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Rambofrozenpond/r/askMRP20/05/19 04:23 AM
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. Quit drinking. Throws off everything. Drink 6 pack of craft brews, smoke a bowl, be back in time to put the kid to sleep. No problem… What the fuck are you thinking? Hungover? How ‘bout some more empty calories to make my sorry ass feel better. ​ . No chasing the buzz if socially drinking. ​ Which is it? ​ $60k CC debt/2021 goal of 30% utilization. Stay on amortization schedule. Make it a priority to get out of CC debt ASAP. What is the interest rate on that? Don't spend a discretionary dollar…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/20 10:38 AM
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I have insecurities of not knowing what it means to be a man due to the lack of male role models in my life and have this feeling deep down that I'm not good enough. You will struggle until you fix this. Start by doing the work on the sidebar.
/r/askMRP27/06/20 01:53 PM
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OYS #32 6/23/20 First OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 210lbs (+2), 40 years old, wife 41, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 235 lbs (+5) bench is my 4 rep max. Read: Sidebar books++. Relationship Been getting a barrage of tests the last week or so. I think they’re mostly shit tests. Wife has come into bedroom after putting daughter down for bed saying I’m tired or I have a headache to set the tone for no sex on certain nights. Sex frequency has dipped a bit last couple of weeks but quality has re…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 01:28 PM
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My best initiation was when I said, “We’re going to fuck, and then I’m going to order a pizza.” Then I ripped her pants off. That actually worked. She responds when I’m assertive and is rightfully repulsed when I come off as needy. The failures I’ve had in my sex life up until now are all because of me. This is it right here. So simple and we make it so complicated. I want to be able to teach my son these simplistic truths that I took so long to learn for myself. Most of the learning just involv…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 02:14 PM
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OYS #31 6/16/20 First OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 208lbs, 40 years old, wife 41, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 230 lbs (+5) bench is my 4 rep max. Read: Sidebar books++. My frame has come around lately, seems to be a lagging indicator for me. It’s natural now for me to just give less of a shit about things my wife would do that would previously annoy me. Somewhere along the last 6 months I got a lot less needy for sex. I use to need sex like I was gasping for air. I was truly “thirsty” fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 12:26 PM
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OYS #30 6/8/20 First OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 208lbs, 40 years old, wife 41, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 225 lbs bench is my 4 rep max. Read: Sidebar books++. Frame/Mental: I feel like I am failing badly because I spend a lot of the day angry by what is going on in the US. In early March I was very anti-lockdown and saw Covid as a tool primarily used for government control and destruction of the middle class. I have never been a gun guy, I never had exposure to them growing up and av…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 04:12 PM
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Love this book. millionaire next door and rich dad poor dad have been worth at least 1000x my college education.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 04:26 PM
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Good introspection, I agree on the Catholic school stuff, but ultimately it doesn't even matter why it's (the thought process) there it just needs to be broken. Be unashamed, for there is nothing to be ashamed of in sexually desiring your wife. Ultimately, really concentrate on not giving a fuck. I wouldn't make it a game to seek rejection---the rejection doesn't even matter because you DGAF when it happens. Caring about the rejections or acknowledging them too much or thinking about them....thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 01:10 PM
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OYS #29 5/19/20 First OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 208lbs (+4), 40 years old, wife 41, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 225 lbs bench is my 4 rep max. Read: Sidebar books++. Sex/Marriage/Relationship: Was lifting weights in the backyard Sunday morning, saw an awesome lizard battle going on nearby. Called my wife out to watch, she loves animal shit (nature photographer). We watched 2 large lizards battle each other for several minutes while one small presumably female lizard looked on. The two…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/20 12:59 PM
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Bezos is a strange example. Before MRP I used to find it ridiculous that some people considered him beta. However, now I agree that he behaves like one. He looks to have developed immediate oneitis with a 50+ year old woman who also may have given his texts to her brother who gave them to the press. In addition, he attends her ex's football hall of fame induction ceremony. I'm a huge Bezos fan from a business perspective, but I don't think he's any example of someone who's red pilled. Mackenzie …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 05:29 PM
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However, after sex, I said Don't do a recap or ask how it was. ​ tell her I want her to get on her knees and suck my cock. She immediately does it! I have gotten more BJ's in the last three months than the last three years. I am realizing my wife does like dominance This is funny to read because this has been my exact same experience and I also did this: Need to read SGM more. I stopped reading it because I felt like I wasn't ready for it. The book was completely lost on me when I first read it.…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 03:40 PM
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This is an interesting point because I fucked this up terribly for my entire life prior to MRP. Despite seeing with my own eyes, "good" girls being sluts, I still held on to some weird belief that only sluts behaved like sluts. When I accepted AWALT, I grew a lot mentally. I really wish I accepted AWALT at 20 rather than 38, but I understand now. I try to show that I am not judgmental anymore but it is a challenge and even now sometimes I slip if I witness a girl acting extremely whorish. Unfort…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/20 01:30 PM
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That's a great point. I know I'm boring by nature. But I'm far more attractive now than the guy she married. I wouldn't yet say she's matched or exceeded my improvements... she has become better but maybe there is a lag and I need to give her more time to catch up. Or maybe I just need to be satisfied by what she is.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 01:10 PM
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Thanks for responding. I'm reading fuccfiles right now, enjoyable book to read. Rian describes the difference in being the guy she's cheating with vs the guy who's being cheated on. The sex the first guy is enjoying is different sex. This has less to do with what's going in in her head and more to do with I just want better sex that is more fun. You're right in that it doesn't matter if she needs sex. What matters is that she fucks me in a way that is satisfying and exciting to me. This is somew…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 07:51 PM
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OYS #28 4/27/20 First OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 204lbs, 40 years old, wife 41, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 225 lbs bench is my 4 rep max. Read: Sidebar books++. Reading: 1984 and Fuccfiles Sex/Marriage/Relationship: Sex life is good. She is available when I want her 90% of the time. She takes suggestions generally, I mentioned that I liked the lip gloss she was wearing and should wear it to bed, it appears a couple of days later. Mentioned to her to start wearing more of her lingerie …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 01:14 PM
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Read your posts, pretend someone else wrote them. Would you bet significant money on them succeeding? You're lying to yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/20 02:01 PM
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until I am sub 10% BF. Set a realistic goal. You don't lift, don't do pushups, think it's all a joke (read your first 3 lines of text). 5'10" 200lbs can't bother to figure out BF%, can't bother to put your age. What do you think your chances of success are?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/20 07:52 PM
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You're 46, jerking off to porn 4x a week, and writing about getting high w/ a quality vape pen you just bought and then mention carrying credit card debt (despite a good hh income of ~200k). If my son were 25 and said these things I'd tell him to grow up. i)Try something new and exciting sexually with wife. ii)Sex at least twice per week and one week three times. iii)BJs iv) Get her off with my tongue Are these your goals or hers? how can iii. and iv. be the goals of the same person? Hard to mai…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 06:27 PM
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OYS #27 4/14/20 First OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 207lbs (+2), 40 years old, wife 41, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 225 lbs bench is my 4 rep max. Read: Sidebar books++. Sex/Marriage/Relationship: I hit new all-time highs in immersion this weekend, was doing bold things without even thinking before doing them. Best sex I’ve ever had, relationship is unrecognizable from a year ago. That was Friday night. Saturday night I initiated, she put up LMR, I ignored it and ended up cavemanning her …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 07:59 PM
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Another approval seeking action I take is every night I go to my wife to say and kiss goodnight. I think it started out as something I did out of love, but I would come check multiple times when she was done with her shower or with putting our kid to bed. And I realized I would do it as a way to get reassurance that she still loved me, wasn't angry, or ok. I can relate to this...I did lots of similar stuff. Good for you in identifying it. Keep lazer focused on completely eliminating it. Or at le…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/20 01:37 PM
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Goal - launch an app, make FU money Instead of jumping straight to FU money concentrate on bringing in dollar 1 of revenue, then profitability. I see so many swinging for the fences but most of the rich/successful people I know just rip base hits consistently. Not as glamorous but far more realistic and achievable. Applies to every goal but especially to money. Practicality is a dying art.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/20 05:21 PM
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Ahh. So you listened to /u/blarg_risen and I about how important it was for dominance (even though you thought it unnecessary) and now you're starting to see how it improves your worldview? Yes. Thank you. I am here to learn. Experiencing has taught me a lot. I agree w/ the vast majority of your analysis as well. The only thing I would say is that the risks are a little different between bedroom dominance and finances that I support my family and lifestyle with. But there are similarities as wel…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/20 04:30 PM
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OYS #26 4/7/20 First OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 205lbs , 40 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 225 lbs bench is my 4 rep max. 15% BF on calipers. Read: Sidebar books++. Journey: During the first 6 years of my marriage I came inside of my wife maybe 5-10x ever. Since I started having sex with women in my teens, I had probably finished inside of a girl less than 25x ever. The majority of those times when I was intentionally impregnating my first wife or my current wife. My w…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/20 02:58 PM
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​ Hope to make much progress in my life this year. We'll see. This is not how progress happens. It doesn't just happen, you make it happen. Hope and We'll see = you will see shit results. ​ RELATIONSHIP: This whole section is worrying about what your wife may be thinking or feeling. Irrelevant. Stay out of her head. Read about seeking validation, it's an issue for you. ​ I can no longer work in the country I'm at. I'm slowly running out of money. Actually purchased some new accessory pieces to g…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/20 05:56 PM
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I read this and then read your previous OYS. Post every week from now on. You need to. It will be helpful for you for many reasons. The good news is you have a tremendous opportunity in front of you. You're married to 4'10" 195lbs woman that is not attracted to you. If you really do what it takes to get mentally and physically hard you will have a much better life in your future. You can also set an example for your sons that it is possible to own up and take responsibility for changing your lif…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/20 03:28 PM
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BF 18% (pull-a-number-out-my-ass method) Epitome of laziness to not find a reasonable way to assess bodyfat. Translates to lifts as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/20 04:26 PM
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With the tax harvesting that's likely a great move.
/r/askMRP13/03/20 07:05 PM
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If you don't need the money in the near future (2 years+) and are not margined up, now might not be the best time to sell for tax loss harvesting unless you're switching into another equity. Panic sell early or don't panic sell, but panic selling when SPX is down over 20% has not been a good play.
/r/askMRP13/03/20 04:14 PM
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OYS #25 3/11/20 First OYS on 3/12/19 1 YEAR EDITION Stats: 6’2”, 205lbs , 40 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 225 lbs bench is my 4 rep max. Read: Sidebar books++. A lot has changed over the past year. The power dynamic has shifted. Gradually it has switched from supplication and worry on my part to recently noticing her trying to qualify herself to me. I have noticed increased testing at times, but the nice thing is that I truly don’t care as much so they are far easier …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/20 12:56 AM
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OYS #24 2/26/20 First OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 205lbs , 40 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 225 lbs bench is my 4 rep max. Read: Sidebar books++. TRT I got my second round of testing done with a clinic that was a lot less shady. My T came in at 607 and free T at 16.2. I was looking forward to going on TRT but now my results have given me pause. I’d love to be higher and be able to put on more muscle and have more energy. But since I’m not low I’m thinking the most prud…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 12:08 AM
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At 30% BF I would add as much cardio as I could stand. Walk, ride the stationary bike, swim, whatever. Drink lots of water and move.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/20 01:22 PM
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Lifting will benefit you more than you realize. Everything came together and made sense to me when I stopped fucking around doing ironmans and marathons and started lifting weights. You weigh 185 and your goal is to bench 135? You will feel like a beast if and when you bench your body weight. Aim higher. Especially in your field if you got strong you would OYS hardcore.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/20 01:13 PM
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'you clearly didn't enjoy going out to the restaurant with me. let's not bother again in the future'. Turns we then had sex later I wouldn't take the sex as an indication that you handled this properly. Reading the relationship section of your OYS, you are judging all of your progress in how your wife reacts. Detach from the immediate reaction and embrace the improvement journey. Take some time to not worry about immediate feedback in your wife's behavior. Realizing you are using covert contract…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/20 12:57 PM
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"don't expect me to suck it." (Background: BJs are one thing she has always been reluctant to give and I would usually get butthurt about it) It pissed me off quite a bit, but I tried not to show it Recently I've realized how important it is to ignore this type of stuff...like I never even heard it. It has no place in reality, and in my wife's case what she is saying she won't do is usually exactly what happens if I completely ignore it. Almost like she wants to do it but only if I pass the test…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/20 12:50 PM
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OYS #22 2/11/20 First OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 205lbs , 40 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 225 lbs bench is my 4 rep max. Read: Sidebar books++. Explain is part of DEER This was what I caught myself with this week. I’ve been better at not defending myself, at staying strong/ keeping my frame whenever there is a disagreement. But the explaining has slipped past me, like I ignored that explaining was even a part of DEER and thought that as long as I wasn’t defensive tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 12:45 AM
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OYS #21 2/11/20 First OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 205lbs , 40 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 225 lbs bench is my 4 rep max. Read: Sidebar books++. Frame/ Relationship I observe myself doing old beta type behaviors if I’m not concentrating on avoiding them. There are so many opportunities to fall back into old habits since I work in my home. Just lingering too long in the kitchen and talking about shit I’m working on—This is the mundane shit that kills polarity and promo…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 06:53 PM
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There's shit in my medical file that has already affected different types of insurance for me, both costs and outright denial of coverage. I'll be covering my insurance for the duration of this lifetime so I try to be as careful about the info that can end up in my medical files as possible. This "dr" felt a lot like a locker room pusher. I don't think he sees many people that he doesn't recommend T to. He's a T salesman in a lab coat.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 09:37 PM
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This is a great point. Then she has tested a lot in the last couple weeks. I can improve my responses for sure. She has also pointed out though that shes been feeling really emotional lately and she doesn't like it (she definitely likes it). She's also connecting more during sex and looking at me more deeply and moaning more etc. She can feel me being less needy. As I type this though I realize some of it is becoming real and some of it is still me trying to act less needy.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 09:35 PM
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My T results came back at 513
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 09:32 PM
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OYS #20 2/4/20 First OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 200lbs , 40 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 225 lbs bench is my 4 rep max. Read: Sidebar books++. Took me 11 months but I’m finally passing shit tests Passed a shit test last week. One that I normally fail. Wife started complaining about the kitchen being dirty and I usually DEER in that spot. Instead I just DNGAF and after about a minute I said I had stuff to do and left. Since that afternoon my wife has been as feminine …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 02:27 PM
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Thanks, I appreciate the response. I think I am somewhat boring as well. I really wish I were an exciting writer. I have no idea how to become one. And while I have lots of thoughts and opinions on a few topics, especially personal finance, I feel like most things have already been said. And the people saying them are better and more exciting writers than I am. Additionally, I have fear that if I write my thoughts or advice on my ideas on how to proceed in finance...what if I steer someone the w…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/20 05:08 PM
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So you're gonna make 20K a month trading 300k? If you can keep that up long term you will be a billionaire in short order. A couple of years of consecutive 80% returns and you're on your way to the moon.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/20 04:42 PM
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My goal this year is to average 20k a month trading. I'm at 15k so far January, so pretty much on target here. How big is the account you're trading? How long have you been trading for? Generally you should think of investment goals in percentage terms over longer time horizons rather than dollar amounts over 30 day periods. There are a lot of confident traders right now. I suspect your goals are unrealistically optimistic. Which is typical of the current investment environment. Enjoy the climat…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 10:10 PM
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OYS #19 1/28/20 First OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 200lbs , 40 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 225 lbs bench is my 4 rep max. Read: Sidebar books++. Life: Had a good week. Shoulder continues to improve; workouts are going well, eating right. I've never had my T tested so I went to a clinic and paid to have them run some numbers. I don't think it's low but we'll see. I am open to TRT if the numbers are low or even average, I'm still doing the research. Sex/Marriage: Things…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 04:35 PM
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Just know, it's going to be hard finding women who don't like this" Which brings up the question...do you change yourself to suit women? I know my wife likes it. I love my wife and I'm very attracted to her and our relationship is a 9 and our sex life is a 6.5-7. If those numbers changed I would look for someone else. But the numbers are what they are so why not?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 11:12 PM
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What if I said I don't like lifting? 18 months ago I would have sworn up and down that I don't like to lift. I avoided lifting like the plague cause I thought I hated it. I started lifting 18 months ago because of MRP. Now I love it. How would I have known had I not tried?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 11:09 PM
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behaving in a way that elicits the response I am looking for. Now this may be the definition of dancing monkey. But if I don't do anything like this, I never get anywhere I don't think. I just keep being boring me vanilla unimaginative sex. If I do try to do new things I'm trying to be "red pill man" and guessing what someone wants me to be. How do you win?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 09:39 PM
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I appreciate your response and effort, but I think you have me somewhat wrong. You're right in that one of my motivations for doing it is for a reaction from my wife. "hmmm, now what would a red pill man buy in here?" While a funny visual, No, that's not me. I could care less about being a "red pill man." That's not what I'm going for. My life is great, and I love my wife. I want more sexually though. Our sex life is good but I want more. Should I not be trying new stuff like this even if it's n…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 09:36 PM
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Thanks. I feel like I have jumped out of the plane and I have no idea if I'm wearing a parachute or not. It's been fun so far.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 08:24 PM
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Thanks. It took some courage for me to do. Was definitely foreign ground.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 08:23 PM
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I have no intention of fucking these girls. ... and results in the awkwardness you're having in your conversations. yes and no. I am terrible verbally communicating subjects that I'm very comfortable with as well. I have one skill that is a very valuable skill. I am terrible at using it to help others so I use it only to help myself. I have friends that are half as good at the skill. they are great communicators (or even average ones) and they help lots of people and make lots of money doing som…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 08:22 PM
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I really don't know how I'm going to completely separate the two. I am in completely new territory here, and yeah, I don't need paddling in my life. I do want awesome sex in my life. If doing the paddling gets me awesome sex am I doing it for her or doing it for me? I want to improve because of me. I want to lift and be stronger for me. I want to grow mentally strong and be hard and be outcome independent for me--with or without her. But the paddling is experimenting with stuff outside of my com…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 08:18 PM
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OYS #18 1/21/20 First OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 200lbs , 40 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 225 lbs bench is my 4 rep max. Read: Sidebar books++. Life: Life is good overall. I’m a little bored with work but it’s gonna be like this at least until August. I’m pretty happy most days lately so I’ll take it. I’m working hard in the gym and enjoying it. Sex/Marriage: I took a leap last week and walked into a sex store for the first time in my life. It was somewhat jarring. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 02:22 PM
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A comment on the financial...if you make 200K a year and have to pay taxes and have a 17k/mo nut you are living way above your means. Get red pilled with what you actually can afford to spend.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/20 04:04 PM
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Makes a lot of sense. It's not that I want to tenderly fuck her...it's just that incorporating objects like toys and ropes and stuff just seems so foreign and contrived to me. Even spanking her...it's just not something that I'm dying to do. I don't hate doing it, it's just not what gets me off. I am starting to understand why it works and that it works. It's just really unnatural for me. I am trying to figure out what I want to do. I don't not want to go there. It's just that going there wasn't…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 03:31 PM
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OK, so don't explore being more dominant because it's not what I want, got it. Should I skip the gym if I don't feel like lifting too? Same go for style? I guess I just answered a lot of my questions.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 03:09 PM
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OYS #17 1/14/20 First OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 200lbs , 40 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 225 lbs bench is my 4 rep max. Read: Sidebar books++. Life: January is always awesome for me. Only months that are tough for me are Nov/Dec and when those are in the rear view I am usually golden. Next year I hope to handle Nov/Dec better but I say that every year. Sex/Marriage: Overall things are still good. But having a discussion on this board last week helped me realize the …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 01:59 PM
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I woke up last night thinking about this. My head is spinning a bit. I don't think it's a T issue. I'll have it tested, but I think it's more my whole outlook/relationship with women as a whole. I'll probably write something about this for next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/20 02:23 PM
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Sex drive is high. Never had T levels checked. I lead her, direct her, take what I want etc. I just don't get off on telling her shes my dirty slut and smacking her and stuff. I spank her ass but it's more for her than me.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/20 01:00 AM
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This makes a lot of sense. A problem which I haven't discussed much on here is that I don't really enjoy dominating too much. For example, talking dirty is more work than enjoyable for me. On the flip side I know my wife really enjoys it. I do it from time to time and sometimes it's better than others, but it's not something that I need. Maybe something to write about in my next OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/20 08:32 PM
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This is a good point and something I have never considered. I have to dwell on this a bit. Thx.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/20 08:29 PM
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additionally, as background... we started from a really bad place for a raw sex perspective. I was not nearly as attractive when we first met and she was the wayyyy higher SMV. Now my SMV is higher than hers after a very long time. Mostly because she's 40. But also because I have improved alot. Maybe this is just another excuse to why I think it might be nearly impossible. I do believe if I cheated on her or she really believed that I was going to....if she felt that threat then she would fuck m…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/20 01:50 PM
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When I said let the rest go I meant permanently. But you are correct in that I wish it would just be. But there are a few things in life like that...Sometimes I will be around someone more skilled/successful than me at something I like and I will wish in my mind that I was more skilled and wonder why I am not. Like a child. I think there is some overlap here. I'm trying to just do my best and let those things go as well. Permanently because at 40, some of those things are not realistic. And addi…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/20 01:39 PM
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This makes a lot of sense. I get your sliding scale idea and I agree with it. My wife puts effort in and wants to please me. I am just wanting it to be more primal and just raw sexual energy without effort. All I can do is continue improving and let the rest go I suppose.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/20 03:48 AM
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one-itis/wife goggles, big time. I’m realizing more and more how one-itis does not benefit me, and I’m still deep in it. and I recently realized that middle aged strong independent career women training for grueling athletic events does not turn me on sexually. Maybe this is progress. If the middle aged woman was not your wife and very hot you might feel differently? ​ Keeping validation-seeking in mind, I’ve done a lot of asking my wife to do new things sexually. Mostly her answer is no. I've b…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 08:08 PM
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Hadn't seen this until just now. Thanks for your comment and congrats on 37 years.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 07:11 PM
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Thank you for the insight and I do understand your point. Sounds like Charlie Munger advice, "always invert". I will argue the point just a little, because when I said I wouldn't change it because I hadn't thus far...that was with respect to the fact that I've already changed just about everything I could think of. I've changed a lot. Additionally, I am pretty close to her ideal man I think. I don't think she would be with the guy that might get the best sex out of her. I think that guy is in ja…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 07:09 PM
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I guess it depends. Probably not since I haven't thus far. Do I have to give up anything I have currently in exchange by acting this way or would my different behavior just be added value? If the latter than possibly I would act that way.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 04:31 PM
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OYS #16 1/7/20 First OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 200lbs , 40 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 225 lbs bench is my 4 rep max. Read: Sidebar books++. Life: Doing better, making a lot of progress with issues that I want to improve that would be boring to discuss at length here, inner peace/sobriety type stuff. Was fighting shoulder problems since July and I am finally feeling like I’m mostly better now which is allowing me more time in the gym. I am still tip-toeing around m…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 02:08 PM
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I have the shoulder impingement too, sucks. I stopped benching entirely. I’ll cut some of the TV time with wife to pursue something else, preferably something outside the house definitely cut the TV time. Frame seems fine that may indicate it's not a negative but also is not a positive. You probably need more work on your frame than you think. ​ I think your plan sounds good overall, and you're recognizing your covert contracts. Just concentrate on the self improvement, follow the mrp path/ the …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/20 04:09 PM
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Thanks, you're right. I fought it for so long and I'm finally at the point where I just want some peace. I'm going to pursue it, it's about time.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/20 04:00 PM
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OYS #15 12/31/19 First OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 205lbs , 40 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 225 lbs bench is my 4 rep max. Read: Sidebar books++. Life: Getting back on track. Accepting the situation that I will be living in Florida until the end of the school year and hopefully selling the house I bought down here and just trying to come to terms with the whole ordeal. Reframing it; I took a shot, didn’t work out, at least I took my shot. Rather than; I had a stupid i…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 04:27 PM
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I moved my family down here. It has not gone as expected. Bought a big house, needed some renovations. I have done many full home renos before, but this one has gone terribly. One thing after another. Bottom line is I am not happy here and want to have my old life back. We will finish the school year and do exactly that. At this point my wife agrees and she's looking forward to going back. My daughter, who we have not told yet, has said she wants to go back. So that's all good. It sucks to be in…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 07:48 PM
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OYS #14 12/9/19 First OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 205lbs , 40 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 230 lbs bench is my 4 rep max. Read: Sidebar books++. First post since August. I was doing all the right things while I was diving into the MRP material and implementing it. It was working well, I was happier, I had gotten a lot stronger physically and I had become much less needy emotionally. Sex life had drastically improved to the best I’ve had. I made a mistake though. For a…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 12:44 PM
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I'm frequently pursuing sex from something other than genuine desire. There are days when I know I could use the physical release, but that's all. And others I "want" it just because it seems like I should. This was me my entire life until very recently. It's a confusing place to be and try to figure out whats going on ion my own head, but read my OYS...really concentrate on your motivation for initiating and don't unless you're genuinely horny, see if that changes anything for you. It freed me …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 11:27 AM
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OYS #13 8/5/19 First OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 195lbs , 39 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 225 lbs bench is my 4 rep max (+10), 255lbs squat 2 rep max Read: Sidebar books++. Bodyfat: Calipers 8%. Last 3 weeks: I consciously made the adjustment to monitor when I am about to initiate sex and to ask myself if I am initiating because I’m horny or because I’m seeking validation. If I determined that I wasn’t really horny I forced myself NOT to initiate. In doing so and stop…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 11:21 AM
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I think I'm slowly beginning to understand, it's taking a while. I'm a little dense with it. The only thing I might argue is that don't you think you treat people (women) differently that will be a short term sex only thing vs a long term wife? I feel like I would be so much freer to take chances and get out of my comfort zone and call her a dirty slut, etc with a woman that I didn't care about and wouldn't see everyday forever.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/19 04:50 PM
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It doesn't feel like the right thing to do. I don't think I'd be happier in the long run. I'd rather just fix all of my problems and improve my sexual relationship with my wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/19 04:41 PM
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That's the question I have to answer. I think that the above is the question of be single or be married. If I were single I could push the lever so to speak. More complex in the marriage I actually have to solve the underlying root problem. I have chosen this path.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/19 12:29 PM
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She is a quality person, but she's the same person who a year ago would make statements like "I'm just not that sexual anymore" while starfishing and whatnot. I'm just trying to understand what exactly is making her respond, but ultimately it doesn't matter, just focus on myself. Which I do, but my mind wanders and I think too much. Yes, I think we have gotten to the place where it's clear the expectations are for the sexual quality minimums have gone up significantly. One thing I have learned t…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/19 12:27 PM
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Yes, I'll back off the bench for a while and work on strengthening the shoulder. I have PT tomorrow as well. I don't really stretch and I've had a great run avoiding injury playing sports my whole life, but I'm getting older so I'll start taking things like stretching more seriously going fwd. I didn't realize Navy was gay, I don't know this stuff very well. You're right about all the rest. I need to get out of the house more. I love working inside my house and avoiding a commute and all that bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 03:01 PM
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how long I can be in a lackluster relationship especially given the IOIs I’ve recently gotten. IVF going as well as can be expected. These were in consecutive sentences.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 12:26 PM
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OYS #12 7/16/19 First OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 195lbs (-5), 39 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 225 lbs bench is my 4 rep max (+10), 255lbs squat 2 rep max Read: Sidebar books++. Bodyfat, Navy : 12%, Calipers 8%. Last week: Monday I was really annoyed because my wife was preoccupied doing (unimportant) things rather than paying attention to me. This led to me becoming crazy and angry…and I posted in OYS last week about how I was feeling, received a lot of insight that …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 11:49 AM
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meaning there always has to be a credible threat of leaving?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/19 12:54 PM
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I'm going to think a lot more about this. I have improved a little...in that I used to run to my wife with every little success and tell her about it (obviously looking for validation), I don't do this any longer, or at least not nearly as much. I do have weird feelings about starting to rack up some real success and no one noticing. I work by myself and I don't share specifics with anyone besides banks or people loaning me money. It does make everything seem really pointless.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 09:18 PM
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My missions are not satisfying. I wrote them down recently and they always come back to money. I'm good at it and I can quantify it and it is what I can remember my dad teaching me when I was a kid. I think I'm bored with life. Because even as I make more and more money it's not really all that satisfying. And I hate spending money too so there's that. But I spend most of my waking hours thinking and planning and then acting on how to make more. I have a couple of businesses where I live now (I …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 09:05 PM
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I've read NMMNG...I didn't like it. Not because of the point of the book, I just hated the way it was written. I got a lot more out of WISNIFG. Thanks for the link...it's weird though, cause there are elements I hate about myself, but I don't feel any of these: I’m such a loser.” “I can’t do anything right.” “I’m ugly.” Objectively, I kick ass in most facets of life. I just have these gnawing insecurities. And I can suppress them for a while and have good days/weeks sometimes (rarely) even month…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 08:54 PM
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yes, that's it. I am. I really try not to be but I'm very aware that I am in fact enervating. Not exactly like Jack describes, because on paper, my wife's life is fucking cake because she is married to me. But emotionally I am sure that I suck the life completely out of her.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 08:49 PM
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I've read that post you linked several times today. It definitely describes me well. Not the giving/good lover...I don't relate to that. But I do identify with parts of the special sex act (there isn't one thing in particular but I relate to the sentiment), the nice guy covert contract and the reciprocity. It just seems logical to have these feelings. I feel like I wouldn't even know who I was if I were able to rise above them. And I really have no idea how. I get a lot from your back and forth …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 06:47 PM
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I agree with a lot of what you wrote and I appreciate you taking the time. I agree that I suck as well. But I do focus on myself, why would I be reading a book on how to improve my self esteem otherwise? I’ll admit I do have laziness in some areas. Thanks for your help and insight. I’ll continue to focus inward and I’m going to hold off on plates for a long while. It’s just becoming more appealing. Probably because I’m lazy.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 05:12 PM
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I read about tons of high value guys that I admire.... they all cheat on their women. But I still cling to this image of myself as someone who doesn't do that. I don't even think she'd leave. I would 100% leave her in a second if she cheated.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 04:33 PM
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I am really starting to think life would be better for me and my wife if I just did that or had a side piece. But the book I'm reading about self - esteem right now is telling me that if I lose my integrity that will give me even worse self esteem (six pillars of self esteem by N Branden) I feel like straight up telling my wife this even. I'm not going to but it makes too much sense. She would ridicule me that we have been having tons of sex lately...that anyone she knows would be happy with the…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 04:29 PM
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I don't know how to be rid of them. If I were single and hid them it would solve the problem of getting the sex I wanted. It's the one factor that is keeping me from getting the sex I want I think--- having my wife realize my insecurities that are there beneath the surface.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 03:51 PM
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I am stuck in confusion about how I can possibly be unattractive. I know that you are right. And I know my insecurities are betraying me and I have tells that women (my wife) pick up on. But I also know that if I were single I could just next girls once they figured out I had these insecurities. Would be far easier. I could totally hide the insecurities for a night or a week. But my wife knows they’re there. Holy shit I’m fucked. I’m totally fucking nuts.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 02:44 PM
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I agree a lot of what I want is based on validation seeking which I’m trying (and mostly failing) to address. But a lot of what I want is because I enjoy it and want lots a sex in a variety of ways with my wife who I find very attractive. I am not sure where to draw the line between the 2.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 02:28 PM
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Your spot on. I need to relax and maybe I’ll find some clarity.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 02:22 PM
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You’re 100% right. I am highly frustrated and don’t know how to fix it. I’m reading about self esteem and shit and doing the exercises and trying to be mentally aware of where I fall short. And feeling needy and seek validation. I am failing at it right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 02:21 PM
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I just read this from jackten and really related to it: But something like "having sex" is not binary. Dread can make your wife fuck you, but she may be doing it out of compulsion more than anything. I don't consider this initially a problem at all, because the compulsive behavior should lead to a legitimate enjoyment of sex. The hamster may burrow through the wall the first time, but now having seen where the exit is, next time they quickly navigate there without any painful burrowing. In other…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 12:56 PM
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Thanks for the insight. I ebb and flow...I got to a place in my head a few weeks ago where I was totally willing to burn it down.....then that leads her to acting exactly the way I want her to, super sweet, feminine, submissive....which leads me to soften up....which leads her to not be as sweet and submissive. I think I need to figure out how to maintain frame/ stay strong and hard regardless of how sweet she is being.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 12:54 PM
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I agree with what you wrote. It is working for the most part, But I still get angry when it doesn't work exactly the way I want. I suppose I'm just childish.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 11:51 AM
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She said something to me a few weeks back. ‘I find I’m more interested in sex when I know you don’t want it’. Interesting words. Her actions have proven that to be the case as well. I suspect my initiations suck. Standard approach is at bedtime (which I know is against conventional wisdom). She can see it coming a mile off. I’ve tried playing with other times and approaches but haven’t had much success there. Work to be done here. It does still ‘occasionally’ get to me. Which means I’ve not comp…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 10:44 AM
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OYS #11 7/9/19 First OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 200lbs, 39 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 215 lbs bench is my 5 rep max, 255lbs squat 2 rep max Read: Sidebar books and more. Bodyfat, Navy : 12%, Calipers 8%. Last 2 weeks: I feel like I’m stalling a little. At a crossroads, the low hanging fruit has been picked. For a few weeks there I was getting really enthusiastic frequent sex, 4 days in a row on 2 occasions in June…now it’s slipping back to every other day. I don’t …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 10:38 AM
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You’re making stfu harder than it needs to be. If she’s scrolling FB while you’re talking she’s not listening anyways just do it. Over explaining stuff you’re trying to do will sabotage yourself so STFU. Start talking to people. Small stuff like how’s your day going to a cashier. Have to start somewhere as far as opening yourself up to make friends.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/19 10:26 AM
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Readings: NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP. What next? Do the work that was written in the books you read .Take out a pen and paper and write a detailed MAP. Started Stronglifts 5x5 on May 1, 2018. DB Bench: 60 DB OHP: 40 DB Front Squat: 55 DB Row: 60 DB Deadlift: 90 Will purchase a bar and a squat rack in September. Why September, Why not now? How many times a week are you doing the above exercises? DUI Can't manage to lose about ~15 lbs of fat. I also sleep like shit How many drinks a week right now?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/19 01:05 PM
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OYS #10 6/25/19 First OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 201lbs (-1), 39 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 215 lbs bench is my 5 rep max (+5lbs and 4 reps), 255lbs squat 1 rep max Read: sidebar, reading Bigger Leaner Stronger now. Bodyfat, Navy : 12%, Calipers 8%. Last 3 weeks: Best time I’ve had as a man. I am more productive, more confident and less anxious or worried than I’ve ever been. I am doing a bunch of major things in my life and work, things that would normally cause m…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 12:06 PM
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This is $$$ advice, all of it. Do as he says.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/19 12:48 AM
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Sex is basically off the table, as she has some medical issues that are really F-ing her life up. Nothing life threatening, but it's chronic and definitely life-impacting. Throw in a half fifth of whiskey a day drinking problem, and some lingering mental health issues, and you can imagine why I call it a dumpster fire. Our sex life wasn't good even before her medical issues, but now it's non-existent. There's a real possibility that she may never be able to have a "Normal" sex life. I'm really s…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/19 01:38 AM
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FIRE by the time I'm 45 with a withdrawal rate of 2.5%, 100k min a year. $4mm in 13 years starting from negative net worth (10k debt) seems aspirational. What concrete steps will you take to make that happen?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 08:20 PM
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What are you going to do about the pack a day habit?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 12:13 PM
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Right. I am caring less about whats in her head but still a long way to go. I think you're right too about attraction being multi dimensional. Ultimately I need to stop worrying about who's attracted to what and just work on my mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 04:57 PM
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This is good shit. I am uncomfortable just imagining doing this which means its pushing the limits of my comfort zone which means this is where I should be heading. I will do this.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 04:51 PM
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I agree...however, this isn't an in the moment thing. This is a role play that wont work unless she prepares for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 03:47 PM
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This is why I post here. To recognize where I fundamentally think the wrong way. Great point. I have so many holes in my mental maps of this shit. I want to delete my comment but I will let it stay.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 03:46 PM
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I was laughing until I realized how accurately this described me prior to mrp.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 12:33 PM
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When he moves into ejaculating up into my spine I had to move on. I Wasn't ready for that just yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 12:15 PM
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When she asks for a non-sexual massage I would laugh and start giving her a very sexual massage or laugh and go work on something related to my mission while ignoring her and certainly not communicating my frustration.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 12:07 PM
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smashed it at the gym, was dynamic, lost 6 stone... No change! I felt duped and lied to Give it more time. Momentum builds with fitness, confidence, game, etc. If she comes around great if not you've made yourself a better man. You have a lot of goals and it will take time to get where you want to be. If your ultimate goal is saving your marriage I would read more foundational stuff like Athol Kay's books or Saving a low sex marriage before David Dieda. But if you've decided you're moving on the…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 12:05 PM
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back has been sore the last few days. it was too wet and cold outside to do much with the kids. This week's diet has gone to shit with being out of town for 3 nights and eating out a lot. Be careful of letting obstacles provide excuses for slowing down your mission. I used a neg on her about something. Her reply was, 'well, you're not getting laid tonight'. I just laughed and replied, 'well, you'll be the one missing out.' She laughed and we carried on. Not long after, I told her it was time to …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 11:57 AM
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Excellent questions by u/manoam to be answered I was going to ask where he was in dread as well. Also, where is your SMV in relation to your wifes? Need a little more info. Have you read saving a low sex marriage? It seems like wife suggested in the evening that we could have sex after the kids slept, I said OK. When the time came she was too tired but could imagine "a non-sexual massage", is a test. Figuring out how to handle it is key. Unless you don't want to save the marriage and you want to…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 11:52 AM
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OYS #9 Started OYS on 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 202lbs (+2), 39 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 210 lbs bench is my 1 rep max, 255lbs squat (+30) 1 rep max Read: Rational Male 1, NMMNG, MMSLP, BPP Saving a low sex marriage, Pook, SGM. Unchained man/alpha 2.0. Reading Bigger Leaner Stronger now and Mode One. Finally measured bodyfat, Navy : 12%, Calipers 8%. Fitness: Realized that I need to start eating more. Before I stopped drinking 5 years ago, I carried way too much weight…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 11:45 AM
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Having a good week this week...I suggested the scenario after sex last night, she was into it. She brought it up today asking questions about how to do it so I think we're moving towards it. Now I actually have to hold frame while we do it. Will be a big step up for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/19 06:31 PM
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"I do not like to see your bones and muscles, I liked you better when you were chubbier." I found a issue to her completely negative response about my physical changes, was I talked to others about my gains including recommendations for Keto and working out. She said that it made everyone uncomfortable because I was discussing my gains and dieting and because I lost my weight so quickly it made the people who were trying to lose weight to get frustrated. This is funny. Interesting to observe in …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/19 06:25 PM
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#1 From your pic, you're a monster. Nice job. I want to get bigger. What do you mean by cycle...training cycle? Or does it refer to supplements? How long does the cycle go? #2 about the cumming from a golden shower. This illustrates for me so much of what I'm missing as far as psychological dominance goes. Were you always like this with girls, being able to do stuff like pissing on them or was it something that you worked up to/ came to gradually?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 05:01 PM
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6'2", 185lbs, too fat and unconditioned. Three lifting and two cardio sessions. Three solid lifting sessions, but only a single cardio session. I'm no personal trainer, but I would say focus on the lifting. 6'2" 185lbs can't be too fat. You will gain more confidence form lifting the weights and you'll lose fat from lifting the weights too. a 4th lifting session for the week will be a better use of your time than a first cardio. What have you read of the sidebar? By posting what you have read, su…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 11:59 AM
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I wanted to work on being more dominant and not boring in bed. I basically told her to take the dress off, get naked, and get it bed. She did. Awesome. Remember what works with your wife the next time you're in a drought. Saving a low sex marriage book has been extremely valuable for me, glad to see you're reading that one now.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 11:53 AM
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OYS #8 5/27/19 First OYS 3/12/19 Stats: 6’2”, 200lbs, 39 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 210 lbs bench is my 1 rep max, 225lbs squat 1 rep max Read: Rational Male 1, NMMNG, MMSLP, BPP Saving a low sex marriage, Pook, SGM. Reading Unchained Man/ Alpha 2.0 now. edit: Squatted 255 today so there's some progress. Last 2 weeks: Things are improving. I’ve never been very patient though, so sometimes I focus on where I haven’t gotten yet rather than the massive steps that have …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 11:22 AM
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I A&A usually (“Yeah, my gym girls need love too” stuff like that), which may not be the best option right now but she doesn’t seem to get too mad about it so I keep doing it. Don’t let whether she gets mad or not affect how you handle her shit tests. Her getting mad could be a good or a bad thing but you DGAF either way. It was a shit test so handle it how you should regardless of what she’s gonna say. Seems like you handled this one perfectly with A&A and the other one you handled as well reco…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 11:00 AM
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I’ve read the sidebar... I’m just a fucking idiot sometimes and fuck it up. You’re right, I will filter my possible actions through the “would a needy bitch do this” thought process. It will stop me from doing some of the dumb shit I do. I will post an OYS and update this post but long story short I followed the advice in This thread and it worked out really well.
/r/askMRP21/05/19 04:30 PM
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Thanks for this perspective.
/r/askMRP20/05/19 03:06 PM
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Very true. Thank you.
/r/askMRP20/05/19 03:05 PM
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Thanks for the input. Will definitely take your advice. Part of the issue she has now is “look I’m having sex with you all the time and you’re still not happy”. And then she starts saying I’m crazy. I am a little worried that I pushed it too far, was actually crazy, and did real damage to the relationship. All of my blue pill tendencies are rising. Logically I tell myself there is no way she would do anything drastic, but I feel like I may have gone too far. I plan on trying to hold frame tomorr…
/r/askMRP20/05/19 05:04 AM
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Those lifts seems strange. What is up with your low squat compared to your bench? I neglected my lower body while working on my upper body for a while, just getting to being serious about full body and squatting now. That and I've never really gone for it on a 1 rep max with my squat, a little scared with my knees, I'll work up to it. I went to crossfit a couple times in the last week and I worked up to 225 and probably could have gone a little heavier but I didn't so I just put 225 cause that w…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 10:45 PM
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Hahah Yes I’m working on the friendships. It’s been helping. Right on with the advice. I copied this on my whiteboard from another of your posts: comfort or reassurance seeking behavior in adult males is extremely unattractive. Focusing on this. Losing my shame gradually. I seek reassurance constantly. From everywhere. This will be a huge improvement to remove this behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 08:12 PM
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I edited to Not DEERing. You are 100% right. I need to keep pushing in areas that are uncomfortable and don't come naturally. This is where the growth comes. I'll keep at it. Have to remind myself that it doesn't happen overnight. Thx for the insight.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 11:45 AM
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OYS #7 5/14/19 First OYS on 3/12 Stats: 6’2”, 200lbs, 39 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids. Lifts: 205 lbs bench is my 1 rep max, 225lbs squat 1 rep max Read: Rational Male 1, NMMNG, MMSLP, BPP Saving a low sex marriage, Pook, SGM. Reading 9 laws by Ivan Throne now. Summary: Overall things are going well. I’m on the ball owning my shit in all aspects of my life far better than before I started on this journey. Over the last few days I have seen though that my one-itis is returning…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 10:31 AM
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Just wanted to mention I tell all of my married friends to get your book. Helped me a great deal. Just excellent, no bullshit!
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/19 03:33 AM
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I’m a huge advocate of managing property yourself for the first year. It’s my number one recommendation to friends and family. Unless they’re already super rich. Managing your first properties is also highly correlated with success rate as far as I’ve observed but that is anecdotal. Lot of great info out there in the REI world and a lot of crap. I've learned a lot of valuable lessons from some people who were literal criminals and served time for mortgage fraud and I've also gotten bad advice fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 09:33 PM
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Augusta has very attractive cash flow. I've glanced at deals there. I would start local if I were you. Hate to try and time the market, but I have not been buying nearly as aggressively lately. Although with the cash flow in the Augusta area you could afford to hold through a downturn if you were confident you could keep the units occupied. Cap rates by me have gotten absurdly low. I would be selling if I had anything I wanted to 1031 into. Would you be self managing or hiring a property manager…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 08:43 PM
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What region of the country are you in? Are your planned real estate investments close to your home? Are you looking for more cash-flow or appreciation? (I know both, but which is more important to you).
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 12:49 PM
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I don’t game my wife or initiate much anymore because I want a willing partner. I suppose that I could push the issue and she would comply and give me sex, but the bitching and complaining would not be worth the squeeze. If you want your wife to get on board I would imagine what you wrote here would need to be resolved. Obviously, focus on yourself like you wrote above (get to 180 lbs and game other chicks) but if you want a better sexual relationship with your wife I think you have to initiate …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 12:46 PM
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Both of you are helpful here. When I enter the conversation I have to have a more clear objective than just trying to explain to her/ get her to understand why she is being suckered by xyz company. Next time I will just say “you spent x amount on x thing and that is excessive”. Rather than beat around the bush about it. Turns out it was an assertiveness issue on my part. Thanks for helping me work through.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 08:53 PM
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Hmmmn. I never thought of it that way. I don't think it's covert perse but possibly something there. The expectation is that she spend carefully and reasonably. We have plenty of money, It's just that I review our credit cards and if I feel she is spending frivolously I speak with her about it. We've done it this way forever. All of the finances are controlled by me, when she needs money she asks me for it and her credit cards are paid by me. She is aware I will be reviewing all of our spending …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 05:35 PM
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Thanks. I'm really grateful that I'm sober almost 5 years now. My life is infinitely better than if I would have continued drinking. There is a reasonable chance I'd be dead or in jail and/or have fucked up my life majorly in some other way. No way for an alcoholic like I was to really Own their shit without lying to themselves. I drank excessively pretty much from the start at 15, always drank more than my friends, was trying to bring alcohol into whatever we were doing or leading the way by be…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 05:21 PM
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OYS #6 4/24/19 first OYS Stats: 6’2”, 197lbs, 39 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids boy 10yo lives with ex far away (I visit frequently), 5yo girl at home with us. Lifts: 205 lbs bench is my 1 rep max, Read: Rational Male 1, NMMNG, MMSLP, BPP Saving a low sex marriage, Pook, SGM. Reading 9 laws by Ivan Throne now. Today: Holy shit I guess this is working. All of the outward gauges are showing it’s working; sex is way better, wife is touching me more, putting her head on me and tryi…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/19 02:20 PM
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Thanks for the suggestion. I’m a believer in Neuro-linguistic programming so I’ll definitely give it a try on the affirmations. I appreciate the help Chuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 10:13 PM
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OYS #5 4/8/19 First OYS Stats: 6’2”, 202lbs, 39 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids boy 10yo lives with ex far away (I visit frequently), 5yo girl at home with us. Lifts: 200lbs bench is my 1 rep max, Read: Rational Male 1, NMMNG, MMSLP, BPP Saving a low sex marriage, Pook. Currently RM preventative medicine and switching to WISNIFG when I can’t handle the Rollo truth. Also just started SGM. Fitness: I’ve been lifting and I’m getting bigger/stronger than I’ve ever been, but I’ve nev…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 12:03 PM
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Thanks. That makes a lot of sense. I can get behind that reasoning. I appreciate the guidance.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/19 10:03 PM
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Overpaying pro athletes for entertainment by paying for tickets/merch etc. is similar to being cucked.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/19 04:04 PM
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Did you openly share the list you made with your wife or was it something you just kept yourself and tried? How far into your map did you do the above bullet points?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 01:30 AM
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True observation. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 09:46 PM
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The link was very helpful. Especially this comment by weak and sensitive: Exactly - which is why I see men who try to ascribe it up to malicious intent as weak men who are looking to be victimized. It's the same when people complain that the weather is out to get them, or that their airplane delay is intentionally trying to ruin their vacation. What I take from this is: She doesn't do it on purpose. It's just a fact of life that women don't get aroused by guys who supplicate. So don't do it. I w…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 09:45 PM
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Thank you for the links. I need to be way more fun, I am way too stiff overall. I do understand that I need to do it for me not her. Are you sure about that? Have to admit you're right. I am having difficulty internalizing that I need to step up to the plate and be a man in all aspects of my life. I have been struggling with realizing that women don't care about a lot of my strengths (at least as far as sexual desire goes). I act like a pussy and supplicate to her sometimes and that destroys att…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 09:31 PM
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For me, it is infinitely easier to drink 0 beers than it is to try to moderate. Quitting drinking for me was like losing 600lbs and gaining tons of energy and productivity. I loved beer. LOVED it. Once I accepted that I could no longer drink life became so much better. Good luck to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 07:01 PM
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OYS #4 First OYS Last Week Stats: 6’2”, 199lbs, 39 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids boy 10yo lives with ex wife plane ride away, 5yo girl at home with us. Lifts: 200lbs bench is my 1 rep max, Read: Rational Male 1, NMMNG, MMSLP, BPP Saving a low sex marriage, Pook. Currently RM preventative medicine and switching to WISNIFG when I can’t handle the Rollo truth. I’ve been fucking up these OYS I think. Doing it wrong and just not getting it. Going to be briefer today. Been cycling t…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 12:03 PM
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So simple but this hits so hard for me.
/r/askMRP01/04/19 06:09 PM
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Pay off the credit card debt before the vanguard etf. I’d do it immediately with the wedding gifts that are just sitting.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/19 10:40 AM
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I definitely know she has. She was definitely a slut for guys. I’m not sure what you’re trying to advise me here.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 10:20 PM
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Good point. I rush in to help my children too much as well, big shocker. Thx.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 02:33 PM
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I hear you. and I agree that nobody likes an expert. To be fair though that comment you were sent is really negative and I just want to help my brother and best friend fix some mistakes they are making so that their lives would be improved. The guy you quoted doesn't really sound like he's intending to help. But I get that people don't want help.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 02:24 PM
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There's this strong feeling that I've woken up in someone else's shoes, with someone else's life, running someone's else's business, married to someone else's wife. Letting the days go by, let the water hold me down Letting the days go by, water flowing underground Into the blue again after the money's gone Once in a lifetime, water flowing underground
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 02:04 PM
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Thoughts: Embracing the warrior mentality. The game is never over. It starts every morning and it can never be won. The whole thing is a journey to be the best you can be. I always strived for an end. With finances... with everything, get to the finish line and relax. Well, the finish line doesn’t exist. I am trying to wrap my head around this. I read about Bob Iger, CEO of Disney getting up at 4am to workout hard. Guy is 65+ and worth almost 10 figures. Lots of examples like this. The game is n…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 01:21 PM
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OYS #3 first OYS last week Stats: 6’2”, 199lbs, 39 years old, wife 40, married 7 together 9, 2 kids boy 10yo lives with ex wife plane ride away, 5yo girl at home with us. Lifts: 200lbs bench is my 1 rep max, Read: Rational Male, NMMNG, MMSLP, BPP Saving a low sex marriage. reading currently: starting a new book tonight. Reading: Finished BPP low sex marriage book. Loved it, thought is was excellent. Dread is important. Way more important than I realized. My wife cannot think that I am all hers n…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 01:21 PM
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I was in that cycle for years. Cut back and try as hard as I could to moderate. Then be scratching my head wondering why it was so hard to do. Then eventually accepting that i can’t have anything to drink and it became so much easier. It was like losing a hundred pounds. I could devote all that effort I was using to white knuckle moderating my alcohol into productive shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/19 02:19 PM
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Great post. I think overthinking gets in the way of my happiness personally. That and internalizing what other people may or may not be feeling. Great point of the consumerist stuff too.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/19 12:50 AM
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Shit I didn’t even realize I wrote that much about her. Point taken. Your point is to forget about her and just look inward then?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 10:54 AM
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As someone who used to drink too much, not drinking has been the most powerful, best decision I've ever made.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/19 08:47 PM
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Thanks for responding. Honestly my main concern fitness wise is that my cardio may prevent me from adding any bulk. I'm still running 20-25 miles a week, playing sports, cycling, etc. I am used to devoting 15 hours a week to my cardio, so even taking 5 of those hours and giving them to lifting leaves a lot. I'll do the lifting, I'm committed and really enjoying it. I just wonder at what point is too much cardio? Because I eat really clean as well...no bullshit, no alcohol, no sweets, etc. Lots o…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/19 07:01 PM
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I thought I wrote a lot (and well) but I re-read it and mostly gibberish. Reading all of your comments above on others posts...I'm not special and the advice given to others is mostly applicable to me. Focusing on the basics...STFU and be attractive, don't be unattractive. Don't be scared of my wife. Keep lifting a priority. hahah I'm talking to myself now, but posting here is my accountability to stay on the path. Looking forward to the day when I don't have to remind myself to act like a man a…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/19 03:22 PM
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Fuck man. I needed to read this STFU advice (Again). Why do I need a reminder constantly not to do this? Can you follow me around my house and punch me in the face when I need to stfu?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/19 01:56 AM
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Awesome post. Glad to see you can go from dead bedroom to 5x a week. I’ll be living on this board if I know what’s good.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/19 01:41 AM
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OYS #2 3/19/19 first OYS Stats: 6’2”, 201lbs, 39 years old, wife 39, married 7 together 9, 2 kids boy 10yo lives with ex wife plane ride away, 5yo girl at home with us. Lifts: 200lbs bench is my 1 rep max, Read: Rational Male, NMMNG, MMSLP, reading currently: Saving a low sex marriage and lots on this board and Rollo’s blog. Listening to Rollo on different podcasts Last Week: My head has been exploding now that my eyes are open. I have epiphanies daily about how I behaved for the last few years …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 01:27 PM
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Thanks. You’re right. I’m having a tough time accepting it. I’m fighting between being angry and acceptance. I’m hoping that after some time I will lose the anger and just focus on the task at hand. I’ve been stfu lately and it’s so weird for me. But it’s better than spewing emotion. I know if I discussed with her I would not have anything to say that would help me in the long run so I’m holding on to stfu with white knuckles.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/19 01:14 AM
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Yes, I agree I need to address the male friend issue. I bounce tons of ideas off of my wife and she has no interest and doesn't understand much of what I talk about but I just bury her with it. UGHHH I'm such an idiot I am quite sure she doesn't want to hear about options greeks or politics or possible arbitrage opportunities. But I read about it and get immersed in it and she's there so I start talking about it. Why do I feel the need to discuss when I can just apply it? (rhetorical, I just wis…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/19 09:05 PM
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Thanks for pointing that out. Is dealing with this covert contract simply STFU and trying to handle shit tests? Is handling shit tests simply ignoring them and not getting in her frame/ not empathizing with her feelings about whatever the topic of the shit test is? ​
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/19 02:30 PM
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Truth. I will focus on the basics and figure out how to stfu. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/19 02:16 AM
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I’m new and lost at this but wondering why you think your wife wont come around if you run a good MAP. If you improve game and get in better shape is there any chance she’s responsive? Maybe this is just what I want to believe.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/19 12:04 AM
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OYS #1 Stats: 6’2”, 197lbs, 39 years old, wife 39, married 7 together 9, 2 kids boy 10yo lives with ex wife plane ride away, 5yo girl at home with us. Lifts: 200lbs bench is my 1 rep max, Read: Rational Male, NMMNG, MMSLP, reading currently: Saving a low sex marriage and lots on this board and Rollo’s blog. u/man_in_the_world post history Why I’m here: I was growing dissatisfied and then angry with the quality of my wife’s sexual output. She gives a lot of starfish. I thought it was her fault fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/19 11:43 PM
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Commenting just to say I learned a lot from this post. Im in a similar spot as the poster.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/19 10:51 PM
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