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Really sorry to hear that, Camille. Hope you and M are doing okay. Take care of yourselves <3
/r/RedPillWives21/04/16 02:34 AM
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I don't think endo contributes to the emotional symptoms of PMS (aside from extra grumpiness due to pain), unless I'm missing something?
/r/RedPillWives16/04/16 06:58 AM
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And the more you do these things in general life, the more natural they are when it comes to doing them within your relationship.
/r/RedPillWives16/04/16 06:53 AM
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That's when it's good to have a little side income like selling things on etsy/in-home childcare/tutoring/etc. Worth considering if your partner is okay with it!
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 10:22 PM
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Yep. Being feminine like Sansa doesn't go across well in a world ruled by Cerseis.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 10:21 PM
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Sounds like someone is a player of /r/outside .
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/16 10:45 AM
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It's a term they use on Get Off My Internets, which I used to frequent! I find 'husband' so impersonal when lots of us have husbands, but I don't feel like calling him 'A' or 'DH' or 'hubs', but 'huscat' is a bit more familiar and personal, so it's entered my vocabulary.
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 12:48 AM
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Ooh, winter is coming here and I know huscat will enjoy this sort of thing! Saving!
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 10:56 PM
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I love taking relationship advice from unmarried men :P
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 03:21 AM
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I used to have a vintage copy of this, it's a great read!
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 03:09 AM
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Exactly! Also as I'm low-carb, we go out for sushi (well, sashimi for me) quite a lot. One of my favourite restaurant meals! I would love to learn to prepare it at home, but I'm a bit squeamish about fish.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 11:01 PM
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It just seemed like a very arbitrary dealbreaker, was curious about that one in particular! For women, in particular, I think it can be easy to have a GIANT list of dealbreakers that aren't realistic... I would caution against having overly detailed lists of requirements, unless your SMV is VERY high. But yes, of course your point about not taking it personally is a great one :) And I love sushi haha.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 10:41 PM
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My grandmother says 'there can only be one alpha in a pack', and she's not wrong.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 10:02 PM
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No spaces between the words and the asterisks - if you have a space between it thinks you want a list!
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 09:59 PM
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Great post!
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 09:57 PM
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Why was 'gotta like sushi' a dealbreaker? That seems pretty superficial to me - why disqualify a bunch of people for a food preference? Not even an every day one. Unless he's a sushi chef?
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 09:56 PM
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It's Spring! (Well, it's Autumn where I am, but the same thing applies). Make sure to spend some time reflecting on your relationship as the season changes. It can be easy to fall into patterns that may be unhealthy, or to let things fester. Open up the doors and windows of your relationship and let in some fresh air!
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 11:50 PM
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Yay aussies!
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 10:24 PM
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No, it annoys me to wait days for people to get back to me.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 12:32 PM
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yay aussies! Come onto the IRC, we need more people at Aussietimes!
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 08:30 AM
5

I have no red pill suggestions, but I listen to Welcome to Night Vale a lot! Audiobooks - I like Love & Respect, not sure if there's an audio version!
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 06:31 AM
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I haven't played in years because no one wants to play with me IRL, and I use SOWPODS, but we can get a game going when I'm feeling less out of practice!
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 05:29 AM
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!! I used to play on isc.ro so much! I'm going to have to give it another shot...
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 05:15 AM
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My best friend has just gotten out of (sort of - she's still pining and talking to him) a relationship with a married man in an open relationship (and with a new baby on the way)... the most obviously platey situation ever...and she's SO miserable! Why do people do that to themselves?!
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 05:13 AM
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Also, maybe think about being a nanny. I think all young women should get some experience with full-time children, whether as a nanny or through LOTS of babysitting, or whatever, to find out whether or not they're interested in becoming a mother.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 10:57 PM
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Now that we've clarified the actual meaning of LMR, we can talk about playful resistance in an LTR! Coyness and teasing and playfulness is so important! Men really do enjoy the chase, and the feeling of winning you over. Some ideas that might help: keeping your clothes on when he wants them off, until he takes them off you himself. Modesty, even faux modesty, can be a turn on to a fellow. scampering out of reach when he tries to touch your butt/whatever, and letting him chase you/catch you. wres…
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 10:51 PM
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For our engagement/his first birthday since we got together, I got my husband a mechanical watch he'd been wanting for years. I spent so long researching and saving, and he loved it - it was personal, and represented sacrifice (it was a lot of saving!) and is a beautiful item. He still has it and wears it. A good watch lasts a lifetime.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 10:40 PM
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You honestly have to consider that stuff when choosing a partner! It seems like you're supposed to look past previous marriages, children, bad in-laws, because 'love conquers all'. Love conquers a lot, but don't make it more difficult for yourself by getting together with someone with baggage.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 06:49 AM
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Yay, another Aussie! Looking forward to seeing you on the IRC at better times for me than the other girls, haha - it gets quiet at Aussie evening time.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 06:13 AM
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Wow, saved for future reference, and thanks!!!
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 09:46 PM
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Wait, you were expecting him to take out your garbage when he doesn't live with you? Gosh.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 09:45 PM
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Sorry, I was unclear - if they're not in the mood, they often get into the mood when they start doing sexy stuff :) not saying that they're never in the mood.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 03:35 AM
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Most women experience 'responsive desire' - that is, the [edit] may not be ~in the mood~~ until they start doing sexy stuff. They then often 'get into the mood'.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 03:25 AM
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I work from home every day, the struggle is real!
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 01:29 AM
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Hey Phantom, I'm pretty familiar! She isn't a marriage blogger per se; her focus is mostly on happiness and incremental improvements to your life to make things better. I'll have a more detailed look later and see what else might be relevant to RPW! IIRC in her book Happier At Home there was at least one chapter on relationship improvements, will have to give it a re-read.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 11:42 PM
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The thimble idea is so beautiful! Can you imagine looking at the ring on your finger and remembering all the time you put into preparing for your wedding? I love it.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 11:24 PM
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I'm a total Gretchen Rubin fan - her Habit Tendencies idea is really great. This is just a quick blog post, but a great reminder about some of the little traps that it can be easy to fall into in a marriage/relationship.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 11:11 PM
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This is actually making me want to get some personal cards made, haha! My business ones are quite formal in design, I almost want to get some like these for more casual encounters, perhaps I'll invest sometime soon... [EDIT] Also, remember that this sort of a thing is part of your personal 'brand'! If you're into flowers and girly things, you can get a floral set of cards! If you're into photography, choose a photograph that you've loved and put it on there! It's adding to the impression that yo…
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 10:23 PM
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You mean I can't fix all the problems in my marriage by putting hair ribbons on and wearing dresses all the time? Quelle horreur!
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 09:58 PM
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On the topic of business cards: this isn't for everyone but, even if you don't have 'official' business cards for your profession, it's worth getting some made! When I was a student, I had some made with 'Cakeforallofyou, art student, 8675309' on them. (Well, it may have had my actual name, profession and number, but still!). They were free, if I recall correctly, from vistaprint or a similar site - lots of sites have very low cost business card deals available, they're worth taking advantage of…
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 09:55 PM
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Yay!
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 09:45 PM
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I had a similar discussion this week!!! I am so much more anti-divorce than many women I know, because I've seen how shitty it is for families. And similarly, I'm much more pro-gender-roles (although not for everyone, just for myself and perhaps the majority) than people expect.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 04:54 AM
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Argh, #3 trips me up quite often. I'm a total daddy's girl, so I sometimes find myself doing things the way my dad wants me to, rather than the way my husband does. Luckily, they're usually pretty similar in approach, so I don't cause too much strife, but it's one I need to keep an eye on. #7 is another one. I don't do most of the things on there, but I do find myself arguing, even gently, with my huscat when he's made his opinion clear.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 01:13 AM
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Replying to myself to add: maybe I should spend less time on making my manicures perfect and more time cooking healthy food/making my hair better, huh. So much of what I do as day-to-day beauty maintenance is more about making me feel better than making me attractive to others.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 01:07 AM
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I reread this and it's always so good! There's no point in spending energy on the minutiae of your facial structure/eyeshadow color/etc when you're overweight/have lank, unattractive hair.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 12:42 AM
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It's like a budget. I need to pay rent and buy groceries and pay my cell phone bill. I want to buy fancy shoes and expensive brunches and get a massage twice a week. If I spend all my money on spa days and shopping, I'll end up not being able to pay my rent...which is obviously more important. If you focus on your 'wishlist' at the expense of your 'non-negotiables', you'll end up with a bunch of shoes and nowhere to live. Doesn't sound great to me.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 12:32 AM
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I dislike this trend of calling anything 'rape' when in reality, it's just 'going along with something to be kind'. Sometimes you don't want to have sex, but you do because your partner does! It doesn't mean you're being forced into it, it means you're putting effort into your relationship, perhaps sacrificing a little (not being able to finish your book) for the greater good (a strong marriage where both partners feel wanted).
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 12:25 AM
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You snooped on his email and were unhappy with what you found. What on earth did you expect? Stop trying to control him and monitor his communications.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 12:22 AM
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It's easy to forget that even an 'I miss you!' text can be read as pressure to change his mind!
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 12:16 AM
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Too many Disney movies and happily-ever-afters that skip over the hard stuff. EDIT: I made a comment in a different sub, here about success rates in arranged marriages. I think it's part of the same phenomenon - people in western society seem to be caught up in love being all romance, all the time, instead of thinking about the hard work that's involved in maintaining a solid relationship over the course of decades.
/r/RedPillWives03/04/16 11:23 PM
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Did you have to submit a cover letter with your list of references?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/16 12:12 AM
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Remember that women have been giving birth for thousands of years, in fields and caves - you're not a princess, so don't expect your husband to treat you like one.You'll be extra hormonal, don't use that as an excuse to be a bitch! Keep doing whatever you do in your relationship that keeps it happy! And congratulations!
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 10:43 AM
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For sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/16 09:17 PM
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Yeah, I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/16 08:39 PM
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Yeah. As a woman (not one that's been raped, though), I would find it incredibly intimidating to go to a police station to be questioned and intimately physically probed in the aftermath of a rape. I can understand how someone wouldn't do that in the direct aftermath of a rape, ESPECIALLY if they've gone home in the interim/showered away any physical evidence (a very common coping tactic) and fear not being believed.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/16 04:51 AM
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I will believe survivors if there's no evidence to the contrary. Rape is depressingly common, and there's enough stigma on coming out as a rape survivor that I don't see there being many reasons not to believe them. This opinion doesn't affect how rigorous I believe courts and school tribunals should be at trial.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/16 12:31 AM
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Those are the sort of questions we considered when getting engaged. There are lists like that in many pre-marriage courses offered by churches and therapists, for example - I don't think they're red-pill in particular, just basic checks of compatibility on the major issues that cause conflict in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/16 12:28 AM
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One on one for any length of time is usually quite intimate. Drinking and talking emotionally (even about your boss) has the potential to get much more intimate than I feel comfortable with in my marriage. Especially given how frequently men misread platonic intimacy for romantic intimacy. Why are you rock-climbing (as an example) with a man on your own? Are there no groups that you can join? No female friends you can invite?
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/16 03:11 AM
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I am going to say that, unless these guys are obviously gay, they a) are into you or b) other guys will think they are into you, and steer clear.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/16 07:58 AM
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I'm married, and my only male friends are couple friends - I'll hang out with the female member of the couple one-on-one, but not the male member. Hanging out with them one on one leaves the door open for emotional intimacy that's inappropriate for a married woman, or a single one not wanting a relationship. Any time you hang out one-on-one with a guy, treat it as a date. If you don't want it to be a date, then why are you hanging out so intimately?!
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/16 07:26 AM
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I can't tell if you're being deliberately obtuse or not. I didn't say anything about all prostitutes in HK being trafficked, and neither did the article. I was simply responding to your statement that "there aren't sex slaves in [HK]", which is patently untrue.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/16 04:44 AM
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There aren't sex slaves in one of the richest economies in the world. This isn't thailand or Nigeria..... Seriously? How naive are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/16 04:08 AM
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Sure, their natural body type is nothing to be ashamed of. But no one's natural body type is obese. The models in this video, several of them were very overweight/obese, and that's not something to aspire to.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/16 10:29 PM
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Okay, time for some honesty! The good: Some great STFU-ing. Lots of cooking for huscat! We found a church that seems nice was a lot more careful with my words after some incidents (see below) Bought bicycles for riding! The bad/ugly: (there is a lot of this, excuse the wall of text!): I made a really mean comment to huscat. It was thoughtless and intended as a joke, even though I know he dislikes being teased about a couple of things, and I hurt his feelings/broke his trust in me/was disrespectf…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/16 06:29 AM
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You can use a white noise app on your phone and try out some different sounds.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/16 11:27 PM
1

Are you in monk mode? Sounds like you should be in monk mode rather than jumping from your ex to another guy so quickly.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/16 10:38 PM
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Does it matter what the reply is?
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/16 09:29 PM
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Paragraphs would make this a lot easier to read :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/16 09:45 AM
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Haha I do the same thing with spoilers! When I'm getting hooked on something really trashy, I'll look up the plot for the next season and find out "who A is" or what happens to Serena etc, it helps a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/16 09:27 PM
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He'll say it when he's ready, or he won't. Good luck with staying relaxed/not hamstering about it!
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/16 09:53 PM
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(as part of the reason why he feels like it didn't work out, for some reason). Sounds like rationalisation to me. It's obviously up to you, but I'd let him lead on this one - saying it first may make him feel pressured into saying it back, if he's not yet ready, or may cause him to back away if he feels things are moving too fast.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/16 08:07 PM
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That sounds great! Sounds like he'll say it when he's ready, and then you can say it back - don't scare him by saying it first!
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/16 02:29 AM
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Sadly, no, not technically.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/16 12:36 AM
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It's madness.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/16 08:23 PM
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Haha, no, I'm not weight training. I think it's just too many sugar alcohols, some people find that they stall loss! My mum sent me an assorted box to try the flavors, they're pretty neat.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/16 10:40 AM
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Hey fhigure! You're right, so many people are trying to apply quick fixes and forgetting the core behaviours that caused the issues in the first place. It reminds me of /u/TempestTcup's blog post about 'femininity cosplay' - seems like a lot of women are trying to dress prettier and do their hair and cook dinner, rather than focusing on the serious issues at play in their relationship. Okay, onto the self-reflections: The good: This week was a better one than the last, we were both more relaxed …
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/16 04:49 AM
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I've heard RPW described as oppressed doormats, and that we're all internal misogynists contributing to our own oppression....people are hilarious.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/16 02:25 AM
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You're right, religious texts across all religions are, well, fairly hideous. HOWEVER, you don't see Christians marrying their daughters off pre-puberty, or stoning women to death. The more horrific aspects of Islam have become an inseparable part of the culture in many Islamic nations, much more than the (much less horrific) bad aspects of other religions.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/16 07:41 AM
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Because having standards for the one you love is unreasonable? Goodness.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/16 08:26 AM
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Ugh why should people get all riled up about your sign?? Ridiculous. Sorry your relatives acted that way!
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/16 05:53 AM
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True, but I assume it's against the guidelines.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/16 05:49 AM
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But as a subscriber, you can't downvote, right?
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/16 05:24 AM
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Thanks for writing this. It sounds like separating is the right choice for you, and your family. And what you said about being a good woman, regardless of trying to get a quality man, is so important. So many posters are fixated on the getting of a man, they don't care at all about being a good person.
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/16 11:43 AM
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I've seen a lot of poly relationships, but not a one that works. That might be my age (26), perhaps older people are better at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/16 10:52 AM
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The subreddit's style hides the icons. You should be able to up vote either way!
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/16 10:42 AM
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Thinking back to when I was first talking to my now husband (online), I think I struck a pretty good balance between hunter/hunted. I mentioned lots of things that I enjoyed, like picnics and coffee, and my relaxed plans for a weekend, that give him an easy opening to invite me on a date. I didn't say 'let's go out for coffee' but I did make it clear that it was something I'm interested in. So he asked me out for coffee in a local botanical garden, and the rest is history :) I think it's about s…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/16 10:48 PM
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On the other hand, if you snap twigs and the hunter doesn't make any moves, it's pretty clear he's not pursuing you. As long as you don't start galumphing around the forest making lots of noise to attract any old hunter, a little twig snapping/fan dropping (to get archaic) is okay.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/16 10:43 PM
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I see what you mean. I do think she should look into egg storage, but telling him about it would likely be manipulative.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/16 07:23 AM
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I'm sure she can find a way to afford it. She has a new house that she calls 'hers'. Fertility is a serious concern, and freezing eggs now is less expensive than having to find donor eggs or a surrogate later because she waited too long. I do also think that making it clear she's considering an expensive medical treatment may prompt him to 'shit or get off the pot', as the phrase goes. But I can see how that could end up being manipulative behaviour if she didn't actually plan to do that.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/16 06:23 AM
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I would mention that you are thinking about freezing your eggs, so that you have the option of having children in a few years. That means you won't be rushing into marriage based on your fertility. (edit) It also has the consequence of being an additional cost that may prompt him to hurry up in decisionmaking.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/16 12:27 AM
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WRT your family situation, I'd be careful, just as you're still in the dating stage. There's a difference between what I share with huscat and what I shared with him when we were first dating, or before we were engaged.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/16 12:23 AM
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If it's something affecting both of us, then of course. If it's just affecting me, and I'm doing an okay job of STFU and not being cranky, then I try to keep it to myself unless huscat asks specifically. It's about being open, but not being a burden. If you need to rant, find a female friend!
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/16 12:22 AM
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That 'pause' is so important. It reminds me of this post by Leo Babauta of Zenhabits - http://zenhabits.net/pause/ . By stopping for a second, and acknowledging a feeling/impulse/thought but not acting on it, you can really gain a lot of insight into your mind and how it works.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 09:18 PM
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I am definitely going to have to pick this one up! Thanks so much, /u/kittenkajira!
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 09:15 PM
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Think hard about what being an investment banker's girlfriend is going to mean. Long hours are just part of it! There is quite a trophy wife culture (from what I have read) so you'll need to be committed to keeping your SMV up and working hard on your relationship in the time you have.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 09:13 PM
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Probably not with the gelatin though!
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 02:24 AM
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If he's too passive to ask her out, is he going to be a good partner?
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 02:20 AM
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This is the thread I was talking about on IRC! Aside from the not wanting to work on herself, the other issues are ones I'm really curious about from a RP perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/16 01:31 AM
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Good: It was a massively hectic week - I called yesterday to book a mover's appointment and they were able to fit us in on the same day! Which was fine (we had my giant brother there to help move furniture) but very quick. There were also lots of deadlines and contractors and appointments. We did a great job of working together on house-prep stuff - huscat said that he felt like we were very 'team-y' which is a huge compliment from him. I was relatively supportive while family were visiting - ma…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 08:21 PM
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Off topic, but would you recommend that book?
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 07:44 PM
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Interesting! Thanks for explaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/16 01:11 AM
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I'm thinking of the guys who decide to go out for a ride, don't bother to wear their gear, and then do wheelies on a multi-lane highway (which speaks to poor impulse control in my opinion). Can you clarify what you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/16 12:21 AM
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Can I go on a tangent? My husband and I both have our motorcycle licenses, though I don't often ride. In the riding community, I see a huge number of young men with poor impulse control, who ride dangerously and without adequate protective gear. But I equally see a lot of level-headed men, often older, who are careful to minimise risk and ride safely. It seems like poor impulse control just has more obvious consequences when motorcycles are involved. Not all motorcycle riders are like that! ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/16 09:58 PM
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Nice analogy, Kelly! There is such a huge difference between those two scenarios, and people often conflate them when talking about cheating. I would never do the first one, but I can imagine doing the second one (which is why I'm careful not to put myself in drunken situations with the opposite sex without my husband).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/16 09:55 PM
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wait, your mother trumps your wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/16 09:52 PM
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Hah, great logic there.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/16 09:46 PM
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Just because she did it in the past doesn't mean it's sensible...she's asking about it here, so clearly some reservations. A lot of people are with questionable men, that's what the vetting stage and the dating stage are for!
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/16 11:30 PM
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That is difficult. It's a complicated area! Personally, I've never done them with anyone other than my husband (fiance at the time), and only polaroids! I would try sticking to Snapchat or something, and keeping your face out of it like /u/blondie_brownie said.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/16 10:26 PM
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There's a huge difference between showing your SO your naked body and showing your SO your naked body in a format that can be shared with others.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/16 10:25 PM
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Ding ding ding! #3 seems like the best option. Just gotta make sure it's a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/16 10:05 PM
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How long have you guys been together? I'd save nudes for after you're married, or at least engaged, to be honest. The risk is too high without some serious commitment, and you run the risk of looking like the sort of woman who sends nudes to bfs...ie, not wife material.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/16 09:49 PM
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Yes, of course not, and...yes, probably. My husband is my number one, and if it's a legitimate addiction (I'm thinking of pornography/masturbation etc, rather than rampant cheating - the first is likely to be more compulsive than the second, in my opinion) then I am there to help him through that, as long as he wants to get through it.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/16 09:29 PM
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I'm a social media junkie, but I'm careful not to let it overwhelm my life/cause issues. Facebook - but no sharing of personal statuses, mostly used for communicating with friends/family. Delete anyone who posts overly personal stuff/drama! Instagram - private - used for sharing pictures, mostly of outfits and food and mostly with my female friends. I should do a clean-out though and make sure i haven't picked up any creepy followers. pinterest - no socialising here, just organising pictures etc…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/16 09:11 PM
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Okay! Be careful, a lot of men will nope right out of there if they get a whiff of you not being over your ex (which is what this might look like). When I mentioned that I'm friends with an ex, I should have included "five to seven years after the fact".
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/16 09:41 PM
1

Indeed! So far, as long as I keep my eyebrows dark and deal with the bags under my eyes, it's looking good.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/16 09:36 PM
2

I get being friends (and I'm friends with an ex of mine!) but be careful. Having him over to your house in a one-on-one social setting is quite intimate - I certainly wouldn't do that, especially if I was trying to find a new partner!
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/16 09:36 PM
8

Laura, why is your ex coming around for a chat?!
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/16 09:19 PM
1

Dark dark dark brown/almost black - which is what huscat likes :) I'm having to retool some of my makeup routines to make sure I don't look like a goth or a ghost!
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/16 09:14 PM
7

It's punished similarly harshly when it's against children.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/16 04:41 AM
7

Not sure what point you're trying to make here. Even if you exclude the injuries, rape (and I mean explicit violation of sexual consent, not over-sensitive definitions that apply to drunken hookups on both sides) has a lot of negative consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/16 04:15 AM
1

Good: looking fabulous (dyed my hair and it's wonderful); being expressive of love towards husband; fun and low-key valentine's day; house is moderately clean Bad: exhaustion -> being less present than I should be.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/16 12:44 AM
15

Okay, I'll bite. In terms of ongoing consequences from a violent assault and a rape, what are we looking at? Violent assault: injuries of some degree possibly some PTSD but not that likely Rape: injuries of some degree 6.2x likelihood of developing PTSD, with ~1/3 of those cases persisting for a long time source issues with intimacy in relationships potential for STDs or pregnancy loss of virginity in some cases/increase in n-count (which is an issue in a RP sexual marketplace) Considering those…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/16 12:36 AM
2

I feel there is a certain level of animosity towards saying anything good about women in the TRP world. I think you're conflating "the TRP world" with "a small section of Red Pillers still in the anger phase".
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/16 01:09 AM
12

Yeah, wow, she "tuned her out" because she was talking about Walmart makeup? Because if you shop at walmart, you clearly can't have anything to say of value.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/16 09:43 PM
2

Ooh, I would love goodreads friends! If you know me from IRC, feel free to PM me and I'll give you my deets :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/16 09:31 PM
1

Heeheehee. Me too.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/16 08:19 PM
3

Have you looked at /r/1200isplenty and /r/1200isplentyketo ? You could also try eatthismuch for meal plans.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/16 08:12 PM
4

I mean, he wasn't wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/16 12:53 AM
1

Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 10:15 PM
1

Huh, there you go! Well, whatever it is, applying that after shaving helps stop razor burn (for me) - maybe it just disinfects the surface.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 10:14 PM
1

Really? I thought that its astringent properties temporarily tightened the skin + pores?
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 10:02 PM
2

Can I request people's favourites on a particular topic? I'm looking for RPW fiction!
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 10:01 PM
3

Right, after some discussion with /u/lo_andbehold_ , I'm going to do a 'no-buy' for Lent! No buying anything that's not groceries or necessary household purchases for our new apartment (that includes cute kitchenware, oh no!)
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 09:29 PM
1

Oh, that's fine! I am a masochist so I imagine it'll be doable. Thanks for the info! I don't think I'll go the brazilian, but I'll try the underarms and maybe bikini line in future. I wish I could do my legs, but they're the wrong color!
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 09:27 PM
1

We're going to a cheese festival next week! Yessss!
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 09:25 PM
2

Aw, this is fab!
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 09:24 PM
1

I think I'm sold, for underarms at least! Does it hurt much? I'll get a session and see if I can handle the pain.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 09:13 PM
1

Witch hazel would also help close up the pores, which reduces the risk of infection.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 09:08 PM
2

How have you found the laser? I'm considering getting my underarms done.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 09:06 PM
2

Posting grievances on facebook is fairly unclassy. It's good that you recognised that.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 05:44 AM
3

Yay for getting through superbowl! And being invited to family vacation! Could you add in another cardio session during the day? A half hour run could do 2-300 calories, which is half a pound a week.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 05:44 AM
1

Female, purplepill (RP in my relationship, purple in my politics). Lower number of friends than average (have moved around a lot) Introvert Out of ~20 friends, 80% are female. Not sexually attracted to any of them. If I were, I wouldn't be friends with them, as I am in a committed relationship. One of them is an ex bf from ~8 years ago - no longer attracted. Theoretically, if I weren't in a monogamous relationship, I might be attracted to one of them? But my blinders are fairly solidly on when I…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/16 10:27 PM
2

The legal deterrent still exists, both for the rapists and for the potential victims expecting more safety.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/16 08:48 PM
5

Right, that makes it a LOT easier. If it were legal anywhere, then there's no way it would work at all. On private property: Women would not go to men's homes without a chaperone (I assume rape would still be looked upon as an act of violence, just without legal consequences) Women would be more careful of drinking in public, lest they become more susceptible to going back to a man's house.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/16 08:47 PM
5

Are you including the caveat 'on private property'?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/16 08:41 PM
2

The good: Continuing to lose weight, and it's pretty awesome. I bought a couple of new items (jeans, tees, bras) and tailored a few to fit my changing body, so I feel a lot less sloppy/messy than I was feeling previously. Huscat is enjoying it too. Deferring pretty well to huscat as we're moving house. Lots of little decisions to be made, and some big ones too. Choosing furniture is HARD but I told him my honest feelings about one item (his bachelor couch) and he decided we should buy a new one …
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/16 10:05 PM
2

Buy some cheap jeans to see you through - you'll look worse if you're in tatty, ill-fitting jeans than if you're in clean, basic, well-fitting ones! (I've retired a pair this week that are two sizes too big for me, but I was holding onto as I'm losing weight. I bought a super cheap pair of basic jeans and I look so much better).
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/16 09:59 PM
4

The difference in people's reactions when you dress femininely is so big! I never realised it as I've always dressed relatively femininely, HOWEVER I tend to pull my hair into a (neat) bun or ponytail. The difference in how I'm treated when my hair is out is huge.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/16 09:58 PM
2

I feel the same as Stingray - not too many specifics, but I'll try to explain how 'leading' manifests with my huscat. Earns lots of money to support us, and is always finding ways to earn more + have our money go further. Keeps us on track in terms of relationship health. He won't let things fester for long, and will bring up the tough topics when necessary. Expects me to handle the little day-to-day stuff, rather than spending his valuable time deciding on what we should have for dinner/get at …
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/16 09:56 PM
3

Being a good, god-fearing woman > being beautiful and charming.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/16 07:15 AM
1

I think that is also a really sweet gesture in terms of showing that you care.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/16 07:10 AM
2

That's fair. And one of the reasons I don't suggest TRP applies well to everyone's personality and relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/16 03:48 AM
1

How long did you date before clarifying exclusive commitment? About two weeks before 'exclusive' as neither of us was interested in dating anyone else. Did you have sex first? No. Was it you who pushed for commitment or was it him? I can't recall, actually. Is he significantly more or less attractive than you, or approximately the same? About the same. How old are both of you? At the time, 22 (him) and 21.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/16 03:37 AM
1

If we're talking about wartime, we're likely talking nationalistically, not globally. So no, there are not 7 billion humans in my country, or yours. And while 'screwed' may be an overstatement, there could absolutely be a negative impact on the birth rate that could have ill effects.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/16 10:39 PM
4

Marriage is often good for women, and bad for men. Which is why TRP is predominantly anti-marriage, and RPW is predominantly pro-marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/16 10:34 PM
2

He's not saying that someone will magically 'take the pill' and suddenly become alpha. He's saying that by developing his alpha traits, he can improve his life. It's not about winning, it's about improving.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/16 05:57 AM
2

Hm, okay! Looking at the statistics, it looks like there are fewer deaths than I was expecting (I was basing my knowledge off WW1+2, not Vietnam). Fair points, then.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/16 12:03 AM
1

No, we don't. But sending a large portion of the fertile female population (ie women btwn 18-35) into combat is going to lead to deaths and maimings that would negatively impact the birthrate.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/16 11:47 PM
1

It sucks that you have to espouse views not your own to get ahead, but that's how it goes. I imagine you'd do the same for a male professor, yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/16 10:02 PM
0

This sounds like a terrible idea. If the men die at war, at least the women can continue childbearing and rearing. If the women die at war, we're screwed. That said, I am ALL for drafting EVERYONE (women, non-combat-suitable men) into non-combat support roles. If you're not actively raising small children, you should be working to support your country.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/16 09:58 PM
3

It's not "if it works out", it's persistence. Sorry, I have no RP advice on how you can get him to man up.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/16 06:04 AM
2

It sounds like there's a lot going on. Could you suggest to your husband doing some freelance work while he job-hunts? Upwork or Fiver etc could get at least a little bit of an income in the mean time, and also means that he may start feeling better at being a 'provider'.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/16 05:34 AM
7

Sounds like he dodged a bullet.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/16 10:57 AM
1

Yeah, nofap when you don't have a regular sexual outlet seems silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/16 11:22 PM
1

I've been on both the combined pill and the Mirena ius. The combined pill affected me a lot in terms of mood and I finally gave up after it seriously increased my depression. The Mirena, while hormonal, is a much lower dose and I haven't noticed any mood effects. It's also much less bothersome and better at protecting against pregnancy. Talk to your doctor, research your risk factors (overweight or high blood pressure or risk of cancer) and find something that works for you!
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/16 10:23 PM
2

My friend also had the migraine issue on HBC!
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/16 10:20 PM
3

My kp has all but disappeared since going keto... All the fats do wonders for my skin.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/16 11:11 AM
3

1) He makes me laugh so hard I pee a little. Start your kegels now, lady! It's only going to get worse!
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 06:25 AM
4

It depends on where you hang out, too. If you're a bit of a rockabilly, and you're hanging out with tattooed gentlemen and that's exclusively who you're interested in attracting, then you could absolutely get away with bright, well-maintained pink hair. But if you're a single RPW and you're trying to maximise your attractiveness, then natural hair, or natural-seeming hair (subtle highlights or well-applied color) is going to be best.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/16 10:39 PM
2

cough mrp cough
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/16 03:50 AM
1

Hey, I have similar issues (depression/anxiety). But I don't have the rage episodes you do. Sounds like you need to deal with that as a priority. Mental health issues that are under control are totally compatible with a relationship, but only if they are really under control.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/16 09:50 PM
1

You can buy pre-boned meat, and pre-sliced if necessary (that's how I feel about chicken, as a long-term vegetarian and now omnivore, I still can't cut up chicken without feeling icky). It's a little more expensive but it sounds like a solution.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/16 09:28 PM
1

It sounds less than theoretical, but okay. I don't think many men would care if you had an N of 5 from 5 LTRs. Most would baulk at hearing you'd had 5 ONS or FWB arrangements, because that may be a red flag in terms of commitment/promiscuity etc. It will depend on the individual man and his feelings about sexual activity outside of a committed relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/16 12:20 AM
1

Were they five ONS or 5 LTRs?
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/16 09:13 PM
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As with most things, it's not about the extremes, it's about the in betweens. Your partner's income (plus yours if applicable) needs to be sufficient to support the two of you in your life together. If you're wanting to live frugally & have a good work-life balance, then you need less income than if you want a fancy, lavish lifestyle and the ability to stay at home as a trophy wife. It's up to you and your priorities.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/16 02:39 AM
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Send her here! And tell her to stop talking to male friends about her sex drive, that's private stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/16 02:18 AM
2

In a real Captain/First Mate dynamic, the first mate doesn't expect the Captain to be responsible for every little thing (eg what's for lunch). The First Mate handles loads of the important stuff on board, so that the Captain has the time and space to handle the really big stuff. Again, it sounds like you've got an imperfect understanding of this particular dynamic, as 'be the leader of your own life and the first mate of his' is not something different. Keep reading and learning so that you und…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/16 08:55 PM
1

Ooh, that sounds fun! This weekend was a wheat beer, i might suggest rice in future! We have kegs, which should be able to withstand explosivity.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/16 11:06 PM
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My husband and I brew beer every month or so in our backyard. We invite friends over, drink beer (store bought or from the last batch) and play board games. It's an awesome way to drink socially but keep it low-key! This is also easier because we have friends who are in relationships, rather than all single friends.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/16 10:21 PM
4

I have doubts about the C/FM dynamic, because I think it causes me to put even more expectations on my boyfriend, and brush off my responsibilities onto him. How can you have doubts about a dynamic when, according to your own field report, you haven't even played your own role correctly?
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/16 10:15 PM
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So you think that because some (not all) women vote with their emotions, none should be allowed to vote? Do you also think there should be restrictions on which men vote? Men who have been convicted of crimes? If a man has committed a crime of passion, isn't that a clear signal that he's not rationally based?
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/16 10:11 PM
4

Unless you live in a compulsory democracy, you don't have to vote. Do you think it's reasonable that women aren't allowed to vote at all?
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/16 01:44 AM
1

I met my husband's family ~4 weeks after our first date. He took me to a family function - talk about baptism by fire!! I was worried that they wouldn't like me but it was okay. I think it means a lot less these days - it's more like getting your family prepared in case the relationship becomes more serious, rather than a sign of something big.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/16 12:33 AM
1

I think it was deleted for another reason, but I could be wrong :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/16 04:58 AM
1

I think it was eventually deleted, I can't find it either.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/16 03:10 AM
3

There has been at least one previous post regarding transwomen and TRP. In my opinion, it's totally possible to be both trans and RP. I wouldn't say it's easy - there are a lot of unpalatable truths about being trans and looking for a RP man - but I'm sure you can learn a lot here if you want. Good luck in your journey!
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/16 02:13 AM
1

I want a best friend who will be my husband and share a life together. Is that going to work if he's deploying (and may again)? Military marriages are complicated in their own way, and you need to be aware of the challenges going in.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/16 01:43 AM
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The half day Fridays are an awesome idea! What are you going to do while you're being cute? Read a book, write a journal? Draw?
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/15 08:48 PM
0

Frankly, Paul doesn't care if a girl thinks he's a 7/10 or a 10/10... He does care if girls think that he is a 7 vs a 10. His goal is to be the best that he can be so he would rather everyone think of him as a 10 vs a 7. And since a 10 is impossible, he'd rather be considered an 8 or 9. I think maybe OP's point is that Paul doesn't care if he's seen as a 7 or an 8, as all he's looking for is sex. Better (for Paul's goals) that 10 women think he's a 7 (and thus will have sex with him) than 5 thin…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/15 01:46 AM
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My personal favorite is "don't even hear a double entendre." How do you even do that? I think the point is to ignore them/not admit that you've understood them. Which is an excellent way of dealing with them, in my opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/15 10:48 PM
2

I like starting now so I can fail a bit and refine my practice before the new year.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/15 04:52 AM
2

I think she was saying that next week's (or maybe the week after) is going to be a long one so she'll be doing something longer personally.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/15 11:36 PM
5

Touching a friend gently on the upper arm is a nice way to incorporate a little bit of touch without getting too huggy or flirty.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/15 02:10 AM
6

One case (a particularly hurtful case to me) doesn't eclipse all the other experiences I have had, even with him. Unfortunately, for lots of people (and I think men in particular, sometimes), one case can eclipse all the other reasonable instances! It sucks that his feelings were hurt. Did you ever work out why? As a side note, he didn't even wish me a Happy Birthday on my Birthday. In friendship, as in relationships, there can't be a tally. You can't be keeping score ("I did this for his birthd…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/15 02:06 AM
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Okay, but something caused him to feel that way. Instead of considering why he's feeling that way, you're arguing with a stranger on the internet about how you're like, so good at being in tune with people's feelings. Incidentally, I'm not in any way saying that his behaviour is sensible! I am saying that your response, which seems to be "go on the internet, blame him for being crazy, and don't take any responsibility for my own actions" doesn't make me think that you're very caring or considera…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/15 11:59 PM
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no. I'm fairly in tuned with most people's feelings. Sounds like you weren't in this case. And you're being VERY defensive about it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/15 11:33 PM
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Still. To me, that suggests that you're less aware of other people's feelings than you might think. Do you find it difficult to understand people's feelings?
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/15 11:29 PM
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I took the liberty of reading through your post history... https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/3wnvhh/me_22_f_with_my_friend_21_m_1_year_helping_him/ I admit I would say some unkind things about a shirt he would wear (It was really terrible. it was a plaid shirt in primary colors. His own father told him it was terrible and threw it away.), so I guess that it hurt. Personally, I'd like it someone told me my shirt was ugly. (he does nerdy things, I sometimes comment on it. I shouldn't…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/15 11:25 PM
6

A personalised map of fun places he might like in the area could be nice :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/15 05:57 AM
1

Yeah, totally!
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/15 05:17 AM
1

Goodness, you're a font of ideas! This year, I'm limited on budget, unfortunately, so no expensive trips or spa days for us! We already have a coffee machine :) Hobbies: he brews beer and makes video games. He already has all the beer equipment he needs as far as i know, but I'm on the lookout for nice glasses (which I know he wants). I'll keep looking!
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 12:43 AM
2

I feel like, after 5 years together, I've gotten him all those lovely standard male gifts! I bought him a watch he'd wanted forever, a beautiful wallet, a belt, etc. I am now stumped because I feel like it's downhill from here!
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 09:17 PM
4

What about something like "I don't like to talk about money with people I don't yet know that well." with a smile and maybe a wink if that's your thing? That gives them hope that you'll be 'getting to know' them better and puts it off until maybe they won't be scared away.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 07:50 AM
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While I was reading, I was thinking of the point you've made in your edit. I think that could very much be part of it. Also: I never tell guys what I make and I don't bring up what I do until they ask. They ask how much I make and I tell them and they go silent. Could you clarify what you tell them? If they flat-out ask what you make, I'd demur with a comment like "I don't like talking about money when I'm trying to enjoy dinner/a date" then changing the topic.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 07:32 AM
1

Hasn't quite reached Australia!
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 09:15 PM
2

$10/month? Gosh darn, I wish that were available where I am! At minimum it costs ~$60/month for a no-frills gym.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 08:59 PM
1

Last time this came up, someone mentioned Alicia Florrick from The Good Wife, which was the push I needed to finally watch the show! Currently on season 4, so I might miss something... also, slight spoilers ahead. Appearance She's always well put together, with feminine and flattering hair and makeup and outfits, even at home. She doesn't show too much skin or attract attention with her outfits, they're subtle and demure. Actions Her husband cheated on her, and she was under the magnifying glass…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 02:33 AM
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Margaery is so horrible though, i like to think that RP women are nice and generous and have integrity, not just look and sound pretty/sweet.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 02:26 AM
2

First post! Things I did well! I wore my hair down and made the effort to dress up even on off days I went out with my husband for drinks even when I was tired I cooked from scratch and made sure husband had good food at reasonable intervals I was more vocal about sex stuff and made him feel more wanted (which we had talked about being an issue). I continued with my diet (/r/keto and /r/xxketo, y'all!) and lost a few more pounds (total of 12 so far!) Things to work on Another sex one: need to ma…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/15 04:18 AM
2

Yeah fair! It's just basic courtesy to your partner a lot of the time, but people take it as a sign of him being controlling or something. Weird.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 03:21 AM
1

Exactly. You need to find a way to communicate with your husband about money that doesn't make him feel like you're parenting him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/15 03:05 AM
3

Eggplant moussaka, or lentil-based bolognese sauce are my go-to meaty vegetarian meals
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/15 06:38 AM
2

My husband is the same! He likes bright solid colors and plain fabrics. So the fancy lace ones are all for me ;)
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/15 03:31 AM
1

Maybe I was too simplistic. More like, if they complain about their family Christmas or whine about having to babysit a cousin occasionally, then they're probably not family focused. Eg 'do you have lots of cousins? How old? Are they fun to hang around?' Alternatively, if they say 'Actually, I don't have a great relationship with my family' that's something different. It's more an opportunity to see red flags that may be relevant.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/15 03:37 AM
2

Oh my gosh you're adorable! Things you talk about on dates: everyday things like what you do for fun and you families and shared interests. The subtext is that you're trying to work out if they're someone you could date long term. So when you ask about their family, pay attention to how they talk about them. When you ask about career aspirations, does he want to progress to something that can support a family? Or is he happy just like, doing whatever, man? When you ask him about the things that …
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/15 02:27 AM
2

A door snake (those long tubes of sand for keeping drafts out) might also be helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/15 06:18 AM
2

If your opinion is being voiced loudly and offensively (calling her "him") then I damn well will voice mine. See how everyone else is being kind and welcoming? Maybe you should take a good, long look at yourself and see if you're being friendly and respectful. PS: You're right, I wouldn't date a transman...because I'm married. I also wouldn't date a woman, because I'm not interested. Neither of those things entitle me to be cruel and rude.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 03:15 AM
1

You're being a bit simplistic and quite offensive. Genetically, sure, she likely has the XY chromosomes (but so do many people who are phenotypically women, but you wouldn't realise that because you don't know.). But a transwoman on hormones is much the same as a cisfemale in terms of emotions. And there's evidence that transpeople's brain are closer to that of their "preferred" (for want of a better word) gender than the gender they were assigned at birth.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 12:00 AM
2

Why?
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/15 08:33 AM
2

That's very fair. To be honest, I talk to my dad about my husband sometimes, but I'm careful to be very respectful etc, not just bitch. They say you should talk to his mother if you can because she won't hold it against him like your family will! You're right about some women jsut talking badly about their husbands, that is so awful.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/15 04:23 AM
1

Kettlebells at home is another good way to go, if you're not doing big weights. Even if it saves you one gym trip, it removes travel time and admin time (signing in, lockers, etc).
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/15 03:29 AM
2

I feel the same way about the husband = family, parents etc = extended family. HOWEVER, calling Mum for relationship help isn't the worst thing in the world (if it's not often and not just complaining, and instead asking for help and advice.)
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/15 03:00 AM
3

Such a good comment, you're so right about the limitations that can't entirely be solved. To that end: http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2011/09/feminine-beauty-is-highly-controllable.html OP, this is a great link. Some of the things that are listed as uncontrollable may be somewhat controllable by you, but also, it's a great overview of what things you can change.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/15 12:58 AM
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Well, I don't speak for all of RPW but I think you should spend time here if you like! Some of the stuff that people say might be hurtful to hear - there are going to be things that are valued by men, such as fertility, that aren't feasible for you. There are definitely also some quite conservative folks in here, and I can't speak for them - they may be prejudiced against transpeople. If they are, hopefully they get downvoted lots! Despite these things: if you're interested in being more feminin…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/15 09:51 AM
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My husband does the finances, I do the day-to-day budgeting because I do most of the shopping. It works for us!
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/15 11:26 AM
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What about finding a guy that fits all of you non-negotiable criteria? eg mutual attraction, willing to provide for a family, basics like that? I think that might be what this commenter meant.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/15 01:34 AM
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You can use the base of your hand or even an elbow to aid in back massages - my hands and thumbs get sore if I don't mix it up while giving a massage!
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/15 01:51 AM
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I love comments from you about your relationship, it sounds wonderful!
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/15 01:15 AM
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RPW is for women looking for/trying to improve their relationship with high-value men, through applying sexual strategy. If you're interested in being with a good man, whether married or not and with or without children, this might be a place for you.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/15 09:13 AM
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any fulfilling work you do is now officially not a job. Any fulfilling work you do for yourself and your family, not for money, and that doesn't directly provide value to anyone aside from you and your family is not a job. FTFY.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/15 04:23 AM
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Yeah, that's definitely not to do with your degree. If you said you spoke french because you spent a year in Paris, it would be the same. I can't imagine they think you're promiscuous from that, but it certainly has sexy connotations.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/15 02:11 AM
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