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Maybe look at what other people in your area are charging for similar work, then set your rates at 10-20% below that to help you build a customer base. You might also consider offering a large discount off your standard rate for first-time customers; this will encourage them to take a chance on someone new.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 07:59 PM
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What's the market rate in your area?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 07:51 PM
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Nerdy chicks with a goofy sense of humor. Don't really have a type physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:15 PM
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First!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 11:22 PM
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Don't make a move on her- there's lots of cute girls in the world, and it's not worth damaging a long term friendship over a girl who might not even be around in six months. I would also let my friend know what happened so that he can start moving on.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 03:04 AM
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So you'd rather your friends think you were ugly?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 11:16 PM
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It's weird to be physically attracted to your friends. I disagree. If you're young, fit, well-dressed, and well-groomed, there's a high probability that most people in your age range consider you attractive on some level. That being said, there's a big difference between thinking "so-and-so is a good-looking guy/gal" and thinking "I am making a plan to seduce so-and-so."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 11:11 PM
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Q4W: How often do you get approached by men in public? About old are you, and how attractive would you rate yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 04:26 PM
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Would you want men to approach you more often?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 04:22 PM
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Watch The Last King of Scotland. Great movie, and there’s a really (darkly) funny scene that goes over this. “You did not persuade me!”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 05:08 AM
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There's an idea out there that the real men do the hard physical labor, and stuff you do in offices is just fake bs and you are sitting around on your butt in air conditioning and collecting a paycheck. The fetishization of manual labor always struck me as weird. The entire reason those dudes are wrecking their bodies out in the field/factory is so that their sons have the chance to work in air conditioned office buildings instead of the field/factory. That being said, I do think the main benefi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 05:03 AM
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Bring a book along with you. Gives the fellas an easy “What’re you reading?” opener.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 10:41 PM
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I mean, the number of single men in her age range making 300k a year or more is already miniscule- you're basically just looking at celebrities and a handful of finance/tech folks. And then you add in all the other requirements she has? The men she's looking for barely exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 04:13 PM
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I feel like that list was designed as ragebait.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 04:05 PM
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Requirements: Kindness Good communication/conflict resolution skills Center-left to left-wing political views Spiritual/religious, but not to a fanatical degree. Shared hobbies and interests (she doesn’t have to like ALL of the things I like, but I want us to be excited about at least some of the same things). Wants 2-3 children. Health and fitness are important to her. Not Required, but Strongly Preferred: Black or mixed with Black Great ass Likes to read I’m not currently looking for a serious…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:55 PM
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I’ve said this before, but “be yourself” should be interpreted as “be the best possible version of yourself”.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 02:56 PM
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Our caveman brains like sex better without condoms than with them, because our instinctual desire is to be fruitful and multiply. All there is to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:17 AM
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Yeah, but all I’d think of is how much better the sex “could” be if I were bigger lol And my sex life would probably be better if I were taller, or richer, or higher status. We’re all born with a set of advantages and disadvantages. Your hand may be better or worse, but all you can do is play the cards you’re dealt. > What size(s) do you think would go under the “large” category, or the size that you’d think women would most “prefer”? Do you think 7 would be on the small side (especially compare…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 04:30 AM
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Echoing the folks that say your friend is insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 09:30 PM
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She looks AI-generated. Something uncanny valley about her.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 11:15 PM
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The downside of dating someone attractive enough to have options is that you may not be the option they go with.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 11:15 PM
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Ah, that’s a tough one. Unfortunately with lost romance, sometimes you just gotta let the grief run its course. It’s ok to feel what you’re feeling, as long as you’re keeping room for other things as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:57 AM
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Is it a person or a thing that’s out of reach for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 01:09 AM
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What’s your strategy look like? I’ve done pretty well with women overall, but nearly all of the women I’ve been with are from my social circle or from the apps. I’ve brought home a few girls from bars/clubs, but with them it was pure dumb luck- they were horny, and I was in the right place at the right time. I’m not quite sure how some dudes do it week after week.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 12:52 AM
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In general, I’d say it primarily manifests as women refusing to take an active role in solving problems, as initiative and agency are “unladylike”. Another example might be a woman using the traditional view of her gender as soft and fragile to manipulate others into doing what she wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 12:46 AM
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How do you usually approach night game? Are you by yourself, or with friends? What kind of bars do you go to?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 12:17 AM
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I imagine that as AI tech improves, it’ll put a significant dent in OF creators’ pockets. The ones who already have devoted fanbases will be fine, but the lower-end creators will start having to compete with artificially generated women who can be customized to user preferences and can do literally anything (and for free to boot).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 10:22 PM
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Primarily when I have a girl coming over. Shout out to hookup culture for forcing me to do my chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 10:19 PM
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but am I actually inferior in all these? Clearly your man doesn’t think so. If he wanted to passport bro in some foreign country, he would. Furthermore, a lot of the people saying that the dating pool is better elsewhere are usually falling victim to the “grass is always greener” effect. If they had been born in whatever country they’re fantasizing about, they’d probably complain about the dating scene just as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 08:06 PM
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I’m open to suggestions!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 07:46 PM
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True, but homewrecking is an incredibly risky and difficult game (even if I didn’t morally object to it).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 07:43 PM
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I’m at a nice resort right now with my family, and was excited to potentially have a vacation fling, but basically all the women here are mothers with children. Sad!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 07:34 PM
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They don’t have sweet tea where you’re from?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 07:30 PM
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Yup. Pretty much everything radfems say about men in general, white conservatives say about nonwhite men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 07:27 PM
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I’m at social events 4-5 days per week, and I have a large number of mostly female friends. Depends on how you’d define “flirtatious interaction”. If it’s stuff like “You look nice,” or “You smell good,” then relatively often. If we’re talking more blatant things (i.e. acquaintances or strangers openly making passes at me), maybe 3-4 times a year?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 04:42 PM
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The issue is that “what they are” can vary wildly from woman to woman. There’s no script that all of them follow. I’ve known women who were fine with straight up grinding on dudes they had zero interest in. I’ve also encountered women who threw me zero IOIs, then told me years later that they had had a huge crush on me and were hoping I would make a move. Now that’s not to say that there aren’t indicators you can look for and act on, but it’s an art, not a science.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 04:34 PM
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“Tell me what you want me to do to you”, is a go-to of mine once we’re mid-make out session
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 04:29 PM
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What part of what I said is wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 11:05 AM
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There will always be people who are better than you at something; that’s just life. Always someone stronger, always someone hotter, always someone richer. Nothing you can do about that. If you’re in a relationship worth having, your partner will accept you fully- all the good and all the bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 10:56 AM
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Yes, they often do brag about it. Just like women will brag about how hot, or how rich, or how successful their boyfriend is. However, there are still plenty of average looking, average income, working class men who manage to have fulfilling relationships. It’s a bonus, not a requirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 10:44 AM
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As someone who is fortunately blessed in that area, some observations from my experience: There is such a thing as “too big”. Where that point is depends on the woman in question, but they’ve all got a limit. Girth >>> length. I’m doing pretty well in both areas, but I get a lot more compliments related to thickness. If you’re above a certain length, you have to be careful; a hit to the cervix is painful for most gals. Assuming you don’t have a micropenis, you’re probably going to be just fine. …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 09:48 AM
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Same. I thought it was some super niche kink, but a surprising number of women I’ve been with have asked me to choke them unprompted.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 12:09 AM
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I view having a crush while in a relationship as a different flavor of the “call of the void”. It’s natural to have those thoughts; you just have to let them pass over you and through you without vocalizing them or acting on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 02:50 PM
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From what I’ve observed, going from “decent shape” to “incredible shape” doesn’t move the needle much in attracting women. However, if you’re in average to bad shape, getting into decent shape is practically a cheat code. Diminishing returns and all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 08:17 PM
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Q4W: Have you ever found yourself attracted to a guy you hadn’t noticed/weren’t attracted to before because another woman expressed interest in him? I have anecdotal evidence from my own life to support that pre-selection can help at least a little bit, but I wanted to get an idea of what it’s like from the other side.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 07:31 PM
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Sleeping around (when done safely and responsibly) is fun, relaxing, and sometimes you meet people you can learn something from. What’s not to like?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 11:48 PM
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there is this active social message that a woman is sexual for the sake of men and not for her own pleasure I don’t fully agree with everything you wrote here, but I think this is an interesting point. I’ve spoken about this a few times in other contexts, but there’s a longstanding convention in media of all types: chaste, innocent women who sit around and look pretty while they wait for their prince to come are “good girls”, while women who actively chase sex are viewed as crass, unladylike, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 10:33 PM
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I don’t really have a type physically. My dating history includes women who were under 5’0, women who were over 6’0, and everything in between.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 08:37 PM
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Have you talked to a 14 year old before? Those kids are annoying af.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 08:06 PM
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I like the idea!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 08:05 PM
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Pretty much all leading men in romance stories are hot, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 03:05 PM
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his agents are sort of nudging him to stay in the closet for now. This would make sense- we haven't really had an openly gay A-List movie star before. Neil Patrick Harris probably comes the closest.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 03:18 AM
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There are rumors he’s gay; while I have no idea if those rumors are true, I wouldn’t be all that surprised if they were.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 03:05 AM
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There’s always been a demand for Mr. Darcy types.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 03:03 AM
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I live in an area where it gets really hot in the summer; all the women are out and about in either sundresses or tank tops with tiny shorts. Wonderful time of year!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 06:44 PM
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Same reason racism didn’t just disappear as soon as the Civil Rights Act passed. Cultural inertia is a motherfucker.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 11:02 PM
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That trend has changed in recent years; you see a lot more sex-positive female characters in media today than you would 20-30 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 10:59 PM
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Social conditioning is the primary causal factor imo. Consider female characters in well-known stories. You’ll often see a chaste, innocent “good girl” who waits for her prince to come portrayed as the feminine ideal. By contrast, the wily seductress who actively pursues sex is portrayed as bad. This is also why a significant number of romance stories aimed at women see the male lead engaged in forceful and sometimes even rapey behavior. Even if a woman desires a man, to openly tell him that wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 10:54 PM
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Anybody (man or woman) who adheres to these social expectations or uses phrases like the above are reinforcing misogyny. It doesn't mean that they are misogynistic, but they are doing something that stems from misogyny. Yup, but unless you’re insanely rich or insanely good looking, you gotta play your assigned role in the mating dance if you want to mate. It’s all in the game. Edit: I will once again recommend the Contrapoints video “Twilight”. Perfectly explains why gender roles in sex and roma…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 10:39 PM
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Pop stars and actresses using their sex appeal to make money? In MY America? I’m shocked.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 07:53 PM
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Asian dudes tend to be overrepresented in tech/engineering spaces relative to their share of the total population, and Asian dudes are a bit shorter on average. Perhaps that’s it?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 07:49 PM
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Shit- that's awful. Sending strength to you and your family.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 05:10 PM
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What happened? Hope you’re feeling better!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 04:25 PM
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One I heard recently that really helped me: “Stop worrying about the love you didn’t get. Start thinking about the love you have right now.” As someone who can have a hard time letting go of things, this is definitely something I needed to hear (it’s from The White Lotus, which I highly recommend).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:46 PM
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Same- get occasional IOIs, but not a ton. However, if I’m able to get a foot in the door, my “conversion rate” is probably the best out of the guys in my social sphere. Knowing how to talk to people can lead to infinite opportunities.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 04:35 AM
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The LBJ quote is relevant here: “ If you can convince the lowest white man he's better than the best colored man, he won't notice you're picking his pocket. Hell, give him somebody to look down on, and he'll empty his pockets for you..”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 08:02 PM
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The real problem here is the that the republicans were able to get control of the media landscape. Kamala almost never mentioned trans people once during her campaign; hardly any democrats did. The GOP are the ones howling about DEI and bathrooms.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 07:52 PM
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If you’re into fitness, seconding the recommendation to join rec sports leagues, climbing gyms, or running clubs.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 07:37 PM
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I didn’t have the Trump/Elon breakup coming until at least the end of 2025, tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 09:23 PM
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I mean, stuff like WWE has always been around. I just see it like another form of that type of content (fake, but the performers and audience all pretend it isn’t).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 09:22 PM
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Hoping to rejoin the rest of y’all in civilized society soon. We’re working on it (or at least roughly half of us are).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 09:09 PM
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She just continually produces quality content. She’s got some haters out there, but not many.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 04:01 PM
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I’ve posted this a few times, but anyone who wants to have a better understanding of human sexuality should watch the Contrapoints video Twilight. It’s a long watch, but it’s split into reasonably sized chapters, and it’s the best breakdown of sexual desire and the cultural attitudes surrounding it I’ve ever seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 03:33 PM
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I recommend the Contrapoints video “Twilight”. The “Fantasy” segment is the most relevant here, but the whole thing is a good watch if you want to understand why a lot of books featuring romanticized toxicity/abuse are popular among women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 03:24 PM
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Counterpoint; making it all about you is fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 02:19 AM
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I think it’s a shame, honestly. People say that the magic around special occasions (holidays, birthdays, etc) disappears when you’re an adult, but that’s only if you let it. Throw a barbecue! Plan a trip! Get your folks together and go to the big game! It’s your day; you should be spending it doing fun things with the people you care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 02:05 AM
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How many single straight men do you think would reject sexual advances from a female friend they find sexually attractive? Speaking as someone whose friends are mostly attractive women, there are some I absolutely would accept advances from, no questions asked. Hell, I actually have accepted advances from a handful- in these cases, we are still friends because we had an open talk about boundaries and expectations prior to any physical stuff. There are others I wouldn’t touch with a thirty foot p…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 01:49 AM
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Usually if a girl says she’s busy but doesn’t offer a specific date/time as an alternative, that’s a “No”. That being said, there are exceptions to every rule. Just say “cool, let me know!” and don’t text her again unless she texts you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 01:29 AM
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If you think that potentially being attracted to one another precludes the possibility of friendship, then you’re implicitly arguing that gay men can’t be friends with other gay men, lesbians can’t be friends with other lesbians, and bisexual folks can’t have any friends at all. See above.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 12:08 AM
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True, true. If women were less afraid of being slut-shamed and men were less afraid to approach, everyone would be having significantly more sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 03:45 PM
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Since when do “nice” and “passive” mean the same thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 03:33 PM
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Just as there are children raised in healthy households who received love in healthy ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 02:49 PM
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I think you misinterpret my original comment. I often say on this sub that attractive personality traits include charisma, assertiveness, good humor. These are morally neutral traits; both good people and bad can have them. So yeah, a hypothetical ugly dude with those traits will be more attractive than a hypothetical ugly guy without them; nice or mean doesn’t make a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 01:54 PM
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Q4A: Favorite fictional couple?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 01:15 AM
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What was the prompt?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 10:35 PM
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Not super often. Liberal men usually live in cities, where they’re surrounded by women who are more aligned with their political views. The ones that don’t are usually ethnic minorities, and most of them wouldn’t want to date a far-right chick for reasons that should be obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 05:40 PM
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An ugly asshole is more attractive than a ugly nice guy. What? According to who?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 05:21 PM
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Yes: Different race, goes to church, really talkative, taller than me, SAHM, lives with parents, in sorority, 6’3”. Maybe, depending on various factors: Different religion, 1000 miles away, 50+ sexual partners, gets drunk once per week, dislikes video games, military, 200 lbs, slept with friend. No: Smokes, two kids, alcoholic, OF, really quiet, waiting until marriage, refuses to have kids, same first name as mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 08:11 PM
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God forbid men have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 07:07 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 07:02 PM
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Nah, hoes are always a great time to hang with. If you’re genuinely friends with one, she can get you access to all sorts of cool stuff (exclusive party invites, skipping the line at the club, free alcohol or drugs if that’s your vibe, etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 06:29 PM
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Q4W: Imagine that you meet a guy who’s absolutely perfect- he checks every single one of your boxes, the sex is amazing, he’s incredibly loyal, and your family and friends love him. The catch? He’s really, really into Transformers. He watches Transformers movies multiple times per week, describes things that happened to him during his day using Transformers references, his speech is peppered with Transformers quotes, and he owns every piece of merchandise he’s been able to get his hands on. Is t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 06:25 PM
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Seems like they’re the attractive assholes. How many dates are the ugly convicts getting?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 05:59 AM
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And yet he's still incredibly successful with women! So it logically follows that being an asshole is not required to attract girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 05:23 AM
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The issue here is that "Chad" could be a violent, unfaithful drug dealer, but he could also be a hunky firefighter who's nice to everyone and spends his free time volunteering at a retirement home. Attraction and morality exist independently of each other. Women DO go for assholes, but the guys being assholes is not an attractive quality. Assertiveness, charisma, physical fitness, and good humor are attractive qualities, and there are both good and bad men in possession of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 05:19 AM
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I occasionally see things to the tune of "women only go for assholes"; These people completely miss the point. Attractive assholes are successful with women, as are attractive good guys. If a guy isn't already attractive, him being an asshole is only going to make him even less attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 04:28 AM
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Like I said originally, there’s no particular reason why. “Why?” in this case begins and ends with “Because that’s how it’s always been”.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 04:10 AM
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Historically speaking, it’s because men were expected to be the sole breadwinners, while women were pressured to marry a provider as soon as possible. While attitudes about gender and labor have liberalized, there are still plenty of holdovers from that era.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 03:04 AM
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There’s no inherent reason why; it’s just societal convention. Complying with that tradition usually gives you as a man much higher odds of getting what you want out of the date (whether that’s a hookup or an LTR).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:56 AM
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They were active all over the country.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:10 AM
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Hey, don’t beat yourself up too much. We’ve all done stupid/awkward things on a date at some point. It’s all in the game!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:10 AM
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Trailer just dropped today!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:08 AM
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I think that once you’re in at least decent shape, there are diminishing returns on fitness. A guy going from decent shape to excellent shape may not notice that much of a change in circumstances. However, a guy who’s fat or skinnyfat who can get himself into decent shape will have a whole world of opportunities open up for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 04:41 AM
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Basically what u/MechaPinguino and u/Demasii said, plus lots of real world trial and error. Neurodivergent or not, practice is key!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 02:47 AM
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You shouldn't be asking people out on dates whose company you don’t enjoy regardless. If I do this and the girl turns out not to be into me, I’ve still enjoyed a fun outing with a friend (who can potentially be my introduction to lots of other women).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:56 PM
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Also reposting this from yesterday; I think a lot of guys might find it helpful. There’s a simple process I recommend to all guys (and honestly girls too) who think someone in their social orbit is into them, but don’t want to mess with the dynamic if they’re wrong/the other person gets cold feet. I call it “Schrodinger’s Date”. Invite her to do a “date” activity (getting drinks at a nice cocktail bar, having a picnic somewhere pretty, etc), but don’t call it a “date”. Your framing should be som…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:00 PM
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if the woman is listing off things she expects then it is fair game. In my experience, women don’t generally do this. “What does this woman bring to the table?” is a good question. But it’s one that you should be thinking about, not one you should ask, unless you’re okay with running off potential mates.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 12:06 AM
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For example: I’m not looking for a serious relationship at the moment, but when the time comes I definitely want kids. If a woman doesn’t want kids, that’d be a dealbreaker for me, even if she was perfect otherwise. This is one of the positives of dating apps; people can avoid anyone who has one of their dealbreakers quickly and easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 09:37 PM
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You don’t have to ask so formally of course, but if I’m looking for something long-term, I want to filter out the people whose visions are incompatible with mine asap.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 09:24 PM
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I agree with your conclusion; men shouldn’t be asking that question. It’s needlessly confrontational and borderline accusatory. Furthermore the information the man is hoping to get can be acquired in the course of normal conversation: “What do you like to do?”, “What are your goals for the future?”, and the like. If you don’t like her answers or just aren’t feeling her overall, you can simply not go out with her again. No need to be rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 05:57 PM
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I think your main mistake here was not using plausible deniability to YOUR advantage. There’s a simple process I recommend to all guys (and honestly girls too) who think a girl in their social orbit is into them, but don’t want to mess with the dynamic if they’re wrong/the other person gets cold feet; I call it “Schrodinger’s Date”. 1) Invite them to do a “date” activity (getting drinks at a nice cocktail bar, having a picnic somewhere pretty, etc), but don’t call it a “date”. 2) Observe her rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 05:15 PM
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Indeed. If you’re a guy with a lot of disposable income, a few fancy dinners/pricey gifts are simply a business expense, not necessarily a demonstration of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 04:59 PM
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Barring how weird it would be to spend money on this, how would one even verify that you’re actually getting legit Sydney Sweeney bathwater?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 04:56 PM
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I mean, I would still have the messages on my phone, right? Seems like a pretty easy way to prove he’s lying. If I don’t have the messages for whatever reason, just let my PR team handle it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 04:55 PM
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Artists, musicians, and other creative types are affected by mental illness and substance abuse issues at a far higher rate than the general population. You’re right; all the sex in the world won’t save you if you’re not taking care of your body and mind. That being said, I don’t think having a fulfilling social/family life and being able to pull women easily are mutually exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 02:57 PM
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There are plenty of women who will fuck a guy because he can spoil her with vacations, gifts, etc. That being said, you should avoid an explicit quid pro quo; it’s a bad look.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 02:47 PM
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Tyrone-in-Training!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 05:08 AM
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This is true. I’m a hair under 8 inches, but I sometimes ask the women I sleep with how long they think it is; they invariably guess 9-10 inches. I think height works the same way. It’s hard to estimate the height of things that are taller than you, so a lot of women who say they wouldn’t date a guy shorter than 6’0 actually mean they wouldn’t date a guy shorter than 5’9.5 or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 04:13 AM
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Every question along the lines of “Is X cheating?” comes down to the same thing: What are you okay with in your relationship? Some people would consider simply having lunch with an unrelated member of the opposite sex to be cheating. Other people are fine with their partner straight up screwing other people on the side. Where you want to draw the line is your call.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 10:40 PM
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I’m not super familiar with organ meats, but I’ve enjoyed sweetbread the few times I had it. Any specific dishes/preparations you recommend?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 10:26 PM
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I’m not sure why some people act like “I like being friends with this person” and “This person is physically attractive” are mutually exclusive statements. Some people are just objectively good-looking, and it would be delusional to act like they aren’t. I hope to join the ranks of such people myself in the next year or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 09:50 PM
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Why boil people down to just one part of their identity? I, for example, am a Black, autistic, Christian, college graduate who grew up in a large city. I have far more common experience with a woman who shares those traits than I do with a man who does not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 09:47 PM
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What’s “boyfriend lite” stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 09:44 PM
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Gotta love my girl Tiana. Honorable mentions to Belle, Moana, and Leia.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 09:38 PM
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Why would you pay your female friend’s bills?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 09:33 PM
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If you think that potentially being attracted to one another precludes the possibility of friendship, then you’re implicitly arguing that gay men can’t be friends with other gay men, lesbians can’t be friends with other lesbians, and bisexual folks can’t have any friends at all. Given that the above statements are obviously false, we can conclude that one can find their friends attractive and still be friends with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 09:31 PM
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The majority of my friends are women, and it’s been an incredible boon to both my social and love lives. Wild that more men haven’t figured this out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 09:28 PM
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In serious, probably 8-9. I’m pretty good with dirty talk, I’m a fair amount bigger than most dudes, and a girl who described herself as “90% lesbian” said I was “suspiciously good” at going down.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 12:02 AM
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10. Source: Your mom
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 11:20 PM
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I’m not sure if there’s a proper name for this, but I’ve been seeing a lot of people (men and women) engaging in what I’ve come to think of as the “Vulture” mating strategy. Essentially, they seek out people whose relationships are on the rocks, then sort of just hover around them and offer emotional support. A few days to a few weeks after the relationship actually does end, the vulture swoops in before anyone else has a chance to.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 11:07 PM
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You should go for it! At worst you’ll have some good drinks and pleasant conversation; at best you might end up meeting someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 10:31 PM
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There are a lot of great NA beers and wines nowadays. Most bars carry at least a few of them, so if you wanna go out and avoid the peer pressure, that's an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 06:36 PM
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You’re working out because you want to have a healthier life. I’m working out because I want other people to feel bad about themselves when I walk in the room. We are not the same 😤.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 07:55 PM
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I'm.. not sure what "moving like a single man" even means I’ve met a few people who say stuff like that; what it means can vary from person to person. It ranges from reasonable boundaries (i.e. not wanting their bf to entertain advances from women who approach him) to unhealthy controlling behavior (i.e. not wanting their boyfriend to ever be alone with any woman who isn’t related to them, regardless of the context).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 04:21 PM
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I have a friend who described her type as “bisexual guys who look like they’re on the brink of death”. Most of the guys know who fit that description do quite well with the ladies, so it definitely seems like there’s a market for it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 02:55 PM
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What are you impressed by?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 02:52 PM
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I think it’s pretty obvious, and most people (men and women) will tell you the same. Feeling attractive feels nice. To illustrate what I mean, let me recycle an old comment of mine. Imagine two friends, Arthur and Bill, are going out for drinks. Arthur and Bill are both very happily married, and neither has any intention of cheating on their wife. While they’re out, women are constantly coming up to Bill, telling him how hot he is, and trying to get his number (though Bill, being a happily marri…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 07:41 PM
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There’s a difference between going on Tinder and just being an attractive person in public. If the person you’re dating (regardless of gender) is good-looking, they’re going to get hit on a LOT. They’re going to get hit on in clubs, at school, at work, in shops, at the gym, at church, on vacation, and just randomly on the street. It’s inevitable. Now, if you discover that your person is entertaining any of these advances, it might be time to have a talk (and potentially walk away). But if they’r…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 07:34 PM
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If you want a lady who dresses modestly, you should ask out women who dress modestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 07:27 PM
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Is this an ex you miss, or an ex you’d rather avoid?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 07:21 PM
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I say go for it. If she’s in your standouts, that means she’s probably in some other people’s standouts as well. If you wait another few weeks to see her again, then you run the risk of losing out to a guy who didn’t wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 04:09 AM
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Ignore. Nothing to be gained by engaging.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 03:02 AM
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Congratulations; hope it goes well!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 05:44 PM
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I’ve noticed that the women who are the loudest about disliking men are often bisexual girls with boyfriends. From what I’ve observed, many of them feel judged within the LGBT+ community for being able to “pass” as straight if they want to. As such, shit-talking men constantly makes them feel like they’re bolstering their queer credentials.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 10:51 PM
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I would hazard a guess that the majority of people posting on English language forums are either from the US or the UK. I imagine that if you were to go to a Spanish/French/Portuguese/Arabic/Mandarin Chinese forum, you could get a better idea of what the dating situation is like globally.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 10:46 PM
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Sounds fun; hope it keeps going well!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:38 PM
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There are definitely a lot of fake stories on there, but sometimes truth can be stranger than fiction. People be nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:19 PM
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2, 3 max. I’d like a boy and a girl; no preference on the third if I have one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 03:34 AM
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At least in the US, the field has become oversaturated at the entry/junior levels. Tech job market isn’t great if you don’t have some specialized skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 06:42 PM
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I’m still genuinely confused about why you think the hero’s journey is a “male theme”.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 05:49 PM
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Absolutely! Here's a list of stories featuring female protagonists that align with the Hero’s Journey (also known as the monomyth) structure. This model typically includes stages like the Call to Adventure, Crossing the Threshold, Trials, Abyss/Death, Transformation, and Return. Books Coraline by Neil Gaiman Coraline ventures into a parallel world, faces trials, confronts a dark mother figure, and returns transformed. The Hunger Games by Suzanne Collins (Katniss Everdeen) Katniss answers the cal…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 05:21 PM
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So you’re saying that women didn’t relate to the franchises I mentioned?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 04:57 PM
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Every single one of them, the hero journey, the struggle against overwhelming odds, the concepts of fall from grace followed by redemption, the learning from its superiors, the overcoming of trials. Sailor Moon has entered the chat. And Wonder Woman. And Buffy the Vampire Slayer. And literally dozens of other female-led works I could mention.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 03:50 PM
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So male well-being is being destroyed…because you don’t like the new Star Wars stuff? They did, they were made with themes and build with the male target audience. What themes were there in the original Star Wars that women couldn’t relate to?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 02:51 PM
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I think we can examine the role of social conditioning here. Women are encouraged to get into fashion and whatnot from a very young age (see the toys/media marketed to young girls) in a way that boys aren’t. As such, the idea of “looksmaxxing” just seems like normality to most women, while most men view it as a novelty.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 02:47 PM
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Patriarchy tells men that it’s their manly duty to throw themselves into meat grinders (be they battlefields or shitty manual labor jobs) for the sake of people who don’t give a shit about them. It makes it so that we’re made to feel like less of “real men” if we talk about how this makes us feel. It pushes us towards dangerous coping mechanisms like substance abuse to cope with the pressure. How is any of that helpful for men? What and who makes that sociopolitical system? The 1%.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 04:47 AM
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I’m curious- what’s destroying your well-being right now? What makes you upset? What do you wish you could do that you can’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 02:58 AM
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I would have named it something different, but alas. The current system reduces us to provider machines and strongly discourages us from showing any vulnerability. Wouldn't you agree that those things are bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:05 AM
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Q4 people in/past their late 20s: I've got about 6 months left on my folks' health insurance; what medical examinations/treatments should I get in that time?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:03 AM
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Load up on meat, dairy, and healthy fats (nuts/nut butters, avocado, olive oil, etc). There are also some medications that stimulate appetite; you should ask your doctor about those if you're having trouble hitting 3500.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:56 AM
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Depends on the cologne/perfume, but usually that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:48 AM
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> complex social dynamics that have both advantages and disadvantages This is exactly what patriarchy is: Men are considered cold, stoic provider machines without real emotions, while women are considered fragile little porcelain dolls without real agency. It's why we're expected to pay for dates. It's why men frequently get little to no parental leave after their kids are born. It's why fathers have a harder time getting custody of children than mothers do. It's why we're discouraged from shari…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:45 AM
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Again, if both people can be adults about the situation, it’s not going to nuke the friendship. Granted, emotional maturity isn’t quite as common as it ought to be, but I try to surround myself with people communicate and process their emotions in a healthy way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 05:24 PM
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I’ve noticed that you can often tell which hot people were always hot and which hot people didn’t “glow up” until later. The ones who were always hot can be optimistic to the point of naïveté and toxic positivity, but they’re also less likely to take their insecurities out on others (because they don’t have that many of them). The ones who became hot later tend to be more down to earth, but those that didn’t fully process their issues often become bitter, cynical jerks waging a pointless crusade…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 05:19 PM
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I have several female friends I’ve hooked up with or had FWB situations with. I have female friends who I’ve asked out and they’ve declined for various reasons. I have female friends who have propositioned me and I wasn’t interested. No drama. No stress. Just adults being emotionally mature about a situation. At absolute worst, you give each other a couple of weeks of space, and then everything’s back to how it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 05:12 PM
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They walk a lot more than we do.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 04:58 PM
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As long as you’re emotionally prepared to accept “No” for an answer, there’s no reason to suffer in silence. Simply expressing interest if the other person seems like they might be receptive isn’t selfish at all; it’s human.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 04:55 PM
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Not necessarily over, but a distinct disadvantage. Soft, sensitive pretty boys are catnip for loads of girls I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 02:13 AM
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You ever try Halo Top?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 01:53 AM
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I’d argue that “dominance” is a combination of other factors: charisma, assertiveness, status, and physical stature. All four are attractive traits on their own; combine them, and it’s hard not to succeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 01:51 AM
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This honestly depends a lot more on culture and socioeconomic background than it does gender. I’ll use an example from my own experience- I’ve noticed that women of different backgrounds tend to respond differently when you express interest in them but they don’t reciprocate: White woman: [HR speak] Asian woman: [Silent treatment] Black woman: “Boy, if you don’t get your goofy ass out my face 😂😂😂.” Women who come from cultures where not rocking the boat is highly emphasized are more prone to “wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 01:37 AM
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> ok did that actually happen? Nah- it's just a meme, like Ted Cruz being the Zodiac Killer.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 08:07 PM
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It boggles my mind that this issue is close to the top of literally anybody's priority list. Our social safety nets are being gutted, we're destroying our credibility on the international stage, prices are going up across the board, and the government is talking about suspending habeas corpus. But hey, at least some trans girl can't play badminton, and I think we can all agree that that's what really matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 08:01 PM
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Medium. But if that is the case, at least you’ll know for a fact that they won’t want anything serious with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 07:44 PM
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You could hang out in hotel bars during the week and keep an eye out for traveling businessmen?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 07:19 PM
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maybe I need to stop going for older men Wait, are you telling me that the men who are at the “settling down” age are interested in settling down? Sis, go talk to some college dudes 😂.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 06:46 PM
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The vast majority of my friends are women of a variety of races. I’ve actually complained a bit on this sub about needing more guy friends. It wasn’t always that way of course; until I got to high school I was terrified of people in general and women in particular. During the summer before college, I decided I was going to make a concerted effort to be more social- I read books on the matter written for both neurotypical and neurodivergent audiences. I made a point of trying to have conversation…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 04:32 AM
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The difference between “creepy weirdo” and “lovably eccentric doofus” is simply a matter of practice and presentation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 03:29 AM
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What brand?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 02:25 AM
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How would you define “masculine”?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 01:02 AM
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There are far more conservative men than conservative women, especially among the younger age brackets. As such, some conservative guys end up dating liberal gals.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 12:15 AM
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Make friends with the gossipy alcoholic first; she already knows the others.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 12:11 AM
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As a man, you should aim to have at least four female friends: One who goes to church/the local equivalent regularly. One who is gossipy, is constantly organizing brunches, and is lowkey an alcoholic. One who is constantly jumping from toxic situationship to toxic situationship. One who is mildly evil. Whatever sex/relationship issues you may be having, one of these girls will know exactly what to do (speaking from experience).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 11:50 PM
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For real. If I met a girl, and she was willing to leave her long-term boyfriend to get with me right away, I wouldn't trust her. Who's to say she won't do the same thing to me the second our relationship is anything less than smooth sailing?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 07:19 PM
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I think dating apps (and the internet as a whole) may be the culprits here. A lot of the comedians you’re listening to probably have intimate experience with how rough dating apps can be for men- most guys struggle to get a even a handful of matches, while a privileged minority enjoy the lion’s share. These guys look online for advice and answers, and the RP rhetoric is right there waiting for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 06:37 AM
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I don’t think that the ideas are particularly new. The tropes of “ripped All-American jock who gets all the girls” and “tattooed, motorcycle riding bad boy who gets all the girls” have long been a part of the mainstream. The words they use to talk about those things are just a bit different now.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 06:28 AM
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I’d have to take this one on a case by case basis. What exactly did Sally claim happened? Is she a person who seems to be prone to histrionics in general? What do I know about Jack? Have other people raised issues about him in the past?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 11:14 PM
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Maybe she was interested. Maybe she just likes talking to people. Either way, if you think a girl you’re chatting with is cute, no harm in asking for her number.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 05:24 PM
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Have you been to a department store before? The XXL+ men’s stuff is usually on the same rack as the S-XL stuff. The women’s stuff is usually the same way; I’ve never seen a dedicated plus size women’s section at major department store. The women’s section is larger than the men’s section because they buy more clothes; that’s all there is to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 04:30 PM
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Slapping each other’s butts is a thing I’ve seen some guys do (though usually with a towel). I’ve also heard various stories about military dudes doing variety of homoerotic stuff while deployed. Never heard of people getting peed on though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 04:19 PM
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There are. Why would you open a Kohl’s or Target somewhere like Mississippi and not sell plus size men’s clothes? The sections are just smaller because of smaller demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 04:15 PM
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Could a single father get the same benefits?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 04:08 PM
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Men don't get "plus sized" clothes lol You’ve never seen a men’s big and tall store? But I digress. Women buy more clothes than men do, and the American populace is disproportionately obese, so it makes financial sense to sell a wide variety of plus size women’s clothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 04:07 PM
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Besides being an ass man, I don’t think I really have a physical type- my dating history features a variety of ethnicities, eye colors, hair colors, and body types. Personality wise, I often find myself drawn to girls who are kinda nerdy- whether they’re nerds about STEM, the arts, or the humanities, I like chicks who like to think about Big Ideas. I also find it attractive when girls are a little bit mean (not actually mean, but up for some friendly verbal sparring).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 03:33 AM
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“Those who can’t play, coach.”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 05:55 PM
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A mixture. A few were so attractive that I thought it must be a prank. The majority were average to decent looking. The rest fell into the "thanks, but no thanks" category.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 09:29 PM
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Mildly extroverted (like me).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 09:02 PM
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Casual sex is very common; I imagine that pretty much anyone who has been to college or worked in a restaurant/bar knows this. Cheating? It certainly happens plenty across a wide range of demographics, but it’s tough to tell how common it actually is. Cheaters have a vested interest in covering their tracks, and they ESPECIALLY have a vested interest in making sure their social circle never sees said tracks. I do think that it’s a minority of people who do most of the cheating though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 04:09 PM
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Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 08:38 PM
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I think you make some solid points. Imagine a middle-to-upper tier guy meets two different women; he finds both of them to be physically attractive and personally compatible. The only difference is that one is eager for sex after a couple dates, while the other wants to wait until they’re in a fully committed relationship. It’s unsurprising which one the guy will pick 90% of the time. Our losing gal in this example has a couple options: 1) Find a guy on the same page as her about sex (not too mu…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 08:00 PM
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If I’m still awake, sure. I love to cook. But also, I think that a big part of being in a relationship is being considerate of your partner’s time and needs. If I were the one getting back late, why would I disrupt my lady’s beauty rest to ask her to do something I could easily do myself?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 05:36 AM
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That seems like an odd ask. Why didn’t you stop and grab something on the way home? Why don’t you UberEats something? Why can’t you cook instead of waking me up in the middle of the night?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 05:27 AM
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No, it’s not incest. Does create an awkward situation for everyone though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 06:44 PM
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Something I say a lot here: Women aren’t a monolith. There are women who are completely fine with straight up grinding on dudes they have zero interest in, and women whose idea of being direct is standing vaguely near a guy and hoping he says something. To get an accurate idea of whether a woman is into you, you need to have an idea of her baseline behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 10:06 PM
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Obviously the more attractive guys would do better than the less attractive guys. But what are their exact success rates? How much are those success rates affected by demographic factors? Does the location of the approach matter, and if so, how much? Are there certain types of women who are more open to being cold approached than others?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 07:36 PM
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I would love to see a scientific study on cold approaching. Take a randomly selected group of 21-35 year old men and give each of them an attractiveness score determined by a randomly selected panel of 21-35 year old women. Each man in the study would be paid to cold approach 100 women over the course of the next 1-2 months and document each attempt. I realize that this would be difficult- you would need a pretty large sample size to account for income, ethnicity, and other demographic factors- …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 07:22 PM
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Stands to reason. If you’re going out with someone you perceive to be out of your league, you’re gonna bring your A-game.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 04:23 AM
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Yeah- in my experience, there are only a couple ways for a woman who isn’t initially attracted to you to become attracted to you: 1) Your circumstances change radically (i.e. you get into incredibly good shape, come into a lot of money/status, etc). Or 2) She notices that you’re getting a lot of attention from other women in her social orbit (oftentimes as a result of the above). Even if both of these things are true, it’s hard to turn a “Hell no!” into a “Hell yeah!”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 09:41 PM
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Too nice in what way? But in general: If a woman says something you disagree with, don’t mindlessly agree; push back (in a respectful way). When a woman does something goofy in your presence, feel free to gently mock her. If you do this correctly, she’ll respond with something along the lines of “OMG, I hate you so much” accompanied by smiling/blushing. Go into romantic interactions with an abundance mentality. Women can smell desperation, and they don’t like that smell one bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 06:58 AM
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Accidentally knocking over a lamp; I was around 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 09:23 PM
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I think that this is partially true, but it’s not necessarily about politics. A lot of conservative women are looking for traditionally-minded men with stereotypically masculine traits. Conservative men likely feel much more pressure to conform to this mold than liberal men do. That’s not to say that there’s any shortage of traditionally masculine men on the left, but a lot of these guys either don’t want to date conservatives, or are ethnic minorities (whom conservative women are often reluctan…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 07:41 PM
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What happened with this one?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 10:43 PM
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When I talk about personality, I’m not just talking about being decent; I’m talking about things like confidence, charm, assertiveness, humor. There is a certain level of physical attractiveness where those traits don’t really matter, but for a guy in the 6-8 range, they can often be the difference between that hottie at the bar going home with you and her deciding that you’re boring and leaving with her friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 06:14 PM
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Looks and status will get your foot in the door; personality allows you to get inside the house (and stay inside, if that’s what you’re going for).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 05:55 PM
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I am happy to engage in chivalry. Stranger, acquaintance, friend, or potential romantic interest, I always open car doors, follow the sidewalk rule, the whole nine yards. It seems to make women feel good about themselves, especially when they’re older or not conventionally attractive. If I can put a smile on someone’s face, I consider that a successful day.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 07:34 AM
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I mean, women do get kidnapped and sex trafficked. Not often, and not in such fantastical ways usually, but it happens. Carry mace if it’s legal, keep an eye on your drink, and walk home/to your cab with friends if it’s dark and you’re in a sketchy area. The Salt Lake story probably isn’t real, but something like that has happened somewhere at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:52 PM
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I need to make more guy friends. I've been curious about giving nightlife as a method of meeting women another shot, but all my potential wingmen are either living in other cities, not into going out, or don't have the right temperament for wingman duties (they scare the hoes or they are scared of the hoes). On the flipside, when I go out with my female friends, a lot of people assume I'm either gay or dating one of them. Such is life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:46 PM
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There are different ways to be attractive. A lot of girls actually go crazy over the Mr. Darcy type.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:37 PM
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When I said "stories like it" I meant with the same central theme (Though sometimes truth can be stranger than fiction. I've got a few sexual/romantic situations I've ended up in that I would probably think were tall tales if I hadn't lived through them). If we were to evaluate this story as a piece of fiction, the emotional core of it is that OP's wife was sleeping with another guy *during* the talking phase, while OP remained celibate. The story plays on the protagonist's fears of inadequacy a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:32 PM
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This may or may not be a made up story, but there’s certainly stories like it out there. There are plenty of women right here on this sub who have talked about making guys that they’re serious about wait while engaging in casual relationships with random dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 10:53 PM
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Another big factor, imo, is how car centric most of the United States is. Outside of urban cores, walking to work, errands, social outings, etc is relatively impractical. If our cities were more like Europe's, where pretty much everyone gets their 10k steps a day, the obesity rate would massively decrease.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 01:21 AM
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Provided I'm getting a solid cut of that, it's whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 01:17 AM
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It’s pretty varied (depending on how old you are and what part of the country you’re in) but I think this thread is a pretty good summation
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 10:15 PM
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I’m curious- you’re from Russia, yes? What’s the drinking culture like over there compared to the states?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 10:10 PM
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Was thinking about a date I went on with a girl a while back. We went to a bar: I ordered an old fashioned and she ordered wine. While we were talking, she asked if I liked wine; I told her that while I would drink wine if it was offered to me, it was behind spirits and beer in my preference list. She said that that was good, because she didn’t like it when men drank wine; she thought it was a feminine beverage. She praised my choice of an old fashioned as classy and masculine. So Q4W: Would you…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 09:52 PM
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Most people, progressive, liberal, moderate, or conservative, are not progressive/liberal/moderate/conservative on every single issue. Plenty of far right types smoke weed and think it should be legal. Plenty of far left types hate trans people. Plenty of anti-gay politicians get caught doing gay shit. And so on.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 09:28 PM
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I don’t think that’s necessarily wrong. The reason a lot of women won’t date bi men is because a man having sex with another man goes against what society says a man is “supposed” to be like. Men are supposed to be powerful, dominant, conquering. Bottoming is submissive, and therefore runs counter to the expected gender role.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 09:24 PM
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No she’s not; don’t be silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 09:09 PM
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Less than half of the French population considers adultery to be morally unacceptable. Very unserious country! However, the most recent statistics on infidelity show that France is rivaled or outpaced by Thailand (51%), Denmark (46%), Germany (45%), and Italy (45%). France comes in at #5 with 43% of respondents admitting to infidelity in the past year.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 08:32 PM
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Turnabout is fair play, but I would just leave as soon as I found out unless I was feeling especially vindictive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 08:25 PM
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If you go to the dating advice or relationship advice subs, there’s plenty of women trying to figure out issues. That being said, I think that this is something women generally prefer to talk about with their friends and family irl. Most of my friends are women, and they often consult me for a man’s perspective on situations they encounter.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 08:24 PM
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Could you give an example? Something raunchy, but not so raunchy that you’ll get banned if the woman is offended and decides to report you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 08:12 PM
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I mean, it’s not the worst idea in the world. Women are getting TONS of matches, so if you wanna stand out, a bold first message can help. Depending on just how bold you are, some women will get offended, but others will be into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 08:11 PM
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Someone pointed out to me that if we assume a lifespan of 80 years, we all get 960 months on this planet. I found this somewhat frightening; really puts things in perspective. Whatever you’re gonna do, do it today!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 09:57 PM
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Liquor and Diet Coke. Coke Zero tastes better anyway, and calorie free alcohol would be glorious.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 08:13 PM
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It doesn’t need to be a peacock display, you just have to show your a good person that’s fun to be around and want the same kind of future as her” This is specifically talking about long term relationships. “And you’ll continue to be single then, because you focus too much on being attractive over being good” This too. You can get into a relationship while being a dickhead, sure, but unless you like divorce court, it’s in your best interests to be a good partner in the long term. I said characte…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 08:03 PM
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Can you link one of those comments? I can’t find any that are making that argument. I do see plenty pointing out that attractiveness is entirely independent of being a good/bad guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 07:04 PM
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Yes, because the guy is hot enough and/or the sex is good enough. This is not some big secret; attractive people have always been able to get away with more nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 06:44 PM
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Women virtue signal to pretend they value good morals when it’s of little importance to them. It’s of little importance to them for flings and hookups; this goes for men as well. Most women are pretty open about this; you’ll hear plenty of women vent about their toxic situationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 06:19 PM
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Well, yes. Attractive-Unattractive and Nice-Asshole are measured on two completely different scales. When people say “Women only go for assholes”, they ignore the fact that plenty of decent men are also very attractive, and that plenty of assholes are very unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:16 PM
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Adding another vote for “Yes, if I were single and lonely in my late 30s”.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:54 PM
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People are allowed to prefer whatever they want for whatever reasons they want. You shouldn’t date anyone you don’t want to date, regardless of your reasoning. I imagine that most bisexual dudes wouldn’t want to date someone who found their sexuality troubling. That being said, there are numerous preferences that come from somewhat icky places- speaking as a Black guy, I’ve dealt with this on both ends (girls who didn’t like me because of outdated racial attitudes, and girls who liked me a bit t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:43 PM
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Romantic invisibility is the result of character flaws; just not in the way you think. I posted this earlier, but I think this is relevant. Consider the following men: Adam: Cocky, confident, rides a motorcycle Occasionally engages in petty crime (shoplifting, minor vandalism, etc) and sells weed on the side. Likes to drink, and often gets into bar fights (which he usually wins). Loads of tattoos. Brian: Shy, meek, afraid of confrontation. Tried not to leave his house when he can avoid it. Spend…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 12:36 PM
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Our districts are gerrymandered to hell, so only about 20% of the seats in our congress are actually competitive. I’m crossing my fingers that Trump and Elon screw things up so badly that the Republicans get absolutely whacked in the 2026 midterm; if they’re not stopped there, I fear that we won’t be able to stop the death spiral our democracy is currently in.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 12:32 PM
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He should date a Jain woman. Their religion doesn’t allow them to eat onions or garlic iirc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 07:08 PM
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Lol- these are all people I know irl. Adam and Chris do great; Brian and Dan are perpetually frustrated. You can be an asshole and still get women, but you have to be the right type of asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 07:02 AM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 06:35 AM
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I was waiting for OP to respond, but he hasn’t yet, so I’ll get to the next bit. Of these assholes, do you think all of them do well with women? After all, if women like assholes, all four of these dudes should be cleaning up.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 06:30 AM
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When can we talk about women choosing the assholes and the badboys? I’ve been thinking about this a bit; let’s try something. Imagine the following men: Adam: Cocky, confident, rides a motorcycle Occasionally engages in petty crime (shoplifting, minor vandalism, etc) and sells weed on the side. Loads of tattoos. Brian: Shy, meek, afraid of confrontation. Tried not to leave his house when he can avoid it. Spends his free time arguing in favor of eugenics and race science on Twitter. Chris: Arroga…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 02:51 AM
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Maryland’s governor is rolling out a set of policies designed to better support the state’s men and boys. I think this is a really cool initiative; would love to see more states follow suit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 02:38 AM
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I mean, the women aren’t knockouts, but I’d wager that if you picked a random sample of 100 women in the 20-30 age range, they’d be in the upper third of the group.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 02:27 AM
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I have too, but that’s a minority of cases. Most women will let their options come to them rather than actively seeking them out.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 07:40 PM
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Well, therein lies the issue. The qualities that lead the tattooed criminal to approach women (confidence and assertiveness) are also the qualities that in themselves are attractive to women. If the shy nerd can acquire the confidence needed to approach women consistently, he’ll do just as well as our hypothetical criminal, if not better.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 10:57 PM
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Women don’t approach men in general, so it’s a moot point.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 10:51 PM
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How many women do you think the tattooed offender guy approaches per week? What about the shy nerd?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 07:25 PM
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See here. This is just law enforcement, and doesn’t even include the killings by wannabe vigilantes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 07:21 PM
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I had a strain in one calf and just found out I have a muscle tear in the other. The universe doesn’t want me doing leg day.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 07:18 PM
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Any predictions on who dies this season?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 07:17 PM
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The line should be that we all treat each other well. Anything beyond that is personal. I agree, but we don’t live in Shouldistan, we live in the United States of America. It’s not fair, but them’s the brakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 07:12 PM
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Very much so.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 06:22 PM
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Yeah- speaking as a Black man specifically, I always have to be conscious of how I am perceived in both public spaces and interpersonal interactions. Making other people in general and women in particular feel comfortable isn’t just a matter of courtesy; in some situations it can be the difference between life and and death.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 05:49 PM
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Huh- what part of the world do you live in? I once skimmed an escort page for my city out of morbid curiosity, and I didn’t see any girl you would actually want to have sex with charging less than $300.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 05:40 PM
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Breaking: People more likely to engage in risky behaviors when it comes to attractive people. More at 9. You see this with men too. Men will put up with all sorts of red flags and psycho behavior from women if said woman is hot enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 05:35 PM
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Arguments aside, $30? Is that really the going rate?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 05:32 PM
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There actually is a meaningful counterpart, I’d argue, but it works in the other direction. You’ll hear plenty of women say things like “men are useless at housework” or “men are all cheaters”. This often results in women letting their men get away with skipping out on housework or even straight up cheating, because “boys will be boys”.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 02:00 AM
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What’s wrong with that? I’ve had FWB situations where we were actually friends, and they were almost universally better experiences than the FWB situations where it was purely sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 04:41 PM
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I've asked this before, but asking again to collect more data points. Q4W: When you look at the guys you've dated or hooked up with, were they usually "on your radar" before they made a move? Or did you not consider them as romantic/sexual partners until they expressed interest in you?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 01:58 AM
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In general, Americans are a lot more prudish about nudity than folks in a lot of other places. There are loads of cultures around the world where women walking around topless wasn't (and in some cases still isn't) considered controversial at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 04:40 AM
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A college acquaintance of mine is in town for a work trip; we ran into each other at a coffee shop near my apartment. We caught up for a bit, and she mentioned that she always had a huge crush on me back in the day. She unfortunately has a boyfriend now, so there's not much I can do with that intel, but this got me thinking- just how many girls have I missed signals from? How many were into me, but too nervous to do anything about it? How many friends, acquaintances, classmates, colleagues, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 02:35 AM
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the Executive Emotional Council (EEC), which is just me and a pint. This cracked me up. GOATed comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 02:42 PM
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That’s fair; there are plenty of folks out there who are judgmental based on a variety of factors (culture, class, education, etc). That being said, I’ve met just as many people who are excited to learn about a side of the world they may not have known about.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 06:43 PM
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Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 06:37 PM
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Okay, let’s go with that line of argument. Let’s imagine someone is bi; would having a close friendship with any average-to-attractive person be impossible for them?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:57 PM
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So it sounds like your opinion is “People cannot be platonic friends with people they could potentially become attracted to”. Is that accurate?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:52 PM
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Old Horror managed to sire just as many offspring as the seven upright children put together. What an Alpha!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:44 PM
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Question I always ask when this comes up: Can gay men be friends with other gay men? Can lesbians be friends with other lesbians? And can bisexual people have friends at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:42 PM
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Depends on what I’m eating. Authentic Mexican style taco (meat, cilantro, onions)? Corn all the way. If it’s a “gringo” taco with Americanized ingredients? Usually flour.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 08:38 PM
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Hopefully we can start getting the wheel turned back around at the midterms in 2026. America and Europe are stronger together.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 08:37 PM
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Henry Morgenthau was right. We never should have trusted the Germans with a state.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 08:35 PM
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Where anti-interventionist voices were completely ignored and downplayed as literal Russian spies? As they should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:57 PM
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Christina Hendricks
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:56 PM
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We’ve gutted our international aid programs, giving others (most likely China) the opportunity to step in and fill the gap, thus increasing their influence at the expense of our own. They were already doing this in many places (i.e. Africa), but it’s about to get kicked up to eleven. As for Ukraine specifically, ending the war isn’t particularly helpful for US interests. Giving Putin everything he wants while extorting our supposed friends shows our other regional allies that we cannot be depend…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:45 PM
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I was actually an international relations major. It’s great to see other people learning about the field! (Though a bit disheartening to see so many people willfully misunderstanding it).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:33 PM
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But at least the libs are triggered, and at I think we can all agree that that’s what’s really important.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:16 PM
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Me when I alienate my allies and blow up my global hegemony because I’m bored 😎. Sigma moves only.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:13 PM
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The point is that your statement applies to men just as much as it does women. Some men do find fulfillment in their careers, but most of us are working jobs we don’t enjoy to make money for people we don’t even like.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 07:47 PM
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I sorta see the point you’re making, but I think you’re missing a big part of the equation. Let me ask you a question. Would you (as a man) prefer to spend eight hours on Microsoft Excel or eight hours hanging out with your loved ones?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 07:36 PM
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I think you hit on something really important here. If a woman is known to sleep around a lot, her company going to be highly sought after, especially if she’s genuinely attractive. As such, a promiscuous woman will often have her pick of the litter for flings and FWB arrangements. Why wouldn’t she choose the most attractive guys available to her? On the flipside, a woman who won’t put out until she’s committed has to wait to find a guy who’s willing to abide by her timeline. This is why you see…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 07:26 PM
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The Mr Darcy archetype has been popular for quite some time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 08:15 PM
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While what’s happening in Gaza is atrocious, has there ever been a time in history where the United States wasn’t giving diplomatic and military aid to people doing or attempting to do genocide? If you look at the number of deaths in armed conflicts over time, there’s a very steep decline after WW2. That’s not to say that everything has been sunshine and roses, but it is to say that the world is more peaceful than it’s been for most of recorded history.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 07:42 PM
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For real. Oh, you have a breeding kink? I think that’s just called “being a mammal”.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 10:06 PM
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I’m a good Christian boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 02:24 AM
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A small fraction of the population living in luxury, while the vast majority toil to uphold that small fraction’s lifestyle? Interesting idea, but that system has historically lead to heads falling into baskets. I don’t think it would be long before you saw a Reign of Terror, captained by disaffected folks from 96th and 97th percentiles.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 12:51 AM
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Yes, but I also have personally known a lot of women who think that they’re ugly, even though they objectively aren’t. I wonder if she’s one of those cases, or if she’s just exceedingly unlucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 07:53 PM
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Define “feminist” in the context of this question.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 07:13 AM
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Unironically, this would probably work on 95% of single straight dudes (presuming that said straight dudes find you at least somewhat attractive, which they most likely do if you’re in at least decent shape).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 05:58 AM
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In many cases, yeah. In other cases, a rich dude (or a dude who wants to give the impression that he’s rich) might just take girls to places that he likes to go to on his own. Status is an attractive quality, and being able to afford the high-class joints can be a marker of status.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 05:47 AM
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Some men think that a grand gesture of affection will increase their odds of success. This is unfortunately not usually the case. If a girl likes you, you can take her to run errands with you and she’ll have the time of her life. If a girl doesn’t like you, you can take her on an all expenses paid vacation to her dream destination, and she’ll still friendzone you. This isn’t to say that being gentlemanly and chivalrous isn’t helpful; it absolutely is. But it’s important to remember that while be…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 05:38 AM
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But at least some trans girl isn’t allowed to play badminton anymore, and I think we can all agree that that’s what really matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 01:48 AM
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I always love going out with my female friends. Me and any other guys present walk about 20 feet back when we get to the nightlife district. The club promoters, seeing what appears to be an exclusively female group, offer free drinks to get the girls inside. Once the girls get the drinks, the ones who have had enough alcohol for the night give their drinks to me and the boys. Everyone wins!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 12:57 AM
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Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 12:48 AM
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I mean, criminals and gang members are more likely to be rebellious, lower inhibition types- both very attractive qualities. Furthermore, a career criminal/gang member needs to be able to hold own in a fight, which means he has an incentive to be physically fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 08:10 PM
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An attractive woman is always going to be attractive, but certain types/styles of clothing can make her even more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 08:03 PM
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N-count too high
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 04:26 AM
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Try a new tv show? I recommend Yellowjackets (if you like scary stuff) or Severance (if you don’t).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:38 PM
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As someone who’s generally pretty successful with women, picking up women at nightclubs isn’t a super efficient way of doing things. Unless you’re a top-tier guy looks-wise, it’s mostly luck based.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:10 PM
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I don’t think she’s stupid necessarily. If I’m flirting with someone and they’re flirting back, I’ll generally assume they’re single.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:04 PM
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Yeah- myself, plus a number of my friends. My dating life is pretty good, though it did take a LOT of practice to get me from where I was (terrified of women in general) to where I am now (able to date/hook up with decent looking women on a somewhat regular basis). My autistic female friends have never had many problems dating. My autistic male friends are all over the map- some are doing even better than me, while others really struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 03:58 PM
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I respect it. I'm very pro-transparency. Some people think they're being polite by not being up front about what they want, but that sort of attitude tends to cause a lot more problems than it solves. Yeah. Nobody wants to date anyone who doesn't value them/their time, and lots of women want a man who's willing to provide. Sure. I'm fine with paying for dates. Generally though, I try not to invest too heavily in women who haven't shown investment back. Until I see that investment, happy hours, p…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:37 PM
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If sex is so hard for men to get, why are they ghosting after they get these women in bed? If a man is able to get casual sex with one woman, odds are he's able to get it with others. And if someone says or does things that make you want sex with them, and then you have sex... What is the problem? that's what you wanted to happen, wasn't it? The issue is if they weren't honest about it. Say a woman is going out with a guy, and tells him that she really wants to be more serious about dating, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 08:53 PM
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And surely men are not ghosting after they fuck once, unless the sex is really bad ? Sometimes the sex is really bad, sometimes they just have other girls on the roster they like better.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 08:37 PM
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Generally, the women who are complaining about this are the ones who either: A) Had a guy tell her everything she wanted to hear to get her to sleep with him, then bail once he'd gotten her in bed. or B) Simply assumed that the guy wanted to get serious with her despite not having that discussion with him at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 08:35 PM
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Just a guess lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 04:13 PM
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Will the other deer attack you if you do it from that close up?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 04:09 PM
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Not necessarily the case. Sometimes you'll see women who are willing to make out with (or do even more with) guys they met all of five minutes ago, but most of the time building attraction is a distance race, not a sprint.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 04:04 PM
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DOGE (Department of Grimes Evasion)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:51 PM
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I think the fact that this guy is 6’3 is also relevant here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 12:22 AM
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Lots of stuff on my to-do list today, and not nearly as much time as I’d like to do it 😭. Still, I’m in decent spirits, so hopefully I can put a solid dent in my task list.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 02:32 PM
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Food service is the worst; you’re not missing out on much.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 02:32 AM
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Leo?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 02:32 AM
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I actually do think there’s some truth to this. If you’re only willing to get with the best, you’ve gotta become your best self. When you do that, your dating fortunes are sure to increase.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 08:03 PM
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Congrats!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 11:05 PM
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I think that everyone, regardless of gender, falls into one of three categories: "Princess", "Slut", or "Loser". These aren't literal terms- one can be flat broke and still be a Princess, a virgin/incel can absolutely be a Slut, and a Loser may very well be successful in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 11:04 PM
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Of course I wouldn’t value his opinions; why would I take his advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 07:43 AM
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And what about prioritizing one’s own needs necessitates treating others badly?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 07:40 AM
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I think there’s a false dichotomy between being nice and being successful with women. No, being nice on its own is not going to have the ladies chasing after you. Being fit, successful, funny, charismatic, and assertive will bring the ladies in; we can easily observe this. However, if a man is fit, successful, funny, charismatic, and assertive, why would him treating others well detract from the aforementioned qualities?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:50 AM
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That's called being a sellout: dealing with mistreatment for money. That’s just called life 😂. We all do things we would rather not do for the sake of our and our families’ livelihood.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:37 PM
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I mean, it always has been a racist country. That’s just a fact. But as others have said, cash is king. Migrants are often willing to put up with America’s shortcomings because they can make a lot more money here than they could at home, or because they’re fleeing active warzones.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:31 PM
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It’s not fascist…yet. We’ll see. Authoritarian governments are often safe places to live, provided that you’re not one of “those people”. The problem is that who “those people” are can and frequently does change, and you might very well find yourself on the list of “those people” one day, even if you think you’re safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 11:23 PM
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I assumed since you were talking about how time intensive STEM degrees are, you had personal experience getting one. Pardon my assumption. What was their GPA by the end? Idk, but good enough to get into grad schools/med schools/solid jobs in their field.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 06:49 PM
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Lots of my friends in college were STEM bros, and they found time. Maybe you had a skill issue or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 06:42 PM
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Possibility, sure. But a lot of people don't want to uproot their career and social circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 06:23 PM
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I think every man doesn’t necessarily need a family, but he does need a community of some sort. We’re social animals; we don’t respond well to isolation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 06:10 PM
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Long distance is hard. Unless there’s a possibility of them moving to my city or vice versa, I don’t think I’d date someone who was more than a 45 minute trip away.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 06:05 PM
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For sure. Getting my female friends’ opinion on outfits, haircuts, and whatnot is super helpful.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:42 PM
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Sometimes, yeah. Lots of people meet their future spouse in college, and it’s a great place to do it- the folks around you are getting an education, likely to have good careers, and you’ve got lots of time to socialize/date. But there are also just as many women who want to become doctors, nurses, lawyers, teachers, etc. You can’t do those things without going to college.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:39 PM
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Let’s flip this around for a moment (bear with me; I’ll explain why this is relevant in a second)- what are some examples of positive feminine traits?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:37 PM
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Q4W: Curious about the other side of things. Imagine you’re dating a guy who is built and muscular. Most of his wardrobe consists of tank tops, form-fitting polos, and other clothing that draws attention to his physique. Does this bother you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 03:37 AM
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They got picked for the same reason as all the others- they’re getting rewarded for their unquestioning loyalty.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 03:34 AM
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You guys really overestimate the time energy and money that above average men waste on women below them. Eh- not necessarily. Most of my conventionally unattractive female friends have/have had Chadlites or HTNs who occasionally hit them up for drinks/sex. Even upper-middle tier guys (guys who are attractive, but not “having a roster of supermodels” on call attractive) have moments when the well is running low.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 03:30 AM
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Define “modestly” here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 03:15 AM
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Not particularly. If you’re dating someone attractive, then they’re going to get hit on a LOT- at work, at school, at the gym, at bars, at church, and just walking around. Statistically speaking, some of the people hitting on them will be more attractive than you in one or more ways. That’s an inevitability, so as long as my girl hasn’t given me any reason to question her loyalty, I’m pretty laid-back. (And if she has given me a reason to question her loyalty, I should probably evaluate why I’m …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 02:17 AM
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I agree with your argument, but a couple issues with your conclusion. If you look at who was actually bringing up LGBT stuff during the campaign, it was almost always Republicans fearmongering about “gender ideology”. Kamala could have shot a trans person on live television, and Trump and co would have kept right on calling her a groomer. I think the main reason Dems lost in 2024 (though by no means the only reason) is that the Republicans were able to get a stranglehold on the information envir…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 02:10 AM
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This cuts both ways honestly (see all the jokes about sex with women who are kinda insane). If we think of one night stands as the equivalent of doing cocaine in the middle of a packed nightclub, then a long-term relationship is sitting on the couch in your comfiest pajamas, eating your favorite food and watching your favorite show. Even if you miss the rush from your ski trip every now and then, you know it’s not good for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 01:30 AM
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All boobs matter!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 06:18 PM
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I feel like most content has some amount of romance in it, even if romance isn’t the focal point. None of my favorites are from specifically romance focused works.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 06:02 PM
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Q4A: Favorite fictional couple?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 06:00 PM
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Once a woman is emotionally invested in you, you can usually get away with just about anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 08:32 PM
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Use it instead of butter on bread.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 08:05 PM
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I’m doing that on Friday. Love me some holiday spirit, so I’m taking my FWB out.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 12:33 AM
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The Kardashian family has entered the chat.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 12:32 AM
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Well it sounds like you understand why a lot of Asian/Latina chicks date white guys then. The same reasons you’re so fixated on white women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 12:30 AM
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Speaking from experience, that’s not really true, and also ignores the fact that the vast majority of white dudes can’t date the sophisticated pretty white girls either 😂.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 12:29 AM
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Seems like you might have one of those inferiority complexes I mentioned in my comment 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 12:25 AM
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[Laughs in Tyrone] I think the reason you sometimes see Asian/Latina women specifically going for white guys is that they developed an inferiority complex growing up around mostly white folks. Eurocentric beauty standards (and oftentimes racism/bullying from their peers) made them feel bad about themselves, so dating white men makes them feel like they’ve “made it” and achieved acceptance within a Eurocentric society. Interestingly, this doesn’t really happen in the Black community, for reasons …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 12:23 AM
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In what way?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 11:51 PM
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Some are, some aren’t. I recommend joining as many clubs/organizations as you can fit in your schedule when you start college; it’ll help you find your crowd faster.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 11:22 PM
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I think that’s pretty common among women, no? Whenever one of my female friends posts a thirst trap, all her friends are in the comments going “Omg pls sit on my face right now!”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:56 PM
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For Valentine’s Day
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:54 PM
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Q4W: Do you prefer to receive a flower bouquet, or a living flower in a pot?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:51 PM
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My advice would be to document as much as you can while you’re waiting for your exit opportunity. Don’t give her any room to twist the story.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 08:43 PM
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Given what’s happening with the government right now, this would make sense. If you went to a school like Yale, there’s loads of opportunities even for “useless” majors. If you planned for a career in the foreign service and whatnot, you might have a hard time finding jobs with an administration that’s actively hostile to foreign service in power.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 08:40 PM
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If i try to win the blame game, she will just spam the cry move, which is very effective, and if i resist it, the unalive threat move. Uhh….
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 08:39 PM
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Yes, we may be dismantling our soft power, alienating our allies, and actively killing people, but at least the libs are triggered. I think we can all agree that that's what matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 07:45 PM
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That certainly does happen. I was mostly thinking of situations I’ve personally observed- when a woman cheated, the guy almost never took her back even if she wanted another chance. When a man cheated, the woman often stayed for quite some time afterwards (or even married him).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 05:35 PM
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That’s a big reason too; didn’t mean to imply otherwise. I was mostly thinking of the women who are actively choosing to stay; not the women who want to leave but fear that doing so would put them/their children in danger.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 05:37 AM
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I’ve seen examples of all four of the above in the bad relationships my female friends have ended up in. When women get stuck in such relationships, it’s usually one or more of these factors keeping them there: Wishful thinking (“I can change him!/He promised he’d never do it again!”) Sunk cost fallacy (“I’ve invested so much materially/emotionally into this relationship that I feel like I have to make things work.”) Coming from an environment where bad behavior is normalized (“That’s just how m…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 05:13 AM
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Not Red Pill, but I think there are three primary barometers you can use: What kind of people does he spend his time with? How does he treat people who he isn't trying to impress? How does he react to things not going his way? Some abusive dudes are snakes in the grass who can successfully pass all three of these tests unnoticed, but you'll be able to filter out most of the bad guys by getting a good grasp on these questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 04:52 AM
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A lot of folks here saying that nurses are a green flag; clearly y'all have never dated nurses. I would recommend being careful with doctors too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 04:49 AM
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Left hand gang!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 04:42 AM
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Not having a degree on its own isn’t a deal breaker. As long as she’s intellectually curious and can hold an engaging conversation, I’ll give her a shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:06 AM
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A good chunk of my social circle are lesbians. One of them once commented (after hearing a straight woman say she wished she was a lesbian): “Oh, baby. I am going to hurt you just as bad.”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:02 AM
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Is that against the rules? I feel like I’ve talked about it a fair amount
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:23 PM
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Have you ever met the average voter?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:23 PM
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Food poisoning?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:21 PM
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You attempting to strawman what he said into what you want it to say - "aww shucks lady I jus weally weally thought you might enjoy what I have to offer 🥺👉👈" - is a framing I've consistently rejected. Well, we’ll have to agree to disagree on that front. “Delusional” in the colloquial sense and “delusional” in the literal sense are two very different things. You know what kind of fruit someone is by appearance, and the default is not being interested in other people. I didn’t say they’re obligate…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:58 PM
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Now make the woman straight. Why is the judgement different? Why can't he just not be her cup of tea? Why does she need to be this delusional bitch who just doesn't know what she's missing out on? You’re putting a lot of words in my mouth. You can simultaneously think “Anyone can reject me for any reason, and that does not reflect on their moral character at all” and also “I’ve got lots to offer, and the people who can see that are the lucky ones.” Someone merely being interested in you in no wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:33 PM
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I got hit as a child, and it didn’t really make me behave better; it just made me sneakier and better at lying. Ruling through fear may get you some short-term progress, but ruling through respect is much better for the long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:22 PM
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This message has been approved by real Khmer Rouge patriots 🫡
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:20 PM
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Any of y’all been seeing the Montoya/Anita saga on social media? This shit is hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:17 PM
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Women's people pleasing is often a defense mechanism; there are lots of shitty dudes out there, and it can often be hard to tell which ones they are. Now, in an established friendship or relationship with a person they know and like, this sort of behavior can often cause unnecessary issues (i.e. Alex doesn't let Sam know that something is bothering her because she thinks it's polite not to stir the pot, so Sam never takes any steps to address it. This leads to Alex growing more resentful, and wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 07:44 PM
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Something I often remind people: If you can get a hit against a major league pitcher 3 times out of 10, you're an exceptionally talented hitter. In the same way, even the hottest, smoothest dudes you know are probably striking out more than they succeed. No need to approach 200 girls a day; just approach any woman you would like to who also is giving you indicators of interest (eye contact, smiling, open body language, etc). If it's clear she's not feeling it, just apologize for interrupting her…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 07:16 PM
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I feel like the statement "I know I'm a catch, and if someone can't see that, sucks to be them," is a pretty healthy way of thinking for both men and women. I also feel like "His/her loss" and "he's/she's delusional" are both ways of communicating that sentiment, even if one is unnecessarily harsh. Plenty of people will reject you out of hand or take you for granted without even bothering to find out what kind of fruit you are. While them doing that is out of your control, walking away with your…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 07:11 PM
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I think what he means is that for a guy, it's best to respond to rejection by thinking "Eh, her loss- onto the next!" to yourself. There's no requirement for the woman to do anything; it's just better for the man long-term to walk away hyping himself up instead of getting in his feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 06:57 PM
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Never saw Finding Nemo?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 06:21 AM
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I don’t like the Eagles, but I was so fucking tired of the Chiefs. Congrats on the win!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 05:11 PM
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Kamala wasn’t going to bring back the 2017 tax cuts (which Trump is doing). Kamala wasn’t going to get rude of CFPB (which Trump is also doing). Kamala wasn’t going to get rid of Medicaid (which Trump is doing). What else did you want the Democrats to do, given that they barely had working majorities most of the time? foreign countries Foreign aid barely registers as a drop in the bucket in the overall budget, and even if we ceased all of it, do you really think those savings are going to trickl…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 12:55 PM
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> they add low value males to their list of protected classes. They actually are on the list. There's lots of programs that the Democrats have created/tried to create to provide support for men who are poor, men with physical or mental disabilities, and men in other unenviable circumstances. Every time the Republicans take power, they do everything they can to gut these programs. I'm personally a beneficiary of the gutting of such programs, since it means my (quite well-off) family and I get tax…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 06:55 AM
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This is pretty common in psychology. A person may proclaim their hatred for Group X, but when you point out that a friend/associate/lover of theirs is a member of Group X, the person will just say that their friend/lover/associate is "one of the good ones".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 06:25 AM
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> why do men fetishize weird stuff? Because their brain developed in a way such that some extra stuff (feet, piss, etc) got tangled up with the part of the brain that drives arousal for "normal" things (boobs, butts, etc). Other fetishes are more nurture than nature; you have to look at those on a case-by-case basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 06:06 AM
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I guarantee you, the girl working at the store does not get paid enough to care that you’re returning something. If you really feel the need to save face, just say it didn’t fit right, or you realized it wasn’t working with the rest of your wardrobe.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:12 AM
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A guy not having friends at all isn’t necessarily a red flag, but it often is. You’d have to evaluate that fact in the context of the guy’s personality and life circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 10:42 PM
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My usual advice (and this goes for guys evaluating women too) is to ask yourself: Who does he spend his time with? How does he treat the people around him (particularly those who can’t do anything for him)? How does he react to conflicts/things not going his way? Yeah, some bad guys are extremely good at concealing their true selves, but you can filter most of them out when you have a good grasp on the above three questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 08:21 PM
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most of my "chad" friends had mid/unattractive FWB and attractive girlfriends, it was kinda crazy. Yeah. When you’re looking for a FWB, it’s much easier to pull a mid woman who is hungry for validation than it is to pull an attractive woman who has no need for such validation (and can get a much better deal than most college guys can offer them).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:12 PM
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I think the reason some people bear this sentiment (which I disagree with btw) is that “Chads” who are also LTR-minded, kind, respectful, and loyal are swiftly snatched off the market by enterprising Stacies. As such, they aren’t usually a part of the dating pool, and when they are, they aren’t there for long. Meanwhile, the less ethical Chads out there are making much more of an impression on the dating scene, since they tend to date around a lot more and expose more people to their bad behavio…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 06:57 PM
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Speaking as a well-traveled American, you’re going to be fine most places. You may get a snide comment or two from the errant European, but if you brush up on some history, you can throw anything they say about imperialism and the like right back in their faces.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 06:18 AM
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¡MONTOYA POR FAVOR! Poor bastard 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 09:34 PM
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If it floats your boat, replace “politician” with “douchebag tech bro”, “soulless Wall Street ghoul”, or “coke-sniffing lawyer who works 90 hours a week”.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 09:29 PM
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It’s honestly easier when it’s a friend and you’ve already expressed interest in each other. Just act like you normally would, but add some physicality.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 09:10 PM
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Q4A: What do you wish the opposite gender wore more? Personally, I find myself looking forward to sundress season every year.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 09:08 PM
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I live in a really hot area; it’s pretty common to see girls walking around in tank tops and tiny shorts during the summer.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 09:06 PM
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You’d be surprised. There’s a LOT of dudes on this board that will call objectively attractive women “mid”.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 07:20 PM
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It’s an government agency that distributes funding for various projects in (mostly) developing countries. Also the Republican Party’s newest boogeyman.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:09 PM
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Dismantling all our soft power and alienating all our allies because we’re bored 😎. Sigma moves only.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:05 PM
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I would amend my previous statement to replace “sex” with “intimacy” (which can come in many forms; sex is just one of them). Humans need to feel close to others; there’s a reason solitary confinement is so destructive to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:02 PM
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What the bathroom hardliners don’t realize is that the effect of the laws would primarily be having cis women who are very tall, are unusually muscular, choose not to shave their body hair, and/or have more angular facial features get harassed for no reason. In fact, it’s already happening
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:52 PM
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I think that while sex itself isn’t a need, intimacy- feeling close to others- is. There’s a reason solitary confinement is so destructive to the human psyche.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:43 PM
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im just saying I hate the truly poor Why? What have they done to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 06:26 AM
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I think Maslow’s hierarchy is relevant here. Water and sex are both needs, but some needs are more necessary than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:00 AM
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I asked one of my friends with benefits to be my date for Valentine’s; she said that sounded fun, but to give her a couple days to figure out things for her various Galentine’s events. As such, I’m planning to ask the other girls I’ve been seeing and will take whoever confirms the quickest. Q4A: Would it be more of a dick move to let girl #1 know that I plan to do this (and potentially make her feel unduly pressured) or to not let her know (and tell her essentially “you snooze, you lose” if she …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:01 AM
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Any stock tips? I get paid tomorrow, and I figured investing in something besides the S&P 500 might be worth a go.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 10:26 PM
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I don’t think so. I imagine she’d at least remember your face.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 10:16 PM
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There is a floor on this thing of course. Once you hit a certain level of physical attractiveness or deformity, the rules that apply to us in the middle 97% of the bell curve don’t really apply. Though I will say, a man who really is 10/10 attractive is unlikely to develop the sorts of undesirable personality traits I described earlier. Who’s going to intimidate you when you’ve got arms the size of tree trunks? Why be unsure of yourself when everyone is constantly hyping you up?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 09:48 PM
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You got this man! Worst case scenario, she doesn’t accept your follow request, and you can move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 09:42 PM
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Well, 6/10 dudes date, hook up, and get married all the time. Go outside and look around if you don’t believe me. They’re doing so with 4s and 5s and 6s and maybe the occasional 7 if they’re lucky. The difference between a 6/10 guy who pulls and a 6/10 guy who does not comes down to the personality traits I talked about: confidence, assertiveness, charisma, humor. If he lacks those qualities, not even the 4-7 chicks are going to want to hang out with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 09:39 PM
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Well, why don’t we see more 6/10 dudes with hot fitness influencers then?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 06:34 PM
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When asked to choose the best mate for daughters, both daughters (68.7%) and their parents (63.3%) chose the more attractive man as the best long-term dating partner for daughters, regardless of his ascribed traits It’s interesting that the traits they chose for this experiment were “ambitious and intelligent” vs “disorganized and physically fit”. In terms of dating, I wouldn’t describe ambition and intelligence as inherently good- I would never want my daughter to date the majority of politicia…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 06:31 PM
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Let us imagine Kyle, an average office worker making a decent but not spectacular income. He’s got a decently attractive face and is in decent shape. A 6/10 all around. Imagine Kyle asks the following two women out: A) An okay-looking, working-class chick from his apartment building. B) A megahot fitness influencer he sees while running on a local trail one day. Do you think both of them will give him the same answer?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 05:53 PM
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Happens a fair amount to me. I just send the double message anyway. Girls have a lot of matches to sort through, so it’s not surprising that they forget to respond or just decide they’re going to respond later.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 05:18 PM
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I've tried initiating before (I wouldn't say "approach" because I already knew the dudes), and it's always ended in rejection, even when I was just after sex 😂 Imagine how us guys feel then. Rejection’s not so bad once you get used to it; you just learn to not take it personally and move onto the next.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:47 PM
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We all have things that would probably be good for us that we don’t do because of anxiety and/or social norms.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:31 PM
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An exercise that I’ve found helpful on this front is attempting to meet 100 strangers. The rules of the challenge are: You have to start a conversation with a person with no direct connection to you (so friends of friends/new work colleagues don’t count). The conversation has to last for at least 10 minutes. The conversation must go beyond the surface level. Doesn’t matter if they’re men or women, young or old, hot or ugly- just make sure that after each one, you take a moment to reflect on what…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:25 PM
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Because whoever approaches puts themselves in the more emotionally vulnerable position. Why give up your power if societal convention generally dictates that you don’t have to?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:19 PM
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Yes and no. Being introverted isn’t inherently unnattractive to women- a lot of gals swoon over the Mr. Darcy archetype. However, an extroverted guy is going to have a much easier time meeting women, and therefore get a lot more dates than the introverted guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:07 PM
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Women get the ick incredibly easily. If Chad pulls up to the date and acts in an off-putting way, he’s not likely to have much success.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:04 PM
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I said “no shortage of women willing to date him”. I didn’t say “no shortage of 10/10 bombshells willing to date him”. You still gotta work within your price range.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:01 PM
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“Meek, passive, awkward, humorless” and “scared” are functionally the same, at least as far as dating goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 03:27 AM
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Erotic short stories about the two of you? Her favorite characters? Or just scenarios she thought would be hot?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 03:25 AM
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Sorta. If we take two identical guys, but one of them is proactive about meeting women while the other is not, the proactive guy is going to get a lot more hookups/dates/relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:44 AM
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Measured by who? Would love to see data on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:39 AM
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How are they gonna choose passive Chad? Passive Chad is scared of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:39 AM
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I've said this before, but when people say "personality is just as important as looks", they're absolutely right. It's just that the personality traits required to get laid and the personality traits required to be a good person are not necessarily the same. A man who is confident, assertive, funny, and charismatic will find no shortage of woman willing to date him, regardless of how he treats others. A man who is awkward, meek, passive, and humorless will have very little success with women, re…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 12:25 AM
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Viagra, cialis. Probably some others I haven’t heard of.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 10:10 PM
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The people who voted for him are mostly still supporting him. The people who didn’t vote for him are mostly still not supporting him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 10:09 PM
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Dick pill is real Of course. Most pharmacies carry them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 10:04 PM
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No. Source: Last ex tied a string to my heart, but I wasn’t in love with her in the ways she was in love with me, so I broke things off.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 10:03 PM
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Seconding the folks saying it’s social conditioning.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 08:46 PM
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Yeah. I think a better way to think about this (for both men and women) is to not think: “Why can’t I find a good man/woman?” is to think “How can I become the kind of person that the men/women I want are attracted to?”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 08:43 PM
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I think what sets Gen Z women apart from older generations is that it’s the first generation to have social media as a core part of their adolescence. As such A lot of girls think it’s a red flag if a guy isn’t on socials. Gen Z women tend to be far more apprehensive about being approached irl than older women. This has a lot to do with social media as well imo. The number of women identifying as bi is much higher, though these women still usually end up dating men (both because there are a lot …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 08:37 PM
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I’d want the ability to stop time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 04:38 PM
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Loads of people who didn’t go to prestigious schools have gone on to do incredible things. And if you’re really that sore about it, you can work as hard as you can to get good grades and then transfer somewhere with a bigger name.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 04:36 PM
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A lot of folks (men and women) get addicted to the emotional rollercoaster.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 04:34 PM
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I don’t mind paying for dates. I view it as similar to buying a raffle ticket. Maybe I’ll win something, but also I might not. If the ticket costs too much or I don’t think the prize is worth it, I simply won’t buy a ticket.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 02:42 AM
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I always advise my fellow men to pay for dates (chivalry is still a crowd-pleaser), but I also advise them not to invest too much in girls who haven’t shown some investment back (this investment can be sex, but it can also be things like cooking you a meal, paying for a date herself, etc). Until you see that investment from her, happy hours, picnics, and free/low-cost museums/galleries are your best friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 02:35 AM
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You can already filter based on exercise preferences if you’re willing to pay for the premium version.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 02:28 AM
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Q4W: Who is a man in your view that has the ideal body?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 11:31 PM
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Speaking as a guy with a body relatively close to the second dude, I’d have to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 11:24 PM
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Going to the gym 4 times a week consistently for a couple years will easily put you in the top 10% of dudes in terms of build.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 11:23 PM
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People who reach a certain level of wealth often get fixated on the things their money can’t buy; this is why you see so many celebrities who seem to have it made crashing out over random bullshit. Drake wanted to be fully embraced by the culture. But no matter how much money he throws at his lawyers, he cannot change the fact that people are in the clubs every weekend singing along to Kendrick calling him a colonizer.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:59 AM
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That’s why I used 7 and not a lower number. There’s a point at which personality can’t make up for a deficiency in the looks department.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:47 AM
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I saw a tweet that said Drake lost this beef harder than any rapper has ever lost a beef, and that includes the ones who got murdered 😂. Next time you’re having a bad day, just remember it could be worse (your opps could be getting multiple awards for their song about how you’re a pedophile).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:46 AM
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I mean, sometimes it does. A 7 who’s fun to talk to is much more attractive in my book than a 9 with the personality of drywall.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:41 AM
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I mean, you don’t (usually) get to be President without being a charming motherfucker.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:34 AM
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Q4A: Who do you consider to be a 10/10 attractiveness wise?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 03:54 AM
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I think a lot of folks (men and women) get validation from the idea that they're so special that they can swipe someone else's guy/girl with ease. It's a power trip.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:38 AM
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I honestly don't think I've ever discussed my n-count with any woman I've dated. Never felt inclined to ask for theirs either.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:34 AM
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Men who fuck around a lot are significantly more likely to have qualities that make women want to be with them (tall, fit, funny, charismatic, etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:23 AM
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To quote the Weeknd: "If you ain't my n****, then your girl single to me." Though I will say, that phenomenon isn't exclusive to guys. Most men will tell you that they get a lot more attention from women when they're taken than when they're single.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:21 AM
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Q4W: When thinking of the men you’ve dated, were you usually attracted to them first, or were they usually not on your radar until they expressed interest in you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:40 AM
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In the 1k to 2K range maybe? I’ve spent the past 7 years of my life in the central area of a big city, and spend a lot of time out and about, so that’s a lot of potential exposure.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 01:23 AM
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Sexiest: Brazilian Portuguese Least sexy: Dutch
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 07:08 PM
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My age range for something serious is 20 to 29.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 04:48 PM
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Probably, but not necessarily. Also, there are plenty of gay dudes who don’t look/act stereotypically gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 08:06 AM
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I don’t know if men have an equivalent feeling, do you guys? I mean, sorta? I’m a better cook than most people I know, but a woman making me food always gives me a warm fuzzy feeling. One of my ex-girlfriends would make me lunch to bring to work a few times a week; it felt like a lady giving a knight her favor to wear in a joust. That being said, that’s not something I necessarily expect in a relationship. There’s lots of ways to be sexy imo- I’ve enjoyed dating both demure domestic goddess type…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 07:51 AM
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I’m curious- do you want your man to ideally be more capable than you across the board? Or are there certain things that you would feel insecure if he was better than you at?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 07:31 AM
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More like “I’m paying you to talk string theory (or whatever my particular interest is) with me, and THEN suck my dick.” I wonder if there are any places with high-end gigolos with masters degrees Oh, there is. Find yourself some older wealthy gay men and watch the money come pouring in.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 07:13 AM
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I’d have to disagree here. High-priced escorts oftentimes market themselves as well-educated and knowledgeable on a variety of subjects (geisha in Japan are a particularly notable example of this). A lot of guys seeking companionship (particularly guys who are well-educated and knowledgeable themselves) don’t want to spend their dinner talking to a brick wall.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:47 AM
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It’s more like “A man wants a modest woman who becomes immodest for them specifically but not anybody else.” The equivalent for women would be “I like a guy who’s a bit of a bad boy, but I do not want to ever have to deal with the consequences of his bad boy activities.” Both of these examples are clearly unrealistic, so we all have to find a middle ground when choosing partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:38 AM
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“…..” On a serious note, this is actually true to a degree. If you look at the types of dudes a lot of women thirst over, they’re just as likely to be a slightly effeminate pretty boy as they are a hulking bodybuilder (see Timothee Chalamet, assorted K-Pop dudes, etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 10:43 PM
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Hey, people are buying you drinks. If you weren’t at least decent looking, they wouldn’t do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 02:20 AM
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Q4 People who engage in/have engaged in casual sex in the past: When you’ve got a FWB, do you want the Boyfriend/Girlfriend Experience (i.e. going on dates, extensive cuddling, whispering sweet nothings, etc)? Or do you prefer the arrangement to be strictly business (sex and nothing else)?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 02:14 AM
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Q4A: When a movie is getting a remake, which of these statements do you agree with more? A) A remake should adhere as closely to the original as possible. Changing things runs the risk of ruining what made the original special. B) A remake should take risks, change things up, and try to put a new spin on the story. If I wanted to see the original again, I would just watch the original.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 12:30 AM
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The women saying that are usually in the 5 foot to 5’2 range, so they’re just saying “Don’t be comically short”.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 12:05 AM
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It’s honest. No matter who you are, there will always be some model/athlete/celebrity who is more conventionally attractive than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 05:42 AM
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My favorite FWB broke up with me (as much as the term “broke up” is applicable in these sorts of situations), and I’m not feeling great. I know rationally I shouldn’t feel sad about it (a long-term situation between us wouldn’t have worked out for a number of reasons), and yet I still feel sad. I think a part of it is that I let her get closer than one should reasonably let an FWB get. We had our little in-jokes, and spoke about our lives using metaphors from the shows we watched together. She h…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 05:39 AM
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Prime Minister of France met his wife a similar way (except grosser, because he was one of her secondary school students when they started their relationship).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 05:24 AM
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Seems like a good age. If teenagers want to have sex, they will, regardless of what you tell them. Making sure they understand protection and consent is a better strategy than giving them abstinence only lectures.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 12:06 AM
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The male equivalent of writing horny fanfics is writing horny fanfics lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 11:26 PM
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9.5 - it’s probably my best physical asset.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 08:15 PM
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Maybe whoever you feel the urge to watch porn, start masturbating without it first?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 08:13 PM
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I followed a bunch of girls from random college classes/clubs/events. If any girl I date wants to hyperfixate on them, she’s more than welcome to, but I don’t talk to 90% of these people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:14 AM
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According to her, it was my stimming during the halftime pillow talk, as well as “the way [I] phrase certain things.” We’d also had dinner before, so she had time to observe me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 03:42 AM
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“Um…yeah 😅? How did you know?” (paraphrased)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 03:25 AM
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Was hooking up with a girl from OLD earlier this evening and she straight up asked in between rounds “Are you autistic?” Apparently she has an autistic brother and that’s how she noticed. Not sure how to feel about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 03:20 AM
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As many others have said, men are far more likely to resort to violence in the face of real or perceived slights. There are both biological and cultural reasons for this. A corollary to this is that men are oftentimes bad at expressing their emotions in a healthy way. This is mostly a cultural problem- many societies promote the idea that “real men” don’t need support from anyone, when this is very much not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 02:45 AM
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Pretty much!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 06:43 AM
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5’10
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:46 PM
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Decent looking, but not notably so. 60th percentile-ish.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 04:51 PM
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Q4A: Which celebrity/public figure (of the opposite gender, or same gender if that's your persuasion) has the ideal body?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 04:50 AM
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5'10 and change
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 04:48 AM
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Sorry to hear that man; that sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 04:43 AM
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Depends on her height. But in general, I like when women are in shape, but not too skinny. Megan Thee Stallion is probably my ideal body type.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 04:43 AM
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They're voting for Republicans because the Republicans were able to take control of the information environment. They then used this control to summon a bunch of boogeymen (trans people, critical race theory, mass murdering migrants, etc) to distract people from the things that are actually causing their problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 04:34 AM
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This is true; I’ve seen my female friends shoot down guys for reasons like “his laugh bothers me” or “he ordered a girly drink”. However, something I’ve noticed is that once you’ve got a woman emotionally invested, this dynamic almost completely flips on its head. The level of fuckery I’ve seen dudes (most of whom were not “Chad”) get away with once they had a girl on the hook is astounding. A good friend of mine’s ex was verbally abusive, cheated on her constantly and openly, and even gave her …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 12:11 AM
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I'm a working adult; dating someone who hasn't even got their HS diploma feels icky. It wouldn't be an issue for me if I were 32 and she were 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 09:51 PM
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25
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 09:43 PM
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I recently befriended one of my neighbors; she's a retired lawyer in her 60s, and super fun to talk to. We were having coffee yesterday, and she told me she'd love to introduce me to her granddaughter- apparently we have a lot in common. At first I thought "I'd be up for it! Would be a super cute "how we met" story if it worked out." Unfortunately, she then dropped the bomb that her granddaughter is 18 and still in high school. I'm flattered Cathy, but no thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 09:35 PM
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This is interesting. It may just be the crew I run with, but I've never heard any of my partnered friends say anything along these lines. Very disrespectful behavior, regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 09:17 PM
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I would tell him that I'd be happy to go with him, but he also needs to tell his family. Even in a wheelchair, he's a grown man and can make his own decisions, even if other people don't always like those decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 03:36 AM
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Nah. The winning move here is to walk away and inform your social circle that your now ex-gf is a domestic abuser (I believe this is a couple, but I may be wrong about that). If you hit her back, the odds that she'll be able to spin the situation in her favor go up exponentially.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 03:31 AM
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Future BRAGGED about spending millions on different women in a single year. Guys mock other guys for not buying women birkin bags Well yeah, that's part of the flex. "I can afford to waste absurd amounts of money on frivolities, and it doesn't hurt my bottom line at all." To quote Bad Bunny: "I spend in the club what you have in the bank!"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 01:10 AM
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I've noticed that my level of attractiveness to women seems to come in streaks. In what I've termed my "Golden Ages", I feel like Steph Curry when I shoot my shots. All the women I approach seem pretty receptive to my advances, and some of them even approach me. Unfortunately, I'm not in a Golden Age right now; instead I'm in what I call a "Dark Age". All of my dates the past few weeks have been awkward messes, and the one time I've had sex this year has been with a friend and occasional FWB (wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 01:08 AM
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To quote the philosopher Pusha T: "I keep the city's best, never said she was the brightest/So if you had her too it don't affect me in the slightest/I never met a chick that didn't need a little guidance/So I dismiss her past until she disappoints your highness."
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 12:49 AM
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My last ex introduced me to using greek yogurt instead of sour cream- it's definitely a game changer!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 12:44 AM
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There are ways around them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:25 AM
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Q4A: Which fictional character do you relate the most to?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:48 AM
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Women are usually sent to the fuckzone rather than the friendzone (the guy will entertain them until the girl starts asking questions like "What are we?").
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:48 AM
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I've had several female friends "wingwoman" for me in various ways. However, some reasons a woman might not be winging for you: - She doesn't know what to do. Women are usually the passive ones in the human mating dance, so thinking of ways to actively help their male friends in their pursuits doesn't come naturally to them. This can be remedied by giving them specific instructions about how they can help; every time I've done this, they've been happy to do their part. - She doesn't think you'd …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:11 AM
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I like it!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 09:13 PM
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Honestly, I love going out with astrology chicks. They're always a good time. I just say "I don't really believe in that stuff, but I think it's fun!"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 04:35 PM
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For me, the main thing isn't sex by the third date; it's a clear demonstration of affection/investment on her part by the end of the third date. This CAN mean sex, but there are plenty of other ways to demonstrate affection too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 04:15 PM
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If we haven't had the talk about exclusivity, then it's whatever. "Don't ask, don't tell" is a good rule of thumb in these situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 04:12 PM
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Tax reasons, cultural reasons, and religious reasons (if applicable).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 12:09 AM
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If I’m getting married to his daughter, he presumably knows what career field I’m in, where I live, and what sorts of things I tend to spend money on. He’d have this info already.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 12:07 AM
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No Not necessarily. If you feel like you’re at a better place in your life as a result of the LTR, I’d count that as a success regardless. Depends on the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 12:04 AM
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Shit- get well soon!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 10:57 PM
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If it was a significant enough power disparity between the man and the woman (i.e. some unattractive working class chick kisses some wealthy Wall Street guy) and the man is has the time and inclination to file a police report, probably. This also applies in the above case though- a wealthy man who randomly kisses some cashier likely will not have anything happen to him. In general though, women are treated more leniently in these sorts of cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 10:31 PM
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A night in jail and a misdemeanor charge if the woman files a police report. Probably nothing more than that unless the woman wants to press further charges.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 10:27 PM
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Yup.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 10:15 PM
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Depends on where he did it, who he did it to, and what he looked like.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 10:13 PM
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That’s why I prefer to offer my number/Instagram instead of asking for women's in general. If they’re not feeling me, they don’t have to call.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 10:10 PM
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Sure!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 09:11 PM
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Sure 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 09:10 PM
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From what I understand, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 08:59 PM
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Secondary Q4W who have worked in a service job: Did customers ever shoot their shot with you? Did it ever work on you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 08:59 PM
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Yes No
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 08:55 PM
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I was talking with one of my female friends about how wingmen could be helpful in dating situations, and she said she would be happy to serve as a wingwoman at some point. This prompted a discussion about a potential idea. Q4W: Would you find this to be off-putting if you were a cashier or other service worker? A woman arrives with a man at your place of business; they sit and chat for a while. At some point, the man goes to the bathroom/leaves to take a phone call, and the woman comes up to you…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 08:51 PM
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I once brought a girl home after a date, and the first thing she did was go to my medicine cabinet and say “All right, let’s see what you’re on!” My antidepressants/anti-anxiety meds didn’t seem to be much of a turnoff, thankfully.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 08:38 PM
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No particular occasion. We'd been wanting to do a murder mystery party for a while, so I stepped up to organize.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 05:59 PM
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I need to make more male friends; almost all of mine have moved away for school/work. I'm planning a party, and I realized that the guest list is almost entirely women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 05:54 PM
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I'd have to disagree from my own experience. Most of my close friends are women (many of whom have partners), and I'll often ask them for advice about other girls and act like someone who is only interested in platonic friendship (because I am). I've actually lost friendships in the past because I misread signs and thought a girl was interested in being more than friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 05:51 PM
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She's pretty, but the hair and outfit aren't doing her many favors (which makes sense, given that she's woodworking)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 05:44 PM
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Also, most women I've met love being friends with gay men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 05:42 PM
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I wonder if the bar employees are judging me for using the same bar as a date spot semi-often.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 02:53 AM
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What would you like to learn about? And have you seen a doctor about your sleep issues?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 09:59 PM
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Eh- let him give it to her. Coddling the kid from any situation that might hurt his feelings isn’t going to help him. I would sit down with him and make sure he knows how to conduct himself if this doesn’t go over well.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 09:57 PM
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What don’t you like about your life? What’s in the way of changing those things?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 09:53 PM
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Hopefully.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 02:56 AM
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Nah, I'm peacing out. Hope she finds the dude she's looking for!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 02:35 AM
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A post currently on r/relationships: Tl;dr My boyfriend doesn’t wipe his ass (sometimes) how do I get him to have better hygiene? I 25F and my boyfriend 25M have lived together for about a year and been together for about 2 years. I used the rest of the toilet paper cleaning up after my dog (we have rolls under the sink). Shortly after my boyfriend went to use the bathroom. When I went in there I noticed there was no toilet paper sitting out, so I asked him what he used. He proceeded to tell me …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 02:34 AM
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Depends on what we mean by "dominant". She likes being on top and taking charge? Sure, as long as she's willing to indulge my proclivities as well. If she's super into the more hardcore stuff, then no, probably not. We would be incompatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 02:28 AM
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Anita Blake's been around a while; wonder why more romantasy is only starting to follow that model now?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 01:39 AM
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Mid and mentally stable, easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 12:26 AM
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Go tell him you changed your mind! Let him decide whether or not you're good enough for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 12:25 AM
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Hot 30 year old ofc.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 11:20 PM
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I wouldn't call her a hero exactly, but she's definitely not a villain either. Her main flaw is being kinda annoying, and Matthew Broderick's whole vendetta against her only started because his friend pulled a Drake.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 10:49 PM
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Yup. Some examples off the top of my head: - Declining to participate in activities you enjoy because you worry those around you will consider it unmanly. - Bottling up your emotions instead of talking about them because you worry those around you will consider it unmanly. - Picking unnecessary fights or engaging in other activities you know to be illegal, dangerous, or both to prove your masculinity to others. Many people of both genders bear responsibility in reinforcing these behaviors.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 10:28 PM
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Moderation in all things, I think. Most women wouldn't want to be with a guy who's constantly picking fights with random dudes in public because he thinks they looked at his girl funny. At the same time, women do want to know that their man would be willing and able to throw down for them if there were a legitimately dangerous situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 10:18 PM
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We're definitely going to need a universal basic income at some point in the next few decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 08:48 PM
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Q4A: What's are some interesting/memorable questions/discussions you've had on a first date? Would love to up my arsenal.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 08:41 PM
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My parents did occasionally; don’t think it was all that helpful. I think the primary effect was making me better at hiding things and improvising lies on the spot.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 01:20 PM
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This depends on a lot of things, but speaking from my own experience, it’s certainly a disadvantage, but not an insurmountable one. Even if social skills don’t come naturally to you, they can be learned and practiced like any other sort of skill. I was painfully awkward during my adolescence, and never really dated anyone until I got to college. However, through concerted effort, I got good enough at dating to the point where my friends would make jokes about me being the ladies’ man of the grou…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 02:06 AM
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I mean, preselection aside, I imagine pretty much every NBA player can pull influencers or OF models.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 10:32 PM
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Subconsciously seeking out toxic relationships is pretty common among people with low self-esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 09:02 PM
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It looks like the women gave the dude low marks across the board.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 08:59 PM
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If she’s saying she prefers short bald men, then no, I wouldn’t believe her. If she says she doesn’t mind short bald men and her dating history reflects that, then I would. I’m an ass man, but if I met a girl who was wonderful in every way except for not having much of one, I would still be willing to date her.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 05:13 PM
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Fan fics would honestly be a plus (I love writing myself), provided she’s writing actual stories and not fetish content. Creating fetish content (assuming I’m not into whatever her thing is) probably would be a hard pass. Same goes for wannabe social media influencers- I don’t want every second of my life recorded. On the whole though, I think it’s more a matter of compatibility than the hobbies themselves. I enjoy a Disney movie, and could live with a Disney adult. If a woman were super preoccu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 07:54 AM
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No. I feel like everybody has at least one semi-cringy hobby/interest, and as semi-cringy hobbies/interests go, being a Disney adult is pretty low on the totem pole.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 07:34 AM
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Depending on what exactly about me as a person he dislikes, that could be filed under either "legitimate concern to be worked on" or "nonsense I will ignore".
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 05:48 AM
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It depends on why he's saying no. If I get the sense that it's racism or some other illegitimate reason, then I don't care. Enjoy your mixed grandchildren, old man. If he brings up a legitimate concern that I hadn't previously been aware of, then I would take some time to work on it, then come back and ask him again.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 05:46 AM
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I plan on asking. Harmless tradition imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 05:43 AM
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No issue with it. As long as it's not affecting our sex life, I'm happy with a "don't ask, don't tell" policy on porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 05:38 AM
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Of course, though what that minimum threshold in each category is going to vary from person to person.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 10:59 PM
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I find it helpful not to think as people’s preferences not as hard lines, but as categories on a stat sheet. Let’s do a simplified example with our hypothetical Chad, and say that the categories the woman is considering are looks, personality, culinary skills, and income. A guy needs to have 30/40 points for her to consider dating him. If Chad’s stats are as follows: Looks: 10/10 Personality: 10/10 Culinary Skills: 0/10 Income: 10/10 Then he gets 30 points, therefore passing the woman’s threshol…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 10:34 PM
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Honestly, spite has been a pretty good motivator for me. When I catch myself doomscrolling, I tell myself that while I’ve been on my phone, the opps have been putting in work. If I want to stay ahead of them, I better be putting in work too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:04 AM
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Yup. As a Black guy, it doesn’t particularly matter if I’m minding my own business if those around me don’t believe I’m minding my own business. Better to be safe than to end up on a t-shirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 11:17 PM
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Highly agree with this post. While it’s hard to figure out someone’s dating issues from the other side of a screen, a piece of advice that almost universally helps is “go outside”. Join rec sports leagues. Go to religious services if you’re religious. Instead of watching the big game at home, go to your local sports bar and look for folks wearing the same colors. Got a hobby? There’s probably a meetup group for it. The more people you know, the more likely it is that one of them will be the pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 11:07 PM
1

If you can grill a steak, I’m sure you can follow a recipe for a non-steak dish.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 09:59 PM
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My own, definitely. I’ve also noticed that Jewish and South Asian women seem to like me a lot, though East Asian women seem to avoid me like the plague. I wonder what’s going on 🤔.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 09:58 PM
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A few times a year. Always a nice feeling!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 09:52 PM
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Good thing I’m single then 😂.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 09:26 PM
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I don’t necessarily get the appeal of strip clubs, but I kinda want to check one out just to satisfy my curiosity. Not just any strip club though- I wanna go to one of the fancy ones where athletes and politicians and foreign businessmen hang out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 08:19 PM
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are a lot of your friends in relationships? Yeah. I’m definitely the Quentin of most of my social circles (if you haven’t watched The Best Man, I highly recommend it).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 07:10 AM
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I always appreciate your comments Sheila. You seem like a really good person.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 07:07 AM
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but I've noticed modern hollywood now only mentions the red pill when they want a comic relief or stereotype character. I find that somewhat interesting. I get what you’re saying, but I also think media in general is more of a mixed bag than you think. Even in movies where the shy nerd ends up with the popular girl, the popular girl ends up going for the shy nerd because she saw evidence of his strength (i.e. successfully standing up to a bully in more grounded works, or saving the city with his…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 06:58 AM
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Once again using this thread as a diary; for reasons you'll get in a second, I can't talk about this stuff in real life. Do any of you ever feel like your friends do like you, but you care about them more than they care about you? That's sorta how I'm feeling right now. I'll always have people I can reach out to to go watch the game or get a drink with, but I also often find myself feeling like I'm not important to them; an afterthought. A "This would be fun, if there's time" on the travel itine…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 09:26 PM
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The main thing for me is her demonstrated affection. Sex is one way to do that, but it's not the only way. If we haven't had sex by the third date, I would need to see her doing things like planning/paying for a date herself, offering to cook me a meal, or bringing me a small gift.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 08:19 PM
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Nah. A lot of them were partnered or lesbians.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 06:35 PM
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I was suicidal for a bit. One of the reasons I'm still here today is because a lot of the women in my life (family and friends) rallied around me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 06:00 PM
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I slightly envy the dudes who do well on dating apps. If you were to see a lineup of the ten most attractive women I've been with (without knowing what I look like), you would probably think "Dang, this dude must be a pretty good-looking guy". However, if you were to just look at the number of matches I get off the apps, you would probably think "Dang, this guy is either ugly or he has something psychotic in his bio." My female friends have all told me that my profiles are decent, so I know it's…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 05:58 PM
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My parents did the same with me, and I honestly don't think it helped. Primarily made me better at hiding things and lying on the fly.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 12:42 AM
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I’d actually argue that there are certain benefits to being a good person: FWBs who leave with a positive impression of you will oftentimes recommend you to their friends (assuming you’re decent at sex). People liking you will make them want to hang out with you more and invite you to more things, increasing the pool of people you have access to. Actually being friends with the people you sleep with is nice, and the quality of sex is generally better. Sure, you can certainly get more hookups by …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 09:36 PM
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I actually do think that everyone needs a religion of some sort; it’s just that not every religion needs to have supernatural aspects to it. How do we define what is good? What’s bad? What should we aspire to? What’s your place in your society, in your world? You don’t need to believe in anything supernatural to have a framework you believe in and can use to answer these questions. To give a real life example, I’d argue that a lot of hardcore Marxists are more religious than most of the believer…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 09:21 PM
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I saw someone tweet “Drake may have lost that beef harder than any other rapper has lost a beef, and that includes the rappers who got murdered.”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 09:13 AM
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Fuck it, there should be male romance Writers writing books that cater to the male fantasy. Japan seems to have that market on lock. There are literally hundreds of manga and light novels about 3-8 gorgeous, interesting women competing for the attention of some random average dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 09:10 AM
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Yeah; you’re right.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 06:44 AM
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There’s a high likelihood she leaves for a PhD program at a school far away. She actually broke up with her last boyfriend because he was doing a PhD program in a school far away- there wasn’t any intimacy, and he didn’t really have time for their relationship. She also doesn’t want kids, while I definitely want them eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 05:59 AM
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I’m not actually going to do that mind you. Liking someone you know it will never work with is just a tough position.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 05:34 AM
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I have once again been confronted with my own self-sabotaging behavior in relationships. I feel like I’ve gotten a bit too attached to a FWB of mine, and I’ve been resisting the urge to block her and never speak to her again/do something to otherwise detonate our little situation. She’s done absolutely nothing wrong and has largely been a good friend to me, but there’s a part of my brain that says: “Of course cutting her off wouldn’t be ideal, but surely it’s better to shoot someone before they …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 05:27 AM
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Lobster rolls are so expensive. Yes, I get that the market price of lobster dictates how much they cost, but who can afford to drop $30 on a sandwich?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:46 PM
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It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. Let’s imagine that I tell someone “You will meet your soulmate on June 7th, 2025,” and they fully believe me. You can bet your ass they’ll be googling singles events that are happening on that date. They’ll exercise constantly in the months leading up to the promised day. They’ll pick out their most stylish outfit to wear. And when that day comes, they’ll strike up conversation with anyone who seems even marginally interested. After all, any of those people could…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 08:16 AM
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Top tier movie
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 06:48 AM
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Yeah. The leaked text messages seem pretty damning.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 06:47 AM
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A lot of dedicated athletes fall into the “slightly ugly, fire bod” category. Those guys seem to do pretty well from what I’ve observed (even the ones who don’t compete at a semi-pro/pro level).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 06:47 AM
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Is there a reason why? Various. I’ve never really viewed you as particularly unlikeable I appreciate that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 09:26 AM
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I do my best to hold things together, but I’ve also realized I hate pretty much every aspect of myself. Part of my brain says I’m being too hard on myself and I should calm down, but the other part says that the first part is trying to let me off the hook and I’m right to feel that way (as is everyone else). Fun times. I take pride in being relatively self-aware, but self-awareness is of course limited by our own minds.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 09:18 AM
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yeah! It’s a Halloween party, so you gotta wear a Halloween costume.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 02:24 AM
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One of my friends throws a Halloween themed party every spring; she calls it “Half-o-Ween”. I think we should normalize keeping the holiday spirit, even when it’s not in season.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 01:34 AM
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Honestly, Marvel's been solid lately. They've had some misses for sure (Thor 4, Eternals, Quantumania, The Marvels), but Shang-Chi, No Way Home, Black Panther 2, Guardians 3, and Deadpool & Wolverine were all good to excellent. Haven't had the chance to get to the newer tv shows yet, but I've heard mostly good things about Echo and Agatha.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 09:33 PM
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It looks good, but my main worry is that there are too many characters in it. They're trying to do a whole new Superman, Lois Lane, and Lex Luthor, while simultaneously introducing Hawkgirl, Green Lantern, Mr. Terrific, Metamorpho, and the Authority. James Gunn has shown that he can work with a big ensemble (Guardians of the Galaxy, The Suicide Squad), but it'd be weird if this were less of a "Superman movie" and more of a "movie with Superman in it".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 09:04 PM
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Well, it'll get there eventually if you don't cut it. Hopefully it gets down there by next December!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 08:56 PM
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I assume you can get down to armpit length sooner if you straighten it? Curly hair down to the armpits sounds like it would take forever to grow.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 08:51 PM
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Seems easy enough (assuming your hair and eyelashes grow at a normal rate).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 08:48 PM
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Can you give me some examples of personality traits?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 06:40 PM
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I mean, if you’re paying someone to provide a service, it seems wrong to get mad at them for providing that service. It’d be like beating up your personal trainer because they’re making you do hard exercises.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 05:32 PM
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I’m a good Christian boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 05:09 PM
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Are their personalities good for attracting women? Yeah. Are their personalities good for running a country/staying out of prison/contributing positively to society? No. Different personality traits are good in different situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 05:01 PM
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Only one commented on it; I told her before because she was 6’1. She thought it was funny. I’ve done alright for myself on the apps- the girls I’ve gotten with off of them either didn’t notice or liked me enough that they were willing to overlook it. Perhaps some of my unsuccessful dates noticed, but I’ve got no way of knowing if that was their issue or if something else was.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:59 PM
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Are confidence, assertiveness, good humor, and charisma not personality traits?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:54 PM
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When I showed my dating profile to my female friends, they all agreed I should list myself as 6’0 instead of 5’10 (and change). Their logic was that if I put my actual height in my profile, a lot of women would assume I was 5’8 and swipe left on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:50 PM
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Personality is the MOST relevant thing, mon ami. It’s just that the personality traits that make you a good person and the personality traits that make you an attractive person aren’t always the same. A man who is passive, meek, and awkward will always do poorly with women, regardless of whether he treats people well or not. Meanwhile, a man who is assertive, confident, funny, and charismatic will do great with women, regardless of whether he treats people well or not. A person saying “assholes …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:45 PM
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Something I’ve noticed recently: Some women will say they will only accept certain qualities in a man (i.e. 6 feet or taller, six-figure salary, etc). However, when you look at the men they actually end up dating, they are…not quite what she sayd she was looking for. I have one friend who will go on and on about her high standards, and then pull up to the function with the brokest, bummiest, most 5’8 dudes you’ve seen in your entire life. She will defend them to death when you point out that she…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:39 PM
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You misunderstand. Women aren’t attracted to shitty personalities; they’re attracted to certain traits that some shitty guys have (confidence, assertiveness, rebelliousness, etc). Note that none of those qualities are things a good person can’t also have.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:34 PM
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New Year Goals: Start getting a minimum of 6 hours of sleep a night consistently. Develop a sustainable daily routine. Have $25k total in savings by the end of the year. Read 26 books. Finish writing my novel. Pick three new skills that I’m intimidated by to start learning. Attend church more regularly. Train for and run a half marathon. Reduce my alcohol consumption. Get promoted at work.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:08 PM
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In my experience, most women don't actually know what 6 feet looks like. Estimating the height of things that are taller than you is difficult. I'm 5'10 and change, but just say I'm 6 foot on dating apps, and I've never had a girl comment on it (I was told by my female friends to do this so that girls don't assume I'm 5'8). Either they don't notice or I'm charming enough that they choose not to notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 05:12 AM
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We all have things that we dislike about our bodies that nobody else really notices unless you point it out to them. If the guy didn’t find you at least somewhat attractive, he wouldn’t want to have sex with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 11:39 PM
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Humans have always been happy to cheer on violence when it’s directed at people or institutions they don’t like.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 09:48 PM
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B. I’m in my mid-20s, and I already feel weird when girls who are 18-20 show interest in me. I feel like 26/27 would be my floor when I’m 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 06:24 PM
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This is what I try to get across to people a lot. There are “fun assholes” who are charismatic, irreverent, and daring. These guys will get lots of female attention. On the flipside, there are “creepy assholes” who give off what could best be described as “school shooter energy”. Most girls will avoid these sorts. “Nice” isn’t an inherently attractive trait, sure. However, “dickhead” isn’t an inherently attractive trait either. There are guys who are nice and attractive. There are guys who are n…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 07:20 AM
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I wonder if it’s possible that there’s a wide variety of opinions, biases, and worldviews in a group of 4.1 billion people 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 07:11 AM
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It can be done well or poorly, but I think it’s fun when it’s done well. A lot of the most vocal anti-dyed hair folks are right wingers who associate it with liberal and/or feminist views; I think that’s the main reason some people bash it online.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 08:41 PM
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Whatcha reading?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 06:59 PM
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Some of my more memorable ones (all different people): I accidentally ate an edible brownie right before because I thought the date was the next day (it was not). She insisted I take her to this restaurant that wasn’t particularly close to where either of us lived, and was being super forward/affectionate while we were there. Turns out her ex was the bartender at that restaurant, and she wanted to make him angry. I asked a friend of a friend if she wanted to grab lunch because our mutual friend …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 06:40 PM
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We love an economical king! Why pay $15 for a cocktail at a restaurant when you can BYOB (bring your own bourbon) instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 06:29 PM
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Happy birthday man! Hope it's a great one; buy yourself something nice!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 02:39 PM
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Interesting; I'll have to look at that article in more detail later. My initial response would be that I'd wager that the majority of the single women who don't have casual sex don't have it because they don't want to (which makes sense; casual sex is riskier for the ladies, a lot of guys aren't very good at it anyway, and promiscuity is looked upon more harshly for women than it is for men). Of the single men who aren't having casual sex, I imagine that most aren't having it because they have a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 02:34 PM
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It's from a sci-fi/fantasy franchise.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 02:23 PM
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I think it’s pretty clear that a minority of guys are having the majority of casual sex (and I’m speaking as a guy in that minority). While this does add up to a good number of guys getting laid, this group is vastly outnumbered by the guys who are able but not willing to have casual sex (dudes who prefer LTRs or are saving themselves for marriage), guys who are willing but not able (guys whose personalities aren’t enough to make up for their lack of physical attractiveness), and guys who are ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:23 AM
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Tell her to see the same dermatologist I saw when I had a dandruff problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:28 PM
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You’ve got plenty of time. A lot of the guys your age who aren’t serious people right now are going to develop into great prospects in their mid to late 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 08:44 PM
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There are some combinations of eye/hair/skin color I find really attractive, but I don’t really have a preference for eye color alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:22 PM
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About how old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:19 PM
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The thing I’ve noticed about radfem misandrist types is that they’re more upset with men as a concept than they are with men themselves. An FWB of mine complains about men all the time and self-identifies as a radical feminist, but will drop a “well you’re different” whenever she does it around me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:19 PM
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While there are certain majors that I would only recommend if you’re thinking of going into academia and/or are rich enough to not need a real job, communications isn’t one of them. There’s lots of things you can do with a comms degree, especially if you went to a reputable school.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:56 PM
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I’d argue that there is no such thing as “useless” degrees; there are only useless people: If your goal is to go to law school, you’re better off picking a reading-heavy major like history or philosophy than you would be with something like engineering. Furthermore, if you’re interested in a career that requires extensive networking or volunteer work (such as politics/government), you’ll want a major that doesn’t require to spend too much time working on problem sets in the library (such as poli…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:52 PM
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Agreed. Unless the strip club you’re at is doing something very illegal (which to be fair, I imagine that a solid percentage of them are), you’re just paying to blue ball yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 02:15 AM
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Fair enough 😂. I wouldn’t be considering asking that if it were a serious relationship, but since we both know it’s just for fun, it got me thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 01:55 AM
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How do I ask my FWB in a subtle way if a threesome with another girl is something she would be interested in? She’s bi, but on a few occasions has lamented that she hasn’t had the chance to be with very many women. I’ve never had a threesome before, and think it would be an interesting experience if she’s down for it, but also don’t want to make her upset if she’s not into the idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 09:53 PM
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I want to start doing ballroom dance classes, but I have to come to terms with the fact that for the first few classes at least, I’m going to look like an idiot. I’ll psych myself up for it eventually, but shit is hard 😂.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 06:06 PM
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Predators often look to take advantage of those who are least capable of fighting back. Shit is sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 11:29 PM
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The problem with requiring tests to vote is that because humans are the way they are, the testing system would inevitably be hijacked by one faction or another to make it easier for their supporters and more difficult for their opponents.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 04:33 AM
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Anyway, speaking as a guy who does decent with women despite having a kinda funny-looking face, I’d have to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 04:26 AM
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and that's what their actions show What? Whose actions?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 04:24 AM
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TIL being over 6 feet tall with a physique most dudes couldn’t dream of makes you a 4. Huh.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 04:22 AM
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He’s tall and shredded; even if he’s got an average to below average face, I’d argue that he’s still in the upper echelons of male attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 04:20 AM
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I think that’s normal. Just as many women would get turned on from their partner showering them with fancy gifts/experiences, many men would get turned on from coming home to find their girl in a sexy outfit ready to serve them their favorite foods for dinner. Everyone likes to be treated like royalty now and then.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 02:44 AM
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Nah; I’m an equal opportunity guy. I’ve dated girls of all races (though I have noticed that Jewish women specifically seem to have a thing for me).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 01:42 AM
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He was also a right winger, in addition to not being attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 01:36 AM
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Go!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 08:46 PM
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There’s no one answer to this, I’m afraid. Every woman is different- some women will flirt with anything that moves, even if they’re not interested in 99% of the people they flirt with. Other women will give you almost no indicators of interest at all, and then tell you years later that they had the biggest crush on you. To tell for sure if a woman is in into you or not, you need a baseline of what her usual behavior is like. If a chick who’s normally very reserved becomes very chatty around you…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 04:27 AM
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True. That being said, plenty of people think they’ve found the perfect person and end up getting divorced a decade or two down the line.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 02:22 AM
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If you’re rich enough, there are things you can do about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 02:18 AM
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I’m getting to the age where I’m starting to have to seriously think about my future. I want to get married 3-7 years from now (which means I need to find my person within ~5 years), but I still feel like I’m not where I want to be in a bunch of different areas of life. And even when I think I’ve found my person, how will I know that she’s the right one? My brain is very good at casting doubt on any decision I try to make. Where am I gonna live? Am I on the right career track? What am I not doin…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 02:12 AM
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I’m curious; what do you like about your GF? I see you complaining about her a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 02:05 AM
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I’ve known plenty of “bad boys” who struggled with women. The main thing is that they were “bad” in a way that women found creepy and off-putting, rather than bad in a way that women found exciting and rebellious.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 06:44 PM
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Depends on the scenario. If it’s at some sort of networking event or you mentioned that you were looking for someone who provides the goods/services that he sells, then no. Otherwise he probably is flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:35 PM
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If it’s an anime-esque/Curb Your Enthusiasm-esque situation where the universe had apparently conspired to make it look like I was cheating, then I’d understand the accusation and would try to explain it to them. Otherwise, I’d have to interrogate further as to why they were so distrustful of me and potentially leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:33 PM
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Deloitte is a professional services firm (accounting, consulting, legal, etc). The most well known companies of its type are McKinsey, Bain, and BCG.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 10:58 PM
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Not necessarily. An old FWB of mine described me to a friend as “a super sweet guy and an absolute dork”. That was 9 months of some of the best sex I’ve ever had. I think you err in thinking that “being a gentleman” and “being hot” are connected. You can be a gentleman and be incredibly sexy, or not sexy at all. You can be a “bad boy” who gets tons of chicks, or one who all the girls avoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 09:54 PM
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I’m talking about what most people find attractive. So conventionally attractive people? Right. I specifically said up front that guys like Barry are unconventionally attractive- they have folks drooling over them in spite of the fact that their features aren’t ones that are traditionally favored. But even if we accept the thesis that guys like that are only popular because of social media, that social media trend of thirsting over them had to start somewhere. Some women saw Barry/Adam/Pete befo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 09:48 PM
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To be fair, straight/bi men outnumber bi/lesbian women by a factor of 9:1. A bi woman has a LOT more men in her dating pool than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 09:22 PM
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Bisexual women seem to really like me for some reason, so I’ve dated plenty. Never had any issues with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 09:17 PM
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There are. Plenty of great looking guys with legions of female fans who are shorter than 5’8 too (Tom Cruise, Bruno Mars, Usher, Kit Harrington, etc). They surmounted the disadvantage. As much as women like them now, they would have had even more women into them if they were 6’2.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 09:13 PM
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I’m speaking in relative terms. If I were to take a 6’4 guy with movie star good looks and pit him against a 4/10 woman in a contest of “Who can sleep with the most people in a week?” with $10 million dollars on the line, the 4/10 woman would have such a commanding lead within two days that I would likely have to invoke the mercy rule. Women will almost always have more options than guys do.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 09:05 PM
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Go ask the guys on one of the BBW fetish subreddits which women they find to be attractive. The answer likely will not surprise you, even though their answer is one that most guys would disagree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:59 PM
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And I’m saying this as a white person. “How’s the water?” I said to the fish. “Water? What’s that?” the fish replied, swimming away. The fact that you’re white is probably the reason why you don’t notice these sorts of things. Speaking as someone who does pretty well with women, I have to be much better than my white counterparts if I want to pull the same quality of women (unless I’m trying to date Black women, in which case I have an advantage over other guys). Whiteness is fetishized to a lar…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:57 PM
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I don’t think there’s such a thing as “objectively attractive”. By definition, attractiveness is about perception. There are societies where being obese was/is seen as an attractive quality (Google “Leblouh” if you’re curious about that). And as I noted before, there was a very recent point in time where being unhealthily skinny was seen as attractive. Now, there are certainly people who are conventionally attractive (as in the majority of people consider them to be attractive), but that doesn’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:47 PM
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I’m not trying to do apples to apples; I’m trying to think of traits a woman could have that would give her a notable but not insurmountable disadvantage in the dating scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:35 PM
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Just like clothes go in and out of style, types of people go in and out of style as well. The early 2000s were all about women trying to be skinny as possible, until society decided that big butts were better in the 2010s. Now the pendulum is starting to swing the other direction again.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:32 PM
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Being a 5’8 guy is a disadvantage, but not a fatal one. I’d say that the equivalent for a woman would be having a great body but less-than symmetrical face (not quite ugly, but definitely not pretty either).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:25 PM
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Yup. Sis needs to go hang out at a bar in a part of town with lots of expensive apartment complexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:23 PM
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After Saltburn came out, my Twitter feed was full of women thirsting over Barry Keoghan. “Unconventionally attractive” is tricky to pull off, but there’s certainly a market for it (see also: women thirsting over Adam Driver or Pete Davidson)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:21 PM
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Most of the people celebrating aren’t celebrating that a man is dead; they’re celebrating that someone took action against a system they have been victimized by and/or feel powerless against. For other examples, see the semi-ironic IRA support in various corners of the internet, or the response of the Chinese public to Shinzo Abe’s death.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 11:25 PM
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Just gotta remember that even the hottest girls are the same species as you. They've had nasty cases of diarrhea. They had cringy phases in middle school. They lie awake in bed and think about that one super embarrassing thing they did all those years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 10:02 PM
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If someone is able to get medical procedures to the point where nobody can distinguish them from a cis member of their gender without an x-ray machine, then for all intents and purposes, they are that gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 09:58 PM
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Race is made up, to be fair. Ethnicity is certainly a real thing, but race is something that only exists because we believed hard enough in it. If you could go back in time and tell an Ancient Roman that he was the same type of person as the Gauls, he would be very confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 09:54 PM
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Life Pro Tip: If you have friends that are chronically late, tell them that something starts 30-60 minutes before it actually does. I planned a celebratory dinner for some of my friends tonight, but told them the reservation was 30 minutes earlier than it actually was. Lo and behold, a whole bunch of text messages saying “Hey Anon, sorry- I’m running late” are popping up on my phone now. Little do they know that they are actually on time!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 11:57 PM
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Social contract and all that. You don’t have to show compassion and empathy for others if you don’t want to, but in not doing so you are actively making society worse for everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 01:02 AM
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Shameless was top tier television. Haven’t seen her in much outside of that though…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 11:18 PM
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True success is found not in working hard, but in getting lots of other people to work hard on your behalf (see Steve Jobs, arguably Elon).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 04:10 PM
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If you’re okay with the status quo, you’re not who OP’s post was directed at.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 04:07 PM
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Building a following on Substack or Twitter while you improve your looks and stage presence would unironically be one of the best ways to become an influencer.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 05:34 AM
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Some of us aren’t interested in “improving” ourselves as if we’re a product to be focus tested and sold. Well, what are you interested in doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 05:27 AM
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Here’s the thing though. All of the things OP mentioned: Getting in shape Going out with friends regularly Having cool experiences to post on social media Talking to folks and building out your social network would make your life better even if you didn’t see any change in the amount of female attention you receive (which is unlikely, but still).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 10:38 PM
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I know the feeling, unfortunately. Best thing to do in my experience is to interpret “mixed signals” as “no”, and behave accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 05:47 AM
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What’s got you down?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 05:36 AM
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That wasn’t very nice of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 06:04 PM
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To recycle an old comment of mine: It’s about male attention, but it also isn’t. To illustrate what I mean, imagine the following scenario. Arthur and Bill are both happily married men, and have no desire to ever cheat on or leave their wives. The two go drinking together one night, and for the entire time, women are approaching Bill, telling him how handsome he is, and trying to give him their numbers. Bill, being happily married, has no interest in any of these women and brushes all of them of…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 06:01 PM
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Dang- what's your signature dish? I think the biggest sticking point here is that I absolutely want kids and she adamantly doesn't. On top of that, her family is kinda racist, and I'm not sure I would want those folks as my in-laws/grandparents to any potential children I may have, so I'm reasonably sure she's not the one.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 02:15 PM
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We did clearly define things up front as a friends with benefits situation when this started, so hopefully we can avoid the situationship trap. Still though, I enjoy celebrating holidays, and I think I'd enjoy celebrating with her if the status quo holds.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 02:11 PM
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We had a discussion about boundaries and expectations when this started a couple months ago, and we both agreed that we wouldn't work out long term for a number of reasons. Still though, I'm a romantic at heart, and I think Valentine's Day is fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 02:08 PM
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Anxiety is a beautiful thing (occasionally).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 02:05 PM
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Q4A: Is it weird to make Valentine’s Day plans with a FWB you know you’re not going to end up with at the end of the day? (i.e. going a romantic date, flowers/candy, etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 01:33 PM
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As long as you’re using protection, I don’t see it as an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 06:45 PM
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If it’s not causing you any problems, you’re free to drink a gallon a day if you like.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 06:43 PM
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Writing for sure. Absolutely love it. Unfortunately, it’s tough to make a living as a writer, so I’m not pursuing it full time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 05:18 PM
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I really admire people who are able to fully commit themselves to one thing (dancing, boxing, music, cooking, etc). I’m sure there are things I could become elite tier at if I were to center every part of my life around them, but there’s so many things I want to try…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 04:12 PM
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Yup. If that’s too easy for you, pick a more complicated sequence.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 04:09 PM
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Take a deep breath, then count backwards from 200 by 7. Sounds weird, but it works for me when I catch myself spiraling.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 04:07 PM
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People who are strongly in favor of traditional gender roles tend to put more effort into performing the expectations of those roles. As such, a lot of right wingers get obsessed with physical fitness (oftentimes including steroids). However, I don’t think your premise is entirely correct. Many traditionally masculine men are staunch Democrats (i.e. LeBron James) while many men who aren’t traditionally masculine are on the right (i.e. Ben Shapiro).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 12:02 AM
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You’ve never seen a guy spend all his time and money trying to impress a hard-drinking party girl over a quiet religious chick?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 10:18 PM
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Closer to some than others. I feel like you older you get, the more irrelevant they become to you (and you to them). In the end, what really remains is your parents or if you're the parent, your kids This is oftentimes true, but this is also something that’s within your power to change. Ask friends/family to have lunch. Invite them over to watch the game. Give them a call when they achieve something cool. Relationships take effort, but oftentimes less effort than you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 09:11 PM
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I’m curious- as a lesbian, how do you let women know that you’re flirting with them as opposed to the normal way women compliment each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 09:06 PM
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It’s almost like one gender’s orgasm is necessary for reproduction and thus more easily obtained than the other gender’s 🤔.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 12:37 PM
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6 inches isn’t average, but I do think that what most girls THINK is 6 inches is average. Speaking from experience, women tend to overestimate length by a inch or so, sometimes by 2 if you’re on the bigger side. Most pornstars are in the 7-8 inch range
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 12:36 PM
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A lot of guys suck at sex, unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 12:28 PM
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ENTP
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 11:35 PM
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Depends on how bitter the divorce is. If it was an amicable split, then no. If I caught her having an affair with my best friend or something, I don't think I'd be inclined towards mercy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 09:28 PM
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Telling your girl what she can and can't wear is only going to breed resentment. Guys should date women who already act the way they want them to, not try to force change upon someone who doesn't want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 09:21 PM
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Many such cases! I think the reason for this dynamic is that the non-white partner may feel (real or imagined) judgement from their community for dating a white person. As such, they feel the need to prove that they're still "for the culture" by being outspoken about their supposed dislike of white folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 09:17 PM
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It’s about male attention, but it also isn’t. To illustrate what I mean, imagine the following scenario. Arthur and Bill are both happily married men, and have no desire to ever cheat on or leave their wives. One night, the two go drinking together, and for the entire evening, women are approaching Bill, telling him how handsome he is, and trying to give him their numbers. Bill, being happily married, has no interest in any of these women and brushes all of them off. Arthur, however, is ignored-…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 10:55 AM
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I go to the club primarily to dance and listen to music with friends, though it's always a bonus if I meet a cute girl . As long as I pregame sufficiently and have the right crew with me, I'd say it's usually a worthwhile use of my time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 06:10 AM
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I don’t think it’s that women inherently prefer extroverted personalities. It’s more that extroverted guys are more likely to strike up conversations with women, and are therefore usually get more practice/experience than their introverted counterparts. Dating is a skill like any other, and the more practice you get, the better you’ll usually do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 08:04 PM
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What’s your GPA/SAT/ACT?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 10:14 PM
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Virgo. I’d say yes. People tend to think I’m more serious and organized than I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 10:14 PM
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Iconic! Don’t take your foot off the gas.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 10:13 PM
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Most commonly at parties, sporting events, or bars/clubs, but you’ll see cases elsewhere too. In my experience, you just need to find an “in” to start a conversation. Once you’ve done that (if the girl seems smiley and engaged in the conversation) you can ask for her number and/or social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 12:22 AM
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It’s pretty common, especially in college. I’ve done it a few times.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 12:15 AM
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Every guy is going to have different preferences, but some I think would be on every guy’s list: Facial symmetry Pretty smile Clear skin Well-proportioned body Big eyes
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 11:25 PM
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I’ve noticed a significant number of what I call “vultures” during my 20s- men and women who look for attractive people in rocky relationships. This way, they can quickly swoop in once that relationship fails. Had a solid handful of women crawl out of the woodwork after I broke up with my last gf.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 11:23 PM
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What qualities are you looking for?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 11:15 PM
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I mean, yeah. If an attractive woman in her 20s is looking to settle down, she’ll have no shortage of options, and it’s more likely than not that at least one of those options will be to her liking.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 11:10 PM
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I’m nearly 6 feet tall and pretty muscular. If there’s a woman who was built like that at my office, I’d be asking her out instead of the coworker who walked in on me. D1 baby time!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 06:42 PM
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Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 08:46 PM
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I lurk on the Love is Blind subreddit sometimes; the FBi should be trying to recruit the folks over there. Internet detectives of the highest caliber.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 06:23 PM
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They don’t need to share all my political views, but there’s some core values I won’t compromise on. I’d be fine with any woman to left of the center and to the right of the tankies.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 03:43 PM
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They’re as much bigots as the dudes quoting Future lyrics when they get broken up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 03:09 PM
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I'd argue that they're similar statements, given that they tend to pop up in similar contexts (dating woes). They’re not literally angry at the whole gender, just one or more particular members of that gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 12:47 PM
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Good for your friend; I’ve mentioned the scene to a few women I know irl, and almost all of them reflexively defended Daphne and dismissed what happened to Simon.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 08:05 AM
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I’m not really pressed about that. However, I did neglect to mention a more subtle and more insidious type of misandry I’ve noticed over recent years, and that’s the idea that men aren’t capable of feeling emotional pain in the same way that women are. I bring up this example a lot on here (I realize it can be tiresome, but it’s very useful for examining a number of social dynamics), but let’s take a look at the tv show Bridgerton. In one episode of the series, the female lead rapes her male lov…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 08:01 AM
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I have plenty of female friends who will often say things to the tune of “Men are trash” usually in response to some romantic misfortune. This is generally accompanied by blasting one of Olivia Rodrigo, Taylor Swift, Megan Thee Stallion or Ashnikko (depending on their demographic and level of anger/sadness). How many of them actually mean it? Not many, I don’t think. Most of these girls have brothers, fathers, friends, and boyfriends they absolutely adore.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 07:50 AM
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Sometimes folks just aren’t compatible. Nothing wrong with walking away if that’s the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 04:34 AM
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Plenty of men have fantasies of power and dominance too, but most of the tradwife related content I see online is posted by women. Perhaps I’m just looking in the wrong places.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 04:32 AM
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As u/sillysheila said, I think it genuinely is a fetish for some women. There’s a scene in Euphoria where Sydney Sweeney’s character is fantasizing about the guy she’s seeing, and imagines herself telling him “You can tell me what to wear…and what I can eat…and who I’m allowed to talk to…” I can’t say how widespread that particular fantasy of submission is, but I have encountered it a handful of times with the women I’ve dated.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 04:27 AM
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Some of these are pretty intuitive (doesn’t reciprocate, drug addict, mixed signals), and some are aligned with my personal preferences (I don’t like girls who are too passive or have poor conversation skills), but I disagree with most of it: “Insecure” is generally a much better indicator of bad behavior than “big ego”. What does “withholds femininity” even mean? What’s wrong with playing video games? I could go on, but this tier list doesn’t seem like it was made by a serious person.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 04:23 AM
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Each to his own. What are some movies you *do* enjoy?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 09:43 PM
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Hey, you had a fumble. It happens to all of us occasionally, and it probably won't be the last time it happens to you either. Don't let it get to you; just get ready for the next time you've got a shot with a cute girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 09:42 PM
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I've seen a lot of great stuff this year. Some of my favorites from 2024: - The Zone of Interest - Monkey Man - Late Night with the Devil - Speak No Evil - The Substance - Anora
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 09:39 PM
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they often do *extra stuff* if you get them in a vip lounge or some other private area of the club That's the "very illegal" bit. they're sex workers just like OF models. why do men watch porn? bc it fulfills their fantasies? duh Well yeah, but watching porn is free. A night at the strip club seems expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 02:44 AM
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What's the appeal for you? You just appreciate the athleticism on display?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 02:40 AM
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If it's an FWB or a long-term partner, of course. It's good to know what your partner likes, what they don't like, and what they might be interested in trying. I personally recommend the Carnal Calibration quiz- you and your partner each check off which scenarios/kinks you would be interested in exploring, and at the end it gives you a list of the things both of you indicated interest in. That way, if you checked off something embarrassing, your partner will never know that you did (unless they'…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 02:35 AM
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I never really understood the point of strip clubs. Like, unless the club you're at is doing something *very* illegal, it just seems like you're paying to blueball yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 02:29 AM
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Why would anyone think that’s racist?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 11:42 AM
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That’s just the most vivid example, but ask most women who engage in casual sex, and they’ll tell you a story about a time where a guy they would have slept with ruined the moment by saying something awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 07:52 PM
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I don’t think me throwing up on her shoes would be considered a dumb remark 😂. On a side note though, waiting too long to make your move can also be an attraction killer. I’ve found that “strike while the iron is hot” is a good rule of thumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 07:48 PM
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I’ve had women who straight up told me they wanted to sleep with me that I ended up not sleeping with because I said/did something dumb at the last second. Would they have overlooked it if I was hotter? I mean, maybe. But the evidence would suggest that attraction can be fumbled in an instant.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 07:38 PM
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Let me give a more illustrative example. Imagine twin brothers, both 5/10 in their appearance. We’ll call them Allen and Bill. Allen becomes skilled at making people laugh, has excellent fashion sense, and gets a high paying job right out of college. He uses his salary to travel and have other cool experiences, which he documents on social media. Bill, meanwhile, doesn’t like people much and prefers to stay home. He makes an average income and doesn’t pay much attention to clothes or grooming. D…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 07:33 PM
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Looks are absolutely important; you can get away with a LOT of bullshit if you’re hot enough. That being said, it’s more than possible to make up for deficiencies in the looks department (to a point) by excelling in other ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 07:26 PM
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Define “DEI” in this context.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 07:24 PM
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They’re absolutely terrifying, and I don’t blame any woman for being terrified. That being said, there are places with tougher abortion restrictions than the United States, and children are still born there.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 04:59 PM
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I'm sure that's happening with a handful of people, but I don't buy that it's happening to a significant degree. If you're a woman and you wanted children prior, I doubt that a bad administration taking power would suddenly change your mind (unless you secretly wanted an excuse to not have children anyway).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 07:03 AM
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"Not voting for your sisters to have their rights stripped away" is a baseline. More is needed to truly be considered a catch. (Though on the flipside, if you're hoping to date an aspiring tradwife who voted Trump, then voting Trump probably suits your goals just fine. Better make sure you're making a solid income though- she is not going to want to work.)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 06:59 AM
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Indeed. Telling her what she wants to hear is the better move in 90%+ of cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 04:02 AM
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Sis is definitely out of line to say that in front of him, but I don't think the critique is unfounded. If they are legitimately just friends, I don't fault her at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 03:50 AM
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I'm agreeing lol. South Korea and Japan wonder why their birthrates are falling off a cliff and then make zero changes to their work cultures.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 03:29 AM
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Wait, are you saying that forcing men to work inhumane hours at the office and then pressuring them to drink excessively makes them less likely to date?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 03:25 AM
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This is the correct take, imo. Guys who were already doing well with women will continue doing well with women. Guys who were not doing well with women will continue to not do well with women. And women in relationships are not going to leave their partners over a TikTok trend (unless they were already planning on leaving anyway).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 03:21 AM
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My goal when I'm old is to look like [Ernie Hudson](https://people.com/ernie-hudson-says-its-nice-to-be-noticed-at-age-78-exclusive-8622499). Dude is three years younger than Joe Biden and still looks better than a lot of 40 year olds I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 11:44 PM
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Q4W: Which of these two guys would you prefer? Alex: Quick-witted, charming, the life of every social event. Known to be a bit of a ladies' man, but emphasizes that he'd be willing to settle down for the right person. Thinks most people take life way too seriously. Wins friends easily, and enjoys both hosting and attending parties. Tom: Quiet and reserved, but thoughtful and highly intelligent. Has only had a handful of relationships with women in his life, and takes commitment incredibly seriou…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 11:42 PM
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Honestly, I don’t think the 4B thing is serious. I doubt any of the women planning on participating in that were planning on childbirth or dating/sex with men anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 08:33 PM
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I think the biggest issue with the Democrats this election is that they lost control of the information environment. Inflation is on the downswing, border interceptions are up, and crime is down, but a lot of people voted for Trump because he told them that those things weren’t true (even though they demonstrably are).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 08:26 PM
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Honestly, it feels like the right has been talking about trans people far more than people on the left have. They’re a convenient boogeyman to get the base riled up.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 08:24 PM
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Not from EG, but his nickname is “Bello” which means “good looking”.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 07:40 PM
2

Few different methods: - Wealthy parents that give them a very long leash - Dating rich dudes - Credit card debt
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 05:56 PM
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Your donations to our champagne and resort fund are appreciated.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 05:27 PM
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Top 1%
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 05:25 PM
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Depends on a few things, but some general predictions for the next four years: - Palestinians predominantly either dead or forced into Jordan/Egypt/Lebanon - Russian invasion of Ukraine likely ends with Ukraine forced to give up a significant chunk of territory. Russia continues expanding influence in eastern europe. - Tax cuts that heavily benefit the wealthy. - Austerity measures and the gutting of many social programs. - Education is mega-fucked. - Prices go up even more as a result of tariff…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 05:23 PM
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Got folks who make 50k a year gloating to me about how Trump won. Like, what? Me and my family are wealthy. WE are the ones benefiting from the tax cuts that Y'ALL are going to be paying for. Frightening how easy it is to get people to vote against their own self-interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 05:19 PM
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Do you think it’s moral to pretend that you’re satisfied with your partner instead of letting them find someone who fully appreciates them?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:13 AM
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You might like Buddhism. I’ve known several people who didn’t really buy into the supernatural elements of it, but still found that the philosophy of it brought them peace.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:11 AM
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Q4W inspired by the previous proposal question. Which of these would you prefer? A) Flashy and elaborate with family, friends and/or random bystanders involved. A public celebration of your love. B) Quiet, simple, and intimate. Just the two of you in a romantic place.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 09:56 PM
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I mean, if he’s proposing to you, hopefully he knows your really really well.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 09:51 PM
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I’m sure a few folks will have been killed by drop bears by the time I get over there, so it’ll balance out.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 09:39 PM
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I’m hitting up all the girls I know who have a foreign citizenship just in case things start getting really bad in the next four years. Prospective landing spots include: Australia England Canada Spain Also Venezuela, but that doesn’t seem like a great place to be right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 09:36 PM
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Agreed. “Looks don’t matter” is definitely a delusional statement, but I think “Deficiencies in the looks department can be compensated for in other ways” is a good way to view the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 09:28 PM
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You’ve never met an attractive woman with a boyfriend who inspires the reaction “Really? Him?” But true- most guys aren’t super charismatic, and social savviness is a trait that’s becoming rarer and rarer.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 09:25 PM
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I never really understood unsolicited dick pics. Even if you’re packing a baseball bat, sending it to a girl unprovoked is a very high risk for a very slim chance at a reward.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 09:22 PM
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Regardless of whether this story is true or not, I think most people have met at least one guy who wasn’t conventionally attractive, but managed to punch above his weight class using his charisma and his understanding of social dynamics. Many such cases, actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 09:20 PM
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I have a deep bass voice; think Dennis Haysbert (Black Allstate guy). A lot of people say my speech patterns remind them of Obama.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 12:17 AM
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All desire is selective. Even the thirstiest men have a floor. The core of the matter I think is that most men will see a cute girl and think “would”. Women don’t usually think “would” until the cute stranger starts talking to them. Otherwise he’s just an attractive NPC.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 12:07 AM
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Being the one who approaches (regardless of gender) always puts you in the more vulnerable position. I get why women don’t approach- I wouldn’t either if I knew I didn’t have to. Still, plenty of girls shoot themselves in the foot by refusing to take any active role in the courtship process. I have a good number of female friends who are bi/lesbian; watching them try to date other women is funny because oftentimes neither party wants to take any initiative.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 11:22 PM
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I think you’re misunderstanding the responsive sexuality idea. Go to any nightclub on the weekend, and you’ll find plenty of women hooking up with guys they just met. However, in most of these cases, the guys had to “activate” the women’s sexuality by making a gesture of pursuit (i.e. asking them to dance, buying them a drink, or striking up a flirty conversation). For a lot of women, the sexiest thing in the world is feeling desired. As such, a girl might see a 6/10 guy in the street and not pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 11:11 PM
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For fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 04:34 AM
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Plenty of them. They can be a good time!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 04:11 AM
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Lifestyle mostly. For example, a partner who needs constant attention would likely not do well with someone whose career requires them to travel frequently.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 02:33 AM
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Want to get my mental health issues under control and get a better idea of my career trajectory before I settle down. I'm only giving a woman the "girlfriend" title if I see myself with her for the long haul, so I want to make sure I'm ready for the long haul.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 02:25 AM
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What's your favorite chain restaurant?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 02:17 AM
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Who was your first fictional crush?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 02:17 AM
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Haven't been actively looking for a life partner as of late, but I don't think my list is too tall of an order.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 02:16 AM
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If you could have any wild animal as a pet, what would it be? For the purposes of this question, you can assume the animal is completely tame and that you have all the resources needed to take care of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 02:11 AM
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- Good communication skills - Being a generally good person (honest, loyal, kind, empathetic, etc) - Centrist to left wing political views - At least some of the same hobbies/interests as me - Adventurous spirit; enjoys learning new things and having new experiences. - Wants 2 kids, 3 maximum. - Spiritual/religious, but not to an obsessive degree Bonus Points if she's Black or mixed with Black. I'm honestly not too picky on appearance though- I've found myself very attracted to women with a pret…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 02:10 AM
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Aw, I appreciate it. I've done alright for myself, but I suppose I don't feel like I've got that "It Factor" that some guys seem to have. I know dudes who can go literally anywhere and have attractive women throwing themselves at them and dudes whose dating histories look like a Victoria's Secret catalog. Perhaps I'm being unrealistic. Still, even if I can't quite reach those heights, self-improvement is never a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 02:07 AM
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Some of the personal goals I have: - Drop to around 12-14% body fat. - Start getting 8 hours of sleep on a consistent basis. - Achieve a six figure income (this should be doable by next year if this promotion cycle goes well for me) - Improving my charisma stat
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 01:56 AM
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Ah, this seems fun. AMA!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 01:47 AM
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"Bad boy" in the romantic context usually means "A guy who is confident and assertive, but also rebellious and a tad irreverent." It's entirely possible to be a "bad boy" without actually breaking any laws, and equally possible to be a career criminal but fail to attain that elusive "bad boy" energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:33 AM
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A few folks on here had suggested that since men are expected to pursue, women who have low self-esteem (and are therefore more likely to let cheating slide) tend to end up in relationships far more often than men who have low self-esteem do. I think that accounts for at least some of the disparity.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 03:57 PM
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I think society would be much better off if everyone had to do 6 months in some sort of customer service job.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 12:46 AM
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Best option in the moment is to give as good as you get. Roast the guests right back. Later, have a chat with my wife about why she didn’t stick up for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 09:19 PM
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Not uncommon, I’d imagine. If you’re an attractive woman, it’s likely that you’ll have several guys trying to talk to you. If you find the guys equally attractive, but only some of them are willing to drop $400 on you, then the choice of which ones to keep and which to cut seems pretty easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 07:54 PM
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Not in a relationship at the moment, but I think for most people, the answer would be no. Not because they don’t love their current partners, but because being 10/10 attractive opens a ton of pathways that aren’t available for average people. You’ll get invited to events and parties you wouldn’t otherwise have been invited to. You might get scouted by modeling/talent agencies. People who never would have paid you any mind otherwise would go out of their way to talk with you. The way you interact…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 06:23 PM
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Is it? I usually try to get girls off with my hands/mouth first, since I’ve been told a lot of women have a hard time finishing from penetration.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 06:05 PM
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You rang?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 09:26 PM
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Ive had sex multiple times…Women do not like sex that much Skill issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 06:58 PM
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Season 2 was excellent; still need to watch Queen Charlotte/Season 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 06:18 PM
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I’d be interested in seeing this study repeated with the genders reversed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 06:15 PM
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Where I think you’re wrong is that these same women want that same alpha male to turn into a long term committed relationship at some point (mid to late twenties when they’re ready). I don’t disagree with you, but I also think that these “alpha males” who they want commitment from are often very difficult to get commitment from. After all, if you’re a highly attractive 25 year old dude with women flocking all around you, what’s your incentive to commit to just one right out of the gate? As such,…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 05:53 PM
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Food for thought: Researchers conducting this experiment, found that highest hostility towards women comes from men who perceive themselves as either very attractive or very unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 05:36 PM
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They do not like sex that much. Women LOVE sex; the way their sexuality gets activated is just different. If you can’t figure out how to activate it, it may be that you have a skill issue or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 05:13 PM
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True true; like I said, men will often play the field for a good while if they’re able to, including sleeping with women who they know they aren’t good people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 05:08 PM
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I don't 100% agree with this particular premise, but it's certainly true in some cases, and the reason why seems pretty intuitive. Many women aren't super interested in LTRs/commitment when they're younger, so it makes sense for them to date the most attractive/exciting guys they can find. When they do start looking for commitment, they start screening for qualities that they didn't screen for before, because those qualities aren't super relevant in a casual relationship. Men will often do a ver…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 07:43 AM
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There are two meanings of the word “safe” being used here. A) “Safe” as in “Stable, well-adjusted, doesn’t have serial killer vibes, not subscribed to some variety of political extremism” B) “Safe” as in “dull, predictable, NPC energy” As a guy, you definitely want girls to see you as the first kind of “safe”; you absolutely do not want them to see you as the second kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:53 AM
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I think that some people just get addicted to the honeymoon period, and seek to recreate that same rush of hormones over and over.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:36 AM
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Assuming it's not affecting my desire to be intimate with her, I wouldn't. However, I do think that being attracted to your partner is an important part of the relationship, and if I started losing my enthusiasm for sex or stopped initiating as often, then I think that she has a right to know why.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 01:11 AM
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Good to know that the core community feels that way! Most people I've spoken to irl about it either brushed it off or thought that Simon "had it coming" for lying about his circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 01:08 AM
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I'll roll with it. Plenty of women I've found attractive on the whole have had individual traits that I didn't think were so attractive. We can deal with the loose skin later if that's something she wants to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 12:50 AM
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This is like saying “Hollywood action movies prove men want to be violent and blow things up and shoot people” I think you're missing the point of this post. Hollywood action movies don't prove that men want to be violent and blow things up and shoot people, but they *do* prove that many men fantasize about being viewed as powerful, competent, and in control of their own lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 12:18 AM
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I've experienced sexual harassment/assault by women on multiple occasions. I think the biggest things women can do to help on this front are actually pretty similar to the things men should be doing- call other women out when you see them behaving badly, and take assaults against men as seriously as they would take assaults on their fellow women (fictional example, but note how almost no fans of Bridgerton perceived Daphne as a rapist, even though what she did to Simon is a pretty clear cut exam…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 12:07 AM
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I could have phrased that better. It’s less “they’re incapable of this action” and more like “it’s improper for them to perform this action”.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 02:27 PM
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“Men need to like women more” is something that insecure women say because they’re afraid of being vulnerable in a relationship. Fully opening your heart to someone involves a lot of emotional risk, but them liking you more than you like them reduces that risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 05:59 AM
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You can be seen as creepy or embarrassing when youre confident with no semblance of social grace. This is true, but I think the general point (confidence is a key element of social skills) is valid. If someone delivers a bold/flirtatious line confidently, the other person might be impressed or intrigued. If that same person were to stutter and stammer while delivering that same line, it’s unlikely that the other person will have the same reaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 05:53 AM
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I’ve dated a few women who were very big on traditional gender roles. One told me (in the early stages of dating) that she thought it was fine if men cheated on their partners occasionally, as long as they always came home to the same woman. Another insisted on doing all the dishes after a meal at my apartment because that was “women’s work”. Yet another wouldn’t let me make my own plate during an event at a cafeteria-style restaurant, because in her words “my mom would kill me if I let my man m…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 05:27 AM
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I’m moderately salty about a negative romantic experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 04:23 AM
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Reminder for the audience: Frequently when dealing with certain types of men/women in a dating context, the only winning move is not to play.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 02:53 AM
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The Hamilton line is a reference to a common saying about George W Bush.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 02:52 AM
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It varies. Sometimes I’m ready to go again right away, other times it takes 5-10 minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 12:25 AM
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Enjoy the ride; it’s a great show!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 09:02 PM
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Not my type, but definitely pretty.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 10:01 PM
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Ay, Warhammer!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 10:00 PM
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Q4 Anyone who has had friends with benefits: Did/do you actually consider them a friend (or if you’ve had multiple, did you usually actually consider them friends? Would their company still have been enjoyable if sex was off the table?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 07:37 PM
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You know what your guy would appreciate better than any of us do, but some suggestions: Cooking him his favorite dish Buying him tickets to an event/a nice accessory for his hobby/a bottle of his favorite alcohol (depending on your budget) Planning and paying for a nice date for the two of you And of course there’s sex, but I’m assuming you thought of that already.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 07:34 PM
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And if someone cheats just because of horniness and opportunity, that usually represents one of two things: Very poor impulse control, or dissatisfaction with your sex life with your partner. When we start asking the questions “Why can’t you control your impulses?” or “Why aren’t you satisfied with intimacy with your partner?” we can get to the real heart of the matter. I do agree with you in that the article can be read as overly sympathetic to cheaters though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:59 PM
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dishonorability and selfishness are the prime reasons for infidelity Sure, but there are reasons for dishonorable and selfish behavior. People don’t just wake up in the morning and think “I’m going to do something shitty, just for funsies!” There’s always something underpinning those actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:48 PM
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I mean, there’s always a reason. Even if that reason is something as simple as “I think this would be fun, and I don’t think my partner will find out.” With that particular example, there’s also a reason why the person doesn’t feel guilt or shame for the action (or at least a reason they don’t feel bad enough to confess their transgression and/or end the relationship).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:39 PM
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"society/family/attachment style/alcohol/etc made me like this, it wasn't my fault" I didn’t see the article as excusing the behavior; just explaining it. Most antisocial behaviors can be explained by a combination of internal factors (mental disorders, addiction, etc) and external ones (being raised around toxic influences, outdated cultural ideas, etc). That doesn’t mean that the person isn’t ultimately responsible for said behavior, but it’s important to consider that person’s circumstances i…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:34 PM
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Do people who are completely satisfied with their partners cheat? No, I don’t think so. Do people who are mostly (but not completely) satisfied with their partner cheat? Yeah, sometimes. The article goes over a range of reasons why they might.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 10:15 PM
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Depends on why he hasn’t gotten married.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 07:42 PM
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I actually just got caught up! I’m liking it a lot so far. It feels like we’ve got an above-average number of healthy couples this season.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:44 AM
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A) Autistic map games where I get to move troops around and make bad decisions (i.e. Stellaris, Civilization, etc) B) Trashy reality television (Love is Blind is probably my favorite of these).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:31 PM
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Ideally I’d like one of each.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 09:09 PM
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Almonds are great! You can put all sorts of seasonings on them too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 09:08 PM
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Told you you’d be fine! Congrats!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 09:24 PM
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Things I’m looking for a purely sexual relationship: Enthusiasm Being at least somewhat attractive Good at communicating what she likes and is willing to learn what I like Things I’m looking for in a relationship include all of the above but also: Good communication skills outside of the bedroom Being a generally good person (honest, loyal, kind, empathetic, etc) Centrist to left wing political views At least some of the same hobbies/interests as me Adventurous spirit; enjoys learning new things…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 09:23 PM
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Did your proposal go well?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 09:16 PM
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Seek help
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:06 AM
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Bruh Seek help.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:05 AM
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1) Be rich and/or famous 2) If you can’t manage that, get in the best shape you possibly can and start seeing a personal stylist. 3) If all else fails, hire a professional.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:03 AM
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I think the big sticking point here would be kids. If you don’t plan on having any, or just see this as a short-term situation, there’s not much of an issue. If you do want kids, then you’ll have to think about how you’ll decide how the children will be raised.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 09:38 PM
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I asked my previous question about what constitutes a “date” because it feels like the term “date” has somewhat fallen out of use with Gen Z/younger millennials. People usually say “hang out” or “Let’s do [activity]” instead of directly asking people out. Whether that’s a good or bad thing I can’t tell- I see the benefits and drawbacks of each approach. Just something interesting I noticed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 08:19 PM
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Q4A: An acquaintance of your preferred gender asks you to check out a new bar with them. Would you characterize this as them asking you on a date?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 07:21 PM
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Nah- I love my sci-fi and fantasy books too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 07:17 PM
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Honestly, I don’t know the body counts of most of the girls I’ve been with, and I don’t think many of them knew mine. Never really came up.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 07:11 PM
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Lots of great female writers out there. Highly recommend Margaret Atwood, NK Jemisin, Isabel Allende, Naomi Novik, and Chimamanda Adichie.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 07:07 PM
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Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 06:38 PM
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Bro, just get back on grindr. There'll be plenty of married dudes to get validation from on there.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 04:19 PM
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Your presentation, yeah? You’ve got this!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:28 AM
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Even a couple years in, life as a “real adult” has still been tough to navigate. You gotta do well at your job, and also eat right, and also get plenty of exercise, and also maintain your relationships with family and friends, and also deal with your romantic life, and also keep up with your bills and appointments, and also be involved in your community, and also make time for your hobbies, and also stay on top of your chores, and also…you get the idea. I get anxious just thinking about all of i…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:26 AM
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Yes, you go for 6 feet tall men. Yes, you like the assholes, the Chads and the badboys. Yes, you friendzone men and the friendzone exists. Yes, there are women who are attracted to money or status. Breaking News: Women prefer attractive, exciting, successful men to less attractive, less exciting, less successful men. More at 9. Seriously though, it's not like any of this was a secret. Most women will freely admit that they find height, wealth, and status to be attractive qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 01:54 AM
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Many people from Latin American/Asia fetishize whiteness- it’s a holdover from colonialism that never quite went away. Interestingly enough, this doesn’t seem to have hit the Black community nearly as hard (though that’s not saying it didn’t hit at all; colorism is a very real thing).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 01:08 AM
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One can be very conservative in their social life (dressing modestly, adhering to traditional gender roles, only having sex while in relationships, etc), while simultaneously disagreeing with most or all of the Republican Party platform.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 11:27 PM
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“Aw, sorry to hear that. Hope you get well asap!”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 11:25 PM
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There are many kinds of intelligence. This is why you see many people who can understand complex mathematical topics, but can’t understand why women don’t want to fuck them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 10:31 PM
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Yes, but I always make sure to check in periodically just in case.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 08:00 PM
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I mean, sorta? The relationships portrayed in both of those stories aren't portrayed in a particularly healthy way. A lot of folks in the BDSM scene were actually upset about 50 Shades because the male lead violates a bunch of the rules of the community uses to ensure safety. These are fantasies of course, so they don't HAVE to be realistically healthy- "My Secret Garden", which aimed to catalog and analyze women's sexual fantasies, contains a LOT of things that nobody would realistically want.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 07:57 PM
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I don’t think it’s too controversial to say that there’s a sizable percentage of women who like those kinds of romance stories. ContraPoints’ video on Twilight is an excellent examination of why things like Twilight, 50 Shades, and other fantasies of that nature sell so well.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 07:01 PM
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A sizable number of Trumpers support all authoritarian regimes, regardless of where they fall on the left-right spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 06:58 PM
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You got this! Grab a friend or family member and practice an hour or two a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 06:57 PM
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I mean, it happens sometimes. But there’s also plenty of times where it doesn’t happen, so no need to borrow grief from the future. Good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 05:58 PM
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Do the immigrants actually commit more crimes, or do the police just patrol immigrant communities more 🤔?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 05:51 PM
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How are these things even judged? Is there a scoring rubric? Just a straight popular vote?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 05:43 PM
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Japan has entered the chat. It’s almost as if fostering a work culture that makes people not want to have kids results in fewer children being born 🤔.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 05:42 PM
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It depends on a few factors: Why did she ghost me? Is she offering a genuine apology supported by actions? Have the circumstances that caused her to ghost me initially changed in a meaningful way?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 05:32 PM
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That’s probably a big piece of it, tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 05:00 AM
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Of girls I know irl who I would consider “really hot” (top 10% of women): One third are in the healthiest relationships I’ve ever seen, and are probably going to be married in the next few years. Another third are avoiding commitment, running rich dudes’ pockets, and gathering content for Instagram. The final third are in deeply toxic situationships with some of the worst dudes you’ve ever met (surprisingly, a lot of these dudes aren’t all that attractive or rich).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 10:00 PM
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30, 50. I’m guessing this is a “Black don't crack” bit though, and they’re the same age?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 06:52 PM
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Even with personality, I do think there’s a baseline “holy trinity” of personality traits that nearly every guy who’s successful with women has in common: Assertiveness: Direct and open about what he wants, and not afraid to go after it. Emotional Intelligence: Understands what makes people tick and how to quickly develop a rapport with others. Funny: When you look at guys who aren’t conventionally attractive who still do well with women, pretty much all of them know how to make people laugh. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 04:25 PM
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Possibly? But the other thing about the being on the losing side of a war is that a large chunk of the young male population often dies. As such, the surviving men are looking at a much more favorable dating market. For an extreme example of this, you can look at what happened to Paraguay in the late 1800s after 70-90% of the male population died because their leader decided to pick a fight with three much larger countries at once.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 03:32 PM
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Huh? Anyway, Alexa, play “Not Like Us”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 05:27 AM
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Dave’s Killer Bread is glorious.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 09:00 PM
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I’m cautiously optimistic, but you shouldn’t get too comfortable. It’s going to be down to the wire.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 07:17 PM
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“I didn’t think they would send ME to the camps!” - Man who cheered enthusiastically as “those people” were sent to the camps last year.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 06:53 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 06:52 PM
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It’s like a comic book where one of the hero’s usual villains teams up with them because the new villain is just that bad. The Penguin is teaming up with Batman? This new guy must be REALLY bad news.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 06:51 PM
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Each team has four chances (“downs”) to move the ball a total of ten yards. If they are successful in this, they get a new set of four downs. If not, the other team gets the ball. The goal of the game is to score 6 points by getting the ball to the end of the field (a “touchdown”), or if they can’t do this, to score 3 points kicking it through a set of posts at the end of the field (a “field goal”). After touchdowns, teams also have the chance to kick for an extra point.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 05:37 PM
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Have you approached most women?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 05:32 PM
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I'm not going to bring it up, but I also like to think that a girl I'm dating seriously would be a bit more considerate (presuming she knew about my financial issues). I'd have to examine whether this was reflective of a pattern of behavior on her end.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 05:37 PM
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This got a chuckle out of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 05:34 PM
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The Tyrone “Me Giving My Friends Advice On Their Love Life” vs the Virgin “Me Attempting To Deal With My Own Love Life”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 04:04 AM
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Indeed. Most of the male love interests in the best known films are princes, and the ones that aren’t are still incredibly handsome.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 08:23 PM
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Kinda. I do enjoy and plan to keep enjoying her company, but I’m keeping my options open.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 07:46 PM
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Grad school is Undergrad Part II in many respects, so the same advice generally applies.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 07:13 PM
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I see- idk why I thought you were younger. Any idea where you’re headed post graduation?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 07:10 PM
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Why can’t a bull inseminate the cows? Either way, I’m excited for when lab grown meat becomes viable at scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 07:07 PM
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😂 I’m not sure if sounding older is a good thing or a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 07:05 PM
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Ah, that’s good! No better place in the world to make friends than college. I recommend joining as many activities as you have the energy for; even if you don’t stick with all of them, you’ll meet lots of cool people.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 07:04 PM
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23; a year younger than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 07:03 PM
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Are you in college now?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 07:01 PM
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Are you in a city? There’s probably rec leagues, interest groups, or religious organizations (if you’re so inclined) that you could join.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 07:00 PM
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Update on this situation! We sat down for coffee and I explained that her recent behavior had been confusing. She apologized for sending mixed messages, and said that while she definitely does have feelings for me, she’s never been in a relationship before, so she’s still trying to sort things out herself. We agreed to be more open about our feelings going forward- we’ll keep hanging out and whatever happens happens, but either of us will let the other know if we want a change in the status quo …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 06:55 PM
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I think if I’m not ready to propose after 3 years max, she’s not the one.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 06:33 PM
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Good looking out! Supporting your friends is always great.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 03:43 PM
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That’s true. I make an effort to participate in local clubs/events as much as I’m able.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 09:50 PM
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Avoiding loneliness definitely takes more and more effort the older you get- people get busy with careers and kids and whatnot, so making time for friends can be harder. The decline of third spaces and the rise of smartphones have aggravated the problem significantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 09:23 PM
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I was actually in Scenario B for a bit (She wasn’t making quite that much, but she was still very well-off). It was fun! She ended up breaking things off because she wanted kids, and being in her mid-30s, she needed a guy who would be ready right away. Hopefully she finds what she’s looking for, because she’s really cool. I’d give A a shot too though if she had some ambition on her.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 08:46 PM
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If it’s no permanent damage as long as I get to the hospital in time, absolutely. Playing on easy mode for the rest of your life is more than worth a year of physical therapy (or maybe less, depending on where you got shot).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 08:39 PM
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This is generally true. I’m mostly friends with women, and they’re shockingly open about their love lives/thoughts on sex and romance. I don’t think I’d have been nearly as successful in my own romantic exploits if I hadn’t learned from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 08:34 PM
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The domestication part is an important element of the “Beauty and the Beast” fantasy. “This man is already tame” is a much less fun idea than “No woman could tame him…until he met me.”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 06:39 PM
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The turn on is imagining “This guy could have any woman in the world, but he’s fully committing to me because I’m just that special.”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 06:11 PM
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Well, we can look at a few guys with endless options to find out. Leonardo DiCaprio seems to have mostly tall blondes in his dating history (though his most recent girlfriends have had dark hair). I’m too lazy to do a full investigation right now, but I think there’s enough high profile men whose dating histories are public for this to be an answerable question.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 06:08 PM
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It’s a way of proving their feminist credentials in the face of outside evidence, I think. For example, there’s a certain type of girl (usually Asian or Latina) who loudly complain about white men, even though her dating history is almost exclusively white men. You see a similar thing with bisexual girls who are dating guys- bashing straight men makes them feel closer to the visibly LGBT folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 06:05 PM
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As some others have said, both have types, but women generally seem more reluctant to stray from their usual type than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 06:00 PM
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I’ve been going back and forth. Shit is annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 02:48 PM
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No they’re not. I’ve been turned down by more women than I can count, and while you’ll get a few head cases in there, the majority have been perfectly fine. Some of the women who shot me down are good friends of mine today.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 05:59 AM
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The fact that we’re having this discussion proves my point: Race (Black, White, etc) is something that humans believed into existence, and have adjusted over time to suit their needs (separate from ethnicity, which is a real thing). You can call Kamala what you want, but the fact is that the world at large sees her as a Black woman in accordance with the cultural attitudes of the place she lives. There is no significant number of people who dispute that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 12:44 AM
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I care about what my, actual African Americans, community says. We are the identity, history, etc. We shouldn't have to co opt our identity. Well, every African American I've talked to irl says Kamala is Black. Howard University said she was Black. Her Black sorority says she's Black. You're the first person besides Trump I've seen disputing it. So, if a AA/white can't be seen as completely AA black. Again, almost all of us have both African and European ancestry. Nobody actually thinks lightski…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 11:43 PM
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Hanging out with my friend at the coffee place sounds fun. Having a nice date at the coffee shop sounds fun. This emotional purgatory I'm stuck in is not fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 10:41 PM
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Normally I would too. However, the dinners were her idea, and we'd had nearly a dozen in a row without missing one before last week.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 10:25 PM
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A vote for the cynic then? Should I decline the weekend invitation?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 10:21 PM
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I've posted a bit about my friend and the possible romantic tension I have with her. To recap, we were part of the same friend group, she expressed feelings for me (which I reciprocated) but then abruptly changed her mind, which led to us becoming distant for a long while. A couple months ago, she called me and asked if I wanted to have dinner, which I took her up on; afterwards she asked if I wanted to make this a weekly thing. Over the course of said dinners, she would often ask about my love …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 10:11 PM
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I know Brazil isn't a Hispanic country, but it is a Latino country that deals with a very similar dynamic. [This video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=haw3ROMgP7g) pretty effectively makes the case for race being simply a matter of perception. Black American is designated for black Americans. Aka, descendants of enslaved people brought to USA. The census has this to say on the matter: "Black or African Americans" refers to a person having origins in any of the Black racial groups of Africa. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 09:38 PM
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I live in a very walkable area, but the majority of Americans don’t, unfortunately. If you go to NYC, DC, or a handful of other places, you’re good, but most cities aren’t like NYC or DC.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 07:56 PM
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It doesn’t matter what your culture thinks. Kamala is an American in America. American history, culture, and laws designate people with visible African descent as Black, whether they look like Mariah Carey or Lupita Nyongo. If the African ancestry becomes so diluted that you cannot see visible African ancestry, then that person will no longer be considered Black by Americans. If she were in your country, that perception would change, but she’s not in your country.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 07:52 PM
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I’m curious; what gave you that impression?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 07:27 PM
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Well, America does have the one drop mindset, and since Kamala is an American in America, she’s Black for all intents and purposes. She would’ve been drinking out of the same water fountain as you and I back in the Jim Crow days.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 07:26 PM
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Race isn’t a real thing; it’s a matter of perception. Kamala has been perceived by herself and by others as a Black person her entire life (except by you and Donald Trump, apparently). Most white people in the United States aren’t fully white either (though the term “white” is a pretty nebulous term anyway).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 07:09 PM
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Not really a believer in astrology, but I do think it’s fun. Guess mine!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 07:02 PM
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She went to an HBCU, and she joined a Black sorority. What more do you need? If you believe that being mixed disqualifies someone from Black, then there aren’t any actual Black people in the United States. The median African American is about a quarter European, which means that half of us are more than a quarter European.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 07:00 PM
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All of my girlfriends have been vegetarians, strangely enough. Never really been an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 06:58 PM
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If a girl’s response to you politely and sincerely shooting your shot is to attempt to destroy your reputation and ruin your life, then you ran into someone who was deeply unwell. There are indeed deeply unwell people out there (some of whom I’ve dealt with before, unfortunately); sorry that happened to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 01:42 PM
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About the same, I’d estimate.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 10:12 PM
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If you’re polite and sincere while shooting your shot, and the girl responds with meanness, that’s not the kind of girl you want in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 10:00 PM
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Of course. He’s not as common as his female counterpart, but he’s certainly around.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 06:50 PM
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I’d argue that sleeping for someone for any form of material compensation (money, social status, favors, gifts, etc) falls under the umbrella of “gold digger”.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 06:48 PM
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Iconic. Keep it up, and good luck on the second date!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 06:42 PM
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Most of my friends are women; I know far more about their sex lives than I do about any of my guy friends. The guys I know might say something along the lines of “I slept with this super hot chick last night”, but that’s about as much detail as they go into. Meanwhile, the women I know will often give the whole play by play, complete with colorful metaphors and comparisons to past lovers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 04:34 PM
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All women are different, and as such, the “signs” you are supposed to pick up on will often be different. I’ve known women who were fine with straight up grinding on dudes they had zero interest in. I’ve also known girls whose version of being forward was just standing vaguely near a guy and hoping that he talked to her. All you can do is use your best judgement and accept rejection with grace if you’re wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 04:29 PM
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Ugly men tend to end up with hot women a lot more often than ugly women end up with hot men, to be fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 03:53 AM
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I think it’s a culture thing. Some folks spent their formative years in environments where giving the play-by-play of your sexual encounters was no more controversial than giving the play by play of a football game. Others come from environments where even alluding to the existence of sex is seen as crass. There’s a wide range of cultural attitudes between those two extremes; just gotta make sure that you and your partner are on the same page about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:54 AM
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Being strong and fit has plenty of benefits beyond getting girls. People you encounter throughout the day will treat you with more respect, you’ll be better able to meet any physical challenges you might run into, and you’ll have a longer, healthier life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 11:25 PM
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We simply have way more criminals in America, and they are way more violent and brutal. This is the most important part of what you wrote, I think. Why do we have more issues with crime in America? And what makes criminals here more inclined to violence than criminals in the rest of the developed world?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 11:11 PM
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Second!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 09:01 PM
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If she really felt like the humiliation would make her happy, I’d give it a go at least once, but it doesn’t really sound like something I would enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 08:45 PM
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Why not all of the above?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 08:35 PM
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If it was just her wanting to watch, I think I’d give it a try. But I don’t like being mean to people, so the humiliation bit would probably be too much for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 08:34 PM
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This is true. One of my old FWBs actually referred me to her roommate. Good PR is never a bad thing. On the flipside, I had a friend who nicknamed a dude she was seeing “Vienna Sausage”, for reasons that should be obvious (he unfortunately had the initials “VS”). Poor guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 08:31 PM
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Q4W: From your experience, do men or women slut-shame more?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 10:16 PM
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True equality of opportunity is impossible, but we shouldn’t let perfect be the enemy of good. There are so many people out there who had the potential to do great things, but lived and died in obscurity because they were born into the wrong environment. Our goal as a society should be to give as many of those people as possible a fair shot at success.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 09:27 PM
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Well said!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 04:44 PM
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As in take them home from clubs where you club with loud music, entrance fee, a queue Getting to the making out part is the issue. When I was at college parties/when go to house parties, getting to the making out point was/is a lot easier, but when I go to the club, opportunities to cross that threshold seem to be fewer and further between. Girls tend to hang out in packs while they’re at the club, which makes approaching more difficult- from what I’ve observed, girls don’t want their friends to…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 04:05 PM
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How does one actually take women home from the club? I’ve done pretty well for myself with women, but this particular area has eluded me. Of all the girls I’ve been with, only two fit the description of “did not know them at all before, but took them home that same night we met”. If we expand the definition to “women who gave me their numbers at the club, but I didn’t sleep with them until later”, then I can count five “successes”. However, pretty much all of those successes were dumb luck and/o…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 06:07 AM
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There are plenty of female history nerds out there. One of my majors was history, and more than half my classmates were women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 12:33 AM
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We can split hairs over the exact wording, but in general, wouldn’t you say that you feel excited when it’s time to do something with your boyfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 12:19 AM
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Stories are stories; life is life. Most girls don’t want to date a psychotic vampire who keeps them locked up all day. However, most girls do want a guy who can take charge and “sweep them off their feet” so to speak. The psychotic vampire example is just an extreme reflection of that desire to feel passive and feminine, in the same way that James Bond is an extreme reflection of the male desire to feel powerful and desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 12:11 AM
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There’s a lot to it, but the core idea is that while men are usually praised for taking an active role in the romantic process, women were usually shamed for taking an active role. This goes for both men and women- women tend to slut shame far more than men do, and all over the internet you can find women of all ages discouraging other women from approaching men for fear of being seen as desperate. However, even though women are expected by society to be the passive ones, they’re still humans wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 11:58 PM
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There are two interpretations of the word “safe” in this context, I think. In one, the opposite of “safe” is “scary”; in the other, the opposite of “safe” is “exhilarating”. Guys should want to be the first kind of safe (stable, not physically or emotionally abusive, not giving serial killer vibes). However, being the other kind of safe (boring, meek, predictable) is usually a turn-off for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 11:46 PM
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I posted this on a different thread, but I think everyone on this sub would benefit from the Contrapoints video “Twilight”. Super insightful look into the anatomy of arousal, desire, and fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 11:39 PM
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You should check out Contrapoints’ video “Twilight”; it does a very good job of breaking down why certain tropes are so common in romance media aimed at women. And no, it’s not because women want to be abused.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 11:34 PM
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Not to mention Sleepy Hollow, various James Bond movie, Scandal, Dear White People, and many, many more.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 07:48 PM
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Others just say looks don't matter, any guy who gets laid by one nightstands a lot is a Chad. This is pretty much the barometer I use. “Chad” is any man (regardless of appearance) who can easily and consistently get one night stands from attractive women, without the women expecting anything (money, favors, gifts, commitment, etc.) in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 05:10 PM
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Bartenders and other service workers flirting for tips has been happening for quite some time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:11 PM
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While elevated testosterone levels certainly contribute to aggression, I think another contributing factor is that society generally teaches boys associate masculinity with violence from a very young age.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 02:32 PM
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Q4A: Who’s the most conventionally attractive man you know? The most conventionally attractive woman? What are they like? Asked this last night initially, but figured I’d delete and ask in the morning when there were more folks active.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 02:30 PM
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Q4A: Who’s the most conventionally attractive man you know? The most conventionally attractive woman? What are they like?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 05:59 AM
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In order of frequency: Older Chads looking to settle down and have kids, tradcon Chads looking for their tradwife, and guys who are not “Chad” in any meaningful way but are appealing to women with fantasies of “saving” a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 05:48 AM
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Went to a singles event at a local bar tonight; some of my experience/observation: I’d say the crowd was a pretty good cross-section of society. The age range for the event was set at 21-35, but I saw people of all races, and of varying levels of attractiveness. I was on my own, since most of my friend group are in relationships, but thankfully it seemed like a lot of other folks there were in the same boat. The gender ratio was relatively even; perhaps 55-45 men:women. However, large portions o…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 05:31 AM
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People can’t be reduced to statistics of course but there are trends we can observe (i.e. the majority of people enjoy pizza).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 03:27 AM
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Keyword: “Majority”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 03:16 AM
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Eh- sometimes. It’s pretty easy to find men dropping a ton of money at the club to try to impress some random chick they met 10 minutes ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 12:09 AM
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This is pretty intuitive, I think. The majority of people crave excitement when they’re younger, and stability when they’re older.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 12:06 AM
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Physical 100 is fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 12:01 AM
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I hate driving. Always makes me happy that I live in a walkable area.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 12:00 AM
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Also Them: I like getting gifts, fancy dates & travelling all over the world Here's the thing though. If you look at the men these women are actually dating, they're usually either not up to the women's supposed standards, or they're much much older. Young, attractive, successful men who are okay with spending all their cash on women are usually either playboys or religious tradcon types.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 07:38 PM
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This woman continues to frustrate me I wish I could simply wash my hands of her and leave the whole situation in the past, but trying to do that has been like trying to get curry stains out of Tupperware (it doesn’t work).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 04:28 AM
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The archetypical “bad boy” has a mixture of good and bad traits: Good: Confident Assertive Courageous Charismatic Neutral or Bad, depending on the situation: Risk taking Low inhibition Irresponsible Disregard for rules and authorities
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 04:14 AM
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Can be either one, but usually it’s “excusing bad behavior because he’s hot”. Women who are attracted by bad behavior (not confidence/assertiveness, which pretty much all women are attracted to, but ACTUAL bad behavior) generally have some sort of savior complex, and get their jollies from the idea that they’re “fixing” or “saving” a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 04:11 AM
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By nurture usually. The girls who date those types of guys usually have a “Beauty and the Beast” fantasy in their head. They like to think that the proverbial “beast” will change his ways and fully commit to her because she’s just so special. There’s a reason why that particular subgenre of romance is so popular.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 04:05 AM
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Just say “Huh?” over and over when they try to press you for money. Works like a charm.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:49 AM
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Related to my previous post, I’ve come to realize that standing up for yourself will sometimes result in people getting upset with you. Bit of a learning curve for a recovering people pleaser, but a valuable lesson nonetheless.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:45 AM
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Big facts!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:36 AM
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Why haven’t I done it? Mostly because I forgot about it until earlier this evening. But indeed, the morally correct course of action would have been to say something a year ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:35 AM
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Well that’s the question, yeah? Is a morally correct action taken for shitty reasons still a morally correct action? Different schools of philosophy have different answers to that question.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:16 AM
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That’s what the screenshots are for, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:04 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 03:52 AM
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Well, I wouldn’t be cheating on her, because I’m not dating her. I would simply be telling other people that she is in fact a cheater. Perhaps I should have done that as soon as I found out for the sake of honor, but would it be morally wrong to do it now for the sake of revenge?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 03:51 AM
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Q4A: Should I do the right thing for the wrong reasons? For context, I discovered that a former FWB of mine had been cheating on her boyfriend with me for a significant portion of the time we were hanging out. Since it was a while between when we were FWBs and when I learned this information, I just let sleeping dogs lie. However, said former FWB has now done something (unrelated to our situation$ that has made me incredibly angry. WIBTA for exposing her infidelity? I have screenshots with the e…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 03:43 AM
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A few that stand out: I met my first girlfriend my freshman year of college through one of my friend groups. She was the sort of person that NEEDED to be in a relationship at all times; being very inexperienced at the time, I didn't clock this as the red flag it was. It turned out she actually had feelings for another guy in our friend group (who had a gf at the time), and she threw me out like yesterday's garbage the day he became single. While I did get a bit of vindication (the guy she dumped…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 09:15 PM
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In my experience, "alt"/"hippie" chicks tend to be more open with their sexuality. As such, they tend to have a better understanding both of what pleases them and what pleases their partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 04:50 PM
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From what I've seen of my female friends, most of them are pretty open about preferring tall, handsome, rich dudes. That being said, a point in the Blue Pill's favor is that a lot of these same women will pull up with the most 5'7, least employed loser you've seen in your entire life, and will defend him to the death when other people point out that they're dating a bum.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 04:45 PM
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Season 4, Episode 4 "Hang the DJ". Great episode imo; you can watch on Netflix!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 05:36 PM
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Ah, like that one Black Mirror episode? Could be an interesting experiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 05:12 PM
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Ass is a major plus, but it's not a must-have. If I like the rest of her enough, I'd give her a shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 05:01 PM
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"Having money's not everything, not having it is."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 08:37 PM
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Yup. Most of my friends are women, actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 07:26 PM
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About two-thirds of my friends are women, including the majority of people I would describe as close friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 07:10 PM
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If you talk to women who are overweight or otherwise not conventionally attractive, you’ll likely hear a number of them talk about how some guys are happy to sleep with them and spend time with them, but also refuse to be seen with them in public or introduce them to friends. Not all guys do this, but there is a (perhaps subconscious) belief among some that the attractiveness of the woman on your arm will affect other people’s view of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 05:59 PM
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He’s not being critical of your appearance in that scenario; you’re being critical of your appearance in that scenario. As a counterfactual, imagine that your man has a mole he feels is unsightly and often complains about, despite you saying that you don’t think it makes him less attractive. However, because you see that the mole is causing him anguish, you offer to have a skilled dermatologist remove the mole. Does your man have a right to get angry with you about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 05:21 AM
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That’s a bit harsh on the hypothetical guy, no? Think from his perspective: Wife: “I’m dissatisfied with how I look.” Husband: “Well, I like how you look, honey.” Wife: “I’m still frustrated with my appearance.” Husband [thinking]: “Man, I really wish my wife saw herself the way I saw her. I wonder if there’s something I could do to help with her insecurities? Maybe I should call that doctor that my sister-in-law mentioned a while back…” Even if it’s not quite the right thing, it’s pretty clear …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 05:06 AM
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Addendum to this post My friend and I just had dinner again, and we had a good heart to heart about various areas of our lives. I really enjoy our weekly meal, but I’m still not sure if she’s waiting for me to make a move or if she just finds me to be a good confidant. Either way, weekly dinners with her will continue for the foreseeable future, so I suppose we’ll see. Women are complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 04:27 AM
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Some of my favorites: Welcome to the NHK (psychological drama/comedy) Black Lagoon (action) Psycho-Pass (sci-fi) Madoka (magical girl/psychological drama) Oregairu (romantic comedy)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 04:18 AM
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And? What’s that have to do with friendships among those communities?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 10:40 PM
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Anyone who argues that men and women can’t be friends is implicitly also arguing that gay men can’t be friends with other gay men, lesbians can’t be friends with other lesbians, and bisexual people can’t really have friends at all (which would be a very silly thing to argue). Don’t care if my partner has platonic male friends; former exes and FWBs would have to be evaluated on a case by case basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 10:29 PM
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