derp_pills Archive

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1	Girlfriend wants me to go with her to a nude beach in California. How should I handle this? The issue is that you don't like how carefree she is about getting naked in front of people at a nude beach and it makes you question whether she is LTR material. For something this specific and this much of a personal preference only you can determine whether it's an LTR deal breaker.	/r/askTRP	22/07/14 04:43 PM
10	Girlfriend wants me to go with her to a nude beach in California. How should I handle this? Here are two things to consider: She shouldn't make you do something you aren't comfortable with. She can't make you do anything you don't want to do, right? How would you react if you wanted to do something that made her uncomfortable and she said no? Also know that this may establish some precedence in the relationship. If not going is truly a big deal to you then you need to be prepared to tell her to go by herself. You can say 'no' to her going, but consider how you will react if she goes so…	/r/askTRP	22/07/14 07:25 AM
1	Is it a red flag when my SO wants to accept an offer from another man who i've never met to go to the gym with him? In this particular case, no, not a red flag. More like a yellow flag, something that needs to be monitored. If a girl is going to cheat, she's going to cheat. Nothing you can do will stop her. She will find a way. This will let you figure out sooner what type of girl she is. If she cheats then she becomes a plate. The fact that these two have friendzone history indicates he's less of a threat. Not an impossibility, just less likely. Say 'no' to her and you risk looking weak and jealous - not alp…	/r/askTRP	21/07/14 07:44 AM
3	RP response when a girl asks about my ex gf Be honest but use this as an opportunity to impose frame, reinforce that you have abundance and have been preselected. "I had to end it with her, she was just ______. She still had some growing up to do." Tells her some things you won't accept in the relationship. Establishes a boundary. Reinforces frame. "She ended it with me, she had some jealousy issues..." There are other chicks that are interested in me (preselection/abundance). If she ended it with you because you did something wrong, talk…	/r/askTRP	21/07/14 04:16 AM
5	How do I deal with this shit test? Ignore it or just say 'Don't worry' - I think your answer to her is fine. This sounds like some sort of plausible deniability resistance BS/hamstering. There's a chance she isn't even thinking about how old your sisters are when she says this. They don't think like us... When things aren't hot ask her what she means. Then tell her how you interpreted what she was saying. She needs to understand what effect her words have. You should continue to escalate things with her without becoming forceful …	/r/askTRP	13/07/14 05:12 PM
2	How do I deal with this shit test? You should edit your question and include this nugget of knowledge.	/r/askTRP	13/07/14 04:59 PM
2	"Dumped" one of the plates Invasion of privacy = next, demotion or serious dread game. She needs to be taught that her actions are unacceptable. Good that you made her FWB. I'm unclear why you felt you needed to say anything to M. Did you two agree on being exclusive and you broke that agreement? Even if that was the case, you gained nothing by telling her. I'm going to assume you two did not have the 'exclusive talk' since you weren't exclusive.... What to do: C: Enjoy the FWB. Make your phone more secure (like a good PI…	/r/askTRP	13/07/14 06:39 AM
1	How to deal with LTR's constant paranoia of me being unfaithful You use some pretty strong language. Specifically, "...anything could send her into an emotional spiral..." and "...has panic attacks if she shows up...unannounced..." and 'obsess'. To me, her actions are out of the box and unacceptable. You are not her dad. You should not be the target of her issues. You are not the person whose job it is to fix her issues. That's her job. These aren't "shit tests". This might possibly be some sort of disorder. Determine how long you're willing to endure this a…	/r/askTRP	13/07/14 05:57 AM