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How unfortunate.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 04:24 PM
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This is cultural. In many countries people stop having the whole "do you wanna be my bf/gf?" after middle school. Dating more than one person at at time is not the norm and exclusivity is assumed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 12:52 PM
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Yes, it is well documented, as you will see if you do some basic reading about aggression and violence. Psychology 101. It is common knowledge for a reason, but if you want to read research about it I highly encourage it. The major difference is that a lot of "women's issues" are essentially "men's issues", in that men have been systematically perpetuating them. So women are not so much asking men for help as they are asking them to just fucking stop. Issues like abortion restriction and sexual …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 12:48 PM
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Extremely exploitative practices should be illegal. I am not only critical of the sex industry.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 12:40 PM
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You can disagree all you like. It is not based on women's preferences, but statistical connections between aggression and violence. Women aren't scared for no reason. However, even if it was a matter of preference, women are free to prefer men who are not aggressive, and to express said preference. It is not a woman's job to help men with their aggression. Men are grown adults and should go to therapy if they cannot handle it themselves. On the topic of suicide, men's violence towards themselves…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 12:17 AM
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Nobody is pathologizing men by criticising aggression. People who struggle to self regulate and who act out in aggression are more prone to violence against other people. That is a fact. Whether the percentage is 50%, 90% or even 10%, that is not a risk worth taking. Beyond the physical harm, there is the lifelong trauma and risk of death that comes alongside it. Yes, men are victims of DV, and that needs to be discussed more. I do not tolerate abuse perpetrated by anyone, man or woman. It is st…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 11:46 PM
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It doesn't mean he automatically will, but it is a warning sign so common that domestic violence shelters explicitly warn against it. Meanwhile there are plenty of men with emotional regulation skills developed enough that they never express anger or frustration through aggression. Anger is one thing. Anger can be productive. It can energise people to stand up for what is right. Aggression however is something else entirely, and a sign of emotional immaturity, a lack of self control, not masculi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 11:06 PM
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The reason I used more serious examples is because it isn't black and white in the less extreme cases. Then it is a matter of compatible communication styles, and there is no one size fits all, just as there isn't for friendships. Punching walls is entirely unacceptable for most women however, and I think that is 100% reasonable. Men tend forget that they can physically overpower most women with ease, so it is genuinely terrifying when men express their emotions through violence, even directed a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 10:22 PM
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They do?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 04:33 PM
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Research on the topic says otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 04:29 PM
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Not in my experience. My female friends often positively bring up moments when men have opened up to them. But I can't speak for anyone else. I like when men open up. I do not like angry tantrums. That is quite frankly scary. So it really depends on how the emotions are conveyed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 04:29 PM
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I never claimed all women have their shit together.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 04:26 PM
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Constructive as in a way that appropriate considering the established level of intimacy in a given relationship. Don't spill your guts on the first date with a stranger. And also constructive as in safe. Punching walls is not constructive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 04:25 PM
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Venting can be a way to process, to emotionally regulate and build intimacy with a person you trust, provided you already have established healthy communication and reciprocity in the relationship, romantic or otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 04:22 PM
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It depends on the situation of course. But one mistake some men make when they hear "open up" is to dump their baggage in the lap of a strange woman on the first date. That is not constructive. You have to build trust and reciprocity in a relationship to start.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 04:20 PM
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Where? Quote please.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 04:19 PM
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Personally I would be concerned about the 22 year old whether it was a man or a woman. I suppose the conversation tends to be about young women with old men because it is more common.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 07:25 PM
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Yeah I know. I know a woman in a similar situation, which is why I heard about the extreme cost. So in those cases it isn't really fair to compare incomes imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:55 PM
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Have a look at Germany, Belgium, The Netherland, Switzerland, The Nordics. Specifically young couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:54 PM
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It is still not all that uncommon to stay home with your kids in the UK because childcare is extremely expensive there. Poland is still very conservative. I am talking Switzerland, France, Germany, Belgium, The Netherlands, The Nordics, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:51 PM
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Yeah social media helped a ton. I have seen it myself even as a younger person. Women online telling each other that it is completely fine to stay single, that settling is more sad and desperate than any kind of achievement. So indeed, the bulk of the de-stigmatisation of staying single as a woman appears to be pretty damn recent.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:48 PM
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I don't know any young stay at home wife. Which countries are you talking about? You cannot generalise all of Europe. It is a continent. I am talking about some of the more egalitarian western ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:45 PM
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I know it is about couples, but if the numbers include stay at home wives, for example, that will massively skew the stats. I am generally talking about marriages where both partners are working, which is the cultural norm that I am coming from. And I am speaking about a handful of western European countries that are culturally similar. Not including far south or east for example. Generalising an entire continent would be silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:42 PM
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This is all ages, correct? Not only young working couples? Am I mistaken that it was common for women to be stay at home mothers in the US one generation ago, and still to some extent today?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:33 PM
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Sorry, I misread your post. I thought you said that said men make 150% more than women, not 150% the salary of women. Given the wage gap, and that it doesn't include the cases in which women make more, plus the trend towards egalitarian marriages, it appears that my initial statement that hypergamy is exaggerated is also true in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:29 PM
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I mean you can be willingly obtuse if you want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:10 PM
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Ah so you didn't understand the numbers. That 60% refers to their share of the total household earnings, not a comparison ratio to the other spouse. Interesting choice of article btw. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:09 PM
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If we are talking anecdotes anyway, ime men and women are interested in getting into committed relationships, and they do. Companionship is great for men and women, as long as you find someone you're actually compatible with.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:03 PM
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There are appropriate and inappropriate ways to open up.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 05:00 PM
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Pretty recently I'd say. I have a couple of older cousins, and they experienced pressure to "settle down". They are in their 30s now.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 04:59 PM
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I am speaking from a wester European perspective. 'Still. I was curious about the 150% bit so I looked it up and I couldn't find anything even close to that? I suppose the US could have some larger gaps since mothers are more likely to leave their jobs and become full time parents, but from what I have understood that has become less common with the increased cost of living?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 04:56 PM
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You're presumably an adult, so need to handle your own emotions. A partner can absolutely support you, but if you are unable to regulate your emotions and express them appropriately at a grown age, I'm sorry but other adults who have their shit together wont want to deal with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 04:50 PM
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I can't speak for where you live, but in western Europe it is statistically true, whether or not it aligns with your anecdotal experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 04:46 PM
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This is where the emotional intelligence part comes in. It isn't simply about showing emotions, but about doing so appropriately. Of course everyone has bad moments, but if you are consistently unable to channel your emotions in a constructive way, it is going to be a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 04:44 PM
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Personally, yes. I want a partner, not a parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 04:35 PM
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Statistically, men and women tend to date people with similar educational and financial status. Hypergamy is highly exaggerated.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 04:34 PM
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I am not just talking about emancipation, but the overwhelming social pressure. It wasn't long ago that a woman would be seen as a failure if she was single past a certain age. Practically everyone was expected to find a SO, get married, have kids, the whole shebang. People internalised that and made choices accordingly, even if it meant massively compromising on attraction,
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 04:32 PM
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It is pretty self explanatory. More women simply settled for men they were not into in the past. As I already said, external pressure is finally going away. Thus, women prefer staying single to settling.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 04:23 PM
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It is interesting how I have tried to engage with you on this exact topic, asking for examples and your perceptions of its prevalence for days now, and you refuse to bring up a single one.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 04:19 PM
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Not really. It is more that women aren't compelled by external pressures to settle anymore. Today women are pursuing men that they are actually interested in, as opposed to just a man to fill a role.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 04:11 PM
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Thoughts on Macron and Brigitte?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 04:02 PM
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Casual relationships have been a thing. It is nothing new. Try reading memoirs of people who were young in the past. And committed relationships are still a thing. Any real change is massively exaggerated by online discourse. That's the internet for ya.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 03:43 PM
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That seems to be the norm in film lately. Still, I can enjoy it if the aesthetic is good.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 10:01 PM
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Haven't seen it, but I heard it lacks the nuance of the book, in that it simply portrays Victor Frankenstein as the villain, and the creature as the victim. The book is critical of both, and society more broadly. It's crazy impressive that Mary Shelley wrote it when she was 18!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 02:49 PM
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You're missing the point. I am not asking about fatphobia, or about racism, or about xenophobia etc. I am asking for examples of men's negative experiences, and how commonplace you think they are, in order to discuss the validity of paranoid discourse online. Stay on topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 11:29 AM
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It isn't typical. When I say a woman might talk to a man she finds attractive, that is still very context dependent and I am not talking about cold approaching. More like talking a little more with a friend of a friend at a party, or a colleague at the chiasmas party etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 11:51 AM
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Maybe so. I prefer to keep things simple, but not.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 11:48 AM
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Not surprised tbh. Look at Amsterdam...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 11:46 AM
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You're hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 11:45 AM
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So you are unable to provide a single example? Interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 11:44 AM
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It does. I also don't buy fast fashion for similar reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 02:18 PM
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Oh, you'll know. I can't speak for casual, but at least in a relationship setting, you will not doubt her lust for you if it's there.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 02:12 PM
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When an industry is overwhelmingly exploitative, sorry but I will not be in favour of it because of a tiny minority of empowered women with no trauma or history of poverty.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 02:09 PM
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Idk. I only ever dated people with a lot of options. I think settling is a bad plan though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 02:08 PM
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I suppose a major difference is that sex toys for men are often less useful during sex. A vibrator can enhance sex by providing clitoral stimulation alongside PIV, meanwhile you cannot really add a fleshlight to the mix, as far as I can imagine anyway. I guess the exception is anal toys, but so many men are sceptical of those. As for what a guy wants to do solo, idgaf.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 02:05 PM
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When women speak about celebrities it is purely hypothetical, and they may have an impression (accurate or not) of said celebrity based on their work and interviews. A woman may of course talk to a man they find attractive, but typically, only if that conversation goes well will she be interested in actually pursuing something. I am not denying that there may be exceptions. There are always exceptions, but we are discussing typical behaviour, are we not?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 02:01 PM
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Not a fan. It rarely looks good in person and I think we should be more relaxed about aging.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:58 PM
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How convenient, that anyone with contradictory experiences are all wrong. If it is convenient, it must be so,
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:57 PM
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Exploitation should be stigmatised.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:56 PM
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Could you provide an example and tell me how common you think it is, and why?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:55 PM
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It's pretty funny how you only engage with those you agree with. very mature.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:16 PM
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Just give me a single actual counter argument right now. I dare you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:15 PM
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I am not saying bad encounters don't happen. I am saying they are rare, and therefore interesting enough to spark engagement and getting pushed in your feed above anything more commonplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:14 PM
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I was there, you argued, sure, but you didn't provide anything one would call an argument. Simply saying you think someone is wrong isn't something one can really engage with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:13 PM
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I have looked and nada. You being so shy to argue your case now is telling.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:06 PM
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There isn't. Give me one now.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:02 PM
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People don't post online about their chill and pleasant experiences. It isn't engagement worthy, so naturally tiktok etc isn't going to reflect reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:02 PM
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Ok, fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:01 PM
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I disagree. It is better to wait for something good than to settle for something ok. If you want longevity and not just a fling, compatibility is crucial. That doesn't mean incompatible people are bad people or even bad options. One reason could be that one wants kids and the other doesn't. Both of those are valid, neither is wrong or bad. They could be perfect for each other outside of that one thing, but that one thing is too significant to pair up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 01:00 PM
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And yet you haven't given me any actual counter arguments. You just speak of arguments in the hypothetical.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 12:57 PM
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The industry is incredibly exploitative. I am critical of it the same way that I am critical of fast fashion sweat shops.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 12:56 PM
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A/any boyfriend is rarely the goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 12:49 PM
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I support sex workers because of the prevalence of trafficking and exploitation of people in desperate situations, not because I think sex work is a net positive in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 12:47 PM
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Must have missed it under the mountain of no you're wrong because I say so.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 12:45 PM
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Crossing my fingers for you!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 12:34 PM
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Ahh yes. I have seen quite a few gym rat, chubby feminine woman couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 12:29 PM
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A lot of issues definitely stem from a lack of going outside. The real world is indeed pretty chill.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 12:28 PM
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You aren't actually debating though. You have no argument. You're just dismissing people without adding anything to the debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 12:26 PM
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How unfortunate. Fillers have gone too far. Pillow faces everywhere! Since I model I have been strictly "forbidden" from getting fillers. Not that I would want to, but I see more and more people getting it done, younger and younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 12:25 PM
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I have never heard a woman properly fetishizing skinny men though? Not saying it doesn't happen ofc. Like certain men will not just think skinny women are pretty, but they will obsess over the smallness and compliment the bones. One time a dude told me You have really pretty hip bones. Makes me want to grab them... Icky icky ick ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 12:23 PM
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Nose filler is a thing now?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 12:07 PM
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Not irl, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 12:06 PM
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Why do you even ask questions if you are not interested in honestly engaging in conversation? So far I have only seen you dismiss any answer that doesn't align with your pre-conceived notions.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 11:57 AM
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I never claimed women's experiences to be the same as men's. Just saying that women who don't do casual often deliberately take breaks between committed relationships in order to properly process and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 11:53 AM
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Now THIS makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 11:51 AM
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Some women do that too, for sure, but ime most do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 10:12 PM
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It is quite common that women decide to take a 6-12 month break from dating all together after a bad breakup, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 10:07 PM
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I don't think so. I move a lot, have been in countless friend groups by now, and I never felt unusual in this regard compared to female peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 09:31 PM
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That's interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 09:27 PM
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Why are men with proper skinny-fetish always chubby or fat?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 09:20 PM
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The thing is, someone looking pretty isn't enough to provoke interest. I need more info. Someone being pretty AND interesting is something else. Like if I'm in a group setting, there is a new person, they're being charismatic and sweet, then sure! Interest peaked. Their face alone? Does nothing for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 09:09 PM
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Sure, if you are overall attractive, including your personality. But that's not cold approaching. Are you talking about taking initiative broadly speaking, because that's a different story. Thing is, women tend to initiate in different ways than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 09:06 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 09:03 PM
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I don't know anyone who would want to date someone based only on their looks. The two I mentioned who do casual sex could want to sleep with them, for sure, but nothing more based on such limited information. Pretty doesn't mean compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:44 PM
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I think there is a tendency online to post when you have something to complain about, so it creates a negatively skewed image of a number of topics.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:43 PM
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It is definitely not just me. I have a lot of girlfriends and only two are interested in casual sex for example. The remaining experience varying levels of attraction towards strangers, but my stance is by no means unusual.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:12 PM
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Silly girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 02:50 PM
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I need more than looks to decide that someone is attractive, so cold approaching at least seems like a bad gamble. And no, that doesn't mean looks don't matter, but it certainly isn't enough to make me feel attraction. There is no lack of physically attractive people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 02:49 PM
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I didn't approach when I was single because I had no motivation to. There was no need, so to speak, so the thought never hit me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 02:43 PM
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Did she dump you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 02:40 PM
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I thought it was last week because the black Friday sales have been going on forever already. Such a scam atp.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 02:40 PM
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Interesting. Women only ever touched me platonically (unless we were dating ofc), meanwhile men unfortunately seem unable to keep their hands to themselves. I live in a major western European city.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 02:35 PM
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How odd.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 02:33 PM
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That is weird af and not ok. Fortunately I can't relate. Is it maybe cultural? Where do you live?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 01:16 PM
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I should have been more specific. Horny men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 11:58 AM
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For most, I imagine so.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 10:22 PM
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I don't think so. It has a particular rep for exceptionally horny people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 09:33 PM
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Ok, but who's on tinder in 2025?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 09:14 PM
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High-n is cool. Players are not. I don't like manipulative people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 06:58 PM
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A couple of hours is still brave imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 06:57 PM
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People like you is why I'm here lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 04:31 PM
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Your attempts at snark are cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 03:42 PM
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You must be fun at parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 03:27 PM
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I mean, who wants a man who can't dance?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 03:04 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 03:02 PM
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She better have been cool af or I am offended.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 03:01 PM
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Lmao that was a pretty short lived trend, wasn't it? I didn't hop on the train, but there was so much about it on tiktok for a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 03:00 PM
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Might be linked.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 01:48 PM
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Wait who? Gimme the tea.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 01:47 PM
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I just imagined that lazy town purple villain dude popping out from behind a tree 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 01:29 PM
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I am not "the gender". I'm a singular woman. And I don't waste my time hating all men. Hating 50% of the population is diabolical.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 01:28 PM
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I'm an active participant. That said, I do get approached more than men, so I don't have to initiate if I don't want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 01:17 PM
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I think the "why" can be an important discussion, regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 01:15 PM
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You sound miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 01:14 PM
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People are so based this year. So far half of my friends and family have asked for charity donations for christmas.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 01:13 PM
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My opinion from was (and is) that you're allowed to have preferences on this topic. All that matters is that you match with someone with compatible ideas. I also thought it's pointless to waste energy shitting on people who don't match your preferences. That said, I have found the aforementioned triggered rambles a lil entertaining. Does that count?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 01:11 PM
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Is this common?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 01:06 PM
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I think this hypothetical was created by someone who's never been hiking. Hikers are the nicest.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 12:56 PM
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Damn. I'm sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 12:48 PM
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Sober???
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 12:47 PM
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Hardly even satire atp.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 12:44 PM
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Hardly even satire atp.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 12:41 PM
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Mixed friend groups are the best. Not just gender, but nationality, age, professions etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 12:34 PM
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I'm not gonna toxic positivity vomit on you, but I don't know what else to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 09:20 PM
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That's understandable. Our bubbles are so small that age, we often don't even notice some of our peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:52 PM
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Ime it can happen much faster, but naturally the bond gets stronger with time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:50 PM
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I suppose what I mean by life partner first and foremost is having that one person who you would call before anyone else. Someone you plan your life around, someone you share the daily highs and lows with, big and small. Someone to make the pleasures in life even better and someone to lean on in times of hardship, both ways ofc.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:27 PM
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(I know, but I was being facetious)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:24 PM
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Can I ask how old you are?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:24 PM
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Making friends was definitely easier in school when you have the framework that forces you to spend time together consistently. As an adult I have found that you have to build that framework yourself, of you never move past an acquaintance stage.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:23 PM
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Interesting. I have yet to make an online connection translate irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:22 PM
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Have you tried to seek out friendships with people you can relate to better?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:21 PM
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That's nice! Building new circles after moving is challenging for many.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:20 PM
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Struggling to date in high school is so normal though. Half of us were awkward as fuck haha
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:19 PM
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Sure, but even if it is a limited period of your life, they are a life partner at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:18 PM
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I'm curious, how many of you struggling romantically also struggle making and maintaining friendships?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 12:46 PM
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What do men in relationships get? A life partner, companionship, love. I don't do hookups, and that isn't unusual. I would never be with someone I didn't find exciting as I have no incentive to settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 11:05 AM
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Do you actually think a man unable to meet people irl would be successful on the apps?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 10:54 AM
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The men I know who date irl do better than the ones relying on apps. I would never recommend a male friend to get on the apps if he wants a gf. The apps feel like a meat market, and people are treated as such. Irl you can win someone over with your wit, your shared values and interests, your skills, your charm.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 10:53 AM
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You have to look at the cost of living. Even with lower salaries, when people don't have to pay for medical insurance or extreme prices for housing and food, we live richer lives. Unemployed people too get unemployment benefits and can live a decent life instead of ending up on the streets.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 10:50 AM
1

Ah yes, the country of europe.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 10:48 AM
2

Yes, they do. Imagining her with some hypothetical hotter man.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 10:47 AM
2

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 10:47 AM
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Nah, but also I don't use the apps as a woman either. Meeting irl is beyond better.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 08:52 PM
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They literally have sexual fantasies about "Chad".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 05:45 PM
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You're already doing great. Feeling down yet not succumbing to bed rotting? You deserve back pats.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 01:57 PM
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Put on some music and make something with your hands. A meal from scratch, holiday decorations, painting, wood carving, whatever you like. Even better if you invite a friend to join you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 01:54 PM
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Don't worry. Most of us would never settle for less than the best. Fantastic sex is definitely a requirement, not a bonus.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 01:52 PM
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No, but mainly because I am bi. Now that I have experience with both I would be happy with one forever. But if I never tried, I would have always wondered.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 07:47 PM
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Just sharing my observations. Believe me or not. Up to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 04:10 PM
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Women irl aren't shifting on men. They just aren't thinking about men very much.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 02:40 PM
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I don't see gender war irl where I live.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 08:20 PM
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I think it's largely a matter of women having less personal incentive to approach. When I was single I cared less about finding someone than my male counterparts did, and I think that may be generally true, at least to some extent.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 08:19 PM
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Lmao where the fuck do you live where this is average?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 01:38 PM
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Don't be a pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 01:37 PM
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It is still unusual. I personally don't know anyone that size. I occasionally see someone that big, but it's not a common sight (big european city).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 01:37 PM
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<image> Is this skinny to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 01:05 PM
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She's dead.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 12:52 PM
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There is a difference between healthy precautions and paranoia.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 12:02 PM
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Damn. I'll stick with spf and hope for the best. Good for them though!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 11:57 AM
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Oh yeah??? Well you lick pussy! That guy is honestly hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 11:56 AM
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Is he guy who freaked out when some girl mentioned his wife's "baby daddies"?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 11:53 AM
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That is an incredibly brutal surgery. He has problems, poor dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 11:51 AM
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Wait, do fat people not wrinkle?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 11:49 AM
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Noted. Edited to make it a general statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 11:46 AM
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Fair enough. I don't think I actually know a real life virgin? Even my muslim friends aren't virgins haha
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 04:50 PM
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We could return the favour. Oh honey, you scrub the toilet so much better than little ol me. My arms are so weak and delicate, and yours so strong and impressive. How manly!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 04:47 PM
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This is what I'm here for, honestly. Gotta love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 03:02 PM
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Shit, yes I forgot that women are accessories, not autonomous people. Silly me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 03:01 PM
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He just misses his mommy, poor thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 02:57 PM
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Certainly ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 02:44 PM
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Awesome. I am going to see Lady Gaga tonight!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 02:40 PM
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Interesting. I have a preference for people with more experience than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 02:36 PM
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Just don't have sex with those types of men and you'll be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 02:33 PM
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Most of the men in my circles are pretty cool. Going outside is risky. Being alive is risky.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 02:29 PM
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I wonder how many bots there are on tiktok. I never post anything and yet I get flooded with follow requests all the time. Suspicious.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 01:46 PM
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I wonder what happens if you factor for religiosity, considering the virgin part. I live somewhere so secular that the idea of marrying as a virgin sounds kinda "foreign", or just very old fashioned. I imagine the people who wait until marriage would also be more critical of divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 01:43 PM
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Respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 01:33 PM
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Genuinely curious. Can you share the study?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 01:19 PM
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Wait, did I understand you correctly that people with less sexual experience have higher divorce rates?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 12:48 PM
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Indeed, but have you tried Choléra?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 12:44 PM
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Isn't that just american?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 10:43 AM
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This reminds me of that girl who planned a first date with a bunch of guys at the same time, same place and then didn't show.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 08:41 PM
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I made it very clear that I was talking about social stigma from the get-go, and I clarified it again for you in my previous comment, so if you want to continue being obtuse, have fun, but I'm done wasting my time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 06:42 PM
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Being a good person is bare minimum <3
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 06:33 PM
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You're nit-picking on singular words and ignoring the point. The point is that pressure, in the form of judgement, negative comments etc has conditioned women to value themselves based on their partner and parent status until very recently, in some cultures. But in most of the world women are still held to that standard to some extent.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 06:31 PM
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Did you actually read that article?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 06:19 PM
2

Socially speaking, I'd say dropping the whole husband and kids thing only stopped causing side eye the last 10 years or less.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 06:17 PM
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Being here makes you a weirdo, whether you like it or not. Using reddit for practical things like tech recommendations is one thing. Actively engaging with people like this is another, so welcome to the club.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 06:16 PM
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I read plenty, and capitalism has "worked" best when vigorously regulated and drenched in a bunch of socialist policies, and yet even the poverty persisted, as well as the horrific exploitation of third world workers. So please, name a time it has been good,
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 09:55 PM
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Would you say that capitalism is working great right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 09:44 PM
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There has arguably never been a proper socialist society. But socialist policies like the new deal in the US and social programs in europe have been largely successful. We should do more of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 09:24 PM
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And women typically take care of children, the sick and the elderly. We all need each other. Nobody said otherwise. That doesn't mean we all have to pair up romantically though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 08:58 PM
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God forbid.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 08:56 PM
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Nice! The best plans I know are company plans. My friend pays less than 10 a month for unlimited.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 08:53 PM
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I didn't mean to distract you from bootlicking. Go on.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 08:51 PM
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There are many ways to find joy. I think that's a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 08:41 PM
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If that's for unlimited data, that's a good deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 08:38 PM
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You pay 130 dollars per month??? I pay around 20. Maybe you guys should revolt.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 08:34 PM
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Are you american perchance? In most of europe you have a social safety net by default, you don't need a car, and you don't get discounts on phone bills because you have a bf/gf(???) anyway. Instead of coupling up to shield ourselves from increasing wealth inequality, perhaps we should do something about the aforementioned wealth inequality? It'll catch up anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 07:22 PM
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I already told you. Housemates, as in buying a house with friends, or if you absolutely need your own space and can't afford a small flat, renting (which can work very well under actually solid social housing systems like in Vienna btw). Than there is also more communal housing being built, where you buy a tiny studio with all your basically needs, but you also get access to shared spaces like a large communal kitchen, a working space/library, cinema, gym, garden etc. I have a friend who lives i…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 07:17 PM
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I'm sure that will be great fun for the whole world...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 07:11 PM
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Mister, I am a bloody socialist. You need not lecture. I am simply trying to stay on topic and disputing romantic relationships as the only current option for stable housing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 07:10 PM
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I agree and disagree. Living alone is hard to sustain, yes, but romantic relationships aren't the only solution. Communal living for non-students is increasing in popularity, and it is already totally normal to live with one or multiple friends as a proper adult, in much of the world. We should definitely address increasing economic inequality, but that's a different discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 07:08 PM
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Now that's sad. Are you guys ok?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 07:05 PM
3

Wow. A balanced take on PPD??
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 07:04 PM
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Yes it does. Let it cook.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 07:03 PM
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Yes. Which is why your comment made me chuckle.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 07:01 PM
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This comment is so reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:59 PM
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We are talking about consensual romantic relationship formation, my dude, not the ownership of the means of production.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:50 PM
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Oh yeah. We are constantly evolving socially, and I do by no means believe that this is the end point, nor in an end point. Still, women my age (university) seem overall very relaxed about dating and relationships, no rush, no swearing off men, just taking things as they come and focusing on a number of things that fulfil them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:44 PM
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It doesn't seem to be more common than 10-20 years ago. If anything people are fucking later and a bit less.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:40 PM
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Nice strawman.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:38 PM
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Pretty much, yeah. There is no room for a man now, but who knows down the line.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:36 PM
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Like my weird uncle. How times have changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:35 PM
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you haven't made a single solid argument, my guy. lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:32 PM
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I have one friend. But she is also a bit of a workaholic so she barely has time to see friends, let alone date. Brilliant girl though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:31 PM
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Oh don't pretend you don't like getting nasty.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:28 PM
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I see you've been living under a rock. It's ok. It's probably not your fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:26 PM
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Well aren't you lovely.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:23 PM
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I tried already in elementary school when I pointed out a boy and announced that he was my boyfriend. We held hands and everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:22 PM
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LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:20 PM
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No, this was after 2001. Don't be obtuse. Social change is gradual and I shouldn't have to tell you that. Seriously, what a sad string of comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:18 PM
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Unfortunately, cooties are kinda cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:16 PM
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In the 2000s my mother got shit for waiting to have kids until she was more established in her career, so yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:12 PM
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Elaborate on what you mean by that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:05 PM
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Ah yes, Elizabeth I. The perfect example of the typical woman of her time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:04 PM
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Exactly. Some women had to choose between deep poverty and dangerous vulnerability, or a man she didn't really fancy but who could provide a safe and stable life. Women were forced to center men for generations, passing down from mother to daughter that a woman's value lies in being an attractive prospect, a good wife and mother, because that was realistically how to survive. Of course after all of that, readjusting took some time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 06:03 PM
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Housemates are increasingly common. Also, renting has been normal in most of the world since "forever".
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 05:56 PM
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What a silly thing to say. I am obviously not talking about women being in danger of being beaten for their singleness, but simply about social stigma, which tends to influence behaviour. Being single and childless was largely seen as failure for women up until recently. Do you disagree?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 05:50 PM
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I read an interesting article about how music taste is formed differently in men and women. They found that men typically develop their taste in their early-mid teens, and stick with it for the rest of their lives. Meanwhile women typically developed their taste in their late teens, and then it continued developing and changing for the rest of their lives. It reminded me of that graph showing how women's preference in a man's age keeps rising along with their her own aging, whilst men stay stuck…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 05:48 PM
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Men didn't become more undesirable. Men became optional. Truly optional. Not only legally, but socially. It hasn't been long since women needed men in order to simply open a bank account. But even after that, the stigma against single women was so strong that it took a while for relationships to be truly optional. Only in recent years has it become a neutral thing, where being single and being in a relationship are both considered valid options.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 05:39 PM
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Men didn't become more undesirable. Men became optional.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 05:34 PM
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Ok, I can see that. I have a korean friend who she says she would never date in korea again. She says it is the opposite of romantic, and cheating is normalised.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 04:22 PM
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I'm a weirdo, and everyone I know irl who uses it (which is like 3 people) are nerds too. Most of my friends are barely aware that reddit exists. "Normies" aren't on reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 04:21 PM
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Fair enough. I have a western european perspective, so that may or may not apply elsewhere. Which countries are you thinking of?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 03:27 PM
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The point is that reddit is a nerdy space and not representative for general populations, so what people do or do not agree with you here is meaningless in a wider context.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 03:25 PM
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Reddit upvotes are not the flex you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 02:15 PM
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I just sleep with someone if I want to sleep with them. That takes me more than a date and it has never been a problem. This is a non-issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 01:24 PM
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I hope it works out fast. Bad hair days are such a mood kill.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 12:23 PM
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Sunk-cost fallacy. Just divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 12:17 PM
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Stats still show that most people are dating. I'm in uni, so I'm the age that should see a fucked up dating world, and yet my peers are fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 12:08 PM
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When you are underweight you attract more men, BUT it's the worst kind of men. Creepy men who are attracted to fragility and defencelessness. Saturday night I was having drinks with some girlfriends when a man walked up to me, wrapped his hand around my arm and literally told me "I could just snap you, couldn't I?" with a big grin. Nasty motherfucker. Fortunately my friends got him kicked out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:49 AM
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I gosh. Fucking with home bleaching is scary. I guess you might have to settle for a new salon and cross your fingers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:43 AM
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This is such a chronically online take. Most people are dating. People are getting married. Later yes, which is a good thing because very young marriages have higher divorce rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:41 AM
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What did you do?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:37 AM
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This is news to me. You might be generalising your own behaviour onto other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:36 AM
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No second date for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:35 AM
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He's nasty. He tattooed Rihanna's battered face on his neck.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:28 AM
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I know Brad Pitt because of the Interview With The Vampire film. Old films are so moody, I love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:27 AM
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You've got an impressive skeleton! I'm afraid I have no excuse. My appetite tanked when I went off birth control.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:24 AM
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Unfortunately, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 10:10 PM
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Damn, I wish I'd thought of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 08:41 PM
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I will
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 08:19 PM
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I'm afraid no level of literacy can make sense of your nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 08:19 PM
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My friend told me I look like a stegosaurus when i bend over. Should I kick her?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 08:15 PM
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Wth are you on about?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 08:14 PM
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It is weird. I haven't had time to remember your name yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 12:06 PM
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Anecdotally, I have noticed that men who don't look down on these women, who show empathy for them, also do not use such "services", and they're romantically successful. Could it be resentment for feeling like he can only get intimacy if he pays for it? Or perhaps only men capable of dehumanising women are able to become johns?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 11:50 AM
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jesus christ...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 11:46 AM
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I want the cat lifestyle..
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 11:27 AM
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Just be more clever about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 11:26 AM
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You can look into what vegan body builders eat, since plant based protein is cheaper.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 11:23 AM
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I don't think people actually believe in this? I have only heard about it in films and other media, never from people discussing relationships irl. Similar to disney "and they lived happily ever after". Sweet idea, but people know better.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 11:19 AM
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Why is he standing in bras bas?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 06:07 PM
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I raised nobody, and you're responsible for your own actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 05:59 PM
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Then why do I feel ashamed 🥺
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 05:57 PM
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He is 61. I am the youngest kid. His dad was the same. Died with a full head of thick white hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 05:54 PM
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Some people are too insecure to be in a relationship. Perfectly exemplified.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 02:02 PM
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Making mountains out molehills is Reddit's specialty so this thread shouldn't surprise, but still, it doesn't fail to amuse me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 02:01 PM
1

But western fast food is also garbage. That's the nature of fast food. It is only there for when it's 2AM, you're drunk, and there are no other option.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:51 PM
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You're eating american fast food in japan? Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:38 PM
2

I think a major one for me would be creative pursuit, working in the arts. My partner is a pretty successful poet, and I find that passion and dedication hot af.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 12:10 PM
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It's not that uncommon.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 12:06 PM
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He's not dead. But no, Freud, he does not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 08:55 PM
1

Outside of some celebs, I'm not. Older women on the other hand...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 07:52 PM
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Those super straight hair transplant hairlines are actually the worst. So many dudes would be better off just getting a good haircut and owning it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 07:08 PM
1

Dracula has a widow's peak and vampires are obviously hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 06:43 PM
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This old man has no business being sexy. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 06:37 PM
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Why are receding hairlines kinda hot? Suffering artist vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 06:23 PM
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<image>
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 06:45 PM
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I live in a large and diverse city, and I don't personally know any cases like 1 and 2. As for 3, I couldn't know. The men I know obviously interact with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 09:42 PM
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Hahah I love her https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lApD6iL7K6k
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 08:24 PM
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I don't know anyone who fits that description who struggles to attract women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 03:07 PM
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I do not judge people who kill themselves. I do however think it is important to give them the opportunity of an informed choice, where they are aware of possibilities and options before making an irreversible decision, for themselves and everyone who cares about them. So instead of pushing a doomer narrative like you are doing, encouraging people to disappear and implying that they are worthless, we should give as many people as possible the opportunity to feel happy in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 03:22 PM
2

I imagined literal insects running across your keyboard.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 03:15 PM
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There is no lack of miserable coupled people too. Beyond covering basic needs, a lot of misery comes down to a lack of imagination. Fortunately imagination can be developed if the motivation is there. If it isn't, who am I to decide if someone else's life is worthwhile? Seems incredibly patronising and big headed.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 03:12 PM
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As someone who isn't ace/aro, there is no lack of things that make me happy and my life fulfilling beyond romance. If I wasn't able to find a partner, for one reason or another, I would simply focus on those. There have been unpaired people in all of history. There is no reason to pretend there is suddenly no space for them now.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 02:33 PM
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There are plenty of autistic people in relationships. Beyond that, not being paired up doesn't mean you don't deserve to exist, nor that there aren't other means of happiness. You're severely lacking in nuance and empathy, what you are saying is extreme, and quite frankly ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 01:36 PM
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"some autistic mistake of a person who should have been aborted" - you This kind of rhetoric hurts more than the "your body my choice" people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 01:13 PM
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It isn't sugar-coating. It is basic human decency
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 12:50 PM
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She would not go out of her way to say that if she didn't mean it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 11:40 AM
1

Well done.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 11:22 AM
1

When you click with someone it comes naturally ime.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 11:06 AM
1

So there's this little thing called sarcasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 11:05 AM
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Things did indeed change for me, when I became confident and more social.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 10:42 AM
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Women shouldn't have to sleep with anyone. But talking about people the way you just did is disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 10:36 AM
0

I disagree with the premise, so nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 10:34 AM
4

Yes. All women bad is the most logical explanation.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:06 PM
10

And the common denominator is...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 08:06 PM
12

No.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 04:31 PM
0

Going to an art exhibition tonight. Free champagne and fancy finger food. HELL YEAH.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 03:18 PM
1

No.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 02:58 PM
5

Alright. I will make sure to inform all the men I know, and all the men I meet in the future, who don't align with your limited description of men, that they aren't manning correctly.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 12:37 PM
6

You are projecting. Men are much more diverse and complex than you give them credit for.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 12:32 PM
6

Yeah. I have a friend who isn't even ugly, just fat, and the shit she gets from grown adults is insane, not to mention how she was treated in school.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 12:31 PM
15

Tell that to the boys who bullied me for being the quiet girl. Also it is interesting how some of you always bring things back to the ability to get pussy. Yes, men are more desperate and will fuck nearly anyone. How is that relevant to this conversation?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 12:29 PM
16

You think women don't get bullied for their looks?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 12:22 PM
21

Nah, I was shy and insecure as fuck until I was about 19, and discovered that life is more fun if you don't climb into your own ass worrying about other people's perception of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 12:19 PM
1

Switzerland.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 12:11 PM
6

Women who choose to decentre men aren't saying it is the end all be all for all women. It is an individual choice for the sake of their personal fulfilment and happiness, aligned with their own goals and desires. You need not partake.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 11:39 AM
8

Exactly, so getting a partner isn't a part of it. It is irrelevant. If your goal is to get a girlfriend, you are by definition not decentring women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 11:28 AM
5

What do you think is the goal of decentring men?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 11:25 AM
5

New hivemind rule just dropped. So exciting.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 11:18 AM
9

I think you are missing the point. The idea of decentring men/women is to not care about attention from the opposite sex. Sure, women will get that either way, but that isn't a choice nor the aim. So if you think it cannot work until women give more attention to men, you are nowhere near decentring women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 11:17 AM
1

No. An old user?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:59 AM
2

Unironically such a fun show.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:52 AM
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Sure, but how tedious.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:39 AM
1

I think you've displayed it clear enough that there is no need to elaborate lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:36 AM
0

Careful, you're reaching so far you might dislocate a shoulder.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:34 AM
4

When I am selling things online, especially tech, furniture, anything big or expensive, I pretend to be a man. When I don't, men think they can haggle more
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:30 AM
0

As a bisexual, I am not complaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:28 AM
1

Feminism isn't about offering pathways to obtaining women. It is about women's rights, including a woman's right not to choose you. Men should support feminism if they care about human beings, similarly, white people should be against racism. It is basic human decency.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:25 AM
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If you are worrying on how you are perceived by women you haven't decentred them. Women who actually state that they are decentring men aren't fucking them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:20 AM
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What are we debating here? This isn't advice I personally would give, nor is it the advice I hear given from women to men irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:16 AM
1

That makes sense. I speak three, and two regularly in my everyday life, so I don't have one clear dominant language.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 10:00 PM
1

Ahh alright. That sounds more relatable. Maybe one reason my monologue is more muddled is that I speak multiple languages, so how would I even choose in which language to think daisy?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 09:54 PM
1

Interesting. Maybe if I thought more in coherent words I would be a better writer.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 09:46 PM
1

I'd describe it as more abstract and conceptual than an internal monologue. I never have a single line of thought, even if I am thinking about something more verbally. Honestly, the idea of a single line of thought sounds claustrophobic.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 09:20 PM
1

I am familiar, but it is a terrible comparison. The book in question isn't research based.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 09:18 PM
1

Good question.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 08:38 PM
1

Oh that's so fair. It is a long time before going exclusive from my euro perspective, but him expecting you to be that vulnerable if he won't commit is unreasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 08:24 PM
1

How long are we talking?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 08:15 PM
2

Second.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 04:18 PM
1

Good boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 03:57 PM
1

On one of the best dates I have been on we went skydiving. Delicious adrenaline.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 03:47 PM
1

I mean, I am literally here for the entertainment of it all, but his way of putting it was just incredibly emo.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 03:42 PM
1

Makes sense. I have a couple of korean friends, and they have made it very clear that they don't miss dating in korea.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 03:37 PM
2

Fuck, you're right.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 03:35 PM
2

What I find interesting about korean beauty standards is how specific they are. There are standards for nose bridge height, neck length, face size, skin tone, calf shape, eyelid type etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 03:34 PM
1

Black mirror, here we come!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 03:25 PM
1

The whining seems to be an online phenomena.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 01:51 PM
1

Meh. I'm not a fan. Too reductive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 01:49 PM
1

Oh I get that, but since relationships have been optional for a while now (at least in some cultures), it is about time that certain men grasp that you actually have to make your partner happier to be considered an option. That or get left behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 01:23 PM
1

Except now some people are apparently using AI to chat on apps. How do they not expect that to backfire?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 01:21 PM
1

You make it sound so bleak. The truth is that for most people, irl it is pretty nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 01:20 PM
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Sure, but it is unfathomable to me that an adult can be so clueless in the first place. My teenage "first love" had better basic skills and understanding than these grown men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 01:16 PM
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The US generally has a poverty issue (third world country with a gucci belt, anyone?), so any stats from that country are going to look bleak af. They also have the highest rate of single motherhood in the world, so it is a country of extremes in a plethora of ways. Honestly, you couldn't pay me to live there. It isn't so much single mothers having a hard time as it is American people having a hard time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 01:15 PM
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Ahh alright. Thanks for clarifying. Tbh it still makes zero sense, because all the "love languages" are just basic things you do if you love someone, so a lack of any indicates to me that there are deeper issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 01:11 PM
1

Someone confirmed. And yeah, the terms have become incredibly wide spread, but I always found it silly to simplify love like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 01:10 PM
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It is strange how they don't even consider that the lack of sex might be because the physical intimacy offered isn't good in the first place. Women don't dislike sex. They're uninterested in bad sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 01:02 PM
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Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 01:00 PM
19

Weren't the "love languages" created by a christian man, with the explicit aim of guilting women into having more sex with their husbands?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 12:52 PM
2

Where do you live where they supposedly aren't?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 12:05 PM
1

Citation?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 12:04 PM
5

Indeed. There is a grain of truth to many things, but it is dragged out to such ridiculous proportions that nobody who spends a decent amount of time outside, observing real, normal couples, can take it seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 12:03 PM
2

I just don't get the appeal of the apps in general. Meeting someone irl is so much more exciting, and people who aren't offline enough to do that aren't worth the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 11:53 AM
1

The best men aren't on tinder anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 11:46 AM
6

And generally speaking, single mothers are fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 11:42 AM
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You're of course free to have whatever standards you want, as is anyone. Good for you! Either way it doesn't really make any difference, because it seems single mothers are doing just fine. Even the messy ones. My childhood best friend's mother has three kids by three different men, and she's now on husband number 4. She initiated every divorce, and she's raised her standards after each guy lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 11:36 AM
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I am pretty sure people who call themselves bluepill simply do it in opposition to redpill ideology. They are not going along with the metaphor, because they disagree with the initial premise that what redpilles believe is actually true.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 11:07 AM
5

Organ donors on wheels.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 11:19 PM
2

Whatever you need to tell yourself, dear. (Also not painting your gender in a very good light tsk tsk)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 11:15 PM
5

So naturally we should continue to pick men who aren't lacking in options.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 10:12 PM
1

Sounds like they aren't compatible. A breakup from either side makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 03:04 PM
1

I will try to remember to look down more.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 03:02 PM
1

Hope you like it!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 02:32 PM
1

I don't mind sad. Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 02:31 PM
1

I haven't read anything by Alberto Moravia. Would you recommend?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 02:26 PM
1

This is gold.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 01:57 PM
1

This was mine. 4.5 stars. Obsessive snail researcher, the mail order bride industry, kidnapping passport bros, all set in 2022 as Russia attacks Ukraine.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 01:12 PM
1

What's the best book you read in October?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 01:02 PM
1

Indeed. Especially if you're out of a long term relationship, it takes some adjustment to not be two anymore, but there is so much growth in it and it leaves you better off.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 12:31 PM
1

Plus it feels so good to be single for a while after a relationship ends. Post-breakup glow is real.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 12:26 PM
1

That's actually so much better. You're less likely to come dressed the same as someone else, and it is indeed easier to find a more exposed look.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 12:19 PM
1

Rebound relationships are such a bad idea. Unfair to the new person and unhealthy for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 12:14 PM
1

You're a little late, but generally I like a current and referential costume. Classics are good though. Vampire never goes wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 12:11 PM
1

Good!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 12:00 PM
3

Way to out yourself as an American. Embarrassing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 11:03 AM
3

I mean, I wouldn't? Plus I've dated women, so multiple Os is the standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 11:02 AM
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I guess if it was a forced marriage and I couldn't divorce. Luckily I live somewhere I don't I have to worry about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 11:00 AM
1

Fun. You should try it sometime.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 10:50 AM
1

I appreciate that you think I'm above this. Alas it is such a trainwreck I cannot look away.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 10:41 AM
1

Indeed! Take care :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 10:39 AM
1

Yeah, beyond the feeling of dishonesty, it's also just unappealing. I don't kiss before I catch some pretty strong feelings anyway. I don't think so? I am secretly a bit of a nerd, and I think focusing 100% on the modelling industry wouldn't do me well, especially in the long run, not intellectually nor psychologically. It is very cut throat and superficial. I didn't pursue modelling, it just sort of happened. I keep doing it because it pays better than working as a barista, I get free stuff and…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 06:01 PM
1

ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 05:52 PM
1

Wishing you the best!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 03:37 PM
1

You seem weirdly offended by a simple example. If the shoe doesn't fit, don't wear it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 03:33 PM
1

You sounds kinda paranoid tbh. I know you said no therapy, but not all therapy is the same, and it seems to me like it is at a point of being debilitating. You don't have to feel this way, and it is easier to change your thought patterns with support.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 03:25 PM
1

What makes you think that I am talking about you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 03:19 PM
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Dude, it was just an example. Don't take it so literally. Point being the disconnect between acting like you have no feelings, opinions, needs, wants etc. when you do, inadvertently leaving the other person responsible for guessing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 03:07 PM
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You know this place is cooked when words like compatibility and chemistry are controversial.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 03:02 PM
1

Call me a hopeless romantic, but for me it is unfathomable to be kissing multiple people in the same week and pretend that they're special. Yeah, it is definitely a good gig. And it gives you access to some really cool things/events/people. I wouldn't say average. PDD is a very niche culture imo. Most of my friends are fellow students, not models. They are pretty average, and their experiences also don't match much of what I read here.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 02:48 PM
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You know, there is some truth to the "you have to love yourself first" thing that people say, as well as "a people pleaser pleases no one". Insecurity makes people uncomfortable. It is like that indecisive person who refuses to say what they want to eat. "Anything is fine", they say, but it clearly isn't. They makes us feel uneasy and frustrated, even resentful. People who know themselves, who know what they're about, what they want, who are comfortable expressing themselves, make us feel at eas…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 02:10 PM
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I can only speak for a handful of western european countries that I have lived in tbf. I lived in London for a bit, and the multi dating and over all unseriousness actually shocked me. I feel bad for the English girlies. I am a student and I model to finance my studies. I got scouted when on my way to class actually, but I don't indent to stay in the industry long term (yes that is an option. Old models are a thing now). Even though it's pretty good money, it's not all rainbows and sunshine, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 02:04 PM
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It's kinda funny how kissing is one of the best things in the world when you're in love, but otherwise it is actually nauseating.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 12:53 PM
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Women in relationships, yes. Men in relationships too. Most single women aren't though, because most women aren't into casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 12:51 PM
1

How about "It only counts if I came". That would certainly lower the number for many lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 12:48 PM
1

Is that a bf/gf type exclusive or like wont date other people but not yet bf/gf exclusive? What is the difference? The way I see it is dating implies exclusivity, but the amount of commitment will grow over time as you get to know each other better and your lives get increasingly entangled, meeting friends, family, going on holiday together, moving in together, sharing finances etc. It's all exclusive but with different levels of "seriousness" and commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 12:46 PM
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Fair enough. And I would agree that a wide variety of experiences exist anywhere. Polyamory breaks a lot of expectations and "rituals" in dating culture, for example. I am just sharing what is the most common way to go about dating in the countries I have lived, what is expected unless otherwise specified. Excuse my tone. I've had some less than fortunate "debates" with incels on this sub, and I may have taken it out on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 12:30 PM
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That's a little funny, admit it. High quality rage bait.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 12:09 PM
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Can confirm. Although I do love sex, I only enjoy it in a romantic relationship. So when I've been single I haven't been having sex, and I haven't really missed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 12:05 PM
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I was deliberating whether or not to call you american, not knowing your nationality, but I decided that american is as much an attitude as a nationality, so my assertion still stands. My judgement of a place is primarily based on lived experience. Yours is on online discourse. Enough said.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 11:50 AM
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No, not really. Like if I went on the apps today and matched with a random french dude, he would assume exclusivity after date number two, or "after the first kiss" as I have heard many french people say IRL. Multi dating is not norrmal. You guys are weird. Do you realise how ridiculous it is for you to tell me what it is like where I live based on a few posts on Reddit? Honestly you're being so American it's embarrassing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 09:12 AM
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Reddit is not representative at all. I hardly know anyone irl that posts on reddit or even has an account. Most are only vaguely aware of it or they think of it the same way you might think of 4chan. A presumably ango person also confirmed here after being in europe btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 08:22 PM
2

<image> I think the boyishness is the haircut.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 05:56 PM
1

I don't really get the number scale thing, but I have friends that are average, above and below average in terms of conventional beauty standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 05:33 PM
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People are far kinder irl. But people nowadays are hesitant to initiate. Phone addiction I guess, but when you do get to know people, most are good people.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 05:31 PM
1

People are talking about how disgusting "men like you" are irl, in front of you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 05:22 PM
1

You made a general assertion, dear.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 05:21 PM
1

Why do you assume that, about my friends, and about him?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 05:20 PM
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From what I've seen, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 05:19 PM
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Agree to disagree. Her body is fire, and of course she is slender, she's a model. She would be more curvy if she weighed more, alas that isn't the beauty standard, although you're of course free to have your own preferences, but calling it unattractive is actually stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 03:14 PM
1

Yes, but most of my friends aren't and they have a good time socialising as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 03:11 PM
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You seem perpetually mad, so you tell me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 03:09 PM
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You're just mad that she's hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 03:05 PM
1

<image> Yes, so unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:48 PM
0

How do you know if you haven't tried?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:34 PM
1

Fair enough. I can see that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:34 PM
0

You should try.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 01:39 PM
1

That's just reddit being reddit lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 01:33 PM
1

It isn't rude. It is social and friendly.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 01:32 PM
2

Ime men don't care about height as long as you're attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 01:31 PM
1

Why didn't you talk?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 01:29 PM
8

Honestly? A lot. I only date for long term, so naturally I have a lot of criteria's for a potential life partner. A lot of it is based on my personal preferences, so I don't think making a list will be of much use. But as others have already said, first and foremost, they need to make life better than remaining single.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 01:19 PM
2

Yes, but there are fewer kids I guess. The host of the house party bought a lot of sweets to give to kids in the early evening, but nobody came.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 12:47 PM
3

Fuck yesterday was fun. I love Halloween.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 12:39 PM
1

Absolutely, and I wouldn't like it any other way.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 12:37 PM
1

I am not just speaking for myself, I am speaking on behalf of my social circles spanning multiple countries, and people are agreeing with my experience on reddit as well, so I'm not so sure who's getting hit harder by their confirmation bias rn.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 12:35 PM
1

Oh shoot. I guess I should cancel all my upcoming modelling jobs because BrainMarshal thinks I'm uggo.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 11:45 AM
1

In my experience, absolutely, and I have lived in multiple european cities. I don't think it is too soon. You put more weight on exclusivity perhaps. It is only fair to focus on one person at a time and give them a solid chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 04:31 PM
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Honestly, that's already leaps better.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 11:25 AM
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https://www.vogue.com/article/is-having-a-boyfriend-embarrassing-now Oh dear.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 10:52 AM
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It really isn't. You guys are just weird. And having a conversation about exclusivity is something people stop doing after middle school "do you want to be my boyfriend/girlfriend?" It is actually hilarious that you guys do that, fully grown up.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 10:51 AM
2

I do feel for virgin men over 25. I don't know a lot of women who would like to be someone's first. But I guess it is different in religious and conservative environments, so context matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 10:41 AM
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I've honestly never heard this phrase in the wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 10:36 AM
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Firstly, I would never date someone who talks like an American frat bro stereotype. Secondly, there are ways to give praise that don't sound ridiculous and clingy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 10:34 AM
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Obsessed? Yes. Praising and looking up to someone to a healthy degree? Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 10:28 AM
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It is inaccurate and dehumanising. I'm surprised you even have to ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 10:06 AM
1

I guess you are only dating within your own culture then, because the multi dating thing is largely an anglo phenomenon. In plenty of countries/cultures, if there is a second date, you're exclusive by default. Continuing to date other people beyond a first date would be considered cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 10:05 AM
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It is quite funny when they practically get angry that a woman is dating a short man, because it hurts their narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 09:46 AM
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Not true. The most masculine man I know is quite randomly a digital designer.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 09:44 AM
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Idk Toronto, so maybe it's different there. But good luck I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 09:41 AM
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And the final girl is always a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 09:40 AM
1

Not all women can get a relationship that would actually bring them anything. The same way that dating another man might technically be an option for a straight man, it is worthless to him, because he is straight.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 09:25 AM
1

Sex with someone you're not attracted to sounds miserable, but whatever floats his boat.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 09:21 AM
1

How old are you? That sounds very middle school ngl.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 09:19 AM
1

It would actually be funny to make you walk one day in a pretty woman's shoes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 09:18 AM
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Can't relate.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 09:55 PM
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Then why not exclusively go for 1s?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 09:48 PM
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Personally I haven't struggled with good options, so I am not single. If I didn't meet the right person however I wouldn't mind being single. A romantic relationship isn't a requirement for happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 08:52 PM
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I intentionally have only dated people who are more enthusiastic about dates than me. What do I like? Exploring and forming memories with a person I love.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 08:31 PM
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That's probably more of a thing for those who cannot consistently get "1s".
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 08:24 PM
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I guess it will take a lot more then, because there is no lack of men, quite the contrary.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 08:22 PM
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I haven't. Your social circle sounds toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 05:59 PM
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Well yeah, being nice to people is bare minimum. It is just respect, nothing special.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 05:44 PM
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They are quite open about who is and isn't their type, and they have no trouble getting their type, so I don't know why they would lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 05:29 PM
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Why would you think we hate each other? I would take a bullet for some of my girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 05:18 PM
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Nah hot men do hot women. Since I model I have a couple of male model friends as well, and honestly they're picky af, even for a random hookup.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 05:16 PM
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True but she mentioned "family money/property".
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 05:12 PM
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Tomorrow I will have to decide if I am going to wear a real tight lacing corset and look fancy and af, or if I will eat Halloween treats. I cannot do both. Beauty is pain. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 04:45 PM
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I'll do that!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 04:07 PM
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Right... tbh I couldn't do it. I have moved around a lot, but I will definitely settle somewhere before I am 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 04:06 PM
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I wont hold my breath.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 04:06 PM
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I just don't want polyester. It feels so icky.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 04:05 PM
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Appreciated!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 04:04 PM
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Kibbie is honestly bs, no offence. But if you were implying that the dress doesn't suit the model, I would agree. I don't look like her though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 04:04 PM
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You're just jealous of our paid time off.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 04:00 PM
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I'll do some digging.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:42 PM
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Lucky for me I only want one person, not the vast majority of men. I do not value a flood of attention from strangers. I value love and commitment from someone I feel a connection with.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:42 PM
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I know, but this one is a silk blend.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:39 PM
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If only I could sew.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:38 PM
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<image> I want this, dress but not for 450 euros :(
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:36 PM
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If I was single men would continue to bounce around like horny frogs? I mean, yeah. They be doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:28 PM
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I'm not single, so yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 01:19 PM
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My friend was born with a lot of money. She has been with a man who is way worse off financially, but who still doesn't feel insecure because he still has a very high status job in the arts. Rich in cultural capital, as they say.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 12:48 PM
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It also hasn't been asked in long term relationships. I have been with my partner for coming on two years now, and the question has yet to be asked, and there is certainly no insecurity problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 12:43 PM
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Fair enough, but yet people don't appear to ask about it? I have dated in multiple European countries, and nobody has asked me that question yet. Same goes for my friends, male and female. Which makes me wonder, is it not a city thing? Is it pure coincidence? If people do care, do they care minimally, the way someone might say they prefer green eyes? I am just surprised as someone who doesn't do casual (so presumably people I have gone on dates with would care more than people who pursue more ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 10:42 AM
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Precisely. It is mostly said to average looking people who blame all their failures on their looks alone, meanwhile plenty of average people are dating/in relationships, suggesting the issue might be something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 10:16 AM
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It is kinda funny that you link this study which says that it is less important to norwegians along with a norwegian article. Nevertheless, for context I live in a major european city and people don't ask about it in serious dating. Idk about casual, but I would assume even less so. So whilst participants in a study may express an ideal when prompted, it may be inconsequential irl. It would be more interesting if the survey was less about hypothetical ideals and rather asked questions pertaining…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 10:13 AM
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Hell no. Box wine is blasphemy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 09:39 AM
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Tbh we're still drowning.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 09:08 AM
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You're selling men short.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 09:07 AM
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That doesn't upset me at all. I even feel for him. What upsets me is incels who degrade women and wish to control us.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 08:06 AM
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I don't like casual sex period, nor drunken sex in any context, and from what I have seen with my peers (mostly students) my stance isn't uncommon. My friends who do like causal sex however, usually do it in a setting with alcohol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 08:04 AM
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Confidence is being comfortable with who you actually are. This is delusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 07:52 AM
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Of course you will not be treated identically. I will not braid my male friends hair (too short) nor discuss periods, but the fundamentals of a friendship remain the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 07:51 AM
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In that case beta beats a greasy alpha.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 07:50 AM
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The third link is broken. The other two studies are behind a paywall and not available on Sci-Hub so that was a waste of time. Even judging from the abstract (which isn't enough to judge any study), it states a dis-favourable view of extremes, be that a lack or an excess, which may be irrelevant for 99% of people depending on how the study defines extreme, which again I cannot check. I am referring to this part of one of the abstracts "Importantly, moderate (not extremely low or high) sexual act…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 07:49 AM
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The fact that you put that in quotes proves that you indeed haven't.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 07:35 AM
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My goal isn't for everyone to pair up, because that is never going to happen unless you force people. I am saying it for the sake of quality over quantity for the relationships that do form, and to increase emphasis on happiness beyond pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 07:35 AM
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Goodness... I heard that the social culture in the military is pretty strong though? So making new friends can potentially be easier?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 07:33 AM
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That's valid. Hopefully you'll be able to put down some solid roots in the next place so that you can build something more permanent. But for now, yeah that sucks,
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 10:09 PM
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0/10. Vegetables?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 10:04 PM
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It sounds like you need time with friends and hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 10:03 PM
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Sounds like you have never had a female friend, because that's absolute bs.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 09:57 PM
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I would recommend starting with something easy. An activity that doesn't require much talking, like bouldering, or an activity where people are used to awkward people, like magic the gathering. Any group situation that will let you practice your social skills and over time make friends, without jumping into the deep end immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 09:56 PM
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Step one is building a solid social life in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 09:50 PM
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In several European countries if you clink glasses incorrectly you get cursed with seven years of bad sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 09:45 PM
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I am talking about normal looking dudes. The type of guy you wouldn't look at twice. Plain jane. Joe? They talk to women and they date women and they marry women and they have friends who are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 09:39 PM
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Even if friends don't replace lovers, if you are not interested in or capable of forming and maintaining solid platonic relationships with women, you're certainly not ready for or an attractive prospect for a romantic relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 09:36 PM
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Who are the others? Because irl, men who are actually social would say you sound delusional and paranoid. You shouldn't base your perception of the real world on inflammatory online noise.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 09:28 PM
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You need to get over yourself with the whole Chad bs. Men are mainly competing with a woman's feeling of contentedness being single, not some hypothetical frat bro. Men need to stop being so bloody desperate and treating "getting a woman" as the end all be all. It only serves to make them less appealing, so naturally more women will happily remain single.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 09:25 PM
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It is working class. Middle class is generally a step bellow upper class but a step above working class.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 09:21 PM
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My point was that people overestimate their standing in many areas, be that financial, attractiveness, intelligence etc. It's actually pretty well documented in a number of studies.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 09:19 PM
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Then on what do you base your stance?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 09:17 PM
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Ehh if that's the worst thing she's done I'll give her a pass.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 04:21 PM
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Did you try? I get approached by men I am not attracted to all the time, but I just politely decline and they go on their merry way. No hostility needed in the vast majority of cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 04:21 PM
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Student discounts are great tbf. I saved 20 euros on a haircut last week!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 03:31 PM
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Fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 03:30 PM
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I live in a big European city. How about you?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 03:26 PM
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Well as a woman who's read my fair share of incel bs, I am not worried about that. I think anyone who actually spends a decent amount of time socialising with both men and women will realise that people are just people, and most people are pretty chill, man or woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 03:25 PM
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That's just not true. We get hit on all the time, and most of the time it is perfectly fine. Of course there are creeps, but they're not the majority. I have several hobbies and men are welcomed with open arms. The exception is the guy who is clearly there ONLY looking for someone, with little to no interest in the actual hobby. They are easy to spot because they will ignore the other men and jump from woman to woman. That doesn't mean that hoping to make connections isn't ok. I would argue that…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 03:24 PM
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No more young person train and flight discounts.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 03:20 PM
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Can you give some concrete examples of that? Especially examples during daytime.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 03:14 PM
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That is inflammatory online discourse. Talk to a woman irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 03:14 PM
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That is a very exaggerated take. Sure, there are situations in which women take precautions, but day to day, I never think of men as predatory. Most men are completely fine, and anyone that spends time socialising knows that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 03:05 PM
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It is so refreshing to read a nuanced take every once in a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:34 PM
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This is basically a chronically online fantasy. Most women date and marry men of a similar status. Hookup culture isn't as widespread as you seem to think. Men are competing with a woman's pre-existing peace and happiness more so than Chad, since women aren't nearly as desperate to be in a relationship. If you fail to make a woman happier than she would be remaining single, then I am sorry to say, but you don't "qualify".
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 12:21 PM
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So the actual problem is jealousy of women's "options" caused by men's desperation?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 12:06 PM
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It reminds me of how people living paycheck to paycheck call themselves middle class.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 11:13 AM
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<image> These are gold when you're a lazy cunt and don't feel like cooking.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 11:09 AM
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Sounds like a hormonal issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 10:47 AM
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Probably because most people don't care, so the odds are in their favour.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 10:45 AM
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Basically how it is now, but with better communication and fewer consent violations. It would also be good for men to raise their standards, as opposed to women lowering them. I enjoy having my freedom to choose a partner. I like that being in a relationship is optional. I think it is cool that people have different relationship arrangements depending on their needs and desires. I suppose I would encourage people to meet more irl (in general too) and not to rely on the apps. Makes for a better s…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 10:42 AM
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Nearly all of the high trust countries in the world are western
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 10:35 AM
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I don't hook up, but I'd pick the nerd. Nerds can be hot and the ones with social skills are wonderful conversationalists.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 08:20 PM
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Oh dear.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 04:20 PM
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I'm pretty sure it's in the job description for little brothers to be an edgy and annoying little turd.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 04:15 PM
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I am this close to scrapping my mermaid costume and stealing this idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 03:57 PM
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Sure, it might be good, but that doesn't mean people will. Most people wont write about their dating online full stop. And if anecdotes matter, all my short girlfriends in relationships have boyfriends that are shorter than me (175cm).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 03:53 PM
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<image> lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 03:48 PM
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Have you considered that perhaps people with very specific requirements are more likely to bother writing about it, than people with less rigid ideas? How interesting is it to ramble on about how you don't really care as long as they're the same hight or above?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 03:38 PM
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It is usually more scary in your head than in reality. I'm sure it'll be lovely!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 02:56 PM
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That is true, especially for high fashion. It is a lot of networking. Though your agency will take care of most of it, you can get a lot further if people like working with you and you know how to promote yourself at certain events.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 02:49 PM
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Right?? Basically there is a distinction between commercial modelling and fashion modelling. The former is what you see in ads, on websites of more affordable brands. Think cute girl next door, a more conventional beauty standard, more relatable, relaxed posing etc. It should speak to the masses. Then there is fashion modelling, which includes runway, luxury brand shoots, more artistic shoots. The beauty standard is to look striking. Models are typically even taller, even thinner and with strong…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 02:03 PM
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I am 5'9 and when I am doing a runway or high fashion booking I am usually among the shortest. When I do commercial I am more average. It is quite interesting what the ideal fashion model looks like compared to commercial. Not just height wise. Still, they say that clothes are made for tall and skinny women, but I struggle with sleeves and pant legs being too short relatively often, so I can imagine the struggle at 6'1.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 01:43 PM
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It said 5-15, so I made my decision assuming he was 5 years older. I could go as high as 7 but no more. If he was 15 years older, I'd just stay single. Simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 01:35 PM
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This only speaks to a general preference for a height difference, meaning a shorter women hypothetically could be happy with a shorter man than an average or tall woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 01:30 PM
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You're inadvertently displaying your social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 01:05 PM
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statistical citation needed
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 01:03 PM
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Did you know that short women exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 01:00 PM
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Because I am friends with models I sometimes feel short, even though I am taller than average. All is relative. You are tall/short to someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 11:52 AM
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What was the advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 11:19 AM
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Everyone has an accent, you included. Some accents are more attractive than others, and that is also true for male attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 09:45 AM
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Personally, yes. For the world? It fluctuates.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 09:41 AM
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Making "Daddy" have two kids isn't a problem as long as I am not expected to replace their mother, so this is still terribly unbalanced.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 09:39 AM
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Not true, because you have to pay for that, and women don't normally pay for OLD.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 09:32 AM
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No. I did not look for an average partner. I looked for a partner that was compatible with me, who makes my life better than it is remaining single, someone I am genuinely attracted to and with whom I can see things working out long term. I never needed a partner anyway, so why would I coldly strategize as if I did?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 09:29 AM
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You already know this, but you need to get out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 09:23 AM
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first
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 08:29 PM
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Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:15 PM
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You're screwed, unc.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:08 PM
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Not to women your own age.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:07 PM
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damn, you're cooked
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:06 PM
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To me personally? Over 32.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:05 PM
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That's insane, but ok cool. I guess you wont complain if a woman has sex with you without telling you she has aids.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:59 PM
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All I know is that the guys I personally know, who grew up around many women and girls, are doing better than average romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:58 PM
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Having several close bonds with women and girls throughout your life is, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:52 PM
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There is no free and enthusiastic consent if you are lying. You are removing her ability to give informed consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:50 PM
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We just don't like old creeps.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:49 PM
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That is literally sociopathic.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:45 PM
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I hope you can get over it, because that is such a green flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:44 PM
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Not a good enough reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:41 PM
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That would be ok, because?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:38 PM
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She is really fun! It would be hell to date her though. She chews people up and spits them back out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:36 PM
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I found my model face twin! She's like a brunette me, it's kinda creepy. I guess it's symptomatic of the lack of diversity in the modelling industry, though it's somewhat better than it has been.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:34 PM
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Nope. But I have a close friend, and she's struggling a lot with relationships, romantic or otherwise. The only reason we remain friends is because I expect absolutely nothing from her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:03 PM
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Police is so random.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:02 PM
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Ew.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:01 PM
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Lmao I am too young to get married in my culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 04:28 PM
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There are dangerous men in every category. That is just (some) men being dangerous in general, not a result of singleness.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 04:12 PM
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It isn't true, mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 04:11 PM
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In my experience, adult men don't even care enough to ask about "body count", let alone feel concerned about its effect on pair bonding.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 04:10 PM
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Most single men are harmless. You are painting your fellow man in a very bad light.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 04:08 PM
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>Women control 50% of the wealth citation needed
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 04:08 PM
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I don't have a lonely men radar, but the men I interact with are indeed at least somewhat social, otherwise I obviously wouldn't have had the chance to talk to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 03:36 PM
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Depends on which traits are more valued I suppose, which depends on the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 03:35 PM
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What if a person consistently attracts people "out of their league"?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:30 PM
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Idk. Ime men for the most part are pretty cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:06 PM
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Not only the US, to be fair, but it is among the worst. Here is a chart with other countries where young men fare poorly. Turkey is significantly worse off. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 01:30 PM
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That is specifically for young men and women, but yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 01:28 PM
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I'm sure. But it shows where the priorities lie when they decide to study if a disease makes you more sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 01:26 PM
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I wouldn't be surprised it if has impact, but asserting that it is the main factor, and that the solution to male loneliness is returning to a more patriarchal societal structure is silly and naïve. I imagine it is quite complex, with a slew of factors such as time spent online or even climate (making people in some countries stay inside more) factoring in.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 01:24 PM
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Belgium has the same rate of loneliness (17%) for the remaining population, but significantly less lonely men. Not very patriarchal. Meanwhile Denmark, famously feminist country, and Greece, infamously sexist country, has the same rate of male loneliness. Seems you're suffering from confirmation bias, my dear.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 01:12 PM
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Jesus Christ... And then there was this gem Attractiveness of women with rectovaginal endometriosis: a case-control study Rectovaginal endometriosis is fine actually, because it makes you sexy!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 01:06 PM
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I do wonder what makes American men lonelier than Belgian men. Because those countries have the same rate (17%) of loneliness for the rest of the population, but a significant gap (8% vs 25%) between young men specifically.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 01:03 PM
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Elaborate.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 12:49 PM
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Indeed. But it is telling that an aesthetic issue gets more funding than serious health issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 12:48 PM
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<image> The difference in loneliness in young men between countries, and compared to the rest of the population in a given country. This is very interesting. It explains the disconnect when some nationalities share their experiences. Source: https://news.gallup.com/poll/690788/younger-men-among-loneliest-west.aspx (There is a lot more worth reading)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 12:43 PM
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It was only a matter of time. Relationships built on infidelity rarely last.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 12:32 PM
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I haven't actually seen any woman upset by this yet. It's more funny than anything, because the men crying about it seem to be the same men for whom it isn't relevant anyway, i.e. they're not getting laid, a little or a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 12:24 PM
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Obvious bait is obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 12:18 PM
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It is crazy that there is more research on male patterned baldness than on endometriosis and PCOS.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 12:17 PM
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This question made me realise that I am not even a little gender fluid, because I cannot imagine myself in any male form without feeling uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 12:13 PM
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Community, a sense of belonging, making the world a little better, love, enjoyment.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 04:28 PM
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Yes, some are born into privilege, but the rest of us can have community if we actively participate and are genuinely pro-social and generous.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 04:13 PM
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You have to give to get.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 03:24 PM
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Speak for yourself. Plenty of people engage in their communities, do charity work, vote according to what's best for society overall, protest for other people's rights etc. Just because you're selfish doesn't mean we all are.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 03:20 PM
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It reminds me of those European men who travel to Thailand to get a wife, only to act surprised when she files for divorce as soon as she gets her citizenship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 02:37 PM
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Not a predator downvoting me lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 02:34 PM
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But now who will think of the poor predators :(
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 02:21 PM
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<image> The Best Snack
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 12:40 PM
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Indeed, and yet you failed to understand the nuance of the previous example.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 12:29 PM
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The horror!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 12:15 PM
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You're entertaining, I'll give you that. But that's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 12:00 PM
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You lack nuances in your definition of nuance. How ironic.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 11:55 AM
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It's not about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 11:52 AM
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Honestly, dating some of the men here would be a nightmare. And they try to threaten us with cute cats?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 11:26 AM
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My standards are serving me just fine, thank you very much. It is not my job to make my dating pool accessible to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 11:22 AM
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I am not talking about individuals, but rather broad social structures.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 11:20 AM
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There are more important things in this world than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 08:50 AM
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It is called nuance, dear.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 08:49 AM
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I believe there's plenty of hyper-social man sluts to make the two similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 09:43 PM
1

I acknowledge that I am less likely to meet lonely people, because lonely. But arguing that they are an invisible majority is absurd.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 09:35 PM
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Merely an observation.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 09:28 PM
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Or maybe lonely people don't go outside, so they're impossible to befriend, let alone date. A self inflicted problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 09:24 PM
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Well excuse me, old fart.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 09:08 PM
1

You conveniently ignored the other two examples I gave that aren't uni. Also, my friends aren't all students.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 08:19 PM
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I'm nothing special, and I have lived in multiple countries, so my sample is pretty diverse.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 08:18 PM
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I guess I am not porn brained enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 08:14 PM
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For me it feels incestuous to date a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 05:23 PM
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My peers are young and they are dating and in relationships. They meet people irl at uni, at their hobbies, though friends. It isn't as strange as you're making it out to be, and no, not all my male peers are Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 05:21 PM
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And then they act like you're lying when you say you know men in relationships that aren't rich or model attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 01:13 PM
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Most romance literature sucks. It is peak commercial fiction, basic consumption culture, like starbucks, porn or marvel. Fortunately, there isn't a lack of alternatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 01:11 PM
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One year max. And only if you're planning a ridiculously big wedding.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 01:06 PM
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Nice in theory, but I find it hard to see someone as anything but a friend after a while. Acquaintance to lover however? Absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 01:01 PM
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It is a little silly when you really think about it, but so are most of the best things in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 12:58 PM
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18-25
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 08:38 PM
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Oh wow! Proper slow burn. It's pretty romantic how you eventually "found" each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 06:02 PM
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You genuinely seem cool from the little I've seen of you, so I don't think you should give up.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 05:55 PM
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Hahah that's adorable
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 05:50 PM
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That doesn't sound that bad tbh. I see men that fit that description in happy relationships. And baldness isn't unusual, at least not after 35
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 05:50 PM
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I respect that. I am just curious because I rarely see people who are outright ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 05:38 PM
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People who understand statistics do. Sadly many people are dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 05:36 PM
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Nice. Love a good coincidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 05:35 PM
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Pics? Makeover time?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 05:34 PM
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Which country? If you factor for age and gender its actually lower than the general population in several cases. Young men are overall far more criminal than other demographics, so in cases when the majority of immigrants are young men, surprise surprise you get a higher crime representation. But by this logic we should just kick out all the young men and have women only countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 05:32 PM
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That's actually so sweet. Congrats on 18 years!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 05:24 PM
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So you met on holiday?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 05:18 PM
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Q4taken: Lots of talk of dating apps, so I wonder, how did you meet your SO?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 05:12 PM
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Why does germany
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 05:11 PM
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Si.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 05:09 PM
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Cat ladies are honestly iconic.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 05:08 PM
1

Kinda does tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 05:00 PM
1

Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 04:58 PM
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Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 04:39 PM
1

People don't have to accept anything in dating though, since it's optional.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 04:37 PM
1

Women can accept you and still not date you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 04:33 PM
1

Some people are definitely a bit more like that. When I fist met one of my best friends I thought he didn't like me, but he just needed time to warm up. Worth the wait! He's such a kind and fun person.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 04:27 PM
1

Actually more of my friends are in relationships than not, and the single people are actively dating for the most part.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 04:24 PM
1

Fair enough, but that could just be a lack of habit?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 04:23 PM
1

Would you say that you communicate better over text than verbally?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 04:14 PM
1

I don't mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 04:10 PM
2

I'd argue that the apps are more looks focused, not less, because people swipe based on pictures. Irl you're able to give a more complete impression of yourself. Your body language and mannerisms, your sense of humour and charisma. So many people also look much better in movement than they do in pictures. I have some guy friends who really shine irl, but don't do well on the apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 04:08 PM
1

I'm under 25, and most of my peers are ditching the apps in favour of irl socialising.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 04:02 PM
1

Where do you live?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 04:01 PM
2

I say that because men on the apps are overwhelmingly horny.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 04:00 PM
2

That would not be assumed ime, because it is normal for men and women to talk to each other, be friends and just treat each other like people. For reference I have lived in multiple west European countries. Language school is actually such a good idea. Most major cities have get togethers for people learning languages too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 03:46 PM
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I think it just depends on how you hit on people. That guy who clearly doesn't care about the event and jumps from woman to woman hoping for a shag isn't gonna be popular, but lots of people meet partners by having some tact. Have you considered taking up a non-sport related reoccurring activity? Expanding your skills and hobbies and meeting new peeps. Win win.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 03:30 PM
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Yes it is the same. What I meant is that we don't really have an equivalent of Trump, and that the people who vote for similar far right candidates are overwhelmingly men. Doesn't excuse the few women who also vote extreme right, but alas.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 03:27 PM
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I didn't mean to literally just go outside, stand straight up and down and wait for someone to come up to you. Join hobby groups, sports, charities, classes, go to events, heck, join a political party. Go places where people interact with each other, people who share your interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 03:25 PM
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They are more likely to succeed by changing their social arenas than by going on apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 03:22 PM
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Bars are not it. You should go to places where you can meet people who share your interests. Sports, hobby groups, charity, specific events etc. Meeting friends of friends is still live and well too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 03:21 PM
3

Dating apps are lame. Go outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 02:49 PM
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As a woman I don't bother with the apps. Too many people looking for casual sex for my taste. I met my partner at a charity event, and previous partners though friends. I wouldn't recommend for anyone to solely rely on the apps for dating. At most it should be a supplement.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 02:47 PM
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I'm not American, so I can't really relate to this conversation, but if I lived there I'd be just as mad at any woman voting for that piece of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 02:44 PM
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So you are talking about victims of domestic violence and making generalisations about all women? Furthermore, this study has a sample size of only 40 women, and has yet to be replicated at a representative scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 02:29 PM
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If you've got a solid source, please do share. Otherwise what you're saying is of little value to any productive conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 11:07 AM
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Cool. We are on the same page. And you have found that the women in your personal life have been lacking in these skills compared to men? Because I wasn't able to find any peer reviewed studies confirming your claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 10:56 AM
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It never left?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 10:49 AM
1

Which is?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 10:47 AM
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No, not really. The straight ones in relationships are with women who are more conventionally attractive than them, and the ones who are dating pretty much always start by talking about the looks of people they are dating before anything else. Meanwhile my female friends usually start with saying that he is funny, smart, sweet etc. One of my guy friends is an exception. He is more sensitive and emotionally open, even more than most of my girlfriends, and he has dated a wider variety in looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 10:02 AM
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We are too busy actually living our lives, doing things that fulfil us, nurturing relationships with people we care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 09:41 AM
1

What definition of emotional intelligence are you using?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 09:39 AM
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Nope. I'm talking about my peers. People I know from school, uni, bouldering, charity events etc. They are just normal men, and they're either in relationships or actively dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 09:36 AM
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Who's gonna tell him that most abusive men aren't rich or hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 09:31 AM
1

I'm talking about my peers. Normal dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 09:23 AM
2

True.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 08:32 AM
1

I like other people's dogs. The shedding and drooling at home would drive me nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 08:30 AM
4

Or maybe just don't make abortion illegal in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 08:27 AM
1

She was talking about men with options.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 08:25 AM
1

After the first bit the second half was surprisingly wholesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 08:24 AM
1

Such a solid argument. Not avoidant or patronising at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 08:21 AM
2

That's very interesting actually. I would have guessed that masturbating could be a way to "get it out of your system", so it's surprising to hear that you calmed those feelings by essentially ignoring them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 08:19 AM
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Can't relate. I only date people that I am attracted to on all levels. Anything else would feel dishonest.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 09:41 PM
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Yeah I agree. I have some guy friends who relate to my experience of sexual/romantic attraction. Maybe it is just that when someone is getting HRT they go really heavy on the dose of testosterone to get the bodily changes going? I am not sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 09:40 PM
2

Best of luck with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 09:13 PM
2

Why do you need latin to become a teacher?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 09:13 PM
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The chemistry, slow tension build-up and ever increasing emotional connection is the best part imo. It is what makes sex good, and it is so much more than sex, so losing that, even just in part sounds devastating tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 09:10 PM
3

I'm sure your future wife would feel great reading this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 08:59 PM
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Have you never seen a man lifting in TINY shorts and a tanktop that barely covers his nips? It isn't even an uncommon sight tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 08:56 PM
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Yeah, I can relate to how he described his sexuality pre-T. I can't speak for the latter though, so I would need men to confirm if that is how they typically feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 08:34 PM
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Yes he did, but not only. I replied more in depth to someone else if you are interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 08:22 PM
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Yeah, he gave quite a lot of detail actually. He told me how sexual arousal used to be highly contextual. How it was like a switch that would only turn on in the right context, and outside of that he didn't feel very sexual at all. Before T, sexual interest and arousal would naturally increase with escalating reciprocity. Little non-verbal things like eye contact, body language, voice, but also banter, teasing etc. used to be what would get him going. Arousal was context and person dependent and…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 08:21 PM
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what a horrific way to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 08:04 PM
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My friend is a trans guy and we were talking about the physical and emotional changes he experienced when he went on T. He told me how it changed how he experiences sexual attraction, and how that's one thing he misses from pre-transition. Honestly fascinating stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 08:03 PM
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I will make an exception for cat toenails.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 12:27 PM
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Tell your boss.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 11:38 AM
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I'm in my early 20s, so yes, I am not with my first partner that I started dating at 13 lol. I am currently with someone for over 2 years, who obviously do live up to my standards. That said, being single would 100% be preferable to lowering my standards if I had not met someone suitable. That is how most women feel ime. They are not desperate to be in a relationship, so they see no reason to settle for less.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 11:36 AM
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I have never dated anyone that wasn't my type. Why would I? I don't think it would be fair to someone else to date them when they don't live up to my expectations either.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 10:44 AM
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Long toenails, including neat and pedicured ones, are disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 09:45 AM
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That's your taste, luv. And while I do require a potential partner to be physically to my taste, my non physical standards are way higher, rarer and harder to achieve. So that chin will do nothing for the vast majority of men. And yet? I have never had any trouble finding someone suitable, nor have I been unhappy in the short periods of my life when I was single, so why the hell would I lower my standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 09:27 AM
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Because I don't assume all men are trying to get in my pants, and I treat men as people first.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 09:19 AM
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Read "most".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 09:16 AM
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My personal policy is: I can schedule as many first dates as I want. However, the moment I agree to a second date, no more first dates and cancel any already scheduled first dates. I expect the same in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 09:15 AM
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No. We need to make our standards as high as necessary to ensure that entering into a relationship beats staying single.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 09:10 AM
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You're telling on yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 09:09 AM
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idk. I have been hit on by models and by creepy old men, so I'd hardly call that the same type.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 08:15 PM
2

Nude yoga is where it's at.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 08:12 PM
3

Isn't your league simply whoever wants you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 08:03 PM
2

But if leagues are real, isn't your league simply the people who want you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 08:01 PM
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Not really. Then again, men don't reject.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 07:49 PM
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I don't think they're "beneath me", just not my taste. And if that were the case, there would be people I wouldn't pursue because I thought they were above me too? But nah. Of course I am not denying that conventional attractiveness is a thing, but that never felt relevant in a one to one interaction. What has mattered individually is simply whether or not I am drawn to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 07:48 PM
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Idk, in my personal experience it's really simple. I find someone hot, I go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 07:45 PM
1

Really? That's a relief.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 07:43 PM
1

Maybe subconsciously. But certainly not consciously. Like me, they go for people they're attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 07:41 PM
1

Her voice meant so much to so many. Truly sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 07:40 PM
1

Antiperspirant causes breast cancer, but I still wear it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 07:39 PM
0

Baek Sehee, the i want to die but i want to eat tteokbokki author killed herself :( <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 07:12 PM
1

Do they though? My friends are very open. They don't shy away from anything vulnerable or socially taboo, and yet I've yet to hear anyone talk about leagues. It's probably why I never thought about it either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 07:08 PM
1

Dubai is a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 07:04 PM
2

Some of the best music does that. Dance and cry BITCH
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 07:04 PM
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oh I strictly date long term. Casual sex doesn't appeal to me. Though I don't judge those who partake.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 07:03 PM
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Irl I don't see people treating dating like a game the way it is presented here. People meet, they click, they start seeing each other more and more, and they become a couple. So simple, and yet so complicated, entirety unsuitable for gamification.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 07:01 PM
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Well in that case I am either Stacy or I am naturally drawn to people "my league".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 06:52 PM
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I never thought about leagues. I just date people I am attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 06:33 PM
2

Haha that's sickly sweet of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 06:26 PM
2

Office ladies always try to feed you cake. I don't even like cake.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 06:16 PM
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Can't relate.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 07:36 PM
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I have many friends who still do, thank god, but I can't lie, some of my friends are FLAKY.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 07:33 PM
2

I feel so dense that I didn't think of that. I did consider the phone as a distraction, but I forgot its original purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 07:31 PM
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Not being a boring person does not equal being an entertainer.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 07:28 PM
1

I do think that is a big part of it. My parent's generation were more inclined to interact with a variety of people, their neighbours, random people out and about. They were more social and also more pro-social in some ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 08:55 AM
1

That only speaks to men's lack of standards, which is a pretty significant problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 08:50 AM
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Men need to grow some standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 09:35 PM
2

Who wants to shag a boring Chad? Interesting Chads only.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 09:23 PM
3

Ngl, the "women are so shallow" bit feels more like an excuse, for certain perfectly fine looking people, to not adress that they're more than a little bit boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 07:29 PM
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Hahah yeah I can absolutely see that. All those posts about "raw attraction" never made sense to me, and I am by no means asexual. Pretty just ain't enough 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 05:53 PM
2

Are we bitter or what?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 05:40 PM
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I wonder if this is why women are more likely to use words like sapiosexual and demisexual to describe themselves? Women typically seem to have a more clear and spesific idea of their personality preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 05:29 PM
3

Yes, it seems so, but I wonder why that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 04:32 PM
1

That's interesting. I think I am too young to have noticed a change. Why do you think it's changed?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 02:13 PM
1

DINKs have always been poppin 😎
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 09:26 AM
2

The amount of men who will tell you that they're in love with you, before they know your middle name, what kind of music you listen to or wether you're an only child, simply because they find you physically attractive. Many are driven by lust, not love.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 09:22 AM
0

Hardly. That's also you guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 07:10 AM
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You speak for all men, do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 07:09 AM
3

I'm monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 07:08 AM
1

No. I prefer women with more experience too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 11:13 PM
1

You know people of all ages get married, right? It's never too late to fall in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:56 PM
1

You just have to find your people. The ones that overlap with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:48 PM
1

My male equivalents are presumably men with equivalent credentials? Similarly social, similarly educated, similarly physically fit and conventionally attractive etc. No?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:40 PM
1

And yet my male equivalent friends are all in relationships 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:35 PM
1

Holy shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:32 PM
1

That's the thing. All standards aren't the same, so you've just got to find someone with compatible standards. You don't have to be everyone's cup of tea. You can not be everyone's cup of tea.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:29 PM
1

Insert that war is over Christmas carol (and yet most hot people stand no chance)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:27 PM
1

Sure. Hence why I was talking about longevity. Thus for anyone looking for a life partner, neglecting their personal development is stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:15 PM
2

Then how come there are certain "masculine traits" that highly contrast my "feminine traits" that make me attracted to certain men and women who possess them? And how come my standards for women are the same as my standards for men?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:14 PM
2

But if women are picky including in regards to other women, how am I having as good of a time dating women as I am dating men? Especially considering that the pool of men who could potentially be into me (straight/bi) is much larger than the pool of women (bi/lesbian, a small section of the population and picky too)? Could it be that it doesn't really matter if 95% of the population is into me, as long as there's an overlap between people I like and people who like me? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 07:57 PM
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Lol. Not you conveniently ignoring the part where I said "not all or even most women". And still even with my high standards, I've never had trouble finding a partner. It's almost like it isn't a bad thing 💁‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 07:32 PM
5

It's called having standards and not being horny for everything that breathes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 07:17 PM
4

Idk what you're talking about. As a bisexual woman I am super attracted to certain men. Not all or even most, obviously, not all or even most women 🤷‍♀️ people be like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 07:14 PM
10

So it's only hard for straight men? What makes straight men different?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 07:08 PM
3

How about gay men?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 07:01 PM
11

I never lowered my standard for anyone 🤷‍♀️ man or woman. You either reach them or you don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:51 PM
1

That's what I'm saying. If you're pretty with a shit personality doors will open, but will then be slammed in your face as soon as people realise you're an ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:49 PM
0

If you like having doors slammed in your face, sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:40 PM
1

Why blackpill is unfortunate?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:38 PM
1

How unfortunate.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:23 PM
2

I think the answer unsurprisingly falls somewhere in between. Massive shlong? Unless you find a size queen, prepare for issues. Micro penis? Good luck. People closer to average, i.e. most people? They're fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:21 PM
1

It used to be worse?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:13 PM
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Men here think about penis a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:13 PM
1

Depends on what country average.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:04 PM
1

Substance is nice actually 🤯
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 05:43 PM
1

A personality certainly helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 05:33 PM
0

Outside. You meet people where people are. Hobbies, events, concerts, courses, work, parties, dinners with friends and friends of friends, sports etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 04:50 PM
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Speaking for myself and many other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 04:45 PM
1

Being pretty is pretty nice ngl, but it's not enough if you want something to last.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 04:32 PM
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Idk about that. That hasn't been true for me or my girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 04:26 PM
5

It's pretty realistic ime.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 04:24 PM
3

Well that made zero sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 04:23 PM
1

Fingers crossed 🤞
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 04:22 PM
5

Such a valid and important dealbreaker tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 12:40 PM
26

Who wants to be settled for and tolerated? We want to be chosen among a bunch of solid options.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 12:38 PM
1

Oh yes, I'm so very terrible. You've opened my eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 12:35 PM
2

Sorry love, but this does sound like a you problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 12:29 PM
2

Maybe you just need better friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 12:10 PM
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V American comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 12:10 PM
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Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 12:09 PM
1

That's OK. It is 💁‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 11:03 AM
2

That's cool. I am all for discovering your preferences and setting your standards accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 11:02 AM
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Sure, there are shitty women, just as there are shitty men. Still there's nothing quite like a woman who truly loves you. Even in friendships, they go above and beyond.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 10:52 AM
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Strange enough, the men I know aren't having any trouble either 🤔 They're very lovable, to be fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 10:39 AM
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Maybe just not to you 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 10:15 AM
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I've dated women. Women are SUPER loving.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 10:08 AM
3

Exactly. It makes me wonder if we live in different worlds sometimes. Then I realise, a lot of people just don't go outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 10:07 AM
1

I think most women prefer dark hair, but OK. Blonde is feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 09:48 AM
4

Exactly this.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 09:46 AM
2

It is in more alternative circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 09:45 AM
3

Ahh I see. Well I do get the impression that American women spend more money on beauty. Getting their hair done regularly, going to nail salons etc. I live in Paris now, and the beauty standard is more "I woke up like this" than perfectly styled hair and bleached teeth.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 09:44 AM
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I've actually seen a small increase in the use of tinted moisturisers among men. So that's pretty cool. I would have no qualms dating a man who used that, or some eyebrow defining products etc. I prefer a more natural look on men and women anyway, but minimal makeup can look nice. I've lived in several European cities btw, and as a student I haven't been staying in wealthy neighbourhoods. So that's my pov.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 09:35 AM
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I think experienced people are hotter.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 09:27 AM
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All I know is what I see walking down the street and among peers (20s): Minimal to no makeup on most faces. I actually look twice when someone is wearing a full face with contour and stuff, because it's so unusual.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 09:25 AM
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Honestly my experience with men in real life is that for the most part, they're pretty feminist. It's just that the rotten apples are loud, chaotic and slingshot themselves all over the place. They're basically going "I SUCK! LOOK AT ME" while the normal men are just chilling and treating women like people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 09:19 AM
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I don't actually know many women who regularly wear a lot of makeup. I guess it depends on the country you live in, but I've lived in several western European cities, and you rarely see more than a little mascara, maybe some concealer. And people go bare-faced just as often as well. Hair extensions also aren't popular, or push up bras. That was more of a thing in the 2000s. Either way, I personally don't care about people's style choices, be that fake nails or shoe lifts. It may not be my taste,…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 09:12 AM
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You have to remember that cosmetics include skincare.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 09:05 AM
2

I'm sorry that happened to you but glad you found someone who understands what you've been through.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:12 AM
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Presumably online discourse? I will not dispute that online gender talk is a shit show. But I'm asking about tangible irl experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:11 AM
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Less people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 06:31 AM
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I've never date anyone with less experience than me. Honestly wouldn't have it any other way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 11:29 PM
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Have you ever had that conversation irl? I only ever saw a handful of videos on tiktok.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 10:41 AM
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Oh yeah. I hope that people mostly play along for fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 10:40 AM
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I don't really see how women treating their girlfriends differently to how they treat their male friends is negative. Men treat eachother differently too, and I don't see that as a bad thing. I appreciate that my male friends take into consideration that I'm a woman, and I think that is a part of "seeing" me, not the contrary. The video isn't of a woman though. It's a childlike animated character intended for some form of entertainment, hence not neutral. But again, neutrality doesn't necessaril…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 10:39 AM
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Unironically a good date idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 10:09 AM
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Online discourse is honestly such a mess. And when you point it out people get angry and say that it's as real (or even more!) as going outside and interacting with the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 10:04 AM
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Can you give some concrete examples of behavior? I still don't understand what the point of the video was in the context of your post.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 10:02 AM
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Can you clarify what exactly women are doing to dehumanise men? (Also, did you intentionally link that anime dancing kid video?)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:33 AM
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I'm mostly surprised that people ask for relationship advice on reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:19 AM
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Not really, no. You have to be dense or very inexperienced to fall for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:37 AM
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If it's real, trust me, you'd know.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 08:18 AM
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What is this nonsense? I'm sorry but you're only painting yourself as incapable.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 07:37 AM
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But they do??
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 05:41 PM
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You have to be a bit of a rape apologist to be a john when so many sex workers are trafficked.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 04:39 PM
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I only know one café like this, and people sit mixed, usually picking the corners first, or the spots with the better view. It isn't social however, as the big tables are pretty much exclusively used for people working. The people who are there to relax will take a lounge chair, window seat or sofa. Either way, people usually just interact with the barista and people they're already there with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 02:28 PM
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Honestly, I probably shouldn't. It's a guilty pleasure. Like watching a train wreck.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 02:15 PM
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Yes, it's most definitely their skinny wrists, and not their disgusting personalities.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 01:30 PM
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Such a wholesome sub full of Johns and rape apologists. A real mystery why they're single.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 12:27 PM
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Real. I actually cringed reading that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 12:22 PM
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Absolutely. In fact, a hyper-masculine man without a touch of feminine traits is unattractive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 11:33 AM
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<image> Cute or creepy?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:55 PM
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https://www.businessinsider.com/fifty-shades-of-grey-started-out-as-twilight-fan-fiction-2015-2#:~:text=Follow%20Business%20Insider,and%20the%20results%20were%20mixed
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 09:33 PM
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Is America even real?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 08:22 PM
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Not to be dramatic, but that's inhumane.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 08:06 PM
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Love a good pastry.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 07:54 PM
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I want to visit your country. My friend said the food is good too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 07:47 PM
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Two weeks per year???
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 07:46 PM
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Bob needs a life, not a wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 07:41 PM
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I see you missed the "personally" bit. Literally the first word, but OK.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 07:35 PM
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There's also a steriotype that English people have tiny, beady eyes that sit too close together, and either no chin or way too much chin. Then there's the ugly haircuts and style so bad it rivals the Germans.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 07:23 PM
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I never even mentioned fatness. I'm talking about their faces.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 07:02 PM
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And I answered. "Intimacy".
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 06:37 PM
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I mentioned looks to make it clear that I am repelled by the idea of having sex with someone without connection, even if they're my exact type physically. Now that obviously doesn't mean that looks don't matter when I choose a romantic partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 06:31 PM
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You literally asked. A piece of advice: don't ask questions that you don't want answered.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 06:16 PM
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Personally, the idea of having sex with someone that I don't have a strong connection with is nauseating. It doesn't matter what they look like. It's the most intimate act I know, so the mere thought doing it with anyone that I lack emotional intimacy with, makes me physically cringe. Cringing as we speak. Having to do that to make ends meet? I think I'd rather not be here anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 05:47 PM
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As someone who's lived in England, I can confidently say the stereotype isn't unfounded.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 05:26 PM
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I lived in London for a bit and I hate to tell you...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 04:25 PM
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Do you honestly believe that Hollywood actors are representative? <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 04:25 PM
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That doesn't change your reputation regarding looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 04:08 PM
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England is the US of Europe.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 03:31 PM
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This is one of the most delusional comments yet. Holding your hand through it all would take so long I can't be bothered. But I emplore you do do some reading. Outside the manosphere, that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 03:20 PM
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A good reason not to pay incels any mind 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 03:12 PM
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I'm so sorry that happened to you. I truly wish it wasn't so common as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 03:11 PM
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Where do you live? I've lived in several major European cities, and I can't relate.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 03:10 PM
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Japan, I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 02:09 PM
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I am quite frankly sick of the sheer volume of attention. It's not a fun time. And you're infantilizing men by not holding them accountable for their actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 02:09 PM
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What are you talking about? There are plenty of attractive men to choose from.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 01:47 PM
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🤮
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 01:33 PM
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Lmao that could be funny. Especially with the red pubes. But for 42 euros???
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 01:21 PM
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It's inclusive at least? 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 12:36 PM
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Not wanting to deal with bad men is unreasonable? But to be honest I wish men generally would be less horny.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 12:23 PM
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There's zero contradiction. Are you being intentionally obtuse or are you actually that dense?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 12:01 PM
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Again, that's a strawman. I never claimed that all men are rapists, nor most men. I simply stated the fact that most rapists are men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:42 AM
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My thoughts exactly, and yet they've all been purchased 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:18 AM
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Enough instances of sexual violence, which does not imply that most men are predators, as one man can commit multiple crimes. I am actually baffled that I have to explain this.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:10 AM
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It seems you've yet to grasp neuance or even conversation. Don't worry. It'll come.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:08 AM
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It's a better example for comparison, which you yourself brought up. Well done.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:07 AM
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There is a difference between most crime is committed by men and most men commit crime. Honestly, I shouldn't have to break that down for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:05 AM
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Just like the diamonds indudsty, it's overwhelmingly exploitative and unethical, and until that changes, upholding it is also unethical. You walked right into this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 11:03 AM
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Checks out unfortunately. I was 10.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:55 AM
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I googled it. It was indeed a twilight fanfic lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:54 AM
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Very convenient.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:53 AM
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Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:53 AM
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<image> Are we serious?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:52 AM
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<image> I'm sorry??? And it's sold out 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:52 AM
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Sorry, love. If I ever see you irl I promise to be nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:48 AM
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Yes, there are significant issues with those industries. That doesn't mean that green energy is an unethical goal, not that all is bad, but there are certainly practices that need to change. What's your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:45 AM
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Oh be serious. It was obviously implied.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:42 AM
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It's largely cultural actually, and a relatively recent development. And people who are property aware of the horrors of the diamond industry are far less interested in wearing one. As for the ones that still do, well they're unethical too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:41 AM
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Where's the hypocrisy? I'm a socialist. I don't support exploitative industries, and I find the most exploitative ones the most abhorrent, naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:38 AM
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Right, my bad. Forgot that we're supposed to be a hivemind for your convenience.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:35 AM
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My fav diamonds? You're hilarious. Keep it up!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:32 AM
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There's a reason why it's more frowned upon to buy Shein than Uniqlo, even though pretty much the entire fashion industry is unethical. It's honestly strange how some are incapable of understanding neuance.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:30 AM
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The sex industry is very unethical. It's really not that complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:17 AM
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I save my worst parts for reddit 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:15 AM
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Why do all men do this?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:14 AM
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So why have I been catcalled on multiple occasions when my hair was messy, I wasn't wearing makeup and I was dressed in baggy dark clothes from top to toe? Some men won't leave you alone no matter what.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 10:01 AM
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Indeed they don't. You should read them sometime.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 09:59 AM
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I've yet to meet a single woman who doesn't have a SH/SA story, and the statistics reflect that. The perpetrators are overwhelmingly men. Nobody said that. Strawman. Still enough for my answer to point one to stand. ⁠Not in sexual violence (perhaps except in the US, because of their crazy inhumane prison system). Women are victimised overwhelmingly by men. Male crime is a problem. The numbers speak for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 09:49 AM
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https://sbaproject.org/what-were-you-wearing/ Have a scroll down. Take a good look.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 09:35 AM
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Yes, because holding predators accountable is unreasonable apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 09:22 AM
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Rare? I've yet to meet a single woman who hasn't experiences SH/SA. And it starts young. I was in elementary school when strange men started acting like creeps.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 09:20 AM
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Sure let's blame the victim and not the actual rapist. And what do we do about the SH and SA that women deal with from strangers on the regular? Should women just stay locked inside, or would it perhaps be useful to adress the root of the problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 08:50 AM
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Your conclusion makes no sense when you take into account that women (and girls) get sexually harrased and assaulted no matter what they wear. What was she wearing?, really?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 08:48 AM
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Those are a lot of worthwhile discussions, but still besides the point. We're talking about wether it's advantageous for a women to deal with very horny men as opposed to not dealing with very horny men. Who's got it worse is quite frankly a debate I've yet to see done productively. You also fail to consider that the high rates physical assaults that men experience are perpetrated by other men, not women, in the vast majority of cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 08:46 AM
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Nobody disputes that it's a double edged sword? We have more choice in partners and we have no choice in getting sexually harrased, assaulted and raped.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 07:49 AM
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Creepy men come in all shapes and sizes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 11:40 PM
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Yes. It would likely endear him to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 10:21 PM
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Wasn't that just some bad twilight fanfic?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 09:32 PM
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Nice!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 08:40 PM
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Indeed. Her closet is probably bigger than my living room.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 08:40 PM
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Indeed. She's asking less than 10% what she paid for a pair of boots that she never used because she bought the wrong size.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 08:22 PM
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I love that rich old ladies will buy fancy shit, forget about it, and then resell it unused or practically unused for almost nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 08:05 PM
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Small head. A big head can look a lil childish, since children have larger heads proportionally than adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 07:22 PM
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Don't do it. You'll look English.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 06:38 PM
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I'm not surprised. Big city means more options, sure, more options for everyone. It also means more competition. Town pretty, small city pretty, and big city pretty are not the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 06:35 PM
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Why on earth would I tolerate their hatred? That's a ridiculous demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 06:29 PM
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I mean I'm not American, but it's generally true that it's cheaper to pair up. Another increasingly popular alternative however, is living with friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 06:00 PM
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I have noticed a bit of a trend of certain men not knowing how to have a back and forward 🥲
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 05:58 PM
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True. Sweatpants and home buzzed hair isn't a rare sight.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 05:38 PM
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It's honestly so endearing. When they're both visibly shy and excited.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 05:37 PM
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True. The bad dates can be so bad the entire café gets uncomfortable 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 05:36 PM
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Guilty pleasure: witnessing obvious OLD first dates. It's either cute af or a complete disaster. Today a "couple" sat next to me, and they were of the cute variety. So wholesome. Second date is definitely happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 05:06 PM
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I was trying to highlight how it's not men versus women but more like most men versus a tiny group of women. I don't watch porn or read smut, so I have no horse in the game beyond that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 04:41 PM
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Slavic men have been looking so much better the last few years though. Finally making efforts to match their baddies 🙌
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 04:08 PM
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Most women don't read smut. I wouldn't be surprised if most men watch porn?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 03:19 PM
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Can you give an example of harmful behaviour that you've experienced? I've yet to even encounter such a person, so I'm genuinely curious about what you're actually worried about.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 03:15 PM
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Like a NEET hermit?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 03:13 PM
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Have you ever experienced that irl?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 03:13 PM
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What do you mean by "low value male" exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 03:07 PM
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My answer is neither. There's no need to find fault in something that isn't inherently bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 03:05 PM
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The thing is, at the end of the day, if you approach the world with a mindset like that, the world will not deal with you as you are, it'll isolate you further, so only you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 03:04 PM
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It's wonderful that more and more people choose not to have children, who in the past would have, without question, as a "natural next step". People recognise that it's a life altering decision that shouldn't be taken lightly. That's progress.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 03:02 PM
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You seem to be forgetting the optionality of it all. It's OK that everyone doesn't couple up.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 02:56 PM
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Healthy in potentially giving catharsis, learning, introspection, a sense of belonging etc. You know, talking to people is nice and all.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 01:22 PM
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Nice cope.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 01:20 PM
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It's simple. They've yet to meet someone that can make them happier together than they are remaining single.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 12:37 PM
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I'm not single 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 11:32 AM
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Is it? Ime it's taken for granted.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 11:13 AM
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I have no qualms admitting that I'm very happy in a relationship. But that doesn't mean I'm happy in any relationship. Being single is more fulfilling than being with someone incompatible. Which means, for some women who haven't found a suitable partner, they are indeed happier single.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 10:47 AM
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It's rather helpful that more people are being so open about their bad intentions online. It serves as useful tools for women, in helping eachother spot the signs to avoid you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 10:42 AM
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I'm reading Reading Lolita in Tehran. Incredibly insightful but also infuriating. Men who feel threatened by women's freedom are dangerous.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 10:39 AM
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It isn't my goal. I and countless others will not comply.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 10:36 AM
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I actually think it would be healthy for men to discuss their sexual experiences, so I'm all for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 07:54 AM
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Name it "idk"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 07:52 AM
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At the expense of the freedom of women?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 07:51 AM
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You think loneliness is a male feeling?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 11:31 PM
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That's what this thread is about? Women not dating men who don't fit their standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 11:29 PM
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I don't know. But I think we have to consider how the fading pressure to couple up may have contributed to people not rushing into things. So if you look at 18-25 year olds the stats may look a lot "worse" than for men ages 25+ or 30+.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 11:23 PM
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Just because she won't date you doesn't mean she thinks you're inferior.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 11:18 PM
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Who whatnow?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 11:17 PM
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Name it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 11:08 PM
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100% agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:59 PM
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Sorry to hear, but glad you spoke in past tense. I hope you're more fulfilled now 🫶
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:59 PM
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You underestimate us 😤
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:57 PM
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I think it's entirely natural that people raise their standards for romantic relationships now that they're truly optional, legally and socially. As a result, some, who in the past may have been paired up, remain single. But I don't think we're talking about most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:56 PM
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That's sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:47 PM
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Do you think it's possible for someone who isn't asexual to love someone romantically and not want to have sex with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:47 PM
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Facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 09:40 PM
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Apparently some women use them when they go hiking.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 09:39 PM
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Gotcha. That's unfortunate. Someone should tell her.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 09:39 PM
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As I said compatability. Women are allowed to discuss their sexual experiences, even if it's subjective. Get over it 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 09:37 PM
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White people can be foreign too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 09:34 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 09:32 PM
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Is English her third language?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 09:29 PM
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It's largely about compatability, but I'd say some requirements for being good in bed is genuine curiosity and a desire to please your partner at least as much as you want to be pleased yourself. As long as boys and young men keep that in mind, they'll probably be fine. Same goes for women btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 09:23 PM
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Assuming my health is in order, if I stop wanting to have sex with my partner, rest assured I don't love them anymore. It's called making love after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 09:20 PM
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Good luck with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 09:12 PM
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You're advocating that people tolerate cheating?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 09:00 PM
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I guess so. How terribly depressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 08:46 PM
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It isn't, but in a romantic relationship it is very important to many.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 08:45 PM
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Damn.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 08:45 PM
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It isn't the defining factor, sure. But it's certainly a defining factor and not something I'd personally be willing to sacrifice.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 08:44 PM
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Good point. Do you thinks it's actually more an issue of "I don't want to have sex" than "I don't want to have sex with you"?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 08:24 PM
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Have you considered studying abroad? You're the right age, and that's often the easiest way to move country.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 08:21 PM
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Gross..
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 08:10 PM
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I understand if it's temporary, due to illness or something, but if one or both parties decide that they don't want to have sex with the other anymore (assuming they're not asexual), that sounds like the romance is dead. They might as well cut their losses, give themselves a chance to build something with someone they're compatible with.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 08:09 PM
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Women are expected to be virgins, while men are expected to be experienced. This sounds like a lose lose situation
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 08:06 PM
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Do people detail their first time to anyone they date over there?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 07:56 PM
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I'm 24 and my longest relationship was 4 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 07:55 PM
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Do they really? Well that doesn't mean you have to as well, and I assure you, not everyone does. I never even considered the possibility of someone I've dated being a virgin past my teens.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 07:47 PM
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I wonder why people stay in dead bedroom relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 07:43 PM
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I don't think people actually ask about that? I haven't heard anyone talking about virginity since HS.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 07:40 PM
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I'll actually take note. Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 07:10 PM
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Really???
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 06:58 PM
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I love the bone one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 06:14 PM
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That stuff is so sticky though ☹️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 06:08 PM
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I was teasing. Why so tense? For the record, I've never heard a woman talk shit about someone she's actually dating. Occasionally after the fact, but rarely anything more than "things weren't good in bed". A woman knows that if she says her bf sucks in bed her friends will encourage her to leave lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 05:59 PM
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This one is the goat and it's easy to open 💁‍♀️ <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 05:53 PM
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Who's talking about bashing? I'm talking about when the girlie's get together to giggle about how happy they are with their partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 05:49 PM
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Platonic connection and romantic connection is very different. I don't know why anyone would deny that. Still, one thing I see here a lot which is also unfortunate, is the devaluing of friendships. Friendship is fundamental for community and community should be priority number one imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 05:48 PM
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True. And vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 05:05 PM
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B. No hesitation, and I'm a "hopeless romantic".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 05:00 PM
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It's all about finding someone with whom your icks aren't triggered ✌️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 04:24 PM
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I never went into the nitty gritty with my friends, so it's more of a way to express that I'm happy and "treated right". I wouldn't talk shit, because if there's shit to say I'm leaving 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 04:18 PM
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Goodness...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 04:05 PM
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Because he looks bellow average, but not to an extreme degree. Hence 4.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 03:49 PM
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4
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 03:43 PM
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Is it really? Seems strange not to talk to your partner. Maybe I just like to yap.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 03:24 PM
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Personally I just ask my partner what they are and aren't comfortable with, as with pretty much anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 03:09 PM
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Valid. Just teasing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 03:01 PM
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