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You are on TRT, of course you have no LH and FHS.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/24 08:34 AM
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Is your plan to just inject whatever amount of hormones an internet stranger tells you to? There is nothing wrong with asking and incorporating that information into your decision making but there is something wrong with asking and mindlessly doing what someone says. This applies to your whole post… I know because I do it too.
/r/askMRP06/05/22 07:08 AM
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Year 2 - OYS 13: Mid 30’s, 6’ 192b, Separated, one kid under 5 yrs (with ex) current partner 1.5yrs. Physical: Went away for a few days this week and planed to eat/drink whatever I wanted. I was surprised how much weight I put on with hiking and skipping some meals – I’m assuming it’s mostly water weight. Will cut over next few days and back to my plan of 184-ish lb and then reassess. Still working BP (187lb)and DL (231) back up. Court: I’m doing what I need to do and things are slowly moving mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 10:20 AM
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Thanks for bringing it up. I have a few things to write about but I wanted to spend a few more days figuring it out myself. Actually your OYS this week was very relevant for me, depending where I get before next week I might DM you.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 11:08 AM
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Awesome book, on my second read through.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 11:05 AM
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Year 2 - OYS 12: Mid 30’s, 6’ 188b, BF~14%, Separated, one kid under 5 yrs (with ex) current partner 1.5yrs. Physical: my AC joint is taking longer to heal than I would like although I have been doing kickboxing so that’s not surprising really. I am easing back into compound movements (BP 175*5 and DL 220*5). Surprisingly DL hurts it the most and so I have switched to RDL which seems to be better.I have had ongoing (since early teens) knee pain and have tried a lot of things to fix this. I have …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 08:39 AM
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Year 2 - OYS 12: Mid 30’s, 6’ 189lb, BF ~14%, Separated, one kid under 5 yrs (with ex) current partner 1.5yrs. Busy week with court and getting sick. Focused on: STFU – had a lot of opportunity for this Calories – fucked up at start of the week but brought it back for 1lb loss Winning in court. While things have been a bit of a grind this week it has been good to have a clear focus and to be moving towards what I want. I would like to deal with the stress of court better but I also think I am de…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 09:39 AM
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Fix that and then worry about the sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 10:41 AM
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I started at 2500 then reduced by 100 over time. See what works for you. Depends how long you want it to take, how much exercise you are doing and how scared you are of losing muscle.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 10:05 AM
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Are you fat?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 09:51 AM
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My current plan is to Gym exercise 2x times per week, 2x times running and 2x times do exercise to strengthen my core. Lifting 3+ X per week is better. Don't waste your time with core stuff. When I have needed flexibility I look at the whole week in terms of what I need to get in and just start fitting whatever lifting or HIIT I can when I can. 2600 calories seems high, I'm bigger than you and eating 2000. SGM is good, but be careful going too hard too soon with it. Or don't either-way.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 09:44 AM
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Year 2 - OYS 11: Mid 30’s, 6’ 190b, BF ~14%, Separated, one kid under 5 yrs (with ex) current partner 1.5yrs. Focus Areas: Do everything I need to do to put myself in the best possible position for court. Cut to 187lb and reassess how I look. <2000 calories Train 1lb protein per lb bw Deliver successful project at work. Enjoy life – there is no destination and this is the only time I get. Physical: Slowly cutting, focusing on KOT program and knees have never felt better hit 7*10 VMO squats with …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 09:33 AM
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Squats, I phrased that badly. I'm doing body weight (and assisted) full depth and working up from there. Also, doing split squats, reverse step-ups and reverse nordics. Will keep reporting how I'm going with the full ROM squats as an indicator rather than trying to add ego weight. I look 15-18%. Bicep vein, abs show but not cut. Currently cutting. Yeah as you pointed out above, nothing to lose really. Just the same old me avoiding conversations I don't want to have. Also, when she says stuff lik…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 09:52 PM
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I will leave if this doesn't turn into something I want. Dating other woman isn't something I want to do covertly as it's just more stress and also I don't want to hurt people. If I want non-monogomy I'll just do that openly and women can participate or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 08:42 PM
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Agree. That's why I needed to make up reasons for failure rather than just accepting it for what it was and moving on. Exercise if basically a guaranteed life improver.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 08:40 PM
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I think it's too much when I'm a retard and basically make it an overt threat to any situation I don't like because (1) she is constantly on edge and it makes her less fun/sexual to be around and (2) it allows me to avoid facing my own ego and accepting that life is not in my control. Having said that, something I thought about this week was actually something you said to me a while ago - maybe I just want something else.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 08:38 PM
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Fuck, the amount of mental energy I waste thinking about how I feel about what I'm doing vs just doing or not doing it... And absolutely do not stay who you are and bitch about the results. AKA the past year for me... I am trying to figure this effort thing out. I get bored of putting in the work and think it would be easier and more fun just to be with a new woman. I have known this for a while and I might go down that road but one of the things that's stopping me is that I just keep running in…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 08:35 PM
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So where'd you fuck up? I'm trying to figure this out. Here are my initial thoughts: Moving in in the first place. Having said that, I didn't know how it would go and decided to try it, if it doesn't work (it's currently not) I'll leave. I'm still a retard - getting angry she masturbated! DEERing, not STFU etc. Making it very clear I find her comfort seeking annoying. Me being shit to be around. I have been very irritable etc. LARPing that I think is easier to see through while living together. …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 08:24 PM
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Year 2 - OYS 10: Mid 30’s, 6’ 195b, BF~12% (cheap callipers), Separated, one kid under 5 yrs (with ex) current partner 1.5yrs. My retard of the week: after a few days of no sex and rejecting my initiations she tells me she masturbated and I said ‘what the fuck, you masturbate but you wont fuck me’. Physical: Slowly increasing weight on compound movements. More trying to find current pain free max rather than building strength. No movement on weight have started tracking calories. Aiming for 2500…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 08:52 AM
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Thanks just ordered some. Re squat, the bones in my knee are not the right shape so I will likely always have issues. For me, my priority is being able to do the things I want into old age with minimal pain rather than either no pain or max squat. I'm also doing the knees over toes program so have a day of reverse nordics, step ups, split squats and assisted VMO squats. I'm going to keep with ROM I am currently using and periodically lower the weight and try increasing. Thanks for the input.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/22 09:22 PM
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Thanks appreciate it. Had a massive win, judge is on my side and asked all the 'experts' involved to turn the microscope on the mother. But important bit is as you say, to just keep focusing on what I can do.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/22 09:16 PM
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100% protection measure - how am I valid without it etc. It's been interesting seeing how much of my life is based on protecting an image I have of myself, especially seeing as nobody else cares about that image.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 09:16 PM
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Thanks, the 'good' comment really is me, I'm very outcome focused and really all I can do is focus on my effort, my plan for court atm is 'do the work' hopefully this will keep me focused on what I can do more than what is happening to me. Re court - I won't go into more detail to avoid any legal risk. I agree re the whining, I'm looking to fix the emotions I think, part of me knows that there is no 'fix' to these and so I'm not sure why I'm posting about it. At the end of the day it doesn't act…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 08:55 PM
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Genuinely asking for clarity here - this doesn't look like an covert contract to me. More that it's something I really care about and was doing well in and was important to me. I staked some of my identify in 'being a good dad' but I never expected the court not to fuck me over because of that. It just hurts more because I put a lot of effort into it and it's potentially being taken away. What am I not seeing?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 08:49 PM
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A bad cycle I have seen a few people go through is (1) be pretty good at school/sports (2) get validation for being good (3) think your value lies in being good (4) try to avoid failing at anything (5) end up as me where you avoid putting yourself in situation where you might fail rather then trying to win.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 08:46 PM
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Year 2 - OYS 9: Mid 30’s, 6’ 195b, BF~12% (cheap callipers), Separated, one kid under 5 yrs (with ex) current partner 1.5yrs. Physical: Knees Over Toes program 4 times (did not do one day) and slowly adding compound lifts back in. DL 240*5 - aggravated planta fasciitis so will be careful on this. Squat 155*5 - felt good IF I kept it just above parallel. Going below parallel hurts even with BW so focusing on KOT exercises for full range of motion and slowly increasing ROM with full squat. Filming…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 08:56 AM
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I experimented with this, this week. You are right. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/22 08:56 PM
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Are you me? I'm literally about to post about not getting full squat depth but with 155...
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/22 08:55 PM
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Yeah that's a really good point re stopping and something I need to keep in mind. Thanks. Chins - to be honest, I'm not sure I can tell if it's ego or not. I think form is good and I do like doing heavy chins but knowing that I'll post the numbers here definitely has an effect on my motivation for doing them. Appreciate you taking the time to point this out considering it's something I'm going to have to work on and clearly can't see myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 04:37 AM
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There is a lot in here for me and I will spend some time thinking on it. I see how I had to defend myself and you are right I would be looking for validation if I wasn't in this situation. I literally typed in another comment how I was worried what Zen would think - now that I think back this has been pointed out over and over. Is there anything you did in particular to help re the ego? I'm assuming just the normal 'program'. Re kids, man no idea - to be honest I don't want to change it right no…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 04:31 AM
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Oneitise for his kids - sounds a lot like me. I'll have a read.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 10:04 PM
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Thanks this is really helpful. The perfect form thing is an issue, there are plenty of times when I know I should stop and I try 'just an extra 10lb'. Also, I think getting the reps in rather then just pushing the weight up will be a good tool for me. Re injury free - I like that. I have managed to get almost pain free but it had meant not lifting so it's something I need to balance. Currently adding squat, DL, bench and weighed chins back in (just 1-2 times per week) and going to focus on form …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 08:54 PM
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Yeah I actually realized that this week. I thought because I didn't get defensive and that I could temporarily detach and see how some ideas applied to me that I didn't have a massive ego but there is a difference between being obnoxiously defensive and having a fragile ego that you are protecting. I am obviously holding onto my fragile ego. Actually it was you that showed me that, I was worried about how you would react to this OYS after your comments and thought - why the fuck do I care about …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 08:51 PM
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Thanks this is helpful and things others have said to me so clearly I am not getting some of these points. Re external validation, you could be right here. I tend to think there is 30% that and 70% I literally am judged by others right now. Psychologists, lawyers and judge etc all are actively judging what I say and do and deciding what happens with my life as a result. Considering this is my priority right now I don't really want to stop thinking about how things look through their lens. Having…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 07:11 AM
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Yep, that's the one I'm using. As long as form is correct I think it's one of the safer versions.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 07:07 AM
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On one level I know this re anger but I still don't know how to accept it. It's my fucking kid, I'm trying to accept that pain. Just to face life as it is and move forwards anyway, I think I'm making progress here. Re passive voice, thanks I didn't see that. I do this a lot in my thinking so that an important pick up for me. when I say 'how I should be treated' what I should say is 'what I accept'. This is not about how others should act, it's about what I accept in my life and it's basic MRP sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 09:40 PM
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tagging u/UsefulWalk4 They are cheap calipers so that number is not accurate, however: Those are pain free lifts, not my max. Ongoing injuries - AC separation then tendonitis in both elbows. Squat - the bones in my knee are not the shape they should be. It causes me problems. Some issues with dead but more with squat. I'm adding these lifts back in now so I'll see how they go over the next few months. My priority is still not getting injured, also still cutting some weight.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 09:29 PM
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Year 2 - OYS 9: Mid 30’s, 6’ 195b, BF ~12%(cheap callipers), Separated, one kid under 5 yrs (with ex) current partner1.5yrs. Physical: primary goal - injury free, secondary goal – look like a savage. Currently I am doing the knees over toes program on ‘dense’. It’s 5 days a week and designed to rehab knee issues (as well as others). I have started working some heavier lifting in, but I am being very conservative to prevent reinjury. All these are pain free: DL 220*5, Squat 130*5 (squat has alway…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 08:42 AM
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Great stuff, I'm happy for you I really am. It still begs the question how the fuck you still fail on MRP basics. I have been thinking about this and fuck, I just don't know. I am lifting, was not lifting heavy enough, genuinely to rehab injuries but then let that drag on so I have started again. As for point 2, I think you are right, I need to treat it like starting again and figure that out.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/22 10:28 PM
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The only thing I’ve done to dampen/escape the ‘feelz’ is porn when the sexual frustration peaks and I can’t seem to sort myself. Don't do this. You are just using a dopamine hit to avoid the feelz, same reason people use all drugs to escape. Here is what helped me other than what you already listed: Realize that to be strong you have to 'be strong'. This pain is an opportunity to practice being who you want to be. Meditation on the pain. Sit with it and try to fully embrace it. Don't try and cha…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/22 08:50 PM
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Thanks this is really helpful, in the past I have made 'short term' missions that would get me in a better place for the next steps so I'm not sure what I just missed that whole concept again. I am working on these and will post in next OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 09:31 PM
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You are probably right, I certainly am not where I want to be and I keep rehashing the same issues. Lifting: I never stopped lifting BUT, I haven't been putting the effort in over the last little while and I am focused on injury rehab. The effort has changed - thank you for giving me that kick, like I said, it really did help. Plan: I'll keep the focus on rehab and am starting to work in heavy lifting again. I'll be reporting on my lifting as PAIN FREE numbers - thats what's got me in trouble in…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 09:30 PM
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Thanks, I read those and have been thinking about them. I'm struggling to look 'out' of the court situation and so I'm finding it difficult to actually find a vision/mission that I'm excited about. But I think this will come with time/also I have always been that way so maybe it's just something accept and work with. Re the relationship - I think you are right. Between you and ImpatientZen I have a bit to think about here. I have given myself a 6 month timeline to have the relationship that I wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 09:49 PM
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Close, it was a year out and after fucking around a bit - but did LTR quickly. I want a family, I want another kid and I want them to be closer in age if possible. This one would make a good mom, and brings a lot to the table and I'm 90% sure I'm being way more of a bitch than I realize and driving most of these issues. Having said that, fuck, maybe I'm just being blind, letting my faulty thinking patterns and the court situation drive my thinking. As u/rocknrollchuck pointed out, if she doesn't…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 09:39 PM
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I didn't even see it - thanks. Yeah I like her, the resentment is something that's crept in over the last two weeks as I've fallen back into old habits. In terms of value she brings - this is something I have been thinking about. I'm not sure she brings enough and I have let that question turn into resentment. I don't have a mission yet and so the value she brings is less clear. Having said that, she does add a lot to my life, I like being around her (when I'm not being a resentful bitch), she d…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 10:53 AM
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Re OLD, it took me a few months to get 'into it'. Here is what I learnt; your profile matters a lot, your photos matter 10x more - treat it like a game, get good photos that show your interesting life. Then don't settle for boring conversations, you are the prize. If the conversation is boring to YOU then move on, you have better things to do. If on tinder I found paying for gold worth it, just see who matched me already and go from there. Otherwise you spend too much time swiping. Have fun, tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 09:44 AM
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Year 2 - OYS 8: Mid 30’s, 6’ 196b, BF~13% (cheap callipers – I think it is higher), Separated, one kid under 5 yrs(with ex). I have been struggling over the past little while. Last week u/ImpatientZen pointed out that I need to get back to MRP basics. I did and things have been better. I’m still stuck on a few points but I think I have the "answers" to these anyway. What I am struggling with – basically the same as last week: Emptiness when I think of having my time with daughter cut. I’m not su…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 09:27 AM
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Right now my plan is to rehab then slowly add weight. I have been doing the knees over toes program which has helped my knee and elbow tendonitis. I have moved up a level on this and will stick to 5 days a week ( I have been slack on some). I'll do this for 6 weeks before reassessing. Also, I am upping my protein. I have been leaning out but I haven't been tracking protein and I suspect not eating enough. I want to minimize muscle loss.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 08:00 AM
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Rehabbing injuries is my priority now and it’s slow going but I’m making progress. I won’t compromise that with pushing things. However I need to be more disciplined with it which I will be from here.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 05:22 AM
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Up and down. I have had a few injuries and have been rehabing them so the heavy lifting is off the cards for a while however the rehab is going well. My knee which I have had life long issues with is probably as good as it's ever been. With COVID, moving and shutdown over Christmas it's probably been about four weeks since I did any kickboxing. Then there is the lack of discipline that I have given into over the last six weeks where I just don't give a fuck. Working through that and trying to ke…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 11:08 PM
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It comes down to this. I don’t like myself. If I liked myself, I would create a life where I could get the sex and life I want. If I liked myself I would train her in the sex I desire. If I liked myself, I would train someone else if she was untrainable. I need to sort this out. I think you are missing some mental models here. Here are my notes in-case they are helpful and also to try and help me see where I'm getting things wrong. I started as: no mission and I didn't like myself. Currently: I …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 10:28 PM
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Year 2 - OYS 8: I have been struggling over the last 1-2 months. More allegations by ex, two bad outcomes in court, moved house and have COVID. It feels like this will never end and I’ll just be in court forever. Obviously I know this isn’t the case but if I get a bad outcome here my relationship with my daughter will likely be forever damaged or non-existent. The things I struggle most with are: The thought that my relationship with my daughter might be forever damaged or non-existent. The feel…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 09:43 AM
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Year 2 - OYS 8: Mid 30’s, 6’ 200b, BF ~13%(cheap callipers – I think it is higher), Separated, one kid under 5 yrs (withex). Current goals: 12% bf @>190lb (December 31stusing body scan) Injuries – no pain walking up /down stairs and able to do BJJ pain free. Promotion (within 12months) Tracking: week 1, I hit all the below. Week two stats are: No porn 3/8 weeks Meditation: 115min / 80min Course, 45min 3X week on workweeks (January 2nd 2022) – 2/3 Train 5 times per week: 4/5 More Allegations Ex m…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 01:58 AM
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Feel like ‘taking it all out on the people who hurt you’ that is you trying to take some power back. I know because I feel it too. “I train to fight” nobody cares. What is your plan for improving your life and what progress are you making towards that? How about starting with emotional control, today you said some shit because you couldn’t help yourself, in the OYS linked in comments you blew up again - get control of yourself. Identify what you want, what actions you need to take and take them.…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 10:44 AM
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Your entire post is fake bravado. How about dropping the ego and facing your own pain, fear and feeling of impotence.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 10:20 AM
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You need to STFU with yourself. Envision the life you want and take the action you need to get there. As you are going along, watch your own thoughts/emotions and learn more about yourself. After a while, see where your wife is at. You are way to caught up in your head.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 10:11 AM
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Year 2 - OYS 7: Mid 30’s, 6’ 206b, BF ~14% (cheap callipers – I think it ishigher), Separated, one kid under 5 yrs (with ex). Current goals: 12% bf @>190lb (December 31stusing body scan) Injuries – no pain walking up /down stairs and able to do BJJ pain free. Promotion (within 12months) Tracking: No porn 1/8 weeks Meditation: 120min / 80min Course, 45min 3X week on workweeks (January 2nd 2022) Train 5 times per week: 6/5 Career: promotion within 12months. Going great – promotion within 12months …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/21 04:34 AM
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Year 2 - OYS 6: Mid 30’s, 6’ 207b, BF ~14% (cheap callipers – I think it is higher), Separated, one kid under 5 yrs (with ex). I spent some time thinking about what I want to do over the next few months AND living more fully in the moment. I think by getting clear on what I want to achieve I’ll be able to better relax into the now. Physical: Powerful, fit, ripped and injury free. 12% bf @>190lb (December 31stusing body scan) Able to do life without pain (ongoing)– able to do BJJ, mountain bike a…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 08:33 AM
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I split and have gone through false allegations of child abuse. Still, it was worth it. Your kids watch what you do not what you say and you are showing them how to be unhappy and resentful.
/r/askMRP16/11/21 07:57 AM
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There is a lot in this for me. I spent a fair chunk of that time just focused on fighting false allegations (it's been a year). I had to do multiple psychological assessments for court and consistently get high on anxiety and stress and mild/moderate on depression - this doesn't surprise me with what's going on but I do think it's making it hard to engage fully with the world. I DO NOT engage the world 100% congruently, I did for one discussion and on one topic. After that discussion, I felt a s…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 05:55 AM
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Tagging u/HornsOfApathy , u/SBIII as well. You could be right, I'm using cheap calipers off amazon so the chance of them (or my usage) being accurate is low. Also it seem unlikely they would pick up a change of a few % either. I value the input I get here so I'll outline whats going on, after that I guess it's up to you if you think it's bullshit of not. I was doing mostly compound and cardio (BJJ/Kickboxing). With injuries I stopped the cardio and started doing the 8X8 'honest workout' using is…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 05:41 AM
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DB rowing is find, BB rowing hurts. I have actually been rowing a lot, should be on the list. On left side it's tennis elbow but on right it's something different, pushing is fine but lowering with ANY wight (like 5lb) will grind) then hurts the next day. I'm going back to the sports doc as it's a new thing. Can do band push-downs if I am careful with the angle.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 05:30 AM
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MK677 and LGD4033basically impossible to keep the weight off. Not sure how much will stay after I come off though.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 10:12 AM
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Year 2 - OYS 5: Mid 30’s, 6’ 209b, BF 14% (cheap callipers – I think it is higher), Separated, one kid under 5 yrs (with ex). Mindset: A few OYS back I wrote “I have some bullshit around vulnerability due to prior relationships and calibrating too far from my initial tard version of MRP. Now, I am TRYING to more fully feel emotions, to let them happen and to act anyway. I don’t want to pretend I don’t have emotions, I want to let them happen but not be driven by neediness and validation. I think…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 08:45 AM
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.do you like your wife? Yeah I do. Re injuries, I have been doing 'some' of what I can but I am going to re look at this. I'm sure there is more I can do.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/21 09:22 PM
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New partner, broke up with ex years ago it's just been dragging on with court etc. I want a long term partner so I'm not actively cultivating other options however prior to this relationship I had plenty on the go. Where I live and with tinder it's pretty easy to find women. I don't think thats whats causing this retardness. I think it's being caused by my nice guy mental models (1) not accepting my own needs (2) wanting to have a logical reason for my wants rather than just 'wanting' them and a…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/21 09:20 PM
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Going through the court process and with all the sexual testing has made me really closed here - there is legitimate risk in being anything other than a Disney movie as that could get used in court and it's making it hard for me to actually be honest with myself about what I want. I can't even let myself think it so that sure as fuck isn't helping things. It's a good point that if I have to force it then maybe the results aren't worth it. I'll think on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 09:24 PM
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I have always been pretty lean but not particularly strong, I have to work at strength but not at being lean. Lifts were - BP 210 for 5, SQ 290 for 5 and DL 350 for 3. I have had ongoing injuries for about 12m now so wouldn't be anywhere near that. My knee issue likely wont go away so will just have to work around it. I am going to get an inbody scan after the next cut (cant get DEXA as it's banned where I live and inbody seems next best) but I suspect I'm higher than 14%. I like getting blown, …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 09:21 PM
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Nothing because not satisfied. you can progress without being satisfied with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 10:08 AM
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but I found that (legitimately) hilarious. Why have that behavior in your life at all?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 09:54 AM
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On return instead of the desired “wife suddenly wants to fuck me passionately,” Dance monkey.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 09:53 AM
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Year 2 - OYS 4: Mid 30’s, 6’ 209b, BF 14% (cheap callipers – I think it is higher), Separated, one kid under 5 yrs (with ex). Physical: still working through a few injuries. Two are getting better, one is not making any improvement. Initially I was going to cut but with the MK677 I’m taking to help heal injuries it’s basically impossible to keep weight off, while a lot of this will be water weight I’m going to bulk for a one or two more weeks then cut. Mentally this helps deal with the injuries …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 08:36 AM
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I’ve read that some people here get motivated by thinking about how they used to suck and generating anger. That really isn’t me, but what worked was asking: What else would I do with my time? Would that be in line with my mission? You have to be careful relying on motivation rather than discipline. Not saying you shouldn't use it when it's there, I do, but motivation comes and goes but discipline is always there. Not sure where you sit on that based on your comment but something to consider.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 08:43 AM
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IMO the tingles come from you being a man who knows what he wants and going after it. Extra tingles if what you want is her. Which is handy as then you can just be you rather then thinking about what she wants.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 08:37 AM
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Make sure you are not being a tart with removing attention. It's not a punishment, it's a natural result of having better things to do. I struggle with this so could just be projecting but it sounds like you are going in too hard.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 08:33 AM
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Eventually you will decide and know that you will have sex. At this point, you will be less concerned about your wife having it with you.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 09:40 PM
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Dance monkey Yes, you literally listed DHVs as one of the main reasons for doing this. Stop thinking about DHVs... shit do you think some silverback is wondering how he looks and if his pose is alpha enough? Guys here get caught in in 'being alpha' and I get it because we all come here as little bitches but the most alpha thing is to be unapologetically you. Find out what you want and go for it. If you look close enough, you will see that most of your unattractive actions are driven by neediness…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 09:37 PM
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While I was waiting u/protoworm gave me a tip to use machines for isolating leg movements which I hadn’t thought about before so I’ve been doing that. Began to get back to heavier lifts yesterday and its already improved my mood. Stoked to get back to my normal lifting. good. Remember this tendency in yourself and make sure you are always looking for what you CAN do, not what you can't.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 09:26 PM
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u/thanatosau "Removing attention" is something that gets fucked up a lot here. I fucked it up. Firstly your attention has to be valuable and in short supply already, secondly it's so hard not to look like a butthurt little bitch. Removing attention works when you are already an attractive man with a full life and you NATURALLY do something else if she isn't adding value.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 09:25 PM
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u/thanatosau agree with this AND you'll probably find your sleep improves.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 09:21 PM
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Still no programme yet So get on one. Stop using changing gyms as an excuse for laziness. I mean, talk about a DHV… Dance monkey. but I don’t know what the correct response should have been. I genuinely wasn’t pissed off at her, I was just distracted That depends, over thinking it with alpha/beta game certainly isn't the answer. If you genuinely were just distracted then thats one thing but I suspect thats just what you told yourself. Did you really reset in the morning and not act any different…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 10:22 AM
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. I’ve been tiptoeing around my wants and needs when it comes to sex and other things for years. Also because when we acknowledge them we have then have a choice to make about having them met and often that means changing things.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 10:12 AM
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Relationship This whole section seems like a bad plan to me because (1) You seem to be a dancing monkey Despite trying multiple times this week, I didn’t get to sex (2) you are getting buthurt and she is seeing right through it. that when I’m not agreeable it’s because we don’t have sex. (3) you are playing games that you will lose (do you want a sexless life?) if not, then why: I told her that I was taking it off the table, and that she would not have to worry about me initiating You then list …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 10:05 AM
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Basically, I am experimenting with new shit and I am unapologetic about it. ...yet you were apologetic about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 09:54 AM
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Exactly. As you pointed out there are two parts (1) you can't control if he will respect you, all you can do is focus on being a good dad and (2) you should be a good dad because that is important to you, not because he will then respect you... which he might not.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/21 04:38 AM
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Look at last OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 11:52 PM
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It's actually been a relief realizing that. I was trying to create what I thought was a MRP relationships (that wasn't MRP at all) and it just wasn't resonating with me. I needed it at the start and over the past 3 months or so I have been stepping back but now it's time to go in a new direction. One where I have emotions and vulnerability, where I care about her emotions and needs and where I build a life that serves me.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 09:06 PM
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Plan for this week: Stop trying to tend to my partners every need, do the things I want to do, because I want to do them. Not because I want to keep her 'happy' - she will be fine without me constantly asking if she needs anything. Do the things I want to do. Find and book a martial arts class. Read MAP. Continue to work my way through the sidebar. and STFU... STFU is important because it gives you the mental space to see what's going on, understand yourself and your reactions, test new approach…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 10:21 AM
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or so I see it. I'm not afraid, I'm not upset. It seems I get silence or shit back about two thirds of the times I do or say something nice. Most often I keep being my happy self; I am sorry for her that she cannot enjoy life, I feel some unease about it, but I’m not dragged into it. When this gets under my skin, I remind myself that this is just an opportunity to grow my frame. Sounds like a good approach and that she might be testing to see if this new behavior is congruent with who you are. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 10:17 AM
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At this point, setting a goal to “be social” or “practice game” feels like validation seeking but could mean I’m just being a pussy since I know I’m not great at talking to people I don’t know. You're over thinking it, give it a go, see what happens and re-calibrate. Think of it as an experiment - the objective is to learn. ensuring he has a good dad whom he respects. You can not ensure that.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 10:13 AM
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Year 2 - OYS 3: Mid 30’s, 6’ 202b, BF14% (cheap callipers), Separated, one kid under 5 yrs (with ex). Physical Working around injuries at the moment which is frustrating but necessary. My weight is jumping up with MK and LGD but probably water weight at this point. Career I’m in an interesting place here, my career is going well. I will likely get a director role in ~1 year and make plenty of money and that appeals to me in a lot of ways. However, I think I will always feel like I should have st…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 09:02 AM
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If time is your main constraint then you should be on the most effective program. If it has worked for you in the past then great, otherwise you should follow the advice of someone who has got to where you want to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/21 09:53 AM
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no, you continue to act normally WHILE watching the emotions play out. You need to read 'the happiness trap' it will give you specific tools to try.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/21 09:51 AM
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Cool, can you mental step back from your thoughts and feelings and watch them without getting caught up in them?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/21 09:49 AM
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It's easy to say 'stop suppressing my emotions' but the question is how you do that. When I say STFU with yourself, I mean just let those emotions happen but don't engage with them. E.g. she gets angry, watch what you feel, watch the fear rise, notice where in your body you feel it (seriously pay close attention to it) notice that it (probably) feels like it will overwhelm you, but then how if you just let it happen it rolls over you. Notice all your thoughts around this and don't engage in them…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 09:51 PM
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Why are you doing that? Did a person who looks like you want to look make up that program?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 09:43 PM
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This last sentence is the issue - because this is STILL in her frame. That is a good insight.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 09:42 PM
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Stop giving your thoughts and feelings so much weight. Just let that internal voice happen and watch it. Just like you don't engage with your wife when she starts going on about something trivial, your mind will do the same thing - let it do it's thing and keep acting in the way you know is right.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 09:05 AM
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The lifting, why not work your arms, forearms, neck, calves, isolation movements with legs etc. sounds like an excuse to me
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 07:52 AM
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How you act and how you feel are two different things. You need to STFU with yourself, act how you know is right and watch your emotions as they happen, see WHY you feel the way you do.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 07:49 AM
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This OYS is you hamstering about how you have high SMV but you are 100% in her frame. You need to focus on STFU with yourself, you are so deep in her frame and you can’t see it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 07:46 AM
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My guess, because it's what I initially thought and I'm projecting that onto the entire internet, is that guys see it as a way out of actually doing the work. 'Oh I'll just have a live in sex slave and get everything I want and not have to do the work to stop being a little bitch'. For me, I deliberately left this until I felt like I could get whatever sex I wanted and was not a bitch, turns out I'm still a bitch and there are some covert contracts in there.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/21 09:49 PM
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At some point you might want to give her a way out of this... but you aren't there yet. Once You know what you will/will not stand for, and after she knows what the boundaries are, AND if you are of value, then you will need to give her a way out of the maze (assuming you still want to).
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/21 09:42 PM
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Thanks for your comments, this one and your comment below have really helped me. D/s "in the bedroom" is about animalistic dominance and eroticized submission. Both of us are very much down for this and I'm happy with how things are going. It's the next 'step' of a relationship structure that I am struggling with. I'm not sure exactly what I want from it and if I even do want a 24/7 D/s relationship. It could be that the results from the MRP playbook is enough for me. Having said that: as a natu…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/21 06:48 AM
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Tyred gave me some awesome advice around this topic so pay attention to what he says. We are basically saying the same thing, he has just been more articulate and helpful in how he worded it. Look I'm not in the house with you but here is what it 'seems' like to a random on the internet. How you got here: You made a clumsy attempt at STFU and thought you were 'getting frame'. You were/are in an anger phase and don't realize how deep that can go. That resulted in you withdrawing emotion and conne…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 10:13 PM
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It's all still anger. You can STFU with yourself as well as with your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 10:46 AM
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These times around, I'm not afraid, and engage. Perhaps in a wrong way, but I do it. I almost look forward to it. It sounds like she is getting rewarded for her bad behavior. Any attention is good attention for her. You said you tried STFU but did you just sit there like an retard or did you use fogging techniques etc. You do not have to engage in the type of retarded bullshit you describe here but it's not just standing there quietly either. If she is going around in circles just use your versi…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 10:43 AM
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I am wondering if its ok to soak up my wife’s rage like that or of I should have nuked it. Long term it depends what you want - do you want that in your life? Are you prepared to put a hard boundary in place? BUT right now you should see everything as developing yourself. You spent 7 years developing a dynamic between the two of you where that type of shit is okay. Personally I think you did a pretty good job, keep building yourself and at some point you might decide you don't want that anymore …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 10:36 AM
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Social Circle Sounds like you are trying too hard here. Just be interested in people, ask follow up questions and be genuine in wanting to learn about them.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 09:57 AM
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"Works" sounds short-sighted. I try to frame it as: doesn't matter how/what she dishes out, we both know how it ends - me doing what I want, which is what she really wants. Yeah I like this. I guess I get bored and it's not the dynamic I want but really if I know how it's going to play out long term then either the dynamic is enough or it is not and I go from there. Maybe just identify a next level. There are levels to this shit. Trying to see the full structure from any one of them can be diffi…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 09:51 AM
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The relation to my wife is somewhat fucked up. Initiating sex way more frequent than before gets me more sex with my wife indeed, but it makes me want it even more. I'm afraid it's a validation-seeking behavior that I can't seem to get rid of. At the same time, I'm not only pissed of her for not meeting my needs. I'm pissed over her overall lazy behavior. I feel she drains me from energy so I tend to not be around so much. I keep the anger to myself but of course it shines through. She has becom…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 09:43 AM
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Year 2 - OYS 2: Mid 30’s, 6’ 200b, BF 14% (cheap calipers), Separated, one kid under 5 yrs (with ex). Fitness: I have a bunch of injuries and have been focusing on higher reps to give my body a chance to heal. I have been doing Vince Gironda 8x8. My focus here is (1) letting injuries heal (2) cutting fat while keeping muscle. Also running some MK677 to see if it helps with injuries and LGD4033 to try and keep muscle while injured. Mindset: I am focusing on engaging in activities that are rejuven…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 08:33 AM
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Upon reflection, though while I lacked strength I did handle the situation with excellent leadership and had clear plan that I took to immediate action, which resulted in a positive outcome relative to what happened. Then how did you lack strength? It's not about not having feelings, they come and go, it's about doing what needs to be done anyway. You did that. That's strength.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/21 09:56 PM
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Not sure why you got down-voted for this. You tried something and are reporting the outcome. I know it doesn't align with MRP dogma but that doesn't mean your experience was wrong. I disagree with the abstinence approach from NMMNG, as many people here do. Personally I disagree because people do it too early and it's just one giant covert contract. But, doing a small experiment on yourself and seeing what happens and how YOU respond to it is a different thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 06:04 AM
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Tagging u/oobertas ​ Although I did measure my neck out of curiosity from your comment. 17.5" got some neck bridges to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/21 10:17 PM
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Become completely OI of others emotions Personally I don't think people ever become completely OI of others and I don't want to. I just want to take it as one piece of information and act accordingly. If ego is your issue then make sure you post the things you don't want to post. That slowed me down at the start.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 10:37 PM
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Re your last paragraph, I posed literally every week for one year which is what I committed to up front and then took a long break (enforced by external circumstances). I'm glad I did both those things. I would go through phases where I didn't really see the point but then I would get something pointed out to me that I hadn't seen at all, or realize a level of ego that went deeper than I first thought. Coming back from the break I will post OYS when I have something I want input on (which is sti…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 10:33 PM
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Sex: No fucking this week. 2 weeks in a row. Are you sure this isn't making you angry and driving some of the 'The Whole Point' section? Man I get it, I wouldn't stay in a relationship like that but just make sure you MAKE the decision, don't let anger or frustration make it for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 10:19 PM
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Not the OP on this idea but sometimes the value of a think is not in it's long term applicability but in how different it is to your current actions. That level of focus and extreme accountability can reset your baseline and help you understand where the behavior you actually want to exhibit sits on the spectrum. Think of someone who spend 10 years in a max security prison then goes and lives in a medium security prison Vs lives in suburbia. Which one will help them reestablish their actions at …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 10:16 PM
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I like to think of it as cycling up or down, when you focus on something (e.g. STFU) you initially improve quickly to your overall level of understanding, then you focus on something else and it slowly cycles down again however you will never (or not for a very long time) get back to where you started, as you improve your overall understanding of life and then focus back on STFU again you will improve to a new high and embed that behavior and understanding of the concept at a deeper level. Just …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 10:10 PM
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DIVORCE/ROMANCE Maybe you like her and don't want to hurt her. Nothing wrong with that. It would be different if you didn't move on with your life to not hurt her but you literally have 0 negative outcome from what you did. I guess only you can tell if it was driven by fear of her or something else. Also, wanting smooth sailing until court is sorted is just a good idea so don't try and be congruent or some other bullshit and make your life harder for no reason.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 10:37 AM
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Immediate goals: Stop being fat, gain muscle, stop being a pushover in LTR. Decrease procrastrination . Are you going to stop being fat by losing fat or by gaining muscle? You might get some initial newbie results but will be hard to do both at 50 without 'help'. Your OYS seems focused on superficial stuff, what do you need to change about how you think? How are you going to stop being a pushover?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 10:32 AM
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Personally I like to focus on some tasks / daily actions but also a mindset shift I am trying to implement. Remember you are trying to fix your mind here.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 10:28 AM
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Remember that STFU applies to yourself too. We STFU with our wives because this place is about relationship dynamics and its a good place to star but really that is just a subsection of STFU. You should STFU with the fucking world - any initial reaction, let it happen, STFU and watch it, learn about yourself then decide who you want to be and how you want to react. Tagging u/overman_42
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 10:26 AM
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I did not post for 2 weeks. Mainly because there are not big changes in one week time to report. And as mentioned, I got lazy. If you are not doing the work there will be no changes to report. Good that you saw that but what work are you doing this week to help you better understand yourself and what you are doing?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 10:22 AM
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All your comments about using AA when she calls you out for getting butthurt sounds like you are getting butthurt and are trying to cover it up with AA. She will see right through it. "you just want to fight right now, I'm not doing this". I would rather come up with some witty AA/AM... Nothing wrong with STUF until you have the space to react however you want, try different things and see how they work. Sometimes when my partner wants a fight, I pretend to be Muhammad Ali and move around preten…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 10:19 AM
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Why is it different this time? I realize myself is probably the hardest person to convince I’m serious. Maybe this fear is good? Maybe I need this in the back of my head to kick on myself if I slow down. I think you need to stop thinking about it so much. You doubt yourself based on past performance. Focus on setting a standard for yourself and meeting that. By that I mean, decide what actions you will do and then do them EVERY day (or whatever the frequency is). As you do this you will build se…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 10:11 AM
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Thanks I'll check it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 10:05 AM
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A lot came up when I read your comment. At first it was a much stronger ego response that I would have expected. I have been on emotional lock-down to get through this and I probably need to actually process some of them. I'm still not finished fighting the allegation and I'm struggling with headspace to look at building as opposed to fighting, but with things looking so much in my favor it might be time to start. I have spent a lot of time trying to figure out a 'vision' in the past and just ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 10:04 AM
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You need to learn to not be satisfied. To not settle. I think a better mindset here is to be satisfied when you meet YOUR OWN standards of action. It's not about the six pack, although that is nice, it's about you setting a standard for yourself as someone who works out, eats right etc and then meeting that standard. That is what builds the man and self esteem.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 09:52 AM
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I’m going to aim for progress that I get to enjoy seeing in the mirror I get it, external motivation is, well 'motivating'. But there is a mindset shift available to you here. You can start getting your reward from being the person you want to be. Are you a person who skips workouts and eats junk or are you a person who works out and eats well? Then feel good about acting in accordance with your own standards for yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 09:55 PM
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Year 2 - OYS 1: Mid 30’s, 6’ 195lb, BF 14% (cheapcalipers),Separated, one kid under 5 yrs (with ex). Background: For a year I posted every week under a different username. I made an opsec mistake with that account and have deleted it. I also took a fairly big break from MRP for a bunch of reasons. Having figured some things out I’m looking to move into the next stage. Fitness: I was 210lb and fat, I cut to 172 then bulked back to current (195). I have ongoing issues with injuries that are really…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 08:36 AM
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Not having a definite mission at the moment is becoming an issue. After a lot of growth over the past couple of years I’ve stalled. I’ve relied on talent and ability too much over the years and have become lazy and scared of risk. More on this later. I spent a long time looking for some overarching mission. While I still keep this in the back of my mind I switched to building 'purpose'. I looked at all the domains of my life that were important to me; being a father, career, time in nature etc a…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/21 10:34 PM
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