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I suppose other people don't have to process their emotions or perhaps they just go away. Mine haven't. So, I tried something that I thought would help, and it did. I can now identify when those feelings come and address them. Before, I was controlled or influenced and didn't even realize it. I agree with you - it's all my fault. But my brain is still wired from 40 years of lying to myself, blaming others, justify and a whole lot of other crap. I have to catch those moments and correct them. Par…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/20 02:47 PM
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OYS #32 (12/6) Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 21, 19, 13, 11. Lurked 17 months. Got ILYBINILWY blow-up in August. No sex or touching since May. Still reading Meditations by Aurelious, and Resilience. Listening to Models again, OYS commentary and Stone’s series on MMSLP. Models, WOTSM, PFS, MAP, NMMNG (3x), RM, MMSLP (2x), WISNIFG (3x), SGM and went thru Blue PillProf’s 101 video series 5’11”, 192 lbs, BF 20% (Navy Method). Max BP 250, Squat 245, OHP 165. TL;DR - Bad week of moving backwards. PHYS:…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 02:10 PM
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Four others on payroll, with salaries from $100 - 185k. They covered themselves plus some until COVID. During that time we did a lot of Marketing and new product offering work. I spoke to the lawyer to ask what I should do in order to be in the best position in case of divorce. Thanks for the feedback. Yeah, I'm very focussed lately on getting out of my head. It seems that the changes come in ebbs and flows. I'll have a good few days or week of thinking and acting and feeling different, then it …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/20 11:04 PM
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Thought COVID would end earlier, and kept my employee investments too long. I did the farm work for a couple reasons: - To prove to myself that I could. - To see if it would spark something in me. Maybe I would catch the bug like my wife and oldest daughter had. Nope. There's nothing at the moment I'm doing that I don't want to. I said the opposite - "If you want that, I'm not that and I don't want to be that. You'll need to find someone else for that." I can't push "join me" when I don't know w…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 10:31 PM
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Thanks. Didn't realize that. I added it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 10:23 PM
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OYS #31 (11/30) Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 21, 19, 12, 11. Lurked 17 months. Got ILYBINILWY blow-up in August. No sex or touching since May. Still reading Meditations by Aurelious, and Resilience. Listening to Models again, OYS commentary and Stone’s series on MMSLP and his recent posts. Read Models, WOTSM, PFS, MAP, NMMNG (3x), RM, MMSLP (2x), WISNIFG (3x), SGM and went thru Blue PillProf’s 101 video series 5’11”, 192 lbs, BF 20% (Navy Method). Max BP 250, Squat 245, OHP 165. PHYS: Completed …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 03:04 PM
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OYS #30 (11/15) Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 21, 19, 12, 11. Mildly interested for the first 16 months. More effort since ILYBINILWY-ish blow-up in August. No sex or touching since May. Reading Meditations by Aurelious, and Resilience. Listening to Models again, OYS commentary and Stone’s series on MMSLP. Models, WOTSM, PFS, MAP, NMMNG (3x), RM, MMSLP (2x), WISNIFG (3x), SGM and went thru Blue PillProf’s 101 video series 5’11”, 188 lbs, BF 19% (Navy Method). Max BP 250, Squat 245, OHP 165. PHYS:…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 12:14 PM
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Ok, but when I sat at the table before and everyone got silent, is that a win? When it's just her, or just me, there's plenty of conversation with the kids. Trying to work out how to do that when I'm there (I joined last two nights). I think my goal is be at dinner AND act appropriately/respectful of the situation. Being jovial and joking when everyone there knows divorce is lurking behind the corner doesn't seem to be acting like a man who is aware of the atmosphere and knows his audience and m…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/20 05:48 PM
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Re: fucked up - I'm beginning to see that, too. I just keep coming back to the sidebar, see what others are doing in OYS, and make and execute a plan to move forward. With a payroll of $825k, when COVID hit, it only took a couple months of no revenue + me and another through a summer of almost no revenue. I never thought the revenue drought would last six months. Good point about the rules. In my head, respecting others vs what's right. This group is a good mirror of what's right. I'll do someth…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/20 05:36 PM
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I read Walrus' story and it parallels - stay in the ring. Practice. Face my issues and weaknesses. Where I'm at now, I would just jump into another f'd up relationship. I've been a serial monogamist since high school. I haven't changed much. Yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 11:59 AM
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I've been slack on leading the relationship when she said she wasn't in the place for my efforts (touching, joking, asking on dates). I haven't picked it up except for trying to hold her hand in bed a couple days ago, but she immediately pulled it away. I was thinking through being OI vs respecting her boundaries (she was being respectful when she said those things). Re:work - I'm tired of not having money. I made an avg of $330k a year last several years but put it all back in the company that …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 11:56 AM
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OYS #29 (11/8) Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 21, 19, 12, 11. Not serious for the first 16 months. Got serious in August. No sex or touching since May. Reading Meditations by Aurelious, Resilience, and going back through NMMNG slowly with a notepad next to me. Also going through Stone’s series on MMSLP. Models, WOTSM, PFS, MAP, NMMNG (3x), RM, MMSLP (2x), WISNIFG (3x), SGM and went thru Blue PillProf’s 101 video series 5’11”, 186 lbs, BF 19% (Navy Method). 5x5 BP 177. 3x10 for: Squat 180, OHP 105,…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 12:15 PM
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...thanks. Yes, only doing SL 5x5 until recently. I assumed it was sufficient, but knew some people changed what they did after they hit a plateau with 5x5. I never learned about lifting growing up. Just did it from an early age due to a father who was huge, had a bedroom converted to a mini gym and had us watch Pumping Iron when it came out. Always stronger than most (except for hamster legs - wrestling), so I never questioned "Just show up and do 3 to 5 sets of 4 to 12 reps" and you'll keep go…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/20 02:12 PM
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Yes, several top weight amounts it was either stop going up or lose form. That or sometimes ACL pain or my kneecap locks or my back goes out because I lost form. Last night, my legs were shaking like a richter scale. I fixed the form problem. I just started adding supplemental exercises to see if that gets squats up (hamstrings, glutes)
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/20 08:52 PM
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He lifts at home and lives pretty far out. But that gave me an idea to reach out about a strength program he mentioned.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/20 08:42 PM
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Thanks Nuke. I've watched your posts for a while, and appreciate the input. I'll check the resources you mentioned. My brother had sent me Marcus Aurelious' Meditations. 47 years of BP. Damn... I know everything is relative. Maybe that's why your posts get voted up so much. You've pushed the boundaries of results and what's possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 01:48 PM
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OYS #28 (11/1) Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 21, 19, 12, 11. Not serious for the first 16 months. Got serious in August. No sex or touching since May. Reading old MRP posts (Elements of Frame, Principle of Least Interest, re-reading Steele’s Guide), listening to NMMNG and other RP commentary. Haven’t read much from books for two weeks. Models, WOTSM, PFS, MAP, NMMNG (3x), RM, MMSLP (2x), WISNIFG (3x), SGM and went thru Blue PillProf’s 101 video series 5’11”, 186 lbs, BF 19% (Navy Method). Deloade…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 01:44 PM
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Twice a week.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/20 03:35 AM
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I'm trying to picture that. There's 10,000 issues with it, but I'll keep trying. I do know that clarity on the end goal or vision will be what pulls me into the right actions and decisions, rather than trying to make individual decisions and actions one by one.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/20 03:34 AM
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Thanks, Mensch, for clarifying. I wasn't posting that just because of what you said. If you look through the posts since early August, you'll find a lot of people saying clearly either leave her or "I'd leave her." So, maybe the schism is my head. But I've re-read the posts several times since then, and double-checked what Athol and others said. I honestly feel much better about accepting that it may not work out, and that she'll likely leave, based on the prior ILYBINILWY recipients and underst…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/20 03:28 AM
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I've shared before. I don't plan on leaving because: * - I'm still a mess. And I have a long way to go. * - I get much more practice reps of dealing with my shit, letting go, etc. in the current situation. I'd be much more delusional on my own. * - I believe leaving before I've cleaned up my side of the street, especially since I'm the one that fucked it up from the start, is weak. It's like walking off the mat because the games not going well. I did that once in wrestling and it was awful. * - …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/20 12:57 PM
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I had written a longer reply earlier for background and then decided not to assume. I don't see many here with my age and relationship timeline. Maybe three my age or older who post regularly. I don't know what's realistic, but doing some math, I would estimate that regular sex won't resume for four to eight months. Delusional? Maybe. In what way do you mean? My understanding is that, based on what Athol Kay, Blue Bill Prof and Rian say, it's a month for every year of fuckedupedness. So that's 2…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 08:33 PM
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Middle of May, I think. Why are you asking?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 05:46 PM
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Thx Owl. Good feedback. I'm working on mission, but w/o much result. Best I can see at this moment is things that were interesting to me when I was younger, but that's all. From what I read of Horn's story, it might take months for a mission/vision to become apparent. I was waiting/working on it and ignoring other growth areas (like re-reading NMMNG slowly, meditating, etc) so I decided to stop making it a sequential process ("Find your mission, then go to Step 2"). Thanks again for the input. A…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 01:57 PM
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OYS #27 (10/26) Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 21, 19, 12, 11. Not serious for the first 16 months. Got serious in August. Listening to a lot of interviews of Robert Glover. There’s a lot of background and stories that fill in some areas for me. I didn’t read much this week. Started Resilience, and did a little of Red Queen and NMMNG again with Rian’s commentary. Read Models, WOTSM, PFS, MAP, NMMNG (3x), RM, MMSLP (2x), WISNIFG (3x), SGM and went thru Blue PillProf’s 101 video series 5’11”, 186.5 …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 01:23 PM
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OYS #26 (10/19) Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 21, 19, 12, 11. Not serious for the first 16 months. Got serious on 8/3/20. Drunk Captain with First Mate who emotionally left the ship a long time ago. 5’11”, 186 lbs, BF 19% (Navy Method). BP fail 3x at 220, deloading. 3x10 for: Squat 190, OHP 115 w max of 165, DL 180, Row 125 Reading Red Queen and restarted NMMNG again, taking notes this time. Also restarted Rian’s commentary. Read Models, WOTSM, PFS, MAP, NMMNG (3x), RM, MMSLP (2x), WISNIFG (3x), …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 10:50 PM
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OYS #25 (10/12) Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 21, 19, 12, 11. Not serious for first 16 months. Got serious on 8/3/20. Drunk Captain with First Mate who emotionally left the ship a long time ago. 5’11”, 184 lbs, BF 20% (Navy Method). 5x5 BP 215 max 250, 3x10 Squat 185, OHP 110, DL 165, Row 115 Reading Red Queen and NMMNG again with Rian’s commentary. Read Models, WOTSM, PFS, MAP, NMMNG (3x), RM, MMSLP (2x), WISNIFG (3x), SGM and went thru Blue PillProf’s 101 video series. PHYS: Shoulder pain from …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 11:39 AM
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I went and did something different. In the lowest points during the summer, I went to the gym and did a long, thorough workout. As I keep trying to initiate (talking, dates, sex), I think I'll be denied a lot and for a long time (since I've been a drunk captain 20+ years), so it will be good to have my post-"no" options ready.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/20 04:00 AM
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Great post. Thanks. I'll check out Building the Monolith. I was just scanning the ages of the OYS posters, mostly early to mid 30's. Certainly different for me.
/r/askMRP10/10/20 03:57 AM
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Good point on the difference. I see what you mean now. No, it's never been "natural." And thanks for the reminder to not reply logically. That was dumb on my part.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/20 03:52 AM
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Can you tell me specifically where the neediness/pleaser shows? I re-read my post and the only part that stands out to me is the weekly talks. Good advice to reverse who the date/sex is for. I'm working those because it's good for "us", but the marriage is best served by my self-interest. Maybe I am LARPing. But I know some of my change is real, but she can't/won't see it. "A woman who's had a shlub for 25 years has built up resentment and is right to not to trust the changes and improvements an…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/20 03:48 AM
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If I don't get the points you're making (like, that I'm delusional), I don't know how to "get" it. I feel like I'm fighting a shadow. It's not like I'm willfully telling everyone here "Fuck off! I'm going to do my own thing!" I'm not intentionally trying to bullshit anyone (although maybe I'm bullshitting myself without realizing it). I've taken the advice here to not speak in the future tense, to change how I calc BF, to take my kids to gun safety class, to have fun activities instead of boring…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/20 03:15 AM
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Good point about talking with her. I stopped those conversations as of last weekend. As far as good advice, MMSLP says to work the MAP. Athol says it might take a year. I'm working it. I've shared that here. I've done a lot more based on advice here, and shared it in OYS, but I feel I'm falling into trying to prove myself. The only advice I haven't taken was to leave. I understand that her thinking I might leave helps her see my value and that I have options, but I haven't found how to reflect t…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/20 11:19 PM
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What's the difference between initiate and request? Good point on the dancing. My bad for taking it logically. So her point wasn't really thinking/seeing change? Perhaps it was really just "you suck." As far as owning our failures, perhaps I don't see where that honesty fits in. I'm not supplicating, and I'm not deluding myself that I didn't fuck up and in denial. But I don't stay there and don't want it brought up again. Next time I'll STFU or fog, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/20 10:37 PM
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OYS #24 Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 21, 19, 12, 11. Over a year in. Got serious on 8/3/20, Drunk Captain with First Mate who emotionally left the ship months ago. 5’11”, 182 lbs, BF 20% (Navy Method). 5x5 BP 215 max 250, 3x10 Squat 170, OHP 105, DL 150, Row 115 Reading NMMNG, The Achievement Habit, and going through Rian’s commentary. Read Models, WOTSM, PFS, MAP, NMMNG (3x), RM, MMSLP (2x), WISNIFG (3x), SGM and went thru Blue PillProf’s 101 video series. PHYS: Still getting power from bulking…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 03:25 PM
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Good input. Thanks. I hadn't thought of applying the "small change, watch results, repeat" towards lifting.
/r/askMRP29/09/20 03:26 PM
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OYS #23 (9/28) Sod Arishnod - Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 21, 19, 12, 11. Over a year in. Got serious on 8/3/20, variant of ILYBINILWY. Finished Blue Pill Professor’s video series. Reading NMMNG, Atomic Habits, Achievement Habit. Read WSM, PFS, Poon, MAP, NMMNG (3x), RM, MMSL (2x), WISNIFG (3x), SGM. 182 lbs, BF 20% (Navy Method). BP 210 (5x5), Squat 160, OHP 100 , DL 140, Row 110 (all 3x10) PHYSICAL: Lifts going well. No back or shoulder pain. Getting 120-140 grams of protein/day with switchin…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 10:31 AM
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I checked it out this week for the first time and heard your feedback on mine. Very helpful commentary and richer set of points and perspective than just the written comments here. Particular point for me was "stopping talking in future tense." True. Thanks, Sod
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 11:39 AM
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Good input. I hate burpees but I know they're good. I'll try out your recommendations. Thanks -
/r/askMRP22/09/20 03:11 PM
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I see you point, but I would guess most haven't thought about it, or tell themselves there are no benefits/problems because that's easier than self-control. A realization that I had a couple weeks back was the pattern that was a key part of my problem relationship. The pattern: for whatever reason, jo. But now I'm not sure I'd perform if sex might happen, so...distance myself from the wife to avoid that situation (1-3 days). But now wife is wondering why I'm suddenly disconnecting/being bitchy (…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 03:06 PM
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OYS #22 (9/21) Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 21, 19, 12, 11. Over a year in. Moment of Illumination: 8/3/20 - “I didn’t ask you because I knew you’d say no.” First 10 videos of Blue Pill Professor’s video series. Reading WISNIFG, Seven Levels of Intimacy, Mastery and Pook. Read WSM, PFS, Poon, MAP, NMMNG (3x), RM, MMSL (2x), WISNIFG (3x), SGM. 5'11", 180 lbs, BF 20% (Navy Method). BP 200, Squat 145 x 10, OHP 100 x 10, DL 130 x 10, Row 85 x 12 PHYSICAL: Switched from cutting to bulking (first time…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 10:33 AM
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Thanks for the input. I just switched from cutting to bulking (first time) so I can try out the carbs comment. I'll look at the SL site. Most of what I read seems geared toward younger. Avoiding (more) injuries is top priority for me. I want to keep lifting and be consistent. And I'll pay more attention to my core. Thanks for the input -
/r/askMRP21/09/20 05:26 PM
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No, but that's twice it's been mentioned. I'll try it.
/r/askMRP21/09/20 05:23 PM
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Great list and challenging, too. It changed my mindset when I went in today (and added more caffeine and warm-ups). Thx
/r/askMRP21/09/20 05:22 PM
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I think this is an important point and dynamic that isn't discussed much.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/20 05:21 PM
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It seems like everyone is in agreement with what you're saying, so this is really a response to Tyred, Horns and others too. BTW I agree about the physical aspect. I'm sure every newcomer here thinks they're different and their situation is different, and I don't want to come off that way. FWIW, I thought about all these comments (and re-read the replies to my Boundaries mate-guard attempt) for a couple of days, and thought about why am I choosing to stay. Here's my stance and reasoning. And I w…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/20 02:09 AM
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Benefits are similar to any consistent calorie restriction (lower than you burn) that studies show extend life expectancy, lower blood sugar and cholesterol. When in deficit beyond a short term, the body shifts to a self-preservation mode.IF brings that about.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/20 02:58 AM
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I'd like to know. What's the story? If it's via OYS posts, I can check that out too.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/20 02:54 AM
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Here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DBmqXrwLfiw&list=PLPwkFl_WzinWymq5HSNEfuwfv30QEhWgR&index=5 About 10 mins in, through min 13 or so. I've also thought this clip is OYS in a nutshell: Musician is given honest, helpful feedback but at first doesn't want it, and then follows and learns from it (and humbled along the way). https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SsY4s2lqfCI
/r/askMRP17/09/20 10:24 PM
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I've lost about 15 pounds, so I'm two pounds away. I haven't tracked my macros in a while. I have the meals in my head, but I need to track again. If I'm on the road, it gets a little sideways with too many calories (not junk food, just too much food). Schedule is three meals and two snacks. Once I'm in ketosis, I get very hungry about every two hours. Someone mentioned combining IF and Keto. I've done them separately and believe in the health benefits of IF.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 06:18 PM
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Thanks. I've wrestled through the info and decided to wait until I hit my cutting goals (17% BF)? And then looking forward to changing diet for bulking, but to also see HOW the workouts feel different.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 05:33 PM
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Thanks, Horns. I'll keep that nugget in my...saddle. It's been a cultural change for sure...
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 05:27 PM
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TN, in the country. I watch the young moms at the kid's events, and they're easily an average of 20+ pounds overweight. A 30 (or 40) something in shape is maybe 1 in 50. Crazy. Opposite of when I lived in Cali. Great questions on why not. Partly, I belive what Athol wrote. Why not try for at least 6 months? The cost, to me, is high in so many ways. If it can be righted at least do those things. Also gives me practice to work on my shit - assertiveness, frame, other weak areas on my MAP. It seems…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 06:06 PM
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Yeah, the 15.6% was a scale. Navy seems less precise (but more accurate) because how tight the tape is, was it even across my waist, etc. Wouldn't be surprised that I'm above 20%, but I'm heading in the right direction and made more progress this last 6 weeks. I'll add my height going forward. 5'11"
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 04:25 PM
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Hadn't thought of that - that she's waiting for me to pull the trigger. That just strikes me as fucked up (waiting for someone else to do what they want and you don't). But it seems that working the MAP turns that around, generates attraction? Albeit six - twelve months in getting there...
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 04:21 PM
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She's 5'4" and I'd guess 155, but here in the South, physical shape doesn't seem to matter as much. Yes, she's good looking - a striking appearance and very outgoing, zany and teases others. The latter traits have made more than a few guys light up over the years. I got something similar - "We're not right for each other. I married you because it was the 'right thing' to do, but should have married [farmer boy who crushed on her during college]. I want to share who I am and my new life [farming]…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 04:08 PM
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I see your point about finding out what's true inside me, and yes, I should meditate more. But I get stuck in navel-gazing. Stayed in my own head for 30 years and if you had asked me, I would have said I knew what I was doing in life and going places. I was co-signing my own bullshit. Someone else saying what it is TO THEM can at least check myself and give pause. Learning from others who have thought, processed and had results work for them seems a good idea, too. I don't have to learn everythi…
/r/askMRP15/09/20 01:03 PM
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OYS #21 (9/14) Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 21, 19, 12, 11. Over a year in. Moment of Illumination: 8/3/20 - wife says she’s doing her own thing and considering divorce. Reading WISNIFG, Seven Levels of Intimacy, Mastery and Pook. Read WSM, PFS, Poon, MAP, NMMNG (3x), RM, MMSL (2x), WISNIFG (3x), SGM. 177 lbs, BF 20% (Navy Method). BP 195, Squat 130 x 12, OHP 95 x 12, DL 125 x 12, Row 85 x 12 PHYSICAL: Recent workouts have been good. Wiped out afterwards. Diet is good, too. My mindset shift has …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 10:46 AM
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That's good. I'll add that. Thx
/r/askMRP12/09/20 02:56 AM
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Clarity on vision and mission helps with short term and long term goals, as well as simplicity in what to say "no" to (as someone else mentioned) and alignment (such as what type of friends and activities are moving you further along, vs just being distractions). The Superior Male spent a lot of time on the importance of vision and the key role it plays in the male/female relationship. The man's mission is paramount, which sets the female as secondary/support, meaning she can't be his whole worl…
/r/askMRP12/09/20 02:55 AM
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Thanks for the recommend. I added it to my list. I'll check it out after I finish Mastery.
/r/askMRP12/09/20 02:46 AM
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The outline looks great! Just bought it! Thanks -
/r/askMRP11/09/20 03:41 PM
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Thanks. I read Seven Habits maybe 15 years ago. Great stuff, but I missed that. I recall Begin with the End in Mind. I'll go get it and revisit. And I love the hedge hog concept, just never thought to apply it to my own life. Appreciate your input. Thx
/r/askMRP11/09/20 03:25 PM
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Trying to find a way to journal against some type of "truth." It's actually more helpful than I expected (and I've read the entire bible several times), and I think that's due to application (which is a key trait of this group). For example, I read the verse, "You must be born again," and I journal the connection that I have childhood scripts (NMMNG) and if I truly believed that verse, I should have a blank slate for my identity, life scripts, paradigm. THAT is if I was, truly, born once more an…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/20 01:47 PM
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OYS #20 (9/8) Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 21, 19, 12, 11. Over a year in. Moment of Illumination on 8/3 when wife says she’s doing her own thing. Now she’s talking divorce. I continued my OYS during my one month ban. Reading WISNIFG, Seven Levels of Intimacy and WSM. Read PFS, Poon, MAP, NMMNG (3x), RM, MMSL (2x), WISNIFG (3x), SGM. 179 lbs, BF 22.5% (Navy Method month ago). Squat 115 x 12, BP 180, OHP 95 x 12, DL 115 x 12, Row 75 x 12 PHYSICAL: I feel 90% recovered from back strain and alterna…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 11:04 AM
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Started zinc and fish oil last week. I take a multi (GNC), boron, D, glucosamine, niacin, and magnesium.
/r/askMRP22/08/20 02:23 AM
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Just got the results - 401.
/r/askMRP21/08/20 04:25 PM
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BTW, I read the boundaries post. Excellent. Did the Navy Method, and your BF guess was accurate. Got blood drawn yesterday for full panel. Thx
/r/askMRP21/08/20 04:23 PM
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That's really helpful background information. Thanks a lot.
/r/askMRP21/08/20 03:58 PM
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That's my plan. Results come back next week and I'll see what he says. If he doesn't want to do it, I'll check out Defy Medical and call around here, too. Thanks -
/r/askMRP21/08/20 03:47 PM
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Thanks. I've been working on STFU more now. That, and keep inviting her to do the things I plan with the family and asking her out/to meet.
/r/askMRP11/08/20 05:58 PM
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You're right about the mate-guarding. Upon reflection, that's the roots of it. I can't admit I'm jealous to her, but I throw up all this other crap. I'm sure she sees through it anyways. Others have said what you did about my numbers. I don't get why they are what they are. Maybe my scale is whack. But it's very consistent, and I look like the pictures of body fat types on the web. Appreciate the challenge re: lifting. My goals weren't nearly so high. Today I had to really focus and push and tak…
/r/askMRP11/08/20 05:47 PM
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Apologies - I didn't mean to zero it out. I'm just trying to figure what to do. After going back through MMSL 22 (or whatever was said to read from Situation 3), I did decide to take action. I've checked phone records back last two months but there's nothing but tons of calls to this older lady. Taking it further, per the steps of MMSL, make me unsure whether that shows up as weaker or not. That is, what happens if my wife finds out that I hired a PI? Does it matter what she thinks? I don't know…
/r/askMRP10/08/20 12:54 PM
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I hadn't realized how often I was being sarcastic and passive/aggressive. You're right. Good call.
/r/askMRP10/08/20 12:44 PM
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I'll keep an eye and mindfulness out for what's next. After last week (first with no one on payroll) I feel both a financial burden lifted, but also like I'm missing a limb. Something isn't there, and that makes sense if you have gangrene and had to have it amputated. Still feels odd.
/r/askMRP10/08/20 12:40 PM
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I just realized that I re-read this the first time. Your point is that if she doesn't care about the consequences than my boundaries aren't worth shit.
/r/askMRP10/08/20 12:36 PM
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Yeah, I tend to go heads-down and just crank and endure, turtle-up through tough times, and fun recreational times are for those without discipline or focus. :-/ One of my kids asked me the other day what my hobbies were. I couldn't think of any. I made the intention to start. Throughout the day, I kept adding to the list. Now, to start doing them. Thanks for the input. S
/r/askMRP05/08/20 08:17 PM
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Vet women? Fuck, I don't even know myself...
/r/askMRP04/08/20 10:13 PM
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I saw that, but PDF format on Kindle is crappy. It cost $3 and change w/ discounts I had. I can manage that.
/r/askMRP04/08/20 10:12 PM
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I've wondered this, and thought it must be a moot point. I move towards True North regardless. Although divorce would come sooner if something did happen, so I'm not sure how that plays out.
/r/askMRP04/08/20 09:31 PM
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To clarify - I'm actually a whiny, self-righteous, blame-shifting, intellectual, pussy arrogant-without-reason, jealous, bitter, weak Alpha-has-been douche bag.
/r/askMRP04/08/20 09:29 PM
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Did it work?
/r/askMRP04/08/20 09:28 PM
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Despite my reading of the sidebar materials, nothing has made me realize what I faggot I truly am until I read all the replies to my post here. Getting banned from MRP was just icing. Nah, I won't rationalize it. I can see now that her response was just the natural response to a weak, boring, non-leader faggot. Thanks for the challenge to push in.
/r/askMRP04/08/20 09:27 PM
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Part of the benefit of my company finally winding down to not having FTE's is that I can spend more time working my MAP and the sidebar. I agree with everything you say. I can only guess that trying so hard to make a company succeed just put all the real work in the backseat, but left a shitty wake in the path that I now have to try and clean up and address. Thanks for the thorough reply.
/r/askMRP04/08/20 09:24 PM
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I have a healthy respect for guns an a adopted son who has the same condition that the guy from Sandy Hook and Columbine have. Kids with this condition don't have a conscience due to infant-abandonment-induced, lizard-brain self-gratification all-the-fucking-time issue. Most convicts have it, too. If you ever wondered, "What the fuck was he thinking, taking on five armed cops?!?" That's just it - he wasn't thinking. See something in the store you want? Steal it. See a hot chick? Rape her. Your b…
/r/askMRP04/08/20 09:21 PM
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Signed up today for their next class. Taking my 21 yo, too. Crazy thing is I was looking at getting a Mossberg 3-in-1 earlier in the day. As part of the BF activities I've been trying to get some kind of fucking hobby (see irritating "you sound fun" comment) and I had good memories of pheasant hunting and skeet shooting with a buddy in college. Weak? Yeah. Unexciting? Yeah. Helpful feedback? ...Yeah. Thx
/r/askMRP04/08/20 09:16 PM
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Thanks. I checked it out. And it fits. I'll go back through the referenced areas. Since I missed major flags the first time I went through NMMNG and WISNIFG, I'm sure I did with MMSL, too.
/r/askMRP04/08/20 09:13 PM
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I see your point on gun safety even w/out guns in the house. I'll have to think through other values I have that I haven't imparted. I (thought I) had made progress in living for myself. But evidently not. I may have mistaken emotional detachment on my part as "living for myself," and I don't mean OI. I mean I don't touch her and haven't for a long time.
/r/askMRP04/08/20 09:12 PM
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Ha! My history. Nice. Well, it's been a while since I've focussed on those areas. I've come back to the Sidebar and gym again and it's been engaging to say the least. I'll certainly keep reading and going to the gym and get back to STFU. I'll look into the makeover and opportunities to interact with others. I just bought The Manipulated Man. I need to get back to initiating.
/r/askMRP04/08/20 09:08 PM
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That's a really good enumerated list of my failures. I hadn't realized the depth and breadth of my failure. Sounds like changing the juice is a 25 month process, given a 25 year marriage. Cool.
/r/askMRP04/08/20 08:59 PM
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Of all the feedback I've gone through, this one has pissed me off the most. I can't freakin' get it out of my head. Fourth set of bench - "You sound fun" Loading rock to fix the rained out dirt road - "You sound fun" At the store buying my own food to get back on keto - "You sound fun" It's insane. I hate it because it's true. I am a boring-ass fuck who actually USED to be a ton of fun and spontaneity. I'm trying to figure out where the hell the switch went off that I'm 100% fine with sitting at…
/r/askMRP04/08/20 08:54 PM
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Shit, I knew I haven't been a leader. But there's some point of respect that's demanded rather than be walked over. My recent 2nd time through NMMNG made me see just how fucked up my paradigm was. It's so bad that I didn't even see it the first time I went through the book. I thought it was tips-and-tricks the first time. And couldn't even finish Rational Male due to boredom. Now RM is making me more and more pissed off every section I go through.
/r/askMRP04/08/20 08:50 PM
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True. I think I'll change it. I doubt my rules are going to work anyways (as you said, she obviously doesn't give a golden fuck about it) and I don't want to get wrapped around the axel figuring out if she did/didn't.
/r/askMRP04/08/20 08:46 PM
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Good idea. Thanks -
/r/askMRP04/08/20 08:44 PM
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It does help. I'm fine with moving on, but would like to move on as a better person (per MMSL). Being a detached Nice Guy the whole marriage never really let it become much.
/r/askMRP04/08/20 08:44 PM
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Good input, thx. As much as everyone assumes I'm in bad shape, I think the problem is actually that watching my company of five years go down the drain due to COVID (and previous Nice Guy mistakes). Trying to save it took all of my time and attention away from working the program after just starting and being way far gone done the Beta Rabbit Hole for 25+ years. I let the last guy go on Friday. There's other variables, but I wouldn't be in this situation if it wasn't for being Beta the whole tim…
/r/askMRP04/08/20 08:42 PM
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She spends a ton of time w/ Granny. I've never seen her flirt w/ Chad. But who knows? And I don't know whether to care or focus on that or not. Based on all the feedback, I shouldn't care and continue to focus on myself. Faggot, likely. Fat faggot, thankfully not. Next time I'll head to the gym and STFU when she returns, regardless of what may be going down. Thx for the call-out.
/r/askMRP04/08/20 08:36 PM
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Ok, will do. Thanks -
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/20 03:33 PM
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OYS #14 Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 21, 18, 12, 10. Over a year in. Reading RM. Read MMSP (2x), WISNIFG(3x), NMMNG (2x), SGM. 188lbs w/ BF 15.6%. Squat 175, BP 135, OHP 100, DL 155, Row 105 PHYS SL 5x5 app said to drop 10% since I hadn't worked out for over a week due to hospital and catheter. I only cut some and am very sore and re-injured/felt all three previous problems. Lowered it 10% for the next workout and adding an extra recovery day in between. Hard to give up the gains that I had fina…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/20 03:58 AM
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OYS #13 Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 21, 18, 12, 10. Over a year in. Reading RM. Read MMSP (2x), WISNIFG(3x), NMMNG (2x), SGM. 192lbs w/ BF 15.6%. Squat 180, BP 135, OHP 105, DL 165, Row 115 PHYS After my Wed workout, I thought I was having symptoms of a UTI. By Thursday night, I was in the ER. Stayed in the hospital through Sunday. Learned a lot about our urinary system and proved that scar tissue can stop even the most determined nurses from running a catheter. Speaking of, I now get to carry …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/20 12:03 AM
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He understood the situation, asked about just taking a pay cut. I said that wouldn't be sufficient, wouldn't buy us but another week or two of continued non-acceptance of reality. He was supportive of acquisition, which I'm pursuing and three companies are interesting in talking, one of which (my preferred by far) already gave terms. It's a better end to the company than just going under, but there's no real pay-out since we've been losing money. The compensation for me isn't better than being o…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/20 03:51 PM
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OYS #12 Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 21, 18, 12, 10. Over a year in. Reading MMSP (2x), WISNIFG(3x). Read NMMNG (2x), SGM. 191lbs w/ BF 15.6%. Squat 175, BP 130, OHP 105, DL 165, Row 110 PHYS Hiked 17.8 miles w/ 4,600 ft gain over the weekend. Longest ever and glad I did it. Soreness in calves affected squats, though, and I had the first knee pain since six months ago. Tomorrow should finish my post-COVID catch up w/ new maxes. Looking forward to that. Let me eating go over the weekend by celebr…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/20 09:34 PM
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OYS #11 Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 21, 18, 12, 10. Over a year in. Reading MMSP (2x), WISNIFG(3x). NMMNG (2x), SGM. 189lbs w/ BF 15%. BP: 125, Squat 165, OHP 100, DL 155. PHYS Staying consistent on lifting, high-protein diet. Hit pre-COVID maxes on two exercises, will hit the rest next week. Putting in extra time for sit-ups, PT shoulder exercises and stretching to not have prev injuries get in the way. That's gone well and is helping. No lifts have hit those previous back, shoulder or elbow p…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/20 05:58 PM
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I shared examples of doing what I hadn't done before, but I'll look for ways to do more of "what is going on with you and how you relate to the story, and what action you are taking in your life to move forward." Lying? To clarify, those were "rules" before that I'm not worrying about now. I told my wife what I bought and why when I got home, and did it to share information w/ her, not "check to see if it was okay" as I would have in the past. WTF is going on, to be sure. What I'm doing now is b…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/20 05:33 PM
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I was just getting clarity on that question last week, given I had done concurrent OYS posts for the first time ever, yet was reading posts since two years back maybe. Not sure what the switch was, but yeah, I'm ready.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/20 04:19 PM
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If not knowing True North, next week or that I had been living a lie for 35 year, yeah, I suppose I'm a mess. Yep, and she's good with the rules. Used to kid her about it by making up new numbers ("Rule #137") but yet didn't want to actually get into the conflict about them. And not only do I not care about that as much now, it's everyone else's opinion I care about less, too. I suppose you're right about everyone else. It's just that I didn't get to know them well enough to see it before, and w…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/20 04:17 PM
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OYS #10 Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 21, 18, 12, 10. Over a year in. Reading MMSP. NMMNG (2x), WISNIFG (2x), SGM. 188lbs w/ BF 15%. BP: 115, Squat 155, OHP 95, DL 145. PHYS Stuck to lifting routine, despite very busy week. I didn't lift before on long work days, but I adjust my sleep schedule and made it happen. Happy with that. Barbell Row is now past pre-COVID weight, and Deadlift will be, too, within a week. Stuck to better eating the week, too, and dropped a little BF% MENTAL This is the big…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/20 03:24 PM
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OYS #9 Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 21, 18, 12, 10. Over a year in. Reading MMSP and NMMNG both for 2x, WISNIFG (2x), SGM. 1889lbs w/ BF 15%. BP: 110, Squat 140, OHP 85, DL 130. PHYS Consistent on workouts, more protein. Added stairmaster for upcoming hike. Need to add more warm-up and ancillary exercises to not let previous shoulder, elbow and back injuries prevent progress. SOCIAL Chats w/ group of men several times this week. More than my average, but my goal is for that to become a daily hab…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/20 04:01 PM
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OYS #8 Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 21, 18, 12, 10. Over a year in. Reading MMSP and NMMNG both for 2x, WISNIFG (2x), SGM. Same 188lbs w/ BF 15%. Restarted at gym last week SF 5x5 said to cut weight by half. Now at BP: 105, Squat 125, OHP 80, DL 115. PHYS Consistent at gym after it was closed since March. Need to clean up my diet now. MENTAL Someone got on me after my last OYS and it was a good kick in the head. Went back through WISNIFG, but now going through NMMNG and it's really hitting me ab…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/20 07:52 PM
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OYS #7 Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 20, 18, 12, 10. A year in. Read MMSP, NMMNG, WISNIFG (1). Haflway through SGM, started WISNIFG 2x. 188lbs w/ BF 15%. BP: 135, Squat 185, OHP 105 MISSION Live an authentic life I love, bring that to my family, work and community. PHYS Been very consistent with 5x5 and enjoying it. No prior injuries flaring up, which is my main goal. On hold this week due to COVID. Mostly on keto (I just feel better on it), recently switched to IF based on what I read that it he…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/20 01:16 PM
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This was actually funny. Thanks. I thought about justifying the weights, but you don't know the backstory and it doesn't matter. I've really worked on avoiding blaming and justifying, so I won't do it here either. As far as books, you're right. I've haven't read much over the last six months. TBH, the value of the RM I and III, and WSM were so much lower the MMSLP, WISNIFG and NMMNG. So, rather than drag my feet and be abased on MRP, I'll go back to where I got so much value and re-read those fi…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/20 04:54 PM
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OYS #6 Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 20, 18, 12, 10. Almost a year of effort. Read MMSP, NMMNG, WISNIFG (1). Reading RM vol 1 & just switched to SGM. 190lbs w/ BF 15.5%. BP: 95, Squat 110. Physical: Had a good lift week, then a bad week and then sick. Just finished second this week. Career: Grinding looking for sales and seeing results from focused effort on marketing, although vanity metrics. If we can't land something to get us in the black this month, I'll have to look at letting another emplo…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/20 09:16 PM
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OYS #5 Stats: 50, wife 49, 4 kids - 20, 18, 12, 10. Almost a year of effort. Read MMSP, NMMNG, WISNIFG (1). Reading RM vol 1. 195lbs w/ BF 16.5%. BP: 95, Squat 105. Physical: Self-treatment of tendonitis in the elbow is going well. No more pain and now couple weeks into strengthing exercises for it. Felt it was time to re-start the gym and went today for the first time in 5 mos. Took it easy on the 5.x, but clearly lost a lot of strength since August, but loved the feeling of effort and the body…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/20 10:03 PM
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OYS #4 Stats: 50 next month, wife 49, 4 kids - 20, 18, 11, 10. Approximately a year since discovering MRP, 9 months effort. Physical: After an August of consistent gym and eating well with the results of dropping 1% bf and 10-15 lb gains on BP & squats, I moved the family across the US and haven't set back up the habits. Gained the weight back, lost the muscle and looking crappy. I started Intermittent Fasting last week as the easiest way to do something. Tendonitis in the elbow from moving beca…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 04:38 PM
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OYS #3 49, wife 48, married 25 years. Four kids from 9 - 20. BP: 50 lbs dumbbell, Squat: 130 lbs. Discovered MRP early this year. Reading: 15% thru 2nd go at MMSP. Just finished WISNIFG. Read NMMNG. Vision: Be the oak. Lead an extraordinary life of impact that pulls my family forward and into the same. Health: Started 5x5 after month of lifting. Concerned for previous sports injuries, so easing into it and watching form. Thanks for the recent posts on form (toes, blades, etc). I've upped my prot…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/19 02:16 AM
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OYS #2 49 yo, 5'11" 192 lbs, 15.2 % BF. Married 25 years, 4 kids 20, 18, 11, 10. Readings: NMMNG, WISNIFG 85%, MMSP 75% Physical: After a month off, hit the gym 3-4x week last four weeks. Bought a scale that measures body fat. Career: Lots of work came in, but still have issues with team pulling their weight. WISNIFG has helped me have very direct conversations with them. Stated goal this year was for them to get off financial dependence on me (I bring in about half the revenue). Today I updated…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/19 01:24 AM
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Thanks for the feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/19 03:41 AM
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Stats: 49 yo, 5’11”, 190 Married 24 years, kids 10, 12, 17, 20 Background Found MRP last year. Raised BP and been so throughout marriage. Reading Read NMMNG, reading MMSP. Mission To have a life of impact Physical Joined a gym last week. Went twice. Mindset Got negative, avoiding and in my head as we begin the process of moving from where we’ve lived 12 years. Relationship No sex. I’m not initiating. Depending on my attitude, I usually don’t feel attracted to her and have no real interest in gam…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/19 06:18 AM
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That is so sad. I feel for you. Last year, my wife was leaving each weekend. Terrible loneliness, hopelessness. RP has helped (she basically threatened divorce in the Spring - a real wake up call). I’m glad you shared. It’s a good reminder.
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