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4

I think that's something that belongs to Milton Erickson.
/r/seduction21/07/26 09:47 PM
4

Don't chase, be indifferent and girls will chase you. And if you can learn to be indifferent you will always have the power. Because you'll be able to walk away. Which is the most powerful thing you can do. They'll never have power over you if you can learn that.
/r/seduction21/07/26 08:57 PM
2

Move on. The only thing that works is indifference. There are plenty of other girls out there. No need to get hung up on one.
/r/seduction21/07/26 08:55 PM
1

don’t give a fuck? Or be indifference? Also "more stuff" is welcome here.
/r/seduction17/07/26 07:33 PM
3

Don't treat them like a friend and they won't treat you like one. Don't be too nice or agreeable. Say no when you want to. I've heard story after story about some simp helping a girl he was interested in. Move in with some other guy. Don't be that guy. Say no from time to time. You don't have to be nice to her. If she acts up? call her out on it. If she pleases you or does something you like? Tell her "good girl". Don't be afraid to walk away.
/r/seduction07/07/26 10:38 PM
1

I have "always lucky" tattooed on my arm. No need to tell me.
/r/seduction05/07/26 09:12 PM
6

Bitchy women are bitchy hot or not.
/r/seduction05/07/26 08:28 PM
3

There are no 10's. A 10 is a unicorn, they don't exist. And if you treat them the same. Like they're all 4's or 5's. It will confuse the hell out of them. It might make them chase you.
/r/seduction05/07/26 07:02 PM
8

Fear of being rejected does that to you. Plus possible guilt for wanting sex can also play a part.
/r/seduction18/05/26 08:02 PM
7

Being safe will get you nowhere. You have to be yourself un-apologeticly. Be forward, be suggestive, be funny, have fun no matter what happens. Pick up formula: Be indifferent. Be fearless and shameless. Don't care about what other people think.
/r/seduction18/05/26 07:34 PM
1

Exactly. But I would only use this after we have been dating for a while. Not something for when you just approached her.
/r/seduction18/05/26 07:51 AM
2

You're right plus your response could turn her around.
/r/seduction17/05/26 09:54 PM
-1

Relief. "I wish you well and I hope you find someone blah blah"? My response is to reframe it: Oh good! I was wondering how I could break it off with you. Without hurting your feelings.
/r/seduction17/05/26 09:48 PM
2

What movie's can you suggest some? Also interested in what you're doing with AI. Tell me more about that.
/r/seduction16/05/26 09:42 PM
1

Taking classes is a good way to meet people who have the same interest as you. But I would only go with the intention to have fun and learn. No expectations. And some things might only appeal to older people. But those older women know other women. And it's good practice to talk to these women. The more women you talk to the easier it gets.
/r/seduction15/05/26 09:12 PM
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"I was completely unfazed and didn’t care about her approval" key point. And one of the main reasons you became so interesting to them. You became a mystery and a challenge for them. They were probably asking them selves unconsciously "why doesn't he respond to me like other guys?" Or something like that. The other reason is the law of attraction. You were too focused on not having what you wanted. When you should let go and let the universe take over. Which is what you did, when you gave up. Ma…
/r/seduction15/05/26 09:02 AM
3

You should be doing the same thing. More guy's here should be doing this. And this is one of the best field reports I'v read.
/r/seduction14/05/26 08:38 PM
3

You're compliments need some work. Instead of "you're beautiful". Find something about her to compliment. For example: Nice shoes, you have good taste. Your face has such a beautiful shape. Or say something vague like: I like the way you carrie yourself. That will make you more memorable. So that the next time they see you? They'll initiate the conversation.
/r/seduction14/05/26 08:31 PM
3

I would suggest taking to all women regardless of age or appearance. If you're able to impress women that you're never going to get. Such as older women, married older women, mother's and grandmother's. You might even have them working to find you girls. They all know other women. Have daughters and neces to introduce you to. Just talk to as many as you can with zero expectations.
/r/seduction14/05/26 06:54 PM
1

I looked for Playing with fire on YouTube. didnt find anything to do with sdeduction. can you pervide a link?
/r/seduction14/05/26 11:37 AM
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Unless you're willing to change gyms. Approaching women there is a bad idea. As far as gettin over your problem. Try to imagen that she's just as nervous about being approached as you are approaching her.
/r/seduction14/05/26 10:52 AM
1

The game by Neil Strauss? Good book. I wish I still had my copy. I would add Instant Rapport by Michael Brooks.
/r/seduction14/05/26 09:29 AM
1

Statement of intent. Right from the start tell her what your intentions are. That way if she catches feelings or has any expectations it's on her.
/r/seduction14/05/26 09:02 AM
1

Good stuff. Have you done all of this? Are you still doing some of this?
/r/seduction13/05/26 07:11 PM
1

What's the Omegle Method? I haven't heard of that one before.
/r/seduction13/05/26 06:31 PM
1

LoL I haven't heard that one before. But it fits. We just call them cock blockers.
/r/seduction13/05/26 08:52 AM
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That's what you're wing man is for. To run interference on the cock blockers. Keep them busy.
/r/seduction13/05/26 08:35 AM
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Own that dorkyness it will make them see you as being cute. And owning it also shows them that you're comfortable with yourself. Don't give a damn what they think. Cultivate a healthy level of indifference. So you can be yourself un-apologeticly. This way if you embarrass yourself? You can push through it, like it never happened. Be yourself un-apologeticly. Joke around have fun and don't worry about what people think. You don't need to impress anyone. They need to impress you. So just have fun.…
/r/seduction12/05/26 09:40 PM
3

I know two guys one of them is me. 4 years homeless. Like to joke my wife joined the adopt a homeless man program.
/r/seduction11/05/26 07:52 PM
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When I was younger. I had little self confidence and didn't take care of my appearance much at all. Long unkept hair denim jacket and pants with holes. Didn't take care of my teeth. And getting all sorts of attention from girls. That I didn't believe I was getting. And even if I did realize I had something. I didn't know what to do with it. I was a total simp. Beautiful women of all ages would look for excuses to talk to me. Make physical contact with me. And even make little noises when I accid…
/r/seduction11/05/26 10:13 AM
1

Not approaching, is deciding for her that she doesn't like you. How do you know what she likes or wants? You already don't have her. If you don't find out if you can by approaching? You surly won't have her.
/r/seduction08/05/26 08:41 PM
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Don't be so sure. They're not used to us being okay with being rejected. I haven't had it happen to me. But I've heard guys talk about it. Girls coming back to find out why. Which gave the guy a chance to run more game on her.
/r/seduction07/05/26 08:53 PM
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I mean they assume you have confidence and that you have options. They find confidence attractive. So yes.
/r/seduction07/05/26 08:09 PM
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You don't have her already. Rejected you still, don't have her "already", nothing changed. If it didn't bother you before you asked? Why let it bother you after? If they see you approaching and not being bothered by being rejected? They'll see that as confidence. And we all know confidence is extremely attractive.
/r/seduction07/05/26 09:27 AM
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This is the way 👆💯 indifference is your most powerful tool.
/r/seduction07/05/26 09:16 AM
1

Stop caring about what they think. You should read The Bad Boys Formula by Carlos Xuma Psych yourself out, why? What's going through your head at that moment? You shouldn't let anything live in your head. That doesn't help you get what you want. Go to places that you're sure to find lots of women. And talk to as many as you can. Young old pretty and even ugly women. With no expectations what so ever. Your only gole is to get used to talking to women. Look at the little girl inside. Talk to the l…
/r/seduction04/05/26 09:06 PM
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Self hypnosis worked for me.
/r/seduction04/05/26 07:40 PM
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definitely teasing is a big part of flirting. And how you react or respond is important. For example, if she is teasing you. You could ask in a playful tone of voice "are you flirting with me?" Or go the other route and say don't start flirting with me. I'm not that easy. Or don't get me started with something you're not interested in taking to the next level. Be playful, tease and joke with her. Show her that you're comfortable enough with yourself to make a fool of yourself. And laugh about it…
/r/seduction04/05/26 09:23 AM
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By joking and doing saying silly stupid shit, embarrassing yourself and then not caring. By being yourself un-apologeticly. And stop caring about what they think! That makes you hold yourself back and that's simp behavior. Girls will run from you if you start simping.
/r/seduction04/05/26 08:46 AM
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You should have tried to get the date right off the bat. Maybe not every girl. But I'm sure that if she's comfortable enough with you to talk about sex? She's probably thinking about sex with you. And when you still didn't get the hint she lost interest. Now are you shure about your feelings for her? Or are you just missing the interaction and attention?
/r/seduction03/05/26 08:43 PM
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I'm in the same boat. Good luck.
/r/seduction03/05/26 06:49 PM
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it pissed me off because I would have gave her some. fuck the movie! no I'm no cop.
/r/seduction03/05/26 11:26 AM
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I heard about a guy that rented an extra apartment with his wingman. They split up the week. He got it half the week. The 7th day they would have every other week. One guy got it one week the other got it the next.
/r/seduction03/05/26 09:15 AM
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The plan is to give it to her like Tyler Durden wishes he could. But I usually just give it to her like Pee Wee Herman. A friend of mine had a girl invite him over. She put a movie on that he hadn't seen. And he forgot about her. Watched the movie and left the por girl and me pissed off. He said it was her fault for putting on a movie he hadn't seen. I told him to give me her number and I'll fuck her. Of course he didn't.
/r/seduction03/05/26 08:44 AM
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I've said this before. Go to places that you're sure to find lots of women. And talk to as many as you can. Young old pretty and even ugly women. With no expectations what so ever. Your only gole is to get used to talking to women. Be yourself un-apologeticly tell jokes make up BS stories. And don't get excited if you start to get attention. Or depressed if you don't. Be positive, keep the insecureitys to yourself. Don't talk about how bad things are going for you. Make them laugh and smile. Mak…
/r/seduction02/05/26 09:43 AM
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Exactly. Even just getting out there so you can be seen. Will get you more results than you're going to get sitting at home on Reddit.
/r/seduction02/05/26 08:50 AM
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No problem just looking to increase my knowledge and understanding.
/r/seduction02/05/26 08:46 AM
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that's ok I find flirting easy enough.
/r/seduction01/05/26 03:55 PM
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Fair enough.
/r/seduction01/05/26 09:01 AM
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I'll check those videos out tomorrow. You don't run out of things to say. If you keep things short, "false time constants" and you have a few stores memorised. Or can come up with something like a bullshit story quickly on the spot. I assume we all lack some social skills. At least to some degree, or we wouldn't be here. There's always something more to learn.
/r/seduction30/04/26 09:49 PM
1

What would you say about situational or indirect opinion openers?
/r/seduction30/04/26 08:17 PM
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Do you keep notes on your openers? your game? Give us some examples.
/r/seduction30/04/26 08:13 PM
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I see them as little girls not women. Even if they are my age or older. We all have that little boy or girl inside of us. I'm looking at her's. Makes it easier to deal with them in general. And don't take this as an excuse to talk down to them. That would be a big mistake. And go find a self hypnosis recording on confidence. And listen to it daly. I did it back in the 1990's. And after a few weeks of listening to it. I was winking at girls before I realized it. And I never winked at any one befo…
/r/seduction29/04/26 08:27 PM
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Sure thing. Make that nervousness about her. "Oh wow! I haven't been this nervous sence highschool. You must be something special to effect me this much!"
/r/seduction29/04/26 06:54 PM
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use it. "if I'm nervous you made me that way" make a joke out of it. she'll see you as being ok with yourself even if a bit shy. might even see it as cute.
/r/seduction29/04/26 04:45 PM
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Yep talk to all women you have a chance to. With no expectations other than making people feel comfortable around you. Some of them know other women. So if you impress one of them? You might get to meet her friend's. Or if she's older you might get to meet her niece or daughter. Just get out there and be seen. Be seen being yourself un-apologeticly and comfortable in the environment.
/r/seduction29/04/26 12:55 PM
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Instead of approaching when you get eye contact. Acknowledge it with a nod, wink, tip your hat, hold up your drink or whatever. Then stand your ground, stay where you are. Sooner or later they'll start approaching you. And embrace your nervousness. If you're talking to a girl and she makes you nervous? Tell her. "Oh wow! I wasn't expecting you would make me so nervous!" Then go right back to talking.
/r/seduction29/04/26 10:18 AM
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How would you react if it was an AI roll play bot? Reframe it, I'm not texting a real person. But don't treat her like that. Just use the mindset to allow you to keep your emotional state level. If that makes sense.
/r/seduction29/04/26 09:46 AM
1

What made you so nervous? You already had nothing to lose.
/r/seduction29/04/26 09:11 AM
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I've had them go doe eyed just from me saying something or asking a question. I probably just asked her out or something. But it's weird or strange.
/r/seduction29/04/26 08:54 AM
3

Years ago when I had to have back surgery. I went to meet my anesthesiologist. She was a beautiful short curvy little Japanese women. Somewhere in her 30's. Exactly to a "T" what I was looking for. I made her so nervous. I thought she was going to wet herself. If I wasn't already engaged. I would have asked her, if she could think of a way I could stay in town. And told her there was someone I just recently met. That I would like to get to know better. But man! I never made a girl so nervous bef…
/r/seduction29/04/26 08:45 AM
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You can't see them at your level. Think of them as someone who needs you to tell her what to do. Make all the decisions when you go out. order for her, but make sure she's not allergic to anything on the menu first. And don't forget to praise her with a good girl. When she pleases you.
/r/seduction24/04/26 09:30 PM
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"No coffee after 7" Parker It can be any thing, doesn't have to be coffee. It's just an excuse to spend time with her. Enough time to get her invested in you. Hey I'm going to do "X" this weekend, you want me to pick you up at 8 or 9?. Make shure the you're not asking yes or no questions. Don't want to make saying no easy. And if she does say no. Go do X any way. Take lots of selfies of yourself and other girls if you meet any. And post them on your Instagram. "X" = fun thing.
/r/seduction24/04/26 07:45 PM
1

"No coffee after 7" parker
/r/seduction24/04/26 07:28 PM
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Don't let it. Reframe the situation: I wasn't that interested in her anyway. There's another batch turning 18 every day. She's not that special, not a 10 or even an 6 or 7. What ever it takes to free your ego from taking this in a negative light.
/r/seduction23/04/26 09:16 AM
1

Explain. I've forgotten about this over the years. I need a refresher. Explain qualifiers, how do you get her to invest?
/r/seduction23/04/26 09:08 AM
1

You don't let it bother you that she isn't responding. Keep her contact info and move on to another girl. If she was at all interested in you she'll come back. If she wasn't interested you wouldn't have gotten her information in the first place.
/r/seduction23/04/26 09:04 AM
1

This is the way 👆
/r/seduction23/04/26 08:58 AM
2

Sometimes she's not flaking, she's shit testing you. If she agreed to go out with you? Then she has some interest in you. Now she's testing you. To see what you're willing to put up with. Pull away and she might start to chase you. Always be willing to walk away.
/r/seduction23/04/26 08:47 AM
1

no it's my younger brother that 6' 2"
/r/seduction22/04/26 01:22 PM
1

I'm an Amercan living in Italy. I'm 5 foot 11 inches. 1.524m
/r/seduction22/04/26 11:58 AM
4

Bullshit I'm no Disney character. And I've had them trying to get me. Even after I told her I wasn't interested.
/r/seduction22/04/26 08:15 AM
1

My mother chased her second husband. And I've had women through themselves at me.
/r/seduction22/04/26 08:10 AM
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That doesn't sound like the kind of girl, who would hear that as needy. She'll probably be elated to hear that.
/r/seduction21/04/26 07:48 PM
15

And if things don't work out? You have to find another gym. Or continue to see her like it or not. No thanks
/r/seduction19/04/26 08:59 PM
0

What? is Grammarly that big of a secret? What's the harm in having AI help clean up your writing?
/r/seduction18/04/26 09:28 PM
3

You can't treat them differently. Or at least try to treat them the same. I try to see them all as little girls who need to be taken care of. After all, they all want to feel safe with the man they're out with. And most of them are looking for you to take charge. You don't want the girls that want to control everything. They'll make you crazy. And of course always be willing to walk away from, even the smokin hot girls. They won't look like that forever. A new batch just turned 18 today. And ano…
/r/seduction18/04/26 10:34 AM
1

Find something fun to do. Then call her and ask her if she would like to go do X. If she says no? Go with out her take lots of selfies and post them on your Instagram. Then wait for her to call you. Don't expect her to call right away. But if you don't call for a while. She'll start to wonder or even miss you. And if she doesn't call? Just keep working on yourself. And go have fun even if by yourself. You're sure to meet other girls. Just make sure you're seen one in a while.
/r/seduction17/04/26 11:16 PM
2

Someone must understand the psychology behind the woman that will do this for her man. What makes her tick and why she's willing to do it. As well as how.
/r/seduction17/04/26 10:43 PM
1

Cocky. "hands off the merchandise Missy. That's not yours to touch!" Say it seriously. If she continues take it as a green light. Grab her and kiss her full on the mouth. If she protest tell her to shut up. That you told her not to touch you. And you're touching her back. And if she doesn't want you to kiss her? stop acting like it! Do that or just say to her that. if you don't want me to kiss you? stop acting like it! Hope you've been working on your self confidence. But remember any attention …
/r/seduction16/04/26 09:11 PM
1

Then you don't have to fake it. Lucky you.
/r/seduction16/04/26 08:46 PM
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the way you carrie yourself is it. So act as if. as if you have 7" in your pants. as if you have a hundred dollars in your wallet and more in the bank. And you don't care if you get her number because you know there's more girls out there turning 18 every day, just like her.
/r/seduction16/04/26 07:41 PM
1

You make a Statement of Intent once you notice mutual engagement — things like laughing together, curiosity, back‑and‑forth questions, relaxed body language. Basically, when there’s already a “yes” in the air, even if nobody has said it yet. At that point you can just say something simple like: “I’m feeling a connection here, and I want to be upfront with you.” It keeps things honest without being awkward or forced.
/r/seduction16/04/26 02:24 PM
1

As soon as possible. To not waste time for her and yourself. and it's more respectful to her.
/r/seduction16/04/26 09:04 AM
1

Probably the most important thing is your Statement of Intent. Anyone who gets hurt when you told her you don't want a relationship? Deserves it.
/r/seduction15/04/26 08:35 PM
1

Let go of that embarrassment. It already happened learn from it. Use it, you tried. And each time you try it gets easier. That's what matters. And if they see that it doesn't bother you! They might start to rethink they're choice.
/r/seduction07/04/26 08:59 PM
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One of my rules is "any attention is still attention." If she's giving you a kind of sad scared kind of look? Still making eye contact? It could be you need to try harder. It could be she's intimated by you. It could be she's interested but something is holding her back. And if she's walking in your personal space it's attention as well. Next time she gets obviously to close? Turn and look her in the eyes. And with a Stern serious tone of voice. Say: ether take my arm or back the fuck off! Then …
/r/seduction07/04/26 08:52 PM
3

What makes you think they're trying to avoid him? When he said "And they’ll walk so close to me too."? That makes no sense.
/r/seduction07/04/26 08:05 PM
1

How do you act around your friends? You don't joke and bullshit with your friends? It's the same thing. Just that you're doing it with a girl who you just met. And don't worry about if she's interested or not. Just have fun with her. If you don't feel comfortable trying this with someone you just met? You can practice with your friends and family.
/r/seduction07/04/26 09:34 AM
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No. I've seen guys doing this all the time. Guy's that consistently get laid. I learned it from my last wingman. It's not lying or manipulation. It's about showing that you're confident enough to be yourself in front of everyone. To joke and bullshit just to get a laugh. Telling bullshit stories makes you seem fun to be around. You're not trying to manipulate or lie your way into her panties. You're trying to show confidence. By being comfortable enough with yourself. That you can say or do anyt…
/r/seduction07/04/26 09:05 AM
2

Yes we do want to hear from women. We want to understand what make you tick.
/r/seduction05/04/26 08:54 PM
2

Find something about her you can tease her about. But be playful don't be insulting. I once asked a short girl. If she had trouble finding shoes with out power rangers or sailor moon on them? Then I said you must buy all your clothes at Toy's R Us. I had her wrap around my finger after that. You just have to be yourself un-apologeticly. Be friendly fun silly cocky or whatever you want. You might even embarrass yourself. Just don't apologize or be sorry. Keep talking ignore the embarrassment plow…
/r/seduction05/04/26 08:53 PM
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If you get anyone to believe it. And ask what made you quit? Tell them that you were too good at your job. And a couple of the girls decide not to get married. And instead wanted you to keep fucking them.
/r/seduction05/04/26 07:52 PM
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I've been married 18 years now, so I'm out of the game. I haven't made up any stories for a while. Many times I made them up on the go. The one I remember was about how I once spent a year in Guam. Helping young ladies get married. You see there's a law in Guam that makes it against the law for a vergin to get married. So parents would pay me to take their daughters verginity. Totally BS but obviously BS as well. Someone always believes it long enough to ask REALLY? Which makes the rest laugh. I…
/r/seduction04/04/26 10:30 PM
1

"Some of us are terrible liars." Good play to that. You're supposed to be called out on it anyway. Just play it off like you don't care. It's not about the stories or whether you did what the story is about or not. It's about being comfortable enough with yourself. that you can make up stupid shit and try to pass it off as true just for a laugh. Not caring if they believe you or not. You want them to see you as fun and interesting. I have a bad memory too. But I can memorise a couple of silly li…
/r/seduction04/04/26 09:14 PM
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Those are some good points. I read cards and as soon as they find out? they all want to know about their future boyfriend or current man. I once told a girl her boyfriend was cheating on her. A week later she's pissed off at me because I was right. Fun stuff. The guy who knows how to make things interesting is the guy they remember. And the guy they remember has a better chance getting somewhere with her.
/r/seduction04/04/26 09:00 PM
1

My advice be yourself un-apologeticly. Make shit up, tell stores about yourself that didn't happen. Make it sound fun but be obvious that your goofing and when they call you out on it. Just say, so? It sounds good don't it? Maybe I should do (whatever the storie was about) then invite her to join you. So make sure it's something you'd be interested in trying. Then continue talking like you don't care. Keep a good vibe going but don't drag it out to long. Or she'll get board when you run out of t…
/r/seduction04/04/26 07:32 PM
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Once you loose the fear of being rejected the fear of her losing interest. You almost don't even need to approach any more.
/r/seduction04/04/26 07:02 PM
1

how can you have an opinion on romance novels if you've never red one? shouldn't you at least have a look before deciding their value? your comment implise you dont think there's anything to learn from them. but you've never red one. and you post smut as an example of how worthless they are. asking what could be learned for that kind of writing. how credible is your former comment in light of those facts?
/r/seduction04/04/26 05:36 PM
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Your right it's literary porn. There for not romance. Do you read a lot of this stuff? I've read a few romance novels and only once have I encountered something so explicit.
/r/seduction04/04/26 09:31 AM
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Yes I would let the invite die in silence if she doesn't get back to me. Then go do something fun and take lots of selfies and post them on your Instagram or where she can see what she missed out on. You don't really want to chase women, you want women to chase you. Go have fun with out her and document it as much as possible. And if you happen to meet some other ladies while you're out having fun? make sure to document that as well. Edit: on second thought. Don't let them get away with that may…
/r/seduction03/04/26 09:28 PM
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They read them for a reason. You want to understand what about the stories they find attractive. Why do they read them what they get out of it. That's the reason to read them.
/r/seduction03/04/26 08:54 PM
3

Turn the tables on her. Lead her to believe that you don't want to appear easy.
/r/seduction29/03/26 07:42 PM
1

If you do it right. Then she may talk about it to other girls. And that will help for sure. Also you won't appear so desperate to get laid which also helps.
/r/seduction29/03/26 07:00 PM
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I see any excessive amount of attention as an IOI. Girls don't pay attention to guys they're not interested in. If she wasn't interested you wouldn't exist for her at all. She wouldn't even know you're name. Call her out on it.
/r/seduction27/03/26 10:57 PM
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It will just give her hope. Talk to her about it yes. But make sure she understands how you feel. That you don't want the same thing she wants. So she's free to look elsewhere. That's the honest respectful way to handle this.
/r/seduction27/03/26 09:40 AM
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No. If you're sure you don't want any kind of serious relationship? Then don't. You'll just end up hunting her. Don't do anything that gives her hope. Try to avoid interaction with her. Any thing to help her understand that she has no chance with you. With out being an asshole.
/r/seduction27/03/26 08:41 AM
1

Don't you use a statement of intent? You should have told her at the beginning what you want from her, what you're after.
/r/seduction24/03/26 10:05 PM
5

Exactly how do you force her to shit test you?
/r/seduction22/03/26 07:29 PM
0

Try just telling her where your taking her next time. Or better, asking her what she would like to do next time. This negates any rejections about another date. And frase it like your not sure there's going to be another date. Like you might change your mind. "Maybe, If there's a next time I'll take you to that new club."
/r/seduction09/03/26 09:45 AM
1

You're thinking about the wrong confidence. It's not confidence in approaching girls that you need. You have to just have confidence to be yourself in front of people. Act like you normally would if you were by yourself and no one is watching you. People here are so hung up on the approach. But you don't even need to approach. You just have to show up be yourself un-apologeticly. And talk to them without exceptions. Be friendly cocky silly suggestive or whatever. As long as you don't give a damn…
/r/seduction08/03/26 10:07 AM
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Only approach women who make eye contact first. And learn to read body language. So you can notice other signs that she might be interested. You have to approach the hot girls with zero expectations. She's been hit on so much that she already assumes that you want to sleep with her. You have to confuse her. By not being like other guys and making her question that. Make her wonder if maybe you don't. Make yourself a challenge. Give a little attention then take it away. Don't compliment her for l…
/r/seduction07/03/26 09:25 PM
3

Just want to be sure of the name and author so I can find it on Anna's archive. If I like it I'll buy it. So an Amazon link would be helpful.
/r/seduction04/03/26 07:53 PM
5

Link to that book?
/r/seduction04/03/26 10:20 AM
10

You should have said to her maybe, well I'm going to go get coffee. If you want to come, I'm buying. Then turn and go get coffee. It's like saying. I'm going to go do something fun. And I'm okay doing it alone, I don't need you.
/r/seduction03/03/26 09:17 PM
1

Yeah they silly stupid like that. She made a point of kissing the guy in front of me. But I never saw him with her again after that. She acted tough which never appealed to me. But her biggest problem was that I had oneitis for her sister. Of course this was way back when I was still a simp and had no clue how to deal with women.
/r/seduction01/03/26 09:28 AM
3

Yes I had a girl trying really hard to get me. Let me see her with another guy. I still wasn't interested.
/r/seduction28/02/26 11:31 PM
3

"Is it just going to be us?" My response, no my chaperone will be there to make sure you don't take advantage of me. Keep the flirting going and make it fun.
/r/seduction28/02/26 07:47 PM
1

Yep, be cocky, suggestive but ignore her attention. And If she touches you scolded her by saying something like hands off the merchandise, or who said you can touch me. Any compliments should have nothing to do with her looks. So for example if she says something smart use that and say I like the way you think or you have an interesting mind. I once told a girl that was very short, you must get all your clothes at Toy's R Us. She begged me to come over after that. Give her a pet name that isn't …
/r/seduction28/02/26 07:10 PM
2

Don't get oneitis. There are other girls out there. Just send your best picture. If she don't like it then move on. With the mindset of "She’s hot. I don’t wanna lose this one" you already have lost her.
/r/seduction28/02/26 12:48 PM
3

I've always thought shit test were the attempts to piss you off. To see how you react. Because they want to be controlled or to see if you'll stand up for yourself.
/r/seduction28/02/26 12:41 PM
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Stop caring. Don't give a damn. And don't aproch girls that don't show interest, like eye contact, in the first place. I've had girls just come stand next to me for no apparent reason. If that happens talk to her. But don't lode them up on complements. It makes you look despite. You don't have her until you have her. And even then you have nothing to worry about. Be authentic, be yourself un-apologeticly, be cocky when you feel like it. Remember there's a new batch turning 18 every day.
/r/seduction21/02/26 11:00 AM
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Because he doesn't worry about not getting the girl. Worrying about getting her makes you look despite. Learn to not give a damn and they will chase you.
/r/seduction20/02/26 10:30 PM
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Don't give her any attention at all. Not so much as a kiss. If she trys to kiss you turn your head and give her your cheek, no hugs ether, just don't touch her in any way that isn't needed. Don't call her sweety hunny or anything like that. Introduce her as your friend and don't be afraid to flirt with other girls in front of her. And if she comes at you acting sweet and affectionately? Look her in the eyes with a serious expression and ask are we having sex? If not turn your back to her, give h…
/r/seduction08/02/26 10:28 AM
1

This!👆
/r/seduction02/02/26 08:56 AM
1

For example?
/r/seduction29/01/26 05:29 PM
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If I had all that going on with a girl and she refused to kiss or huge. I would walk away right then and there. If she trys to stop me from leaving. Then I would grab her pull her close and kiss her. Or tell her to kiss me or I walk. She's probably just scared of getting too involved. And getting her feelings hurt or being used. Hold her by her chin lock eyes and kiss her like she belongs to you. If she protest walk away. If she follows, you have her. If not, move on.
/r/seduction29/01/26 05:28 PM
1

Yes. Back when I was working a girl would always grab my hand with the excuse that she liked my watch. I wasn't attracted to her but I'm sure she was to me. Yeah touching is considered flirting.
/r/seduction27/01/26 12:07 PM
2

Not if you're always willing to walk away. Then there's how you perform in bed. That and Alpha posseseve behavior. They want to be possessed even if they say otherwise. They like the feeling of belonging to you. It makes her feel protected and desired.
/r/seduction25/01/26 10:32 AM
3

lol sorry me spelling is bad. thank you for the corection.
/r/seduction22/01/26 03:08 PM
13

Simply put. You become a challenge and that makes you irresistible.
/r/seduction22/01/26 10:14 AM
1

Yep exactly. You're learning.
/r/seduction21/01/26 09:13 PM
2

Number 1 stop giving a damn what people think about you. That includes wether or not she likes you. Learn to be yourself un-apologeticly. Flirt like you don't care. Walk, sit and dance like you don't care who's watching. And always, always be willing to walk away. Act like you have a hundred dollars in your pocket and more in the bank, like you have a fat 8 or 9 inch dick, like you have girls groveling at your feet begging for it. And even if that's not true, fake it till it is.
/r/seduction21/01/26 09:05 PM
5

Don't give a damn! and be yourself un-apologeticly. Remind them that everybody's looking for someone. At least you have the confidence to ask. What if she's interested and you don't ask?
/r/seduction18/01/26 10:47 AM
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I'm 61 and I can tell you it's all about how you see yourself. It's mindset and self respect. Make her qualifie you just have to be yourself un-apologeticly. Any thing else is simping.
/r/seduction17/01/26 11:31 AM
1

Read romance novels and watch chick flicks. They'll teach you how to flirt. Also read Richard Blade novels. Novels where the hero gets the girl. They'll give you a good idea of what to do.
/r/seduction17/01/26 11:22 AM
1

Yep exactly. Even negative attention is still attention. If she isn't interested then you might as well be a gost. You'd be invisible to her.
/r/seduction17/01/26 11:18 AM
1

Work on yourself, your self confidence. And stop worrying about what she wants or thinks. You're not supposed to give a damn about that. Learn to be yourself un-apologeticly. If she flirts assume that she's doing it because she's interested. Because girls don't give attention to guys they're not interested in. If she wasn't interested she wouldn't even look at you. If after you make a move she rejects you. You did or said something that turned her off. Your best bet is to flirt back. Say somethi…
/r/seduction17/01/26 11:07 AM
2

In fact no one is in my league until she qualifies.
/r/seduction16/01/26 12:43 PM
5

way way out of my league? Bull shit! I'm the 10 she's has to qualifie for. No one is out of my league. There are no league's. Don't even bother approaching, forget league's. Stop giving a fuck and just show up, be yourself un-apologeticly. Watch for body language and only approach those who give you eye contact and other ques. And stay sober so you can keep your head straight and not fuck up. Don't pay compliments, notice something about her and comment about that. And when you have the opportun…
/r/seduction16/01/26 12:08 PM
1

First thing, false time constraints. "I don't have much time" ftc "but can I get your number? I really like the way you carry yourself and would like to find out if you're worth getting to know." Or something of that nature. Then move on like you're in a hurry.
/r/seduction14/01/26 08:46 PM
3

I'm the same. I've begun to wonder when a woman approaches me. If she's been abused rapid or both. And yes I'm very patient and empathic as well.
/r/seduction13/01/26 10:28 PM
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I'm sorry but you my friend are a fool. You had her from the start and you let her get away on multiple occasions. You will be lucky if you get another chance with her. But at this point chance's are she thinks you're gay or just not interested. Learn to read the signs, learn some body language.
/r/seduction13/01/26 09:50 PM
5

If someone starts playing the game of you took 15 minutes to text back, so I’ll take 30, and so on. I just stop texting all together. I don't play childish games.
/r/seduction12/01/26 09:10 PM
3

All good points. I can attest to everything you say.
/r/seduction12/01/26 10:30 AM
2

No but I'm good just the same. She is what I needed more than what I wanted. And I'm fine with that.
/r/seduction12/01/26 10:02 AM
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Made me think of an old western TV show where the guy would always say no bragg just facts. Yeah I agree, bragging is trying to impress. But the moment you try to impress you failed. If you're trying to impress someone you become unimpressive. You look despite even.
/r/seduction10/01/26 09:43 PM
5

This is spot on, every word. It back's up my comment. That the moment you stop chasing them they start chasing you. And your comment gives a reason for that. I would include only a few notes. The moment you try to impress someone you've failed. And being present is difficult but will impact and improve every aspect of your life. Normally I would turn your comment into a PDF. And give it a cover like a book. But if you're writing a book I'll hold off.
/r/seduction10/01/26 09:25 PM
3

You writing a book?
/r/seduction10/01/26 08:14 PM
2

It's about letting go. It happens to guys who get into relationships. They stop chasing and women start chasing them.
/r/seduction10/01/26 08:09 PM
1

What kind of compliment do give? You look hot or anything of that nature will automatically be shut down. I like the way you dress, your outfit or I like the way you think. Will get you much better results. A if she says fuck of, I might say nice one, did you think of that all by yourself? Play it off like you don't give a damn because you don't. Or at least you shouldn't. Then push right on through with your introduction. If she's still cold call her out on being rude. And point out that she's …
/r/seduction10/01/26 07:52 PM
1

What did you say to her to get that response? How do YOU approach them normally?
/r/seduction10/01/26 03:36 PM
2

"fuck of" thank you, thank you for not wasting my time. Thank you for showing me that your not worthy of me or my attention and respect. Then move on to the next girl.
/r/seduction10/01/26 02:24 PM
2

Sorry but the fact that I'm married and have women still aproching me. Even though they know I'm married. Says that they don't care if you're with someone. They'll try regardless of who you're with. They always want what they can't have. That's why when you make yourself a challenge they chase you. I've had women ask my wife about her son "me". We're the same age but I look younger.
/r/seduction08/01/26 10:22 PM
1

If she truly is cute then "you're very cute" is the last thing you say to her. Because every guy she meets has already told her that. You don't want to be like all the other guys. You want to say something that makes you stand out. Like I like the way you dress or think. But not your pretty, hot or cute. Remember that you don't give a damn if anyone likes you or not. Just be yourself un-apologeticly. If you find yourself worrying about what they think they're going to lose interest really fast.
/r/seduction08/01/26 10:09 PM
6

Exactly 💯 spot on!
/r/seduction08/01/26 10:05 PM
5

You can introduce girl A as a friend. Kinda like you friend zoned girl A. But I would only do it if girl B comes to talk to me.
/r/seduction08/01/26 10:00 PM
4

get some Gas-X. you still fart but it dosent smell.
/r/seduction08/01/26 04:06 PM
17

Randomly telling you she hasn’t been laid in weeks is a major green light. Tell her you know a guy that can help her with that. And then where to meet him.
/r/seduction07/01/26 05:28 PM
1

I met my wife in a chat room. So yes.
/r/seduction07/01/26 09:04 AM
1

I did that years ago. Went to the Philippines. Went to meet a girl I met on line. She wasn't the one. But I had a good time. And got some experience.
/r/seduction31/12/25 07:28 PM
0

and he was successful?
/r/seduction31/12/25 04:43 PM
2

Added to my list of jobs that put you in front of women. it's a short list so far I have. nail technician, shoe salesman and hair stylist.
/r/seduction31/12/25 04:39 PM
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Mail order bride. Like I said before China, Philippines or any part of Asia or eastern Europe. Like I said in my other comment. Good luck man. I met my Italian wife in a Japanese chat room. So you never know where you're going to find your's.
/r/seduction31/12/25 11:25 AM
1

What about your vacation time?
/r/seduction31/12/25 09:33 AM
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Take a look at China and the Philippines. In China there are a lot of beautiful successful women in their 30's and 40's looking for husbands. No Chinese men want them. They all go for younger weman. In the Philippines weman aren't so concerned about looks. They just want to be taken care of. You can easily find girls in their 20's marrying men your age, my age 60 and older. I'm in Italy and married. But I get a lot of interest from beautiful weman from their teens to their 30's and 40's. But lat…
/r/seduction30/12/25 10:04 PM
1

women do this all the time. bring up her boyfriend and if she doesn't have one she'll correct you. several times over the years women have asked my wife about her son, me. we're both the same age.
/r/seduction30/12/25 03:17 PM
5

You really need to learn to D.G.A.D. “Don’t Give A Damn”. That means to be indifferent, be fearless and shameless, and don’t care about what other people think. Also while it's important to build rapport by talking to her. It's equally important to break rapport. This is because women want to pursue as well as be pursued. Do this by waiting for a break in the conversation and then you turn your back and walk away for a second or two. Don’t leave for good, just find an excuse to drop the conversa…
/r/seduction29/12/25 04:54 PM
1

"Don't try to "WOW" her" exactly! the moment you "try" to impress someone, anyone you've done the compleat oppasit.
/r/seduction29/12/25 03:19 PM
1

Exactly 💯 spot on. I would add, that if she is into you and you do nothing. She will make sure you know it. Might even tell you straight out.
/r/seduction27/12/25 08:12 AM
1

Yeah you're probably right.
/r/seduction24/12/25 09:59 AM
1

Go out have fun, be open, talk to all women with no expectations. Not just the girls you find attractive. And most important, don't give a damn if anyone likes you or not. Because it doesn't matter if she likes you. What matters is if she qualifies. What I mean is, you don't want to sleep with her until she shows you she is worthy of your time.
/r/seduction24/12/25 09:51 AM
1

You're not alone.
/r/seduction24/12/25 09:36 AM
5

If you're bord chance's are, so is she. Don't let the date go on so long. Cute it short before things get boring. Before you run out of things to talk about. Always value your time. If things start to slow down to early change venues. Go somewhere else. Make a list of places not to far apart. That you can take her on the fly. So your never stuck to one place. This will make it more interesting for her. Also you should be escalating from the start. Being suggestive in a joking way so you have pla…
/r/seduction23/12/25 10:13 PM
1

I've heard about doing something like this. But I wouldn't use the shits to do it.
/r/seduction23/12/25 07:37 PM
4

I've met some guys who have no trouble getting girls. The trick is that they don't care. They don't give a damn if she was interested or not. For these guys it's about hiding the fact that they are gay. Using the girls to prove to everyone that they're straight. But they have to be drunk most of the time they're with the girls. The big lesson to be learned from them. Is to not give a damn. They're cocky a little aggressive sometimes rude but they don't care. If the girl doesn't like him he moves…
/r/seduction23/12/25 10:47 AM
2

And just how are you supposed to do that?
/r/seduction23/12/25 10:06 AM
1

What is the best way to respond to her message? Wate a week and then text her like she didn't say anything.
/r/seduction22/12/25 08:25 PM
5

Posable. And he's low on the list of potentials.
/r/seduction22/12/25 08:23 PM
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no. first I'm married. even if I was single I wouldent approach. I have them approaching me so no need.
/r/seduction22/12/25 07:19 PM
1

being seen talking to the hot girl will make the other girls wonder what you have that makes her want to talk with you. yes this creates a sort of social proof, making it ok to talk and be seen with you. using the girls who frend zone you to atract other girls is genous. you just need to rethink how you do that. a hot girl can make a good wingman. but so long as you have good game to back her up. and as long as she has zero intrest in sleeping with you. also hiting on someone else while you're h…
/r/seduction22/12/25 02:17 PM
0

How many of those of platonic girlfriends started out as someone you wanted to have sex or a relationship with? If you have to interact with any of them. Always emphasize that they are just friends whenever you have the opportunity. Use it like a dig, a slight insult. And flirt with other girls but not her. Only joke with her like you would if she was one of the guys, not seductively. And if she trys flirting with you, call her out on it. And remind her she had her chance, that she wanted this. …
/r/seduction22/12/25 11:31 AM
1

3 hours? What can you talk about for 3 hours without boring her? In 1 hour I would have kissed her more than once. And ether cut the date short while we were having a good time. Or took her home to her place or mine. The reason for cutting it short is so she remembers that she was having a good time the last time she saw me. And I wouldn't give her kisses or ask her for them. Once I decided I wanted to kiss her I would. Just pull her in against me and take them. Don't give a damn what any one th…
/r/seduction22/12/25 10:10 AM
10

most guys get nothing? How do you know for sure. They don't do it in the bar or club. Unless I'm missing something they take the girls back to their place. Maybe you need to change your game. And maybe your vibe. There's other ways besides approaching and cold approaches.
/r/seduction21/12/25 09:53 AM
6

She Sang "light my fire" not to well but not bad ether. She had a friend sing with her. So at least she had a friend to console her.
/r/seduction20/12/25 10:17 PM
2

"you gotta make sure you don’t give off any forward vibes- might look like you are just in it for the girl." And you do that how exactly? The way I would do that depending on body language and other ques. Pay very little attention to her. Pretend to forget her name then correct yourself but don't apologize for it. Because she's the hot girl, and used to getting all the attention. She'll try to get attention from you. When she does, scolde her. She might interrupt you, again scolde her. Say somet…
/r/seduction20/12/25 09:42 PM
1

there was a video on redit just the other day with a goth girl. she knew what to do. watch it and take notes.
/r/seduction20/12/25 05:19 PM
6

Exactly! This is the way.
/r/seduction19/12/25 09:53 PM
7

It helps to learn to read body language.
/r/seduction19/12/25 09:14 PM
58

I have one or two of those stories. One girl had that Pamela Anderson look going on but hotter. I even caught her staring at me. I was working by myself sorting boxes against a wall. One day I realized she wasn't around for a while. So I asked one of the girls. Seems she had a crush on me. Here I was thinking she was out of my league. Sence then I've adjusted what I consider my league. Then there's a girl in highschool that sang to me in front of everyone at a school rally. I thought it was a jo…
/r/seduction19/12/25 08:45 PM
2

This is where being able to read body language will pay off. If you can read her ques? you're not going to be wasting your time.
/r/seduction18/12/25 09:28 PM
5

Yeah going to her place to feed her cat. Might just be an excuse to get you alone. And it would be easier to escalate things. You would just need to get her kissing. And take it from there.
/r/seduction18/12/25 09:12 PM
1

You're only as cool as they, the women or girls think you are. Them and the little dudes that may look up to you. Trying to be cool will get you looking like you're trying to hard. So first stop doing that. Then just be yourself. That means you act how ever you think is cool. Then you don't give a damn what any one thinks. And then you aproch no one. You just show up. Watch body language and when you make eye contact. Acknowledge it and keep watching body language. Sooner or later some one is go…
/r/seduction17/12/25 09:06 PM
2

It's not a loss, it's a learning opportunity. There are no wins or losses. Only experiences and learning opportunities.
/r/seduction17/12/25 08:27 AM
2

Stop talking to her. And move all text conversations to talking in person ASAP.
/r/seduction17/12/25 08:17 AM
2

Telling you about all her past lovers is a big green light. But honestly I run from those types. Yeah you could easily have her that very night. But you could also get an STD. She could try and make herself pregnant.
/r/seduction16/12/25 08:28 PM
1

You want to have some fun. Ignore her and pretend to get her name wrong then quickly correct yourself. Or pretend to forget it, she'll go crazy. Also give her a little attention then take it away.
/r/seduction16/12/25 08:09 PM
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you're being staked out and shit tested. she wouldnt acknolage you if you didnt have her attention already. she want's to know that you'll stand up for your self. keep doing that.
/r/seduction16/12/25 04:08 PM
1

I'm 61 next month. Been living in Italy and married for 18 years. I don't know what will happen in the future. I suspect things may not last. But if I become single again. I'm not going to chase or game all that much. Let them come to me. I'll just show up and be myself un-apologeticly. Not giving a damn what people think. And only aproching based on body language and looks. Does game become easy with age? It does when you realize you don't need to chase them. Over the past 18 years and more eve…
/r/seduction16/12/25 10:43 AM
1

not caring is a big one. And dont worry about approaching them. If you hold the right attatude (not caring) they'll approach you. Or at least give you obvous signs to let you know they want you to approach them.
/r/seduction15/12/25 10:47 AM
1

be yourself unapologetically. that means you dont give a damn what people think about you. you don't give a damn if they like you or not. you're ready and able to walk away from abuse and rejection. you don't react you respond. you don't chace and you dont aproch. Unless you see in her body language that she's interested. then you make a move and make it bold or she will quickly turn off.
/r/seduction14/12/25 04:47 PM
0

If he's only just a friend. And you didn't talk to him about being your wing man, and what that means. Then you can't expect him to have your back when it comes to pickup. If you can't have your phone with you. Than at least have a pen and paper. And trust no one! Not even someone that you think is your friend. Edit: I probably would have ditched the friend. And tried to get a mini date. Go get some coffee or something. With both girls.
/r/seduction13/12/25 09:01 PM
8

She only said that to get your goat. She's trying to get you back. She's trying/hoping to make you jealous. You could probably have her again if you want.
/r/seduction13/12/25 08:31 PM
2

Yep those nice guys are a dime a dozen. They are all simps, thinking they'll get the girls by being nice. Don't be that guy! Be the guy that doesn't give a damn if she likes you or not. just showing up and being yourself and not caring what people think. You can be mysterious by not giving away too much information about yourself. But it's having the confidence to be yourself. And not worrying about what others think, that gets her attention.
/r/seduction13/12/25 09:47 AM
2

Well it would make you a challenge. But it could also backfire and she could try to hook you up with a friend. I would avoid lying about that. There are better ways. Also no girl is worth going to that extream. Don't get oneitis.
/r/seduction12/12/25 07:51 PM
3

Dud you said "you're hot" wrong. Next time instead of simpley saying you look hot. You say: "you look hot! we better sit you down somewhere. Hay bartender get this girl some ice! As you start to fan her" Or "Excuse me miss, but can you go stand somewhere else? You're very distracting and I'm trying to have a conversation with my friend here." That's how you say you look hot! So she won't soon forget you.
/r/seduction08/12/25 10:47 PM
3

Statement of intent.
/r/seduction08/12/25 10:41 AM
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I was going to say. You're presenting yourself as a challenge by not responding right away. But I think you're comment make more sense.
/r/seduction08/12/25 10:09 AM
1

I would add, learn some kind of marshall art. Knowing you can handle yourself. Makes you feel very confident.
/r/seduction07/12/25 10:06 PM
4

D.G.A.D. Don't give a damn! This is the way. And a good come back that go's over his head can help. But stay away from insults they'll make you look childish.
/r/seduction06/12/25 09:39 AM
18

I make them all my stupid little sister. And sometimes approache thinking that I've already been friend zoned and I don't give a damn. Edit: One more thing I reminded myself, not to decide for her what she likes. That she just needs to get to know me and decide for herself about me.
/r/seduction05/12/25 07:51 PM
1

you could also take the funny route and say something like "If you're flirting with me, please let me know. and be extremely specific, seriously. I'm clueless."
/r/seduction03/12/25 03:16 PM
3

I have never been accused of being rude. They always respond telling me why they contacted me or added me. And so what if it is? To me it's just as rude to contact someone without giving a reason.
/r/seduction03/12/25 10:10 AM
3

"Not to be rude but who are you and what do you want." Straight forward while letting her know you don't waste time. Edit: I always get a response.
/r/seduction03/12/25 09:28 AM
1

depends on ther book but you wont know till you read it.
/r/seduction01/12/25 01:43 PM
13

Damnd straight! She wants to be led, to be dominated. She wants to know you'll take control.
/r/seduction29/11/25 10:43 PM
1

But are you guys still chasing girls?
/r/seduction29/11/25 10:02 PM
1

You're right about trying to impress. The moment you try to impress someone you've hailed. If you have to do anything more then just being yourself. You're not going to impress anyone.
/r/seduction28/11/25 07:40 PM
1

How old are you now?
/r/seduction28/11/25 07:19 PM
1

That's an option.
/r/seduction28/11/25 09:06 AM
2

Try hitting on girls outside the group while they're around. That might give them some ideas.
/r/seduction27/11/25 10:43 PM
4

This is about self respect. But if you make a clear statement of intent in the beginning. You won't be wasting your time. You'll already know where you stand with her.
/r/seduction27/11/25 09:24 AM
1

If you can't feature it flaunt it. And don't give a damn. And you're probably not as ugly as you think. Also although looks are important. Girls are more interested in how you make them feel than how you look.
/r/seduction26/11/25 09:42 AM
1

Think about this for a moment. She chose to go out with you! So, what could you have done to take advantage of that? What made her want to say yes, when you asked her out, In the first place? You turned her off. When you should have been trying to turn her on.
/r/seduction25/11/25 09:44 PM
0

Look up "statement of intent"
/r/seduction24/11/25 09:25 PM
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if I go to pick her up and she's under dressed while I'm looking my best. I would make her go back inside and change. say something like "you cant come out with me looking like you just got out if bed! go back and change you have 20 minuts! I'll wate" if she give you any shit? start the car and drive off come back in 20 and if she is not there wating. go have fun with out her, then send her some pictures of you having fun with out her. Idealy with someone else. let her know what she missed out o…
/r/seduction24/11/25 04:29 PM
1

Go take lessons on doing nails and get a job working in a nail salon. You'll be surrounded by women all day every day.
/r/seduction24/11/25 02:44 PM
2

Stop deciding for her! It's more likely that she knows what she likes, and you don't! For all you know she would jump at a chance to be with you. You're devaluing yourself with this way of thinking. Don't give a damn! if she likes you or not. Just be yourself. Eddit: Most people don't know what they want. Though we all think we know. With that in mind, show her that you can be what she wants.
/r/seduction24/11/25 01:35 PM
4

He won't be able to support himself let alone a family. I spent a month there in 2002. They won't hire foreigners. It's hard enough for a natural born Philippino to find work.
/r/seduction23/11/25 08:05 PM
3

This is not a good idea. That being said I got lots of attention from women while living on the street. And in fact I met my wife while on the street.
/r/seduction23/11/25 07:51 PM
3

You can't let yourself be devastated. That's a sign you have oneitis. Until you have her in the sack you don't have her. And you shouldn't allow yourself to get so attached untill you've slept with her at least once.
/r/seduction22/11/25 10:28 PM
2

What can you do so that you don't have to work so hard? I've never approached I just talked with them with no expectations. I've been approached, but I've not approached anyone. I'm married now and I still get women making eye contact. Women asking my wife about her son, referring to me. It's crazy how they come out of the wood works when you stop looking.
/r/seduction22/11/25 09:52 PM
0

Not exactly the correct answer, It's incomplete. Men are naturally driven to spread their seed. Women are looking for men that can provide for and protect them. Two different mind sets that most people don't understand.
/r/seduction22/11/25 09:35 PM
3

Are you finding you don't need to approach as much like this?
/r/seduction22/11/25 08:34 PM
11

Don't just talk to women you find attractive. Talk to all women you encounter, but without expectations. You want to get used to talking to them. And you want to get them comfortable around you. If you're only talking to pretty women they'll see. and you'll become creepy in their eyes. Plus those other women you normally avoid know other women. Some of which might be the pretty girls you wouldn't have met otherwise. I used to talk to all the women at work except for the super pretty girls. Which…
/r/seduction22/11/25 11:22 AM
1

This is my response to that kind of compliment. "So what's your point?" I might add "get in line" or are "you trying to cut in line? Wate your turn"
/r/seduction21/11/25 09:09 PM
5

Don't give a damn. Take them off that stupid pedestal and put them beneath you. They're your stupid little sister. They're there to be dominated they want YOU to be the strong one. Watch their body language. Look for signs of insecurities such as fear, nervousness and anger. If she trys to boss you around or bully you. it might be because she likes you. Call her out on her bull shit. It's all about YOUR mind set. You're the prize not her. Don't get oneitis and don't over think it.
/r/seduction21/11/25 09:29 AM
1

I wouldn't even try to approach anyone in that environment. But if some girl approached me then game on.
/r/seduction20/11/25 09:45 PM
1

Explain.
/r/seduction20/11/25 09:36 AM
1

Read The Bad Boy Formula.
/r/seduction19/11/25 11:06 PM
2

And do you give them a bone? I've heard about guys who every once in a while find a girl low on the number scale. Take them home and fuck them silly. They said it keeps them from being desperate. So they can approach the girls that they really want. With out coming off as needy.
/r/seduction19/11/25 10:36 PM
1

Why does the city matter?
/r/seduction19/11/25 10:22 PM
1

I'm 60 and I've been married 18 years have no interest in cheating. But I've had women approach me, play footsy under the table and straight up tell me what they wanted. So yes if she finds you attractive. but I would leave my wife before I ever considered cheating. Eddit: Remember you're a father. Are you really going to throw it all away for a quick pice of ass. Is that the example you want to set for your kids? When it comes out, and it will, you won't be just hurting your wife and yourself. …
/r/seduction18/11/25 09:22 PM
4

Don't give a damn. About coming off as a creep. About what she thinks about you. Just be yourself and stop worrying about stuff you have no control over.
/r/seduction17/11/25 09:37 PM
5

Exactly that.
/r/seduction17/11/25 08:39 PM
5

You're not doing this for her. You're doing this to make approaching her easier for you. You need to stop caring about if she likes you or not. Because she doesn't know you well enough to know if she is going to like you or not. And The same goes for you, you don't know if she is worthy of your time and effort. Learn to present yourself as a challenge. By not giving a damn and by letting go of expectations. With this you should start to have them approach you.
/r/seduction17/11/25 08:18 PM
2

Yep exactly.
/r/seduction17/11/25 07:42 PM
18

Once a girl at work was wearing a t-shirt that said cute sexy or something like that. I immediately said "no your not".from that moment on she tride/did all she could to try to get me. But the stupid girl was dating my roommate. And I wasn't about to step on my buddy's toes.
/r/seduction17/11/25 01:47 PM
5

I sometimes imagine her with the trots. Or just think of her as my naive little sister. But I don't do anything to let her understand I think of her that way. It takes the pressure off me. And makes her feel like she has to work for my attention.
/r/seduction17/11/25 01:35 PM
1

"he doesn’t give a fuck" and that is the key. That and having no expectations.
/r/seduction16/11/25 08:55 PM
1

Sure thing I've been in your shoes. So I know what you're going through. Good luck out there. You should read The Bad Boy Formula you can find it on scribd.
/r/seduction14/11/25 11:02 PM
2

Don't give a damn, that's the key. If people are giving you shit because you like someone. Turn it around on them. If it's a girl giving you shit ask "are you jealous?" The more they try to deny that they're jealous the more you call them out on it. If it's a guy, ask the same question but add "are you gay?" Bottom line is that you can't let childish behavior get to you. Also stop telling people that aren't really your friends, who you like. Keep your feelings to yourself. Save that for your win…
/r/seduction14/11/25 10:02 PM
1

I'm guilty of this. But at the same time I know that makeup hides a lot of imperfections. Most of what you see in magazines and movies isn't real. And when you see them with out makeup they don't even look like the same person.
/r/seduction13/11/25 09:37 PM
3

Sounds like you already have him. I'm the shy handsome guy. And have had many women through themselves at me. Your best chance is to just sit in his lap and look him in the eyes and tell him what you want. He's probably worried about ruining the relationship you already have. As well as getting rejected. Which is probably his normal experience with girls. Even if he sees your hints he won't believe it. I used to think it was a trick or joke when someone expressed interest in me. Because when I t…
/r/seduction13/11/25 01:38 PM
1

According to Copilot: Social proof is a psychological and social phenomenon where people look to the actions or opinions of others to guide their own behavior, especially in uncertain situations. Social proof is a form of social influence where individuals assume that the behavior of others reflects the correct or appropriate action. This principle is grounded in human psychology: when unsure, people tend to follow the crowd, believing that collective behavior indicates validity or safety. Socia…
/r/seduction11/11/25 11:07 AM
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To add to this, Be seen talking to the hot girl and other girls who don't know you or her. Will think "what does he have to make her interested in him". Something I heard and experienced.
/r/seduction10/11/25 08:00 PM
2

My conclusion is that you let yourself have expectations. As apposed to not giving a damn. And she saw it, she saw that you were expecting something. You want her to put out and she wants to as well. But she doesn't want to be seen as easy. And your expectations to her, is seen as her being easy. So she pulls back. She's not playing hard to get. She's protecting her reputation. One of the reasons bad boys get girls so easily is that they don't have any expectations. They don't give a damn if the…
/r/seduction10/11/25 11:05 AM
1

You don’t know if she is being honest with you. Because girls don't always know why they do what they do. People in general don't know what they want. Or what will make them happy. Don't assume she knows and don't assume she'll tell you if she does. Would you tell her if there was something about her that bothered you. If it had the potential to hurt her feelings? She ghosted you for a reason and most likely it has something too do with your game. Posably you showed a lack of confidence or somet…
/r/seduction10/11/25 09:34 AM
1

Where did he say he ghosted her? From what I understood she was ghosting him.
/r/seduction10/11/25 09:10 AM
1

what's the difference between your London edition and another city? I live in Florence Italy for example. do you have a genarick playbook?
/r/seduction08/11/25 12:33 PM
1

start with this The Bad Boy Formula. https://www.scribd.com/document/416056501/BBF-3ForbiddenSecrets-pdf Body Language Secrets - Female https://www.scribd.com/document/357270387/body-language-secrets-female-pdf I left a lot of books behind when I moved to Itaily and I cant remember names but Ive recently red these. there are books on these subjects. just go looking
/r/seduction07/11/25 07:16 PM
2

talk to women when ever you have a chance any age with out expectations. do it untill you are comfortable talking to them. when theres no one to talk to, read. read about seduction psycolagy body language and self improvement. watch videos on seduction, youtub is full of them. work on your self, get in shape get a hobby learn a martial art to build confadence.
/r/seduction06/11/25 03:58 PM
3

just talk to as many women as you can with out expectations. any age but older is better and dont worry about how they look. you're only practicing geting to used to talking to them. and read all the books you can about womans psycolagy secduction and body language.
/r/seduction06/11/25 03:41 PM
2

just be carful not to make things creepy
/r/seduction05/11/25 07:30 PM
3

Are you reading books on body language and the psychology of women? Because that will help you immensely.
/r/seduction05/11/25 11:00 AM
4

You're breaking the number one rule of seduction: Don’t get oneitis for any girl—especially one who’s already taken. Even if she’s looking to trade up, you don’t need her. Wait until she’s single, or go find someone else
/r/seduction03/11/25 05:16 PM
1

You’re not wrong for wanting to be the man who triggers primal desire and builds his own legacy. That’s not insecurity—it’s clarity. You put in the work to win her, and she chose you. That’s real. But if your deeper instinct says, “I want to build something from the ground up—with someone who chooses me before life complicates the story,” then honor that. It’s not about judging her—it’s about listening to your own truth. You’re not just dating a woman—you’re choosing a future. And if part of you…
/r/seduction03/11/25 05:05 PM
3

lets reframe this. problem: You feel chosen for safety, not desire: Her language—“I feel safe with you”—can trigger a sense of being the fallback guy, especially if you associate safety with being less sexually or emotionally compelling. reframe: She didn’t choose you out of desperation—she chose you out of evolution. The man she had a child with may have triggered her primal instincts, but you’re triggering her emotional maturity. That’s not beta—it’s high-value. Safety isn’t weakness—it’s powe…
/r/seduction03/11/25 02:49 PM
3

you could be right. that may be another part of the puzzle. but he still needs to understand how to deal. how to work that to his advantage.
/r/seduction03/11/25 02:03 PM
6

I think what he want's is to understand how to deal with them. then he can deside what he want's from them. but first he needs to understand how to take it to that level. where he can have whichever one he wants.
/r/seduction03/11/25 01:58 PM
5

I agree. but he want's to understand how to deale with the situation. so he can stop wasting time trying to figure her and her friends out. once he get's it, he could have more than just the one.
/r/seduction03/11/25 01:54 PM
12

Don’t get oneitis over this girl. Here’s what you’re gonna do: D.G.A.D. — Don’t Give A Damn. Go somewhere you know they won’t be. Let them feel your absence. Let them miss you. If one of them texts you? Wait 30 minutes. Then reply: “Oh sorry, I was busy. What did you need?” Don’t just act like you don’t give a damn — actually let go. That means: • No internal monologues about “what they’re thinking” • No checking their socials • No hoping they’ll reach out True detachment is magnetic because it’…
/r/seduction03/11/25 11:50 AM
10

then why is she uncomfortable? explane that. and why are her "friends" (more than one) reaching out? if it were just one, than maybe it's just another girl who's into him. but he said friendS, so explane it to us.
/r/seduction03/11/25 11:10 AM
0

Reverse the situation. "Thank you. What a relief to hear you say that. I was looking for a way to let you down without hurting you." She'll be confused and may try to get you back. Make her work for it. If she trys to protest. Tell her you don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. That there's plenty of girls out there. So why waste my time chasing someone who's not interested. If she still wants to be alone. Let her go. Don't get oneitis over her.
/r/seduction03/11/25 08:52 AM
1

Why not try something new? Look your best go where girls are. Like getting a manicure. you're going the only guy there. They'll talk to you for certain, in that situation. And stop giving a shit. Don't expect anything expect respect. Be free to express yourself and they migh start approaching you.
/r/seduction02/11/25 09:52 PM
0

Yes, when you stop giving a shit. If you master that they'll chase you.
/r/seduction02/11/25 09:04 PM
1

Wish I could. Back injury forced me to quit.
/r/seduction29/10/25 09:40 PM
1

Number 1 can be achieved by taking aikido. Or whatever Martial arts you have access to. Builds confidence and your body.
/r/seduction29/10/25 09:26 PM
3

Use statements of internet.
/r/seduction29/10/25 09:42 AM
3

Remember this also. For oneitus: There's a new batch turning 18 every day. And although a bit vulgar. It's to remind you not to be a simp. And let her walk all over you: Her pussie isn't made of gold. Good luck out there.
/r/seduction28/10/25 10:17 PM
3

Talk to as many women as you can regardless of who or how old/young ugly/pretty they are. Complement them even if you have to make something up. Make up stories to go with the complements. "Oh wow the color of your eyes. is exactly the same as this little blue flower. I saw once while hiking with some friends in wherever the rockeys." Makes her day. Makes her remember the complement and you. And Makes you more interesting. Remember to smile and remember you don't want anything from them. Other t…
/r/seduction28/10/25 09:55 PM
2

This is the way ☝
/r/seduction28/10/25 09:40 PM
4

Good for you bro. Way too go getting her to ask for your number. You have a good anti oneitus attitude. Keep it up.
/r/seduction28/10/25 09:38 PM
1

It's called a "statement of intent" learn to do that and there shouldn't be any problems.
/r/seduction28/10/25 08:56 PM
1

Girls get hounded on the net. There may be other reasons. but I'm sure that some do it so they can pick and choose guys. without being bothered by guys they're not interested in.
/r/seduction28/10/25 04:52 PM
5

just call her and see what happens. your in it to gain the experence. just think what you might learn from her and yourself. image taking what you learn to someone your age. you'll be above all the other guys who didnt take that rout.
/r/seduction27/10/25 11:59 AM
1

Do your friends believe her? Can you get evidence to prove her lies? You could sue for defamation. Or scare her with the idea. Why is she doing this? What she's doing sounds pathetic.
/r/seduction26/10/25 09:58 PM
3

he just needs to be cautious about how he gets involved with. as we all should. if she is married, it could be she's married to a cheating bastard and is always away. that type of guy may or may not care if she cheats. he might be already assuming she is because he is. dishonest people tend to think everyone is the same as them as a way to justify their actions. just feel things out and get as much information as much as you can. and if things feel doggy or she is flaky ditch her.
/r/seduction26/10/25 12:37 PM
1

I remember seeing something in Las Vegas. a kinda condom to allow you to protect yourself during oral sex. Some kind of silicone disk. It Might not work too well with a squirter. Maybe someone can back me up on this.
/r/seduction25/10/25 09:09 PM
2

Yeah stay safe.
/r/seduction25/10/25 09:03 PM
1

Good for you man! Look into self-hypnosis for confidence it will make a big difference. There's a lot of free recordings on the net. And get back out there.
/r/seduction25/10/25 08:41 PM
27

Only if you're certain she is clean.
/r/seduction25/10/25 08:23 PM
5

The thing about clubs is that just about everyone there is there for the same reason. To go home with someone or take someone home to fuck. And the closer it is to closing time. The more desperate and less picky they become. But not you, your there to improve your game. And if you get one, be sure to make it a memorable night. So when she tells her friends you may find it easier next time you're in the club.
/r/seduction25/10/25 07:27 PM
1

You have to get them thinking about sex without actually talking about sex. That way they'll think it's their own idea. Chances are they already think about sex like everyone else. You need to get them thinking about it with you. And if they say anything that sounds sexual or can be taken that way. Call her out on it, "what are you thinking about?" When she says anything that suggests she's thinking about sex. Be playful about it cocky even. Test her by bringing up the topic in a harmless way so…
/r/seduction25/10/25 07:13 PM
1

The only religious girls worth going for are the unhappily married girls. Sometimes they be looking to find a replacement for a husband that cheats and dosen't really love her.
/r/seduction25/10/25 06:56 PM
25

yes being buff will help, it's not necessary, mostly it helps with self confidence. you won't get anywhere with just your looks. I've never been to the gym or worked out very much. and I've had girls aproch me and even some strate up throw themselves at me. work on your confidence and your game. that's where it's at.
/r/seduction25/10/25 01:30 PM
15

Good field report. Tell us how we're you feeling when you approached the girls that rejected you? What were your thoughts? Do you think you'll see the one you took home again? Will she remember your name when she sees you again? I'm glad for you buddy. Keep going and try not to get oneitus for any of them.
/r/seduction25/10/25 12:15 PM
0

Read this, it will help you understand what you're doing wrong. What works and why it works. https://it.annas-archive.li/md5/b373dae940ec2a75ecc417383946c37b
/r/seduction24/10/25 09:20 PM
10

This is the way. ☝
/r/seduction24/10/25 08:06 PM
8

I was homeless and can attest to this.
/r/seduction24/10/25 07:27 PM
2

It's coming from a bit of both experience and consumption. I've been interested in this topic off and on sense the mid 90's.I kinda stopped when I got married. And you're right about confidence. It's something I've not had much of untill lately and I still need to work on it. As far as looks I get girls throwing themselves at me. I'm 60 and still young girls look longer than normal, make physical contact or look away blushing after making eye contact. They chase me even without the confidence. N…
/r/seduction24/10/25 06:27 PM
1

perhaps. but most of them are used to getting all the attenchen from other guys. and those guys ignore the friends. you dont want to be like other guys do you? you want to stand out. and she'll probably start shit testing you. be readdy to scold her for that. show her you're not a simp. and keep the digs light, no need to be an ass. just enough to let her know if she want's you she has to work for it. if you come off like she's the one you want she'll lose intrest fast. but if you act like your …
/r/seduction24/10/25 04:33 PM
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Good post. I agree with everything you said. I would add that attractive women are not to be approached. They respond better if you treat them as though they are common place for you. So talk to their friends. But ignore them and when they try to get your intention. Hit them back with a slight dig. Like "you're not all that sweetie, you're not a10". They're not used to being treated this way. So doing this will make you stand out above all the other guys.
/r/seduction24/10/25 09:56 AM
5

You just got a hit and run. Don't bother looking for her. She just needed help, when her man was too busy for her, or whatever's the reason. she dosen't want to get to know you.
/r/seduction23/10/25 10:08 PM
6

Work on yourself. Read books about love making and oral. So that the next time you get one in the sac. You can be sure that she'll remember you. What ever else happens. Listen to self hypnosis recordings that helps build confidence. Also take a martial arts course. Knowing how to defend yourself. Builds confidence more than anything. Short of having a big willy. You do that and you'll get your girlfriend. She'll come looking for you.
/r/seduction23/10/25 09:34 PM
2

Exactly 💯! make yourself more interesting and this will happen less. And play on the need to have what you can't have. By making yourself seem valuable. When one of them touches you "who told you, you can touch me?" Works well for that.
/r/seduction23/10/25 08:29 PM
1

Forget about high or low grade women stop chasing them. Make yourself high grade and they will chase you. And if you allow the conversation to go on for too long. And she gets bored. The last thing she remembers about you is that you're boring. Try not to let conversations go to long. Change venues use false time constraints. Whatever it takes just don't let her get bored.
/r/seduction23/10/25 07:34 PM
4

yep dont get oneitis. theres a new batch of girls turning 18 everyday. keep yourself open to other opportunities. treat yourself like the prise and they will.
/r/seduction23/10/25 09:45 AM
1

remember, she is not the only one, so act like it. let her see you but dont pay her too much attenchen. give all your attenchen to the other girls around her. let her know that if she is interested in you she has to work for it. dont be a simp, don't be too eager to please. "being overly eager to please can lead to emotional depletion, anxiety, and a perception of desperation or a lack of independence. It is a form of people-pleasing, often stemming from a fear of rejection or a need for approva…
/r/seduction23/10/25 09:36 AM
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I think she genuinely wanted your number. But the fact that you were caught off guard. Turned her off. It showed a lack of confidence and uncertainty. She wants the guy that makes her work for it. Because that guy shows himself to have value. She definitely wasn't trying to pick your pocket or lead you into a trap. If that were the case she wouldn't have given up so quickly. Next time, if there is a Next time, ask her something like. Why should I give it to you? Make her work for it. Act like gi…
/r/seduction23/10/25 08:48 AM
1

This is the only comment that I agree with. If he had answered with something like "sorry I don't give my number out to just anyone" she would have taken him as a challenge and keep trying.
/r/seduction23/10/25 08:32 AM
1

Stop trying! your making yourself too avaliable. 'that's all for now' implies that there may be a chance. The bold move you pulled with the kiss. probably piqued her interest. But you should have gosted her. Make her wonder if she's not as hot as she thinks. She'll contact you, and if not there's more out there.
/r/seduction22/10/25 09:24 PM
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