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how do you approach connecting in these settings?
/r/seduction05/07/26 04:50 PM
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You just have to man up and jump into it. Go out on a weekend on your own and make it happen. Flirt with girls, touch them, talk to them, dance, kiss etc. There’s women everywhere in life, daytime too, just be unafraid to shoot your shot. Have courage. Face risk of rejection. Face risk in general. Practice the risk muscle. You have labeled yourself in your own mind as not beeing good w girls, thats why you need to change and do something different. Behave in a manner that your alter ego that is …
/r/seduction27/06/26 10:56 PM
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Well most men don’t cold approach, so they never get good at it. For the guys who do it consistently, it’s not this huge dramatic thing anymore, it’s just like talking to any stranger. The difference is they know how to escalate the interaction faster, flirt earlier, create tension and that sexual spark. Some guys get very good at it over time and can make something happen quickly, even in the moment. Instant dates happen too. Most people suck at it in the beginning because social skills, confid…
/r/seduction08/05/26 06:37 PM
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Yeah, this is the first comment that actually nails it. It’s not about being mean, it’s about stopping the urge to impress. The moment you’re trying to sell yourself, you’ve already lowered your position. That’s where the nice, agreeable, careful behavior comes from. Expressing yourself is the key. Say what you think. Disagree when you disagree. Don’t filter everything to be liked. Some days that comes out calm, some days sharp or a bit aggressive. That’s normal. That’s being real. When you know…
/r/seduction31/01/26 07:34 PM
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Elaborate?
/r/seduction31/01/26 11:47 AM
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Tinder
/r/seduction16/01/26 03:39 PM
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Your overthinking it. It’s okay for me to think of ideas and get other peoples input, it doesnt mean i will hesitate when I meet up with her. I want the date to be cool for both of us uknow.
/r/seduction16/01/26 08:01 AM
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I don’t see the gym as a normal place to approach. Most people are there to train, stay focused, and leave, not socialize. I’m there regularly, on a mission, and approaching would turn the gym into an arena for something other than training. Attraction and eye contact can exist without acting on it in that setting, and that’s pretty normal. So no, she didn’t expect me to approach there.. and that’s fine. Keeping it implicit felt more congruent than forcing it.
/r/seduction16/01/26 07:58 AM
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Would have to disagree here. It keeps things more interesting and adds a bit of tension. We both know, but it is unsaid - which I find to be exciting. We talked around it, but didnt mention it directly.
/r/seduction16/01/26 07:54 AM
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Why?
/r/seduction15/01/26 09:58 PM
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Do you recommend the first date to be a gym date? And how easy is it to escalate after the date?
/r/seduction15/01/26 08:34 PM
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This is something you do for a person you are serious with, a date.. not if you pulled a girl from the club/bar.
/r/seduction24/10/25 10:03 PM
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I’ve got mixed feelings about this. In my opinion, your main focus in the gym should be your training. That’s your time to lock in, not chase. But if you are gonna do it, here’s how I see it: If it’s your regular gym, build slow, friendly rapport over time. Don’t risk making things awkward in a place you go to consistently. If it’s a gym you don’t visit often, you can be a bit more direct. Approach respectfully, say what you want to say, and keep it simple.
/r/seduction23/10/25 10:24 AM
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For me it’s deeper than just cold approaching. The real question is why you’re doing it. If the goal is to “get something” from the other person - validation, a number, whatever - it’s always going to feel forced and empty. It’s more about the kind of person you want to be. Do you want to be someone who only talks when there’s something to gain? Or do you want to be the kind of guy who’s curious, social, genuinely interested in people? If you approach from curiosity and care instead of neediness…
/r/seduction24/08/25 07:19 PM
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He probably has social anxiety and is just a really sensitive person. Sensitive people are deeply kind and caring, but they also get overwhelmed easily. They don’t always know how to exist in social spaces without feeling exposed or unsure. My brother’s the same way - he’s got a huge heart, always thinking about how others feel, but he keeps to himself. He won’t stay in a room long, and he rarely lets people see how kind he really is. I’ve told him so many times, “The world needs your kindness, …
/r/seduction05/08/25 11:19 AM
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Great insight. Thanks.
/r/seduction05/08/25 11:02 AM
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Kindness isn’t something you give only to those who “deserve” it. That makes you reactive. Be kind because that’s who you are. Have boundaries. Withdraw your time, your access - not your character. Real strength and kindness is staying warm without letting the world harden you. Stay true to who you are. Don’t let the world decide that - YOU decide.
/r/seduction05/08/25 11:01 AM
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Want instant charisma? Start with this: be genuinely kind. Not the kind of kindness that expects something in return, but the kind that comes from real care, from being a solid, grounded human being. When you truly care about others, when you make people feel seen, heard, and valued, that’s charisma. Think about it - don’t you instantly feel drawn to someone who shows real interest in you? Someone who listens, respects, and treats you like you matter, without trying to get something out of it? B…
/r/seduction05/08/25 09:19 AM
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Check your replies on your own post. You’re mistaking kindness from strength for kindness from weakness. True kindness is the foundation of all human connection - and a key to being liked and charismatic. But don’t be kind just to be liked. Be kind because it’s who you are.
/r/seduction04/08/25 11:23 PM
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Not out of luck, but you just got to put yourself out there enough to eventually meet one.
/r/seduction23/07/25 09:43 PM
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It's because you have standards, and when you level up yourself, you find less and less people that are on the same mindset and journey as you. If you're lucky you'll find a good woman with same values, and then you both level up together with focus and goals for your life. Compared to your friend, who probably only gets girls that are into partying, fun and not anything serious.
/r/seduction23/07/25 06:41 PM
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I don’t know, I’m not sold on everything in the book. I’d just say don’t take it all as fact, see if it actually makes sense for you.
/r/seduction16/07/25 12:55 PM
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You’re not interrupting their fun - you’re adding your energy to it. If you show up with good energy, you’ll often vibe with someone. Most people are more open than they look. You don’t need a perfect line or plan, just be real, curious, and present. It’s all about getting comfortable being yourself in those spaces. The more you do it, the more natural it feels.
/r/seduction10/07/25 08:03 PM
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You don't need anyone, only yourself. Trust me. Once you learn to go out by yourself a new world opens up. You feel... free. Do your research beforehand, and learn from this post aswell. Don't put too much pressure on yourself.
/r/seduction09/07/25 08:01 AM
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I've talked to guys that are in a group several times. Often a girl in the group starts the convo saying "Do you know eachother/how do you know him?" and its on.
/r/seduction09/07/25 07:55 AM
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You need to shift your mindset from just trying to get laid to actually enjoying yourself. Dress up. Explore venues you might possibly like. Test new things and get to know yourself. You don’t really know what you like or don’t like yet. Women can sense when getting laid is the only reason you are out and it comes off as creepy.
/r/seduction06/07/25 09:44 PM
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Respect for the post, but honestly, it depends. The best game is having your own game. You don’t need to act like a rockstar or play power moves in DMs if that’s not you. Confidence hits harder when it’s real. Learn to use who you already are, that’s the most authentic high-value energy there is.
/r/seduction03/07/25 08:21 PM
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Maybe, but what is insecurity really? Aren’t we all a bit insecure at some point? Isn’t that part of the process of becoming more secure and evolving as a person? We’re always growing, figuring things out. I’m more secure now than I was before, but that doesn’t mean insecurity completely disappears. It’s a constant thing to manage, not something that just vanishes.
/r/seduction03/05/25 02:41 AM
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Respectfully, that’s not what this is about. It’s not about playing games or pushing some “don’t chase, don’t care” agenda. And it’s definitely not about losing your heart in the pursuit of strength. Real masculinity, the kind I’m talking about, includes presence and heart. It’s about becoming a grounded, intentional human being, not cold, not robotic, not emotionally unavailable. And if a guy didn’t hit you up for 80 days, the truth is, he just wasn’t that interested. That’s not purpose. That’s…
/r/seduction03/05/25 01:54 AM
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Thank you for your response, it was very insightful. You tapped into a deep truth. I’ve been experiencing the same lately. I’ve been meditating too, but in a way I never really did before. Just sitting with my breath, fully in the present moment. Clearing my mind completely. And that has helped me with becoming more masculine and increasing my prescense. I now can activate it easier in different settings in real life. What you said about not needing an analytical mind when interacting with peopl…
/r/seduction03/05/25 01:30 AM
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This is not a movie. This is me and many mens experience of life. As you can see many can relate.
/r/seduction03/05/25 12:57 AM
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This is not a movie, this is me and many mens expierence of life. As you can see, many can relate.
/r/seduction03/05/25 12:53 AM
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Yeah, as a woman it's hard to relate to men's experience of life. You won't be able to understand what we go through.
/r/seduction03/05/25 12:02 AM
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After I wen't from a boy to a man in mindset (most boys never become men, age has nothing to do with it), women were a byproduct. They wanted to be around me. They wanted my leadership and protectiveness. I no longer needed to work for attention.
/r/seduction28/03/25 11:19 AM
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You’re not missing out bro. There’s nothing out there for you. Focus on more important things in life, pursue self development in all areas in life and get close to God. Get fully sober, go to the gym 3-5 times a week and clear your head and develop a vision for your life.
/r/seduction01/02/25 10:29 AM
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You’re absolutely right—mirroring isn’t about tricks or manipulation; it’s about creating a natural rhythm that feels effortless and authentic. To add to that, people often overcomplicate this. If she answers with three words, don’t write a paragraph back—it creates a mismatch in energy and can feel overwhelming. Instead, keep it balanced: ask and answer questions, share experiences, make observations, and sprinkle in your own take on things & add humor etc. At its core, it’s about curiosity and…
/r/seduction04/01/25 01:05 AM
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We all wear different masks in life. One for the world—colleagues and acquaintances. Another for family and friends. And then there’s the one we keep for ourselves—and God, because He sees everything, even your thoughts. The truest version of you is behind that last mask, and it’s the most important one. We all change and adapt, sure, but the relationship you have with yourself is what really matters.
/r/seduction21/11/24 08:18 AM
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You are on to something, this exercise will help you come across better to people in terms of body language. It will enchance your speaking ability and your overall charisma. Several successful people do this exercise, without necessarly girls being the goal, but your overall verbal and non-verbal communication skills, seduction abilities in life and Buisness. Being aware of How you come across to other people is major key to seduction.
/r/seduction04/08/23 10:57 AM
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Dont build the scenarios up in your head. Just go on a date and take it as it comes. I gurantee it wont be as bad as you think. Often we build scenarios in our head that makes us uncomfortable, try to avoid that. Just do it, dont dwell on it. It dosent seem like ur totally over your ex, as you describe her with alot of resentment. Try to be grateful for what she taught you, and move on to a new girl with the relationship knowledge you now have.
/r/seduction10/06/22 11:11 AM
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It’s simple Logic: If you release 2-3 days a week you’re telling your body that you procreate offsprings often. If you abstain, your body knows you havn’t spread your genes, thus will try to optimize itself in order to procreate. This optimizing phase is directly related to hormones in your body.
/r/seduction01/04/22 10:49 AM
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Imagine their rate if they abstained from pr0n and went on SR.
/r/seduction01/04/22 10:44 AM
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This is 100% true. I even get alot more matches and attention on Tinder when im on a long streak.
/r/seduction01/04/22 07:34 AM
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Thanks for the insight. What did you feel after they approached you? Flattered? And do you remember each encounter you were approached? What do you prefer, being indirect or direct with the approach?
/r/seduction09/03/22 02:07 PM
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Yeah, and the sad part is - they have no story to tell their girlfriends of that one time they got approached by an attractive male. Trust me, when hot girls get hit on in real life, which rarely happens, they are texting their bestfriends asap to tell them what happened. You will actually make her proud of your approach and she will brag about it to her friends. You have made her day and given her validation (they crave real validation in real life). Even if u suck, you had the balls to do it, …
/r/seduction06/03/22 10:59 PM
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Have you ever approached a girl you liked or was into? If no, that's your answer AND your solution. Start approaching girls you find attractive during the day (attractive girls and girls in general are never approached by respectable men/non weirdos, because alot of them are intimidated). Learn daygame, and be well groomed and preferably in decent shape with a flare to your fashionstyle, complementing your physique and features. Start exercising if you don't already do, and eat clean, get in sha…
/r/seduction06/03/22 10:47 PM
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I have the notion that being social has declined with technology, or rather the social do's and dont's for social behaviour has changed over time. The generations before us is much more talkative than the younger one's - I often times observe older people being comfortable taking the first step in friendly banter outside, and if you talk to them first they seem more receptive to having a conversation. This was probably more common before the year 2000, before the rise of technology. I think the …
/r/seduction06/03/22 10:37 PM
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Do you think it's socially unacceptable/retarded to approach strangers with that intention and thats why so few men do it? People doesn't really strike up alot of conversations with strangers anymore in general.
/r/seduction06/03/22 09:41 PM
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That's my point. Very few women get approached by respectable men that are not creeps.
/r/seduction06/03/22 06:55 PM
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Exposure therapy will fix this. Go make your first approach, after your 100 approches this will feel like nothing. Just do it.
/r/seduction06/03/22 10:38 AM
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Martial arts, the best way in this modern era. Take up muay thai or jijutsi asap. You will be sorrounded by alot of masuline energy.
/r/seduction06/03/22 10:34 AM
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