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david_velasquez05/r/Divorce_Men30/06/19 10:20 PM
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You are enough for the right person. Patience. Rebuild yourself and the rest will come. Wish you well stranger. Just keep moving forward, even if moving forward is just getting up and going to work.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/20 08:30 PM
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Take your time. Focus on the moment.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/20 05:49 PM
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This is part of the process. It gets better. Stay active/busy.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/20 02:13 PM
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7k is a lot then add splitting of assets, CS, and/or alimony. This is exactly why people end up not liking lawyers. You act like 7k is play money. 7k for most is hard earned. I have 15k in lawyer fees plus alimony and CS, I have to live with my parents and had to take my daughter out of dance and gymnastics classes. Also fight per se is not that easy. Other side gets an aggressive lawyer that makes it overwhelming on purpose is a normal tactic apparently and it’s what forced me to get a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/20 01:06 AM
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Try to keep a hold of the laptop. Pictures whatever your can. It can help especially if she’s taking money. Then go see a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/20 08:35 PM
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Man a lot of this is how it went down for me. Sorry to hear about your dad passing. My condolences. I’m glad your out of the fight. That emotional wear is not something most people understand. I keep reminding myself re-building will be best and you can create something more fitting. Still in the anger phase though. I’m maybe a few weeks ahead of you. Stay strong bro. Let the emotions flow through you, don’t hold them in. Show the kids your allowed to be emotional and have bad days. Talk to them…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/20 11:25 AM
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You want someone aggressive. It’s all about negotiations to keep it out the courtroom which costs double or more. Mine was supposed to be the best in the city but constantly had to get on them for setting the bar mid way while they set the bar to outrageous. I think it’s smart for them to ask about your money. Not just if you can pay them but also to show you how far you can take this and what CS or alimony could look like. You can fight for justice if you have enough money but in my case, settl…
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/20 12:03 PM
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Fight for what you want. Be it staying or leaving. But you have to fight. Get your hands in the dirt and work through it. If you don’t have someone to talk to completely open to I suggest therapy. I know it can be expensive but even one session will help. This moment of reflection your having is exactly what I’m doing right now. Except I’m at my lawyers office parking lot. 1.5 years in a long custody and divorce battle. I choose to stay for our daughter, she never changed, I kept putting myself …
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/20 09:32 PM
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Dude ask the golf buddies. Offer exchange for beer.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/19 10:42 PM
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I wouldn’t say we give up though. I fought. Cost me 12 grand but I got split custody and had to pay alimony she isn’t deserved but cheaper than going to court. It’s sick how they used my want to see my daughter as leverage. The whole time I would tell my family how I see why a lot of father wouldn’t do this. If I didn’t have my family to back me up I wouldn’t of been able to have fought as hard. Courts expect the father to be fucking perfect, while the mother can make your life hell. You have to…
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/19 02:18 AM
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Stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/19 11:21 PM
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Sounds just like what happened to me. I kept taking care of rent and bills I paid after we separated. But all I did was set a precedence of what I can afford. Just buckle down bro shit gets hard, especially if you have kids.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/19 10:08 PM
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See man this is where I think she has not fault. Sounds like you knew and married hoping she would change which is a bad way to start a marriage. But I’m sure there is a common ground to be found. Maybe see a sex therapist or just a therapist.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/19 07:00 PM
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Dang man sounds like my ex wife also! Everything changed as soon as we got married and she hated going outside the house also. I stayed because everyone said marriage is hard and you have to work at it. Went to therapy, she went to therapy, she when through two therapists and then stopped. I was then about to leave her after she started having extreme episodes over things like 4 year old fb posts. Then she got pregnant, the pregnancy was hard and it kinda brought us closer together. Now I see th…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/19 10:25 AM
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Yeah my ex made crazy ass allegations like this with her lawyer. And your right it is a way to set things up for negotiations, so remember that it’s gonna be about the money. Don’t let them or your lawyer act like these crazy allegations can be used as leverage, and cover your ass as you now know what they will be targeting. I just got my ex to agree to terms and they leveraged custody of my daughter over me and had to pay alimony since it was cheaper to pay her then to go to court and have just…
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/19 03:48 AM
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Bro. Leave. Her. Don’t look back. Keep the cheating evidence as it can help with alimony in some states.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/19 10:44 PM
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Having proof she cheated can really help in some states with alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/19 01:40 AM
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He has to keep proof she cheated it will help him a lot!
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/19 09:06 PM
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Bro I was there. Stay strong. I hope there are no kids involved if there are she should know that not trying hard to communicate with you about the kids especially makes her the difficult parent and your lawyer should be able to leverage that along with any other things like this she has done. Also yes $300 is a lot but they might have another attorney at the firm that’s not as much and can answer them, good thing is they don’t have to answer to everything she sends. Make a game plan to only ans…
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/19 01:18 PM
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Don’t make any big decisions regard separation of any assets or custody for as long as you can hold out. Hopefully she is reasonable and if she is, try hard to come to terms on your own. Treat it very seriously and protect yourself like communicating via email. This way you can show that you tried if she gets unreasonable. If your in a state that has child support and alimony guidelines look them up and get an idea. Maybe even sweeten the pot before lawyers because it will be a lot more expensiv…
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/19 04:00 PM
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I would say if you both make about the same money file per se and see if you can both work out custody. If you are the main bread winner then lawyer up, but be careful lawyering up before her if she makes a lot less than you l, they can try and get you to pay her fees.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/19 04:05 AM
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One thing that helped me, was doing projects that were for my daughter (kids in your case). Since they were on my mind it helped. Then began hitting the gym after a few weeks. It’s weird to kinda force yourself to think about yourself again but it’s definitely a must. You need to rebuild your identity, your now a single father and it’s much different. Make goals of how you want your life to be and work towards that.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/19 01:38 AM
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Get out now.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/19 08:44 PM
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Yoooo same here! It’s ridiculous, I keep telling my friends this is why some fathers disappear. It’s sad but the system is set for the father to have impossible standards. And they wonder why we are the ones with the highest suicide rate smh. Stay strong brother. Vent it all out here if you need to.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/19 02:09 PM
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She might be doing it out of spite. Stay strong don’t look back
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/19 09:43 PM
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Dont move out until your lawyers says or if you do don’t go back you your parents. If you make that an option it will remain that way. If you do have to move out, be it unbearable for you, move at the least into an apartment. Don’t show you can live such a frugal life either. That’s what I did and got screwed but we were only married 4 years. This may mean you credit goes to shit but you’ll have more of your money in your pocket. But seek a lawyers and an aggressive one ASAP.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/19 01:30 PM
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Anything I say is gonna make me sound like an asshole, so yea what he said.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/19 06:15 PM
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Yes keep it cordial but that doesn’t mean do things that in the long run keep you emotionally entangled. It’s hard to come to the realization that your family life is forever changed but you have to look forward and start taking steps to forming your own life like she has. Don’t do it to get back at her. Don’t do it to get her to feel something for you. Fuck that shit, start doing you. Use this time to take baby steps. Right now it might be just going to the bar for a few, or finding a place whe…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/19 08:37 PM
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Sounds like you’re still in love with her. You gotta move on man. Get back to you and the kids. Start building your life, it sucks and it’s hard as shit especially if you still love her but trying to explain shit to her is not doing any good.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/19 10:45 AM
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Get out the house and try and stay busy. Don’t make it an option to stay in bed. It’s hard, trust I know, but it’s a simple step in a better direction.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/19 02:21 PM
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Wow thanks man you don’t know how much I appreciate this advice.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/19 11:55 AM
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Both. 🤯
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/19 10:35 PM
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Don’t be so generous. I am learning now the hard way that I set a president for how much I can afford. Start separating all your shit and get your own accounts. Start figuring out what if any alimony/ child support you need to pay and just pay your share. Take care of the kids when you have them. My separation started like this and now am getting fucked with lawyers fees and her continuous bullshit. Don’t do what I did, don’t set a false precedence. Find out what’s equal distribution and pay onl…
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/19 04:37 AM
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