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This. I have totally freakin Hulked-out over this exact thing. Because it's like you said: sex is little more than an itch that needs scratching but we can't exactly reach it on our own like she can. But it's not that simple to a woman. To her it's another opportunity to test, to manipulate, to be inexplicably controlling. Then when she does relent it's "why didn't you make it all about meeeeeeee??" I always suspected what you are saying but couldn't put it into words or even believe it. They th…
/r/RPChristians02/09/17 02:02 AM
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I've discovered that a lot of the exercises in NMMNG are difficult for me to wrap my arms around because it assumes that you are overtly doing those things. For me the behaviors are so ingrained that I can't even see them most times. Like the one about attachments. I really had to sit and think about it to come up with something. Mine were all personal characteristics and not necessarily external things like my car or my kids. Very sneaky, the brain is. It hides even from itself.
/r/RPChristians23/08/17 05:25 PM
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You misunderstand. I've read advanced psychology books and graduate level text books that were easier for me to digest than this book. I don't know what it is about it. I'm just really having a hard time with it. NMMNG was an easy read from a literary standpoint because it was written conversationally. This is written like it was his Doctoral Dissertation (and it probably was). I am reading it now. Just finished Chapter 2 last night and that grates on me because I have always been a fast reader …
/r/RPChristians23/08/17 03:33 PM
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This helps tremendously. Thank you.
/r/RPChristians22/08/17 04:20 PM
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Just replace hungry with horny and starving with super horny and you'll get what I meant.
/r/RPChristians22/08/17 04:18 PM
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I have a question about solipsism and AWALT. The way she acts towards sex goes like this food analogy: On a road trip Me: Hey I'm hungry, let's stop and get something to eat. Her: No, I'm not hungry. We don't need to stop. Me: No, seriously, I'm starving. Let's stop and get something to eat. Her: No, I'm good. I don't want anything. At face value it looks like she's just uncaring and callous. Solipsism? Or something else?
/r/RPChristians22/08/17 01:00 PM
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Working my way through it now. See molasses comment.
/r/RPChristians22/08/17 02:20 AM
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BTW. A woman will never say she's sorry. Watch what she does, not what she says. Her buying you those shirts is her way of recognizing how awful she was and her wanting to make it up to you. Appreciate her for seeing it. This is excellent feedback. I had always suspected that this was her way of apologizing, but was never able to put two and two together as succinctly as you have now. Have you gone through the NMMNG exercises? Do you have a close male friend? I'm slowly making my way through the…
/r/RPChristians21/08/17 10:02 PM
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God, my faith has not wavered I have never doubted God...but it would be a lie to say that I have never doubted his faith in me.
/r/RPChristians21/08/17 03:45 AM
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How do you think you handled it? Mixed. The car moving was the biggest test and got the biggest reaction. Funny thing is that she texted me about 40 minutes later and asked me if I needed new work shirts...then brought home 6 new shirts for me. you're too much in your head, and you're going Rambo I've always been like that. But it's also one of the "nice guy" traits so I don't know which is which. Did I become a Nice Guy because I overthink things or do I overthink things because through some ot…
/r/RPChristians21/08/17 03:41 AM
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until she reverts back to human form I lol'd at that. It's more or less the truth. Feels like you're speaking into a really, really bad AI translator that's crazy feminist and believes that all men are rapists.
/r/RPChristians21/08/17 03:18 AM
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Well played. What a bunch of children. So alpha.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 04:00 AM
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Nope, just yours, queer. I like this game.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 03:56 AM
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Yep.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 03:54 AM
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Yo, eat a dick. I'm my own judge, right? Fuck a cactus.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 03:53 AM
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Nevermind. I had to go back and read it and what it referenced a few times. Got it. Thank you.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 02:31 AM
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Eat a dick, Chad.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 01:59 AM
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Will do.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 12:50 AM
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Understood.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 12:50 AM
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Can you expound on this a little more please?
/r/askMRP17/08/17 12:50 AM
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Got it.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 12:48 AM
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Because I'm a giant pussy. Scared of her reaction. Learning DGAF still. But this and all of your comments have put a spotlight on the reality of her indifference towards me. Fuck. That.
/r/askMRP16/08/17 11:37 PM
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Got it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 11:33 PM
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Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 11:31 PM
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Solid advice. Thank you.
/r/askMRP16/08/17 11:16 PM
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Wrote this post on lunch break on my cell phone. Didn't take enough time to put my actual question here. I apologize for the poorly written post. Probably be my last for awhile. I AM NOT BOTHERED BY HER SILENT TREATMENT OR COLD SHOULDER. I enjoyed the time to myself. I don't like her "talking about her feelings" and it just being a bash session on me. Never once uses I or me, just you, you, you. I'm working on my own shit. How do I deflect her constantly projecting her shit onto me like it's my …
/r/askMRP16/08/17 11:15 PM
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I concur. Disaster. Been reading and applying. Sloppy application. But still applying.
/r/askMRP16/08/17 11:08 PM
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Thank you.
/r/askMRP16/08/17 11:06 PM
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In trying to give context I overshot the entire reason for the post. What is up with her feelings all revolving around me and never around her own fuckups and shitty behavior? I'm working on my shit but I sure as hell will not be held responsible for hers.
/r/askMRP16/08/17 11:05 PM
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Working my way through it. Slowly but surely. Thanks for the kick in the gonads.
/r/askMRP16/08/17 10:55 PM
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Working on that, too. Thank you for the insight. Not being sarcastic.
/r/askMRP16/08/17 10:54 PM
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Silent Treatment doesn't bother me at all. I'm more concerned about the "my feelings are all ways that you're wrong" part of it. Don't know why I wrote it up like the silent treatment bothers me. Was nice to have some peace and quiet for a change!
/r/askMRP16/08/17 10:54 PM
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Duly noted.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 07:04 PM
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Missed the part where I said I would read it all. Go back and read it again. You're nitpicking.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 07:01 PM
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And you get a +1 in the "Taking Things Out of Context" column. Good job!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 12:26 PM
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Understood. I will make sure to read the whole book. This has helped me to pick out the more important parts so I can focus my efforts on the meat of the book. Every time I start reading it I get lost in his over-explaining and forget the point that he was trying to make. Plus this book is 40 years old and much of his explaining would have been appropriate for that audience but seems rather elementary and almost condescending now. Just my opinion. Thank you for your help and guidance.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 03:19 AM
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Not a divorce forum. Can you read? Do you even lift, bro?
/r/askMRP15/08/17 07:27 PM
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Okay, so I read through the LOD and saw in bold at the top: Using even mild dread when your wife is pregnant has been known to be fatal to some marriages. Um...yeah my wife is 4 months in and high risk and off her usual anxiety and depression meds since we found out. So she's extra spicy right now. How do I work Dread with her in such a state? It may end up playing into my favor because she is super high risk like don't even pick up a leaf because it might kill the baby kind of high risk. But sh…
/r/askMRP15/08/17 05:33 PM
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All depends on the severity but the one Golden Rule that I've seen repeatedly here is do NOT be self deprecating. Big difference between responding in a way that tells her you're not going to enter her frame and just agreeing with her to avoid an argument. Most women would have more respect for a man that beats their ass than for a pussy who just rolls over and avoids their question to keep the peace. Have you read NMMNG? If you haven't then do it asap. You're hitting all of the markers.
/r/askMRP14/08/17 06:37 PM
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I'll give you an example because it just happened to me this morning. Brought my dog inside from taking him out for the morning and he balked at the door right as I was walking in. Storm door caught me in the back of the ankle and cut me open in two places. This dog is a constant source of frustration and my wife knows it. But even though she's a SAHM she refuses to help take care of him during the day so he just sits in his crate all day. All SHE hears from the back of the house is me screaming…
/r/askMRP14/08/17 12:55 PM
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Not so easy. Right now I would say peace and tranquility, companionship and sex that doesn't feel like a chore. But how much of that is genuine desire and how much is Nice Guy needs external validation? At what point does sex become an expression of mutual love and horniness and not just a perfunctory wife duty that only takes the sting out of the need for validation for a short time? I can't answer that right now.
/r/askMRP13/08/17 01:22 AM
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Calvin and Hobbes ref for the win!
/r/askMRP13/08/17 01:16 AM
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Which one on the sidebar has the 12 levels of Dread?
/r/askMRP13/08/17 01:15 AM
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Freudian slip maybe? Iono. Comment on the OP clears it up.
/r/askMRP13/08/17 01:14 AM
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Aye aye captain! Thank you for breaking it down and kinda breaking one off in me too!
/r/askMRP13/08/17 01:12 AM
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I was thinking more along the lines of acrimonious misanthropy...but specifically directed at yours truly. Just being miserable to be around. Or doing crazybitch stuff. Don't see that happening so it's not a huge fear or anything.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 02:53 AM
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There are things that she can do that are much worse than leaving but I see your point. She is also working on herself right now, which is helpful. In times past she only ever pointed the finger at me as the beginning and end of our marital problems. With both of us working on our own mess surely we can make the marriage we want and not suffer the one we're "stuck with".
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 04:23 PM
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Thank you for the kind words and advice. I honestly can't remember what I Googled to get me back to here. I'll brainstorm and see if I can come up with the answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 01:20 PM
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She's calmed down a lot but it's just that overall fear of disapproval. That and AWALT...she never forgets and almost never misses an opportunity to throw past failures in my face in an argument. Plus she has zero restraint when it comes to her anger. She gets mad enough I might come home and find my xbox or other personal belongings smashed/burned/thrown away. She says it's unfounded but I've seen her smash dishes in anger and even throw a laptop across the room because I asked her what she was…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 01:18 PM
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I'm new here so take what I say with a grain of salt. What I've read here so far from these men is that they are here because they believe in the institution of marriage and they are looking for answers about why their marriages are failing. They want to be better men. Personally I don't think many of them will agree with your childish advocacy of playing the field while married or in a committed relationship. You come across as a hardened beta who is sex-deprived and angry so you'll show your w…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 02:39 AM
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Now I've seen Body Weight three times on here. I have a workshop that I can turn into a makeshift gym. Gonna get it cleaned up so I can get to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 05:57 PM
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Not planning on going full tilt. When I say "running" I really mean just getting my heart rate up speed walking or shuffling around the block at a brisk pace. Hardest part is just doing it. Congrats to you on your weight loss!
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 05:56 PM
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That's the biggest issue isn't it? Making up your mind to do it knowing that you can never go back. To retreat is death. I will start working on these things. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 05:54 PM
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This is my first post here. I discovered this forum several months ago but didn't really dig into it very much at the time. A Google search led me back here and now I am working on me. I'm the problem. I have been working on the sidebar but am still on the fence in too many ways. Read NMMNG in four days. Devoured it. Now I'm going back and doing the exercises in it. My experience thus far has been the expected reaction to finding out that what has plagued you your whole life is something that yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 04:07 AM
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