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dmk078/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 03:05 PM
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dmk078/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/24 08:30 PM
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There is no problem with your wife wanting it also, but the trick for turning this from a role playing LARP to who you are is doing it because that's what you want not because you are doing it for her. The good thing with having a willing wife is it does kind of let you fake it till you make it. Don't feel bad about faking it until you make it. have fun with it. Try new things even if it does require faking it. It is hard to know what you are into until you actually experiment with things. It do…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/23 02:17 PM
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Somewhat of a covert contract. If you want this dynamic in the future you will probably have to have a conversation about it but also might be wise to practice and figure out what you want before that conversation happens. There are plenty of way's to dominate outside sex. For example when my wife is hamstering about what she is going to make for dinner instead of telling her I don't care I will just tell her exactly what I want. I might give her something new she has never made I might tell her…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 03:17 PM
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Yes you did and as long as she gives me what I want and complements my life we will probably remain married. The marriage should have been over before the cheating, she was just the one that ended it first. To be honest the years of a living with a sexless nagging anxious wife was by far worse than the cheating stuff. No matter how things turn out with our marriage she probably did me a favor. I fixed myself changed the dynamic and she had a choice to change with me or not. She choose to change …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 01:59 PM
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Actually, re-read I am not trying to please her in a dominance role, by being dominant I am letting her please me. It did not come natural to me. There was a lot of faking it at the beginning. You can't change a lifetime of behavior overnight and I hate to admit it but the D/S dynamic was her idea. It was so bad in the beginning that she was telling me how to be dominate, and I was doing things that I read in books on how to be dominant. As time went on I figured out what I liked and wanted thin…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 01:24 PM
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Fair points. If you were in my shoes what would you do. I can tell you I made the decision to stay so as long as I'm getting what I want I'm not changing my mind on that. On the going out and fucking someone else I have thought about it and haven't made my mind up. If I did I would totally be justify in doing it. Don't want to get in the weeds on whether I have the ability to so lets assume I have enough game to pull it off. What is the risk reward. In my situation I would be lying to say I didn…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/23 03:09 PM
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Not bad advice I've tried it but the humiliation part was not for me. I have found that I cannot fake dirty talk it just sounds weird if you are not totally confident. For some reason I can call her my dirty little slut and not blink an eye but I can't pull off calling her a whore. I could see the appeal though. I think if I called her my whore instead of a whore I could probably pull it off. I'll give it a try and let it fly some night when I'm in the mood.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 08:16 PM
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Sounds like you are in deep. The bad part is it takes time it was at least a year for me. For me I every time I felt that rage I went to the gym and just lifted until I was to fucking tired to be angry. You have to go somewhere with that rage and you have to choice to do something constructive with it or something destructive with it. I was lucky to have alot of other things in my life that were going well to pour the rage into. If your that angry about your lot in life why not just say fuck it …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 07:52 PM
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You make a rather persuasive argument to go out and fuck a bunch of side chicks but passing at the moment. I am not in the position to give advice in fact the best thing to do is do the opposite of what I did. I am only reporting what I did and how it worked. Everybody has to make their own big boy choices. If I'm full of shit I'm only hurting myself. I'm Leaving after this post to go live life so won't have to deal with me polluting the MRP..
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 07:17 PM
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Good example of this is my wife went out to lunch with a friend a while back. I asked how her friend was doing and my wife told me she felt sad for her so naturally I asked why. She said her friend admitted that she felt a little guilty for never sleeping with her husband she knew she should but she just had no desire. She then asked my wife how things were going with us this past year. My wife said she was too embarrassed to tell her how good things were going because it would make her friend f…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 05:38 PM
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The answer is none. Thought defiantly crossed my mind but decided against it. Do I have the ability to I would like to think so but couldn't say without following through. When I thought about it validation and revenge was probably best reasons I could think of for doing it. Is validation worth the potential loss of a couple of million in wealth? I decided it was not. If it was something I had a strong desire to do might be. If I was miserable with the choice I made probably would be worth the t…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 04:34 PM
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I don't know what I am but if I am a cuck for my decisions then that's what I am. What someone classifies me as doesn't change my decision making process. Also every women is a slut my story should be a cautionary tale. A had a bad case of the Madona whore complex. Looking back if I would have looked at her as my slut and not put her on a pedestal I probably wouldn't have and to make some hard choices.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 03:19 PM
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Still trying to figure this out getting better at it but still a work in progress. First I would read the Sex God Method lot of helpful information, another book that might be helpful is the Masculine in the Relationship not in the sidebar but some good nuggets of info to learn. I only know what is kind of working for me but do not know if it would apply universally and work in every dynamic. My wife is kind of an anxious bratty submissive. If she gets overwhelmed or on the opposite end is board…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 02:38 PM
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There is nothing wrong with your standard and it might only last another year. It wasn't an easy choice and it sucks I had to make it. Quite honestly the initial decision was made because I was caught off guard and was fucked. I had no plan B. After what happened I would be a fool not to have a Plan B. I pretty sure if I ejected back then I would not have been in a good enough mental state to make good decisions. Would have done some stupid things out of anger and spite. I am in a far better pos…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 01:30 PM
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You maybe right I might be self delusional and things might go to hell in a hurry. I might just be a cuck time will tell. For now it's the decision that I made and if it goes horribly wrong I will live with the consequences. Have had a lot of successes and failures in life but most of the successes have come from learning from failures. Wish it wasn't that way but such is life.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 12:56 PM
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Having a pleasant wife that likes to have sex with you is more of a positive side effect vs a source of validation either way a good target to shoot for. Makes life more enjoyable.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 03:32 AM
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If I have to mate gaurd and be jealous that’s no way to live. I have made it very clear that if she wants out she has that choice and I will help her make that happen without a fight. She is important to me but I’m my greatest resource not her.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 11:13 PM
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She may do it again. Rewarding bad behavior is not advisable. I am now in a better position and would accept that outcome, eject and move on. Could she hide it sure but when it happened before she did wait until she filed for divorce to find someone new so hopefully she would give me that same courtesy.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 11:00 PM
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Was maybe a little below average before maybe a little above average now but not turning heads. You have to get over your fear of things heading south. If you don’t like where your at and don’t do anything it will just be a slow burn to that destination. Besides what about working to be better would make things worse. Sure you can’t go Rambo and make demands it won’t go well but if you work on yourself and let dread work you will be in a better situation with no downside other then it took some …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 10:38 PM
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I do have plenty to lose financially. I decided you can’t put a price on living like you want and I could always recover money so if I had to make that choice I could but so far haven’t had to. As far as stats I started at 215 with about 25%. BF and now am at 190 with about 18% BF. Want to get to 15% BF. Starting BP 90 lbs 5x5 and at 170 5x5. Squat an DL stared at 130 5x5 and am at 250 5x5 on both. Probably could have done more at beginning but just choose a weight to start and then added. Finic…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 10:24 PM
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Started sexually and progressed into daily life. Wouldn’t say it is a 24/7 dynamic. Maybe when all the kids move out, we could go there. I found once she accepted me as the dominant in the relationship I could really direct her anxiety. It was counterintuitive to me when I started but she likes to told what to do and needs me for structure. She will sometimes shit test when she doesn’t want to do it but if I STFU and just let her submit she will come around. You can also use that anxiety to make…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 09:58 PM
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Was thinking about deleting but won’t. Was half expecting a ban after this post. Can always give a 2 year update.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 09:36 PM
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Been exploring my kinks and impact play is definitely one of them but not into humiliation lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 07:04 PM
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I’m 45 she’s 42. Just got out of the little kid stage.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 06:00 PM
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Because the odds are against you. It may be a bad choice time will tell. What isn’t a bad choice is to work on yourself regardless of the outcome of other choices. The one positive is once you get your hamster under control and realize you have nothing to lose you can make a lot of progress. Most guys with something to lose have to hold back in fear they could lose the average life they had and make it worse. One day I just made the decision I can leave or just do what I want with no shame or fe…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 05:44 PM
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Not the ideal way to do it lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 05:27 PM
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At first I improved for her then shifted to doing it for me so if she ever does decide to stray again not out anything.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 05:20 PM
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It would be easier for her to do the same if things got tough don’t really care. If that’s what she chooses I know what I will do and I can only worry about myself. I don’t need her I will be fine if that’s the choice she makes.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 05:15 PM
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My internal motivation for writing this is I’ve gotten a lot out the MRP. I’ve gotten what I needed and time move on. Hope I can help someone else the same way I was helped.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 04:58 PM
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Going to take at least a year but that doesn’t mean you slack off in the present.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 04:48 PM
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If something like this happened again at least I had a good last year and am a better person. I am not the same person as before so if I didn’t hit the eject button without a care in the world the person I am today couldn’t live with myself. So there wouldn’t be any other option. I would also take it one step further and say even if something like this didn’t happen and it was simply a case of not being able to live the way I want the eject button would also have to be hit. I own my own business…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 04:46 PM
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There are alot of things. Being dominant was probably the biggest game changer. Lifting and changing my body composition gave me a physical boost of confidence I needed to be mentally dominant. Started a D/S dynamic. The Sex God Method was probably the best resource to learn on. Learned about polarity and how to turn her from a naggy anxious wife into one that enjoys pleasing me. Starts with confidence and having no shame around sex. Passing shit test to show dominance helps. She can be bratty a…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 04:34 PM
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What have you done about it? Are you still fucked or have you turned it around.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 03:51 PM
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Yea I’ve thought about that and your not wrong. Also decided what I wanted and did it. The results are I got a year of of a pleasant wife who now fucks me as much as I want. My kids are thriving added some more financial cushion and fortified my position in case of ejection. With nothing to lose I have put myself in a far better position for the future regardless of the choice to stay. The point of my post was not to advise anyone to make the same decisions I have made. Right or wrong I made the…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 03:46 PM
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Without the ego it would have been a good FR. You lost me with the everyone in the wedding was telling me how great I looked and the single girls couldn’t stop following around. I’m surprised you didn’t tell us you looked so good even the gay dudes were hitting on you lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/23 12:23 AM
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Quite the opposite. No it’s not impossible but it’s not like you have pulled off the biggest feat in MRP history. You are getting a lot of shit because it read like your are so amazing you pulled off the impossible task of being attractive and getting a BJ. Good job but just enjoy the results no need to tell everyone how great you are.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/23 10:18 PM
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Think you forgot the Dominance in DEVI. Sounds more like just plain vanilla beta comfort sex. To be fair you had some medical issues to work around so not much you can do but wouldn’t be bragging that this might not work for pussies or beta bitches this shit would be right up there alley. I guess you have to start somewhere but there is alot more out there.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 04:05 AM
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Not every day but in general yes. She needs and wants to be told that what to do. She is at her best when she feels submissive. If she is not feeling submissive she will start shit testing and being a brat. I had to totally reprogram my nice guy brain to understand why she would want that.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 03:16 PM
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I’ll give you an example. In the past if my wife was feeling anxious or depressed about not being good enough I would follow her around like a lost puppy doing beta things trying to make her feel better. Never worked and only made it worse. Today when she is one of those moods I simply provide structure and let her decide. I might give her a list of things to do for me or herself. Might have her run errands for me and tell her to buy me something that I would like. Usually works sometimes she wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 02:40 PM
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Had the same experience. Found a balance that works for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 02:06 PM
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Pretty broad topic what specifically are you trying to do or wanting to know.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/23 03:05 PM
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Agreed lot of self limiting beliefs are being triggered.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/23 12:41 PM
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That was a nice way of saying while sparing on Reddit is somewhat helpful get some balls and go and live your dynamic you don’t need anyone on here to hold your hand and tell you it’s alright.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 08:46 PM
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I get it. I like the field report format better more of a what works vs what doesn’t work vs a philosophy debate. Easier said then done but just figure out what you want and use sidebar materials to help you get it and adjust.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 08:22 PM
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Used to think that way about RPeed too but got to give the guy credit he knows what he wants and knows how to get it. I wouldn’t change places with him nor am I jealous of him but got to respect it. Lot of DEERing gong on today.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 06:57 PM
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Your defending your position way to hard. If pulling beta works for you keep doing it. If it doesn’t make changes. I’ve read the sidebar figured out what I wanted and used the knowledge to get that. Probably done things that people on here would disagree agree with but live in my own frame. If it blows up on me so be it I’m outcome independent and I made my choices for a reason.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 06:40 PM
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Fair point. I see what I did there. Won’t delete it but it was a bad post. A better way to put it is the positives that come from Alpha traits far outweigh the negatives they provide to comfort. BTW the Disney dream sucks it is comfortable and provides vanilla sex once or twice a week. Not ever going to allow my hamster to take me back there.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 12:26 PM
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Another way to look at it is a lot of Alpha traits provide comfort. Attraction provides comfort. Being able to handle her provides comfort. Being dominant and in control provide comfort. Being physically and mentally strong provide comfort. Being outcome independent provides comfort. On the flip side alot of beta traits have the opposite affect.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 11:09 AM
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I get your point but why would this only work in limited cases and why would it get old quick. I also agree if you don’t know what the fuck your doing it could go sideways and come of as desperate and creepy but that’s your fault for being desperate and creepy. In the original post if she got off the plane and they lost her luggage her anxiety would go up to a 10 and her attraction would go to a 0. If you kept escalating in that case it would end badly. You have to be able read the room. If that…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/23 03:39 AM
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It does take a little effort and if you are just doing it for her you are not in your fame but it does build attraction and if you are into it, it is great. Who doesn’t want their wife to be their dirty little slut and if that’s what you want and she enjoys doing that for you why not ask. The problem is most are afraid to ask or not skilled enough to pull it off. There will be someone that reads this thread goes full retard, will call there wife a dumb whore tonight and wonder why she told him t…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/23 01:27 AM
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Depends what your into but if you have frame and ask with confidence more would like it then are getting asked. Personally doesn’t do anything for me I prefer dirty little slut or good little girl but it’s not what you say that is important it’s how you say it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/23 06:05 PM
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There will always be anxiety on her part. You can be a nice guy and turn that anxiety into a hot mess or you can use that anxiety to create excitement and attraction.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/23 04:19 PM
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Seems like this is the problem. If your not interested she will try to look for validation in other places. Can’t get mad at her for that. You have to make a decision. Just like your decision to be a SAHD you have taken the easy route so far. You have to decide if your in or out. If your half in you will be miserable. Only you can make that choice but either way you have to make it.
/r/askMRP22/09/23 04:28 PM
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So in your words your ego is hurt because your ogre land whale of a wife is trying to land a 135lb 12 yr old looking dude. Then your badass self with your huge cock is going to crush it spinning plates at work because you are the best looking dude there. That should work great. If you are in your prime and hers has ended long ago you have to ask yourself why she would downgrade from your badass self. Your ego tells you that you are a badass but your wife’s actions tell you otherwise.
/r/askMRP22/09/23 04:08 PM
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I do not do any of the day to day stuff with the kids or the house. I have a few jobs but mostly just a backup. In some cases I do have to help out. There are a lot of times when she gets annoyed at me for screwing up her system. Just another shit test and if I get butthurt or DEER I failed. Does not determine how often I have sex. Unless you are totally incompetent at doing stuff with the house and kids this is probably not why you are not having sex. Really there are probably only two reasons …
/r/askMRP15/09/23 10:26 PM
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Not necessarily most here will tell you it’s not possible to come back from. I did come back from infidelity but every case is different and I wouldn’t advise anyone to take that route. Your situation doesn’t sound salvageable but only you can know that. In my case it’s what I wanted so it’s what I did and things can always change but for me it was the right choice.
/r/askMRP09/09/23 11:31 PM
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Holy shit the good news is it couldn’t get much worse the bad news is it’s going to take a long time to dig yourself out of the hole you’re in. You are probably on the right track you should follow through with your divorce and start fresh. You have a long road in front of you but have to take the first step to start. Going forward I would caution you to not get a little bit better then the dumpster fire you are currently in and call it good. Posting on OYS on the main MRP would probably do you …
/r/askMRP08/09/23 06:17 PM
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Sounds like gymbro was right. You were being a pussy.
/r/askMRP31/08/23 04:15 AM
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Sounds like you are in the anger/rambo stage which means you are still in her frame. She sleeping like a baby and your hamster is running full throttle. If you next her you will still have the same problem in the future. Also there are so many covert contacts in that post I don’t know where to start. The one that stood out the most was you did shit you didn’t want to do with an expectation that you would fuck. That is a textbook covert contract you need to read NMMNG like yesterday. Listen to yo…
/r/askMRP23/08/23 03:11 PM
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Two red flags that I see are I’m going to do it anyway and a person who can justify anything. To me I’m a Virgin because I’ve only sucked dick and done anal translates to it wasn’t really cheating because I only sucked his cock and let him fuck me in the ass.
/r/askMRP21/08/23 07:34 PM
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You are probably right and if you try to do over 80 hours a week you will burn out. Sounds like you are on the right path. Keep it up I’m assuming once you get done with school things should get easier nothing wrong with a little short term pain for long term gains.
/r/askMRP18/08/23 06:06 PM
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The over spending on her weekly budget is on her and that probably needs to be corrected. On the other stuff if money wasn’t an issue you probably wouldn’t say no. You would just tell her to go to the funeral and not to worry about money. That is on you and you need to find a way to bring in more income. If my wife wants to buy something for herself and asks for more money she already knows the answer is no so she doesn’t ask but if someone has to go to the doctor or needs braces or the car need…
/r/askMRP18/08/23 04:23 PM
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You said you are doing well but broke. Hate to tell you but you are not doing well enough. I’ve been there but if you your wife has a $200 budget which includes gas and you can’t stand a $1500 car repair you have an earning problem not a spending problem. She is not exactly asking for a girls trip to somewhere fun it is a family funeral. I have to say no to my wife all the time not because I don’t have the money because if I didn’t she would spend it on stupid shit but if something comes up like…
/r/askMRP18/08/23 11:10 AM
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You STFU because you are not skilled enough to handle your hamster and anything coming out of your mouth will be the worst thing you could say. Also you said you read NMMNG. I don’t know if I read a different version but the one I read taught me how not to be manipulative or controlling
/r/askMRP17/08/23 12:47 AM
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You shouldn’t be butt hurt but you are. Until you can control your hamster STFU. Sounds like pretty normal behavior to get butt hurt over so you need to figure out why you are being such a little bitch. Sounds like you have nothing important going on in your life and you need your fiancé there or you are a lost little puppy. Have shit to do so the next time this situation happens it is a blessing because you can go do it.
/r/askMRP17/08/23 12:37 AM
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Her attraction to you is probably down but being butt hurt and insecure will only make it worse. If you are her best option you don’t have to worry but sounds like you don’t believe that is the case. Lift, read the sidebar and be her best option.
/r/askMRP13/08/23 12:03 AM
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This is correct I would also add if he has changed a lot like he claims he might be slightly better off then before but probably still sucks. Not only will it take her 18 months to believe it, it will take 18 months of work for him to actually have changed enough. If you start out unemployed with 40% BF and you get a minimum wage job and drop down to 30% BF you are better off than before but you still suck.
/r/askMRP12/08/23 07:29 PM
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If she loves when you do something to take charge but you haven’t done it in a while do you think it’s a coincidence that she is shit testing you by taking control? She will be submissive if you are dominant but if you need her to be submissive in order to be dominant you are in her frame and it won’t work.
/r/askMRP04/08/23 10:27 PM
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Once in a while is alright but if it’s happening too often she’s testing you and you are failing the test. Obviously don’t be a retard and a hard no is a no go but if it’s more of a being bossy and telling you what to do I would suggest you buy some rope. Once she’s tied up she can’t tell you what to do. Another thing you could try is making her ask for what she wants instead her telling you what she wants. Example when she she tells you I don’t want rough sex tonight correct her by telling her …
/r/askMRP04/08/23 02:03 PM
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Hang in there man it’s a process. For me there were a lot of fake it till you make times. Won’t go too much in it but before I found the MRP after my wife left and filed for divorce, I begged her to come back she did and I was the best beta I could be. After doing that for a year things got a little better but wouldn’t have lasted. Found the MRP read the sidebar twice lifted and did a lot of retarded shit but finally got the hang of some of the principles in the sidebar. Probably not the right t…
/r/askMRP01/08/23 04:26 PM
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It would help to have more context as too why you are not attracted anymore. If you really have bettered your self there is probably a feeling of a higher SMV and a feeling you could do better. I’m guessing it’s fairly common but in my case once it was apparent that my SMV was rising the shit tests came hard and fast to get me to stop improving. There were a lot of I didn’t marry a gym rat, I don’t like skinny guys, and you only care about yourself and not me. Once that didn’t work for the comfo…
/r/askMRP31/07/23 06:02 PM
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If your talking about being in control that is being dominant and you will get submission. If your talking about being controlling people get sick of that shit quick pretty quick.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/23 02:06 AM
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Dominance works control doesn’t. If you try to control they will eventually get sick of your shit and stop complying. If you do dominance right they will want to submit. They will take pleasure in complying. They will beg to suck your dick because they want to please you not because they have to.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/23 04:09 PM
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We went to a semi nice restaurant and all I wanted was a steak. The hostess and server were acting bitchy, I took one look at the menu and saw they didn't have steak and said "we're outa here". My wife appreciated the decisiveness. I playfully fucked with the hostess stand's seating chart computer and took the phone off the hook as I walked by without even slowing down, ala Chevy Chase being a goofy asshole. All you wanted was steak so you picked a restaurant went there and were a total ass beca…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/23 04:30 PM
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