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nadasurfingusa/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 08:22 AM
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Haha, if that’s the case…I guess that’s why I’m here. I’m trying to improve in that regard 🙃
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 07:46 PM
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I really like this perspective. At the same time, I am concerned how I would be perceived (I think that’s natural in early dating) by asking him why he isn’t up for planning this (he could easily default by saying he’s busy with work - which doesn’t give me any new info) & I am not sure how to word my question without coming across as accusatory that he’s just looking for sex…🤦🏽‍♀️ Any ideas are welcome
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 03:43 PM
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Thank you for your perspective 🙏🏼 Agreed that I should go into this with my eyes open about this behavior not changing I was leaning towards giving him the benefit of the doubt here, after reading majority of the responses
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 03:27 PM
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Why do you say that? (Genuinely trying to understand)
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 03:24 PM
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I’m definitely interested in your summary/link to key posts. I would appreciate that so much! 🙏🏼 While I already like this guy, I’m realizing it’s a bit of my trial/error & training wheel period with RPW theory. I’m so grateful to reached out to this sub - everyone has given me such a positive/different way to look at this situation!
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 10:49 AM
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Very cool advice. Thank you! I will definitely try to get to know his preferences better.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 10:17 AM
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Great points…I’m definitely up for the challenge to dazzle him I’m relatively new to RPW theory (this is the first relationship that I’m really trying to put this into play). This might be strange to ask…but is there a relationship milestone to hit before women “give sex”? For example, do I wait until I feel he is committed?
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 10:14 AM
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Fair. I think he’s also not really familiar with the city we live in…he’s so busy with work. He asked me, “Are there comedy shows here?” I thought he was messing with me…we live in a very dense metro area where there is probably a show every night…but maybe he’s just too occupied with work to even notice what’s here
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 10:07 AM
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Lol. I have that risk too on my side I guess 😂 He could hate what venue/comic I choose lol
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 10:03 AM
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Awww. This is the most positive interpretation of this set of events that I could’ve hoped to understand. Thank you so much for sharing your perspective 🙏🏼 Yeah the total irony here is that I also don’t mind planning stuff. I guess I was feeling a bit too tied to traditional gender roles here & wanting to feel courted by him…it’s nice to be led for a change (for me), but I also can appreciate that he’s leading a lot in his business.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 10:01 AM
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Thank you for your response. Could you clarify what you mean by “ask what is acceptable to him and what is not”? I’m not clear what context you are referring to (the date on Saturday or his standards for women/relationships in general)?
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 09:54 AM
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Great point. Thank you 🙏🏼 I guess I was feeling stuck on gender roles, which made me feel like I should be courted at this stage (first date)
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 09:42 AM
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Lol that’s literally what he said, “anything you want to do, baby”. I guess I took that as “low effort” & him being only interested in sex perhaps - instead of being thoughtful/considerate We met on Sunday & then he texted me tonight to make plans for Saturday - which also felt a bit last min to me & I felt like I’m an afterthought I guess what I’m re-learning here is that my mind is going to interpret these instances in a negative lens unless I really try to see him in the best light (which is …
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 09:16 AM
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Good point on the “settling in” the relationship, at that point it’s more Netflix & chill haha. I think my ego was just hurt a bit, which is why I came to Reddit to gut check. Thanks for letting me share & for your perspective 🙏🏼
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 09:13 AM
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I appreciate your thoughts. I had the same sentiment occur to me, in that this is indicative of the tone of the relationship most likely… Also, I just edited the first paragraph of my post slightly. He asked me if I wanted to “do something on Saturday”, he agreed to the comedy show idea, now all that’s left is choosing a show/venue (we live in a big city where there are plenty of options). I’m torn both ways - deep down I really don’t mind choosing something for us to do & he’s someone I definit…
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 09:09 AM
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I guess I was expecting a little effort in planning…it’s our first date
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 08:49 AM
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