying, but it is for the sake of fitting in. I don’t actually believe the 3s think they are 8s cause they got called 8s.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 06:30 AM
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In your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 06:01 AM
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That’s what you believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 06:00 AM
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Than undesirable men? No. Than normies? Yes. Being out of the norm will have subsequent consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 05:21 AM
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Only in your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 05:11 AM
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STR favors women. Celibate women failed game theory in sexually liberated West.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 04:46 AM
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Disagree. There are branches of feminism, and egalitarianism is just one branch of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 01:00 AM
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fit men* apparently your comment had me confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 12:24 AM
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I think most men are able to acquire sex within relationships, but aren't able to have casual sex. You might want to ask him for his sources though, cause I am too lazy to really confirm. I wish I knew where the comment he is referring to is so I could confirm more easily. I am unsure if there are more religiously voluntarily celibate men than women. The men could very well be disenfranchised and didn't have the opportunity rather than actively engaging with one's principles. I am rather pessimi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 12:22 AM
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I think you could be limiting your observation pool to men who at least pass Rule #2. I think women could date below their looksmatch but only if the men pass Rule #2. I think men also choose women aren't necessarily the best looking woman they could be with, but only when the woman passes Rule #2. There most definitely is a looksbar, and I don't believe it is inclusive of 80% of the population for either gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 11:22 PM
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My mom's best friend's nephew was actually a very decent guy. I am not at all against meeting through parents. If you believe in her ability to vet, why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 11:11 PM
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Nah, sex is normalized enough that it actually deflates celibate women's value compared to the market norm, and normal men want sex enough that it can't inflate one's value in any normal sense. You are delusional if you think normal men would choose to forego sex until marriage when they could be having sex. Normal men don't want whores, but they don't want to wait forever either. I believe volcel men are more rare than volcel women that if the women want a man with the same beliefs and principl…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 11:07 PM
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So you have to differentiate between STR and LTR. Yes, women relying on sex to boost their SMV works very well in STR situations. But sex within relationships has been normalized enough to the point that it is an expectation in LTRs as well, and women who decide to stay celibate until marriage are often disregarded from the market. Easy women are able to inflate their values for STR, while celibate women deflate their values cause they are not doing what's normal nor what's commonly desired for …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 09:30 PM
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You really underestimate the West's degeneracy and its hedonistic drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 09:04 PM
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I am aware. It is very true within a sex negative culture. Not so much when men are driven by sex and would not choose to forego sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 09:01 PM
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You have to understand that the vast majority of men don’t even have the option to have casual hookups so by definition if a guy wants that from a woman then he is very desirable. Most western men do expect sex within a relationship however, and most do seem to manage to get sex within a relationship, not casual sex. This old comment resonated with me a lot. I safely land within the top 5% of looks, and was popular in school back when everyone wasn't expecting to have sex with me. I nuked my own…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 08:37 PM
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Dentists are failed doctors in my home country. Pharmacists are pharmacists.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 11:21 AM
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Wow. Hope you have fun. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 11:19 AM
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Not necessarily. A man will wait as long as a woman needs him to if he loves her and values her more than his pleasure. It only happens if he is not hedonistic though ime, cause one’s pleasure takes priority in the West too often due to its hedonistic culture and normalization of degeneracy. My boyfriend who would wait until marriage with me really is more attractive than most western men who would not even consider getting into a relationship without sex. He is an East Asian who gets cold appro…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 11:00 AM
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Until someone says no average or above average guy would wait for months to have sex or she isn’t attracted to him and stuff like that. Hedonism and degeneracy has gotten to too many people.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 09:00 AM
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I am lucky that I am from a sex negative culture in that sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 08:51 AM
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It is not that I don’t agree it is heaps better than having no options at all. I just think it is stupid to try to date strangers in the first place. And yeah, those women got lucky if they got what they thought they were getting. My dad said marriage is a gamble and my mom said to only date men from either school or work, cause I need to observe the person in various situations in the wild to actually know the person enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 06:57 AM
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This is what I changed my mind on not too long ago actually due to my own mom. I was surprised and disturbed to know that my mom likes the looks of much younger Asian actors, and told me that men her age are too old to be eye candies. Then I continued to observe older women admiring much younger men's beauty. I genuinely thought we continued to be attracted to our own age group probably because my peers are not deteriorating yet, but now I think deterioration plays a part after observing older l…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 05:25 AM
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I actually never say that on PPD. Rule #2 almost always apply imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 05:22 AM
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The ones you are talking to or observing might not be old enough yet to have deteriorating peers or they could be virtue signaling, who knows? Deteriorating is not a good look.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 04:32 AM
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The women who choose to weed out strangers either have to be naive enough to think she can read minds and is all knowing like God or believe in extreme luck. Either way, it is prime stupidity. I don’t believe it is within the vast majority of people’s capabilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 04:23 AM
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The order of importance imo Not being actually short > being facially attractive > Being tall
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 03:40 AM
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I would honestly advise women to stop attempting to vet strangers and stick to men they already know very well if they don't want to waste their time or fail at vetting.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 03:28 AM
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Physically attractive? I doubt it. Masculine and dependable? More likely. I also think there could be a higher ratio of men who want casual sex than women. Women when focusing on relationships would go more for compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 02:54 AM
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The Asian guy looks perfectly normal. He actually look better than bottom middle.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 02:10 AM
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I get your point, but weeding out time wasters takes effort and time that you eventually give up trying to date strangers and realize it is smarter to stick to men you actually know very well.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 11:50 PM
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Men have to care about BF% more than BMI to actually have an attractive body.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 11:02 PM
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I think out of school dating is MUCH harder for many cause you lose your forced social circle with tons of people. Picking your battleground or your own market to your advantage is always going to be important. Having problems communicating and being socially active will limit one’s access no matter what. If one is asocial, one most likely needs to fix it, and it should not be normalized. And I see OLD as mostly leftover market.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 10:13 PM
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Ish but probably not in the way you are thinking. Who do these men have access to and who do the women they desire have access to? Different marketplaces will have different standards, and I find it less realistic to combine all sexual marketplace into one. I more often than not have stayed in limited and/or niche markets, so the standards were different.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:59 PM
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I understand, but what actually matters in practice is relative attractiveness within who people have reasonable access to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:50 PM
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Nice! I just ordered my first set of extensions so I am pretty excited myself. It will be interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:47 PM
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I think it depends heavily on your surroundings and who everyone else has access to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:38 PM
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I thought men just mindlessly swipe on these women without looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:55 PM
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You really didn’t try after a while. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:01 AM
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Depends on what you value. I believe practicing decency has helped me keep decent people around. Also, facing hardships while practicing virtue gives you a better idea of who’s virtuous and who’s not. It is mostly only helpful in deciding who to keep around you in your personal life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:00 AM
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Women are fatter statistically, but the statistical difference is quite small especially compared to the ratio of fat men to fat women on the streets we see.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 01:21 AM
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Makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 01:00 AM
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Having virtuous parents helps the children a lot in forming their own values.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 12:54 AM
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I asked my bf why we see more fat women on the streets than fat men. He thinks it is because many fat men never go outside. So women get fat by going out and eating and drinking crap, while men get fat by not going out according to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 12:52 AM
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My mom was cherished by my dad til death did them part. You have to choose well, and make sure you are not mainly valued for your beauty and your youth, but he deems you valuable and irreplaceable for some other reason. You of course have to have traits to be valued like that to that degree however.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 12:15 AM
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Choose someone who is more transparent and knows he needs to make you feel special and safe, and ideally someone you know already to be extra safe. I have a lot more experience than my boyfriend, and we both know that. He said, my past is alright but he wants to feel special enough that he never gets jealous or wonders. I think that’s understandable for my less experienced bf to desire. And it probably would be better to choose someone who has been out of a relationship for a while and is quite …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 10:22 PM
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Based. As a naturally disagreeable person, that’s the only way to keep your people. Anyone who is disagreeable for the sake of being disagreeable don’t get to keep people.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 10:10 PM
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I feel you lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 10:03 PM
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Yes and yes. He likes it when I pat him, touch his face or compliment him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 09:54 PM
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Yeah cause they stay in relationships and are rarely single.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 09:45 PM
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East Asian Confucianism.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 09:42 PM
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Same answer as Ange above but for cultural reasons. I come from a traditionally sex negative culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 09:39 PM
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I like this idea better.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 10:21 AM
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Not you. The ones who think they hinted or don't tell you straight up then get their feelings hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 11:37 PM
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I actually sometimes feel bad for men cause they often have to date women like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 11:35 PM
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If she comes from generational wealth, rich guys marry pretty women and have better looking children and so on.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 11:01 PM
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If he thinks the girl is “the one”, he does. If he doesn’t simp, he simply doesn’t value you much.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:59 PM
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By creating super marriage, you are making marriage into a test run.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 10:07 AM
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https://preview.redd.it/m3ewiila4vbd1.png?width=533&format=png&auto=webp&s=8779cbc4bf37320c5929c6b53d8e7dcfc433da9d The girl in question...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 09:58 AM
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I think at one point in time this was true. But with the divorce rate hovering around 50%, maybe its time we consider some fresh ideas. Treating marriage as a test run is not a good fresh idea though. We need to teach kids how to vet better.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 09:50 AM
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Marriage is supposed to be the highest form of commitment WITH SUCH VOWS. Choose someone who would honor marriage and their vows to begin with. This is nonsense. If you can’t trust the vows coming out of his mouth, you should not be getting married to him in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 09:18 AM
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That’s what marriage is already unless you are a degenerate and/or pick a degenerate. It is already the highest form of commitment for those who treat it as such. There’s no need for a dumb tattoo or two wedding bands or another engagement ring and a whole another wedding.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 09:08 AM
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What’s the point of all this? Just get married to someone who believes in til death do us part, and thinks of marriage the same way as you do. I don’t know what people are smoking, but marriage is supposed to be the highest level of commitment already with the person that you would give such commitment to. Vetting should be done before marriage, not after marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 09:02 AM
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And as mentioned before it doesn't seem like a lot of these famous beautiful women prioritize looks in their men anyway. As I often say here, I think rule #2 almost always applies, but rule #1 usually applies to casual settings. Rule #2 plus charm are superior.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:41 AM
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Yeah, I think track record matters too. Regardless, very impressive of Pete Davidson.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:10 AM
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Nobody looks significantly better standing next to one another and look up Kim Kardashian without makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 12:54 AM
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I think it is due to relative perceived beauty. The Kardashians are "considered" to be beautiful, while Davidson is not "considered" to be handsome. I think they are more or less looksmatched though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 12:47 AM
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I think how you and I feel should have been the way feminism stayed/developed. But virtue and masculinity are also on the decline for traditional gender roles to be sustained.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 12:33 AM
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My friend used a fake name at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 11:34 PM
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I think his face looks pretty average. I think it is his height that gives him the boost with women maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 11:31 PM
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My impression of all or most feminism is that they view these characteristics and resulting personality traits as the result of socialization more than biology. I am a feminist that believes in nature. I think maybe 10% of men are naturally feminine and around 5% of women are naturally masculine enough to the point that they actually want opposite roles, and this happens to be on a spectrum. I believe ideally, people would be able to make their own decisions and are able to choose and follow thr…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 11:21 PM
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He isn't that controlling thankfully, and I will die a virgin if I tried to please everyone in my family. Only my parents get to actually veto. I am just disappointed in him, that's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 02:12 PM
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I used to raise my eyebrows sometimes when listening to JBP, cause his understanding of traditionalism is too surface level to be speaking with such confidence. He is right on some things for sure, but certainly not all. We need no more proof than how his own daughter turned out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 01:27 PM
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They sure won't get as much validation from grandpa.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 01:14 PM
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My grandpa thinks I "grew up right", cause I was taught to act proper in a traditional sense. I act proper to the point that my boyfriend's mom said she is relieved my boyfriend found a mature-minded girl who knows virtues of Eastern society which are politeness, tradition and understanding propriety after meeting me for the first time, but wants me to be less formal with her. My boyfriend and I chose each other because we both know to put family first before ourselves among other things. Neithe…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 01:13 PM
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I dunno. My brain has been corrupted by the West. /s Is it because they want to keep their lineage 100% X ethnicity? Partly? I think all East Asian cultures think one's own culture is superior over the others for some dumb reason or just the competition and historical conflicts between the countries breed irrationality. Hafus are discriminated against quite a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 12:45 PM
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Everyone at the dinner were born in the 90's.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 12:33 PM
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My grandpa thinks I am the only one who was raised right among all his grandchildren, and yet he doesn't think most other kids would be like his other grandchildren whom he doesn't think "grew up right". He has no idea how difficult it was for me to find someone who also "grew up right".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 12:17 PM
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Do you think you would have guessed if your guy friend didn't say anything beforehand?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 12:07 PM
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I heard bodycount in the wild when I was at dinner last night.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 12:06 PM
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Oh my grandpa wants me to find a new guy who is from my country instead. Being from a different country is enough to look for someone else apparently nulling all my bf's positive qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 12:03 PM
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What made you think it was him?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 11:50 AM
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He is. I have seen the pic before elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 11:12 AM
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Ugh apparently my grandpa wants me to look for a guy from my home country, and another fellow East Asian is good enough for him. Knew this would happen with my dad’s side, but not my mom’s side too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 10:59 AM
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19-21 BF% ;) 12-15 BF% Somewhere in between athlete and fitness for both I guess. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:33 AM
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I think all mediocre people are like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 03:24 PM
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You don't know if that's what's required to get a girl. Tbh, even if a guy did all that, he may get no girl at all. My boyfriend's lil bro just turned 16, and he gets horrible haircuts done by his own mom and wears normal shoes and still has a lot of girls who are into him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:43 AM
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Same with my East Asian friends. My boyfriend’s group is a bit more diverse, but they too usually date within their ethnicity.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 11:16 PM
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Not for the men in my home country. Our beauty standards are just eurocentric.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 10:48 PM
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The guy above has the balls to post his BF%. ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 09:50 PM
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My menstrual cramps somehow got so much better with keto. My energy crash issue got much better with caring about blood sugar spikes. But general mental clarity and general energy level seems to have improved when I started drinking my green juice. I could have been deficient in some nutrients before. Btw you might want to look into intermittent fasting if you aren’t doing it already.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 09:11 PM
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Yeah but you’d have to be valued for some non-superficial reason too in the first place. I would not leave my boyfriend for Hayato Sumino.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 12:50 AM
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Yeah, 17 BMI and below healthy personality too, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 09:19 PM
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I got curious myself so I asked ChatGPT, and quite a few popped up.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 08:21 PM
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Nah, in your case, they just look bad to you, and you are only trying to justify your attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 07:48 PM
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Do you live in a conservative area with maybe less Asians? I can't imagine young people in liberal cities saying such thing. If you do, get out of there. I know racism towards Asians exist, but people usually try to at least hide it in liberal cities. Anyway, Asians who like to date other Asians mostly date within their own communities. I don't think I have seen anyone dating outside of their social circle tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 07:36 PM
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I've been told by women they would date me if I wasn't brown and that I would be attractive if I was a white guy with the 'same features' but with white skin. Are you sure? Cause most women try to be so politically correct and virtue signaling that I doubt they would actually say those words. If you are able to immerse yourself into Asian communities, you might have better luck there. Asian communities in the West probably is one of the last standing organic dating market as the community is sma…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 07:13 PM
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The way you are attempting to like someone is pretty much the same imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 06:16 PM
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Idk how that is any better than getting an arranged marriage tbh. I would choose arranged marriage over OLD any day. Trying to interview someone and muster up feelings for a stranger is basically arranged marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 06:02 PM
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My mom said my boyfriend is like a daughter she never had.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 06:22 AM
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Skinny Asian women aren't 19-21 BMI.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 03:43 AM
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Looking at my parents created my type. My ability to vet people developed over time, but my type has stayed relatively the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 03:30 AM
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I am basically mini dad. We are very similar in personality. He is my role model, and I inherited most of my values from him. I even wanted to find a spouse like my mom, cause I've always thought she was the perfect partner for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 03:19 AM
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You mean in physical aspects or?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 02:59 AM
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Haha. Thanks Hannah. I think I try to be a person that a kid would be lucky to have as a dad. I think you try to be a person a kid would be lucky to have as a mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 02:53 AM
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I’ve lived for too long in the West. My mom corrected me when I called someone overweight that the person is actually obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 02:34 AM
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I actually had a nightmare about my boyfriend losing his hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 12:13 AM
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It is not that difficult to find men good looking enough. If she can only afford one for hookups, she can afford another for hookups. If she can afford one for relationships, it is not that hard to find another for relationships. Sanity gets rarer as we enter the leftover market however.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 10:28 PM
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98.33% masculine and 40% feminine. I am in the masculine box. No autism here but definitely was a tomboy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 01:00 AM
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I think the ones with public instagram have it for the external validation, not to look for a partner. Attention/validation wh*re is who he is trying to date to begin with. No sane person should have a public personal instagram page. It is naive to think that she would stop chasing such validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 10:09 PM
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Does she not eat other people’s food and her own? I am the worst critic when it comes to food including my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 01:24 PM
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I am not denying how blacks and hispanics age. Like I’ve said, I just used one example. Lifestyle and diet decisions affect people, but we are still born with different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 11:28 AM
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Asians were used as one example to disprove your claim as only one case is needed to disprove a statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 11:15 AM
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Nah Asians actually have thicker dermis layers and higher levels of collagen in skin. But it is better to take care of yourself regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 11:08 AM
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This is a lie. I will use my blanket, kick it away. Pull my mom's blanket to use for myself, and kick it away so no one ends up with any blanket at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 12:33 AM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/1du44aq/comment/lbio164/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3 Not sure how true this is but fascinating still.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 12:09 AM
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Misanthropic, yes. Misandry, never tried.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 11:52 PM
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People in relationships are able be in relationships, because they have reasonable expectations and know where they stand in terms of their own desirability?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 10:55 PM
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I think sex should only be had when you can be responsible for a child and only with a person you are sure you want to have a family with. I was conceived when my parents were using a condom.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 10:51 PM
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Most couples around me are scary looksmatched unless one person is a rare enough outlier in attractiveness. Nobody that I know should be in a STR though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 10:09 PM
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I actually have liked a younger guy, but I figured we were in different stages in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 09:38 PM
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The ones who identify as liberals are too different from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 06:26 PM
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I prefer moderates, independents or people who want smaller government. I think I prefer to be a bit more right leaning than my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 06:24 PM
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Yeah, I am never dating a liberal. That’s a hard no.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 06:15 PM
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In Asia trying to get into a good university is very very rough and competitive but once you're in it's smooth sailing, graduating from college and getting a job to set you up for life isn't too bad. Used to be true decades ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 05:46 PM
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No, what he showed was decency. I was the top student in my graduating class. Most kids just did “enough” and let me handle the rest. He actually tried to do as much as he could even when he knew I’d be carrying the project anyway. If he did my homework, that would have been simping. A lot more girls than you think like general decency, not over-the-top I will do ANYTHING FOR YOU gestures.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 03:17 PM
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Rule #1 Be attractive Rule #2 Don’t be unattractive. I think rule #1 is for casual or non-relationship oriented easy mode. Rule #2 should almost always apply imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 09:39 AM
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I still think rule #2 applies in every case. At least with me anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 08:32 AM
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My boyfriend always objects to me doing anything to my hair when he rarely notices what I’ve done to my hair. Don’t cut ittttt. It is so elegaaanntt. My hair grows! I need to cut it once in a while to keep it this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 02:52 AM
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https://preview.redd.it/kgx8ya0x8r9d1.jpeg?width=800&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=00b37fa7543794373cf0a399646239fd451cf831 Too lazy to scroll down further. You should be able to get the idea from this pic though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 06:48 PM
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Formal enough to be able to walk into a restaurant but something that isn’t too weird to wear on a daily basis. Anything revealing is a no. I also dress modestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 06:33 PM
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I fed my cat some hirame sashimi and she is going nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 11:35 PM
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Kill before I get killed is the only option with my clones.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 09:17 PM
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I'd try to work it out if it is something solvable. If you ever plan on getting married, giving up on relationships is a big nono.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 09:38 AM
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Yes, this is partly why I gave formal commitment (introduction to family) to my volcel boyfriend only, and I didn't take forever to do so. I would have accepted someone who has only had sex within very committed relationships and was willing to wait with me too though probably... eventually... Btw, guys on PPD often get mad at me for saying I only care about celibacy that is a clear proof of one's principles. Involuntary circumstances cannot be used as proof to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 01:37 AM
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I gave up too lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 01:00 AM
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I have a best friend that I call my soulmate, another close female friend that I call my wifey and a boyfriend. My wifey is the reason why my boyfriend and I are back together though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 12:56 AM
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I think my culture is sex negative mainly due to Confucianism, not particularly due to religious reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 08:10 PM
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Yup. My boyfriend seems to frequent my reddit profile too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 05:46 PM
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Girls in my family shouldn’t wear revealing clothes either. My cousin and her mother got shamed for my cousin wearing a top that shows cleavage.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 05:36 PM
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Yeah. My boyfriend is a volcel too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 05:20 PM
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Just conservative.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 04:59 PM
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Let me rephrase. I am too sex negative to date normally in the West.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 02:27 PM
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If you are desirable, it is less likely that you’d be seen as a loser. I never thought texting right back was a loser behavior. It just shows that you are that much more interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 02:00 PM
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I’m a bit too conservative and unconventional.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 01:55 PM
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My boyfriend glowed up a lot after starting to date me, so could be from that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 01:33 PM
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I read the title and was instantly confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 08:36 AM
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This is something I did somewhat change my attitude on, but here's another perspective. So I once thought dating was easier for more average people (more so women in specific), because I felt that it would be easier to tell who likes you as a person, rather than your superficial qualities. It is like people being nice to you because you are rich, and wanting nothing to do with you as a person, but will stick around for superficial reasons. Yes, being more attractive and having more options is ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 07:44 PM
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So to answer your comment that got removed, in my culture, expecting beauty is reserved for men who can afford it, not out of void.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 12:00 PM
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My mom and I were discussing whether people around us are looksmatched or not recently actually. We concluded that her social circle consists of successful men and beautiful wives. At least in my culture, if a man is successful, we think it is normal for him to get a pretty wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 11:23 AM
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You said it perfectly.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 04:19 AM
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This might not apply to you in specific, but I think we tend to focus on what's more difficult to obtain. Whatever comes rather easily, we fail to appreciate as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 03:14 AM
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I agree with the 12% on many people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 01:16 AM
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We got along, but we put our relationship last, so the relationship couldn't last. We were both extremely understanding of each other doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 01:15 AM
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Early 20s is weird. Usually when people actually question faith, it happens earlier imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 01:14 AM
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In my culture, older guys can only get young women if they can REALLY pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 01:13 AM
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In my basement
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 10:58 PM
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I too have a more pronounced Adam's apple than fat guys. There can be multiple reasons for women having pronounced Adam's apple but I think my reason and hers could be that we are too low fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 10:55 PM
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I thought you were younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 10:49 PM
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I doubt her BMI is in the 19-21 range though. It is likely that she weighs less.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 09:52 PM
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She blocked someone and he snitched. She didn’t want to unblock.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 06:21 PM
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Yeah I was considering arranged marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 11:12 AM
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Those are complete strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 11:01 AM
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I might have died with multiple cats if I had not gotten back together with someone from my high school days. I hate dating practical strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 10:18 AM
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Meanwhile, I got back together with someone from my high school days. According to your CMV, I basically dated multiple same guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 10:09 AM
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BF% is superior.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 10:00 AM
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Good on you for asking the question while actually having 12% bodyfat.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 09:57 AM
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Once. But I forget what it was about. It was a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 09:30 AM
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I once saw a guy walking down the street who was like two heads taller than everyone else and I was like, "That's freakishly tall." It wasn't attractive, but like looking at some freak of nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 06:19 AM
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I think 6'8 is actually in the weird range. I don't get height fetishists.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 06:14 AM
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That's actually pretty great for you guys. I was sad for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 06:06 AM
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Early? Mid? Late? I have one divorce in my social circle. He is in his early 30's. His wife cheated on him.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 06:01 AM
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Age range?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 05:57 AM
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Demographics matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 11:26 PM
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Yeah, but I don't think it extends as far as you might think. I think more woman like it as long as he isn't your man. It is something they only like in theory. It could also be something women get annoyed with eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 11:10 PM
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Feminine good looking guys have their own market. They are not everyone's cup of tea if they lean too feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 10:52 PM
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She was cute before too, but she did get some work done.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 06:18 PM
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monster lily is a minor.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 07:28 AM
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That's why I am going to name them after my cat.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 05:05 AM
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I was also very fond of him to begin with. I always had a great time with him. You know the type of person who can keep you laughing all the time. He always made my day. And about young guys, my boyfriend claims I am older than him cause I was born 9 months earlier. Lol Anyway, different stage in life plays a big part in dating choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 04:16 AM
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My mom says I have a thing for guys who can cook.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 04:12 AM
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He was actually too young.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 04:05 AM
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I've fallen for this dude once. But he didn't come across as a douche, and had just the perfect mix of game.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 03:38 AM
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It is not like I am malicious or anything. I just don't try hard to be pleasant.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 02:29 AM
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AWALT and AMALT thinking that OP displays is some kind of cognitive impairment.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 01:42 AM
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Think there actually was a survey that showed how much more prevalent it is in such places. I unfortunately was not able to locate it rn.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 01:34 AM
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This is not the general population we are talking about. This is one corner of the internet. I don't throw around the word autism just to insult people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 01:22 AM
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\^
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 01:02 AM
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haha you too?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 01:02 AM
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It really depends on what you value. Some people want to have a family and to grow old with someone. And some manage to stay attracted to each other. My boyfriend has a GIANT age gap with his brother.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 01:01 AM
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My unicorn started with "What does your dad look for in a guy?" on our first date and does not believe in dating just to see where things go. But he probably will sound a bit nuts to most. It is important to be desirable to your target audience.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 12:22 AM
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Unicorns definitely exist, you just have to be seen worthy to the unicorns.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 12:16 AM
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They think being fat is a sign of laziness and lack of discipline.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 11:47 PM
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I tease him a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 11:45 PM
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She was annoying sometimes being that way ngl. But come to think of it, my boyfriend is a total Fluttershy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 10:52 PM
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It is not because I am nice, but I don't care enough to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 10:49 PM
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u/Gladboys agreed that I would be too mean for most PPD guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 10:40 PM
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Gladboys agreed that I would be too mean for most PPD guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 10:40 PM
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I wonder if that's a relatively accurate measure of health of the sperm. How human bodies function is crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 10:17 PM
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My family is fatphobic to the point that they won't hire any fat people and my mom actually very candidly taught me pretty privilege. Their idea of protecting me also probably had to do with ways people could try to use me. But my dad was a devout Christian, and he taught me virtue in the face of adversity.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 10:08 PM
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I assume you are autistic, not necessarily ugly. Black and white thinking without nuance tends to be way more common among autistic people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 09:55 PM
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My family was actually the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 09:33 PM
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I think the female reproductive system actively make an effort to make it challenging for sperms to reach and fertilize an egg.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 09:32 PM
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Judging from my traits, I think openness can be high if one is willing to genuinely listen or consider other possibilities, not necessarily act upon everything. My boyfriend also has High O, and he is similar. I mean, how common is it for a guy to stay a volcel til his age?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 09:30 PM
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Not at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 09:10 PM
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You sound reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 09:07 PM
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I’m high on openness but I haven’t done drugs even when I’ve been to parties with drugs. My traits are High O, High C, High E, Low A, Low N. I think Mid A could be superior generally.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 08:59 PM
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Nah. There is no need for manipulation. He is a natural simp. But he oddly does look better when he is cooking.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 03:45 PM
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I like your interpretation. I read mine as “free labor” before. The result was acts of service.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 03:40 PM
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Yeah I don’t blame their business decision. But there’s unintended consequences on a societal level.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 11:51 AM
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I know of a girl who keeps ending up in bad relationships. She grew up without a father, and her mom did not want her to study and work a minimum wage job from middle school instead, cause it was not like she would become anything. She is treated quite badly in relationships, but she remains with the guys cause they tell her that they love her. She is most likely being used, and she also feels that way sometimes too, but she apparently feels too lonely to not be with those guys. Idk. Her case is…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 11:43 AM
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This is not realistic probably, but music tends to be my kryptonite. I have very high standards for it, and should be even less realistic than becoming a high tier normie. Also, below average probably will be difficult. There were four friends who did music that I was interested in, and two that I did not know personally that I for sure would have gone out with if they had asked me out. They ranged from normie to good looking. I am currently dating the best looking guy among the six, but I would…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 09:22 AM
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Yeah, cause it is a factor why a good portion of women often opt to not have a child. 'I know too much' One 28-year-old woman, who worked in HR, said she'd seen people who were forced to leave their jobs or who were passed over for promotions after taking maternity leave, which had been enough to convince her never to have a baby. It is a rather well known discrimination now. :/ The corporate culture that emphasizes the bottom line no matter the cost really does contribute to the fertility rate.…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 07:09 AM
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I'm like that, and I don't have a problem with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 05:21 AM
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China is relatively feminist due to the cultural revolution. Moreso in big cities than in smaller rural areas though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 04:53 AM
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What kind of freedom are you exactly looking for? I think unless you have kids, it could be alright. Also, no one is going to be perfect, but I think you kinda instinctively know if that's the person you are supposed to end up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 04:48 AM
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I know of a few couples who got married around then even in my generation. I actually think they have the most stable marriages. Not necessarily because they got married early, but they were confident enough in their decisions to make the unusual jump in current culture. None of them had financial concerns however.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 04:14 AM
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I think it is possible to add things to the vetting criteria. If she keeps picking bad partners with the same issues, yeah, she is either mentally challenged or she goes for the bad guys anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 02:59 AM
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I look good enough according to the Asian beauty standards to be occasionally be asked by people if I have had plastic surgery or not. But I have enough flaws that most of them believe me right away when I tell them no. I am basically believably pretty.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 02:55 AM
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Me? I am a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 02:10 AM
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I am pretty sure they do. But the companies really do not like it when men take paternity leave to my knowledge.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 02:01 AM
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I love Changs.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 01:51 AM
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Men and women don't actually have the same employment opportunities there as it makes little sense for the companies to hire female workers. The fact that the company have to partially cover for the maternity leave and the possibility of women leaving the workforce after having children make the companies hire women less. A major bank was found to have a set gender ratio of 8:2 of men and women, and women who were way more qualified than the men were still not getting hired. Unless women are exc…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 01:29 AM
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Whoa not in my family
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 12:17 AM
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It is probably not realistic for most women to desire a 666 man, like it probably isn't very realistic for most men to desire a virgin. Just look at the average age people lose their virginities. Also, some people are required to settle (way) more than others. It probably is helpful to realize where you stand in the dating market, and what is possible for you. This goes for both genders. My mom is one of the older ladies that advised younger women to be realistic and choose the best amongst what…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 12:15 AM
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My cat turns into a fire alarm when she isn't fed.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 08:28 PM
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Dogs and cats are so much easier. They will let you know if you have not fed them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 08:06 PM
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You sound so much like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 05:47 AM
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just an example kinda Yup, I know. I also used it as an example for easier communication. :) i think are already fine if not good Like I've said, it took me a while to somewhat come to peace with this. With having exceptionally conventionally beautiful people (with more eurocentric features than me) in the family, it just hurt as a kid. Even now, being perceived as the clear uglier one than the boyfriend will be very bad for my ego. Such things can really get to you. I guess it is comparable to …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 03:03 AM
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lack of morality
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 02:06 AM
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I think there was a misunderstanding in what we were using as our standard. When I said deviation from the generic beautiful face, it is not deviation from the average combined face that looks attractive, but from the most beautiful face according to our beauty standards after the (eurocentric) deviations. kpop girl with the largest eyes or something So this would be my standard, while being your deviated more attractive face. so I would hold on to your bf Haha, he is the only guy who has formal…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 02:02 AM
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it depends on the culture or location how those deviations are viewed I think this is the most fascinating part. To clarify, my boyfriend and I don't deviate form the generic beauty in the most attractive way possible, and I think we deviated in a way that the deviations are viewed more favorably in the West. Our overall features are still reasonably harmonious. I also think in our culture, we put a lot of importance on conforming to the beauty standards that we describe the deviations as "not t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 11:29 PM
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Think I am more like Twilight Sparkle, but I like the aesthetics of Rarity.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 10:45 PM
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Cha Seung Won just has a more unique face that deviates from the generic looking handsome actors. He most definitely is good looking. I think we care a lot more about hitting the generic beautiful face perfectly, and it messed with my head for a long time. Those journal entries are irrelevant irl anyway, cause non-generic ones will also stand out among the normies. The most beautiful faced male kpop star should now be Cha Eun Woo. He gets all the good looking male lead roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 10:41 PM
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I hate paper straws so much that I buy my own plastic straws and keep them handy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 09:54 PM
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Or eurocentric features in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 09:49 PM
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Btw East Asian beauty standards are very set in stone, so a lot of women are going to look similar in the industry. The latter one actually has a more unique look in the industry.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 09:46 PM
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We are both somewhat mixed. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 09:06 PM
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Okay, now that you've looked them up, I am deleting the above comment. My boyfriend looks a bit more feminine than him imo. His mom is very pretty, and he looks almost exactly like his mom. He has a trendy desirable face.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 09:01 PM
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I personally think the closest lookalike in terms of features is Hwang Seung Eon without the weird ears, but I like my face better than hers. My friends say I look similar to Han So Hee, but I like her face better than mine. I feel that her face is better balanced and hit all the right marks of the trending face right now. My boyfriend looks somewhat similar to young Cha Seung Won but has a weaker jaw and a longer chin. Before I found him, I thought my boyfriend's vibes were like Lee Dong Wook's…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 08:44 PM
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Eh I grew up with always comparing my looks to my mom's and also being compared to my mom's in Asia, so I just already know it is very unpleasant to feel ugly. My boyfriend is quite good looking, and you have no idea how relieved I felt when people around him responded positively to my looks. I know it sounds silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 08:23 PM
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and I would not touch them with a ten foot pole. Feeling ugly in my family was more than enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 08:07 PM
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It isn’t really about him being tempted for me. My ego is too fragile to be the ugly one.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 08:03 PM
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I agree, and it is why it is important to be good enough to be pursued by guys who historically have had those options but never exercised those options. There was a guy yesterday who was saying no desirable man would want to stay loyal to one woman too. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 06:02 AM
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I was talking about the outliers due to frame size, and regardless of one's height, there can exist these outliers. You are the one who wanted to claim that small frame just means short. I gave you a counter example. Then you wanted to talk about all the other things to throw off your original point. There's no point in talking to you, since you just want to talk about what you want to talk about.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 05:51 AM
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Read. It is significant enough for the Asian population and even within Asians, there exist outliers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 05:35 AM
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Oh my aunts can yell and did use corporal punishment. I never hit them. I don't know what I ever did to them. I might have yelled idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 05:33 AM
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Well if you have already said it about another girl...lol But yeah, guys know immediately if they want an actual relationship with a girl or not imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 05:21 AM
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My cousins don't fear their parents, but fear me for a reason. When the aunts and uncles asked my cousins who's the scariest one in the family, they all said me. But they adore me too for some reason. I don't get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 05:19 AM
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Tbh, when I was younger I got an ick from a guy doing his eyebrows. I grew up in a small conservative Christian town that called a lot of things gay. Now I am fine with it along with men doing skincare. My boyfriend uses a few La Mer products and I absolutely love watching him cook.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 05:16 AM
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My dad told my grandma after meeting my mom for the first time that my mom is the one he wants to marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 05:12 AM
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You need to start early imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 05:10 AM
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Since BMI is the same calculation for men and women, 5'8" is still slightly shorter than average. If you actually combine men and women, 5'6" would be the average, not 5'8". BMI also happens to be a range for a reason albeit there are outliers. And bone mass and frame size significantly affects the East Asian population's BMI. https://preview.redd.it/s3fvrdtd228d1.png?width=544&format=png&auto=webp&s=e92be8a7e4224a03c894c5ed3bc207959aa00d8a
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 05:09 AM
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claiming 5'8 is shorter than average even for a woman to claim that the bmi scale is wrong fat acceptance is a disease.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 03:57 AM
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If I had to guess, the people giving you backlash weren’t slim. Probably. And I think it should be normalized to want to look the best for your partner. And it is actually so satisfying to see your partner dumbfounded. Why would you ever want to lose that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 03:37 AM
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Once you are out of high school and don't make new friends, sorta. My boyfriend's lil bro is soon turning 16 and will be a junior in September, and him and a lot of his friends seem to be much better adjusted than I thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 03:23 AM
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Just being severely under muscled doesn't get you to that point. Stop trying to strawman. Small framed people of all heights exist. Period. It is hilarious how people try to push fat acceptance to make themselves better. No! BMI scale is wrong! Unless you are somehow an outlier, the range BMI gives should apply to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 02:40 AM
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Ugh now I remember the instance where a couple guys were insisting my dad is cheating on my mom cause my dad was very accomplished. I kept telling them that he is a man of virtue and is loyal to my mom, but it never got through to them. It was so disrespectful. The projection was really telling.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 12:29 AM
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Not AMALT but what you've described definitely happens. I've seen a few cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 11:45 PM
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No, there are bigger built women and smaller built women even with the same height, and not short women with small frame especially among Asians. Look up some Asian celebrities who tend to be small framed. Wonyoung is 5’8” at 104 lbs. Her BMI is 15.7.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 11:29 PM
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It is more my frame. My frame is small even for an East Asian. And my bones are naturally thin as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 11:16 PM
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Below 17 with 19-21 BF%. I try to fit the Asian beauty standards. So what's yours?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 10:42 PM
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I feel you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 09:34 PM
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I once got backlash for saying my boyfriend isn't allowed to get fat (and I would never get fat myself). Getting old together is beautiful, not getting fat together.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 09:22 PM
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- Is openminded enough to genuinely listen to others and change his mind. I do the same, and it is one of the qualities people close to me value the most about me including my boyfriend. - Is mature. He is considerate of others, takes accountability (always finds faults in oneself before blaming the circumstances or others), is grateful, has perseverance, is responsible, and is mentally stable enough to not negatively impact other people. - Is self-aware. - Is trustworthy. - Is extremely family-…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 09:10 PM
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I think he could once have been fat, and then lost weight without putting on muscle.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 08:19 PM
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Unacceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 07:53 PM
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Get a self watering pot. I actually have basil doesn’t die only after a month now.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 07:43 PM
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I think there’s 1:2 ratio of masculine enough to desire a more feminine man as a women to feminine men, but the number is brought down even more with how much money they actually make to not take too much of a hit financially if only one person worked.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 07:39 PM
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Big city boys are very often liberal though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 07:35 PM
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I lost my baby fat, and I think I look better without.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 07:30 PM
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Depends on how well rounded you were to begin with tbh. I was an absolute nightmare to date until I figured some things out. Dating experiences nudged me to be better. It doesn’t necessarily mean you will learn, but you’ve had more opportunities to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 11:56 AM
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Hope this comment thread is old enough that it doesn't get seen by too many people. People usually don't respond too well to these things. I said here that I'm believably pretty, not unbelievably pretty. I have family members who are unbelievably pretty who look gorgeous in every angle and in every photo without any retouching. Some modeled, and a couple were better looking than the top actors/actresses of the generation. Asian beauty standards are harsh, but I have many family members who fit t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 09:21 AM
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follow your intuition It would not surprise me if women who ask such questions have very bad intuition. I did not go by intuition much either. My mom gave very easy to follow dating advice and I too developed my own list of traits to look for.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 08:28 AM
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Haha I'm quite nice to people especially in chat I think. I am an odd mankind hating people person. But yeah, what you write on PPD is cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 08:26 AM
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He may not smash another girl That exactly should be what's enforced by law, cause that should be the bare minimum. "Even if we fall out of love, we will remain together" is what I wrote in the first comment. The important part is one's duty to the family, not one's self-centered pursuit of happiness. I speak of the importance of becoming THE GIRL that men can't ever forget. If a woman can't get a man to be down bad for her, it is less likely that she would be cherished for life. I basically lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 05:02 AM
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he has no choice the very opposite. You just don't believe there could be family oriented men with restraint. They exist. They are just rare and you have to be worthy enough to be considered a unicorn to them yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 03:52 AM
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Unless women cheat with other women, it will be the same ratio of men and women. Since the men who can cheat according to you will be in jail. What a brainrot lol My boyfriend is a good looking volcel. Past actions tend to be a very good indicator of who they are, and isn't that why we avoid hedonistic degenerates? Yes, he does get cold approached by women yet he does not believe in casual sex nor does he believe in going on dates lightly just to see where things go. He is even weirder than me t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 03:33 AM
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Both the women and the men involved in the infidelity went to jail. It was 1:1. Extramarital partner and the one who cheated in marriage were sent to jail, not just one. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 02:53 AM
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I think the right thing to do is to put people into jail for endangering families, and there are a lot of conservative people in my country who still think the same. You return to the family you came from with the child if that happens in my home country.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 02:45 AM
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Kids also need to learn there are consequences of your actions and infidelity will not be tolerated under any circumstances. It was even a jailable offence in my country until things turned to shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 02:38 AM
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physically, uh they’re both black? lol I almost said they are both Asian.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:55 AM
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I grew up with my dad always cherishing my mom, and would always have her best interests at heart. I think he was one of the most virtuous people I will ever know. In that sense, my boyfriend is exactly like my dad. I believe there isn't going to be another man who would forever be able to treat me as well as he does and never change. It is something I learned from my parents' relationship that I decided was the most important factor when choosing a life partner. I am very much like my own dad, …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:50 AM
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Get desirable enough that you can go for men who already have those options, but still won't exercise them. They are not that common, so you need to be desirable enough to have your pick of the litter.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 11:31 PM
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Look for a man with strong family values and will put the family above his own pleasure. You need to be able to be and do the same however. My boyfriend and I both agree that the only acceptable grounds for divorce are infidelity and abuse especially after having kids. Even if we fall out of love, we will remain together. How we personally feel or want for ourselves should not affect our dedication to the family. We are both willing to sacrifice ourselves for the family. This is not very common …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 11:03 PM
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People who listen to such advice are listening to such advice for a reason. They are not the brightest for sure. Investing then looking for reciprocation is a better way to find a higher quality partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 10:43 PM
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I've stopped seeing friends for cancelling either the first or the second time we were supposed to hang out. Only dumb unreliable people with horrible time management skills cancel or reschedule when you are supposed to making the best impression possible. They probably weren't raised properly either. They can hang out with me in group settings, but never one on one. Btw, I even almost got cut off from my friend for my cousin's inability to show up on time. I was fuming at my cousin when I heard…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 10:36 PM
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I think the ones who grew up with loser dads or no dad at all suffer from that way more often. Mom's mate choice heavily affects daughters ime.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 09:30 PM
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That’s why TRP dudes think it is early signs of potential monkeybranching.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 08:44 PM
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Lol I have bad things to say about both sexes and most of mankind.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 08:42 PM
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Those are way more reasonably priced in Asia where they are produced. I get them straight from Asia.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 08:32 PM
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Upvoted.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 08:30 PM
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Their gfs are about the same though from what I’ve seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 08:28 PM
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I know this is anecdotal, but his comment tracks ime. I grew up in a small town, and how early they get married and have kids really is different from the bigger city people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 05:34 PM
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Ask poopyhead
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 03:57 PM
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Understandable. But you’ve lived in Japan. Imagine being called pretty just for being fit, putting on makeup and dressing well. That’s some load of bs.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 03:51 PM
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Idk. His personality is a confusing way to put it. I think more often than not, it is his masculinity. Masculinity can actually attract women imo, not general personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 03:41 PM
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Well maybe in America or other fat countries. There’s a girl my mom met when she was volunteering in my home country my mom tries to help, and it is quite sad to hear her “dating” stories. If she grew up in a healthy household, it probably would have been much better for her though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 03:39 PM
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My mom taught me the same thing. What’s important is to fix things. Not many people actually care either and is unpleasant to deal with. It also makes a not favorable impression too, can could potentially be used against you. I think it is good to have your person however. Mine is my best friend. But certainly don’t do it in front of most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 03:21 PM
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The middle ground isn’t actually to fake a story, but to use a story that you’ve already processed. I use that method instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 02:55 PM
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That's what women require to not get discarded for a younger prettier woman when they get old.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 07:36 AM
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It was not something I thought about much until I got PPD brainrot.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 05:35 AM
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It depends on a lot on the context tbh. My boyfriend and I both come from sex negative cultures.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 05:25 AM
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No. I would never post it publicly. I have shown my face to 5 people total. Some left PPD, some are still here.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 01:08 AM
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Wow can't believe you did it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 10:32 PM
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Thanks. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 10:28 PM
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No, I don’t live in Vancouver. And people need to stop guessing where I am from. Lol I don’t like to be doxxed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 10:25 PM
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Huh
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 10:19 PM
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Idk about other Asians but a lot of East Asian women do quite well.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 09:55 PM
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Nah enough Asian dudes complain.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 08:47 PM
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caring Could also be incredibly nosy and clingy. For a lot of people, Asian dating is like letting the person know of every single thing you do, and being obsessive with contacting each other. I say this as an Asian woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 08:41 PM
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Some other East Asian country. What's funny is that I probably am already mixed with blood from his country.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 08:25 PM
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We are not from the same country and some other stuff. Only one side of my family knows about my boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 08:16 PM
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My grandparents would faint. Honestly, they would faint over my boyfriend too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 08:13 PM
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Often more neotenous features and smaller frame.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 07:47 PM
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My first question to my boyfriend was, was the waitress prettier than his gf? Insecurity is a bitch.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 07:25 PM
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So you know the second last single guy in my boyfriend's friend group recently got a gf. He apparently said, "Oh that waitress is cute" in front of his gf and they got into a fight.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 07:22 PM
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I've tipped 50% also. Come to think of it, it was always looks-related. I know it is difficult to satisfy me in that arena. I had to fix the placing of my lobe piercing and the guy did it perfectly, and the other occasions are for hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 07:15 PM
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Depends on whether you have hit the leftover market yet or not. If almost all sane women are paired up, uh oh.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 07:05 PM
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I am only bothered by plastic surgery. I don’t wear makeup regularly, but it is fun to dress up occasionally. I probably don’t look too different with makeup on though. It took my boyfriend some time to tell my face with makeup vs. my face without makeup. I think on Asian faces, a lot of makeup can overwhelm the face so easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 07:01 PM
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Oh I so want to say something, but I think I will get in trouble if I said it. I agree with you though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 06:53 PM
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I actually consider hot/sexy to be bad compliments. I feel they lack respect and that you aren’t pretty in a modest way. I’m such a prude.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 06:42 PM
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Chinese people gifting gold to me drives me nuts. I appreciate your kind thoughts, but please don’t waste money on stuff I’d never wear. It just makes me feel bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 06:38 PM
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Same. Look up Adrian Gan.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 06:28 PM
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I cut out most processed foods, refined carbs and sugar from my diet. I think a lot of it should be about what you eat, not just how much you eat. Of course, don’t overeat but Asian diet kept me away from ever getting close to being overweight even when I was stuffing my face with food.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 06:26 PM
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Strangely enough, women never shamed me for the lack of makeup on my face. Two men had a problem with a lack of makeup on my face however, but that was in the course of my entire life. One guy had a gf who wasn’t as pretty as me even with makeup on. He was a weird dude. I was sick one day, and he said sickly women look better instead of asking if I was alright. The other guy worked in cosmetics. Oh the only girl who shamed me for my makeup had a problem with how I was faking pale skin, but I was…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 06:18 PM
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Ah well no food in stomach looks better on probably everyone. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 05:23 PM
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Lower fat people care for the boost too and definitely notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 05:20 PM
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Nah. I can see my abs better with no food in me, and it is nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 05:18 PM
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He looks better.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 05:15 PM
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Commitment is easy. Finding someone compatible with aligning values gets difficult the more different you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 05:14 PM
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I’d like to agree with you here and not the guy under you. It wasn’t and isn’t exactly easy though especially in the West. What you are saying is POSSIBLE, but also very rare probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 11:21 AM
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I don't think they are the same, but as a jaded woman, I will say that unless you can give one the benefit of the doubt, you can't actually be in a healthy relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 05:48 AM
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With such long hairstyles, you need very prominent facial features to hold their ground even when you have attention catching hair, and I would say you probably do. Consider going for a slightly wavy style since if the hair falls too straight, people's eyes follow the same straight line down your face and it could appear even longer. I'd probably also try to find out which area needs more volume or the overall shape of the hair too. Not all long hair has the same shape or cut.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 05:45 AM
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Safe and corporate is fine-ish, but your hair in the picture looks as if some amateur chopped it off with an axe. You honestly have a pretty decent base still that you could probably pull off less safe styles. I'd say try longer. Your face does look long, so avoid styles that would make your face look even longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 05:02 AM
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If and only if I think he would end up in heaven even if I don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 03:53 AM
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Such discussions might need coke. My friends only had philosophical discussions when on coke. What's a bit more concerning could be that I could match their energy sober.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 02:21 AM
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I am not the OP. I am a woman dating a feminine man. My boyfriend deals with a lot and needs to be a lot more than what OP probably thinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 01:33 AM
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what you are looking for is very uncommon in today’s times We really are a minority, and the ones who won't take too big of a hit on the lifestyle without having two incomes are even smaller in number. why should a strong woman invest in you outside of existing ? This is a really good question, and what I've seen so far, if the woman embodies yang to the point that she desires a guy who embodies yin, the guy actually has to embody yin damn well. He is basically asking for the one extreme end of …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 01:29 AM
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Cause they wanted to have boys. I am East Asian and it is a cultural thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 12:42 AM
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It still warms my heart that my dad was so happy when I was born when my country was killing a lot of girls in the womb at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 12:36 AM
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Someone else said it very well. If they want your money, and are still getting the money they want from you, they'd stay with you. But if they had feelings for you, the bond will be broken. It is about whether you are still getting what you want from the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:50 PM
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But I am on PPD, so I think I lose all my points.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:32 PM
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Not sure about the validity of the data, but this was the results a survey of over 2000 people apparently. If the "happy relationship" was not a premise, not significantly different. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:14 PM
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For One Direction, whichever TV show they went on grouped them together, so they became a group like that without being chosen for being feminine and was probably more of a coincidence. I think historical boy bands could have been not all pretty.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 10:49 PM
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What is that
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 10:42 PM
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Stay delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 10:08 PM
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Hmm. A part of it could be that we lack boy bands in the west? Wasn’t One Direction the last one pretty much? https://chatgpt.com/share/b2521a60-403c-48e7-a893-e458a7b9ec82
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 09:38 PM
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Well for Asian women that like K pop guys, we do have different beauty standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 09:17 PM
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You usually have to be a flavor of nutty. Yeah, most women here do have thicker skin-ish.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:05 PM
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Eh. Read again. Not a type. Types.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:57 AM
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I think it might be partially because only certain types of women could handle being on PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:52 AM
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I used to have the lyrics engraved on my iPod. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:50 AM
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Are you new here? People here need it to be written like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:44 AM
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Rascal Flatts - My Wish
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:40 AM
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Young millennial Asians
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:06 AM
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I am also talking about crushes. Those men still simp for my mom and my aunt. It is quite disturbing if you think about it. My mom and my aunt are married and the men are all married as well. My aunt used to model and my mom was good looking enough to become an actress but she worked in the fashion industry instead. They were the top women being chased by so many men. I too have guys confessing their past feelings towards me as well. One of which should actually have asked me out back when he ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 02:55 AM
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still constrained to are-you-young-enough-to-date-someone-recently-out-of-college Ime, to get the sane relationship-oriented ones, it often seems to be about whether it can be a warm approach or not. Their natural social circle needs to include each other, so their ages are usually pretty close.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 01:50 AM
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Yeah, we have good accountants and my mom is quite literate when it comes to the taxation laws of my home country, but we still have to deal with batshit crazy taxation laws. My boyfriend's mom wants me to get sponsored by my bf cause she too knows how my status is not in favor of my situation at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 01:07 AM
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Oh my. I rant about taxes almost every day (yes, my poor boyfriend deals with this), and I am currently talking to my mom about which citizenship I should keep according to what's better for me tax-wise. I probably will give one up after getting married.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:48 AM
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All guys are in love with different girls LOL I would not believe that in a million years. My mom could write a saga on men who pursued her. Her sister also has a long list of men some of whom are now high profile men who wanted to get with her. I can't even remember every guy who gave me a Valentine, and my boyfriend was anxious when pursuing me, cause he knew many guys who also liked me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:38 AM
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I don't think you are 75, but someone could be in the leftover market without actually being a bad leftover. The person would still have to deal with the leftover market however.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:26 AM
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I think what's made together could be joint, but what your parents passed on to you should ideally be somewhat separate. I only try to use my dad's money in the ways he would have wanted to. Pre-marital, I think the person who brought the money should have the ultimate say, but with the other person's interests in mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:24 AM
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You have to think about what associated characteristics a person who makes certain decisions would have. Ask yourself why in every scenario. If you are only chasing youth, it is definitely a possibility. But if you are looking for other traits, you need to be smart and not miss the boat.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:13 AM
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are married at this age They are usually not married YET, but are in a serious relationship with the future in mind ime. Unavailable cause they are in stable relationships. I think 27 is still doable if you have a large enough community though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:03 AM
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Yeah, it is way earlier than most people think imo. You know I'm not too old. This likely is about when people are able to find each other. Once sane relationship oriented people find each other, they often are off the market for good.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:52 PM
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It slowly happens once you are out of school imo. I think as an East Asian, you are kinda sorta screwed once you hit your late 20's, and we have more leeway cause we have enough kids who are so focused on their education/career. I think about two years after getting your bachelor's could be when a lot of good prospects are already taken, cause a lot of people get their adult social groups by then.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:33 PM
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Well we are from a minority culture so if what you experience is more of the norm. I shouldn't say much cause it would be disrespectful, but you would be surprised by what's "good enough".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:21 PM
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Also, a guy friend from my childhood got married, and he was the first male one to go. He was a decent kid. Decent people are really going to start evaporating one by one very soon. I think he dated his wife for a very long time. My boyfriend's friends started to get married en masse last year also with their partners they've been together for years. The leftover market is getting very real now.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:15 PM
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There apparently is a girl who hasn't found a stable partner cause she keeps going for bad boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:05 PM
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Okay it seems like it was the second last single guy in my boyfriend's friend group that got a gf. There is one left, and the girls were talking about who he'd look good with and who they should set him up with. Apparently these things happen?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:01 PM
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It is not the same thing. You just don't have strong enough values yourself that you care a lot about. Voluntarily celibacy is rare for this reason. Voluntary celibacy is not valued enough by non religious people or people outside of sex negative cultures, and the ones nuts enough to be voluntarily celibate are usually also nuts enough to eliminate based on degeneracy. How often do you actually see voluntarily celibate women that are saving themselves for marriage? I believe the answer would be …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 10:07 PM
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Not that I am against coffee dates or for dinner dates, I think it could greatly depend on how well you know the person already. My first date with my boyfriend involved doing more things, cause we knew each other pretty well and hung out often enough on our own beforehand. It was just our first official date. I think people dismiss the getting to know phase and want to jump straight into doing relationship stuff nowadays and are very confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 08:56 PM
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You are completely missing the point. It is not solely about attraction. Some people have stronger values to stick to their values than to go for whatever the hell they find attractive. And voluntary celibacy requires one to have really strong values that one would care enough to eliminate when the values don’t align enough. You seem to have no idea how dedicated one has to be to one’s values to stay voluntarily celibate. This is not about women finding virginity attractive in men, but chaste wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 08:51 PM
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That’s sweet. I told you no one else was traditional enough for my family other than my boyfriend. Apparently, no one was mature enough for my boyfriend to actually want a future with. Even after a decade, we got back together cause some things are difficult to find again.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 08:09 PM
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I keep talking about the leftover market and how if you don’t have a stable partner for a extended period of time, people of both genders with every level of desirability most often get jaded. Getting a sane relationship oriented person gets very difficult over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 08:05 PM
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My boyfriend cooking is actually really satisfying to watch.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 08:02 PM
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My family is extremely fatphobic, and we think fat people lack discipline. Height has nothing to do with discipline.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 07:58 PM
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My current condo’s gym is extremely heavily skewed female and I have no idea why. It confused me. My last condo was more 50:50. Maybe each gender chooses different places to work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 07:48 PM
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It doesn’t. We deem such values important enough to stay chaste, and would look for a guy with similar values. People don’t just chase attraction especially when you are taught to abstain and agree with it. You wait and restrain yourself until the right one comes along.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 07:31 PM
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She was on a new account today.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 09:04 AM
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I actually have no idea how to teach that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 08:05 AM
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Not at all. It is usually a certain type of women that date outside of their culture. You are usually getting the degenerates of our culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 05:48 AM
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I think they could get a better looking girl, but someone who is very loose with her sexuality more often than not.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 05:40 AM
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I don't really care, but I think it is naive to think they'd be getting a conservative "good girl". Conservative people rarely date outside of their culture let alone a guy who they barely know anything about like his history or background.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 05:28 AM
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I think it is silly to think that voluntarily chaste women would choose to be with hedonistic men however. It takes certain values to stay chaste as a woman in such culture. I respect my family's values, and I would not dare marry someone without my family's approval. The first and only guy that I thought was worthy of introducing to my family asked me what my dad looks for in my potential partner on our first date. It is unlikely for a father that raised a daughter to be chaste to accept a hedo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 05:04 AM
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No piercings on men
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:35 AM
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Why can't you eat 4 eggs everyday? I eat 3+ eggs everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 09:44 PM
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I raised an eyebrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 09:29 PM
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I honestly think the way your parents raised you is the right way. I was raised that way, and I will raise my kids that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 06:19 AM
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I think you should look for decency. It is good to be mesmerized, but look for a woman who won't abuse it, and will try to reciprocate and care for you too. Choose someone who knows to be grateful, and will keep herself in check to keep feeling grateful. I remind myself of my boyfriend's exceptional qualities at times to keep appreciating him. It is very easy for humans to get complacent.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 03:14 AM
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So he basically said my mom was the most beautiful woman in the world privately (she was really beautiful and still is to this day), always said the best decision he made in his life was to marry my mom very publicly, always cherished my mom without ever getting complacent, and his phone background was also my mom's photo. My mom was always the best treated wife in all our social groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 02:26 AM
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Good rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 02:20 AM
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Highly neurotic people can drive others crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 12:27 AM
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You do it all the time anyway, and we do it all the time anyway. What's so special this time?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 11:59 PM
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I don't know of anyone. I don't think there needs to be a particular circumstance. It isn't something I am against doing myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 11:58 PM
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I feel weird calling myself a Stacy, when I feel like I am just pretty enough. I think to keep a man engaged for decades, not in order to get a man, it is much better to have girl game. I have a mom who secured a very high status man and kept him mesmerized for life. I learned a lot from her.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 11:26 PM
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ratboi tends to be very good at articulating such things.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 09:54 PM
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high inhibition and extreme introversion. neuroticism can't help either.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 09:19 PM
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Interesting that you say that. A lot of PPD men claim women don't have game or it doesn't matter for women, and that it is about how hot you are and sometimes even submissiveness. From experience, it seems to be about whether you can be THE girl that a guy can never forget, and it really is not about being the prettiest.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 09:05 PM
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I keep saying that I am not the prettiest woman in the world. There was a prettier girl than me in school, but she wasn’t outgoing so she didn’t hang with the outgoing kids. We were friendly with each other though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 08:06 PM
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Nah. I was focused on having fun with my homies and doing our own stuff. A girl attempted to ostracize me, not the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 07:33 PM
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I mixed drinks at my business school and loved getting everyone else drunk.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 07:26 PM
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I was the loud girl who got top grades and led a few student clubs.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 07:03 PM
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My friend said I’d very well put a ring on it myself if I wanted him enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 06:13 PM
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I call him cute, pretty and good looking quite often? My celebrity crush is Hayato Sumino, but it is not like I think about having sex with Sumino.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 06:12 PM
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My thoughts exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 06:14 AM
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Listen to people who were in similar situations and has the achievement that you want. If you consider going through everyone on OLD a victory, sure, do that. I would not call her victory, a victory however.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 05:05 AM
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I usually engage with people in DM nowadays. Feel too lazy to respond to every dumb thing as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 12:25 AM
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I would get banned like poopy and jaded over and over again if I didn't watch myself. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 11:43 PM
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DM if you don't mind?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 11:25 PM
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I have never seen one fly. Huh. Maybe next time. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 11:16 PM
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PPD has messed up my head. AncestryDNA has a Father's Day sale, and I am now thinking about someone getting this as a father's day gift to find out if the kid is theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 11:13 PM
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Meh I say stuff that I mean, but it upsets people still anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 11:05 PM
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People get complacent. It is common to adjust to the new norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 10:56 PM
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I might call that the not-threateningly attractive zone.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 10:53 PM
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I am pretty sure you are up there.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 10:42 PM
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I wouldn't block someone for their opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 10:42 PM
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LOL Sorry. Do you know your BF%? Just curious since you said your muscle mass is bringing the number up.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 10:34 PM
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I don't actually care about what they say. I'm pretty sure we've seen it all already on PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 10:17 PM
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There is only one guy who I am very tempted to block and it isn't that guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 10:04 PM
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His hand didn't look particularly fat. I am not sure about 19-21 BMI, but he probably isn't fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 09:56 PM
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Crush? 3. No one knew I had a crush on them though. They were all friends. Love is like 3.5. No overlaps with crush.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 08:21 PM
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HTN to Chadlite. I am not strong enough mentally to date someone clearly better looking than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 08:16 PM
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That’s true but you look fine though.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 05:43 PM
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I mean, there are pros and cons, and “more people” is the key here, not necessarily everyone. Opting to stay single could do quite a few people some good.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 05:18 PM
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And I think more people should stay sexless and/or single until the right one comes along. Whatever the right one means to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 05:07 PM
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Idk. That’s the decision I made though. I also think premarital sex could be harmful in a sense that it could make people let their genitals run them more than their heads.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 04:58 PM
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I’m dating the opposite of that for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 04:55 PM
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Asian vaginas are apparently shorter too. Kinda makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 04:39 PM
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heirloom dried beans I made a confused face reading this.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 04:45 AM
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Check it off!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:43 AM
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Still consistent in saying that it is appearance is a significant motivator. Suggesting otherwise is naive or virtue signaling.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:41 AM
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What? Seriously? I wanted one when I was younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:37 AM
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https://chatgpt.com/share/5ba8eeef-b9e8-4422-84ee-ecc9e324abaa I was wondering if I knew too many vain people. My sampling isn't that off if these numbers are true.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:36 AM
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That I am aware of.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:26 AM
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My point is that it is important to know how to train for what you want, and if it is looks, they can't just work out blindly. Anyway, Mike O'Hearn looks better than all of these models put together. We'd have to agree to disagree on this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:25 AM
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Celebrity trainers do the same. What the ideal for each industry and what the person needs to achieve is different in every case, but I don’t think anyone is doing it blindly if they are trying to go for the looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:12 AM
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I think that’s more applicable to female high fashion models.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:10 AM
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Hence “if they care about the way they look”.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:06 AM
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Hence “if they care about the way they look”.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:06 AM
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I saw a guy on the elevator that was built too wide. People should really consider proportions more when working on their bodies if they care about the way they look. Modelling agencies hire trainers that know how to take the figure closer to the ideal, not just blindly train for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:02 AM
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Think that's Asian ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:57 AM
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I think I made just as many mistakes as I did back in school. I tend to skip words or even whole phrases cause my mind races faster than I can write, and I am bad at controlling it unless I really focus.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:48 AM
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Btw my boyfriend's mom sometimes gets weirded out by how formal I am with her. But it's exactly how I was raised and what my family's expectations are.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:38 AM
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Yes. Maybe it is my family thing? Idk? But both my mom's family and my dad's family do it. So it could be cultural. Like I've said, we are quite old school.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:34 AM
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You have no idea how many pages I had to throw out to not use white out.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:31 AM
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No no. I wrote a handwritten letter to his mom. My mom wrote a handwritten letter to him. His mom did respond to me by writing a nice letter in digital form due to her having to travel the next day.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:29 AM
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My family is quite old school.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:24 AM
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I forgot to add. It also signals respect most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:19 AM
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Now that I think about the content of the letters, I think when we want to be seen genuine and have something to say, want to show that we care (about them), we tend to write letters. It might be my family thing or a cultural thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:10 AM
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I am not sure. My mom's side grandpa still has a letter that my dad wrote him. I have hand written letters I got from my dad's side grandpa and my dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:07 AM
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I wrote my boyfriend's mom a handwritten 4 page letter when we first met. My boyfriend got one from my mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:01 AM
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We need to take social media and stuff away from the kids and throw them out of the house so they'd learn how to be normal humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 02:00 AM
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My community back home isn't nearly as big, but I still am very proud to be a member of my family and believe in keeping my family's legacy. I think legacy is not just about celebrating the family's societal success or status, but passing on the right family values and what we have learned as a family. My mom's siblings took turns to keep my mom company at night, gave her a guest room to stay in indefinitely, and her youngest brother called after work on his way back home every single day for mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 11:37 PM
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High inhibition, high neuroticism or introversion?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 11:16 PM
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Men: tennis, swimming, karate or taekwondo Women: figure skating, gymnastics, snowboarding I think I tend to value solitary achievements over loud sports.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 11:14 PM
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It might be that having a high body count has a damaging effect, but I think it more often is about what kind of traits/values people have to engage in such behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 10:26 PM
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Nah. Older generations did it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 06:37 PM
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Trophy wife has been a thing for a long while.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 06:36 PM
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It isn’t supposed to make sense. It is supposed to be a learning experience for the women until they figure it out and start making sense. Being warned against men and sex makes one extra cautious.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 05:50 PM
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The underlying assumption is that it was a giant scheme.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 05:42 PM
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Thanks for the laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 05:37 PM
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A younger me would have been highly suspicious. It took a while to develop vetting skills and learn more about people. It is probably better to be more suspicious than naive for the individual. It is unfortunate for the people who have to deal with bad projections though.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 05:33 PM
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Quite a few are and have voiced it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 05:11 PM
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I was brought up sex negative, and it came across as ulterior motives in my younger days. A good number of men do see us as sex objects, but it is an unfair projection. It took me a while to differentiate such things.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 05:09 PM
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If interval training had no antiaging benefits, I would not be doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:20 PM
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I don’t even weigh 100 lbs. I want that discount too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 03:27 PM
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I don't really like to engage outside of the daily thread now. The outside is for the people who like to hear themselves talk. Most of them can't stand being wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 05:36 AM
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Living in the West with my Asian body required me to accept my body or go crazy. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:29 AM
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Btw I decided to date only within my culture due to realizing how Asian I am after my dad’s passing. I was ready to drop EVERYTHING and return to Asia to take care of my family. The degree in which we are taught to sacrifice for the family is very different imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:22 AM
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I want them to do grade 7-8 in Asia and learn the extreme work ethics and discipline over there. The competitive environment is good for preparing kids for adulthood imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:16 AM
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Yup you are an immigrant. I agree with a lot of this. I even want to send them to Asia for educational purposes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:00 AM
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I think depending on my actions/karma, either me or my loved ones would pay the price regardless of my own afterlife. I am not really talking about supernatural stuff. Family members of the people who did good deeds often got taken care of much better by the society.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 02:49 AM
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(in the west) I feel recognized.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 01:10 AM
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Not really on weekdays, but on weekends I see it a lot. I probably live in too busy of an area though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 11:11 PM
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You can see them just walking around. I don’t go to Pride Parades.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 10:57 PM
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They should cover themselves up more too then. I don't want my children to see that in public settings.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 10:46 PM
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Idk. I feel that people could wear more modest clothing outside. Some people wear things that are too revealing especially during the parade time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 10:29 PM
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You know there are moderates, centrists or independents, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 10:08 PM
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An actual fictional character gave you baggage though
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 10:04 PM
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I think you are describing “not poor” people, not “rich” people.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 09:51 PM
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Yeah good thing he is built like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 09:51 PM
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Rich people generally understand opportunity costs and trade offs. Money is one of the cheapest things to us to use against people who prioritize money.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 09:33 PM
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I’m not poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 09:18 PM
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Once you have enough of it, it is the easiest thing to throw around. You should be looking for what's scarce and takes a lot more effort. Women very often get fooled by easy favors and end up with douchebags.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 09:11 PM
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Money is the laziest way to “court”.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 08:56 PM
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I think his idea behind it was that he would be the only person who would put my interests before his, and it is very easy to get hung up on money and be restricted or motivated by it. He always wanted the best for me, and for me to choose what means the most to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 08:53 PM
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My dad told me that the only man who pays for me should be him. He was really against anyone else's money affecting my decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 08:45 PM
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I still haven't watched Frozen.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 08:36 PM
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I went on a date with a guy who said "You look different from other Asians" and it was weird coming from a non-Asian guy. My boyfriend said the same thing to me once, but it was weirdly alright coming from another Asian.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 08:30 PM
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Not as in ugly ogre, but masculine face. Both Clooney and Cruise have the more softer aspect that I speak of. Yes, they have really attractive features, but they don’t lean ogre. It is not just different styling of the same face. Imagine a Momoa face on a Clooney body.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 07:40 PM
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You gotta be tall and built to make that ogre face work. It looks extremely off on regular builds. The faces that usually are more popular among women are not just ogre looking, but has a pretty and/or pleasing aspect. I am not saying this to virtue signal, but lookspill in the direction that would appeal to more people and work better for more people. I have standing job offers from styling related industries.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 07:08 PM
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I come from a conservative household, and the trad wife thing is fine if people understand how and why it can go wrong and how it is supposed to work. Trad is not about mere gender roles. It is about having to rely on others to fulfill one’s roles. It is not about what they are getting out of the deal — this is what I see too often in trad wannabes. For example, my mom quit her corporate job for the family, and my dad said that in a case of divorce, she gets half. My dad took on the role of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 06:39 PM
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I think that’s male gaze.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 06:21 PM
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Back in high school, my boyfriend asked me what my dad looks for in my potential partner. He does not believe in dating around let alone sleeping around. That’s a traditional guy. These are not traditional shit, but tradition. All our parents were virgins til marriage, and we are waiting as well. Good parents teach by example.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 11:18 AM
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Yes. And her nose is wide/big but still not flat. Her face doesn’t have too much empty space or doesn’t appear flat in general either. We are evaluating the filtered face however. There can be more to talk about, but the point is that the beauty standards over there are nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 09:15 AM
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My dad sent me to the west cause it is still ongoing in my home country. Definitely not as bad as before, but still ongoing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 08:09 AM
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She is above average. Some pics look much better than others so I can’t tell for sure how well she fits them. She still fits them much better than the first instagram woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 06:51 AM
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My parents were wearing a condom when I was conceived and they were planning to have kids a bit later. I too was an accident.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 06:17 AM
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https://preview.redd.it/e8mxa0kq036d1.jpeg?width=660&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4633e74a12ff927b1a82c057f31fcac364dc45b2 The Asian one in the middle is Korean. I too like the Korean style the most, but it also means you can’t fake much and don’t have much room for error. It could be why a lot more Koreans get work done.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 06:07 AM
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https://preview.redd.it/c1goobqnx26d1.jpeg?width=660&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cba8fdff5c52a12f3d1f1c468166f9fc4170f224 The Asian one in the middle is Korean. I too like the Korean style the most, but it also means you can’t fake much and don’t have much room for error. It could be why a lot more Koreans get work done.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 06:06 AM
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I love my best friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 05:32 AM
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Wow, an actual fictional character
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 03:22 AM
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Omg she is already that big?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 03:17 AM
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You know how some women dream that her bf is cheating then get mad at him for the dream she had? That was funny to hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 03:17 AM
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Can't fit into the same clothes anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 03:07 AM
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That's supposed to be easier than frying an egg or making instant noodles tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 02:49 AM
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My boyfriend's aunt had a late term abortion with a month left due to severe complications, and she isn't trying anymore. It is a traumatic experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 02:18 AM
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I think Chinese actresses could be more striking and Korean actresses could be more natural to look at in a way. The general Chinese makeup style also focuses on really getting to the maximum, while the general Korean makeup style on actresses aim to be more natural.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 01:41 AM
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The first list was Chinese actresses and the second was Korean. Are they about the same to you? I get the difference you see between Japanese vs. Korean though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 12:18 AM
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I think they also like to focus on a measurable metric, and hard difficulties dealing with what is difficult to be standardized. That incel.tech calculator was such a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:34 PM
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Being 5'7+ >>> good face > tall I think guys more often should be blaming their face and not their height, or at least both at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:04 PM
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I have a question though. Why Koreans specifically and not Chinese or Japanese? What do you find different about ideal Korean beauty that’s more appealing to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 09:36 PM
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No, I am usually right. I just am not very idealistic or overly nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 09:10 PM
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I prefer to be morally inferior partner while trying to be a decent human myself. That increases the chances of getting better than a decent person.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 09:02 PM
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I remember this photo lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 08:55 PM
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Such an old joke
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 08:53 PM
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Meh I have done it multiple times.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 08:52 PM
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Guess you already said it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 08:48 PM
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Often not true in Asians. It is quite fascinating.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 08:47 PM
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I don’t know how my boyfriend puts up with me. I am not nicer irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 08:41 PM
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Nancy is a Wasian I think, and WonYoung had work done. I think all NewJeans members are naturals and three of them are Korean.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:58 PM
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Well if you are including the instagram woman you have sent, I guess you would really be into Korean women, but the list I have sent are considered beautiful over there too, you know. Many kpop idols you see might have gotten work done, so it might not be as natural as you think. But there still are a few known natural beauties on the list I’ve sent.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:48 PM
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She might have aged since the picture was taken, but we generally stay looking young til much later. https://youtube.com/shorts/sl5gg9-NfYM?si=Gkc2fTsLgiMXcmuW
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:36 PM
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We have the most restrictive beauty standards imo. We really don’t mess around with them, and KNOW who fits them and who doesn’t. It is kinda crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:29 PM
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https://en.kapanlagi.com/korea/10-most-beautiful-chinese-actresses-right-now-including-zhao-lusi-and-dilraba-dilmurat.html https://kingchoice.me/most-beautiful-korean-actresses-2024/#google_vignette https://discover.hubpages.com/entertainment/hottest_Japanese_actresses The common traits are large eyes and a slender prominent nose. The woman in the pic you sent has small eyes and a flat nose.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:03 PM
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Asian beauty standards are very eurocentric and she doesn’t fit them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:41 AM
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She is lucky she lives in the States.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:23 AM
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What looks good on camera is a bit different. You look fatter on camera, so you need to lose more weight than how you would like to appear irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:05 AM
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Some of us are born with very low bone mass. Our frame size can be very different.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 05:26 AM
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I just looked up to her, and knew I would never be her. So many people admired her beauty. It is not just about competing in the same dating pool. Hearing "she must have taken after her dad" when I was younger sank my heart. I did take after my mom quite a bit eventually though thankfully. And it isn't just me. My cousin had it real bad. Her mom is the most gorgeous person I have seen alive who modeled when younger, and she constantly got compared to her mom, and even heard things like "What a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 12:38 AM
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Meh. They can say whatever they want to make themselves feel better. Growing up with a prettier mom is what made me insecure in the past, not some internet strangers. It is like having a prettier sister, but it is your mom. Non-family members are more generous towards my looks than my own family, and it has always been that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 11:32 PM
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I land safely within the top 5% facially without makeup. I don't know what 8.5 is, but by the sounds of it on Reddit, probably not? I do have family members who modelled in Asia for being conventionally beautiful, but I don't look as good as them. I think Reddit would more likely call them 8.5+. But really, those family members are not people most people come across easily. If you think about it, top 5% is rather common and definitely someone you would see in the wild, just not that attainable a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 11:11 PM
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Like I keep telling you, the Kpop girls you like are well below 17 BMI.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 10:57 PM
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I dealt with it by finding a good hairdresser.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 09:59 PM
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Not everyone gets to the point of dealing with baggage. You must see it very often being here. And I do think people of both genders if they are not in stable LTRs get jaded over time, sexually successful or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 09:53 PM
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It is about efficiency when you have limited data to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 09:50 PM
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The best reason to stay away from cigarettes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 09:37 PM
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If it is single mom vs. single dad, I think single dad side was better. Married couple dynamics are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 09:22 PM
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I thought it was the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 09:18 PM
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That's exactly what I am thinking when holding a plank or doing real pushups. But dang, what's your BMI? It must be real low.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 09:11 PM
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the ones who they respect Oftentimes, yes. are their optimum match What do you mean by this? A lot more men than you think just shoot their shots or Stacy-chase. I don't think men are very good at estimating the amount of interest desirable women get or the quality of the men they get it from. They not just overestimate their own attractiveness, but I've also seen a guy underestimate himself. I am not talking about hookup culture btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 09:08 PM
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I would just appreciate it if it is a professional setting, just keep things professional. At least in personal settings, individuals could decide to interact with one or not. Like there's assumptions of incompetence or expectations of femininity that come with being a woman, as I am sure men have the opposite problems. The old school liberal idea was to treat everyone not by the color of one's skin (or gender), but as an individual without prejudices. I am all in favor of meritocracy and perfor…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 08:24 PM
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Those are the best kind of wrinkles. The older you get, how you lived your life and what kind of person you are show on your face.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 08:22 PM
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Vetting is about the negatives while tastes are about both positives and negatives. I think it is important to note that mating for women is an elimination process.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:56 PM
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I think women should instinctively care more about vetting than men do, and they have to for evolutionary reasons. It could come with having to vet and select.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:42 PM
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Maybe it is perceived as someone already did the vetting like how employers prefer candidates with prior experience and references.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:32 PM
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My parents just paid other people to handle those.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:13 PM
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Confucianism
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:11 PM
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Facial expressions is a more likely explanation I think. Or there are faces that just are naturally structured to create folds.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:55 AM
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Well yeah, the good looking ones would be going for younger doctors. To get desirable young women, men would really need to be extreme outliers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:44 AM
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The extremely desirable much older men are probably able to get with those small percentage of women who like much older men. It is just silly when the redpillers claim that vast majority of women would be into much older men. The extremely desirable older men are still getting the young women, and they probably are happy, but their pool is not everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:06 AM
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The manufacturers figure that out and I get it at the grocery store.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 01:07 AM
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Cashew milk is also very good. It froths very well among milk alternatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 12:57 AM
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Tasty
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 12:23 AM
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Buy a sous vide machine now instead of a rice cooker. Sous vide chicken is far superior.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 12:19 AM
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Cook rice beforehand and freeze it. If you care about eating it in resistance starch form, it is better that way anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 12:16 AM
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I go downstairs to pick up my packages in my snuggie. I have even been to a non-expensive steakhouse in what I wore for gym in high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 10:46 PM
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There’s a friend of my boyfriend’s who is super fit but wears the most unflattering pants. It is unfortunate. His wife said she wishes he’d let her dress him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 10:25 PM
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Nah. You just haven’t met a perfect looking woman. They are supposed to be rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 08:45 PM
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My aunt was too gorgeous for me to believe that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 08:35 PM
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Pattern means shapes of the little pieces of fabric that make up a clothing item. Us normies probably would never see clothes from the pattern aspect. But in terms of completed clothing, one thing I found was that pants should be loose enough that it doesn't show the outline of your legs at all so to our eyes, it should go down straight and smooth and elongate the legs, but just tight enough to appear longer. It is very different from dressing as a petite woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 08:33 PM
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I too have been in a LDR, and my boyfriend and I haven't even worried for a second that someone would cheat. After being on PPD, I think the bare minimum for a marriage should be you being able to trust the other person in a hypothetical LDR. If you don't have such trust in the other person, don't make your vows to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 07:52 PM
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Nah, beautiful women can always get a husband. But the more desirable you are, the better vetting skills you need, cause a lot of people will act like they will give you the world until they secure you and get complacent.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 07:46 PM
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I think it depends on the amount of buccal fat that you have when it is considered your prime. If he can look pretty without the buccal fat, there is a much higher chance he will age pretty. There's some androgynous looking Asian dudes in their 40's who are still good looking, and what I've noticed was the difference in the amount of facial fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 07:25 PM
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Clothes can do a lot for a person. I hope you have found the right pants for yourself too. I was surprised by how much pants mess with our eyes when it comes to proportions on guys recently. With women, it is often low-rise vs. high-waisted, but in men's fashion, the difference in pattern is so slight but the effect is so great that it is like a work of art.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 07:12 PM
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There is very little room for error in features when it comes to a good androgynous face. Even in looksmaxxing, it is more realistic to go for the masculine look for most guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 06:45 PM
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I am actually a masculine woman and I have been preferred over feminine ladies quite a lot by guys with options, so it was speaking from experience a bit. The easiest way to tell could be to find one girl in a group of guys. It is usually unlikely for just one guy to bring his girlfriend along, so there is a good chance that she is a bro-worthy gal already accepted by the bros. The more natural way of going about this is having a large enough random sample like a high school and then observe and…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 06:33 PM
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Why even sexually harass people when you must have so many groupies
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 05:36 PM
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Think Nick Carter was THE Chad of the 90s.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 05:31 PM
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That’s not Nick Carter.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 05:28 PM
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If that’s your preference, you will not only be looking for a unicorn, but will have even worse competition to get that unicorn. A lot of men here think feminine women would be hardest to get, but I actually think the competition to get the masculine one is much worse due to the rarity aspect. I would say the competition could be about twice as hard as it would be normally. I don’t mean a boss bitch, but a bro-worthy gal. A lot of desirable men opt for such women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 08:26 AM
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Well you were very pretty in your prime. Stacies stay desirable for very long it seems. I know a few in their 50’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 08:14 AM
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Explain?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 02:16 AM
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Well I know you are a psych student and you must read papers. There could be research on such topic. How common is wanting to drop one's panties for a hot guy spontaneously among women?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 11:37 PM
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Idk. I like to think that we are the normal ones but maybe not? I have no idea. What do the papers you read say?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 11:27 PM
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Pretty and good looking are not the same descriptors. The pretty boy aesthetic requires very specific features that all tie in together and I think is way more unrealistic in a way. Good looking handsome faces are of course in demand, but pretty boys do quite well too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 10:20 PM
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You bring up a good point actually. If faces are too long, that face shape deducts from femininity/"pretty". Shorter to normal length face is often considered cute and feminine, and normal to longer length face is often considered more masculine. I guess softer (not chiseled as much) and proportional in terms of length makes what I would consider to be a pretty face on guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 10:08 PM
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Cha Eun Woo doesn't look like a woman. Asian men have different facial features than white men. I think white men often think Asian men look feminine when they look plenty masculine to us. We have weaker brow bone and just a flatter face in general. That Dokyeum guy is just wearing heavy makeup and a lot of it is his styling. I'd say he leans masculine. Jeonghan in the same group was marketed as the pretty boy when they just debuted.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 09:53 PM
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I actually think that one is more masculine looking, but was made to look more feminine to fit the Kpop aesthetic. He is not that pretty looking, but he certainly is a good looking Asian dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 09:26 PM
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I don't think it is just high school. My mom and my aunt still have their orbiters from their 20's. But I guess they went to single gender schools, so their crush in their 20's is kinda like high school crush.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 09:19 PM
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My celebrity crush was Hayato Sumino, but not really for his looks. The only white guy I had a little crush on for his looks was young Jesse McCartney. I am Asian and my favorite celebrity lookswise is Cha Eun Woo, but I wouldn't dare date someone who looks like that. I think my looks preference is someone who would look pretty crying. That's difficult to achieve.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 09:01 PM
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I see. I am not sure about new Pokemon, but older Pokemon was designed for the Japanese kids who had their parents working all the time, and could bond with their Pokemon friends and go on their own journey or something. It is supposed to have more positive effects for the kids. Something I learned while studying Japanese culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 08:54 PM
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Interesting how kids still like Pokemon.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 08:50 PM
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A lot of them chase the same girl in that group even if that happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 08:48 PM
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Too many of them chase the same girl, and too many girls chase the same guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 08:21 PM
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I had to look it up. I guess Gen 1 is called Kanto Pokemons now. Old school and good taste. Have no idea what Unova region is. That's beyond me. lol My boyfriend's lil bro bought me a Pokemon keychain from gen 7 cause the character reminded him of me apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 08:16 PM
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Not an Asian dude, but Asians are definitely more "in" right now. It is so different from when I was younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 08:08 PM
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To my knowledge, it is better to start off with a lower dosage and work your way up anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 08:06 PM
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What generation of pokemons does your son like?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 08:05 PM
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I think the classic definition of femininity is often too passive and not imposing on others for it to be defined as toxic. However, there are common female actions like passive aggressiveness that I strongly dislike, giving hints without talking directly which annoys me, talking behind people's backs cause they want to appear nice, and not wanting differing opinions are annoying. I guess these come from wanting to be passive though. It is not that men don't engage in such things, it is just mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 08:04 PM
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I am a young millennial and Momoa is unattractive to me. Stan is not bad looking, but looks weirdly very familiar to me. Cavill is the only one who clearly won the genetic lottery imo. But I much prefer Jesse McCartney in his Beautiful Soul days over young Cavill.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 06:53 PM
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That's why you felt bad for my boyfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 02:28 AM
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White furry thingy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 02:11 AM
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I think she is back though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 12:41 AM
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He didn’t look like he’d be a cute crier.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 12:26 AM
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Probably got banned again.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 11:49 PM
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I saw a guy who looked very similar to poopgirl's male version pic. He was around 6'2.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 11:38 PM
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Gold chain and earring(s) are turn offs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 08:19 PM
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Banana is yellow on the outside but white inside.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 08:07 PM
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Depends. When it comes to preferences in looks, I don't think it shifts much. I've seen too many rich ladies in Asia fawning over young good looking guys. It is just that women often desire commitment and a relationship/connection, that they go for men their age. Women of all ages are attracted to masculinity in general, but naive women are generally bad at determining actual strength vs. a pretty act. I think even Buss said it is about not being able to tell the difference between what's real a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 08:06 PM
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I don't particularly desire a guy with a low pitched voice, but I can't imagine being with someone with a squeaky voice either.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 07:36 PM
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You should look into who actually have a billion dollars, let alone 100B+. You have included severe outliers in your scale to begin with. 6 cannot be a big law associate or an ibanker. They are nowhere near the average people if we are to consider 4-6 to be around the average. The vast majority of people do not have access to weird outliers like billionaires, and dating leagues for people who interact with others outside highly depend on who they realistically have access to.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 06:40 PM
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stop blaming other people for your problems Means they didn't grow up without a proper father figure. My dad beat that shit out of me long ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 06:23 PM
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Only if she grew up without a father and now wants one who also happens to want to fuck her.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 05:54 PM
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Anything past Windows 8 apparently is a tracking device.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 05:03 PM
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I don't see that many actually very noticeably short guys with girlfriends when touching grass.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 04:58 PM
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I saw like a 5’4 Chinese guy dating a 5’4 Chinese girl yesterday, but it was odd enough that it stuck to my brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 04:32 PM
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I own 3 identical shirts.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 07:39 AM
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I just scroll down.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 04:41 AM
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It was a weird experience. I moved from a super conservative religious white town to a heavily Asian populated city. I actually think some people might be based when they talk about *redacted* if they don't live in big liberal cities.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 10:52 PM
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Eh there was a girl who tried to outcast me when I transferred but wasn't really successful cause her crush liked hanging out with me and there was a fat female teacher who hated me. She was dumb so I basically taught the class. Otherwise, people were nice to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 10:36 PM
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Did she achieve world peace without anyone knowing or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 10:16 PM
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Have been convinced by my mom to not have sex until I can be responsible for a child, and only with someone I want to have a family with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 09:08 PM
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That's less weird than my mom talking about eye candies in their 20's and 30's imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 09:05 PM
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I think most humans tend to set themselves as the standard and compare others to oneself. I am not only talking about dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 08:44 PM
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4 in my dating around phase. Dropped them all once I found someone I wanted to stick with. I then realized seeing multiple people simultaneously means you just aren't very into all of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 07:53 PM
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Seeing a woman be a slut before she knew my personality, intellect or sense of humor is a turn off for me. Seeing a guy be interested in me only for my looks before he gets to know my other traits is a turn off for me too. On the other hand, i would genuinely be heartbroken if I found out she opened her legs up for someone who didn't want anything long term with her. I don't know where I stand at this. Date someone who never had casual sex. I was taught to be really conservative around sex, so t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 06:26 PM
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Well, AutomaticMeaning said he likes Kpop girls. Those girls are well under 17 BMI. You need very small frames naturally to have such figure though. I think it is more about bone mass at this point. I too have slightly below 17 BMI, but my boob size is actually above average for an East Asian (still not big at all, just not flat).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 05:16 AM
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This is totally me pulling things out of my ass, but if you do not like muscular guys, the max height a guy can be usually is around 5'11 without looking like a literal stick. But the easier explanation could be that Asian men tend to be shorter, and you did express that you've always been into Asian men. 6' Asian guys are very out of the ordinary in our generation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 02:49 AM
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You might think that, but your attraction may work differently. If I compile all the guys that I have been into, the minimum height has been 5'7". It was never a set height requirement, but just who I found to be attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 02:35 AM
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What I thought as well tbh...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 01:35 AM
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See. that's what I mean by not being able to be a serious prospect of serious people. No wonder you have such messed up views of women. You primarily interact with hoes. Eh... I grew out of the external validation phase rather fast. Like it was exciting when I just moved from a small white conservative town to a very highly Asian populated city in high school and got super popular overnight. I kinda think who never internalize how good they are seek and get such highs from external validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 01:28 AM
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Yeah… if you are saying that at age 40+, I don’t know what to tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 12:39 AM
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Yeah. And serious people won’t consider you either. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 12:35 AM
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Yeah and there’s serious people looking for serious prospects.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 11:17 PM
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Yeah. Birds of a feather flock together.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 11:06 PM
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Asian women who date white men are considered unsuitable for the Asian marriage market. They basically are not considered “good girls” and they are undesirable. We have a derogatory term for them too. Even the women who used a working holiday visa are considered to be promiscuous whores very often.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 10:49 PM
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Not in Asian marriage market. 35 is the male wall to get desirable women. He can still get less desirable women if he is successful. 30 is the female wall successful or unsuccessful.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 10:38 PM
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Female wall and male wall both exist according to matchmaking services. However, the obsession with plastic surgery isn't all about the wall. It is due to women's value being primarily linked to their appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 10:28 PM
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Americans are pretty much the fattest and American airlines are the safest apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 10:24 PM
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No, it is because the only thing that women can change to increase their value is pretty much their appearance wall or no wall. Rhinoplasty and boob jobs are done to women of all ages, and Asians often get something done to their eyes even if they are young.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 10:17 PM
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You made me want to eat strawberries. Getting them from the grocery store now.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 10:14 PM
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Natural beauty does exist. It is just a lot more rare than people realize.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 07:28 PM
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No. You know I'm one of the PPD prudes though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 04:40 PM
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I would say if your partner is going to a party island doesn't want you to go with her, that's concerning. But there are plenty of places for tourism. And honestly, just don't date degenerate women. Look at what she and her friends usually do for fun before committing in your mind in the very least.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 04:35 PM
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It CAN happen, but it isn't like I became best friends and fell in love. It is more like there was this incident that made me fall for him. It is more about suddenly observing something attractive about the person. It happened to me twice, and they were my strongest cases of attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 04:25 PM
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Confirmation bias. He mainly interacts with women who engages in such behavior ON A PARTY ISLAND. People who get drunk are very often degenerates. Even my grandma still goes on "girls trips" and it is purely for going around to see scenery, take pictures, experience the food, have fun buying gifts for her family members and hang out with her friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 04:17 PM
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My dad's parents probably wouldn't have set my dad up with my mom if my mom didn't come from money.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 08:25 PM
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God my sleepy typing. But you get the gist of it. It it supposed to signal fertility.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 05:53 PM
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Waist to hip ratio has been what matters universally even when/where skinny was in, the same waist to hip ratio was desired apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 05:33 PM
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I am not one of the overpopulation leftist crowds, but I think the population boom that happened could have been the odd thing. The welfare/economic system that was set up to be sustained by the youth could be the flaw, not necessarily not reaching the replacement rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 09:48 AM
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I am genuinely a very caring person that just loves to take of people, but I am scared that I am going to look “too excited” and in general be perceived as someone who is trying too hard. Keep being that way and look for reciprocation. The guy who appreciates you will try to look for ways to make you feel appreciated as well. I am actually against women wanting men to pay, partly because it makes treating you too easy. Don't get excited over what people do for you with money, and pay for things …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:59 PM
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Joints is one major issue that older people have.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:11 PM
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By a certain age, if people aren't happily coupled, they most often get jaded AF, sexually successful or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 02:56 PM
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My most unrealistic standards are character traits I was looking for in a partner. I met about one guy a year who had all of them. When I said them all to my mom, my mom said that’s unrealistic, and when I introduced my bf to my mom, my mom liked him in less than two hours, saying she can tell. I believe I meet these character traits myself. I also want him to embody Christian virtues. I try as well. I usually try to find someone who I think is a better person than me. I think it is very difficu…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 05:16 AM
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Chinese linguistic laws are quite similar to English, but is very complicated to learn regardless. Japanese and Korean are the opposite to English and are similar to each other. I do not know about other languages.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:48 AM
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I too found a virgin guy somehow, but my criteria was someone who never had sex outside of a very serious relationship and would wait to have sex until marriage with me. I don't believe my personal pleasure is more important than what I consider to be the moral grey area, and that it is possible to have restraint. My parents were virgins when they got married.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:45 AM
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My dad said the guy has to learn our language to marry me actually. I also prefer to date within my culture but I have dated non-Asian Christians. My dad was a devout Christian himself, so what non-Asian Christians learned and what I learned were somewhat similar. But after my father's passing, I realized I am so much more Asian than I thought I was to the point that westerners probably would have a harder time understanding, so I decided to just stick to Asians.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:36 AM
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His eyes are more like cute cow's eyes. His large eyes tearing up is really cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:09 AM
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We met in high school. He apparently followed me around and gave me something for Valentines, but I did not know he existed in our junior year cause he was such a quiet kid who really tried to blend into the background. In our senior year, he says he didn't know what had gone into him that made him sit down next to me in a class we were taking together, but it did make his presence known. He liked playing rhythm games on his iPad, and he was really good at it, so I asked about it, and apparently…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:08 AM
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My cat could eat that cute little thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:52 AM
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My boyfriend kinda has similar features to the left pic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:26 AM
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My school in an uber Christian town didn't teach the pre-cum stuff either. We just learned that no contraceptive protects you 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 02:52 AM
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I don't know where these guys find the women they talk about. If a woman doesn't appreciate her man simping for her, the guy should honestly run. It can be a sign of other problems like having been raised in an unhealthy household and has a bad idea of relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 02:06 AM
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You fuck, then you can get pregnant. It is not that complicated. It is more about being able to think about other things other than fucking.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 01:49 AM
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There's often a reason why people end up in the leftover market.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 01:36 AM
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A good number of them probably didn't have the brain capacity to not become a single mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 01:33 AM
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Did you pay to see what they look like?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:51 AM
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I never asked the question, but my boyfriend said he would still love me if I was a different gender. That was a bit weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:40 AM
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My boyfriend has a concealer that I gifted him. A few products for men are not so out of the norm in East Asia now.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:39 AM
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I am not saying it never happens, but they just don’t register as your own romantic prospect. He would be like an attractive coworker B that you could introduce your older friend to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:35 AM
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Yeah, that’s false according to matchmaking companies even if the guy has aged reasonably well and is successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:16 AM
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There is a difference between older and old.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:09 AM
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Nah. The old guy could get a pretty girl that is among the minority of women who are okay with real big age gaps. He still could get what he wants, just not with “pretty much every woman”.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:01 AM
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I date desirable enough guys that if they are virgins, it is voluntary. If it is a voluntary choice, a millennial guy could be a virgin for all I care.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:58 PM
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Actually, yeah. I bought groceries too.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:40 PM
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I think none.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:05 PM
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The female behaviors TRP describes mostly is rampant among low SES females. The males that can only afford to be with those females believe in AWALT.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:04 PM
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My mom has a picture proof of me being kissed by my childhood friend when I was 3 or 4 so that I would not be able to scam guys into thinking that I am a kissless virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 10:57 PM
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I was just pointing out what cauliflower might have missed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 08:46 PM
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All their examples are women for some reason though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 08:35 PM
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Nah, my parents told me to choose someone from either school or work, cause it is impossible to know what people are really like without observing them in various situations for a prolonged period of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 05:25 PM
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The glutamate in MSG binds to specific receptors on the tongue that are responsible for detecting umami.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 04:23 PM
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People in the leftover market also missed their chance to pick out someone sane when they could have much easily. Most of the sane ones get taken off the market before people realize and often aren't released back.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 04:19 PM
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I literally could not function properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 04:07 PM
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It is a quick and easy way to make something taste "better" without skills or effort. A lot of Asians think food without MSG is bland as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 04:07 PM
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The FDA states that drowsiness that may occur in some people who are sensitive to MSG and consume 3 grams or more of the flavor enhancer. “MSG is controversial and the research has been inconsistent, but there are MSG-sensitive people and for them, it can trigger headaches, migraine, numbness, and extreme fatigue,” says Robin Foroutan, RDN, an integrative medicine dietitian at the Morrison Center in New York City and a spokesperson for the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics. “I generally recomme…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 03:26 PM
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I am not used to eating those packaged snacks either due to them giving me breakouts. But yesterday’s hotpot basically knocked me out.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 02:53 PM
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Anyone else get bad brain fogs from eating MSG? I am not Asian enough. :/
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 02:41 PM
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I don’t really wear revealing clothing, but when I care about how I dress, I aim for pretty/elegant, not sexy. I don’t go clubbing and when I dress up, it would be for more formal social gatherings and for going to watch performances and stuff. I like feeling dressed up sometimes, and I would do it for going to the operas when the vast majority of people who come are elderly people. I don’t think how I dress impacts my dating prospects much anyways. I have a face that fits Asian beauty standards…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 02:35 PM
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When things are good, it is easy to be good. What defines a relationship is when things are actually bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 06:52 AM
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My guy friends are pretty cool. Most of them are in relationships too.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 06:48 AM
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Where does he even live
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 04:31 AM
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I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 07:54 PM
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That's more Jordan Peterson crowd I think. I didn't really see that much in pill space. Isn't it usually AF/BB they talk about?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 07:48 PM
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If men too made active effort into upholding such social contract, sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 07:36 PM
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I think this makes them interact with the minority of women who do have sex outside of committed relationships a lot more and project those women's behavior onto everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 07:34 PM
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"Power" went to his head. Losers have to take every opportunity to assert their authority.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 06:21 PM
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It matters if you are actually short. Not being short >>> a good face > being tall
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 04:58 PM
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I think my bf would be ecstatic if I got off ppd and watched kdramas instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 04:56 PM
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My first guess is low socioeconomic status and/or discontent with one’s league. Or you have a brainrot. Or it could be like a party school where certain people gather. I went to a prestigious nerd school and we had plenty of sane enough kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 08:16 AM
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They exist. Just all paired off after a while and/or only socialize amongst themselves. Good girls are not into strangers. If you did not find them while in school, it is hard mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 08:07 AM
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It isn’t perfectly linear, but it shows enough of a pattern for pretty people to have pretty privilege and certain people to be more popular over others. I never said social skills were not needed, and the conversation was not about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 08:00 AM
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There’s personal preferences, but conventional beauty standards still exist. Assortative mating (for attractiveness among other things) is a well documented phenomenon in studies.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 07:18 AM
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Good relationship material desirable people get taken off the market fast for both genders. And as they get paired off, there’s less of them on the market, which is when I call the market, the leftover market. People only get a rather short window of time before this leftover market begins and often choose to blame the other sex when really, they just missed the boat. Sane people who are aware of their mate value and are able to be content with who they can get all get paired off and stay off th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 07:07 AM
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If those are what men care about, women like that will get their market value adjusted relative to the women who never did.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 06:51 AM
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Leagues are leagues. They have always existed even in Asia. Even in my grandparents’ generation and most likely earlier too if we consider past literature. People only got good at virtue signalling, but always have cared about superficial traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 06:49 AM
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The more monogamous and anti-hookup culture the society is, the easier it is to realize your mate value cause it is basically just LTR market. LTR market forces the market to even out for the general participants. It sounds like you don’t have access to the market, but that doesn’t mean that it doesn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 06:41 AM
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If you mean Asia, that’s inflated value cause Asia has eurocentric beauty standards and westerners have the advantage of being able to earn more in the west and have ridiculous purchasing power in more developing countries. It is like mid-in-Asia Asian women’s value getting inflated, cause westerners have different beauty standards. That’s not their normal mate value. As an Asian who knows Asian beauty standards, the most mismatched couples I see are interracial couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 06:22 AM
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And what you have to settle for is your mate value. Whoever says otherwise is not accepting that it is a market in the first place. A person is not better than what the market tells the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 05:59 AM
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Mate value is determined who the person can get. You thinking someone is a 4 doesn't make the person a 4 if the person can get 6's to commit. The market dictates one's value, cause both men and women look for what's the best for them. In LTR market, it evens out.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 05:36 AM
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SMV and RMV are different. The women who use SMV instead of their RMV are only temporary placeholders. The sexual marketplace with its mate value only exists because people do have to stay in their lanes in general. And yes, your mate value is who you can realistically attract. What you are describing is the hookup culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 05:15 AM
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Honestly, attempts to understand others usually end up in bad projections for most. When they get it wrong, I think it isn't all that helpful at all, I would say it is worse even. Just one person who can get very close projections does make you feel better though. If that's your partner, great. If it isn't your partner, that's still really great too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 05:01 AM
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I just have small feet.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 03:14 AM
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2 on a pretty boy (basically what models and kpop idols have) 3, 4 on rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 12:03 AM
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Fat women tend to wear less clothing where I live.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 12:02 AM
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My best friend is one. She is a delight like me. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 11:35 PM
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It depends. But I don't want to explain it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 10:57 PM
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It still doesn't explain why men complained bitterly about dating before the Internet ever happened, back when real life socialization was the only game in town. Perhaps it is natural for people to be discontent? I think it is possible to find things to complain about even when things aren't all that horrible. Life rarely goes in the way you want it to, and it gives people something to complain about, and there's always ways in which life could be better in people's minds. Also, I don't think no…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 10:45 PM
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He posted them before.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 10:39 PM
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If your goal is to find such a woman, just do/fake it early.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 07:42 PM
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Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 05:25 PM
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Degenerate
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 05:21 PM
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I think it could be because less Asians are fat, not necessarily due to the features Asians are born with. Or maybe not. Non-Asians seem to prefer a very wide array of Asian features while Asians don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 05:18 PM
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I prefer him politically over Biden too.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 05:13 PM
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Actual conservative society views it as lacking restraint and irresponsible.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 05:05 PM
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I am talking about virtue and what's considered right. Isn't macho about being an outlaw? I am just against wanting your partner to be virtuous when you are not virtuous yourself. Orderly society is only kept when the laws are being enforced and the laws are followed by the majority of its participants.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 04:54 PM
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To me, it is about only wanting women to uphold the social contract, when realistically for women to be chastite, it requires both men and women to abstain. Virtue for women is to keep one's virginity, and virtue for men is to protect women's virginity. I was raised by devout Christians who taught both sexes to abstain.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 04:40 PM
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Yeah in my home country, that’s how the kids end up with the grandparents.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 04:29 PM
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Asian beauty standards and western beauty standards are so different. The Asian girl would not be considered that pretty by Asians.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 03:56 PM
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My mom said, you don’t get rich by making money, you get rich by not spending money. I have a relative (from my mom’s side) who got married in her dad’s vacant floor and they have quite a few buildings in a major city. My mom’s side of the family has generational wealth, and they are all not huge spenders.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 03:51 PM
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I didn’t really know him much when I asked him out tbh. He just followed me around and played the piano for me when I asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 03:32 PM
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I don’t think people in general do.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 03:30 PM
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Sex is not really one of the everyday topics. It depends on who you socialize with. And who makes physical contact just by being sociable and outgoing? No. And I am not that much of an exception. Crazy does not mean sociable. I went to a business school with almost everyone being sociable but we didn’t actually have that many crazy kids. Some PPD men seem to hyper fixate on a certain subset of women and are not able to see anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 03:18 PM
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Friends and family. She is about the average of five closest friends to her. Ask about what her parents are like also. It can be a hit or a miss but connect the dots the best you can. It is the best to date who you already know well enough though. I like to know, not guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 02:48 PM
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I am extroverted and prudish at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 02:43 PM
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Buy a dicing kit.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 01:49 PM
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I genuinely asked my boyfriend out when we were like this. My friends were so confused. He was a quiet kid, I was not. But we hung out in the piano practice room quite a bit before I asked him out.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 01:47 PM
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Or teach them to look for someone who's less fixated on looks? I actually don't think this works in the way you think you do. It is not only about who's wholesome and who's not. Not trying to argue with you here, but open your eyes to one rather fascinating study I've read. I think the lack of socialization is really messing up the dating scene. People who are capable of being less fixated on looks are the ones who socialize, and probably are also the ones who are capable of finding people who a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 08:08 PM
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And I am not sure how I am being hypocritical. Btw you downvoting me out of emotion is not masculine. Stoicism is.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 04:25 PM
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It is sad that kids don’t grow up with a masculine dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 04:15 PM
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we start making out a bit then I grab her butt and tell her how sexy her ass is and how I want to see her in leggings next time. Works if you want a hoe, not a modest woman. Masculinity is also not supposed to be toxic. It is possible for a guy to be good and masculine at the same time. This really is why we need better examples of masculinity than Tate. A good untainted description of masculinity and femininity imo is Asian culture's Yin and Yang.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 03:20 PM
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Expectation vs. Wants. I can want something without it being an expectation. I should have something is different from I want this.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 02:52 PM
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if she is the type who never initiates, she won't reciprocate much. She doesn't value men enough to want to go after one. You are just describing one method to avoid becoming an "oh well" option, not a way to tell women's level of decency. You are conflating two different things. It's how society reacts to unattractive men who are upset about the severe deprivation that they suffer. I think people should learn that there are disadvantages in life and vast disadvantages in life, and others don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 02:09 PM
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A woman who never makes the first move is one who never contributes anything to the relationship and will expect him to constantly shovel the coals to keep it going. A desirable woman's experience entails most guys she is interested in also being interested in her, and quite a few of them asking her out. What matters is her level of decency to reciprocate the efforts when she gets into a relationship and his level of self respect to stop pursuing when there is no reciprocation. Approaching or no…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 06:59 AM
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The thing is, if you don’t approach, somebody else most often will. I almost always had a boyfriend even when I didn’t really approach cause of that. It is often about who creates and takes the opportunity. Yes, women could do it too, but desirable women have more than enough suitors to go through without even getting to approaching men. But I don’t think this has to do much with wanting or not wanting a connection. I agree it is not nice to make fun of people’s appearances, but ehh attraction i…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 06:17 AM
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The new hairdresser did such a good job on my boyfriend’s hair. I’m so happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 01:20 AM
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When I see fat women, short men, mismatched couples in terms of looks, it kicks in.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:38 PM
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If he has inferiority complex, I just pass. Also, the guy has to be able to be vulnerable both in a material sense and emotional sense. If he is too jaded, it is a no. To be honest, I too am pretty jaded, and I would have been screwed if I did not get back together with someone from my past. Being able to take a leap of faith and the ability to stick to Christian virtues even when it doesn't seem like it would serve you well is the ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:26 PM
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Yeah we probably would not get along. Men should have no piercing at all and if women have piercings, it should only be one lobe piercing in each ear. Absolutely no tattoo on either gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 09:37 PM
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Yeah that's why you just slip an anonymous note. Picture or no picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 07:16 PM
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It is a bit of both. Rule #2 which is "Don't be unattractive" almost always applies. Rule #1 "Be attractive" is mainly for non-relationship oriented people. Compatibility/practicality has to be considered if you want to be with that person for a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 07:06 PM
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I knew him very well already and that he embodies Christian virtues better than I do. I was off the market for other guys until I reunited with my bf.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 04:51 PM
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If a woman can't get a man without sex, her RMV is not as high as his imo. It is just her SMV that is high enough. A woman can only keep a man loyal longterm, if he values her more for things other than sex, cause all the other ladies also come with vaginas.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 04:33 PM
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We have such things as conventional beauty and beauty standards. It is generally safe to say that people who fit those standards are usually deemed more desirable. Pretty privilege isn't just given by other pretty people, but everyone else too. It is what it is. In an ideal world, everyone would be visually desirable, but that's not the reality. I think level of decency/virtue/values should match to a certain degree however. I sometimes say on PPD that I like men who would end up in heaven even …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:07 PM
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Ah I see. If you really think she is a wife material and is a religious virgin, I think it makes sense to wait to have sex. I think with actually conservative women who are “good girls”, we do what our parents told us to do unless we have a real good reason not to. That’s how it is for me anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:26 AM
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I see. I think you said you are from Asia? Is she as well? Just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 09:18 PM
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Is there a particular reason why you want at least 7-8 years?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 09:13 PM
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That sounds like my kipling backpack.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 08:31 PM
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I disagree with shipping my money off to Ukraine and Israel as well. she and her partner have paid into the system for I believe she is getting a lot more than she paid for cause she is receiving welfare, and according to her, she isn't being supported by her partner so her words are inconsistent. We all pay tax, but only certain people get welfare. People who do not receive welfare are supporting those who do.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 08:28 PM
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I am not in your wallet. I am sure you are cause I receive 0 social welfare, and conveniently this time, you talk about how your partner is also taxed when you claimed earlier that he doesn't support you financially. :) And no, people who are against (excessive) welfare are the ones who hate the big government, not you who is trying to milk the system.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:45 PM
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legality ≠ immorality MY taxes are higher along with many other's. I have no interest in paying for your kid or your lifestyle. I feel this is far beyond what I have paid into this system for. That's how everyone feels apparently, but I doubt it if you only work part time.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:19 PM
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Sure, you are doing what makes sense to you, but you are still taking tax money that you theoretically shouldn't be getting if you are just holding off on marrying your partner just for the welfare benefits and are getting financially supported by a guy. It is immoral to take advantage of the system when other innocent people are paying the price for your decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:10 PM
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Men actually treat women differently depending on how high value he deems her. If her value to him is just sex and not much else, he would try to hit that ASAP hence pump and dump. The women he deems worth waiting for, he would wait and not push and drop her fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 05:21 PM
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Seeking to marry virgins is not realistic at all these days. Virginity in men was emphasized basically as a testament of one's values, discipline and his attitude towards the social contract. With an absence of those things, virginity doesn't mean much. I somehow found a virgin man who has all those things, but the realistic best you can hope for is someone who has only had sex within serious relationships and would wait for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 05:11 PM
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I was taught to not complain in general by my extremely candid Asian mom. It just doesn't make you seem like a pleasant human being, and not many actually care that much. Some people act as if they do, but they get sick of it soon enough or even use it against you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 04:12 PM
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I think most guys know what is desired superficially, but what they think of that or how they deal with that can differ. There is a wide range of what they think is needed to be successful with women. Some are also more relationship oriented than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 03:11 PM
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Well I had enough fond memories of him to want to give it a chance, but it wasn’t like I didn’t date anyone else in between. He was using my name as his password for a decade and never liked or kissed anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 02:34 PM
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My mom told my boyfriend to start working out too. Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 11:20 AM
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I would not pass. Think that would be extremely rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 11:18 AM
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Yeah. But getting a second opinion of someone you can trust can really help. My mom was in fashion and she comments on my boyfriend’s fashion too. I do think knowing the classic styles you look good in is a real good start. My boyfriend essentially has only the basic items shopping finished.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 11:08 AM
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That method is less reliable anyway cause enough people have shit taste and could throw you off and you probably don’t have that many varied items to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 10:49 AM
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Female. High school. Then reunited when I was back on Facebook for a week. After a while, I could tell that he still had feelings for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 10:45 AM
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Well there are a lot of designs out there. Lol You could also compile the info on things people have complimented you on or get a friend who could potentially know how to do this to help you out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 10:41 AM
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There are t-shirt + jeans guys, but hire a stylist if you really care. Depending on your features, you will have to avoid some colors, know what kind of fabric patterns you should choose (small/big/or none at all), the stiffness of the fabric, types of clothing that look good on you, and etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 10:10 AM
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I think it is about whether a woman prefers masculine traits or not. Asian culture thinks of masculinity to actually include extroversion. I am a rare breed of uber masculine woman who actually doesn’t prefer a masculine partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 08:45 PM
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We both look alright. Like we would have way more competition in Asia where there's a lot more Asians, but in the West, it is difficult to find Asians as good looking as us. We both have family members who were/are models/actors in Asia. Those relatives of course look better than us though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 08:06 PM
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Yes. He got lucky (maybe) that he got his first and only pick. It is insane to be THAT picky and still get what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 07:50 PM
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Eh a bit of both? It is very out of the ordinary cause he doesn’t believe in dating casually to see how things go. I was the only one he could see a future with ever apparently, and that’s the bare minimum for him to want to date someone (i called him weird in your place already). Whereas I dated around a lot more.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 07:45 PM
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My boyfriend was using my name as his password for a decade. He never kissed anyone else either. His mom also flew him out to my city in the hopes of seeing me, but he never contacted me when he came. We went out briefly in high school then reunited a decade later.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 07:38 PM
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People claim both extroverted and introverted women like extroverted men, but as an extroverted woman, I don’t really have a preference. My boyfriend is introverted.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 07:30 PM
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If it was a point apart, sure. Not whole 3 points. Lol and you don’t even need to go down that far to optimize non-superficial traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 02:34 PM
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