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I tell them i like extroverted, confident, funny, cocky, charming, charismatic social butterflies with beautiful eyes and some men lose their shit. Nu-uh, these guys want to be perpetual victims and scream "b...b...but women told me to be nice". I want a bold dude to charm me, kiss me well and bend me over. I want to have a good time with him, to go to clubs, to go out, to travel, to throw parties, tolay video games with him. And all of this means i think he's nice because i have a nice time fuc…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 11:14 PM
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It definetely holds people back.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 08:58 PM
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I blame runcional illiteracy, huge egos, victim mentality and bad faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 07:48 PM
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That fear of approaching sure doesn't help either
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 08:02 AM
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People often ask a lot of questions, dumb questions, stupid questions, we even have a sub for that: r/stupidquestions
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 01:08 AM
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I agree and said it multiple times. My personal view is that a woman should never approach and a man is less manly in my eyes if he's afraid to approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 01:06 AM
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No, i didn't say men should approach. Why do some women consider a man less masculine simply because he is afraid to approach a woman he likes? I answered why men who are afraid to approach are seen less masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 01:01 AM
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In Lady & the Tramp, Tramp is basically a bad boy with courage and a heart of gold. Comes from a getto, knows his way around, has courage and ia cocky. But also does everything in his power to save Lady. Also knows how to charm her.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 12:53 AM
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Again traits are associted with masculinity oe feminity, that doesn't mean that both sexes can't have that trait. Wisdom is feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 05:17 PM
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Wisdom is a feminine trait and i find it very cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 01:45 PM
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I brought this into the discussion because the post is about courage being a masculine trait or not. We can only argue if it's masculine or feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 01:14 PM
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Indeed, there are some syndroms, but they are treated as abnormalities, like XXX syndrome.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 01:11 PM
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Sry, en is not my first language. I mean biological sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 01:08 PM
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Because there are only 2 biological genders. Is your stance that courage is a feminine trait? Other than the maternal instincts of mamels, do you have other evidence?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 01:01 PM
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The Latin word for man is vir. From this, the Romans created the word virtus (virtue), which originally meant "manliness" or "military courage." We also have this link: https://www.etymonline.com/word/courage German: The word is Mut or Tapferkeit. Related words like Mut come from old Germanic roots meaning mind or spirit, seen in words like demoting or Mutig (brave). Dutch (Mannelijkheid): Similar to German, historical Dutch frameworks tied bravery to mannelijkheid (masculinity). To show courage…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 12:53 PM
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It is a trait present in both males and females. Yes, i agree to that and i said it in a previous comment. But if we consider yin and yang, one feminity and one masculinity, where would you place courage? On the feminine side or on the masculine side?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 12:41 PM
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What would u accept as evidence that it is a masculine trait since phrases and word origins (words have meaning, you know) aren't evidence in your books?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 12:33 PM
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It means that when the word for courage was created, they used the same word that means manliness, thus tieing courage to being manly, making it a masculine trait. What is your stance exactly and how do you support it?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 12:23 PM
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you were asking WHAT their argument WAS. No, i asked repeatedly "what is the lvl people here accept and what is the lvl you think it is?"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 12:06 PM
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I am using that fact. But it's not only that. The Greek word for courage is andreia, which comes from he-man and also means manliness. Ofc courage is not only for men, but it is a masculine trait.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 12:04 PM
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I actually wanted to address your points since they are ridiculous, especially the language one. But i actually want to know first what does this have to do with the post?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 11:53 AM
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Yes, and she "had the balls" to defend her kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 11:45 AM
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But then how are we supposed to debate your view if we don't know the exact values? What you think it is, what it actually is and what people here think it is. For example i don't have instagram. For me, the influence of instagram is exactly 0. My 0 influence will in turn influence the averge influence instagram has on the population of this sub, lowering it. Since this is a debate post and "You must be open to having your view challenged." is a rule that is applied to debate posts, how can we c…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 11:44 AM
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Yes, i want exact stats. How else would a debate work? You can't really debate feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 11:14 AM
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Not at all. I simply can not agree or disagree or debate your stance if i can't clearly understand it. I mean, maybe i'll consider that you are right, but how can i determine this if you keep things vague. There is also r/changemyview and it's a great sub as well. Maybe post this there as well. I'm curious how that community will see your take. It's a more serious sub when it comes to debating.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 11:09 AM
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Can you paste exactly where you state what lvl of i fluence social media has and what lvl of influence people here accept?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 11:02 AM
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If it was clear, maybe you can enlighten me and say exactly what lvl of influence social media actually has and what lvl of influence people here seem to accept.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 10:42 AM
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This is a debate post. How can we debate if you do not state your exact stance. You say "social media is waaaaaaay more of a factor than people, especially here, seem to want to accept." I am asking what lvl people here seem to accept and what lvl you think it actually is.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 10:40 AM
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I asked for complete stance. Like what is the lvl people here accept and what is the lvl you think it is?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 10:05 AM
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No no, in one phrase because you typed a word salad there. What is your complete stance, in one phase, without figures of speech.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 09:56 AM
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What exactly is the debate here and what would change your mind?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 09:47 AM
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Courage is a masculine trait. This is why we have the phrase "to have the balls".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 09:44 AM
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A word count limit would perhaps increase the quality of posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 08:59 AM
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I guess it's good that you made this observation. This way, if a man says he doesn't want his girlfriend or wife to go to clubs with their female friends because they might cheat, you can jump in and provide this example and tell him that this is a trend and that the man can chill put since his gf or wife won't entertain other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 11:32 AM
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I mean... What's your take at this? Should they have not been annoyed? Should they have given those men their time? Accept and talk to those men? All this just because the men weren't fat?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 11:11 AM
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What i say: He gets labeled obsessed the very first time he brings it up when he does it after the first date What u understand: You still defend the idea that a man is "obsessed" if he brings it up once. And then there's this gem from your comment: Are you just going to keep saying "you lack nuance" like it'll be true eventually? Because, quite frankly, you've been lacking it more than you realise. I rest my case.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 02:15 AM
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So medium social skills, yet u are confused by nuance and greyscales. Weird since social skills require being able to see nuance. I don't think it's a matter of "agreeing". I simply helpes u dissipate the confusion and provided nuance. Social skills would tell u that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 01:59 AM
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I see you keep failing to see nuance. Let me help you! There's sex once a day and sex every week, and then there's sex twice a week. He gets labeled obsessed the very first time he brings it up when he does it after the first date. After a month of dating, he's usually not called obsessed. Ofc, each woman has her timeframe after which he no longer seems obsessed, i mean some women wait until they are married. Bringing up sex to such a woman even after 2 years will get the man labed as obsessed, …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 01:50 AM
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Not to mention that many people live in appartments. There is no yard, there is no gutter, there is no roof to be taken care of. Also, if u live in an appartment, you have no space to work on the car. What are you going you do? Take off an engine by the sidewalk? Am i too european to understand this? I mean i'm even in Eastern Europe and and people no longer repair their cars in the street. This used to be a thing some 20-30 years ago because those communist cars could be completly disassambled …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/26 07:35 PM
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I think it's a yellow flag when the man becomes neurotic about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/26 08:01 AM
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No ick at all. Actually i did the same, slwpt with the first bf who hinted at sex. I was 16 and didn't want to lose time. I find virginity embaressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/26 12:32 AM
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I blame the mods for allowing this
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/26 12:29 AM
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Well, then these men need to learn to live without, masturbate or pay an escort if they can't find a willing body. But framing it as such a necessary activity makes then look even more as pathetic losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/26 12:20 AM
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Boy, 23, finds out about cyclical fashion. Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 07:06 PM
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This is why i said something they enjoy and look forward to. Games don't bring joy? Find something else. You bring providing into the discussion. I'm talking about the actual time spent with the signiricant other. They work, they get paid and then what? They travel with their partner? They can do it alone or with friends. They go to the cinema? They can go alone or with friends. "Provide" is not a mythical activity. It's simply being paid for your job. But what happens in the free time?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 07:02 PM
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No, they are socially savvy, can read the room and are welcomed due to charisma, which in turn makes them a pleasent company. Take a joke, any joke, imagine it being said by Robin Williams and the same joke being said by Kristen Stewart. It doesn't hit the same, although it's the same joke. And this applies to compliments and flirting and asking out and vibe and spark. Hope this helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 11:40 AM
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If the same thing is discussed over and over and opinions are made clear, why is another post needed? What were the previous answers for? you understand though a man can have and do all the things you say and still not feel okay without a woman? This is moving the goal post from your OP. Your post clearly stated "just work", no mention of hobbies or other things they enjoy. I understand wanting or wishing to have a relationship. I've seen it in women too. But what i haven't seen in women is fram…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 02:37 AM
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Some men believe it's harmful that many women don't seem concerned about the decline in relationships and family formation. Happy relationship > single > unhappy relationahip The decline comes mostly from unhappy relationships being avoided altogether or just ending. So, although the quantity is smaller, the quality increses. How can better quality be a matter of concern? some men feel that their only role in life is to work This keeps getting discussed here, idk how u can possibly ask this. Fin…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 02:16 AM
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He can wear what he pleases. I wpuld assume he's looking for some male company😉. But i find that style dedply unattractive. How old are you, OP? Something that u said caught my eye: "A similar aesthetic was somewhat fashionable in the early 2000s". It started as unintentional as all pants were low rise, but underware was mid rise. And if undies will show anyway, might as well make them intentional and call it fashion. So, the whale tail is born. Here's a video where a younsger trys on some low r…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 10:08 PM
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In this case, perhaps reddit admins need to step up and check any tos misalignments.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 07:48 PM
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At this point, i blame the mods.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 07:08 PM
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Women, u solve our issues because reasons. Also, jobs must come with a sex slave as benefit.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 06:15 PM
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Funny how "the shy guy" can be quite agressive when behind a screen.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 03:53 PM
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But before you 2 met each other, were you saying that you prefer to be close friends withe the guy before starting a relationship? Because what we discuss here is not how things end up, but the stated preference
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 02:58 PM
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But is OP able to understand that when women say "friend", it's more like a warm approach from an aquaintance she met once or twice in her life, instead of guy friend of 2 years who ahe meets 3 times a week? Foz if he doesn't, then OP just wants to rant and larp
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 02:09 PM
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O think women prefer an aquaintance, but this is loosely named as friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 12:54 PM
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Women don't approach because they don't want to be with passive or shy men. This! To put it in other words: i already have a pussy, i don't need another.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 08:44 PM
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I never hooked up
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 10:24 AM
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Worse in which way?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 01:50 AM
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Ehat is the debate exactly and what would change your view?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 02:03 PM
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I see virgins being meaner
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 08:56 AM
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Shorts are sexy if the legs are thick. Sandals - aaah hell no Speedos - yuck
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 11:49 PM
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Just because i wouldn't date a man with nail polish, taat doesn't mean a different woman wouldn't. Plus, single is always an option. Being true to yourself proves u have a backbone and a strong personality. I admire that. Lmao, what consequences?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 12:45 PM
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You miss the main point: raising someone to be themself has nothing to do with raising someone to be attractive. One is the free expression of themself, the other is restricting one's behaviour to fit a neat box.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 12:39 PM
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The fact that i want people yo be themselves has nothing to do with attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 12:34 PM
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I've seen this waay too often: this whole "if you're progressive, then why apply patriarchal rules". Bro, i want people to be able to be happy. I want gays to marry if they want to. I want men to wear nail polish if they want to. I want men to wear highliter on their face if they want to. Would i date a man who wears highliter or nail polish? No, never.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 11:05 AM
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Even the walk matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 02:45 AM
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Lol, don't try to switch it. You were talking about the "good" guys there.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 02:38 AM
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They're trying to have "I'm not a bad guy, but I see a lot of bad guys get rewarded. These men don't see you as a fuck trophy Bruh...choose one.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 01:34 AM
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Can u explain what does your post have to do with dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 01:40 PM
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A mix of both. Similar enough that we are compatible, but different enough that we complement each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 01:16 PM
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Ow ye, men accusing of lieing no matter what u answer or rage at that answer, do show bas faith. "If you just treated women like human beings they would like you more" - this does show up, but does it really come up when the question what do women like in a man is asked? I've seen it more when a dude is unhappy that he's single then he spita some vile crap.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:24 PM
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On this particular topic (what women like about men) i think the women are mostly genuine as some of those things i noticed them irl as well on a few occasions. One for example is short men. This friend's first gf was a very tall and leggy blonde who had a thing for short guys. I've seen other women simply not caring about height, but this one had a thing for shorties. So a woman here saying she likes em short is not necesarelly virtue signaling, nor does she answer in bad faith. Another example…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:11 PM
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I don't really like the "virtue signal" dismissal. Just because it is rather uncommon, that doesn't mean it's virtue signal. For example i like men with bellies, dome fat, some coushion. When there was a discussion about liking men with a belly and i state my preference, i was accused of virtue signaling. A different dude said i couldn't pull a ripped guy and i was co ping. Are there vague answers? Sure. Are there odd answers? Of course. But to dismiss answers just by throwing "virtue signal" it…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:54 PM
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Well, i was talking about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:48 PM
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You touch a great point. I think part of the reason is how the question is phrased: what do women like about men, what women look for when they want a relationship, what do women want from a partner. All of these questions can men exactly what they mean or they can mean what turned on the spark, what made your man sexually attractive initially, what sparked your interest. Still, on a few occasions, i did answer what sparked my interrest: his humor, plushy skin, nice pecs, his charm, the whole vi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:14 PM
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My argument is that virgin men tend to be lonely and touch starved. From tge study, we know that the 3rd most common reason was lonely and touch starved.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:05 PM
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I'm afraid that if the study included virgins, then the % would rise. But, we may never know.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:38 PM
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Two stats drew my attention: most men reported that finding the woman attractive (“hot”) was the primary reason they targeted her (78.4%), feeling lonely and wanting intimacy or touch (33.7%) The first one reminds me about Marla Hanson's quote "being beautiful is unsafe" after her ex landlord asked 2 men to slash her face with razors after she refused him and moved out. The second one confirms once again that lonely men can be entitled and dangerous to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:04 AM
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What is the debate exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 02:34 PM
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Please explain what part is sexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 07:49 PM
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No, they're sexy when he does them with me. I love being charmed. If i've seen him flirt in the past it wasn't me who was being charmed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:39 PM
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That's when they show their charm, humor, flirting style, confidence. And that's sexy af.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:34 PM
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Hard pass. A man approaching is an important part of attraction for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:56 PM
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Why do people think this is an advice sub when the name literally says debate?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 10:02 AM
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She ended up falling in love with him and having sex with him—which, in the end, was what he wanted. Let this sink in. Girls, your love is worthless.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:16 AM
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Last paragraph says it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:05 PM
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To me, a good partner is cheeky, cocky, funny, charming, charismatic, daring, flirty. You might have a different view. OP might have a totally different view.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:24 PM
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But even secret service consider incels a rising threat: https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2022/mar/16/involuntary-celibates-incels-threat-us-secret-service
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:31 AM
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If that was true, no man ever would be suspicious of gold diggers, be used as a free meal ticket or atm. Yet...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:14 AM
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I wouldn't even equate a person who wants to talk about books with a lonely person. It's just an individual who wants to discuss literature.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 04:07 PM
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First of all, you do seem to compare apples and oranges. If i see a post "i need a friend" , i might read, maybe even comment. If i see a post "let's talk about books", i get past it, don't even click on the post because i'm not into that. It also depends on which sub it was posted, how it's integrated into the sub's peofile, what is the sub's demographic and at which hours there's more activity. "I'm lonely" posted in a soccer sub might draw attention and fans from the same club as the OP might…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:37 PM
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That is an "every other weekend babysitter", not a single dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 02:16 PM
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You miss the point. I don't care what thr group thinks or wants
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 11:57 AM
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Never explored the reason. I just don't respond sexually at anything below bold, cocky, extroverted. The shyer, the worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 11:14 AM
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I don't see shy men in a sexual way. To make an analogy: the effect of shyness over attraction is the same as castration for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 11:06 AM
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I talk only about myself. Plase show me where i said women. I always reffered to myself. And it did work very nicely. It is passed the point of it being a hypothesis.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:46 AM
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I agree with this. There are very few things i find more unattractive than a shy guy. At the end of the day, both the shy guy AND the serial killer are bottom of the barrel. Dofferent flavours of unattractive, but unattractive none the less.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:44 AM
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Hold up! The question is about men. Plural. My man is my man.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:29 AM
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No, you circlejacked. I'll reiterate for the last time: i have the pussy, i make the rules. Men trying to have preferences is a cute attempt. But it's a futile attempt. It ain't gonna happen no matter how much they wish they could make their preferences relevant. And it doesn't affect me one bit because of the way attraction works for me. And because even if a dude is not interested in me, others are. I won't ever be out of options. Hope this helps. If it doesn't, i can't dumb it down any furthe…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 03:27 AM
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Already presented, read previous comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 03:17 AM
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I do have. You just don't like it and drag everything. And it's impolite to show a person their broken logic? And your comment WAS too long. Not my fault you're not able to compress a message.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 03:06 AM
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Politeness to reply doesn't include politeness of the content of the reply. So the tldr is a rant?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 03:00 AM
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Generally didn't care. I was always fine alone and never been boy crazy. I can only be myself. If i find a new idea appealing, i'd give it a try. But that is trying something new, not changing oneself.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 02:59 AM
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It's too long, dude. Ask any normal person. It's polite to reply. You mistake politeness with investment. Is this the tldr?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 02:51 AM
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A dude made the same mistake down the comments. In my books, pussy makes the rules. So a man's standards are a cute attempt for men to make their preferences relevant. They're not.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 02:45 AM
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Ok, this is a long one. Can u tl, dr? I'm not invested in the suject to read all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 02:43 AM
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That would imply men use possibility of dating lenses each time they interract with a woman. Which i don't do. See why dick is cheap? But there is no need to stretch a deffinition in the process of ptoppung an argument. Rejection can only happen if there is a proposal, not in the absance of it. Else, any left swipe is a rejection. And that is a stretch also. They ARE brainless sex seekers, way too many are like that. Hence why their judgement doesn't matter to me. To me, he's lame. You can't hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 02:24 AM
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I don't really care what they want. And in no shape or form i'd change myself to cater to them. I'm too busy making myself happy. If a dude wants to tag along, fine. But i'm the main character in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 02:10 AM
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You mean the dictionary deffinition: https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/rejection How can a man say no to me when i didn't ask him anything? 🧐 By the same token, do i reject any guy i pass on the street because i don't initiate a comversation? This is stupid. Yes, i am the one who needs to think about compatibility. Because men sure ain't gonna do it. They see tits and ass and a pretty face and for far too many men that is enough. So i do the work for them. A man who's offered s…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 02:04 AM
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Ow you transform what i say in bad faith. I said i don't aproach. A side effect to this is i'm never rejected. A man might be too shy to aproach me. And i don't want a shy partner so nothing lost there as well. I also know i'm not everyone's cup of tea just like not everyone is my cup of tea. All good there. But an important part of initial attraction to me is a guy approaching and especially the way he does it. I need to be charmed to even consider a man in a sexual way. So...what exactly are t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:37 AM
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Men are options just like dishes in a restaurant. You just don't like the analogy because it proves you're wrong. Reject who? Me? Lol! Once again you talk out of your ass. I don't aproach. I am also not interested in men who don't aproach. So i don't see how this could possibly lead to a situation where i am rejected. Restaurants don't get to set those rules. Which ones try will soon gen out of business. Nice try. That's cute. It is no consequence. Idk, you make it sound like i could possibly ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:13 AM
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I asked repeatedly because u didn't answer. Finally, u did when i called you out. I have been consistent: he judges, he cares, we're not compatible. The end. There is no trade off. I'll ask again: do you care if the restaurant has no fish when you don't eat fish? Does that impact your ability to order in any way? And you seem to repeat "criticism" like i'd take any in this matter or circumstance.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:54 AM
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I had to ask repeteadly because I dodged (the answer) repeteadly?!? 🧐 Make it make sense. I don't think it shrank my pool. The men who care were never in the pool to begin with. Kind reminder that you're a player if you're at the table, not if you stay behind the players and watch the poker game unfold.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:17 AM
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My tone demands an answer since i have to ask repeatedly. I've always been disinterested in guys who care about my past relationships. So i don't feel like i lost anything by having those guys disintrested in me. To make an analogy: would you care if the restaurant is out of fish when you don't like or intend to order fish? No. You simply don't care. And how does this self accountability look like?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 11:53 PM
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Answer the question: accountability for what?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 11:18 PM
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Ow now i see different people. It was a different one the guy with the accountability fetish
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:09 PM
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Then why mention accountability in the first place? Man, red pillers love that word
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:06 PM
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Nothing i can be ashamed of.So again...accountable for what exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:36 PM
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Then men are stupid and without a backbone if they avoid prostitutes because "oh, what if a women i will possibly meet in the future think about it", not the logical gender they claim to be. Some might judge a bc of 3 and thoseen are not compatible with me. Still, you haven't answer a question: i should be acountable for what?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 02:36 PM
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Accountability for what? I know what i want and more precisely what i don't want. A negative reaction from a man to a bc of 3 automatically makes the man not compatible. Like i was going to sit around for 35+ years hoping that one day a knight in shiny armor will magically appear. Be serios!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 01:17 PM
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Different woman, but same mindset. I don't want him if he's judgemental. We're not compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 09:52 AM
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Gilmore Girls
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 01:34 AM
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I don't do victim olympics
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 11:19 AM
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I started to think that eveyone should do a disclaimer about their mental issues or put it aa a flair.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 11:03 AM
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But isn't lack of social skills a case of bad personality? What is "bad"? Is unpleasent a case of "bad"? To me, it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 12:44 AM
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OP discovered women are attracted to personality, but he still seems in denial.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 09:11 AM
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Because people can judge only what they see. And if the man shit posts, then people assume the man is shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 09:33 PM
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Because it's tiresom to hold stranger's hand because they are not normally developed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 03:35 PM
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Because normally developed people quietly understand this and can't fathom that others don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 03:33 PM
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Rp can only make one obnoxious
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 08:56 PM
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Pills are dumb imo. And not exactly blackpilles since o believe socical skills can be improved. Black pill thinks you're born like this and it's nothing you can do about it. It is advice. It's not actionable advice, but advice nonetheless. And you mostly get actionable advice from people who know you irl and specialists (like tgerapists or self help books and seminars), not from randos on reddit. Plus, this is a debate sub, not an advice sub. Advice is prohibited here.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 04:54 PM
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They are born like that or develop like that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 04:05 PM
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Funny, charming charismatic, know how to flirt, exteoverted
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 07:05 AM
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36 & 36 married. We don't track, it's not his or my money, it's our money.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 03:09 PM
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Bathroom for disabled is perhaps the most neutral. Take her to the men's bathroom with your hand over her eyes. Take her to woman's bathroom and say loud, but respectuful, that your daughter needs the bathroom. Just ron't barge without making yourself unannounced.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 11:42 AM
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Algoriyhmd give you what you constantly seek.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 01:16 AM
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I don't even think about them. But i have no issue with promiscuous women. I prefer my man with lkts of experience and who's he going to get that with? Basically, promiscuous women built my dating pool. So, thanks, i guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 10:00 AM
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Had this friend who was fat. She was desperate for love. She couldn't even get dick, not even when she aproached, let alone love. I've seen how unattractive women are treated. How men would yell "whale" on the street. Just randomly, strangers she passed on the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 08:07 PM
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That's not how percentages work.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:04 PM
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Divorce rates are declining
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 07:13 AM
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No. At least not good/close friends. At some point, one side catches feelings. But i do believe spouses can be great friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 12:46 AM
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There's a paradox: unhappy marriages usually end up in divorce. So the ones remaining are mostly the happy ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 12:39 AM
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And a man is not a husband until she makes him a husband. You need two "i do"s for a marriage to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 10:59 PM
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Commitment is a 2 way street.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 07:13 PM
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English is not my first language. I understand en when phrases are more simple. It's a debate sub, asking for clarifications is normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 07:13 PM
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There might be a language barrier brtween us, this is why i asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 06:15 PM
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Casually, NSA? Could be. Those women might have a few guys they fuck. Those men might have a few women they fuck. Tye casual world is rather small. No harm, all are single so no cheating. And i think it's preferable from my point of view. Have a few guys for sex, but not commit if they aren't worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 06:14 PM
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Indeed, i think there were a lot more relationships back then, but a whole lot less relationship happiness. We have less people partnered today, but happier overall. You can divorce your cheating spouse and you can leave your abusive significant other. Back then, you'd be stuck with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 04:29 PM
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You'll have to better explain this process.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 04:25 PM
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Not really. More women then ever are single. And by 2030 it's estimated that 45% of women will be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 04:22 PM
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I agree. Now more and more women actually need to like the man in order to enter a relationship. Another important factor is ignoring pressure and comments from others.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 02:39 PM
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By any chance you're butt ugly, very short or have any disability?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 08:45 AM
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Abusive men who attract women have atractive personalities. They can be funny, charming, know how to flirt, have great social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 02:12 AM
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No strue scotsman, eh? Your (general you) rights stop where my (general me) begin.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 09:40 PM
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Ofc they oppose rp men who advocate for less rights for women. Ofc most unpartnered nd are men. Idk why u expect otherwise. The "not care if you offend" stretches into asshole behaviour. Dating and relationships are still social activities.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 12:36 PM
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Just wanted to point out the connection OP makes between red pill and inceldom. Also the blue pill = feminism, which leaves red pill = misoginy i guess? Because that would be the opposite of feminism. Idk, maybe OP will clear this. OP was already told that feminism isn't about dating, yet here we are. Checks out my hunch that neurodivergence is common among incels. There is no magical cure all treatment. At least not until somebody discovers autism medication. Because that is the main issue. Tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 01:54 AM
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It's not the language, chief. Sadly, it's not the language.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 08:41 PM
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I agree and it's consistent with my observations. But i think it's not only about bullying, but more about the reaction to bullying and what type of person they become after being exposed to bullying. This idea is also present in The Crown series. Duke of Edinborough was enrolled to a tough school when his dear sister died. He channelled all the rage and everything to build himself into a strong man. As adult, he considered Charles too soft. So he wanted to toughen hia eldest son by sending him …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 01:20 PM
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B definetely
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 08:51 PM
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My answer would be "k".
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 09:36 AM
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But we are discussing things that are unnatural, not the frequency. Please stay on topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 12:00 AM
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Yes, unnatural. Just like finestride and minoxidil for bald heads. Or like turkish hair implants. Exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 09:17 PM
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A somewhat level of protection is better than no protection. There is room for improvement always.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 11:42 PM
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Who someone is is not just how someone acts. Again, you're not refuting anything
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 01:00 PM
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So for women it's not character, it's something else that they are loved for. Idk why you think you refuted my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 12:49 PM
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Legalise prostitution. My argument is economic. Prositution existed since forever, i don't think it will ever go away (or at least not in my lifetime) so might as well tax it, make laws, protect workers, protect clients. I have the same view about weed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 12:48 PM
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Isn't a man's dominance who he is? Who else's dominance is that? His dog's?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 12:32 PM
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She talks about authoritativ. Where do you think that is coming from?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 10:42 AM
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The comment i linked worded it better.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 10:15 AM
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Lmao, yeah, perhaps OP applied this logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 09:48 AM
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Lmao, this comment is just gold. First of all, thinking you can and actually being able to do something are two very diffrent things. Baking is a non gendered skill.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 08:49 AM
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No, no. It's the same irl in some cases. Hear me out. I've been fascinated by dating dynamics for years. What made some guys be seen as just friends, but never a romantic prospect? Looks were there, so it wasn't that. And then it hit me. A particular aspect of the behaviour was the answer. That particular aspect of the behaviour is internal strenght, acting like a man, being less weak. Internal weakness, not physical weakness. Strenght of the character. And then a mod posted the same thing, idk …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 07:55 AM
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1 - when i said that i don''t think you ever baked a cake, you said obviously 2 - now you say you can bake which you only know if you can if you did bake in the past. But then why say you obviously never baked at point one 3 - what does baking have to do with estrogen levels? The logucal gender, ladies and gentlemen
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 07:43 AM
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Did i claim you claimed that? Or did i say i would use your comment as counter rethoric when other men claim that men are the logical gender? Please follow the thread and read slowly.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 07:22 AM
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Then they can't claim to be the logical gender. Like pick a lane.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 07:17 AM
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Well then i'll save your comment for reference to show each man who claims men are the logical gender. Thanks for the ammo!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 07:07 AM
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Another "men bring so much, but ow women barely bring anything". Yet, men chase women so why do they do that if women bring little to nothing? Hmmmm?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 06:55 AM
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And dudes can't bake? Or you can't bake?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 06:44 AM
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What makes you think i never even dated? You"ve never seen teenagers date?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 06:42 AM
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My preferences are clearly different since at age 36 i would date a guy in his 20s. So you have no idea, you just yell at the clouds. Got it!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 12:35 AM
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I have money. I have a good job, a house and an appartment in my name and i will inherit another house, another apartment and 2 condos. I don't need a man's money. I have 19,5 bmi, fit in clothes from when i was 16 and look under 30. I can secaure a man who's 36-40 easily. I don't have kids and don't want kids. And even if i had any, read again about my financial situation. Kids would be fine. I wouldn't have married my husband if he wasn't stable. So there is no "developed preference" for stabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 12:08 AM
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I don't think OP ever baked a cake in his life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 11:59 PM
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Thanks! So back to your OP, what makes you think that if i end up single, i would pick a guy i am not attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 11:57 PM
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It might taste better since the frosting and all got to hydrate the baked part of the cake. You know how cake in general is the best after a few days.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 11:35 PM
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I'm 36 in an 18 year old relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 11:33 PM
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OP: women shouldn't filter men based on humor Also OP: women should have relationships with men they find pleasent So...a funny guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:07 PM
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One fuels the insecurity, thr other fuels the ego.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 04:31 PM
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I blame the mods because they enable this fetish posting
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 03:19 PM
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Men who are afraid they would be betabuxx should be relieved as it looks like women will rather be single than have a relationship woth men they don't want.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 03:16 PM
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Do not feed the lesbian fetish troll
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 03:02 PM
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At this point, i'm blaming mods for enabling his fetish on a debate sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 11:40 AM
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It helps him sleep at night if he convinces himself that straight woman aren't actually straight because then there's a reason he can stomach for his lack of woman's attention. His ego escaoes unharmed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 11:38 AM
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I think it is a difference on how each person defines nice. My definition of nice is "i enjoy his company", defibetely not "opening a door".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 12:47 PM
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The first thing that pops into my mind when i hear "favorable view" is platonic, day to day interactions, not dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 11:50 PM
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Yes, a suit. I prefer my man in a pair a grry sweatpants. And i also fail to understand why it has to be like the other things mentioned.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:58 AM
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To each their own, indeed. I'm happy for you and your boyfriend!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:56 AM
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Fidgeting, studdering, anxiety mess, drags his feet when walking, very bad posture, mouthbreathing, bald, chest hair, nerd overall estethic, wears a suit, nose hump, very skinny, neandeethal forehead
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 07:38 AM
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Easy: "only correct choice is choosing me 😃"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 04:39 PM
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There is skinny, normal and fat. 40+% are fat. Skinny men are about 10%. The rest are normal weight and fit. Again, for the last time, I'm not discussing desirable here. I am discussing leagues: who gets who.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 03:49 PM
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This is what we are debating: I see lots of skinny dudes dating absolute hogs, are you missing those couples? Not what they want, but what they can get. The leagues. A skinny man is in the same league as a fat woman. Both undesirable by the majority of people. A skinny woman is in the same league as a muscular man. Both highly desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 03:37 PM
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The obesity rates are 40+%. It is impossible for 75% of men to be skinny. Because when you add 40% obese + 75% skinny + x% normal weight you exceed 100% by a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 03:27 PM
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Why not? Both are equally (un)desirable if the woman is fat and the man is skinny.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 03:19 PM
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Those millions of men are a minority compared to billions of men. Minorities are not included in trends.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 02:58 PM
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It was a retorical question
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 02:57 PM
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Let's go with your take. Still, women who prefer skinny guys are a minority, just like men who prefer fat women are a minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 02:56 PM
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And how's the dating life in your generation since they don't warm aproach irl?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 01:42 PM
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Dad bod > noodle arms A skinny woman is prefered by the majority of men. A fat woman is prefered by a minoritity of men. A skinny man is prefered by the minority of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 01:41 PM
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I'm saying that when talking about trends we should look at the majority, not the minority
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 01:39 PM
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This is the warm approach and it's the best way imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 12:46 PM
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Pursue your hobbies but don't refuse social gatherings. Someone from your hobby invites you to a barbecue, just go have fun. Maybe the hosts cousin will attend with his sister and her best friend. And lo and behold you and your friend's cousin's sister's friend hit it ofr, conversation flows, the vibe is good, you have fun and you get yourself a date. And even if no date comes out of that barbecue, at least you went out, had a social moment, got out of a screen and 4 walls.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 12:33 PM
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Nobody can stop someone to cold approach. The only thing that is sanctioned is harrasment.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 12:30 PM
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There are levels of annoyance. Giving me his number and walking away is less annoying then demanding my phone number. I can just throw away the paper in the nearest trash can. Still annoying as i hate cold apprpaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 12:06 PM
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Focusing on the minority sure is a hill to die on.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 11:32 AM
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Sure, there are some people who have this type, but that's a monority. You missed this part of my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 09:05 AM
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Sure, this is why noodle arms is a compliment 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:23 AM
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Imo, the equivalent of a skinny dude IS a fat woman. I think both are equally undesirable by the large population. Sure, there are some people who have this type, but that's a monority.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:12 AM
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I think most incels are born like that. I saw an article a while ago and 80% of incels have autism. And autism is something you're born with.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 12:35 AM
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How old were you when you had your first kiss? 14 First relationships? Casual sex? First relationship at 15, never had casual sex, lost virginity at 16 How many relationships/partners have you had? About 10-15 bfs, but 3 sexual partners. What's the longest you've gone single/sexless? 2 years Do you find sex and dating to be unimportant? Were​ your best experiences in life strictly outside of these things? My marriage is very important to me. Like extremely important. Outside of my marriage, the …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 03:29 PM
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Look, at this point i am actually curious and it really does look like you dodge a direct answer, so i'll as as well: Women ... are never ever going to change in any way that would make it easier for any type of men to date or have sex with them. Should we??
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 03:34 PM
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Perhaps i phrased it in a weird way, en is not my first language. If you split all aspects of life, dating/relationships is one of them. And being able to pull is relevant just foe this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 03:29 PM
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I think there needs to be a distinction: In the dating aspect of life, being able to pull determines your worth. In the general aspect of life (career for example), being able to pull has nothing to do with your worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 02:00 PM
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Lmao, that is just delusion
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 07:51 AM
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I am ISFJ. Husband is ESFJ.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 07:46 AM
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Don't get me started with the looksmatch. How convenient for them. Doesn't matter that he has autism, anxiety, is a mess in social situatioms, while she might be just normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 07:09 AM
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I think they want to twist ourselves and actually do feel real attraction towards them. They want to feel wanted, irresistable, sexy. I get it, but attration is not controllable.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 02:05 AM
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You have some great points. It's like makeup is something that a woman does to herself and negging is something a man does to a woman. One is not like the other. But porn brained men think makeup is something a woman does to a man. Nuts!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 11:27 PM
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It's one more guy, not just one guy
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 10:32 PM
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Jusy because a sport isn't popular in one location doesn't mean that the same plaxe lacks talented people. And as a joke, i'd mention a certain movie about a jamaic bob team.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 09:09 PM
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I'm sure this is the case. OP looked only at the aspects he saw as positive neglencting the negatives. It's an emotional response. Hence, we can use the post and your explanation as counterargument when men claim that men are the logical gender or that women are the emotional gender. Thanks for the ammo.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 08:20 PM
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It was one of the many posts when using tge search function. You can check for more yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 02:34 PM
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https://www.np.reddit.com/r/AsOneAfterInfidelity/s/wzlq3tluLl
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 12:32 PM
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And wtf do birds' behaviour have to do with dating?!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 11:28 PM
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So many such examples on r/AsOneAfterInfidelity Pick the awkward nerd they said. He won't cheat they said. And then the guy throws his family down the drain for the first woman that shows a sign of interrest.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 03:54 PM
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Could you expand on that?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 01:56 PM
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Agree, but either we will see a large scale selling, or a large scale songleness. You can't have 2 majorities
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 01:56 PM
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Look, this is a coward retreat.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 12:41 PM
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Do you understand that known globally > known locally or in a certain niche when it comes to grading how famous a person is?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 11:40 AM
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Joke's on you, i know players from those clubs. The point is there's a huge difference between being known by mainstream people and being known locally and by people interrested in a niche.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 11:05 AM
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World known > locally known Hope this helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 10:39 AM
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I just want to add another stpid thing i noticed. So, an article that 50% (or something like that) of women will be single and childless by year 2035 (or something). And then they fear women settling for them. One of those has to be false. Either women are single or they settle. But i see both arguments and it's stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 10:38 AM
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Here in europe, most of us know who Megan is. But basketball is a dead game people don't give 2 shits about.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 07:17 AM
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I never heard of this guy in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 07:11 AM
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For that price? No
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 06:11 PM
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Uf, i can't take my hands off him. He has this very sexy, plushy, expensive-feeling skin i can't get enough of. And i keep touching him during the day. His neck, his back, his hips, his chest. Amazing!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 12:04 AM
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Ow dear! No, not all men cheat. Not even when another woman throws herself at him. Geez.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 11:59 PM
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Or the prostitute was very disgusted that she couldn't bring herself to even try to fake it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 09:15 PM
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I am looking for specific examples, not general things. "Specific" is doing a lot of pull here, but i don't see anything specific in your comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 05:12 PM
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Serious question: what value should the woman bring for each value she wants in a partner? I am looking for specific examples, not general things. Example: a woman wants a funny guy. For this, she needs to be brunette.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 04:01 PM
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Even the account: only posted that story, 0 comments. In 10 years! Fake af, but guys dig it because it reinforces their fears and insecurities.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 06:49 AM
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Good girl
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 12:45 PM
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Include copler peptides as well
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 12:05 PM
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Is this about insecurity? Retroactive jealosy? Paranoia? Lack of experience in life? Where do you think this whole thing stems from?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 08:31 PM
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So they are doomed. So?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 08:11 PM
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So if he's her type = not settled If he's not her type = settled Hope i got this correctly. And how will the men know if they are her type or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 08:09 PM
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Serious question: Where do you draw the line between "she settled" vs. "she didn't settle"?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 07:58 PM
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I'll bring the popcorn
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 07:53 PM
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No, thanks, i don't want that. What now?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 07:45 PM
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Meet with each other. Alcohics have meetigs, ugly people can organize themselves also.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 07:30 PM
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Lmao, true. And it's a damn small chance for settling to even happen to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 07:18 PM
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Easy counterpoint: wasn't thre an article that a huge % of women will be childless and single in x amout of years? Well, seems like gen z men shouldn't worry too much because those women still won't want them and won't settle for them. The men who fear they will be settled for can sleep peacefully at night.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 07:11 PM
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Skinny flow waist - no chance. All i could find are flares. Not my type either. So leggings it is
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:44 PM
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Eeeeh, i'm trying my best to avoid US brands after the "did you day thank you" incident.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:39 PM
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I'm in europe
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:35 PM
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At least i could easily find thdm. Wish brands had all jeans types in stock all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:27 PM
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Hope it becomes mainstream
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 11:58 AM
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Leggings and a hoodie. Hard for anybody to get me out of leggings and hoodies. I hate the high waist trend, not only i find them very uncomforatable and ugly, but they look so bad on me. The baggy trend also looks bad. So i keep my fingers crossed for low waist skinny jeans to make a comeback. Until then: leggings it is because i can fold them at the waist to make them low waist.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 10:57 AM
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I keep saying this: the average man (i.e. average on all aspects) is fine. He might hit a dry spell here and there, but overall, he can find a few women who want to date him. Not finding any woman ever or having to resort to basically paying a woman to tolerate his presence means he lacks some qualities that are attraction related. Usually, these are looks (a face only a mother can love, not just a big nose or crooked teeth), physical health (disabled included), mental health (neurodivergent inc…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 10:56 AM
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Agree. I had a conversation about this with my husband and we both want to be wanted, not needed. He's happy he's wanted and i'm happy i'm wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 05:39 PM
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No, the drift happens with the mood and vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 08:43 PM
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Then please take the RP advice and choose better.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 07:16 PM
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Hold up 🫪
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 07:13 PM
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A handsome man is like a beautiful painting. You admire it, but you don't think about humping the canvas.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 04:48 PM
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Agree. Plus, there is a difference between "what do you want from a man" and "what lights up the spark for you on a date" and "what makes you pursue a man". Because the answers vary from chores to good easy going conversation and charming to beautiful eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 01:20 PM
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Not having either still makes the guy stupid and willfully ignorant I think it runs deeper. The fact that he doesn't acknowledge not only it makes him stupid, but also a bad long time partner. He's a liability for the relationship in many aspects of life: scammers, job, acquaintances that can profit from his stupidity. And even if he learns about attractiveness being needed. It's not something he figured out on his own. It was spoonfed to him. He might be a hard working stupid, but stupid none t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 12:27 PM
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Be funny is one of them
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 12:24 AM
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They don't beg for losers, mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 06:59 PM
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When i thought this sub couldn't get weirder...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 10:19 AM
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Ow he knows. All my previous attempts at sex went wrong before i met my husband. He knows the entire 30 second story lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 12:04 AM
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But most MGTOW are losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 02:02 PM
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Hmm, i think they want women to panic when they hear that these men decide not to date. Usually it's just an eyeroll
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 12:27 AM
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It wouldn't hurt to be more diplomatic. I do not encourage telling lies
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 08:17 PM
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The message is true, but boy did you spelt it out in a harsh way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 05:31 PM
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A truly average man as in average in all stats? I think he's too boring and not enough charming for my taste.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 08:33 AM
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Sure! My libido is rather reactive so no problem for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 12:27 AM
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Answer his question until you say what he wants you to say lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 07:50 PM
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I've seen you around throwing comments meant to seed doubt on relationships. Sing to a different table.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 10:26 PM
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Lmao, no. That's just my FIL going to clubs in the counteyside.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 03:39 PM
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I object to number 2. It depends if he starts them or if he finishes them. My husband used to get in a lot of fights. Ending them, ofc. Or delivering some sweet justice.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 03:33 PM
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One thing was sure, something was off. I only met the dude once.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 03:21 PM
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I find many kinks degenerate. And i am not that open minded. Perhaps i am open minded enough to not want people who have various kinks to be prosecuted or jailed or whatever. But close minded enough to find those things disgusting and avoid people who disgust me. That's why i consider myself rather centrist or moderate. I wish them no harm, but i don't wish them around me. Hentai has this pedophilic, lolita, incestuous flavor which i deeply dislike. I dislike it in porn as well, no double standa…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 03:21 PM
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Ow, i think i get it, it's the preposition. En is not my first language, sorry for the mix up. Not all women who dated bad guys are bad thrmselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 03:02 PM
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That was your assumption. It was actually prostitution. Sure, she was ok before finding out he's a pimp. You know, because she didn't know the whole story.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 02:57 PM
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I never said anything about drugs. Yet you keep mentioning them. Please don't add assumptions to the story.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 02:48 PM
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To me it is a red flag. Albeit, we do throw red flags left and right and red flag is not always the best choice of words. And you know tom&jerry is very different from hentai. You do you, boo. You choose what to do with your time, i can judge what you do, you can choose to ignore my judgement.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 02:43 PM
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Lmao, she's not good because what? She cut contact with him when she figured out what he does? Be serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 02:40 PM
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I find it degenerate. You're free to watch it. I'm free to find it disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 02:28 PM
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Ow, that's a huge leap. Maybe rethink how you misinterpreted my words. Neither is cheating, not porn, not erotica, not hentai.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 02:26 PM
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Porn is also fictional. You don't really think the dude is actually a plumber or that she actually has an orgasm. Be serious now. I am not a big fan of books either.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 02:15 PM
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No, he's a pimp
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 02:13 PM
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Ohoo, you really took this personally. Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 02:00 PM
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Most disturbing: hentai Medium: porn Least: erotica
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 01:58 PM
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Idk wtf it is in it. You have all kinds of videos on porn websites as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 01:50 PM
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Porn transcript
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 01:49 PM
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That better describes OP, he's the one who opened the subject. I'm not the one to suddenly ask such questions in a public internet space.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 01:38 PM
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I don't even know what that is. I don't watch porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 01:36 PM
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I don't see moderate consumption of regular porn as cheating. I don't even want to know about it. Hentai, ai are more like physhological problems to me. Like the dude is really disturbed. Just wank at porn like a normal human.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 01:27 PM
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Hmm, idk. Worst was the secondecond, then the first, then the third. Then i met my husband, instant orgasm, together ever since.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 12:34 PM
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I am saying someone who likes a terrible person and it is obvious that they are terrible, is a terrible person too. Attraction is not a moral compass. Had a friend who would go out sometimes with this sketchy guy. It was obvious he was on to something, just not sure what. They've been dating on again, off again, mostly when he would get back to the home city. She kind of figured out it was prostitutes. She was a modest woman, christian, kind. Does that stop him from being a bad person or is this…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 12:32 PM
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Idk why they think virgins don't have standards. I mean, even as a virgin i could tell i didn't orgasm so i broke up with the guy. Life is too short for orgasmless sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 12:18 PM
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Finding someone who is moral and virtuous, might be part of someone finding a good match in compatibility. Someone, but not everyone. Also, I’m not really liking this moral relativism. Because that’s like insisting that Jeffrey Epstein had good qualities about him. That's the black and white thinking i talked about. Perhaps JE had a good eye for paintings (hypothetical). He had this quality and he still was a pos who got too easy out of this world considering the evil he did for so many years. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 12:10 PM
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My take is that people aren't absolutely good and absolutely bad, but rather a mix of qualities and defects. Each one of us is the bad guy in someone else's story. I find the focus on "good" when it comes to relationships quite weird. It's often interpreted as "moral" or "virtuous" . To me, it's more like "a good match" or "compatible" or "makes a good partner".
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 11:53 AM
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No, just read the article
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 08:16 AM
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The link doesn't say what you think it says: Now a study suggests that as marriages evolve, the flames of passion die down far more dramatically for women than men — possibly because wives are more romantic than their partners to start with but also, perhaps, because they are more likely to be lumbered with housework.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 04:06 AM
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Married and he's the bad boy type
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 03:49 PM
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Wait till he hears about couple tattoos, tattoos with their husband's name or tattoos with their child's date of birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 08:41 AM
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Just saw in a science sub (i think) a post about a study which concluded that less married men had cancer. Now, cancer usually develops later in life and doesn't care about gender or money. You could marry young as a healthy individual and still get cancer. The comments shed some light: the wives send their husbands to the doctor to have checkups, homemade nutritious meals contribute to better health, lower financial stress since there's 2 incomes, wives put pressure on husbands to quit or curb …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 05:37 PM
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Depends how important that quality is to me. The best version of yourself begins where you start feeling good about yourself, the path you're on, even though work still needs to be done.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 05:09 PM
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That's the thing: rp is not the only option. Plus, even if you improve yourself, you are still you. A better version of yourself, but still yourself. So being yourself doesn't negate improving yourself. It's not an argument for "being yourself is a shitty advice".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 03:08 PM
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https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/UzibmBSGNr
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 02:42 PM
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Authenticity is the way to go and faking is not fair for either partner. Not for the one who fakes because you can't really be happy masking for long periods of time. Not for the partner who will be disappointed when the mask eventually falls.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 01:10 PM
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Yes, they are two pieces. I never claimed the only viable advice is just one piece of advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 01:07 PM
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We do a circle because it looks like you treat it as a "one or the other" situation, instead of "one and the other". Be yourself is great advice AND Be the best version of yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 01:04 PM
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Be yourself is not a shitty advice imo
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 01:02 PM
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https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/dUgtEQFnGH
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 12:58 PM
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That doesn't mean don't ask, don't observe, don't think about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 12:57 PM
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I think my comment doesn't quite reach you. I'm talking about being yourself, improving yourself and being aware of fallacies.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 10:20 AM
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How they figure it out is their problem. By asking, by introspection, by observing. The problem is the subjectivism. For example, they try to observe, but personal biases, emotions, subjectivism, superficiality, lack of details might get a person to the wrong conclusion. Geberal advice might apply, friends might have no clue or try to spare their feelings. That doesn't mean don't ask, don't observe, don't think about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 09:54 AM
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And that's on them to figure out what aspects need some work on. But being yourself is great advice. And improving yourself is also great advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 09:37 AM
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So then you are "yourself". A better version of yourself, but still authentic. So, how is being yourself a shitty advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 09:32 AM
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How would you comment this part? Authenticity is the way to go and faking is not fair for either partner. Not for the one who fakes because you can't really be happy masking for long periods of time. Not for the partner who will be disappointed when the mask eventually falls.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 09:20 AM
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It's not shitty at all. Authenticity is the way to go and faking is not fair for either partner. Not for the one who fakes because you can't really be happy masking for long periods of time. Not for the partner who will be disappointed when the mask eventually falls. The reason why this is perceived as shitty advice is because "yourself" is not attractive and if they behave authentically, few to no women would be into that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 09:03 AM
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You know because i tell you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 07:37 AM
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Now what i said. This is what you assume.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 10:08 PM
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Thank god i touch grass and i know most men aren't like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 09:38 PM
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The grown ass man can have the same behaviour and the woman can be the gold digger type. You think trumpy didn't look at melania thirsty af? But you don't consider melania groomed. This is why you judge by looking at the woman in which of the 3 main cases the relationship is
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 09:37 PM
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I am right
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 07:45 PM
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For the last time: i am not judging the man
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 07:33 PM
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At this point you're arguing in bad faith. I already said multiple times i judge by the woman's personality. If you want to circlejack or victimize, i am not the person to do this with
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 07:22 PM
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Ofc some personality traits make a person easier to be taken advantage of. Naive is one of these traits. Less experienced is another. Doormat, submissive, gullible. That's how scammers succeed as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 06:47 PM
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Or, hear me out, i am capable to vet properly and no need to resort to creepy psycho tactics.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 06:36 PM
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About people who specifically seek exs to ask questions about the partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 06:34 PM
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I think this includes early bird vs night owl. I'm a night owl, i can't even go on vacation with a group of early birds, let alone live with an early bird in the house.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 06:31 PM
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And if men are so helpless, should we let them roam the streets unsupervised?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 06:27 PM
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That is creepy and psycho
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 06:24 PM
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No, i am judging the relationship a woman enters based on the woman's personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 06:23 PM
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*based on the personality of the woman
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 06:16 PM
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Then what do you say? Really now? We're taking guesses because you don't pinpoint the solution. Here's my dumb guess: you want women to genuinely find more men attractive and not be so selective?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 05:05 PM
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https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/wQtHPYf94e
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 05:01 PM
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r/oddlyspecific i might add
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 09:26 AM
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Those are the women who are usually easily manipulated. I don't make the rules
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 08:00 AM
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Not might, but if. Is she the kind of doormat, naive, yes woman, submissive, anxious? Smells like grooming to me. Is she kind of wild, slaps back with words, loves money a bit too much and a bit tacky to be old money. She's a prostitute with just one client. Is she on her feet, on her own, won't tolerate disrespect, worked hard and ambitious to build a career? Looks like a case in which 2 people fall for each other and it just happens there's a bigger age difference. Usually around 5-7 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 11:49 PM
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No, i am judging possible grooming by maturity levels. The less mature the middle aged man is, the more he should be ashamed of himself. Going through life and not getting any wiser is not worthy of anything else but shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 11:33 PM
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My point is legal doesn't mean wise. A young adult is often immature to a degree, but more immature than a person approaching mid age. An immature person dating a somewhat equally immature person is a balanced relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 11:07 PM
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Well, if you read the entire article and then read the title, you'll see what i mean by click baity.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 10:49 PM
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Legally, an adult. Experience wise, barely out of teenage years. Legal, but not wise. Anyone can date who they want. But expecting everyone to clap excitedly is naive at best. Some will agree, some won't care and some will frown.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 10:48 PM
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The link of the actual post is hardly ever posted. So we can't check the OOP, account history, veridity of the OOP.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 09:04 PM
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In this case the title is click baity. Sad day for journalism when this thing was invented
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 08:59 PM
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I think it's the perception of "common" as "majority". A grown ass adult who gathered more life experience and is in a further stage of life vs a fresh adult who was a minor or in school just some months ago. I said he behaves the same in a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 08:57 PM
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Second out of 3 is hardly "one of the most common". Why not talk negative? There's a grown ass man with white hair strands eyeing a young woman fresh out of college. And if she's part of the second category (melania trump style), i'm gonna frown on her as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 07:49 PM
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why would you still assume a man dating a young woman is behaving worse than a man dating a similar aged woman? I don't assume this. Grooming would not work with an older woman, actually it doesn't work with younger women who are aware of the world they live in and have life experience and good judgement. The man would behave the same regardless, as long as the woman tolerates it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 06:19 PM
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I didn't deflect, I showed the error in your logic Age gap relationships refer to relationships where there is a significant age difference between partners, but there is also a difference in stages of life. This is usually relevant when the younger partner is below the age of 27. Your example of 30 and 37 is not that big of a deal. But 20 and 27 is. I said sentence, not paragraph, your reading comprehension is horrible In my defense, en is not my first language. Still, can you point to what i i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 12:55 PM
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Don't deflect to 37 and 30. We are talking 18 and 42. Teacher not ok. Boss ok in your opinion? Totally ignored 2nd part of sentence lol There is nothing else in that paragraph. Could you point to what part i ignored? Because their behavior is the same as other relationships, why would you assume differently? Not necessarily the same behaviour. Maybe in the 3rd case i listed, yes, you have the same behaviour. But normal relationships don't include abuse, grooming or paying for your partner to sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 12:28 PM
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39 and 15 in Macron's case. Would 42 and 18 suddenly make things better? Would she behave differently? Totally disagree with this being the most common or one of them I never said which one is the most common. I said which one is least common. You completely left out the most obvious and common one..... men think young women are hot so the shallow ones that are able to will commonly date younger women, not that complicated and has nothing to do with grooming/manipulation/taking advantage That is…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 12:14 PM
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It is an age gap relationship none the less. And it also is a blueprint for many agegap relationships. I think there are 3 main types of age gap relationships: The younger person is naive, impressionable, doesn't know better, is taken advantage of, groomed The younger person takes advantage of the older person. They sell their time, it's like prostitution with just one client The rarest of them all, there are actually good relationships, no grooming, no taking advantage, just 2 people who truly …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 11:55 AM
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So you're talking about nuances, subsets of people, circumstances. Yet, i don't see them in your OP. However, now i take it you are able to differentiate between the shades of grey. Still, you keep this "older women suddenly care". Those who care also cared when young. I'm 36, I find age gap relationships yucky. I had the same view at 22 and at 28 and at 32. Now i find the opportunity to voice it (it's not the first time) since you opened the subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 11:51 AM
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Your reasoning breaks in multiple points. A man frowning at age gap relationships might have a daughter or a niece or a very young sister. An older woman frowning at age gap relationships might hold this view since she was young herself. And no matter what you tell me, Macron's wife is creepy, abusive and a groomer.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 11:28 AM
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"it directly contradicts awalt, so it must be an exception"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 01:40 AM
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"it doesn't fit my bias so it must be false"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 01:34 AM
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Same, i'm skinny, barely pass as normal weight according to bmi. But i like me a man with a belly. I love those giggly hips and chubby cheeks and thighs the size of my waist.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 12:15 AM
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The point is person A might have a bit of a financial knowledge from grandpa that would prove very valuable.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 05:41 PM
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It would have been if it started with "gents". I actually got around the paywall and the article discusses personal hygiene in the context of her very very good sense of smell. It touches a little bit on women's hygiene as well, as well as hygiene in the context of dating. I find it interesting that she seems to sense foul oudors especially from skinny men when she expected bigger men to smell worse. And i agree with her on one thing: personal hygiene is important and (often forgot about) cologn…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 12:57 PM
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You should get pass the clickbait totle and perhaps the paywall. And not frame an article that starts with "ladies" as advice directed to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 12:42 PM
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The article is behind a paywall. From what i could read, the article touches grooming and smell which i totally agree as cologne plays a big role for me. Also, note how the article starts with "ladies" so it's not an advice for men, it's something addressed to women. Perhaps with a clickbaity title.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 12:37 PM
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Hope you're on a good path. Good luck out there
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 02:48 AM
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You can. Start fresh with new accounts.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 02:46 AM
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My first thought: the man is gay or perceived as in the closet. Or he's not gay, but gives friend vibes so strong that he's seen as a gay friend who just happens to not be gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 01:40 AM
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Indeed, you didn't reply to that person, you just side stepped the topic. Again: i don't get the misandric or mysogynistic content. Because i don't engage with it. I don't search for it. Looks like algorithms put me in the light hearted content category and i don't get rage bait, OF related content, rp content, relationships content. I get videos about good italian pasta and dlsourdough.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 12:50 AM
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No I don't see OF models on my page. All I see is feminists making these arguments about OF models on my page. I remind you the comment that started this discussion. Again, algorithms show what you engage with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 12:06 AM
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By your logic, i should get the female version of rage bait. And i don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 09:43 PM
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You're on to something. It used to be that if he didn't beat you, he was good. He could be an alcoholic, the kind that isn't aggressive when he drinks, the woman would put up with that. Nowadays, this still happens believe it or not. Simply not beating your wife makes you a good husband. But less and less women put up with this shit. Because single is better than being with an alcoholic that doesn't beat you. Less headaches. And add here any defect. If my life was easier if i broke up than putti…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 08:33 PM
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It doesn't throw stuff like "girls, we should kill all men, they are all pigs" either. I get cooking recipes, historical videos and dogs.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 07:15 PM
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I don't see either. You know how? I don't engage with such content.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 11:06 PM
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It reveals their taste in women. The algorithm feeds you what you engage with. And posts here are made when someone thinks about the subject. Looks like OF girls are constantly on their mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 10:33 PM
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That doesn't negate the need for critical thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 09:26 AM
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Girl, you're 28. It's about time critical thinking skills start to kick in. Also, feeding yourself with outside validation isn't the healthiest.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 07:39 AM
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Kdramas are banned in North Korea. People have been publicly executed when caught watching them. But for some people, those kdramas opened a new world that looks very different from theirs. It's a connection to the outside world. One of the few they have. And that pushed them to defect and start a new life, a free life. And i see these kinds of movies vilinized out of fear. Just like North Korea. Sad...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 12:11 AM
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Ow yes. It's weird that he thought "i go to therapy, then gf will be 100% guaranteed".
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 06:57 AM
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Plus, it looks like OP's state improved. I mean dude even joined dance classes. For someone very very timid, this is a sign of leaving the comfort zone. Big win, imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 06:46 AM
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Again, you're doing nothing to engage my comment. And ofc i am the main character of my life. Who else would it be?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 03:55 PM
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I am child free. Still, you didn't refute my claim
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 03:50 PM
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If you see it as a burden, don't engage. Sex, dating, relationships are out-in, not opt-out.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 03:47 PM
4

Their ability to make my mind relaxed. I think the orgasm in my case is like 50% mental state.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 02:25 PM
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Ow, i did compare. Two of them didn't make me orgasm so i dumped them. Then had multiple orgasms from the first try with the third guy and he's now my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 02:17 PM
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For every woman? No. Not everyone will find someone. And if they find someone, that doesn't mean it will be a very good relationship. For example: A distant relative, mentally retarded (diagnosed) with a physical handicap. She died in her late 50s, never married, no man looked her way. Or a more famous example - melania trump. Let's be serious, she can barely stand him and would run for the hills if he wasn't rich. The prince is THE ONE, who's your lover, best friend, confidant, consigliere, you…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 04:50 PM
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You need to kiss many frogs until you find the prince.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 04:26 PM
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And then she dumps him and he goes on to marry within a year with a baby on the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 03:52 PM
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One example i can think about is a mentally retardes (diagnosed) woman with a mobility handicap. She died a few years ago, nobody wanted her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 07:07 PM
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Idk overall, but here it's more like single men vs. partnered women
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 11:44 PM
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It's like they already had half a conversation in their head, then suddenly continued it out loud.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 01:38 PM
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Wait till you find out FIL was cheating on MIL with the mistress and on the mistress with a few side pieces.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 10:10 AM
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It's C2 level phrasal verb: it means to tell or show someone that they are less important than they thought. How was the importance determined? I don't think OP suggested that it's needed, but there's obviously a value in being kept in check by others. Please at least know what 'being kept in check' means. Let OP answer what he meant or if it's needed. People who know the person in question? Just a guess. Perhaps you mean to suggest that this could be done by strangers too, I don't know, by glan…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 04:58 PM
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Someone needs to put them in their place What is their place? Why do they need to be put in their place? Who should put them in their place? How should they be put in their place? In which other situations should someone be put in their place?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:14 PM
6

The grifters in podcasts
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 10:47 PM
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Each time i bought my husband flowers he took pictures of them, with them, cared for them to prolong their life. I love to make him happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 11:50 AM
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This varies from person to person and from flavour to flavour. But if you believe women are pathetic, why date them? My husband seems to enjoy my company, but we're not here to discuss my relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 05:43 AM
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Sure, i mean, you can compare anything in the end. But the relevance and the metrics and the process matter. Your just insecure that the things you are attracted to about men are different than what men are attracted to about women. Why would that make me insecure? How can these things make me insecure? It makes no sense. A woman doesn't need to be funny or amusing at all to attract a man, which is why most of you aren't. Depends on the man and what he prioritizes. Also, she can have other quali…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 12:28 PM
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I'm saying you can't compare necessarily. How does this work? Humor for a nipple?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 10:41 AM
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Just because a skill doesn't add extra points to attraction, doesn't mean that those skills aren't valuable. If a woman knows how to use a sewing machine and alter clothes, it adds 0 attraction points. But boy it can be useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 03:06 AM
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I keep wondering how damn selective their reading is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 03:02 AM
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Nu-uh is not an answer
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 02:48 AM
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Some partnerns may excel in one metric, while others in a different metric. Trying to compare the metrics is like comparing apples to oranges
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 01:52 AM
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Please note the gender neutral language i used. It's on purpose in order to include both husbands and wives who were cheated on.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 01:51 AM
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You can visit r/AsOneAfterInfidelity it's a sub for betrayed spouses who choose to give the relationship another chance. Read through it, try to understand the pain these people go through and maybe rethink how grateful they should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 10:01 PM
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Most men are married or partnered, mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 09:49 AM
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I believe it's a misandric view to think men have close to no selection.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 03:10 AM
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What a misandric way to describe men. I have more faith in men than you do. Sad
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:50 AM
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I think there's a disconnect regarding "effort". Take charisma for example. For a naturally charismatic man, it comes out easily. No effort is involved. That's who he is. But for a dull man, trying to get a smidge of charisma out is a big effort. Because that's not who he is. Same thing applies to humor, charm, small talk, being flirty, being spontaneous. And all of these are factors that influence attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:41 AM
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Parties, get togethers, poker nights, barbeques. Have people forgotten how to people?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:59 AM
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You're mixing up the words.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 06:21 PM
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The word i described is. It's derived from "lowest grade prostitute".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 06:18 PM
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We do have a word for that in my language and it's a slur. Rough translation would be "man who has been with way too many women".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 05:13 PM
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It's the fantasy of unwated men who then go on and reject women who don't even want them. Helps them sleep at night.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 03:04 PM
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Aw hell no. Girl, he's sweet like a cupcake, but i'm not cooking him. He's not ripe yet 😈🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 03:02 PM
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It's understandable that you won't treat all your partners exactly the same This! You know for how many ex bfs i cooked? ZERO! Only man i cooked for is my husband. RP guys want the exact same treatment as past partners. Guess i should throw away the dough i just made for some turkish flatbreads and let hubby figure out his meal. Just like the past boyfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:54 PM
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It's the same one.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:39 PM
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https://news.gallup.com/poll/203198/presidential-approval-ratings-donald-trump.aspx Btw, this is trumpy's first term (lowest apprival rating ever): https://fortune.com/2021/01/18/trump-approval-rating-average-popularity/ I wonder if he can break his own record of the least approved us president at the end of the term. He's very very close.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:03 PM
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I don't see how having the shelter nearby a school is a problem. https://www.yahoo.com/news/brooklyn-residents-protest-proposed-homeless-021524319.html?guccounter=1&guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuZ29vZ2xlLmNvbS8&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAAB2xgbTE8bNGofJbMTub_38g3eznfMtJ5bAvWc8B29O6QHVTbrcV8ZgpEmIhZslXR0vhnhiKZh9BU_MLlFe6xG-ZXP3fG1ny4sCAvncvFejiKWKJhJXnNJULBGKrXs-SQaTGPyqd49GEZvC9Q8B1fKoU0PrUcYWZYhyXGc1_jdSX From the article: "Elected officials said the city then plans to use that hotel to house the a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 01:58 PM
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Schadenfreude, FAFO, the dildo of consequences often comes unlubed and added a trump tag
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 01:31 PM
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Because you didn't check the sub i linked. It's right there in the description. Or scroll a bit, it's self explanatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 01:02 PM
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Keep feeding the leopards. I want to see how fat they can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:57 PM
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OP implies that men voted trumpy to spite femininists. And now we have fresh meat for r/LeopardsAteMyFace These leopards became morbidly obese
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:36 PM
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The rgb kind
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:48 AM
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There wouldn't be a huge market for lifts to level pick ups if those cars were for work. And might i add the gaming room spendings since we're here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 01:16 AM
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My FIL divorced my MIL so he can marry his long term primary mistress. He filed for no fault divorce. His case appears in the statistics as no fault divorce. But in reality, it was very much his fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 01:08 AM
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You have the right to be insecure and i have the right to avoid entering relationships with insecure men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 10:29 PM
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"if my grandmother had wheels, she would have been a bike"
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 05:26 PM
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I always paid what i ordered. For ease of wording, we call this 50-50.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:22 PM
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I’ve never really understood the appeal of thongs. The idea of having a thin strip of fabric sitting between your butt cheeks all day just sounds uncomfortable to me. It's not uncomfortable to me. Also, what’s the point of underwear if your butt is basically uncovered anyway? At that point you might as well skip the underwear entirely. It always seemed kind of impractical to me, maybe even a bit unhygienic. Do people really wear those all day just to look and feel sexy? The point of underware is…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 11:25 AM
1

Why do standards have to be in someone's control?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 11:11 AM
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Like 2 days ago we had a man here asking women what non physical traits of their husbands they like. Wimwn replied and got downvoted by men. Then one woman made a post about the phenomenon and men replied that they hate that other men get what they themselves would also want, but don't have. These men can't be happy other men are loved.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 11:09 AM
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HI5 was launched in 2003. Same with myspace.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 03:48 PM
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He's the sexiest man alive in my eyes. I don't care what others think. He's my man, my forever person, my favorite person.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 01:44 AM
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women can find men good looking or attractive but not want to sleep with him. It's like looking at a beautiful painting. You admire it's beauty but you don't dry hump the canvas.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 02:19 PM
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Charm, charisma and humor. How he can be so big, yet so gentle. I'm constantly amazed by how social he is. How he keeps me in his arms and that is my favourite place in the world. He's so patient and reliable. He's so open and safe. Very smart, both academically and street smart. Very good taste with clothes and perfumes. He always smells great.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 02:17 PM
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I'm sorry you lost your wife, i can't even imagine what you've been through. It's been the same for me. Other men simply do not exist in a romantic way. Even the thought of another man touching me makes my skin crawl. And frankly, if he goes first, i don't want to live another second without him. Hope to meet him as a ghost, if such a thing exists, so we can be together forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:41 AM
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Ow, a very good post. Too bad it will be ignored and men will derail in the comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 10:08 AM
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Only thing you'll create is a sausage party.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 06:20 PM
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Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 06:11 PM
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Now i am left here scratching my head trying to guess what perfumes are those.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 05:15 PM
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I spend the least amount on clothes. Perfumes on the other hand, i think i have over 30. But i am on a no purchase/project pan period until i finish at least 5.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 05:07 PM
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I'm confused what it has to do with dating
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 05:02 PM
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I wouldn't have the whoopsie child. At that age, it would have been an abortion, not a baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 09:19 AM
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Um, no. I met my husband when we were in high school. Although i knew very early that i met my soulmate and that i'll marry him one day, i still didn't want a child at that age. Didn't stop us from fucking like rabbits.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 02:09 AM
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Uf, you spoke my mind. The guy might think it was his jaw when in fact it was the constant fidgeting.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 12:17 PM
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I always saw it as functional illiteracy. But i do see your point about lacking social skills. I think you're onto something. Food for thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 08:56 PM
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I'm not that far from what she described, but there's a twist. I never felt the need to have sex unless a man made me horny. I never got randomly horny. I never masturbated in my life. Not to mention never hooking up in between relationships. So i think you made a great analogy: you don't laugh unless you hear a funny joke. I don't think about sex unless the man is sexy to me. Also, i want to go further using your analogy. You noticed how some people naturally say jokes better? And how they can …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 03:13 AM
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I'll add statistics here as well. It's one thing to discuss around them. But when you partner with someone, that person might be in the minority on one statistic and in the majority in a different statistic. What matters is the individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 04:19 PM
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Vibe, body composition, and facial attractiveness always supersede plain height and weight. Add cologne, charm, humor. Idk why perfume is so rarely mentioned. I know for sure there are other women who get intoxicated by a sexy scent.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 02:06 AM
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It's a question for women, not a debate post
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 01:34 AM
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Ugh, give me a smudgy black pencil eyeliner. I'm fine with my glow coz baby i am oily af.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 09:25 PM
1

Can't help you there.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 09:15 PM
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I hope it goes out. But that's just me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 09:05 PM
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Um...no. as i am not a very feminine woman and frankly i never bothered with my femininity.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 02:28 PM
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Just because it existed underground, doesn't mean it couldn't peak in the mainstream, thus becoming trendy. South Korea existed for decades in it's current form , but SK culture (music, esthetic, skincare) became trendy much more recently.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 02:26 PM
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Lmao, clean girl makeup (minimal and very natural) is still the trend. It has declined a bit, analysts say messy makeup is the next big thing, but this new look isn't popular yet. Idk wtf you're talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 02:24 PM
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Incoming deflection and off topic replies that focus on why men shouldn't listen to women instead of actually expressing the opinion on why women should listen to men. You know, as in actually addressing the topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 11:27 AM
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True in my case.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 10:08 AM
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I'll do my best best to be by his side, roll him on walks, talk, watch tv, listen to music. You know, the normal couple stuff. That's the best part of a relationship: the other person is also your best friend and you genuinely enjoy each other's company.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 11:10 PM
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What situation exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 06:43 PM
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Truth is: we don't know how the moves are chosen. If i were a coregrapher, i'd choose the sexiest, sluttiest moves for the dancers. Just to see thirsty men lose their shit and have a good laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 05:55 PM
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Lmao, i'm not the one naive enough to think professional dancers that perform on a stage during a show decide on the spot what moves to make
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 05:50 PM
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Twerking is sexual, but twerking isn't popular. Not anymore at least. Alwo, you conflate choreography which is picked through an entire process where multiple people are involved where professional dancers have no input in with women deciding to dance sexy on stage during a show.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 05:44 PM
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Your words: The most popular dance ia sexual like twerking You can't say "popular" and "twerking" in the same sentence in 2026 and expect to be taken seriously. Dancers didn't choose the coregraphy. They are exployees that do what are paid to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 05:18 PM
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Sure, if you're desperate enough, even ballet seems sexual. It's not what i think, it's what the general population thinks. And truth is: it peaked and then went out. Just like many other trends.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 05:07 PM
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https://vancouver.ctvnews.ca/entertainment/article/9-reasons-why-twerking-is-already-over/ It peaked in 2013, bro. Over a decade ago. A few people still do it? Sure. Baggy jeans are trendy now, but some still wear skinny jeans. But you can't say skinny jeans are trendy atm. Same way you can't say twerking is trendy now.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 05:00 PM
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This is so sad and funny at the same time. These men's brains are so easily scrambled. But at the same time, they are so naive and guillable that you can talk about twerking (2010s trend) being popular in f'ing 2026 and they actually believe it lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 01:58 PM
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Also, weird choice to mention twerking. That is soo out of date, like pre-pandemic. Does the manosphere ever update their content? It's like always some out of fashion, old news example. I'd add here MeToo, heavy makeup Kim Kardashian style, crop tops. There are all past trends. And that's exactly what they were: trends. We will see some of them again in 20 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 01:52 PM
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Idk what you mean by that. I need more context.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 01:38 PM
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A simple bf, the kind you have by the dozen - sure But no way i'm leaving my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 03:25 AM
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This one, no doubt
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 05:22 PM
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I say this all the time: i prefer men in grey sweatpants and a hoodie. I just can't stand suits. But i also know other women looove men in suits.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 05:54 PM
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That's the damn end point: to shrink the pool until you are left with 1 - your forever person.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 05:32 PM
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Indeed, i think narcissism is really a disease in her case. Not an inflated ego issue. No need to believe me, the video when she gave the picture to Miley is on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:34 PM
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r/kibbe and do the test. When you have the results, just read what works for you. Ignore trends and general influencers. In my case, lipstick is just off on me and usually makes me look old. Focus must always be on eyes, else it's a disaster. Then i do the kibbe test and lo and behold, for my type, bold lips just do not work. Explains my struggle with lippies. Same with trends, current fashion doesn't work for my body. I need very low rise skinny jeans (like 20 years ago). Current fashion: baggy…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:31 PM
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Tyra Banks is a POS. She even gifted Miley Cyrus a picture of herself (Tyra) on Miley's 16th birthday. Like wtf, tone down that narcissism.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:23 PM
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No, all those 5% of men won't want a relationship with me. I know i am not everyone's cup of tea. Which means i might be left with 2-3% of men. So, even less work to filter through them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 11:29 AM
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How is this a problem as a problem implies a negative impact. I think it's efficiency. If you want to find your forever person, you are basically filtering out all men except one. If you find only 5% of men attractive, then you focus to filter through a smaller pool of men as the overwhelming majority was ruled out already. It's a lot less effort to filter through 5% of men than let's say 40% of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 10:59 AM
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That... Is not what social means...or social skills
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 08:57 PM
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Here are social skills mentioned by a RP man in the comments of this very post: https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/7WFeqO3kGD Go ask him also to define social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 08:36 PM
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You know what those are, unless you have autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 07:38 PM
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I tell guys to be funny and charming, or to be social butterflies or be extroverted. And then some men lose their shit. Being social, funny and charming IS attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 05:07 PM
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I can't stand fidgeting, it drives me nuts. Man, woman, alien or dog, i don't care, i don't want to be in the same room with you. Nobody can see fidgeting in a picture or a text conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 04:46 PM
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Add accent, posture, way of walking, fidgeting, tone, volume of voice.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 04:38 PM
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Option 3 Money doesn't keep me warm at night. But we can work a tight budget. Actually, we already did that in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 02:08 AM
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Sure, dude may seem awesome, the interest is clearly there and 5 dates in he pulls one of those haarkharrk and spits on the ground.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 04:05 AM
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Ofc, if i'm not attracted to the man, i can't have sex with him. My pussy would be bone dry.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 04:02 AM
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Um...no. And let's say what you say is true coz i know you won't budge. My advice still stands: don't take men seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 02:03 AM
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Why is a woman dating a man she deems ugly?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 12:10 AM
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Ugh, i want french mani so bad, but my nails suck after having gel on. I couldn't remove all of it so i need to outgrow the remains and only after they grow a bit i can get a french.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 12:55 AM
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Honestly, if they stop taking men seriously. Especially in their 20s. Don't be overly enthusiastic in the beginning, as the dude could actually be love bombing. So it's not a good idea to be very invested. Wait a while, get to know him before dreaming of your whole life with him. Keep your cool and don't put him on a pedestal in the early stages. Men come and go. See where things are going, keep your boundaries, eyes wide open for red flags or things you perceive as defects that make you 2 incom…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 12:30 AM
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Perhaps... Almost
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 11:41 AM
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Fat pic looks better. He looks a lot like my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 02:54 AM
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Somehow that song went under the radar for me and i just discovered it like 2 days ago and it's on repeat. Got a good remix for it, can't wait for the next party to play that shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 07:56 PM
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Again, replace the words in the original phrase. It makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 07:41 PM
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and what does that have to do with "set a standard" Also, we get back to my question: what gives the man authority?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 06:05 PM
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1 - let's wait for the person who commented initially to explain, but i doubt he will at this point. 2- how does this phrase make sense: "men need to set a standard instead of ask and accept a no"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 03:43 PM
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I never had casual sex, still i don't feel love through sex. Though i do think love makes sex better due to closeness and the other person knows you and what you like. But sex doesn't bring closeness to me. Yet, closeness brings good sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:38 PM
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And it still doesn't make sense. When you replace what you said in the phrase originally written, it doesn't make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 02:58 AM
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It's important to me to disect this. Also, i asked the person who left that comment, not some rabdo's interpretation.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 01:27 AM
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Doesn't answer my questions.I asked about the nuance difference between "demand" and "ask". Words have meaning and nuance.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:21 AM
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I agree men should have standards and not act desperate. You can say GTFO, but still ask. I'm asking the nuance between "demand" and "ask". Hence i asked those specific questions. Words have meaning. And nuance.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:19 AM
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Refund when i was entitled to one. But doesn't answer all my questions
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:17 AM
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This does not make any sense. Please expand. Like, "men need to set a standard instead of ask and accept a no". English isn't my first language, but it doesn't make any sense
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 11:51 PM
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I know how he will bring it up: by taking me to the doctor for a check up. He put on weight some past years. We didn't know, but his gullbladder had stones. He had it removed completely. So i know he will take me to the doctor if he sees me put on weight. But since i am skinny, if i put on 10 kg, my bmi would then be 23, normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 11:48 PM
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That pandemic did something to a good chunk of people also. Human to human relations feel different. Only last year my chronological clock started to get back to normal. 2020-2023 are very very blurry.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 11:38 PM
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demand - ask authoritatively or brusquely What gives men authority over women when asking? What's the difference between "demand" and "ask" if "no" is (easily) accepted? What things should men demand?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 11:33 PM
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You're mixing up the timeline: He went to read MGTW content THEN he became isolated AFTER WHICH he also started drinking MORE RECENTLY also had a tantrum and called his mother a whore when she suggested he should spend more time with his peers Question: how do you comment calling the mother a whore because she suggested he should go out?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 12:26 PM
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Whatever he read there led to this spiral and dude looks depressed. So...depression ammo
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 12:08 PM
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?? How can you even come up with that conclusion? Not interested in a relationship doesn't mean reading depression content to the point of drinking yourself, isolating yourself and throwing a tantrum when your mother suggests to go outside and calling her a whore.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 12:01 PM
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His behaviour changed since he joined that community. What other logical conclusion would it be?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 11:42 AM
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Find other people your age with whom you better relate. But isolation is not a solution. Her concern is that whatever he reads or hears in that community fucks up his brain and fucks up his life. Because isolation and alcohol are a dangerous mix.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 03:55 AM
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But telling men they can or should do that, while then avoiding those men romantically just comes off as sabotage. No. You can do whatever and express yourself as you want. Your painted nails do not affect me at all. Your dress doesn't affect me as well. Be yourself. From a societal point of view, i have no problem. From a romantic point of view, i'm not interested. And you mix up these two very different and separate things.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 03:42 AM
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His mother is concerned he's not interacting with other people. He's not spending time with his peers. We're not talking about relationships here, we're talking about isolation from people his age. Plua the alcohol, which is not a healthy habit. This guy needs professional help. And what he does is not decentering women, which is our topic here. He's spiraling in a self destructive hole. And the further he goes, the worse it will be. And his mother, who cares about him despite being called a who…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 03:29 AM
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Let's see the first one: MGTOW is destroying my son's life This post deals with depression and emotional issues, so please be advised. Everyone else in out family is in a relationship. Everyone else has a social life, outside of my son. He's a recluse and refuses to date because "all women want is child support, and won't hesitate to file a false rape claim". I'm not saying there aren't repugnant, pig women out there who wouldn't do that, but he's come to the conclusion that all women are inhere…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 12:26 AM
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I see several women, including me, telling that guy to decenter women. Where do you see the hate in those comments?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 07:49 PM
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It's not. It's being neutral. Decenter means not making women the center of one's life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 07:43 PM
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Just decenter women, thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 12:15 PM
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I only read the tldr (sorry mate), but i agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 11:51 AM
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I'm not giving hope. I speak my mind and stated multiple times that a % of the population will remain single. And it's not a new phenomenon.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 02:38 AM
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Ya think they are able to pull something off? Be serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 01:09 AM
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Indeed, it's that buildup going on and it has to explode somehow. Like the steam pressure in a pot and then you take the lid off.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 01:07 AM
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It's more, like the mood, the environment, the cocktails. Add a good perfume and there you have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 12:03 AM
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Uuuf, the amount of times dancing led to making out 🥵. Idk what's with that, but it's always hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 11:56 PM
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Jesus fing christ
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 09:02 AM
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I can't respect an uninformed opinion. The dryness was most likely from the high ph.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 08:46 AM
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Am i the only one to notice that the gurus don't bother to update their content as it's kind of obvious since the adepts also talk about old subjects? MeToo - that is a last decade subject of discussion Heavy makeup - that's 2010s kim kardashian style. The current style is clean makeup, and it's been for years. I guess you don't need to put in effort to be up to date if they money comes and subscribers are hooked with old content.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 03:55 PM
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They even made creams with uranium. But hey, both uranium and lead are natural 😃
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 03:14 PM
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Well, chemistry was one of my favourites and i also participated in competitions and always placed in the top 3. We call them in normal speech, just like we call plants by their common name, not scientific latin names. That doesn't mean the composition suddenly changes. I gave the soap example since it's the easiest one people can understand. Soap doesn't fall off a tree. But it can be produced only from natural origin ingredients through a chemical reaction called saponification. So chemistry i…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 02:51 PM
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Very good for my eczema prone skin.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 01:58 PM
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Organic_chemistry We also have iron, magnesium, citric acid, selenium, oxygen, hydrogen, unfortunately some mercury in our bodies. If you wash yourself, you put chemicals on yourself. And just because you don't know what's in those products, doesn't mean others don't know or that you can't learn. Also, what makes you think those products don't have natural origin ingredients? If i'm not mistaken, one of the products has BHA, aka salicilic acid extracted from the bar…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 01:58 PM
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Ah good to know. Might work as a day cream for me and layered under Cicaplast at night.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 01:44 PM
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EVERYTHING is chemical around us, including us. Even the soap you use to wash yourself. Which i hope you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 01:36 PM
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https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/archaeologists-find-2700-year-old-facial-cream-180976973/ Creams are thousands of years old. Spoiler alert: this one belonged to a man, so men used them too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 01:18 PM
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How's the purito bamboo cream?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 01:12 PM
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You minimize his behaviour
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 12:41 PM
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Ow, he was joking Ow, he has no filter
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 12:20 PM
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I call it medusa's snakes anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 10:37 AM
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Why are you apologetic for the guy? Filter or not, that thought was in his mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 10:36 AM
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Yep, that's what i said
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 07:26 AM
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Apparently I was his type. And he had a stupid mouth
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 03:58 AM
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I was with a friend, husband comes over with his friend. After they leave, his friend tells him he likes me a lot and wants his turn with me after husband and i break up. Husband was no longer friends with him after this. Joke's on him, we're still together after 18 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 03:50 AM
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When something like this happened, my husband (then bf) cut ties with the dude. I only found out about this years later.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 03:30 AM
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I feel lucky because my period is really easy, but man i know women who got the short stick. One has endometriosis, only thing that worked was powerful prescription pain killers. She wanted a child more than anything, but only IVF would work and the closest clinic specialised in IVF for women with endometriosis was in a different city. First she had to get her tubes tied, then the IVF procedure, then various checks and the pregnancy was at risk until the second trimester. Then c section. Another…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 12:39 AM
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Neah, i am completely against OD, refused to use it. You keep saying friends for a month or friends for a while before dating. Dude, some people meet on thursday (complete strangers by then), they talk, they vibe, they do on a date on saturday and end the date as bf and gf. The vibe is how you 2 get along, how you complete each other's sentences, how you rhyme together. You could be closer to a person you met 4 hrs ago than to a person you've known for a month.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 12:06 AM
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Mine was reaching my butt and then one night that beast crawled across the bed directly into my husband's mouth. He woke up in a panic, confused, choking with my hair which was down his throat. Next morning i made an appointment and cut it collar bone length. I won't allow my hair to make me a window.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 11:57 PM
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Where is the "people with whom you hit it off from the beginning - within hours or days after you meet them, but sex happens a month later" Idk, i think this is a somewhat common occurrence.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 11:51 PM
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That Him...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 10:32 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 10:22 PM
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A
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 10:22 PM
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What do you mean by "Him". In what context? Who's Him?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 10:20 PM
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AI content
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 06:36 PM
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My statement was not if women care or not about height. I simply replied to someone who very conveniently misses all the posts where women talk about height preferences and declares that women don't talk about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 05:00 PM
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And also stated that these are just 5 examples and there are more comments about height. You also dodge my question about 5+ being multiple.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:57 PM
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My claim was "multiple women talked about height". I also linked multiple (5) comments that talk about height. And also stated that these are just 5 examples and there are more comments about height. Is 5+ cases multiple or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:55 PM
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I'm not using my time so you can be lazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:48 PM
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(Will edit to add more) It helps if you read the entire comment and wait. Otherwise, you could read the comms yourself. Just so you know, i'll only link the first 5 i will encounter, you can check out the rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:43 PM
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Someone else seemed to have no problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:41 PM
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https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/5hOhrJK2y2 https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/XXog3guqTt https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/Y03NUkBATs https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/qWZF34yczH https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/ZlhNnr0xL6 (Will edit to add more) Edit: added 5 as promised
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:40 PM
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the absolute denial and dismissal of height preferences Perhaps you missed this post from yesterday where multiple women mention height preferences. Glad you are willing to take into account that you might have incorrect observations. https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/w8j1ErWBrk
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:25 PM
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I had a severe episode of eczema. The dermatologist gave me medication and also sent me to the beach, get some sun and relaxation. And lo and behold, 3 days of vacation did more than a handful of pills. Vacations are relaxing, you change the environment, see things, try new food, experience something else, break the routine. Plus i love traveling, dragging a suitcase in train stations, packing and unpacking, the excitement, the fun, the new experiences. And as you can see, vacations have a posit…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 02:18 PM
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I call em tits
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 02:11 AM
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Hi5 and myspace would like a word with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 01:16 AM
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Excuse me? How do you call the top front chest area of a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 01:10 AM
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I almost fit, i am 5'6". I won't list the obvious like cheater, rapist, lazy etc Personality: bad boys with a heart of gold. Funny, charming, chatismatic, extroverted. The kind of guy you can count on. Street smart and academically smart. Witty, social butterfly, spontaneous. Looks: gorgeous eyes, ideally at least half an inch taller than me. Facial hair, but not a long beard. Muscular, but with a belly. Nice tits, soft skin. No chest hair. No bald. About style: smells good, haircut that fits hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 10:46 PM
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And i think the women who would ask someone to uninvite the slut just because she's a slut (and no other motive) are in the wrong. Let the slut come and grab popcorn. Watch grown men turn into clowns, competing with each other, you'll have a good laugh. Also lets you filter men. Last time i witnessed this, a dude resorted to kissing an unvaccinated stray dog on the mouth multiple times just because she said she liked the dog. He still didn't hit, though. But my husband and i had such a good laug…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 02:59 PM
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And you are free to feel any way you want. It doesn't hurt anyone. Point is, women don't necessarily hate sluts as you said in the previous comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 02:11 PM
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You nailed it! I said marriage, but it's not set in stone. At the age of 45, most people have already been married or in a very very serious relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 01:31 PM
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The bf before the bf before the last bf. Like 3 relationshps ago
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 12:58 PM
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I have no beef with sluts. I like my man with lots of experience. Those women created the man i love. I am thankful to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 12:36 PM
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Marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 11:58 AM
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Awful profile that keeps getting worse. And then you see it at the bottom: autism. Suddenly, it makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 03:22 AM
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I had this conversation with my husband that after we die, we will search for each other as ghosts in the after life, if it exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 11:33 PM
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Yes, they derail to off topic, they deflect. Again, this is a dating oriented sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 09:15 PM
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Women often bring up wood cutting safety? Where? Since it's often, i'm sure you can easily point to those posts?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 07:07 PM
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It wouldn't make sense to talk about this here. This is a dating oriented sub, not wood cutting sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 01:39 PM
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I get tired of reading entire contrarian essay Less than 4 rows of text?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 07:13 PM
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Unless it's a job that already had working saturdays and chaotic shifts that change last minute It really helps if you read the entire comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 06:51 PM
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S A T U R D A Y Unless it's a job that already had working saturdays and chaotic shifts that change last minute, that lie is very see through.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 06:48 PM
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Yeah, this is where it starts looking like a fantasy. Hardly any woman would believe the "i was busy" excuse when it comes to V Day, especially on a Saturday.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 06:41 PM
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You didn't take into account that OP provided context for the survey: today, V Day. One man can't spend V Day evening/night with multiple women without them figuring out something is fishy, especially on a Saturday.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 06:30 PM
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And since chads are men as well, and since they get partnered, this means the overall male singleness drops.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 03:51 PM
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Who are those women dating then? Aliens?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 01:13 PM
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There's a horseshoe effect there, ngl. But yes, i think i'd give a chance to that show although i don't normally watch such things. But man, that would require the largest popcorn bag in history.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 08:14 PM
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I could never date a man with that hair style.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 06:37 PM
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Yes, older (+2 years), not old (+12 years).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 06:28 PM
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Honestly, idk if there is a solution for that. Some desperate woman perhaps, who either has "alive man" as the only standard or in a very bad financial situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 04:45 PM
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The average age gap worldwide is 4 years. Mind you, this also includes countries with child brides. In the western world, the average age gap is 2 years. So you have 29 year old women (one age bracket) with 31 year old men (another bracket). But it doesn't mean there is a 12 year old age gap that is routinely encountered.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 04:41 PM
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"Age 10"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 04:23 PM
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Exactly what an 18 year old wants: a man in his 30s who starts balding. Yummy!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 04:09 PM
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I want him to ask, not much planning needed as we met somewhere and entered the first bar/cofee shop we saw, each one pays what they ordered.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 03:10 PM
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Um... No you have no control. Because attraction is not a local problem. It's a feeling. If it could be controlled, nobody would suffer from unreprocitated love.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 01:37 PM
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Absolutely! Framing it as choosing is unhinged.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 10:15 AM
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a woman seemingly on par with them chooses to be attracted to a more attractive man It's not a choice, though. Choice implies making a conscious decision. Attraction is not a conscious decision. You have no control over it. Nobody chooses to be attracted to someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 10:05 AM
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It's like badly described humans - by aliens.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 02:25 AM
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It's weird when you do it, when mrs macron does it and when Tobey does it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:52 AM
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Yes, everyone in that field have their backs busted. The back or idk how it's called, like something is ripped in the pelvic area because they lift weight. My father had surgery for that and was shocked how many women were there for the same surgery. Pregnancy and working in soltores. Such is life
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:51 AM
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Sure they are. You guide your next move based on your social wit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:47 AM
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Ugh, i kind of understand where she's coming from, i also do get very tired or a hit starts hurting
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:42 AM
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Your idea about romantic doesn't match my idea of romantic. Direct communication kills romance in my case. We don't dance the same tango.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:40 AM
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As, i said, yet you ignored: The guidance is still there: social wit, reading the room, social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:38 AM
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You're confusing discussing relationship stuff with flirting on a date. Or flirting before a date. One is for situations that occur between two people who have been together for a while, maybe even live together or have children together. The discussion is often about money or kindergarten or what to buy from the grocery store. And yes, clear, direct communication is the best option. The other is when people barely know each other, might not even know each other's full names, a build up is creat…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:30 AM
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Been through this, i went yee-haa.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:18 AM
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The guidance is still there: social wit, reading the room, social skills. Milestone by date 3 is for people who don't have the typical social skills. And for me at least, they kill the vibe quicker than a dick pic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:17 AM
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Because the ND population is known to have trouble with social interaction, social cues, reading the room AND sometimes are very vocal about wanting clear, direct communication to the last thought, leave nothing to guessing, interpreting or just understanding. Hence, they are the first group that come to mind who would actually not only want, but even think about such a system. Guidelines are fine and often required (think hospitals, protocols, etc). But dating is something else: a tango between…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:11 AM
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I wouldn't opt in in the first place. Although i think what you propose could work for the neurodivergent community. I can't even think of another category who would embrace such an idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 01:58 AM
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Go with the flow vs "milestones by date 3".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 01:22 AM
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Horrible idea. Takes out the fun out of dating: the flirting, the long looks, the vibe, the mood. Instead, it makes it mechanical, mathematical, caldculated and cold. No more passion, no more spantanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 01:18 AM
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Someone else said status includes social skills. So you can't talk about status without talking about social skills. If you disagree, maybe tell the other person in the thread who named social skills as part of status that he is wrong and present your arguments.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 11:12 PM
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If you end up tying anything to looks, you tie nothing. Social skills can be learnt, but they're more natural - you get born with them. Like some people are talented at painting or singing or math or writing. So not tied to looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 11:11 PM
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That is fame. I'm talking about the social skills component (as i understand) from status.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 10:58 PM
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I disagree since in a relationship you have to talk - open your mouth. And what comes out and how it comes out depends a lot on social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 10:56 PM
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Ow, we kind of know. Not all the horrors, but similar to what you see in Ukraine now. Some even worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 09:15 PM
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Deflection. Have a nice day
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 09:14 PM
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If statys would be social skills, i would agree, but also wonder why it's not directly communicated as social skis and the euphomism "status" is used. My guess: to spear the ego of men who lack social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 09:13 PM
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Are you or are you not the leader of your own life?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 07:40 PM
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My great-grandmother was gathering seashells from several km away to get food for her 2 children during ww2. Russian soldiers would knock down doors and grab food and even the bread from the oven leaving people hungry. My grandmother witnessed this as a child in her home. Each time Putin would show up on TV, she would spit on the entire screen while cursing. She was only 7 during the war. She didn't forget or forgot 70 years later.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 07:39 PM
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Why not focus on clarifying the vague one: status
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 07:30 PM
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And you can ignore pressure.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 07:19 PM
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Losing your head over a guy. You have butterflies in your stomach, but please make an effort and remain level headed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 05:55 PM
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i dont think intelligence is the only point Indeed, it's also being street smart, not just academically smart. A bit off topic, but now that i think about it, I rarely see "street smart" being discussed on this sub and imo it's a factor for attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 05:46 PM
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Neither do men. Nobody is required to do anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 04:14 PM
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I disagree. I wouldn't marry someone who didn't give 100% to the relationship. The same way i don't expect to be proposed if i don't give 100% to the relationship. How else will he know we will be together in poorer and sickness.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:44 PM
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People meet in all kinds of life situations. Not dating would be stupid. And ofc i'd talk about the work situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 08:56 AM
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Being a man is more than sex. But sex is part of being a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 02:50 AM
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Beautiful eyes (anything but classic deep brown or hunter eyes), with a belly, no baldness, no chest hair, no tailored suit, no watch, some facial hair, beautiful chest (soft skin that sits nice on musxle and fat). He's my type, else he wouldn't be my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:21 PM
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It's more than "he is attractive". He could be attractive, but if i'm stressed from work because there are layoffs, sex is the last thing on my mind, i need to start sending CVs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 06:58 PM
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Ow, i'll save this comment for future reference.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 02:32 PM
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A wall is an impenetrable structure. Or close to it. Perhaps the choice of words was not clever. So, it's not a wall, but a peak. Why not call it peak instead of wall?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 02:32 PM
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I'll ignore the light rudeness. I'm talking specifically about men who set a clear age: 25 or 30. You seem to disapprove them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 12:31 PM
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Why do you think people throw "women initiate most divorces" (with a heavy accent on women) when the reasons are because they are cheated on or abused?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 12:21 PM
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Hardly a wall i understand from your comment. I asked the age because i've seen random numbers thrown around: 25, 30, you gave an example for a 40 year old woman. So not only the wall is weak, but it also keeps moving. It's confusion, not autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 12:16 PM
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Totally, i always do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 12:05 PM
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For the sake of the argument, could you please post the reasons why women initiate divorce according to official data?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 12:03 PM
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I got that when a dude wouldn't get "no" for an answer and my facial expression clearly stated that, but he kept trying. No, sir, i will not smile. I don't smile on command and it's not a smiley face situation. You're getting on my nerves because you insist after being clearly told "No".
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 12:01 PM
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So there is no wall. Or is it a penetrable wall since you said 40 year old women can be attractive? Btw, at which age is the wall?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 11:58 AM
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Could you also name the reasons cited by women for divorce according to official data?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 11:57 AM
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Incoming comments about how older women can be attractive. Suddenly, the wall no longer exists 🌝
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 11:50 AM
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I have never seen a man who looks like this in my entire life. But i live in EE so maybe different genetics or grooming habits?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 02:02 AM
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Yes, survey If that information was correct, it would be in the official statistic on wikipedia. If you think you have proof that the wikipedia numbers are incorrect, please propose for the page to be edited. Until then, i prefer to believe peer reviewed data.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 01:22 AM
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Cdc>survry I'll take official data as the correct one
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 01:18 AM
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From 1973 to 1980, the abortion rate rose almost 80%, peaking at 29.3 abortions per 1,000 women of childbearing age in 1980 and 1981. From 1981 through 2017, the abortion rate fell by more than half, falling faster in Democratic administrations than Republican ones. The abortion rate fell below the 1973 rate in 2012 and continued to fall through 2017, when it stood at 13.5 abortions per 1,000 women of childbearing age. The abortion rate then rose from 2018 through 2020. https://en.wikipedia.org/…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 01:09 AM
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Lovely, just lovely. Pun intended.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 12:57 AM
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Because first i want to get it all out so i can think about the solution more clearly. Cool off a bit, sit on the problem. Cool head first, solution after
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 10:35 PM
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No, never had a hook up, never will. It's not my thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 10:23 PM
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Like we can't tell he's clumsy. Or we can't tell if we have an orgasm or not. But yeah, i do agree with her. The only guy who got a second chance to make me orgasm was the first one since i expected my first to be bad. Round 2 was orgasmless so i broke up with him. Second guy - no orgaam the only time we had sex, so he became an ex. Third guy is my husband. Fireworks from the first try. Multiple orgasms each time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 10:18 PM
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I would know my symptoms better than the doctor, so yes, I would know myself better
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 09:42 AM
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Ow it sure backfired because it simply adds suspicion to an already suspicious situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:27 AM
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Because we are not a hive mind? Like, idk why you would expect that we like the same things. It's confusing. Perhaps in bigger groups of friends, there is some overlap. But mine is rather small and there's no overlap. Also, why would you prefer that her friends find you hot? I'm very confused about your line of thinking. I also find it a bit problematic because it says you need validation from other women as if the girlfriend's validation isn't enough. And this can lead to problems in the future…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:26 AM
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We have people who worked for jails confirm that there is no protocol to make a fake body. The focus isn't if it worked, but the action of making a fake body.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:59 AM
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Excuse me?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:50 AM
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What do you mean? I left the sub for the person i originally replied to. It's public for anyone to see or read or search.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:49 AM
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Because their bfs are not our types. So ofc we find them unattractive. The great part is that it's not us who need to find them attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:47 AM
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Not vague at all. Sir, you keep talking and making assumptions about posts you didn't see or read and some are very long reads spanning in multiplr posts and months. Please, stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:38 AM
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No, not the ear story. It's revealed in the new batch of documents. The records also detail a trick that jail staffers used to fool the media gathered outside while Epstein’s body was removed: they used boxes and sheets to create what appeared to be a body and loaded it into a white van labeled as belonging to the Office of the Chief Medical Examiner. The reporters followed the van when it left the jail, not knowing that Epstein’s actual body was loaded into a black vehicle, which departed “unno…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:35 AM
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I hope you dismiss tiktok videos, insta posts and reddit comments used by men as evidence with the same reply: it's something you read online but is uncommon irl
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:30 AM
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I'll copy paste my comment since you missed it: That's the point, they didn't say "i don't want to get married". To the contrary, some were even told early on that the goal is marriage and they said they want to get married. When the discussion time arrived, they didn't say "i don't want to get married", they just moved goalposts: next summer, then next Christmas, after your birthday. Very very very few finally admitted after many years and many discussions that they don't want to get married (a…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:29 AM
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Not in the stories i am talking about. You're probably talking about something else completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:27 AM
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That's the point, they didn't say "i don't want to get married". To the contrary, some were even told early on that the goal is marriage and they said they want to get married. When the discussion time arrived, they didn't say "i don't want to get married", they just moved goalposts: next summer, then next Christmas, after your birthday. Very very very few finally admitted after many years and many discussions that they don't want to get married (although previously saying that they want).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:20 AM
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Clearly marriage means something to some and nothing for others. To those women it meant a lot and it was a dealbreaker (often communicated from the beginning). Hence they ended the relationship. And we can also say about the men involved that they weren't anti marriage, else they wouldn't quickly marry the next woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:17 AM
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There's a bigger chance that it was all smoke and mirrors and he's still alive, especially after it was revealed that they used a fake body used to fool the press than for him to actually commit suicide. If you take each and every event separately, from the cameras to the design of the cell, yes, suicide is possible. But for everything to happen or fail at the same time, all at once, no chance. The cumulative coincidence is what makes the suicide story a coverup.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:08 AM
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Please explain
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 01:55 AM
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It sure looks like they treated them as temporary when discussions about marriage were met with avoidance, always postponed, golaposts moved. But then with the new women they move very fast and pun in effort. How was the saying? Watch what they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 01:54 AM
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Not really. Multiple examples on r/Waiting_To_Wed where men strung alone a woman for years, sometimes even 10+ years, only to marry the next women in very short time, sometimes even less than a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 01:41 AM
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Epstein didn't kill himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 01:06 AM
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You'll get your answers from r/Waiting_To_Wed It's usually lack of effort, the woman initiates the moving forward of the relationship, years pass without him opening the marriage talk. It's a good sub to see other's experiences and perspectives.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 12:47 AM
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I think it's a good thing that women are able to talk casually about their dating experiences, especially the bad ones. It means they moved on and didn't get stuck on that bad experience. Which is the mature thing to do. But many of us went through breakups, cried ourselves to sleep, got really scared in certain situations, had sleepless nights, couldn't eat. But they got over it eventually and some time later they can casually talk about it. I can casually tell you about a 35 year old man offer…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 11:44 PM
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This gives reverse "I have a boyfriend" vibes. Something like "I don't have a boyfriend" lol Joke aside, i agree. But i always liked this tango, i think it also builds the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 10:46 PM
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Yes. My husband is the winner of my heart. There is a winner in this story.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 08:44 PM
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Sir, please stop unfunded accusations fueled by fantasies. Please stop projecting. I said what i said and i mean it. Continuing would mean you accuse me of lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 08:41 PM
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I think i know myself better than a stranger on the internet. Please stop projecting your fantasies on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 08:06 PM
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I said what i said. Those corrections are your fantasies. Please don't project your fantasies on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:52 PM
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Searched on google and it sent me to https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Femininity Yes, a lot more than a couple of words. Sounds interesting, i'll go read the article.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 04:03 PM
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What keeps me monogamous isn't society, but love for my husband. The thought of a different man touching me makes my skin crawl. Also, i am possessive enough not to want to share him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:55 PM
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That's still not a definition lmao. Same with "hypergamy". That poor word changed meaning from man to man.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:44 PM
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Yes, i have a type. It's not about being picky, it's about what you find attractive. Also, my husband has a type.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 01:39 PM
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You still didn't get a definition for "female nature". Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 09:42 AM
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This post is like a breath of fresh air. Good read, not much to add. I guess that's what life is all about: learning how to make lemonade with the lemons you are handed. The twist is: you gotta find your own recipe that works for you. Can't really copy (the entire) homework from someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:43 AM
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Geez, it's like a bad written book about humans for aliens. Is common sense a lost skill? That should be a discussion subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:37 AM
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The same way christians tell the priest about their unchristian thoughts, men can hold themselves accountable for their thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 04:44 PM
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Charisma is a quality. Also seems to be fluid and subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 12:10 PM
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He definitely appeals to a certain audience.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 12:08 PM
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TIL that Hitler could be considered charismatic. I guess there can be different flavours of charismatic because to me Trump is not charismatic, he's annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 10:22 AM
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That is brainwashing, something close to hypnoyisation (lack of a better word). Also, a good chunk fall for constant rambling nonsense because it's low brain activity. When someone says complex things, you need to focus to understand and have some knowledge. Trump is easy for his followers to digest. Simple words, verbal diarrhea. For a person with a superficial mind, it looks like he says a lot, although he says nothing of substance. A small, very small minority might have a hard on for Trump, …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 09:21 AM
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Trump is no way charismatic. He's megaloman, but not charismatic. And i think you make a mistake about the "You can grab me by the pussy" shirts. Trump said "Grab her by the pussy" and naturally many people revolted because that's not a normal statement from a high profile politician. In response, female Trump appologists somehow tried to normalise the statement and wore those shirts. But the message was not literral. It was just a political stunt.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 09:10 AM
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Because to them being filtered out is the worst thing ever. So they project this on the women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 05:55 PM
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The action of lusting. So... ACCOUNTABILITY!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 03:42 PM
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Ofc you can. Why limit accountability?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 02:15 PM
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Don't care, accountability
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 02:00 PM
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aCcOuNtAbIlLiTy!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:59 PM
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He should hold himself accountable for the thoughts he has
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:58 PM
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Ow he should hold himself accountable and not lust after 20 year olds
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:12 PM
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Q.E.D.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:09 PM
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Incoming comments about "wife goggles" and bs about "ow but she will always look young in his eyes because he got her in her prime".
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 12:50 PM
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Same trait can be seen in multiple scenarios. Clumsiness is seen in virgins. Doesn't mean it's only virgins who are clumsy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 11:34 AM
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How funny they are. Men are the funny gender. Facial hair, frames their faces in a beautiful way. When they are gentle. When a man is aware of his strength and of the fragility of a woman and he just touches her like she's a porcelain doll. This just makes me melt.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 03:47 AM
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Nice try, FBI
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 08:49 PM
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I really don't get this matchy-matchy mindset. Why do people need to date other people who are alike. Some of us like the opposite. I'm skinny, but i'm into fat men. Following your logic, i should match with fellow skinny men, aka something i am really not into. It just makes no sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 06:01 PM
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women think that they can "tame" bad boys But this does happen. Just as an example: my husband. But i do agree not any women can tame any bad boy and not all bad boys can be tamed. Still, if you are into this type of men and you do tame one of these boys, it's heaven on earth. Best of both worlds.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 05:56 PM
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No, it's not obvious. This person kind of sits right in the middle.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 05:10 PM
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So no clear answer or explanation. Again. Well, i tried to ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 05:06 PM
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What do you think about this situation? Why do you think that if multiple men pin in low effort and a woman also puts in low effort, only the woman receives mean comments?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 03:41 PM
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Good cop out in order to avoid addressing my question.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 03:08 PM
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The other person said lazy and indeed, it's a factor. But i think it's not the only one. Sometimes it's skill issue, but other times it's the mood/ability of the man to relax the woman's mind. I feel like 50% of the orgasm is mental. So if the mental relaxation isn't there, no matter the attractiveness of the partner, the desire of the woman or the ability and effort of the man, the orgasm won't happen. And sometimes, the mental relaxation can't happen no matter what due to external factors (str…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:32 PM
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Me: OP made a low effort post so i reprocitated with the same level of effort. You: you missed the substance on purpose just to nitpick. I will no longer engage with your bad faith arguments. Mind you, this is the second one.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 01:30 PM
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First of all, OP doesn't even engage in his own post (so far at least). I do agree that there are often things that are pointlessly gendered, but those are in relation to generalisations. This is a particular situation that involves only a handful of people so i wouldn't rush to exclude gender being a factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 01:26 PM
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OP posts something low effort, i reply with the same level of effort, you and others don't put in more effort to see that my low effort is only due to OP's low effort, but in the end, i'm the only one who receives slightly mean comments (the use x% of your brain replies). What do you think about this situation? Why do you think that if multiple men pin in low effort and a woman also puts in low effort, only the woman receives mean comments?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 12:08 PM
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Low effort posts don't deserve high effort (using common sense when OP didn't) from my side.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 11:44 AM
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If he wanted to ask that, he would have phrased it. Maybe he intended to ask that, but didn't. So it's a bad look for OP because he created a rushed, vague post.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 11:32 AM
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I am very confused about "good in all aspects". Like extremely confused. A good partner for me is not religious. This is a dealbreaker. Also, he doesn't say anything about being charismatic or funny or extroverted. These are things that make him a good partner to me. The level of delusion is insane. Personally, i wouldn't date such a man. He's not good for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 11:30 AM
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First of all, not all women watch k dramas. So why would you think every girl is like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 11:26 AM
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We're still married
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 11:03 AM
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A sane individual will be fine
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 10:39 AM
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Agree about libido, but hard disagree about n count. Let me have my high n count man. He makes me happy, i wanna keep him forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 04:05 AM
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Why would i compare myself with another woman. Or worse, be in competition. I have my charms, my game, my charisma. Other women also have their charms in their own way. I would compare apples and oranges as their charms work better with some men and mine work better with other men. It makes no sense to overthink all of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 03:45 AM
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Clumsiness not a virgin trait... Be serious now
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:43 AM
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Again, the topic is about a man, not a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 11:49 PM
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Still not answering my repeated question
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 10:28 AM
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Ofc, being always sexual is creepy
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 10:27 AM
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How does "never getting around" looks like in practice?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 10:27 AM
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No. Lost it at 16. Married my high school sweetheart. Now i'm 36.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 10:16 AM
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This does not answer my repeated question. Just baseless accusations.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 10:16 AM
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They went to high school and haven't gotten around? Then they are not extroverted.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 10:15 AM
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I know exactly 0 guys who are like that and are virgins. So why do you think the guys you talk about are still virgins?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 10:14 AM
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Then why do you think they are still virgins? I mean, I can accept there are some outliners in my generalisation, hence why i said 90+%
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:52 AM
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Here's the thing: such a man doesn't really need to try. He's in social circles, fun to be around, a pleasant company. Trlationahips just happen without much effort or much "trying".
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:51 AM
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What part of what i said do you think is wild? I really do believe what i said, else i wouldn't have said it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:49 AM
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Ok, let's assume they are. Is any of them really really ugly, morbidly obese or has mental issues?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:44 AM
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Whu do you think it's not a consequence? Why would a funny, charming, charismatic, extroverted non religious man be a virgin after the age of 20?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:32 AM
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Why? Do you think i'm wrong with either of those things?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:31 AM
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I said my type of a man is like that. Most (90+%) of men who are like that and not religious aren't virgins past highschool. A man who is a virgin at 20+ might be one or two of those things, but it's highly unlikely that he's all of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:29 AM
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Please point where i said i want virgins to feel shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:20 AM
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Not a problem, i said even in the beginning, not a red flag. It's just not my type. Not necessarily due to virginity, but due to what stands behind the virginity. Remaining a virgin is a consequence of something. That something is not my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:19 AM
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I usually take issue when a topic is created to talk about men and men switch it to talk about women. It makes men look like they center women too much and can't live unless they tie their existence to women. Weak. But the topic is not about this either. You have any questions for me regarding the topic?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:37 AM
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Same for a woman. But the topic isn't about a woman, so let's stay on topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:28 AM
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There has to be something very very very wrong in a particular department if such a man is a virgin past the age of 20. Think mental issues, morbid obesity or really really ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:13 AM
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Unless you are able to name the issues in which men have it worse, this conversation can't continue otherwise. You choose as an example a metric in which women have it worse (DV) and then you complain i don't give men a pat on the head. Wake up, sunshine, leave the manosphere BS aside try to think yourself about an issue. Come to me with clear statements, not some vague things thrown around.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:59 AM
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The kind of man i like usually isn't a virgin past highschool. Funny, charming, charismatic, extroverted with beautiful eyes. These guys easily find relationships so they aren't virgins at ages 20+. Unless he's religious in which case i want nothing to do with him as that is a dealbraker for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:52 AM
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There is a 18.250 days dufference between the age of 20 and 70. In that time, maybe you lose half an inch in height. So throughout life, age changes a lot, while height remains roughly the same. A better comparison would be height and eye color. Both are genetic, don't change and can be a preference or even a dealbraker.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 02:59 AM
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Only if you die young
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 02:55 AM
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Sometimes you can tell because they can't hold an erection. Sure, this isn't the only reason for erection problems, but it can be a sign. Pair this with clumsyness and you kind of get your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 02:49 AM
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Height doesn't change (much) during life, but age does. Sure, we get slightly shorter as we age, but not significantly. Age however changes every year.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 02:44 AM
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I wouldn't consider it a red flag necessarily, but i wouldn't be interested in him.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 02:42 AM
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But you didn't post a fact aa that would require naming a certain area in which men are more affected plus statistics to nack that up. You just made some vague statements. Again, for the last time, it's not a victim olympics, some people have it good, some people have it bad. Kind reminder that the only reason i brought up women being killed by their partners is because you opened the pandora box of domestic abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 02:16 AM
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That is your interpretation. Perhaps if you have chosen another issue men face, we could have had a more productive discussion. But that would require critical thinking. You refuse to name any specific situation, keep things vague, but expect me to agree. It's not a victim olympics. It's disgusting to transform other people's suffering into a gotcha talking point.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 01:57 AM
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Hard agree. It's never a good idea to offer yourself on a platter.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 01:47 AM
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More like having priorities. A woman killed by her partner is a bigger priority than a man mistreated by his partner. People can mean men and women. Some people were dealt some very shitty cards. It's not a victim olympics.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 01:15 AM
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Well, idk where you live, but in my area a woman is killed almost weekly by her partner. As soon as men will be killed by their partners at the same rate, i will start donating for the cause. Until then, i'll focus on women. Some people have it worse than others. I already replied to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 11:12 PM
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Which men's issues? Give examples, be specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 09:32 PM
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Well, what do you want women to help with?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 09:21 PM
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Women spent a lot of time and effort. Men should invest the same effort. Some people have it worse than other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 07:04 PM
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Let's see: old maid, car lady, leftover women. Looks like women are also judged.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 09:08 AM
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Good relationship > single > bad relationship Life is less miserable IF it's a good relationship. Otherwise, it's more miserable than single
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 02:22 AM
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You contradict yourself. Earlier you said men can't walk away. Now they do. Good for them. After all, relationships are not a must.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 02:09 AM
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You're getting off topic here. We're talking about relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 02:00 AM
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Yes, walk away, take your business elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 01:52 AM
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You can walk away, mate. This is just a box in which you place yourself. Walk away if you're unhappy. Same for women. They can walk away. I personally walked away if i didn't see a future in that relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 10:38 AM
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That's the thing though, they're not expected. I also can't deal with a stupid man, it's another mood killer.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 02:05 AM
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Retinol, sunscreen, peptides, ceramides
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 06:53 PM
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Absolutely!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 01:39 PM
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The flirting would not resume if i was in her place.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:18 PM
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Also add charming, charismatic, funny, extroverted, fun to be around
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:17 PM
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Yes, here the wording leads to the assumption that cheating was involved, however i would also say that i used a new relationship to get out of the previous one
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 05:20 PM
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I can guess why. It boils down to tying yourself, your existence, your worth and your happiness to women. General "you".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 01:51 PM
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The post is about men, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 01:18 PM
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Could be, sure. But why deflect and talk about women when the topic is about men?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 12:53 PM
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I bought flowers for my husband. Needless to say he took pictures, posted and told everybody how happy he is that he received flowers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 12:34 PM
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I'm team "nothing past hello with an ex". With reasonable exceptions like they work for the government and you need some specific papers and they are the only one in that office. But the discussion should only be related to that paperwork.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 12:31 PM
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Cheating was not necessarily involved. I did that too for about 2 years without ever cheating. You just get out of a relationship today and find a new guy within days. Rinse and repeat. It's like finding a new thing to focus on.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 12:25 PM
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There isn't much motivation to enter a relationship with someone you find unsexy and for many women awkward is unsexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 09:23 AM
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The discussion is about the man si ofc i will refer to the things that the man lacks. I mean, how can it be put on the shoulders of the woman that the man is awkward? This isn't her awkwardness, it's his.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 02:02 AM
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In highschool, one of my bfs was THE guy, you know exactly who. Dude was my ex deskmate, he did study, didn't skip school, smoked, went to clubs. Same as me (minus clubbing which i did only in the summer). One of my classmates, a guy friend, the dude who was friendzoned the entire highschool years by another classmate/friend (quite a tri), you know the type, immediately said "Why do you like so and so? Because he's a bad boy?". He knew the guy, knew he's no trouble and yet, the bad boy label was…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 07:56 PM
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And under it i listed "lack of humor", yet you didn't jump to the conclusion that it's a disability. Nice switch from "disability" to "objectively personality type", looks like you actually understood what i listed. European here, also a preference for extroverts. It's not necessarily assumption, after all - i'm an introvert myself, it's what i find unattractive and i'm sure i'm not the only one.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 07:37 PM
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I couldn't wait to take my husband's name. It felt more...right.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 07:31 PM
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Where did i say it was?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 07:23 PM
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Yes, be yourself. Your partner should be themself. You need to genuinely like each other's company and personalities. They're not normal. They are a sign of emotional immaturity. Another sign is interpreting this as "as sign of personal fault". It's not about fault, but stating a reason in a very neutral manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 05:57 PM
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Yes, genetics, this is why black pill makes more sense if you exclude the doomerism and incel leaning ideas. Also why i firmly believe in "be yourself" because trying to mimic being extroverted will drain you and make you unhappy and others can sometimes feel that it's not genuine. A person with a good sense of humor is automatically entertaining. Because that sense of humor surfaces, doesn't collect dust in a glory box.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:11 PM
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when women try to pin a man's lack of sexual or dating success on some sort of moral failing I pinned it on autism, had a few guys melt down. I pinned it on introversion, more guys had a meltdown. I pinned it on awkwardness, more meltdowns. I pinned it on not humorous and charming, fun to be around, got accused of wanting a dance monkey + meltdowns. And i trully believe all of the above are more common reasons than moral failings.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:12 PM
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If i have to bring the crayons, i lose attraction and develop motherly feelings towards him instead of lustful feelings. Stupidity and incompetence are things that frustrate me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:06 AM
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Ofc, people need to personally know you more than at surface lvl to give proper advice
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 10:40 PM
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The account who posted the thing from the screenshot is 1month old, no other posts, barely had some interaction in their own post and someone else also called it fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 10:27 PM
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But what if the previous partner was uglier than you?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 10:25 PM
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Thank you for your answer. Would you say that a more handsome past partner would make you feel insecure?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 10:05 PM
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Genuinely curious: what if it wasn't chad, but just some average dude, just like you?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 09:45 PM
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My FIL's long term mistress who became his second wife outed him that while he was married to my husband's mother and was also with her, he left another lady pregnant. FIL couldn't say a word, turned red as a lobster. Honestly, it wouldn't shock me if there was a 4th woman at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 08:53 PM
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So you do acknowledge this is not the norm. I am an average woman. I didn't settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 08:43 PM
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Check again, dude. Big is out of style, ozempic/heroin chick is back again.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 08:39 PM
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People here think BP is just silly talking. It's just the sane part of the RP.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 07:58 PM
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Even the answers in that thread show you it's not the norm. And another person called it fake in the comments. Are you even reading the comments?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 07:46 PM
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No, but the post is fake. The other women have a more genuine approach. Also, there very few and state that the relationship is over (as it should have never happened). I want to stress that this is not the norm, neither is it encouraged.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 07:31 PM
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Hmm, a link for a common trope subject, posted by a new account, without any other posts or comments. Low quality bait
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 05:25 PM
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This is just disgusting, honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 05:12 PM
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Now this is just bitter gibberish
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 04:59 PM
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Some of these women already do this. You think passport bros' wives are with them for love? Ha ha
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 04:23 PM
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I am one of the people from these days. My husband is irreplaceable.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 04:22 PM
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"learn" has a lot of pull and you keep diminishing it's importance
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 02:28 PM
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I am dead serious. Take a QA Engineer position. An employee leaves today, the company can find a replacement with similar experience and skills by next week. Your partner however is that special person, who you have a connection with, you two rhyme together, finish each other's sentences, have your intimate moments and pillow talks. You can't just put another random person there and pretend it's the same vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 02:27 PM
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But the value of that diamond when it's cut to it's best shape has nothing to do with the mine when worn on a piece of jewelery
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 02:17 PM
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*to learn how to work on yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 02:16 PM
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Employees are interchangeable. Partners aren't
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 02:15 PM
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While i agree that finding the right practitioner is a task of it's own, saying that it doesn't work on almost anyone is far, far from the truth. I mean, you can find positive result stories even on reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 11:49 AM
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Therapy can only work for open minded people or who try to be open minded. And even then, it's not a guarantee or cure-all pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 10:35 AM
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Jobs are different from relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 09:31 AM
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People can learn to accept many things. Not all people, not all things perhaps. But it is worth a try. Who knows, it might help. Or make it easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 08:13 AM
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It may help you accept you won't (ever) get dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 07:06 AM
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I don't think i can even remember, but i think it's between 10-15.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 04:36 AM
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I keep saying this: with the right person, it's effortless, conversation flows, time flies.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 01:51 PM
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I didn't blame, i simply didn't date them. And the issue is not the lack of experience per se, but certain traits that don't turn me on. For example, i prefer funny, charming, charismatic bad boys who are family oriented. Such a guy doesn't really have issues finding a woman. Not because he has experience, but because they are a weird combination of fun and stable that has it's own magnetic charm.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 02:00 AM
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What do you bring to the table??? Hmm? HMMM??
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 02:53 PM
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N count 3, no regrets
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 02:45 PM
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I said i like funny, charismatic, extroverted men and a few guys had a meltdown. What do you think about this situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 01:27 PM
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I don't like flowers, but i still suggest them. Other women like them, so it's a good idea to mention them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 11:32 AM
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I have enough life experience to know a fool when he's talking to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 06:45 AM
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That wasn't neutral dude. If you wanted to be neutral and commented that, then you have severe communications issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 02:13 AM
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I was told that my husband is a beta i settled for, but also a chad. That i will cheat on him, but also that he will cheat on me. The narrative bends in order to create a comfortable lie so they can sleep at night.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 02:10 AM
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N count of 3: classmate summer camp common acquaintance
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 02:48 AM
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You might need to reread my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 11:41 AM
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Nothing really to deal with, he's a great friend. We tried to let him know that he'll lose great women because he can't have a spine, it's up to him to take action.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 11:00 AM
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Sure, after about 30 years of friendship...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 10:38 AM
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Hard disagree. We have a close friend and we never would have guessed he's a mamma's boy when in a relationship. Because his mom doesn't get involved in his friendships, but gets involved and keeps him under her shoe when it comes to his romantic relationships. Which makes him a great friend and a very shitty partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 10:29 AM
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Not a choice
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 06:40 PM
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Unsexy hobbies: cars, hunting, extreme sports, collecting, reading, writing Sexy hobbies: gaming, dj These are just from the top of my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 02:14 AM
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Ow, i'm into men, sir. I'm very much into men. But i find boring guys unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 12:53 AM
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Literally, like that is not a subject for a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 12:52 AM
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Chad also has to. Looks alone don't keep me warm
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 06:31 PM
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Why 50-50 and not pool all the money and join finances? I prefer the joint finances.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 02:33 AM
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So... a podcast.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 06:32 PM
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Where do you hear that phrase? On the street, in the family, at the workplace, in a podcast?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 05:15 PM
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And that actually happens quite often. They meet, they vibe, they hit it off, now they're married.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 03:38 PM
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I never had sex a second time with the same guy if I didn't have an orgasm the first time. Except my first time because i knew it was supposed to be crappy and i just wanted to get off already.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 12:33 AM
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A hug from my husband feels different from a hug from a friend. More intimate, more cozy. I guess we just complement each other. He's my favourite person in the world. Sex is amazing as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 04:02 PM
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Myself and most low n women i know prefer high n count men. Culture difference perhaps
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 03:57 PM
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Mine is low, but prefer men with high n count.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 03:52 PM
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This screams NiceGuy behaviour. "I was nice, i did homework for them, where relationship". Yes, you were nice, but you weren't seductive. Nice doesn't build attraction, being seductive does. That is the game.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 10:10 PM
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Wtf is this fantasy? NO!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 02:30 AM
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I married my highschool sweetheart. Orgasms aren't emotionally connected.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 07:28 PM
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0 - it's a dealbreaker, i hate it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 02:23 AM
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Ofc to me. I have no problem talking as well, but i can't always be around. When i'm not, i need him to be there.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 11:21 AM
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Shy men make bad partners for relationships. What if we renovate or build a house and i need him to talk to the construction crew that the wall isn't straight or the floor isn't flat. The workers are gonna laugh in his shy face if he isn't assertive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 09:02 AM
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So, what's the debate? This is more like a rant.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 01:05 PM
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And an AI wrote that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 03:46 PM
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Thank you! I saved your recipe
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 08:51 AM
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I NEED that brownie recipe. Please post complete instructions
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 01:36 AM
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Patience comes with degrees, like a grey scale. One can learn from the other to be patient. The patient one has patience with the impatient one and also can grab the tasks that require more patience. They complement each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 05:47 PM
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Someone patient can be with someone impatient.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 08:45 AM
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I see it sometimes as a revenge fantasy, some moralisation of life, see you were noughty, now you don't have a husband. Or a scare tactic. Or projection of their own fears.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 06:44 PM
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Ofc, any bad guy is a good guy in someone else's story
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 06:31 PM
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But you fuck a donkey once...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 10:11 AM
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Any person can be the bad guy in someone else's story. Humans are not perfect. Good people can have their AH moments.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 10:11 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 11:15 PM
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Because he's masculine, fun and has life experience. Bad boys can have manners. They can play by the rules or at least pretend to do so. And if you manage to tame one, you hit jackpot. Best of both worlds. A man who's street smart, academically smart, respects you, loyal, will put in effort for the family. But you really need to be a good judge of character, and he must also be one. If life goals match, you're good for life with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 04:54 AM
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Tell this to the men who moan that sex is a need.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 10:36 AM
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Those women have a libido closer to an average man. Are men functioning like a junkie and are they low IQ? Because i'd say no.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 10:18 AM
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Those women have a high libido and need to get off. A dick is warmer than a dildo.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 10:13 AM
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Sir, you have a healthy way of seeing life, nuance and humans. I kept reading your comments, they're always solid.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 10:12 AM
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Chicken or egg. I prefer men with charm, charisma, humor, extroverted, social butterflies. Such a man usually has prior relationships and may have a highee bc. Si it's not the n count per se, but it just happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 10:07 AM
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And anyone can have their preference
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 10:04 AM
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Each one of us needs to find their way, solve their issues and fix their lives
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 10:04 AM
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Whoever picks a partner based on statistics either has autism, has very little life experience or is very shut in
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:30 AM
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Anyone can have any preference they want. I'm not attacking anyone's preference. But what i am discussing is what's behind a preference. In this case, it's mostly insecurity
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:28 AM
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They fear low commitment when it's not even a rule that high bc people have low commitment. I had low commitment as a virgin and as a bc of 1. They also think people act according to statistics. People are complex and fit in different statistics. Might score high in one and low in another. My example: low commitment, bc of 0 (at that time).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:26 AM
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Ow, anyone can have a meltdown. But denying having a meltdown while having a meltdown is cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:19 AM
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It depends why that bc is low. Is it because he had the opportunity and didn't want to? Or because ge wanted to, but he didn't have the opportunity?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:18 AM
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They don't care already. They point out the insecurity and men have a meltdown
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:11 AM
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Alex. I'm a sucker for bed hair, hoodies, shorts are fine, but i prefer grey swatpants, i'm good with finance as i have a college degree in finance What i deeply dislike: fit (i like my men more on the prosciutto side), male grooming as in hair done, perfect beard etc. And what i truly hate is men's business attire and styled clothes
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:10 AM
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They know about their n count and don't care about someone judging them
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:02 AM
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Then they should own their insecurity and not have a meltdown when they are called insecure
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:00 AM
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My bc is 3 and i still think men like this are insecure
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 08:57 AM
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Sir, it's a defect that is surgically corrected by doctors. Ask any dentist if that jaw is ok. And i'm not talking about the aesthetic, i'm talking about the functionality aspect.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 11:51 PM
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Apart from tall, i only dated and had sex with such men. My n count is 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 11:45 PM
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I only had sex in a relationship and had relationships only with high n coujt men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 06:40 PM
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Yes in some aspects and no in other aspects.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 09:14 AM
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Why? I don't fit the hive mind?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 08:55 AM
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My father tried this as well. I ignored him and dated anyway. My parents know if only one bf, now husband. But there were many others in the past. I also developed a taste in men that are the opposite of my father.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 08:01 AM
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Lmao, i saw the meltdown in the comments. Stopped replying because the dudes were too emotional. Now this... A delusional person believes things that aren't true. But her marriage and children are very very true. The point is, you never know which person is delusional and who actually hits the jackpot. And you'll look like a clown for saying they were delusional
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 07:14 AM
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Girl, speak for yourself. All the guys i slept with are high n count, including my husband. I didn't keep myself low n count for a virgin man or one with n count 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 12:30 AM
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No, that should make the hater realise they eat shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 12:08 AM
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Either way, she got what she wanted. And could laugh in the face of anyone who thinks she was delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 11:03 PM
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Is your mom’s maiden name better than the name you got from your dad? Yes. And then i took my husband's name which is the funniest name i've heard irl. My grandmother had high blood pressure from laughing when she found out the name. I see people try to hold their laughter when i introduce myself. Nobody forgets us and it becomes useful in certain situations. I love it!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 09:50 PM
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I think they would look like clowns. "Nooo, you're going to lose all your money" sounds dumb when they actually won a lot of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 09:22 PM
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But was she delusional since she got what she wanted?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 09:21 PM
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But was she delisional as long as she got what she wanted?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 09:21 PM
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Real life events don't give a shit about statistics. Who tf falls in love based on statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 07:04 PM
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Yet, if i had told her she is delusional, i'd look like a clown.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 05:44 PM
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Ok, so i have this friend and she genuinely likes a guy with money. Big money, not some programmer money. I'm talking about investor money, enough to buy a yacht. Also, she liked them older, some 5-10 years age gap. But he must not look old. And she is 6' and wanted a guy way taller than her. She's a bit overweight, can have babies only through IVF because she lost an ovary after a miscarriage and isn't the type to tolerate bs. She worked as a careiver for an old couple and abandoned college. No…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 03:18 PM
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I see "The One" as a close match and a faith thing. And i do believe in The One.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 10:58 AM
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I don't snitch because i deeply dislike his wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 12:57 AM
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Your audience is 16-18. Not 21-23.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 09:01 AM
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Yes, that is usually called a sugar baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 08:56 AM
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How old are you and what is your longest relationship so far?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 08:44 AM
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Doesn't complain about chad. Isn't obsessed that women are after money he doesn't have
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 12:40 AM
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Ow, i agreed with you that perhaps 10% of big age gap relationships are based on love. But 10% is nowhere near common in my registry. The rest is just personal fantasy
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 12:25 AM
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"i purposely picked a big ass % range so i can cling on plausible deniability". More like less than 10% of big age gap relationships are based on love and not some sort of taking advantage of a naive woman or transactional looks for money
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 11:31 PM
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Many couples have mixed finances and have a shared account. Men who are so concerned that women are after their money can set this straight from the beginning and propose 50-50 on bills, rent and what not. But almost no 25 year old will accept such a money arrangement.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 11:30 PM
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So, the broke 25 year olds go for a 40 year old's money.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:57 PM
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Again with tge paranoia. If you think every woman is out there to get your money, i have bad news for you. Statistics about women being breadwinners or on the same financial level as their partner are linked here at least weekly. Still, you spout the same bs.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:56 PM
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What is common to you? The meaning of the word. Because to me, common is like 40%. Not a majority so i can't say "most". But a significant minority that is close to almost half. To me, your message reads as: 40% of big age gap relationships are based on love.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:52 PM
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Tuen you Re too far removed from nuance and reality. A 40 year old financially stable woman doesn't need a man for his money. She gets with him if she really likes him
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:49 PM
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Do you know this for sure? Or is it paranoia. If she works, has a roof above her head and a deposit for emergencies, she's not after his money.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:45 PM
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Yes, i live in reality. I also understand nuance, odd cases and the need to protect a fantasy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:44 PM
3

Not necessarely. These are usually 2 main cases here and some oddities. Case 1: she seems naive, can't hold boundaries, then he looks like a groomer Case 2: she seems like she knows how to work him and squeeze money, then it looks transactional. Like an escort with only one client. He knows she's there foe the money, else he's very very naive. And the oddities where things simply happened like that, there is true love in that relationship, she doesn't seem naive and can hold boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:42 PM
3

Geez, do you live in an arab country? Or somewhere where they practice arranged marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:36 PM
5

...and who has money. They don't go for homeless 40 year old men. Neither for struggling with debt men
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:35 PM
4

My apologies! Hanging or not, be proud of your family jewels 👑
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:34 PM
3

You don't, that's the point. Those are really odd exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:33 PM
4

A 40 year old woman is his age. In 25 years old's language, she is also an old fart. But 40 years old is not old in a 40 years old's person.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:31 PM
1

Some people need to hear the undiluted truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:29 PM
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Because 25 year olds don't have much in common with 40 year olds, dude. Usually, 25 year olds see 40 year olds as "old". And 25 year old women usually want to hang out with their peers, not some old fart. Want a youthful body beside them, not hanging balls.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:18 PM
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Me: shy men You: nOt AlL mEn Men lead. But not shy, meek men who are insecure. Those are born FA.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 03:53 PM
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Ow, no no no. It's about the ones who think they can 1 on 1 close combat a burglar.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 03:15 PM
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I can't wrap my head around shy men dreaming to be leaders. Bro, you're riddled with anxiety and can't ask for extra napkins. You want to lead what exactly? It's in the same vein with skinny short men who want to "protect".
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 02:17 PM
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It said comment deleted when i tried to reply. I wanted to say that you are awfully concerned about my relationship with my husband. It starts to look odd. Edit: your comments don't show up again.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:17 AM
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Ow, you don't need to worry about us. Edit: either OP deleted his last comment or he blocked me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 09:55 AM
7

Cool. So you can keep your ideas and i can keep my husband and our sex life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 08:49 AM
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It wasn't advice. Kind reminder that advice is not permitted on this sub. Please see sub rules. It was an explanation with a few examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 08:48 AM
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A normal guy doesn't need a checklist. Nor did i state that there needs to be only this checklist for a relationship to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 08:40 AM
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And a perfect example of "(some) men don't listen" Why even ask if you're going to say "nuh, uh"? And i believe i know a thing or 2 considering i'm in a happy relationship for 17+ years. Relationship and sex are separate, but intertwine. Hence the answers are complex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 08:39 AM
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"I didn't formulate my question correctly so now i am mad that you didn't understand what was implied". This is such a low effort post. And for the guys with the same mind set, i think it just shows not only how you don't understand women, but how you don't even listen to women when they say state their views. Also shows how far removed from reality you guys are. And how you don't comprehend the entirety of a happy, healthy relatiomship. Or a happy, healthy sex life. What makes a relationship wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 07:45 AM
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The humor. It's just different from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 08:21 PM
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I honestly think it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 02:38 PM
1

How is a foreign student related to effort in dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 03:33 PM
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My parents worked hard to raise me and give me a house so i don't end up in this situation. I also studied hard so i don't end up in this situation. I don't think i could do it. I am grateful for what i have.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 03:31 PM
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Yes, i ignore off topic noise.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 03:21 PM
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That has nothing to do with effort
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 03:13 PM
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Sir, a man meets a new woman. They talk, they flirt, etc. The amount of effort put in for the flirting, talking etc is "x". Both of them do this, which means both invest "x" amount of effort. What the man does more is ask her on a date. It takes 10 seconds. So woman invests "x" amount of effort. Man invests "x+10 seconds" amount of effort. Is it more work? Yes, 10 seconds more. Do men want a statue for this?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 02:38 PM
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Well, they have to talk to each other first. So man talks, woman talks. Man flirts, woman flirts. It's the same effort up until the 20 seconds it takes for thr man to say "hey, want to grab a coffee some time?" That is all the extra effort that a man does until the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 12:56 PM
1

I don't push for diversity. Let the best candidate win. And the job i could get is in stem. After graduating a male dominated college.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 12:30 PM
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You didn't explain why you think this
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 11:42 AM
1

The job provides money. The money provides food and shelter
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 11:41 AM
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Nuh-uh is a low effort answer
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 09:25 AM
2

And you think that makes it a base in order for them to feel personally attacked? Look, i am just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 09:25 AM
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Very very unlikely. And in order to do that, the man has to be tall and strong. If protecting really is such a big effort in relationships, then men should naturally understand why tall and muscular and assertive are preferred. But even short and skinny men say that they can protect. If the ribber is much larger and taller, the skinny guy is going to be beaten the crap out of. Why do you think men unfit for a fight still think they can provide protection? I think I have a better scenario where t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 09:24 AM
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They may or may or may not or may at a different degree. But we talk about men so let's keep it that way. Why do men feel personally attacked when left alone?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 09:13 AM
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That is a personal choice. A sad and tragic one, but a personal choice none the less. The discussion is about men. Let's keep it that way
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 09:11 AM
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I didn't ask about women. I asked about men. Please stay on the subject and don't derail.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 09:09 AM
1

What threats. Let's see a scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 09:07 AM
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Let's talk about real world, not fantasy. Aleo, i'd like to hear from OP
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 09:06 AM
1

By who? Atracked by who? Are women randomly clawing each other in the streets?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 08:59 AM
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Money is needed to survive. A woman is not needed for a man to survive. Wrong equivalency. But it still doesn't answer my question. Why is it like a personal attack? The man is literally left alone, nothing is done to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 08:56 AM
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Why do men feel somewhat attacked if women don't even think about them?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 08:49 AM
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So it's just some hypothetical. Not something you will actually do if the situation never arises. And how does the man do this protection? What action does he take?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 08:47 AM
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Example? Who exactly? Or who do you think is more likely/common?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 08:39 AM
1

Protect from who?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 08:32 AM
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As i said: men chicken out when i ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 08:21 AM
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Who is that, sir?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 08:14 AM
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Protect from what? I'd rather address just this one at the moment because each time i asked, the man chickened out.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 08:06 AM
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For the last time: you, general you. English language is confusing since you guys use "you" for both singular and plural. So, men do 3 extra things compared to women: ask on the first date, initiate sex and propose. Women do 3 extra things compared to men: carry a pregnancy, give birth and breastfeed. And that can be multiple times if they have multiple children. The rest is the same: he flirts, she flirts. He organizes dates, she organizes dates. He works, she works. He plans vacations, she pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 07:44 AM
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I spoke in general, but you insist otherwise. You are emotional because the debate is about effort, not if men have it harder. You derailed .
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 07:33 AM
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No, i deemed you're too emotional to debate and transformed it into an oppression olympic.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 07:25 AM
1

Sir, this is not the oppression olympics.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 07:20 AM
1

Same
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 07:02 AM
1

It was about the general "you,"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 06:38 AM
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The child free community is small. You'll be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 06:17 AM
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It is, by extension, a favor for the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 06:10 AM
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There is no other way for the man to get a child that is his. Don't men also want a child?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 05:42 AM
1

You ask each woman only once. For her, you did the 10 seconds effort once. Sir, if you are childfree, i advise to be transparent and have a vasectomy
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 12:49 AM
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2 women, 10 seconds each, that's 20 seconds Cool, it's a big deal. And if she goes on a date with you and you hit it off and get married, it's a big chance she's going to carry your child for 9 months and go through child birth. Now THAT is a big deal. 10 seconds to ask her on a date is a small price for a lottery ticket
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 11:32 PM
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I see it as effort when the man tried to get to know me. Idk what scenario you made into your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 11:24 PM
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It's just one extra thing that you do compared to what the woman does. One. And it takes 20 seconds to ask someone on a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 11:23 PM
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I think men's mental health is more destigmatised than ever. Not completely as there are some people who still frown upon mental help for men, but i hope we will get there. Still, this is not the topic of this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 11:22 PM
1

These are different women. Why mix what you did yesterday with a woman with what you did today with a different woman. In total, still, 20 seconds extra of effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 11:07 PM
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It takes time, yes. Investing time is effort
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 11:06 PM
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I prefer to keep a few. I love baking for my husband. I feel feminine and love goes through the stomach with this one. And i see initiation as masculine so i left it to the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 11:05 PM
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If she's needs that much convincing, she's not into you. If she plays games, remove yourself from the situation
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 09:04 PM
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Some people deny men's hardships, some people deny women's hardships. The key is to use common sense
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 08:44 PM
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It's 10 seconds of "want to grab a coffee some time?"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 08:34 PM
1

No worries. I do believe dating is a tango and both should work for it and not take the other one for granted.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 08:27 PM
1

He did it as well. I did it also. We both did it. Dating is a tango.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 08:19 PM
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Women do the same thing a man does minus the asking out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 08:19 PM
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No, because it's unfeminine and i don't offer myself on a platter. I've always been very selective about men, especially the ones i have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:45 PM
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That's masculinity, not vulnerability. The 10 seconds it takes to ask out a woman aren't the equivalent of decads of chores and mental load.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:20 PM
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I don't do it because i don't offer myself on a platter. It's unfeminine imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:19 PM
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They do the same thing a woman does + the 10 seconds it takes to ask on a date. Such effort...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:14 PM
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Haven't you ever seen a woman trying to get a guy on a hook?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:07 PM
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You may not be on a date. You may be in a social setting and happen to meet a new person. This is before the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:05 PM
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Not the point of my comment. Effort is done by both sides. Dating is a tango
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:03 PM
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That is not lady game. Haven't you ever seen a woman doing things to get a man in the hook?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:02 PM
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Apart from the first move, i've done all the other efforts.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:00 PM
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If that's what women do with you, i get it that you get the wrong impression of what lady game is. You'll know it when you'll see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 04:41 PM
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Effort doesn't mean just approach. Effort is also flirting, lady game, asking questions, holding conversation, actively listening, getting to know the other person. Edit: makeup and nails are for myself, not for a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 04:37 PM
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Luckly, i even met great grandparents and know a lot about previous generations as well. If my son would get my great grandmother's humor, he's going to be fine. My grandfather got it and the guy was very loved, social and hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:23 PM
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The further generations back he'd enherit, the better. Blue eyes, green eyes, tall, head full of hair, extroverted, lady's man, humorous.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:18 PM
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🤦 that's rich considering you can't post a statistic you uourself cited. Waste of time
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:17 PM
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If he'll take 4+ generations ago, he's going to be 6'5" with blue eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:16 PM
1

Sir, if you had any relevant proof, you would have posted it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:01 PM
1

Who tf was shy in my family? Nobody, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:01 PM
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So, no proof. Got it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 02:01 PM
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The burden to provide data is on the one who mentions it. I'm not doing your job.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:27 PM
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I can't wrap my head around "but if she is attracted...". I only had sex in a relationship and i wouldn't have had a relationship with a guy i wasn't attracted to. But sex always came a few weeks later.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:22 PM
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I do not need to provide a source Yeah... Enough said
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:06 PM
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