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Although here on reddit a lot of girls say that they prefer a person asking if they wanna dance, from my experience asking for consent will always produce a negative reaction. Remember that this is Reddit. The women here are either a) Probably saying what they would like, yet would behave differently in the moment. b) Probably not the women you'd find in these clubs. Or c) prob ably not the most socially adept women. Speaking from my own personal experience as well, I find that what women say th…
/r/seduction30/09/22 03:54 PM
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Have they made it clear they're interested, or are they doing that thing where they're trying to get you to make the first move? Regardless, here are a few suggestions: If they made it clear they are interested in you, just tell them that you're flattered but you don't see it going anywhere beyond a mere friendship. You don't owe them any explanation beyond that. If they haven't made it clear, ask them "What are you looking for?" This will ideally put them on the spot. Stop making yourself so av…
/r/seduction30/09/22 02:52 PM
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Of course these women do exist. It's not every woman, but they're definitely out there.
/r/ExRedPill29/09/22 06:59 PM
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I'm personally not a fan of female body hair.
/r/seduction29/09/22 06:08 PM
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I achieved this mentality long ago, and yes in a way it is kind of a superpower. It is totally obtainable. Now I don’t expect myself to not care about the outcomes. Because that’s not really possible. I can’t just decide I don’t care about it. Because I still will care not matter how much try not to care. I would be lying to myself, and trying to suppress my sexuality. There are not one, but two different outcomes: the micro-outcomes (interactions with individual women) vs the macro-outcome (how…
/r/seduction28/09/22 05:01 PM
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Don't text her for days before asking her out on a date, ask her out ASAP and get to know her on the date. Do make your move and ask her out as soon as possible. Frame it as a date. Don't be afraid of rejection. It's inevitable and part of the process, you need to learn to live with it. Do be honest with yourself about the vibe she's given. Don't see only what you want to see on a date Don't waste your time trying to win her over if she doesn't seem very invested in you. Don't waste your time wi…
/r/seduction28/09/22 04:23 PM
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I'd just ghost her
/r/seduction25/09/22 07:39 PM
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You have to grow a thick skin to it, that's all you can really do.
/r/seduction25/09/22 04:32 PM
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All red pillers have their roots in starting out as a "Nice Guy", I'd even go as far to say they're still "nice guys" who are just more jaded.
/r/ExRedPill23/09/22 03:00 PM
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First of all, if she's ghosted you immediately afterwards then clearly it wasn't a great date. Why do people do this? Someone please explain to me? Why hug me? Why tell me I'm different from all the scumbag guys on tinder? We even discussed things we'd like to do together on a second date, why even entertain that thought if she's just going to ghost me? At the end of the day, only she knows the answer to all these questions. There could literally be a million different possibilities, but you're …
/r/seduction22/09/22 03:01 PM
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What you have (i.e. muscles, height, looks, material possessions, etc) is maybe 30% of the equation, whereas how you work with what you've got is the remaining 70%. Dudes who are tall, muscular, and drive fancy cars often struggle because they think that's all it takes to attract women. More often than not these are dudes who didn't have to work hard to get there (i.e. They got set up with a condo and nice car, all paid in full, by daddy's money). Usually if that's the case, they tend to lack th…
/r/seduction20/09/22 02:39 PM
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Chubby girls feel insecure about fit guys because they think you'll get a lot of female attention and cheat on them.
/r/seduction19/09/22 01:35 AM
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If you want to end up in your campus newspaper then I say go for it! You shouldn't do anything for the exclusive purpose of meeting women, because you'll come across as a needy, desperate loser. You should do what you want because you want to do it. You'll be better off meeting women in a salsa dancing class, but even then they prefer the dudes who actually take it seriously.
/r/seduction19/09/22 01:32 AM
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It would be a joke that stuck when we first met
/r/seduction19/09/22 01:24 AM
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When I meet dudes like this I just don't take them seriously at all. Laugh it off, even go as far as to stroke his ego. If you're truly above his level, then it shouldn't bother you at all to do this. Remember that guys like this are all talk, and convince themselves they're much more important than they really are. Sooner or later they slip up and make an ass of themselves. You might get to be the one who puts them in their place, or you might not be. You shouldn't be letting him live rent free…
/r/seduction18/09/22 11:01 PM
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It really depends on the guy, but I personally disagree with this as a blanket statement because it does not apply to me. I'm a thirsty guy (I admit it) and I want to get laid. Having sex is a bare minimum requirement for me to start dating someone exclusively. Sex isn't everything but even if I think she's a great person, if she isn't putting out then might as well just be friends. On the flipside I'm not dumb enough to get in a relationship with someone just because the sex is good.
/r/seduction18/09/22 05:46 PM
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Good pics, carefully written bio. For good pics, minimum you need one full body pic and one pic that clearly shows your face (without sunglasses or a hat). Don't just take a couple of low effort selfies and call it a day. Take a shower, get your hair groomed, put on some nice clothes, and go out and find a good spot, get a friend to take pics for you. For your bio, try and think of a way to convey the message without writing an essay. State your height, hobbies, occupation (and/or school), and m…
/r/seduction18/09/22 05:40 PM
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Never intentionally, but I've had chicks who were foolish enough to lead themselves on.
/r/seduction18/09/22 05:30 PM
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Yes, yes it does apply. Just sitting on your hands and texting for days makes you come off as an indecisive man. Being indecisive is a turn off for most women.
/r/seduction15/09/22 05:10 PM
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Wrong sub to ask
/r/seduction15/09/22 03:42 PM
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Made "chasing women" a more passive effort than an active one. Instead of actively going out of my way to find women to date in real life, I made a rule to just let the opportunities come up randomly. I often found myself in situations where they could happen randomly, but I never made "chasing women" my main motivation as much as it was just a bonus. Also, online dating apps on your phone (if you know what you're doing) are an easy way to work finding women into your schedule without having to …
/r/seduction14/09/22 05:14 PM
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Very valid points. I admit that I have my own bones to pick with certain things about the way modern dating works, but at the end of the day I know that incessantly bitching about it on the internet isn't going to do shit to change it; that's not how the world works. At the end of the day I don't get to make the rules of how the world works, I just exist in the system the way it is. I'd rather have a sex life than die a bitter incel who wasted away his prime years whining on the internet about h…
/r/seduction14/09/22 02:57 PM
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Can confirm your point OP. When I had a bit of extra weight, rounder babyish looking face, boyish looking haircut, dressed like I wore whatever my mother bought me from Target, didn't get much attention from the ladies. When I got leaner, got a more mature looking haircut, grew out a bit of facial hair, started wearing more flattering clothes, all of a sudden the ladies wanted to give me more time of day.
/r/seduction13/09/22 09:33 PM
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You have three choices I see here: Find a girl whose on the more socially conservative side. Church is a good place to start. Change your attitude and enjoy the fact that women with high bodycounts are fucking amazing in bed Take a vow of celibacy
/r/seduction13/09/22 08:56 PM
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If you want advice regarding dating while saving your V-card for marriage, you've come to the wrong place. Nobody on this sub gives a rat's ass about chastity. There are plenty of women out there saving themselves for marriage, but the vast majority of them are very religious and/or socially conservative. I would suggest looking for faith-based groups that cater to young people, or going on eHarmony or Christian Mingle (if you're Christian). That being said, I think it only makes sense to do so …
/r/seduction12/09/22 06:33 PM
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If they're calling you cute and having sex with you, you don't have anything to worry about
/r/seduction11/09/22 04:45 PM
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It could either be them hitting on you, or it could have been a dare from one of her friends (y'all are still in high school, that kinda shit is more common during that time).
/r/seduction11/09/22 04:23 PM
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The wording's questionable and could be easily misinterpreted, but here's what I would take it as: Basically he's just saying it's better to be more forthcoming about your intentions instead of beating around the bush and "hiding" them to avoid scaring her off. I've personally found that being more direct does have a much better chance at getting you laid than "playing it safe" does. Point being that you'll get rejected regardless of whether you're upfront or beating around the bush, but if you'…
/r/seduction10/09/22 05:14 PM
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It won't work if you just slide into her DMs. She probably has tons of guys trying to slide into her DMs already thinking they have a chance, women on average seldom fuck guys who slid into their DMs, if at all. Most likely way to get into her pants is if you both happen to be at a party together, you're both tipsy, and you both just happen to be horny and you're each other's most convenient option. Don't expect that to happen though, it's a case of being in the right place at the right time.
/r/seduction09/09/22 06:50 PM
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Both can happen, but it really depends on the people who were around to witness you both pre and post glow up. In my case, what you're describing happened to me but it was mainly because right before my glowup I was in a STEM undergrad which was mostly made up of guys who weren't exactly the types you would expect did well with women. Those guys were always bitter asshats who loved talking shit, they just felt more comfortable doing it to my face because I knew them. They also did it all through…
/r/seduction09/09/22 05:24 PM
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I can relate to this. I kind of had the opposite experience of you though. Once my transformation/glow up started happening a lot of dudes that I used to be pretty cool with all of a sudden changed their tone towards me. Before they used to be cool and joke around, but then they kind of started to talk shit about me, both to my face and behind my back, insult me, etc. They'd be DMing me saying all sorts of shit like "I liked the old you better", "You went from being a normal guy to a douchebag",…
/r/seduction09/09/22 05:04 PM
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I'd let her come to you if anything. Don't be the guy who pursues her, you'll just be the guy who she texts when she wants attention. Definitely not the kind of person you should consider being in a relationship with.
/r/seduction06/09/22 04:32 PM
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I stopped caring about rejection and saw each rejection as a blessing in disguise. Rejections should not be seen as a loss or a missed opportunity, but rather taken to mean that you saved wasting time with someone you are most likely not compatible with. I subconsciously stopped feeling sad about my failures in dating, and I interestingly enough found that I was bringing that energy in my approaches with women, who smelled it from a mile away.
/r/seduction06/09/22 12:03 AM
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In my experience, it's the girls that don't normally go clubbing who end up hooking up with you more often. Pretty much all my lays from the club have been with women from the suburbs or out of town who got dragged there by their city friends. For your case, if clubs aren't your scene then I suggest not going to the club to look for women.
/r/seduction05/09/22 11:58 PM
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Multiple reasons: Validation to see if they've "still got it", even if they're in a happy relationship, for whatever reason. Having some problem in their relationship and are seeking validation from outside Looking to cheat, physically or emotionally If their SO is present, might be trying to be petty/prove a point to them.
/r/seduction29/08/22 07:20 PM
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More accurately, shy men struggle with women. A lot of more intellectual guys happen to struggle with social interaction due to shyness, social awkwardness, social anxiety, etc.
/r/ExRedPill28/08/22 12:39 PM
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Don't know if dropping your pen and bending over to pick it up in front of her will work or not, but worth a try I guess?
/r/seduction19/08/22 08:12 PM
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"I mean there's always the chance could end up becoming the next [insert famous wealthy power couple here], but unless you give me a chance you'll never know!" There's not one single line that will work in all situations of course. She'll either find it funny/intriguing/charming, or she'll think you're dumb.
/r/seduction19/08/22 08:09 PM
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Then I say go for it! But do it for the love of photography first, not just in the name of getting laid.
/r/seduction19/08/22 08:03 PM
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I used to do a lot of bachata dancing back in the day. I got pretty damn good at it. In the classes I took (it was more of a community thing than a commercial school) I'd often go and help the guys who were struggling to keep up, and helped them improve their techniques. With dance a huge part of me initially joining was to become more comfortable around women, but I did actually enjoy it for what it was, and I really did care about helping these guys get better at it as well. Getting involved i…
/r/seduction19/08/22 07:56 PM
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It's one of the few dating advice self-help books I've ever read, and I can say it was very helpful. Granted by the time I learned about the book, I was already on a journey of taking action and trying things differently. It did, however, point out a lot of things that I had specifically overlooked. One specific thing it helped with was learning to accept rejection as part of the process, be more "polarizing" by being my authentic self even if it makes a potential date not like me instead of pla…
/r/seduction17/08/22 05:01 PM
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Confidence is feeling secure about yourself, happy with who you are, having high self esteem, and being able to have the general feeling that despite anything bad that comes your way, everything will turn out alright (outcome independence). Regarding how to gain confidence, that's one of the hardest things to teach one how to do. Everyone is different, and everyone will have a different path they need to take to feeling more confident in themselves. For me personally, it was really just learning…
/r/seduction13/08/22 11:35 PM
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You might have made some mistakes but that's okay. Reflect on them, find the key takeaways here, and use them to do better moving forward. The best thing to do here is forget her and move on. The possibility you'll ever get a second chance with her is remote to none, but that shouldn't matter. She will not be the last girl you ever connect with on that level, there will be another girl who you will connect just as well as if not better with. Let her go, not just literally, but also the thought o…
/r/seduction12/08/22 09:15 PM
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BP is more or less in the same pipeline as RP, it's just deeper down the funnel. Basically just a more extreme form. Unless they get out of RP, the guys who struggle with women will probably end up going BP without intervention.
/r/ExRedPill12/08/22 05:20 PM
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I seem to get the most attention from Southeast/East Asian, South Asian, Black, and occasionally White and Middle Eastern women.
/r/seduction12/08/22 05:09 PM
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It's just life experience really
/r/ExRedPill12/08/22 04:34 PM
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Won't lie and pretend it doesn't happen, but it's not always the case. With that being said, there are steps that men can take when getting to know a potential partner to not end up falling into this situation. More often than not most women who are trying to "settle and find a provider guy" will display numerous red flags early on. For the situations where it does get to the point of a long term relationship, oftentimes the man either failed to spot the red flags or simply ignored them. I say t…
/r/ExRedPill12/08/22 01:41 PM
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Damn, you'd think he'd figure it out if he's well into his 30s
/r/seduction12/08/22 02:16 AM
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Umm, maybe start by not listening to redpillers too much?
/r/ExRedPill11/08/22 10:00 PM
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All radicalized internet individuals are hypersensitive to criticism
/r/ExRedPill11/08/22 09:55 PM
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Google "serial monogamist"
/r/seduction11/08/22 06:42 PM
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Look specifically for women who are insecure, put you on a pedestal, or otherwise crave male validation. Do just enough that she'll keep coming back for more, but never explicitly promise anything you have no intention of committing to. Act hot and cold with her. Continue to just act like you're single. If she get's mad and feels like you're leading her on, remind her that you never made any promises and imply that it's her own damn fault for leading herself on. Because as a grown adult, it's on…
/r/seduction11/08/22 06:41 PM
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It's never too late to start dating. But be prepared to answer some questions.
/r/seduction11/08/22 06:29 PM
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First I'll get the obvious out of the way, a lot of "nice guys" aren't anywhere near as nice as they think they are. Now for the actual point I want to make, being nice in itself isn't a bad thing, nor will it automatically make every woman turn you away. The truth though is that simply just "being nice", even if you are actually genuinely a nice person, isn't in itself sufficient to set you apart as an attractive romantic partner. Many of a nice person (i.e. being polite, respecting boundaries)…
/r/seduction11/08/22 06:25 PM
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Not so much a space, but The Manicured Mom on TikTok talks about a lot of red flags in women to look out for.
/r/ExRedPill10/08/22 01:41 PM
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Don't know why you got downvoted, that book isn't what I'd define as RP at all. If anything, it calls out the "nice guy" behaviours and thoughts that lead to men adopting RP in the first place.
/r/ExRedPill10/08/22 01:36 PM
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Andrew Tate isn't anything new, before him there was Roosh V.
/r/ExRedPill10/08/22 01:32 PM
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Do you mean a man with a cuckold fetish, or a man whose such a doormat that he won't leave his cheating SO? In the former case, not my thing but whatever floats your boat. In the latter case, grow a pair because she's for the streets man
/r/ExRedPill10/08/22 12:36 PM
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Gatekeeping at its finest
/r/ExRedPill08/08/22 08:27 PM
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Stop looking at black pill shit on the internet for starters. And don't listen to blackpillers when they do pop up
/r/seduction06/08/22 01:17 PM
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Like I don't have a problem with feminism itself per se, but when someone announces it in their bio they're basically just saying "I hate men and think they deserve to be treated like garbage". Or if it's a guy proclaiming he's a feminist in his bio, he's basically saying "I'm going to pretend to be your ally and hate on other men because I think it will increase my chances of you sleeping with me"
/r/seduction05/08/22 11:02 PM
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If she has "feminist" in her social media or dating app profile, then 99/100 she's really just a misandrist, or only cares about the parts of feminism that benefit her.
/r/seduction05/08/22 07:04 PM
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You kind of shot yourself in the foot with this one. I personally don't see this trip ending well.
/r/seduction05/08/22 06:59 PM
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Now, on the call she told me that she does have moments where sometimes shell just flip moods, one time she's acc tryna conversate then second she's like dead Rule #1, when someone tells you how they are, believe them. She's either using you for attention/validation, or is following bad dating advice she read in Cosmopolitan, Jezebel, Buzzfeed, etc. I'm also a straight up, direct guy myself and I appreciate the same from any potential partners. That kind of behaviour would be a hard next for me.
/r/seduction04/08/22 08:11 PM
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Is a main reason that you didn't go for the close so she jumped into game-mode? This answer varies person to person. She might be playing some game, she might not be. Only she knows the answer at the end of the day, and chances are you never will. Don't drive yourself bonkers. Is the main point to always go for the close and take a risk even if you're not 100% feeling it at that moment but you know something could be there? There's no right or wrong answer to this, the main point is to do whatev…
/r/seduction04/08/22 06:24 PM
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Why are you assuming they're there with a guy on a date? They could literally be with anybody. Hell, for all you care they're probably there by themself and just asked a server to take a pic for them.
/r/seduction04/08/22 06:21 PM
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This is usually from guys who know what they're doing. Just because someone is successful at something doesn't mean they're good at teaching others how to do it. That statement doesn't just apply to seduction, if you go to any university there are professors who are brilliant experts in their field but can't teach students for shit. While they aren't wrong and it isn't BS per se, they just aren't telling you 'how' specifically to go about this. How do you "don't try too hard", how do you "just b…
/r/seduction04/08/22 06:00 PM
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One thing to take note of is the expose of PUA culture that happened a few years ago. This was thanks, in no part, to those PUA bootcamps ran by snake oil salesmen who would charge you $2000 for their programs which would consist of classroom sessions and field trips to crowded public areas to talk to as many women as possible. PUA tactics of course worked much better in the past before the public was aware of it, but nowadays women are aware of the methods. PUA was never necessary to get laid, …
/r/seduction04/08/22 05:34 PM
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Depends on the woman. Some will only stay single for a brief period of time before they're talking to someone new. Others wont rush into anything serious. Unless you're counting the guy(s) trying to get in their pants then yes they are often truly single.
/r/seduction04/08/22 12:51 PM
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99% of the time she's being boring/dry and giving one word answers because she isn't interested.
/r/seduction02/08/22 12:27 PM
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It might, it might not. It's up to you to decide if it's worth the risk or not.
/r/seduction02/08/22 12:11 PM
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Lol you trying to get banned from Uber?
/r/seduction02/08/22 01:49 AM
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Something just got triggered inside me in the worst way and I found it better to leave. I just want to know if someone has felt that, if they relate and how they have overcome/succeeded. I personally felt that a lot when I was younger. It frustrated the hell out of me: what did other guys have that I didn't that made them so much more appealing than me? I wasn't one of those creepy guys that doesn't take no for an answer, stalks women, gropes them in the club, tries to take pictures up their ski…
/r/seduction01/08/22 04:51 PM
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If she wants to play "hard to get" I treat her like she's not interested in me. Even if she is, I'm not jumping through hoops like a circus animal while she sits up on her high pedestal doing jackshit. I just stop talking to them and move on.
/r/seduction01/08/22 04:31 PM
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Good for you OP! I had that exact same problem when I was younger. In high school, had a massive crush on this girl (call her Allison) who I occasionally interacted with, for the entire 4 years of it. Outright ignored other girls, or only dated other girls as "practice" because I was convinced I was meant to eventually end up going to prom and being high school sweethearts with Allison. I never got with Allison, she ended up getting with some guy I fucking hated, after high school. But by that p…
/r/seduction01/08/22 04:26 PM
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Get in the habit of asking any woman you're interested in out on a date ASAP. Don't hesitate, don't beat around the bush, just ask. her. out. Oneitis is rooted in the fear of rejection. You hesitate to ask a woman out because you're afraid she's going to reject you, so instead you hang back and daydream what it would be like to be with her. You play out scenarios about the two of you frolicking in la-la land, her meeting your parents, you getting married, yadda yadda. Cringey... You get infatuat…
/r/seduction01/08/22 03:15 PM
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Any chance of changing this back to only fwb? Alas, that ship has sailed me matey. In the future, don't get so hung up on a girl you've never even met in real life before.
/r/seduction01/08/22 03:00 PM
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It could be anything. Sometimes women at clubs draw a hard limit on what they will do with guys. Other times they realize they're not feeling as much as they thought. Also, shit happens with their friends (i.e. one gets too drunk, one wants to go home, one starts crying over her ex boyfriend in the bathroom, etc) Don't take it personally, just enjoy it for what it is, and be proud of yourself for even getting that far.
/r/seduction01/08/22 12:13 AM
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Great call out I understand sexual frustration as much as the next guy, but I can hardly say I have much sympathy for incels. The reality is these guys expect to be served women on a silver platter like it's their god given right, and that women should just spread their legs for them without them having to do jackshit. If that's your attitude, might as well do yourself and the women of the world a favour by buying a sex doll and swearing off real women forever. Don't buy a sex doll with AI thoug…
/r/seduction31/07/22 03:12 PM
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Maybe you came off a certain way? I've personally stopped talking to women because they came off as rude, uninterested, disrespectful, standoffish, hostile, etc.
/r/seduction31/07/22 02:04 PM
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You're not blocked if your message says delivered. Ghosted maybe, but not ignored. It could honestly be anything. Maybe you come off too strong/desperate? That's one big reason why I'd pull away from a girl if she returns my interest.
/r/seduction31/07/22 01:57 PM
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It's hard but doable. The first and hardest hurdle to get over is learning how to not let rejection fuck with you.
/r/seduction28/07/22 01:58 PM
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I told him that if I did anything flirtatious I could land up in jail I guarantee you that unless you're literally sexually assaulting her (i.e. grabbing her by the pussy), you will not end up in jail just for flirting. At the very worst she might see the flirting attempts as unwanted, but 99% of the time she's just going to tell you to go away. Even if she does try and report you, unless she can prove that you sexually assaulted her, most likely nothing can come of it.
/r/ExRedPill27/07/22 09:53 PM
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Much better now, thanks for asking! Over time I've learned that no matter what some people are going to judge you anyway, being selfish isn't always a bad thing, and having boundaries and self respect doesn't make you a dick. A lot of people just get mad because they were hoping that you were a pushover, and they'll do whatever they can to pass that guilt onto you so they don't feel like an asshole. Even then it wasn't the smoothest ride. There are many apologies I made that I wish I could take …
/r/ExRedPill27/07/22 05:37 PM
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I had a somewhat abusive father growing up. I don't hate him, he did his absolute best to work hard and provide for our family, did a damn good job, and I respect him for that. But to this day my grandparents are extremely toxic towards him. When I was younger, when money was much tighter he would often get drunk and take his frustrations out on me. I'd often get on his bad side for very arbitrary reasons, which resulted in mostly verbal/emotional abuse, but on a couple of occasions physical bea…
/r/ExRedPill27/07/22 04:46 PM
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Ah, then it's no wonder why everyone is a certain way. A town with a tiny population, which I'd expect to be mostly or all white, is the perfect place for a racist asshole to thrive. The women are most definitely racist assholes just like him as well, like attracts like after all. I would take any opportunity to get the fuck out of that place. Move to the city, or if you're available to volunteer or teach English abroad then do that as well. You'll expose yourself to far more interesting people …
/r/ExRedPill27/07/22 04:27 PM
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Nothing wrong with being friends with women, and it can even be beneficial for you. Never use it as a strategy for dating though. Bottom line, only be friends with her if she's actually someone you would like to be friends with her. If you're not interested in a mere friendship, don't waste your time.
/r/seduction27/07/22 03:59 PM
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It sounds like you grew up in a small town, small towns are those kind of places where if you're not in the "in" crowd or you don't have much in common with most people there, it sucks living there and people don't bother being nice to you. I found that living in the city is better, even if you don't fit in with one crowd chances are you'll find one where you do fit in.
/r/ExRedPill27/07/22 03:26 PM
15

This behaviour isn't a gender specific thing, many people out there are in the moment creatures. I've been in situations where I've made out with women I didn't see myself in anything long term with because why the hell not? A kiss from a cute stranger is a kiss from a cute stranger, and when your single there's really no consequence to stealing a kiss for the hell of it. Think of it as a blessing in disguise. Someone was attracted enough to you they felt comfortable kissing you. Just enjoy it f…
/r/seduction27/07/22 01:17 AM
6

I'd recommend Models by Mark Manson and No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover
/r/ExRedPill26/07/22 07:13 PM
1

I used to be in a similar position, struggled with women for years and it completely baffled me, and everyone else I knew. In my case, I realized my biggest problem was not being confident in expressing myself, and trying to "play it safe" too much. I changed the way I interacted with women, and it ultimately ended up yielding better results for me. It might be something to do with the way you interact with them.
/r/seduction26/07/22 04:27 PM
1

If its a girl I just approached? Laugh in her face, say "takes one to know one", then walk away laughing
/r/seduction26/07/22 12:24 AM
8

Ease down there, don't just go straight for it right off the bat
/r/seduction26/07/22 12:22 AM
17

Did you know you're just as, if not even more likely, to get an STI from a random woman you hook up with at a bar/club than you are with a hooker? Pimple in your armpit could just be a blackhead/blockage in a hair follicle. Wash the area with gentle soap in steamy showers, and in a couple days you'll probably be able to pop it out. If you're really that worried get an STD test.
/r/seduction25/07/22 11:43 PM
2

If you feel uncomfortable knowing this about him, you're under zero obligation to stay with him. Do whatever feels right to you, but remember that you won't be able to save him from the place he's in, only he can save himself from it, and he may just need to learn the hard way and not the easy way.
/r/ExRedPill25/07/22 10:54 PM
16

People of all genders and orientations engage in the practice "trading in" partners for ones who are more attractive, better economic/social status, etc. While hypergamy isn't practiced anywhere near as much as redpill thinks it does, women who do engage in hypergamy exist (shit like FDS is out there after all) Statements like this aren't productive at all to helping guys unlearn redpill ideology, if anything it contributes further to the problem
/r/ExRedPill25/07/22 10:46 PM
3

Looks aren't everything, but the better looking you are, the much easier things get. They can treat them like shit and they would still wanna talk to them In my personal experience, it's mostly the girls who have low self esteem that let you get away with treating them like garbage.
/r/seduction25/07/22 07:07 PM
17

The vast majority of redpillers are guys who are frustrated in life, and have developed negative attitudes as a result. They all find each other online, share their similar experiences in their "safe space", and as a result get even deeper entrenched in their negative worldviews.
/r/ExRedPill25/07/22 07:01 PM
1

It can and does happen, but it tends to be the case where neither party is expecting a relationship to develop, it just develops naturally over time, or it just "happens" one day. But the caveat here is that there's only a chance of this happening, and the odds are probably around the same as dating someone you just met. When women date within their social circles, they most commonly date men who they get introduced to by a friend.
/r/ExRedPill25/07/22 01:45 PM
1

It's not a hard pressed rule per se, it's a guideline based on the experience of a lot of guys who have observed this through trial and error. These guidelines are there because countless guys before you tried this in the past, and a large number agree that these are not the best times to approach. There's no rule stopping you from trying it. You'll either be the exception, or you'll come to the same conclusion as the guys who advocate that "rule"
/r/seduction25/07/22 03:35 AM
5

Chances are they're looking for a sugar daddy
/r/seduction22/07/22 06:04 PM
2

Used to be friends with a dude who did something similar, except insulting them he'd just say something like "Fucking bitch playing games with me" under his breath. He was not the sharpest tool in the shed, nor the most mature.
/r/seduction21/07/22 11:02 PM
3

Newsflash, everybody has to compromise at least something when it comes to dating and relationships. No way around it. At some point or another, everyone is going to do something that their partner doesn't like in the relationship. Conflict is part of the human condition. I agree to an extent that many things that can and should be instant deal breakers, but more often than not you need to give yourself a little time to dig deeper and get the information you need to make a decision. In the conte…
/r/seduction20/07/22 01:39 AM
1

Better than flying out because you think you might have a chance with her
/r/seduction19/07/22 09:22 PM
17

Stop overanalyzing everything, it's not a test.
/r/seduction19/07/22 08:59 PM
37

For starters, most anti-redpill communities are geared more towards shaming, criticizing, and invalidating men who are struggling. Either that, or they don't do enough to acknowledge that this approach probably does more harm than good. The way redpill (or really any radical community) works is by convincing their target demographic that everyone else is out to get them, often by showing them real proof of behaviour that is against them (i.e. sharing TikToks of misandrists, women giving toxic da…
/r/ExRedPill19/07/22 05:21 PM
3

"How do humans work?"
/r/ExRedPill19/07/22 04:20 PM
1

I wouldn't consider myself in the top 10% of male attractiveness, yet I've had no problem pulling 8's and even 9's.
/r/seduction19/07/22 04:12 PM
1

Any questions where redpillers who are looking to unlearn the ideology are asking about certain things that redpill preaches. Gives an opportunity to both acknowledge the "truthy" part of the ideology, while also debunking the myths and absolute "black and white" worldview that redpill tries to push.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/22 03:59 PM
11

a majority or at least a significant minority of the manosphere are aromantic, if not also asexual, but they simply refuse to explore that possibility. I'd even go as far to say that many of them are probably gay or bi, and try to be as "manly man" as possible to cover up their struggles with their sexuality.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/22 03:28 PM
1

Remember the first golden rule: you should never expect any sort of commitment or loyalty from someone for at least the first couple months of meeting someone. Until you've had that official conversation where you both mutually agree to be a couple, you don't owe that person any loyalty whatsoever. Therefore, it's safe to assume that whoever you're seeing is probably seeing multiple people as well.
/r/seduction18/07/22 06:54 PM
1

What was the turning point for you?
/r/ExRedPill18/07/22 06:46 PM
2

Controversial term, but it is true that certain traits like physical attractiveness, lifestyle, appearance, personality, etc. do make you a more "desirable" sexual partner to the average person. I don't believe that women hit "the wall" at age 30. Some people do hit "walls", but it can happen at any age and there are other factors than just "biological destiny" (i.e. some people peak in high school).
/r/ExRedPill18/07/22 06:43 PM
5

Insecure people project their insecurities onto other people, so yes.
/r/ExRedPill16/07/22 02:48 PM
3

Overall it was presented very neutrally. My parents didn't go out of their way to be sex-positive with me per-se, but they weren't really preachy about sex-negative norms (i.e. wait for marriage, baby making only, etc). Schools on the other hand tended to present it to us more negatively.
/r/ExRedPill14/07/22 04:35 PM
0

In real life I chalk it more up to being an individual thing as opposed to something that affects genders as a whole. While I think it's normal for most people to have at least some complaints about the other sex, the ones who actually go far enough to blame all their problems on the other gender are more than likely the ones that are struggling with their dating and sex lives. In reality, also many problems that men complain about women and vice versa aren't even gender specific at all, individ…
/r/ExRedPill14/07/22 04:21 PM
1

She could have honestly cancelled for a million different reasons. I've found that it's better to not drive yourself crazy trying to guess what that reason was, what happens with her next, etc. Not only 99.9999999999999999% of the time will your guess be wrong, you don't really have much way of verifying your answer beyond stalking her. Just better to not take it personally and move onto the next one
/r/seduction13/07/22 01:39 PM
0

Have you been living under a rock? Women above the age of 20 only want guys above the age of 20 who have had sex before. It's over for you buddy /s
/r/seduction12/07/22 09:20 PM
1

Any woman with half a brain knows that she doesn't have to put in much effort at all to get male attention, especially if she's even mildly attractive. With that being said, the way dating works for men and women has some key differences. When it comes to dating, women have an easy time attracting options for sure. With that in mind, one factor that a lot of men don't consider is that even though women are capable of having multiple choices of men to pick from at any given time, it doesn't mean …
/r/seduction12/07/22 08:49 PM
11

I won't pretend that hypergamy doesn't exist, but it's definitely nowhere near as frequent as redpill would have you think it.
/r/ExRedPill11/07/22 10:35 PM
10

Be direct about attraction, do establish some sort of rapport, but be careful in your language and behaviour to not imply that you're looking for more than just casual sex. Have the mindset of not expecting any loyalty from her either.
/r/seduction05/07/22 11:09 PM
1

Probably for similar reasons why us guys care so much about the size/shape of boobs and ass. It's just an instinctive attractiveness thing.
/r/ExRedPill05/07/22 10:23 PM
1

Women will sometimes leave men in emotional rough patches because they aren't capable of handling it.
/r/ExRedPill05/07/22 10:21 PM
1

Saying I’m bluepill and a simp and a beta male. What should I do ? Ignore them. In an ironic twist, you would be the definition of "beta male" if you complied with what they want you to do.
/r/ExRedPill05/07/22 10:17 PM
4

Stop thinking about things in terms of red pill/blue pill, real life is far more nuanced and complex than that. In fact, most people might have a response to different situations that could be considered middle of the road between the two. In a situation like that I would not immediately apologize, nor would I tell her to stop being a baby. I would probably ask why she got upset and get her to tell me what's wrong. Ideally she can tell me her side of the story, then I would tell my side of the s…
/r/ExRedPill05/07/22 09:23 PM
1

Well, with a defeatist attitude like that of course you're going to be alone forever. You are your own worst enemy here.
/r/ExRedPill29/06/22 05:26 PM
7

Bunch of whiny incels who would rather complain about women and not getting laid, rather than actually helping men
/r/ExRedPill29/06/22 03:30 PM
3

That you're not entitled to shit and the world owes you nothing. Just because some people were cruel to you in the past, it's not someone else's responsibility to compensate you for it. People often think that deserving is synonymous with entitlement, but that isn't the case. To give an example: You aren't entitled to sex from women nor are they obligated to give it to you. You are allowed to believe that you deserve to be with a woman who will have sex with you, but it's not one individual woma…
/r/ExRedPill28/06/22 07:41 PM
3

Nah, I struck out hard following their advice, and RP advice in general. I found expressing myself more honestly and being straight up to be far more effective. I don't doubt that RP advice can help you get laid, but I never had the patience to deal with the types of women that RP claims all women are like (they're really not).
/r/ExRedPill28/06/22 01:15 PM
2

Look at the incels video by Contrapoints. Though she addresses incels more specifically than redpillers, she does do a good job of debunking a lot of the overlapping ideologies (in my opinion they're not really that far removed, incels are just deeper down the rabbit hole). Probably one of the best things is she goes about it in a way that doesn't come off like a personal attack, but rather she puts herself in the shoes of an incel and relates to it from her own personal experience, and uses a l…
/r/ExRedPill18/06/22 07:09 PM
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